The Look & Sound of Leadership Mon, 18 May 2026 20:17:11 -0400 https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/ en © 2026 The Look & Sound of Leadership yes 5c12ffb5-fc2a-5559-9d8b-43d9627cf82e Essential Communications - Tom Henschel episodic false Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Executive coaching, executive presence Essential Communications - Tom Henschel https://storage.buzzsprout.com/9d4n7t87daqf6qac8bnfekaedh2z?.jpg The Look & Sound of Leadership https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/ Getting Your Voice Heard Getting Your Voice Heard A brilliant but rather shy leader is challenged by her management to be bigger, more executive, speak up more. She is grateful to work with a coach.

You can build muscle around getting your voice heard by creating homework for yourself. Think of it like going to the gym: working out regularly helps you build muscle.
 
 When creating homework, ask yourself three questions:

  1. What am I going to pay attention to?
  2. What specific behavior am I going to start or stop?
  3. How will I measure success? (5% improvement)


During the episode, Tom gave Neela four pieces of homework to help her get her voice heard:

  1. Count the number of times you have an idea and choose not to say it out loud;
  2. Listen for your self-limiting beliefs. Look for patterns that trigger them. Who are you with? What’s the setting?
  3. In meetings, speak in the first ten minutes;
  4. In meetings, get your name “on the record” with regularity.


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.


There are always more resources in our monthly email. 


Related Library Categories:

Developing New Behaviors

Executive Presence

For Women


Related Episodes


A transcript of the episode is here. 

Thanks for subscribing to the show. And thank you so much for your reviews. You’re the best!


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, we are grateful for you! 

]]> A brilliant but rather shy leader is challenged by her management to be bigger, more executive, speak up more. She is grateful to work with a coach.

You can build muscle around getting your voice heard by creating homework for yourself. Think of it like going to the gym: working out regularly helps you build muscle.
 
 When creating homework, ask yourself three questions:

  1. What am I going to pay attention to?
  2. What specific behavior am I going to start or stop?
  3. How will I measure success? (5% improvement)


During the episode, Tom gave Neela four pieces of homework to help her get her voice heard:

  1. Count the number of times you have an idea and choose not to say it out loud;
  2. Listen for your self-limiting beliefs. Look for patterns that trigger them. Who are you with? What’s the setting?
  3. In meetings, speak in the first ten minutes;
  4. In meetings, get your name “on the record” with regularity.


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.


There are always more resources in our monthly email. 


Related Library Categories:

Developing New Behaviors

Executive Presence

For Women


Related Episodes


A transcript of the episode is here. 

Thanks for subscribing to the show. And thank you so much for your reviews. You’re the best!


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, we are grateful for you! 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-19119748 Wed, 06 May 2026 18:00:00 -0700 1187 267 full false Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office Tom interviews Dr. Lois Frankel about women in the workplace and other ideas in the just-published third edition of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office. 


Listen to the full, unedited conversation here.


Get the “Nice Girls” book, here.


If you’re curious about a chemistry call, pop Tom an email.


There are always more resources in our monthly email. 


COACHES!

You are always welcome at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. Reach out to me if you want to know more. We’d love to have you. You’ll get CCE’s, too! 


Related Library Categories:


Related Episodes


A transcript of the episode is here.


Thanks again for subscribing. And your reviews. You’re the best!


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks for being such a great audience! 


]]> Tom interviews Dr. Lois Frankel about women in the workplace and other ideas in the just-published third edition of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office. 


Listen to the full, unedited conversation here.


Get the “Nice Girls” book, here.


If you’re curious about a chemistry call, pop Tom an email.


There are always more resources in our monthly email. 


COACHES!

You are always welcome at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. Reach out to me if you want to know more. We’d love to have you. You’ll get CCE’s, too! 


Related Library Categories:


Related Episodes


A transcript of the episode is here.


Thanks again for subscribing. And your reviews. You’re the best!


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks for being such a great audience! 


]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-18928544 Wed, 01 Apr 2026 18:00:00 -0700 1553 266 full false How to Conquer Nervousness How to Conquer Nervousness Before testifying in a high-stakes case, a theorist and his coach swap horror stories about their nerves hijacking them and the lessons they learned.

Tom’s top four idea for conquering nervousness:

  • Write happy endings
  • Celebrate incremental improvement
  • Externalize your nasty voice
  • Ignore your nerves

Applying these techniques using our free PDF about mastering nerves. 

The clip of Emma Stone battling her anxiety before a global audience is here.


Each month, we share additional tools in our monthly email. 

If you’d like to explore Private Coaching with Tom, reach out to him at: tom@essentialcomm.com.


COACHES!

Come join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. You’ll get CCE’s, too!


Related Library Categories:

Related Episodes:


Grab a free transcript of the episode here.

We are so grateful for your reviews!

From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks for being such a great audience! 

]]> Before testifying in a high-stakes case, a theorist and his coach swap horror stories about their nerves hijacking them and the lessons they learned.

Tom’s top four idea for conquering nervousness:

  • Write happy endings
  • Celebrate incremental improvement
  • Externalize your nasty voice
  • Ignore your nerves

Applying these techniques using our free PDF about mastering nerves. 

The clip of Emma Stone battling her anxiety before a global audience is here.


Each month, we share additional tools in our monthly email. 

If you’d like to explore Private Coaching with Tom, reach out to him at: tom@essentialcomm.com.


COACHES!

Come join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. You’ll get CCE’s, too!


Related Library Categories:

Related Episodes:


Grab a free transcript of the episode here.

We are so grateful for your reviews!

From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks for being such a great audience! 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-18772589 Wed, 04 Mar 2026 18:00:00 -0800 1429 265 full false Humility as Strength Humility as Strength A leader is getting pressured to stop being so prickly and gain some humility. With her coach, she explores whether it’s even possible for humility to ever be a strength. 


Core concepts in this episode:

  • Humility is confidence without defensiveness.
  • Assess yourself on the humility scale. “How do I respond to challenges?”
  • Humble leaders are confident in their authority.
  • Ask frequently: “How might I be wrong about this?”
  • Humility requires active listening.


Questions addressed in this episode:

> Are humble leaders perceived as weak?

Some people may see humble leaders as weak, but humble leaders are actually confident in their authority.


> If humble leaders need confidence, will they be seen as arrogant?

No, because humble leaders do not fight for dominance. They invite the opinions of others and are non-defensive when challenged.


> How can I tell whether I am humble?

Ask yourself, “When I am challenged, what feelings do I experience?” Leaders who respond non-defensively are high in humility.


> What practices can I adopt to develop more humility?

Ask yourself frequently: “How might I be wrong about this?"


> What are the benefits to being a humble leader?

Your team will experience psychological safety and move towards high performance.


Resources mentioned in this episode:

Humbitious: The Power of Low-Ego, High-Drive Leadership by Amer Kaissi explores how to be both ambitious and humble. 


Links for coaches:

Join Tom and a community of coaches at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group.


The Los Angeles Chapter of International Coach Federation offers countless opportunities for CCEs and community building.


If you’re in the L.A. area, join the ICF-LA March Chapter meeting. And be sure to say ‘hi’ to Tom! Register here.


Each month, we share additional tools in our monthly email. 


If you’d like to explore Private Coaching with Tom, reach out to him at: tom@essentialcomm.com.


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast library:

Executive Presence

Leadership

Personal Growth & Self-Development


Related Episodes:

122 - Achieving Authenticity

146 - Building Empathy

248 - Building Listening 

260 - How to Guarantee Psychological Safety

232 - Unlocking Executive Presence through Emotional Intelligence


Thank you so much for your reviews!


From The Look & Sound of Leadership

]]> A leader is getting pressured to stop being so prickly and gain some humility. With her coach, she explores whether it’s even possible for humility to ever be a strength. 


Core concepts in this episode:

  • Humility is confidence without defensiveness.
  • Assess yourself on the humility scale. “How do I respond to challenges?”
  • Humble leaders are confident in their authority.
  • Ask frequently: “How might I be wrong about this?”
  • Humility requires active listening.


Questions addressed in this episode:

> Are humble leaders perceived as weak?

Some people may see humble leaders as weak, but humble leaders are actually confident in their authority.


> If humble leaders need confidence, will they be seen as arrogant?

No, because humble leaders do not fight for dominance. They invite the opinions of others and are non-defensive when challenged.


> How can I tell whether I am humble?

Ask yourself, “When I am challenged, what feelings do I experience?” Leaders who respond non-defensively are high in humility.


> What practices can I adopt to develop more humility?

Ask yourself frequently: “How might I be wrong about this?"


> What are the benefits to being a humble leader?

Your team will experience psychological safety and move towards high performance.


Resources mentioned in this episode:

Humbitious: The Power of Low-Ego, High-Drive Leadership by Amer Kaissi explores how to be both ambitious and humble. 


Links for coaches:

Join Tom and a community of coaches at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group.


The Los Angeles Chapter of International Coach Federation offers countless opportunities for CCEs and community building.


If you’re in the L.A. area, join the ICF-LA March Chapter meeting. And be sure to say ‘hi’ to Tom! Register here.


Each month, we share additional tools in our monthly email. 


If you’d like to explore Private Coaching with Tom, reach out to him at: tom@essentialcomm.com.


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast library:

Executive Presence

Leadership

Personal Growth & Self-Development


Related Episodes:

122 - Achieving Authenticity

146 - Building Empathy

248 - Building Listening 

260 - How to Guarantee Psychological Safety

232 - Unlocking Executive Presence through Emotional Intelligence


Thank you so much for your reviews!


From The Look & Sound of Leadership

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-18609341 Wed, 04 Feb 2026 18:00:00 -0800 1502 264 full false Leading When Ego at the Top Is Unchecked Leading When Ego at the Top Is Unchecked A chief officer is infuriated by the behavior of his egomaniacal CEO. With his coach, he explores how to be a healthy leader while reporting to a boss he doesn’t respect.

Core concepts in this episode:

  • Egomaniacs rattle our sense of self.
  • They will not change.
  • Worrying does not help.
  • Be accountable for how you show up. Manage yourself.
  • Don’t take anything personally. They’re just a piece on a chess board.
  • Ask yourself: “Am I seeing this person clearly?” Don’t allow emotions to drive your actions.
  • Ask yourself: “How do I want to show up?” You have choice about what you prioritize and how you react in the workplace.


Resources mentioned in this episode:

Crucial Conversations provides scripts and thoughts that will help you manage yourself when dealing with difficult people. 


Tom and host Dave Stachowiak discussed “How to Handle a Boss Who’s a Jerk” on this episode of Coaching for Leaders. Great tools if you have a challenging boss.


Before sharing your reactions in the workplace, consider the politics around you. These two episodes will get you “Leading with Political Savvy” Parts 1 and 2.  


Each month, there are additional tools in our monthly email. 


If you’d like to explore Private Coaching, reach out to Tom. tom@essentialcomm.com.


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast library:

Managing Yourself

Leadership

Perception – How You Perceive Others


RELATED EPISODES

239- 5 Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists

189 - “Don’t Take Anything Personally”

245- Giving Upward Feedback

114- Gravitas

133- The Narcissist Executive


Thank you, thank you, thank you for your reviews!


Wishing you a year of growth and development! 


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team, thank you so much for listening. 

]]> A chief officer is infuriated by the behavior of his egomaniacal CEO. With his coach, he explores how to be a healthy leader while reporting to a boss he doesn’t respect.

Core concepts in this episode:

  • Egomaniacs rattle our sense of self.
  • They will not change.
  • Worrying does not help.
  • Be accountable for how you show up. Manage yourself.
  • Don’t take anything personally. They’re just a piece on a chess board.
  • Ask yourself: “Am I seeing this person clearly?” Don’t allow emotions to drive your actions.
  • Ask yourself: “How do I want to show up?” You have choice about what you prioritize and how you react in the workplace.


Resources mentioned in this episode:

Crucial Conversations provides scripts and thoughts that will help you manage yourself when dealing with difficult people. 


Tom and host Dave Stachowiak discussed “How to Handle a Boss Who’s a Jerk” on this episode of Coaching for Leaders. Great tools if you have a challenging boss.


Before sharing your reactions in the workplace, consider the politics around you. These two episodes will get you “Leading with Political Savvy” Parts 1 and 2.  


Each month, there are additional tools in our monthly email. 


If you’d like to explore Private Coaching, reach out to Tom. tom@essentialcomm.com.


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast library:

Managing Yourself

Leadership

Perception – How You Perceive Others


RELATED EPISODES

239- 5 Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists

189 - “Don’t Take Anything Personally”

245- Giving Upward Feedback

114- Gravitas

133- The Narcissist Executive


Thank you, thank you, thank you for your reviews!


Wishing you a year of growth and development! 


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team, thank you so much for listening. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-18452036 Wed, 07 Jan 2026 18:00:00 -0800 1405 263 full false How to Grow Your People How to Grow Your People A senior vice-president worries that attention on his people’s development will get overwhelmed in the volume of work. He asks his coach for tools to make the process effective and efficient. 


Download our free tool that maps the Three Conversations Development Plan.


Core Concepts 

Prioritizing professional development is hard.

The 3-Conversation model makes development easy for the leader and meaningful for the person.

The three conversations in summary: 

  1. Define ‘what,’ ‘why’ and give homework;
  2. The person reflects on the homework and how they plan to improve;
  3. Periodic check-ins about the homework. ‘What are you learning?’


The leader’s role in these conversations: 

  • Clarify the ‘what’ and ‘why’ 
  • Listen and encourage
  • Ask, ‘What are you learning?’


You can sign-up for more resources and tools in our monthly email. 


If you’re thinking about coaching for yourself, or for someone on your team, let’s talk. tom@essentialcomm.com.


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast library:

Feedback

Leadership

Management Skills



RELATED EPISODES

132  Coaching Your People

212  How to Coach Your People

258  How to Manage Defensive People

83  Leadership and Listening

206  Understanding Feedback


Thanks, as always, for your reviews!

Happy holidays. 


Until next time, thanks so much for listening.


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 


 


]]> A senior vice-president worries that attention on his people’s development will get overwhelmed in the volume of work. He asks his coach for tools to make the process effective and efficient. 


Download our free tool that maps the Three Conversations Development Plan.


Core Concepts 

Prioritizing professional development is hard.

The 3-Conversation model makes development easy for the leader and meaningful for the person.

The three conversations in summary: 

  1. Define ‘what,’ ‘why’ and give homework;
  2. The person reflects on the homework and how they plan to improve;
  3. Periodic check-ins about the homework. ‘What are you learning?’


The leader’s role in these conversations: 

  • Clarify the ‘what’ and ‘why’ 
  • Listen and encourage
  • Ask, ‘What are you learning?’


You can sign-up for more resources and tools in our monthly email. 


If you’re thinking about coaching for yourself, or for someone on your team, let’s talk. tom@essentialcomm.com.


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast library:

Feedback

Leadership

Management Skills



RELATED EPISODES

132  Coaching Your People

212  How to Coach Your People

258  How to Manage Defensive People

83  Leadership and Listening

206  Understanding Feedback


Thanks, as always, for your reviews!

Happy holidays. 


Until next time, thanks so much for listening.


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 


 


]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-18322706 Wed, 10 Dec 2025 18:00:00 -0800 1399 262 full true How to Motivate and Inspire How to Motivate and Inspire After a leader turns around the performance of one of his direct reports, he and his coach explore how it happened. And how to make it stick.  


Core ideas in the episode:

  • Workplaces improve when positive feedback is present
  • Our natural human negative bias is a barrier to giving positive feedback.
  • Learn to notice when things go well.
  • Tell people how they are helping solve the puzzle that is work.
  • Research says the most effective feedback ratio is 4-to-1, positive to developmental.


Positive Feedback might sound like this:

  1. Recognize what’s going well – and be specific
  2. Appreciate how it’s helping solve the puzzle
  3. Express your thanks


Developmental Feedback might sound like this:

  1. Describe what happened – and be specific
  2. Explain how it affects the puzzle solving effort
  3. Express your hope for a different outcome


You can Sign-up for more resources and tools in our monthly email. 


If you’re thinking about coaching for yourself, or for someone on your team, let’s talk. tom@essentialcomm.com.


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast library:

Managing Yourself

Perception – How You Perceive Others

Relationship Building


Related episodes to listen to are:

146 - Building Empathy

119 - Creating Devoted Followers

212 - How to Coach Your People

255 - How to Deepen Relationships at Work

260 - How to Guarantee Psychological Safety


Thanks, as always, for your reviews!

Until next time, thanks so much for listening.

From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 


 

]]> After a leader turns around the performance of one of his direct reports, he and his coach explore how it happened. And how to make it stick.  


Core ideas in the episode:

  • Workplaces improve when positive feedback is present
  • Our natural human negative bias is a barrier to giving positive feedback.
  • Learn to notice when things go well.
  • Tell people how they are helping solve the puzzle that is work.
  • Research says the most effective feedback ratio is 4-to-1, positive to developmental.


Positive Feedback might sound like this:

  1. Recognize what’s going well – and be specific
  2. Appreciate how it’s helping solve the puzzle
  3. Express your thanks


Developmental Feedback might sound like this:

  1. Describe what happened – and be specific
  2. Explain how it affects the puzzle solving effort
  3. Express your hope for a different outcome


You can Sign-up for more resources and tools in our monthly email. 


If you’re thinking about coaching for yourself, or for someone on your team, let’s talk. tom@essentialcomm.com.


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast library:

Managing Yourself

Perception – How You Perceive Others

Relationship Building


Related episodes to listen to are:

146 - Building Empathy

119 - Creating Devoted Followers

212 - How to Coach Your People

255 - How to Deepen Relationships at Work

260 - How to Guarantee Psychological Safety


Thanks, as always, for your reviews!

Until next time, thanks so much for listening.

From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 


 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-18087340 Wed, 05 Nov 2025 18:00:00 -0800 1247 261 full false How to Guarantee Psychological Safety How to Guarantee Psychological Safety A toxic boss destroys psychological safety on her team. One of her direct reports talks to his coach about how to survive. And how to keep his own team safe. 


Core ideas in the episode:

  • Don’t take other people’s bad behavior personally.
  • You are not a victim. You have choice.
  • Document repeated bad behavior.
  • Openly discussing mistakes without blame creates safety on a team.
  • As the leader, be willing to admit your own mistakes.
  • Ask people: “How do you think that went?” and “What could we do differently?” Then listen without debate or rebuttal.


A free infographic supports this episode. Download it here. 


The episode referred to about creating strong personal relationships is:

#199 Personal Connections.


Sign-up  for monthly resources and tools in our monthly email. 


Curious about coaching for yourself or someone on your team? Let’s talk. tom@essentialcomm.com.


COACHES! Want to see this year’s pricing survey results? Pop me an email at: tom@essentialcomm.com.


And come join the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. Check it out here.

 

Get additional tools for keeping yourself and your team psychologically safe in our podcast library in these three categories:


Assertiveness

Leadership

Managing Yourself


Additional episodes to listen to are:

187 - Agreeable Disagreement

70 - Assertion Versus Aggression

"75 - Don’t Take Anything Personally”

222- The Conflict Conversation

181 - Inviting Dialogue


Your reviews help the show stay ad-free. 


Until next time, thanks!


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> A toxic boss destroys psychological safety on her team. One of her direct reports talks to his coach about how to survive. And how to keep his own team safe. 


Core ideas in the episode:

  • Don’t take other people’s bad behavior personally.
  • You are not a victim. You have choice.
  • Document repeated bad behavior.
  • Openly discussing mistakes without blame creates safety on a team.
  • As the leader, be willing to admit your own mistakes.
  • Ask people: “How do you think that went?” and “What could we do differently?” Then listen without debate or rebuttal.


A free infographic supports this episode. Download it here. 


The episode referred to about creating strong personal relationships is:

#199 Personal Connections.


Sign-up  for monthly resources and tools in our monthly email. 


Curious about coaching for yourself or someone on your team? Let’s talk. tom@essentialcomm.com.


COACHES! Want to see this year’s pricing survey results? Pop me an email at: tom@essentialcomm.com.


And come join the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. Check it out here.

 

Get additional tools for keeping yourself and your team psychologically safe in our podcast library in these three categories:


Assertiveness

Leadership

Managing Yourself


Additional episodes to listen to are:

187 - Agreeable Disagreement

70 - Assertion Versus Aggression

"75 - Don’t Take Anything Personally”

222- The Conflict Conversation

181 - Inviting Dialogue


Your reviews help the show stay ad-free. 


Until next time, thanks!


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-17922288 Wed, 01 Oct 2025 18:00:00 -0700 1364 260 full false How to Supercharge Introversion How to Supercharge Introversion Concerned his introversion makes him less effective, a corporate vice president asks for coaching – from an extrovert! Together, the coach and client explore ways to assure his introversion is a strength.


Myers Briggs Type Indicator assesses four preferences. One is Introversion and Extroversion. Download a free sample of the profile report here.     


The six tools unpacked in this episode are:

  • Manage your energy
  • Monitor your self-talk
  • Have ideas ready
  • Manage your calendar
  • Share comfortably about yourself
  • Develop both your thoughts and your skills


Listen to Tom’s conversation with Tom & Tom on the Beyond Podcast episode.


Learn “How to Make Small Talk with Executives” on the Coaching for Leaders podcast.


Curious about coaching? Shoot me an email. tom@essentialcomm.com.


Visiting the website? Sign-up for tools and resources in our monthly email. 


Help yourself to our free infographics in the Essential Tools bin.


Get more support for supercharging your introversion in our podcast library in these three categories:


Additional episodes you could listen to are:

241 - Conquering People Pleasing

210 - How to Grow Your Self-Management

211 - How to Show Up as More of Yourself

254 - How to Talk so People Understand You

247 - Mastering Anxiety


Your reviews help the show stay ad-free. 

So? Were these tools about introversion helpful? Let me know!


Until next time, thanks!

From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> Concerned his introversion makes him less effective, a corporate vice president asks for coaching – from an extrovert! Together, the coach and client explore ways to assure his introversion is a strength.


Myers Briggs Type Indicator assesses four preferences. One is Introversion and Extroversion. Download a free sample of the profile report here.     


The six tools unpacked in this episode are:

  • Manage your energy
  • Monitor your self-talk
  • Have ideas ready
  • Manage your calendar
  • Share comfortably about yourself
  • Develop both your thoughts and your skills


Listen to Tom’s conversation with Tom & Tom on the Beyond Podcast episode.


Learn “How to Make Small Talk with Executives” on the Coaching for Leaders podcast.


Curious about coaching? Shoot me an email. tom@essentialcomm.com.


Visiting the website? Sign-up for tools and resources in our monthly email. 


Help yourself to our free infographics in the Essential Tools bin.


Get more support for supercharging your introversion in our podcast library in these three categories:


Additional episodes you could listen to are:

241 - Conquering People Pleasing

210 - How to Grow Your Self-Management

211 - How to Show Up as More of Yourself

254 - How to Talk so People Understand You

247 - Mastering Anxiety


Your reviews help the show stay ad-free. 

So? Were these tools about introversion helpful? Let me know!


Until next time, thanks!

From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-17813205 Thu, 11 Sep 2025 06:00:00 -0700 1430 259 full false How to Manage Defensive People How to Manage Defensive People A leader with a direct report who is, she says, the most defensive person she’s ever known, devotes an entire coaching session to gathering tools to help her cope. 


All the tools and ideas and scripts in this episode are in an easy-to-understand infographic. Download it for free here. 


To work on “deserving” dive into The Four Agreements.


Dig into more tools for managing defensive people in our podcast library in these three categories:

Communication Skills

Management Skills

Relationship Building


Additional episodes you could listen to are:

216 - 7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks

60 - Be Impeccable with Your Word 

35 - Handling Defensive Behaviors

173 - Managing Bad Behavior

138 - Managing Disruptive Executives

198 - Psychological Safety


Additional tools and resources are in our monthly email. Sign up here.


Curious about coaching? Shoot me an email. tom@essentialcomm.com.


All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.


Your reviews help the show continue as an ad-free podcast. 


Let us know how we can support you.

Until next time, thanks!

From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> A leader with a direct report who is, she says, the most defensive person she’s ever known, devotes an entire coaching session to gathering tools to help her cope. 


All the tools and ideas and scripts in this episode are in an easy-to-understand infographic. Download it for free here. 


To work on “deserving” dive into The Four Agreements.


Dig into more tools for managing defensive people in our podcast library in these three categories:

Communication Skills

Management Skills

Relationship Building


Additional episodes you could listen to are:

216 - 7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks

60 - Be Impeccable with Your Word 

35 - Handling Defensive Behaviors

173 - Managing Bad Behavior

138 - Managing Disruptive Executives

198 - Psychological Safety


Additional tools and resources are in our monthly email. Sign up here.


Curious about coaching? Shoot me an email. tom@essentialcomm.com.


All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.


Your reviews help the show continue as an ad-free podcast. 


Let us know how we can support you.

Until next time, thanks!

From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-17610352 Wed, 06 Aug 2025 18:00:00 -0700 1704 258 full false How to Own Healthy Assertion How to Own Healthy Assertion Still traumatized over an angry explosion she’d aimed at an abusive leader years before, a leader asks her coach to help her access healthy assertion to use during moments of conflict.


Where are you on the assertion scale? Our assessments will tell you.


In the episode, ASSERTION got divided into two skills: 

AWARENESS and EXPRESSION.


The four-step script to build healthy ASSERTION is:

  • Situation
  • Feeling
  • Want
  • Outcome


Part of assertion is EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. 

Our tool defines EQ and gives exercises. Download it here.

“Unlocking Executive Presence Through Emotional Intelligence” Episode 232. The concept explained and tools provided.

Download “The Feeling Word Grid” here.


Ready for an amazing growth experience? Explore Brené Brown’s Dare to Lead course.


Often recommended. Always helpful. Crucial Conversations.


More tools in the ASSERTIVENESS category in the archive.


Episodes with assertiveness tools: 

220 - Holding Boundaries

219 - How to Set Boundaries

210 - How to Grow Your Self-Management

86 - Intimacy in Business: Setting Boundaries

198 - Psychological Safety


Considering coaching? Talk with Tom. Send him an email here.

 

Additional resources are in our monthly email. Sign up here.


Until next time!


Thanks! from The Look & Sound of Leadership team 


]]> Still traumatized over an angry explosion she’d aimed at an abusive leader years before, a leader asks her coach to help her access healthy assertion to use during moments of conflict.


Where are you on the assertion scale? Our assessments will tell you.


In the episode, ASSERTION got divided into two skills: 

AWARENESS and EXPRESSION.


The four-step script to build healthy ASSERTION is:

  • Situation
  • Feeling
  • Want
  • Outcome


Part of assertion is EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE. 

Our tool defines EQ and gives exercises. Download it here.

“Unlocking Executive Presence Through Emotional Intelligence” Episode 232. The concept explained and tools provided.

Download “The Feeling Word Grid” here.


Ready for an amazing growth experience? Explore Brené Brown’s Dare to Lead course.


Often recommended. Always helpful. Crucial Conversations.


More tools in the ASSERTIVENESS category in the archive.


Episodes with assertiveness tools: 

220 - Holding Boundaries

219 - How to Set Boundaries

210 - How to Grow Your Self-Management

86 - Intimacy in Business: Setting Boundaries

198 - Psychological Safety


Considering coaching? Talk with Tom. Send him an email here.

 

Additional resources are in our monthly email. Sign up here.


Until next time!


Thanks! from The Look & Sound of Leadership team 


]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-17459390 Wed, 09 Jul 2025 18:00:00 -0700 1333 257 full false How to Create Engagement Online How to Create Engagement Online Convinced that participants need to engage in order to learn, a leader is discouraged after the cheerless rollout of her online learning program. She turns to her coach for help facilitating virtual groups.

Tools in this episode:

Tone-setting at the opening:

  1. Get people engaged by using the chat to think together;
  2. Get people engaged by thinking about how they will show up (ground rules);
  3. Ask: “How engaged do you want to be?” Rank 1 – 7 in chat. 

(#3 came from Michael Bungay Stanier who wrote The Coaching Habit and hosts the Change Signal podcast. Much gratitude!)


Three facilitation skills:

  1. Use learning questions;
  2. Redirect; don’t be the hub;
  3. Activate your deadpan.


All our infographics are available for free in our Tools Bin. Help yourself. 


Tom’s most recent conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching for Leaders explored How to Take Initiative. A lively, thought-provoking episode.


Coaches! Join us at ICF Los Angeles’s Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. Check us out on the ICF-LA website, then come join us!


Categories in the archive to explore for more ideas about deepening relationships:

Communication Skills

Leading Teams


Episodes with more tools for engagement:

141 - High-Stakes Meetings

253 - How to Answer Questions Powerfully

213 - How to Re-engage a Team

34 - Keeping Repeated Material Fresh

175 - Leading Offsites

143 - Powerful Tools for Team: Plus / Delta

148 - Taming Meetings


Are you coach curious? Talk with Tom. Send him an email here.

 

Additional resources are in our monthly email. Sign up here.


Until next time!

From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 


]]> Convinced that participants need to engage in order to learn, a leader is discouraged after the cheerless rollout of her online learning program. She turns to her coach for help facilitating virtual groups.

Tools in this episode:

Tone-setting at the opening:

  1. Get people engaged by using the chat to think together;
  2. Get people engaged by thinking about how they will show up (ground rules);
  3. Ask: “How engaged do you want to be?” Rank 1 – 7 in chat. 

(#3 came from Michael Bungay Stanier who wrote The Coaching Habit and hosts the Change Signal podcast. Much gratitude!)


Three facilitation skills:

  1. Use learning questions;
  2. Redirect; don’t be the hub;
  3. Activate your deadpan.


All our infographics are available for free in our Tools Bin. Help yourself. 


Tom’s most recent conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching for Leaders explored How to Take Initiative. A lively, thought-provoking episode.


Coaches! Join us at ICF Los Angeles’s Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. Check us out on the ICF-LA website, then come join us!


Categories in the archive to explore for more ideas about deepening relationships:

Communication Skills

Leading Teams


Episodes with more tools for engagement:

141 - High-Stakes Meetings

253 - How to Answer Questions Powerfully

213 - How to Re-engage a Team

34 - Keeping Repeated Material Fresh

175 - Leading Offsites

143 - Powerful Tools for Team: Plus / Delta

148 - Taming Meetings


Are you coach curious? Talk with Tom. Send him an email here.

 

Additional resources are in our monthly email. Sign up here.


Until next time!

From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 


]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-17231009 Wed, 04 Jun 2025 18:00:00 -0700 1236 256 full false How to Deepen Relationships at Work How to Deepen Relationships at Work Knowing she’s never been good with people, a leader seeks coaching to her deepen relationships in ways she can tolerate.

Two ways to deepen workplace relationships:

Matching & Curiosity


4 Ways to Match:

  • Match Purpose 
  • Match Energy 
  • Match Conversations 
  • Match Vulnerability 


Express Curiosity by Asking Deep Questions

  • Make sure your questions are open-ended
  • Invite reflection
  • Keep the other person talking


Answering questions powerfully is another way to deepen relationships. Check out our recent episode on that topic.

Deepen relationships at work by listening to Dave Stachowiak’s conversation on Coaching For Leaders with Charles Duhigg about his book Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection. 

Recently, Tom joined Dave on Coaching for Leaders to explore How to Take Initiative. A lively, thought-provoking episode.

Coaches! Join us at ICF Los Angeles’s Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. Check us out on the ICF-LA website. 


Categories in the archive to explore for more ideas about deepening relationships:

Communication Skills

Building Relationships

Managing Yourself


Five episodes that’ll help you get deeper:

Building Empathy

Building Listening

Building Rapport

Influence

The Conflict Conversation


Are you ready to invest in yourself? We offer listeners world-class coaching at an affordable price. Reach out to Tom here.


Transcripts of every episode, including this one, are available for free here. 


More resources are in our monthly email. Sign up here.

Until next time!


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 


]]> Knowing she’s never been good with people, a leader seeks coaching to her deepen relationships in ways she can tolerate.

Two ways to deepen workplace relationships:

Matching & Curiosity


4 Ways to Match:

  • Match Purpose 
  • Match Energy 
  • Match Conversations 
  • Match Vulnerability 


Express Curiosity by Asking Deep Questions

  • Make sure your questions are open-ended
  • Invite reflection
  • Keep the other person talking


Answering questions powerfully is another way to deepen relationships. Check out our recent episode on that topic.

Deepen relationships at work by listening to Dave Stachowiak’s conversation on Coaching For Leaders with Charles Duhigg about his book Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection. 

Recently, Tom joined Dave on Coaching for Leaders to explore How to Take Initiative. A lively, thought-provoking episode.

Coaches! Join us at ICF Los Angeles’s Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. Check us out on the ICF-LA website. 


Categories in the archive to explore for more ideas about deepening relationships:

Communication Skills

Building Relationships

Managing Yourself


Five episodes that’ll help you get deeper:

Building Empathy

Building Listening

Building Rapport

Influence

The Conflict Conversation


Are you ready to invest in yourself? We offer listeners world-class coaching at an affordable price. Reach out to Tom here.


Transcripts of every episode, including this one, are available for free here. 


More resources are in our monthly email. Sign up here.

Until next time!


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 


]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-17063130 Mon, 05 May 2025 17:00:00 -0700 1593 255 full true How to Talk so People Understand You How to Talk so People Understand You A leader is losing credibility with her senior leaders. Her boss thinks she can turn it around by learning the sorting tool that transformed him as a communicator, so he brings in the coach who taught him.


Sorting & Labeling! The grandaddy of all communication tools. If you can sort and label you will sound like a leader.


The four steps in Sorting & Labeling:

  1. Use a headline
  2. Use a number
  3. Label each number
  4. Transition with clarity


See it all for yourself in our free Sorting & Labeling infographic.


To all women who work in social or environmental change: Women’s Impact Alliance wants to support you. Check out their website to see all they ways they can help you succeed.


Coaches! Come join our Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. Check us out on the ICF-LA website. 


Categories of episodes that have more ways to help you talk so people understand you:

Communication Skills

Leading Teams

Presentation Skills


Five episodes that’ll speed you down the path:

106 - Communicating with Clarity

253 - How to Answer Questions Powerfully

65 - Sorting & Labeling

16 - Sounding Well-Spoken

20 - Staying on Track


Curious about coaching for yourself? We offer a special program for listeners. Reach out to Tom here.

 

Transcripts of this and every episode are available for free here. 


More resources are in our monthly email. Sign up here!


Until next time!


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> A leader is losing credibility with her senior leaders. Her boss thinks she can turn it around by learning the sorting tool that transformed him as a communicator, so he brings in the coach who taught him.


Sorting & Labeling! The grandaddy of all communication tools. If you can sort and label you will sound like a leader.


The four steps in Sorting & Labeling:

  1. Use a headline
  2. Use a number
  3. Label each number
  4. Transition with clarity


See it all for yourself in our free Sorting & Labeling infographic.


To all women who work in social or environmental change: Women’s Impact Alliance wants to support you. Check out their website to see all they ways they can help you succeed.


Coaches! Come join our Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. Check us out on the ICF-LA website. 


Categories of episodes that have more ways to help you talk so people understand you:

Communication Skills

Leading Teams

Presentation Skills


Five episodes that’ll speed you down the path:

106 - Communicating with Clarity

253 - How to Answer Questions Powerfully

65 - Sorting & Labeling

16 - Sounding Well-Spoken

20 - Staying on Track


Curious about coaching for yourself? We offer a special program for listeners. Reach out to Tom here.

 

Transcripts of this and every episode are available for free here. 


More resources are in our monthly email. Sign up here!


Until next time!


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-16887182 Wed, 02 Apr 2025 18:00:00 -0700 1387 254 full false How to Answer Questions Powerfully How to Answer Questions Powerfully A leader was given one goal for his coaching: improve how he answered questions. Knowing he struggled with this not only at work, but at home, he asked his coach for tools. 

Our free PDF shows the two scripts: one for closed-ended questions, one for open-ended. Download it here.

Don’t assume you know why people ask what they ask. You don’t. Ever.

    

The closed-ended script:

  • Answer what’s asked
  • Match Length
  • Check for understanding
  • Then add your details

No mattress stuffing!

It’s a customer service exchange.


The open-ended script:

  • Start with a number 
  • Label the first item
  • Explain in brief

Make the leap. Start with a number. It’ll be okay.

When you know things, use this script. You will sound expert.


The open-ended script is a variation of the Sorting & Labeling tool. Download the PDF and listen to the episode.


CALLING ALL COACHES!

Come join ICF-LA’s Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. We’d love to see you. Check us out here.


Related categories in the library:

Communication Skills

Leadership

Perception – How Others Perceive You


Five related episodes:

215 - How to Stay Calm Under Fire

249 - How to Tackle Overtalking

159 - Short Sounds Confident

185 - The Talky Executive

151 - Under Executive Questioning


Have ideas about how “The Look & Sound of Leadership” might grow and evolve? Share your ideas with Tom here.


Transcripts of this and every episode are available for free here. 


Our monthly email, with resources you don’t hear about on the show. Subscribe here!


Wishing you spring freshness, 


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> A leader was given one goal for his coaching: improve how he answered questions. Knowing he struggled with this not only at work, but at home, he asked his coach for tools. 

Our free PDF shows the two scripts: one for closed-ended questions, one for open-ended. Download it here.

Don’t assume you know why people ask what they ask. You don’t. Ever.

    

The closed-ended script:

  • Answer what’s asked
  • Match Length
  • Check for understanding
  • Then add your details

No mattress stuffing!

It’s a customer service exchange.


The open-ended script:

  • Start with a number 
  • Label the first item
  • Explain in brief

Make the leap. Start with a number. It’ll be okay.

When you know things, use this script. You will sound expert.


The open-ended script is a variation of the Sorting & Labeling tool. Download the PDF and listen to the episode.


CALLING ALL COACHES!

Come join ICF-LA’s Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. We’d love to see you. Check us out here.


Related categories in the library:

Communication Skills

Leadership

Perception – How Others Perceive You


Five related episodes:

215 - How to Stay Calm Under Fire

249 - How to Tackle Overtalking

159 - Short Sounds Confident

185 - The Talky Executive

151 - Under Executive Questioning


Have ideas about how “The Look & Sound of Leadership” might grow and evolve? Share your ideas with Tom here.


Transcripts of this and every episode are available for free here. 


Our monthly email, with resources you don’t hear about on the show. Subscribe here!


Wishing you spring freshness, 


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-16729456 Wed, 05 Mar 2025 18:00:00 -0800 1374 253 full false How to Build Self-Esteem How to Build Self-Esteem A leader suddenly hears how harshly she speaks to herself. Wanting help, she turns to her coach who gives her tools to build a practice of self-esteem.     


The three self-esteem practices are:

  • Self-Acceptance: Practice being FOR yourself
  • Self-Worth & Happiness: Practice saying, “I am worthy of being happy”
  • Live in Reality: Practice acknowledging what is and what is not.


Download our free Feeling Words Grid.


The Tools bin with other free resources is here.


Four ways to help you live in reality:

  • Respect facts
  • Respect facts about yourself
  • Interpretations are not facts
  • Feelings are not facts


Nathaniel Branden’s “The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem” is still a definitive work. Check out the 31-week sentence completion exercise in the back.


Related categories in the library:

Managing Yourself  

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Self-Talk


Five related episodes:

241 - Conquering People Pleasing

209 - How to Build Self-Awareness

224 - How to Disarm a Trigger

242 - Mastering Nerves

231 - Staying Afloat in a Shitstorm


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

 

Free transcripts of this and every episode are available here. 


Our monthly email – finally easy to subscribe to! Click here!


CALLING ALL COACHES!

Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. We meet six times a year. Our first meeting in 2025 is Friday, February 14th, 9:00 am Pacific.


2025 Meeting Dates

February 14

April 11

June 13

August 8

September 12 

November 14

Fridays, 9:00 – 10:30am Pacific

Sponsored by ICF-LA


Stay safe, everyone.


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> A leader suddenly hears how harshly she speaks to herself. Wanting help, she turns to her coach who gives her tools to build a practice of self-esteem.     


The three self-esteem practices are:

  • Self-Acceptance: Practice being FOR yourself
  • Self-Worth & Happiness: Practice saying, “I am worthy of being happy”
  • Live in Reality: Practice acknowledging what is and what is not.


Download our free Feeling Words Grid.


The Tools bin with other free resources is here.


Four ways to help you live in reality:

  • Respect facts
  • Respect facts about yourself
  • Interpretations are not facts
  • Feelings are not facts


Nathaniel Branden’s “The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem” is still a definitive work. Check out the 31-week sentence completion exercise in the back.


Related categories in the library:

Managing Yourself  

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Self-Talk


Five related episodes:

241 - Conquering People Pleasing

209 - How to Build Self-Awareness

224 - How to Disarm a Trigger

242 - Mastering Nerves

231 - Staying Afloat in a Shitstorm


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

 

Free transcripts of this and every episode are available here. 


Our monthly email – finally easy to subscribe to! Click here!


CALLING ALL COACHES!

Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. We meet six times a year. Our first meeting in 2025 is Friday, February 14th, 9:00 am Pacific.


2025 Meeting Dates

February 14

April 11

June 13

August 8

September 12 

November 14

Fridays, 9:00 – 10:30am Pacific

Sponsored by ICF-LA


Stay safe, everyone.


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-16551677 Wed, 05 Feb 2025 18:00:00 -0800 1444 podcast,LeadershipDevelopment,LeadershipSkills,LeadershipCoaching,EmotionalWellBeing, SelfEsteem, GrowthMindset,PersonalDevelopment 252 full false How to Build an Executive How to Build an Executive A coaching client wonders what elements need to be present for someone to appear ‘executive.’ Two executive coaches ponder this question and come up with five elements they deem essential.


Categories in the archive to explore:

Developing New Behaviors

Executive Presence

Perception – How You’re Perceived


Six episodes to dive into:

189 - Don’t Take Anything Personally

178 - Executive Presence – Three Pillars

168 - Influence

108 - Shouldering the Burden of Leadership

23 - Speed of Thought


Download the Six Books for Growth here.


Listen to “The Show Must Go On” episode, about a real-life on-stage catastrophe.


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

 

Free transcripts of this and every episode are available here. 


More resources are available in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


FOR COACHES:

Michael Lewis’s podcast, “Against the Rules,” devotes its second season (2020) to all different types of coaching. 


Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. We meet six times a year. Our first meeting in 2025 is Friday, February 14th, 9:00 am Pacific.


2025 Meeting Dates

Fridays, 9:00 – 10:30am Pacific

February 14

April 11

June 13

August 8

September 12 

November 14


Sponsored by ICF-LA


Wishing us all compassion and grace in 2025.


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> A coaching client wonders what elements need to be present for someone to appear ‘executive.’ Two executive coaches ponder this question and come up with five elements they deem essential.


Categories in the archive to explore:

Developing New Behaviors

Executive Presence

Perception – How You’re Perceived


Six episodes to dive into:

189 - Don’t Take Anything Personally

178 - Executive Presence – Three Pillars

168 - Influence

108 - Shouldering the Burden of Leadership

23 - Speed of Thought


Download the Six Books for Growth here.


Listen to “The Show Must Go On” episode, about a real-life on-stage catastrophe.


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

 

Free transcripts of this and every episode are available here. 


More resources are available in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


FOR COACHES:

Michael Lewis’s podcast, “Against the Rules,” devotes its second season (2020) to all different types of coaching. 


Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. We meet six times a year. Our first meeting in 2025 is Friday, February 14th, 9:00 am Pacific.


2025 Meeting Dates

Fridays, 9:00 – 10:30am Pacific

February 14

April 11

June 13

August 8

September 12 

November 14


Sponsored by ICF-LA


Wishing us all compassion and grace in 2025.


From The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-16322675 Wed, 08 Jan 2025 18:00:00 -0800 1572 251 full false How to Answer “Tell Us About Yourself” How to Answer “Tell Us About Yourself” A senior leader, upset about having flubbed her reply to ‘Tell us about yourself’ during a high-stakes interview, talks with her coach about how to prepare for what she considers to be an incredibly stupid question. 


Categories in the archive to explore:

Communication Skills

Executive Presence

Presentation Skills


Six episodes to dive into:

34 - Keeping Repeated Materials Fresh

77 - The Power of Rehearsal

65 - Sorting & Labeling

180 - Becoming Expert

114 - Gravitas

124 - Personal Branding


For help Sorting & Labeling, download the PDF.


For help finding your three words, use our Needs & Values assessment.


For a new way of thinking about interviewing: Interviewology, The New Science of Interviewing.”


For career guidance, Michele Calderigi, head of Next Career, is a seasoned counselor.


Lois Frankel’s Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office remains a favorite among senior women in the workplace.


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

 

Free transcripts of this and every episode are available here. 


More resources are available in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


Safe and sane holidays, everyone!


from The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> A senior leader, upset about having flubbed her reply to ‘Tell us about yourself’ during a high-stakes interview, talks with her coach about how to prepare for what she considers to be an incredibly stupid question. 


Categories in the archive to explore:

Communication Skills

Executive Presence

Presentation Skills


Six episodes to dive into:

34 - Keeping Repeated Materials Fresh

77 - The Power of Rehearsal

65 - Sorting & Labeling

180 - Becoming Expert

114 - Gravitas

124 - Personal Branding


For help Sorting & Labeling, download the PDF.


For help finding your three words, use our Needs & Values assessment.


For a new way of thinking about interviewing: Interviewology, The New Science of Interviewing.”


For career guidance, Michele Calderigi, head of Next Career, is a seasoned counselor.


Lois Frankel’s Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office remains a favorite among senior women in the workplace.


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

 

Free transcripts of this and every episode are available here. 


More resources are available in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


Safe and sane holidays, everyone!


from The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-16206479 Wed, 04 Dec 2024 18:00:00 -0800 1241 podcast,leadershipskills, InterviewTips, JobInterview, PersonalBranding, SelfPresentation, CommunicationSkills,InterviewPreparation 250 full false How to Tackle Overtalking How to Tackle Overtalking A chief officer had known for years he was an over talker. His CEO, desperate for improvement, gave him a coach. This episode highlights their first coaching conversation. 


Two mindsets from this episode:

  1. When you speak, have a destination in mind. 

Ask yourself: “What is my point exactly?” and “Why is this something they need to know?”

  1. Pay attention to your listeners. Respond to their interests.

Ask yourself: “Does what I’m talking about right now help us get to the destination?” If not, skip it.


It doesn’t matter why you overtalk. Overtalking is limiting. Build your awareness of when you do it.


Learn to ‘hear’ the communications you have.

Who talked how long? 

What were the smaller conversations within the larger communication?


More tools to build your self-awareness and communication skills can be found in the Essential Communications bin and in the archive of all 16 years of the show.


Build awareness browsing these categories:

Self-Management

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Develop your communication skills in this category:

Communication Skills


Five Episodes to help your skills are:

53 - Answer What’s Asked

65 - Sorting & Labeling

20 - Staying on Track

11 - Sounding Executive

16 - Sounding Well-Spoken


“Think Fast Talk Smart” podcast with Matt Abrahams. Great tools to help you be a better communicator.


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

 

Free transcripts of this and every episode are available here. 


More resources are available in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


Coaches!

Download the results of ICF-LA’s pricing survey here.


Be safe, everyone! 

The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> A chief officer had known for years he was an over talker. His CEO, desperate for improvement, gave him a coach. This episode highlights their first coaching conversation. 


Two mindsets from this episode:

  1. When you speak, have a destination in mind. 

Ask yourself: “What is my point exactly?” and “Why is this something they need to know?”

  1. Pay attention to your listeners. Respond to their interests.

Ask yourself: “Does what I’m talking about right now help us get to the destination?” If not, skip it.


It doesn’t matter why you overtalk. Overtalking is limiting. Build your awareness of when you do it.


Learn to ‘hear’ the communications you have.

Who talked how long? 

What were the smaller conversations within the larger communication?


More tools to build your self-awareness and communication skills can be found in the Essential Communications bin and in the archive of all 16 years of the show.


Build awareness browsing these categories:

Self-Management

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Develop your communication skills in this category:

Communication Skills


Five Episodes to help your skills are:

53 - Answer What’s Asked

65 - Sorting & Labeling

20 - Staying on Track

11 - Sounding Executive

16 - Sounding Well-Spoken


“Think Fast Talk Smart” podcast with Matt Abrahams. Great tools to help you be a better communicator.


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

 

Free transcripts of this and every episode are available here. 


More resources are available in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


Coaches!

Download the results of ICF-LA’s pricing survey here.


Be safe, everyone! 

The Look & Sound of Leadership team 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-16023811 Wed, 06 Nov 2024 18:00:00 -0800 1331 podcast, LeadershipPodcast,LeadershipDevelopment,CommunicationSkills, ExecutiveCoaching, Overtalking, ManagingOvertalking full false Building Listening Building Listening A vice-president gets kudos for likability but knocks for her inability to listen. With her coach, she talks about listening repeatedly. This episode features one of those conversations. 


The 3 listening mindsets:

  • Listen to learn
  • Feelings are natural
  • Stay separate


Download the free multi-page learning tool about listening here. 


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast archive:

Communication Skills

Managing Yourself

Relationship Building



Five episodes you might listen to are:

136 -  A Breakdown of Listening

83 - Leadership and Listening

10 - Listen Without An Agenda

229 - The Sound of Leadership & Management - 2023

232 - Unlocking Executive Presence through Emotional Intelligence


Coaches!

Download the pricing survey here.


Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. We welcome coaches at every stage of development. Check us out here:


If you’re curious about coaching, reach out to Tom here.

 

Free transcripts of this and every episode are available here. 


More resources are available in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


To all of you, from all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, much gratitude! 

]]> A vice-president gets kudos for likability but knocks for her inability to listen. With her coach, she talks about listening repeatedly. This episode features one of those conversations. 


The 3 listening mindsets:

  • Listen to learn
  • Feelings are natural
  • Stay separate


Download the free multi-page learning tool about listening here. 


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast archive:

Communication Skills

Managing Yourself

Relationship Building



Five episodes you might listen to are:

136 -  A Breakdown of Listening

83 - Leadership and Listening

10 - Listen Without An Agenda

229 - The Sound of Leadership & Management - 2023

232 - Unlocking Executive Presence through Emotional Intelligence


Coaches!

Download the pricing survey here.


Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. We welcome coaches at every stage of development. Check us out here:


If you’re curious about coaching, reach out to Tom here.

 

Free transcripts of this and every episode are available here. 


More resources are available in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


To all of you, from all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, much gratitude! 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-15838454 Wed, 02 Oct 2024 18:00:00 -0700 1373 LeadershipPodcast, AcitveListening, LeadershipDevelopment, CommunicationSkills, ExecutiveCoaching, ListeningSkills 248 full false Mastering Anxiety Mastering Anxiety Battling perfectionism and anxiety, a leader asks her coach for help and learns a tool that helps her tame her terrors. 


This episode dovetails with many ideas in last month’s episode about Coaching versus Therapy.


Tom talks about his own bout with anxiety and a near career-ending attack of nervousness in this episode from April. 

https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/mastering-nerves/


Pixar’s Inside Out 2 has a powerful depiction of a 13-year-old girl suffering a full-blown anxiety attack. The experience and its aftermath is moving.


MindShift CBT is a free app designed to help you take charge of your anxiety and develop more effective ways of thinking.

 Watch the introductory video


Dr. Steven Melemis, a mood disorder expert, wrote I Want to Change My Life, filled with practical exercises and a one-month step-by-step plan to start you on a road to transformation.


In under two minutes, Tom shared a “golden nugget” on the “How to Survive and Thrive Podcast.” You can hear it here.


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast archive:

For Women

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Self-Talk


Five episodes with more tools to help you master anxiety are:

#52 Coaching v Therapy 

#152 Combating Emotional Hijacks

#147 Conquering Fear

#96 The Many Parts of you

#78 Unmasking a Stand-In


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

 

Want a free transcript of this episode? You can download it here. 


Every month we share more resources in our Essential News email. Sign up here.


To all of you, from all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 

]]> Battling perfectionism and anxiety, a leader asks her coach for help and learns a tool that helps her tame her terrors. 


This episode dovetails with many ideas in last month’s episode about Coaching versus Therapy.


Tom talks about his own bout with anxiety and a near career-ending attack of nervousness in this episode from April. 

https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/mastering-nerves/


Pixar’s Inside Out 2 has a powerful depiction of a 13-year-old girl suffering a full-blown anxiety attack. The experience and its aftermath is moving.


MindShift CBT is a free app designed to help you take charge of your anxiety and develop more effective ways of thinking.

 Watch the introductory video


Dr. Steven Melemis, a mood disorder expert, wrote I Want to Change My Life, filled with practical exercises and a one-month step-by-step plan to start you on a road to transformation.


In under two minutes, Tom shared a “golden nugget” on the “How to Survive and Thrive Podcast.” You can hear it here.


This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast archive:

For Women

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Self-Talk


Five episodes with more tools to help you master anxiety are:

#52 Coaching v Therapy 

#152 Combating Emotional Hijacks

#147 Conquering Fear

#96 The Many Parts of you

#78 Unmasking a Stand-In


Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom here.

 

Want a free transcript of this episode? You can download it here. 


Every month we share more resources in our Essential News email. Sign up here.


To all of you, from all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-15684911 Wed, 04 Sep 2024 18:00:00 -0700 1121 leadershippodcast, MentalHealth, Anxiety, Leadership, mentalhealth, AnxietySupport, Mindset, SelfLove, LeadershipDeveloment 247 full false Coaching versus Therapy Coaching versus Therapy Tired of feeling like a fraud, a leader searches for help down different paths. She and her coach talk about how coaching is, and is not, like therapy.

The leader in this episode wrestles with feelings of being a fraud. Tom talks about three resources to help manage that feeling:

“The Executive Impostor”  Episode #176 of “The Look & Sound of Leadership”

Self-Esteem at Work by Nathaniel Branden & Warren Bennis

The Confidence Code by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman


Additional tools to support your professional development are these free PDFs from our Essential Tools bin:

Johari Window

Readiness in Coaching


You can listen to Tom’s conversations on these two shows:

“I Need at Coach” with Adam Packard 

“Take Five” with Paul Butler


This episode is tagged in four categories in our podcast archive:

For Women

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Self-Talk


Four episodes, in addition to “The Executive Impostor” listed above, that will help you dive deeper into the ideas in this episode are:

52 - Coaching v Therapy 

191 - Coaching Under Attack

78 - Unmasking a Stand In

171 - Taming the Wild Child


Be in touch with Tom here.

Grab a free transcript of this episode here.


We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.

To all of you, from all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 

]]> Tired of feeling like a fraud, a leader searches for help down different paths. She and her coach talk about how coaching is, and is not, like therapy.

The leader in this episode wrestles with feelings of being a fraud. Tom talks about three resources to help manage that feeling:

“The Executive Impostor”  Episode #176 of “The Look & Sound of Leadership”

Self-Esteem at Work by Nathaniel Branden & Warren Bennis

The Confidence Code by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman


Additional tools to support your professional development are these free PDFs from our Essential Tools bin:

Johari Window

Readiness in Coaching


You can listen to Tom’s conversations on these two shows:

“I Need at Coach” with Adam Packard 

“Take Five” with Paul Butler


This episode is tagged in four categories in our podcast archive:

For Women

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Self-Talk


Four episodes, in addition to “The Executive Impostor” listed above, that will help you dive deeper into the ideas in this episode are:

52 - Coaching v Therapy 

191 - Coaching Under Attack

78 - Unmasking a Stand In

171 - Taming the Wild Child


Be in touch with Tom here.

Grab a free transcript of this episode here.


We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.

To all of you, from all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-15530081 Wed, 07 Aug 2024 18:00:00 -0700 1399 leadershippodcast, coaching, therapy, personalgrowth, mentalhealth, resilience, professionaldevelopment 246 full false Giving Upward Feedback Giving Upward Feedback A leader and her coach discuss a three-step model for turning upward feedback into a learning conversation that might allow the boss to hear the message. 

This month’s coaching conversation explores whether feedback should be given upwards in the first place. If so, are there ways to deliver the feedback effectively? 


Download the free “Giving Upward Feedback” PDF.


In the commentary, Tom tells a story about the Marshmallow Test being debunked. Here’s the column he mentions.


This episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

Communication Skills

Feedback

Managing Up


Five related episodes you might listen to are:

74 Dealing with Emotional Responses

14 Delivering Tough Feedback

32 Giving Powerful Feedback

118 Perception is Reality

99 The Disruptive Executive – Part One


Be in touch with Tom here.

 

Grab a free transcript of the episode here. 


We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 

]]> A leader and her coach discuss a three-step model for turning upward feedback into a learning conversation that might allow the boss to hear the message. 

This month’s coaching conversation explores whether feedback should be given upwards in the first place. If so, are there ways to deliver the feedback effectively? 


Download the free “Giving Upward Feedback” PDF.


In the commentary, Tom tells a story about the Marshmallow Test being debunked. Here’s the column he mentions.


This episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

Communication Skills

Feedback

Managing Up


Five related episodes you might listen to are:

74 Dealing with Emotional Responses

14 Delivering Tough Feedback

32 Giving Powerful Feedback

118 Perception is Reality

99 The Disruptive Executive – Part One


Be in touch with Tom here.

 

Grab a free transcript of the episode here. 


We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-15353344 Wed, 10 Jul 2024 18:00:00 -0700 1321 managingup, upwardfeedback, leadershipfeedback, leadershiptips, leadershippodcast, leadershipdevelopment, leadershipskills, leadershipcoaching 245 full false Networking Conversations – Part Two Networking Conversations – Part Two Knowing she’ll need to network to achieve her career goals, an ambitious leader asks her coach what a good networking conversation actually sounds like.


Resources for Building Your Networking Skills

Leverage the latest algorithm on LinkedIn with this research report.

Coaching For Leaders podcast: “How to Grow Your Professional Network”


Coaching For Leaders podcast: “Executive Presence with Your Elevator Speech”



10 Rules for Networking

Link to 10 Rules of Networking PDF in Essential Tools bin


Sorting & Labeling

Link to Sorting & Labeling PDF in Essential Tools bin


The Look & Sound of Leadership: “Assume Equality”


The Look & Sound of Leadership: “Being Concise”


This month’s episode is in the podcast archive in three categories:

For Women

Relationship Building

Social Skills


Five episodes to grow your networking skills: 

162 - Acting on the Corporate Stage

180 - Becoming Expert

193 - Branding Yourself

176 - The Executive Impostor

192 - Pursuing a Promotion 2020


Grab a free transcript of this episode here. 



Be in touch with Tom here.


We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


Listen to Tom’s conversation with Scott Ritzheimer on “Secrets of the High Demand Coach.”


COACHES!

Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. You’ll get CCE’s, too!


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 


#podcast#leadershipnetworking#growyournetwork#professoinalconnections#networkingskills#leadershipdevelopment#networkbuilding#careerconnections

]]> Knowing she’ll need to network to achieve her career goals, an ambitious leader asks her coach what a good networking conversation actually sounds like.


Resources for Building Your Networking Skills

Leverage the latest algorithm on LinkedIn with this research report.

Coaching For Leaders podcast: “How to Grow Your Professional Network”


Coaching For Leaders podcast: “Executive Presence with Your Elevator Speech”



10 Rules for Networking

Link to 10 Rules of Networking PDF in Essential Tools bin


Sorting & Labeling

Link to Sorting & Labeling PDF in Essential Tools bin


The Look & Sound of Leadership: “Assume Equality”


The Look & Sound of Leadership: “Being Concise”


This month’s episode is in the podcast archive in three categories:

For Women

Relationship Building

Social Skills


Five episodes to grow your networking skills: 

162 - Acting on the Corporate Stage

180 - Becoming Expert

193 - Branding Yourself

176 - The Executive Impostor

192 - Pursuing a Promotion 2020


Grab a free transcript of this episode here. 



Be in touch with Tom here.


We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


Listen to Tom’s conversation with Scott Ritzheimer on “Secrets of the High Demand Coach.”


COACHES!

Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. You’ll get CCE’s, too!


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 


#podcast#leadershipnetworking#growyournetwork#professoinalconnections#networkingskills#leadershipdevelopment#networkbuilding#careerconnections

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-15167998 Wed, 05 Jun 2024 18:00:00 -0700 1432 leadershipnetworking, growyournetwork, professoinalconnections, networkingskills, leadershipdevelopment, networkbuilding, careerconnections 244 full false Networking Conversations – Part 1 Networking Conversations – Part 1 An ambitious leader knows she’ll need to network to achieve her career goals. But, to her, networking feels slimy, so she asks her coach for help. 


Some core concepts from this episode:

  • The purpose of networking is to know people.
  • Don’t target people. Nurture a relationship.
  • Make networking 5% of your job every week.
  • Networking makes you a more valuable employee.
  • Show interest in the other person. No monologuing about yourself.


Listen to Tom’s “Flow” and “Fall” stories on the Coaching Stories podcast with Dr. Sam Humphrey. 


COACHES!


Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. You’ll get CCE’s, too!

https://www.icfla.org/special-interest-groups-2/


Be in touch with Tom here.


Please help yourself to the free resources in our Essential Tools bin including one called “10 Rules of Networking.” 

 

This month’s episode is in the podcast archive in three categories:

For Women

Relationship Building

Social Skills


Five episodes to grow your networking skills: 

42 - The Art of Chat

58 - Elevator Speeches

242 - Mastering Nerves

129 - Mentoring & Mentors

66 - Networking


Tom also mentioned an episode called Conquering People Pleasing.


Grab a free transcript of the episode here. 


We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 


]]> An ambitious leader knows she’ll need to network to achieve her career goals. But, to her, networking feels slimy, so she asks her coach for help. 


Some core concepts from this episode:

  • The purpose of networking is to know people.
  • Don’t target people. Nurture a relationship.
  • Make networking 5% of your job every week.
  • Networking makes you a more valuable employee.
  • Show interest in the other person. No monologuing about yourself.


Listen to Tom’s “Flow” and “Fall” stories on the Coaching Stories podcast with Dr. Sam Humphrey. 


COACHES!


Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. You’ll get CCE’s, too!

https://www.icfla.org/special-interest-groups-2/


Be in touch with Tom here.


Please help yourself to the free resources in our Essential Tools bin including one called “10 Rules of Networking.” 

 

This month’s episode is in the podcast archive in three categories:

For Women

Relationship Building

Social Skills


Five episodes to grow your networking skills: 

42 - The Art of Chat

58 - Elevator Speeches

242 - Mastering Nerves

129 - Mentoring & Mentors

66 - Networking


Tom also mentioned an episode called Conquering People Pleasing.


Grab a free transcript of the episode here. 


We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. Sign up here.


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks! 


]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-15022519 Wed, 08 May 2024 18:00:00 -0700 976 leadershipnetworking, growyournetwork, professoinalconnections, networkingskills, leadershipdevelopment, networkbuilding, careerconnections 243 full false Mastering Nerves Mastering Nerves Before testifying in a high-stakes case, a theorist and his coach swap horror stories about their nerves hijacking them and the lessons they learned. 

Tom’s Top Three Ideas for Mastering Nerves:

  • Celebrate Incremental Improvement
  • Write Happy Endings
  • Ignore Your Nerves


Here is the clip of Emma Stone battling her anxiety.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkN0sPQ76E0


Email Tom and tell him he’s crazy here.


For Coaches! 2 Resources!

1.  Coaching Stories Podcast


2.  Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF-LA. CCE’s given!


Tom’s conversations with Neha Singh on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast are here and here.

Please help yourself to the free resources in our Essential Tools bin.


This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:

Managing Yourself

Nervousness

Self-Talk


Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies: 

Act “As If”

Choosing Persistence

Conquering Fear

The Executive Impostor

The Many Parts of You


Grab a free transcript of the episode here. 


Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

]]> Before testifying in a high-stakes case, a theorist and his coach swap horror stories about their nerves hijacking them and the lessons they learned. 

Tom’s Top Three Ideas for Mastering Nerves:

  • Celebrate Incremental Improvement
  • Write Happy Endings
  • Ignore Your Nerves


Here is the clip of Emma Stone battling her anxiety.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkN0sPQ76E0


Email Tom and tell him he’s crazy here.


For Coaches! 2 Resources!

1.  Coaching Stories Podcast


2.  Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by ICF-LA. CCE’s given!


Tom’s conversations with Neha Singh on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast are here and here.

Please help yourself to the free resources in our Essential Tools bin.


This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:

Managing Yourself

Nervousness

Self-Talk


Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies: 

Act “As If”

Choosing Persistence

Conquering Fear

The Executive Impostor

The Many Parts of You


Grab a free transcript of the episode here. 


Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-14805088 Wed, 03 Apr 2024 18:00:00 -0700 1416 leadershipmastery, overcomingnervousness, confidentleadership, fearlessleadership, leadershipdevelopment, executivepresence, courageousleadership 242 full false Conquering People Pleasing Conquering People Pleasing Angry at himself for continually putting others’ needs before his own, a leader turns to his coach for tools. He learns a new way to think and a behavior to try. 


Be in touch with Tom here.


Listen to Tom’s conversations with Neha on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast here and here.


Our Essential Tools bin has free resources to help you build your look and sound of leadership.

 
G.W. Bailey’s imdb page is here.


This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:

For Women

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk


Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies: 

188 Boundaries

165 The Conflict Conversation

220 Holding Boundaries

219 How to Set Boundaries

116 Speaking Your Truth 


Grab a free transcript of the show here. 


Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

]]> Angry at himself for continually putting others’ needs before his own, a leader turns to his coach for tools. He learns a new way to think and a behavior to try. 


Be in touch with Tom here.


Listen to Tom’s conversations with Neha on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast here and here.


Our Essential Tools bin has free resources to help you build your look and sound of leadership.

 
G.W. Bailey’s imdb page is here.


This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories:

For Women

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk


Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies: 

188 Boundaries

165 The Conflict Conversation

220 Holding Boundaries

219 How to Set Boundaries

116 Speaking Your Truth 


Grab a free transcript of the show here. 


Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-14622305 Wed, 06 Mar 2024 18:00:00 -0800 1570 leadershippodcast, conqueringpeoplepleasing, authenticleadership, findyourvoice, couragetolead 241 full false Finding Management Courage Finding Management Courage A vice president, struggling to control his team of artists, learns a technique for managing bad behavior from his coach. He likes it so much, he uses it with his high performers, too.

The tool described in this episode is simple to understand but may take a bit of courage to implement.

Courage can be taught. Brené Brown created her Dare to Lead course for exactly that purpose. Ready to build your courage? Reach out to us here.

Find more resources to build your skills in the podcast archive. Search these categories:

Assertiveness

Feedback

Management Skills


Five episodes you might listen to are:

#47 Discussing Difficult Behaviors

#18 Holding People Accountable

#138 Managing Disruptive Executives

#127 Managing Performance: Up or Out

#65 Sorting & Labeling


A free infographic for Sorting & Labeling is in our Essential Tools bin. Help yourself to that and all the others.

Thinking about developing someone in your organization, or yourself? Reach out to Tom here.

Grab a free transcript of the show here.


Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

#podcast #managingbadbehavior #leadershippodcast #leadershipchallenges  #behaviormanagement  #leadershiptips   #leadershipdevelopment  

]]> A vice president, struggling to control his team of artists, learns a technique for managing bad behavior from his coach. He likes it so much, he uses it with his high performers, too.

The tool described in this episode is simple to understand but may take a bit of courage to implement.

Courage can be taught. Brené Brown created her Dare to Lead course for exactly that purpose. Ready to build your courage? Reach out to us here.

Find more resources to build your skills in the podcast archive. Search these categories:

Assertiveness

Feedback

Management Skills


Five episodes you might listen to are:

#47 Discussing Difficult Behaviors

#18 Holding People Accountable

#138 Managing Disruptive Executives

#127 Managing Performance: Up or Out

#65 Sorting & Labeling


A free infographic for Sorting & Labeling is in our Essential Tools bin. Help yourself to that and all the others.

Thinking about developing someone in your organization, or yourself? Reach out to Tom here.

Grab a free transcript of the show here.


Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

#podcast #managingbadbehavior #leadershippodcast #leadershipchallenges  #behaviormanagement  #leadershiptips   #leadershipdevelopment  

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-14387513 Wed, 31 Jan 2024 18:00:00 -0800 1126 managingbadbehavior, leadershippodcast, leadershipchallenges, behaviormanagement, leadershiptips, leadershipdevelopment 240 full false 5 Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists 5 Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists A leader is so furious with his self-absorbed boss, he considers quitting the company. He asks his coach to help him manage himself and defuse his triggers.

In addition to the five strategies Tom talks about in this episode, there are lots more strategies in his conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching For Leaders “How to Deal with a Boss Who’s a Jerk.” 


Tom’s wide-ranging conversation with Josh Dittmer can be found here.


Free tools to support your professional development are in our Essential Tools bin. Please help yourself.


Ready to explore coaching? Reach out to Tom here.


Other episodes to help you manage yourself in difficult workplace relationshipsare:


Looking for a transcript of the show? Download it here.

Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


Thanks to all of you, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership. 

Happy, healthy, safe new year!

]]> A leader is so furious with his self-absorbed boss, he considers quitting the company. He asks his coach to help him manage himself and defuse his triggers.

In addition to the five strategies Tom talks about in this episode, there are lots more strategies in his conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching For Leaders “How to Deal with a Boss Who’s a Jerk.” 


Tom’s wide-ranging conversation with Josh Dittmer can be found here.


Free tools to support your professional development are in our Essential Tools bin. Please help yourself.


Ready to explore coaching? Reach out to Tom here.


Other episodes to help you manage yourself in difficult workplace relationshipsare:


Looking for a transcript of the show? Download it here.

Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


Thanks to all of you, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership. 

Happy, healthy, safe new year!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-14275577 Wed, 10 Jan 2024 18:00:00 -0800 1097 podcastadvice, dealingwithnarcissists, toxicrelationships, navigatingnarcissism, emotionalresilience 239 full false Leading with Political Savvy – Part 2 Leading with Political Savvy – Part 2 Tired of losing to more savvy players, a leader seeks to decode the secrets of playing politics, focusing particularly on company culture.

Download our free Political Style Chart here.

“The Secret Handshake” is a great tool for mastering workplace politics.



Looking for a transcript of the show?  Read it here.


More tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:

For Women
Perception – how you perceive others
Relationship Building

Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:

188 - Boundaries
210 - How to grow your self-management
67 - “I hate politics”
142 - The Mindful Executive
121 - Your Goodwill Bank Account

Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.

Let us know how we can support you.

Happy, healthy, safe new year. I look forward to being with you all in 2024.

From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, Happy New Year! And thanks!

]]> Tired of losing to more savvy players, a leader seeks to decode the secrets of playing politics, focusing particularly on company culture.

Download our free Political Style Chart here.

“The Secret Handshake” is a great tool for mastering workplace politics.



Looking for a transcript of the show?  Read it here.


More tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:

For Women
Perception – how you perceive others
Relationship Building

Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:

188 - Boundaries
210 - How to grow your self-management
67 - “I hate politics”
142 - The Mindful Executive
121 - Your Goodwill Bank Account

Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.

Let us know how we can support you.

Happy, healthy, safe new year. I look forward to being with you all in 2024.

From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, Happy New Year! And thanks!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-14082820 Wed, 06 Dec 2023 18:00:00 -0800 1301 WorkplacePolitics, OfficePolitics, ExecutiveCoaching, LeadershipSkills full false Leading with Political Savvy – Part 1 Leading with Political Savvy – Part 1 A leader feels stuck. She sees others winning resources she felt should have been hers, but she hates playing politics. What to do?

Download our free Political Style Chart here.


“The Secret Handshake” is a great tool for mastering workplace politics. 


Many more tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:

Self-Talk

Leadership

For Women

Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:


187 - Agreeable Disagreement

215 - How to Stay Calm Under Fire

192 - Pursuing a Promotion

207 - Tough Conversations

67 - “I Hate Politics”

Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


JAPAN!

Email me with your suggestions for what we should not miss in Japan this December! tom@essentialcomm.com


Let us know how we can support you.


Be kind to yourself. Things are rough out there! From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership,  be well! And thanks!


 



]]> A leader feels stuck. She sees others winning resources she felt should have been hers, but she hates playing politics. What to do?

Download our free Political Style Chart here.


“The Secret Handshake” is a great tool for mastering workplace politics. 


Many more tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:

Self-Talk

Leadership

For Women

Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:


187 - Agreeable Disagreement

215 - How to Stay Calm Under Fire

192 - Pursuing a Promotion

207 - Tough Conversations

67 - “I Hate Politics”

Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here.


JAPAN!

Email me with your suggestions for what we should not miss in Japan this December! tom@essentialcomm.com


Let us know how we can support you.


Be kind to yourself. Things are rough out there! From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership,  be well! And thanks!


 



]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-13870290 Wed, 01 Nov 2023 18:00:00 -0700 1629 WorkplacePolitics, OfficePolitics, ExecutiveCoaching, LeadershipSkills 237 full false Building Consensus – Savvy or Sin? Building Consensus – Savvy or Sin? A leader, surrounded by people she knows and trusts, can’t seem to get traction with them. In conversation with her coach, she discovers an unexpected cause.

Tools for teams abound in this episode. 


The four tools Tom suggests as first steps for helping your team openly discuss ideas are:

  • Say ‘thank you’ when people offer an idea;
  • Be curious; don’t dismiss ideas or people;
  • Don’t take differences personally; it’s not about you;
  • Develop your comfort with disagreement.


The Gradients of Agreement tool supports the ideas in this episode. Download it for free from our Essential Tools bin along with other communication tools like Sorting & Labeling.

Additional tools for team growth mentioned in this episode are the classic Crucial Conversations and Tom’s conversation on The cATalyzing Podcast.


This episode is in our podcast library in three categories:

Communication Skills

Leading Teams

Management Skills

Specific episodes that will help you develop your team are:

Facilitating Open Dialogue

How Teams Fight

Leadership Behavior in Meetings

Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta

Questions as Leadership

Taming Meetings 

Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. You can sign up here.


To those of you who post reviews, thank you so much for supporting the show.


Let us know how we can support you.


Until next month, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!

#podcast #TeamDecisionMaking #Teamwork #Leadership #ConsensusBuilding    #EffectiveTeams  #TeamCommunication #TeamLeadership   

]]> A leader, surrounded by people she knows and trusts, can’t seem to get traction with them. In conversation with her coach, she discovers an unexpected cause.

Tools for teams abound in this episode. 


The four tools Tom suggests as first steps for helping your team openly discuss ideas are:

  • Say ‘thank you’ when people offer an idea;
  • Be curious; don’t dismiss ideas or people;
  • Don’t take differences personally; it’s not about you;
  • Develop your comfort with disagreement.


The Gradients of Agreement tool supports the ideas in this episode. Download it for free from our Essential Tools bin along with other communication tools like Sorting & Labeling.

Additional tools for team growth mentioned in this episode are the classic Crucial Conversations and Tom’s conversation on The cATalyzing Podcast.


This episode is in our podcast library in three categories:

Communication Skills

Leading Teams

Management Skills

Specific episodes that will help you develop your team are:

Facilitating Open Dialogue

How Teams Fight

Leadership Behavior in Meetings

Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta

Questions as Leadership

Taming Meetings 

Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. You can sign up here.


To those of you who post reviews, thank you so much for supporting the show.


Let us know how we can support you.


Until next month, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!

#podcast #TeamDecisionMaking #Teamwork #Leadership #ConsensusBuilding    #EffectiveTeams  #TeamCommunication #TeamLeadership   

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-13697597 Wed, 04 Oct 2023 06:00:00 -0700 1626 236 full false The Conflict Resolution Wheel The Conflict Resolution Wheel A co-founder, at odds with his partner (also his best friend!), reaches out to his coach for help saving the business and the friendship. 

The episode introduces The Conflict Resolution Wheel. Download it for free from our Essential Tools bin along with other communication tools like the Feeling Words Grid.

The Wheel is based on a tool in the Couple Communication course, a program to help you understand and connect with your partner better.


The course’s workbook, Talking and Listening Together, is meant for self-study. It’s available for purchase online. 


Another book Tom references in this episode is the classic Crucial Conversations.

This episode is in our podcast library in three categories:

Communication Skills

Managing Yourself

Relationship Building


Five episodes that will help you continue to develop your conflict resolution skills are:

Conflict

The Conflict Conversation

Creating Safety for Hard Talks

A Difficult Conversation

Resolving Conflict


Every month our Essential News email provides links to even more resources. You can sign up here.

Thank you thank you thank you to those of you who post reviews. You make such a difference to us. Thanks for supporting the show!

Let us know how we can support you.


Until next month, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!


 



]]> A co-founder, at odds with his partner (also his best friend!), reaches out to his coach for help saving the business and the friendship. 

The episode introduces The Conflict Resolution Wheel. Download it for free from our Essential Tools bin along with other communication tools like the Feeling Words Grid.

The Wheel is based on a tool in the Couple Communication course, a program to help you understand and connect with your partner better.


The course’s workbook, Talking and Listening Together, is meant for self-study. It’s available for purchase online. 


Another book Tom references in this episode is the classic Crucial Conversations.

This episode is in our podcast library in three categories:

Communication Skills

Managing Yourself

Relationship Building


Five episodes that will help you continue to develop your conflict resolution skills are:

Conflict

The Conflict Conversation

Creating Safety for Hard Talks

A Difficult Conversation

Resolving Conflict


Every month our Essential News email provides links to even more resources. You can sign up here.

Thank you thank you thank you to those of you who post reviews. You make such a difference to us. Thanks for supporting the show!

Let us know how we can support you.


Until next month, from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well! And thanks!


 



]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-13529487 Wed, 06 Sep 2023 18:00:00 -0700 1496 235 full false Essential Skills that Shaped a Leader Essential Skills that Shaped a Leader A senior leader, having risen through the ranks, ends her coaching engagement by comparing notes with her coach about the skills that have helped her most. 

This episode identified seven essential leadership skills:

  • Conquer catastrophic thinking;
  • Use fewer words;
  • Value relationships as highly as results;
  • Don’t take anything personally;
  • Commitment to Development;
  • Reflection;
  • Speak for Yourself.

Resources to develop those last three:

Commitment to Development

The Ability to Reflect

Speak for Yourself


Episodes to build assertion:

This month’s episode lives in our podcast library in these three categories:

Executive Presence
Leadership
Self-Talk


Five episodes to help you with different skills are:

Building Empathy
“Don’t Take Anything Personally”
The Executive Executive
Personal Connections
Short Sounds Confident


Our monthly email has links to more resources. You can sign up here.

All our infographics are available to you for free in the Essential Tools bin.

Let us know how we can support you.

Until next month, be well!

From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

]]> A senior leader, having risen through the ranks, ends her coaching engagement by comparing notes with her coach about the skills that have helped her most. 

This episode identified seven essential leadership skills:

  • Conquer catastrophic thinking;
  • Use fewer words;
  • Value relationships as highly as results;
  • Don’t take anything personally;
  • Commitment to Development;
  • Reflection;
  • Speak for Yourself.

Resources to develop those last three:

Commitment to Development

The Ability to Reflect

Speak for Yourself


Episodes to build assertion:

This month’s episode lives in our podcast library in these three categories:

Executive Presence
Leadership
Self-Talk


Five episodes to help you with different skills are:

Building Empathy
“Don’t Take Anything Personally”
The Executive Executive
Personal Connections
Short Sounds Confident


Our monthly email has links to more resources. You can sign up here.

All our infographics are available to you for free in the Essential Tools bin.

Let us know how we can support you.

Until next month, be well!

From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, thanks!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-13327915 Wed, 02 Aug 2023 18:00:00 -0700 1291 234 full false Taming the Defensiveness Dragon Taming the Defensiveness Dragon At the end of her rope, a leader asks her coach for help managing a direct report who, she says, is the most defensive person she’s ever met. 

This episode was packed with tools. We’ve put them into an easy-to-understand infographic. Download it for free here. 

Kim Scott, the best-selling author of the electric book Radical Candor, wrote a short, friendly guide with tools for handling defensive employees. Find it here.

Harvard Business Review’s Amy Gallo talked with Dave Stachowiak on this episode of the Coaching for Leaders podcast. As with every episode of Dave’s, this is indispensable. 

To work on “deserving” dive into The Four Agreements.  

To dig deeper into tools for taming defensiveness, search our podcast library in these three categories:



Five specific episodes on this topic you could listen to are:


Sign up to get our monthly email with links to resources that support each episode.


Calling all COACHES! Come join our Executive Coaching special interest group (SIG) sponsored by the Los Angeles Chapter of ICF. Check out our SIG and all the others here.    

Or shoot me an email with your questions. I’m at tom@essentialcomm.com.


All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.

Your reviews supporting the show help us continue as an ad-free podcast. 


Let us know how we can support you.


Until next month, be well!


Thanks from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership.

]]> At the end of her rope, a leader asks her coach for help managing a direct report who, she says, is the most defensive person she’s ever met. 

This episode was packed with tools. We’ve put them into an easy-to-understand infographic. Download it for free here. 

Kim Scott, the best-selling author of the electric book Radical Candor, wrote a short, friendly guide with tools for handling defensive employees. Find it here.

Harvard Business Review’s Amy Gallo talked with Dave Stachowiak on this episode of the Coaching for Leaders podcast. As with every episode of Dave’s, this is indispensable. 

To work on “deserving” dive into The Four Agreements.  

To dig deeper into tools for taming defensiveness, search our podcast library in these three categories:



Five specific episodes on this topic you could listen to are:


Sign up to get our monthly email with links to resources that support each episode.


Calling all COACHES! Come join our Executive Coaching special interest group (SIG) sponsored by the Los Angeles Chapter of ICF. Check out our SIG and all the others here.    

Or shoot me an email with your questions. I’m at tom@essentialcomm.com.


All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.

Your reviews supporting the show help us continue as an ad-free podcast. 


Let us know how we can support you.


Until next month, be well!


Thanks from Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-13162527 Wed, 05 Jul 2023 18:00:00 -0700 1676 233 full false Unlocking Executive Presence through Emotional Intelligence Unlocking Executive Presence through Emotional Intelligence During her first C-suite years, a leader burned a lot of bridges. Her boss, who’d traveled a similar path, gets her a coach and sets only one goal: repair relations through emotional intelligence.


Lots and lots of tools and resources this month:


Free downloads:

The Feeling Words Grid

EQ Model


Books and papers to sharpen your skills

“Executive Presence: The Missing Link between Merit and Success” 

“The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success”

“Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well”

“Executive Presence” from Center for Talent Innovation


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Executive Presence

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Five episodes to help you command a room:

109 Building Emotional Intelligence 

146 Building Empathy

155 The Human Element

69 Leadership & Self-Deception

17 Speaking for Yourself 


Please help yourself to any (or all!) of our free infographics in the Essential Tools bin.

Our deepest gratitude to those who post reviews. Thank you!!! 


Let us know how we can support you.

Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> During her first C-suite years, a leader burned a lot of bridges. Her boss, who’d traveled a similar path, gets her a coach and sets only one goal: repair relations through emotional intelligence.


Lots and lots of tools and resources this month:


Free downloads:

The Feeling Words Grid

EQ Model


Books and papers to sharpen your skills

“Executive Presence: The Missing Link between Merit and Success” 

“The EQ Edge: Emotional Intelligence and Your Success”

“Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well”

“Executive Presence” from Center for Talent Innovation


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Executive Presence

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Five episodes to help you command a room:

109 Building Emotional Intelligence 

146 Building Empathy

155 The Human Element

69 Leadership & Self-Deception

17 Speaking for Yourself 


Please help yourself to any (or all!) of our free infographics in the Essential Tools bin.

Our deepest gratitude to those who post reviews. Thank you!!! 


Let us know how we can support you.

Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-12987170 Wed, 07 Jun 2023 18:00:00 -0700 1331 232 full false Staying Afloat in a Shitstorm Staying Afloat in a Shitstorm A highly effective leader finds herself in the middle of a terrible mess, not of her own making. When her coach marvels at her ability to stay calm amidst the chaos, she shares a lesson she learned from her dad.

In addition to the tools discussed during this episode, Tom also talks about:


“Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.”

Conversations with Coaches – Episode #184

Executive Coaching Special Interest Group

The Feeling Word Grid


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Managing Yourself

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Self-Talk

Five episodes to help you manage during difficult times:

109 - Building Emotional Intelligence

52 - Coaching versus Therapy

152 - Combating Emotional Hijacks

75 - “Don’t Take Anything Personally”

171 - Taming the Wild Child


All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.

Your reviews supporting the show help us continue as an ad-free podcast. 


Let us know how we can support you.


Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A highly effective leader finds herself in the middle of a terrible mess, not of her own making. When her coach marvels at her ability to stay calm amidst the chaos, she shares a lesson she learned from her dad.

In addition to the tools discussed during this episode, Tom also talks about:


“Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.”

Conversations with Coaches – Episode #184

Executive Coaching Special Interest Group

The Feeling Word Grid


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Managing Yourself

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Self-Talk

Five episodes to help you manage during difficult times:

109 - Building Emotional Intelligence

52 - Coaching versus Therapy

152 - Combating Emotional Hijacks

75 - “Don’t Take Anything Personally”

171 - Taming the Wild Child


All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.

Your reviews supporting the show help us continue as an ad-free podcast. 


Let us know how we can support you.


Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-12811485 Wed, 10 May 2023 18:00:00 -0700 1561 231 full false How to Command a Room How to Command a Room Wanting to command rooms with her voice, a team leader turned to her coach for exercises. She learned the secrets of “RVP.”


In this episode, five practices to help you develop a voice that will command a room are discussed:

  • Vocal variety
  • Expect resistance
  • Rhythm
  • Volume
  • Pitch


This episode has multiple tips and tools for each of those five development areas.


The Zootopia clip that gets so much attention is here:    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHKwnUa3txo


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Communication Skills

Executive Presence

Presentation Skills

Five episodes to help you command a room:

186 Video Feedback & Executive Presence

120 Captivate Your Audience

77 The Power of Rehearsal

64 I  Talk Too Fast!

34 Keeping Repeated Material Fresh

All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.

Thanks for supporting us with your reviews. Let us know how we can support you.


Until next month, be well!


Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Wanting to command rooms with her voice, a team leader turned to her coach for exercises. She learned the secrets of “RVP.”


In this episode, five practices to help you develop a voice that will command a room are discussed:

  • Vocal variety
  • Expect resistance
  • Rhythm
  • Volume
  • Pitch


This episode has multiple tips and tools for each of those five development areas.


The Zootopia clip that gets so much attention is here:    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HHKwnUa3txo


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Communication Skills

Executive Presence

Presentation Skills

Five episodes to help you command a room:

186 Video Feedback & Executive Presence

120 Captivate Your Audience

77 The Power of Rehearsal

64 I  Talk Too Fast!

34 Keeping Repeated Material Fresh

All our free infographics are in the Essential Tools bin.

Thanks for supporting us with your reviews. Let us know how we can support you.


Until next month, be well!


Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-12583873 Wed, 05 Apr 2023 18:00:00 -0700 1291 230 full false The Sound of Leadership & Management - 2023 The Sound of Leadership & Management - 2023 In conversation with her coach, an executive explores whether leaders and managers use language differently in order to be effective in their roles.


There are lots of ideas in this episode. To help you sort the tools and put them into practice, we’ve created an infographic for you to download. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Help yourself!


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:



Five related episodes you might listen to are: 


139Engagement & Performance

138Managing Disruptive Executives

140 Showing Teeth

148Taming Meetings

156The Voice of Authority


Much gratitude to the folks who post reviews. We appreciate your support and all your kind words.


Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here. 


Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> In conversation with her coach, an executive explores whether leaders and managers use language differently in order to be effective in their roles.


There are lots of ideas in this episode. To help you sort the tools and put them into practice, we’ve created an infographic for you to download. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Help yourself!


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:



Five related episodes you might listen to are: 


139Engagement & Performance

138Managing Disruptive Executives

140 Showing Teeth

148Taming Meetings

156The Voice of Authority


Much gratitude to the folks who post reviews. We appreciate your support and all your kind words.


Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here. 


Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-12257611 Wed, 01 Mar 2023 18:00:00 -0800 1251 full false Leadership v Management - 2023 Leadership v Management - 2023 An executive, in conversation with her coach, wonders if leaders and managers are different. And whether it matters.

This episode has lots of ideas flying around. To help you sort the tools and put them into practice, we’ve created an infographic for you to download. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Help yourself! 


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 

139Dynamic One-on-Ones

138How Teams Fight

179 Managing Former Peers

148Taming Meetings

156The Voice of Authority


We are so grateful to those of you post reviews. It only takes you a minute or two, but it makes a world of difference for us. 


Our purpose is to support your growth and development. Let us know how we can help. Be in touch with us here. 


Until next month, be well!


Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> An executive, in conversation with her coach, wonders if leaders and managers are different. And whether it matters.

This episode has lots of ideas flying around. To help you sort the tools and put them into practice, we’ve created an infographic for you to download. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Help yourself! 


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 

139Dynamic One-on-Ones

138How Teams Fight

179 Managing Former Peers

148Taming Meetings

156The Voice of Authority


We are so grateful to those of you post reviews. It only takes you a minute or two, but it makes a world of difference for us. 


Our purpose is to support your growth and development. Let us know how we can help. Be in touch with us here. 


Until next month, be well!


Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-12151737 Wed, 01 Feb 2023 18:00:00 -0800 1281 228 full false Finding a Lighter Path Finding a Lighter Path A leader, stuck in an unhealthy cycle, searches for a way out. In conversation with his coach, he learns a four-square tool that just might work.

A new free Essential Tool illustrating the four-square model is available for download in the Essential Tools bin. No login required. Help yourself.

The model in this month’s episode is a variation on The ACT Matrix. Here’s our favorite YouTube video about The Matrix.

The creators of The ACT Matrix wrote a book to help practitioners use the tool.


This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

Developing New Behaviors

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk


Here are five episodes to help you get unstuck: 

7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks*

Blind Spots

How to Build Self-Awareness*

How to Grow your Self-Management*

How to Show Up

* Indicates there’s a PDF in the Essential Tools bin to support the ideas in that episode.


We are so excited to dive into the new year with you all! 


All the best,

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A leader, stuck in an unhealthy cycle, searches for a way out. In conversation with his coach, he learns a four-square tool that just might work.

A new free Essential Tool illustrating the four-square model is available for download in the Essential Tools bin. No login required. Help yourself.

The model in this month’s episode is a variation on The ACT Matrix. Here’s our favorite YouTube video about The Matrix.

The creators of The ACT Matrix wrote a book to help practitioners use the tool.


This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

Developing New Behaviors

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk


Here are five episodes to help you get unstuck: 

7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks*

Blind Spots

How to Build Self-Awareness*

How to Grow your Self-Management*

How to Show Up

* Indicates there’s a PDF in the Essential Tools bin to support the ideas in that episode.


We are so excited to dive into the new year with you all! 


All the best,

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-12014212 Wed, 11 Jan 2023 18:00:00 -0800 1150 227 full false How to Act in Your Own Best Interest How to Act in Your Own Best Interest A team leader had a habit of jumping to conclusions. His most recent leap landed him in hot water. In conversation with his coach, he learns a tool for making better choices.

We created a new free Essential Tool illustrating The Ladder of Inference. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Please help yourself.

The “Don’t Judge Too Quickly” ads are on YouTube here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UP8NRgWtPaE&t=18s

This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

Managing Yourself

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development


In addition to the various episodes listed above, five that will help you think about your thinking are:   


102 – Getting Unstuck

210 – How to Grow Your Self-Management

63 – Positive Opposites

154 – Self-Limiting Beliefs

190 – Thinking Errors


Safe and sane holidays, everyone. See you in the New Year! 

With gratitude,

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A team leader had a habit of jumping to conclusions. His most recent leap landed him in hot water. In conversation with his coach, he learns a tool for making better choices.

We created a new free Essential Tool illustrating The Ladder of Inference. It’s in the Essential Tools bin along with all the others. Please help yourself.

The “Don’t Judge Too Quickly” ads are on YouTube here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UP8NRgWtPaE&t=18s

This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

Managing Yourself

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development


In addition to the various episodes listed above, five that will help you think about your thinking are:   


102 – Getting Unstuck

210 – How to Grow Your Self-Management

63 – Positive Opposites

154 – Self-Limiting Beliefs

190 – Thinking Errors


Safe and sane holidays, everyone. See you in the New Year! 

With gratitude,

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-11801852 Wed, 07 Dec 2022 18:00:00 -0800 1301 226 full false How to Turn on Your Executive Thinking How to Turn on Your Executive Thinking A senior executive worries that his lieutenants are not being taken seriously by the senior leadership team. He discusses with a coach how to help his rising leaders accelerate their growth. This is that conversation.     

We created a new free Essential Tool for you called “Executive Thinking.” It illustrates the “altitude” analogy Tom told during the episode. It also supports one of the four exercises you can do with your team.

Additional Essential Tools that support other exercises are “Before You Write Your Presentation” and “Sorting & Labeling.”

Liberating Structures is the free resource Tom was raving about. The specific exercise he mentioned was TRIZ. 

Tom has talked about Liberating Structures in the episodes “How to Re-engage a Team” and “Leading Offsites.”

If you’re approaching year-end performance reviews, there are tools to support you – no matter which side of the review you’re on! – in Performance Reviews. 

Tom referenced two shows that can help you learn Sorting & Labeling.

Coaching For Leaders with Dave Stachowiak: The Way to Make Sense to Others.

The Everyday Innovator with Chad McCallister: How Product Managers Look & Sound like Leaders.


This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

Executive Presence

Leadership

Perception – How You’re Perceived


In addition to the various episodes listed above, five that relate specifically to executive thinking are:


180  Becoming Expert

193  Branding Yourself

202  The Executive Executive

178  Executive Presence – Three Pillars

11  Sounding Executive


As we hurtle in our year-end traditions, stay mindful!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A senior executive worries that his lieutenants are not being taken seriously by the senior leadership team. He discusses with a coach how to help his rising leaders accelerate their growth. This is that conversation.     

We created a new free Essential Tool for you called “Executive Thinking.” It illustrates the “altitude” analogy Tom told during the episode. It also supports one of the four exercises you can do with your team.

Additional Essential Tools that support other exercises are “Before You Write Your Presentation” and “Sorting & Labeling.”

Liberating Structures is the free resource Tom was raving about. The specific exercise he mentioned was TRIZ. 

Tom has talked about Liberating Structures in the episodes “How to Re-engage a Team” and “Leading Offsites.”

If you’re approaching year-end performance reviews, there are tools to support you – no matter which side of the review you’re on! – in Performance Reviews. 

Tom referenced two shows that can help you learn Sorting & Labeling.

Coaching For Leaders with Dave Stachowiak: The Way to Make Sense to Others.

The Everyday Innovator with Chad McCallister: How Product Managers Look & Sound like Leaders.


This current episode is tagged in the library in three categories:

Executive Presence

Leadership

Perception – How You’re Perceived


In addition to the various episodes listed above, five that relate specifically to executive thinking are:


180  Becoming Expert

193  Branding Yourself

202  The Executive Executive

178  Executive Presence – Three Pillars

11  Sounding Executive


As we hurtle in our year-end traditions, stay mindful!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-11606050 Wed, 02 Nov 2022 18:00:00 -0700 1163 225 full false How to Disarm a Trigger How to Disarm a Trigger A leader causing upset among her people is given a coach. In conversation, they examine what might be triggering people to be upset with her. The exploration leads to a simple, yet difficult, idea.

Transcripts of every episode are available for download in our library. 

Tom mentioned two episodes with mindfulness tools. They are: 

The Mindful Executive

The Focused Executive.


This episode is filed in three categories in the library:

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Self-Talk


In addition to the mindfulness episodes, five other related episodes are:

204 Blind Spots

119 Creating Devoted Followers

171 Taming the Wild Child

190 Thinking Errors

96 The Many Parts of You


Listen to Tom’s conversation with Kim O’Hara on “You Should Write a Book About That.”  

Listen to Tom’s conversation with Marcel van de Hoef on “The Happy Investor.”  


Gratitude to those who POST REVIEWS. You are life-sustaining! Thank you!

Got a question you think a coach could help with? We’re happy to talk! Get in touch with us here. 


Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A leader causing upset among her people is given a coach. In conversation, they examine what might be triggering people to be upset with her. The exploration leads to a simple, yet difficult, idea.

Transcripts of every episode are available for download in our library. 

Tom mentioned two episodes with mindfulness tools. They are: 

The Mindful Executive

The Focused Executive.


This episode is filed in three categories in the library:

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Self-Talk


In addition to the mindfulness episodes, five other related episodes are:

204 Blind Spots

119 Creating Devoted Followers

171 Taming the Wild Child

190 Thinking Errors

96 The Many Parts of You


Listen to Tom’s conversation with Kim O’Hara on “You Should Write a Book About That.”  

Listen to Tom’s conversation with Marcel van de Hoef on “The Happy Investor.”  


Gratitude to those who POST REVIEWS. You are life-sustaining! Thank you!

Got a question you think a coach could help with? We’re happy to talk! Get in touch with us here. 


Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-11434303 Wed, 05 Oct 2022 18:00:00 -0700 1408 224 full false Responsibility Charting Responsibility Charting A team leader is tired of kerfuffles. In conversation with her coach, she learns to use a simple chart that generates almost miraculous results.

The chart is available to you here. Please, help yourself.

Other tools for leading your team that Tom mentioned in this episode include The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni. 

You can download a sample of the team development tool based on the book that Tom mentioned. The Five Behaviors of a Cohesive Team assessment is available to you here.

If you’re looking to pick Tom’s brain a little more, all his interviews are available to you in Conversations.

His conversation on Keys to the Shop is available here. His conversation on Next Gen Leadership is available here. 

This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library under 

Leadership

Leading Teams

Management Skills 


Related episodes you might listen to are: 

91   Facilitating Open Dialogue

149 How Teams Fight

181 Inviting Dialogue

175 Leading Offsites

148 Taming Meetings

195 The Intentional Leader

 

As ever, we cannot give enough thanks to those of you who post reviews. Thank you for your support and kind words.

Got a question about your career and how coaching might help? Get in touch with us here. 

Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A team leader is tired of kerfuffles. In conversation with her coach, she learns to use a simple chart that generates almost miraculous results.

The chart is available to you here. Please, help yourself.

Other tools for leading your team that Tom mentioned in this episode include The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni. 

You can download a sample of the team development tool based on the book that Tom mentioned. The Five Behaviors of a Cohesive Team assessment is available to you here.

If you’re looking to pick Tom’s brain a little more, all his interviews are available to you in Conversations.

His conversation on Keys to the Shop is available here. His conversation on Next Gen Leadership is available here. 

This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library under 

Leadership

Leading Teams

Management Skills 


Related episodes you might listen to are: 

91   Facilitating Open Dialogue

149 How Teams Fight

181 Inviting Dialogue

175 Leading Offsites

148 Taming Meetings

195 The Intentional Leader

 

As ever, we cannot give enough thanks to those of you who post reviews. Thank you for your support and kind words.

Got a question about your career and how coaching might help? Get in touch with us here. 

Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-11267522 Wed, 07 Sep 2022 18:00:00 -0700 1400 223 full false The Conflict Conversation The Conflict Conversation What’s helpful to say when you’re in an argument? How can you prepare to have an argument? This month’s coaching conversation dives deeper into the topic of “Conflict” which began last month. This episode has scripts and concepts for mastering The Conflict Conversation. 

We’ve created another PDF to support your leadership development. It’s a feedback model detailing actions and intentions for you. If you’re serious about your leadership, you have to be serious about mastering the art of feedback. Grab this Essential Tool and dig in. It’s waiting for you in our Tools bin. 


This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library under 

Communication Skills

Relationship Building

For Women


Related episodes you might listen to are: 

#61  A Difficult Conversation 

#73  Disagree Agreeably 

#72  Getting Agreement 

#27  Repairing Damaged Relationships 

#88  Resolving Conflict 

 

Thanks this month, and every month, to those of you who post reviews. We are so grateful for your support and kind words.

If you have a question about your career and how coaching might help, be in touch with us here. 

Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 


]]> What’s helpful to say when you’re in an argument? How can you prepare to have an argument? This month’s coaching conversation dives deeper into the topic of “Conflict” which began last month. This episode has scripts and concepts for mastering The Conflict Conversation. 

We’ve created another PDF to support your leadership development. It’s a feedback model detailing actions and intentions for you. If you’re serious about your leadership, you have to be serious about mastering the art of feedback. Grab this Essential Tool and dig in. It’s waiting for you in our Tools bin. 


This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library under 

Communication Skills

Relationship Building

For Women


Related episodes you might listen to are: 

#61  A Difficult Conversation 

#73  Disagree Agreeably 

#72  Getting Agreement 

#27  Repairing Damaged Relationships 

#88  Resolving Conflict 

 

Thanks this month, and every month, to those of you who post reviews. We are so grateful for your support and kind words.

If you have a question about your career and how coaching might help, be in touch with us here. 

Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 


]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-11003501 Wed, 03 Aug 2022 18:00:00 -0700 1153 222 full false Conflict Conflict Conflict is inevitable, but most of us were never taught skills to help us find our way through the dark corridors of this house called “Conflict.” This month’s coaching conversation illuminates predictable patterns and practical tools to navigate successfully through Conflict House. 

If you’re looking to develop your executive presence, our latest PDF is for you. It talks about the four factors every executive needs to be effective. It’s free. You can find it in our Tools bin.  Help yourself. 

This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library under 

Relationship Building


Related episodes you might listen to are: 

61  A Difficult Conversation 

73  Disagree Agreeably 

72  Getting Agreement 

27  Repairing Damaged Relationships 

88  Resolving Conflict 

 

Tom references the book “Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most” by Stone, Patton and Heen, from the Harvard Negotiation Project.

As always, thanks to the folks who post reviews. We are so grateful for your support and kind words.

If you have a question about your career and how coaching might help, be in touch with us here. 


Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 


 

]]> Conflict is inevitable, but most of us were never taught skills to help us find our way through the dark corridors of this house called “Conflict.” This month’s coaching conversation illuminates predictable patterns and practical tools to navigate successfully through Conflict House. 

If you’re looking to develop your executive presence, our latest PDF is for you. It talks about the four factors every executive needs to be effective. It’s free. You can find it in our Tools bin.  Help yourself. 

This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library under 

Relationship Building


Related episodes you might listen to are: 

61  A Difficult Conversation 

73  Disagree Agreeably 

72  Getting Agreement 

27  Repairing Damaged Relationships 

88  Resolving Conflict 

 

Tom references the book “Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most” by Stone, Patton and Heen, from the Harvard Negotiation Project.

As always, thanks to the folks who post reviews. We are so grateful for your support and kind words.

If you have a question about your career and how coaching might help, be in touch with us here. 


Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 


 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-10905431 Wed, 06 Jul 2022 18:00:00 -0700 1128 221 full false Holding Boundaries Holding Boundaries A leader, often reticent to speak up on her own behalf, learns tools to help her ask for what she wants without worrying she’ll incite a battle.

This month we’ve created another free PDF for you in our Tools bin. This one is to help you use video playback to achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library in these three categories:


Assertiveness

Communication Skills

Managing Yourself


Related episodes you might listen to are: 


188 Boundaries

164 Conflict

165 The Conflict Conversation

86 Intimacy in Business: Setting Boundaries

88 Resolving Conflict


We send gratitude to the people posting reviews. Thank you for your support and kind words.

If you have a question about your career and how coaching might help, be in touch with us here. 

Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A leader, often reticent to speak up on her own behalf, learns tools to help her ask for what she wants without worrying she’ll incite a battle.

This month we’ve created another free PDF for you in our Tools bin. This one is to help you use video playback to achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This month’s episode is tagged in the Podcast Library in these three categories:


Assertiveness

Communication Skills

Managing Yourself


Related episodes you might listen to are: 


188 Boundaries

164 Conflict

165 The Conflict Conversation

86 Intimacy in Business: Setting Boundaries

88 Resolving Conflict


We send gratitude to the people posting reviews. Thank you for your support and kind words.

If you have a question about your career and how coaching might help, be in touch with us here. 

Until next month, stay healthy and be well.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-10742867 Wed, 08 Jun 2022 18:00:00 -0700 1252 220 full false How to Set Boundaries How to Set Boundaries Kindness is killing a leader’s ability to set and hold effective boundaries. She works with her coach to find her voice and along the way discovers an empowering image about boundaries.

We’ve put lots of free PDFs in our Tools bin to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Assertiveness

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 

216  7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks

204  Blind Spots

188  Boundaries

210  How to Grow Your Self-Management

190  Thinking Errors


Much gratitude to the folks who post reviews. We appreciate your support you’re your kind words.

Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here. 

Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Kindness is killing a leader’s ability to set and hold effective boundaries. She works with her coach to find her voice and along the way discovers an empowering image about boundaries.

We’ve put lots of free PDFs in our Tools bin to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Assertiveness

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 

216  7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks

204  Blind Spots

188  Boundaries

210  How to Grow Your Self-Management

190  Thinking Errors


Much gratitude to the folks who post reviews. We appreciate your support you’re your kind words.

Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here. 

Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-10539904 Wed, 04 May 2022 18:00:00 -0700 1408 219 full false Two Paths to Flow Two Paths to Flow A worried leader seeks help finding balance between going with the flow and giving himself a larger voice.

Visit our Tools bin for free PDFs to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:


Assertiveness

Managing Yourself

Relationship Building


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 

21Eliminating Distractions

59  Focus in the Face of Distractions 

30Self-Knowledge as Leadership

184    The Focused Executive

142    The Mindful Executive


Tom also talked about two books in this episode:

“Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience”by Mihaly Csikszentmlhalyi

“The Trust Advisor”by David Maister, et al 

Thanks to everyone who posts reviews, and thanks so much for your kind words! 

Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here. 

Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A worried leader seeks help finding balance between going with the flow and giving himself a larger voice.

Visit our Tools bin for free PDFs to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:


Assertiveness

Managing Yourself

Relationship Building


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 

21Eliminating Distractions

59  Focus in the Face of Distractions 

30Self-Knowledge as Leadership

184    The Focused Executive

142    The Mindful Executive


Tom also talked about two books in this episode:

“Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience”by Mihaly Csikszentmlhalyi

“The Trust Advisor”by David Maister, et al 

Thanks to everyone who posts reviews, and thanks so much for your kind words! 

Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here. 

Until next month, be well!

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-10380308 Wed, 06 Apr 2022 18:00:00 -0700 1172 218 full false How Leaders Can ‘Play Better Poker’ How Leaders Can ‘Play Better Poker’ A missed promotion prompts a leader to complain to her CEO. The CEO responds by getting her a coach, which results in explorations of authenticity, self-awareness and self-management.

Visit our Tools bin for free PDFs to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:


Managing Yourself

Perception - How You Perceive Yourself

Perception - How You’re Perceived


Seven related episodes you might listen to are: 

#71 – Act “As If”

#204 – Blind Spots

#110 – Creating New Behaviors

#103 – Self-Awareness & Self-Management

#85 – Stop Giving Away Your Secrets

#190 – Thinking Errors

#51 – When Learning Makes Things Worse


Thanks to everyone who posts reviews. And thank you so much for your kind words! 

Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here. 

Until next month, be well!


Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A missed promotion prompts a leader to complain to her CEO. The CEO responds by getting her a coach, which results in explorations of authenticity, self-awareness and self-management.

Visit our Tools bin for free PDFs to help you achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership.

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:


Managing Yourself

Perception - How You Perceive Yourself

Perception - How You’re Perceived


Seven related episodes you might listen to are: 

#71 – Act “As If”

#204 – Blind Spots

#110 – Creating New Behaviors

#103 – Self-Awareness & Self-Management

#85 – Stop Giving Away Your Secrets

#190 – Thinking Errors

#51 – When Learning Makes Things Worse


Thanks to everyone who posts reviews. And thank you so much for your kind words! 

Let us know how we can support your growth and development. Be in touch with us here. 

Until next month, be well!


Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-10163632 Wed, 02 Mar 2022 18:00:00 -0800 1131 217 full false 7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks 7 Steps to Stop Emotional Hijacks A leader, ashamed of hurtful words she spoke to a colleague, explores what happened with her coach. She learns seven techniques for keeping herself from future emotional hijacks.      

Download a free PDF about the seven steps to help you stop emotional hijacks here.


This episode is tagged in five categories in the Podcast Library:    

Seven related episodes you might listen to are: 

#109 Building Emotional Intelligence

#147 Conquering Fear

#74  Dealing with Emotional Responses

#142 The Mindful Executive

#22  Negative Self-Talk

#103 Self-Awareness & Self-Management

# 171 Taming the Wild Child


Post a review and help us cross the 1,000 review mark!

As we hurtle into 2022, all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership wish you a wonderful year of health, growth, and curiosity.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A leader, ashamed of hurtful words she spoke to a colleague, explores what happened with her coach. She learns seven techniques for keeping herself from future emotional hijacks.      

Download a free PDF about the seven steps to help you stop emotional hijacks here.


This episode is tagged in five categories in the Podcast Library:    

Seven related episodes you might listen to are: 

#109 Building Emotional Intelligence

#147 Conquering Fear

#74  Dealing with Emotional Responses

#142 The Mindful Executive

#22  Negative Self-Talk

#103 Self-Awareness & Self-Management

# 171 Taming the Wild Child


Post a review and help us cross the 1,000 review mark!

As we hurtle into 2022, all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership wish you a wonderful year of health, growth, and curiosity.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-9982103 Wed, 02 Feb 2022 18:00:00 -0800 1003 216 full false How To Stay Calm Under Fire How To Stay Calm Under Fire A leader is given a presentation coach and two goals: ‘tell a better story’ and ‘be more responsive in the moment.’ This episode is the coaching conversation about the second goal: be responsive in the moment.

This episode is tagged in four categories in the Podcast Library:


Six related episodes you might listen to are: 

#214 How to Turn Data Into Stories

#160Prepping Like a TED Talker

#157Talking Like a TED Talker

#161Performing Like a TED Talker

#77The Power of Rehearsal

#65Sorting & Labeling


Join us this month for two free mini-courses facilitated by Susan Smalley:

Skills of a Great Manager

Leadership Circle for Women


Listen to Tom’s interview on The Remarkable Coach podcast where he and host Michael Pacheco talked about Tom’s 30 years of coaching.

Post a review and help us cross the 1,000 review mark!


All of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership wish you a safe, healthy year of growth and curiosity.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A leader is given a presentation coach and two goals: ‘tell a better story’ and ‘be more responsive in the moment.’ This episode is the coaching conversation about the second goal: be responsive in the moment.

This episode is tagged in four categories in the Podcast Library:


Six related episodes you might listen to are: 

#214 How to Turn Data Into Stories

#160Prepping Like a TED Talker

#157Talking Like a TED Talker

#161Performing Like a TED Talker

#77The Power of Rehearsal

#65Sorting & Labeling


Join us this month for two free mini-courses facilitated by Susan Smalley:

Skills of a Great Manager

Leadership Circle for Women


Listen to Tom’s interview on The Remarkable Coach podcast where he and host Michael Pacheco talked about Tom’s 30 years of coaching.

Post a review and help us cross the 1,000 review mark!


All of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership wish you a safe, healthy year of growth and curiosity.

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-9828363 Wed, 05 Jan 2022 18:00:00 -0800 1199 215 full false How To Turn Data into Stories How To Turn Data into Stories A leader is given a presentation coach and two goals: ‘tell a better story’ and ‘be more responsive in the moment.’ This episode is the coaching conversation about telling a better story. 

There are four tools in the episode:

1. Grab our list of questions   [please link to the PDF]

2. Build a puzzle for your listeners

3. Create a hero in jeopardy

4. Work with a partner – cautiously!


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:


Communication Skills

Executive Presence

Presentation Skills 


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 


3   Stories – The Ultimate Persuaders

56 What Compelling Speakers Share

77 The Power of Rehearsal

84 Making Stories Soar

120 Captivate Your Audience 

160 Prepping Like a TED Talker


In January, free mini-courses resume. Check out these two learning opportunities:


Skills of a Great Manager

Leadership Circle for Women


As we approach the threshold of a new year, I wish you curiosity and growth.

Thanks for all the support! See you in the new year! 

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> A leader is given a presentation coach and two goals: ‘tell a better story’ and ‘be more responsive in the moment.’ This episode is the coaching conversation about telling a better story. 

There are four tools in the episode:

1. Grab our list of questions   [please link to the PDF]

2. Build a puzzle for your listeners

3. Create a hero in jeopardy

4. Work with a partner – cautiously!


This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:


Communication Skills

Executive Presence

Presentation Skills 


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 


3   Stories – The Ultimate Persuaders

56 What Compelling Speakers Share

77 The Power of Rehearsal

84 Making Stories Soar

120 Captivate Your Audience 

160 Prepping Like a TED Talker


In January, free mini-courses resume. Check out these two learning opportunities:


Skills of a Great Manager

Leadership Circle for Women


As we approach the threshold of a new year, I wish you curiosity and growth.

Thanks for all the support! See you in the new year! 

Tom and The Look & Sound of Leadership team. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-9627196 Wed, 01 Dec 2021 18:00:00 -0800 1227 214 full false How to Re-engage a Team How to Re-engage a Team Worried that working remotely has disconnected her team, a leader asks her coach for help and learns a powerful tool.

Being able to lead your team in growth exercises is a critical leadership skill. This episode is full of tips and guidance for strengthening that muscle.

Tom strongly endorses the Liberating Structures website. Lots of amazing free resources there.

He also recommends a conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching for Leaders about “How to Lead an Offsite.”

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Communication Skills

Leading Teams

Management Skills


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 

143 – Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta

149 – How Teams Fight

175 – Leading Offsites

181 - Inviting Dialogue

194 - Connecting Over Video


In January, free mini-courses will resume. Check out these two learning opportunities:

Skills of a Great Manager

Leadership Circle for Women


Gratitude went to Sarah Brown for having Tom as a guest on an episode of The KTS Success Factor podcast. Hear all the tips here. 

Gratitude also, as always, to those who reach out to us and to those who post reviews. Thank you so much! Be in touch here.


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well. Stay healthy and safe. 


 Thanks for listening.

See you next month!









]]> Worried that working remotely has disconnected her team, a leader asks her coach for help and learns a powerful tool.

Being able to lead your team in growth exercises is a critical leadership skill. This episode is full of tips and guidance for strengthening that muscle.

Tom strongly endorses the Liberating Structures website. Lots of amazing free resources there.

He also recommends a conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching for Leaders about “How to Lead an Offsite.”

This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Communication Skills

Leading Teams

Management Skills


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 

143 – Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta

149 – How Teams Fight

175 – Leading Offsites

181 - Inviting Dialogue

194 - Connecting Over Video


In January, free mini-courses will resume. Check out these two learning opportunities:

Skills of a Great Manager

Leadership Circle for Women


Gratitude went to Sarah Brown for having Tom as a guest on an episode of The KTS Success Factor podcast. Hear all the tips here. 

Gratitude also, as always, to those who reach out to us and to those who post reviews. Thank you so much! Be in touch here.


From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well. Stay healthy and safe. 


 Thanks for listening.

See you next month!









]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-9474182 Wed, 03 Nov 2021 18:00:00 -0700 1474 213 full false How To Coach Your People How To Coach Your People A no-nonsense leader is asked to add coaching to her list of duties. She turns to the coach who’d coached her for a quick immersion course. 

Coaching your people requires a shift in thinking and a specific set of behaviors. These ideas are captured in a PDF about the GROW model. It’s available to you for free here.

This month we are offering three free mini-courses. Come join us!

Demystifying Workplace Conflict

Understanding Yourself and Others (DiSC)

Get 15% off your registration with either of these courses by using the coupon code PODCAST at checkout. Offer applies to your first registration.

The Look & Sound of Leadership

Get 50% off our flagship course with the coupon code LEADERSHIP at checkout!

During the episode, Tom and Laurel mentioned Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When the Stakes are High. A great skill-building resource.


This episode lives in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Management Skills

Perception – How you Perceive Others

Relationship Building.


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 

132 – Coaching Your People 

91 – Facilitating Open Dialogue   

155 – The Human Element

83 – Leadership and Listening  

26 – Questions as Leadership

You can explore more ideas about coaching your people on Dave Stachowiak’s Coaching For Leaders podcast. Episode 190: How to Improve Your Coaching Skills.

Tom raved about Dave’s conversation with Connson Locke. That’s on Coaching for Leadership, Episode 546: How to Speak Up. 


Catch Tom answering coaching questions on the Unlocking Leadership – Ask the Coaches podcast.

How To Build Executive Presence

How to Become a Strategic Thinker

Rebuilding Engagement prior to Restructuring, Can an Executive Coach Help?

Gratitude, as always, to those who reach out to us and to those who post reviews. Thanks!

From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be healthy and safe. 


Thanks for listening.

See you next month!

]]> A no-nonsense leader is asked to add coaching to her list of duties. She turns to the coach who’d coached her for a quick immersion course. 

Coaching your people requires a shift in thinking and a specific set of behaviors. These ideas are captured in a PDF about the GROW model. It’s available to you for free here.

This month we are offering three free mini-courses. Come join us!

Demystifying Workplace Conflict

Understanding Yourself and Others (DiSC)

Get 15% off your registration with either of these courses by using the coupon code PODCAST at checkout. Offer applies to your first registration.

The Look & Sound of Leadership

Get 50% off our flagship course with the coupon code LEADERSHIP at checkout!

During the episode, Tom and Laurel mentioned Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When the Stakes are High. A great skill-building resource.


This episode lives in three categories in the Podcast Library:

Management Skills

Perception – How you Perceive Others

Relationship Building.


Five related episodes you might listen to are: 

132 – Coaching Your People 

91 – Facilitating Open Dialogue   

155 – The Human Element

83 – Leadership and Listening  

26 – Questions as Leadership

You can explore more ideas about coaching your people on Dave Stachowiak’s Coaching For Leaders podcast. Episode 190: How to Improve Your Coaching Skills.

Tom raved about Dave’s conversation with Connson Locke. That’s on Coaching for Leadership, Episode 546: How to Speak Up. 


Catch Tom answering coaching questions on the Unlocking Leadership – Ask the Coaches podcast.

How To Build Executive Presence

How to Become a Strategic Thinker

Rebuilding Engagement prior to Restructuring, Can an Executive Coach Help?

Gratitude, as always, to those who reach out to us and to those who post reviews. Thanks!

From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be healthy and safe. 


Thanks for listening.

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-9313499 Wed, 06 Oct 2021 18:00:00 -0700 1363 212 full false How To Show Up How To Show Up Frustrated at not showing up the way she wants to, a leader, in conversation with her coach, explores ways to integrate her values into her behavior.

To show up as more of whatever you want to be, ask yourself: 

  • What would be different if I were a little braver right now?
  • What would a brave person do right now?
  • What would I think, or what would I feel, if I were my bravest self right now?
  • How is my self-talk helping how I show up?
  • How is my self-talk holding me back in how I show up?
    (Substitute your own spine word for “brave.”)


Three books to build muscle around how you show up. 

The PDF “Six Books for Growth” is available here. Or email Tom and he’ll send it to you.

This episode connects to two previous episodes featuring Chin-Sun: How to Build Your Self-Awareness and How to Grow Your Self-Management.

On September 7, a new podcast featuring Tom goes live: “Unlocking Leadership – Ask the Coaches.” Available online, on your podcast app and YouTube.



Meet our fabulous facilitators and browse our catalogue of courses.



Courses currently open for registration are:

Dare to Lead – full course

Career Wellness – free mini-course

Improv for Leadership – free mini-course



Get 15% off your first course with the promo code: PODCAST



This episode is in the library under four filters:

For Women

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk



Five specific episodes you might listen to are:

71. Act As If

162. Acting on the Corporate Stage

174. Animating Your Persona

154.  Self-Limiting Beliefs

176.  The Executive Impostor



Gratitude, as always, to those who reach out to us and those who post reviews. Thanks!

From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be healthy and safe. 

Thanks for listening.



See you next month!

]]> Frustrated at not showing up the way she wants to, a leader, in conversation with her coach, explores ways to integrate her values into her behavior.

To show up as more of whatever you want to be, ask yourself: 

  • What would be different if I were a little braver right now?
  • What would a brave person do right now?
  • What would I think, or what would I feel, if I were my bravest self right now?
  • How is my self-talk helping how I show up?
  • How is my self-talk holding me back in how I show up?
    (Substitute your own spine word for “brave.”)


Three books to build muscle around how you show up. 

The PDF “Six Books for Growth” is available here. Or email Tom and he’ll send it to you.

This episode connects to two previous episodes featuring Chin-Sun: How to Build Your Self-Awareness and How to Grow Your Self-Management.

On September 7, a new podcast featuring Tom goes live: “Unlocking Leadership – Ask the Coaches.” Available online, on your podcast app and YouTube.



Meet our fabulous facilitators and browse our catalogue of courses.



Courses currently open for registration are:

Dare to Lead – full course

Career Wellness – free mini-course

Improv for Leadership – free mini-course



Get 15% off your first course with the promo code: PODCAST



This episode is in the library under four filters:

For Women

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk



Five specific episodes you might listen to are:

71. Act As If

162. Acting on the Corporate Stage

174. Animating Your Persona

154.  Self-Limiting Beliefs

176.  The Executive Impostor



Gratitude, as always, to those who reach out to us and those who post reviews. Thanks!

From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be healthy and safe. 

Thanks for listening.



See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-9113437 Wed, 01 Sep 2021 18:00:00 -0700 1463 full false How To Grow Your Self-Management How To Grow Your Self-Management In this episode, a leader feels she lacks courage. She engages her coach in a conversation about how to use self-awareness and self-management as tools to help her become a little bolder.

The self-talk scripts discussed in this episode, plus the four-box process Tom described, are available to you in a PDF. You can request it in an email to Tom here or you can download the PDF here.

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

Last month’s episode connects (like Pop Beads!) to this episode: How to Build Self-Awareness

E.Q. Applied by Justin Bariso – a helpful, friendly book chock-full of exercises.

Nathaniel Branden’s work on self-esteem – profound thoughts and powerful prompts.

Dan Harris’s podcast 10% Happier

Meet our fabulous facilitators and browse our catalogue of courses.


Courses currently open for registration are:

Dare to Lead – free mini-course and full course

Career Wellness – free mini-course 


Get 15% off your first course with the promo code: PODCAST


This episode is in the library under four filters:

Assertiveness

Developing New Behaviors

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk


Five specific episodes you might listen to are: 

162. Acting on the Corporate Stage

109. Building Emotional Intelligence

110. Creating New Behaviors

176. The Executive Impostor

25. How Behaviors Change


Plus a bonus episode:

103. Self-Awareness & Self-Management


Much gratitude to those of you who reach out to us and those who post reviews. Thank you!

From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be healthy and safe. 

 Thanks for listening.

See you next month!








]]> In this episode, a leader feels she lacks courage. She engages her coach in a conversation about how to use self-awareness and self-management as tools to help her become a little bolder.

The self-talk scripts discussed in this episode, plus the four-box process Tom described, are available to you in a PDF. You can request it in an email to Tom here or you can download the PDF here.

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

Last month’s episode connects (like Pop Beads!) to this episode: How to Build Self-Awareness

E.Q. Applied by Justin Bariso – a helpful, friendly book chock-full of exercises.

Nathaniel Branden’s work on self-esteem – profound thoughts and powerful prompts.

Dan Harris’s podcast 10% Happier

Meet our fabulous facilitators and browse our catalogue of courses.


Courses currently open for registration are:

Dare to Lead – free mini-course and full course

Career Wellness – free mini-course 


Get 15% off your first course with the promo code: PODCAST


This episode is in the library under four filters:

Assertiveness

Developing New Behaviors

Managing Yourself

Self-Talk


Five specific episodes you might listen to are: 

162. Acting on the Corporate Stage

109. Building Emotional Intelligence

110. Creating New Behaviors

176. The Executive Impostor

25. How Behaviors Change


Plus a bonus episode:

103. Self-Awareness & Self-Management


Much gratitude to those of you who reach out to us and those who post reviews. Thank you!

From all of us here at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be healthy and safe. 

 Thanks for listening.

See you next month!








]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel Buzzsprout-8966096 Wed, 04 Aug 2021 18:00:00 -0700 1344 210 full false How To Build Self-Awareness How To Build Self-Awareness Self-awareness, like any muscle, can be built through discipline.In this episode, a leader learns two exercises to help build awareness of her thoughts and feelings.

The two exercises discussed in this episode are detailed in a PDF that we’d love to send you. Send us an email and we’ll send back the PDF. The PDF also contains the Feeling Words Grid.

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

 E.Q. Applied by Justin Bariso – a helpful, friendly book chock-full of exercises.

Sort the episode library using the filter Feedback. Good feedback will build your self-awareness, for sure!

Five episodes to listen to:

 #103 Self-Awareness & Self-Management

 #109 Building Emotional Intelligence

#25 How Behaviors Change

#142 The Mindful Executive

#190 Thinking Errors

Gratitude to those who are in touch and who post reviews.

From the entire team at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well. And thanks for listening.

See you next month!

]]> Self-awareness, like any muscle, can be built through discipline.In this episode, a leader learns two exercises to help build awareness of her thoughts and feelings.

The two exercises discussed in this episode are detailed in a PDF that we’d love to send you. Send us an email and we’ll send back the PDF. The PDF also contains the Feeling Words Grid.

Other resources mentioned in this episode:

 E.Q. Applied by Justin Bariso – a helpful, friendly book chock-full of exercises.

Sort the episode library using the filter Feedback. Good feedback will build your self-awareness, for sure!

Five episodes to listen to:

 #103 Self-Awareness & Self-Management

 #109 Building Emotional Intelligence

#25 How Behaviors Change

#142 The Mindful Executive

#190 Thinking Errors

Gratitude to those who are in touch and who post reviews.

From the entire team at The Look & Sound of Leadership, be well. And thanks for listening.

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 84b7d91f-d6f2-4f3c-911e-3a241e9e6b98 Wed, 30 Jun 2021 18:00:00 -0700 1578 selfawareness,emotionalintelligence,thinkingerrors full false The Democratic Leader The Democratic Leader A new leader worries about having to become a dictator in order to meet her goals. She and her coach explore the challenges inherent in trying to be a truly democratic leader.

Core concepts in this episode:

  • When pressured, many leaders revert to giving orders.
  • People need time to feel safe speaking up to a new leader.
  • A democratic leader doesn’t have to give everyone their way, just give everyone their say.
  • When listening to ideas, just listen. Don’t fix or tweak or improve.

The Essential Communications website has many free resources for you.

The entire archive of episodes going back more than a decade is free and available to you.

Categories in the archive related to this episode are:
 Leading Teams
Leadership
Perception – How You’re Perceived

Related episodes are: 

How Teams Fight
Inviting Dialogue
Psychological Safety
Taming Meetings
The Conflict Conversation

If you’d like to be a tester for the new Essential Communications website, shoot Tom an email.

In this episode, Tom mentioned:

A progressive elementary school in Van Nuys, CA. The school is Children’s Community School.

Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office by Lois Frankel

Dare to Lead by Brené Brown 

Tom’s conversation with Ben Ritter on “The Live for Yourself Revolution.”

COACHES! Join Tom at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by the Los Angeles Chapter of ICF. Non-members pay $10 to attend. This month’s topic: Team & Group Coaching.

 

]]> A new leader worries about having to become a dictator in order to meet her goals. She and her coach explore the challenges inherent in trying to be a truly democratic leader.

Core concepts in this episode:

  • When pressured, many leaders revert to giving orders.
  • People need time to feel safe speaking up to a new leader.
  • A democratic leader doesn’t have to give everyone their way, just give everyone their say.
  • When listening to ideas, just listen. Don’t fix or tweak or improve.

The Essential Communications website has many free resources for you.

The entire archive of episodes going back more than a decade is free and available to you.

Categories in the archive related to this episode are:
 Leading Teams
Leadership
Perception – How You’re Perceived

Related episodes are: 

How Teams Fight
Inviting Dialogue
Psychological Safety
Taming Meetings
The Conflict Conversation

If you’d like to be a tester for the new Essential Communications website, shoot Tom an email.

In this episode, Tom mentioned:

A progressive elementary school in Van Nuys, CA. The school is Children’s Community School.

Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office by Lois Frankel

Dare to Lead by Brené Brown 

Tom’s conversation with Ben Ritter on “The Live for Yourself Revolution.”

COACHES! Join Tom at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group sponsored by the Los Angeles Chapter of ICF. Non-members pay $10 to attend. This month’s topic: Team & Group Coaching.

 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel e17ac531-2a55-44f5-90ef-f000860da6d7 Wed, 02 Jun 2021 18:00:00 -0700 1300 Leadership,Leaders,perception,leadingteams full false Tough Conversations Tough Conversations A leader, initially described to his coach as clueless, confronts a hard truth about himself. In the process, he gains a four-step tool to guide him through tough conversations.

Core Concepts in this episode:
To convey a tough message and maintain a positive relationship:
1. Start with a full-stop. Act, don’t RE-act. Identify why this conversation is important.

2. Express intention. Say why you’re having the conversation and what your concerns are.

3. Be clear. Be simple. Identify what you wish were different specifically.

4. Attend to the relationship. At every step, even in the conversation, consider the other person.


Related Archive Categories:
Communication Skills
Management Skills
Relationship Skills

Related Tips & Episodes:
Combating Emotional Hijacks

The Conflict Conversation

A Difficult Conversation

Short Sounds Confident

Smoothing Harsh Edges


Books to boost your skills in tough conversation:

Difficult Conversations

Crucial Conversations

 

The library of all the past episodes is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks to all of you who are in touch and who post reviews. Much gratitude!

See you next month!

]]> A leader, initially described to his coach as clueless, confronts a hard truth about himself. In the process, he gains a four-step tool to guide him through tough conversations.

Core Concepts in this episode:
To convey a tough message and maintain a positive relationship:
1. Start with a full-stop. Act, don’t RE-act. Identify why this conversation is important.

2. Express intention. Say why you’re having the conversation and what your concerns are.

3. Be clear. Be simple. Identify what you wish were different specifically.

4. Attend to the relationship. At every step, even in the conversation, consider the other person.


Related Archive Categories:
Communication Skills
Management Skills
Relationship Skills

Related Tips & Episodes:
Combating Emotional Hijacks

The Conflict Conversation

A Difficult Conversation

Short Sounds Confident

Smoothing Harsh Edges


Books to boost your skills in tough conversation:

Difficult Conversations

Crucial Conversations

 

The library of all the past episodes is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks to all of you who are in touch and who post reviews. Much gratitude!

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 66007aea-8b78-460e-9405-19a912562874 Wed, 05 May 2021 18:00:00 -0700 1533 communications,executivecoaching,toughconversations false Understanding Feedback Understanding Feedback This month’s coaching conversation explores ways to make feedback more palatable. The secret: sort the feedback you receive into three distinct categories.

Many ideas in this episode and last month’s episode are explained more fully in the book: ‘Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well – even when it is off base, unfair, poorly delivered and, frankly, you’re not in the mood.’”

Related episodes are:

Unblocking Feedback (from last month)
Don’t Take Anything Personally
Getting Good Feedback
Handling Feedback Effectively
Perception is Reality

In the archive, this Tip is tagged in three categories
Feedback
Leadership
Managing Yourself


Tom has three leadership interviews that have gone live this month:

Coaching For Leaders: Episode 518
A deep 40-min dive into “Sorting & Labeling"

Fidelis Leadership Podcast: Episode 37
A wide-ranging 60-min exploration of leadership

Ultimate Leadership Podcast: 02/08/21
A fast-paced 25-min examination of your readiness for coaching


The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
info@essentialcomm.com

See you next month!

From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!

 

 

 

]]> This month’s coaching conversation explores ways to make feedback more palatable. The secret: sort the feedback you receive into three distinct categories.

Many ideas in this episode and last month’s episode are explained more fully in the book: ‘Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well – even when it is off base, unfair, poorly delivered and, frankly, you’re not in the mood.’”

Related episodes are:

Unblocking Feedback (from last month)
Don’t Take Anything Personally
Getting Good Feedback
Handling Feedback Effectively
Perception is Reality

In the archive, this Tip is tagged in three categories
Feedback
Leadership
Managing Yourself


Tom has three leadership interviews that have gone live this month:

Coaching For Leaders: Episode 518
A deep 40-min dive into “Sorting & Labeling"

Fidelis Leadership Podcast: Episode 37
A wide-ranging 60-min exploration of leadership

Ultimate Leadership Podcast: 02/08/21
A fast-paced 25-min examination of your readiness for coaching


The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
info@essentialcomm.com

See you next month!

From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!

 

 

 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 16327447-980d-4573-b4e8-dd8822537bbc Wed, 31 Mar 2021 18:00:00 -0700 1642 Feedback,executivecoaching false Unblocking Feedback Unblocking Feedback This month’s coaching conversation follows a client as he works to shrink his blind spot through feedback. He and Tom discuss lowering the barriers that stop us all from taking in feedback.

In the episode Tom mentions “Thanks for the Feedback” by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen.

Tom also mentioned the PDF showing The Johari Window.

 

Related episodes are:

Feedback

Leadership

Managing Yourself

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

 

Five related episodes you might listen to are:

Getting Good Feedback

Handling Feedback Effectively

Perception is Reality

Performance Reviews

Soliciting Feedback

 

The full archive of episodes is at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
tom@essentialcomm.com

See you next month!

From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation follows a client as he works to shrink his blind spot through feedback. He and Tom discuss lowering the barriers that stop us all from taking in feedback.

In the episode Tom mentions “Thanks for the Feedback” by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen.

Tom also mentioned the PDF showing The Johari Window.

 

Related episodes are:

Feedback

Leadership

Managing Yourself

Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

 

Five related episodes you might listen to are:

Getting Good Feedback

Handling Feedback Effectively

Perception is Reality

Performance Reviews

Soliciting Feedback

 

The full archive of episodes is at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
tom@essentialcomm.com

See you next month!

From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 3f1d6de7-268c-4702-884e-27bf61e5c065 Wed, 03 Mar 2021 18:00:00 -0800 1325 coaching,Feedback,performancereviews,executivecoaching false Blind Spots Blind Spots This month’s coaching conversation features a leader too talented to lose but too troublesome to keep. Tom talks with him about blind spots and how he might reduce his.

PDFs for you:
The Johari Window

Who’s Coachable

Win an hour of free coaching with Tom. Complete our survey.

The full archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Related Archive Categories:
Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Self-Talk

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development


Related Episodes:

Thinking Errors

Boundaries

The Executive Impostor

Combatting Emotional Hijacks

Self-Awareness & Self-Management

 

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks for completing the survey. We’re excited to share the new website we’re building for you.

Thanks again for posting reviews!

Stay positive. Test negative.

See you next month!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation features a leader too talented to lose but too troublesome to keep. Tom talks with him about blind spots and how he might reduce his.

PDFs for you:
The Johari Window

Who’s Coachable

Win an hour of free coaching with Tom. Complete our survey.

The full archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Related Archive Categories:
Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

Self-Talk

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development


Related Episodes:

Thinking Errors

Boundaries

The Executive Impostor

Combatting Emotional Hijacks

Self-Awareness & Self-Management

 

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks for completing the survey. We’re excited to share the new website we’re building for you.

Thanks again for posting reviews!

Stay positive. Test negative.

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 1e8f92f0-6668-4145-9b8c-71abbf80e513 Wed, 03 Feb 2021 18:00:00 -0800 1670 selftalk,managingyourself,johariwindow false The Show Must Go On The Show Must Go On In this special episode, Tom tells a story of being onstage one night in front of a packed theatre audience when the show most definitely did NOT go on. He also shares the lesson he learned from that calamity — a lesson he has subsequently shared with the hundreds of leaders he’s coached who need confidence as presenters.

 

The archive of all the past episodes is available at:

http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

 

Subscribe to the HTML version at:

https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

 

Be in touch with Tom at:

info@essentialcomm.com

 

From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — enjoy!

]]> In this special episode, Tom tells a story of being onstage one night in front of a packed theatre audience when the show most definitely did NOT go on. He also shares the lesson he learned from that calamity — a lesson he has subsequently shared with the hundreds of leaders he’s coached who need confidence as presenters.

 

The archive of all the past episodes is available at:

http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

 

Subscribe to the HTML version at:

https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

 

Be in touch with Tom at:

info@essentialcomm.com

 

From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — enjoy!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 83c45629-2cc3-4134-886a-1de4a945823e Fri, 22 Jan 2021 12:36:54 -0800 1049 leading false The Executive Executive The Executive Executive This month’s coaching conversation is between Tom and Courtney, another executive coach. What traits, they wonder, do effective executives share? If rising leaders wanted to reverse engineer what it means to be executives, what would they put in the mix?

The five qualities Tom and Courtney identify are:

Resilience -- get over hurts and setbacks 

Influence – build a natural reserve of strong relationships 

Organization –  create lead-time and eliminate fire drills 

Scope – maintain the highest altitude possible; resist the weeds

Speed of Thought – exert alertness and be mentally nimble

 

At the end of this month’s commentary, Tom lists six books, each one different, but all leading towards personal growth and professional development. They are…

Change Your Questions, Change Your Life

The Confidence Code

Crucial Conversations or Difficult Conversations

EQ Applied

Self-Esteem at Work

The Four Agreements

 

Want a free PDF of these titles, including who might prefer which? Click here and put “6 Books” in the subject line. We’ll send you the PDF.

 

Want to win an hour of free coaching with Tom? Complete this short survey to be entered in a drawing.

https://essentialcomm.com/survey/

 

To dig deeper into your own development, search the episode archive using these filters:

Executive Presence

Managing Yourself

]]> This month’s coaching conversation is between Tom and Courtney, another executive coach. What traits, they wonder, do effective executives share? If rising leaders wanted to reverse engineer what it means to be executives, what would they put in the mix?

The five qualities Tom and Courtney identify are:

Resilience -- get over hurts and setbacks 

Influence – build a natural reserve of strong relationships 

Organization –  create lead-time and eliminate fire drills 

Scope – maintain the highest altitude possible; resist the weeds

Speed of Thought – exert alertness and be mentally nimble

 

At the end of this month’s commentary, Tom lists six books, each one different, but all leading towards personal growth and professional development. They are…

Change Your Questions, Change Your Life

The Confidence Code

Crucial Conversations or Difficult Conversations

EQ Applied

Self-Esteem at Work

The Four Agreements

 

Want a free PDF of these titles, including who might prefer which? Click here and put “6 Books” in the subject line. We’ll send you the PDF.

 

Want to win an hour of free coaching with Tom? Complete this short survey to be entered in a drawing.

https://essentialcomm.com/survey/

 

To dig deeper into your own development, search the episode archive using these filters:

Executive Presence

Managing Yourself

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 33ae8bf2-0942-4766-a733-336f04c66749 Wed, 13 Jan 2021 18:00:00 -0800 1643 influence,executivepresence,executivecoaching false The Rising Executive The Rising Executive This month’s coaching conversation features a newly promoted leader. He and Tom explore the tools needed to build a strong team quickly.

Lots of links this month!

At one point in the episode, Rafael mentions his impostor syndrome. For tools about impostor syndrome, check out:
The Executive Impostor

In the commentary, I mention two books:
The Five Dysfunctions of a Team
and
Overcoming The Five Dysfunctions of a Team

This is the field guide that will show you how to work with your team.

Other related episodes are:
Delivering Tough Feedback

Managing Bad Behavior

The Intentional Leader

Your Team’s Best Interests – Part One

Your Team’s Best Interests – Part Two

There are three filters in the archive that relate to this episode:
Leading Teams
Negative Self-Talk
Perception — How You Perceive Yourself

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
info@essentialcomm.com

As I celebrate the end of this distressing year and look towards a brighter 2021, you are all in my thoughts.

See you next month!

From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation features a newly promoted leader. He and Tom explore the tools needed to build a strong team quickly.

Lots of links this month!

At one point in the episode, Rafael mentions his impostor syndrome. For tools about impostor syndrome, check out:
The Executive Impostor

In the commentary, I mention two books:
The Five Dysfunctions of a Team
and
Overcoming The Five Dysfunctions of a Team

This is the field guide that will show you how to work with your team.

Other related episodes are:
Delivering Tough Feedback

Managing Bad Behavior

The Intentional Leader

Your Team’s Best Interests – Part One

Your Team’s Best Interests – Part Two

There are three filters in the archive that relate to this episode:
Leading Teams
Negative Self-Talk
Perception — How You Perceive Yourself

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
info@essentialcomm.com

As I celebrate the end of this distressing year and look towards a brighter 2021, you are all in my thoughts.

See you next month!

From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 99c0ecc7-b824-4f48-b4d5-6230b71453ab Wed, 09 Dec 2020 18:00:00 -0800 1163 executivecoaching false Two dates & a gift — A bonus episode! Two dates & a gift — A bonus episode! Two dates:
Monday, November 30, 2020
The survey closes.

Complete four questions to be entered to win an hour of free coaching with Tom

https://essentialcomm.com/survey

Thursday, December 3, 2020

Registration closes for “Leveraging Your Strengths and the Strengths of Others.”

After decades delivering courses for our corporate clients, we finally created a course for you.

Register at:

https://essentialcomm.com/disc

The gift is a 60-second practice to help you be strong and resilient.

Take care of yourselves!

From everyone at “The Look & Sound of Leadership”

]]> Two dates:
Monday, November 30, 2020
The survey closes.

Complete four questions to be entered to win an hour of free coaching with Tom

https://essentialcomm.com/survey

Thursday, December 3, 2020

Registration closes for “Leveraging Your Strengths and the Strengths of Others.”

After decades delivering courses for our corporate clients, we finally created a course for you.

Register at:

https://essentialcomm.com/disc

The gift is a 60-second practice to help you be strong and resilient.

Take care of yourselves!

From everyone at “The Look & Sound of Leadership”

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 16fecd1e-179a-4c78-bfc8-54ebd3ddf0c9 Fri, 20 Nov 2020 10:28:18 -0800 263 disc false Style Conversations Style Conversations This month’s coaching conversation is about creating a script called ‘Style.’ The script helps make difficult conversations easier.

Complete this month’s four-question survey and be entered to win an hour of free coaching with Tom.

essentialcomm.com/survey

Sign-up for a small-group, highly interactive Zoom course about the DiSC Behavioral Self-Assessment. This course is available to the first 12 people who sign up:

essentialcomm.com/disc

If the sign-up is closed when you go to the page, put your name on the wait list. Maybe we’ll have more than one session!

Related episodes this month include:

Capitalizing on Differences in Style (this one is all about DiSC styles!)

Conflict

Leadership and Self-Deception

Self-Knowledge as Leadership

The Conflict Conversation

Stay safe, everyone. Sane, too!

See you next month.

The Look & Sound of Leadership team

]]> This month’s coaching conversation is about creating a script called ‘Style.’ The script helps make difficult conversations easier.

Complete this month’s four-question survey and be entered to win an hour of free coaching with Tom.

essentialcomm.com/survey

Sign-up for a small-group, highly interactive Zoom course about the DiSC Behavioral Self-Assessment. This course is available to the first 12 people who sign up:

essentialcomm.com/disc

If the sign-up is closed when you go to the page, put your name on the wait list. Maybe we’ll have more than one session!

Related episodes this month include:

Capitalizing on Differences in Style (this one is all about DiSC styles!)

Conflict

Leadership and Self-Deception

Self-Knowledge as Leadership

The Conflict Conversation

Stay safe, everyone. Sane, too!

See you next month.

The Look & Sound of Leadership team

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel e3d8cb23-831a-46f9-8e62-9f991fb999de Wed, 04 Nov 2020 18:00:00 -0800 1499 communication,leadership,disc,Conflict,conversations false Personal Connections Personal Connections This month’s coaching conversation follows a leader who worries that he’s not very adept when it comes to creating personal connections. He and Tom explore two skills and one mindset that will help ease his way.

Related episodes:
Dynamic One-on-ones
Facilitating Open Dialogue

Inviting Dialogue

Questions as Leadership

The Human Element

 

In the archive, this episode is tagged in three categories
Relationship Building
Social Skills

Managing Yourself

 

Help us build a better website for you. Complete our survey at:
essentialcomm.com/survey
and be entered to win an hour of free coaching with Tom!

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
info@essentialcomm.com

Thanks, everyone!

From all of us at “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation follows a leader who worries that he’s not very adept when it comes to creating personal connections. He and Tom explore two skills and one mindset that will help ease his way.

Related episodes:
Dynamic One-on-ones
Facilitating Open Dialogue

Inviting Dialogue

Questions as Leadership

The Human Element

 

In the archive, this episode is tagged in three categories
Relationship Building
Social Skills

Managing Yourself

 

Help us build a better website for you. Complete our survey at:
essentialcomm.com/survey
and be entered to win an hour of free coaching with Tom!

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
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From all of us at “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 505d80d4-1afc-4dcf-9c5d-6f0605f9d17e Wed, 30 Sep 2020 18:00:00 -0700 1431 personalconnections false Psychological Safety Psychological Safety This month’s coaching conversation explores how leaders can foster psychological safety. Teams high in both safety and accountability enter a “Learning Zone” where high performance follows naturally.

In this month’s conversation, Tom and his client mentioned “The Checklist Manifesto” by Atul Gawande. His proposition is a great formula for creating psychological safety.

Related episodes are:
Agreeable Disagreement

Assertion versus Aggression

“Don’t Take Anything Personally”

Inviting Dialogue

The Conflict Conversation


In the archive, this Tip is tagged in three categories
Assertiveness

Leadership

Managing Yourself


The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
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]]> This month’s coaching conversation explores how leaders can foster psychological safety. Teams high in both safety and accountability enter a “Learning Zone” where high performance follows naturally.

In this month’s conversation, Tom and his client mentioned “The Checklist Manifesto” by Atul Gawande. His proposition is a great formula for creating psychological safety.

Related episodes are:
Agreeable Disagreement

Assertion versus Aggression

“Don’t Take Anything Personally”

Inviting Dialogue

The Conflict Conversation


In the archive, this Tip is tagged in three categories
Assertiveness

Leadership

Managing Yourself


The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
info@essentialcomm.com

PLEASE COMPLETE OUR SURVEY
You’ll be entered to win an hour of free coaching with Tom!
Your input will help us build a better website for you.

From the whole team at “The Look & Sound of Leadership” — thanks! See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 1d11d773-26b0-4a23-aca3-bf5960f1a6ee Wed, 02 Sep 2020 18:00:00 -0700 1544 leadership,assertiveness,managingyourself false Giving Upward Feedback Giving Upward Feedback This month’s coaching conversation explores whether feedback should be given upwards in the first place. If so, are there ways to deliver upward feedback effectively?

In the commentary, Tom tells a story about the famous Marshmallow Test being debunked. Here's the column he mentions:
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/06/marshmallow-test/561779/?utm_source=atl&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=share

 

Related episodes are:
Dealing With Emotional Responses

Delivering Tough Feedback

Giving Powerful Feedback

Perception is Reality

The Disruptive Executive – Part One


In the archive, this Tip is tagged in three categories
Communication Skills
Feedback
Managing Up

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
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Be in touch with Tom at:
info@essentialcomm.com

See you next month!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation explores whether feedback should be given upwards in the first place. If so, are there ways to deliver upward feedback effectively?

In the commentary, Tom tells a story about the famous Marshmallow Test being debunked. Here's the column he mentions:
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/06/marshmallow-test/561779/?utm_source=atl&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=share

 

Related episodes are:
Dealing With Emotional Responses

Delivering Tough Feedback

Giving Powerful Feedback

Perception is Reality

The Disruptive Executive – Part One


In the archive, this Tip is tagged in three categories
Communication Skills
Feedback
Managing Up

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
info@essentialcomm.com

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel bb288c63-e1cb-4346-9617-c12419085e3e Wed, 05 Aug 2020 18:00:00 -0700 1254 communication,Feedback,executivecoaching,givingfeedback false Learnings From Video Learnings From Video This month’s coaching conversation follows a client exploring a surprising use for video, plus a game of imagination.

The Marshmallow Test is explained in “Self-Awareness & Self-Management”

Core Concepts in this episode:
Video provides distance that can help break old patterns.

Some people are highly agitated these days.

Their agitation is not about you. Don’t take it personally.

You might find yourself more annoyed than normal. Don’t act on it.

 

RELATED ARCHIVE CATEGORIES

Leading Teams

Managing Yourself

Communication Skills


RELATED TIPS & EPISODES

Boundaries

Connecting Over Video

“Don’t Take Anything Personally”

Leadership Behavior in Meetings

Taming Meetings


The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks this month to all of you who post reviews.

See you next month!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation follows a client exploring a surprising use for video, plus a game of imagination.

The Marshmallow Test is explained in “Self-Awareness & Self-Management”

Core Concepts in this episode:
Video provides distance that can help break old patterns.

Some people are highly agitated these days.

Their agitation is not about you. Don’t take it personally.

You might find yourself more annoyed than normal. Don’t act on it.

 

RELATED ARCHIVE CATEGORIES

Leading Teams

Managing Yourself

Communication Skills


RELATED TIPS & EPISODES

Boundaries

Connecting Over Video

“Don’t Take Anything Personally”

Leadership Behavior in Meetings

Taming Meetings


The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks this month to all of you who post reviews.

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 7da2c6d9-5c3d-4288-b84f-6aefd56695bb Wed, 08 Jul 2020 18:00:00 -0700 1307 communication,leadership,mindfulness ,zoom false The Intentional Leader The Intentional Leader This month’s coaching conversation wrestles with the obstacles that arise when you try listening to people who think out loud – often at great length!

This month’s coaching conversation is wide-ranging. It includes a leader’s story about being buoyed by her team. She and Tom also swap answers to a favorite question of her team’s: “How’re ya coping?” They then explore managing stress through being present and intentional.

Three questions to help you become present:

What am I doing right now?

What feelings am I having right now?

What is happening in my body right now?

Approach these questions with curiosity. Don’t ask with an intention to fix. The intention is just to notice.

You can explore self-management and self-awareness in the archive using the filters:

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development

You can take a deeper dive with these five episodes:

Combating Emotional Hijacks

Connecting Over Video

Inviting Dialogue

Self-Awareness & Self-Management

The Mindful Executive

The archive is at:

https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:

https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:

https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Until next month, wishing you health and safety!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation wrestles with the obstacles that arise when you try listening to people who think out loud – often at great length!

This month’s coaching conversation is wide-ranging. It includes a leader’s story about being buoyed by her team. She and Tom also swap answers to a favorite question of her team’s: “How’re ya coping?” They then explore managing stress through being present and intentional.

Three questions to help you become present:

What am I doing right now?

What feelings am I having right now?

What is happening in my body right now?

Approach these questions with curiosity. Don’t ask with an intention to fix. The intention is just to notice.

You can explore self-management and self-awareness in the archive using the filters:

Managing Yourself

Personal Growth & Self-Development

You can take a deeper dive with these five episodes:

Combating Emotional Hijacks

Connecting Over Video

Inviting Dialogue

Self-Awareness & Self-Management

The Mindful Executive

The archive is at:

https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:

https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:

https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Until next month, wishing you health and safety!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 9943e609-6dae-4632-95e7-1865d3d75816 Wed, 03 Jun 2020 18:00:00 -0700 1116 communication,mindfulness ,selfmanagement,invitingdialogue false Connecting Over Video Connecting Over Video SHOWNOTES:
This month’s coaching conversation is with a leader who wants to keep strong connections despite the quarantine. She and Tom explore the barriers that make connecting over video so difficult.

Four essentials to attend to on video:

  • Angle
  • Lighting
  • Background
  • Sound

From Tom to you:

These difficult times can create a lot of fear. An antidote is to be curious. Curiosity is at the very heart of coaching. If I can help in anyway, let me know. Go to https://essentialcomm.com/contact/ and let me know what would be helpful.


There is always help for you in the archive. Filters that relate to this month’s episode are:

 

Five related episodes are:


The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

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Stay safe all you wonderful humans! Until next month!

]]> SHOWNOTES:
This month’s coaching conversation is with a leader who wants to keep strong connections despite the quarantine. She and Tom explore the barriers that make connecting over video so difficult.

Four essentials to attend to on video:

  • Angle
  • Lighting
  • Background
  • Sound

From Tom to you:

These difficult times can create a lot of fear. An antidote is to be curious. Curiosity is at the very heart of coaching. If I can help in anyway, let me know. Go to https://essentialcomm.com/contact/ and let me know what would be helpful.


There is always help for you in the archive. Filters that relate to this month’s episode are:

 

Five related episodes are:


The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/


Stay safe all you wonderful humans! Until next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel cfd614e1-8711-4ad4-ab13-687005e242f7 Wed, 06 May 2020 18:00:00 -0700 1129 executivepresence,executivecoaching,videofeedback,virtualmeetings false Branding Yourself Branding Yourself This month’s coaching conversation explores how to project your personal brand into the workplace. When done well it can seem like a Jedi mind trick – but it’s really just personal branding.

Here are the five links Tom mentioned in the episode.
Looking good in video conferencing

https://medium.com/@bobsacha/a-cinematographers-guide-to-looking-good-in-web-based-video-conferencing-fb6cf651714c

 

4 Ways to Improve Video Meetings

https://www-forbes-com.cdn.ampproject.org/c/s/www.forbes.com/sites/markmurphy/2020/03/22/these-four-techniques-will-instantly-improve-your-videoconferences-with-remote-employees/amp/


Coronavirus Doctor Empowers Us

https://vimeo.com/399733860

 

“That Discomfort You’re Feeling…”

https://hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief


Executive Coaching Group

https://www.icfla.org/event/executive-coaching-sig/

 

Core Concepts in this episode:
> We brand ourselves with our self-talk every day

> Find language to help you talk about yourself

> Talking about yourself is not a bad thing

> Find words that spark an image of the brand you want to be. Think of them as often as you can.

Related Archive Categories:
Executive Presence,

Perception – How You’re Perceived

Self-Talk


Related Tips & Episodes:
Becoming Expert

Acting On The Corporate Stage

The Voice of Authority

Conquering Fear

Achieving Authenticity

 

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks everyone. Stay safe. Stay Home! Do it for the First Team!

See you next month!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation explores how to project your personal brand into the workplace. When done well it can seem like a Jedi mind trick – but it’s really just personal branding.

Here are the five links Tom mentioned in the episode.
Looking good in video conferencing

https://medium.com/@bobsacha/a-cinematographers-guide-to-looking-good-in-web-based-video-conferencing-fb6cf651714c

 

4 Ways to Improve Video Meetings

https://www-forbes-com.cdn.ampproject.org/c/s/www.forbes.com/sites/markmurphy/2020/03/22/these-four-techniques-will-instantly-improve-your-videoconferences-with-remote-employees/amp/


Coronavirus Doctor Empowers Us

https://vimeo.com/399733860

 

“That Discomfort You’re Feeling…”

https://hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief


Executive Coaching Group

https://www.icfla.org/event/executive-coaching-sig/

 

Core Concepts in this episode:
> We brand ourselves with our self-talk every day

> Find language to help you talk about yourself

> Talking about yourself is not a bad thing

> Find words that spark an image of the brand you want to be. Think of them as often as you can.

Related Archive Categories:
Executive Presence,

Perception – How You’re Perceived

Self-Talk


Related Tips & Episodes:
Becoming Expert

Acting On The Corporate Stage

The Voice of Authority

Conquering Fear

Achieving Authenticity

 

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks everyone. Stay safe. Stay Home! Do it for the First Team!

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 8b658610-8a5a-4e33-b7a1-86d0153798ad Wed, 01 Apr 2020 18:00:00 -0700 1350 Branding,personalbrand,conqueringfear,becomingexpert,achievingauthenticity false Pursuing A Promotion 2020 Pursuing A Promotion 2020 This month’s coaching conversation is with a high-performer who was passed over for a promotion. Together, she and Tom identify tools to make sure she doesn’t get passed over again.

Core Concepts in this episode:
> Aisha chose to NOT be self-promotional. In your organization, a more vocal approach may be effective.

> Click out. Think from a higher altitude. Give yourself the promotion.

> Networking is not evil. But have intention. Be a good detective.


Related Archive Categories:
Managing Yourself

Related Tips & Episodes:
Acting on the Corporate Stage
Leading Teams
Managing Former Peers
Networking
The Flexible Leader

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks this month to Paul Ison and George Avelino. You guys are the best.

And thanks to all of you who are in touch and who post reviews. So much thanks!

See you next month!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation is with a high-performer who was passed over for a promotion. Together, she and Tom identify tools to make sure she doesn’t get passed over again.

Core Concepts in this episode:
> Aisha chose to NOT be self-promotional. In your organization, a more vocal approach may be effective.

> Click out. Think from a higher altitude. Give yourself the promotion.

> Networking is not evil. But have intention. Be a good detective.


Related Archive Categories:
Managing Yourself

Related Tips & Episodes:
Acting on the Corporate Stage
Leading Teams
Managing Former Peers
Networking
The Flexible Leader

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Subscribe to the HTML version at: https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at: https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks this month to Paul Ison and George Avelino. You guys are the best.

And thanks to all of you who are in touch and who post reviews. So much thanks!

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel a447ade6-4b8d-47a0-819e-dce8dd3dfff3 Wed, 04 Mar 2020 18:00:00 -0800 778 former,teams,yourself,managing,leading,peers false Coaching Under Attack Coaching Under Attack This month’s coaching conversation isn’t so much a conversation as a fencing match. A newly installed president grills Tom about the coaching he’s been delivering at her company for years.

There are two different strands you might follow from this episode. One is about coaching. You might listen to these episodes:
Coaching Your People
Coaching Versus Therapy
Readiness in Coaching

Another strand you might follow is about self-management. Episodes on that strand would be:
Creating New Behaviors
How Behaviors Change
High Stakes Meetings

You could also search the archive using the filters:
Developing New Behaviors
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-Talk

The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

From all of us, thanks!

See you next month!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation isn’t so much a conversation as a fencing match. A newly installed president grills Tom about the coaching he’s been delivering at her company for years.

There are two different strands you might follow from this episode. One is about coaching. You might listen to these episodes:
Coaching Your People
Coaching Versus Therapy
Readiness in Coaching

Another strand you might follow is about self-management. Episodes on that strand would be:
Creating New Behaviors
How Behaviors Change
High Stakes Meetings

You could also search the archive using the filters:
Developing New Behaviors
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-Talk

The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

From all of us, thanks!

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel d6ce5d97-6f29-47e9-b87b-7adf40523b27 Wed, 05 Feb 2020 18:00:00 -0800 1149 in,coaching,readiness false Thinking Errors Thinking Errors This month’s coaching conversation examines phrases we use that lead us into self-deception. Tom and his client explore why thinking errors so often remain invisible and, once revealed, what other words might be possible substitutions.

SHOW NOTES:
 Tom mentions two books in this episode:

 “How To Raise Your Self-Esteem” by Nathaniel Branden
 https://www.amazon.com/Raise-Your-Self-Esteem-Action-Oriented-Self-Confidence/dp/0553266462/

 “The Four Agreement” by Don Miguel Ruiz
 https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319

Related Tips & Episodes

 

This Tip is in five categories in the archive:

 

The archive is at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
 https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

From all of us, thanks!

See you next month!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation examines phrases we use that lead us into self-deception. Tom and his client explore why thinking errors so often remain invisible and, once revealed, what other words might be possible substitutions.

SHOW NOTES:
 Tom mentions two books in this episode:

 “How To Raise Your Self-Esteem” by Nathaniel Branden
 https://www.amazon.com/Raise-Your-Self-Esteem-Action-Oriented-Self-Confidence/dp/0553266462/

 “The Four Agreement” by Don Miguel Ruiz
 https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319

Related Tips & Episodes

 

This Tip is in five categories in the archive:

 

The archive is at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
 https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

From all of us, thanks!

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 034c884f-2210-4104-b683-e47162cd829b Wed, 08 Jan 2020 18:00:00 -0800 1316 talk,Self,Personal,yourself,managing,Growth 190 full false Don’t Take Anything Personally Don’t Take Anything Personally This month’s coaching conversation wrestles with the eternal struggle to depersonalize the events in our lives that feel so personal. Is it even possible to actualize the adage, “Don’t take it personally?”

Tom mentions two books that can help you manage yourself so you don’t take things personally:
  The Four Agreements

 Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

 

In the archive, this Tip is in five categories:
 Managing Yourself

 Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

 Perception – How You Perceive Others

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Self-Talk

Five related Coaching Tips you can listen to are

Acting on the Corporate Stage

Animating Your Persona

Don’t Take It Personally

Self-Limiting Beliefs

Taming the Wild Child

Lots to browse through!

 

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:

https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom:

https://essentialcomm.com/contact

From everyone at “The Look & Sound of Leadership,” thanks!

See you next month!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation wrestles with the eternal struggle to depersonalize the events in our lives that feel so personal. Is it even possible to actualize the adage, “Don’t take it personally?”

Tom mentions two books that can help you manage yourself so you don’t take things personally:
  The Four Agreements

 Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

 

In the archive, this Tip is in five categories:
 Managing Yourself

 Perception – How You Perceive Yourself

 Perception – How You Perceive Others

Personal Growth & Self-Development

Self-Talk

Five related Coaching Tips you can listen to are

Acting on the Corporate Stage

Animating Your Persona

Don’t Take It Personally

Self-Limiting Beliefs

Taming the Wild Child

Lots to browse through!

 

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:

https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom:

https://essentialcomm.com/contact

From everyone at “The Look & Sound of Leadership,” thanks!

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 170bbbd3-0b7f-4a05-bd66-90f25926f569 Wed, 04 Dec 2019 18:00:00 -0800 1139 management,Self,Personal,yourself,managing,Growth 189 full false Boundaries Boundaries This month’s coaching conversation explores how hard it can be to say ‘no’ sometimes. Together, Tom and his client come up with four strategies for setting better boundaries.This month’s coaching conversation explores how hard it can be to say ‘no’ sometimes. Together, Tom and his client come up with four strategies for setting better boundaries.


Tom mentions three books that will help you speak up and set boundaries: 


Crucial Conversations
https://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Talking-Stakes-Second/dp/0071771328/


The Four Agreements
https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Toltec-Wisdom-Collection/dp/1878424580/


Leadership and Self-Deception
https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Self-Deception-Getting-Out-Box/dp/1523097809/


If you want to receive a zip file with Executive Coaching Tips related to assertiveness, reach out to Tom at: info@essentialcomm.com

This Tip is in four categories in the archive:
Developing New Behaviors
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-Talk
For Women


Lots to browse through!


Five related Coaching Tips you can listen to are


Act “As If”
The Executive Impostor
The Many Parts of You
Taming the Wild Child
Self-Awareness & Self-Management

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/ 

Be in touch with Tom:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact
 
From everyone at “The Look & Sound of Leadership,” thanks!

See you next month!
 

]]> This month’s coaching conversation explores how hard it can be to say ‘no’ sometimes. Together, Tom and his client come up with four strategies for setting better boundaries.This month’s coaching conversation explores how hard it can be to say ‘no’ sometimes. Together, Tom and his client come up with four strategies for setting better boundaries.


Tom mentions three books that will help you speak up and set boundaries: 


Crucial Conversations
https://www.amazon.com/Crucial-Conversations-Talking-Stakes-Second/dp/0071771328/


The Four Agreements
https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Toltec-Wisdom-Collection/dp/1878424580/


Leadership and Self-Deception
https://www.amazon.com/Leadership-Self-Deception-Getting-Out-Box/dp/1523097809/


If you want to receive a zip file with Executive Coaching Tips related to assertiveness, reach out to Tom at: info@essentialcomm.com

This Tip is in four categories in the archive:
Developing New Behaviors
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-Talk
For Women


Lots to browse through!


Five related Coaching Tips you can listen to are


Act “As If”
The Executive Impostor
The Many Parts of You
Taming the Wild Child
Self-Awareness & Self-Management

The archive is at: https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/ 

Be in touch with Tom:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact
 
From everyone at “The Look & Sound of Leadership,” thanks!

See you next month!
 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 8bf8ae2354fd4895b65d71d279300c89 Wed, 13 Nov 2019 18:00:00 -0800 1064 leadership,Personal,Growth,boundaries false Agreeable Disagreement Agreeable Disagreement This month’s coaching conversation follows an executive’s journey from a bulldozer, rolling over people and their ideas, to a thoughtful seeker of ways to get his ideas heard while also building positive relationships.

Related episodes are:
Assertion versus Aggression
Be Impeccable With Your Word
Disagree Agreeably – yes, that was an episode long ago!
Don’t Take It Personally
The Conflict Conversation
Sorting & Labeling

This Tip is in four categories in the archive:
Communication Skills
Executive Presence
For Women
Relationship Building

The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

From all of us, thanks!

See you next month!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation follows an executive’s journey from a bulldozer, rolling over people and their ideas, to a thoughtful seeker of ways to get his ideas heard while also building positive relationships.

Related episodes are:
Assertion versus Aggression
Be Impeccable With Your Word
Disagree Agreeably – yes, that was an episode long ago!
Don’t Take It Personally
The Conflict Conversation
Sorting & Labeling

This Tip is in four categories in the archive:
Communication Skills
Executive Presence
For Women
Relationship Building

The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

From all of us, thanks!

See you next month!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 5b7af9a619a941158563419bde381ab8 Wed, 09 Oct 2019 18:00:00 -0700 1076 communication,careers,disagreement,agreeable false Video Feedback & Executive Presence Video Feedback & Executive Presence  

This month’s coaching conversation centers on learning how to watch yourself on video. It might be uncomfortable at times, but the benefits are enormous.

During the commentary, Tom talks about a checklist for you. It’s here.

direct link: https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Video-Review-Checklist.pdf

Related episodes are
Captivate Your Audience

Executive Presenting

“I Talk Too Fast!”

Performing Like a TED Talker

The Power of Rehearsal


This Tip is in these categories in the archive:

Executive Presence
Feedback
Presentation Skills
Perception – How You Perceive Yourself


The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
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Tom is at:
info@essentialcomm.com

From all of us here, thanks!

See you next month!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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This month’s coaching conversation centers on learning how to watch yourself on video. It might be uncomfortable at times, but the benefits are enormous.

During the commentary, Tom talks about a checklist for you. It’s here.

direct link: https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/09/Video-Review-Checklist.pdf

Related episodes are
Captivate Your Audience

Executive Presenting

“I Talk Too Fast!”

Performing Like a TED Talker

The Power of Rehearsal


This Tip is in these categories in the archive:

Executive Presence
Feedback
Presentation Skills
Perception – How You Perceive Yourself


The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Get the HTML transcript:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Tom is at:
info@essentialcomm.com

From all of us here, thanks!

See you next month!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 432b3a6c19e44b9f8054ca201b81b5c7 Wed, 04 Sep 2019 18:00:00 -0700 1044 video,Feedback,executive,presence false The Talky Executive The Talky Executive This month’s coaching conversation wrestles with the obstacles that arise when you try listening to people who think out loud – often at great length!

Related episodes are:
Sorting & Labeling
A Breakdown of Listening
Leadership & Listening
Short Sounds Confident

In the archive, this Tip is tagged in four categories
Communication Skills
Leadership
Relationship Building
Social Skills

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
info@essentialcomm.com

See you next month!

From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation wrestles with the obstacles that arise when you try listening to people who think out loud – often at great length!

Related episodes are:
Sorting & Labeling
A Breakdown of Listening
Leadership & Listening
Short Sounds Confident

In the archive, this Tip is tagged in four categories
Communication Skills
Leadership
Relationship Building
Social Skills

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is available at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
info@essentialcomm.com

See you next month!

From all of us on “The Look & Sound of Leadership” team — thanks!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 23e37aa4284f4a2589efae04db61f68c Wed, 07 Aug 2019 18:00:00 -0700 1010 communication,leadership,skills,sorting,labeling false The Focused Executive The Focused Executive This month’s coaching conversation focuses on a leader who finds herself in a storm of heavy seas. To help her find calm, Tom shares a technique from his past.

You can grab the PDF that Tom mentions in this episode at:
https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/MindfulnessResources.pdf

In the archive, this episode is tagged in four categories:
For Women
Managing Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-Talk

Related episodes are:
Combating Emotional Hijacks
Conquering Fear
Eliminating Distractions
Choosing Persistence
The Mindful Executive

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version and get transcripts of each month’s episode at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks, all! See you next month!

"The Look & Sound of Leadership" team

]]> This month’s coaching conversation focuses on a leader who finds herself in a storm of heavy seas. To help her find calm, Tom shares a technique from his past.

You can grab the PDF that Tom mentions in this episode at:
https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/MindfulnessResources.pdf

In the archive, this episode is tagged in four categories:
For Women
Managing Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-Talk

Related episodes are:
Combating Emotional Hijacks
Conquering Fear
Eliminating Distractions
Choosing Persistence
The Mindful Executive

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version and get transcripts of each month’s episode at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks, all! See you next month!

"The Look & Sound of Leadership" team

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 0c1cbdb7b5894ec9836079fb3c76674a Wed, 10 Jul 2019 18:00:00 -0700 1048 Personal,yourself,coaching,managing,mindfulness ,Growth,executive false Fighting Authority Fighting Authority This month’s coaching conversation revolves around a former client’s direct report who is caught up in old wiring which is short-circuiting his effectiveness.

This episode is tagged in six categories. Something of a record!
For Women
Management Skills
Managing Yourself
Perception – How Your Perceive Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-Talk

Here are eight, yes, eight related episodes.
Combating Emotional Hijacks
Conquering Fear
Negative Self-Talk
Self-Limiting Beliefs
Self-Awareness & Self-Management
Taming the Wild Child
The Many Parts of You
Unmasking a Stand-In

The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks for your iTunes reviews!!!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation revolves around a former client’s direct report who is caught up in old wiring which is short-circuiting his effectiveness.

This episode is tagged in six categories. Something of a record!
For Women
Management Skills
Managing Yourself
Perception – How Your Perceive Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development
Self-Talk

Here are eight, yes, eight related episodes.
Combating Emotional Hijacks
Conquering Fear
Negative Self-Talk
Self-Limiting Beliefs
Self-Awareness & Self-Management
Taming the Wild Child
The Many Parts of You
Unmasking a Stand-In

The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thanks for your iTunes reviews!!!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel df0d762fa474485f9890a67d8223bb58 Wed, 05 Jun 2019 18:00:00 -0700 988 communication,management,talk,Self,Personal,skills,coaching,Growth,executive false Ask The Coaches - Readers' Letters Ask The Coaches - Readers' Letters This month’s coaching conversation is between Tom Henschel and Mindy Danna who answer questions from our audience. Tom and Mindy have grown up together professionally. He runs Essential Communications where Mindy is a coach. She also works with the cutting-edge global consulting firm Cultivating Leadership.

During the episode, Mindy mentions two books:
  "Being the Boss" by Linda Hill & Kent Lineback
 "Thanks for the Feedback" by Douglas Stone & Sheila Heen

Five related episodes are:
  Discussing Difficult Behaviors
Giving Powerful Feedback
Handling Defensive Behaviors
Soliciting Feedback
Upward Feedback

In the archive, this episode is tagged in four categories:
 Feedback
Assertiveness
Management Skills
Managing Up

The archive is at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/contact/
or
info@essentialcomm.com

Thanks for your reviews and ratings!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation is between Tom Henschel and Mindy Danna who answer questions from our audience. Tom and Mindy have grown up together professionally. He runs Essential Communications where Mindy is a coach. She also works with the cutting-edge global consulting firm Cultivating Leadership.

During the episode, Mindy mentions two books:
  "Being the Boss" by Linda Hill & Kent Lineback
 "Thanks for the Feedback" by Douglas Stone & Sheila Heen

Five related episodes are:
  Discussing Difficult Behaviors
Giving Powerful Feedback
Handling Defensive Behaviors
Soliciting Feedback
Upward Feedback

In the archive, this episode is tagged in four categories:
 Feedback
Assertiveness
Management Skills
Managing Up

The archive is at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/contact/
or
info@essentialcomm.com

Thanks for your reviews and ratings!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 805502142bbd46aa9dcf564baadddc6d Wed, 01 May 2019 18:00:00 -0700 1585 communication,management,skills,coaching,Feedback,executive 182 full false Inviting Dialogue Inviting Dialogue This months’ coaching conversation is with a leader who genuinely wants open dialogue with his direct reports but finds he may have been unintentionally limiting his conversations.

In the archive, this episode is tagged in four categories:

Communication Skills

Management Skills

Relationship Building

Social Skills

 

Six related episodes are:

Building Rapport

Communicating With Clarity

Creating New Behaviors

Facilitating Open Dialogue

Leadership & Listening

Questions as Leadership


The archive is at:

https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

 

Subscribe to the HTML version at:

https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

 

Be in touch with Tom at:

https://essentialcomm.com/contact/


Thanks for your iTunes reviews!

]]> This months’ coaching conversation is with a leader who genuinely wants open dialogue with his direct reports but finds he may have been unintentionally limiting his conversations.

In the archive, this episode is tagged in four categories:

Communication Skills

Management Skills

Relationship Building

Social Skills

 

Six related episodes are:

Building Rapport

Communicating With Clarity

Creating New Behaviors

Facilitating Open Dialogue

Leadership & Listening

Questions as Leadership


The archive is at:

https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

 

Subscribe to the HTML version at:

https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

 

Be in touch with Tom at:

https://essentialcomm.com/contact/


Thanks for your iTunes reviews!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 0d4fcba6010a4ee09efba716f3d6bd79 Wed, 10 Apr 2019 18:00:00 -0700 1010 social,building,communication,relationship,management,with,skills,coaching,executive,clarity,communicating false Becoming Expert Becoming Expert This month’s coaching conversation focuses on a leader striving to become “more visible.” She and Tom imagine raising her presence by giving her a way to speak about herself as an expert without feeling like she’s bragging. A challenging needle to thread!

If you want help on this topic, Tom mentioned a resource he strongly recommends
“Brag! The Art of Tooting Your Own Horn Without Blowing It” by Peggy Klaus.

In the archive, this episode is tagged in four categories:
For Women
Executive Presence
Perception - How You're Perceived
Self-Talk

Five related episodes are:
Act “As If”
Acting on the Corporate Stage
Personal Branding
Speaking Your Truth
The Look & Sound of Self-Esteem

The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

]]> This month’s coaching conversation focuses on a leader striving to become “more visible.” She and Tom imagine raising her presence by giving her a way to speak about herself as an expert without feeling like she’s bragging. A challenging needle to thread!

If you want help on this topic, Tom mentioned a resource he strongly recommends
“Brag! The Art of Tooting Your Own Horn Without Blowing It” by Peggy Klaus.

In the archive, this episode is tagged in four categories:
For Women
Executive Presence
Perception - How You're Perceived
Self-Talk

Five related episodes are:
Act “As If”
Acting on the Corporate Stage
Personal Branding
Speaking Your Truth
The Look & Sound of Self-Esteem

The archive is at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel e31c6fe939604c4395e8f05131d77968 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 18:00:00 -0800 1098 communication,coaching,executive,presence false Managing Former Peers Managing Former Peers  

Internal promotions can be mixed blessings. Managing former peers has the potential to upset everyone. This month’s coaching conversation explores ways to handle this live grenade with aplomb.

Two books mentioned during the commentary:
Difficult Conversions by Stone, Patton & Heen
and
Crucial Conversation by Patterson, et al.

Lots of related episodes mentioned:
Relating to the issue of clarity:
Communicating with Clarity
Creating Clarity
Driving Your Message Home
Sorting & Labeling

Relating to the issue of managing people who are upset:
Combating Emotional Hijacks
Building Emotional Intelligence
Dealing With Emotional Responses

Deep gratitude to those who post reviews. Thanks!

Browse the entire archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]>  

Internal promotions can be mixed blessings. Managing former peers has the potential to upset everyone. This month’s coaching conversation explores ways to handle this live grenade with aplomb.

Two books mentioned during the commentary:
Difficult Conversions by Stone, Patton & Heen
and
Crucial Conversation by Patterson, et al.

Lots of related episodes mentioned:
Relating to the issue of clarity:
Communicating with Clarity
Creating Clarity
Driving Your Message Home
Sorting & Labeling

Relating to the issue of managing people who are upset:
Combating Emotional Hijacks
Building Emotional Intelligence
Dealing With Emotional Responses

Deep gratitude to those who post reviews. Thanks!

Browse the entire archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 0c660adb0f2f451abdd0b4d06e3a1ee1 Wed, 06 Feb 2019 18:00:00 -0800 1069 communication,conversations,clarity,communicating,difficult false Executive Presence - Three Pillars Executive Presence - Three Pillars This month’s coaching conversation explores the three pillars of executive presence.

In this episode's commentary, Tom mentions research about Executive Presence conducted by the Center for Talent Innovation. The key findings are available at:
https://www.talentinnovation.org/publication.cfm?publication=1340

Three episodes grew directly from ideas in that white paper:
Gravitas
Emotional Intelligence
Showing Teeth

The Executive Coaching Tips archive has a filter for "Executive Presence." It's at:
https://essentialcomm.com/tag/executive-presence/

Four additional episodes you might listen to are:
Conquering Fear
Inhabiting Executive Presence
Short Sounds Confident
The Voice of Authority

Browse the entire archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> This month’s coaching conversation explores the three pillars of executive presence.

In this episode's commentary, Tom mentions research about Executive Presence conducted by the Center for Talent Innovation. The key findings are available at:
https://www.talentinnovation.org/publication.cfm?publication=1340

Three episodes grew directly from ideas in that white paper:
Gravitas
Emotional Intelligence
Showing Teeth

The Executive Coaching Tips archive has a filter for "Executive Presence." It's at:
https://essentialcomm.com/tag/executive-presence/

Four additional episodes you might listen to are:
Conquering Fear
Inhabiting Executive Presence
Short Sounds Confident
The Voice of Authority

Browse the entire archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 019a84290f1f42689216426efa2ee0b4 Wed, 09 Jan 2019 18:00:00 -0800 1074 communication,Intelligence,coaching,executive,emotional,presence false Ask The Coaches - Readers’ Letters Ask The Coaches - Readers’ Letters This month’s coaching conversation is between Tom Henschel and Mindy Danna who answer questions from our audience. Tom and Mindy have grown up together professionally. He runs Essential Communications where Mindy is a coach. She also works with the cutting-edge global consulting firm Cultivating Leadership.

Tips related to the questions and answers in this episode are:
 A Breakdown of Listening

The Executive Impostor

Leadership and Listening

Managing Trauma

Self-Limiting Beliefs


 Mindy mentions:
  “Being The Boss” by Linda Hill.
 

Google’s Aristotle Study

Tom mentions:
  “What Color is Your Parachute” by Richard Boles
 

Every episode is available at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
 info@essentialcomm.com

]]> This month’s coaching conversation is between Tom Henschel and Mindy Danna who answer questions from our audience. Tom and Mindy have grown up together professionally. He runs Essential Communications where Mindy is a coach. She also works with the cutting-edge global consulting firm Cultivating Leadership.

Tips related to the questions and answers in this episode are:
 A Breakdown of Listening

The Executive Impostor

Leadership and Listening

Managing Trauma

Self-Limiting Beliefs


 Mindy mentions:
  “Being The Boss” by Linda Hill.
 

Google’s Aristotle Study

Tom mentions:
  “What Color is Your Parachute” by Richard Boles
 

Every episode is available at:
 https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
 info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel b64b4aa4ceed49af98629fde1df15cc0 Wed, 12 Dec 2018 18:00:00 -0800 1625 leadership,questions,coaching,managing,communications,executive,trauma,audience 177 full false The Executive Impostor The Executive Impostor This month’s coaching conversation explores that insidious feeling of being an impostor. Research tells us that the vast majority us experience this to some degree at one time or another. Here are ways to combat impostor syndrome.

The two psychology professors mentioned in the episode were Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes at Georgia State University.

The TED Talk is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=whyUPLJZljE

Related Categories in the podcast archive:
For Women
Managing Yourself
Perception – How You Perceive Yourself
Self-Talk

Related episodes are:
Act “As If”
Acting on the Corporate Stage
Inhabiting Executive Presence
Self-Awareness & Self-Management
The Many Parts of You

Browse the archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

]]> This month’s coaching conversation explores that insidious feeling of being an impostor. Research tells us that the vast majority us experience this to some degree at one time or another. Here are ways to combat impostor syndrome.

The two psychology professors mentioned in the episode were Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes at Georgia State University.

The TED Talk is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=whyUPLJZljE

Related Categories in the podcast archive:
For Women
Managing Yourself
Perception – How You Perceive Yourself
Self-Talk

Related episodes are:
Act “As If”
Acting on the Corporate Stage
Inhabiting Executive Presence
Self-Awareness & Self-Management
The Many Parts of You

Browse the archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel e18e1524d2d84189af9c798d2145fb62 Wed, 07 Nov 2018 18:00:00 -0800 1084 management,Self,coaching,executive,presence false Leading Offsites Leading Offsites A senior leader wants to give one of his direct reports the experience of leading her own offsite. This month’s coaching conversation is about how a leader can foster an offsite with the power to create change.

AN INVITATION: Send us questions for our upcoming Q&A episodes! Send your questions to info@essentialcomm.com

In the episode, there are many resources to help you learn to lead activities with your team. The six mentioned in the show are:
"The Fieldbook of Team Interventions" by Harry Eggleton
LiberatingStructures.com
Thiagi.com
"The Five Dysfunctions of a Team" by Patrick Lencioni
"Overcoming the Five Dysfuctions of a Team" by Patrick Lencioni
"Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta" April 2016, The Look & Sound of Leaderhip
"Personal Histories as Your Brand" May 2016, The Look & Sound of Leadership

Five episodes to help you build your team leadership skills:
Facilitating Open Dialogue
Leading Teams
Questions as Leadership
Your Team’s Best Interest – Part One
Your Team’s Best Interest – Part Two

Don't forget to send us your questions!

]]> A senior leader wants to give one of his direct reports the experience of leading her own offsite. This month’s coaching conversation is about how a leader can foster an offsite with the power to create change.

AN INVITATION: Send us questions for our upcoming Q&A episodes! Send your questions to info@essentialcomm.com

In the episode, there are many resources to help you learn to lead activities with your team. The six mentioned in the show are:
"The Fieldbook of Team Interventions" by Harry Eggleton
LiberatingStructures.com
Thiagi.com
"The Five Dysfunctions of a Team" by Patrick Lencioni
"Overcoming the Five Dysfuctions of a Team" by Patrick Lencioni
"Power Tools for Teams: Plus/Delta" April 2016, The Look & Sound of Leaderhip
"Personal Histories as Your Brand" May 2016, The Look & Sound of Leadership

Five episodes to help you build your team leadership skills:
Facilitating Open Dialogue
Leading Teams
Questions as Leadership
Your Team’s Best Interest – Part One
Your Team’s Best Interest – Part Two

Don't forget to send us your questions!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 525d0ac34bb84b3d8cfac552f18d5619 Wed, 03 Oct 2018 18:00:00 -0700 1126 teams,coaching,communications,leading,executive false Animating Your Persona Animating Your Persona A coaching client needs to exude more presence. Tom proposes a visualization process and walks another coach through it.

In the archive, this episode is tagged in three categories:
Developing New Behaviors,
Perception - How You Perceive Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development

Five related episodes are:
Acting on the Corporate Stage
Creating New Behaviors
Inhabiting Executive Presence
Self-Awareness & Self-Management
The Many Parts of You

Plus, if you want to hear about why our brains find visualization so powerful, listen to:
Prepping Like A TED Talker.

Five listeners posted reviews in iTunes this month. Thanks go out to:
In the US,
Rmb4
catalyst leader
Lisabobbi
Then, from the UK, Ewen C
And from India, FP PJ Sharma
Thanks. We couldn't keep growing without this steady stream of support. Thanks so much!

Every episode is available in the archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

]]> A coaching client needs to exude more presence. Tom proposes a visualization process and walks another coach through it.

In the archive, this episode is tagged in three categories:
Developing New Behaviors,
Perception - How You Perceive Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development

Five related episodes are:
Acting on the Corporate Stage
Creating New Behaviors
Inhabiting Executive Presence
Self-Awareness & Self-Management
The Many Parts of You

Plus, if you want to hear about why our brains find visualization so powerful, listen to:
Prepping Like A TED Talker.

Five listeners posted reviews in iTunes this month. Thanks go out to:
In the US,
Rmb4
catalyst leader
Lisabobbi
Then, from the UK, Ewen C
And from India, FP PJ Sharma
Thanks. We couldn't keep growing without this steady stream of support. Thanks so much!

Every episode is available in the archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel a676a149f27643cb9d402f44ce9f3c20 Wed, 05 Sep 2018 18:00:00 -0700 1160 communication,Personal,coaching,Growth,executive,developing,behaviors false Managing Bad Behavior Managing Bad Behavior This month’s coaching conversation focuses on a feedback technique that can help manage bad behavior. The coachee likes the technique so much, he wants to try it on his high performers, too!

Related episodes:

Discussing Difficult Behaviors
Holding People Accountable
Managing Disruptive Executives
Managing Performance: Up or Out
Sorting & Labeling

Every episode is available in the archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

To everyone who has ever posted a review for the show in iTunes -- THANK YOU! If you haven't yet, please do. Our survival depends on it. Thanks!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation focuses on a feedback technique that can help manage bad behavior. The coachee likes the technique so much, he wants to try it on his high performers, too!

Related episodes:

Discussing Difficult Behaviors
Holding People Accountable
Managing Disruptive Executives
Managing Performance: Up or Out
Sorting & Labeling

Every episode is available in the archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

To everyone who has ever posted a review for the show in iTunes -- THANK YOU! If you haven't yet, please do. Our survival depends on it. Thanks!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 45c1cc137dbe41208a0935c1c006def6 Wed, 08 Aug 2018 18:00:00 -0700 1068 management,behavior,coaching,managing,communications,bad,executive false Managing Trauma Managing Trauma This month’s coaching conversation focuses on developing someone who may be a trauma survivor. A team leader’s compassionate caution may not be in the survivor’s best interest.

Related episodes:
Dealing with Emotional Responses
Intimacy in Business: Setting Boundaries
Managing Beyond Bad Behavior
Showing Teeth
Speaking Your Truth

Every episode is available in the archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thank you so much for your reviews. It's hard to convey how meaningful those are. You help keep the podcast alive when you post a review. Thanks!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation focuses on developing someone who may be a trauma survivor. A team leader’s compassionate caution may not be in the survivor’s best interest.

Related episodes:
Dealing with Emotional Responses
Intimacy in Business: Setting Boundaries
Managing Beyond Bad Behavior
Showing Teeth
Speaking Your Truth

Every episode is available in the archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

Thank you so much for your reviews. It's hard to convey how meaningful those are. You help keep the podcast alive when you post a review. Thanks!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 9941826cdb3441af97ce34017725b005 Wed, 11 Jul 2018 18:00:00 -0700 1414 communication,management,skills,coaching,managing,executive,trauma false Taming the Wild Child Taming the Wild Child This month’s coaching conversation features a high-performing client who sometimes wrestles with her fear. Knowing that her fear can diminish her, she seeks a way out.

Tom also talks about the new course "Improv for Leaders” taught by improv master Jeremy Rowley.

Related epsidoes this month:
The Many Parts of You
Combating Emotional Hijacks
Conquering Fear
Negative Self-Talk
Self-Limiting Beliefs
Unmasking a Stand-In
Managing Nervousness

Every episode is available in the archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

And thank you so very much for your reviews. Your contribution is beyond measure when you take a moment to post a review. Thank you!

]]> This month’s coaching conversation features a high-performing client who sometimes wrestles with her fear. Knowing that her fear can diminish her, she seeks a way out.

Tom also talks about the new course "Improv for Leaders” taught by improv master Jeremy Rowley.

Related epsidoes this month:
The Many Parts of You
Combating Emotional Hijacks
Conquering Fear
Negative Self-Talk
Self-Limiting Beliefs
Unmasking a Stand-In
Managing Nervousness

Every episode is available in the archive at:
https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Subscribe to the HTML version at:
https://essentialcomm.com/subscribe/

Be in touch with Tom at:
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

And thank you so very much for your reviews. Your contribution is beyond measure when you take a moment to post a review. Thank you!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 1b318bb25ccd4ebba7c13cd741100397 Wed, 06 Jun 2018 18:00:00 -0700 1043 communication,fear,skills,coaching,executive false Readiness in Coaching Readiness in Coaching Why do some coaching engagements achieve positive transformations while others get stuck in the starting gate? This month’s coaching conversation explores who’s coachable, who isn’t, and why.

The PDF discussed during this episode can be downloaded at:

https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/ReadinessInCoaching.pdf

The “Who’s Coachable?” episode containing the eight-item list from 2008 is available at:

https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/whos-coachable/

Aside from the “Who’s Coachable?” episode, four other episodes that echo the motifs in this month's Executive Coaching Tip are:
Leading Teams

Managing Disruptive Executives

Managing Performance: Up or Out

Resolving Conflict

Every episode is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Why do some coaching engagements achieve positive transformations while others get stuck in the starting gate? This month’s coaching conversation explores who’s coachable, who isn’t, and why.

The PDF discussed during this episode can be downloaded at:

https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/ReadinessInCoaching.pdf

The “Who’s Coachable?” episode containing the eight-item list from 2008 is available at:

https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/whos-coachable/

Aside from the “Who’s Coachable?” episode, four other episodes that echo the motifs in this month's Executive Coaching Tip are:
Leading Teams

Managing Disruptive Executives

Managing Performance: Up or Out

Resolving Conflict

Every episode is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 7f82a93ef21deaf1c619cae22c69a7fe Wed, 02 May 2018 18:00:00 -0700 1454 communication,business,international,leadership,coaching,executive false 360s: Weapons or Tools? 360s: Weapons or Tools? 360-degree feedback can be intense. Or confusing. Like many reports, it often needs explaining, even if the information is familiar. This month’s coaching conversation explores the many sides of 360s.

Curious to learn more about 360s? Listen to Tom's interview on "Coaching for Leaders." https://coachingforleaders.com/podcast/341/

Want to learn more about quantative 360-degree feedback reports? Contact Envisia Learning. envisialearning.com

Want to learn about qualitative 360-degree feedback reports? Contact us. info@esssentialcomm.com

Want to see a sample of a qualitative feedback report?
https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Sample-360-degree-Feedback-Report.pdf

Every episode is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> 360-degree feedback can be intense. Or confusing. Like many reports, it often needs explaining, even if the information is familiar. This month’s coaching conversation explores the many sides of 360s.

Curious to learn more about 360s? Listen to Tom's interview on "Coaching for Leaders." https://coachingforleaders.com/podcast/341/

Want to learn more about quantative 360-degree feedback reports? Contact Envisia Learning. envisialearning.com

Want to learn about qualitative 360-degree feedback reports? Contact us. info@esssentialcomm.com

Want to see a sample of a qualitative feedback report?
https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/Sample-360-degree-Feedback-Report.pdf

Every episode is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 25d3b7e10c7f249f48466bf432f10157 Wed, 04 Apr 2018 18:00:00 -0700 1269 communication,business,coaching false Influence Influence  

Who wouldn’t benefit from heftier influence? This month’s coaching conversation digs into two ways to build your influence bank account.

During this month's episode, Tom talks about a behavioral self-assessment called DiSC. See a sample DiSC report here:

https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/AlexBradley.pdf

If you're looking for more Executive Coaching Tips about influence, check the archive filter:


"Perception -- How You're Perceived." There's a lot there about influence. https://essentialcomm.com/tag/perception-how-youre-perceived/

Tom explained a five-point Influence model on "The Everyday Innovator" podcast with Chad McAllister. Episode #162.
https://productinnovationeducators.com/blog/tei-162-how-product-managers-can-influence-people-with-tom-henschel/

Five "Look & Sound of Leadership" episodes relating to this month's conversation are:

A Breakdown of Listening
Building Empathy
Building Rapport
Getting Agreement
Your Goodwill Bank Account

What sort of problems would you like to hear about on the podcast? Write me:
podcasts@essentialcomm.com
or
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

]]>  

Who wouldn’t benefit from heftier influence? This month’s coaching conversation digs into two ways to build your influence bank account.

During this month's episode, Tom talks about a behavioral self-assessment called DiSC. See a sample DiSC report here:

https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/AlexBradley.pdf

If you're looking for more Executive Coaching Tips about influence, check the archive filter:


"Perception -- How You're Perceived." There's a lot there about influence. https://essentialcomm.com/tag/perception-how-youre-perceived/

Tom explained a five-point Influence model on "The Everyday Innovator" podcast with Chad McAllister. Episode #162.
https://productinnovationeducators.com/blog/tei-162-how-product-managers-can-influence-people-with-tom-henschel/

Five "Look & Sound of Leadership" episodes relating to this month's conversation are:

A Breakdown of Listening
Building Empathy
Building Rapport
Getting Agreement
Your Goodwill Bank Account

What sort of problems would you like to hear about on the podcast? Write me:
podcasts@essentialcomm.com
or
https://essentialcomm.com/contact/

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel dbe881113bb3ad604ffea9f234154788 Wed, 07 Mar 2018 18:00:00 -0800 1239 communication,coaching,executive,influence false The Sound of Leadership and of Management The Sound of Leadership and of Management Some ways of speaking lend themselves to more effective management. And some ways of speaking lend themselves to more effective leadership. This episodes explores those differences.

]]> Some ways of speaking lend themselves to more effective management. And some ways of speaking lend themselves to more effective leadership. This episodes explores those differences.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel c1ed04a562e6d725435ccd10acf822dd Thu, 01 Feb 2018 14:04:00 -0800 1195 coaching,communications,executive false Leadership versus Management Leadership versus Management Are leadership and management really different? And does it matter? This month’s coaching conversation explores what separates leadership from management. And what connects them. And why it matters for you and the people you lead.Are leadership and management really different? And does it matter? This month’s coaching conversation explores what separates leadership from management. And what connects them. And why it matters for you and the people you lead.

If you're interested in related episodes, you can search the archive under "Leadership" and/or "Management Skills." Those are at:https://essentialcomm.com/tag/leadership/

and

https://essentialcomm.com/tag/management-skills/


Five specific episodes you can listen to are

  • Building Empathy
  • Dynamic One-on-Ones
  • How Teams Fight
  • Taming Meetings
  • The Voice of Authority


During the episode, three lists are built. Here they are:

Leadership behaviors:

  • Motivating
  • Aligning
  • Recognizing patterns
  • Creating visions and strategies

Management actions:

  • Staffing
  • Budgeting
  • Controlling
  • Measuring
  • Problem solving


Relationship skills:

  • Strong, positive networks
  • The ability to persuade
  • Having influence
  • Using emotional intelligence


The thought leader about leadership versus management is John Kotter from Harvard Business School. He has many books and articles that explore this topic in depth.

]]> Are leadership and management really different? And does it matter? This month’s coaching conversation explores what separates leadership from management. And what connects them. And why it matters for you and the people you lead.Are leadership and management really different? And does it matter? This month’s coaching conversation explores what separates leadership from management. And what connects them. And why it matters for you and the people you lead.

If you're interested in related episodes, you can search the archive under "Leadership" and/or "Management Skills." Those are at:https://essentialcomm.com/tag/leadership/

and

https://essentialcomm.com/tag/management-skills/


Five specific episodes you can listen to are

  • Building Empathy
  • Dynamic One-on-Ones
  • How Teams Fight
  • Taming Meetings
  • The Voice of Authority


During the episode, three lists are built. Here they are:

Leadership behaviors:

  • Motivating
  • Aligning
  • Recognizing patterns
  • Creating visions and strategies

Management actions:

  • Staffing
  • Budgeting
  • Controlling
  • Measuring
  • Problem solving


Relationship skills:

  • Strong, positive networks
  • The ability to persuade
  • Having influence
  • Using emotional intelligence


The thought leader about leadership versus management is John Kotter from Harvard Business School. He has many books and articles that explore this topic in depth.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 31c9abfedce463932e13c69a208d8069 Wed, 10 Jan 2018 18:00:00 -0800 1173 communication,coaching,executive false The Conflict Conversation The Conflict Conversation What do you say when you’re in an argument? And how can you prepare to have an argument? This month’s coaching conversation dives deeper into the topic of “Conflict” that began last month. In this installment, scripts and concepts for mastering The Conflict Conversation.

To sharpen your skills, read "Difficult Conversations" by Stone, Patton & Heen from the Harvard Negotiation Project. It's very friendly and very powerful.

Every episode is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> What do you say when you’re in an argument? And how can you prepare to have an argument? This month’s coaching conversation dives deeper into the topic of “Conflict” that began last month. In this installment, scripts and concepts for mastering The Conflict Conversation.

To sharpen your skills, read "Difficult Conversations" by Stone, Patton & Heen from the Harvard Negotiation Project. It's very friendly and very powerful.

Every episode is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Tom Henschel cbbcff77b57642e517fe07b8911d836d Wed, 06 Dec 2017 18:00:00 -0800 1099 communication,coaching,executive,conversations,confict false Conflict Conflict Conflict is inevitable. But most of us were never taught the skills that would help us find our way through the dark corridors of this house called ‘Conflict.’ This month’s coaching conversation illuminates predictable patterns and practical tools to navigate successfully through Conflict House.

The book Tom references in this episode: "Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most" by Stone, Patton & Heen.

Related episodes this month are:
A Difficult Conversation
Disagree Agreeably
Getting Agreement
Repairing Damaged Relationships
Resolving Conflict

In the Tips archive is a category called "Relationship Building." Many episodes there have useful tools, too. Help yourself.
https://essentialcomm.com/tag/relationship-building/

]]> Conflict is inevitable. But most of us were never taught the skills that would help us find our way through the dark corridors of this house called ‘Conflict.’ This month’s coaching conversation illuminates predictable patterns and practical tools to navigate successfully through Conflict House.

The book Tom references in this episode: "Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most" by Stone, Patton & Heen.

Related episodes this month are:
A Difficult Conversation
Disagree Agreeably
Getting Agreement
Repairing Damaged Relationships
Resolving Conflict

In the Tips archive is a category called "Relationship Building." Many episodes there have useful tools, too. Help yourself.
https://essentialcomm.com/tag/relationship-building/

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 83b9fd820c8b8ad0af8255a40ff07f4f Wed, 01 Nov 2017 18:00:00 -0700 1037 communication,coaching,executive false Dynamic One-on-ones Dynamic One-on-ones There are a million ways to conduct one-on-one meetings with direct reports. How you run yours will reflect your personal style. This month’s coaching conversation focuses on specific best practices that will enhance your one-on-ones no matter what your style.

In the commentary portion of this month's episode is a question for you. Share your thoughts in an email to: info@essentialcomm.com

You can sharpen your management skills with the Executive Coaching Tips in the "Management Skills" category of the archive:
http://essentialcomm.com/tag/management-skills/

 

These five episodes may be particularly helpful in developing your management skills:
Engagement & Performance
Leading Teams
Managing Performance: Up or Out
Managing Up
Your Team’s Best Interest – Part One

And, if you are going to be giving performance reviews this fall, this episode has helpful tools for you. Give it a listen:
Performance Reviews
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/performance-reviews/

Every episode is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> There are a million ways to conduct one-on-one meetings with direct reports. How you run yours will reflect your personal style. This month’s coaching conversation focuses on specific best practices that will enhance your one-on-ones no matter what your style.

In the commentary portion of this month's episode is a question for you. Share your thoughts in an email to: info@essentialcomm.com

You can sharpen your management skills with the Executive Coaching Tips in the "Management Skills" category of the archive:
http://essentialcomm.com/tag/management-skills/

 

These five episodes may be particularly helpful in developing your management skills:
Engagement & Performance
Leading Teams
Managing Performance: Up or Out
Managing Up
Your Team’s Best Interest – Part One

And, if you are going to be giving performance reviews this fall, this episode has helpful tools for you. Give it a listen:
Performance Reviews
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/performance-reviews/

Every episode is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel f64c82668d72e9fbd11293d6466f52fa Wed, 04 Oct 2017 18:00:00 -0700 1267 communication,business,coaching,executive false Acting on the Corporate Stage Acting on the Corporate Stage  

This month's episode introduces "Acting on the Corporate Stage." That phrase was Tom's original branding phrase, before "The Look & Sound of Leadership" became his branding phrase.

"Acting on the Corporate Stage" aims at helping you be perceived in the workplace the way you want to be perceived, which, of course, is the reason d'etre of every episode.

Also this month, Tom shares reflections on attending his first-ever podcaster's convention. And his reflections are all about YOU!

He also points you to two very different interviews on other podcasts:

The Everyday Innovator with Chad McAllister, episode 137. He and Chad deconstruct the "Sorting & Labeling" tool. Very helpful!

Fatherhood 360 with David Wissore, episode 11. While exploring how parenthood influences leadership, Tom reveals some very personal stories.

The four related episodes this month are:
Act “As If”
Creating New Behaviors
Self-Awareness and Self-Management
The Mindful Executive

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast

]]>  

This month's episode introduces "Acting on the Corporate Stage." That phrase was Tom's original branding phrase, before "The Look & Sound of Leadership" became his branding phrase.

"Acting on the Corporate Stage" aims at helping you be perceived in the workplace the way you want to be perceived, which, of course, is the reason d'etre of every episode.

Also this month, Tom shares reflections on attending his first-ever podcaster's convention. And his reflections are all about YOU!

He also points you to two very different interviews on other podcasts:

The Everyday Innovator with Chad McAllister, episode 137. He and Chad deconstruct the "Sorting & Labeling" tool. Very helpful!

Fatherhood 360 with David Wissore, episode 11. While exploring how parenthood influences leadership, Tom reveals some very personal stories.

The four related episodes this month are:
Act “As If”
Creating New Behaviors
Self-Awareness and Self-Management
The Mindful Executive

The archive of Executive Coaching Tips is at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast

]]> Tom Henschel 145b555cfcc8e9a5757050c02d86a79e Wed, 06 Sep 2017 18:30:00 -0700 1405 management,Self,coaching,communications,executive false Performing Like a TED Talker Performing Like a TED Talker Delivering a top-notch presentation requires you to master your ideas. Of course! But even more, you need to master yourself. Your audience won’t be able to lock onto you unless you are “in focus.” This month’s coaching conversation shows you how to get “in focus.”

Related episodes are:
Prepping Like a TED Talker
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/prepping-like-ted-talker/

Talking Like a TED Talker
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/talking-like-ted-talker/

All Presentation Skills Tips are available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/tag/presentation-skills/

A PDF summary of Chris Anderson's book, "TED Talks" is
available to you. Just pop Tom an email and ask for it. He's at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Delivering a top-notch presentation requires you to master your ideas. Of course! But even more, you need to master yourself. Your audience won’t be able to lock onto you unless you are “in focus.” This month’s coaching conversation shows you how to get “in focus.”

Related episodes are:
Prepping Like a TED Talker
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/prepping-like-ted-talker/

Talking Like a TED Talker
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/talking-like-ted-talker/

All Presentation Skills Tips are available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/tag/presentation-skills/

A PDF summary of Chris Anderson's book, "TED Talks" is
available to you. Just pop Tom an email and ask for it. He's at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Tom Henschel 90c8cde3e0305971a0ff71d18f706ef3 Wed, 02 Aug 2017 19:00:00 -0700 995 communication,coaching,executive false Prepping Like A TED Talker Prepping Like A TED Talker Preparing a presentation raises many questions. How much are you going to rehearse? What will you actually do during your rehearsal? Are you going to memorize your talk? This month’s coaching conversation covers all that and more.

Four core concepts this month:

  • Rehearsal is obligatory.
  • Manage your self-talk.
  • Find your throughline.
  • Rehearsal means “out loud.”

In the archive is a whole set of Tips about “self talk.” It’s at:
http://essentialcomm.com/tag/self-talk/

There’s another set about “presentation skills.” That’s at:
http://essentialcomm.com/tag/presentation-skills/

Many different Executive Coaching Tips are referenced in this episode. Four related episodes are:
Captivate Your Audience
I Talk Too Fast!
The Power of Rehearsal
What Compelling Speakers Share

The entire archive of Tips is at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast

]]> Preparing a presentation raises many questions. How much are you going to rehearse? What will you actually do during your rehearsal? Are you going to memorize your talk? This month’s coaching conversation covers all that and more.

Four core concepts this month:

  • Rehearsal is obligatory.
  • Manage your self-talk.
  • Find your throughline.
  • Rehearsal means “out loud.”

In the archive is a whole set of Tips about “self talk.” It’s at:
http://essentialcomm.com/tag/self-talk/

There’s another set about “presentation skills.” That’s at:
http://essentialcomm.com/tag/presentation-skills/

Many different Executive Coaching Tips are referenced in this episode. Four related episodes are:
Captivate Your Audience
I Talk Too Fast!
The Power of Rehearsal
What Compelling Speakers Share

The entire archive of Tips is at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 913e8bbbe595773f6f2313e221fa96b8 Wed, 12 Jul 2017 18:30:00 -0700 1041 communication,business,coaching false Short Sounds Confident Short Sounds Confident Holding each other’s attention is a constant challenge. But you can’t achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership if you can’t keep people listening to you.

This month’s coaching conversation emphasizes three little slogans to make sure you aren’t driving your listeners away from you. All three slogans are just three words long: “Short sounds confident.” And “Communication takes effort.” And “Stop talking sooner.”

There are so many reasons why embodying those slogans is hard. And, in truth, it’s easier for some people than for others. But everyone can get at least a little better at this. This month’s podcast will give you lots of practical tips – and some metaphors!—to help get you there.

Past Tips are available at:
essentialcomm.com

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

We love hearing from you.

]]> Holding each other’s attention is a constant challenge. But you can’t achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership if you can’t keep people listening to you.

This month’s coaching conversation emphasizes three little slogans to make sure you aren’t driving your listeners away from you. All three slogans are just three words long: “Short sounds confident.” And “Communication takes effort.” And “Stop talking sooner.”

There are so many reasons why embodying those slogans is hard. And, in truth, it’s easier for some people than for others. But everyone can get at least a little better at this. This month’s podcast will give you lots of practical tips – and some metaphors!—to help get you there.

Past Tips are available at:
essentialcomm.com

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

We love hearing from you.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 7912c77e4c1a6338fc712562729390e9 Wed, 31 May 2017 18:00:00 -0700 1027 communication,coaching,executive false Readers’ Letters — Bonus Episode 2 Readers’ Letters — Bonus Episode 2 Tom exchanges emails with two listeners. One exchange addresses issues of personal boundaries in the workplace; the other addresses scarcity and abundance.

This Bonus Episode is only the second one in the 9-year history of "The Look & Sound of Leadership." If you like this and want more, tell us. Contact us through the homepage at:
 essentialcomm.com

Or by email at:
 info@essentialcomm.com

The prior bonus episode -- with two other email exchanges -- is titled "Readers' Letters." It was posted in May, 2016. Find it in your feed. It’s not available on our website. (We’re working on that!)

]]> Tom exchanges emails with two listeners. One exchange addresses issues of personal boundaries in the workplace; the other addresses scarcity and abundance.

This Bonus Episode is only the second one in the 9-year history of "The Look & Sound of Leadership." If you like this and want more, tell us. Contact us through the homepage at:
 essentialcomm.com

Or by email at:
 info@essentialcomm.com

The prior bonus episode -- with two other email exchanges -- is titled "Readers' Letters." It was posted in May, 2016. Find it in your feed. It’s not available on our website. (We’re working on that!)

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 574a04df37c8e2bc299e2ceefa724309 Tue, 23 May 2017 12:38:03 -0700 944 communication 158 full false Talking Like a TED Talker Talking Like a TED Talker TED Talkers turn us into engrossed detectives, absorbed in solving the mysteries unfolding before us. But TED Talking doesn’t have to be saved for special events. This month’s coaching conversation explores ways to turn everyday presentations into compelling content that will hold people's interest ... like a TED Talk.

If you're crafting an actual TED Talk, use Chris Anderson's terrific book: "TED Talks."

I have a nifty 3-page reduction of Anderson's book. Reach out to me at info@essentialcomm.com and I'll send it along.

Working to improve yourself as a presenter? The Coaching Tips archive are full of related episodes. Go to: essentialcomm.com/podcast and search the topic: "Presentation Skills."

]]> TED Talkers turn us into engrossed detectives, absorbed in solving the mysteries unfolding before us. But TED Talking doesn’t have to be saved for special events. This month’s coaching conversation explores ways to turn everyday presentations into compelling content that will hold people's interest ... like a TED Talk.

If you're crafting an actual TED Talk, use Chris Anderson's terrific book: "TED Talks."

I have a nifty 3-page reduction of Anderson's book. Reach out to me at info@essentialcomm.com and I'll send it along.

Working to improve yourself as a presenter? The Coaching Tips archive are full of related episodes. Go to: essentialcomm.com/podcast and search the topic: "Presentation Skills."

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel e8235471af9a86f388acf356c6620fee Wed, 03 May 2017 18:00:00 -0700 1112 coaching,communications,executive false The Voice of Authority The Voice of Authority Authority. It’s a slip-sliding sort of thing, isn’t it? Do we get it automatically along with a title? Sometimes. But sometimes not. This month’s coaching conversation examines both the thoughts and the words that give us authority.

The ideas in this month's episode echo motifs embedded in many other episodes. Just a few related Executive Coaching Tips are:

Every episode is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Authority. It’s a slip-sliding sort of thing, isn’t it? Do we get it automatically along with a title? Sometimes. But sometimes not. This month’s coaching conversation examines both the thoughts and the words that give us authority.

The ideas in this month's episode echo motifs embedded in many other episodes. Just a few related Executive Coaching Tips are:

Every episode is available at:
http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/

Be in touch with us at:
info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel bfda23a36e33f3643de4dcc255a746e9 Wed, 05 Apr 2017 18:00:00 -0700 1074 communication,coaching,executive false The Human Element The Human Element At work, we often diminish the importance of feelings – our own or those of others. We think, “I don’t have time for that” or “That’s silly.” But feelings don’t disappear just because they’re inconvenient. And, when unacknowledged, their impact can be severe. This month, two coaches discuss the difficulties of managing “the human element.”

Related episodes:

]]> At work, we often diminish the importance of feelings – our own or those of others. We think, “I don’t have time for that” or “That’s silly.” But feelings don’t disappear just because they’re inconvenient. And, when unacknowledged, their impact can be severe. This month, two coaches discuss the difficulties of managing “the human element.”

Related episodes:

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel e8f96f74a600c13126e0be15e23b0ab4 Wed, 01 Mar 2017 18:00:00 -0800 1037 communication,business,coaching,executive false Self-Limiting Beliefs Self-Limiting Beliefs Self-limiting beliefs hold us back. We limit who we are so we don't shatter those beliefs.

This month's coaching conversation serves up several strategies to help you push back against those demons.

Along the way, we mention "Leadership and Self-Deception," a great book to help you on your journey.

We also touch on the topic of "Coaching versus Therapy," something I've been talking about for years. You can find an epsiode about it in the archive.

I also mention an interview I did with Eric Cacciatore on his podcast, "Restaurant Unstoppable" episode 298, in which he and I talk about management and turnover and motivation. It was a blast. Check it out.

Related episodes:
Conquering Fear
Negative Self-Talk
The Look & Sound of Self-Esteem
Thinking Errors
Unmasking a Stand-In

]]> Self-limiting beliefs hold us back. We limit who we are so we don't shatter those beliefs.

This month's coaching conversation serves up several strategies to help you push back against those demons.

Along the way, we mention "Leadership and Self-Deception," a great book to help you on your journey.

We also touch on the topic of "Coaching versus Therapy," something I've been talking about for years. You can find an epsiode about it in the archive.

I also mention an interview I did with Eric Cacciatore on his podcast, "Restaurant Unstoppable" episode 298, in which he and I talk about management and turnover and motivation. It was a blast. Check it out.

Related episodes:
Conquering Fear
Negative Self-Talk
The Look & Sound of Self-Esteem
Thinking Errors
Unmasking a Stand-In

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 77cca8ee9705ea95a7e03bc30af1c173 Wed, 01 Feb 2017 18:00:00 -0800 951 communication,coaching,executive false Inhabiting Executive Presence Inhabiting Executive Presence Getting to the next level of executive presence usually demands the adoption of new behaviors. This month's episode explores a three-step process that helps new behaviors become habits.

Helping you change behavior so you can be perceived the way you want to be perceived is the raison d'être of this podcast. If it's time for you develop more effective behaviors, there is an entire category in “The Look & Sound of Leadership" archive that will accelerate your development.

The archive is at:
essentialcomm.com/podcast

The category, "Developing New Behavior" is at:
essentialcomm.com/tag/developing-new-behaviors/

Five favorite episodes in that category are:

The episode called "Creating New Behaviors" has a PDF that goes along with it. If you'd like it, just ask. I'd love to send it you. Pop me an email at: info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Getting to the next level of executive presence usually demands the adoption of new behaviors. This month's episode explores a three-step process that helps new behaviors become habits.

Helping you change behavior so you can be perceived the way you want to be perceived is the raison d'être of this podcast. If it's time for you develop more effective behaviors, there is an entire category in “The Look & Sound of Leadership" archive that will accelerate your development.

The archive is at:
essentialcomm.com/podcast

The category, "Developing New Behavior" is at:
essentialcomm.com/tag/developing-new-behaviors/

Five favorite episodes in that category are:

The episode called "Creating New Behaviors" has a PDF that goes along with it. If you'd like it, just ask. I'd love to send it you. Pop me an email at: info@essentialcomm.com

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 3131f682b1f949f3bb7846d6210f46b4 Wed, 11 Jan 2017 18:00:00 -0800 1028 communication,coaching,executive false Combating Emotional Hijacks Combating Emotional Hijacks When we feel threatened or in danger, an old part of our brains, the one that regulates emotions, hijacks our executive functioning. We say and do things we regret. In the workplace, this can have serious consequences. This month’s Executive Coaching Tip has seven strategies for stopping yourself from getting hijacked.

The seven lessons in my conversation with my client, Kimberly, are:

  • Emotional hijacks are real. They happen when your emotions take control over your reason;
  • Emotional hijacks happen because of a trigger. Triggers activate your emotional flight/fight/freeze response. We all have triggers;
  • Your triggers follow a pattern. track them over time and the pattern will emerge. Often those who witness our hijackings know our triggers before we do;
  • The first step to mastering your triggers is to be able to name them. By way of example, two of Kimberly’s were feeling left out and being ignored. Two of mine were feeling ineffectual and fearing a bad outcome. Triggers are personal and are different for each person;
  • Emotional hijacks are usually preceded by a feeling somewhere in the body, most often somewhere in your core;
  • Learning to recognize the pre-hijack feeling in your body as a warning bell can help stop – or at least slow down – the emotional hijacking;
  • When you’re struggling to keep your executive functioning online, you can speak about your struggle. “I’m really upset at the moment.” Or, as Kimberly suggested, “I’m not sure I can make good decisions right now.” Speaking about the feeling helps make sure you don’t act from the feeling.

If you want to work on combatting your emotional hijacks. other episodes you can listen to are:

The entire archive is available to you for free at:
essentialcomm.com/podcast

]]> When we feel threatened or in danger, an old part of our brains, the one that regulates emotions, hijacks our executive functioning. We say and do things we regret. In the workplace, this can have serious consequences. This month’s Executive Coaching Tip has seven strategies for stopping yourself from getting hijacked.

The seven lessons in my conversation with my client, Kimberly, are:

  • Emotional hijacks are real. They happen when your emotions take control over your reason;
  • Emotional hijacks happen because of a trigger. Triggers activate your emotional flight/fight/freeze response. We all have triggers;
  • Your triggers follow a pattern. track them over time and the pattern will emerge. Often those who witness our hijackings know our triggers before we do;
  • The first step to mastering your triggers is to be able to name them. By way of example, two of Kimberly’s were feeling left out and being ignored. Two of mine were feeling ineffectual and fearing a bad outcome. Triggers are personal and are different for each person;
  • Emotional hijacks are usually preceded by a feeling somewhere in the body, most often somewhere in your core;
  • Learning to recognize the pre-hijack feeling in your body as a warning bell can help stop – or at least slow down – the emotional hijacking;
  • When you’re struggling to keep your executive functioning online, you can speak about your struggle. “I’m really upset at the moment.” Or, as Kimberly suggested, “I’m not sure I can make good decisions right now.” Speaking about the feeling helps make sure you don’t act from the feeling.

If you want to work on combatting your emotional hijacks. other episodes you can listen to are:

The entire archive is available to you for free at:
essentialcomm.com/podcast

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 519d888083a4ac30c6d9ec4a0539d580 Wed, 07 Dec 2016 17:00:00 -0800 976 communication,skills,coaching,executive false Under Executive Questioning Under Executive Questioning This episode addresses three issues that arise when you’re facing an executive team. First, what meaning are you making about the event itself? Is that meaning helping you or not helping you? If it’s not helping you, change it.
Second, how will you address the moment when you need to say, “I don’t know”? Prepare for it. It’s going to happen. This episode has lots of ideas to try.
The final issue is confidence and finding your executive presence; the core of every episode of The Look & Sound of Leadership podcast.
In addition to the ideas in this episode, you can ask for a PDF that lists 15 related episodes to help you show up the way you want to show up.
Send an email to info@essentialcomm.com and ask for the PDF that goes with this episode. I’d love to send it to you.

]]> This episode addresses three issues that arise when you’re facing an executive team. First, what meaning are you making about the event itself? Is that meaning helping you or not helping you? If it’s not helping you, change it.
Second, how will you address the moment when you need to say, “I don’t know”? Prepare for it. It’s going to happen. This episode has lots of ideas to try.
The final issue is confidence and finding your executive presence; the core of every episode of The Look & Sound of Leadership podcast.
In addition to the ideas in this episode, you can ask for a PDF that lists 15 related episodes to help you show up the way you want to show up.
Send an email to info@essentialcomm.com and ask for the PDF that goes with this episode. I’d love to send it to you.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 09befe37ab2545594971b837edd6c4dd Wed, 02 Nov 2016 18:00:00 -0700 890 communication,business,coaching,executive false Creating Safety for Hard Talks Creating Safety for Hard Talks You can’t be an effective leader if you are not able to have hard conversations that are successful. “Successful” means addressing tough topics in a way that will create change. 
 
One crucial skill to make hard conversations successful is attending to how things are being said. Without an awareness of the ‘how,’ things won’t be as safe as they could be. And if things aren’t safe, they won’t go deep. And if they don’t go deep, they probably won’t stick.
 
Five other episodes that relate to these skills are:
 
If you want to dig even deeper into this topic, two books to read are:
“Difficult Conversations” from The Harvard Negotiation Project. The authors are Stone, Patton and Heen. 
And from the folks at VitalSmarts is “Crucial Conversations.” The authors are Patterson, Grenny, McMillan and Switzler.
 
Both books are great. Lots of scripts. Lots of insights. Lots of tools.
]]> You can’t be an effective leader if you are not able to have hard conversations that are successful. “Successful” means addressing tough topics in a way that will create change. 
 
One crucial skill to make hard conversations successful is attending to how things are being said. Without an awareness of the ‘how,’ things won’t be as safe as they could be. And if things aren’t safe, they won’t go deep. And if they don’t go deep, they probably won’t stick.
 
Five other episodes that relate to these skills are:
 
If you want to dig even deeper into this topic, two books to read are:
“Difficult Conversations” from The Harvard Negotiation Project. The authors are Stone, Patton and Heen. 
And from the folks at VitalSmarts is “Crucial Conversations.” The authors are Patterson, Grenny, McMillan and Switzler.
 
Both books are great. Lots of scripts. Lots of insights. Lots of tools.
]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 0e584e15e8dd78d8d6b0fee33cb110df Wed, 05 Oct 2016 17:00:00 -0700 1019 business,coaching,communications,executive false How Teams Fight How Teams Fight Conflict on teams is a good thing. Really! Well, it's good if it’s healthy.

This month, two techniques to help team members engage in healthy conflict: arguing about what's best for the business and turning hostile non-verbals into dialogue.

Related episodes to help with these skills are:
Disagree Agreeably
Facilitating Open Dialogue
Getting Agreement
Holding People Accountable
Leadership and Listening
Resolving Conflict

]]> Conflict on teams is a good thing. Really! Well, it's good if it’s healthy.

This month, two techniques to help team members engage in healthy conflict: arguing about what's best for the business and turning hostile non-verbals into dialogue.

Related episodes to help with these skills are:
Disagree Agreeably
Facilitating Open Dialogue
Getting Agreement
Holding People Accountable
Leadership and Listening
Resolving Conflict

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 60e2c4611867768225ad801de7a75708 Wed, 07 Sep 2016 18:00:00 -0700 911 and,communication,skills,coaching,executive,Mentoring false Taming Meetings Taming Meetings Meetings are often viewed as a necessary evil to be endured. But they can be engaging events that build people’s skills and accelerate the work. This month, a recipe for mixing up meeting magic.

There is a four-meeting model discussed in this episode. If you want a graphic illustration of the model, just look at the online version in the archive: http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/ or email me at info@essentialcomm.com

Two books are also discussed in this month's episode: Patrick Lencioni's "The Five Dysfunctions of a Team" and "Death By Meeting," both essential reads for team leaders.

]]> Meetings are often viewed as a necessary evil to be endured. But they can be engaging events that build people’s skills and accelerate the work. This month, a recipe for mixing up meeting magic.

There is a four-meeting model discussed in this episode. If you want a graphic illustration of the model, just look at the online version in the archive: http://essentialcomm.com/podcast/ or email me at info@essentialcomm.com

Two books are also discussed in this month's episode: Patrick Lencioni's "The Five Dysfunctions of a Team" and "Death By Meeting," both essential reads for team leaders.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 72d9f8bef42c0ab4fdf03a8dbe816e75 Wed, 03 Aug 2016 17:00:00 -0700 891 business,leadership,coaching,executive false Conquering Fear Conquering Fear Fear is natural but insidious. It can carve caverns in the foundations of our confidence, weakening our capacity. This month, a client learns about three kinds of fear and a transformational question that tames fear.

A seminal book to help master fear is "Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway" by Susan Jeffers.

At the end of this month's episode, Tom tells a story about the amazing reach of podcasts.]]> Fear is natural but insidious. It can carve caverns in the foundations of our confidence, weakening our capacity. This month, a client learns about three kinds of fear and a transformational question that tames fear.

A seminal book to help master fear is "Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway" by Susan Jeffers.

At the end of this month's episode, Tom tells a story about the amazing reach of podcasts.]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 997ceeea071c9b936de1b15bfef56ac9 Wed, 06 Jul 2016 17:00:00 -0700 975 training,coaching,executive false Building Empathy Building Empathy Empathy is a crucial component of The Look & Sound of Leadership. Some people have it naturally, others don’t. In either case, it can be developed and learned. This month's episode has lots of ideas about what empathy is, what it isn't, and how you can develop it.
 
There are lots of resources discussed this month.
 
A book called "The EQ Edge" by Stein and Book.
 
A great 3-minute animation by Brene Brown about sympathy versus empathy. It's on the home page of her website: brenebrown.com. Look for the cartoon of a bear and a fox.
 
Other epsiodes you might listen to are:
Building Emotional Intelligence
Dealing With Emotional Responses
Self-Awareness & Self-Management
 
You also might go to essentialcomm.com, select "Coaching Tips," then search two subjects in the archive :
Managing Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development
 
Finally, if you or someone you know is in the middle of a job search, Tom did an interview this month with a wonderful career coach names Alyson Garrido. The interview has lots of helpful tips and tools. You can find it at: LA TalkRadio.com. The show is called "Get Yourself The Job." The show is in their archive for May, 2016. 
 
Be good to the people you're leading. And be good to yourself! Until next month, thanks for listening!
]]> Empathy is a crucial component of The Look & Sound of Leadership. Some people have it naturally, others don’t. In either case, it can be developed and learned. This month's episode has lots of ideas about what empathy is, what it isn't, and how you can develop it.
 
There are lots of resources discussed this month.
 
A book called "The EQ Edge" by Stein and Book.
 
A great 3-minute animation by Brene Brown about sympathy versus empathy. It's on the home page of her website: brenebrown.com. Look for the cartoon of a bear and a fox.
 
Other epsiodes you might listen to are:
Building Emotional Intelligence
Dealing With Emotional Responses
Self-Awareness & Self-Management
 
You also might go to essentialcomm.com, select "Coaching Tips," then search two subjects in the archive :
Managing Yourself
Personal Growth & Self-Development
 
Finally, if you or someone you know is in the middle of a job search, Tom did an interview this month with a wonderful career coach names Alyson Garrido. The interview has lots of helpful tips and tools. You can find it at: LA TalkRadio.com. The show is called "Get Yourself The Job." The show is in their archive for May, 2016. 
 
Be good to the people you're leading. And be good to yourself! Until next month, thanks for listening!
]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 3dbd777a19cf260ce5da1bd9509e18d7 Wed, 08 Jun 2016 17:00:00 -0700 1009 coaching,executive false Readers’ Letters — Bonus Episode Readers’ Letters — Bonus Episode A bonus episode!

Tom shares email exchanges he had with two podcast listeners. One exchange is about handling people who interrupt presentations. The other is about defining tasks and responsibilities when they're not defined for you.

During the podcast, Tom mentions two other episodes that support the ideas here: one episode is “Facilitating Open Dialogue.” The other is “Creating Devoted Followers.”

If you’d like more bonus episodes like this one, let Tom know at info@essentialcomm.com.

]]> A bonus episode!

Tom shares email exchanges he had with two podcast listeners. One exchange is about handling people who interrupt presentations. The other is about defining tasks and responsibilities when they're not defined for you.

During the podcast, Tom mentions two other episodes that support the ideas here: one episode is “Facilitating Open Dialogue.” The other is “Creating Devoted Followers.”

If you’d like more bonus episodes like this one, let Tom know at info@essentialcomm.com.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 6e51ec0badb5628cf9b9e967c684c40c Tue, 17 May 2016 07:00:00 -0700 916 business,coaching,executive 145 full false Personal Histories as Your Brand Personal Histories as Your Brand How you brand yourself sticks with people a long time.Thismonth, a senior executive dreads having to brand himself duringaninterview – until he learns about the PersonalHistoriestechnique.

In addition to giving you this simple yet powerful tool tohelpbuild your personal brand, this episode also references abookcalled "The Five Dysfunctions of a Team."

Details about this book is at the end of the podcast. ThereIdiscuss that there are actually TWO books about theFiveDysfunctions. They're quite different. Here’s how.

"The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable" has ajuicystory about a team struggling to succeed. In the back of thebook,the author teaches The Five Dysfunctions and explains atarelatively high level how to overcome them. The tools in thisbook– including an assessment your team can fill out – areuseful.

If you’d like to know how to build a high-performing team,thesecond book is even more useful. It’s called, "Overcoming TheFiveDysfunctions of a Team: A Field Guide for Leaders, ManagersandFacilitators." This book has detailed, step-by-step instructionstoguide to and your team to high achievement.

]]> How you brand yourself sticks with people a long time.Thismonth, a senior executive dreads having to brand himself duringaninterview – until he learns about the PersonalHistoriestechnique.

In addition to giving you this simple yet powerful tool tohelpbuild your personal brand, this episode also references abookcalled "The Five Dysfunctions of a Team."

Details about this book is at the end of the podcast. ThereIdiscuss that there are actually TWO books about theFiveDysfunctions. They're quite different. Here’s how.

"The Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable" has ajuicystory about a team struggling to succeed. In the back of thebook,the author teaches The Five Dysfunctions and explains atarelatively high level how to overcome them. The tools in thisbook– including an assessment your team can fill out – areuseful.

If you’d like to know how to build a high-performing team,thesecond book is even more useful. It’s called, "Overcoming TheFiveDysfunctions of a Team: A Field Guide for Leaders, ManagersandFacilitators." This book has detailed, step-by-step instructionstoguide to and your team to high achievement.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 8f56931a40201e092342902f16ca341a Wed, 04 May 2016 17:00:00 -0700 925 business,coaching,executive false Power Tools for Teams — Plus/Delta Power Tools for Teams — Plus/Delta This month, The Look & Sound of Leadership gives you a tool for developing your team. A process that takes only minutes to learn, if practiced regularly, this exercise has far-reaching ripples. Welcome to "The Plus/Delta Tool."

Other episodes to help you develop as a leader of teams are:

Your Team's Best Interests - Part One

Your Team's Best Interests - Part Two

Coaching Your People

Engagement and Performance

Performance Reviews

Resolving Conflict

]]> This month, The Look & Sound of Leadership gives you a tool for developing your team. A process that takes only minutes to learn, if practiced regularly, this exercise has far-reaching ripples. Welcome to "The Plus/Delta Tool."

Other episodes to help you develop as a leader of teams are:

Your Team's Best Interests - Part One

Your Team's Best Interests - Part Two

Coaching Your People

Engagement and Performance

Performance Reviews

Resolving Conflict

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 0241d1fcea60cd0038853dc2acf09781 Wed, 06 Apr 2016 17:30:00 -0700 1004 coaching,executive false The Mindful Executive The Mindful Executive From the Harvard Business Review to the New York Times, mindfulness is widely touted as a powerful tool to increase personal effectiveness and well-being. This month’s Executive Coaching Tip explores the “how to” of being mindful with an executive who was already on the path but didn’t know it.

This episode shows that mindfulness is neither complex nor mysterious; it just takes practice. More importantly, this episode puts forward the idea that all professional and personal development requires you to be mindful to some degree.

If this episode inspires you, there are even more Tips to help support your growth. Go to the Executive Coaching Tips archive and select the category “Personal Growth & Self-Development.”

http://essentialcomm.com/tag/personal-growth-self-development/

]]> From the Harvard Business Review to the New York Times, mindfulness is widely touted as a powerful tool to increase personal effectiveness and well-being. This month’s Executive Coaching Tip explores the “how to” of being mindful with an executive who was already on the path but didn’t know it.

This episode shows that mindfulness is neither complex nor mysterious; it just takes practice. More importantly, this episode puts forward the idea that all professional and personal development requires you to be mindful to some degree.

If this episode inspires you, there are even more Tips to help support your growth. Go to the Executive Coaching Tips archive and select the category “Personal Growth & Self-Development.”

http://essentialcomm.com/tag/personal-growth-self-development/

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel c5865ae9ba5df2971645774c11c37919 Wed, 02 Mar 2016 17:00:00 -0800 1047 coaching,executive false Coaching Under Attack Coaching Under Attack Coaching is expensive. Coaching is hard to measure. Coaching is too touchy-feely. There are a million arguments against coaching. This month, a tough CEO puts Tom on the defensive about coaching.
 
If you'd like to explore this topic further, here are nine related Tips:
 
Or you can search the free archive of all ten years'  worth of Tips. Use the "Search by Subject" tool to look at the category called "Personal Growth & Self-Development." There are more than 40 Tips in that cateogry to help support your professional development.
 
At the end of this Tip, Tom invites you to become a client. If you're interested in being coached, send him an email at info@essentialcomm.com
]]> Coaching is expensive. Coaching is hard to measure. Coaching is too touchy-feely. There are a million arguments against coaching. This month, a tough CEO puts Tom on the defensive about coaching.
 
If you'd like to explore this topic further, here are nine related Tips:
 
Or you can search the free archive of all ten years'  worth of Tips. Use the "Search by Subject" tool to look at the category called "Personal Growth & Self-Development." There are more than 40 Tips in that cateogry to help support your professional development.
 
At the end of this Tip, Tom invites you to become a client. If you're interested in being coached, send him an email at info@essentialcomm.com
]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel a315461b993fd302f972dce635ef7388 Wed, 03 Feb 2016 16:30:00 -0800 966 false High-Stakes Meetings High-Stakes Meetings The goal of this episode is to give you a three-step process to help you succeed in meetings when you feel there’s a lot at stake.

Step one: Clarify the Story. Four other episodes can also help with this step: “Sounding Executive,” “Communicating With Clarity,” “Executive Presenting” and, the mother of all communication tools: “Sorting and Labeling.”

Step two: Do Your Homework. This step is different for everyone. Sometimes it means getting information from another department. Sometimes it means researching data. Sometimes it means talking to people who’ve gone before you. 

Most people seem to know what homework to do; the struggle is finding time. Because we’re busy we think, “Oh, I’ll let the homework slide.” But I promise – doing your homework will make you feel much more confident.

That brings us to the final step: Managing Yourself. In this episode I mention several concepts to help you manage yourself that you can find in other episodes. “Assume Equality” is a critical self-management tool. Another, to help manage feeling like a victim, is called “Status.” Another is called “Choosing Stories Over Truth.”

This month’s episode is all about preparing for a high-stakes meeting with a tough company president. Next month’s episode will be about what happened when I was finally in the room face-to-face with her. 

]]> The goal of this episode is to give you a three-step process to help you succeed in meetings when you feel there’s a lot at stake.

Step one: Clarify the Story. Four other episodes can also help with this step: “Sounding Executive,” “Communicating With Clarity,” “Executive Presenting” and, the mother of all communication tools: “Sorting and Labeling.”

Step two: Do Your Homework. This step is different for everyone. Sometimes it means getting information from another department. Sometimes it means researching data. Sometimes it means talking to people who’ve gone before you. 

Most people seem to know what homework to do; the struggle is finding time. Because we’re busy we think, “Oh, I’ll let the homework slide.” But I promise – doing your homework will make you feel much more confident.

That brings us to the final step: Managing Yourself. In this episode I mention several concepts to help you manage yourself that you can find in other episodes. “Assume Equality” is a critical self-management tool. Another, to help manage feeling like a victim, is called “Status.” Another is called “Choosing Stories Over Truth.”

This month’s episode is all about preparing for a high-stakes meeting with a tough company president. Next month’s episode will be about what happened when I was finally in the room face-to-face with her. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 08c377e1ff70c3fa0f9dab01daabd560 Wed, 06 Jan 2016 16:30:00 -0800 967 business,coaching,executive false Showing Teeth Showing Teeth For many businesses, uncertainty and ambiguity is their new norm. In such anxious times, people long for leaders who will make tough decisions, stand behind those decisions, and protect their people. In some circles, this is called “showing teeth.”

In this episode, I refer to The Center for Talent Innovation and their white paper on Executive Presence.

I also refer to four related episodes:

Assertion versus Aggression 

Gravitas

Speaking for Yourself

Speaking Your Truth

For more ideas about “Showing Teeth,” you might also check out all the episodes in the Assertiveness category of the Executive Coaching Tips archive. The Executive Coaching Tip that explains “unconscious competence” is Creating New Behaviors.

]]> For many businesses, uncertainty and ambiguity is their new norm. In such anxious times, people long for leaders who will make tough decisions, stand behind those decisions, and protect their people. In some circles, this is called “showing teeth.”

In this episode, I refer to The Center for Talent Innovation and their white paper on Executive Presence.

I also refer to four related episodes:

Assertion versus Aggression 

Gravitas

Speaking for Yourself

Speaking Your Truth

For more ideas about “Showing Teeth,” you might also check out all the episodes in the Assertiveness category of the Executive Coaching Tips archive. The Executive Coaching Tip that explains “unconscious competence” is Creating New Behaviors.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 7a7041035791cb9a974d909c3f52a2d2 Wed, 02 Dec 2015 16:30:00 -0800 905 business,coaching,executive false Engagement & Performance Engagement & Performance Lack of engagement can assume many disguises but there is one outcome that is predictable: poor performance. What would you say if you found out you could get people engaged – and improve performance – with just two questions? Sounds like a miracle, right? That’s what I thought, too.

]]> Lack of engagement can assume many disguises but there is one outcome that is predictable: poor performance. What would you say if you found out you could get people engaged – and improve performance – with just two questions? Sounds like a miracle, right? That’s what I thought, too.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel ac8ba978b708879f04c47f1a361e659f Wed, 04 Nov 2015 15:30:00 -0800 884 business,coaching,executive false Managing Disruptive Executives Managing Disruptive Executives Disruptive executives take many forms—bullies, catastrophizers, resisters, you name it. But no matter what mask they wear, they create upheaval. Whether the disrupter is your boss, your peer or your direct report, coping successfully requires two things: courage and skills. Here’s how to find both.

]]> Disruptive executives take many forms—bullies, catastrophizers, resisters, you name it. But no matter what mask they wear, they create upheaval. Whether the disrupter is your boss, your peer or your direct report, coping successfully requires two things: courage and skills. Here’s how to find both.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel fef329ba2ae243a2ced9c50e8ff9711e Wed, 30 Sep 2015 15:30:00 -0700 1057 business,coaching,executive false Executive Presenting Executive Presenting Presentations are a golden opportunity to display your executive presence. Here are six behaviors that’ll help you command the room and deepen your brand.

]]> Presentations are a golden opportunity to display your executive presence. Here are six behaviors that’ll help you command the room and deepen your brand.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 00e97a5fe0bec67203cdc57ffc5c5e70 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 16:30:00 -0700 997 business,coaching,executive false A Breakdown of Listening A Breakdown of Listening We all think we’re better listeners than we really are. Luckily, we all have the capacity to improve our skills. But not all listening is the same. Here’s a breakdown.

]]> We all think we’re better listeners than we really are. Luckily, we all have the capacity to improve our skills. But not all listening is the same. Here’s a breakdown.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 15477b0b83ed1766070da3b3212875d7 Wed, 05 Aug 2015 15:00:00 -0700 1038 listening,business,coaching,executive false In Sync Communications In Sync Communications When you’re communicating, you not only need to fly through the intricate patterns of your own information, you need to be sure we can thread that needle along with you.

]]> When you’re communicating, you not only need to fly through the intricate patterns of your own information, you need to be sure we can thread that needle along with you.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 88d11d482a21bcaa95c5d9720ed73f89 Wed, 08 Jul 2015 14:30:00 -0700 883 communication,business,coaching,executive false Executive Gender Bias Executive Gender Bias The research is unequivocal: in the workplace, women play on a tilted field. Everyone contributes to work's off-center world -- even women! This episode explores ways to bring the tipping back in balance.

]]> The research is unequivocal: in the workplace, women play on a tilted field. Everyone contributes to work's off-center world -- even women! This episode explores ways to bring the tipping back in balance.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 36e3072d15d75a0ef11512854d97930a Wed, 10 Jun 2015 14:00:00 -0700 954 coaching,executive,gender,bias false The Narcissistic Executive The Narcissistic Executive Narcissistic executives can be infuriating. And, unless you’re one of their favored few, they can be dangerous, too. These five actions will help protect you—and keep you sane.

]]> Narcissistic executives can be infuriating. And, unless you’re one of their favored few, they can be dangerous, too. These five actions will help protect you—and keep you sane.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 4689c1a5f201270c01b39de74dd3f931 Wed, 06 May 2015 14:00:00 -0700 1076 business,coaching,executive false Coaching Your People Coaching Your People Helping develop your people is a win for everyone. But developing people is quite different from managing people: developing people requires you to be a coach. Here’s how.

]]> Helping develop your people is a win for everyone. But developing people is quite different from managing people: developing people requires you to be a coach. Here’s how.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel d4b319db6edd11e59bad9ce49cebed2b Wed, 01 Apr 2015 14:30:00 -0700 1071 business,coaching,executive false Status Status We all assign ourselves a certain status. Of course, that means we assign status to others, too. The question is: do people experience your status as appropriate? Or do you need to dial it up? Or down!

]]> We all assign ourselves a certain status. Of course, that means we assign status to others, too. The question is: do people experience your status as appropriate? Or do you need to dial it up? Or down!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 932422a25ae59233b68f3d539c7c23bb Wed, 04 Mar 2015 14:00:00 -0800 760 false Defining Success Defining Success “I’ll know it when I see it” is a natural thought when starting a new project.  Feeling “It’s just not right” is natural when a situation is nagging. But your followers need you to tell them specifically what success looks like. If you don’t tell them, how will they know?

]]> “I’ll know it when I see it” is a natural thought when starting a new project.  Feeling “It’s just not right” is natural when a situation is nagging. But your followers need you to tell them specifically what success looks like. If you don’t tell them, how will they know?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel f7a08c42bb25ba17bd1526599bf410bf Wed, 04 Feb 2015 22:59:38 -0800 706 false Mentoring & Mentors Mentoring & Mentors Finding good mentors – and using them wisely – can change your career trajectory. So can being a mentor to others. Here are actions for succeeding in both roles.

]]> Finding good mentors – and using them wisely – can change your career trajectory. So can being a mentor to others. Here are actions for succeeding in both roles.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 39cd7d4497c959ea7caaae0319676c65 Tue, 06 Jan 2015 14:00:00 -0800 726 false The Honorable Executive The Honorable Executive Executives create honor in the workplace not by declarations and speeches. Rather, honor is built in the display of small, consistent behaviors every day. This month’s Tip examines two of those behaviors and one over-arching factor.

]]> Executives create honor in the workplace not by declarations and speeches. Rather, honor is built in the display of small, consistent behaviors every day. This month’s Tip examines two of those behaviors and one over-arching factor.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 3e71c1dbb6e086b1c05034139770faae Tue, 02 Dec 2014 20:40:28 -0800 938 false Managing Performance: Up or Out Managing Performance: Up or Out Poor performers often linger far too long. Leaders who avoid these performance issues damage their reputations and weaken their teams. Here are five actions to help you manage poor performers up or out.

]]> Poor performers often linger far too long. Leaders who avoid these performance issues damage their reputations and weaken their teams. Here are five actions to help you manage poor performers up or out.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel d5f1bb8f083c3be0c786d0de04ec166c Thu, 06 Nov 2014 11:07:35 -0800 1009 communication,management,skills,assertiveness false Thinking Errors Thinking Errors Thinking errors are tough to spot in yourself because they seem true.  Usually we've believed them for a long time. Here are ways to free yourself from thinking errors

]]> Thinking errors are tough to spot in yourself because they seem true.  Usually we've believed them for a long time. Here are ways to free yourself from thinking errors

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 17978070c0d3a4de3353c3f26057dc83 Wed, 01 Oct 2014 20:16:34 -0700 898 false Pursuing A Promotion Pursuing A Promotion We'd all like to be given a promotion merely because it's our turn. But earning a promotion is actually a job in itself. Mastering the four factors described here will accelerate the process.

]]> We'd all like to be given a promotion merely because it's our turn. But earning a promotion is actually a job in itself. Mastering the four factors described here will accelerate the process.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 62612253475931a1ef630e5f51e4d4fd Wed, 03 Sep 2014 17:19:15 -0700 866 false Managing Up Managing Up We all want bosses who are sensitive to our needs. But savvy players know we need to manage our bosses at least as much as they manage us.

]]> We all want bosses who are sensitive to our needs. But savvy players know we need to manage our bosses at least as much as they manage us.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 3456c1733901083415d3a4de3d136e0b Wed, 06 Aug 2014 12:00:00 -0700 648 false Personal Branding Personal Branding Each one of us has a personal brand. Every day we reinforce our brands consciously or unconsciously. The tools in this episode will help you craft your brand with intention. 

]]> Each one of us has a personal brand. Every day we reinforce our brands consciously or unconsciously. The tools in this episode will help you craft your brand with intention. 

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 151bcc783d9845881c3848e16189fe0a Tue, 08 Jul 2014 21:03:25 -0700 889 false Leading Through Delegation Leading Through Delegation Your ability to execute senior-level work correlates directly to your ability to delegate effectively. The better you are delegation, the higher you can rise.

]]> Your ability to execute senior-level work correlates directly to your ability to delegate effectively. The better you are delegation, the higher you can rise.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel f8c1c8c03c85bbed0f5c674a86543a5c Wed, 04 Jun 2014 20:07:45 -0700 790 false Achieving Authenticity Achieving Authenticity Leaders who are authentic display The Look & Sound of Leadership™. We follow them eagerly. But how to achieve authenticity? Here are five tools.

]]> Leaders who are authentic display The Look & Sound of Leadership™. We follow them eagerly. But how to achieve authenticity? Here are five tools.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 27d89955bca4e353db932128e89c4cf1 Wed, 30 Apr 2014 05:00:00 -0700 883 and,of,communication,sound,leadership,Development,tom,professional,skills,coaching,executive,authenticity,look,presence,henschel false Your Goodwill Bank Account Your Goodwill Bank Account Certain people seem to have unlimited leeway when they make a mistake or miss a deadline while others seem to acquire black marks and penalties for the most minor infractions. This month’s episode explains why.

]]> Certain people seem to have unlimited leeway when they make a mistake or miss a deadline while others seem to acquire black marks and penalties for the most minor infractions. This month’s episode explains why.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 3d860a6060d4f778546d7643ca0ae7e5 Wed, 02 Apr 2014 19:16:37 -0700 830 false Captivate Your Audience Captivate Your Audience If you don’t grab your audience at the start, it’s tough to win ‘em over later. The two behaviors described here will help you engage your listeners before you’ve said a word.

]]> If you don’t grab your audience at the start, it’s tough to win ‘em over later. The two behaviors described here will help you engage your listeners before you’ve said a word.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel d7aed647a575daf736c02c1f96f8de53 Tue, 04 Mar 2014 05:00:00 -0800 796 false Creating Devoted Followers Creating Devoted Followers We all sense the subtle messages we send each other. When those messages have even a whiff of disapproval, your followers may begin to cool.

]]> We all sense the subtle messages we send each other. When those messages have even a whiff of disapproval, your followers may begin to cool.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel dac88321d24d568e51a861d912989f74 Wed, 05 Feb 2014 04:00:00 -0800 814 false Perception Is Reality Perception Is Reality Accepting how others see you can be a struggle. Until you can, you may not seem ready for the next step in your career.

]]> Accepting how others see you can be a struggle. Until you can, you may not seem ready for the next step in your career.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel eeab82be799b4ae9b57dd40ecd78016c Wed, 08 Jan 2014 05:00:00 -0800 728 false Taming Email Taming Email An ongoing series of Executive Coaching Tips designed to help you be perceived in the workplace the way you want to be perceived.

]]> An ongoing series of Executive Coaching Tips designed to help you be perceived in the workplace the way you want to be perceived.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel 56e43e28100bd5b9e60a475857f896c8 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 20:52:00 -0800 910 email,communication,leadership,Development,professional,skills,coaching,executive,presence false Speaking Your Truth Speaking Your Truth We all have moments when we don’t speak up because we worry what other people might think. Here’s a way to help you find—and keep!—your voice. 11/07/13

]]> We all have moments when we don’t speak up because we worry what other people might think. Here’s a way to help you find—and keep!—your voice. 11/07/13

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://traffic.libsyn.com/essentialcomm/Speaking-Your-Truth.m4a Thu, 07 Nov 2013 08:30:00 -0800 813 communication,Speaking,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false The Generous Executive The Generous Executive Choosing to collaborate often feels like inviting an invader to sit down and eat your food. It can be done, but it doesn’t feel natural. And why would you? Where’s the benefit?

]]> Choosing to collaborate often feels like inviting an invader to sit down and eat your food. It can be done, but it doesn’t feel natural. And why would you? Where’s the benefit?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Generous-Executive.m4a Thu, 03 Oct 2013 09:30:00 -0700 640 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,generosity,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Gravitas Gravitas Gravitas is credibility that goes beyond titles or credentials. Without it, you can’t achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership™. This Tip will help you get it and keep it.

]]> Gravitas is credibility that goes beyond titles or credentials. Without it, you can’t achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership™. This Tip will help you get it and keep it.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Gravitas.m4a Thu, 05 Sep 2013 09:30:00 -0700 634 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,gravitas,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Soliciting Feedback Soliciting Feedback Without good feedback about yourself, you can’t achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership. But how can you get good feedback about yourself?

]]> Without good feedback about yourself, you can’t achieve The Look & Sound of Leadership. But how can you get good feedback about yourself?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Soliciting-Feedback.m4a Thu, 01 Aug 2013 09:30:00 -0700 685 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,Feedback,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false The High-Maintenance Executive The High-Maintenance Executive Being “high maintenance” can derail a career. Here are four mistakes people make that get them labeled “high maintenance.” And four actions to help you avoid the high maintenance label.

]]> Being “high maintenance” can derail a career. Here are four mistakes people make that get them labeled “high maintenance.” And four actions to help you avoid the high maintenance label.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/High-Maintenance-Executive.m4a Thu, 11 Jul 2013 09:30:00 -0700 808 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel,highmaintenance false Capitalizing on Differences in Style Capitalizing on Differences in Style Our own work style seems completely natural—to us! But what about all those people whose styles are different? What do you do with them?

]]> Our own work style seems completely natural—to us! But what about all those people whose styles are different? What do you do with them?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Capitalizing-on-Differences-in-Style.m4a Thu, 06 Jun 2013 09:30:00 -0700 714 communication,leadership,style,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Creating New Behaviors Creating New Behaviors We create impressions, in part, through our behaviors. And changing behaviors can feel overwhelming. This four-stage process makes behavioral change manageable.

]]> We create impressions, in part, through our behaviors. And changing behaviors can feel overwhelming. This four-stage process makes behavioral change manageable.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Creating-New-Behaviors.m4a Thu, 02 May 2013 09:30:00 -0700 750 communication,behavior,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Building Emotional Intelligence Building Emotional Intelligence Companies invest in developing Emotional Intelligence (EQ) because its presence improves performance. EQ has four steps. Here is number one. 04/04/13

]]> Companies invest in developing Emotional Intelligence (EQ) because its presence improves performance. EQ has four steps. Here is number one. 04/04/13

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Building-Emotional-Intelligence.m4a Thu, 04 Apr 2013 09:30:00 -0700 834 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,emotionalintelligence,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Shouldering the Burden of Leadership Shouldering the Burden of Leadership Every leader casts a long shadow. Casual comments can have huge ripples. Such is the burden of leadership. How well are you shouldering the burden?

]]> Every leader casts a long shadow. Casual comments can have huge ripples. Such is the burden of leadership. How well are you shouldering the burden?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Shouldering-the-Burden-of-Leadership.m4a Thu, 07 Mar 2013 08:30:00 -0800 680 communication,management,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false The Flexible Leader The Flexible Leader Everyone you manage is at a different stage of their professional and personal development. Are you managing them all the same way?

]]> Everyone you manage is at a different stage of their professional and personal development. Are you managing them all the same way?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Flexible-Leader.m4a Thu, 07 Feb 2013 08:30:00 -0800 651 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,flexibility,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Communicating with Clarity Communicating with Clarity Expert communicators put up signposts so their listeners can follow them easily. Using these “frameworks” can distinguish you as a clear and expert communicator.

]]> Expert communicators put up signposts so their listeners can follow them easily. Using these “frameworks” can distinguish you as a clear and expert communicator.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Communicating-with-Clarity.m4a Thu, 10 Jan 2013 08:30:00 -0800 672 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,clarity,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Upward Feedback Upward Feedback Giving upward feedback can be a dicey proposition. The three-step formula in this Executive Coaching Tip will make that potentially dangerous enterprise a whole lot safer.

]]> Giving upward feedback can be a dicey proposition. The three-step formula in this Executive Coaching Tip will make that potentially dangerous enterprise a whole lot safer.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Upward-Feedback.m4a Thu, 06 Dec 2012 08:30:00 -0800 907 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,Feedback,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Turn Values into Behavior Turn Values into Behavior Companies proudly post their values in their lobbies and on their websites. But values are mere slogans until leaders help people transform those ideas into concrete actions. But that shift can be difficult. Even explosive.

]]> Companies proudly post their values in their lobbies and on their websites. But values are mere slogans until leaders help people transform those ideas into concrete actions. But that shift can be difficult. Even explosive.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Turn-Values-Into-Behavior.m4a Thu, 01 Nov 2012 09:30:00 -0700 629 communication,behavior,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Self-Awareness & Self-Management Self-Awareness & Self-Management Leaders who are technically gifted leaders are often less gifted when managing their relationships. To avoid derailing—and to have healthy relationships—leaders need the two skills addressed in this month’s podcast.

]]> Leaders who are technically gifted leaders are often less gifted when managing their relationships. To avoid derailing—and to have healthy relationships—leaders need the two skills addressed in this month’s podcast.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Self-Awareness-Self-Management.m4a Thu, 04 Oct 2012 09:30:00 -0700 839 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,selfawareness,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Getting Unstuck Getting Unstuck It’s usually painfully obvious to us when we’re stuck. What’s frustrating is that we can’t get ourselves unstuck. Here are three practical ways for getting unstuck that are particularly helpful in the workplace.

]]> It’s usually painfully obvious to us when we’re stuck. What’s frustrating is that we can’t get ourselves unstuck. Here are three practical ways for getting unstuck that are particularly helpful in the workplace.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Getting-Unstuck.m4a Thu, 06 Sep 2012 09:30:00 -0700 698 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,frustration,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false The Well-Balanced Executive The Well-Balanced Executive This 100th edition of The Look & Sound of Leadership™ discusses the best predictor of an executive’s long-term effectiveness.

]]> This 100th edition of The Look & Sound of Leadership™ discusses the best predictor of an executive’s long-term effectiveness.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/The-Well-Balanced-Executive.m4a Thu, 02 Aug 2012 09:30:00 -0700 693 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,balance,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false The Disruptive Executive - Part Two The Disruptive Executive - Part Two Trying to manage a disrupter is tough work. Managing yourself while managing a disrupter is no easier! These four tools will help you contain yourself during emotional encounters.

]]> Trying to manage a disrupter is tough work. Managing yourself while managing a disrupter is no easier! These four tools will help you contain yourself during emotional encounters.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/The-Disruptive-Executive-Part-Two.m4a Thu, 12 Jul 2012 09:30:00 -0700 736 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,disruption,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false The Disruptive Executive - Part One The Disruptive Executive - Part One Trying to manage disrupters is like getting pummeled by a heavyweight. Here are five tools to help get traction with the disrupters in your life.

]]> Trying to manage disrupters is like getting pummeled by a heavyweight. Here are five tools to help get traction with the disrupters in your life.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/The-Disruptive-Executive-Part-One.m4a Thu, 07 Jun 2012 09:30:00 -0700 788 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,disruption,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false The Exhausted Executive The Exhausted Executive Many high performers are running on empty. Here are tools to replenish your reserves.

]]> Many high performers are running on empty. Here are tools to replenish your reserves.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/The-Exhausted-Executive.m4a Thu, 10 May 2012 09:30:00 -0700 847 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,exhaustion,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false The Distracted Executive The Distracted Executive Trying to get your message through to a distracted person isn't easy. It takes mental energy, preparation and willingness to repeat yourself. But what happens if YOU are the distracted person?

]]> Trying to get your message through to a distracted person isn't easy. It takes mental energy, preparation and willingness to repeat yourself. But what happens if YOU are the distracted person?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Distracted-Executive.m4a Thu, 05 Apr 2012 09:30:00 -0700 606 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,distraction,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false The Many Parts of You The Many Parts of You Recognizing and managing the many, often contradictory, parts of you is crucial to becoming an authentic leader.

]]> Recognizing and managing the many, often contradictory, parts of you is crucial to becoming an authentic leader.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/The-Many-Parts-of-You.m4a Thu, 08 Mar 2012 08:30:00 -0800 696 communication,management,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Your Team's Best Interests - Part Two Your Team's Best Interests - Part Two Engaged and productive employees believe their boss has their best interest at heart.

]]> Engaged and productive employees believe their boss has their best interest at heart.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Your-Teams-Best-Interests-PT2.m4a Thu, 02 Feb 2012 08:30:00 -0800 819 communication,management,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel 95 full false Your Team's Best Interests - Part One Your Team's Best Interests - Part One Engaged and productive employees believe their boss has their best interest at heart.

]]> Engaged and productive employees believe their boss has their best interest at heart.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Your-Teams-Best-Interests-PT1.m4a Thu, 12 Jan 2012 08:30:00 -0800 794 communication,management,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel 94 full false Performance Reviews Performance Reviews Six lessons for delivering meaningful performance reviews.

]]> Six lessons for delivering meaningful performance reviews.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Performance-Reviews.m4a Thu, 01 Dec 2011 08:30:00 -0800 785 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel,performancereviews false Leading Teams Leading Teams Five questions your team needs to answer if they're all going to move in the same direction. Plus a four-layer pyramid that needs defining.

]]> Five questions your team needs to answer if they're all going to move in the same direction. Plus a four-layer pyramid that needs defining.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Leading-Teams.m4a Thu, 03 Nov 2011 09:30:00 -0700 779 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,teambuilding,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Facilitating Open Dialogue Facilitating Open Dialogue Tips and techniques for the extremely difficult task of getting people to speak openly in public forums—or in private!

]]> Tips and techniques for the extremely difficult task of getting people to speak openly in public forums—or in private!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Facilitating-Open-Dialogue.m4a Thu, 06 Oct 2011 09:30:00 -0700 728 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,facilitation,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Smiling—The Look of Leadership Smiling—The Look of Leadership Your smile can be a credibility builder or a credibility killer. How is your smile working for you?

]]> Your smile can be a credibility builder or a credibility killer. How is your smile working for you?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Smiling.m4a Thu, 01 Sep 2011 09:30:00 -0700 632 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,smiling,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Leading Change Leading Change Navigating the minefield of change is fraught with danger. Here's your road map through change's treacherous terrain.

]]> Navigating the minefield of change is fraught with danger. Here's your road map through change's treacherous terrain.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Leading-Change.m4a Thu, 11 Aug 2011 09:30:00 -0700 691 communication,change,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Resolving Conflict Resolving Conflict Three actions, plus three behaviors, to help warring factions to lay down their arms and get back to work.

]]> Three actions, plus three behaviors, to help warring factions to lay down their arms and get back to work.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Resolving-Conflict.m4a Thu, 07 Jul 2011 09:30:00 -0700 696 communication,leadership,Conflict,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false The Power of PowerPoint The Power of PowerPoint PowerPoint can be a blessing but all-too-often is a curse. Here are 8 tips to harness the positive power of PowerPoint.

]]> PowerPoint can be a blessing but all-too-often is a curse. Here are 8 tips to harness the positive power of PowerPoint.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Power-of-PowerPoint.m4a Thu, 02 Jun 2011 09:30:00 -0700 774 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,powerpoint,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Compelling Openings Compelling Openings Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Compelling-Openings.m4a Thu, 19 May 2011 09:30:00 -0700 675 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,openings,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Intimacy in Business: Setting Boundaries Intimacy in Business: Setting Boundaries The ability to create a sense of intimacy in the workplace leads to deep and long-lasting trust. And it’s not about being personal.

]]> The ability to create a sense of intimacy in the workplace leads to deep and long-lasting trust. And it’s not about being personal.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Intimacy-In-Business.m4a Thu, 05 May 2011 09:30:00 -0700 582 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,boundaries,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Recommendations & Resources Recommendations & Resources Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Recommendations-Resources.m4a Thu, 21 Apr 2011 09:30:00 -0700 685 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,resources,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Stop Giving Away Your Secrets Stop Giving Away Your Secrets Transparency is great in business—except when you tip your hand and reveal thoughts and feelings that are better kept to yourself.

]]> Transparency is great in business—except when you tip your hand and reveal thoughts and feelings that are better kept to yourself.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Stop-Giving-Away-Your-Secrets.m4a Thu, 07 Apr 2011 09:30:00 -0700 542 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,secrets,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Women as Powerful Communicators Women as Powerful Communicators Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Women-As-Powerful-Communicators.m4a Thu, 17 Mar 2011 09:30:00 -0700 435 women,communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Making Stories Soar Making Stories Soar Stories stick with people long after data becomes a blur.

]]> Stories stick with people long after data becomes a blur.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Making-Stories-Soar.m4a Thu, 03 Mar 2011 08:30:00 -0800 553 stories,communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Questions as Leadership Questions as Leadership Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Questions-Leadership.m4a Thu, 17 Feb 2011 08:30:00 -0800 497 communication,leadership,questions,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Leadership and Listening Leadership and Listening Two listening behaviors that will get different results and foster collaboration.

]]> Two listening behaviors that will get different results and foster collaboration.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Leadership-Listening.m4a Thu, 03 Feb 2011 08:30:00 -0800 557 communication,listening,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Self-Knowledge as Leadership Self-Knowledge as Leadership Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Self-Knowledge-Leadership.m4a Thu, 20 Jan 2011 08:30:00 -0800 427 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,selfknowledge,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Building Rapport Building Rapport Rapport is easy when people’s styles match. But when there’s a mismatch, what then?

]]> Rapport is easy when people’s styles match. But when there’s a mismatch, what then?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Building-Rapport.m4a Thu, 06 Jan 2011 08:30:00 -0800 508 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel,buildingrapport false Smoothing Harsh Edges Smoothing Harsh Edges Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Smoothing-Harsh-Edges.m4a Thu, 16 Dec 2010 08:30:00 -0800 585 communication,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,Persuasion,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Three Little Phrases with Big Impact Three Little Phrases with Big Impact Phrases to keep people listening to your data and to get people to comply with your decisions.

]]> Phrases to keep people listening to your data and to get people to comply with your decisions.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Three-Little-Phrases.m4a Thu, 02 Dec 2010 08:30:00 -0800 545 communication,leadership,listen,skills,coaching,executive,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Getting Growth Acknowledged Getting Growth Acknowledged Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Getting-Growth.m4a Thu, 18 Nov 2010 08:30:00 -0800 398 communication,management,leadership,skills,coaching,Growth,executive,Confidence,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Compassion During Change Compassion During Change When a star performer suddenly declines there’s always a reason. The question is where should you look for the reason?

]]> When a star performer suddenly declines there’s always a reason. The question is where should you look for the reason?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Compassion-Change.m4a Thu, 04 Nov 2010 09:30:00 -0700 520 communication,management,leadership,skills,coaching,compassion,executive,Confidence,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false The Look & Sound of Self-Esteem The Look & Sound of Self-Esteem Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Self-Esteem.m4a Thu, 21 Oct 2010 09:30:00 -0700 511 communication,management,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,selfesteem,Confidence,professionaldevelopment,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Strategic Apologies Strategic Apologies Apologies can enhance or damage a relationship. Too few can be as damaging as too many. Here are four apologies—two to emulate, two to avoid.

]]> Apologies can enhance or damage a relationship. Too few can be as damaging as too many. Here are four apologies—two to emulate, two to avoid.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Strategic-Apologies.m4a Thu, 07 Oct 2010 09:30:00 -0700 510 communication,management,leadership,skills,coaching,executive,apology,personalgrowth,professionaldevelopment,assertion,lookandsoundofleadership,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Handling Defensive Behaviors Handling Defensive Behaviors Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Defensive-Behaviors.m4a Thu, 23 Sep 2010 09:30:00 -0700 605 communication,behavior,leadership,workplace,coaching,leaders,executive,charisma,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Unmasking a Stand-In Unmasking a Stand-In Interacting with phantoms from the past is dangerous both personally and professionally.

]]> Interacting with phantoms from the past is dangerous both personally and professionally.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Unmasking-Stand-Ins.m4a Thu, 09 Sep 2010 09:30:00 -0700 529 communication,leadership,relationships,executive,aggression,rehearsal,assertion,relationshipbuilding,executivepresence,unmasking,negativeselftalk,soundingexecutive false Leadership Behavior in Meetings Leadership Behavior in Meetings Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Meeting-Behaviors.m4a Thu, 19 Aug 2010 09:30:00 -0700 541 communication,leadership,meetings,executive,aggression,assertion,relationshipbuilding,executivepresence,soundingexecutive,dealingwithemotionalresponses,deliveringtoughfeedback,buildrelationships false The Power of Rehearsal The Power of Rehearsal Rehearsal doesn’t mean reciting by rote.

]]> Rehearsal doesn’t mean reciting by rote.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Power-of-Rehearsal.m4a Thu, 05 Aug 2010 09:30:00 -0700 475 communication,leadership,executive,aggression,assertion,relationshipbuilding,executivepresence,negativeselftalk,soundingexecutive,buildrelationships,powerofrehearsal,gettingagreement false Repairing Damaged Relationships Repairing Damaged Relationships Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Repairing-Relationships.m4a Thu, 22 Jul 2010 09:30:00 -0700 340 communication,leadership,executive,aggression,assertion,relationshipbuilding,executivepresence,negativeselftalk,soundingexecutive,dealingwithemotionalresponses,buildrelationships,gettingagreement false Three Words You Should Never Say Three Words You Should Never Say Want to boost your credibility? Stop saying these words.

]]> Want to boost your credibility? Stop saying these words.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/3-Words.m4a Thu, 08 Jul 2010 09:30:00 -0700 521 communication,leadership,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,soundingexecutive,dealingwithemotionalresponses,deliveringtoughfeedback,buildrelationships,eliminatingdistractions,disagreeagreeably false Negative Self-Talk Negative Self-Talk Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Negative-Self-Talk.m4a Thu, 24 Jun 2010 09:30:00 -0700 381 communication,leadership,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,soundingexecutive,dealingwithemotionalresponses,deliveringtoughfeedback,buildrelationships,gettingagreement,eliminatingdistractions false Don't Take It Personally Don't Take It Personally Think that insult was about you? Think again!

]]> Think that insult was about you? Think again!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Dont-Take-Personally.m4a Thu, 10 Jun 2010 09:30:00 -0700 569 communication,leadership,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,soundingexecutive,dealingwithemotionalresponses,deliveringtoughfeedback,buildrelationships,eliminatingdistractions,disagreeagreeably 75 full false Eliminating Distractions Eliminating Distractions Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Eliminating-Distractions.m4a Thu, 20 May 2010 09:30:00 -0700 404 communication,leadership,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,soundingexecutive,dealingwithemotionalresponses,deliveringtoughfeedback,buildrelationships,eliminatingdistractions,disagreeagreeably false Dealing With Emotional Responses Dealing With Emotional Responses Six tips for handling yourself when faced with others’ emotions.

]]> Six tips for handling yourself when faced with others’ emotions.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Dealing-Emotional-Responses.m4a Thu, 06 May 2010 09:30:00 -0700 514 communication,leadership,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,soundingexecutive,dealingwithemotionalresponses,deliveringtoughfeedback,buildrelationships,gettingagreement,disagreeagreeably false Delivering Tough Feedback Delivering Tough Feedback Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Delivering-Tough-Feedback.m4a Thu, 15 Apr 2010 09:30:00 -0700 372 communication,leadership,Thinking,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,soundingexecutive,deliveringtoughfeedback,buildrelationships,gettingagreement,disagreeagreeably,actasif false Disagree Agreeably Disagree Agreeably How to disagree without being disagreeable.

]]> How to disagree without being disagreeable.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Disagree-Agreeably.m4a Thu, 08 Apr 2010 09:30:00 -0700 491 communication,leadership,coaching,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,tomhenschel,soundingexecutive,buildrelationships,gettingagreement,disagreeagreeably false Sounding Executive Sounding Executive Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Sounding-Executive.m4a Thu, 25 Mar 2010 09:30:00 -0700 363 communication,leadership,coaching,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,tomhenschel,soundingexecutive,buildrelationships,gettingagreement false Getting Agreement Getting Agreement Giving instructions without getting agreement is a recipe for disappointment.

]]> Giving instructions without getting agreement is a recipe for disappointment.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Getting-Agreement.m4a Thu, 11 Mar 2010 08:30:00 -0800 489 communication,Speaking,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,tomhenschel,buildrelationships,gettingagreement false Accessing Your Best Thinking Accessing Your Best Thinking Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Accessing-Your-Best-Thinking.m4a Thu, 25 Feb 2010 08:30:00 -0800 365 communication,Speaking,leadership,Thinking,workplace,coaching,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,tomhenschel,buildrelationships,actasif false Act "As If" Act "As If" This fundamental actor’s tool helps you be perceived the way you want to be perceived.

]]> This fundamental actor’s tool helps you be perceived the way you want to be perceived.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Act-As-If.m4a Thu, 11 Feb 2010 08:30:00 -0800 571 communication,Speaking,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,tomhenschel,buildrelationships,actasif false Speaking For Yourself Speaking For Yourself Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Speaking-For-Yourself.m4a Thu, 28 Jan 2010 08:30:00 -0800 434 communication,Speaking,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,tomhenschel,buildrelationships,aggressionandassertion false Assertion Versus Aggression Assertion Versus Aggression One builds relationships, the other damages them. Are you clear which is which, and why?

]]> One builds relationships, the other damages them. Are you clear which is which, and why?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Aggression-Versus-Assertion.m4a Thu, 14 Jan 2010 08:30:00 -0800 514 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,aggression,assertion,executivepresence,tomhenschel,buildrelationships,aggressionandassertion false Stories -- The Ultimate Persuaders Stories -- The Ultimate Persuaders Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Stories-The-Ultimate-Persuaders.m4a Thu, 17 Dec 2009 08:30:00 -0800 555 communication,leadership,Shakespeare,workplace,coaching,spongebob,executive,executivepresence,tomhenschel,businessstory,successfulstories false Leadership and Self-Deception Leadership and Self-Deception Our self-limiting behaviors are invisible to us but apparent to others.

]]> Our self-limiting behaviors are invisible to us but apparent to others.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Leadership-And-Self-Deception.m4a Thu, 03 Dec 2009 08:30:00 -0800 578 leadership,executive,executivepresence false Managing Your Strengths Managing Your Strengths Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Managing-Your-Strengths.m4a Thu, 19 Nov 2009 08:30:00 -0800 349 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,executivepresence,tomhenschel,complimentaryskillsets,complimentaryskills,matureleaders false Answering Essay Questions Answering Essay Questions Avoid a long-winded ramble with this three-step model

]]> Avoid a long-winded ramble with this three-step model

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Answering-Essay-Questions.m4a Thu, 05 Nov 2009 08:30:00 -0800 658 communication,leadership,talk,workplace,coaching,executive,listeners,executivepresence,tomhenschel,essayquestions,openendedquestions false Creating Clarity Creating Clarity Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Creating-Clarity.m4a Thu, 22 Oct 2009 09:30:00 -0700 644 communication,leadership,speakers,coaching,executive,communicate,clarity,listeners,executivepresence,tomhenschel,creatingclarity,behavioraltips,decodespokenlanguage false "I Hate Politics!" "I Hate Politics!" Hating politics puts you out of the game that’s being played around you.

]]> Hating politics puts you out of the game that’s being played around you.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/I-Hate-Politics.m4a Thu, 08 Oct 2009 09:30:00 -0700 650 communication,politics,leadership,political,executive,sneaky,devious,executivepresence,tomhenschel,playgames,coachingsession,seniorleader false Getting Good Feedback Getting Good Feedback Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Getting-Good-Feedback.m4a Thu, 24 Sep 2009 09:30:00 -0700 392 networking,communication,leadership,Corporate,Feedback,executive,Speak,impression,workspace,hire,executivepresence,corporatestage false Networking Networking A crucial skill even if you’re in your job for life—which you’re not!

]]> A crucial skill even if you’re in your job for life—which you’re not!

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Networking.m4a Thu, 10 Sep 2009 09:30:00 -0700 485 networking,communication,leadership,Corporate,executive,Speak,impression,workspace,hire,executivepresence,tomhenschel,corporatestage false Your Workplace as Calling Card Your Workplace as Calling Card Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Your-Workplace-As-Calling-Card.m4a Thu, 20 Aug 2009 09:30:00 -0700 277 communication,leadership,coaching,Corporate,executive,Speak,impression,workspace,hire,executivepresence,tomhenschel,corporatestage 7 full false Sorting and Labeling Sorting and Labeling The communication tool that will set you above the rest.

]]> The communication tool that will set you above the rest.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Sorting-And-Labeling.m4a Thu, 06 Aug 2009 09:30:00 -0700 802 communication,leadership,executive,sorting,material,labeling,credible,understandable,executivepresence,tomhenschel,sortingandlabeling,communicationtool false Holding People Accountable Holding People Accountable Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Holding-People-Accountable.m4a Thu, 23 Jul 2009 09:30:00 -0700 342 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,accountable,responsible,personalaccountability,executivepresence,tomhenschel,personallyresponsible false I Talk Too Fast! I Talk Too Fast! What happens in our brains when we hear someone talk “too fast.”

]]> What happens in our brains when we hear someone talk “too fast.”

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/I-Talk-Too-Fast.m4a Thu, 09 Jul 2009 09:30:00 -0700 653 communication,Speaking,leadership,talk,listen,Talking,executive,Speak,listeners,executivepresence,tomhenschel,talktoofast false How Behaviors Change How Behaviors Change Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/How-Behaviors-Change.m4a Thu, 25 Jun 2009 09:30:00 -0700 381 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,executivepresence,tomhenschel,changingbehavior,criticalskills,longlastingchange,personalgrowthgoals,growthgoal false Positive Opposites Positive Opposites Dichotomies are great learning tools—when they’re framed positively.

]]> Dichotomies are great learning tools—when they’re framed positively.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Positive-Opposites.m4a Thu, 11 Jun 2009 09:30:00 -0700 491 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,executivepresence,tomhenschel,positiveopposites,dichotomies,learningtools,allornothingthinking false Listen Without An Agenda Listen Without An Agenda Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Listen-Without-An-Agenda.m4a Thu, 28 May 2009 09:30:00 -0700 416 communication,listening,leadership,listen,listener,workplace,coaching,executive,driving,executivepresence,tomhenschel,withoutanagenda false Choosing Persistence Choosing Persistence Two stories to fuel persistence in the face of frustrations.

]]> Two stories to fuel persistence in the face of frustrations.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Choosing-Persistence.m4a Thu, 14 May 2009 09:30:00 -0700 379 communication,leadership,executive,persistence,upbeat,persistent,jobsearching,executivepresence,tomhenschel,hardtimes,submittingreports,staypositive false Playback as Feedback Playback as Feedback Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Playback-As-Feedback.m4a Thu, 30 Apr 2009 09:30:00 -0700 292 video,audio,communication,voice,leadership,Feedback,executive,tape,playback,executivepresence,kneejerkreaction,developmenttools false A Difficult Conversation A Difficult Conversation Discussing touchy, even explosive, subjects.

]]> Discussing touchy, even explosive, subjects.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/A-Difficult-Conversation.m4a Thu, 16 Apr 2009 09:30:00 -0700 514 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,conversations,executivepresence,tomhenschel,difficultconversations,explosivesituations false Sounding Well-Spoken Sounding Well-Spoken Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Sounding-Well-Spoken.m4a Thu, 02 Apr 2009 09:30:00 -0700 329 communication,leadership,talk,workplace,coaching,executive,articulate,executivepresence,tomhenschel,wellspoken false Be Impeccable With Your Word Be Impeccable With Your Word Hold yourself accountable for what comes out of your mouth.

]]> Hold yourself accountable for what comes out of your mouth.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Be-Impeccable-With-Your-Word.m4a Thu, 19 Mar 2009 09:30:00 -0700 398 Word,communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,mouth,accountable,impeccable,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Speed of Thought Speed of Thought Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Speed-Of-Thought.m4a Thu, 05 Mar 2009 08:30:00 -0800 346 communication,behavior,leadership,Champions,workplace,coaching,executive,executivepresence,tomhenschel,speedofthought,mortals false Focus in the Face of Distractions Focus in the Face of Distractions Results are important and so is how they’re achieved.

]]> Results are important and so is how they’re achieved.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Focus-In-The-Face-Of-Distractions.m4a Thu, 19 Feb 2009 08:30:00 -0800 349 results,communication,leadership,focus,workplace,coaching,executive,distractions,frustrations,executivepresence,tomhenschel,bestinterest false Giving Powerful Feedback Giving Powerful Feedback Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Giving-Powerful-Feedback.m4a Thu, 05 Feb 2009 08:30:00 -0800 342 communication,leadership,models,workplace,coaching,Feedback,scripts,executive,executivepresence,tomhenschel,healthyfeedback,powerfulfeedback false Elevator Speeches Elevator Speeches Create crisp executive summaries of everyday topics.

]]> Create crisp executive summaries of everyday topics.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Elevator-Speeches.m4a Thu, 22 Jan 2009 08:30:00 -0800 428 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,executivepresence,tomhenschel,openendedquestions,elevatorspeech,executivesummary,executivesummaries false Messaging During Hard Times Messaging During Hard Times A time-tested formula for communicating in difficult times.

]]> A time-tested formula for communicating in difficult times.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Messaging-During-Hard-Times.m4a Thu, 11 Dec 2008 08:30:00 -0800 386 communication,leadership,fdr,executive,messaging,communicating,executivepresence,tomhenschel,hardtimes,difficulttimes,bankingcrisis,firesidechat false Becoming More Expressive Becoming More Expressive Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Becoming-More-Expressive.m4a Thu, 04 Dec 2008 08:30:00 -0800 374 communication,listening,leadership,workplace,coaching,delivery,variety,executive,skill,executivepresence,tomhenschel,expressive false What Compelling Speakers Share What Compelling Speakers Share Two qualities that will keep your listeners listening.

]]> Two qualities that will keep your listeners listening.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/What-Compelling-Speakers-Share.m4a Thu, 20 Nov 2008 08:30:00 -0800 623 communication,listening,leadership,presentations,workplace,coaching,executive,listeners,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Being Concise Being Concise Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Being-Concise.m4a Thu, 13 Nov 2008 08:30:00 -0800 312 communication,Short,leadership,coaching,Talking,executive,skill,listeners,confident,concise,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Handling Feedback Effectively Handling Feedback Effectively Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Handling-Feedback-Effectively.m4a Thu, 06 Nov 2008 08:30:00 -0800 438 communication,leadership,workplace,Personal,coaching,Feedback,executive,defensive,executivepresence,tomhenschel,nondefensive,feedbackparadox false Managing Beyond Bad Behavior Managing Beyond Bad Behavior “Repeated Headlines” can rein in ongoing bad behavior.

]]> “Repeated Headlines” can rein in ongoing bad behavior.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Managing-Beyond-Bad-Behavior.m4a Thu, 30 Oct 2008 09:30:00 -0700 407 communication,leadership,executive,spouse,boss,tool,coworker,badbehavior,manageablebehavior,repeatedheadlines,ongoingbehavior,directreport false Assume Equality Assume Equality Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Assume-Equality-2.m4a Thu, 23 Oct 2008 09:30:00 -0700 346 money,communication,Experience,education,leadership,coaching,executive,authority,equality,executivepresence,tomhenschel,assumeequality false Act with Intention Act with Intention Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Act-With-Intention.m4a Thu, 16 Oct 2008 09:30:00 -0700 335 communication,leadership,mind,leaders,executive,organizations,intention,intuitive,clarify,beacons,reallife, ,executivepresence false Project The Image You Want Project The Image You Want Manage how you’re perceived in the workplace.

]]> Manage how you’re perceived in the workplace.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Project-The-Image-You-Want.m4a Thu, 09 Oct 2008 09:30:00 -0700 368 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,impression,manage,perceived,excercises,executivepresence,tomhenschel,leadershipskill false The Art of Chat The Art of Chat Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/The-Art-of-Chat.m4a Thu, 02 Oct 2008 09:30:00 -0700 410 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,chat,executive,chatting,relationshipbuilding,executivepresence,tomhenschel,learnedskill false Choosing Stories Over "Truth" Choosing Stories Over "Truth" Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Choosing-Stories-Over-Truth.m4a Thu, 25 Sep 2008 09:30:00 -0700 330 stories,communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,truth,executive,event,executivepresence,tomhenschel,falsetruth 41 full false Answer What's Asked Answer What's Asked How to sound executive when answering questions.

]]> How to sound executive when answering questions.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Answer-Whats-Asked.m4a Thu, 18 Sep 2008 09:30:00 -0700 451 communication,listening,leadership,questions,executive,answer,listeners,executivepresence,tomhenschel,questioners,tunedin,soundexecutive false Driving Your Message Home Driving Your Message Home Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Drive-Your-Message-Home.m4a Thu, 11 Sep 2008 09:30:00 -0700 346 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,message,executive,listeners,behaviors,executivepresence,tomhenschel,executivesspeak 40 full false Owning Miscommunications Owning Miscommunications Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Owning-Miscommunication.m4a Thu, 04 Sep 2008 09:30:00 -0700 330 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,logic,executivepresence,tomhenschel,miscommunications,communicationstyle,removeblame false Coaching Versus Therapy Coaching Versus Therapy Determining what coaching is and what it isn’t.

]]> Determining what coaching is and what it isn’t.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Coaching-V-Therapy.m4a Thu, 28 Aug 2008 09:30:00 -0700 443 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,Therapy,executive,courage,executivepresence,tomhenschel,coachingversustherapy,personalhistories false Keeping Repeated Material Fresh Keeping Repeated Material Fresh Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Keeping-Repeated-Material-Fresh.m4a Thu, 21 Aug 2008 09:30:00 -0700 344 communication,fresh,actors,leadership,speakers,coaching,executive,listeners,repeating,executivepresence,tomhenschel,repeatedmaterial false Managing Your Boss Managing Your Boss Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Managing-Your-Boss.m4a Thu, 14 Aug 2008 09:30:00 -0700 315 communication,leadership,workplace,customer,coaching,managing,executive,boss,executivepresence,tomhenschel,harvardbusinessreview false When Learning Makes Things Worse When Learning Makes Things Worse Integrating new behaviors may actually send you backwards.

]]> Integrating new behaviors may actually send you backwards.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/When-Learning-Makes-Things-Worse.m4a Thu, 07 Aug 2008 09:30:00 -0700 365 communication,performance,leadership,Learning,workplace,coaching,executive,negative,setback,executivepresence,tomhenschel,newbehaviors false Building Trust Building Trust Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Building-Trust.m4a Thu, 31 Jul 2008 09:30:00 -0700 369 building,communication,behavior,leadership,workplace,coaching,Discussion,executive,trust,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Staying on Track Staying on Track Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Staying-on-Track.m4a Thu, 24 Jul 2008 09:30:00 -0700 287 communication,leadership,control,workplace,coaching,communicator,Talking,executive,Distracted,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Who's Coachable? Who's Coachable? Can your direct reports be coached to achieve their potential? Can you?

]]> Can your direct reports be coached to achieve their potential? Can you?

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Who's-Coachable.m4a Thu, 17 Jul 2008 09:30:00 -0700 382 coach,communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,employee,coachable,executivepresence,tomhenschel,coachingcandidate false Remembering Names Remembering Names Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Remembering-Names.m4a Thu, 10 Jul 2008 09:30:00 -0700 254 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,Confidence,names,executivepresence,tomhenschel,remeberingnames,criticalskill false Managing Nervousness Managing Nervousness Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Managing-Nervousness.m4a Thu, 03 Jul 2008 09:30:00 -0700 251 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,leaders,executive,nerves,nervousness,executivepresence,tomhenschel,mentalcapacity,negativemessages false Creating Charisma Creating Charisma Turn up your heat from a gentle simmer to a rolling boil.

]]> Turn up your heat from a gentle simmer to a rolling boil.

]]> Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Creating-Charisma.m4a Thu, 26 Jun 2008 09:30:00 -0700 404 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,leaders,executive,charisma,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Lead With Your Heart Lead With Your Heart Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Lead-With-Your-Heart.m4a Thu, 19 Jun 2008 09:30:00 -0700 295 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,leaders,executive,executivepresence,tomhenschel,manageemotion false Choose the Impression You Make Choose the Impression You Make Essential Communications - Tom Henschel http://www.essentialcomm.com/podcast/Choose-the-Impression-You-Make.m4a Thu, 12 Jun 2008 09:30:00 -0700 208 communication,leadership,workplace,coaching,executive,impression,executivepresence,tomhenschel false Ask for What You Want Ask for What You Want Give yourself permission to ask without apology or fear.

]]> Give yourself permission to ask without apology or fear.

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