Reframeables

Reframing the Good Life One Experiment at a Time with Derek Sivers

Wed, 27 Aug 2025 07:00:00 -0400

Bec first heard Derek Sivers on the Tim Ferriss podcast, and was immediately interested in this countercultural person who sold a multimillion dollar company and then moved to New Zealand to do something completely different. He’s interested in learning and iterating, and he did say he would answer every email — so we decided to test him. He answered right away.

Derek has been a musician, a circus performer, an entrepreneur, and a speaker. He’s a slow thinker, an explorer, a xenophile, and loves a different point of view. In New Zealand, he lives in a house that he designed himself, based off the notion that houses should grow from how people actually live, not from a master plan — so he waits to add walls until he figures out what he needs. That’s just one of his more radical ways of thinking. We were pleased and he was pleased that we asked him questions that he had never been asked before about how to live, about spirituality, parenting, and architecture. This conversation is full of surprises, and we hope you enjoy it.

Links:

Useful Not True

How to Live

For more from Derek, check out his website or follow him on Instagram and Twitter

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Reframing Risk and Reinvention with Emma Donoghue

Wed, 23 Jul 2025 06:00:00 -0400

Reframeables’ first ever live recording!

Writer Junot Diaz said: “When the world is burning, spending a little time with one’s people — in our case: book lovers — is no small gift, precisely because the world is burning.” So that’s what we did with our live podcast recording a few weeks ago. We spent time with our people: fellow book lovers and the extraordinary Emma Donoghue, reframing risk and reinvention.

Irish-Canadian Emma Donoghue is the author of sixteen novels and numerous plays, a fixture on the New York Times bestseller list, and the mind behind Room — long-listed for the Booker Prize, adapted by Emma into an Academy Award-nominated screenplay. She’s done it all, and we couldn’t wait to ask her everything. Her latest, The Paris Express, is the book we couldn’t put down.

Links:
The Paris Express
For more from Emma, take a look at her website

Reframing Screen Time with TV Scholar Michel Ghanem

Wed, 28 May 2025 07:00:00 -0400

Having spent a week at the Cannes Film Festival, we are now in withdrawal. Nat’s watching Marvel shows with her guys — and though she loves a good action TV show, she's missing the nuance. Bec is filling the hole with The Pitt — with a beefier Noah Wyle. Which brings us to our guest: Michel Ghanem, better known as TV Scholar. He's French, he's smart, and he does some serious research on the TV that’s out there and worth watching. We talk about how he left academia for television and his column for The Cut, “Appointment Viewing.” When he comes back to Toronto for TIFF we're going to hang out and figure out a follow-up conversation with our new friend — because he’s just that kind of TV expert that we need to talk to again.

Links:

Appointment Viewing
The TV Scholar newsletter
For more from Michel, follow him on Instagram and Twitter

Reframing Feminism with Dr. Serene Khader

Thu, 24 Apr 2025 07:00:00 -0400

We love reading books that express things we actually may have always known in our hearts, but previously didn't have the language for. Dr. Serene Khader’s book Faux Feminism: Why We Fall for White Feminism and How We Can Stop was one such book for Nat, and so we brought Serene on Reframeables to talk more about her work and break down the book for an absent Rebecca. We talked about feminism’s changing landscape in North America and beyond, and then we added “sex therapist” to Serene’s résumé as we talked about the orgasm gap and how an understanding of intersectional feminism will make for better sex. We even got into how Serene was inspired by Reframeables and now wants to start a podcast with her sister!

Serene Khader is a writer, political philosopher, and feminist theorist based in Brooklyn, New York. She is the author of Faux Feminism: Why We Fall for White Feminism and How We Can Stop (2024) and Decolonizing Universalism: A Transnational Feminist Ethic (2019), among other works. She is professor of philosophy at the CUNY Graduate Center and holds the Jay Newman Chair in Philosophy of Culture at Brooklyn College.

Links:
Faux Feminism: Why We Fall for White Feminism and How We Can Stop
For more from Serene, check out her website and follow her on Twitter

Reframing Resilience with Allison Lang

Thu, 27 Mar 2025 07:00:00 -0400

When we started this podcast three years ago, we never anticipated that we'd be sitting down to talk with a Canadian Paralympian medal winner — but if anyone can reframe resilience, it's Paralympian Allison Lang. We loved so much about this chat — learning about Allison's sport, sitting volleyball, and how that opened the door for her to move forward from some pretty brutal bullying to become a disability advocate in so many different settings. From brand influencing to speaking about her prosthetic leg in schools, Allison has brought forth an inherently hopeful worldview that reframed a lot of our thinking about resilience.

Born and raised in Edmonton, Alberta and now residing in Montreal, Allison is a content creator, speaker, model, and athlete for Team Canada's sitting volleyball team. She was born missing her left leg and was severely bullied for having a disability, resulting in her struggle with body-image and self confidence. Now, she shares her story of self-love and body acceptance in hopes to help others who may be on a similar journey. She is a passionate advocate for those with disabilities with a goal to connect with her community online in hopes to dismantle ableism and create a more inclusive and accessible world!

Links:
The Anti-Ableist Manifesto by Tiffany Yu
Faux Feminism by Serene Khader
Bel Canto by Ann Patchett
For more from Allison, check out her website and follow her on Instagram, TikTok, or Twitter

Reframing Resilience with Julia Stewart

Wed, 12 Mar 2025 07:00:00 -0400

Who couldn’t use a mood boost these days? We’re grateful for good people doing good things to counter all this mess — like Julia Stewart, our next guest in our resilience series. She’s the CEO of Alurx, a wellness company with a cool health app (that you should check out, by the way). Julia and Nat almost missed each other because of the fires that were happening in L.A. — the day that we were supposed to record, she was being evacuated! When we finally were able to connect, we delved into the resilience required as a female business leader in male-dominated environments, the value Julia gains in being a mentor, and her very cool story of having started out as a waitress at IHOP and then, years later, buying the whole company.

We encourage you to join us in making a difference for those affected by the L.A. wildfires by contributing to these reputable and trusted organizations Julia has suggested:
California Fire Foundation
Direct Relief
Wildfire Recovery Fund

Link:
Alurx

Reframing Resilience with Gill Deacon

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 07:00:00 -0500

Nat did the morning drive before the age of podcasts, and a voice that kept her sane on the road for all those years was the CBC's very own Gill Deacon — the next guest in our series where we reframe resilience. With Gill, we discuss resilience from a number of angles: her health challenges over the years with breast cancer and long COVID, and how she used writing to help her reframe along the way. We also talk about her new Substack and podcast projects, and the many ways in which she's come to embrace uncertainty.

Gill Deacon is a veteran journalist, television and radio host, bestselling author, and public speaker. She has hosted many radio programs for CBC Radio as well as television shows for CBC Television and Discovery Channel. From 2013 to 2024, Gill was the host of CBC Radio's Here & Now. Gill has written three non-fiction books, all published by Penguin. Her fourth book will be published by House of Anansi Press in 2025. Gill is a former columnist for Chatelaine and has written many articles for news outlets such as the Globe and Mail and CBC. Her podcast Gill Deacon is Getting Old(ish) debuts in 2025.

Links:
A Love Affair with the Unknown
For more from Gill, follow her on Instagram and Twitter, or check out her website

Reframing Resilience with Dr. Poppy Gibson

Wed, 05 Feb 2025 07:00:00 -0500

We continue reframing resilience with Dr. Poppy Gibson, a lecturer in education whose key interests involve children’s psychological development and mental health, and wellbeing in education. Nat had actually previously met Poppy when writing for a journal that she edits, and after doing some digging found out some really significant similarities! We talk about how both Nat and Poppy almost died, and Poppy’s children’s book about how to talk about death with kids. All kinds of trauma are navigated here, but somehow we ended up laughing a lot — and briefly crying!

Links:
When They Died by Poppy Gibson & Alfred Russo
For more from Poppy, follow her on Instagram and Twitter

Reframing Resilience with Laurie May of Elevation Pictures

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 07:00:00 -0500

Many famous people have been through the doors of Laurie May, co-founder and president of Elevation Pictures, one of Toronto Life's most influential Torontonians, and this episode's guest. We talked about our mothers and our own experiences of motherhood, what it means to be resilient in the face of hard business decisions as a woman in leadership, manifesting gratitude, and, of course, some celebrities. We could have kept going, to be honest!

Reframing Resilience with Jenn Harper of Cheekbone Beauty

Thu, 19 Dec 2024 07:00:00 -0500

Reframeables returns with a new six-episode series on female-focused resilience! Our first guest is Jenn Harper, the founder and CEO of Cheekbone Beauty — a cosmetics company which aims to help every Indigenous person see and feel their value in the world while developing sustainable colour cosmetics that won’t end up in a landfill. Jenn has been featured as Chatelaine’s Woman of the Year in 2019 and was on Canadian Business’ New Innovators list and Entrepreneur Magazine’s Woman of Influence list in 2022.

Link:
Cheekbone Beauty

Reframing Mental Health in Times of Crisis with Niomi Cherney

Wed, 19 Jun 2024 07:00:00 -0400

We often have conversations with folks who have written books. In this episode of Reframeables, Nat has a thoughtful conversation with child therapist Niomi Cherney, who’s in the midst of drafting her very own book on how to talk to loved ones with opposing viewpoints — think Trump supporter at one end of the table, and leftist liberal at the other. Essentially, this episode is their attempt to reframe mental health in times of crisis — or what it means to survive and thrive in difficult times. I actually know Niomi from my early mom days, walking to and from school with Niomi, who was at that time a childcare provider for a child who was the same age as Violet. I knew even then how special she was, so caring and creative with her kids. When she reached out to join us on Reframeables, I was excited to pick up where we left off.

Nat and Niomi talk about socially conscious self-care, how Niomi finds the strength to show up for her young clients who have lived through traumas at very young ages, and what we can all learn from her self-care strategies as a therapist. They go on to talk about conflicts with loved ones whose values bump with our own, how the term ‘crisis’ has been flattened, and what it might mean to reclaim it. Finally, Niomi shares about her activist work with Independent Jewish Voices to support the ongoing crisis in Palestine. This is a smart and honest reflective conversation that you won’t want to miss — whether you are a parent of a young one navigating their own challenges, or simply someone working to balance their own mental health in these challenging times.

Link:
Follow Niomi on Instagram

Reframing the Art of the Interview with Poet & Novelist Canisia Lubrin

Wed, 17 Apr 2024 07:00:00 -0400

For this episode of Reframeables, we had the opportunity to speak with award-winning poet and novelist Canisia Lubrin about her new book Code Noir. After the interview, she sent the Reframeables duo an email, calling us both badass and tender, which is probably the best compliment we’ve ever been given — so there’s that. For context about her book, in 1685 France’s King Louis XIV passed a decree consisting of 59 articles meant to govern not only chattel slavery but Black subjecthood throughout France and its colonies. The document was called “le code noir.” Lubrin’s novel is written around and against these articles. In our interview, we talked about so many things: identity, and why Canisia isn’t interested in it; green underwear, and why this writer’s words make us hot (literally); poetry as something that originates in the body, not the mind. Our reframing takeaway? The art of the interview isn’t achieved in a straight line — or maybe we reframed the art of conversation as a whole. Either way, we had a blast.

Canisia Lubrin is a writer, critic, professor, poet, and editor. Originally from St. Lucia, she now lives in Whitby, Ontario. Her books include Voodoo Hypothesis, The Dyzgraphxst, and Code Noir. Canisia is currently poetry editor at McClelland & Stewart, and has taught at Humber College, University of Toronto, and University of Guelph.

Links:
Code Noir
A Conversation with Canisia Lubrin by Rosie Long Decter for Vallum Mag
Follow Canisia on Instagram

Reframing the Productivity Narrative with the Sneaky Artist Nishant Jain

Wed, 20 Mar 2024 07:00:00 -0400

We are reframing the productivity narrative with Instagram and Substack-famous sketch artist Nishant Jain — otherwise known as the Sneaky Artist. Nishant trained as an engineer, almost got his PhD, and then switched tracks to make art in public — sneakily. Now his full-time gig is sketching with a recognizable yellow fountain pen so that he can’t erase anything — he’s very committed to the line. And if you’re ever in Vancouver, you might just happen upon one of his drawings left behind in a café or a public library. With Nishant, we talked about how he believes that everyone can be an artist and the inspiration he got from living in Chicago, where he watched a lot of bad stand-up comedy. We also unpacked productivity culture, art for art’s sake, and whether we can even have human experiences anymore without making content about them. And we heard about his new baby — who he’s now sketching too.

Nishant Jain is a writer, artist and podcaster in Vancouver. As a Sneaky Artist, he draws the people around him in the spaces he inhabits, finding moments of accidental beauty in ordinary places on ordinary days. He shares his work and ideas with thousands of readers on Substack and Instagram.

Links:
At the Existentialist Café by Sarah Bakewell
For more from the Sneaky Artist, follow him on Instagram and Substack or check out his website

Reframing Rage with Kathryn Mockler

Wed, 21 Feb 2024 07:00:00 -0500

On this episode of Reframeables, we are reframing rage with author Kathryn Mockler. She spoke with us about the despair of writing and editing climate justice work, and how she’s moved forward from rage and exchanged hurt for the earth for human connection. She calls it ‘post-hope,’ though instead of ‘hope,’ her preferred word is ‘possibility’ — a possibility for shared concerns in community, be it in her writing or in her teaching.

Kathryn Mockler is a writer, screenwriter, experimental filmmaker, editor, and publisher and the author of the story collection Anecdotes (Book*hug Press, 2023). She co-edited the print anthology Watch Your Head: Writers and Artists Respond to the Climate Crisis (Coach House Books, 2020) and is the publisher of the Watch Your Head website. Her films have screened at TIFF, EMFA, the Palm Springs Film Festival and most recently at the Arizona Underground Film Festival and REELPoetry/HoustonTX. She runs the literary newsletter Send My Love to Anyone.

Links:
Anecdotes
For more from Kathryn, check out her website

Reframing Truth-Telling Through Fiction with Claudia Dey

Wed, 17 Jan 2024 07:00:00 -0500

This week, we are reframing fiction as truth-telling with novelist, playwright, and clothing line creator Claudia Dey. You’ll hear our conversation filled with so many truths born of fiction, creating constraints to create, and the companionship of language. We talk about Claudia’s newest novel Daughter, and Hamlet, and theatre school memories of Claudia’s play Trout Stanley. We also get into how we can’t waver from value systems in terms of what we put out in the world. For Claudia, that shows up in her books and her clothing brand. For us here, it’s tied to who we bring on the show.

Claudia Dey is a bestselling novelist, playwright, and essayist based in Toronto. She has written the novels Stunt, Heartbreaker, and Daughter, as well as the plays Beaver, The Gwendolyn Poems, and Trout Stanley. Other writing of hers has appeared in The Paris Review, The Believer, Toro, and The Globe and Mail. Claudia is also the co-founder of the clothing line Horses Atelier.

Links:
Daughter
Horses Atelier
For more from Claudia, follow her on Instagram and take a look at her website

Reframing Burnout with Emilie Aries

Wed, 20 Dec 2023 07:00:00 -0500

Is reframing burnout even possible? According to Emilie Aries, the founder of Bossed Up, it is — sort of. Emilie is a speaker and author whose company is committed to closing the gender leadership gap. In this episode, you’ll hear our conversation about the systemic nature of burnout culture, particularly for women. We unpack “role overload,” try and take a really realistic look at boundary setting, and learn the difference between active and passive rest. These and other important ideas will sustain us through the holidays and beyond!

Emilie Aries is an award-winning speaker, podcaster, writer, and the founder of Bossed Up, a personal and professional training organization that helps women craft sustainable careers. She is the current host of the podcast Bossed Up, and former co-host of Stuff Mom Never Told You. Previously, Emilie served on national political campaigns as an organizer and digital strategist.

Links:
Bossed Up
How to Recalibrate Your Career, a recent episode of Emilie's Bossed Up podcast that continues where our conversation leaves off
For more from Emilie, check out her website and follow her on Twitter and Instagram

Reframing Courtney Love: Fighting Gender Bias in Pop Culture with Lisa Whittington-Hill

Wed, 15 Nov 2023 07:00:00 -0500

This week on Reframeables, we spoke with author Lisa Whittington-Hill about her new book Girls, Interrupted: How Pop Culture is Failing Women. With Lisa, we jumped right in with a discussion about female rage, considered the failings of media for middle age women and teenage girls, and shared some nostalgic memories of Courtney Love — who Lisa has defended loudly enough to get her thrown out of parties. We are unhappy with the misogyny that is baked into pop culture and social media, but we are happy to have conversations with someone like Lisa who is doing work to interrupt it.

Lisa Whittington-Hill is a writer based in Toronto, Canada. Her work has appeared in Longreads, The Walrus, Hazlitt, Catapult, and more. She is also the publisher of This Magazine, a progressive magazine of politics, ideas, and culture, and teaches in the publishing program at Centennial College.

Links:
Girls, Interrupted: How Pop Culture is Failing Women
For more from Lisa, follow her on Twitter and Instagram

Reframing Trauma Through Pop Culture with Jen Sookfong Lee

Wed, 18 Oct 2023 07:00:00 -0400

Pop culture is supposed to be light — downright breezy. Or, as we discovered in our conversation with celebrated Canadian author Jen Sookfong Lee, it can be something more: a bridge to navigating the complexities of intergenerational trauma, reckoning with one’s place in the world, and, perhaps most poignantly, facing the self. We hope you are able to take Jen’s pop culture wisdom and use it to help you reframe some of your own self-work — we did!

Jen Sookfong Lee describes herself as one who “writes, edits, and sometimes sings badly on a podcast.” She is a familiar voice as a columnist for CBC Radio One on shows like The Next Chapter and is a prolific writer of fiction, children’s literature, poetry, and memoir. For this episode of Reframeables we talked to Jen about her memoir Superfan: How Pop Culture Broke My Heart. Jen was born and raised in East Vancouver.

Links:
Superfan: How Pop Culture Broke My Heart
For more from Jen Sookfong Lee, check out her website and give her a follow on Twitter and Instagram

Reframing the Inside Joke with R. Eric Thomas

Wed, 20 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0400

This week we are reframing pop culture as self-care (or reframing the inside joke) with author R. Eric Thomas. In a wonderfully meandering conversation we talked about faith, office cake, gardening, hiking up (and then running down) mountains, looking to Oprah as a way to prepare for big feelings, and using Chekhov for life metaphors. Finally, we landed on using pop culture references as bridges to help us connect with others. We really hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we did.

R. Eric Thomas is a television writer, playwright, and author of Here for It: Or, How to Save Your Soul in America. His latest book is Congratulations, The Best Is Over! For four years, Eric was a Senior Staff Writer at Elle.com, where he wrote a column called Eric Reads the News. This past week he gave Reframeables a shout out in his weekly humor newsletter. He lives in Philadelphia, where he is a long-running host of The Moth StorySlams.

Links:
Eric's newsletter
Congratulations, The Best Is Over!
Here for It: Or, How to Save Your Soul in America
For more from Eric, check out his website, and follow him on Twitter and Instagram

Reframing the Friendship Fail with Shasta Nelson

Wed, 23 Aug 2023 07:00:00 -0400

This week, we are reframing friendship — or more specifically, the friendship fail. To find out how a deep friendship has the potential to be rehabilitated, we talk with friendship expert Shasta Nelson, who has been called the Brené Brown of friendship. We talk about reframing loneliness, qualities every friendship needs, not downplaying our successes, and so much more. Listen for all the goods — your friendships will thank you.

Shasta Nelson has been studying friendship, both personally and in team environments, for 20 years. Her research has been made accessible for readers in Friendships Don’t Just Happen!, which teaches us how to make new friends as adults, and Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness, which teaches us how to make our closer relationships more meaningful and healthy. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, and Harvard Business Review.

Links:
Follow Shasta on Twitter and Instagram, and check out her website

Reframing Vegetarian Eating with Alicia Kennedy

Wed, 26 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0400

This week, we are reframing vegetarian eating with food writer Alicia Kennedy. We talk all things vegetarian — politics, the meat industry, how food and relationships are connected, and (in Alicia's words) her desire to make vegetarian food both compelling and delicious. We walked away from this conversation with a lot of new ideas to chew on.

Alicia Kennedy is a writer from Long Island now living in San Juan, Puerto Rico. Her work on food and culture has been published in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Eater, Bon Appétit, and many other publications. Her new book, No Meat Required, comes out on August 15 with Beacon Press.

Links:
From the Desk of Alicia Kennedy
No Meat Required
Hippie Food by Jonathan Kauffman
Appetite for Change by Warren Belasco
Diet for a Small Planet by Frances Moore Lappé
Brooks Headley's Fancy Desserts by Brooks Headley
Sweet + Salty by Lagusta Yearwood
The Bloodroot cookbooks
The Bloodless Revolution by Tristram Stewart
The Vegetarian Crusade by Adam Shprintzen
Red Meat Republic by Joshua Specht
For more from Alicia, check out her website and follow her on Instagram

Reframing Perfectionism with L'Oreal Thompson Payton

Wed, 14 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0400

We're joined by author L'Oreal Thompson Payton to reframe all things perfectionism — breaking streaks, embracing shitty first drafts, or learning to stop waiting for the right moment. We take a hard look at how our own perfectionist tendencies show up in ourselves, where this pressure comes from, and how it impacts others. L'Oreal also treats us to insights on her own practice as a writer, struggles with fertility and postpartum feelings, and the non-linear path she has followed towards success.

L'Oreal Thompson Payton is a Chicago-based lifestyle and wellness writer, motivational speaker, and author. Her work has appeared in publications like Fortune, Bitch, Bustle, SELF, Shondaland, Well + Good, and ZORA. Stop Waiting for Perfect: Step Out of Your Comfort Zone and Into Your Power releases this August.

Links:
Stop Waiting for Perfect
The Self-Compassion Test
Check out L'Oreal's website for more of her writing, and follow her on Instagram and Twitter

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Reframing Working on Ourselves with Leah Faye Cooper

Wed, 10 May 2023 07:00:00 -0400

This week, we are chatting with Vanity Fair contributing editor Leah Faye Cooper. We met Leah at South by Southwest, where she was facilitating a panel of influencers that went down the road of Botox and fillers and the external work one can do on oneself. That prompted us to ask Leah to come on Reframeables and talk about the more holistic work that we can do on ourselves and in the world, but through the eyes of a fashion writer. We talk all things fashion and culture (and what we may or may not want to do to our faces), as well as what the industry is really like — who stays, who gets out.

Leah Faye Cooper is a Vanity Fair contributing editor, covering fashion and culture. Previously editorial director at Coveteur, her work has appeared in Elle, Harper’s Bazaar, W, and The Hollywood Reporter. She is currently working on her debut book, Full-Court Dress, chronicling the rise of the NBA as a fashion powerhouse.

Links:
Black Farmers Star in Chef Omar Tate's Summer Dinner Series
Follow Leah on Instagram

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Reframing Momfluencers with Sara Petersen

Wed, 12 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0400

This week, we are talking all things momfluencers with author Sara Petersen whose new book Momfluenced comes out this month. We reminisce with Sara about some of our favourite momfluencers, and why they also irritate us. We discuss the weight mothers carry to perform a certain kind of motherhood online, and some examples of mom culture getting it really right that you'll want to check out.

Sara has written about motherhood and feminism for The New York Times, Harper's Bazaar, The Washington Post, and elsewhere. She also writes the newsletter In Pursuit of Clean Countertops, where she explores the cult of ideal motherhood. She lives in New Hampshire.

Links:
Rebekah Taussig and Mia O'Malley, two momfluencers who are disrupting the assumption of a monolithic online culture
Karni Arieli's project Eye Mama
For more from Sara, follow her on Twitter and Instagram, and check out her website

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Rewind! Reframing Place-Based Memories

Wed, 29 Mar 2023 07:00:00 -0400

We’ve gone back to the beginning dear Reframeables! Back to where it all began — because sometimes you have to look back to move forward.

In this episode Nat and Bec introduce their “exceptional” details — who, what, where, including the frenemy relationship between their cats. Then they dive into some place-based memories that need reframing. For Nat it’s their childhood shed that Bec locked her in (she made Rebecca do it!); for Bec it’s the Starbucks at SickKids Hospital in Toronto where she spent a lot time during her daughter’s heart surgery.

They play the “do you remember when?” game throughout and come to the realization that starting small when it comes to reframing place-based memories is helpful. They might not be able to fix the whole place, but they can “attack” the memory room by room, turning them into waters they want to swim in.

Link:
The dystopian article that Rebecca references can be found here.

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Rewind! Reframing Trauma with Chef Sang Kim

Wed, 22 Mar 2023 07:00:00 -0400

We joined writer and chef Sang Kim for a conversation around reframing trauma. We were thrilled to get Sang's perspective as one who has lived life from so many different vantage points — there is so much here in this interview! We touch on the search for "home," crossovers between art forms, cooking as a source of joy, what it takes to be a great improviser, and reframing trauma through daily practice.

Sang Kim is a regular food contributor on CTV's The Social, The Marilyn Denis Show, Your Morning, and Breakfast Television. Season one of his television show Searching with Chef Sang, documenting the intersection of his Korean immigrant experience with the broader Canadian culture, airs on TLN and streams on VivaTV this summer. He currently operates North America’s most popular sushi making school, Sushi Making for the Soul. He has been featured as CNE celebrity Chef and LCBO’s Celebrity Chef Of The Month and served as Chef Ambassador for the United States Department of Agriculture. He was also the recipient in the Best Dish category at the renowned Chengdu International Culinary Competition in 2019.

Links:
Searching with Chef Sang
Sushi Making for the Soul
Follow Sang Kim on Twitter and Instagram

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Reframing the Walking Meeting: Flâneurs in Austin

Wed, 15 Mar 2023 07:00:00 -0400

While in Austin for South by Southwest, we're reframing the walking meeting. We're taking in the streets of East Austin, and working our way through big feelings (some brought on by messages out of the blue) — all at a brisk pace!

Link:
The Matinee episode with Nat

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Reframing Missed Moments (Part 1)

Wed, 08 Mar 2023 07:00:00 -0500

This week, we're examining missed moments because we're interested in reframing everything — even moments we've never had! For many of us, there's a temptation to get stuck in the feeling of "what if I had just done that differently..."

We bring our reframing energy to an assortment of our own missed moments, in addition to ones from previous guests Jessica Hiemstra and A.J. Schneider, and a poem from Colin James.

Links:
Being More Than One Thing with Jessica Hiemstra
Reframing Money Talks with A.J. Schneider

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Reframing Money Talks with A.J. Schneider

Wed, 01 Mar 2023 07:00:00 -0500

We've all heard the adage "money talks." Well, today we're reframing how money talks, and how to change the kinds of conversations we have with it. With A.J. Schneider from Beyond the Green Coaching, we talk strategies, we talk budgeting, we talk money in relationships — and then she encourages us to go one step further and really dig deep into our potential traumas (which we may not have known about!) that we have with money.

Link:
Check out the Debt and Savings Bundle from Beyond the Green Coaching (use code REFRAMEABLES20 for 20% off)

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Rewind: Reframing Community with Ian Williams

Wed, 22 Feb 2023 07:00:00 -0500

This week, in celebration of Black History Month, we are coming back to one of our favourite interviews with poet, essayist, and novelist Ian Williams, whose brain we really connected with. His book of essays, Disorientation: Being Black in the World, is thought-provoking and beautiful — all the things a book of essays should be.

Ian Williams is the author of six books of fiction, nonfiction, and poetry. His latest book, Disorientation, considers the impact of racial encounters on ordinary people. His novel Reproduction won the Scotiabank Giller Prize, and was published in Canada, the US, the UK, and Italy. His poetry collection Word Problems converts the ethical and political issues of our time into math and grammar problems. It won the Raymond Souster award.

Link:
For more Ian Williams, take a look at his website and follow him on Twitter and Instagram

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Reframing Valentine's Day

Wed, 15 Feb 2023 07:00:00 -0500

We're here to reframe Valentine's Day with an episode that's short and sweet (because maybe you have chocolate to eat). Some people love the holiday, some folks hate it — we’re not opposed to what Valentine’s Day represents, but are definitely here for a new perspective on what it could mean! Is it just a sentimental “love day” or possibly a new take on freedom? Or is it better if we just think of it as another day that ends in Y?

Link:
The Myth of Saint Valentine's Day by Sophie Strand

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Reframing "The Sex Talk" with Emily Roach

Wed, 08 Feb 2023 07:00:00 -0500

Today we're reframing how we talk about sex with kids with sex-positivity communicator Emily Roach — whose loyal and growing following on TikTok suggest that we're not the only ones looking for this conversation. We talk about creating spaces for judgement-free conversations, healing our own relationship to sex, and ways of speaking about consent. Listen in and we hope you learn some new words — we did!

Links:
Hey Sweetie
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
Jessica Valenti
For more from Emily, check out her TikTok

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Reframing Hilarious Grief with Jason Roeder

Wed, 01 Feb 2023 07:00:00 -0500

Today we are chatting with author Jason Roeder, former senior editor and senior writer at The Onion. We get into his new book Griefstrike!, a hilarious how-to for getting through grief that features Grieving Visualization Power Postures (all beginning with standing nude in one's sunroom), grief archetypes, sincerity corners, and so much more. Jason's also a contributor to The New Yorker and McSweeney’s Internet Tendency, so essentially his job has been to lean into funny. It might seem a little odd to reframe dealing with grief with a humour writer, but new perspectives are what we’re after — so here we are!

Links:
Griefstrike! The Ultimate Guide To Mourning
For more from Jason, follow him on Twitter and check out his website

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Reframing Polishing the Stone of our Lives with Heidi Lynch & Perrie Voss

Wed, 25 Jan 2023 07:00:00 -0500

This week we feature a vulnerable conversation with actors and creators Heidi Lynch and Perrie Voss, who delve into amplifying underrepresented stories in their new web series Avocado Toast. Perrie shares with us about her mental health struggles and Heidi talks about impact of endometriosis and how their health struggles make their way into their art making. Reframing takeaways that emerge: mental health hygiene as a full-time job, the practice of joyful actions and making ugly art to find one's inner child! Perrie and Heidi also reflect on the things they refuse to sacrifice in their next project, inspiring Nat and Bec to do the same.

Links:
Follow Avocado Toast on Instagram
Follow Heidi on Instagram and Twitter
Follow Perrie on Instagram and Twitter

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Reframing the Big Leap with Juno Rinaldi and Jenny Young

Wed, 18 Jan 2023 07:00:00 -0500

We're kicking off a new year of Reframeables with guests Juno Rinaldi and Jenny Young, who have launched new web series, My Special Guest. You might know them from other roles: Juno played Frankie for five years on the Emmy-nominated Netflix series Workin' Moms, and Jenny had a long time role on CBC's radio drama Afghanada and more recently on Amazon Prime’s The Lake. Now they want you to experience them together in something new that they have written and we love women taking risks! So we’re here for them.

Together we talk about making big transitions in our 40s, leaving behind jobs that were working, and experimenting with opportunities that sit way outside the box. We discuss the perils of being a Canadian actor, the joy of working with our best friends, the futility of comparison, and what it means to connect with friends beyond kids or work — essentially friendship for friendship’s sake!

Links:
Follow Juno on Instagram
Follow Jenny on Instagram

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Reframing the Holiday List

Wed, 14 Dec 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Today we are reframing the holiday list. We're seeing lots of lists out there right now, most of them about getting people the perfect gift for Christmas and other winter holiday celebrations. Since we also like lists (we do biweekly lists for our Patreon subscribers — what we like to call Life Hacks and Enhancers), we thought we would make a holiday list of our own. It's a behind-the-scenes look at what our Patreon friends get on the regular, but with our own holiday-philosophical flavour. Less the perfect gift, more the attempt at getting through with joy.

Link:
Toronto Outdoor Art Fair: Holiday Gifts Curated by Meghan Yuri Young

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Reframing the Power of "I Love You" (A Philosopher's Take) with Marianne Apostolides

Wed, 07 Dec 2022 07:00:00 -0500

With author Marianne Apostolides we talk about her newest book I Can't Get You Out Of My Mind. This episode of Reframeables is the book launch she never got (thanks a lot, Covid!). The story is about Ariadne, a writer who is navigating a divorce, an affair with the arrogant Adam and two angry teenage children. As a way to make some extra money she enters into an academic study that involves bringing an AI machine named Dirk into her home. The book asks how we enter big questions and confront ourselves in the answering. We talk about philosophy, desire, a love of language, and what "I love you" really means. Dear Reframeables, it's a big one!

Marianne Apostolides is the author of seven books, four of which have been translated. She's a two-time recipient of the Chalmers Arts Fellowship, and winner of the K.M. Hunter Award for Literature. Her latest book, I Can't Get You Out of My Mind, was a finalist for the Foreword INDIES award, Science Fiction Category.

Link:
Marianne's website

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Reframing Self-Care Failures + From Public to Private: Women in Transition with Julia Swaigen

Wed, 30 Nov 2022 07:00:00 -0500

This week, we're looking back on our October challenges from episode 53 (no complaining, no saying sorry) and reframing our commitments to language and what we really mean when we set self-care goals. Yes, this is coming out of some failed attempts! Listen in as we take a deep dive into our 30-day challenges (that went off the rails) and how we're trying to get back on track.

In the second half of the episode we examine the language we use with our children in a discussion with child and family therapist Julia Swaigen. This is the second installment in our new series Women in Transition. Julia teaches us about her practice's methodology of attuning to kids and how we might be missing opportunities for connection.

Link:
Attuned Families

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Reframing the Influencer Life with Caitlin Green

Wed, 23 Nov 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Nat's done a lot of commuting in her days as a teacher, and certain voices on the radio always grabbed her attention on the long trek up the 400. One of those voices is the smart, understated voice of Chum 104.5's Caitlin Green, who is reframing her influencer life right now - off stage with a new baby. We sat down for a vulnerable conversation with her, where she opens up about the loss of her son and her experience in publicly navigating that grief. She talks about being co-host of The Jann Arden Podcast, what working with Jann is like, some of the big names she's interviewed, and unexpected influencers who shaped how she tells stories now. If you’re in flux and want to hear how Caitlin is navigating using her voice in a different way, this episode is for you.

Links:
The Jann Arden Podcast
Terrible, Thanks for Asking
Follow Caitlin on Twitter and Instagram

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From the Classroom to Costco: Women in Transition (Maggie's Story)

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Today we're excited to launch a new series on women in transition. We've made some pretty big life transitions lately, and other people making big transitions have also been reaching out to us through Reframeables — so we decided it would be fun to feature their stories from time to time. Our guest today, Maggie, is a woman who quit teaching to work at Costco and built a popular TikTok account of close to 40,000 followers through sharing that story. We talk about why she thinks the transition was the right choice for her, her journey as an educator and teacher advocate, and what others looking to make shifts can learn from her bold move.

We're also bringing you an update on Ann's dilemma from episode 57 — what we called the Bourdain Dilemma. Listen to find out where the book is at now!

Links:
The Millennial Ms. Frizzle on TikTok
Check out Maggie's podcast Bad Teachers Club

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Reframing Self-Love with Kids Lit Author Jael Richardson

Wed, 09 Nov 2022 07:00:00 -0500

We are joined by author (and literary festival director) Jael Richardson to reframe all things self-love through the angle of kids lit. We talk about competition, faith, families, self-acceptance in our forties and, of course, books.

Jael is the author of the YA hit Gutter Child and the memoir The Stone Thrower, which was so popular it was eventually reformatted as a children's picture book. Her most recent book for kids is Because You Are. She is also the executive director of two literary festivals: The FOLD, and The FOLD Kids, which celebrate diverse authors and storytellers. These festivals are changing the literary landscape in Canada for the better.

Links:
The Stone Thrower (and the illustrated version with pictures by Matt James)
Gutter Child
Because You Are
The FOLD
The Sleeping Car Porter by Suzette Mayr
The Break and The Strangers by Katherena Vermette
For more from Jael, check out her website and give her a follow on Twitter and Instagram

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Introducing: The Reframeables Podcast

Thu, 03 Nov 2022 12:00:00 -0400

Dear Reframeables,

Welcome to our podcast. We are Nat and Bec, two very different sisters who like to use art and conversations to reframe more than ourselves — one might say we practice socially conscious self-help. Sometimes we do it through conversations with the two of us, sometimes we bring in artists, thinkers and creators to help us along. Always we like to leave you with some new reframeable to chew as we work through life’s big and small stuff together.

Love,
Nat and Bec

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Reframing the Parental Push / Life Hacks and Enhancers

Wed, 02 Nov 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Today we're reframing the parental push — Bec shares a story of navigating goal-setting with her eldest, who is now in high school, and Nat offers some retrospective thoughts brought forward from her time as a high school teacher. We're also pleased to bring you our latest installment of Life Hacks and Enhancers, normally an exclusive for our Patreon subscribers. Take in five things that are making our lives better right now.

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Reframing Wellness with Princess Owens

Wed, 26 Oct 2022 07:00:00 -0400

This week, we're reframing wellness with Princess Owens, otherwise known as Multiple Mom — a family wellness coach who has a lot to say about reframing wellness for moms, for Black women, and for children. She gives insights into the origins of Pilates, her business Be Well Zara, and how she opted for community over fashion.

Links:
Lori Harvey Is Just the Start of a Black Pilates Legacy, the article by Princess mentioned at the start of the episode
Hey Fran Hey and Dr. Amber Thornton, two wellness accounts Princess recommends
For more from Princess, follow her on Twitter and Instagram

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Reframing Regret (The Bourdain Dilemma)

Wed, 19 Oct 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Nat and Bec unpack an issue shared with them from Reframeables listener Ann: what should you do if you've given a gift to the wrong person, and now want to give it to someone else? We look at the dilemma from all sides so that Ann can close a relational loop and put this issue that's been tickling her brain to rest.

We also wanted to show some love for Pam Uzzell and her podcast Art Heals All Wounds. Each week, she interviews an artist and talks about their work because she believes that as creative thinkers, artists present us with some of the most compelling visions of ways that our world could work better for everyone. We feel connected to her in our shared love of art and its reframing power.

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Reframing Neurodiversity with Supernova Momma

Wed, 12 Oct 2022 07:00:00 -0400

This week we’re joined by Supernova Momma (otherwise known as Natasha Nelson), an autistic mom blogger who is the parent to two autistic children. She’s got a lot to teach us about neurodiversity, sharing insights and hilarious stories from her life as a veteran, building a business as a neurodivergent parent, and being real at all times.

We also wanted to show some love for Pam Uzzell and her podcast Art Heals All Wounds. Each week, she interviews an artist and talks about their work because she believes that as creative thinkers, artists present us with some of the most compelling visions of ways that our world could work better for everyone. We feel connected to her in our shared love of art and its reframing power.

Links:
For more from Supernova Momma, check out her website and follow her on Twitter and Instagram

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Reframing Therapy (A Seven Minute Check-In)

Wed, 05 Oct 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We also recorded this episode as a video, which you can watch here.

This week we're launching a new series: Reframing in Seven Minutes. For this one we check in on our October challenges from episode 53: no complaining, and no saying sorry. Reframing is always an ongoing process, so we wanted to pull back the curtain on how it's going for us in working through to the other side of something. A great episode for those of us short on time!

We also wanted to show some love for Pam Uzzell and her podcast Art Heals All Wounds. Each week, she interviews an artist and talks about their work because she believes that as creative thinkers, artists present us with some of the most compelling visions of ways that our world could work better for everyone. We feel connected to her in our shared love of art and its reframing power.

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Reframing Moments We've Lost Ourselves (Episode 53)

Wed, 21 Sep 2022 07:00:00 -0400

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Inspired by a line from the great Native American novelist Louise Erdrich, this week we're taking a look at times in our lives when we lost ourselves. We open doors on some raw moments of failure, forgiveness, and loss in our lives, and ask if we can reframe these in a loving way. Can we use them to propel self-discovery?

Links:
Love Medicine by Louise Erdrich
Dusk, Night, Dawn by Anne Lamott

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Reframing Community with Ian Williams (Episode 52)

Wed, 14 Sep 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We're joined by Giller-winning author and professor Ian Williams to reframe community — or what we’re summing up as connections and collisions in both writing and living. He shares with us about the community he finds in his writing, while we share with him about community that we find in his characters. Through Ian’s lens we also explore the nature of disappointment as ambitious people, failure, loneliness, reaching out into the world, and giving yourself away. Buddhism and the search for an informed Christianity also make their way into our conversation.

Ian Williams is the author of six books of fiction, nonfiction, and poetry. His latest book, Disorientation, considers the impact of racial encounters on ordinary people. His novel Reproduction won the Scotiabank Giller Prize, and was published in Canada, the US, the UK, and Italy. His poetry collection Word Problems converts the ethical and political issues of our time into math and grammar problems. It won the Raymond Souster award.

Link:
For more Ian Williams, take a look at his website and follow him on Twitter and Instagram

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Reframing Ambition (Episode 51)

Wed, 07 Sep 2022 07:00:00 -0400

This week we're reframing ambition — we've got lots of it, and so there is much to unpack! We examine differences in our own ambitions, and how our outlooks have evolved over time. Can we disconnect ambition from other things that might be more unhealthy or negative, like jealousy and competition? Also, is ambition a triangle or some other shape? We ponder this too with our usual deep dive energy.

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Reframing Trauma with Chef Sang Kim (Episode 50)

Wed, 31 Aug 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We joined writer and chef Sang Kim for a conversation around reframing trauma. We were thrilled to get Sang's perspective as one who has lived life from so many different vantage points — there is so much here in this interview! We touch on the search for "home," crossovers between art forms, cooking as a source of joy, what it takes to be a great improviser, and reframing trauma through daily practice.

Sang Kim is a regular food contributor on CTV's The Social, The Marilyn Denis Show, Your Morning, and Breakfast Television. His first television show, Searching with Chef Sang, documenting the intersection of his Korean immigrant experience with the broader Canadian culture, will be airing prime time on TLN in September 2022. He currently operates North America’s most popular sushi making school, Sushi Making for the Soul. He has been featured as CNE celebrity Chef and LCBO’s Celebrity Chef Of The Month and served as Chef Ambassador for the United States Department of Agriculture. He was also the recipient in the Best Dish category at the renowned Chengdu International Culinary Competition in 2019.

Links:
Searching with Chef Sang
Sushi Making for the Soul
Follow Sang Kim on Twitter and Instagram

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Summer Series: Personal Growth (Episode 49)

Wed, 24 Aug 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We also recorded this episode as a video, which you can watch here.

To finish up our summer series, we're discussing all things growth. We get personal with a discussion of new paths we're taking, and how things are going with our own progression as we move into the fall — the next season of growth. We've also got some items to bring with us on the journey: some poems, some chia pudding, some books, and some bathing suit bottoms. As uncomfortable as growth can be, we're determined to reframe it and embrace what that discomfort can teach us!

Links:
Bloom by Emily Dickinson
What Kind of Woman by Kate Baer (source of Still Married)
Sidewalk Flowers by JonArno Lawson and Sydney Smith
Left On Friday

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Reframing a Celebratory Break (Episode 48)

Wed, 17 Aug 2022 07:00:00 -0400

This week we're taking a moment to pause, reflect, and celebrate — while leaving you with a couple big questions to ponder.

Link:
Know Yourself prompt cards from The School of Life

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Spotlight Convo: Art Heals All Wounds and Poet Preeti Vangani

Wed, 10 Aug 2022 07:00:00 -0400

This week we're putting a spotlight on a conversation from Art Heals All Wounds, a podcast hosted by our friend Pam Uzzell. We feel connected to her in our shared love of art and its reframing power, and bring to you a conversation Pam had with poet Preeti Vangani on mothers, loss, and the reframing power of poetry to heal. We hope you find this episode as enlightening as we did.

Pam's episode description:
Today, I’m joined by writer, poet, and educator Preeti Vangani. Preeti’s work covers themes of family, grief, sexual politics, and the body. In our conversation, we discuss her transition from the corporate world to creative writing, where she draws inspiration from, and what she's currently working on. Plus, she reads two of her poems and unpacks the story behind them. Tune in to learn more about Preeti’s journey and how poetry has helped guide her healing.

Links:
Preeti's website
Mother Tongue Apologize
F.L.A.M.E.S.
For more Art Heals All Wounds, check out their website and newsletter, and follow them on Instagram and Twitter

Summer Series: Nostalgia (Episode 47)

Wed, 03 Aug 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We also recorded this episode as a video, which you can watch here.

We continue our summer series riffing on all things lists. This week’s dive: nostalgia — despite it being a feeling that doesn't come easily for either of us. We explore the early blog days, weeding and podcasts, returning to books read at a young age, candy in plastic cups, and other thoughts all tinged with nostalgia in one way or another.

Links:
Knoxville, Tennessee by Nikki Giovanni
Tomato salad with currants and serrano chile oil by Sophia Roe
Burnt Sugar by Avni Doshi
The Clan of the Cave Bear by Jean M. Auel

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Going Plantcrazii with Lloyd Rose (Episode 46)

Wed, 27 Jul 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Nat sits down with Lloyd Rose (aka @plantcrazii), a vegan content creator who's been doing amazing things on Instagram and has a new cookbook coming out at the end of the summer. We're putting good vibes out into the world with this conversation, talking about Lloyd's journey from meat-eater to living a plant-based life, pushing back on how veganism is portrayed in the media, building mutual spaces online, and the vulnerability of being an influencer.

Links:
4 Vegan Influencers To Follow On Instagram, Nat's Chatelaine article
What the Health, the documentary Lloyd mentions
Preorder Lloyd's cookbook Crazy Good Vegan: Simple, Frugal Recipes for Flavor-Packed Home Cooking
See Lloyd's cooking on his Instagram and more recipes at The Feedfeed, and follow him on Twitter and TikTok, too

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Summer Series: Feel the Heat (Episode 45)

Wed, 20 Jul 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We also recorded this episode as a video, which you can watch here.

Over the next few weeks, between some exciting interviews, we are doing a summer series riffing on our love of all things lists. This week we have a list based on the theme of heat. Enjoy a new poem, thoughts on writer Rachel Cusk, capsule summer wardrobe items, cold foods, and other thoughts, all inspired by the heat!

Links:
Heat by Hilda Doolittle
Second Place by Rachel Cusk
Outline by Rachel Cusk
The Seasons, Op. 37a by Tchaikovsky
Green Mango Salad by Uncle Boons, from Bon Appétit

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Vino is for Everyone: Diversifying Wine with Sommelier Beverly Crandon (Episode 44)

Wed, 13 Jul 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We welcomed sommelier Beverly Crandon to the podcast to talk about making wine more accessible, and how diversifying vino can make the conversation around it all the more fruitful. It's a conversation that gets into wine as a way of bringing people together, how Beverly's upbringing informs her work as a sommelier, the importance of learning the entire story of a wine, and celebrating summer in Toronto with a focus on the senses.

Beverly Crandon is a current sommelier, wine lover, marketing operations addict, and founder of the Spice Food & Wine Event Series, a collection of events that focus on pairing wine with ethnic foods in hopes to promote more cognitive diversity in the industry. She combines her wine education, love of wine, and work experience to broaden wine appreciation and advancement in those not deemed the traditional wine consumer or professional. As a founding member of Vinequity, a not-for-profit that aims to amplify the voices of BIPOC wine professionals in Canada, Beverly is acutely fashioned to do just that.

Links:
This Toronto sommelier wants us to rethink wine pairings, the Toronto Star article by Karon Liu that introduced us to Beverly's work
Nyarai Cellars
Spice Food & Wine Event Series
Vinequity
Take a look at Beverly's website to see more on her work, and follow her on Instagram

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Summer Series: Water (Episode 43)

Wed, 06 Jul 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We also recorded this episode as a video, which you can watch here.

Over the next few weeks, between some exciting interviews, we are doing a summer series riffing on our love of all things lists! This week we have a list based on the theme of water. Enjoy some poetry, music, literature and thought prompts: all water-inspired!

Links:
Home Body by Rupi Kaur (with the excerpt we mentioned)
The Vagina Bible by Jen Gunter
Ocean Eyes by Billie Eilish
OgoSport OgoDisk Mini Kids' 2-Player Bouncy Flying Disc/Frisbee & Koosh Ball Set
We Are Water Protectors by Carole Lindstrom
We Are Water Protectors: An Illustrated Celebration of Nature, Native Heritage, and the Courage to Stand Up for Earth by Maria Popova (the article from The Marginalian)

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The Endless Verbal with Aimee Bender (Episode 42)

Wed, 29 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We joined novelist Aimee Bender for a phone call that turned into a backyard conversation over Zoom. You're going to hear the sound of California birds (and possibly the odd car) as we unpack the beautiful mundane — truly a joyful conversation, especially if you're a writer (or interested in the process of writing). We touch on using writing to capture the manifold reflections of reality, the strange in the mundane, knowing your own quirky brain, finding relief in failure, and letting go to experience amazing surprise and wonder in our lives.

Aimee Bender is an American novelist and short story writer, known for her surreal stories and characters. Her first book was The Girl in the Flammable Skirt, a collection of short stories chosen as a New York Times notable book of 1998. Other notable publications since are her novel An Invisible Sign of My Own, which was named as a Los Angeles Times pick of the year, a collection of short stories, Willful Creatures, and the novel The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake. Her most recent novel, The Butterfly Lampshade, was published in 2020. She lives and teaches in LA.

Links:
Fictionz, the podcast that did enacted episodes of Aimee's stories Off and Call My Name
Aimee Bender on Writing Without a Plan, Aimee's piece for Lit Hub that Nat mentions
Intimations, Zadie Smith's book of essays Aimee mentions
Take a look at Aimee's website to see all of her writing in one place, and follow her on Twitter

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I Am the Medicine: A Conversation with Asha Frost (Episode 41)

Wed, 22 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We're joined by Asha Frost, an Indigenous Medicine Woman and a member of the Chippewas of Nawash First Nation, to discuss her lifelong journey of reclamation and her path as a healer. Asha provides profound insights into ways of integrating Medicine in our own lives and trusting ourselves as healers. Asha talks about shifting out of her private practice into her life work of sharing Medicine through Ceremonies, teaching and speaking events. We're also treated to some ideas from her new book, You Are the Medicine.

Links:
You Are the Medicine, Asha's new book
Dear White Woman Who Wants to Be Like Me, Asha's essay that is mentioned at the beginning of the episode
Check out Asha's website to learn about her healing work and see more writing from her

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Rewind: A Conversation with Carley Fortune (Episode 28)

Wed, 15 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0400

This week we're rewinding to bring forward our conversation with Carley Fortune, whose book Every Summer After has just made it to The New York Times bestseller list!

We reframe life's big transitions as we talk with Carley about leaving her steady career in the Canadian media industry to work as a solo writer and novelist. She tells us about the concept of matrescence, something she has written about in her time with Refinery29 — a challenging experience that many parents undergo but aren't able to name. We're also treated to a napkin pitch for Every Summer After, her novel about the nostalgia of young summer love and the choices that change us forever.

Links:
Every Summer After
Adam Grant Thinks Again from A Slight Change of Plans (the podcast episode about reframing imposter syndrome that Nat mentions)
Carley's piece Why I’m Okay with Being a Good-Enough Mom

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All Kinds of Stories with Zarqa Nawaz (Episode 40)

Wed, 08 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We sit down with Zarqa Nawaz, the creator of Little Mosque on the Prairie, the world's first sitcom about a Muslim community living in the west. She has recently released both a new book and a new show (out now on CBC Gem), and joins us to share her insights on storytelling — from how her faith informs her writing process, to her personal journey in bringing stories like hers to the mainstream, to the inherent value of depicting the ordinary.

Links:
Watch ZARQA on CBC Gem
Jameela Green Ruins Everything, Zarqa's newly published book
Zarqa Nawaz had a hit show, then a decade-long dry spell. She's ready for her second act. by Marie-Danielle Smith, the Maclean's article we bring up
Acting Muslim — Representing Our Authentic Stories, the session Rebecca mentions
Read about Christian Cooper (the Central Park birder), who will be hosting a birding series for National Geographic
For more from Zarqa, check out her site, and follow her on Twitter and Instagram

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Being More Than One Thing with Jessica Hiemstra (Episode 39)

Wed, 01 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We are all multi-hyphenate. How can we reframe what it means to be more than one thing and embrace our multiplicities? We talked to artist Jessica Hiemstra, whose work spans many different mediums, from essays and poetry to children's books to murals to large-scale installations, about how she navigates doing a lot. Our wide-ranging conversation spanned how we embrace being big in the world to the tabs we keep open in our lives to what we can learn from beavers.

Jessica makes. Have a look.

Links:
Follow Jessica on Twitter and Instagram
While the Forest is Sleeping (out now)
The Thinking Heart: the Etty Drawings (1983–1984) by Claire Wilks (a collaboration coming soon)

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Grief Forward (Episode 38)

Wed, 25 May 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Grief is something that is present for a lot of us. There's lots to be sad about, so what's the best way to process the grief arising from it? Do we have an obligation to feel sad all the time given the daily tragedies in our world? We shine light on our own ongoing griefs and explore what it means to feel safe enough to feel all our feelings, even as we try and keep up with the needs around us. We also touch on counters to grief — which seem to fall somewhere between will and joy — and the meaning we can make as we grieve in community.

Links:
Untangled by Lisa Damour, the book Rebecca mentions
Couples Therapy, the show Rebecca mentions
How Long Should it Take to Grieve? in The New York Times and Grief and Conspiracy 20 Years After 9/11 in The Atlantic, two essays on grief we found insightful

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Thinking Big with Anna DeShawn (Episode 37)

Wed, 18 May 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Nat and Bec chat with Chicago-born digital media artist and social entrepreneur Anna DeShawn. We reminisce about the Podcast Movement conference in LA, church as preparation for life as a performer, and Anna shares some insights about creating when you don't fit in any box, doing many things at a time, and developing a self-care regimen that enables thinking big to flourish.

Anna Deshawn is the founder of The Qube and E3 Radio, which are riding media into its next era by using digital media streams to center and celebrate BIPOC and QTPOC creatives.

Links:
Check out Anna's website for more of her work, and give her a follow on Twitter and Instagram.
Discover the best music and podcasts by BIPOC and QTPOC creatives (and join the app waitlist) at The Qube. Also check out E3 Radio for queer music and news.
The books Anna mentions are Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes and The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks.

We also wanted to put a spotlight on the podcast Hello, I'm Listening, a rebrand of the podcast Translating Love where hosts Dani (from America) and Wolfgang (from Austria) explore their unique relationship. It's a refreshingly fun podcast where they talk about life, important issues, and fun stuff while growing together as a couple and both always bring a different perspective.

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Curating a Life with Jen McNeely of She Does The City (Episode 36)

Wed, 11 May 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Bec and Nat chat with Jen McNeely, founder of She Does the City, about what it means to curate her life even as she curates a publishing platform. We get into shifts in perspective, taking on different roles as we mature and media changes, the negative side of wine mom culture, advocating for mental health and recovery, and simpler ways of being.

Links:
Follow Jen on Twitter and Instagram.

We also wanted to put a spotlight on the podcast Hello, I'm Listening, a rebrand of the podcast Translating Love where hosts Dani (from America) and Wolfgang (from Austria) explore their unique relationship. It's a refreshingly fun podcast where they talk about life, important issues, and fun stuff while growing together as a couple and both always bring a different perspective.

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Hallmark Movie Do-Over (Episode 35)

Wed, 04 May 2022 07:00:00 -0400

What is art anyways? This week we're reframing the binary of highbrow and lowbrow art after watching the Hallmark movie The Beach House, starring Minka Kelly, Andie MacDowell, and Chad Michael Murray. Do our categories get in the way of really engaging with art? How can we cast off these ingrained ideas to engage with whatever is in front of us — whether it's Dostoevsky or The Bachelor? We were both surprised by what we liked about the movie, and our viewing experience led to some insights about how our tastes evolve throughout life, the importance of structure, and creating out of constraints.

We also wanted to put a spotlight on the podcast Hello, I'm Listening, a rebrand of the podcast Translating Love where hosts Dani (from America) and Wolfgang (from Austria) explore their unique relationship. It's a refreshingly fun podcast where they talk about life, important issues, and fun stuff while growing together as a couple and both always bring a different perspective.

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Saving Coffee + A Chat with Mary Elizabeth Picher (Episode 34)

Wed, 27 Apr 2022 07:00:00 -0400

This week we step outside of the podcast recording studio to reframe a couple of locations we have a lot of history with. We visit two coffee shops — ‘G.N.’ and ‘C.’ — that we’ve both spent a lot of time in and are full of memories (not all of them good). How do spaces take root in our minds and become meaning-filled, and how can we reframe places we might have bad associations with so that we can be at home around them? Come on our journey to find out!

Then we return to our Women in Business series as Bec talks to Mary Elizabeth Picher, who introduces us to her local child development-focused businesses Wholeplay and The Giving Tree Centre. We get into how the pandemic has shaken up her career, why you need to look at your childhood in order to really heal, and reframing business obstacles.

Links:
Wholeplay
The Giving Tree Centre
The Giving Tree Centre on Instagram

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Reframing Through Fiction: A Conversation with Katie Zdybel (Episode 33)

Wed, 20 Apr 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Fiction writing can be a really powerful reframing tool — writer Katie Zdybel joins us to talk about this idea and reframe our own writing lives in the process. Plus: finding the right headspace for writing, living in the Yukon, seeing beauty in the landscape (and sometimes not!), and using fiction to build better relationships with the sadnesses that are a part of life.

Katie Zdybel’s recently released first book, Equipoise, was shortlisted for the HarperCollins/UBC Prize for Best New Fiction and received a grant from the Canada Council for the Arts. Stories within the collection won the Carter V. Cooper Short Fiction Award and The New Quarterly’s Peter Hinchcliffe Short Fiction Award, as well as having received publisher nominations for the Writers’ Trust Journey Prize and two National Magazine Awards. Her writing has also appeared in EXILE Quarterly, The New Quarterly, The Malahat Review, The Antogonish Review, and more.

Links:
Equipoise
Follow Katie on Instagram and Twitter, and check out her official website

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Reframing Divorce with Miranda Hassell (Episode 32)

Wed, 13 Apr 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Nat joins Miranda Hassell in a two-for-one episode of Sister On! and The Big D on reframing divorce. How can we put this painful process in a new light and learn to choose ourselves over relationships? Take in our breakup stories (because who doesn't like a little drama?), the ways we reframe our experiences of divorce, and what comes after the papers are signed. We also get into video games as healing tools, the gifts we decide to give our exes, and insights from strangers in unexpected places.

Links:
The Fantasy of Healing by Vanessa Angélica Villarreal (the article from The Cut about divorce and video games Nat mentions)
Listen to The Big D
Follow The Big D on Instagram

About The Big D:
If you’ve ever been in love, and ever broken up, this podcast is for you. Younger generations aren’t approaching marriage in a traditional way, so why should we approach divorce in a traditional way? This podcast is a combination of honest stories about real relationships — and interviews with experts, some you might guess like a therapist, lawyer, financial advisor, and some surprises like a chef and meditation guide. It is practical, political, personal. It’s a serious topic, with a not-so-serious host.

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Risk Portfolio (Episode 31)

Wed, 06 Apr 2022 07:00:00 -0400

What's the biggest risk you've ever taken? Managing risk has been front and centre in our minds these past two years of COVID. This episode tries to unpack some of that risk in a broader way as we examine big risks we've made in the past and what our choices say about us. How do we react differently to the risks imposed on us, versus the ones we choose to take on? How do we manage when everything goes wrong? We try to find the right language for navigating the risks life throws at us, as well as examining the need for healthy risk taking in each of our lives. Ultimately a question for us all: what's our risk portfolio?

Link:
Stress (the Radiolab episode Rebecca mentions)

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Existential Crisis in LA (Episode 30)

Wed, 30 Mar 2022 07:00:00 -0400

We're back from the Podcast Movement Evolutions conference in LA, where we had a bit of an existential crisis. We give you our travelogue, where we gave some serious thought to rebranding and reframing Sister On! as this project of ours grows and changes. Also, finding a mentor, SMART goals, being mansplained to in Ubers, and prioritizing pleasure.

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Mindful Eating with Dr. Michelle May (Episode 29)

Wed, 23 Mar 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Does our relationship with food need reframing? We had a talk with Dr. Michelle May, a former family physician who struggled with disordered eating, about what it means to eat mindfully and how we can cultivate healthier ways of thinking about food. We got into identifying self-care habits that can make us feel better, how to actually change our habits in a way that is lasting, and the origin of our culture's unhealthy attitudes toward food.

Michelle May is the founder of Am I Hungry? Mindful Eating Programs and Training. She’s the author of the Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat book series that teaches mindful eating to help individuals resolve mindless and emotional eating and senseless yo-yo dieting to live the vibrant life they crave. You can follow her on Instagram and Twitter.

Articles of Michelle's that we mentioned during the episode:
Take Your Life Back from Food: 5 Ways to Reclaim Your Time and Energy
The Differences Between Goals and Intentions

This week in particular, we'd love to hear from you about your feelings around conscious eating. Do you love it? Do you hate it? Is it realistic? Is this something you've struggled with? Tacos are always going to be hard and there’s just no doing that consciously? We love hearing from our listeners! Leave us a voice message, write to the show email, or send us a DM on any of our socials.

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Reframing Life's Big Transitions: A Conversation with Carley Fortune (Episode 28)

Wed, 16 Mar 2022 06:00:00 -0400

This week is all about reframing life's big transitions as we talk with writer Carley Fortune about leaving her steady career in the Canadian media industry to work as a solo writer and novelist. She tells us about the concept of matrescence, something she has written about in her time with Refinery29 — a challenging experience that many parents undergo but aren't able to name. We're also treated to a napkin pitch for Every Summer After, her forthcoming novel about the nostalgia of young summer love and the choices that change us forever.

Links:
Adam Grant Thinks Again from A Slight Change of Plans (the podcast episode about reframing imposter syndrome that Nat mentions)
Carley's piece Why I’m Okay with Being a Good-Enough Mom

You can find more of Carley Fortune's writing on her website, and give her a follow on Instagram and Twitter. Every Summer After releases on May 10th. You can see more about it (and preorder it!) here.

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A Quickie about Toxic Positivity (Episode 27)

Wed, 09 Mar 2022 06:00:00 -0500

Can reframing be misconstrued as toxic positivity? Bec wonders if she’s still allowed to be annoyed at super positive people. Nat suggests yes, although she suggests we all need to find our safe space to be grumpy. Bec worries about being fake if she’s too positive. Nat wonders if sometimes we are scared of healing.

The book we reference is Complaint by Sara Ahmed.
“Just” is an adverb.
"With" is a preposition.
And Nat can't find that director for the life of her!

Ultimately, they would love to hear from you, the listeners, on where the line is between reframing and toxic positivity. What are your experiences? Please send us a DM on Instagram or an email at producer@ceresproductions.ca.

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Introvert Superpowers: A Conversation with Sharon Glassman (Episode 26)

Wed, 02 Mar 2022 06:00:00 -0500

Recording through a bonding technology debacle, Bec and Nat talk with designer and songwriter Sharon Glassman (the founder of Smile Songs, a line of musical greeting cards and gifts) about reframing the concept of introversion. The wide-ranging conversation spans what it means to be an introvert — touching on how she hacked her career to make it work at her own speed, her journey from fashion journalist to performer, her introvert superpowers, being a ‘yes’ versus a ‘no’ person, and falling in love with Boulder, Colorado. She might even share a song of her own.

You can check out Sharon's sweet and thoughtful cards at Smile Songs, and give her a follow on Instagram here.

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Happy Hour: Reframing in the Wee Hours (Episode 25)

Wed, 23 Feb 2022 06:00:00 -0500

All about reframing our changing selves! We are not static.

Recording early morning from the farm, Bec and Nat check in on the problems they tried to reframe for each other back in Episode 11. Bec’s question was around asking too many “whys.” And Nat’s was around navigating feelings of discontent. The sisters come to the conclusion that taking each other’s advice is not simple and these “problems” are going to need multiple iterations. Also, they like the rawness of each other’s brains at 7:45 a.m.

Bridget and Matthew's business is The Mutchmor. Their Instagram is here. Give them a follow!

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Reframing Success with Novelist Marissa Stapley (Episode 24)

Wed, 16 Feb 2022 06:00:00 -0500

Bec and Nat interview writer Marissa Stapley, whose writing career takes a major turn when Reese Witherspoon endorses her latest novel Lucky.

Marissa Stapley has worked as a newspaper journalist and magazine editor, and is now the internationally bestselling author of the novels Lucky, a Reese’s Book Club December 2021 Pick, The Last Resort, Things to do When It’s Raining, and Mating for Life. Her work has been published in fifteen countries and two of her novels, including Lucky, have been optioned for television. She also co-writes holiday rom-coms (The Holiday Swap, All I Want for Christmas) under the pen name Maggie Knox. She lives in Toronto with her family.

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Reframing Gratitude! (Episode 23)

Wed, 09 Feb 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Bec and Nat decide to reframe the January blues with gratitude as their February focus.
Nat recalls an episode of The Huberman Lab podcast where he talks about the necessity of introducing story/narrative to really make for a truly brain-changing gratitude practice.
Bec reads a shiver-inducing letter from one of Nat’s students and then they check in on how Nat is feeling post reading!
Bec and Nat learn that they can search out a story for their own gratitude practice (if they don’t have a student thank you note lying around!) and they don’t need a new story every time!
They decide to write their own kids letters to encourage their own practice of gratitude.

Links:
Our Patreon page.
The Huberman Lab podcast we reference.

Books we mention:
Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor Frankl; An Interrupted Life by Etty Hellisum; The Writing Life by Annie Dillard.

Interview with YouTube Stars Jessii & Mandii Vee (Episode 22)

Wed, 02 Feb 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Bec interviews YouTubers Jessii Vee and Mandii Vee — their first podcast interview ever! And one of the few interviews they have done as sisters.

The sisters share about how they have reframed their entrepreneurship during COVID and the ways their family supports one another — including family meetings to brainstorm videos!

They also talk about the bullying each of them endured and how they have moved to healthier places in their lives and even learned from those hard times.

Jessii lets a new project she's up to out of the bag!

Redirecting the Light: Reframing Our Shadow Sides (Episode 21)

Wed, 26 Jan 2022 06:00:00 -0500

In this week's episode:

1. Bec wants to talk about what blinders we still have about ourselves in our 40s…Nat prefers the more Jungian language of “shadow sides!”
2. Bec shares two of what she believes are her shadow qualities but Nat reframes one of them, Bec’s chameleon-like tendency in a group, to be a strength.
3. Bec reframes Nat’s tendency to walk away from conversations as having a positive sense of personal boundaries. They talk about multiplicities and embracing the many parts of themselves.
4. The sisters land on a reframe we can all take on: “Name the need I have for the self I am today!”

We reference this episode of the Hidden Brain hosted by Shankar Vedantam.

Rebecca references her own Substack newsletter and the "Ask Polly" Substack for the discussion around multiplicities.

The quotations from e.e. cummings and James Baldwin came from The Marginalian.

Mental Health Reframe with TEDx speaker Johnny Crowder of Cope Notes (Episode 20)

Tue, 18 Jan 2022 10:00:00 -0500

Bec and Nat interview TEDx speaker and Forbes-endorsed mental health advocate Johnny Crowder, who has built a whole system around reframing negative thinking.

Almost his whole life, Johnny didn’t know that he could work out his brain like he did his body.
We all need to find the right wording when it comes to self-care. We might not speak the same language but we are needing the same things.
Johnny tells us about his company which provides daily mental health support via text messages to interrupt negative thoughts.
One of the privileges we have as adults is our ability to get up and walk away in toxic situations.

Johnny Crowder is a 29-year-old suicide/abuse survivor, TEDx speaker, touring musician, mental health and sobriety advocate, and the Founder & CEO of Cope Notes, a text-based mental health platform that provides daily support to users in nearly 100 countries around the world. Armed with 10 years of clinical treatment, a psychology degree from the University of Central Florida, and a decade of peer support and public advocacy through the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), Johnny’s youthful vigor for mental health has impacted millions of lives across the globe.

Since his first keynote in 2011, Johnny's refreshingly candid perspective has attracted praise from hundreds of outlets, including Upworthy, CNN, and Forbes. Even when commanding a virtual stage or touring with his metal band, Prison, his infectious positivity and firsthand experience with multiple mental illnesses (ranging from bipolar disorder and OCD to schizophrenia) uniquely equip him to provide realistic, yet hopeful insight into the pains of hardship with authenticity, levity, and unconventional wit.

Watch Johnny's powerful TEDx Talk here and email him directly at johnny@copenotes.com.

Sleepless in Toronto (Episode 19)

Wed, 12 Jan 2022 06:00:00 -0500

The sisters attempt to reframe sleepless nights — a problem which comes from a listener. They both agree it’s a hard one especially given that Nat hasn’t had a full night’s sleep in eight years.

Bec asks if sleeplessness could be reframed for new mothers as doing hard things? Like the cold plunge from the spa — a good shock to the body’s system?

They discuss how the constraints imposed through sleepless nights could lead to generating…something! For Nat it led to the writing of a PhD! Why not write down the wild and awesome thoughts that come in the middle of the night?

Bec reads an excerpt from Nightbitch by Rachel Yoder. They discuss finding some companions who are experiencing the same thing. They ponder the transformations that mothers go through; maybe “nightbitch” is one such iteration.

They discuss the need to stay open to wherever community comes, and painfully for Bec it might not be another soulmate mother. It might be your dad shopping for formula with you! You don’t always know where care will come from and who will surprise you!

New Year's Revolutions (Episode 18)

Wed, 05 Jan 2022 06:00:00 -0500

For this episode on New Year’s Revolutions Nat and Bec begin by discussing their foray into TikTok. Is it humiliating or are they taking healthy risks? :)

Bec brings up the idea of improving someone else’s life in this new year if you don’t feel equipped to improve your own right now.

Natalie troubles this notion as she considers the dangers of help that is misguided. But at the same we don’t want to devolve into myopic self-help. It’s a delicate tightrope.

They discuss Bec’s husband’s statement that “he makes no promises” about a couple things and how that’s actually a good thing. Words have power we don’t want to toss them out. Nat adds on by referencing German philosopher Paul Tillich who says “take no oaths.”

Nat ends by saying incremental shifts, that might only be perceptible to her, are what she’s going for in her New Year’s Revolution: an incrementally shifted sound project of listening to her body.

Bec is seeking to be evermore in the present moment! She wonders if she’s doing that with her newsletter already.

Announcing...a tiny break!

Wed, 22 Dec 2021 07:00:00 -0500

Two week break for Sister On as we tend to some of our own self-care!

But in the meantime please subscribe to our newsletter and check out any episodes your might have missed.

See you in 2022! We can't wait to keep on reframing with you!

Holiday Reframed (Episode 17)

Wed, 15 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0500

In their second holiday episode (which means they tried to talk shorter for all their busy listeners!), Nat and Bec reframe the notion of holiday and what it will be this year.

Bec unpacks the etymology of the word holiday… from Old English haligdaeg (holy + day), and they realize they might need to look for their own “sabbath.”

They discuss turning a concept on its head — like the positive acne trend! Nat says she can't look at the notion of holiday straight on these days when it looks so different for so many.

Nat suggests that Bec try reframing her franticness during the holidays as excitement.

Bec suggests that Nat try reframing her care toward herself, which would be a novel way to live for her. But her fiddle-leaf fig tree is doing it!

They agree that they won’t micromanage each other into doing the reframing work they aspire to. Each of their change has to come from within.

Gift Giving: Reframed (Episode 16)

Wed, 08 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0500

For this holiday episode, Nat suggests that they reframe the notion of gifts. She offers up the philosopher Emmanuel Levinas’ notion of “gift” which focuses on how power is shared between the gift giver and the receiver. Bec processes this idea at a slow pace. She too wants to embrace the vulnerability that comes with giving and realizes she has to give up expectation, even of her family tree trimming moment.

They realize that the best moments can came when they are just receiving whatever is happening. Nat is officially a meditator.

Bec talks to business owner Maran Stern about how she reframes gifting through her kindness calendar. Check out her calendars at mykindnesscalendar.com!

The Best Things Come in Twos (or New and Now) (Episode 15)

Wed, 01 Dec 2021 06:00:00 -0500

The sisters acknowledge the passing of Natalie’s 17 year old car, and more importantly the passing of legend Stephen Sondheim. Nat sings a line from "Send In The Clowns."

Inspired by her son’s curiosity, Nat wants to return to the beauty of questions without feeling so tied to finding answers. Which ties together nicely with their two new problems to reframe from a listener, who asks about 1) nudging people along through mentorship and 2) does reframing need something from another?

Bec admits that nudging her teenager doesn’t work and she has to come at things indirectly — a strategy she’s learned from Nat. They role play that strategy (listen just for that!). They muse about how to take on the role of “mentor” with a really open mind?

Nat notes that memory is fuzzy and often our metaphorical glasses for looking back at them are pretty scratched up, but maybe that brings us more firmly into the now. Bec advocates for letting some memories go completely when they don't serve the New and Now!

They determine that a Sister On! wellness retreat is in order. Any takers?

Mantras and Metaphors (Episode 14)

Wed, 24 Nov 2021 06:00:00 -0500

Nat and Bec go rogue in this conversation. A question about New Year's Resolutions spirals into finding something better… a poetic motto? Maybe an action mantra?

Nat wonders if they can be less productivity oriented with their "resolutions." Maybe some lines from literature are best of all for teaching us how to live! She offers up Rachel Cusk's Second Place and a poem by Hanif Abdurraqib. Bec reads some excerpts from National Book Award Winner Jason Mott's Hell Of A Book as her teacher of the moment.

They have a surprising laugh (it goes on for a bit!) at the end when Nat reveals that fear is not the thing that stops her, but for Bec it's everything. She wonders if fear is at the root of all our problems. Nat promises to sit with that one. And thus a need for another episode!

Loss and Found (Episode 13)

Wed, 17 Nov 2021 01:00:00 -0500

Nat has been thinking about loss now that her son is against kisses. It spurs her to write a piece that she shares, called "Loss and Found."

The sisters muse about some of their great losses and some of the benefits of experiencing pain—it leads us to empathy.

They manage to get their mom to contribute to the podcast, not in a conversation, but in her own written piece about loss. "Mom" writes about her favourite books that share a commonality in navigating great loss.

They both shed their first podcast tears.

2 in 1: Our Second Call-In + Interview with Singer Felicity Williams (Episode 12)

Wed, 10 Nov 2021 07:00:00 -0500

Nat and Bec reframe a new question about the labels we put on our kids. Also they air an interview they have been sitting on with their old friend and singer extraordinaire Felicity Williams. (You might recognize her voice from our opening music!) The theme which resonates through both parts of the episode: the changing seasons of life.

“Why Can’t I Follow My Own Advice?” (Episode 11)

Wed, 03 Nov 2021 07:00:00 -0400

Nat and Bec open with a discussion of Hallowe'en, before diving into what they call their “unscripted experiment” where they bring each other a surprise question to reframe on the spot. Nat's question focuses on how hard she's finding it to take her own (good!) advice. Bec's question is around the question "why?" They dive into each question for fifteen minutes and feel pretty damn victorious by the end.

Shame…Just a Feeling (Episode 10)

Wed, 27 Oct 2021 03:00:00 -0400

This is shame 2.0 for Nat and Bec as they encounter technical difficulties the first time around. For this second time through they dig even deeper into the nuances of guilt, embarrassment and guilt. They discover that Nat is a bit of a rebel and takes an alternative stance whenever she can. Bec feels like her shame is rooted in being "too much." They both muse about how the church upbringing has potentially contributed to feelings of shame. Nat suggests adopting her husband's notion of putting a metaphorical arm around our younger selves and our selves in the present, as a way to release some of the "bad" feelings.

New Things Are Hard (Episode 9)

Tue, 19 Oct 2021 20:00:00 -0400

Bec and Nat open by talking about how they discuss everything with a certain intensity…even eyeliner. Bec asks Nat five questions to help listeners get to know her better. They branch into their topic: new things are hard! Bec’s hard new thing is running a solo business and just doing art in general. Nat feels like teaching is back to being new again. They do a NEW thing on the podcast with their first call in. Listener Nicole asks them to reframe the notion of the essential reworker and how they’re viewed, which sends Nat and Bec down a path of asking why we as a society have already forgotten our essential workers. And should we even be calling them that if we don’t treat them as such. Is it really just essential "work" we're talking about? Nat suggests that art and books, in particular, are a great antidote to capitalism and the hard stuff, aka newness. They end by deciding that everyone would gain from finding a work of fiction that feeds their spirit.

The quote Bec can't quite find is from Austrian poet Rainer Maria Rilke, who has much to say about newness and fear. Here are two good ones: "It is a tremendous act of violence to begin anything. I am not able to begin. I simply skip what should be the beginning." And another: "Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.”

Never Meet Your Heroes (Episode 8)

Tue, 12 Oct 2021 20:00:00 -0400

Nat and Bec have one of their usual rambling conversations. They discuss the romanticized version of a mentor who is there to teach you all the tricks and walk with you forever, but how that’s next to impossible to find. Bec appreciates gleaning from people’s lives who are different and how that expands her. Nat admits to still wanting someone to swoop in and be a career mentor, especially after having had some really wounding mentorship experiences. The book of Job comes into the conversation and how they have learned from negative experiences. They recognize that mentorship can feel like a really big ask as it requires vulnerability on both sides. Bec brings up the idea of lateral mentorship, where guidance comes from people right beside you. Note: There is a Season 2 Ted Lasso spoiler. The Plus-Minus-Equals concept comes from James Altucher.

Shit Moms! (Episode 7)

Wed, 06 Oct 2021 07:00:00 -0400

Bec tells Nat about an artist’s work she’s recently come across entitled “Shit Moms.” Bec shares that she sometimes feels like a shitty mom, and the sisters then proceed to share stories of their various mom messes. Bec feels more messy than Nat when it comes to how hard she is on herself as a mother. Nat brings up D.W. Winnicott’s notion of the “good enough mother” and tries to help reframe the shit mom feelings they both navigate as positive. She emphasizes the importance of humility and forgiveness as something to be taught to kids when parents own their mistakes. Bec brings a nature metaphor in to close the conversation and Nat’s final reframe is her best yet!

Thought Wasps (Episode 6)

Mon, 27 Sep 2021 19:00:00 -0400

Nat and Bec open by talking about weird nature. Bec snips invasive caterpillars in half because they can’t exist on her grape vine!

Bec jumps to a heavy thought that flits into her mind lately: “I’m ugly. I’m stupid.” Nat calls it a “thought wasp,” taken from Jeanette Winterson’s reframing of the Atlas myth. They discuss the need to protect themselves from the weight of the world.

Nat admits to her own thought wasps, which have more to do with imposter syndrome: “No one wants me” and “Is this everything?”

They discuss countering strategies: persisting in prayer (as Miriam Toews’ grandmother character offers up in her new book Fight Night), conversation and reframing for one another, as well as gratitude and joy!

Cookies Make Everything Better: Interview with THE Craig Pike of Craig's Cookies (Episode 5)

Tue, 21 Sep 2021 20:00:00 -0400

Firstly, Rebecca butchers another name—Craig's Corgi! Bec brings her own fun pronunciation :)

Next, Craig has an epiphany about being the CRAIG behind Craig’s Cookies. They realize “Seven degrees of separation from Craig’s Cookies” could be a new fun game. Craig shares the things he learned from theatre school and how he applied them to being an entrepreneur.

Mostly, Craig does all the work of reframing in this episode! He brings THE wisdom. Nat and Bec don’t even have to prompt him.

Their collective thesis: “All the laughs, all the tears so you can be better on the other side.”

Failing Up! (Episode 4)

Mon, 13 Sep 2021 13:00:00 -0400

Nat encourages everyone to “fail up” and turn our humiliations into successes! #goals #noregrets

Bec and Nat determine that they don’t have one big success to tie them to their past (lucky them!); instead they are resilient types who just keep on chugging.

Bec learns something new about Nat when it comes to Instagram recipes. Bec shares the story of faking her art project in grade 11 and then getting invited to the gifted art class, and having to grapple with feeling like a fraud. They talk about imposter syndrome and comparison, and their tendencies to downplay their abilities.

They talk about big mom failures, Nat’s thesis “failure,” Bec’s fight “failures” with Simon, the tightrope walking of being a teacher, and when it’s time to drop the baggage completely.

Corrections: Written on the Body is written by Jeannette Winterson. NOT Dionne Brand. Rebecca is not to be trusted.

Interview with Comedian Steve Patterson (Episode 3)

Tue, 07 Sep 2021 21:00:00 -0400

Bec and Nat talk to Steve Patterson, Canadian stand-up and host of CBC's "The Debaters, about being a dad to two girls. He reads one of his favourite stories from his new book “Dad Up!” and chats about what it’s like to parent two young girls as an “old” dad. They talk about forgiving themselves as parents and how mothers might be harder on themselves overall. Also, Steve shouts out his stellar wife Nancy and the mom she is.

Reframing Place-Based Memories (Episode 2)

Tue, 31 Aug 2021 23:00:00 -0400

Natalie and Rebecca introduce their “exceptional” details — who, what, where, including the frenemy relationship between their cats. Then they dive into some place-based memories that need reframing. For Nat it’s their childhood shed that Rebecca locked her in (she made Rebecca do it!); for Rebecca it’s the Starbucks at SickKids Hospital in Toronto where she spent a lot time during her daughter’s heart surgery.

They play the “do you remember when?” game throughout. They still don’t know if it’s legal to drive in bare feet.

The dystopian article that Rebecca references can be found here.

They come to the realization that starting small when it comes to reframing place-based memories is helpful. They might not be able to fix the whole place, but they can “attack” the memory room by room, turning them into waters they want to swim in.

Therapy…Or Something Like It (Episode 1)

Mon, 23 Aug 2021 22:00:00 -0400

Bec and Nat get into some serious sister stuff real fast: how they have worked to reframe some of their biggest challenges and make it to the other side of them, closer than ever. And Nat was totally right about who said the quotation — it was of course Emily Dickinson and not Margaret Avison (who is also a wonderful poet).