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    <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Conversations in families that are steeped in custom and tradition can be a source of strain for many. Exchanges between parent and child, for instance, can hold a host of triggers, trauma, and even the demands of culture that ultimately affect relationships and well-being.   In one of their most candid and personal episodes to date, Stephanie and Leo share stories, probe, and investigate problematic verbal encounters common among Filipino families. ]]></itunes:summary>
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    <itunes:summary><![CDATA[In their very first video podcast recording, Stephanie and Leo are joined by special guest, Kage in a conversation about mental health. A writer and photographer, Kage speaks candidly about living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Hear her share her experience and how she navigates and perseveres through a debilitating condition affecting many around the world.   *A side note around the 5:55 mark: What Kage meant to say was not "magic realism" but rather "magical thinking" — the belie...]]></itunes:summary>
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    <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Literally translated from Filipino as "New Leap", the idiomatic phrase generally refers to a newcomer in any community or environment.   In their 12th episode, Stephanie and Leo honor  Filipino American History Month in a conversation about the immigrant experience: a global phenomenon that speaks of nostalgia, cultural assimilation, and the formation of a multiethnic identity.   ]]></itunes:summary>
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    <itunes:summary><![CDATA[With multiple gender identities becoming more and more defined across societies, the particular roles we play (both imagined and dictated by cultural traditions) have been examined all the more closely. Steph and Leo join in the conversation as they share observations and personal encounters on how gender has progressed in Philippine life and shaped the way we have become. ]]></itunes:summary>
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  <psc:chapter start="41:00" title="open yourself to other possibilities" />
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    <itunes:summary><![CDATA["It's Ok. You can do it."— Feel good phrases are commonplace when talking  about struggles and problems. But how much of what we say is actually invalidating even when we mean to validate? How do we break away from the cycle?   Leo and Stephanie discuss the power of listening, empathy, and how impactful conversations can help the other rise above adversity.  ]]></itunes:summary>
    <description><![CDATA[<p>&quot;It&apos;s Ok. You can do it.&quot;— Feel good phrases are commonplace when talking  about struggles and problems. But how much of what we say is actually invalidating even when we mean to validate? How do we break away from the cycle? <br/><br/>Leo and Stephanie discuss the power of listening, empathy, and how impactful conversations can help the other rise above adversity. </p>]]></description>
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    <itunes:title>Bahala na si Batman</itunes:title>
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    <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Filipinos are known to be easygoing people— we drink, eat, pray, karaoke, and dance our cares away. But do these flippant attitudes actually exacerbate the issues at hand? In this episode, join Leo and Stephanie examine proactive ways to avoid avoiding. ]]></itunes:summary>
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    <itunes:summary><![CDATA[Shame or "hiya" is so deeply rooted in our culture that it inhibits us from taking risks, and chartering our own course. But is there more to it than just saving face? Stephanie and Leo share their own experiences of shame and discuss ways on how to manage it.  ]]></itunes:summary>
    <description><![CDATA[<p>Shame or &quot;hiya&quot; is so deeply rooted in our culture that it inhibits us from taking risks, and chartering our own course. But is there more to it than just saving face? Stephanie and Leo share their own experiences of shame and discuss ways on how to manage it. </p>]]></description>
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    <itunes:title>Managing Anxiety and Stress Amidst the Ongoing Pandemic</itunes:title>
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    <itunes:summary><![CDATA[No doubt this pandemic has brought about immense stress and anxiety for everyone. Join us as we take a glimpse on how our culture and traditions impact our reactions; and discover ways of managing adversity in the months to come. ]]></itunes:summary>
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