Manhood Restored

BONUS: How Do We Effectively Minister the Gospel in a Post-Christian Society?

Tue, 14 May 2024 00:00:00 -0400

We are "de-Cathinated" (but definitely not decaffeinated) for this BONUS episode. Ben is joined by three of his pastor friends (Adam Poe, Phil Bange, and Justin Monfort), all from local churches of different Protestant denominations, to discuss this episode's title question. While we will be without the Catholic Chadder, these dynamic men are poised to deliver some absolutely great insights.

In true Man Talk fashion, there's a four-way free-flowing discussion throughout; as the conversation draws down, each co-host gives their final weigh-in. The four co-hosts discuss how to effectively minister in our homes and in society, and how to reach our youth for Christ and the role technology plays in that effort. Then it's off to new and exciting things for Ben and Chad! Thanks again for listening and supporting us!

Of course, you can always find out what Ben is up to at: Home - Ben Neff

Recommendations from our Co-hosts:

The Gospel comes with a House Key by Rosiario Butterfield

Joining Jesus on His Mission by Greg Finke

Questioning Evangelism by Randy Newman

Evangelism in a Skeptical World by Sam Chan

BONUS: How Should Catholics in the Archdiocese of Cincinnati Approach Beacons of Light?

Tue, 07 May 2024 00:00:00 -0400

Beacons of Light, implemented in the Archdiocese of Cincinnati in July of 2022, is an attempt to address difficult realities facing Catholics, realities like declining Mass attendance and growing priest shortages. A consolidation of parish churches into groupings called “Families” has ensued with the hope that shared resources might enable Catholics to move "from a mindset of maintenance to a mindset of mission." Despite its good intentions and its arguably necessary measures, Beacons has proven disruptive and often trying for many of the lay faithful.

Chad takes this BONUS opportunity to bring in three Mighty Catholic laymen (John Paul Slonkosky, Nick Rentz, and Jared Pottkotter), for a 4-mic Man-Talk, to discuss this episode’s title question. The four of them roundtable the challenges, the realizations, and the divisions brought on by Beacons. What has been the experience of Beacons “on the ground” by the average Catholic? How much of the difficulties during these first two years of Beacons has to do with parish consolidations, and how much has to do with younger priests moving toward more traditional liturgical celebrations? What is the future of Catholicism in Cincinnati, and (at the episode’s end) what advice would these four men give to lay men and women as we move forward together?

SHOW NOTES:

Beacons of Light Parish Families - Archdiocese of Cincinnati (catholicaoc.org)

The Q&A Finale!

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 138 -

It's the last hurrah here on the Manhood Restored podcast! Two and half years of weekly episodes add up to 150 (counting BONUSES!), and we find ourselves having one last mighty conversation. Ben and Chad could think of no better way to sign off than to interact with questions from you, Dear Listener. We sincerely THANK YOU for coming along with us on this project - it's been a blast! God Bless you!

Here are the question topics, in order of how we answer them:

Our recommended "replacement" podcasts/resources, post-MR
Why didn't we ever have a woman on the program?
What do we make of the general malaise of young men and how can we change that negative trend?
What devotional/formative resources would we recommend to young men?
Will honestly seeking the truth about God/salvation ultimately lead to the Catholic Church (Ben)?
If the early Church (first 300+ years), didn't have the Canon of Scripture, how did it practice 'Sola Scriptura' (Ben)?
Who would be Ben's Patron Saint and why?
How do we continue to persevere in "doing the next right thing" when life is hard and nothing we do seems to make a difference?
What have Ben and Chad learned to appreciate about each other's respective faith traditions after having done the podcast?
How have Ben and Chad benefitted, in general, from doing the podcast?
What is next for Ben and Chad, post MR?

SHOW NOTES:

See what Ben is doing, read his blog or have him come speak at your event. Check out...www.benneff.com

Is it Possible to Vote Faithfully as a Christian in the 2024 Elections? (MAN TALK)

Tue, 23 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0400

Plug 'em in and pass 'em around - the microphones, that is! Four microphones to be exact. And four men, for the last MAN TALK, convene a roundtable on this crucial leading question. Two hosts and two guest hosts have a very timely and important conversation. A really great conversation. A beautiful conversation. By the end, each man reveals how he'll be voting in the 2024 --okay, not really. But they do each finally give their conclusion on the question at hand. (Feel free to weigh in, dear listener, by emailing us at mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv)

Craig Flack and Andy Muhlenkamp are two very thoughtful and mighty men. They join Ben and Chad to add some healthy balance to this ("HUGE") politically charged topic. Craig is the Pastor at Celina First Church of God in Celina, Ohio; Andy is a member of the sure-to-be-renowned-someday local book club, the Blinklings. The four face the elephants (and donkeys) in the MR "studio". Which presidential option is more problematic for a Christian-in-good-conscience: Trump or Biden? Do the various elements at play in today's political landscape make it uniquely difficult for a Chrisitian to stay faithful in his beliefs AND be engaged in the political process? And how can a man's core identity be a key to whether or not he's voting faithfully on any given issue or for any particular candidate?

Man Fruit

Tue, 16 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 136 -

We've established that feminism has a fatal foothold in all sorts of cultural and societal institutions - it's made schooling anti-boy; it's made dating and marriage miserable for many--men and women alike; it's turned our storytelling into unrealistic propaganda; it's opened the floodgates for every form of gender confusion under the sun. But is it possible that it's also managed to emasculate our theology?

Ben does the opposite of smooth things over in this, his last lead episode--that is, he just makes more waves (and too many puns), while Chad carries a memorable tune as co-host in this "fruity" episode. The two toss around the novel notion that the Holy Spirit animates men and women differently. How might "fruits" of the Spirit like peace and love take on a uniquely masculine character? What would cause or motivate someone to "read feminism into" the Scriptures? And what are examples of how the manly bearing of spiritual fruit can benefit the home, the church, and the culture at large?

SHOW NOTES:

Chad's song reference: Slugs & Bugs – Slugs and Bugs
Ben's devotional book reference- Abiding in Christ- Andrew Murray
Ben's Biblical passages referenced:
- Fruit of the Spirit - Galatians 5:22 NIV - But the fruit of the Spirit is love, - Bible Gateway
- Paul's spiritually manly appeal: 2 Timothy 1:6-14 NIV - Appeal for Loyalty to Paul and the - Bible Gateway

The Integrated Man

Tue, 09 Apr 2024 02:00:00 -0400

Episode 135 -

One hundred and thirty-five episodes in and the core message of this podcast remains the same: Men—MIGHTY MEN—are the solution to the problems besetting western society today. What kind of men in particular? What makes a man mighty and how can he become fit for the task of righting the ship? Piece by piece, that is the puzzle we’ve been putting together at the Manhood Restored podcast. This episode puts a frame around that puzzle’s final, integrated picture.

Chad takes the mound in the final game of this seven-game “series” of an episode, while Ben waits in the bullpen for the call to close as the “wild” card co-host. The two take a step back and marvel at the manly picture that’s materialized over the course of two years of recording. Which of Chad’s “man” episodes have come together to form a helpful road map to Mighty Mandom? What does it mean to be an Integrated Man? And what are some saintly and biblical examples of men who fit the Integrated-Man mold?

SHOW NOTES:

Chad's Challenge movie: A Man for All Seasons (1966) - IMDb

Catholic vs. Protestant Debate - Why do Catholics Love the Sacraments?

Tue, 02 Apr 2024 01:00:00 -0400

Episode 134 -

We have "grilled" each other on our differences, come together on the ways we agree, and debated big topics like salvation. Now with the end of our conversations drawing near, we couldn't conclude the podcast without one last Catholic vs. Protestant debate!

Ben , professing to be the titleholder, heard a challenge in a recent Man Talk episode and can't resist leading the protest; Chad, relishing the role of "underdog", is all too happy to oblige as contender and co-host! The two turn inward again to talk on a major point of departure between Catholics & Protestants: the sacraments. Ben pushes back strongly against the need for the priesthood in administering grace. Chad appeals to the necessity of form and ritual in worship and prayer - regardless of denomination. They seek understanding and clarification by: going to the Bible (Chad, believe it or not!); telling about their own recent experiences (Ben's got an interesting one!); and both expressing their own deep-seeded sensibilities of how to relate to God.

An Ode to Male Friendship

Tue, 26 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 133 -

The trends in survey data on friendship are indicating steep declines in recent decades - in both friendship quality and quantity. That trend, it's popularly believed, has most especially affected men. One 2021 survey found that men with at least six "close friends" has dropped from 55 percent to 27 percent since1990! How can that be in a society that purports to be so "social" and "connected"? Oh, the irony!

Chad's parades as the Grand Poohbah in this secret man club of an episode, while Ben gets a co-host's initiation, coughing through the club's cloud of cigar smoke as he tries to perfect the Manhood Restored secret handshake. The two friends puzzle over the recent friendship trends and reflect on the value of friendship. What could be the contributing factors to such sharp declines in friendship among men? How important are friendships to men, especially given the time and energy required to maintain them? And how have Ben and Chad fared personally with making and maintaining friendships into their adult lives?

SHOW NOTES:

Friendship survey data from 2021:
- The State of American Friendship: Change, Challenges, and Loss - The Survey Center on American Life (americansurveycenter.org)
- American Men Suffer a Friendship Recession - The Survey Center on American Life (americansurveycenter.org)

Christian Feminism

Tue, 19 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 132 -

It's been a long many years since the tectonic times of the Seneca Falls Convention; the societal fracture left at its feminist epicenter has widened into a canyon-sized divide between the sexes. The tremors of nearly 200 years of feminism have been felt by nearly every corner of our society. Its harmful effects are found in culture, education, economics, sexuality. Even Christian institutions have been far from immune. That's including the institution of marriage.

Ben calls up his inner Anchorman for this magnum opus of an episode, while Chad chases the storm stirred up therein as co-host. The two batten down the hatches for a headlong dive into the whipping winds of a "Her-ricane". How would one accurately define Feminism as a cultural phenomenon from the Manhood Restored perspective? What are some ways in which feminism has found its way into Christian households and Christian Marriages? How can men and women begin to reverse its negative effects, and could the solution have anything to do with the A-Word?

SHOW NOTES:

Seneca Fall document (read for yourself): The Seneca Falls Declaration 1848 < 1826-1850 < Documents < American History From Revolution To Reconstruction and beyond (rug.nl)
Mike Winger Women in Ministry Intro
Mike Winger Men as Head of Household
John Michael Clark- The Family Captain
Michael Foster
The Cherishing Nurture of a Godly Feminine
Book Recommendation (written by a former feminist): The End of Woman: How Smashing the Patriarchy Has Destroyed Us: Gress, Carrie: 9781684514182: Amazon.com: Books

A Letter to My Son

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 131 -

*LISTEN IN FOR A MANHOOD RESTORED SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT*

Parents and grandparents passing along hard-earned wisdom to the next generation is probably most often accomplished through oral storytelling, impromtu lectures, and incidental conversation. But there's nothing like the written word (or a written-up podcast episode) to really focus and articulate the "the things you want them to know"; taking the time to think through what's worth sharing and putting those thoughts to paper, is a a great way of leaving behind your words even after you're gone.

Chad busts out his "quill" and plays the sage for this personal letter of an episode, as Ben lingers around as co-host hoping an idea will light him up (because that's what Bens do best!). The two contemplate the "letter to my son" concept as Chad lays out six pieces of advice he wants to pass along to his children. Along with each six, he also gives real life examples of how the advice has helped him in his own life. Ben piggybacks off each idea and then adds his own elderly advice at the end.

SHOW NOTES:

Andrew Peterson song referened at episode's end: https://lyrics.lyricfind.com/lyrics/andrew-peterson-youll-find-your-way

Is it the Best, or the Worst, of Times in Human History? (MAN TALK)

Tue, 05 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 130 -

Facing down a question of far-wielding proportions is yet again the task of this MAN TALK episode, setting loose four men and four microphones on a topic that requires substantial time to work out. Hosts and Guest Hosts hash out this perennially debated question and aim at "solving the world's problems" in just over 90 minutes! The four will each give their final answers by episode's end. (What's your opinion, dear listener? Email us at mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv .)

Pete Mustard and Josh Wendel coincidentally both have experience in the automotive industries; while that has absolutely nothing to do with this episode's topic, their common penchant for the peculiar does. Both fancying themselves as history nuts, they hope to help Ben and Chad ascend this Everest-like episode question. What are some of the unique factors faced by the modern world that could arguably sway one's opinion in either direction on this question? What's the best lens through which to filter out an answer to this question - religious/moral, human progress/advancement, wealth/prosperity? Was there a time in history, from a Christian's point of view, when humanity was most in harmony with God?

Utopias & Mice Mice Baby

Tue, 27 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 129 -

A world where every temporal necessity is given and every environmental factor optimized is a world poised for flourishing. Plentiful food and drink. Adequate space and healthy conditions. Safety and comfort and communal harmony. You couldn't imagine a more perfect existence; it'd be a veritable Utopia. Except that there's no such thing. And that's a curious fact--for mice, and for men.

Ben watermelons his way back to his junior high days and channels his inner Vanilla Ice as lead for this episode, while Chad busts out his sociological magnifying glass to offer his "illustrious" analysis as co-host. The two use the results of a mouse experiment from the '70s to springboard into a discussion about the perils of Progress. In what ways does mouse behavior in the "Universe 25" experiment mirror that of modern human society? What about material prosperity and relative societal safety makes us particularly susceptible to self-induced crisis? What can men, as leaders and fathers, do to head off our progression toward an utopian way of life so as to avoid its inevitable pitfalls?

SHOW NOTES:

Universe 25 Mouse Experiment : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ReBJfxHjFU

The Feminist Fatale

Tue, 20 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 128 -

Nobody likes being told a lie. That is, unless you agree up front to go along with the lie. But what if you've gone along with the lies so long, you're not so sure you know what’s true anymore? Maybe what's real is only a matter of what you're willing to go along with. Enter five foot-five, one-hundred- and fifteen-pound girl-boss action heroes. Enter Angelina Jolie and Scarlett Johansson. Enter the Feminist Fatale.

Chad classes up as a cruiserweight and takes his first official swing at feminism's fatal flaws, while his possibly-welter, but probably-super lightweight, co-host Ben Neff, loves to tap in. The two ring a bell that most likely cannot be un-rung by calling out the emperor's fantastically feminist clothes. Is it misogynistic to feel a little too faked-out when yet another pretty, petite female actress wins in a fist fight with a man more than twice her size? Ought not women be offended when the only way for today's female movie characters to be heroic is by acting like men? How might a seemingly harmless feminist idea actually turn out to be fatal?

SHOW NOTES:

Chad's resource market research: Strong Women: 15 Action Movies Starring Badass Women (screenrant.com)

Andrew Klavan episode referenced: Hello, Lady Ballers (youtube.com)

Brett Cooper's episode referenced: The "Girl Bosses" Are Waking Up (youtube.com)

Interview with Coffee Guru Jeff Hazel

Tue, 13 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 127 -

This mighty good guest is a coffee aficionado if there ever was one! Jeff Hazel is the owner of Hazelnut Coffee Company, a very popular coffee shop in Celina, Ohio. He also roasts beans under his own label, Old Hatch Coffee Roastery, supplying beans for other coffee shops. Jeff joins the podcast to discuss, debate, and otherwise educate listeners on what's arguably one of man's favorite drinks!

Chad, the smooth-finishing Frenchman by heritage, is the frontline interviewer on this episode; Ben Neff helps navigate as the small-to-medium-bodied, (possibly) decaffeinated cohost. The two steep in the many fun facts their guest shares about coffee, while wishing they could be sipping on their subject matter (were it not for the late hour). What are the many ways one might make coffee, and what are the how's and why's behind each? What are some of Jeff's secret tips and tricks for maximizing the goodness of a cup of coffee (what to drink out of, what kind of water to use, what kind of milk to use, etc)? How, from Jeff's point of view as a coffee shop owner, can coffee bring people together as a community in a unique way?

SHOW NOTES:

Jeff's coffee shop Facebook Page: Facebook

Jeff's roastery: OLD HATCH COFFEE ROASTERY (oldhatchroastery.com)

Craving Connection

Tue, 06 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 126 -

Picture a roadside diner, a cozy spot with booths and tables for four. Inside the air is thick with grease and the smell of all-day coffee; there's the white-noise clatter of cooking and plates and silverware. Then notice the lunch patrons, some sitting together, others alone. The waitresses are taking orders, joking and smiling. It's a familiar scene all over America, a routine acted out by millions daily. And then, there in this diner, picture Ben sitting off at a table on his own - doing one of his favorite things.

Ben is the adventurous social scientist analyzing the wildly commonplace for this episode, as Chad interprets the scene to see if he can cover Ben's claim to have a found a phenomenon worth capturing. The two ponder the potential significance of men taking meals in restaurants alone. What about the familiarity and routine of stopping at a diner to eat can be comforting and almost therapeutic? Is there anything superficial, or even sad, about men regularly taking lunch alone at a restaurant? How could the communal setting of a diner or coffee shop indicate a craving for connection for those who make a habit of going?

The Lost Art of Neighboring

Tue, 30 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 125 -

G.K. Chesterton once wrote, "We make our friends; we make our enemies; but God makes our neighbor." It can be the hardest thing, can't it, to see--to really notice--the people who live in our most direct proximity? For all the "connectedness" that we presume to possess through things like social media, there's something too often lacking in our person-to-person neighborliness these days. And that's not just a shame, it's a failure to heed a Gospel admonition.

Chad sings a familiar little ditty as the lead vocals on this episode, while Ben stares smilingly ahead as co-host, humming along and changing out his jacket and shoes during the long (12 mins), opening banter. The two contemplate the care demanded of Christians toward the people God's placed right next door us. Who's the mystery neighbor that's given Chad and his family a schooling in the art of proper neighboring? Are there things about our current cultural condition that make being a good neighbor more challenging? And how can men lead the charge to reignite a neighborly spirit in our respective communities?

SHOW NOTES:

Mister Rogers Documentary: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YEYI4UJMcc4

Full Length Chesterton quote: https://www.breakpoint.org/chesterton-on-loving-neighbors/

Interview with BGSU Freshman Carter Hellwarth

Tue, 23 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 124 -

Carter Hellwarth is first-year college student at Bowling Green State University studying communication and film production. Carter grew up on a dairy farm in Mercer County, Ohio, was Class President of this graduating glass, and ranked near the top of his class at Parkway High School. He also placed 2nd in the Nation at the 2023 National FFA Convention for Extemporaneous Public Speaking.

Ben takes on the role of mastermind behind this "sneak attack" of an episode, while Chad tries to fly under the radar by drafting off their guest & fellow Falcon's soaring altitude. The two are determined to secret away the real answers to their "Should I Send My Kids to College" question from a real-life (and undercover) college student. What was Carter's journey of discernment that landed him at a 4-year university, and why did he think that it was the right path to success for him? Are there any ways in which Carter's upbringing and Christian faith have been tested while attending college? How is Carter's first year at college going, and how has his pro-active approach to getting involved on campus been a critical part of his early experience?

The Gambling Christian

Tue, 16 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 123 -

Since legalizing sports betting in January of 2023, the gambling scene in Ohio is going full tilt! First there was Powerball and Mega Millions, then came the Casinos. Now on the scene is the likes of FanDuel and DraftKings. Gambling in Ohio is on the ascendency, and the sports betting variety is particularly popular with men (as high as 80% sports betting app users are men!). And something about the trend bothers Ben. Or does it?

Ben, the consummate competitor and faithful fixer, is "all-in" as the lead for this episode, while Chad--Mr. Pennypincher himself--holds his cards close as co-host. The two wager their opinions on this growing phenomenon and try to tease out its proper place in the life of a Mighty Man of Valor. What is the allure of gambling in general, and is sports betting online more or less alluring than the traditional forms of gambling? Does the Bible condemn gambling as sinful? What are the personal and societal pitfalls to gambling, and are there certain segments of the population that are more susceptible to them?

SHOW NOTES:

Stats on sports betting: Sports betting in the U.S. - statistics & facts | Statista

Catholic answer on gambling: Isn't gambling a sin? How can you Catholics justify playing bingo in church? | Catholic Answers Q&A

Got Questions answer on gambling: Is gambling a sin? What does the Bible say about gambling? | GotQuestions.org

Know Thy Ancestry

Tue, 09 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 122 -

When a man knows the history of his ancestors, he knows his place in the world. He knows the names of those who passed on his name; he knows how he came to be at the place he presently stands; he knows the kind of character he ought to (or ought not) emulate in order to bring honor to his family. But when a man does not know the history of his ancestors, he's left adrift and grasping without direction.

Chad-son of Douglas, son of James, son of Victor, son of Albert, son of John, son of Frank, son of Joseph--takes the lead for this episode, as Ben lets on a little of his own newly found family history as co-host. The two try to encourage curiosity towards the many rabbit holes of a personal family history. What are Ben & Chad's family histories like? How could you risk losing meaning when you detach or distance yourself from your past? And what are some examples of how digging deep into genealogical details can yield new insights into, and appreciation for, the life handed down to us?

SHOW NOTES:

Websites for geneological research:

Interview with Joel Penton of LifeWise Academy

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 121 -

Joel Penton is a former defensive tackle and national champion for the Ohio State University Buckeyes, as well as a Danny Wuerffel Trophy recipient (the "humanitarian Heisman"). He is the author of three books and the founder and CEO of LifeWise Academy--a groundbreaking program providing Bible education to students in over 300 of our nation's public schools, during school hours. He is a widely sought-after speaker with over 1,000 live audiences having taken in his message. Joel and his wife Bethany live in Columbus, Ohio, with their five children.

Ben loads his sling and shines his helmet for this giant guest interview, while Chad backs Ben up with his armory of big words as co-host. The two take up a great conversation with this purveyor of the Gospel in the public-school setting. How is it possible--through LifeWise Academy--that public school students are legally allowed to study the Bible during school hours? What kinds of opposition has LifeWise Academy faced from secular and anti-religious groups? And if someone is interested in brining Bible education to their school district, what are the steps necessary to make that happen?

SHOW NOTES:

LifeWise in the headlines: More than 300 public schools nationwide will learn from the Bible this year (foxnews.com)

LifeWise website (how to initiate in your school): During School Hours - LifeWise Academy

Joel's latest book telling of LifeWise successes: Amazon.com: During School Hours: WHY and HOW LifeWise Academy is Reinstalling Religious Education into the Public School Day: 9798987617519: Penton, Joel: Books

Should I Send My Kids to College?

Tue, 26 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 120 -

A traditional liberal arts education is an endangered species of the Western world. In modern parlance, the phenomenon of "going to college" is what's accessible to our children post high school. While "going to college" can admittedly mean a of variety of things (technical schools, 4-year state universities, Ivy Leagues, etc), what it commonly looks like on the ground is a far cry from the old liberal arts conception of education and involves a trajectory rife with ideological and moral hazards that parents ought to give an honest evaluation of.

Ben masterfully leads this episode, looking at the topic from every angle, while Chad bellows and blusters along as the underachieving co-host. The two give a critical shakedown of the default answers parents often give to their kids' post-secondary choices. What are the significant risks inherent in sending your kids to college, and are those risks outweighed by the benefits? If things are in fact so bad, how did Ben and Chad manage to survive their time at college? And what are some intentional things that Christian parents can do to help their kids prepare for, and discern through, these kinds of important decisions?

SHOW NOTES:

Resources mentioned by Ben:

Soft Men

Tue, 19 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 119 -

Looking for a kick in the pants as you wind down 2023 and ramp up for a New Year? Well, you're in luck! Because Chad's fresh off a failure and feeling a little rowdy. He's tasted him some humble pie and, finding it rather helpful, he can't resist the urge to imitate the late, great Kobe Bryant and share the Humble all around with some in-your-face straight talk!

Chad, coming to grips with his "loser" status, proceeds to rip it, MR-style, as Ben keeps up as co-host with his own big word and various voices. The two cohesively call out a number of categories where men might aim at becoming Mightier in 2024. Men: what ways are you stubbornly settling? Are you the master of your desires or are you mastered by them? Can you honestly say you've got your life's priorities in proper order? And which man-demanding cause have you taken up during the last year?

SHOW NOTES:

Kobe Bryant - Soft Like Charmin (youtube.com)

Soft Kobe Bryant GIF - Soft Kobe Bryant No - Discover & Share GIFs (tenor.com)

Can Big Families Save the World? (MAN TALK)

Tue, 12 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 118 -

We once again fire up the four-microphone format known as the MAN TALK! Taking on this audacious question, our mic'd up Mighty hosts and co-hosts compare notes, tell stories, and sit with the topic long enough to see where the question will lead. Hang to the end and you'll hear how each man concludes when the conversation comes to an end. (We'd love to hear your input on the topic as well, dear listener! Email: mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv )

Dr. Joshua Steinke and Matt Roessner are Men of Valor in their own rights, both at the helm of heroically large families! Joshua--the proud owner of two Nissan NVs--is the father of seven children, while Matt (and this isn't a typo) is the father of nine! Both help lend perspective to Chad (7 kids) and Ben's (4 kids) leading question, as the four fathers ride "27 deep" in this BIG discussion episode. How did each man end up being a father of a big family, and what is it like--the good, the bad, the ugly--raising so many kids? How does each man respond to the criticism that big families are a drain on scare resources and leave some of the kids wanting for individual attention? And what are some of the benefits a large family brings into the culture at large?

Why All Men Should Hunt

Tue, 05 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 117 -

It's official: Ben is a hunter! (Chad is still--most certainly--not.) Ben nabbed yet another buck this hunting season, and the process by which he accomplished that kill made him feel like he'd finally arrived. What about this year's hunt brought him this sense of achievement? Now having found it, he tells his story and shares how he believes other men should strive for the same.

Ben scopes out an episode based on his hunting experience and leads the charge, as Chad wanders into unchartered territory as the co-host still sporting the same stereotypical salesman getup (khakis & polo for life!). The two gut this topic for all its meaty content. How is hunting a great example of a skilled activity that requires patience and the honing of a craft to become successful? What about being both immersed in nature and needing to be quiet while hunting can be so spiritually rewarding? And can Ben sell the salesman, Chad, on giving hunting a try?

Remember When: A Marriage Reflection

Tue, 28 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 116 -

Whether you're married 5 years or 50, looking back on the early days in your relationship with your spouse can bring about feelings of great nostalgia. The excitement of thinking she might be the one; the deep desire to have her become yours forever; moving into your first home together: these are memories with strong emotional resonance. They are the things we sing songs about! But how well, as the years go by, do we see the present moments of our marriage and the storybook ones of our past as being part of a connected whole?

Chad grabs the lead mic to twang out a tune for this episode, while Ben's on the backup vocals hitting a nasally note as co-host. The two reminisce about their relationships with their wives, searching for meaningful threads that tie their present marriages back to past memories. What is a newly engaged couple dreaming of when they decide to share the rest of their lives with each other? What are some of the stories Chad and Ben recall about the early years of their respective marriages? What does it mean that two "become one flesh" (Mark 10:8) in marriage, and how can that oneness help us better understand the meaning of married love?

SHOW NOTES:

Book read in episode: Hannah Coulter by Wendell Berry | Goodreads

Andrew Peterson song referenced: Andrew Peterson - Dancing in the Minefields
(Official Video) - YouTube

Alan Jackson song (in episode title): https://youtu.be/TTA2buWlNyM

Interview with Coach Joe Kennedy

Tue, 21 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 115 -

Coach Joe Kennedy took an 8-year court battle over the First Amendment all the way to the Supreme Court...and won! He was an assistant varsity football coach for Bremerton High School in Washington state. He'd made a commitment to God that he was going to give thanks at the end of each game, but that was met with disapproval from his school district. The defense of his rights made it to the court's highest level, and on June 27th of 2022 his right to pray was upheld. His new book "Average Joe", which released in October of 2023, is available for purchase nationwide. Joe is a twenty-year Marine veteran, and he and his wife, Denise, are parents to four children.

Ben stands with our guest and comes under center as lead play-caller for this episode, while Chad can't help himself as he signals from the sideline with his ritual gesturing. The two cheer with all their fellow Americans as this guest lays out the simple truth of what it takes to stand up (or kneel) for your God-given rights. What was it about Coach Kennedy's desire to thank God at the end of games that was so offensive that he was going to lose his job over it? What compelled Joe to endure such a long, difficult court battle to see his rights vindicated, and what was it like being the center of such a high-profile case? Finally, what kind of advice would Coach Kennedy have for other people facing similarly difficult situations?

SHOW NOTES:

Coach Joe's website: Coach Joe Kennedy

Connect with Joe:

(3) Facebook Personal
(3) Facebook Coach Joe Kennedy Page

Buy Coach Joe's new book: Average Joe: One Man's Faith and the Fight to Change a Nation: Kennedy, Joseph A.: 9781684515097: Amazon.com: Books

Reconsidering Contraception

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 114 -

When it comes to unpopular Catholic moral teachings , this one ranks right up there! Whether you're a Catholic or a non-Catholic Christian, the Church's stance is an equal opportunity offender. Or perhaps, more accurately put, it's a controversial stance that's considered equally out-of-touch and irrelevant (and, therefore, is mostly ignored). All that means for Manhood Restored is this: it sure sounds like a great topic to bring up!

Chad foresees a fecund future as he furrows the field of this episode, while Ben's indentured to the hard labor of coming along to corral the promised yield as co-host. The two brave the strain of an uncomfortable conversation--disagreeing, agreeing, and agreeing to disagree--hoping for some kind of harvest. Why does Chad consider contraception a "secret weapon" in the Culture Wars (see minute 57)? What exactly is the Catholic Church's teaching about contraception, and does it make sense at all to Ben's Protestant sensibilities? And what has been Chad and his wife's experience while following this teaching during their married life?

SHOW NOTES:

Catholic teaching referenced (CCC 2360-2370): Catechism of the Catholic Church (usccb.org)

What is Natural Family Planning: What is NFP | Fertility Awareness Classes | Couple to Couple League International (ccli.org)

First Things article quoted by Chad: The Dark Future of Over-the-Counter Contraception | Jonathon Van Maren | First Things

Stat cited linking Abortion to Contraception: About Half of U.S. Abortion Patients Report Using Contraception in the Month They Became Pregnant | Guttmacher Institute

Why All Men Should Support Israel

Tue, 07 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 113 -

The attack on Israel by Hamas on October 7th, 2023 has set off a maelstrom of political turmoil on the global stage. From the intense outrage over the disturbing details of the terrorist's actions to the strange show of support for them from elitists in academia and media, it's deep, murky waters for an average person to wade through. Despite that fact, what's clear is this: we are witnessing a significant historical event, one which we'd do well to attempt to understand.

Ben leads with gratitude as the host for this important episode, as Chad comes along as a concerned co-host grappling with the issue's complexity. The two talk through some of the latest headlines as well as the historical backdrop to this conflict, searching for an average man's workable understanding. What are we to make of the demonstrations on college campuses in support of Palestine? Is there a proper posture that Christians should take on this situation, given the very Jewish roots of their religion? Why has there been, and is there still, such vehement hatred of Israel and the Jewish people?

SHOW NOTES:

The 6 Day War: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8i3uIz7hoYs

Yom-Kippur War: https://www.oneforisrael.org/bible-based-teaching-from-israel/golda-meir-and-the-miracles-of-the-yom-kippur-war/

Miracle at Golan Height (reenactment): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HNXwhv8Mooo

Episode of Andrew Klavan: Stream Ep. 1152 - This Present Darkness by The Andrew Klavan Show | Listen online for free on SoundCloud

Resource from Ben's Challenge:

Pray for the peace of Israel.
Study on the history of Israel.
Give and support how you are able.

https://www.oneforisrael.org/

Discerning God's Will with Deacon Marty Brown

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 112 -

Deacon Marty Brown has been a permanent deacon for the Archdiocese of Cincinnati for 13 years. He currently serves the St Isidore the Farmer Family of Parishes and is the Facilities Manager at Holy Rosary Catholic Church in St Mary's, Ohio. Prior to becoming a deacon, Marty worked in various fields - construction, welding, mechanics, groundskeeping, firefighting, as well as being a lifelong farmer. He and his wife, Angie, have been married 40 years; they have 4 children and 12 grandchildren.

Ben jumps off this interview episode hoping to soar to new heights of understanding, as Chad packs a parachute, taking every Catholic precaution as the co-host. The two take a leap into this conversation and quickly find themselves drafting behind the momentum of their guest's story of faithfulness to God's will. What were some of the dramatic ways that God helped Marty discover his calling to be a deacon? How can putting your trust in the Holy Spirit enable you to see big and little choices as opportunities to serve God? And how does the spirit of fear often undermine the discernment process?

Franz Reichelt Failed 1912 Eiffel Tower Jump

What is God’s Will and How Can I Know it? (Discernment)

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 111 -

All throughout life, we find ourselves making a multitude of decisions. Some are small and insignificant; others are major, the kinds that are like crossroads. When we are in the midst of making those big decisions (Should I change my job? Should I marry this girl? Should we move our family to a new town?), discerning the right Choice can be downright difficult.

Ben puts the magnifying glass over this question as the episode's Sherlock Holmes, and Chad twists the ends of his imaginary stash while helping Ben get to the bottom of things. The two puzzle over wise ways to discern life's biggest choices and what role God has in the process. When it comes to these "crossroad" types of decisions, is there ONE right path that God wills for you--like one person meant for you to marry? How important of a role should other people and their opinions play in decision making? Is it possible to prepare for future big decisions before you even know what those decisions will be?

SHOW NOTES:

Article by Peter Kreeft on Discernment

November 2023 Election in Ohio - State Issues 1 and 2 (RANTS!)

Sat, 21 Oct 2023 12:00:00 -0400

BONUS episode -

Chad & Ben take turns RANTING about Issues 1 and 2 on the Ohio Ballot this November 7th, 2023. (Share this episode around with friends and family!)

Chad rants on Issue 1 (up through minute 10:52), specifically calling out Catholics. What did the Archbishop of Cincinnati do on Respect Life Sunday, what was his promulgation on Issue 1, and what does that mean for the consciences of voting Catholics?

Ben rants on Issue 2 (from minute 10:52 till episode's end), bringing to light facts now known about the commercialization of marijuana from other states who've implemented it. What are those facts as it relates to public health and safety, what are the actual tax benefits, and how does the ensuing proliferation of dispensaries impact local communities?

SHOW NOTES:

Archbishop Schnurr's homily: Listen to Archbishop Schnurr’s Respect Life Sunday Homily! – St. Francis Seraph Parish (sfsparish.org)

Text of Issues 1 and 2: Ohio State Issues 1 and 2 (ohiosos.gov)

Protestant vs. Catholic Debate on Faith Alone

Tue, 17 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 110 -

The gloves come off (!) in this doozy of a debate episode. If you thought our debate on baptism (episode 70) was juicy, then here's one that'll surely keep your attention to the end! It's the ever-ancient, ever-new battle between Protestants and Catholics, hashed out by friends, Ben and Chad: are we, or are we not, saved by faith alone? (Spoiler alert: they're still friends when it's over!)

Chad dings the bell and comes out of his corner wearing the proverbial "plus works" trunks, while a well-trained Ben enters the ring wearing trunks that sport the letters "OSAS". While beginning cordially and both still standing by the end, the two make a good mess of things in the middle! How do Protestants read James chapter 2 when it teaches that faith without works is dead? Can Catholics have any assurance of their salvation if they're constantly worried about the severity of their sins and the meagerness of their works? And what role, in the end, does the phrase “faith alone” play in the life of a Christian?

SHOW NOTES:

Ben's referenced Mike Winger video on James 2: The Debate Over James 2: Catholic or Protestant View - YouTube

Chad's referenced Trent Horn podcast on faith and works: The Not-so-Simple Protestant Plan of Salvation - YouTube

Rite of Passage Ceremonies for Boys with Steven Arms

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 109 -

Steven Arms is the co-author of "Milestone to Manhood", a book about the Rite of Passage tradition his family created for a whole generation of boys who were coming of age as young men. In the book, he talks about his own Rite of Passage weekend and reflects on how it shaped him into the man he is today. He then shares how fathers can organize Rite of Passage events for their own sons. Steven lives in Portland, Oregon, with his wife, Emily, and is the proud father of three young children.

Chad is the Master of Ceremonies for this episode, as Ben lends a hand as a co-host and--most definitively--a man (and WHAT a man is he!). The two pick their guest's brain, hoping to adapt and adopt his insight for their own son-rearing efforts. What is a Rite of Passage historically, and why is it that there doesn't seem to be one for boys living in western society? Why is a formal, pre-planned ceremony so important - can't the transmission of manhood between father and son happen organically and over time? Does a Rite of Passage ceremony actually make a substantive difference in the life of a man?

SHOW NOTES:

Book website (full w/resources): Milestone to Manhood | Rite of Passage

Working in a Woke Workplace

Tue, 03 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 108 -

With its many and far-reaching tentacles, it's no longer a matter of if the Giant "Woke-topus" finds you, it's a matter of when. It's coming for your kids in the subtle themes of the latest Disney movie, and during the not-so-subtle drag queen story hour at the local library; it's lingering between the big game during every commercial break, and soon (if not already) parading down your small-town main street in the month of June. And just when you thought it couldn't get any worse, here it also comes... to a workplace near you.

Ben leads the confrontation with this stinking cephalopod with the hopes of putting it to bed once and for all; and Chad, as salty as ever, comes along with a soothing voice as co-host, coaxing it back into its cage. The two untangle the messy (and confusing) subject of workplace wokism. Should something as simple as mutual respect between co-workers conquer the day, no matter the issue at hand? What freedoms and rights are guaranteed to someone in a workplace setting, and how ought a conflict between two competing freedoms be resolved? And what is the Christian's responsibility when put in situations at work that push their conscience to the edge?

What is a Man?

Tue, 26 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 107 -

Imagine leftists trying to make a documentary of their own by this episode's same title, like some kind of clever rebuttal to Matt Walsh's wildly successful "What is a Woman?". And, instead of interviewing extremist liberals, they interviewed average, everyday Americans. One wonders with delight how that might play out? Hint: if it went anything like this episode, it'd end in slap-happy hilarity!

Chad channels his inner Sweet Baby Gang only to end up laughing (and sniffling) the whole episode through as its lead Super-movie-quoter. Ben fails to capture Chad's point (or keep up with his movie references) but rallies triumphantly at the last second as the gloating cohost. The two try mightily to take this question seriously with (thanks to Ben!) mostly poor results. Why is it that sane, clear-thinking people are made to feel crazy for refusing to ignore biological realities? Can Ben pass the "Are You a Man Test"? And, once and for all, what does the famous '90s hip hop group Salt-N-Pepa say in their hit song: "Wanna man, wanna man..." or "What a man, what a man..."??

Interview with Andrew Peel (on Men's Fitness)

Tue, 19 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 106 -

Andrew Peel is the owner of the Rock Solid Performance Gym. He's competed in fitness events such as CrossFit, Ironman triathlons, obstacle course races, and bodybuilding. He is also a 1st Phorm Sponsored Trainer and has been involved in personal training for athletes, as well as online for adults trying to make a major lifestyle change. Andrew's online coaching business, AP2 Fitness, can be found on various social media platforms, and his new podcast is called "The No Bad Days Show." He and his wife and their three children live in Rockford, Ohio.

Chad flexes his make-believe muscles as lead meat head for this episode, as Ben makes guttural noises as he carries his weight as the cut-up co-host. The two ask their guest where the weight room's at and feel the burn of inadequacy. How does a man's fitness--or lack thereof--affect all aspects of his life? What are three tips that are foundational to a healthy lifestyle? What is "75 Hard", and how can its principles bring about the kind of transformational change that can produce lasting, positive outcomes in a man's health?

SHOW NOTES:

Andrew's Gym: (20+) Facebook

Connect with Andrew & AP2 Fitness:

Andrew's new Podcast: No Bad Days Show | Podcast on Spotify

"75 Hard" Challenge: 75 Hard | The 75-Day Tactical Guide to Winning the War with Yourself (andyfrisella.com)

Stagnation vs. Innovation

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 105 -

While many men need the reminder to curb their enthusiasm for constant productivity in their middle-aged years (see Episode #72, "The Semi-Retired Man"), perhaps there are still other men who need the reminder to maintain that enthusiasm into their advanced years. For men "with their best years behind them", the struggle might be accurately described as one between becoming stagnate and staying innovative. That struggle might become the difference between life and death.

Ben imagines himself with snow white facial hair and a southern drawl as the Colonel for this episode, as Chad co-hosts, sprinkling in spicy "advices" into Ben's not-yet-famous recipe. The two cook up conversation surrounding the question of how men can stay engaged into old age. How would Ben and Chad envision themselves spending their retirement when that time comes? What does the story of Colonel Sanders' founding of Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC) provide in the way of inspiration? And what are some stories of men Ben and Chad know personally who've set great examples of how to stay active and innovative into advanced age?

SHOW NOTES:

Colonel Sanders Rejected Over 1000 Times

BONUS: Oliver Anthony Witnesses to Joe Rogan

Thu, 07 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0400

In Chad's favorite fashion, he strikes up a BONUS! conversation with Ben about the recent phenomenon that is Oliver Anthony, singer/songwriter of the top hit "Rich Men North of Richmond."

Chad updates Ben on a recent interview Oliver Anthony gave to Joe Rogan (Chad, knowing Ben doesn't approve of his penchant for listening to the Rogan podcast!). The two have a brief, general discussion of the Oliver Anthony story, and talk about the value of his witness on the Joe Rogan program.

SHOW NOTES:

Joe Rogan Reacts To Oliver Anthony Sharing Faith, Reading Bible On Podcast: ‘Pretty F***ing Profound’ | The Daily Wire

Bridging the Gulf Between Spirit and Matter (with Psychedelics?)

Tue, 05 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 104 –

The connection between the natural world and the supernatural world, between matter and spirit, is one of great mystery. Some might contend that physical matter is a hindrance to spiritual growth, while others find their spiritual lives enhanced by the natural world. One thing is for sure: the interplay between the two is consequential and definitely worth exploration.

Chad’s at the helm as he pulls up anchor to see which way the winds take this drifting discussion of an episode, as Ben tries to calculate coordinates and engineer some sort of safe passage as co-host. The two brave the open seas of a loosely planned episode. What should be made of claims to spiritual experiences by those taking psychedelic drugs? How ought we approach alleged spiritual interventions into the natural world – things like miracles, apparitions, and direct messages from God? What are we anyway – spirit-body composites, or ghosts in a machine?

SHOW NOTES:

Fatima’s “Miracle of the Sun”: A Lawyer, a Journalist, and a Scientist Detail the Miracle of the Sun (magiscenter.com)

Is Theology of Any Use to the Average Man? (MAN TALK)

Tue, 29 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 103 -

Yet another installment of men sitting around tables talking - another edition of the MAN TALK, that is! Where we break out all four mikes over a long-form conversation of consequence. The topic on tap: theology. How will these four conversationalists conclude on the question being considered? They each give their final answers by the episode's end! (And what say you on the matter, dear listener? Email us your thoughts at mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv)

Father Mike Kapolka and Shawn Meyer are both pastors. Fr. Mike is the Parochial Vicar at the Holy Cross Family of Parishes in Fort Recovery and Coldwater, Ohio. And Shawn is the pastor of Aletheia Christian Church in Celina, Ohio. The two bring their own unique perspectives, yet common appreciation for theology, to the table to help Ben and Chad carve a path through an academic-thick jungle of a topic. Does theology even play that big of a role in the life of a pastor? How much does admittance into heaven have to do with knowledge of God, or does knowledge of God make any difference at all in that respect? What are some specific ways and examples of how theology can make a positive change in how you act in the world?

SHOW NOTES:

Pastor Shawn's church:

https://aletheiacelina.com/

Fr Mike's parishes:

The County Fair and Carnies (not what you think)

Tue, 22 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 102 -

Picture, if you will, the sights and sounds of a County Fair. It's a scene of pure sensual wonderment with its neon rides, its flashy food booths, its throngs of people at big concerts and competitions. With so much excitement in the air, it's surely a fun place to be. But it can also serve as a scaled-down study of how the pleasures of the world can make us manic for more, more, more!

Ben brings his bullhorn to talk over the noise as ringmaster of this sideshow of an episode, as Chad sports yet another polo in an odd hybrid role as carnie co-host. What exactly does Ben mean by "carnies" in his episode title, and what does he have against them? How does the Parable of the Sower speak to the County Fair mentality? And can Ben draw more wisdom from John Bunyan's "Pilgrim's Progress" as a way to see through the worldly wares being peddled to us daily?

SHOW NOTES:

Vanity Fair Clip- 2 minutes

Vanity Fair Full Scene- 14 minutes

Watch, per Ben's Challenge: The Pilgrim's Progress (2019) | Full Movie | John Rhys-Davies | Ben Price | Kristyn Getty - YouTube

Make of Your Home a Monastery

Tue, 15 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 101 -

We live in dark times. An odd remaking of the Dark Ages, because the light of Western Civilization is again under threat of being extinguished. Preserving that light for the future is an effort worth undertaking. It's also one undertaken successfully once before, by the most unassuming group of people - Catholic monks. Might we do well to imitate their model... in our homes?

Chad, fond of rules as he is, plays the part of Abbot for this episode, while 'Brother Ben' yet again graciously plays along as a Catholic character and co-host. The two ponder the possibilities of preservation within the four walls a Christian home. In what ways did Catholic monks stem the tide of barbarism during the Middle Ages? Who are the barbaric equivalents at our doorsteps? How might one go about "turning their home into" a modern monastery, and what is it we ought to be preserving?

SHOW NOTES:

PDF chapter of monk history (quick read): working template.qxd (churchinhistory.org)
Book recommended in Chad's challenge: Hallowed Be This House (ignatius.com)

Swearing and Cigars

Tue, 08 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 100 -

When menfolk get together in celebration, the revelry and carousing that ensues can, to some (to many?), be obnoxious and offensive. Why oh why, some might ask, must it be so? Shouldn't it not be so? What is it about certain stereotypical manly behavior--like stereotypical manly appearances (see 'Fords and Facial Hair', Episode 1) --that can be so off-putting from the outside looking in?

Ben swears he won't cave to peer pressure for best-in-class life insurance rates as lead 'foul linguist' on this episode, while Chad strikes a hard bargain as the clean yet clouded co-host. The two raise their voices, raise their glasses, and light their stogie(s?) in celebration, all the while debating whether any of it is even appropriate! Is there any place for potentially offensive behavior in the life of a man? Is it sinful to smoke, and how divergent are Catholics and Protestants on the topic? Will Chad be able to persuade Ben to light up a celebratory cigar before the end of this episode?

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The Procrastinator- The Hero of Tomorrow

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 99 -

Being a Man of Action isn't as easy as it sounds. Sure, men may recognize a righteous cause when they see one; and, from time to time, men may feel the flame of mission stirred up within them; they might even, in a flash of inspiration, step out and send a shot across the bow. But then any number of obstacles--distraction, fear, doubt--inevitably follow. As a result, too many of them are left on the sideline, apathetic, and promising to take action--next time. Always next time.

Ben heroically (finally) stops putting off talking about putting things off as lead action star for this episode, as Chad co-stars, insuring they cover all their bases in a single, bounding sit-down. The two calculate, formulate, and figure the distance between good intentions and actually taking action. Do you ever hear a voice of doubt & resistance pop into your head just as soon as you consider stepping out and acting for good? What is Issue 1 in Ohio, and how is it an example of the potential for frittering away an opportunity to take a stand? When an issue/cause is so complex (think human sex trafficking as presented by the recent movie "Sound of Freedom"), what are some ways a man can still act effectively, but in small ways?

SHOW NOTES:

Ohio's Issue 1 (voting now till Aug 8th): Protect Our Constitution | Vote Yes on Issue 1 (voteyesohio.com)

Two good organizations fighting human sex trafficking:

Resurrecting the Religious Man

Tue, 25 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 98 -

The word 'religion' carries a curiously negative connotation in our modern lexicon. The term is more often used for the purposes of criticism, as it conjures associations with anti-individualism, historical oppression, and hypocrisy. Religion might as well mean backward and ignorant. To be labeled as 'religious', then, would conceivably be the worst personal descriptor one could imagine. 'Spiritual', 'faithful', 'a good person' - yeah, those are all okay. But surely never 'religious'!

Chad takes the [fictitious] challenge of breathing life back into the word 'religion' as lead contrarian for this episode, while Ben bites his tongue as long as he possibly can (which isn't long) as co-host. The two wrestle with the many popularized misnomers surrounding this term in hopes of sparking its comeback. Can a Christian have a relationship with Jesus and adhere to a religion, or are the two mutually exclusive? What will take the place of religion if traditional forms of it are eschewed in society? And will Ben and Chad see eye-to-eye on the usefulness of ritual in the religious context?

SHOW NOTES:

Two "viral videos" on hating vs. loving religion (from 10 years ago);

Tim Gordon's podcast episode on the new secular religion: Timothy Gordon Rules for Retrogrades Podcast: Rainbow: Dawn of the Old Idols on Apple Podcasts

Interview with Ben Hartings (on Suffering and the Scarcity Mindset)

Tue, 18 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 97 -

Ben Hartings is an owner/partner at Trinity Financial Advisors in Columbus, Ohio. He was raised on a poultry farm, played division one football at Miami University (OH), and received his MBA from the University of Dayton. Ben is a two-time cancer survivor and the author of two books on dealing with loss and grief. He is involved in various Catholic ministries and outreach boards, and he and his wife of 18 years have five children, four living and one in heaven.

Chad pops the cork on, and proposes a toast to, the rich flavor of paradox on this episode, as Ben (no stranger to 'uncorking') adds his own touch to the conversation as co-host. The two try to claim this guest for their respective side of the confessional divide while listening to his insights into two seemingly unrelated topics. What is the "Scarcity Mindset" and how does it fit within a Christian context? Why would someone "offer" their suffering as a form of obedient surrender to God's will? How does Ben H's story serve as an example for bringing these two topics together?

SHOW NOTES:

Ben H's books -

Ben H's firm: Meet the Team — Trinity Financial Advisors (tfadvisors.com)

Ben H's recommended reading (PDF Download): Don’t Waste Your Cancer | Desiring God

Good Grief

Tue, 11 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 96 -

There's nothing like a song to take you back to a moment in time. Music has that kind of power because it comes alongside of us to punctuate the feelings of those moments, ministering to us in lyrics and melody. That's especially true of the most meaningful moments - those of love, joy, and grief. Still more, in the hands of God, that power of song can seem almost sacramental.

Ben's the DJ at the mixing board for this self-reflective soundtrack of an episode, as Chad listens in as a Lucy-like cohost, with a couple few cents of his own. The two follow Ben's chronicles of coping with grief in hopes of striking a chord with listeners who could use the accompaniment. What are some ways that we often deal poorly with grief, and what's a better alternative to them? How can God work through things like music, and through people, to help heal us when we're grieving? Where does our grief fit in to the meaning of our story - that is, our story as part of His Story?

SHOW NOTES:

Ben's songs (in episode sequence):

Does Manhood Really Need Restored?

Tue, 04 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 95 -

What... are we questioning the whole premise of the podcast now? And after nearly 100 episodes? What gives?

Chad leads this tunneling expedition of an episode, searching out the assumptions underfoot, as Ben co-hosts and points his shinny head (lamp) toward the depths of Chad's cavernous quest. The two confront the Big Question head-on and layout their (inevitably) affirmative answer.

Have you, dear listener, asked this very question in a personal way: does YOUR manhood need restored? What are three senses in which Ben and Chad firmly believe manhood needs restored? If you, too, can answer in the affirmative, is there someone who's never listened that you can share the podcast with?

Interview with Mark Harrington (on 2023 Ohio Ballot Initiative)

Tue, 27 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 94 -

Mark Harrington is the Founder and President of "Created Equal", a pro-life education and outreach organization based in Columbus, Ohio. He travels to universities across the nation training and inspiring young leaders in cutting-edge tactics in the pro-life movement. Mark also served for more than a decade as the Executive Director of the Midwest office of the Center for Bioethical Reform prior to launching Created Equal. He's been featured in the USA Today and on national TV programs like CBS Mornings, Fox & Friends, and the Sean Hannity Show.

Chad takes off the gloves and rings the bell for this politically punching episode, as Ben stays in the corner as co-host in case he needs to clean up any messy interview moments. The two let their heavy-hitting guest take his swings at the pro-abortion Ballot Initiative in Ohio set for the November 2023 election. How is the wording of this "Reproductive Freedom" Amendment potentially misleading, and what specifically should pro-life voters know about it? What does this August 8th Special Election have to do with the November Ballot Initiative? And just how consequential are these upcoming votes for Ohioans and the county?

SHOW NOTES:

READ (proposed language of the proposed amendment to Ohio's Constitution): Extreme Pro-Abortion Ballot Initiative: Ohio - Created Equal

Pro-life speakers willing to come to your church FOR FREE to raise awareness: TogetherForLifeOhio.org

Created Equal Website: Created Equal | Exposing the Truth About Abortion

Nikola Jokic: From Mediocrity to Mastery, A Case Study

Tue, 20 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 93 -

2-time NBA MVP, Nikola Jokic, recently reached the top of the basketball world after leading his Denver Nuggets to the 2023 NBA Championship. An unlikely success story if there ever was one, Jokic's rise to greatness is one worth taking notice of. As told in a recent ESPN article written by Ramona Shelborne, his is a tale of tapping into one's fullest potential through encouragement and hard work.

Ben brings out the best that this case study has to offer as lead basketball analyst for this episode, while Chad "somborly" gives props to the talent that swept his precious Lakers from the playoffs. The two take their love for basketball and search out the manly model of mastery on display in this superstar's story. What was the pivotal moment for Jokic's basketball career that catapulted his game to the next level, and how did someone's calling out of his potential factor into that moment? Where should someone primarily focus to achieve their very best - on the end goal, or on the work it takes to get there? What kinds of habits ought we to consider when contemplating how God wants to bring the best out of us?

SHOW NOTES:

ESPN article on Jokic: A car ride and a Game 7 loss that activated Nikola Jokic into an MVP - ESPN

BONUS: Father's Day Fun (Diagnosing Dad Behavior)

Sun, 18 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Bonus Convo: Diagnosing Dad Behavior

A Father's Day special & bonus episode (suggested by Ben, believe it or not)! A big shout out to dads: thank you for all you do to keep society sane by keeping your families ordered in ways only a father can!

To show our appreciation, Ben and Chad strike up an entertaining conversation about what constitutes "dad behavior". Taking turns calling out behaviors from separately created lists, the two diagnose which ones are a) common to most, if not all, dads; b) probably unique to their own 'daddom'; or c) just plain weird!

From hygiene habits to 'dad fashion', and from disciplining children to the mis-firing male mind, there's surely something in this episode to remind you of your dad! We hope you enjoy!

What to Make of the Chad Meme?

Tue, 13 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 92 -

In a headline-happy culture that's fraught with daily doses of polarizing sensation, it can be a real challenge to stay sane. Most of the content within those headlines involve matters outside of our immediate control. That, in turn, stokes the fires of the mania that is social media, which is perhaps a symptom of the hysterical headlining. How are we to properly respond this phenomenon? Enter the "Chad Meme"... and the Chad Meme Mindset.

Chad is (naturally) the leading Meme-man for this episode, as Ben strains mightily as co-host to find the usefulness in meme humor. The two consider the correct disposition to adopt in the face of the constant lunacy on the left. How can laughter be the most (and sometimes only?) effective means of contending with Crazy? Can anything instructive be gleaned from the "gotcha" mentality of online political jousting? And would St. Paul have resorted to meme-making in an effort to spread the Gospel?

SHOW NOTES:

Great Chad Meme example: soyjak (mask) vs chad | Yes Chad | Know Your Meme

Interview w/ Deacon Ralph Poyo- Overcoming Porn Addiction and more

Tue, 06 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 91 -

Deacon Ralph Poyo is the founder of New Evangelization Ministries (NEM), an outreach to parish priests and their staff, helping equip them to lead their flocks to a live-changing relationship with Jesus Christ. Drawing from over 40 years in ministry, Deacon Ralph leads retreats and conferences across the country, often speaking on the topic of pornography addiction. He was ordained to the permanent deaconate in 2005, and he and his wife of 39 years have five girls.

Chad is right at home conducting this interview 'live' at the March 2023 Northwest Men's Conference, as Ben co-hosts and braves being spotted as the lone Protestant at a Catholic men's conference. The two get right to the good stuff (the difficult stuff, that is) because their guest doesn't make a habit of mincing words. What is one of the biggest issues facing local parishes and church congregations? How can a man get serious about breaking free of an addiction to pornography? How do the 'chains' of pride and fear play into the demonic destruction of manly virtue?

SHOW NOTES:

NEM website: Meet Our Founder – New Evangelization Ministries (nem.training)

Example "chains" speech of Deacon Ralph: Deacon Ralph Poyo - The Thief - 2015 Steubenville Main Campus 2 - YouTube

Peterson, Rogan, and Beck, Oh my!

Tue, 30 May 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 90 -

In today's "influencer age", podcast personalities and pundits abound. Some of them reach meteoric status with followers in the millions. Their voices and opinions, therefore, have a great influence. As consumers of these kinds influencers, it can be difficult to take in their content with a critical ear. That fact becomes all the more salient when Christians are listening to non-Christians.

Ben sets his sights on the wizardry of some popular personas as the lead for this episode, while Chad fearlessly follows down Ben's yellow brick road to levelheaded listening. The two traverse some tricky terrain in hopes of peeking behind the curtain of the influencer's mysterious power. Should a Christian take in content that comes from someone who doesn't profess Christ? If we are seeking to gain knowledge from those who don't share our most deeply held beliefs, what's the best approach to doing so? And does the label 'Christian' automatically guarantee the transfer of trustworthy perspectives?

Prager and Porn

Tue, 23 May 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 89 -

Popular conservative commentator Dennis Prager recently made headlines for taking a surprisingly lax position on pornography. Those comments set off a firestorm among many of his Christian fans. While Prager cited his Jewish faith for his slightly different views on porn, the rationale used for those views might very well reflect that of many in the culture--even conservative Christians. And that deserves clarification.

Chad takes things up a notch as the fearlessly prudish lead for this episode, while Ben nervously dismisses all disclaimers and comes along for the uncomfortable ride. The two go where they've not gone before and put the porn conversation front and center. What are the facts about pornography consumption, and what exactly qualifies as porn? Does pornography have any place in the life of a Mighty Man of Valor? What is God's design for sex, and how is porn a distortion of that design?

SHOW NOTES:

Prager debates Matt Fradd: Heated Debate on Pornography w/ Dennis Prager @PragerU - YouTube

Prager explains his position: FiresideChat Ep. 286 — My Stance on Porn and Thoughts on Otto’s Death - YouTube

Statistics on Pornography: The Most Up-to-Date Pornography Statistics (covenanteyes.com)

Podcast recommendation from Chad's challenge: Ask Christopher West

How Much Should a Christian Man Prep? (MAN TALK)

Tue, 16 May 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 88 - Guest hosts, Kory Fletcher and Matt Driggs

A long-overdue return to the four-mic format known as the MAN TALK! Taking a broad, open-ended question to the table for a lively discussion, your two podcast hosts welcome two guest co-hosts. Will the four men be able to handle this meandering, oft-maligned topic in such a way as to be taken seriously in their conclusions? (Email us at mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv to weigh in, dear listeners!)

Kory Fletcher and Matt Driggs both have their eyes open to the potential scenarios threatening society-as-we-know-it. Kory keeps a developing homestead that he hopes would sustain his young family, and Matt's inherited a rolodex of resources that he has holstered for the worst-case. The two guest hosts have a robust roundtable discussion with Ben and Chad about the finer points of "prepping". What doomsday scenarios ought we consider, and what are the likelihood of each happening? How should we approach these kinds of earthly concerns from a heavenly (Christan) perspective? And what are some tips and tricks for responsibly preparing for the unpredictable?

5 + 1 Reasons Every Man Should Homestead

Tue, 09 May 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 87 -

There has been a resurgence of interest in homesteading in certain segments of America. Younger generations turn away from a tech-saturated lifestyle; urbanites migrate to the rural countryside for simplicity and fresh air. Whatever the reason, the popularity of homesteading in our modern context isn't because it's convenient or immediately practical. No, it would seem there's something more to it.

Ben leads fully loaded (including one in the chamber) with answers in this do-it-yourself kind of episode. Chad co-coasts down memory lane, a shadow of his former homesteader-self. The two plow through the rich reasons behind the impulse many have to engage in the hard work of homesteading. What did it mean in Scripture that Adam was to 'tend the garden' of Eden? How is it that the many trials of working at farm-related activities can create a sense of accomplishment? What are some of the "impractical" reasons for trying your hand at homesteading?

SHOW NOTES:

From Ben's conclusion: Paul Harvey - So God Made A Farmer - YouTube

The Integrity of Joseph Chambers (A Movie Review)

Tue, 02 May 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 86 –

Released in February of 2023 (USA), “The Integrity of Joseph Chambers” is a movie that dredges the depths of what it means to be a man. Joseph, haunted by an insecurity about his manliness, is driven to risk everything he loves to erase that insecurity. When things go from irresponsible to irrevocable, Joseph’s real test of manliness begins.

Chad, projector and popcorn in-hand, has the lead role for this feature film of an episode. Playing Siskel to Chad’s Ebert, Ben piggybacks his way into profundity as movie critic and co-host. The two sit with this movie’s tension and try to learn its greatest lesson. Has modern society’s “need” for men diminished over time, and if so, what does that do to a man’s psyche? What do we mean when we say that every man asks himself “Do I have what it takes?” And what in the end is the real measure of a man?

SHOW NOTES:

Gospel Coalition review: Painful Redemption in ‘The Integrity of Joseph Chambers’ (thegospelcoalition.org)

Gospel Coalition article cited in episode: Savior or Stoics? Why Modern Men Look for Spiritual Wisdom Outside the Church (thegospelcoalition.org)

Interview with Chris Conley

Tue, 25 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 85 -

Chris Conley is an author, speaker, and coach. He currently writes two motivational editorial columns for the Kenton Times and the Bellefontaine Examiner. In 2021, he published "The Eight Facets of Life", a book chock-full of practical wisdom on topics important to living life well. He and his wife of over 40 years have two children and four grandchildren.

Chad leads as tour guide through the timeless halls of this wisdom-rich episode, while Ben--insistent that he needs no guide to find this episode's coordinates--follows closely behind as co-host. The two glean simple truths from their guest by way of helpful resources, relatable stories, and wise sayings. How can the art of "just asking" lead one to greater and greater opportunity? What are the '8 facets of life' and how can they be utilized to gauge potential for personal growth? Whatever happened to the proverbial "pop-in" by neighbors, and what does its rarity say about our relationships today?

SHOW NOTES:

Chris book PR: Conley details ‘The 8 Facets of Life’ in new book – Examiner Online

Chris's website: ImprovePlus – A guide to self improvement

Eight Facets Facebook Group: (2) The Eight Facets of Life | Facebook

Fatherhood resource shared: All Pro Dad | Advice for Dads on Parenting, Marriage and Relationships

Our Biggest Pet Peeves

Tue, 18 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 84 -

We have some fun in this show of light-hearted insights - not necessarily manly insights, just quirky insights from two men; not necessarily insightful complaining, just insightful complaints; and not necessarily angry insights, just personally peevish insights. It does, however, necessarily give insights into the weirdness of these co-hosts!

Ben cracks up with the tiniest annoyances "on his mind" as the Grand Instigator of this episode, while Chad channels his own personal peccadillos and finds out how truly peevish he can be. The two each share and discuss their top three "pet peeves" (and, at the episode's end, what their wives think are their husbands' pet peeves!). What does Chad have against milk, and why does Ben think labels are so important? According to Chad, what's the polite way to use the bathroom at someone's personal home? And does Ben believe there's any place for exaggeration in speech?

SHOW NOTES:

Ben's favorite Dude Perfect video: Pet Peeves (Official Music Video) - YouTube

A Treatise on Truth

Tue, 11 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 83 -

Almost everything we as a society argue for and argue against depends upon a foundational principle: that there is such a thing as Objective Truth. It's a first step before which all other steps depend. While that principle, for the most part, still carries the day with subjects that pertain to the observable realm (science), when it comes to applying the principle to religious faith or morals, it's a different story. (Especially if your name is Joe Rogan.)

Chad Tosses around capital 'T' words with a stickler's pizzaz as lead Truth Teller for this episode, while Buff Ben confidently cruises around in Chad's wake as co-host. The Two engage (and DEMOLISH!) the error of denying Truth's proper place in the most important debates of our day. How is avoiding peanuts when you have a peanut allergy like Taking care of a child because you're the child's parent? What are Two of the most prevalent "escape hatches" in the modern mind when Trying to avoid Truth? And how can said escape hatches be easily--and embarrassingly--refuted?

SHOW NOTES:

Rev. Calvin Robinson speech: Rev. Calvin Robinson | Christianity SHOULD NOT allow gay marriage - 6/8 | Oxford Union - YouTube

Clip of Chris Rock bit: (just kidding!)

Deepak Chopra gets owned: Deepak Chopra gets owned by a Thug - YouTube

Pamphlet by Chris Stefanick: Absolute Relativism - Real Life Catholic

Interview with Dr. Christopher Stroud

Tue, 04 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 82 -

Dr. Christopher Stroud is a board-certified OB/GYN at the Fertility & Midwifery Care Center in Fort Wayne, Indiana, which he and his wife started in 2014. He is trained in a highly specialized, natural form of fertility care called Creighton Model Fertility/NaPro Technology. Dr. Stroud runs the Holy Family Birth Center in Fort Wayne, which uses an integrated physician-nurse midwife model of care. He is also the co-host of a nationally known radio show & podcast called "Doctor, Doctor". He and his wife Marianne have five children and three grandchildren.

Chad takes responsibility as the fall guy for this men-talking-about-women's-health episode, while Ben loosely associates so as to maintain the safe appearance of neutrality. The two have to hold their mouths in the closed position for fear of gaping dumbly at all the utterly fascinating insights shared in this interview. What are some things dads need to know about what their young daughters are going through during their teen years? How does the Creighton Model Fertility/NaPro Technolgy differ from more traditional approaches to women's health? In what ways does the use of the pill adversely affect a young woman's future fertility? (And what is Ben's burning question about contraception at the end of the episode?)

SHOW NOTES:

Longer bio for Dr. Stroud: Dr. Christopher Stroud, Obstetrician/Gynecologist - Fertility & Midwifery Birth Center (fertilityandmidwifery.com)

Dr Stroud tells his conversion story: Atheist Doctor Becomes Catholic OBGYN and Pregnancy Expert - The Catholic Gentleman

Resources mentioned by Dr. Stroud:

Dr Stroud's radio show/podcast: Catholic Medical, Health, and Doctors Podcast and Talk Show - Doctor Doctor Podcast

Dads, Daughters, Dress, and Death Glares

Tue, 28 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 81 -

In an age of high slit dresses, low cut tops, and leggings, making an effort toward modesty might simply seem impractical. Depending on where you look, though, it could be that it's not even a consideration--maybe even in Christian, conservative circles. What that means for a man and his conscience is one thing. But what that means for a father raising a daughter? Well... good luck (is about what it seems)!

Ben buffs up, and shines to a sheen, his various guns as the dad of two daughters for this episode, while Chad innocently stares down the double-barrel topic as co-host. The two take aim and tear up their target of rallying dads to the protection of their daughters' purity. How will Chad do in Ben's game, "Should a Dad?" What are the dynamics at play (for men, in particular) when a female dresses sensually in public? And what is a father's role when it comes to expectations and parameters for his daughter's way of dressing?

SHOW NOTES:

Ben's book reference: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters: 10 Secrets Every Father Should Know by Meg Meeker | Goodreads

Men and Art

Tue, 21 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 80 -

Many, if not most, of the greatest artists of all time were men. Yet it could be argued that the average man today has distanced himself from much of what could be traditionally called "the arts." Whether it's making it or appreciating it, things like poetry and painting, crafts and classical music, aren't likely at the top of the list for the manliest activities. Should that concern men?

Chad channels his chest hair envy and 'leads like a Ross' for this episode, as Ben keeps the beat and plays the p(art) of groovy co-host. The two take an inward look at their own artlessness and tease out the untapped potential. What sorts of creative activities qualify as art? How can art enable us to see deeper into and appreciate the world around us? And what is lost to us should we forgo the chance to engage in our artistic interests?

SHOW NOTES:

Andrew Peterson book: Adorning the Dark, a new book by Andrew Peterson

Poem referenced by Chad: If— by Rudyard Kipling | Poetry Foundation

Cool song by Kings Kaleidescope: All Glory Be to Christ - Kings Kaleidoscope - YouTube

All The Poets (Peterson song read by Chad at episode's end): All The Poets | Andrew Peterson | Lyric Video - YouTube

Interview Aaron Kuhn (on Marriage Counseling)

Tue, 14 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 79 -

Aaron Kuhn (back by popular demand) is our first return guest on the podcast! Joining us to take a deep dive on the topic of marriage, he has been working in the field for over 20 years as a licensed mental health and addiction therapist. He currently provides counseling, including marriage and family, at Counseling & Consulting Services in Celina, Ohio. Aaron brings years of clinical experience and a firm belief in the institution of marriage to bear on the conversation.

Chad jumps in headfirst as the lead for this interview, eager to ask a million questions (for a friend, of course!). Ben keeps the pace at a near-20-year marital clip, as the two wind up their guest, set him loose, and are all ears as he goes to town on this topic! What is "second order change" (as compared to "first order change"), and why is it imperative for healing a hurting marriage? How can couples deal (or not deal) well with the various life cycles of marriage? What place does counseling play in working through marital issues, and to what extent is it necessary for all marriages?

SHOW NOTES:

Aaron's practice: Aaron Kuhn, LPCC-S - Marriage & Family Therapist in Celina, OH | Healthgrades

BONUS: Bob Paulus with the Northwest Men's Conference

Fri, 10 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0500

We were privileged to attend the 2023 Northwest Men's Conference (formerly known as the Fort Loramie Men's Conference) in St Henry, Ohio, on Saturday, March 4th. It was such an inspiring event, seeing over 200 men gathered for an all-day conference to grow in their faith.

We sat down with Bob Paulus--who's been on the conference planning committee since its earliest days--to talk about the conference's history and mission.

SHOW NOTES:

Conference FB Page: (5) Northwest Men's Conference | Facebook

The Electric Appeal of Andrew Tate

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 78 -

Andrew Tate is an internet sensation whose celebrity status was raised to a new level in 2022, a year that counted him the "most Googled" name. Tate was a kickboxing champion in the 2010's, but after a short stint on a British reality TV show, quickly became known for his controversial commentary and "ultra-masculine" persona. That combination of controversy and quick stardom won him many enemies; he soon found himself cancelled on social media and fresh fodder for all manner of media criticism.

Ben hovers his hand over a hot-button, current headliner as lead critic in this episode, while Chad takes the rare role (for him) of the uncorked droner and co-host. The two compare two Tate articles and offer their own analysis of this phenomenon. Should we place the blame at the feet of Tate when young boys act badly in imitation of his influencer antics? How does Tate's recent conversion to Islam illustrate a unique but common blend of religion and politics? What does Andrew Tate ultimately signify in our modern cultural context?

SHOW NOTES:

Article 1, from Education Week: Misogynist Influencer Andrew Tate Has Captured Boys' Attention. What Teachers Need to Know (edweek.org)

Article 2, from The Free Press: Embracing Islam to Own the Libs (thefp.com)

Piers Morgan interview: Andrew Tate vs Piers Morgan | The Full Interview - YouTube

Marriage and the Life of Faith

Tue, 28 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 77 -

Life-long commitments like marriage and being a Christian are sources of our life’s greatest meaning and joy. Yet they also come with their fair share of difficulty (understatement?). Life choices of that import, carried forward over time, invariably encounter challenges. Figuring out, therefore, how to persevere in the face of those challenges is paramount.

Chad takes the lead in this “Life is a Dance” kind of episode. Ben follows, worming his way into the conversation with the wit of a middle-school math teacher. The two tango over this all-too-relatable, relational reality. When it comes to the emotions of love, why doesn’t the early, lovey-dovey stage last? In what way is the life span of a believer like that which is experienced in a marriage? How might math equations and story writing help us make better sense of the difficulties we encounter as committed Christians and husbands and wives?

SHOW NOTES:

Book referenced by Chad: The Hidden Stream: Mysteries of the Christian Faith by Ronald Knox | Goodreads

Interview with Michael Foster

Tue, 21 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 76 -

Michael Foster is the senior pastor at East River Church in Cincinnati, Ohio. He is the co-author of "It's Good to Be a Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity", which was published by Cannon Press in 2022. He and his wife, Emily, live with their seven children on a small farm in Batavia, Ohio.

Chad crushes open this episode so as to ingest all that's green and healthy for men, while Ben keeps a quiet eye on the forecast for any ominous signs of storms during this one (not three) hour tour. The two set sail with their guest into the vast waters of why being a man is indeed good. How can the differences between men and women be plainly seen in our genetics, and are those stark differences meant for the good? Why is it important to note that grace builds on nature when considering the goodness of our masculinity? And what is Gravitas, and how can men get it?

SHOW NOTES:

Michael's book: It's Good to Be a Man: A Handbook for Godly Masculinity by Michael Foster | Goodreads

Michael's website: It's Good to be a Man — Extending God's house & father-rule by helping men to establish their own houses in strength, workmanship & wisdom. (itsgoodtobeaman.com)

Michael on social media:
(20+) It's Good to Be a Man | Facebook
Michael Foster (@thisisfoster) / Twitter

Michael's Substack page: This is Foster | Michael Foster | Substack

Make Failing Great Again

Tue, 14 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 75 -

For a populace who loves itself some competition, don't we still find ourselves strangely averse to failure? The era of participation trophies (is that still a thing?) and 'no child left behind' would indicate we're more willing to work around failing than we are to face it head on. Yet it is often the case the most successful among us are those who have, in fact, failed a great deal. The difference is their failure became a catalyst--not a hindrance for--their success.

Ben hoists an anti-trophy for the triumphs of failure as lead on this episode, while Chad valiantly participates (hoping for a green ribbon?) as co-host. The two talk through how failure has influenced their own lives and explore ways to better leverage failure in the future. What are some examples of competencies that are most suitably attained through trial and error? What is it about failing that teaches a greater lesson than being sheltered from it? And how can fathers become better mentors to those in their charge?

Be a Dangerous Man

Tue, 07 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 74 -

Strength in a man has the potential to destroy, and to construct. To oppress, and to liberate. To kill, and to protect. A key determiner in the employment of that strength is whether or not its placed at the service of a good and worthy end. It is also in submitting his strength that a man becomes most effective. And submission requires one "dangerous" virtue: humility.

Chad humbly submits his word subversion in this episode of untamed length, while Ben keeps his caution tape within reach, carefully auditing episode safety. The two volley barbs and banter as they approach the edge of this idea's steep precipice. What's the difference between Mike Tyson and Evander Holyfield? In what way should men be feared (again), and by just whom exactly should they be feared? What areas of life do men need to exercise more humility?

SHOW NOTES:

Who are our true enemies? (Kreeft article #2): How to Win the Culture War by Peter Kreeft

Deion & Desmond clip referenced by Ben: Facebook Watch

Meaning of Meek: Meek, Like a Warhorse (readjourneymagazine.com)

Interview with Isaac Randall

Tue, 31 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 73 -

Isaac Randall is a 19-year-old computer engineering major at Purdue University Fort Wayne. Born and raised in Celina, Ohio, Isaac has lived a life that's been met with tragedy and great hardship. Yet his courage in the face of those challenges is truly inspiring. His harrowing story serves as a powerful testimony to importance of having faith in the midst of trials.

Ben warms up the crowd as the opener for this rock star of an interviewee, while Chad plays subtle background sounds on his MANdolin. The two fade from the stage and find themselves humbled to hear this guest's unique perspective. When intellectual answers to the "problem of pain" fall short, what aspects of faith in God sustain us? What legacy does an untimely death of a father leave in the heart of a son? How does facing a life-threatening illness change one's perspective on life - and on death?

The Semi-Retired Man

Tue, 24 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 72 -

Life is a balancing act. Yet many of us find ourselves banking hard from one extreme to another: some live life on cruise control, others with the pedal to the metal. One approach leads to boredom, the other to burnout. Ironically, it could be argued that both cases are in some sense "wasting" life.

Ben, upon a full audit of his life's time, calls forth the cake and ice cream for this big announcement of an episode. Chad (always a sucker for free goodies) comes along, looking to secure his slice of this halfway pie. The two speculate over the possibility of maximal and meaningful impact in the here and now. What close call did Ben recently experience that's got him signaling a self-revolution? What's the story behind Chad's '2041' wristband? How should we properly evaluate the way in which we prioritize our time, and can we measure the value of that time useage?

SHOW NOTES:

Ben's book reference: Amazon.com: Don't Waste Your Life: 9781581344981: Piper, John: Books

Chad's book reference: Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less: McKeown, Greg: 8601407068765: Amazon.com: Books

Memento Mori (Remember Your Death)

Tue, 17 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 71

Death is coming for us all... someday. Reminders of that reality aren't hard to miss. Think of physical limitations brought on by aging; of losing a loved one; of threats of illness or accidents. In the end, there is no forgetting that we are mortal. And yet trying to forget death (or more accurately, avoiding at all costs the very idea of it) is what most of us tend to prefer. Given its inescapability, though, that might not be the wisest approach.

Chad is the Undertaker wrestling a dark opponent in this episode, as his trusty co-host, Paul "Ben" Bearer, manages ringside with a sickly, eerie voice imitation. The two uncomfortably converse, a haunting token of Chad's challenge sitting on the table between them. What are some unhealthy ways that we often deal with the fact of death? How can a more regular reflection on our own death give more meaning to how we live? What is the practice of Memento Mori, and how can we incorporate it into a Christian context?

SHOW NOTES:

Fr Schmitz talk on the Four Last Things: The Four Last Things: Death, Judgment, Heaven, Hell by Fr. Mike Schmitz - FORMED

Fr Riccardo's homily at his dad's funeral: Fr. John Riccardo - Funeral Homily for his father John J. Riccardo - YouTube

St Francis de Sales mediation on death: + Saints' Prayers - St. Francis de Sales - Meditation V: Of Death (saintsprayers.net)

Chad's Challenge (purchase rec): Memento Mori Skull Statue - Seton Shrine

Catholic vs. Protestant Debate on Baptism

Tue, 10 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 70

Fresh off a record month, we are rapidly approaching 10,000 downloads (in less than half the time it took us to get to 5,000!). To celebrate and show our gratitude to you, dear listener, we bring you a good-hearted, truth-seeking debate. One that highlights some of our underlying differences as a Protestant and a Catholic: a debate on Baptism. It’s a topic that Ben even says has become one of his biggest hang-ups with Catholicism.

Ben, therefore, fills this episode up with a pool (or font?) of questions, as he goads Chad into trying gainers off the high dive. The two jump headfirst into the deep (and regenerating?) waters of this topic. Is Baptism critical for salvation? If Catholics say yes, wouldn’t that be a doctrine of “works salvation” if our eternity depends upon a ritual? If Protestants say no, what’s the point of Baptism in the first place if all you have to do is say a prayer? And how finally should we read passages in the Bible, like John 3:5?

We hope you enjoy! Thank you for liking, subscribing to, and sharing the podcast! Please give us your feedback on the debate at (4) Manhood Restored | Facebook or by emailing us at mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv

Ben's denominations statement of faith. https://glc.cggc.org/we-believe/
Alistair Begg- The Man in the Middle Said I Could Come

Why Become Christian? (Protestant Edition)

Tue, 03 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 69

Having recently established the difficulty of belief (see Episode 67), the challenge becomes how to encourage the unbeliever to consider conversion. This is part 2 of said challenge - the Protestant's attempt. It makes for a nice comparison, contrast, and compliment to last week's Catholic edition (see Episode 68)!

Ben's the Starter for this episode, taking aim, winding up, and tossing out his pitch for anyone willing to take a swing. Fielding the heat as well as the curveballs with his Catholic catcher's mitt is co-host Chad. The two work together to put this right in the strike zone. How can the beauty we see in the world plainly point us to a creator God? In what ways can the story of God's revelation as told in the Bible give us insights into the struggles and concerns of our lives today? When it comes down to it, what is God's offer of salvation, and how can one accept and apply it to one's own life?

Why Become Christian? (Catholic Edition)

Tue, 27 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 68

With an episode about the difficulty of belief under our belts (see Episode 67), we each take the challenge of giving our best "pitch" to unbelievers: why should you believe in Christianity? This is part one of that challenge, the Catholic's approach; a manly exercise of truth-telling aimed at a segment of the population in search for meaning. We hope it provides a useful demonstration (full of resources), as well as an interesting comparison to the upcoming Protestant Part-2 (due out next week).

Dr. Chad Stolly sets off to diagnose, and prescribe a treatment for, what ails the unbeliever, as the General Practitioner for this episode. Assisting with setting the stage for this appointment, with his caring bedside manner, is co-host Nurse Ben Neff. The two talk through the symptoms at hand and work toward a conclusive cure. How can someone who's a thoroughly modern skeptic reconcile that fact with their deep inclination toward purpose and meaning? What reliable evidence is there for the existence of God and for the divinity of Christ? Do miracles--for those who need them to believe--still happen, and where can they be found in the Catholic tradition?

SHOW NOTES:

Book Recommendation List:
The Everlasting Man, by G.K. Chesterton
Is Atheism Dead? by Eric Metaxas
Mere Christianity, by C.S. Lewis
The Case for Christ, by Lee Strobel
More Than a Carpenter, by Josh McDowell

Hitchen v Lane Craig Debate: christopher hitchens v william lane craig - YouTube

Eric Metaxas Op Ed in WSJ: Science Increasingly Makes the Case for God - Eric Metaxas

Eucharistic Miracle from Lanciano, Italy: Visit the relics of the Eucharistic miracle of Lanciano, Italy (aleteia.org)

Fr. Spitzer's Shroud Presentation: Faith and Science - The Shroud of Turin - Ignited by Truth 2018 - YouTube

Why is It Hard to Believe? (MAN TALK)

Tue, 20 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 67 - Guest Hosts, Jason Stolly and Randy Garman

Here goes with another lively roundtable discussion, all four mics turned up, on a curiously uncomfortable leading question! Two hosts and two guest hosts peer through the discomfort, seeking answers to the many questions implied by the question at hand. Will they be able to draw down to any conclusions by the episode's end? (Let's hear your thoughts, too, dear listeners! Email us at: mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv)

Jason Stolly and Randy Garman are both smart, thoughtful seekers. Yet neither of them describes themselves as believers, at least not in any traditional sense. The two share their perspectives with, and pose a good number of questions to, Ben and Chad regarding belief, especially belief in Christianity. How should one balance Christian revelation with the discoveries of modern science? In what ways can your personal beliefs influence how you approach something like parenting? What is the best way to evaluate competing believe systems throughout history, and can we know if one is truer than any other?

Satan's Favorite Arrows

Tue, 13 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 66

It's hunting season...on men! And the devil's got a quiver full of arrows! There is no short supply of pointed attacks at the enemy's disposal. If that's not bad enough, satan is the master of disguise, and some of us won't even realize we've been targeted until it's too late.

Ben brings his wheel of misfortune to the battle as the anit-Pat Sajak of this episode, while Chad chucks curveballs from the bullpen of endless banter. This topic turns into a terrific back and forth as the two randomly ponder the deadly arrows aimed at men. Can you even tell when something is an attack from satan and not just the weakness of your sin nature? What is the difference between guilt and shame? Is it ever possible that hellish attacks can eventually come to benefit us? And how should we regard things of the occult such as tarot cards, ouija boards, and horoscopes?

Normalizing Sin

Tue, 06 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 65 - Normalizing Sin

Over the last ten years, our cultural conscience has arguably shifted significantly on the issue of homosexuality. Even apart from things like increasingly frequent and favorable depictions in film and media, there have been also major legal victories such as Obergefell v. Hodges (2015) and the recent "Respect for Marriage Act" (2022). These rapid shifts amount to a normalization of sin, the implications of which promise serious conflict for Christians, even conflict in our personal lives.

Chad shines the spotlight on the dark corners of this oft-ignored issue, as Ben keeps watch for the common pitfalls in a delicate conversation. The two tread lightly into this minefield trying to determine the best way forward in the given circumstances. How might this normalization of sin find its way to your doorstep, and what would you do to deal with it? What are some of the nuances and misunderstandings of the Christian teaching on homosexuality? Finally, how exactly would compromising the truth on this issue impact society at large, and how might you hold to that truth in a loving way?

SHOW NOTES:

Video referenced from CatholicVote: Remember? - YouTube

Respect for Marriage Act: Dem-Controlled Senate Passes Same-Sex Marriage Bill; 12 Republicans Support | The Daily Wire

Catechism of Catholic Church reference (CCC 2357): Catechism of the Catholic Church (usccb.org)

Matt Walsh on Joe Rogan (same sex "marriage" debate): #1895 - Matt Walsh - The Joe Rogan Experience | Podcast on Spotify

Good review of Walsh's performance on Rogan: #685 Reviewing Joe Rogan and Matt Walsh on Gay “Marriage” - Trent Horn - Counsel of Trent | Podcast on Spotify

Buy this book for your reference, parents (Challenge): Made This Way | How to Prepare Kids to Face Today's Tough Moral Issues (madethiswaybook.com)

Interview with Scott Rupp and Tim Slye of Kingdom Seasonings and Rubs

Tue, 29 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 64 - Scott Rupp and Tim Slye, Guest Convo

Scott Rupp and Tim Slye are the founders of Kingdom Seasonings and Rubs (KSR), an award-winning seasonings company based in Northwest Ohio. Scott and Tim started KSR as a way to help fund a men's ministry called the Pettisville Man Cave Ministries, which originated as a bible study in Scott's basement. Man Cave Ministries is now a non-profit organization that counts men from eight different churches and hosts men's conferences with big name speakers such as Darryl Strawberry, Ted DiBiase, and Anthony Munoz.

Chad mans a top-tier grill and cooks up some tasty talking points for this episode, as Ben plugs in to heat things up with some lean, healthy comments of his own. The two take a sampling of how these guests have seasoned their local area with the love of Christ. What are the key components of a men's fellowship group (like Man Cave) that are sorely needed for a man's spiritual life? How can a group of men who are on fire for Christ work together to make a significant difference in their community? Where do rubs and smokers and guns fit in with men's ministry, and just what are the secrets to success at KSR?

SHOW NOTES:

Pettisville Man Cave Ministries: Pettisville Man Cave | Facebook

Kingdom Seasonings & Rubs (order yours today!): Kingdom Seasonings and Rubs | Facebook

Find their Vision and Discipleship docs here on Manhood Restored Website

A Leader's Hierarchy of Needs

Tue, 22 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 63 - A Leader's Hierarchy of Needs

This groundbreaking new behavioral model, patterned after Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, highlights the importance of such unique character traits as 'doing what you say you're going to do' and 'responding in a timely way.' Okay, so maybe it's not that groundbreaking; and maybe those aren't (or shouldn't be) unique character traits! But this behavioral model IS simple and practical. And isn't 'simple and practical' perfectly-suited for men looking for tools to restore their manhood?

Chad leads the ascent toward actualized achievement in this climbing expedition of an episode, while his co-host, Benu, harnesses his left-brain drive and clings to the crags in the concept. The two explore the heights of this idea as well as its variety of life applications. What are some of the simplest, yet most profound things a man can do to attain his highest aspirations? How can a concept that's designed for leadership in a business setting also work for relationships and faith? And why is it that some of the easiest concepts to understand are sometimes the hardest to implement?

SHOW NOTES:

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: Maslow's hierarchy of needs - Wikipedia

Ben's Doppelganger: Manu Ginobili - How Many Rings - Championship Rings

See Leader's Hierarchy of Needs visual: (2) Manhood Restored | Facebook

Be Thou Salty, O Christian Man

Tue, 15 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 62 - Be Thou Salty, O Christian Man

After Christ calls his followers "salt of the earth", he warns against the loss of said saltiness, saying that the flavorless are only good for being "thrown out and trampled underfoot." Regardless of how one might describe salt--pungent, preservative, potent--it would, based on Christ's words, seem to be a quality critical to the life of a Christian and to that of the Christian Church.

Chad cooks up a unique recipe in this savory meal of an episode, while Ben minces the ingredients as the sharp-edged sous chef. The two co-hosts simmer on what it should mean to be a Salty Christian Man. Is the Christian church today as salty as it ought to be? What are some examples of men being salty in world? How can men restore the full flavor of the gospel right in the places where they're planted?

SHOW NOTES:

Rita's Litany from Groundhog Day: Groundhog Day (1993) - What Rita Wants Scene (3/8) | Movieclips - YouTube

Book Chad quotes twice in episode: Buy Jesus Shock | Dynamic Catholic

Salty Scripture reference: Matthew 5:13 NIV - Salt and Light - “You are the salt of - Bible Gateway

Man in the Arena quote: Quote by Theodore Roosevelt: “It is not the critic who counts; not the man wh...” (goodreads.com)

Jordan Peterson dialogue w/Muslim: Talking to Muslims About Christ | Mohammed Hijab & Jonathan Pageau | #297 - YouTube

Interview with Branden Rushton, Director of the Rush Sports Complex

Tue, 08 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 61 - Branden Rushton, Guest Convo

Branden Rushton is the Director of the new Rush Sports Complex in Celina, Ohio, a 65,000 square foot facility designed for high quality sports and fitness programming year-round. A basketball enthusiast who grew up in Columbus, Ohio, Branden went on to be a four-year starter for the Ohio Northern University basketball team. After graduating with a degree in business with an emphasis in sports management and data analytics, he has been coaching and training local young athletes. Most importantly, Branden is a God-fearing man passionate about his walk with Christ as a husband and father of three boys.

Ben puts on the full court press as the lead competitive contrarian for this episode, as Chad tempts the tweeters with his colorful co-host commentary. The two are all ears for the inside scoop, straight from its creator, on the new athletic facility in town. What all will be offered at Rush Sports? Why does Branden feel called to open this new business, and what about his background makes him ready to take on such a risk? What is the Rush Sports mission and how will it be different in its mentality toward sports?

SHOW NOTES:

Rush Sports website: Explore Something New - Rush Sports Complex

Hallowpalooza: A Christian's look at Halloween

Tue, 01 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 60 - Hallowpalooza

There is a growing popularity of all things Halloween in today's culture. Contained within the modern observance of the holiday is everything from the innocuous child's trick-or-treat costume to the gratuitous celebration of the macabre. Its prevalence--in house/yard decorations, the horror film genre, the haunted houses and cornfields--can hardly be ignored. Look no further for proof of the trend than the record-setting $10 billion Americans spent on Halloween in 2021.

Ben vants to pluck the stake from his sensitive heart in order to lead a spooky debate: to trick-or-treat, or to not trick-or-treat? Chad creeps up behind the question and presents his own set of haunting perspectives, as the two evaluate the pros and cons of Halloween and Horror in American culture. What are the historical origins of this holiday? For the sake of striking a balance in the culture, where should men draw the line between permissible and problematic when it comes to Halloween? And how might (if any) the scary and grotesque have a place in the life of a Christian?

SHOW NOTES:

E. Michael Jones interview: The Fascinating Rise of the Horror Genre — Culture Wars

History of Halloween referenced in episode: Halloween: Origins, Meaning & Traditions - HISTORY

Protestant -Catholic comparison of approaches to Halloween:

Catholic: The (Fake) Pagan History of Halloween | Catholic Answers

Protestant: Should Christians celebrate Halloween? | GotQuestions.org

Warring with Emotionality

Tue, 25 Oct 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 59 - Warring with Emotionality

One of life's inevitabilities is that it will throw you curve balls. Whether those curve balls come in form of life-altering events or minor annoyances, work stresses or personal trials, they also inevitably produce emotion. We might not be able to dodge the curve balls, or squelch the emotions that follow, but we can control how those emotions are then acted upon.

Chad takes a long, furrow-browed stare at emotional inevitability as lead for this episode, while Ben plays the psychologizing co-host with a familiar-sounding southern drawl. The two face up to their general confusion over feelings and discuss how men might better deal with them. If it is neither good nor bad to experience an emotion, then how do we determine whether or not the emotion can be trusted? Can feelings lead us astray or betray us? What are some ways that men can master their emotions, and how can the theological term Joy be a possible solution to emotionality?

SHOW NOTES:

Wheel of Emotion: ejuktec3mb8wv51i9nlm.png (1202×1198) (d207ibygpg2z1x.cloudfront.net)

Bill Johnson sermon on Joy: The Power of Choosing Joy | Bill Johnson - Bethel Redding Sermon of the Week | Podcast on Spotify

Peter Kreeft essay on Joy: Joy by Peter Kreeft

What Makes Fatherhood Indispensable? (MAN TALK)

Tue, 18 Oct 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 58 - MAN TALK EDITION - Guest Hosts, Noah Stolly and TC Cipollone

Cheers! to another four-mic, four-man roundtable discussion on a crucial leading question. Our hosts and guest hosts wrestle with this two-ton topic, each winding down to a conclusion on how they will finally answer the question at hand. (Listeners, weigh in by emailing mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv)

Noah Stolly and TC Cipollone are both MIGHTY, devoted fathers. They also each have very unique and contrasting stories on how they first came to be fathers. The two guest hosts tell their stories and use their respective experiences to help Ben and Chad pin down the what-abouts of fatherhood. How does becoming a father change a man? What is it exactly that a father does that makes his role so critical in the life of a child? What larger societal impact does a father make by taking, or not taking, the full responsibility of his calling?

SHOW NOTES:

Fatherlessness statistics: The Extent of Fatherlessness - National Center for Fathering (fathers.com)

Quote in-closing by Noah: Dads Are Most Ordinary Men - Pam Brown Quotes (themindsjournal.com)

Cleveland and Conversion, Deshaun and Devotion

Tue, 11 Oct 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 57 - Cleveland and Conversion, Deshaun and Devotion

Allegiance to a favorite sports team is a complex phenomenon deep in the psyche of a man. Claiming a team as your "favorite" often starts at the tenderest of ages; following that team closely for years--through star players, through heartbreaks, through championship runs--creates a kind of unique loyalty, one that becomes curiously embedded in a man's identity. It could even be said to border on devotion. That's particularly true for a Cleveland Browns fan (Ben).

Ben makes a big announcement as the player-coach/host in this press conference of an episode, while Chad kicks around questions and ideas as the back up to the backup co-host. The two pull passion for sports teams up by the roots to figure out just how deep the devotion goes for men. What does it look like to become too personally invested as a fan of your favorite team? Are there any front office or player actions that should automatically sever your allegiance to a franchise? What are ways that we can insulate ourselves from letting our fandom slip too easily into fanaticism?

Defining Christian Masculinity ("with" Brad East)

Tue, 04 Oct 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 56 - Defining Christian Masculinity ("with" Brad East)

In an essay titled "On Christian Masculinity", author Brad East makes some thought-provoking arguments about how Christians ought to view masculinity. In his critique, he sets his sights on books and blogs (and podcasts?) that popularize modern models for manhood, claiming they "turn 'being a man' into a kind of pathology" and too easily dismiss the model for masculinity laid out by Jesus Christ.

Chad turns Chief Editor for this essay critique of an episode, as Ben reverts to his teaching days and breaks out a red pen to markup East's major points. The two make East their ghost guest and playfully put him (and his ideas) in the dock. To what extent should the life and example of Jesus Christ serve as a model for what it means to be a man? Do modern concepts of masculinity diverge from Christian theology? And can natural, manly virtue be a compliment to holiness?

SHOW NOTES:

Brad East's Essay: On “Christian masculinity” — Brad East

Interview with Curtis Hamrick

Tue, 27 Sep 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 55 - Curtis Hamrick, Guest Convo

Curtis Hamrick is the Executive Director of the Auglaize Mercer Business Education Alliance (AMBE), a non-profit organization that connects local students with local businesses for meaningful career opportunities in the two-county area. Curtis graduated from Wright State University, spent 20 years as a vocational teacher at various area schools, and was born and raised on a grain farm in Mercer County where he has been a life-long resident. He's been married to his wife, Kristin, for 15 years, and they have two children.

Chad elects himself Sheriff to enforce the laws of good conversation for this episode, while he hands Ben a badge, deputizing his co-host and calling on him for backup. The two interrogate their guest, a true Parochial Man, about the benefits of living, working, and raising a family in a small community. What are some of the cultural contrasts between life in rural Ohio and other more urban areas? What is the work that AMBE is doing to open the eyes of students, educators, and parents to the career opportunities available locally? What are some examples of students who've successfully connected to careers in their hometown, and how can parents find out more about those local opportunities for their kids?

SHOW NOTES:

AMBE Website: About Us | Auglaize Mercer Business Education Alliance (ambealliance.org)

AMBE Facebook: (19) AMBE Alliance | Facebook

Curtis in the News (Wapak Daily News): PressReader.com - Digital Newspaper & Magazine Subscriptions

Sarcasm vs. Sincerity

Tue, 20 Sep 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 54 - Sarcasm vs. Sincerity

When it comes to sarcasm, there's a thin line between funny and hurtful. Yet the use of sarcasm is still alive and well; it's arguably one of the bedrocks of our collective culture's sense of humor. Further, sarcasm is so prevalent that it can often be difficult to distinguish when we're using it, why we're using it, and how it's being received. It can get to be so that speech that's sincere is rare and hard to detect.

Ben, being the "caring one" that he is, "can't wait" to lead the discussion for this episode, as his "handsome" Catholic co-host, Chad, joins in with an "open mind." The two "seriously" stare at the "smiling" face of sarcasm to judge its "importance" in the lives of men. What are some of the typical reasons guys employ the use of sarcasm, and when is it appropriate and when it is not? What are the deadliest forms of sarcasm, and what are the motives behind them? Are there forms of sarcasm that can be saved by a different name? And how can one "shape up" (seriously) in his use of sarcasm?

SHOW NOTES:

Example of Satire (acceptable?): Babylon Bee | Fake News You Can Trust

Resource for (sincerely) communicating with kids: Parenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition): Cline, Foster, Fay, Jim: 8581144444445: Amazon.com: Books

The Parochial Man

Tue, 13 Sep 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 53 - The Parochial Man

In the world of ideas there's no idea more subtly insidious than "sky's the limit". It's an idea that plays softly in the background of modernity like a subliminal message, hinting to us that reality is but a construct. Saying the world is without limits is a lie. It denies facts, confuses priorities, and promotes perpetual discontentedness. We are called to be men grounded in reality. Men rooted in our particulars. Men who make a difference locally, nearby -- that is, parochially.

Chad fancies himself a caped vigilante crusading against bad ideas during this episode. Ben plays sidekick, exclaiming, "holy big words, Batman!", as the two wonder over the implications of limitations. What about each man's particular circumstances naturally impose upon him limits? In what ways does the culture foster hatred for our limitations, and why might that be harmful to us? And how can working within (maybe even embracing) our particular limitations make our lives more meaningful?

SHOW NOTES:

Batman fights Bane: Batman VS Bane - The Dark Knight Rises Full Fight 1080p HD - YouTube

1st book reference: The War on the West by Douglas Murray | Goodreads

2nd book reference: Mystery and Manners: Occasional Prose by Flannery O'Connor | Goodreads

Challenge Song: Andrew Peterson - World Traveler - YouTube

The 52 Finale!

Tue, 06 Sep 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 52 - The 52 Finale!

It's officially been one year of the Manhood Restored podcast! We made it! 52 episodes (the goal set when we started this thing)! Thank you to our listeners, show guests, behind-the-scenes supporters, and everyone who's been a part of this first year. We've decided to keep rolling into year two: the new goal is 104 episodes! We hope you're as excited as we are to continue making manhood mighty again!

Chad is the Point Man driving this 'Greatest Hits' episode (everyone needs a Greatest Hits, right?), while Ben gets dragged along behind with never-before-herd audio (from the MAN TALK on books!). The two move 'em on & head 'em up and celebrate the year by each looking back at three favorite moments - hinting at future episode topics, revealing post-episode feedback, and adding comments to previous conversations. They also announce a GIVEAWAY CONTEST!!! Listen till the end for Chad's challenge and find out how to enter for 3 chances to win Anthony Esolen's new book, "No Apologies"!

SHOW NOTES:

Enter the giveaway contest here: Manhood Restored Podcast | We are two ordinary Christian guys who feel compelled to call men back to true Masculinity.

Giveaway prize book: No Apologies: Why Civilization Depends on the Strength of Men by Anthony Esolen | Goodreads

Interview with Dan Teller

Tue, 30 Aug 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 51 - Dan Teller, Guest Convo

Dan Teller is the founder and director of The Good Shepard Catholic Montessori (GSCM) in Cincinnati, Ohio. Since its founding in 1998, GSCM has grown from 28 students in Preschool and Kindergarten to over 200 students up through eighth grade. Dan has dedicated his career to education, having worked in various public and private school settings, including being a traveling Formation Leader who trains catechists in the "Catechesis of the Good Shepard" program. Dan has been married for 40 years and has seven children and two grandchildren.

Chad carefully curates the conversation for this episode's exchange of rare ideas. Ben stands guard, baton (still) in hand, ready to swing into action, as the two elicit educational insights from this experienced guest. Where did the Montessori school concept come from and how does it different from more common approaches to schooling? What are some innovative and effective ways to go about transmitting the faith to our youth? What advice does our guest have for dads when it comes to their children's education?

SHOW NOTES:

School Dan founded: History - The Good Shepherd Catholic Montessori (gscmontessori.org).

Swiss study referenced by Dad: Fathers: Key to Their Children's Faith | Opinion News (christianpost.com)

Indoctrination Station, Part 3 (Education)

Tue, 23 Aug 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 50 - Indoctrination Station, Part 3 (Education)

This is the final destination on the Ben Express, the last in a three-part series on the Marxist March through western institutions. It's the topic that's been begging to be discussed, the station to end all stations: the Indoctrination of Education. News Flash: Education in America is in a bad way. Whether it's schools becoming testing grounds for each new leftist lunacy, or the country's average test scores falling pitifully below that of its international counterparts, headlines noting the 'crisis' abound. What's really intriguing is the contention that the school system's failure might not be a failure at all; it might be a failure by design.

Ben puts nails to the chalkboards of every all-in-with-the-latest educator by asking the hard questions in this episode. Chad turns up the Dewey decibels by adding in his own uncomfortably critical commentary. The two put up the challenge (even to themselves) to honestly assess the condition of education in this country. What is the history and ideological underpinnings of modern public (government) education? How can we identity the negative effects of schooling in our society and in our children? If we know the less-than-stellar outcomes that result from these schools, why do we continue to send our children to them?

SHOW NOTES:

"Enemy of the State" movie clip referenced: Because you made a phone call - Enemy of the State - 1998 - YouTube

Ben's primary book source for episode: Amazon.com: Battle for the American Mind: Uprooting a Century of Miseducation: 9780063215047: Hegseth, Pete, Goodwin, David: Books

Dorothy Sayers text: LostToolsOfLearning-DorothySayers.pdf (pccs.org)

GK Chesterton quote (by Ben): Gilbert K. Chesterton - Education is simply the soul of a... (brainyquote.com)

News Headlines on the "crisis" (don't just take our word for it!):

Raising the Selfie Generation

Tue, 16 Aug 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 49 - Raising the Selfie Generation

It would seem nearly every generation of parents has a tendency to impugn certain cultural trends of their children's generation. "Kids these days!" is the oft-quoted line of a frustrated mom or dad. As meaningless as that tendency turns out to be in the end (kids do grow up and mature eventually!), parents of children born from 1995 to 2012 (Gen Z'ers) and beyond might just have some legitimate concerns. The last ten or so years of rapidly accelerated technological advancement have certainly presented an historically unique set of circumstances to raise children in.

Chad finds himself more and more comfortable as lead curmudgeon in this Grumpy-Old-Man episode. Ben tries hard to find his old man voice for some crotchety color commentary, as the two dissect the various challenges that GenZ presents parents. What was life like for a kid before the advent of the smartphone, and will any kid anywhere ever know that life again? What sort of moral fallout might this generation of children be particularly at risk for being so attached to screens? How should parents address societal and political issues with their kids in a day and age when agenda-laden headlines are weaved into nearly every media platform?

SHOW NOTES:

Book referenced: Amazon.com: iGen: Why Today's Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy--and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood--and What That Means for the Rest of Us: 9781501151989: Twenge PhD, Jean M.: Books

Story of Robert Hoogland: Father Jailed For Talking About His Teenage Daughter's Trans Hormones (thefederalist.com)

Interview with Jason King, President of Celina City Council

Tue, 09 Aug 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 48 - Jason King, Guest Convo

Jason King is a pastor at New Life Christian Center in Celina, OH, where he also helps replant and build churches abroad (Belize, Guatemala, Haiti, Peru, England, Wales) as Administrative Director for Apostolic Team Ministries (ATM). In addition to marrying his high school sweetheart, raising four children, and coaching high school wrestling, Jason is currently serving in his fourth term as the Celina City Council President. His leadership in the community during recent controversies is exemplary of strong, Christian character.

Chad acts as quartermaster for this interview, rationing questions and supplying direction. Assigned to latrine duty (conversation cleanup) is none other than private first class, Ben Neff. The two speak with Jason about what he's faced as Council President during the past year and draw inspiration from his witness. What first led him to step up and run for local office? What does he make of certain voices calling for his resignation based on his Christian beliefs and its alleged conflict with public service? How would he recommend other men get involved to stand up for righteousness in our society?

SHOW NOTES:

Celina City Council Page: City Council – City of Celina, Ohio (show Jason support!)

Indoctrination Station, Part 2 (the Church)

Tue, 02 Aug 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 47 - Indoctrination Station, Part 2 (the Church)

The train is back in the Indoctrination Station! Now having visited the reeking realms of Media & Entertainment, this trip (the 2nd of a 3-part series) sets a course for new conversational territory: the Marxist infiltration of the Christian church. The landscape of one of the West's most cherished and trusted institutions has not come out unscathed from the effects of this ideological indoctrination.

Ben shines his pearly whites and im-presses his southernmost suave as the (anti) megachurch pastor for this episode, while Chad takes back his residency as the Catholic Insider Attending. The two share stories from the trenches of their respective church experiences and wonder what to make of what they too often hear and see. To what extent has the Christian church allowed the ways of the world to influence what its ultimately about? What issues morally and theologically should we be on guard against, even in our own trusted church settings? Where in the church might this humanistic (Marxist) kind of messaging be found? The pulpit? The doctrine? Even the music?

Veruca Salt Syndrome

Tue, 26 Jul 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 46 - Veruca Salt Syndrome

On June 24th, 2022, in Dobbs v. Jackson, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that the Constitution of the United States does not protect abortion as a right. After nearly 50 years, the infamous Roe v. Wade decision has been overturned, kicking the legal status of abortion back to the states. In the days following the decision, the only story that's rivaled the decision itself is the reaction of the pro-aborts. In desperation and panic, the anti-lifers are showing their true colors.

Chad takes the bench as Chief Justice for this episode, while Ben wields a gavel to honorably dole out summary judgements of his co-host's majority opinion. The two relish the recent pro-life victory and puzzle over the losing side's hysteria. How should one take the intense vitriol of the pro-aborts in the wake of Dobbs? What is revealed about the other side by such wild displays of discontent? And can parenting a toddler provide insights for how to deal with the gloves-off approach of these activists?

SHOW NOTES:

Video of Local Counter Protestors: Video Of Pro-Abortion Protestors At Recent Mercer County Right To Life Rally – Mercer County Outlook

Veruca Salt Song: Veruca Salt - I Want It Now (Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory) - YouTube

Dobbs Decision (see pages 2-4 for critical analysis of Roe & Casey rationale): 19-1392 Dobbs v. Jackson Women’s Health Organization (06/24/2022) (supremecourt.gov)

Scene from Andy Griffith Show: ANDY GRIFFITH SHOW OPIE AND THE SPOILED KID.wmv - YouTube

Interview with Nino Vitale, Ohio House Representative

Tue, 19 Jul 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 45 - Nino Vitale, Guest Convo

Nino Vitale is currently in his fourth term as an Ohio House Representative serving the 85th District. He made a name for himself nationally by taking a strong, public stance against mask mandates during the 2020 pandemic. He is a man led primarily by the conviction of his faith, a conviction that comes through in everything he does. He's an NRA pistol instructor, a Cub Scout leader, an Ohio foster family, a champion for the Right to Life, a 20-year worker in his family manufacturing business, a husband, and father of five.

Ben pretends to innocently set the stage for this rousing interview, while Chad has no qualms about piping in to incite an in-your-face kind of conversation. Nary having to lift a finger to wind up this guest, the two sit back in awe at the inspiring witness of this rare, genuine article of a public servant. After 8 years in the political arena, what can Nino say about how the government works? Knowing how unpopular his public stance against masks would be, how did he find the courage to do so? In a day and age ruled by power and Marxist elitism, what advice would Nino have for men and fathers and the myriad of challenges they face?

SHOW NOTES:

Representative Vitale's homepage: Representative A. Nino Vitale - District 85 | Ohio House of Representatives

Representative Vitale's public stance on mask gets under the skin of Cuomo & Lemon: Chris Cuomo, Don Lemon Crack Up Mocking Anti-Mask Hysteria (mediaite.com)

Indoctrination Station, Part 1 (Entertainment)

Tue, 12 Jul 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 44 - Indoctrination Station, Part 1 (Entertainment)

All aboard the Ben Express for a three-part series investigating how Marxist ideology has highjacked some of western society's most trusted institutions. Whether it's Media & Entertainment, the Christian Church, or Public Education & Universities, this Marxist infiltration threatens at every turn to influence public opinion toward uncritical groupthink. That is, its aim is to indoctrinate. When it comes to Media & Entertainment, look no further for evidence than the lockstep slant of nearly every major news outlet, or the unapologetically woke content of Disney.

Ben hits a record high pitch as he conducts this episode, while Chad dutifully shovels optimism into the firebox to keep things chugging along. The two turn a critical eye at the risks involved with media consumption in the current cultural climate. Are the sources we seek for news and information the "right" ones, and how can one discern what sources are trustworthy? What are some examples of indoctrinating through entertainment content? What sorts of practical things can be done (dads, especially) to be on guard against this form of deception?

PS - listen till the end for some "mousy mess-up" outtakes!!

SHOW NOTES:

Article Ben References on Lost Institutions: Laying Siege to the Institutions | Imprimis (hillsdale.edu)

Star Wars III Clip: So this is how liberty dies ... with thunderous applause! - YouTube

Source for Ben's Quotation: australian christian lobby youtube - Bing video

How to Pray (Like a Man!)

Tue, 05 Jul 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 43 - How to Pray (Like a Man!)

There's something very intimate and vulnerable about prayer. And let's face it, that can be intimidating for guys. It's almost as if a prayer life is better suited for women, to whom communication and emotionality often come easier. But prayer is much too important to leave off, even if it proves difficult and awkward. Like anything else, given the right approach, prayer can find its own character and richness in the life of a man.

Chad pulls a switcheroo as he dresses to the nines for full effect in this sermon-slash-episode, while Ben's left confusedly pretending to concelebrate in a collar. The two hit their knees and offer up some insight on the why's and how's of prayer. What are some good, manly reasons why we need a healthy prayer life? What are some common obstacles to prayer, and what are some practical tips for overcoming them? At the end, Chad and Ben offer a prayer aloud to model how simple and straightforward praying can be.

SHOW NOTES:

2 Books Referenced:

"Restoration of Christian Culture" by John Senior Restoration of Christian Culture - Angelus Press

"Prayer for Beginners" by Peter Kreeft Prayer For Beginners by Peter Kreeft (goodreads.com)

BONUS: Grill the Protestant (5,000 Downloads!)

Fri, 01 Jul 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Bonus Convo: Grill the Protestant

We've officially clipped over 5,000 downloads! What a very cool and humbling milestone! As a BIG thank you to everyone out there listening and sharing the podcast--and by popular demand following our recent "Grill the Catholic" episode--we have flipped the tables, and Chad gets to Grill the Protestant!

How will Ben now handle the heat? Can Chad cook up some spicy convo by throwing a little Sola on the barbie? With topics such as authority, scriptural interpretation, Communion, and salvation turning on the spit, there's bound to be some tasty results!!

We look forward to continuing to create quality content for you and growing the Manhood Restored message!

Interview with Earl Mills Director of the Great Lakes Conference, CGGC

Tue, 28 Jun 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 42 - Earl Mills, Guest Convo

Earl Mills is a former dairy farmer who was called to ministry in the Churches of God denomination. After attaining his Master of Divinity from Winebrenner Theological Seminary and his Doctor of Ministry from Westminster Theological Seminary, he went on to serve in various pastoral roles in the Churches of God General Conference for 42 years (and counting!). During his 20 years as lead pastor of the Chambersburg First Church of God in Pennsylvania, he helped grow the church into the largest in the whole General Conference. He's currently director over the Great Lakes Conference, covering all of Michigan and Ohio.

Chad launches this whaling expedition of an episode, while Ben goes straight savage, heaving his harpoon at any truth that bobs to the surface. The two venture into deep waters, fishing for schools of wisdom from Earl's vast ministry experience. What are some of the biggest challenges facing the Christian church in the 21st century? What are some of the most effective ways to bring men back to church? How can believers better utilize both truth and grace in their efforts to evangelize?

Grill the Catholic

Tue, 21 Jun 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 41 - Grill the Catholic

While it's true this is a podcast where a Protestant and a Catholic converse about all things masculine from the point of view of their differing faith traditions, those differences aren't often dwelled upon. That's not because doing so couldn't be fruitful; nor is it because confronting differences of opinion is too uncomfortable. In fact, a cool-headed exchange of ideas is a very manly thing to do! It's also a lot of fun!

Ben is the grill master for this episode, armed to the teeth with Biblical spiciness, ready to cook up some tough-minded conversation. Chad, marinated in his Catholic beliefs, takes the heat so as to serve up some well-done answers for Ben to chew on. The two engage in the lost art of rational, respectful dialogue. Can Chad handle Ben's battery of biblical inquisitiveness without losing his cool? What specific issues will the two have to agree to disagree on? Will Ben have his most burning questions about Catholicism answered to his satisfaction?

The Kanye Conundrum

Tue, 14 Jun 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 40 - The Kanye Conundrum

The hip hop artist Kayne West is a wildly successful musician and businessman. At the same time, his very loud, public persona has resulted in no shortage of drama and controversy. So, in 2019, when Kayne released an album titled "Jesus is King", an all-Gospel record that he claimed culminated a 3-year born-again conversion, the world took notice. The Rap Kingpin turned Christian Convert raised eyebrows among believers and non-believers alike. Kayne, then, presents us an interesting case-study-in-the-extreme for how the church is, or is not, prepared to handle the "unreached" in the 21st century.

Chad goes gangsta and spits some probing prose up in the mike, as Ben keeps the beat and bobs his head during this hit track of an episode. The two collaborate to evaluate the Kayne-like challenge facing the church today. If it's true the Gospel message is ever-new, then how ready and willing are believers to deliver it to those who really need to hear it? How has the church failed to reach men during the last 50 years, and what would need to be done to bring more men back into the fold? To what extent does in-fighting within Christianity diminish the Christian witness to a post-Christian world?

SHOW NOTES:

"Jesus is King": Spotify – JESUS IS KING

Time Magazine Article on Kayne's conversion: Kanye West’s 'Jesus Is King' Divides the Christian Community | Time

Why Must Men Read Books? (MAN TALK)

Tue, 07 Jun 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 39 - MAN TALK EDITION - Guest Hosts, Josh Evans and Chad Lefeld

Here is our second "Man Talk", where we turn on all four microphones for a roundtable discussion on a pointed "leading question". Once the question has been thoroughly explored, each host gives their yea or nay and defends their final position. (Listeners, we'd like you to weigh in also - see below on how to participate!)

Josh Evans and Chad Lefeld possess very respectable resumes as readers of all sorts and varieties of books. Both men enjoy reading books and find them valuable as a source of learning and personal growth. Josh has created the habit of reading one book a week, while Chad calls reading his favorite pastime. Their enthusiasm for reading comes through as they help Ben and Chad make the case for the "must" part of this question. What are some of the best and most meaningful books these men have ever read? Why should reading books be valued over other modes of communication like TV, and how can becoming a reader benefit a man? What are some tips and tricks for getting better as a reader?

What do you think, dear Listener? Do you agree that reading books is of such high value, or did we miss some key aspect of the contrary opinion? We'd like to hear from you:

Email us at mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv
Comment on our Facebook page at Manhood Restored Podcast

SHOW NOTES:

Recommended resources:

Goodreads | Meet your next favorite book (Book cataloging & recs)
Notion – One workspace. Every team. (Note keeping app)

List of "best books" as recommended in this episode published on our website:
Manhood Restored Podcast | We are two ordinary Christian guys who feel compelled to call men back to true Masculinity.

Bro, No! We Don't Talk About Sex (M.A.P.S. to Avoid Traps)

Tue, 31 May 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 38 - Bro, No! We Don't Talk About Sex

This is the long-anticipated, long-avoided fourth topic (FINALLY the S!) in Ben's MAPS series. If there were ever any doubt that he would go there, here is the podcast's first foray into the topic of SEX. (It only took 38 episodes!) Addressing the elephant in the recording studio had to be done; after all, it's only one of the biggest traps men face today, especially as it relates to remaining faithful to their wives in marriage.

Ben takes the plunge and dives headlong onto the soapy slip and slide that is this episode topic. Chad chuckles uncomfortably from a safe distance away until he gets soaked by the "splash" made by Ben's boldness. The two turn their attention specifically to men guarding against this trap for the sake of their marriage fidelity. What are ways that men can be Tim-ted to unfaithfulness? What are the top five emotional needs of women (and the top five for men), and how can knowing those help fortify the marital commitment? How can God be of help to a man who wants to stay true to his spouse?

SHOW NOTES:

Scripture Reference: 1 Corinthians 10:12-13 NIV - So, if you think you are standing firm, - Bible Gateway

Book Recommendation: His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage: Harley, Willard F. Jr.: 9780800719388: Books: Amazon.com

Website Connected to the His Needs Her Needs book
https://www.marriagebuilders.com/

Quote from "Practicing the Presence of God" by Brother Lawrence:

“That when an occasion of practicing some virtue offered, he addressed himself to God, saying, Lord, I cannot do this unless Thou enablest me: and that then he receives strength more than sufficient. That when he had failed in his duty, he only confessed his fault, saying to God, I shall never do otherwise if you leave me to myself; it is you who must hinder my falling and mend what is amiss.”

Original quote from Ben Neff: "A well fertilized lawn is the best weed prevention"

Why I Love Saint Joan of Arc

Tue, 24 May 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 37 - Why I Love Saint Joan of Arc

The story of Joan of Arc has captivated generations of believers and non-believers alike. Countless biographers, poets, playwrights, artists and filmmakers have tried to capture what it was about her life that made her so fascinating. She was a shepherdess turned solider, a mystic turned martyr, and a patriot turned patroness (of France). But at the bottom of it all was this one inspiring fact: she was 100% committed to her mission from God.

Chad raises the Mighty Banner under which this episode is to march, while Ben tosses and twirls his glittery analysis throughout. The two strive after lessons for men to learn from this Saint's story. What about Joan's example is like an anecdote to one of the greatest threats to society today? What does it mean to be "mission-minded", and can you articulate what your life's mission is? If you more clearly understood God's will for your life (like Joan did), how might that cause you to live differently?

SHOW NOTES:

Story of Jim Elliot, missionary: Jim Elliot: Story and Legacy (christianity.com)

Mark Twain's book on Joan of Arc: Joan of Arc by Mark Twain (goodreads.com)

Scripture Reference: Philippians 3:17-21 NKJV - Our Citizenship in Heaven - Brethren, - Bible Gateway

Feng Shui, defined (for Ben): Feng shui - Wikipedia

Steven Pressfield article on mission: Writing Wednesdays: “DVEKUT BA MESIMA” (stevenpressfield.com)

Chad's Challenge (watch this video!): (276) The World Shifts Itself Around Your Aim | Jordan Peterson | Best Life Advice - YouTube

Interview with Tom Ahl of Tom Ahl Family of Dealerships

Tue, 17 May 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 36 - Tom Ahl, Guest Convo

Tom Ahl is the owner of the Tom Ahl Family of Dealerships in Lima, Ohio. His father started a Buick dealership in Lima where Tom worked from a very young age. He went on to graduate from Northwood College in Midland Michigan and get married in the very same year, 1973. In 1974, at the age of 23, Tom started the present Chrysler dealership. Tom and his wife have 4 daughters and 13 grandchildren. His Family of Dealerships is well known for its generosity toward the community.

Ben rolls up on the lot, ready to bargain his way into a good deal on this interview. Chad stands by staring under the hood, pretending to know what he's looking for. The two buckle up for Tom's inspiring story and find a great deal of wisdom and advice along the way. What is Tom's story of coming to faith in Jesus Christ and how did that impact his life? How has Tom approached stewarding the success that his dealerships have had? And what sorts of advice would Tom give to men in today's day and age?

SHOW NOTES:

Tom Ahl Dealerships: We Love To Support Our Community | Tom Ahl Family of Dealerships

Story of Stanley Tam referenced by Tom: God Owns My Business: They Said It Couldn't Be Done, But Formally and Legally...: Tam, Stanley, Anderson, Ken: 9781600661877: Books (amazon.com)

Power Play (M.A.P.S. to Avoid Traps)

Tue, 10 May 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 35 - Power Play

Progressing to the letter "P", the third topic in his "M.A.P.S." series, Ben takes a look at another one of the biggest traps men face today: power. It's a trap that puts many influential men on the front pages for the worst reasons. It's also a trap many of us think, based on our life circumstances, that we'd never get caught up in. Lest we be deceived, the Tim-tation to power lurks everywhere. Essential question for this episode: how do we avoid the pitfalls that come with power?

Ben's the captain, issuing body checks and calling the formations for the episode. Chad protects the goal by sending opponents to the penalty box, as the two shuffle out onto this topic's thin ice. Is it possible to gain and maintain power while also staying humble? How can things like personal isolation, lack of accountability, and concern with external appearance lead to abuse of power? What is the proper end or purpose of power for those given the responsibility to wield it?

SHOW NOTES:

Cautionary Tale: "The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill" (podcast - The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill | Podcasts | Christianity Today )

Scripture Reference (Philippians 2): https://biblehub.com/philippians/2.htm?msclkid=0242772ed00b11ec91810dff7071fec6

The Theory of Common Man

Tue, 03 May 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 34 - The Theory of Common Man

Our world is obsessed with "great men" who go to the furthest extremes of human excellence at any cost. It exalts, celebrates, and otherwise immortalizes this version of "greatness" to the expense of alternatives that might balance that with qualities like character or wisdom. Think of professional athletes turned political activists; think of billionaires turned medical experts; think of beautiful movie actors turned social influencers. In other words, we live in an age that dismisses the common man.

Chad dons a white lab coat and a tinge of sarcastic high-mindedness as the lead for this thought experiment. Ben sniffs and skitters here and there through the maze of Chad's many machinations, as the two set out to establish a potentially groundbreaking theorem (will the world ever be the same?). The term "common" carries such a drab connotation - how can we properly reinvigorate its meaning? What do the wisest teachers in history say about what makes a man "great"? And what did George Bailey, Tyler Durden, and Montgomery Gentry all intuit about genius of being a common man?

SHOW NOTES:

Illustration of "Gotheotherwayism" (Seinfeld): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Y_6fZGSOQI

Aristotle's Golden Mean: https://prezi.com/qppf2e4zyjgo/aristotle-the-golden-mean/?frame=3a3e97f0b0fe600f828aae52ba0118741fe695cf

George Bailey's Rant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O4ne13Zft9Q

Scripture Reference (Micah 6:8): https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=micah%206%3A8&version=ESV

Chesterton Quote (it wouldn't hardly be an episode without one): https://www.azquotes.com/quote/1253754

BONUS: Should a Protestant Do Exodus 90? (Day 91 Reflection)

Thu, 28 Apr 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Bonus Convo: Should a Protestant Do Exodus 90?

As a follow up to Ben's "negotiated" commitment to take on the Exodus 90 challenge, we have an fun, informal conversation about how it went for him.

Ben shares, and Chad probes: would Ben say he successfully completed the challenge? Was there anything he struggled with or didn't like about the program? What kinds of benefits or perspectives did he gain by engaging in the many disciplines? Did he grow closer to God during the 90 days?

In essence, would Ben recommend this to other men - including Protestant men?

SHOW NOTES:

Scripture reference: Philippians 4:10-12 https://biblehub.com/context/philippians/4-10.htm

Interview with Father Nathan Cromly

Tue, 26 Apr 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 33 - Father Nathan Cromly, Guest Convo

Father Nathan Cromly is the founder of Eagle Eye Ministries, the Saint John Institute, and the Saint John Leadership Network. Based out of Denver, Colorado, his ministries seek to form and equip people to become missionary entrepreneurs and leaders. Father Nathan's teaching & speaking have reached national audiences; he has been featured on the Catholic television channel, EWTN, on such programs as "Life on the Rock" and "Women of Grace". He also hosts his own popular podcast, "Dare Great Things for Christ."

Chad hefts the battering ram that busts open this interview, while Ben stands watch for any eye-splintering shrapnel that might ensue. The two co-hosts set the stage and clear the way for Father Nathan to go on his own "Catholic rant" about masculine leadership. What is the proper way to differentiate male leadership from female leadership, and how can emphasizing those differences create complementarity? In what ways does the Bible teach us about being wise and good leaders? How can a man effectively witness to his faith at the workplace in today's cultural climate?

SHOW NOTES:

Father Nathan's Leadership website: https://saintjohnleadershipnetwork.org/

Father Nathan's Podcast page:  https://www.daregreatthings.org/

Alcohol - A Tale of 2 L's (M.A.P.S. to Avoid Traps)

Tue, 19 Apr 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 32 - Alcohol - A Tale of 2 L's

Ben again sets his sights on four of the biggest traps men face today, in this the second letter/topic of his "M.A.P.S." series. Moving on from Money, he goes after the letter "A" for Alcohol. A subject some guys might like to "crack open" a little too much, while others would rather it not be "raised" at all. Essential question: how do we restore alcohol to its proper place on the Christian man's shelf?

Toasting to yet another tough topic, Ben embraces the limelight as the "guy who goes there." Chad sits back with his cold can of sparkling water and takes in the tale as it's told. The two soberly access the whole spectrum of viewpoints on alcohol within Christianity. What does the Bible actually say about drinking? How can alcohol be "healthy" and how is it often harmful? In what ways is alcohol like a gun, and where can a man draw a responsible line and find a happy medium with alcohol consumption?

SHOW NOTES:

G.K. Chesterton quote: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/681084-drink-because-you-are-happy-but-never-because-you-are

CDC (Ben's favorite resource) on Alcohol Use: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/alcohol.htm

Scripture Reference in Ben's Challenge (Galatians 5:16-21): https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Galatians%205%3A16-21&version=ESV

Women, Step Aside (Men, Step Up)

Tue, 12 Apr 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 31 - Women, Step Aside (Men, Step Up)

Over 170 years have passed since the feminist movement began, and its influence on western culture has been far-reaching. One area in particular that it has affected is the role of men and women within marriage. On that score, the results of the movement have arguably been unfavorable--for both men and women. Disentangling ourselves from those negative, often hidden influences on our relationships can be extremely difficult.

Nervously taking the mantle of motivator in this, his most controversial episode to date, Chad tells he and his wife's personal story. Ben comes along for the ride in his van down by the river, as the two unpack the inherent tension in men and women's roles in modern matrimony. Can a woman actually "have it all", meaning a fulfilling career AND the joys of being a mother? What does it mean for a man's leadership in the home if his wife is the breadwinner? What does it mean for a mother to be the heart of the home, and is a woman more "free", or less "free", when staying at home with children?

SHOW NOTES:

Apropos (definition for Ben) - adjective, meaning "very appropriate to a particular situation"

Book Reference: "The Case for Patriarchy" by Timothy J. Gordon https://www.amazon.com/Case-Patriarchy-Timothy-Gordon/dp/1622828402

Scripture reference: (Ephesians 5) https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=ephesians%205&version=NIV

Study Reference: "The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness" https://www.nber.org/papers/w14969

Are Sports Still a Net Benefit to the Culture? (MAN TALK)

Tue, 05 Apr 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 30 - MAN TALK EDITION - Guest Hosts, Barry Peel and Andrew Peel

This, the first-ever "Man Talk", is a new format where four men on four mikes take up a controversial "leading question" and have a free-flowing, roundtable discussion. By the episode's end, each man will have to solidly cast his YES or NO vote. (Listeners, see below for how you can cast your vote as well!)

Barry and Andrew bring extensive experience to the topic at hand. As former semi-pro athletes, as fitness competitors and fitness trainers, and as coaches at different levels for various sports, they help Ben and Chad work through the many facets of this question. Should we accept as the new norm that Sundays and Wednesday nights are fair game for travel teams and school sports? How can coaches and parents influence a kid's experience of sport, for good or bad? What are we to make of the politicization of professional sports or the U. of Penn swimmer controversy?

Do you have a strong opinion on this? Did we miss a key aspect of the issue in our conversation, or not consider a point for either side of the question?

Please engage and share your thoughts with us by:

Emailing us at mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv
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Money, Money, Money (M.A.P.S. to Avoid Traps)

Tue, 29 Mar 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 29 - Money, Money, Money

The first installment of a Ben-led, 4-topic series called "M.A.P.S. to Avoid Traps". Each letter in the acronym MAPS represents four of the biggest traps men face today. Although you'll have to wait to find out which topic each of the last three letters stand for (Ben thinks he can keep you guessing!), the letter 'M' is for Money! Essential question: how do we make money a tool and not a trap?

Ben navigates from behind the wheel/pulpit on a serial rant for this episode, as Chad quietly rides shotgun and seeks intercession for safe travels (Amen?). The two wander through the winding and tempestuous roads of all things monetary. When it comes to making money, how much is enough? How can a man disentangle himself and his family from the sticky cycle of lending, borrowing, and debt? When it comes to balancing saving for retirement with charitable giving, what is responsible and what is reckless (or is there such a thing?)?

SHOW NOTES:

Scriptural References:

The Rich Fool - Luke 12: 13-21
The love of money...I Timothy 6:10
For where your treasure...Matthew 6:21

Ben's Resources:

Link to Ben's Practical Tips: https://manhoodrestored.tv/episode/

Trump, Tone, and Taming the Tongue

Tue, 22 Mar 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 28 - Trump, Tone, and Taming the Tongue

Public discourse in our day is largely influenced by the fear of giving offense. In an age of social media censorship and "hate speech" policing, it's no wonder we've become so sensitive to what's being said and how someone's saying it. It's a sensitivity that infects nearly everything - our relationships, our national politics, and even our religious views. Are we all getting a little too uptight about words and ideas, or should we take still more care when we speak?

Chad lashes out with his words as lead for this episode while Ben's in support mode, spewing scriptural insights. The two sit in the tension of Chad's topic and cautiously seesaw back and forth with it. Was President Trump's rhetoric too raunchy for the Oval Office, or was it just what the country needed? How does one properly balance on the scriptural tightrope of "speaking the truth in love" without actually losing charity? When are the appropriate times to be confrontational with strong (masculine) words, and is everyone (or no one) called to do so?

SHOW NOTES:

Scriptural references:

Ephesians 4:15 - "speaking the truth in love..."
Acts 7: 51 - the stoning of Stephen
James 3 - Taming the Tongue
Matthew 12:36-37 - judged for every empty word

Answer Chad's Challenge by:

Emailing us at mightymen@manhoodrestored.tv
Commenting on our Facebook page at Manhood Restored Podcast

Interview with Father Alexander Witt (Part 2 of 2)

Tue, 15 Mar 2022 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 27 - Fr. Alexander Witt, Guest Convo (Part 2 of 2)

We're back for round two with Father Witt! We had enough great conversation with him--in the formal interview, and outside of it(!)--that it justified a second episode.

Join us again as we finish out our interview with a closing discussion on vocations to the Catholic priesthood: how to cultivate them in the home and reasons for the current shortage of priests.

And then, about halfway through, we play some "off air" banter with Father Witt about the Catholic and Protestant views on the Eucharist/Communion, along a few manly bloopers!

Interview with Father Alexander Witt (Part 1 of 2)

Tue, 08 Mar 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 26 - Fr Alexander Witt, Guest Convo (Part 1 of 2)

After his first year of college, Father Alexander Witt discerned that God was calling him to the Catholic priesthood. He then spent 2 years in college seminary and 5 years in major (graduate) seminary on his way to being ordained as a priest for the Archdiocese of Cincinnati in 2017. Since ordination, he has served as parochial vicar in Coldwater, Ohio, and is currently serving as pastor of Holy Rosary and St Patrick’s parishes in St. Mary’s, Ohio.

Chad hefts the heavy logs onto the burning questions in this episode, while Ben wields his Protestant fire poker to stoke some warm-hearted exchanges. The two enjoy a fire-side chat with their first priestly guest, and some sparks fly over what exactly a Catholic priest is. Why is the priesthood even relevant to the topic of restoring manhood? What is the difference between a Catholic priest and a Protestant pastor, and isn’t that difference redundant when we’re already part of the priesthood of all believers? Finally, isn’t it discriminatory that Catholics still hold to an all-male priesthood?

SHOW NOTES:

*Tune in next week for Part 2 of 2 of this interview episode with Fr Witt - it will include some very interesting outtakes!

What do you want your kids to do with their life?

Tue, 01 Mar 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 25 - What do you want your kids to do with their life?

The word "vocation" has a slightly different connotation for Catholics than it does for Protestants. When it comes to parenting, though, both meanings are relevant. What kind of people are our children going to grow up to be? What career path will they end up on? What is God calling them to do? These are questions every parent has fretted over. So, then what is a parent's role in shaping these vocational outcomes?

Chad initiates each manly sound, smell, and mannerism for this episode. Ben comes alongside for full effect and adds in his own grunts and knuckle-dragging. The two push past the foul odors of convention and delve deep into a parent's influence on a child's vocation. How can a parent help their child discover how they've been gifted to do certain things better than others? What sorts of value messages do parents send to kids by what is being emphasized as important? Are parents prepared to support the choices their children ultimately make? If not, does that indicate a flaw in the parent's expectations?

SHOW NOTES:

Chad's cultural reference in episode title

Fr Riccardo's vocation story (starts at 20:41)

BONUS: Debate on Heavenly Intercession (will Ben "pray" to the Saints?)

Thu, 24 Feb 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Bonus Convo: Debate on Heavenly Intercession

We've reached 2,500 downloads! While we didn't get there as quickly as we'd hoped, we're there nonetheless! So, THANK YOU! Unfortunately, that means Ben doesn't get his chance to "stump the Catholic." Instead, as a way to celebrate the milestone, we thought we'd whet your appetite with a mini debate!

Ben's grown curious lately about the Catholic notion of "praying to the Saints", but he still has his Protestant guard up. What's with this whole business of heavenly intercession? Are those who've gone before us still aware of earthly concerns, and where is that in the Bible? Isn't it idolatrous to pray to anyone other than God?

Listen in to see if Chad can play his Catholic cards right and convince Ben to let his guard down. Can he convince Ben to go so far as to ask for intercession from someone in heaven?

SHOW NOTES:

Scripture references:
Hebrews 12:1
Revelation 5:8
Luke 16:19-31

Interview with Aaron Kuhn, LPCC-S of Counseling & Consulting Services

Tue, 22 Feb 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 24 - Aaron Kuhn, Guest Convo

Aaron Kuhn is a licensed mental health and addiction therapist. He has a PhD in Psychology, and he has been working in the field for 20 years. He currently provides counseling, including marriage and family, at Counseling & Consulting Services in Celina, Ohio. Aaron is an avid fitness advocate and believes in holistic health. He is happily married and has three children.

Ben pulls all the levers on this carnival ride of an episode, while Chad plays stand-by carny, furiously chewing gum and taking notes at the same time. As evidenced by the episode length, the two can hardly hold back from asking more and more questions of this fascinating and informative guest! Is it really beneficial for men to identify, express, and regulate their feelings? How do inflammatory foods factor into mental health? What's the difference between Big-T and Little-T trauma? And what is the "ledger system" in a marriage and can it be conquered?

SHOW NOTES:

Aaron Kuhn contact info: https://www.healthgrades.com/providers/aaron-kuhn-42aez

What is Alexithymia: https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/mind-guest-blog/the-emotional-blindness-of-alexithymia/

Book referenced, "The Body Keeps the Score": https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/mind-guest-blog/the-emotional-blindness-of-alexithymia/

Scriptural Reference to "love not keeping record": https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Corinthians%2013&version=NIV

Chasing Cows Again and Other MENtal Health Issues

Tue, 15 Feb 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 23 – Chasing Cows Again and Other MENtal Health Issues

Dealing with mental health isn’t exactly most guys' favorite topic. But that doesn’t mean it’s not issue for men. In the aftermath of pandemic lockdowns and mask mandates, in fact, it’s an issue for more and more people. Even before COVID, things like suicide rates were troublesome. To one degree or another, mental health issues affect us all.

Ben leads as pretend psychologist for this episode, asking his best how-does-that-make-you-feel questions, as Chad kicks back in a chaise lounge and patient-ly assists. The co-hosts ask more questions than they give answers yet stumble upon some startling facts and honest admissions. Which US demographic has the highest suicide rate? What might be some of the contributing factors to mental illness? And how can men learn to better cope with those factors?

SHOW NOTES:

Suicide stats by profession: https://choicespsychotherapy.net/jobs-with-highest-suicide-rates/

Scene referenced from the movie "The Pilgrim’s Progress": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IAZxJkG1uqI

I'll Have the Blue Pill, Please

Tue, 08 Feb 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 22 - I'll Have the Blue Pill, Please

The term Red Pill, or the phrase "being Red Pilled", has become common lingo in discourse involving the pursuit of, or the discovery of, truth. Its origin is the 1999 film The Matrix, in which the main character has a choice to keep following the evidence where it leads (take the red pill) or to remain in his ignorance (take the blue pill). Red pilling gets all the attention and glory, but does the blue pill not also have an allure all its own?

Chad is "The One" pulling the plugs on this episode, while Ben bakes some delicious premonitions on the side. The two tumble down a reverse rabbit hole to see where the choice for blue pills might lead. Why might someone opt for ignorance (blue pill) when they have a choice to know the truth? What is Chad's pet peeve when it comes to blue pilling and in how many various ways can one be ignorant? Finally, what are Ben and Chad's top three blue pill admissions?

SHOW NOTES:

Matrix scene: "Ignorance is bliss" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JODWCwycNmg

Matrix scene: Blue Pill or Red Pill https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGWoiy56GEA

Scripture References:
John 3:19 - https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=John%203:19&version=NIV

1 Corinthians 13:11 - https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+corinthians+13%3A11&version=NIV

Narnia scene: Turkish Delight https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BhzFBMotZb8

Book Reference: "The God of the Garden" by Andrew Peterson https://www.andrew-peterson.com/the-god-of-the-garden

Ben's Un-blue pilling bullets:

Seek - always be in pursuit of truth
Reflect - check yourselves and be vigilant
Embrace - be fearless of red pills

Interview with Mark Lee Dickson from Sanctuary Cities for the Unborn

Tue, 01 Feb 2022 05:00:00 -0500

Episode 21 - Mark Lee Dickson, Guest Convo

Mark Lee Dickson is a Texas born-and-raised pro-life activist whose efforts have garnered national attention. He's been featured in various news outlets such as Fox News, CNN, the Washington Post, the Huffington Post, and the New York Times. Mark Lee is in leadership at Right to Life of East Texas and is best known for starting the Sancturary Cities for the Unborn initiative, which has helped lead over 40 cities across the United States pass enforceable ordinances outlawing abortion within their city limits.

Chad does his best Chuck Norris as lead for this episode, as Ben shoots puns from the hip as his second-on-patrol. The co-hosts explore the borders of cultural counterpunching by learning from their guest about the Sanctuary Cities for the Unborn initiative. Why would a city that doesn't have an abortion facility want to preemptively outlaw abortion in their city? How is it that local governments are able to pass ordinances like this when there's Roe vs. Wade? And if one were to feel called to do this very thing in their city, how could one make that happen?

SHOW NOTES:

Sanctuary Cities for the Unborn website: https://sanctuarycitiesfortheunborn.com/

Mark Lee's recent success at the US Supreme Court: https://www.texastribune.org/2021/12/12/texas-abortion-law-supreme-court-advocates/

Leaving a Legacy

Tue, 25 Jan 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 20 - Leaving a Legacy

Phyllis Neff passed away on December 2nd, 2021, at the age of 70. She was a mother to four and a grandmother to six. For 32 years, she was a victim's advocate for Crime Victim Services of Allen County. She was a member of the Lima Noon Optimist Club and active in children's ministry at Lima Community Church. Her legacy was in how she lived out her faith in those roles, a shining example to the people whose lives she touched.

Ben captures the moment on this episode commemorating his mother's life, while Chad basks in the glow of stories of a life well-lived. The two of them examine how one's legacy becomes most apparent in death. Will the light you share now live on in others when you are gone? How can things like intentionality and organization be blessings to the people around you? And what are the memories your loved ones will share about you at your funeral?

SHOW NOTES:

Phyllis Neff's Obituary: https://www.legacy.com/us/obituaries/limaohio/name/phyllis-neff-obituary?id=31755394

Build Back Better...Culture

Tue, 18 Jan 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 19 - Build Back Better... Culture.

The tides of a secularized culture are aggressively rising. And the strongholds of Western Civilization--things like religion, the traditional family, and moral values--are eroding under the onslaught of those battering waves. Living in the midst of that wreckage, one might be tempted to despair: Is there any hope for recovering the lost ground and rebuilding?

Chad lays out the blueprint for reconstruction as job foreman of this episode. Ben grimaces as he holds a nail gun gingerly, ready to support as the general laborer. The two layout the future site of a man-initiated counterculture. What are some ways in which men can build back culture now in their immediate spheres of influence? Is beauty (one of the three cultural bastions of truth, goodness, and beauty) something a guy can get comfortable with creating? And by beginning with the end in mind, how can we erect new facades that will bless generations to come?

SHOW NOTES:

Book referenced, "Rules for Retrogrades" by Timothy Gordon: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/51625256-rules-for-retrogrades

Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraph #2174: https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/524/

J.R.R. Tolkien's essay "On Fairy Stories" (see Epilogue, starting on page 34): https://coolcalvary.files.wordpress.com/2018/10/on-fairy-stories1.pdf

BONUS: Ben's Rant (will he do Exodus 90 or not?)

Thu, 13 Jan 2022 13:00:00 -0500

Bonus Convo: Ben's Rant

Join in on this hilarious discussion as we conclusively tackle the question, "Will Ben do Exodus 90 or not?"

Hear Ben's thoughts, concerns, complaints, and proposed conditions as he tries to use his expert negotiating skills to strike an ecumenical deal with Chad...

Will Chad bend? Who will get the upper hand in this slugfest? And will Ben finally go for it?

Interview with Nathaniel Binversie from Exodus 90

Tue, 11 Jan 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 18 - Nathaniel Binversie, Guest Convo

Nathaniel Binversie is the Director of Mission for Exodus 90. He graduated from the University of St Thomas in St Paul, Minnesota and holds a master's degree in Theology from the Augustine Institute. Before joining Exodus, he spent time in campus ministry at the University of Utah and as a missionary at FOCUS, the Fellowship of Catholic University Students. Nathaniel and his wife and two daughters reside in Ft Wayne, Indiana. He also has a colossal beard.

Chad raises the sails for this interview, hoping to catch gusts of good conversation, while Ben's on cleanup duty, swabbing the deck. The two embark with Nathaniel upon a voyage through the frigid waters of Exodus 90, a ninety-day spiritual exercise for men that focuses on prayer, ascetism, and fraternity. Nathaniel tells the history of the Exodus mission and explains their vision for changing the lives of men. What kind of spiritual benefit does a guy get from adhering to such a long list of legalistic "do nots"? Why is this program exclusively for men? What can someone expect upon accepting this challenge, and just how cold is a "cold shower" supposed to be?

SHOW NOTES:

Exodus 90 Website: https://exodus90.com/

The Gospel According to Ted Lasso

Tue, 04 Jan 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 17 - The Gospel According to Ted Lasso

In just over a year and two seasons, the Apple TV+ streaming series "Ted Lasso" has received much critical acclaim. The show has won 7 Emmy Awards, including Outstanding Comedy Series. Starring Jason Sudeikis as the main character, Ted Lasso is an American football coach who becomes a surprise hire for coach of a Premier League soccer team in the UK; his only credentials for such a position are his quick wit, charm, and persistent positivity.

Ben kicks the conversation around the field as captain of this episode, while Chad limps along slow-footed behind him. Their goal? To put this popular show under a microscope in hopes of ascertaining its genius. Are there any warning labels that should come with this highly entertaining sensation? In what ways does the show's portrayal of men (their relationships, their role in society, their character) epitomize modern media's 'program' for manhood for the last 30 years? What are the redemptive qualities in the story, and is Ted's Gospel ultimately compatible with Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John's?

SHOW NOTES:

Ted Lasso Show: https://tv.apple.com/us/show/ted-lasso/umc.cmc.vtoh0mn0xn7t3c643xqonfzy

Colossians 3:15: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Colossians%203:15&version=NIV

Slave or Free Man?

Tue, 28 Dec 2021 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 16 – Slave or Free Man?

In a democratic society, individuals are at liberty to do what they please so long as it doesn’t break an established law. Beyond that definition, there’s a thin line between being truly “free” and being burdened by sheer license. In other words, a man who is free to do anything might often find himself incapable of NOT doing something (addiction), or incapable of ONLY doing one thing (the good). When does that incapacity become enslavement?

Chad leads the charge for liberation in this episode, and Ben follows (up to a point) with his own fire to free the captives. The two define their terms, share their own struggles with freedom, and even dive into some Protestant-Catholic differences on the topic. How is it that a man can be both strong and enslaved? Is it possible that a Christian be “free from the law” and yet remain burdened by sin? Are spiritual exercises like Exodus 90 effective means to achieving greater freedom—and can Chad sell Ben on taking such a challenge?

SHOW NOTES:

Exodus 90 Program: https://exodus90.com/

Passage from the Book of Exodus: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Exodus+1%3A8-14&version=NASB1995

Bishop Fulton Sheen quote: https://quotefancy.com/quote/810252/Fulton-J-Sheen-Freedom-does-not-mean-that-right-to-do-whatever-we-please-but-rather-to-do

Ben’s reference to 1 John 2:16: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+John+2%3A16&version=NASB1995

Fight Club quote: https://www.getyarn.io/yarn-clip/e4ef71d0-8a35-48ba-9aa8-d70ea420db61

Interview with Justin Miesse

Tue, 21 Dec 2021 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 15 - Justin Miesse, Guest Convo

Justin Miesse holds a criminal justice degree from the University of Toledo and is a graduate of the Vineyard Leadership Institiute in Columbus. When he's not farming in his family agri-business or playing music with local worship teams, Justin owns and operators Iron Element LLC, a company focused on personal defense training and firearms & ammunition sales. Iron Element offers a variety of firearms training, including training for youth and women, as well as church security development training.

Ben is locked and loaded and ready to take aim as lead interviewer, while Chad tries not to shoot his eye out as he lays down cover fire. The two go on a hunt for life lessons, as Justin uses his experience as an instructor on the gun range to challenge men to level up in all facets of their lives. What do humility, community, and accountability have to do with shooting guns? What are three things a man can do to beef up his home defense? And how are firearms and self-defense compatible with Christianity?

SHOW NOTES:

Iron Element website: https://www.ironelement.net/

Justin's email: justin@ironelement.net

Justin's worship team (not mentioned in the interview, but worth checking out): https://worshipanyway.com/

LEAD in Your Home

Tue, 14 Dec 2021 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 14 - LEAD in Your Home

A man's role in his home is one of great importance. But the 20th century has definitely made strides to diminish that fact. Things like industrialized work and women's liberation have tried mightily to squeeze the father out of his proper place in the home. Today's culture especially calls men to reclaim that role and be true leaders for their families. The home isn't just the woman's domain.

Ben fires up the heavy equipment and hauls away misconceptions, while Chad's dives in to sort through the dumpy aftermath. Alternating between two plays on the word 'lead', Ben and Chad discuss ways men can bring positive influence into the home (leading) and eradicate toxic influences (lead poisoning) from it. In what areas can men become more aware of and intentional about activating their role as heads of their homes?

SHOW NOTES:

The Shema: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Deuteronomy%206%3A4-9&version=NIV

God's Greenlights

Tue, 07 Dec 2021 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 13 - God's Greenlights

Wouldn't it just be like a couple of Christian guys to glean inspiration from a Hollywood A-lister? Well, no... it wouldn't. But that's what makes this episode so interesting! Matthew McConaughey's 2020 memoir, "Greenlights", has been a surprising success, staying atop the non-fiction bestseller list for 50 weeks. While his famous style and flare for life might be an unsuspecting source of inquiry after manly virtue, it turns out there may be more than meets the eye to this Romcom actor.

Chad rides out in front as the Lone Ranger for this pseudo book review, and Ben cautiously brings up the rear, a type-cast Tonto if there ever was one. The co-hosts sift through McConaughey's story and its themes for nuggets of inspiration and wisdom. Does adventure still have a place in the life of modern man? How can a man's life--both his successes and setbacks--be framed as a progression toward deeper meaning? And where does the gospel fit into this 'Greenlight' approach?

SHOW NOTES:

McConaughey's book: https://greenlights.com/#book

G.K. Chesterton quote: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/16871-we-are-to-regard-existence-as-a-raid-or-great

BONUS 1000 Download Celebration & Challenge

Fri, 03 Dec 2021 00:00:00 -0500

BONUS EPISODE - 1,000+ Downloads!

As a big THANK YOU to those who've been listening and sharing, Ben & Chad offer a Bonus Episode! It's a brief, behind-the-scenes look at the Manhood Restored Podcast, covering three aspects of its origins:

1) What's up with the "Half Cath" - "Part Prada" Logo?
2) What is meant by the phrase "Might Men of Valor", and where did it come from?
3) What is the target audience that each co-host has in mind?

Chad also issues a challenge to listeners to help take the number of downloads to 2,500 in the next 5 episodes (doubling the pace!) by actively sharing with friends and family. Should that goal be achieved, Ben and Chad promise a future Bonus Episode with an idea specifically forged by listener feedback (it's one you won't want to miss out on!).

SHOW NOTES:

"Mighty Men of Valor" Bible reference (1 Chron 12): https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Chronicles+12&version=NASB1995

Interview with Chris Bihn

Tue, 30 Nov 2021 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 12 - CHRIS BIHN, Guest Convo

Chris Bihn and his family run a unique health food business called "Our Fathers Foods." Utilizing a patented process to crush grain, their products deliver preservative and synthetic free alternatives to modern wheat-based foods like bread and oats. The Bihn family business is more like a ministry in that they seek to do their part in restoring God's order by focusing on Natural Law, putting the family at the center, and nourishing people at the local level.

Ben "steaks" his keen interest in the subject matter as the lead interviewer, while Chad makes his rare contribution as a not-so-healthy-eating layman. The two get schooled by Chris, the former teacher, on the genius of the crushing process and the health benefits it affords. Chris draws from his experience growing up on a farm, coaching for 30 years, and raising eight children to challenge men to pay attention to the details of what goes into their bodies and to lead by example in everything they do.

SHOW NOTES:

Our Fathers Foods website: https://healthygraincrushing.com/

John Horvat Book: https://www.returntoorder.org/

Going Glutton Free

Tue, 23 Nov 2021 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 11 - Going Glutton Free

It's one of the "Seven Deadly Sins" and one of the hardest bad habits to hide. Yet Gluttony might be one of the least talked about vices there is (except if used in a joke at Thanksgiving). Seems like a good topic to crack open, in other words, for men living in a culture that's replete with overindulgence!

Ben pours a few (not too many) straight, black cups of conversation, while Chad squirms in his seat with an over-stimulated conscience. As the two explore definitions, fess up to their own run-ins with gluttony, and work through Ben's now famous statistical bullet points, a pattern emerges. What tactics and motives can men call on to curb this destructive tendency?

Resistance Readiness

Tue, 16 Nov 2021 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 10 – Resistance Readiness

Have you ever wondered, after seeing a headline about a mandate-related confrontation (on an airplane or at a supermarket), how you would’ve acted in a similar situation? Too often we dismiss the thought because we assume that it would “never happen to me.” The prevalence of such impositions upon our liberties and the increasing lengths to which governments have proven willing to go, should put men on high alert.

Chad conducts the sounds of alarm while Ben polishes the brass of his best prepper instinct. The two walk through scenarios of gov’t overreach and ask what the proper response ought to be. At what point should the line be drawn and a stand taken? Is a Christians’ call to resistance merely “turning the other cheek”? They draw conclusions and outline three guiding principles for men to be ready to resist tyranny.

SHOW NOTES:

Video of ‘Non-compliant Traveler’ (2 year old): https://www.news.com.au/travel/travel-updates/incidents/outrage-as-maskless-toddler-with-asthma-kicked-off-american-airlines-flight/news-story/a9436bd9627198cfbb1b174861531000

United Airlines Flight 93, “Let’s Roll” Reenactment: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7arO6mTs5W0

Short Video of St Maximilian Kolbe: https://reallifecatholic.com/video/st-maximilian-kolbe/

Live Not By Lies, by Rod Dreher: https://www.amazon.com/Live-Not-Lies-Christian-Dissidents/dp/0593087399

Interview with John Wood

Tue, 09 Nov 2021 00:00:00 -0500

Episode 9 – DR JOHN R. WOOD, Guest Convo

Dr. John R. Wood is a passionate Catholic evangelist, having spoken at hundreds of parishes across the country and published three books, including the bestselling, “Ordinary Lives, Extraordinary Mission: 5 Steps to Winning the War Within”. When he’s not helping patients as a mobile eye doctor, John and his family put on powerful sacramental prep retreats called Dragon Slayers at churches all over Ohio.

Chad takes lumberjack-like swings at the big questions with Dr. Wood, while Ben whittles in his own nuanced inquiries. John shares with the guys his background in collegiate sports, how he felt called to share the gospel, and what he sees “out there” in terms of this trend of the Nones. The conversation carves in John’s take on the crisis of manhood, as well as some practical tips on how fathers can better instill the faith in their children.

SHOW NOTES:

John’s website: https://www.saintsinthemaking.com/john-r-wood.html

John’s books: https://extraordinarymission.com/#/shop

RISK: The Game of Kingdom Domination

Tue, 02 Nov 2021 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 8

Today Ben and Chad risk it all by sharing from their lives. They look at their own successes and failures as well as how healthy risk is necessary to restore manhood. The two outline what is a healthy risk and an unhealthy risk. They also explore what it means for the church to “circle the wagons.” Ben leads the way in calling out complacency in men and unpacks what risk looks like for the Kingdom of God. (35:00). As with a lot of the episodes it gets more lively as they go ending with a rock solid challenge that we spoil at the end of the show notes.

Psalm 37:25 I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread.

The Rich and the Kingdom of God

A certain ruler asked him, “Good teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?”

“Why do you call me good?” Jesus answered. “No one is good—except God alone. You know the commandments: ‘You shall not commit adultery, you shall not murder, you shall not steal, you shall not give false testimony, honor your father and mother.’[a]”

“All these I have kept since I was a boy,” he said.

When Jesus heard this, he said to him, “You still lack one thing. Sell everything you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me.” When he heard this, he became very sad, because he was very wealthy.

Luke 18:18-23

Challenge

Pray about what to do.

Pick one.

Plan it.

Pursue it.

Are you a none?

Tue, 26 Oct 2021 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 7 – Are You a None?

Being religiously UN-affiliated (going with the NONE identifier on the ‘religion’ portion of census questioning) is all the craze these days. You might be surprised to know just how popular, though! Recent data suggests a snowballing trend on this score.

After attempting some trick (word) plays, Chad gets under center to quarterback this episode. With Ben as the unconventional offensive lineman, the two take the field to peel away the layers of this phenomenon. What does this trend signal for our future? How do we explain why this is happening, and who’s to blame? Is this a good look for men, or should men be thinking about this differently?

SHOW NOTES:

Article discussed about 2021 book release on the subject: https://religionnews.com/2021/03/24/the-nones-are-growing-and-growing-more-diverse/
http://ryanburge.net/nones/
Casting Crowns song Slow Fade https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QASREBVDsLk

Fighting Injustice – An Interview with Mike Spencer of Project LifeVoice

Tue, 19 Oct 2021 00:00:00 -0400

After serving as a pastor for 23 years, Mike Spencer has dedicated himself to full-time pro-life ministry. His heart for the unborn has led him to speak to thousands at churches, conferences, and campuses across the country. First as a speaker for Life Training Institute, and now as the founder and president of Project LifeVoice, Mike’s burden is to awaken and equip the church to become pro-life ambassadors.

Chad and Ben sit down with this Man of Justice and discuss the civil rights issue of abortion. Why are pastors and priests so reluctant to speak out on this issue? Should men get involved in what’s often framed as a “women’s issue”? Chad leads the inquiry as Mike shares compelling, first-hand knowledge of what’s at stake in this fight for life.

SHOW NOTES:

1. Website for Mike’s Ministry: https://projectlifevoice.com/

2. Short video showing an abortion: Sorry we were unable to locate this link.

3. “What to Say When”, new book from 40 Days for Life: https://www.40daysforlife.com/en/whattosaywhen

4. Mike's Book: Humanly Speaking : The Evil of Abortion, the Silence of the Church, and the Grace of God

Spiritual F-Words

Tue, 12 Oct 2021 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 5 Spiritual F-Words

Today Chad and Ben are not dropping F-bombs but instead looking at the one thing many men resist in their spiritual journey, fellowship with God. This is the key to true peace and spiritual growth. They also look at what men do to avoid what’s most important and look at the why behind it. They address some of the escapes men use to avoid fellowship.
We also acknowledge the elephant in the room and address the Father Wound.

SHOW NOTES

4 Escapes from Fellowship

Fantasy- This is where we become the hero of the story instead of God.

Fervor- We often pour into our work; ignoring the best for the good. See below, Mary and Martha Luke 10:38-42

Flesh- We indulge our flesh, eating, drinking, etc. staying busy avoiding intimacy.

Facebook- This site will give you a rush but you'll still be avoiding the deeper things of life and avoiding doing the work the Lord has called us to.

A good father scripture reference-Matthew 7:9-11

Men of Justice Not Social Justice

Tue, 05 Oct 2021 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 4 – Men of Justice (Not Social Justice)

The word Justice is rarely uttered without the qualifier “social” in front of it. Do we even know what true Justice is anymore? Why all the buzz about social justice anyway? Chad sits in the driver’s seat to explore the landscape in search of real Men of Justice. Ben’s part navigator, part backseat driver, as the two meander through the differences between Justice and social justice. Is there hope to regain a proper understanding of Justice, and are men willing to respond accordingly?

Show notes:

1. Scott Hahn’s Book, “It is Right and Just” https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/55478244-it-is-right-and-just

2. Scene from Saving Private Ryan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lv-67DFlOsM

Work Restored- Interview with McDonalds owner Jeff Monfort

Tue, 28 Sep 2021 00:00:00 -0400

Episode 3 – JEFF MONFORT, Guest Convo

The first guest of the Podcast, Jeff Monfort, worked for McDonalds for over 40 years. Climbing the ranks to management, he and his wife Mary became owner/operators of eight McDonald’s restaurants. In 2018, Jeff received the Golden Arch Award, recognizing him as a top 1% Owner/Operator worldwide.

As a follow up to their episode on “Workaholism”, Ben and Chad talk with Jeff about the keys to his success: how did he juggle the demands of work and family? What impact has his faith had over the years? And what challenge would he issue to men today? Jeff plays sage & storyteller, citing Stephen Covey and Scripture while the hosts soak up his wisdom.

Here are a few links from what we talked about.

1. Steve Covey’s Big Rocks (Habit 3): https://www.franklincovey.com/habit-3/

2. Golden Arch Award: https://curtiszimmerman.com/going-for-the-golden-arches/

3. Jeff’s Challenge: Psalm 27:4
One thing I ask from the Lord,
this only do I seek:
that I may dwell in the house of the Lord
all the days of my life,
to gaze on the beauty of the Lord
and to seek him in his temple.

Workaholism and The 3 Little Pigs- Episode 2

Tue, 21 Sep 2021 00:00:00 -0400

Many men struggle with being “all work and no play”, often forsaking their family and their faith for more easily-attained success at work. Ben is attending physician AND patient zero. Chad hands Ben the scalpel to dissect the good, the bad, and the ugly. They look at the WHO, WHAT, WHEN, WHERE, HOW and WHY of Workaholism and talk about how to overcome it.

Fords and Facial Hair- Episode 1

Tue, 21 Sep 2021 00:00:00 -0400

Chad takes the lead and Ben’s on backup vocals. They explore the deeper meaning behind beards and pickup trucks (there is one?), and Ben tries mightily to grasp Chad’s Catholic claim that outward appearances can indicate an inward reality.

Manhood Restored Teaser

Mon, 13 Sep 2021 23:00:00 -0400

We are two ordinary Christian guys who feel compelled to call men back to true Masculinity. Through raw conversations between a Protestant and a Catholic, we aim to help men become better husbands, fathers, and leaders. We encourage an activation of faith and manly virtue so our listeners can become the Mighty Men they were made to be.

On this trailer/teaser Chad's friend John Paul interviews Ben and Chad so listeners can get to know the men behind the mic. Note: Ben just met John Paul 5 minutes before recording! The three jump right in and run with it. Join us for this lighthearted discussion about faith, family, and the purpose of this podcast.

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