Genesis The Podcast

From Survival To Legacy: The Story of DeShandra Cullins

Mon, 16 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0600

What if the moment you finally said “enough” became the spark that built your legacy? We sit down with DeShandra (Monet) Cullins—a survivor, mother of five, entrepreneur, and author of You Good, Sis?—who turned lifelong trauma into a blueprint for healing, purpose, and generational change. From escaping intimate partner violence to walking into a shelter with her daughters, she shares the precise steps that moved her from survival mode to building a beauty brand that began in a women's shelter and grew into a platform for women's empowerment.

Dishandra opens up about complex PTSD and why it’s often misread as “just depression.” She breaks down how chronic trauma reshapes a nervous system, how EMDR helped her separate triggers from identity, and how simple daily structure—miracle mornings, hydration, journaling—became anchors that outlast motivation. We also spotlight the insidious tactics of financial abuse and the practical pivots that counter them: turning tax refunds into startup capital, learning credit repair and business credit, and using honest landlord letters to rebuild housing stability.

At the heart of the episode is ROOTS, her five-part framework—Reveal, Own, Open, Turn, Sustain—that integrates inner work with business strategy. You’ll hear how bold lipstick shades named for power and courage helped her reclaim her voice, why “Monet” was armor and “DeShandra” is integration, and how the You Good, Sis? book and journal teach check-ins that prevent burnout before it breaks us. If you care about survivor advocacy, faith-informed healing, entrepreneurship, or building legacy from hard beginnings, this story will change how you think about resilience.

Learn more about DeShandra and her work at www.deshandracullins.com or www.discoveringdeshandrasolutions.com and on Instagram at @discovering.deshandra

Beyond the Cycle: Evolving Frameworks for Understanding Domestic Abuse

Mon, 02 Feb 2026 00:00:00 -0600

Genesis experts Ruth Guerreiro and Jordyn Lawson join the conversation to unpack models that explain domestic violence and provide real, practical solutions for survivors and those who support them. Together we walk through the Cycle of Violence framework as well as the Power and Control Wheel derived from the Duluth Model to understand their origins, purpose, and applications.

Our discussion also grounds these theories in real-world practice: how survivors can identify escalation cues, why a “violent episode” isn’t limited to physical harm, and the safety planning steps that can reduce risk at each stage—at home, during separation, and long after. We explore the emotional work of healing—naming love bombing, processing betrayal, and rebuilding trust in one’s instincts.

Throughout the conversation, we push past outdated terms to language that validates lived realities and sharpens judgment: manipulative kindness over “honeymoon phase,” impact over intent, control over conflict. Whether you’re a survivor, ally, or professional, you’ll leave with clearer frameworks, practical examples, and a more intentional way to talk about and respond to abuse.

Financial Control Is Violence, And There Are Paths To Freedom

Mon, 19 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0600

What if the most powerful weapon in an abusive relationship isn’t a fist, but a login? We sit down with Jordyn Lawson, Chief Residential Officer at Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support, to unpack how financial abuse and coerced debt quietly trap survivors—even long after they leave. From paychecks diverted into hidden accounts to loans opened under threat or deception, money becomes a leash: it governs housing, food, credit, and the ability to move toward safety.

Jordyn shares what frontline work reveals: the overwhelming prevalence of financial control, the shock of discovering debts for cars or even boats survivors never saw, and why credit scores can become gatekeepers to a new home or job. We connect the dots between personal harm and public cost—billions lost to intimate partner violence, millions of workdays missed, and the chilling number of workplace homicides tied to abusers. Most importantly, we map the way forward: how to spot red flags, how loved ones can support without minimizing, and how workplaces should prepare to protect employees targeted by abusers.

There’s real hope in policy and practice. We highlight legal reforms that recognize coerced debt as identity theft in Texas, how survivors can challenge fraudulent accounts, and why advocacy partnerships streamline credit repair with minimal cost. We also dig into financial literacy strategies that restore control—pulling credit reports on safe devices, securing independent accounts, documenting coercion, and planning for deposits and child care. Along the way, we confront enduring myths about who works, who controls the money, and why “everyone fights about finances” is not a free pass for abuse.

If you care about safety, equity, or simply want to help someone you love, this conversation gives you clear tools and next steps. Listen, share with a friend, and help us push for policies and workplace practices that put safety first. If this episode resonates, subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: what change would most improve financial safety for survivors?

Myths and Misconceptions: The Covert Tactics of Abusive Men

Mon, 05 Jan 2026 00:00:00 -0600

We open the new year by exposing myths that keep victims unheard and abusers protected: the “nice guy” persona, the anger excuse, the belief that leaving solves everything. With Ruth Guerreiro, Chief Clinical Officer at Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support, we walk through the mindsets that drive coercive control and the covert tactics that slip past friends, families, courts, and even clinicians.

In this episode, Ruth breaks down recognizable patterns and behaviors of abusive men. From the demand man and Mr. Right to the drill sergeant, the player, and the terrorist, she shows how entitlement fuels different strategies with the same outcome: fear, isolation, and control. We explore social engineering and how a polished public image becomes a weapon in custody disputes and community spaces. You’ll also hear why anger management misses the point, how “high conflict” labels mask abuse, and what post‑separation abuse looks like when contact is enforced through parenting apps, daily calls, and court orders.

We also get practical. Learn how financial control can hide behind “I’ll handle the bills,” why the silent treatment harms more than shouting, how reckless driving is used to terrify, and how location sharing becomes surveillance.

Rideshare Driver Predators: Sexual Assaults, Safety Gaps, Lawsuits, and How Women Can Protect Themselves

Tue, 23 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0600

How well do you know the driver of your rideshare? You don't. And you need to listen to this episode to understand what he is capable of and how to protect yourself.

In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the risks women face in rideshares and the systemic gaps that let predators operate with impunity. Together with Susan Knape, founder of A Case for Women, we trace the data behind thousands of harassment and assault reports, the realities of underreporting, and why a nice-looking car can lull riders into a false sense of security.

You’ll leave this conversation with a clear safety playbook: always sit in the back, stay alert, avoid revealing personal details, confirm your pickup without saying your name, don’t route to “Home,” and share your trip with someone who’s watching the route and timing. We also push for real fixes—mandatory in‑car cameras, access barriers, and stronger oversight—that deter abuse and create evidence when harm occurs.

If you’ve ever stepped into a rideshare and felt that uneasy twinge, this conversation gives you the context, tools, and resolve to protect yourself while we keep pressing for a safer system. We also challenge victim-blaming narratives, especially when rideshare companies market themselves as the “safe” alternative after drinking, and explore the heightened risks for teens, disabled riders, and passengers leaving medical procedures.

Before you step into a rideshare this holiday season, you deserve to know what you are getting yourself into.

Other Side: Shana Halligan Speaks Her Truth

Mon, 15 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0600

A voice possesses the power to either conceal - or reveal - the truth. After decades of silence and shame about what was truly unspeakable childhood abuse, Shana Halligan chose speak out. And what followed was a complete transformation of her life that led to a music career of authentic self-expression and powerful presence.

As the daughter of Dick Halligan, founder of the band Blood, Sweat & Tears, Shana experienced music on a level most only dream about. From concerts to all-night jam sessions with some of the most renowned talent of the time to being the singing voice for Barbie commercials in the 1970’s, Shana was immersed in music her entire life. And it was music that finally allowed her to reveal the dark secret she had harbored since early childhood – that she is a survivor of sexual abuse. Shana’s earliest memories are of being molested by a stranger in her own bed – an experience that occurred for at least three years. Today, as the founder of the band Bitter:Sweet with a burgeoning music career of her own making, Shana has not only released the shame of what was done to her but also taken center stage in designing the life of her dreams. In this episode, Shana shares what happened to her all those years ago and how she emerged from the shadow of abuse to become both her own savior and a beacon of hope for others. Listen to the end of the episode for a sneak peek at Shana’s latest release, “Other Side.”

Shana’s story was revealed to the world in a Daily Mail article in 2025. You can read it at https://archive.is/20250523100119/https:/www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-14740137/Mum-cold-told-Id-raped-aged-six-thought-Id-never-forgive-cruel-words-reveals-SHANA-HALLIGAN-deathbed-extraordinary-happened.html

The full music to the single “Other Side” can be found at https://app.box.com/s/bhfzhlq6c5lolmw71bsj7s5xugnwscnh

More about Shana at https://www.shanahalligan.com/

Quicksand: The experience of coercive control with Kate Amber

Mon, 01 Dec 2025 00:00:00 -0600

In this episode of Genesis The Podcast, host Maria MacMullin delves into the topic of coercive control with expert Kate Amber. Ms. Amber, a survivor, who holds an MS in Psychology of Coercive Control from the University of Salford and is the founder of End Coercive Control USA (ECCUSA), shares her personal experiences with domestic abuse and explains her Quicksand Model of understanding coercive control. Kate Amber discusses how coercive control extends beyond physical violence in relationships to include patterns of manipulation and domination. The conversation covers the evolution of the term, systemic failures in recognizing coercive control, the impact on children, and how societal structures like patriarchy enable such behaviors. Amber also highlights how legislative and cultural shifts can aid in better addressing coercive control. The episode concludes with a discussion on the role of media in perpetuating or challenging coercive control and offers resources for further learning and support. Listeners can receive a discount on education modules related to coercive control offered through ECCUSA. Listen to the full episode for a discount code and where to find links to the trainings.

When "Comadres" Become Lifelines: Rethinking Domestic Violence Outreach for Hispanic Survivors

Mon, 17 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0600

When Hispanic survivors of intimate partner violence seek help, they face a gauntlet of unique cultural barriers that can make safety seem impossible. From family members who prioritize appearances over protection to faith leaders who frame abuse as a spiritual test, the path to safety is fraught with roadblocks that extend far beyond language differences alone.

Teresa Gallegos, Director of Outreach and Accessibility at the Kansas Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence, brings profound insights to these challenges. Drawing from her experience as a nationally credentialed advocate, immigrant, and sibling survivor, Teresa walks us through powerful scenarios that illustrate how these cultural dynamics play out in real life. She explains why simply translating existing materials into Spanish misses the mark and how her groundbreaking "Juntos le ayudamos" (Together We Will Help Them) campaign took a fundamentally different approach.

Instead of targeting survivors directly, this innovative campaign focused on "comadres" and "compadres" – the trusted allies who serve as crucial lifelines when survivors finally decide to share their stories. Teresa reveals how her team crafted culturally-specific radio spots, billboards, WhatsApp messages, and even old-school tear-off flyers that resonated with Hispanic communities across Kansas. Most powerfully, she shares how seeing these Spanish-language resources gives survivors a profound sense of validation: "You matter enough for someone to do this."

Whether you're a service provider looking to better reach Hispanic communities or someone who might one day be that trusted "comadre" for a survivor, this conversation offers concrete strategies and commitment statements that can make all the difference. Join us to learn how small actions – from exploring your local grocery store's community board to implementing language access policies – can create pathways to safety for Hispanic survivors in your community.

Why aren't we talking about what's happening to Black women?

Mon, 03 Nov 2025 00:00:00 -0600

Black women are six times more likely to be murdered by intimate partners than white women. Let that sink in.

Dr. Miltonette Craig pulls back the curtain on this hidden crisis in our powerful conversation about intimate partner violence and media representation. As an assistant professor at Sam Houston State University and research coordinator for the Crime Victims Institute, Dr. Craig brings both academic rigor and genuine compassion to this critical discussion.

The statistics are staggering – approximately 43% of Black women report experiencing intimate partner violence compared to 30% of white women. But statistics only tell part of the story. Dr. Craig expertly unpacks the complex sociocultural factors creating this disparity: economic barriers that trap women in abusive relationships, the "loyalty trap" where Black women hesitate to report abuse for fear of contributing to mass incarceration, and deep-seated mistrust of law enforcement that discourages seeking help.

Perhaps most troubling is how media coverage perpetuates these problems. Through her groundbreaking research, Dr. Craig reveals how news stories about Black female victims often lack context, resources, and the critical analysis needed to understand this epidemic. We discuss a particularly disturbing case where two Black women were murdered by their husbands during conjugal visits at the same prison facility within months of each other – yet media coverage remained superficial and disconnected from the larger pattern of violence.

This episode isn't just about identifying problems – Dr. Craig offers concrete solutions for journalists, newsrooms, and media consumers. From including crisis resources in every domestic violence story to diversifying newsroom staff, these actionable steps could literally save lives.

Whether you work in media, advocacy, or simply care about creating a more just society, this conversation will transform how you understand intimate partner violence and the power of representation. Listen now, and join us in demanding better for Black women and all survivors of domestic violence.

The Invisible Epidemic: How Racism and COVID Changed Domestic Violence

Mon, 20 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0500

From the moment Dr. Carolyn West speaks, her passion for protecting Black women from intimate partner violence resonates with unmistakable urgency. As a professor of clinical psychology with over three decades dedicated to researching gender-based violence in marginalized communities, she brings profound insights into what she calls a "triple pandemic" that devastated Black women during 2020: COVID-19, domestic violence, and racial terrorism.

The statistics Dr. West shares are sobering: approximately 1,820 Black women murdered in a single year—four to five deaths daily that rarely made headlines. This invisibility isn't accidental. As she explains, "Domestic violence thrives on silence, secrecy, and shame," particularly when systems designed to protect women fail those at society's intersections.

Dr. West's Technical Assistance Guidance Series (TAGS) emerged from this crisis, offering a revolutionary framework for providing culturally responsive care to Black women survivors. Moving beyond one-size-fits-all approaches, she advocates for survivor-centered services that consider the full spectrum of a woman's identity and experience. Her "web of trauma" concept brilliantly illustrates how historical trauma, institutional violence, poverty, community dangers, and harmful cultural stereotypes compound the impact of intimate partner abuse.

Particularly illuminating is her discussion of reproductive coercion and non-fatal strangulation—dangerous forms of control that disproportionately affect Black women yet often go unrecognized. For medical professionals and advocates alike, understanding these specific vulnerabilities can mean the difference between life and death, especially during high-risk periods like pregnancy.

What makes Dr. West's approach transformative is her insistence on seeing survivors' strength alongside their trauma. By rejecting both "colorblind" approaches that ignore racial disparities and deficit-focused models that overlook resilience, she offers a pathway to healing that honors the whole person.

Whether you're a service provider seeking to improve your practice or someone concerned about violence in your community, this conversation provides invaluable insights into creating safer spaces for survivors. The TAGS resources, available for free download, represent Dr. West's gift to a field desperately needing her wisdom.

Ready to learn more about culturally responsive approaches to intimate partner violence? Visit drcarolynwest.com or contact Genesis Women's Shelter and Support at 214-946-HELP (4357).

Unmasking the Predator's Playbook

Mon, 06 Oct 2025 00:00:00 -0500

What makes someone capable of killing the person they claim to love? Dr. David Adams has spent over four decades searching for answers by interviewing both survivors and perpetrators of intimate partner violence.

As co-founder of Emerge, the world's first counseling program for men who abuse women, Adams takes us behind the facade of abusive relationships to expose the calculated tactics abusers use to trap their victims. The patterns he's uncovered are chilling: 75% of men who eventually murdered their partners began with first-date sex, and the average courtship before moving in together was just three months. These aren't coincidences but deliberate strategies of control.

Adams walks us through the four phases of abusive relationships—from the deceptive "honeymoon phase" of excessive attention and romance through escalating control, normalized violence, and ultimately deadly threats. Perhaps most disturbing is his revelation that many killers found "comfort" in knowing murder was an option if their partner tried to leave.

Drawing from both professional expertise and personal tragedy (Adams lost his mother to domestic violence at age 17), this conversation offers rare insight into the minds of abusers while providing practical knowledge that could save lives. Whether you work in law enforcement, victim services, or simply want to understand the warning signs of dangerous relationships, this episode provides crucial information about how to recognize entrapment strategies before they turn deadly.

Unmasking the Narcissist

Mon, 22 Sep 2025 15:00:00 -0500

What happens when the person who claims to love you systematically dismantles your sense of reality? Tiffany Tate, CEO of The Family Place in Dallas and a survivor of narcissistic abuse, bravely shares her story for the first time on this powerful episode.

"When you don't trust the thoughts that are in your head, that is very, very hard to recover from," Tiffany reveals, describing her decade-long journey through a relationship that left her constantly questioning her sanity. Despite her professional background as a licensed clinical social worker, she found herself trapped in the fog of manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional control—proof that narcissistic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of education or awareness.

The conversation cuts through the pop culture misuse of "narcissist" to clarify crucial distinctions: narcissist as a label, narcissism as a trait, and Narcissistic Personality Disorder as a clinical diagnosis requiring specific criteria. Tiffany explains how these behaviors escalate into abuse when consistently used to strip away a partner's independence and autonomy, often invisible to outsiders as narcissists masterfully present different faces to different audiences.

For those currently navigating relationships with narcissistic partners, Tiffany offers practical strategies that saved her: the "gray rock technique" of minimal emotional response, limiting personal disclosures that could be weaponized, and anchoring through journaling to validate experiences when gaslit. She also discusses available therapeutic interventions and the complex challenges of treating narcissistic offenders, whose lack of empathy and insight make meaningful change difficult.

This episode provides not just understanding but actionable resources for survivors, from recommended books and support communities to safety planning strategies. Whether you're questioning your own relationship dynamics or supporting someone who might be experiencing narcissistic abuse, this conversation offers validation, clarity, and pathways toward healing.

The Quiet Undoing: A Warning for Women’s Rights

Mon, 08 Sep 2025 11:00:00 -0500

When asked whether they'd rather be alone in the woods with a bear or a man, most women choose the bear - a startling reflection of how women perceive safety in modern America. Genesis CEO Jan Langbein joins host Maria MacMullin to explore this phenomenon and discuss the evolution of women's rights and domestic violence services as Genesis approaches its 40th anniversary.

We open season 5 of Genesis The Podcast reflecting upon how far women's rights have come—and how fragile those gains remain. Within the lifetime of Jan Langbein, married women couldn't open bank accounts, take out loans, or travel internationally without a husband's permission. Marital rape wasn't recognized as a crime. Women earned just 59 cents on the dollar compared to men. The right to vote came to all women in America only relatively recently, with barriers like poll taxes deliberately designed to discourage women of color from voting well into the 1960s.

Today, new threats loom on the horizon: proposals for one vote per household (cast by the man), efforts to repeal the 19th Amendment, and laws restricting women's healthcare access and freedom of movement. Drawing parallels to Margaret Atwood's "The Handmaid's Tale," Langbein warns that rights disappear gradually—like being in a "slowly heating bathtub"—if we fail to recognize warning signs and stand together.

Despite decades of progress, Genesis currently must turn away 50 people seeking shelter daily due to lack of capacity. Langbein envisions expanding shelter services and creating a societal paradigm shift from asking "why doesn't she leave?" to "why does he abuse?" She reminds us that communities can never be safe if people aren't safe in their own homes.

Join us for this thought-provoking exploration of women's equity, domestic violence, and the power of unity. Subscribe to Genesis the Podcast and follow us on social media to continue these crucial conversations about creating a safer world for everyone.

Silenced in Eden: From Religious Cult to Personal Freedom - The Story of Jo Lloyd Johnson

Mon, 28 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500

What happens when the only community you've ever known becomes your prison? When sacred teachings become weapons of control? Jo Lloyd Johnson takes us on a raw, unflinching journey through the hidden world of religious cults and the long path toward reclaiming personal autonomy.

Growing up in what she eventually recognized as a cult environment, Jo experienced multiple layers of abuse – religious, spiritual, and sexual. Raised within a strict hierarchical structure where men held all power and women were expected to remain silent and submissive, Jo's childhood was shaped by what she calls "the umbrella of authority." Under this system, pastors claimed direct communication with God about their followers' lives, husbands controlled wives, and children had no voice at all.

The damage of purity culture forms a central thread in Jo's story. As she powerfully explains, this toxic ideology taught her that her body was dangerous, that sexuality was shameful, and that women bear responsibility for men's thoughts and actions. For Jo, who experienced sexual assault at age six within the religious commune, these teachings were particularly devastating – leaving her wondering if she was already "tainted" before she could even understand what that meant.

Jo's path to healing began with motherhood, when instinctive protection of her child sparked questions about her indoctrination. The real catalyst came when her husband was offered a position as a pastor – suddenly facing the reality of becoming what she had been "prophesied" to be, Jo realized she wanted something different for herself and her children. This awakening led her to examine her beliefs piece by piece, confront repressed memories, and ultimately forge her own path forward.

Today, Jo channels her experiences into supporting other survivors through Louder Than Silence, an organization providing community and therapy for victims of sexual violence. Her story reminds us that healing isn't about forgetting – it's about transforming anger into constructive action and finding community that celebrates authenticity rather than demanding conformity.

Listen and discover how sometimes, the most spiritual act is finding the courage to question everything you've been taught and create a new story – one where you belong not in a carefully tended garden, but in the wild, beautiful forest of your authentic self.

Healing Beyond Trauma

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500

For decades, the path to healing from domestic violence trauma was long, arduous, and often incomplete. Laura Frombach's powerful journey demonstrates why that happens and how dramatically the path to healing has changed.

Growing up with two alcoholic parents in a violent household, Laura witnessed her mother's startling transformation from a kind person to someone cruel and sadistic. Only decades later did Laura connect this personality shift to likely traumatic brain injury caused by her father's repeated abuse. This revelation came amid Laura's own struggles with alcoholism and recovery, including a devastating relapse after 16 years of sobriety and 20 years of talk therapy.

The game-changer? Discovering that trauma lives not just in our thoughts but in our bodies. "I found out that trauma doesn't just live in your mind, it lives in your nervous system. It buries itself in your muscles, your gut and even your breath," Laura explains. Through body-based healing approaches like EMDR, somatic therapy, and breath work, Laura finally accessed and processed trauma that talk therapy had only helped her name but not feel.

Joy Farrow, a retired deputy sheriff with 28 years of law enforcement experience, adds critical perspective on why this matters beyond individual healing. She explains how understanding trauma biology transforms how we respond to survivors: "For far too long we expected survivors to give clear, linear stories. But trauma scrambles the memory because it's stored in the body, not just the brain." This insight changes everything from how survivors testify to how quickly they can reclaim their lives.

What took Laura 50 years might now be possible in months or years rather than decades. This offers profound hope to anyone who feels healing is out of reach. As Laura says, "As long as you are breathing, healing is never out of reach." Whether you're a survivor, support person, or helping professional, this episode provides vital information about cutting-edge trauma recovery approaches and why the body must be enlisted in the healing process. Listen now to discover how these breakthroughs are changing lives and offering new paths to recovery.

The Algorithmic Trap: How Misogyny Weaponizes Tech

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500

The digital world has become a hunting ground where algorithms serve as silent recruiters, pulling vulnerable young men toward misogynistic ideologies at alarming speeds. This eye-opening conversation with experts Laura Frombach and Joy Farrow reveals the disturbing reality of how technology amplifies hatred against women and girls.

When researchers created a fake social media account for a 16-year-old boy, the algorithm began serving misogynistic content within just 23 minutes. This isn't coincidence – it's systematic grooming at an algorithmic level. While human predators might take months to isolate and indoctrinate victims, today's AI-powered platforms accomplish the same goal with frightening efficiency through data-backed feedback loops that constantly refine their effectiveness.

The most troubling aspect is how this online radicalization translates directly into real-world violence. We examine three chilling case studies where digital hate found deadly physical expression, including the notorious Isla Vista killings by Elliot Roger and the Parkland High School shooting. These weren't isolated incidents caused by individual pathology alone – they represent the culmination of algorithmic radicalization pathways that validate and amplify harmful ideologies.

For parents, educators and concerned citizens, addressing this crisis requires immediate action. Our experts provide practical strategies for engaging with youth about their online activities, teaching comprehensive media literacy, and effectively intervening when someone shows signs of radicalization. Most importantly, they emphasize the need to "call out the content but call in the viewer" – recognizing that many drawn to toxic content are primarily seeking connection rather than hatred itself.

The Weaponization of Kindness

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Could your kindness be putting you in danger? This eye-opening conversation with Laura Frombach and Joy Farrow reveals how predators don't actually look for weakness—they deliberately target kindness, empathy, and accommodation.

In this episode, Laura Frombach shares her powerful personal story of growing up with generational domestic violence, watching her once very kind mother transform under years of abuse and coercive control. Her journey to understanding took 50 years, ultimately revealing that domestic violence doesn't just harm the victim physically—it fundamentally alters their psychology, creating a cage they cannot escape. Laura's technological background offers a fresh lens: women's safety intuition is hardware, but society installs politeness "software" that teaches us to override our natural protective instincts.

Joy Farrow, drawing from her 28 years as a deputy sheriff, provides chilling examples of notorious predators who expertly hid behind respectable facades. From Larry Nassar to Ted Bundy, these individuals specifically targeted women who were empathetic, trusting, and unlikely to establish firm boundaries. This counterintuitive understanding challenges everything we thought we knew about victimhood.

The conversation delivers practical "software updates" for women: speaking instincts aloud, rehearsing boundary-setting like CPR, making politeness optional rather than default, and surrounding yourself with boundary-respecting women. Most importantly, they help listeners recognize "fawning"—being nice out of fear—as a trauma response that keeps women vulnerable to manipulation.

Whether you've experienced domestic violence firsthand or simply want to better protect yourself and loved ones, this conversation offers transformative insights about reclaiming your instincts and establishing boundaries without apology. Your kindness is a strength—but only when paired with clear boundaries that keep you safe.

Unmasking Parental Alienation: The Weaponization of Children in Custody Battles

Mon, 30 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500

The battleground of family court has become a dangerous landscape for survivors of domestic violence and their children. When abusers wield the controversial theory of parental alienation syndrome as a weapon, protective parents often find themselves losing custody to the very people they're trying to escape.

Ruth Guerreiro, Chief Clinical Officer of Genesis Women's Shelter & Support, pulls back the curtain on this troubling dynamic, explaining how a scientifically disputed theory from the 1980s continues to influence family court decisions with devastating consequences. We explore how protective behaviors—teaching children to recognize danger, set boundaries, and seek help—are frequently mischaracterized as attempts to "alienate" children from an abusive parent.

The stakes couldn't be higher. Research shows children exposed to domestic violence face staggering long-term risks: they're 50 times more likely to abuse substances, 74 times more likely to commit violent crimes, and six times more likely to attempt suicide. When courts fail to recognize post-separation abuse tactics—using children as informants, undermining the protective parent's authority, or manipulating children psychologically—they inadvertently become accomplices in continued trauma.

But there is hope. Ms. Guerreiro shares powerful insights about effective interventions that help children heal, including attachment therapy, trauma processing, and teaching critical thinking skills about healthy relationships. She offers practical guidance for rebuilding connection and stability, from creating family traditions to implementing consistent boundaries that counter the chaos of abuse.

This episode challenges us to reconsider how we protect our most vulnerable citizens, advocating for family courts that prioritize children's safety above all else. Whether you're a survivor navigating custody issues, a professional working in family services, or simply concerned about child welfare, you'll come away with a deeper understanding of these complex dynamics and the tools needed to make a difference.

Transforming Pain into Purpose: Using Your Story for Good

Mon, 16 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500

What happens when childhood trauma meets unwavering resilience? Katherine (Kat) Omo-Osagie's story answers this question with extraordinary power and grace.

At just six years old, Kat witnessed unimaginable violence when her father shot her mother multiple times before taking his own life. Today, she stands tall as Miss Lewisville, a contestant in the 2025 Miss Texas pageant, a college scholar on a presidential scholarship, and a passionate mentor to young children finding their own paths.

Kat takes us through her remarkable journey of healing - from the frightened child who lost her confidence in elementary school, to the middle schooler who was bullied when classmates discovered her family's experience through online searches, to the high achiever who still struggled with feeling "good enough" despite external success. With remarkable self-awareness, she articulates how trauma manifests differently throughout various life stages, creating new challenges even as she builds strength.

The turning point came through pageantry, something Kat never imagined herself doing. Winning Miss Texas Teen in 2021 with her platform "Break the Cycle of Abuse" transformed the very story she once hid from into her greatest strength. "It was a really cool full circle moment to have this story of my family that was something I used to hide from...and then suddenly bring light to it and then have all this success because of it."

Kat's philosophy, inherited from her resilient mother Stephanie Bond, that "adversity breeds success if you let it," shines through every aspect of her life. Her commitment to mentorship through Big Brothers Big Sisters reflects her desire to be for others what she needed as a child.

This conversation isn't just about surviving domestic violence—it's about transforming pain into purpose and using your story to create ripples of positive change. As Kat eloquently puts it: "I never want to waste such a horrible thing that happened. If there can be good done with it..." Her journey reminds us that our deepest wounds can become our greatest gifts to the world.

Breaking the Silence: A Rabbi's Daughter Confronts Decades of Abuse

Mon, 02 Jun 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Sara Sherbill's powerful memoir "There Was Night and There Was Morning" takes its title from the book of Genesis, establishing a profound metaphor for her life's journey from darkness to light. As the daughter of a respected rabbi who terrorized his family behind closed doors, Sarah lived a "split-screen reality" - presenting the perfect religious family image to the community while enduring horrific abuse at home.

The weight of this duality crushed Sara for decades. As the eldest of five children, she felt responsible for maintaining the facade of a wholesome religious lifestyle while privately suffering at the hands of her father. This burden of secrecy and performance dominated her childhood until she finally reached a breaking point in high school when concerns for her mother's safety led her to alert authorities.

What makes Sara's story particularly compelling is her unflinching examination of the complex relationship between religion and abuse. Her father specifically sought the rabbinate hoping it would "keep him in check," suggesting he possessed some awareness of his darker impulses. This revelation illuminates how religious structures can simultaneously provide cover for abusers while offering victims a framework for understanding their experiences. Sarah doesn't condemn religion itself but shows how it can be weaponized by those seeking control.

The redemption in Sara's story comes not through forgiveness or reconciliation with her abuser, but through finding her voice. After discovering her father's abuse had expanded beyond family to include young women in his Florida congregation, she began publishing essays about her experiences, eventually culminating in this memoir. Through writing, Sarah transformed shame into strength and silence into power, freeing herself from carrying the burden of her father's actions with the profound realization: "I was not the man who did this... I'm just his daughter."

Ready to break your own silence? Sara's journey from trauma to redemption shows how naming our pain can be the first step toward healing.

Identifying Patterns of Abuse: A Situational Awareness Approach

Mon, 19 May 2025 00:00:00 -0500

What warning signs did we all miss? In the wake of Gabby Petito's tragic murder by her fiancé Brian Laundrie, situational awareness expert Kelly Sayre joins host Maria MacMullin to fulfill Joe Petito's call to action—using his daughter's story as a learning tool to help others recognize the dangerous patterns of abuse before they turn deadly.

Kelly breaks down abusive behaviors through the lens of situational awareness, defining it as "using all your senses and intuition to notice when something is off in your environment, understanding what it means to your safety, and taking action." This framework provides listeners with practical tools to identify potentially dangerous relationships, whether in their own lives or those of loved ones.

The conversation examines specific red flags from Gabby's relationship: her tendency to take all blame during the Moab police encounter, Brian's tactics to isolate her from friends and family, his financial abuse that undermined her independence, and the controlling behaviors disguised as concern. Most importantly, Kelly emphasizes that severe domestic violence rarely begins with physical attacks—it starts with psychological manipulation that gradually escalates.

Perhaps most powerful is the discussion about intuition as a biological safety mechanism. "Intuition is not a prankster," Kelly explains. "It's simply trying to let you know something in your environment is off." Both experts encourage listeners to trust that gut feeling when something doesn't seem right in a relationship, as this instinct exists to preserve our safety.

Whether you're concerned about your own relationship or trying to support someone you love, this episode offers crucial insights into recognizing abuse patterns early. Trust your intuition, maintain your boundaries, and remember that knowledge is power when it comes to personal safety. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it—it could save a life.

Officer Involved Domestic Violence: The Murder of Abby Bieber

Mon, 05 May 2025 00:00:00 -0500

What happens when your abuser carries a badge and a gun? For victims of officer-involved domestic violence, the journey to safety becomes a dangerous maze with few exits.

Bruce Bieber joins us with the heartbreaking story of his daughter Abby – a rising star deputy sheriff who was murdered by her intimate partner, himself a detective in the same sheriff's office. This wasn't a random tragedy but the culmination of systemic failure, as her killer had previously been reported for domestic violence years earlier, only to have the incident swept under the rug.

Through tears and determination, Bruce reveals how his quest for answers uncovered layers of institutional protection that prioritized shielding officers over protecting victims. When he discovered that approximately 40% of police families experience domestic abuse – potentially hundreds of thousands of households – he transformed his grief into purpose.

The parallels between Abby's case and countless others expose a chilling pattern: documentation disappears, investigations vanish, and perpetrators not only remain employed but often advance in their careers. Questions about the failure of fellow officers to intervene when Abby was killed reveal uncomfortable truths about the "blue wall of silence" that protects abusers in uniform.

Bruce is now fighting for legislation requiring Florida's law enforcement agencies to adopt protocols for handling cases when the abuser wears a badge. His urgent message resonates beyond one family's tragedy: if we immediately act when officers commit robbery or deal drugs, why do we still treat domestic violence as a private matter rather than the crime it is?

Share this powerful episode with someone who needs to hear it, and join us in breaking the silence around officer-involved domestic violence.

Stealthing: One Survivor's Story

Mon, 21 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0500

When Lynn Stroud was 20 years old, her boyfriend deliberately violated their agreed-upon method of contraception following a birth control failure. His casual dismissal – claiming he "forgot" and was "drunk" – masked a calculated attempt to trap her through pregnancy. What followed was a harrowing journey through reproductive coercion, a form of intimate partner violence that remains largely invisible despite affecting a quarter of domestic violence survivors.

Lynn's powerful testimony takes us through the red flags she missed, the isolation she felt when facing an unwanted pregnancy while her partner pressured her toward marriage, and the trauma of seeking care without support. Her boyfriend's refusal to help – financially, emotionally, or logistically – underscores the complex dynamics of reproductive coercion. This wasn't merely about pregnancy; it was about control, power, and the systematic dismantling of her autonomy. The relationship later escalated into stalking, intimidation, and further abuse that continued for years.

Today, Lynn channels her painful experiences into education and advocacy. She helps survivors recognize the warning signs of reproductive coercion: pressure and guilt around pregnancy decisions, unreasonable excuses to avoid contraception, and threats related to reproductive choices. While legal protections remain woefully inadequate – only four U.S. states have specific laws addressing even one form of reproductive coercion (stealthing) – Lynn's advocacy points toward a future where survivors have both voice and recourse. Her message resonates powerfully in our current climate, where reproductive rights face significant challenges and the conversation around consent continues to evolve. By sharing her story, Lynn offers both validation for survivors and a blueprint for change in how we understand, discuss, and address this hidden form of abuse.

We Are The Evidence: Finding Your Way After Sexual Assault

Mon, 07 Apr 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Navigating the aftermath of sexual assault often leaves survivors feeling adrift without a comprehensive roadmap. Cheyenne Wilson transformed her own traumatic experience into a powerful resource that builds bridges over these information gaps. Her book, "We Are the Evidence: A Handbook for Finding Your Way After Sexual Assault," provides the comprehensive guide she desperately sought but couldn't find during her own healing journey.

Wilson masterfully unpacks the critical role language plays in survivors' experiences. She explains how definitions have evolved from narrow constructs that excluded many victims to more inclusive terminology that validates diverse experiences. When survivors question whether their experiences "count" if they didn't fight back or say no, these clarifications become lifelines. The distinction between advocacy language and legal definitions helps survivors navigate both healing and justice pathways with greater confidence.

The episode illuminates the vital differences between community advocates (who maintain confidentiality and focus on survivor wellbeing) and victim witness advocates (who work with prosecution). For women of color and indigenous women, additional cultural and historical barriers make accessing support even more challenging. Wilson compassionately addresses these complexities while highlighting specialized resources like the National Organization of Sisters of Color Ending Sexual Assault.

What makes Wilson's approach revolutionary is its trauma-informed methodology. She integrates survivor stories for validation, builds in mindful check-ins for processing, and structures the handbook to be accessed in any order based on individual needs. This acknowledgment that healing isn't linear empowers survivors to engage with difficult information on their terms. Whether documenting assault evidence, understanding reporting options, or exploring alternatives like restorative justice, Wilson ensures readers maintain agency throughout.

Join us for this essential conversation about creating pathways to healing that honor survivors' experiences and needs. Whether you're supporting someone who's experienced sexual assault or seeking resources for yourself, this episode offers concrete tools, validation, and hope for the journey ahead.

When Silence Isn't an Option: Communicating Through Personal Trauma and Adversity

Mon, 24 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0500

Melissa Flynn, APR, MBA, brings nearly three decades of PR and marketing expertise to this powerful conversation about finding your voice during life's most challenging moments. What begins as a discussion about traditional crisis communication for organizations transforms into an empowering exploration of how these same principles can help women navigate personal crises with confidence and clarity.

Drawing from their shared professional experience, Melissa and host Maria MacMullin explore how communication strategies used in high-pressure corporate settings can be adapted for women navigating the challenges of discussing domestic violence, sexual assault, or everyday discrimination. For these and other adverse situations, Melissa offers a remarkably practical framework: in urgent situations, focus solely on stating the facts and expressing what you need. For situations with more preparation time, organize your thoughts around the facts first, then provide context before sharing your full story.

The conversation takes a personal turn when Melissa shares her own experience of being mistaken for an assistant in a business meeting despite being the leader of the presentation. These everyday indignities contribute to what the speakers identify as the broader crisis facing women – the systematic undermining of women's voices in personal and professional settings.

What makes this episode truly valuable is its emphasis on practical application. Melissa walks through specific examples of how to respond when someone interrupts you, talks over you, or disrespects you. The key? Practice neutral, fact-based communication before you're in a crisis, focus on what you can control, and recognize that finding your voice is a lifelong journey of small, consistent acts of self-advocacy.

Whether you're navigating workplace discrimination, courtroom testimony, or difficult conversations with a partner, this episode provides concrete tools to help you communicate effectively even in emotionally charged situations. Because everyone has a voice – and everyone deserves to be heard.

Soaring to Success: The Extraordinary Life of Lola Reid Allin

Mon, 10 Mar 2025 00:00:00 -0500

In honor of Women's History Month this episode features the extraordinary journey of Lola Reid Allin from surviving domestic violence to becoming a groundbreaking female aviator with over 6,000 flight hours and numerous historical firsts in aviation. Lola shares how flying became both her passion and her path to freedom from an abusive marriage.
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When Lola Reid Allin's husband suggested they take flying lessons together, she never imagined aviation would become both her passion and her escape route from domestic abuse. This powerful conversation traces her remarkable journey from controlled spouse to groundbreaking female pilot—accumulating over 6,000 flight hours and becoming the first woman to hold numerous prestigious positions in aviation during an era when women were actively discouraged from such pursuits.

With unflinching honesty, Lola shares the reality of recognizing abuse patterns and finding the strength to leave. The tipping point? Her husband calling her flight instructors to announce her pilot certification before she could share her own accomplishment—a seemingly small but profoundly controlling action that crystalized her decision.

Beyond her aviation achievements, Lola reveals her fascinating second chapter living in Mexico as a scuba dive master and immersing herself in Maya communities across Belize and Mexico. Her anthropological adventures living with indigenous families showcase her boundless curiosity and courage.

Most striking is Lola's revelation about writing her memoir "Highway to the Sky" after discovering in 2014 that despite progress, only about 5% of commercial pilots today are women—barely higher than during her active flying years. Her story illuminates how breaking free from controlling relationships and breaking through gender barriers require the same qualities: unwavering self-belief and the courage to venture into uncharted territory.

Healing the Healers: Fostering Resilience in Caregivers and Therapists in a World of Relentless Trauma

Mon, 10 Feb 2025 11:00:00 -0600

Ever wondered how those who help others manage their own well-being amidst the chaos? Licensed professional counselor Aubrey Richardson joins us to share her journey from researcher at Johns Hopkins University to providing care in clinical settings across Texas. She highlights her mission, focusing on helping therapists, caregivers, and healthcare professionals navigate the challenges of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and burnout, particularly as amplified by the shared trauma of the COVID-19 pandemic. Aubrey's approach emphasizes holistic healing and advocates for a balanced life in a world that often glorifies relentless hustle.

The conversation takes a thoughtful exploration into the evolving landscape for healthcare professionals in a post-pandemic world, where mental health services face soaring demand. We shine a light on the necessity for healers themselves to seek therapy, with a significant percentage doing so at some point in their careers. Aubrey and I delve into the timeless nature of the therapeutic role and the profound responsibility that comes with supporting others through their darkest times. We also discuss the signs that indicate someone might benefit from therapy, underscoring the importance of connection and the therapeutic alliance.

The episode takes a compassionate turn as we examine professional burnout, vicarious trauma, and their symptoms, such as chronic lateness and hypervigilance. Aubrey offers insights into the systemic changes needed to address these issues, stressing that self-care alone cannot suffice. The conversation concludes with an empowering spotlight on Genesis Women's Shelter and Support, highlighting their pivotal role in combating domestic violence. Listen in to discover strategies for supporting those on the front lines, while also fostering a culture of care and understanding within the mental health profession.

Building an Equitable Future: Empowering Youth to Shape a World of Equality for All

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0600

The episode explores the vital role of youth in achieving gender equity through empowerment and education, focusing on the GET Project led by Ariella Neckritz, Director of Youth Programs at The Representation Project. It discusses the importance of addressing systemic issues and stereotypes while fostering an inclusive dialogue that equips future leaders with necessary tools for change. Our conversation is an essential primer on the topic of equality that includes key films and curriculum that empower youth. Through the lens of influential documentaries like "Misrepresentation" and "The Mask You Live In," Arielle offers an inside look at how media representation shapes societal perceptions and the critical mission of the Representation Project, founded by Jennifer Siebel Newsom, in combating sexism with compelling narratives and educational campaigns.

Navigating the Stages of Change to Empower Domestic Violence Survivors and Service Providers

Mon, 13 Jan 2025 00:00:00 -0600

Uncover the profound journey of transformation faced by domestic violence survivors as we sit down with Ruth Guerreiro and Jordyn Lawson from Genesis Women's Shelter & Support. In this episode, we discuss how the transtheoretical model of change, a tool often used for weight loss and smoking cessation, can be a lifeline for those navigating the complexities of abuse. Discover the emotional and psychological stages survivors traverse, from the survival-focused pre-contemplation stage to the empowering action stage, and learn how understanding these stages can significantly enhance support strategies.

Ruth and Jordyn guide us through the intricate dynamics of these stages, emphasizing the non-linear path survivors often tread. By sharing relatable examples, like the challenges of adhering to a healthier diet, we illuminate the nuanced process of change that transcends typical setbacks and relapses. The discussion underscores the importance of meeting survivors where they are, recognizing that what might seem like regression could be a strategic decision for survival amidst limited and unsafe options.

This episode offers opportunities for survivors, service providers, and loved ones to both understand and apply the stages of change model to experiences of domestic violence. For those who want to learn more, the Stages of Change training can be scheduled at https://www.genesisshelter.org/get-involved/request-a-speaker/

People Helping People: The critical role of advocacy for sexual assault and domestic violence survivors

Mon, 16 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0600

Unlock the transformative power of advocacy as we sit down with Nora Mosby and Cara Jones from the Missouri Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Violence. Guided by a commitment to supporting survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence, we uncover the vital role advocates play in connecting individuals to essential resources, from medical care to public transportation. The journey of advocacy is traced back to its roots in the women’s liberation movement, highlighting its evolution into a crucial profession that addresses the isolation and trauma faced by survivors.

Together, we examine the distinct roles of community-based and systems-based advocates, each contributing uniquely to the fight against domestic and sexual violence. From grassroots efforts to structured professional networks, we discuss the importance of addressing the root causes of violence, such as oppression and inequality. Nora and Cara share their insights on culturally sensitive services and the necessity of continuous training to adapt to evolving laws and community needs. We emphasize the shared mission of empowering survivors and fostering social equality through informed advocacy.

Don’t miss our exploration of the pathways to becoming an advocate, as we share personal stories and the significant progress made since the 1970s. Learn about initiatives like the Telesane program, designed to expand access to critical care for sexual assault survivors, and discover how the Crime Victims Stabilization Act is making strides in the movement against violence. By highlighting both advancements and challenges, we celebrate the collective efforts that drive meaningful societal change, encouraging you to engage with this impactful cause.

From Grief to Growth with Edy Nathan

Mon, 02 Dec 2024 00:00:00 -0600

We welcome back Edy Nathan, a renowned therapist and grief expert, who shares her poignant journey through grief as shaped by personal experiences of profound loss. Edy opens up about the transformative impact of losing her partner to cancer in her late twenties, a pivotal event that led her to a deeper understanding of grief and its manifestations beyond the death of a loved one, including domestic violence. Her insights challenge traditional views, urging us to see grief as a non-linear process that offers the potential for growth and resilience.

Grief can shape our lives in unexpected ways, especially in the context of abusive relationships. In our conversation, we explore how such environments lead to a complex form of grief marked by the loss of self and identity. Edy sheds light on the silent struggles of survivors who often put their children's safety before their own well-being, and the resulting grief that often goes unnoticed. The discussion extends to the ways children express their grief, emphasizing the importance of finding the right language and support to facilitate healing for both adults and children trapped in silence as a coping mechanism.

This episode includes personal stories of experiences with death, dying, illness, grief, intimate partner violence, anxiety and agoraphobia that some may find troubling or triggering. Please take care of yourself while listening to this conversation.

These stories, the personal experiences of our guest Edy Nathan, are not shared or intended to stand alone or be an end in themselves. Rather, Edy uses her personal experiences as teachable moments for both herself, and generously, for all of us.

As such, this episode also includes examples of bravery in the face of adversity, the courageous spirit of a survivor who uses both her voice and her work to empower others, and the extraordinary ability of the human spirit to survive violence, confront trauma, embrace grief, and emerge from all of it resilient, though not unchanged.

Understanding and Supporting Neurodiversity in Domestic Violence Survivors

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0600

Discover the powerful ways in which neurodiversity intersects with domestic violence and learn how tailored support can make a difference. In this episode Jordyn Lawson, chief residential officer at Genesis, explores the unique challenges of neurodiversity in abusive environments. We'll uncover strategies for recognizing neurodivergent traits like developmental delays and learning issues in children and adults, emphasizing the importance of a supportive approach to care.

Together, we delve into the heart of what it means to support survivors with neurodiversity, focusing on the nuances of sensory sensitivities and the critical role of holistic care in addressing both parent and child needs. Jordyn reveals how Genesis incorporates evidence-based treatments to help survivors manage PTSD, viewing it as a form of neurodivergence that can be treated effectively. We also discuss how abusers exploit these vulnerabilities, further complicating the lives of those who are both neurodivergent and experiencing domestic violence.

By highlighting the significance of safety planning and the dangers of medical abuse, we aim to empower individuals on their journey to healing. Through personal mantras and community support, Genesis offers a lifeline to those feeling isolated and helpless. We emphasize the need for societal awareness and foster a perception shift to ensure that everyone knows they are not alone and that help is readily accessible. Join us for a conversation that promises insights, empathy, and actionable steps for fostering a supportive environment for all.

From Policy to Protection: A New Era for VAWA

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 00:00:00 -0600

Discover the transformative journey of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) as we sit down with Jan Langbein, CEO of Genesis, a leading voice in domestic violence advocacy. Jan’s firsthand experience as a senior policy advisor offers a unique perspective on the sweeping reforms introduced in the VAWA Reauthorization Act of 2022. She shares how these critical updates provide enhanced support through economic justice, housing protections, and expanded tribal jurisdiction, ensuring that survivors from all walks of life, including Native American women, immigrants, and LGBTQ+ individuals, receive the justice and protection they deserve.

The episode promises a deep dive into the political landscape surrounding women’s rights, focusing on how recent legislative changes impact survivors’ autonomy and safety. As we explore the significant hurdles faced by those seeking justice, particularly around issues like no-fault divorces and the oppressive control over victims’ rights, Jan offers insights into the ongoing advocacy necessary to combat these challenges. We also shed light on the importance of trauma-informed approaches and specialized training, crucial in effectively addressing and prosecuting crimes against women.

Join us as we recount Jan's inspiring experiences in Washington DC, celebrating the 30th anniversary of VAWA. From attending high-profile seminars to standing on stage with President Biden, her journey highlights the relentless efforts required to foster change. The episode concludes with a focus on the impactful work of Genesis Women's Shelter, a beacon of hope and support for those affected by domestic violence. Listen to the entire episode for dates of upcoming events and a sneak peek at our celebrity guest for the 2025 Genesis Annual Luncheon.

Revolutionizing Domestic Violence Prevention: The Role of High-Risk Teams

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Detective Brandon Wootan joins us to uncover the transformative impact of Domestic Violence High-Risk Teams in preventing intimate partner homicides. Drawing from his extensive law enforcement background, Detective Wootan shares the approach that has dramatically reduced fatalities in his jurisdiction, where a staggering 40% of homicides are linked to domestic violence. Learn how these multidisciplinary teams bridge the gap between law enforcement, prosecutors, and service providers, creating a united front against domestic violence and prioritizing long-term support for survivors, especially within the Latinx community.

From this discussion listeners will grasp the core components of these high-risk teams—early identification, improved offender monitoring, and a collaborative response—that make them a powerful force in combating domestic violence. Drawing from the groundbreaking work of experts like Dr. Jacquelyn Campbell and the pioneering efforts of the Geiger Institute, we discover how evidence-based risk assessments play a pivotal role in identifying potentially lethal situations. You will also learn about the seamless collaboration that has not only revolutionized the judicial process but also provided a lifeline for at-risk individuals.

We also discuss Light the Way Consulting, a project inspired by Detective Wootan's personal experiences that is dedicated to helping agencies nationwide establish their own high-risk teams. We explore how this initiative aims to foster societal change by reshaping how domestic violence is perceived and handled and paves the way for safer communities and a more supportive environment for survivors.

The Link Between Sexual Harassment & Patriarchal Social Conditioning

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Join us for a compelling conversation with Professor Erin Kelley as we dissect the intricate ties between patriarchy and violence against women, inspired by her latest book, "Law, Literature, and Violence Against Women." You'll gain profound insights into how societal norms and gender biases are deeply embedded in various aspects of life, perpetuating gender-based violence. Professor Kelley's unique blend of real-life accounts and literary examples illuminates the systemic roots of sexual harassment, challenging us to rethink the structures that uphold male dominance.

Ever wondered how perpetrators target their victims in hierarchical workplaces like law firms? This episode exposes the vulnerabilities—such as low self-esteem, youth, and cultural factors—that predators exploit to maintain control. We break down the grueling process victims face when seeking legal recourse, discussing why the fear of lawsuits often doesn't translate into meaningful reform. With an in-depth analysis of DARVO tactics and institutional betrayal, we uncover the obstacles that further complicate the pursuit of justice for those who have suffered abuse.

Understanding the psychological impacts of harassment is crucial. We explore the often-misunderstood freeze response and how it influences reactions to violence, sometimes leading to victim-blaming. This episode is a call to action—join us in the fight for greater equity and support for those affected by domestic violence and workplace harassment.

Unmasking Misogyny in Family Courts: The Call for Transformative Change

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Can the family court system be a perpetuator of misogyny? Join us as we uncover the profound influence of patriarchal social conditioning on this vital institution. We welcome Dr. Christine Cocchiola and Amy Polacko, authors of "Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld," who share their compelling expertise and personal experiences. They reveal how women are often unfairly painted as problematic parents in cases involving coercive control and domestic abuse, and we underscore the pressing need for systemic change to protect victims and their children.

Through gripping narratives from survivors like Michelle, Lucy, and Charlotte, we highlight the systemic failures of family courts and the dire consequences faced by women striving to protect their children from abuse. We detail the complicated nature of the family court system, the lack of constitutional protections, and judicial immunity that often leaves victims vulnerable. Our discussion emphasizes the critical need for educating and empowering women, drawing on insights from journalism, coaching, and social work backgrounds.

Finally, we explore the urgent call for a grassroots movement to reform the family court system. Contributions from experts like Dr. Ramani Durvasula and Tina Swithin stress the importance of public accountability, support for victims, and a unified effort among advocacy groups. We also celebrate community resources like Genesis Women's Shelter & Support, which offer crucial pathways for women to escape abusive situations. This episode serves as a powerful call to action for equity and justice in family courts.

Unveiling Domestic Violence: Breaking Myths and Empowering Survivors with Leslie Morgan Steiner

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 00:00:00 -0500

In our season four premiere of Genesis The Podcast, we welcome New York Times bestselling author Leslie Morgan Steiner, who takes us on a deeply personal journey of understanding domestic violence. Leslie shares insights from her transformative 2012 TED Talk, debunking the myths and stereotypes that often surround victims of abuse. She reveals that abuse can affect anyone, regardless of their demographic, and stresses the importance of breaking down these harmful misconceptions to prevent victim-blaming.

Leslie’s compelling narrative continues as she recounts her own experience in an abusive relationship, illustrating how abusers can seem wonderful at times, making it incredibly challenging for victims to leave. She discusses the crucial role of research and supportive friendships in overcoming denial and ultimately making the difficult decision to escape for her safety. Leslie also touches on the significant impact of talking openly about abuse with children, stressing that they are much more resilient and perceptive than we often give them credit for. This conversation aims to shatter the silence that perpetuates cycles of violence and to offer hope and guidance for those in similar situations.

Championing Change: Reflections on 3 Seasons of Genesis The Podcast

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500

In this final episode of season 3, Maria MacMullin and Genesis CEO Jan Langbein take you on a reflective journey through the most impactful moments from the past three seasons of Genesis the Podcast. Special highlights include transformative insights from renowned expert Lundy Bancroft, whose work has been pivotal in reshaping how we view abuser accountability and support for survivors.

This episode doesn't shy away from the tough issues. We explore the devastating impact of non-physical forms of abuse and the lethal risks posed by firearms in abusive relationships. Hear compelling stories from survivors like Stephanie Bond, who bravely shares her struggles and triumphs in seeking legal protection. Learn why recent Supreme Court decisions offer hope but also underscore the ongoing need for vigilant advocacy and legal reforms. We also delve deeper into the psychological barriers victims face and why love and abuse can tragically coexist, drawing on Rachel Louise Snyder’s thoughtful perspectives.

Finally, we celebrate the milestones and memorable guests that have shaped our journey since launching the podcast in September 2021. Reflect on the wisdom of advocates like Leslie Morgan Steiner who remind us that survivors are their own best experts. With a look towards the future, we discuss the importance of continued education, community support, and effective safety planning. This episode is a powerful call to action, urging all of us to support and stand with survivors in the fight against domestic violence. Don't miss this poignant and empowering conversation as we wrap up season three and lay the groundwork for what's to come.

Empowering Change: Sheerin Gryloo's Journey of Advocacy and Resilience

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Sheerin Gryloo's journey unfolds as a testament to resilience and advocacy. A first-generation Iranian American, Sheerin shares her family's immigration experience and the challenges they overcame in the United States. Her narrative is deeply rooted in cultural pride, shaped by celebrations like the Persian New Year, while also acknowledging the sacrifices her parents made following the Iranian Revolution.

Central to Sheerin's story is her advocacy for women's rights and systemic change. She bravely discusses her personal experiences with sexual violence and the Title IX process, shedding light on the complexities survivors face in seeking justice and healing. Sheerin's insights underscore the urgent need for better education on sexual violence and comprehensive support systems for survivors.

The episode highlights Sheerin's initiatives, including the founding of the Women's Advocacy Initiative, aimed at empowering survivors and driving systemic reform, and her co-founding of Untitled Nine focused on improving metrics and prevention strategies for sexual violence in educational settings. Sheerin emphasizes the critical importance of supporting organizations like Genesis, which provide vital services for domestic violence survivors.

Sheerin’s journey offers a poignant exploration of cultural identity and the imperative for societal change. Her story not only informs but also inspires listeners to take action, supporting initiatives that champion survivors' rights and contribute to a more just and equitable world.

Transforming Language and Support Systems in Gender-Based Violence: Insights from the 2024 Conference on Crimes Against Women

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 00:00:00 -0500

What if the language we use could change the way we understand and address gender-based violence? Join us for a compelling conversation with Kelsey McKay, a former prosecutor and expert in gender-based violence, recorded onsite at the 2024 Conference on Crimes Against Women in Dallas, Texas. We explore the profound impact of terms like "victim" and "survivor," the importance of personal choice in identification, and the dehumanizing effects of legal jargon. Discover how evolving terminology within law enforcement and the criminal legal system can better recognize non-physical forms of abuse, such as coercive control, and why it's crucial to enhance empathy and support for victims.

Dive into the heart-wrenching complexities of victim credibility in legal contexts involving sexual violence and substance use. Expert insights from Russell Strand illuminate how substance use should never undermine a victim's credibility and highlight the necessity of understanding trauma responses. We critique systemic biases that scrutinize victims more harshly than defendants and emphasize the need to shift perspectives to support victims more effectively. Learn about the significant implications of non-fatal strangulation in abuse cases, as informed by research, and why accurate documentation and better training for law enforcement are paramount.

Finally, we tackle the transformative power of language in the criminal legal system with a focus on initiatives like "Uncooperative," which aims to shift systemic responses through survivor stories. Reflect on the societal burdens placed on victims and the importance of believing them as the first step toward ending domestic violence. This episode is a must-listen for anyone committed to improving the support systems and legal frameworks that protect and empower those affected by gender-based violence.

Transforming Perceptions: The Power of Language in Addressing Gender-Based Violence

Mon, 17 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Can changing just a few words really alter our entire perception of gender-based violence? In this compelling conversation with social scientist Erica Olson, we uncover the profound impact of language on how we understand and address this pervasive issue. We explore the encoding and decoding process of communication, highlighting the importance of precise word choice in shaping public opinion, policy, and the identities of those affected. We analyze the implications of terms like "victim" versus "survivor" and their influence on both societal attitudes and legal frameworks. Erica brings invaluable insight into why person-first language matters and how it can transform the way we support and advocate for people facing intimate partner violence.

Our discussion takes a deep dive into the sinister world of intimate partner terrorism, where abusers manipulate language and gestures to exert control and instill fear. Erica shares poignant examples that reveal how these subtle forms of communication often fly under the radar, misunderstood by those outside the abusive relationship. We examine societal narratives that inadvertently shift focus away from perpetrators, emphasizing the urgent need to adopt active language that holds abusers accountable. By reframing our conversations around violence and sexual assault, we aim to foster better understanding and mobilize communities in the fight against gender-based violence. This episode is a must-listen for anyone committed to making a difference through the power of words.

Confronting the Deadly Intersection of Domestic Abuse and Gun Violence

Mon, 03 Jun 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Immerse yourself in a critical discussion with Attorney Jennifer Becker of the Battered Women's Justice Project as we confront the dire consequences of gun violence within intimate partner relationships. Imagine the threat looming over many; the presence of a gun amplifying the risk of domestic homicide by fivefold. Together, we dissect the United States vs. Rahimi case, examining its potential impact on Second Amendment rights and the protective order process, while considering the broad repercussions for survivor safety and public policy.

Amid the complexities of domestic violence legislation, we unravel the true efficacy of protective orders. Jennifer Becker illuminates their pivotal role in providing a lifeline for survivors, from shielding their physical safety to upholding their rights to financial independence and safe visitation. She also pulls back the curtain on the critical yet often unseen work of community collaboration, emphasizing the significance of local law enforcement, policymakers, and advocates working in concert to translate protective laws into protective practices that can save lives.

As we wrap up, our focus shifts to the strategies aimed at curtailing gender-based gun violence, underscoring the importance of integrating criminal, civil, federal, and firearm purchase prevention measures. The conversation zeroes in on the meticulous task of maintaining accurate court records, vital for effective federal background checks, and the ongoing efforts to seal the cracks through which domestic abusers might access firearms. By fostering robust partnerships and rigorous policy enforcement, we underscore our collective call to action to enhance community safety and strengthen support for those most vulnerable to domestic abuse.

Courage in the Shadow of Abuse: Courtney Gilmartin's Fight for Family Court Reform and Survivor Support

Mon, 06 May 2024 00:00:00 -0500

When Courtney Gilmartin walks into a room, her strength and resilience are palpable. Yet her journey to becoming the founder of New Jersey Protective Moms is one woven with the dark threads of domestic violence and the battle scars of a high-conflict divorce. Courtney's story, shared in this episode, is full of raw emotion and legal complexities, yet shines a light on the unsettling truth of emotional abuse and the desperate need for a family court system that understands trauma and puts child safety at the forefront.

Courtney's experience with intimate partner violence is a harrowing reminder of how stalking, manipulation, and coercive control can maintain an abuser's grip without leaving a visible mark. What's more, even after the divorce, the specter of her ex-husband loomed large, twisting the family court system to his advantage and dragging their children into the fray. Courtney's story doesn't just expose the emotional and financial desolation faced by survivors; it's a call to action for recognizing the signs of abuse and the imperative of legal reform to protect victims from being re-traumatized by the very system that should defend them.

Beyond sharing her personal narrative, Courtney's advocacy work offers a beacon of hope for legislative change. The recent triumph of having coercive control recognized in New Jersey law is just the beginning. Her leadership in the Divorce Coalition's legislative team and her hand in pushing Caden's Law forward demonstrate a path to uniform protection for abuse survivors. Through the empowering resources of New Jersey Protective Moms and her own relentless spirit of support, Courtney Gilmartin isn't just a survivor—she's a warrior for change, providing an arsenal of knowledge and support for those navigating the aftermath of domestic violence.

At the Intersection of Addiction and Violence: The complex connection between substance use and abuse

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Courtney Messina, Director of Clinical Services for Greenhouse Inpatient & Outpatient Treatment Centers in Grand Prairie and Arlington, Texas, and a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor and Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor, joins us to explore the invisible threads that bind the scourge of addiction to the turmoil of domestic violence. In this episode, we peel back the layers of these intertwined crises through the powerful narrative of "Amy," whose experience with substance dependency and an abusive relationship illuminates the harsh realities faced by victims of domestic violence. We navigate the often misunderstood concept of addiction as a complex brain disorder, dismantling the myth that it is a choice, and delve into how this malady exacerbates the already volatile nature of abusive relationships.

Ms. Messina, who has worked in the field of behavioral health since 2014, articulates the nuanced approach required to address the consequences of these co-occurring disorders. Our dialogue traverses from the statistical to the personal, examining the multifaceted forms of abuse and the vicious cycle it creates, often leading victims to seek solace in substances. This episode offers an insightful journey into the heart of these social issues and the transformative power of empathy and targeted support.

Unraveling Gender Bias in Society, Law, and Media

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0500

Discover the insidious nature of gender bias with Dr. Erin Kelley, as we navigate the intricacies of its impact on society and the legal system. Dr. Kelley, a Professor at Dallas College with a keen eye on the intersection of literature and law, joins us to unravel the threads of cultural stereotypes and prejudices that contribute to systemic gender inequality and violence. From the wage gap to underrepresentation in leadership and STEM, we scrutinize the societal norms that have historically placed women at a disadvantage and continue to do so today.

Venture into the legal labyrinth of consent and sexual violence prosecution as we confront the deep-rooted rape myths that still pervade our courts. The episode unearths the chilling realities survivors face—from the hurdles in reporting to the daunting journey of prosecution. We unpack the "he said, she said" narrative that often skews the scales of justice and examine the detrimental effects of misconceptions about a victim's behavior on the outcome of rape cases. By highlighting the trauma responses, such as the 'freeze' reaction, our discussion advocates for a legal system that better understands the complexities of consent and trauma.

Lastly, we turn our focus to the powerful role of media and literature in shaping public perception and the urgent need for authentic representation. Dr. Kelley spotlights crucial works like "13 Reasons Why" and Joyce Carol Oates' "Rape: A Love Story," which push boundaries by addressing the freeze response and victim-blaming. By engaging with this episode, you become part of the movement to end the cycle of violence and bias against women, one story and one verdict at a time.

Overcoming Adversity: Twyla M. Marks on Resilience, Forgiveness, and the Fight for Family

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 00:00:00 -0500

When life throws you curveballs, how do you catch them—or better yet, throw them right back? Today's guest, Twyla M. Marks, gives us a masterclass in resilience and forgiveness that's as powerful as it is poignant. Her journey from a childhood steeped in abandonment to overcoming the shackles of an abusive marriage is nothing short of heroic. Twyla's candid sharing of her early life experiences, including teenage rebellion and a pregnancy that would change her life's trajectory, offers an intimate glimpse into the struggles that have shaped her indomitable spirit.

Twyla's story doesn't stop at personal hardship; it's also about navigating the treacherous waters of post-separation abuse and how she fought to maintain a sense of normalcy for her children amid stalking and intimidation. Blended family dynamics, a concept many can relate to, is another layer of Twyla's life that she fearlessly delves into. Her resolve to ensure the safety and stability of her family in the face of daunting legal battles is both a testament to her character and a beacon of hope for listeners facing similar trials.

In a powerful discourse on the necessity of forgiveness, Twyla sheds light on the profound shifts that can occur within a family when reconciliation and cooperation replace bitterness and conflict. She also emphasizes how crucial maintaining a strong parent-child bond is during tumultuous times. Her advocacy serves as a reminder that while the journey to healing is arduous, the support and resources to navigate this path are accessible, and solidarity in the fight against domestic abuse is paramount. Join us as we share Twyla M. Marks' remarkable story of survival, forgiveness, and unyielding love for her family.

Breaking the Silence on Domestic Violence and Mental Health: The Stephanie Bond Story

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0600

When the unimaginable strikes, leaving scars that are both seen and unseen, how does one navigate the path to healing and advocacy? Stephanie Bond, a survivor of extreme domestic violence, steps forward to share an intimate glimpse into her life-altering experience and her commitment to empowering others. Through her eyes, you'll be offered a raw and unfiltered look into the complexities of mental health within abusive relationships and the resilience it takes to emerge from the darkness with purpose.

As Stephanie recounts the traumatic day that saw her estranged husband turn a gun on her and himself, the conversation illuminates the stark realities of firearm accessibility and law enforcement's response to those in mental health crises. The discussion will explore not only the physical pain endured but the emotional labyrinth navigated by survivors. It's a tale of survival that questions the systems in place and the broader implications of gun ownership among those struggling with mental illness, especially in circumstances marred by domestic violence.

Beyond the retelling of Stephanie's personal journey, the episode also casts a light on the often-overlooked facets of abuse, such as financial control and societal judgment. Listeners will be motivated to recognize the signs of abuse and the critical importance of support networks in offering sanctuary to those in crisis. As we delve into the collective effort required to support women and children escaping violence and the role every one of us can play, listeners will be reminded of the strength found in shared stories and the collective call to action they inspire.

Barbie! America's Iconic Good Girl and the Search for A New Narrative for Women

Mon, 12 Feb 2024 00:00:00 -0600

The blockbuster film "Barbie" is a journey through fantasy to our flawed reality revealing profound truths about gender discrimination and societal norms. In this episode, our guests Jan Langbein, Bianca Davis, and Amy Jones uncover the layers of patriarchy skilfully woven into the narrative of the 2023 film. We traverse from Barbie's idyllic origins to her encounter with the harsh realities faced by women, discussing how these fictional events mirror the gender biases that permeate our professional and personal lives.

Our conversation isn't just about the silver screen. We shed light on the shadowy corners of gender inequality, addressing how ambition in women is often misconstrued while their male counterparts are praised for similar traits. The episode navigates through Barbie's confrontation with corporate giants, reflecting the pressures to conform, and extends the discussion to real situations faced by survivors of domestic violence, human trafficking, and sexual assault. We mingle our expertise with experiences, unpacking how systemic issues fortify traditional gender roles and the importance of sisterhood in overcoming them.

The dialogue takes a turn as we dissect the complexities of the 'Tradwife' movement, the objectification of women, and the crucial fight for survivors of sexual assault within the legal labyrinth. Our guests bring a wealth of knowledge and personal insights to this episode, offering a powerful message that leaves you not only enlightened but empowered to be part of the change for gender equality.

Policing with Compassion: Responses to Domestic Violence and Child Abuse from Survivor, Mark Wynn

Mon, 29 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0600

Mark Wynn, former lieutenant and survivor of domestic violence, recounts his transformative journey from enduring the grip of abuse to becoming a beacon for others. Our conversation offers an unfiltered glimpse into the lasting effects of childhood trauma, the critical role of law enforcement training in handling domestic violence, and the pivotal support systems that uplift survivors. Mark's narrative is a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit.

Navigating the tangled web of child abuse, policing, and Child Protective Services, this episode uncovers the strategies offenders use to sow fear and the challenges children face in trusting the police, especially within diverse communities. We discuss the delicate art of interviewing young victims and the importance of comprehensive police reports, shedding light on coordination between law enforcement and CPS. The discussion extends to the fraught landscape of family courts, where the details officers capture can tip the scales in custody and protective order cases, and the introduction of risk assessment tools that aim to safeguard those most vulnerable during times of upheaval.

As we conclude, our focus shifts to the systemic barriers victims encounter, from economic hurdles in civil courts to a shortage of expert witnesses. Mark emphasizes how the personal experiences of law enforcement officers with domestic violence can profoundly shape their response to incidents. We advocate for community support in providing transitional housing and resources for Spanish-speaking victims, uniting in the belief that healing and hope for survivors begin with us all. Join us in this profound exploration that not only seeks to understand the intricacies of domestic violence but also aims to strengthen the very fabric of support for those impacted.

From Memory to Memoir: Rachel Louise Snyder tells the story of her life

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 06:00:00 -0600

Author, professor, and New York Times op-ed contributing writer, Rachel Louise Snyder, joins us for a raw and honest discussion about child abuse, domestic violence, and grief as laid bare in her gripping memoir, "Women We Buried, Women We Burned." To quote the author, "Cancer took my mother. But religion would take my life." The odyssey begins as an 8-year-old Rachel learns her mother has died. From there, her childhood unravels, and the subsequent decades include chaotic experiences of upheaval, abuse, and forced religiosity all leading to both the author's undoing and her ultimate journey of self-discovery.

In this candid look at the author's own experiences, we explore both the darkness that abuse casts, and the light of understanding and transformation that can emerge from such depths. Our conversation weaves through the entanglement of love and abuse, reflecting on the complexities that many survivors face — the dichotomy of endearing and harmful qualities within relationships that often go unseen by the public eye. Rachel also takes us through the harrowing systemic challenges that victims face, from law enforcement's response to the judicial system's handling of their plight.

Rachel's story is not just one of sorrow but also of evolution and rediscovery. From her early days as a rebellious teen to her transformative experiences in the cultural melting pot of Cambodia, her journey is a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. As an advocate for domestic violence survivors, she illuminates the importance of community support and the essential services provided by organizations like Genesis Women's Shelter & Support. By telling the story of her life, Rachel Louise Snyder offers a dialogue where hope persists amidst adversity, and where the sharing of one's narrative can be both an act of courage and a beacon for change.

Unveiling the Complexities of Self-Defense Claims in Domestic Violence Cases

Mon, 18 Dec 2023 00:00:00 -0600

This episode offers a riveting journey into the thorny issue of self-defense claims made by victims of domestic violence. Listeners will leave with a fresh perspective and deeper understanding of the complexities involved in these cases. Kelsey McKay, a seasoned attorney and the founder of Respond Against Violence, brings her expertise to our discussion. As a former prosecutor, she shares invaluable insights on how the criminal legal system responds to self-defense claims, with often visible injury being the sole determining factor in assault cases.

We dissect the challenging issue of self-defense laws, particularly their failure to account for the fear and isolation that survivors of abuse experience. A chilling real-life case illustrates how systemic biases and lack of proper training can lead to grave injustices, especially for women of color. We also point out the strategic methods abusers use to isolate victims from utilizing the criminal system, and the uphill battle victims face when advocating for themselves.

As we wrap up, we highlight the urgent need for change in societal understanding and language concerning self-defense laws. This is to prevent women from being incarcerated for defending themselves against their abusers, through educating investigators and prosecutors on the dynamics of abuse.

Behind the Courtroom Door: Understanding the Role of Expert Witnesses in Domestic Violence Trials

Mon, 27 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0600

Genesis Women's Shelter & Support is often called upon to provide expert witness testimony in domestic violence cases. To better understand the role of the expert witness and how they can help facilitate an understanding of domestic violence for legal teams, judges, and jurors, Ruth Guerreiro, LCSW and Genesis' Chief Clinical Officer, and Jordyn Lawson, LPC and Genesis' Chief Residential Officer, join the conversation in an episode that is both educational and enlightening.

In this episode, our guests explain how they navigate the labyrinth of legal proceedings, illuminating the cornerstones of domestic violence dynamics and the significant role the expert witness plays in providing context and education to the courtroom. They also prepare us for the complexities of this process - from the questions attorneys may pose to the delicate task of determining which testimony bears relevance. We also dive into the impacts of domestic violence on children and the disheartening reasons why victims often refrain from participating in court hearings.

We dig into the contrasting roles of fact and expert witnesses, learn how they can support victims by providing crucial insights to the court, and how their consultation can guide attorneys through the murky waters of domestic violence cases. We expose the tactics used by defendants and the strategies that can empower victims to have their voices heard in the courtroom. Lastly, we delve into how the expert testimony of our guests is used by juries, how it influences the sentencing hearing, and how it can help untangle the manipulative narratives spun by defense attorneys. Join us, as we unravel the intricacies of domestic violence cases and understand the true context and dynamics of abuse with expert insight that brings to light the importance of educating the court on the often misunderstood dynamics of domestic violence.

Redefining Masculinity: Navigating the Challenges of Raising Boys in a Toxic Society

Mon, 06 Nov 2023 00:00:00 -0600

What does it mean to raise boys in a world that faces an ongoing battle with toxic masculinity? How do societal pressures, gendered expectations, and the culture of sports affect our sons and shape their perception of manhood? This week I had the privilege of sitting down with my colleague and fellow boy mom, Jordyn Lawson, to share experiences and insights into raising boys in the 21st century.

Together we explore the challenges of toxic masculinity, delving into its manifestations in sports and personal relationships, the pressures of societal expectations, and its correlation to domestic violence. We also opened up about the realities of raising boys in a society that still clings tightly to traditional gender roles - a conversation that led us to explore the concept of toxic femininity and its far-reaching impacts. We agreed that parents have an essential role in guiding their sons, teaching them to regulate their emotions, and promoting emotional intelligence – a key element towards dismantling the harmful ideologies behind toxic masculinity.

In the end, we settled on the power of education as a primary tool for countering toxic masculinity. We underlined the importance of safe spaces for boys and the need to challenge stereotypes that limit their understanding of what it means to be a man. By sharing our personal experiences and strategies, we found a fresh perspective on raising confident, empathetic, and well-rounded boys. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to raise their sons in a society that is slowly but surely redefining masculinity.

Evan Stark: Coercive Control and Its Damaging Impact on Children - An Urgent Call to Action

Mon, 23 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0500

What if the very institution meant to protect you, weaponizes and silences you instead? This disturbing question lies at the heart of our conversation with renowned Professor Emeritus, social worker, and author Evan Stark. Evan's staggering and transformative research exposes the damaging impact of coercive control on children, and how this abuse often stems from a terroristic pattern within households.

Evan elaborates on the terrifying power play in which children become pawns, mirroring the tyranny suffered by women. His research unveils the chilling reality that domestic violence provides the most prevalent context for child abuse. We navigate through the insidious control mechanisms, the resulting intimidation, and the profound long-term effects on the victims. Evan also reveals how child welfare systems and children-serving systems were forced to adapt in response to his ground-breaking findings.

Towards the end, we steer the conversation towards the crippling influence of coercive control on the legal system. Evan shares cases where children were manipulated and forced into silence, and the abuser often remained unseen by both child welfare experts and medical professionals. Yet there is hope. We highlight examples of countries - such as Scotland that are working to create secure environments for women and children around the world including naming coercive control as a crime.

Confronting Domestic Violence and Femicide in Honduras: A Deep Dive Into Grassroots Initiatives, Challenges and Opportunities

Mon, 09 Oct 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Genesis CEO Jan Langbein and Chief Clinical Officer Ruth Guerreiro recently visited Honduras to collaborate on a new domestic violence shelter in the city of Siguatepeque. They join the conversation to reveal the alarming prevalence of femicide and domestic violence in Latin America, the urgent need for communication systems that not only affirm domestic violence as illegal, but also ensure secure channels for reporting such atrocities, and the future of services for women who experience abuse.

In this episode we experience the progress of a Latin American community rallying together to combat domestic violence. You will hear the awe-inspiring story of a local police officer who, against all odds, manages to connect a young victim with a social services program, the heartening efforts of both the Mayor and First Lady of Siguatepeque who are leading the charge to raise funds for the new shelter Casa Rosa, and how Genesis is collaborating with the city to bring a robust program of safety, shelter and support to this growing community. We also explore the unique challenges of building a domestic violence agency in Latin America, from transportation and security hurdles to the potential of volunteers spearheading a transport system.

Allocutions: Where survivors find their voices

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Have you ever felt silenced? This is how many survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault feel as they traverse the criminal justice system. With Kelsey McKay, founder of Respond Against Violence and former prosecutor, we delve into the power of allocutions and how they can transform the narrative of survivors of violent crime, giving them a powerful platform to share their truth.

We navigate the labyrinth of the criminal legal system, peeling away layers to understand its complexities. Kelsey, with her rich experience and vast knowledge, guides us through this journey, talking about the importance of victim impact statements and allocutions in ensuring justice. By shifting the focus to the survivor, we explore how language can be wielded to realign the narrative around the victim, creating a more empowered and inclusive framework.

Our conversation also touches upon the role of programs like the Uncooperative website and Do No Harm campaign in uplifting survivor's voices, and how allocutions can be used to advocate for social justice. This is more than just a conversation; it’s a call to action, an invitation to change the narrative and empower survivors of violence.

Unraveling the Impact of Domestic Violence on Parent-Child Attachment

Mon, 11 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Ever wonder how domestic violence affects the emotional bonds crucial to our relationships? Join us as we broach this vital topic with Ruth Guerreiro, Chief Clinical Officer of Genesis Women's Shelter and Support. Together, we'll uncover the influence of domestic violence on the four types of attachment styles - secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized. Hear as Ruth unravels the devious tactics often employed by abusive partners to disrupt a mother's ability to form a secure attachment with her child.

Our conversation takes us into the world of abusive fathers and the harmful tactics they employ that have a potential to leave lasting scars on their children. We shed light on the damaging messages of disrespect, inequality, and aggression these fathers subtly communicate to their children, while also undermining the mother's ability to parent effectively. This exploration promises to broaden your understanding of the psychological warfare often deployed by men in domestic violence situations.

To culminate, we emphasize the power of therapy in mending the mother-child bond post-trauma and reveal the integral role that bilingual services at Genesis Women's Shelter play in supporting families impacted by domestic violence. Learn how therapies like EMDR and play therapy, bolstered by effective praise, physical proximity, and positive physical touch, can boost a child's confidence and foster a sense of secure attachment. This episode isn't simply an intellectual exercise, it's a journey into the human psyche and the resilience of the mother-child bond in the face of adversity.

From Trauma to Truth: The Pathway to Justice for Survivors of Gender-Based Violence with Dr. Judith Herman

Fri, 01 Sep 2023 00:00:00 -0500

What happens when we confront the complex aftermath of violence from domestic abuse, incest or sexual assault? We address this question with Dr. Judith Herman, a notable figure in the field of trauma studies. She opens the conversation revealing her early encounters with survivors from the 1970s and how her team developed a unique approach of gathering stories and writing books to help survivors reclaim their voices.

Venturing deeper into the labyrinth of trauma, we sift through the profound consequences of childhood abuse on mental and physical health, with a special emphasis on Dr. Herman's breakthrough work, "Trauma and Recovery". The discussion evolves as she introduces the four stages of recovery from trauma and her latest book, "Truth and Repair: How Trauma Survivors Envision Justice", offering valuable insights into safety, remembrance and mourning, and the power of envisioning an equitable future for trauma survivors.

Closing the conversation, we step beyond the legal system and explore the need for community validation for survivors of gender-based violence. We navigate the 'tripod approach' by Professor Diane Rosenfeld, Northwestern's peer educator program, and the societal pressure encapsulated in the 'Man Box'. This episode wraps up with a powerful discussion on forgiveness, rehabilitation, and the critical role of supporting survivors.

Somatic Strategies for Healing Trauma

Thu, 27 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0500

According to Linda Thai, "the role of therapy is to help you to get to know yourself and to experience a sense of dignity." Our conversation dives into therapeutic solutions that are trauma sensitive, trauma informed, and trauma driven as we explore the root causes of trauma, empowerment through somatic strategies and "me-search". Linda also guides us through a brief yet grounding orienting exercise at the end of the conversation that can be practiced anywhere and anytime.

Linda Thai describes herself as a somatic therapist and trauma therapist, free-lance educator, public speaker and storyteller, group facilitator, collaborator, infiltrator, cross-pollinator, community-builder, agent of change, former child refugee, happy human being. her expertise includes the fields of meditation, yoga, and self-enquiry, addictions and behavioral health, childhood adversity and resiliency, colonization, intergenerational refugee trauma and social justice, grief, loss and reclamation. More about Linda Thai-

INSPIRATION: For the purpose of empowered self-awareness. To liberate the joy and peace at the essence of our beings. To ignite a passion and excitement for life, to connect us back to ourselves and to each other.

LAND ACKNOWLEDGEMENT: Linda would like to acknowledge that she lives and works on the unceded lands of the Dené Athabascan people of the Middle Tanana Valley. She has been nourished by the healing forces of the Alaskan wilderness and exposed to the ancestral wisdom of the custodians of these lands. Shifting out of an extractive economic and philosophical relationship with the natural world has opened her up to living and operating in mutuality with all forms of life, including herself. Quyana, Tsenaa-‘ii, Gunalchéesh, Dog in dihn’, Háw’aa, DOIKshin, Ana masee’, Masi-cho, Anna-Basse.

Words Matter Because Survivors Matter: Evolving the language of sexual violence

Thu, 13 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Kristin Daley, a communications/development strategist specializing in sexual violence, survivor-centric crisis response, and justice system reform, and Kenny Smith, law enforcement training director and retired law enforcement professional, join the conversation to explore the language we use to discuss sexual violence and how that discourse can help or hurt individuals who experience sexual violence. Together we review the terms sexual assault, rape, survivor, victim, alleged and more to understand how these terms are used and to establish some best practices for talking about crimes of sexual violence.

Kristin Daley is the Executive Director of New Blue, a nationwide police reform incubator changing police culture through policies and practices that prioritize empathy and equity. Previously, Ms. Daley spent 16 years as Director of Development & Communications for Law Enforcement Action Partnership, police experts advocating for evidence-based reform; she now serves on LEAP’s Board of Directors. A nationally credentialed victim advocate, Ms. Daley is a longtime crisis response counselor and liaison for RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline. She also consults privately on trauma-informed best practices and communications strategy with organizations and individual survivors challenging the justice system. In 2022, Ms. Daley was appointed to the Peace Corps Sexual Assault Advisory Council, a panel of national subject matter experts in the field of sexual violence prevention and response. She is Chair of the 2023 Council.

Kenny Smith has served in several law enforcement capacities for 21 years, as a Corrections Officer, Patrolman, Patrol Supervisor, Detective, and Jail Administrator, before retiring in 2018. Mr. Smith is a certified Crime Scene Technician and a Professional Law Enforcement Instructor and served on the Board of Directors for the Arkansas Coalition Against Sexual Assault before coming to work for ACASA full-time. He began his work with ACASA in 2018 as the Law Enforcement Training Director and the state Council on Sexual Assault Response (CoSAR) Program Director. Through his work, he travels to law enforcement agencies across the state, providing free CLEST-certified training to officers on how to best respond to and investigate sexual assault cases in a victim-centered and trauma-informed manner. In addition, he also travels the state developing and overseeing CoSAR programs.

Evidence-Based Responses to Murder-Suicide and Family Violence

Thu, 22 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0500

The Georgia Commission on Family Violence (GCFV) conducts qualitative and quantitative research on domestic violence-related fatalities to prevent, intervene, and respond to family violence. In this episode, we explore the GCFV's data behind domestic violence-related murder-suicides as well as new interventions aimed to reduce and eliminate family violence such as the "FLAG" program (Firearm Lethality Alert Georgia) and "Restorative Retelling." GCFV experts Carolynn Brooks, Family Violence Fatality Review Project Coordinator and Kylee Elliott, Support for Survivors of Murder-Suicide Project Coordinator, join the conversation. This episode was recorded on location at the 2023 CCAW and discusses murder-suicide and other forms of violence.

"Don't Forget The Pets": Sheltering survivors and their pets, together

Thu, 15 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Intimate partner violence often begets abuse of animals. Very often survivors who plan to leave their abusive partners will not do so without their pets yet are unclear of the options for bringing them into shelter. Dr. Bryna Donnelly, Vice President of Pet Programs for Greater Good Charities, and Rebecca Stewart Executive Director of the Domestic Abuse Family Shelter in Southeast Mississippi help navigate the options for sheltering people and pets together and how domestic violence organizations can build and pay for a pet-friendly shelter at their location.

This episode was recorded on location at the 2023 CCAW and discusses animal abuse, cruelty to animals, domestic violence and child abuse.

Child-Centered Play Therapy

Thu, 01 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Heena Khan of Uplift Counseling Services shares the benefits and how-to's of child-centered play therapy for trauma survivors. We explore the play room experience, sand tray therapy, expressive arts and movement activities for young children, teens and young adults, and how these approaches heal trauma. Heena Khan is a LPC-S whose approach to therapy is holistic. In her own words: "I provide child-centered play therapy for children so they can learn to regulate their behaviors, express & manage their big feelings without hurting themselves or others. I’ve seen significantly positive outcomes in parents and children that struggle with cooperation and discipline. I provide families with evidenced based therapy & support that supports kids and empowers parents with confidence so they can discipline without hurting and resolve conflicts peacefully."

Sexual Grief: Grieving and healing from sexually traumatic experiences

Thu, 11 May 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Sexual grief has many dimensions and is defined by therapist and grief expert Edy Nathan as "a natural response to an unnatural sexually traumatic event or experience that makes you feel as if you are being held hostage." It is through this lens that this episode explores a wide range of aspects about sexual grief including survivor experiences of rape, sexual violence, sexual abuse, disenfranchised grief from the loss of a partner, the impact of pornography, and more. We also take an in-depth look at healing sexual grief and related trauma through self-regulation methods like breathwork, labyrinth exploration, talk therapy, and using more precise language when discussing experiences of grief. Listen to the end of the episode for information about a special event with Edy Nathan coming up in September 2023: The Inner Voyage Women’s Empowerment Cruise with specific workshops by Nathan focused on sexual grief.

Edy Nathan is an author, public speaker and licensed therapist. She is an AASECT certified sex therapist, hypnotherapist and certified EMDR practitioner with more than 20 years of experience. Edy earned degrees from New York University and Fordham University, with post-graduate training at the Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy. She practices in New York City.

Leaving an Arranged Marriage: The Kanchan Bhaskar Story

Thu, 04 May 2023 00:00:00 -0500

An arranged marriage with an awkward start explodes into abuse just weeks after its beginning. It would take two decades for Kanchan Bhaskar to untangle from the man who was a stranger that became her husband and ultimately her abuser. Ms. Bhaskar has authored the new memoir "Leaving: How I Set Myself Free from an Abusive Marriage" and joins the show to share her story. Listen to the end of the episode for an excerpt from the book read by the author.

How to Effectively Utilize and Refer Victims of Domestic Violence to Shelter Services

Thu, 20 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0500

You have likely heard the question or perhaps even asked it yourself - why doesn’t she just leave? But when a woman is in an abusive relationship her options of leaving can be challenging and often put her at higher risk for violence and possible lethality. And besides, where would she go? Many believe that a shelter is the go-to option for getting to safety and support. But that is not always the case. Today Jordyn Lawson, Chief Residential Officer at Genesis helps us address the question of how can we effectively utilize and refer victims of domestic violence to shelter services? In this episode we review the history of the shelter movement for victims of domestic violence, when shelter is the best option for a victim, and other opportunities and resources such as safety planning, legal services, advocacy and other services that might better support women escaping an abusive partner.

Coercive Control Trauma-Informed Clinician, Attorney & Coach Training

Fri, 14 Apr 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Learn about the 3-day, 12-hour training for mental health clinicians and attorneys working to support adult and child victims and survivors of coercive control offered by Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a licensed clinical social worker and intimate partner abuse advocate researching the topic of Coercive Control, including child maltreatment and trauma. Additional training options for coaches and those interested in guardian ad litem opportunities available. CE’s pending.

Compassionate Death Notification: Human-centric methods for delivering the news of loss

Thu, 13 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Death is a part of life. But how we deliver the news of loss is a complicated situation that requires compassion and skill. We spend time with Russell Strand who explains the human side of sharing devastating news with families and loved ones, and his unique training method for compassionate death notification.

Senior Special Agent (Retired) Russell W. Strand is the owner and creative visionary of Effective Detective LLC, an organization focused on criminal justice multidisciplinary education and training, primary prevention, technical assistance, and systems improvement. Russ is a seasoned consultant, educator, and trainer passionate about protecting those who cannot protect themselves. His Compassionate Death Notification training program explores the challenges of and best practices for conducting effective and compassionate notifications. According to Russell Strand, death notification training and education are not standard in many professional courses – professionals are often left to struggle through on their own. Although well-intentioned, harm can be done by delivering death notifications if professionals providing the news are not well-prepared or trained. Also, delivering such life-shattering information can greatly impact the “bearer” of bad news. Experiencing the struggles, suffering, and pain of fellow human beings is some of the most impactful and challenging tasks first responders and other helping professionals may endure. This episode explores topics of death, homicide, femicide, suicide, end-of-life situations, and how to prepare for and deliver the news of a loved one's passing.

A quote from Russell Strand: "To touch another human heart in the time of their greatest need with true compassion is perhaps the greatest privilege of all, for this is the very core of humanity."

How Dare She: The Janine Rees Story

Thu, 30 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0500

In this episode, survivor Janine Rees from Brisbane (AU), shares her harrowing story of living with and leaving an abusive partner after 3 decades of abuse. This episode includes details of sexual violence, domestic violence, and other forms of abuse.

For 30 years Janine Rees endured unspeakable abuse from her partner. Her journey is an odyssey of experiences and emotions that many survivors will find familiar - physical violence, marital rape, manipulation, fear, self-blame, denial, depression, escalating abuse, and so on. Upon leaving her partner following a near-death situation, the abuse continued with coercive control, gaslighting, financial abuse, and weaponizing the courts against her. Today, Janine shares her story publicly and campaigns widely to expose violence against women, the shortcomings of the justice system, and the failures of family courts in Australia, in an effort to support survivors and create meaningful, lasting change.

In her own words: About Janine Rees

I am committed to ending coercive control and abuse. We must hold perpetrators accountable for choosing to abuse. We must rebuild systems to be survivor-centric.

In order to nurture and support safe communities we must understand healthy and unhealthy behaviour through respectful relationships. This starts in the home, continues in schools, sporting and community groups and work places.

Respectful relationships built on equality and compassion are the basis for safe homes and communities. Systems of power over and oppression have been the norm. Patriarchal abuse can end and be replaced with a society built on true equality.

I am an expert by experience/lived experience advocate for changing outcomes for victim survivors of coercive control, post separation and systems abuse.

I facilitate workshops to empower individuals to identify their values and unique strengths, know their worth and develop strong interpersonal skills.

I am solution focused and future minded. I love supporting individuals, families, schools, sporting/community groups and organisations to nurture and support positive, respectful relationships where everyone thrives. True equality sets the scene for collaboration, innovation and transformation.

I love a challenge and making the seemingly impossible possible, working towards a safer, fairer, and more equitable world for all.

Capitol Day 2023: Update to the 88th Legislative Session in the State of Texas

Thu, 23 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0500

Jan Langbein, CEO of Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support and Tracy Matheson, founder of Project Beloved, discuss updates from the 88th Legislative Session in the State of Texas where bills were filed to support survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. In this episode, we explore topics related to state funding, housing needs, ViCAP (Violent Criminal Apprehension Program), CODIS (Combined DNA Index System), victim rights, and Molly Jane’s Law.

Companion episodes to this conversation include the 2022 episode with Tracy Matheson and the 2023 episode with Kelsey McKay, both available on our sister show the Podcast on Crimes Against Women.

Transcending Trauma with Yoga, Part 2

Thu, 09 Mar 2023 00:00:00 -0600

Can yoga help to heal trauma? Some experts believe it can and are incorporating trauma-sensitive yoga into services for survivors. To learn more about what trauma-sensitive yoga is and how it helps we talk with Myra Strand, a trainer and yoga instructor who has been working with survivors of trauma since 1995. Part 2 of our conversation explores how to reconnect with the body through yoga, mindfulness, and self-awareness, how a holistic approach can facilitate the healing of trauma, understanding physical symptoms as possible trauma responses, and the importance of approaching life through a trauma-sensitive, healing-centered, intersectional lens.

Myra Strand, MA, CA, is the owner of Strand² Squared Solutions where she provides training, education, and technical assistance. All of her services are available in person, virtually and on-demand. Since its inception in 2017, Strand squared Solutions has worked with thousands of responding professionals helping to pave the path from trauma to transcendence.

Myra began working with people who live with trauma in 1995. She has experience working with youth who have complex trauma and/or serious mental illness, people with developmental disabilities, youth in competing war zones, offenders, with death notification and with victims of all crime types. Myra places a special emphasis on holistic health as it relates to organizational trauma.

For nearly 10 years, Myra taught issues of violence, sexuality and applied intersectionality at Northern Arizona University and/or Coconino Community College. She has also taught social justice classes in the Detention Center working on issues of violence and healing.

Transcending Trauma with Yoga, Part 1

Thu, 02 Mar 2023 13:00:00 -0600

Myra Strand, MA, CA, is the owner of Strand² Squared Solutions where she provides training, education, and technical assistance. All of her services are available in person, virtually and on-demand. Since its inception in 2017, Strand squared Solutions has worked with thousands of responding professionals helping to pave the path from trauma to transcendence.

Myra began working with people who live with trauma in 1995. She has experience working with youth who have complex trauma and/or serious mental illness, people with developmental disabilities, youth in competing war zones, offenders, with death notification and with victims of all crime types. Myra places a special emphasis on holistic health as it relates to organizational trauma.

For nearly 10 years, Myra taught issues of violence, sexuality and applied intersectionality at Northern Arizona University and/or Coconino Community College. She has also taught social justice classes in the Detention Center working on issues of violence and healing.

Later in Life: How abusive relationships impact older adults

Thu, 16 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0600

Abuse from an intimate partner can begin at any time in a relationship, and that abuse can continue later in life revealing itself in unique ways. For example, physical violence such as non-fatal strangulation over the course of a relationship can result in early-onset dementia, brain injury, and/or transient ischemic attacks (TIAs or "mini-stroke") in older adults. An abusive partner might then weaponize the resulting dementia though gaslighting and emotional abuse continuing a pattern of abuse for decades. Many women over the age of 65 also experience abuse in the forms of isolation, dependency, neglect, financial abuse, inadequate nutrition and denying access to medical care. Many older adults are unsure where or how to seek services for their trauma or injuries and lack both the resources and the support network to address their experiences. Ruth Guerreiro and Jordyn Lawson from Genesis Women's Shelter & Support join the show to discuss the impact of domestic violence later in life and what services are available for survivors.

Ruth Guerreiro is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker Supervisor, certified in EMDRIA and the Senior Director of Clinical Services at Genesis where she has worked for the past 10 years. Jordyn Lawson is a Licensed Professional Counselor Board Approved Supervisor and the Senior Director of Residential Services at Genesis, who has also been with Genesis for 10 years. Combined, Ruth and Jordyn bring a minimum of 20 years of experience serving survivors of domestic violence and have a deep understanding of the trauma that ensues from that experience.

Coming Soon: The National Training Center on Crimes Against Women

Thu, 02 Feb 2023 00:00:00 -0600

Genesis Women's Shelter & Support has an exciting announcement: the launch of the National Training Center on Crimes Against Women. Jan Langbein, CEO of Genesis is back on the show with all the details about this ground-breaking new educational center that will consolidate all training and education from both Genesis and the Conference on Crimes Against Women into one national program with the potential to impact tens of thousands of professionals, survivors, community and business leaders, et al across the country. Everything you need to know about this transformational new center is in this episode!

Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn: Trauma Responses & Domestic Violence

Thu, 12 Jan 2023 00:00:00 -0600

The idea of the "fight-or-flight" response to threats or danger was put forth over 100 years ago by Walter Cannon, an American psychologist. Cannon's work on the "acute stress response" established the foundation for what we understand today as trauma responses. Since its introduction, the work has expanded to include freeze and even fawning as trauma responses - processes that begin in the amygdala of the brain and prepare the body to react to a threat. Survivors of domestic violence often experience these trauma responses due to abuse from an intimate partner. And unlike isolated or one-time experiences of danger, survivors experience stress responses every single day, sometimes non-stop, escalating the brain into a continual fight, flight, freeze, or fawn mode. We explore the functions of the brain in both calm and stressful states, how it responds to the trauma of domestic violence, and how clinical services, education, and safety planning can restore homeostasis and encourage healing. Genesis' experts Ruth Guerreiro and Jordyn Lawson join the conversation, offering accessible information on not only how trauma responses occur but also why they happen, common misconceptions about these responses, and how evidence-based, trauma-informed services for domestic violence can restore balance, calm, and brain health.

Survivor Grief, Part 2: From Grief to Grace

Thu, 15 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0600

Edy Nathan returns with even more insightful guidance about grief for survivors, sharing powerful lessons on grieving and healing, her "forgive" mantra for self-empowerment, and her poem, "Grace". Ms. Nathan also shares a sneak peek about her upcoming new book.

Before you listen, grab a rubber band that fits on your wrist so you can practice a regulation exercise along with us. You might keep a pen and paper nearby too for making notes throughout as we discuss processing our grief and getting to grace.

From part 1 of this series:
Grief encountered by survivors of domestic violence, abuse, and/or sexual assault is a complex array of experiences stemming from loss, shame, guilt, sorrow, and more. Often, holidays punctuate grief, bringing to the surface confusing emotions that can seem inescapable. At Genesis Women's Shelter & Support we persist in our belief that for survivors there is hope and there is help and both can lead to healing. To facilitate the healing of grief related to trauma from domestic violence, abuse, and/or sexual assault, as well as to support survivors throughout the holiday season, we offer these episodes of exploring grief through the lens of understanding our relationship with it and with the self.

So what are grief and grieving? What do they feel like? Will my grief ever end? We address these questions with thought leader and author Edy Nathan who suggests - grief mourns what was. Ms. Nathan addresses survivors with compassion and warmth, using rich visual images for the exploration of this challenging experience - in Edy Nathan's work we find the self as a mosaic or a chameleon, and our grief-related emotions as a cave worthy of our exploration, or a dance we are just learning the steps to. Throughout these conversations we navigate the phases of grief using tangible, realistic experiences as well as contemplative metaphors that give us space to breathe into the dance with grief, pacing our experience lest we miss the opportunity to witness our own transformation.

Edy Nathan introduces new terms and context to the conversation about survivor grief. She uses the term "survivalist" often and to lend a deeper meaning to who the survivor is and how she evolves. To Nathan, who is herself a survivor, the survivalist is "someone who has survived under the worst conditions and has come out alive enough to speak about the experience and live beyond the bonds of fear, pain, and memories. The survivalist develops self-reliance, resilience, and higher levels of self-esteem."

These conversations are our humble gift to you this holiday season. Through these episodes, we extend a hand to you in support as well as the opportunity to take time for yourself to breathe and find space to consider your own relationship with any grief you are feeling. As you listen you can learn along with us about the Eleven Phases of Grief and practice a few exercises contained within Part 2 of these episodes to help restore yourself. As you do you might find new ways to embrace your own journey with grief knowing that you are worth fighting for.

Support for survivors of domestic violence is available 24/7 by call or text: 214-946-HELP (4357) or at genesisshelter.org

Edy Nathan is a Certified Sex Therapist and thought leader specializing in grief, trauma, and sexuality. She works with businesses, universities, and long-term care homes to help people understand how these areas filter through their lives and affect everything from creativity to productivity. Working together with entities and individuals, she offers creative ways to deal with grief, trauma, and sexuality. Ms. Nathan is the author of “It’s Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery Through Trauma and Loss” and the upcoming new release, "Sexual Grief." She holds master’s degrees from New York University and Fordham University and a sex therapist certification from the University of Michigan.

Survivor Grief, Part 1: Embracing Your Journey With Grief

Thu, 08 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0600

Grief encountered by survivors of domestic violence, abuse, and/or sexual assault is a complex array of experiences stemming from loss, shame, guilt, sorrow, and more. Often, holidays punctuate grief, bringing to the surface confusing emotions that can seem inescapable. At Genesis Women's Shelter & Support we persist in our belief that for survivors there is hope and there is help and both can lead to healing. To facilitate the healing of grief related to trauma from domestic violence, abuse, and/or sexual assault, as well as to support survivors throughout the holiday season, we offer these episodes of exploring grief through the lens of understanding our relationship with it and with the self.

So what are grief and grieving? What do they feel like? Will my grief ever end? We address these questions with thought leader and author Edy Nathan who suggests - grief mourns what was. Ms. Nathan addresses survivors with compassion and warmth, using rich visual images for the exploration of this challenging experience - in Edy Nathan's work we find the self as a mosaic or a chameleon, and our grief-related emotions as a cave worthy of our exploration, or a dance we are just learning the steps to. Throughout these conversations we navigate the phases of grief using tangible, realistic experiences as well as contemplative metaphors that give us space to breathe into the dance with grief, pacing our experience lest we miss the opportunity to witness our own transformation.

Edy Nathan introduces new terms and context to the conversation about survivor grief. She uses the term "survivalist" often and to lend a deeper meaning to who the survivor is and how she evolves. To Nathan, who is herself a survivor, the survivalist is "someone who has survived under the worst conditions and has come out alive enough to speak about the experience and live beyond the bonds of fear, pain, and memories. The survivalist develops self-reliance, resilience, and higher levels of self-esteem."

These conversations are our humble gift to you this holiday season. Through these episodes, we extend a hand to you in support as well as the opportunity to take time for yourself to breathe and find space to consider your own relationship with any grief you are feeling. As you listen you can learn along with us about the Eleven Phases of Grief and practice a few exercises contained within Part 2 of these episodes to help restore yourself. As you do you might find new ways to embrace your own journey with grief knowing that you are worth fighting for.

Support for survivors of domestic violence is available 24/7 by call or text: 214-946-HELP (4357) or at genesisshelter.org

Edy Nathan is a Certified Sex Therapist and thought leader specializing in grief, trauma, and sexuality. She works with businesses, universities, and long-term care homes to help people understand how these areas filter through their lives and affect everything from creativity to productivity. Working together with entities and individuals, she offers creative ways to deal with grief, trauma, and sexuality. Ms. Nathan is the author of “It’s Grief: The Dance of Self-Discovery Through Trauma and Loss” and the upcoming new release, "Sexual Grief." She holds master’s degrees from New York University and Fordham University and a sex therapist certification from the University of Michigan.

Family Court & Domestic Violence: Navigating the legal process for survivors of domestic violence

Thu, 01 Dec 2022 00:00:00 -0600

The Legal Services Department at Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support was founded in 2016 to address the lack of access to no-cost civil legal representation for survivors of domestic violence in Dallas County. Focused on family law and offered in conjunction with the organization’s trauma-informed, wraparound domestic violence services, Genesis’ direct representation model for survivors navigates the complexities of protective orders, divorce proceedings, and child custody cases. Since its inception, the legal team at Genesis has represented thousands of survivors in family court cases.

In this episode, Jan Langbein, CEO of Genesis, and attorney Rachel Elkin, Director of Legal Services at Genesis, explain the history and purpose of family court, how children are impacted by court rulings, and how and why domestic violence offenders attempt to weaponize the court system. We also look to the future of legal services at Genesis and announce the launch of a reimagined legal program to better serve women and children.

Gaslighting & Domestic Abuse: Everything you need to know

Thu, 17 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -0600

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that includes a pattern of manipulation intended to control and diminish a victim by causing self-doubt, trust issues, decreased self-worth and a host of other trauma-inducing consequences. In this episode, Dr. Christine Cocchiola unpacks the complexities of gaslighting within domestic abuse by examining the character issues of those who gaslight, who they consider perfect prey, the red flags in a relationship, how to set boundaries and when to seek help. Dr. Cocchiola is a regularly featured guest on the show discussing the topic of coercive control. She is a Coercive Control Advocate, Researcher, Educator & Professor of Social Work, and a Survivor who has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since the age of 19. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work Studies Program for over 20 years.

The Genesis Method: Modeling best practices for digital comms about domestic violence

Thu, 10 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -0600

Genesis Women's Shelter & Support offers a robust program of residential and non-residential services to women and children who have experienced domestic violence. To complement those offerings, Genesis has developed the industry's foremost communications model about domestic violence: one that is client-centric, trauma-informed, and focused on raising awareness about domestic violence, creating a safe space for survivors and their loved ones, and able to reach a broad audience. Janelle Gettmann, Director of Events and Communications at Genesis, joins the conversation to detail best practices in communications about domestic violence with a specific focus on digital comms that empower and restore dignity to survivors while providing a call to action for the community. Together we explore how social media can be a powerful tool in the movement to end abuse, how to promote and access accurate resources, and how to position an organization for success in a digital space.

Digital Dating & Abuse: Supporting youth, teens and college students as they navigate online relationships

Thu, 03 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Technology, such as social media, apps, and text messaging, allows youth, teens and college students to experience relationships in vastly different ways from previous generations, as the connectedness of online relationships creates opportunities for personal development and relationship exploration. That same technology and connection also open up new possibilities for abuse that can diminish one's sense of agency leading to coercive control, potential safety concerns and possibly dangerous situations. Dr. Lauren Reed of Arizona State University provides us with the context for digital dating, how to identify and respond to abusive online tactics, and solutions for healthy relationships. Dr. Reed walks us through the empowering, youth-led research initiative, the Thriving Relationships Lab, that provides space for young people to process emotions and synthesize information as they navigate personal relationships online and beyond. This robust conversation offers resources for teens, college students, educators, service providers, parents and anyone with concerns about the future of healthy relationships in an increasingly online world.

Digital dating abuse, as defined by Futures Without Violence, is "a repeated pattern of behaviors to harass, pressure, control, or threaten a partner you're seeing or dating using social media, the internet or mobile phones." DDA can manifest as an abusive partner: sending a text message that threatens your personal safety, checking your social media accounts or your phone without your permission or knowledge, tracking your location, monitoring your online activity, stalking. These are just a few examples of DDA. If you are experiencing DDA talk to an adult you trust, create a safety plan, contact your local support center or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800.799.SAFE (7233), or Genesis at 214.946.HELP(4357). If you are in immediate danger call 9-1-1.

The Art of Impact: Understanding domestic violence through an artist's lens

Thu, 27 Oct 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Dr. Carola Salvi launched the exhibit "The Power of the Other Hand" in response to the stories of domestic violence shared with her by survivors. In this episode, we peel back the layers of these survivor experiences to reveal the raw emotions beneath the images, the artist, and the women portrayed on the canvas. Tackling some of the most challenging aspects of abuse such as the impact of non-fatal strangulation, the scars of physical violence, and the trauma resulting from power and control, our conversation slowly but surely illustrates that experiences of abuse, much like art, are never as simple as they seem, and very often can alter one's life forever.

Carola Salvi has a Ph.D. in Cognitive Neuroscience. She is a Psychologist and Artist born in Bergamo (Italy), studied psychology in Milan, and in 2010 moved to Chicago to study at Northwestern University. In 2019 she joined the Psychiatry Department at the Dell Medical Hospital at the University of Texas at Austin. The exhibit, "The Power of the Other Hand", debuted at the Witte Museum in San Antonio, Texas in 2022.

Good Healing: Transforming vicarious trauma into vicarious resilience

Thu, 20 Oct 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Long-term exposure to the trauma of others can impact the well-being of families, professionals and caregivers and lead to vicarious trauma. However, with the proper tools and network of support we can transform these experiences into vicarious resilience. Monica Urbaniak, a consultant, trainer and clinician specializing in sexual assault and trauma, provides practical and effective tools for professionals, organizations and families exposed to trauma, including the "assess, balance and connect" approach, the need for ongoing self-care and much more. This episode is brimming with tools, tips and ideas to keep thriving through challenges in our work with survivors and in our professional and personal relationships.

Muslim Women for All Women

Thu, 13 Oct 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Founded with the tenet, "Muslim women for all women" the Texas Muslim Women's Foundation has evolved into a robust continuum of care for survivors of domestic abuse. While the culturally sensitive services offered by the foundation align with the principles of Islam, embracing peace in the home and condemning violence, they are available to women from all cultures. Heena Khan, LPC-S, RPT, the foundation's Director of Clinical & Counseling Services and the founder of Uplift Counseling Services joins the conversation to detail best practices in prevention and intervention for survivors, specifically those who are Muslim. In doing so, Ms. Khan addresses the importance of approaching survivors with cultural humility, curiosity and compassion to yield positive outcomes for women, how to overcome barriers to service and provide individualized care, how to incorporate self-care for teams who work directly with victims of abuse and violence, and the wide array of services available to women escaping domestic abuse that ranges from housing to somatic movement therapy to refugee services. Packed with evidence-based knowledge and tactical solutions, this episode is a must-listen for anyone who serves survivors, needs more information about services available to Muslim women, and those considering a career in the anti-violence movement.

Big D Responds to DV: A conversation with Jennifer Staubach Gates

Thu, 06 Oct 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Every quarter, Genesis Women's Shelter & Support hosts a guest speaker for the organization's quarterly lecture series featuring timely conversations about issues related to domestic violence. In September 2022, former Dallas City Council Member Jennifer Staubach Gates joined Genesis CEO Jan Langbein to discuss the evolution of the domestic violence (DV) response in the City of Dallas from 1985 to the present, and how the learning from the past several decades has shaped the city's future plans to reduce and prevent DV in the coming years. Recorded live at the event, Ms. Gates covers the topics of gun violence, mass shootings, law enforcement, coordinated community response and more, and provides a preview of what's to come in October to enrich the Dallas response to DV. Also included in this episode is a deeper dive on some of the lecture's topics with Genesis CEO Jan Langbein. This episode presents a valuable learning experience for anyone interested in reducing and preventing DV, as well as for those interested in evidence-based models for city programs against DV.

The Lethality Assessment Protocol: Determining the risk of femicide from domestic violence

Thu, 29 Sep 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Since 2003, the Lethality Assessment Protocol (LAP) has been in use by law enforcement across the United States to evaluate the risk of death in domestic violence incidents. Administered by law enforcement on the scene of domestic violence calls, this tool has 2 primary goals: to assess risk factors for lethality and to connect victims with services.

Learn more about the LAP, the warning signs and risk factors for lethality resulting from domestic violence, and how fatality review committees are working to prevent future deaths from domestic violence with Jan Langbein, CEO, and Jordyn Lawson, senior director of residential services at Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support.

This episode discusses severe forms of violence, homicide, femicide, suicide and related acts of violence against men, women, children, the LGBTQIA+ community, and animal abuse. Resources on how to get help are included within the discussion.

Looking back, and ahead, at violence against women: Part 2

Thu, 15 Sep 2022 00:00:00 -0500

A 2-part series with researcher, educator, and licensed psychologist Dr. Lenore Walker who coined the term "battered woman syndrome." Dr. Walker has spent more than 4 decades investigating violence against women, publishing peer-reviewed research and authoring several books including "The Battered Woman Syndrome" now in its 4th edition.

Together we explore the progress and pitfalls in the domestic violence movement since the 1980s including the emergence of advocacy and shelters for survivors, the evolution of psychotherapy for PTSD and trauma, and the work of the family court system. In part 2, we dive into her controversial work for the defense during the OJ Simpson trial and how that experience led to breakthroughs for domestic violence research findings, publications, prosecutions and how we talk about domestic violence.

Dr. Lenore Walker is a licensed psychologist in several states and Board Certified in Clinical Psychology and in Couples and Family Psychology by the American Board of Professional Psychology. She has practiced all over the U.S. and in several other countries around the world. She earned her doctoral degree in psychology from Rutger’s, The State University in N.J. in 1972 after attaining an M.S. in Psychology from City College of the City University of New York (CCNY) in 1967 and a B.A. from Hunter College of CCNY in 1962. In 2004, she earned an M.S. in Clinical Psychopharmacology from Nova Southeastern University. She is a retired professor of psychology at Nova Southeastern University and the author of multiple articles and books, including her most recent novel, "Madness to Murder."

Looking back, and ahead, at violence against women: Part 1

Thu, 08 Sep 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Suicide and Domestic Violence

Thu, 01 Sep 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Content advisory: This episode is a discussion about suicide and domestic violence, a topic that some may find troubling. Listeners are encouraged to consider their own needs before proceeding and to practice self-care when listening to this conversation.

Description: September marks Suicide Awareness Month in the United States, a country where 25% of female domestic violence survivors have attempted suicide and where child abuse survivors are 150% more likely than their peers of dying by suicide later in life. The CDC reported that in 2020, suicide was the 2nd leading cause of death for children ages 10-14, and the 3rd leading cause of death for young adults ages 15-24. Across the country, experiences of domestic violence and child abuse significantly increase suicidality in women and children, and the individuals we serve at Genesis Women's Shelter & Support in Dallas Texas are no exception: upon intake at Genesis, 50% of women clients and 20% of child clients report having suicidal thoughts, and 20% of clients have attempted suicide. Ruth Guerreiro, LCSW-S, Senior Director of Clinical and Non-Residential Services at Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support leads a team of licensed mental health professionals who work directly with women and children experiencing domestic violence. Ms. Guerreiro joins the podcast to present the facts about suicide and domestic violence including non-fatal forms of suicidality, the warning signs and red flags of suicide within abusive relationships, and to offer resources and ways to seek support.

Coercive Control: An insidious pattern - Part 2

Thu, 28 Jul 2022 11:00:00 -0500

Coercive control underlies most experiences of domestic violence and often manifests as an insidious pattern of manipulation that strips victims of their autonomy. It is also a form of child abuse that likely impacts 100% of children living with an abusive parent. In part 2 of our discussion on this topic, we unpack the impact of this form of psychological abuse upon children in the home where domestic violence occurs. Dr. Christine Cocchiola explains how children are entangled in the web of abusive behaviors through coercive control, the distinction between abuse and maltreatment, and how family court fails children through a lack of understanding and legislation to protect them. We also explore ACES as a means to evaluate childhood experiences of abuse and how women and children can heal from the trauma of domestic violence.

Dr. Cocchiola is a Coercive Control Advocate, Researcher, Educator & Professor of Social Work, and a Survivor who has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since the age of 19. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work Studies Program for over 20 years. This 2-part series on coercive control explores the origins of the term coercive control, the impact covert, non-physical forms of abuse have on both adults and children, the legislation related to domestic violence, and the importance of working with service providers who specialize in coercive control in abusive relationships.

Coercive Control: An insidious pattern -Part 1

Thu, 07 Jul 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Coercive control underlies most experiences of domestic violence and often manifests as an insidious pattern of manipulation that strips victims of their autonomy. Dr. Christine Cocchiola joins the podcast to break down what coercive control is, how to recognize it in abusive relationships, and how to find the support needed to heal the trauma. Dr. Cocchiola is a Coercive Control Advocate, Researcher, Educator & Professor of Social Work, and a Survivor who has been dedicated to the field of intimate partner violence since the age of 19. Dr. Cocchiola is a tenured professor at a Connecticut Community College and an adjunct instructor at NYU, teaching in the Social Work Studies Program for over 20 years. This 2-part series on coercive control explores the origins of the term coercive control, the impact covert, non-physical forms of abuse have on both adults and children, the legislation related to domestic violence, and the importance of working with service providers who specialize in coercive control in abusive relationships.

Pride Month Series: This is only the beginning

Thu, 30 Jun 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Each episode in this series is a dialogue with survivors and/or experts highlighting the needs and issues of IPV survivors in the LGBTQIA+ community as well as possible solutions for improved responses to their experiences. Our hope is that this dialogue will grow into new collaborations across communities that expand our understanding of IPV, reduce its prevalence, and provide more equitable responses and services for all survivors of IPV in LGBTQIA+ relationships. Media consultant Ron Corning joins the conversation as co-host and interviewer for the series, offering critical insights into IPV among LGBTQIA+ partners.

Though Pride Month 2022 is coming to a close, this is only the beginning of our exploration of IPV in LGBTQIA+ relationships. In this episode, we recap our learning and in doing so expose its gaps and opportunities by expanding on services available to men in abusive relationships with The Family Place - 1 of just 2 organizations in the United States who serve all individuals who identify as men. We also have an open discussion about the signs of abuse, the prevalence of both hatred and abuse toward the LGBTQIA+ community, the alarming risk of suicide among LGBTQIA+ youth, and how anyone experiencing abuse can access safety, shelter, and support that meets their unique needs.

A message to the community from Genesis Women's Shelter & Support: As it relates to the mission of Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support, we stand in solidarity with women who have experienced abuse. We stand for women who have no choice. We stand for women who have no voice. We will continue to work day in and day out to empower women to live abuse-free, to think independently and to make their own decisions regarding their physical, financial, spiritual and emotional safety.

Pride Month Series: Being Better: Solutions for Improving Services, Responses & Inclusion

Thu, 16 Jun 2022 09:00:00 -0500

Genesis Women's Shelter & Support offers domestic violence services to everyone who identifies as a woman. To improve access to services for all intimate partner violence survivors in need of safety, shelter & support, Genesis The Podcast is launching a Pride Month Podcast Series focused on intimate partner violence (IPV) in LGBTQIA+ relationships.

Each episode in this series is a dialogue with survivors and/or experts highlighting the needs and issues of IPV survivors in the LGBTQIA+ community as well as possible solutions for improved responses to their experiences. Our hope is that this dialogue will grow into new collaborations across communities that expand our understanding of IPV, reduce its prevalence, and provide more equitable responses and services for all survivors of IPV in LGBTQIA+ relationships. Media consultant Ron Corning joins the conversation as co-host and interviewer for the series, offering critical insights into IPV among LGBTQIA+ partners.

Solutions specific to IPV in LGBTQIA+ relationships can be challenging to resource. We've gathered experts in the fields of law enforcement, clinical services, advocacy and more to evaluate what solutions exist, the effort to include all people in those solutions and improve responses to IPV for people who identify as LGBTQIA+. Ron Corning talks with Genesis CEO Jan Langbein and senior director of residential services Jordyn Lawson to understand responses within the domestic violence movement. Maria MacMullin expands on these ideas with presenters from the 2022 Conference on Crimes Against Women who offer diverse approaches to navigating IPV across LGBTQIA+ relationships. Guests include: Sarah Berlanga of The Women's Center, Kimberly Crawford of the DC Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Michael Crumrine sergeant with the Austin Texas Police Department, and Patrick Moug of the Wayne County Prosecutor's Office, Detroit.

Pride Month Series: Abuse will not stop until abusers stop abusing

Thu, 09 Jun 2022 00:00:00 -0500

IPV in same-sex relationships is underreported by survivors. From the incidence data that is collected, rates of IPV among same-sex partners are as high - if not higher - as those reported by heterosexual survivors. High rates of occurrence compounded by fears of reporting the violence and insufficient services and responses pose significant health and safety risks to individuals in abusive LGBTQIA+ relationships.

Together with Genesis CEO Jan Langbein and Genesis senior director of residential services Jordyn Lawson, we explore the data of IPV in LGBTQIA+ relationships, and the challenges posed to law enforcement, advocates, educators et al who struggle to build alliances across communities that elevate voices, improve responses and expand services so that survivors can be heard, believed and supported. To expand our thinking, we explore Dr. Kimberlé Crenshaw's theory of intersectionality within the context of this conversation, education available through the Conference on Crimes Against Women, and training for law enforcement about IPV responses.

Pride Month Series: To be heard, believed, and supported - responding to the needs of trans women of color survivors

Thu, 02 Jun 2022 00:00:00 -0500

To open the conversation, X, co-director of House of Rebirth, joins Genesis CEO Jan Langbein and Genesis senior director of residential services Jordyn Lawson to discuss the experiences of IPV among trans women of color. Highlighting the lack of services in the Dallas community for trans women of color IPV survivors, we focus on both the issues and the possible solutions to better serve survivors and prevent future violence against trans women.

The Impact of Brain Injuries Sustained From Domestic Violence

Thu, 05 May 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Brain injuries among victims of domestic violence are not typically incidents that make headlines like those of concussions sustained by professional athletes or military veterans. Rather these injuries and the intimate partner violence they stem from are often underreported, under researched, and lack investment for improved methods of diagnosis and robust treatment options from the medical community. A new report by Christa Hillstrom from The New York Times Magazine identifies the significant and widespread prevalence of brain injuries from physical abuse as a "hidden epidemic." We explore Hillstrom's article, related data and the impact of traumatic brain injuries from domestic violence with Jan Langbein, CEO of Genesis Women's Shelter & Support. In addition to this leadership role and her international work in the field of domestic violence, Jan Langbein is also the Chair of the Dallas County Intimate Partner Fatality Review Committee and has expert-level knowledge on the extensive, long term impact physical violence can cause to a victim's body, brain and overall health.

The Science Behind Abuse

Thu, 21 Apr 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Research on domestic violence includes decades of collected data that offer more than just statistics about abuse. Included in this collective information are the documented motivations of abusers, knowledge about the dynamics of intimate partner violence, and so much more. We investigate this compendium of information through the lens of a personal story revealing what could have been done to prevent a triple homicide if investigators and others had consulted the related research. Margaret Bassett, LPC-S, Director Applied Research & Innovative Instruction, at the Institute on Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault (IDVSA), The University of Texas at Austin, Steve Hicks School of Social Work joins the show to talk about this research, the “science” as she calls it, and how it can inform and influence our approaches to investigating allegations of abuse, increase abuser accountability, attain better outcomes for victims and improve prosecution rates of these offenders. Bassett walks us through the experience of the Broderick family - a family torn apart by child sexual abuse and homicide allegedly at the hands of Stephen Broderick. The Broderick family’s story along with Bassett’s op-ed, “To Stop Domestic Violence, We Need to Listen to Science About Abusers,” are the backdrop for our conversation and offer context for abuser behavior, pitfalls to preventing domestic violence and the need for a coordinated community response to domestic violence. This episode discusses child abuse, homicide, strangulation, and domestic violence.

Building a culture of respect and consent

Thu, 07 Apr 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Established in 1897, Jewish Women International (JWI) has evolved over its 125-year history into a global leader for women’s empowerment. The organization’s 2021 National Needs Assessment of Domestic Abuse in the Jewish Community revealed that Jewish communities in the United States are substantially lacking in safe shelter, legal services, acknowledgement, support, and more. On par with the national average of women experiencing domestic violence, 1-in-4 Jewish women report abuse in the home. Additional research suggests that 70% of Jewish survivors of domestic violence indicate that abusers use Jewish holidays, laws, and customs to reinforce abusive behaviors, and 81% of domestic violence support providers state that withholding “a get” (Jewish document of divorce) is a common tactic of abusers. These unique experiences rooted in Jewish culture, faith and customs require culturally-sensitive responses that not only meet the needs of Jewish survivors but also build a culture of respect and consent. In response to these findings, JWI has launched the National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence in the Jewish Community offering initiatives that drive concrete long-term solutions that address domestic violence in the Jewish community and provide a hub for trauma-informed training, education, resources, peer support, research, policy development, and community collaboration. We explore this ambitious program with Ariella Neckritz, JWI’s Director of Violence Prevention and Training, who leads the organization’s trauma-informed culturally competent prevention programming and community training initiatives. JWI offers information and programs for all women and girls of every race, culture, ability, gender identity, and sexual orientation.

The most fabulous luncheon of the year is here!

Wed, 30 Mar 2022 09:00:00 -0500

The Genesis Annual Luncheon is April 14, 2022 in Dallas, Texas! Tickets, sponsorships, tables and raffle tickets are going quickly but there is still time to get yours and support the critical mission of Genesis Women's Shelter & Support providing safety, shelter and support for women who have experienced domestic violence, and to raise awareness regarding its cause, prevalence and impact. This year's celebrity guest is multiple Grammy Award-winning Singer, Songwriter and Humanitarian Michael Bolton. You do not want to miss this incredible event! Listen for all the luncheon details and reserve your seat today!

2022 Conference on Crimes Against Women

Thu, 24 Mar 2022 06:00:00 -0500

Now in its 17th year, the Conference on Crimes Against Women (CCAW) will take place May 23-26, 2022 in Dallas Texas. The first conference of its kind, CCAW is focused on practical solutions that successfully resolve crimes of gender-based violence and is the ideal education and training opportunity for prosecutors, advocates and law enforcement. This year's event will feature 200-plus sessions in just a little over 3 days of workshops, case studies, computer labs, an interactive crime scene and so much more. Listeners of this episode will hear directly from conference founder Jan Langbein and conference director Becky Park, and receive a bonus discount code for registration to the 2022 conference.

When is it stalking and what can you do about it?

Thu, 17 Mar 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Approximately 6 million people in the U.S. experience stalking each year with the largest majority of victims being women between the ages of 18-24. Stalking is characterized by a pattern of behavior or unwanted attention that causes victims to feel fear or mental anguish and is a crime in all 50 states and every jurisdiction in America. We take a deep dive on this subject with attorney Elaina Roberts. Ms. Roberts is the Technology Safety Legal Manager with National Network to End Domestic Violence Safety Net Project who has expertise in stalking and related laws and legislation. Together we explore what stalking is, who it affects, laws that protect victims, and numerous resources that offer support. This episode is supplemented with additional information in a blog post of the same title available on GenesisShelter.org and an episode about stalking on the Podcast on Crimes Against Women.

Getting On The Road to Financial Recovery After Domestic Violence and Other Trauma-Related Experiences

Thu, 03 Mar 2022 00:00:00 -0600

If you’ve ever attempted to buy a car or make any large purchase that requires financing you have likely worked through the challenging process of getting a loan at a rate and price you can afford. Now imagine that process for a woman who left an abusive relationship and is starting over in every way, especially financially. Or for a person who has difficulty keeping a job due to lack of reliable transportation. For these unique scenarios and many others, On The Road Lending offers character-based lending - a personal approach that goes beyond the credit score to include a trauma-informed lending process focused on client abilities, needs and capacity for financing a vehicle. Using financial details plus the personal stories that expand the financial picture of applicants, On The Road Lending matches clients with auto lending opportunities, educates on the lending process, partners with auto dealers to find vehicles that meet client needs and budgets, and puts people back on the road to financial recovery. Kristin Petricola from On The Road Lending explains the process of securing auto financing for people who have survived domestic violence and other trauma-related events.

Open for Business: New buildings, events and more coming in 2022 to Genesis

Thu, 24 Feb 2022 00:00:00 -0600

Ann Lowe, Ruby Bridges, Harriet Tubman, and Cassandra Wesley are just a few of the history-making black women Genesis is celebrating throughout the month of February. We explore Black History Month at Genesis through the lens of diversity and inclusion, and we announce the long-awaited opening day of a new Genesis location in South Dallas that will serve their unique needs. And get your calendar ready because you’ll want to make note of the important events coming up in 2022 including Lecture Series, Genesis Annual Luncheon, Conference on Crimes Against Women and much more! Jan Langbein, CEO of Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support joins the show with all this plus special announcements including the celebrity guest that will headline the Genesis Annual Luncheon in April!

Healing Through Doing: Occupational Therapy Applications for Trauma Survivors

Thu, 17 Feb 2022 00:00:00 -0600

Trauma therapy is constantly evolving and so is the team at Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support through an emerging program of new treatment modalities that keep pace with both trauma experiences and responses. This episode explores the work of up-and-coming researcher and doctoral candidate Nadien Albanna whose personal connection to occupational therapy led to her career in that field as well as an internship at Genesis. As a result, Albanna’s doctoral project - “Sensory integration and trauma processing needs for trauma survivors: A new framework for Occupational Therapy” - has enhanced the OT program at Genesis, resulting in improved outcomes for women and children and a potentially replicable program for trauma services beyond Genesis. We hear from Nadien Albanna and Ruth Guerreiro, Senior Director of Clinical Services about the life-changing results of OT at Genesis where trauma survivors are “healing by doing.”

The Forgotten Survivors of Sexual Violence: Black Women and Girls in America

Thu, 10 Feb 2022 00:00:00 -0600

Recy Taylor, Rosa Parks, Relisha Rudd - more than just names and stories, these are women and girls whose lives were upended by violence. And there are countless other black women and girls who experience similarly horrifying incidents. In this episode we explore the history of violence against black women and girls in America, the lack of services available to them, and the solutions that are necessary to empower them. Dr. Jameta Barlow, community psychologist and assistant professor at The George Washington University presents a brief history of violence against black women and girls in United States - beginning with the story of Recy Taylor and extending to other experiences of slavery and human rights violations against black people in America - that offers a framework for our present reality fraught with systemic failures, barriers to support and increasing violence against women. Dr. Barlow also provides examples of progress in these areas and offers solutions for the future through her strengths-based approach to solving community health problems. Her 2020 article titled, The Forgotten Survivors of Sexual Violence: Black Women and Girls in America, was the impetus for this conversation and it can be found on the website of the American Psychological Association. This episode discusses sexual violence, rape, racism, child abduction and other forms of violence.

Situational Awareness for Women and Girls: Staying sharp, confident and safe in an ever-changing world

Wed, 02 Feb 2022 23:00:00 -0600

Situational Awareness is the broad idea of understanding your surroundings and how you will respond to them. For many of us, especially women, we are taught about situational awareness through self-defense behaviors- venture out in pairs, hide our keys in our hands, carry pepper spray or a whistle, or take a personal self-defense course. But there is more to the idea of situational awareness than simply protecting oneself. Each of us is equipped with an internal mechanism we might call intuition or our “gut”, that alerts us when something is different, or possibly dangerous. Getting in tune with our own instincts is paramount to preparing for different scenarios and reacting to circumstances. Kelly Sayre, author and training expert, shares her experience with developing situational awareness training, how it supports survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault, and how each of us can use the skills and senses we are born with to stay sharp, confident and safe.

The Intersection of Domestic Violence and Mass Shootings

Wed, 26 Jan 2022 23:00:00 -0600

Two-thirds of mass shootings in the U.S. are committed by perpetrators with a history of domestic violence. A recent report from the Office of Justice Programs’ National Criminal Justice Reference Service explores the connection between domestic violence and mass shootings offering both findings as well as opportunities for improving prevention and response. Jan Langbein and Jordyn Lawson of Genesis explore the highlights of the report, characteristics of these offenders, issues of entitlement and male privilege, and how Genesis responds to survivors of these experiences. This episode discusses mass shootings, gun violence, domestic violence, narcissism and suicide.

The Jensen Project & Genesis: Taking Action Against Human Trafficking

Wed, 19 Jan 2022 23:00:00 -0600

January is Human Trafficking Prevention Month and we dive into the details of human trafficking and related criminal activity with expert Janet Jensen, founder of The Jensen Project. Through a unique partnership focused on no-cost civil legal representation for women who experience violence from an intimate partner, Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support and The Jensen Project serve the most pressing legal needs of survivors. Together we explore the intersection of domestic violence and human trafficking as well as the possibilities and limitations of legislation in this area. By allowing survivor voices to shape our work, Genesis and The Jensen Project are advancing the legal rights of women and children in Texas, a state that ranks #2 on the list of states in the U.S. with the highest number of reported human trafficking cases. This episode discusses human trafficking, human slavery, sexual assault, and domestic violence.

Food Insecurity and the Domestic Violence Survivor

Wed, 12 Jan 2022 23:00:00 -0600

Abuse by withholding food and proper nutrition is a highly manipulative tactic that can often go undetected among women and children experiencing domestic violence. Trauma-informed services at Genesis include a nutrition program that addresses food insecurity through healthy meals, relationship building, and the restoration of power and control to women and children all with the intention of healing both body and mind of the trauma survivor. Connie Test, Genesis' Director of Residential Services, leads the program with a compassion for survivors that transforms food service into nutritional empowerment. This episode discusses domestic violence, child abuse, food insecurity, and poverty.

Will Santa be able to find me here?

Fri, 17 Dec 2021 09:00:00 -0600

Domestic violence shelters remain fully functional 24/7, 365 days of the year - even during the holidays. And just because Genesis clients are in a shelter over the holidays, that doesn’t mean they can’t celebrate, have fun and wait up for Santa! Jan Langbein, CEO of Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support has been ringing in the new year at Genesis for 30 years. She’s here to tell us all about holidays Genesis style! Plus, get a sneak peek at what’s coming to Genesis in 2022!

Tiny Wins: Empowering survivors through occupational therapy

Wed, 08 Dec 2021 23:00:00 -0600

Similar to mindfulness, intentional activity can establish purpose and renewed enthusiasm for living. For survivors of domestic violence, redefining purpose after an abusive relationship is a crucial step in healing and moving forward. To encourage that healing and facilitate client progress in purposeful living, Genesis recently launched an occupational therapy program that complements its support services for domestic violence survivors. Dr. Laura Rae, OTD, MBA, OTR, Assistant Professor of the University of St. Augustine shares how occupational therapy empowers women and children at Genesis through "tiny wins" that restore control over one's life and create pathways to both access and opportunity.

Healing the heart-brain connection after trauma

Wed, 01 Dec 2021 23:00:00 -0600

Trauma from domestic violence is real and among the top concerns expressed by Genesis clients. In response to their needs, Genesis provides a comprehensive clinical counseling program to heal that trauma and restore hope to women and children. Ruth Guerreiro, senior director of clinical services at Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support, joins the conversation to discuss the importance of applying clinical counseling approaches to the complex trauma that results from domestic violence. In this episode, we dive into EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and its heart-brain connection method that is clinically proven to effectively reduce trauma symptoms. We also discuss the variety of options for connecting with the Genesis clinical team, with opportunities for healing in both English and Spanish through call, text, in-person, Telehealth, YouTube, groups and more. And to better serve women and children who are Spanish-speaking, we added information about services and how to reach Genesis within this episode.

¿Necesita hablar con un miembro del equipo de Génesis en español? (Need to speak with a member of the Genesis team in Spanish?)

Mon, 29 Nov 2021 22:00:00 -0600

Génesis está disponible las 24 horas del día para llamar o mandar un mensaje en ambos idiomas inglés y español. Escuche la versión en español que le indica cómo contactar a Génesis Women’s Shelter y Support, un refugio y apoyo para mujeres.

(Genesis is available 24/7 by call or text in both English and Spanish. Listen for the Spanish-only version of how to reach Genesis Women's Shelter & Support.)

The Monthly Round-Up: November 2021

Wed, 17 Nov 2021 23:00:00 -0600

October and November have been some of the deadliest months of the year for women in Texas. We dive into some of the recent cases around the state and highlight the needs for new policies and opportunities that support the safety of women. We also follow up on last month’s conversation about strangulation and discuss its effects in-depth with Jan Langbein and Jordyn Lawson of Genesis. Specifically, we discuss the recent case of Derik Tobar-Gonzalez, a convicted violent offender sentenced to 65 years in prison for charges related to domestic violence, as well as other headline cases of family violence across Texas. This episode discusses domestic violence, strangulation, physical violence, homicide, gun violence, stalking, child abuse, date rape, and trauma.

Domestic violence doesn't take a holiday

Thu, 11 Nov 2021 00:00:00 -0600

For many, the holidays are a time of joy and peace and spending time with family and friends. But for women living in abusive relationships, holiday time can be a slippery slope that requires careful planning and thoughtful action steps in order to stay safe. Genesis' own Jordyn Lawson, LPC, joins the show to discuss how women, and those who care about them, can safely navigate the holidays and still enjoy the season.

You Can't Fake Hospitality

Wed, 03 Nov 2021 23:00:00 -0500

The Hospitality Alliance of Dallas, Texas recently formed the Hospitality Coalition Against Domestic Violence (HCADV), an organization that is taking a stand for women in abusive situations. CEO Kevin Lillis and Genesis' own Amy Norton provide details on the HCDAV - how it works, who it helps and why all hospitality venues have an obligation to support patrons who feel threatened by a partner, date, or encounter in a restaurant or bar. With the holiday season approaching, women everywhere should learn how to stay safe and get help when celebrating a night on the town.

The Monthly Round-Up: October 2021

Wed, 27 Oct 2021 23:00:00 -0500

CEO Jan Langbein is back and together we discuss the murders of Gabby Petito and Agnes Tirop, as well as other domestic violence headlines and happenings across Texas and around the world. This episode discusses femicide, domestic violence, abortion, gun violence and law enforcement.

You can always call Genesis.

Wed, 20 Oct 2021 23:00:00 -0500

The Genesis Team offers resources, options, responses and more through crisis response, advocacy and customized trauma-informed services. Genesis experts Krista Fultz, Director of Advocacy and Education and Nicole Head, Director of Crisis Response, join the conversation on what to expect when you contact Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support. Learn how to call or text Genesis for help, Genesis options for safety, shelter and support, how to request a speaker for your organization and so much more. This episode discusses domestic violence, physical violence, law enforcement and trauma experiences.

Genesis 75216

Thu, 14 Oct 2021 10:00:00 -0500

Cassandra Wesley was a resident of zip code 75216 over 30 years ago when she and her children escaped her abusive husband, entering the shelter at Genesis. Today, Cassandra returns to both Genesis and zip code 75216 in Dallas to bring domestic violence services to the community she once fled. Hear Cassandra's story of transformation and how that is linked to the next generation of change as we also interview Crislyn Faison and Aysia Lane, the black women filmmakers of #BlackAtSMU. Crislyn - who is Cassandra's great-niece - continues her family's legacy of transformation through filmmaking, while Aysia enriches the conversation through engaging storytelling. Their interwoven stories are rooted in understanding and effecting meaningful change for the next generation. This episode discusses domestic violence, physical violence, racism, and discrimination.

What’s philosophy got to do with it?

Tue, 12 Oct 2021 11:00:00 -0500

Dr. Carol Hay, feminist philosopher and author of the book, “Think Like a Feminist,” is brimming with thought-provoking ideas that could result in a more equitable future for everyone! Our lively conversation dives into the details of her research in feminist philosophy and recent publication, Think Like a Feminist, revealing meaningful alternatives to internalized norms that beget patriarchy, rape culture, and gender essentialism. In the process, we deconstruct sexual violence against women, mining for root causes, and while doing so, uncover a glimmer of hope in the next generation who are blazing a new trail toward equity.

This episode discusses rape, domestic violence, gender discrimination, abortion and violence against women and men. Mature content and language.

Calming the Body, Healing the Mind: Taming reactions to trauma through self-awareness

Thu, 07 Oct 2021 00:00:00 -0500

Dr. Bessel van der Kolk wrote the book on trauma. "The Body Keeps the Score" - a long-standing New York Times bestseller - provides a thorough analysis of trauma and our responses to it. In this episode, Dr. van der Kolk joins us to expand on that work, discussing how, for survivors of domestic violence, trauma changes the brain. Dr. van der Kolk guides us through approaches to self-regulation, rewiring the brain, and more so we might understand ourselves and our responses to trauma, and ultimately take control of our lives. This episode discusses domestic violence, physical violence, PTSD, and the experience of military combat.

Survivors Are The Experts

Thu, 23 Sep 2021 08:00:00 -0500

Leslie Morgan Steiner narrowly escaped her abusive husband. As a critical step in healing from her experience, she authored "Crazy Love" - a memoir of love and violence. Today, Leslie continues to share her story publicly, empowering others to safety and a life of hope and healing. In this episode, Leslie courageously shares her personal account of the domestic violence she endured, and together we explore what it means to really believe women who share their stories of abuse, the importance of educating young people on healthy relationships, and the dangers of silence about abuse. This episode discusses domestic violence, physical violence, and topics related to trauma and healing.

Launch Day! Join us as we kick-off Genesis The Podcast.

Thu, 16 Sep 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Talking all things Genesis Women's Shelter & Support with CEO Jan Langbein, along with a preview upcoming podcast episodes and events. Note: This episode discusses domestic violence and physical violence.

Super excited: Announcing a 4-week education program with Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., author of “The Body Keeps the Score.” Listen for the PROMO CODE to receive discounted registration and bonus content!

Mon, 30 Aug 2021 14:00:00 -0500

Genesis The Podcast is partnering with Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, author of “The Body Keeps the Score” for an amazing 4-week education program on understanding trauma and trauma response! We also have a super-discounted registration for our subscribers that includes a bonus program - a LIVE Q&A with Dr. van der Kolk on January 14, 2022 at 9am central time where he will answer YOUR questions live!

The 4-week program topics include: Developmental Trauma & Intergenerational Trauma; Neuroscience and Trauma; Stabilization: Neurofeedback Yoga Breathing Movement and Other Treatments; and Trauma Processing. Up to 8.5 CEUs available for select professionals including social workers. You must register with the PROMO CODE in this recording to get the discount and bonus session. Discount is $125 per person for registration until 9/12/21. Detailed instructions:

Complete the Registration Form and click Pay with Card. On the left side of the payment screen, enter the PROMO CODE in the recording to get your discount. Submit your payment and you’re in!

Send questions to: podcast@genesisshelter.org

North Texas Giving Day 2021!

Wed, 25 Aug 2021 11:00:00 -0500

Mark your calendars! North Texas Giving Day is September 23, 2021! This is your opportunity to support women and children escaping domestic violence by making a donation to Genesis. Listen for all the details about this special event and how you can take action against domestic violence.

Genesis The Podcast Launch Announcement!

Mon, 23 Aug 2021 15:00:00 -0500

Join us every Thursday beginning September 16, 2021 for the brand-new Genesis The Podcast! Featuring weekly conversations with experts focused on domestic violence and solutions that offer women safety, shelter & support. Email your questions about domestic violence and hear the expert responses on the show! Send questions to podcast@genesisshelter.org

Call/Text the 24/7 crisis hotline: 214-946-HELP (4357)

Tags: domestic violence, sexual assault, intimate partner abuse, true crime