Hey Super Sober Heroes— I’m back with another special update, this time joined by my longtime friend and guest, Phil from Here Queer Sober.

Phil shares the exciting news about the first-ever Here Queer Sober Roundup, happening next month in New York City at the Marriott Marquis. What started as a small Facebook group in February 2024 has grown into a vibrant community of 2,200+ queer sober members—and now they’re bringing that energy into an in-person celebration of recovery, resilience, and connection.

In this episode, we talk about:
 🌈 The growth of Here Queer Sober from a handful of members to a global community.
 🗽 What to expect at the 2025 Roundup in NYC—two full programming tracks for both 12-steppers and alternative recovery pathways.
 💌 Why spaces like this matter, especially when queer communities continue to face discrimination and erasure.
 🤝 How inclusivity—whether you’re in recovery, sober by choice, or simply curious—is at the heart of this event.

Even if you can’t make it to New York, you’ll hear how Here Queer Sober is creating a safe, uplifting space where all letters of the LGBTQIA+ rainbow and all recovery journeys are respected.

👉 Ready to register? Don’t wait—spots are almost full!
Sign up now at: herequeersober.org/hqs-roundup-2025

And if you just want to stay connected, you can join the Here Queer Sober Facebook Group or reach out directly to Phil at phil@herequeersober.org

Until next time—stay sober, friends. 💪🌈

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Hey Super Sober Heroes— I’m back on the mic with a long-overdue update!

It’s been almost six months since my last episode, and so much has happened in my life and recovery journey. As of August 18, 2025, I’m 1,543 days sober, and I’m grateful for a listener message that reminded me just how much this podcast still matters.

In this episode, I share:

• Why I paused the show and how I’ve been learning to set healthier boundaries.
• The powerful impact of working not one, but two 12-step programs.
• Rebuilding relationships with family and creating new ones through faith and community.
• Navigating major life changes, including separation, a new relationship, and growing into alignment with my values.
• How my recovery journey led to unexpected doors opening—like starting my fitness business, deepening my coaching practice, and stepping into new opportunities.

This isn’t a “weekly return” just yet, but it is a promise that the show isn’t going away forever. Think of it as a check-in, a reminder that sometimes we need to pause and regroup, but that doesn’t mean we’re done.

If this podcast has meant something to you, I’d love to hear from you. Reach out anytime at:
 📧 bettersrq@gmail.com
📱 Instagram: @gayapodcast

Your words keep this community alive. Thank you for walking with me on this journey—and until next time, stay sober, friends.

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Hey there, Super Sober Heroes 💖

It’s your host, Sober Steve, checking in with 1,397 days of sobriety and a big announcement: gAy A is going on an indefinite hiatus.

After nearly four amazing years, 225+ episodes, and hundreds of powerful stories from across the queer sober spectrum, it’s time for me to shift my energy inward—toward my local community in Sarasota, Florida.

When I launched gAy A at just 90 days sober, I couldn’t find the kind of podcast I needed—so I made it. Now, there are so many incredible queer sober podcasts out there, and I’m proud to have been part of this growing movement.

This isn’t goodbye forever—just a "ta-ta for now" (TTFN). The podcast feed isn’t going anywhere. The archive is packed with vulnerable, empowering, inspiring interviews from our incredible community. So if you're new here, or if you’ve missed a few episodes along the way, this is a perfect time to catch up.

Stay Connected:

🧠 Follow my personal journey: @JustSteveSRQ
🎧 Explore the full archive: 225+ episodes of queer sober inspiration

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Super Sober Heroes, we’re back with another in-person interview, and this week, I’m sitting down with my friend Dillon! 🏳️‍🌈💜 Dillon opens up about his journey to sobriety, how a birthday wake-up call led him to quit drinking, and the powerful role of resilience in his recovery.

We talk about:
✨ The moment he knew he had to change
✨ How sobriety has transformed his life and relationships
✨ Finding strength in grief after loss
✨ Navigating the queer community as a sober person
✨ His go-to mindset shifts & coping strategies

Dillon’s story is a reminder that it gets better—and that we are stronger than we ever imagined. 💪

Listen now on all podcasting platforms! 🎧✨

📲 Follow Dillon: @OGDillyDilly91
📲 Follow gAy A Podcast: @gAyApodcast

#QueerSobriety #SoberQueer #LGBTQRecovery #SoberLife #RecoveryJourney #QueerCommunity #GriefAndRecovery #ItGetsBetter #SoberCurious #GaySobriety

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Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! Your host Sober Steve is here with 1,357 days sober, and this episode is extra special because we are recording in person for the first time! I’m thrilled to welcome India X Miller, a powerful advocate, trans activist, and sober warrior who has been navigating the world of recovery for over 40 years.

India shares their incredible journey of sobriety, from getting clean as a teenager to experiencing relapse and reclaiming their recovery. We talk about the unique challenges of being trans and sober, the fight for LGBTQ+ rights in Florida, and how to stay strong and connected in recovery despite all the obstacles.

From navigating gender identity to breaking barriers in 12-step spaces, India opens up about resilience, authenticity, and fighting for visibility and acceptance in both recovery and the world at large.

✨ Topics Covered:

• India’s journey through addiction, relapse, and long-term sobriety
• The power of visibility as a trans person in recovery
• How to navigate religious trauma in 12-step spaces
• The importance of gender-inclusive language in recovery
• Finding strength in community and creating LGBTQ+ safe spaces
• India’s work in media & advocacy, including their radio show

Connect with India X Miller:

📲 Instagram: @IndiaXMiller

📲 Tik-Tok: @IndiaXMiller
📻 Radio Show: Trans Cis Her on WSLR (WSLR Website)

Want More Queer Sober Community?

🌈 Join Here Queer Sober! We’re hosting a sober LGBTQ+ conference in NYC this September! Connect, learn, and celebrate with us. Learn More & Register Here

🔗 Follow gAy A on Instagram: @gAyApodcast

🎧 New episodes drop every Thursday! Hit subscribe so you never miss a show.

💬 Have a topic or guest suggestion? DM me on Instagram or email gayapodcast@gmail.com!

Thank you for tuning in, and remember: Stay queer. Stay sober. Stay unapologetically YOU. 💖✨

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Super Sober Heroes, we're back for Part 2 with Phil B, co-founder of Here Queer Sober! 🎉 And this time, we’re shaking things up—AI is asking the questions!

Phil and I tackle some of the biggest misconceptions and deeper truths about queer sobriety, including:
✨ Can queer and sober people actually have fun? (Spoiler: YES.)
✨ What’s it like dating and navigating relationships in sobriety?
✨ How do chosen families evolve in recovery?
✨ What’s one piece of wisdom we wish we knew in our first year?
✨ How to respond when someone says, ‘I can’t imagine being queer and sober.’

Plus, we chat more about the first-ever Hear Queer Sober Conference coming September 27-29, 2024, in NYC—and how you can be part of it! 🌈✨

Resources & Links:

📍 Register for the Here Queer Sober Conference:
➡️ Find the link pinned in the Here Queer Sober Facebook Group
📧 Email Phil at philip@hearqueersober.org

📢 Want to lead a workshop or panel?
🎤 DM me on Instagram @gAyApodcast

📍 Follow Phil & Here Queer Sober:
📲 Instagram: @herequeersober

🎧 Listen now & join the conversation! And as always—stay sober, friends. 💖✨

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Super Sober Heroes, welcome back! Today, I’m joined once again by my dear friend and co-founder of Here Queer Sober, Phil B! With 7 years, 9 months, and 24 days sober, Phil shares about his whirlwind year—completing his master’s degree in counseling, navigating job offers, moving into his own apartment, and embracing the next chapter of his recovery and career.

We also dive into:
✨ The big life transitions that tested his recovery—and how he stayed grounded
✨ Balancing sobriety & career in addiction counseling
✨ Finding the right meeting routine after so much change
✨ The first-ever Here Queer Sober Conference (coming September 27-29, 2024) and how you can get involved!

Phil reminds us that sobriety isn’t about avoiding life—it’s about showing up fully, embracing change, and creating something meaningful. 🌈💪

Resources & Links:

📍 Register for the Here Queer Sober Conference:
➡️ Find the link pinned in the Here Queer Sober Facebook Group
📧 Email Phil at philip@herequeersober.org

📢 Want to lead a workshop or panel?
🎤 DM me on Instagram @gAyApodcast

📍 Follow Phil & Here Queer Sober:
📲 Instagram: @herequeersober

🎧 Listen now & get ready for part two with Phil coming soon! And as always—stay sober, friends. 💖✨

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In this episode of Gay A: The Queer Sober Hero Show, host Steve is joined by the amazing Holland, who shares his journey to recovery, approach to spirituality, and how sobriety has transformed his life. Holland, who celebrates a sobriety date of February 2, 2022, opens up about growing up in Hawaii and Alaska, their struggles with addiction, and finding their way back to recovery after a series of challenges. Holland also discusses the importance of service, humility, and staying connected to their queer and recovery communities.

Key Topics Discussed:

• Holland’s early years in Hawaii and Alaska and their experience with addiction starting at a young age.
• The challenges of balancing recovery and spirituality and how embracing ambiguity with their higher power has been a game-changer.
• How sobriety has allowed them to process big feelings and lean on tools like therapy, service, and community connection.
• The power of service in recovery, from giving rides to newcomers to being active in the service structure of AA.
• Navigating friendships, relationships, and dating as a queer person in recovery and the importance of setting boundaries and standards.
• Holland’s daily practices for maintaining sobriety, including meditation, gratitude, and embracing humility in their professional and personal life.
• A focus on progress over perfection and the mantra, “Let go, let God,” that keeps them grounded.

Memorable Quotes:

• “Being sober means I get to feel all the big feelings and then rely on tools to not do the crazy next steps.”
• “I never want to be too big to clean up chairs because that’s where I meet future sponsees.”
• “You don’t have to pay back taxes for the person you were. You deserve good things now.”

Resources Mentioned:

• Book: Every Feeling Is Big – A poetry book about heartbreak and relationships in recovery. [Available on Amazon.]

Stay Connected:

Follow us on Instagram @gAyApodcast for updates, behind-the-scenes content, and more.

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Episode Highlights

🌍 Traveling Sober & Building Community:
Johnny shares how he founded Sober Gay Adventures, offering intimate, 10-day trips for queer sober travelers to explore the world with accountability and connection. His goal was to create meaningful travel experiences for those in recovery, providing fellowship in small groups across the globe.

🏳️‍🌈 Embracing Queer Joy:
Johnny talks about loving the vibrant, campy, and dramatic aspects of queer culture and how that community connection has deepened in his sobriety.

💔 Navigating Loss & Addiction:
Johnny opens up about how the sudden passing of his best friend led to years of heavy drinking and eventual morning drinking. His breaking point came after a health scare that led him to fully commit to recovery.

🛠️ Sobriety Tools:
Johnny highlights the importance of daily meetings, meditation, gratitude lists, and building authentic connections as essential tools in his recovery.

🌿 Sober Gay Adventures in 2025:
Johnny shares upcoming travel experiences including:

• London to Paris: Iconic city exploration with day trips to Stonehenge and Mont-Saint-Michel.
• Italy Tour: Rome, Florence, Venice with immersive food tours and Tuscany day trips.
• Crete, Greece Retreat: A yoga and meditation retreat with daily excursions, evening sharing circles, and themed celebrations.

Connect with Johnny

🔗 Website: sobergayadventures.com
📸 Instagram: @sobergayadventures
📘 Facebook: Sober Gay Adventures

Stay Connected with gAy A

📲 Follow us on Instagram: @gAyApodcast
💌 Want to share your story or ask a question? Send a DM on Instagram or visit sobersteve.com to guest or connect!

🎧 New episodes every Thursday!
Until next time, stay sober, friends! 🌈✨

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Super Sober Heroes, today I’m joined by Adam Schuler, a writer and advocate for addiction recovery, who shares his powerful journey through relapse, resilience, and ultimately rediscovering joy in sobriety.

Adam gets candid about:
 ✨ The role of relapse in his recovery journey—and why it's not a failure, but a teacher
✨ How connection & community helped him finally break free from addiction
✨ The unexpected realization that changed his recovery: joy matters
✨ His approach to structure, accountability, and rebuilding a sober life
✨ How writing became his creative outlet and a tool for healing

Plus, we talk about his new book, Trudge: The Road to Happy Destiny 📖, a collection of parables, prose, and meditations on addiction and recovery.

Resources & Links:

📚 Check out Adam’s book: Trudge: The Road to Happy Destiny
➡️ Available on Amazon (Kindle & Paperback)

📚 Upcoming Memoir: Adam and Everything—Coming March 2024!

📲 Follow Adam on Instagram: @adamschulerwrites

🎧 Listen now & join the conversation! And as always—stay sober, friends. 💖✨

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Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! This week on Gay A, I’m joined by returning guest and podcast favorite, Mark, as we dive into the transformative power of sobriety and how it’s helped him embrace his authentic queer self.

From growing up in a Catholic family with strict gender norms to navigating the complexities of being openly gay in the workplace, Mark shares his journey of self-discovery, healing, and unapologetically owning his queerness—brooches, skirts, and all!

We also discuss:
🌈 Reconnecting with queerness after decades of societal and self-imposed barriers
🌟 How sobriety teaches us to relearn lessons we’ve forgotten
💔 The impact of loss on sobriety and self-growth
💪 Why authenticity is a practice, not a destination

Whether you’re navigating your own queer identity, seeking inspiration to live authentically, or just here for Mark’s fabulousness, this episode is a must-listen!

Connect with Mark:
Follow him on Instagram: @HeyMarko8

Join the Conversation:
🌟 What steps have you taken to live your most authentic self?
🌟 How has sobriety helped you reconnect with your identity?
Let us know! Email us or connect on socials @GayAPodcast.

Don’t Miss Out!
Follow Gay A wherever you listen to podcasts for new episodes every Thursday!

#GayAPodcast #QueerSobriety #LivingAuthentically #LGBTQRecovery #SobrietyJourney #QueerCommunity #SoberLife

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In this episode of gAy A, your queer sober hero show, I’m sharing holiday tips and tricks to help you navigate the festive season while staying sober. Whether you’re celebrating your first holiday in recovery or just looking for a little extra support, this episode dives into advice from listeners and my own experience on avoiding triggers, setting boundaries, and thriving through the season.

I’m also celebrating 1300 days of continuous sobriety and reflecting on the tools and community that have helped me along the way. If the holidays feel overwhelming, you’re not alone, and we’ve got you covered!

Episode Highlights:

• Why the Holidays Are Challenging for Sobriety:
  • Unrealistic expectations for joy and happiness can amplify feelings of isolation.
  • Family dynamics and alcohol-heavy work events can be major triggers.
  • Reflection on the past year may bring up both positive and difficult emotions.
• Listener Advice for Staying Sober:
  • “If you feel stressed or tempted, just leave. You always have a way out.” – Laura
  • “Avoid triggers at all costs. Prepare mentally for difficult situations.” – J Dusty Grimes
  • “Sobriety is the best gift you’ll ever receive. Stay humble and grateful.” – Charlie Gray
• Practical Sobriety Tips:
  • Use HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired) to avoid emotional pitfalls.
  • Set boundaries for yourself and plan an exit strategy for challenging events.
  • Lean on sober support systems like meetings, literature, or sobriety podcasts.
  • Focus on mindfulness and breathing exercises to manage stress in real-time.
• My Reflections on Celebrating Without Alcohol:
  • Learning to embrace sobriety as a gift.
  • How recovery tools and planning have helped me navigate triggers.
  • The joy of celebrating milestones and holidays sober and authentically.

Want to Share Your Story?
I’d love to feature you on the show in the new year! Send me an email at gayapodcast@gmail.com or DM me on social media @gayapodcast to share your experiences with sobriety and recovery.

Thank You for Listening!
Thank you for tuning in to gAy A. Wishing you a safe, happy, and sober holiday season. I’ll be taking a short break over the holidays but will return with fresh episodes in the new year. Until then, stay safe, stay grounded, and most importantly—stay sober, friends.

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In this episode, originally released on April 22nd, 2022, Steve welcomes Scott to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Follow Scott on Instagram @scotttgrasso and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast.

Also check out their website: https://www.scottgrasso.com/

Thank you for listening. Please rate and review if you have found this information helpful.

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com

Or Follow Us wherever you are listening so you can get new episodes when they come out every Monday and Thursday. Until that time, stay sober, friends!

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Episode Description:
Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! This week on Gay A, I’m diving back into the vault to revisit one of my earliest episodes on astrology and addiction. Originally recorded at just 105 days sober, this episode explores how our zodiac signs might influence our relationship with alcohol.

But that’s not all—I'm adding fresh insights and exploring a new article on zodiac signs and their connections to other addictive tendencies. Whether you’re a Leo who loves to splurge (looking at you, Amazon cart), or a Pisces drawn to emotional escapism, there's something here for everyone.

So, does your sign align with your past or present tendencies? Let's break it down together!

What’s Next?
✨ Listen to the full episode and share your thoughts on how your zodiac sign aligns with your past habits.
✨ Join the conversation: Email me, text the show, or connect on socials @GayAPodcast.
✨ Don’t forget to follow Gay A for weekly episodes every Thursday!

Resources Mentioned:

• Original Zodiac and Alcohol Article
• New Zodiac and Addiction Article

#GayAPodcast #QueerSobriety #AstrologyAndAddiction #ZodiacSigns #SoberCurious #LGBTQRecovery #SoberJourney #AddictionRecovery

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Sober Steve is joined by Ralf Rasmussen, host of RealClearFetish! Talks RealClearPlay!
 Ralf shares his journey from addiction to seven years of sobriety, delving into the challenges and triumphs of navigating the intersection of recovery, kink, and queer identity.

We discuss:
🌈 The power of embracing authentic queer identity in sobriety.
🖤 Ralf’s journey through addiction, recovery, and reclaiming his kink life without substances.
🎤 How creating a podcast and a sober kink community became pillars of his recovery.
💡 Insights on navigating mental health and ADHD in recovery.

Whether you’re curious about sober kink, need inspiration for your recovery journey, or want to hear from someone living their truth, this episode is packed with wisdom, humor, and hope.

Guest Info:
Find Ralf’s podcast, Real Clear Fetish Talks, on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube.
Follow him on social media @realclearfetish or email at realclearfetish@gmail.com.

What’s Next?
Hit play to hear Ralf’s inspiring journey! Don’t forget to follow gAy A for weekly episodes, and leave a review to help other sober queer heroes find us.

#GayAPodcast #QueerSobriety #SoberKink #RecoveryJourney #RealClearFetish #LGBTQRecovery #SoberHeroes

Photo of Ralf by @joshidotphoto

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Check out my guest appearance on RealClearTalk this week, and check out the show wherever you find this podcast!!

Show notes from the episode:

Steve B has been sober since May 28th, 2021, and is the host of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show. 
Having isolating during his drinking, he has only begun embracing his interests in leather, fetish, and kink in sobriety- something he believes is necessary for him in order to live a full, happy, and sober life. 
He is forever grateful for his sober family, his podcasting community, and kinksters like you!
#RealClearFetishTalksRealClearPlay
Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]
Instagram: @gayapodcast
Instagram: @juststevesrq
All podcast platforms: 
gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show
#RealClearFetishTalksRealClearPlay
Music: Valence - Infinite [NCS Release]
Recorded on 17th October 2024 on Zoom, see original video on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/Q0aY-8QvW6U
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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In this episode of Gay A: The Queer Sober Hero Show, host Sober Steve welcomes Richard Dean, a fellow sober friend, to share his inspiring journey through addiction, recovery, and the exploration of codependence. Richard opens up about the challenges he faced in early sobriety, the lessons he learned from relapse, and the powerful transformation he experienced through programs like Alcoholics Anonymous and Codependents Anonymous. Together, they discuss the unique aspects of queer sobriety, the importance of finding balance in relationships, and the pivotal role of fellowship in maintaining sobriety.

Topics Covered:

• Richard’s journey from addiction to recovery, including relapses and the turning points that inspired lasting change.
• Navigating queer identity in sobriety and the importance of community connection.
• The impact of codependency in relationships and how Codependents Anonymous helped Richard find balance.
• Staying close to program practices, the role of daily routines, and how meditation, prayer, and fellowship play into Richard’s recovery.
• Richard’s advice on staying connected and finding joy in the present, along with embracing authenticity and freedom in life.

What's Next? Hear the full episode to dive into Richard’s story and gain valuable insights into navigating recovery and codependence as part of the queer sober community. Make sure to follow Gay A on your favorite podcast platform to catch new episodes every Thursday!

Follow Richard Dean: Instagram: @richarddean326

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In this episode of gAy A: The Queer Sober Hero Show, Sober Steve welcomes back Julianne Griffin, aka Jewels, the founder of Swift Steps—a unique sober community for Swifties in recovery. They dive deep into the therapeutic power of journaling, finding balance in sobriety, and the challenges of staying accountable in recovery. Jules shares how the love for Taylor Swift’s music, lyrics, and journey has become a powerful anchor for Swift Steps members to connect, support each other, and grow.

What’s Covered in This Episode:

• Swift Steps 101: For those unfamiliar with Swift Steps, Jules provides an overview of this inspiring recovery community for Swifties.
• Journaling with Taylor: Discover how the Swift Steps course, Blank Spaces and Brave Faces, uses Taylor Swift's music and lyrics as a journaling framework, encouraging members to explore their recovery journeys, release shame, and embrace self-compassion.
• Personal Growth and Accountability: Jules reflects on the challenges of showing up for herself, balancing self-care with the demands of community leadership, and the importance of support networks in recovery.
• Navigating Family Triggers: From co-dependency to challenging family relationships, Jules opens up about the struggles of setting boundaries and seeking personal growth within recovery.
• The Power of Swift Steps Community: Hear how Swift Steps members inspire each other, keep each other accountable, and bring a shared purpose that continues to enrich Jules’ own journey in sobriety.

What’s Next?
Curious to learn more about Swift Steps or join this vibrant community? Head over to their social media @swiftsteps13 or check out swiftsteps.org to join the mailing list and receive all the details.

Tune in for insights, laughs, and a whole lot of Taylor-inspired recovery wisdom, and don’t forget to hit "follow" so you never miss an episode of gAy A! 🌈✨

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Hey there, super sober heroes! 🦸🏽‍♂️ This week on Gay A, Sober Steve is thrilled to welcome back a fan-favorite guest and globetrotter, Frankie New! Steve and Frankie dive into a topic close to Frankie's heart: Traveling in Sobriety.

In This Episode: Join Steve and Frankie as they discuss the unique adventures and perspectives that come with sober travel. From finding queer-friendly destinations and the occasional surprise doll museum to embracing the joy of being fully present in each moment, Frankie shares insights on the empowering freedom that sobriety brings to his journeys. Here’s what else to look forward to:

• 🎒 Sober Travel Tips: How to stay grounded, prioritize safety, and find enjoyment—wherever in the world you are.
• 🌏 Navigating Different Cultures: Frankie's experiences with queer and sober spaces across continents and why he feels more comfortable than ever traveling solo.
• 💫 Rediscovering Fun and Connection: How being sober has allowed Frankie to connect more deeply with the places he visits and the people he meets.

Follow Frankie on Instagram and TikTok at @FashionQueerHistorian to keep up with his latest journeys and fascinating research!

Follow Us Here, and on all the Socials @gAyApodcast

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Hey, Super Sober Heroes! In this episode of gAy A, Sober Steve welcomes back Jaycee K. Clark for a powerful conversation on the impact of social media on mental health and sobriety. With over 1,227 days sober, Steve sits down with Jaycee to discuss how social media plays a dual role in our lives—both as a tool for connection and a source of distraction. Jaycee, who will be one of the keynote speakers at the Here, Queer, Sober event next September, shares personal insights from her recent social media hiatus and how it transformed her recovery and self-care routine.

Key Takeaways from the Episode:

• Social Media Hiatus: Jaycee opens up about taking a break from social media to focus on her mental health and emotional well-being. She highlights the importance of recognizing when social media becomes a distraction and how taking a step back helped her reconnect with herself.
• The Power of Disconnecting: How disconnecting from the online world can create space for deep emotional healing, self-reflection, and improved mental health in sobriety.
• Being Intentional: Jaycee emphasizes the need to be intentional with social media use—knowing when to engage, when to take a break, and how to create healthy boundaries.
• Balancing Creation and Consumption: As someone who uses social media for activism and sobriety advocacy, Jaycee shares tips on balancing content creation and consumption while staying grounded and present.
• Lessons in Recovery: They dive into the parallels between social media dependency and addiction, discussing how both require self-awareness and personal boundaries to maintain balance.
• Being Vulnerable and Staying Connected: Jaycee talks about the importance of staying connected with her recovery community, even when offline, and how being open with others about her struggles helps her stay grounded.

Key Moments:

• Jaycee explains how her relationship with social media changed after entering recovery.
• How taking a break from social media empowered her to focus on her mental health and sobriety.
• Steve and Jaycee discuss the pros and cons of social media in the recovery space and how to navigate the pressures of being online.
• Jaycee talks about using social media as a tool for advocacy and sharing her recovery journey out loud.

Connect with Jaycee:
Follow Jaycee Clark on Instagram: @officialjayceek

Resources Mentioned:

• Here, Queer, Sober event in NYC, September 2024

Stay Connected:
Follow us on Instagram: @gAyApodcast
Find more resources and episodes at www.sobersteve.com.

Tune in Every Thursday:
Make sure to hit Follow so you don’t miss new episodes of gAy A every Thursday!

If you enjoyed this episode:
Please leave us a rating and review on your favorite podcast platform. Your feedback helps us reach more people in the LGBTQ+ recovery community.

Stay Sober, Friends!

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Hey there, Super Sober Heroes! In today’s episode of gAy A, host Sober Steve (with 1,227 days sober!) welcomes back Danielle—one of our long-time pod family members, to dive into a topic that many in the LGBTQ+ community can relate to: Being “Out” in Sobriety.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Danielle reflects on her experiences of coming out in college and how it mirrors her sobriety journey.
• They discuss the importance of recovering out loud and the impact of living authentically in both your sexuality and your recovery.
• The connection between vulnerability and community, and how being open helps others feel less alone.
• Danielle shares how running is part of her self-care routine in sobriety and how she finds both mental and physical health benefits from it.
• Why it’s so crucial to be present and how sobriety allows Danielle and Steve to fully embrace life’s ups and downs.
• The societal assumptions about the queer community and sobriety, and how the LGBTQ+ community continues to evolve with more support and visibility.

Danielle’s candid and insightful take on being open about sobriety, sexuality, and life is sure to inspire anyone struggling with the idea of coming out in any aspect of their life. The conversation highlights the importance of connection, community, and embracing your authentic self, no matter the fears or challenges you face.

Key Moments:

• Danielle shares her personal story about coming out in college after a tragic event sparked her to live authentically.
• The parallel between coming out as LGBTQ+ and coming out as sober.
• The importance of vulnerability and how recovering out loud has helped others start their sobriety journeys.
• Reflections on how the queer community continues to grow stronger despite challenges.

Connect with Danielle:
Follow Danielle on Instagram at @DC_and_Rosie (closed account but accepting friends of Steve!)

Resources Mentioned:

• Looking for support in your sobriety journey? Visit www.sobersteve.com for more resources and community connections.

Make sure to hit Follow so you don’t miss any of our upcoming episodes, and don’t forget to tune in every Thursday for new content.

Follow us on Social Media:

• Instagram: @gAyApodcast
• Facebook: gAy A Podcast

If you enjoyed this episode:
Leave us a rating or review on your favorite podcast platform! Your feedback helps us reach more listeners and grow this amazing community.

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In this week’s episode, host Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, continues the dive into gAy A's archives with Part 2 of "Sober Support from the Vault." After more than 225 episodes, Steve brings back some powerful early interviews that still resonate today. Whether you’re a new listener or a longtime fan, this episode offers a chance to revisit impactful stories from some of gAy A's earliest guests who continue to make waves in the queer sober community.

Featuring clips from early interviews with Charlie Gray, Danielle (Daisy Soul Child), Michael from Happy Without The Hooch, and Scott, this episode is packed with wisdom, vulnerability, and inspiration. From exploring how sexuality intersects with addiction to understanding the deep support that the sober community provides, this episode is not one to miss.

Key Takeaways:

• Charlie Gray on Vulnerability: Hear how Charlie used his memoir, At Least I'm Not a Frog, to be open and raw about his darkest moments, and why he believes it’s important to be honest about the "dirty" parts of addiction to help others feel less alone.
• Danielle (Daisy Soul Child): In this clip, Danielle talks about coming out as a lesbian in the Black community and how hiding her true identity played a role in her addiction. She offers powerful advice on how accepting and loving yourself can be a key to recovery.
• Michael from Happy Without The Hooch: Michael shares how being gay impacted his relationship with alcohol, especially in a world where LGBT socializing often revolves around bars. He also reveals how he found new ways to build community and connection in sobriety.
• Scott's Legacy: In one of the most poignant clips of the episode, Steve reflects on Scott, a friend and fellow member of his home group who passed away sober. Scott’s wisdom and dedication to sobriety, despite life’s challenges, continues to inspire Steve and the gAy A community.

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In this exciting two-part special, gAy A is diving into the archives! Host Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, takes you on a journey back to some of the earliest episodes of the show. With over 225 episodes and more than three years of content, it’s easy to miss some of the incredible stories shared by guests who have since become part of the gAy A family. So, Steve has pulled some of the best clips from his first solo episode, as well as his initial interviews with Joey, Gabriel, and Kristen, to revisit their early sobriety journeys.

Listen in as Steve reflects on the growth of both the podcast and his own recovery, and enjoy hearing how these early guests have continued to thrive in their own sober lives. From navigating LGBTQIA+ sober living, to the impact of social media on recovery, to powerful insights on sexuality and sobriety, this episode is packed with wisdom, growth, and inspiration.

Key Takeaways:

• Steve's Early Sobriety: Hear Steve’s raw and vulnerable story from his very first solo episode, where he talks about the end of his drinking career, how the pandemic impacted his addiction, and finding his way in recovery through LGBT+ Zoom meetings.
• Joey from Rainbow Hill: Revisit Joey’s first appearance on gAy A where he discusses the inspiration behind Rainbow Hill Sober Living and his tips for staying humble, cutting out toxic people, and staying accountable in recovery.
• Gabriel on Social Media and Sobriety: Gabriel shares how social media played a crucial role in his sobriety, offering connection and community, especially during the isolating days of the pandemic.
• Kristen on Gender Identity and Sobriety: Kristen, a non-binary member of the gAy A family, reflects on how their gender identity and sexuality impacted their addiction, and offers powerful advice for those navigating life, addiction, and recovery.

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Me:
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Joey:
- Rainbow Hill Recovery 🏣
- Rainbow Hill Sober Living 🏡
- Totally Sober 🔴
- Joey’s IG 🟢
Gabriel:
- Gabriel on IG 🟢

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In this week’s episode of gAy A, Sober Steve the Podcast Guy sits down with his long-time sober sibling, Savannah. With 1,215 days sober for Steve and 1,365 days for Savannah, they share an honest conversation about surviving the challenges of sobriety—especially in a world where alcohol seems to be everywhere. From navigating social events and mocktails to processing personal triggers and using sobriety tools, this episode is packed with wisdom for anyone looking to go from simply surviving to truly thriving in sobriety.

Key Takeaways:

• Surviving a World Full of Alcohol: Savannah and Steve discuss how they handle being surrounded by alcohol in everyday spaces—from grocery stores to Pride events—and how to stay grounded in sobriety.
• Tools for Thriving: Savannah shares how she stays strong in her recovery through the use of meetings, staying connected with her sober network, and never being afraid to ask for help.
• Triggers and Emotions: From dealing with life stressors like school and mental health to handling unexpected emotions, Savannah opens up about how she copes without turning to alcohol.
• Mocktails and Boundaries: Savannah shares a personal story about a mocktail mishap and gives advice on how to navigate the world of non-alcoholic drinks safely and confidently.
• Going From Surviving to Thriving: Tips for transitioning from just getting by in sobriety to embracing life fully—staying focused, working the program, and sharing openly in meetings.

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In this exciting and unconventional episode of gAy A, Steve Bennet-Martin, aka Sober Steve the Podcast Guy, puts AI to the test! Can AI really understand the intersections of queerness and sobriety? Steve and ChatGPT dive into some of the most powerful themes shared by LGBTQIA+ individuals in recovery, exploring how technology can shed light on these deep, personal experiences. Plus, can you tell the difference between AI Steve and Real Steve? Tune in and find out!

Key Takeaways:

•Can AI Relate?: How AI reflects on the shared queer and sober experiences and the common challenges we face.
•What’s Your Favorite Part of Being Sober?: Steve and ChatGPT discuss authenticity, self-acceptance, and the incredible connections formed in sobriety.
•How Do Queerness and Sobriety Intersect?: A deep dive into how living authentically and staying sober are connected journeys.
•AI’s Survival Guide for the First 90 Days: Practical tips on how to get through early sobriety and why support networks matter more than ever.
•Can You Tell the Difference?: Steve challenges you—can you spot when it’s AI Steve talking?

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In this week's episode, host Steve, celebrating 1,202 days of sobriety, welcomes back Chad to continue their conversation on sobriety, fitness, and competition after bonding at OutSport's OutVivor event. Chad shares his experiences in various competitions, from marathons to soccer, and how pushing his limits has been a crucial part of his sober journey. He also provides insights into balancing fitness, fun, and personal growth while staying connected to recovery. The conversation delves into both solo and team competitions, how sobriety has transformed their approach to challenges, and the importance of a balanced social life inside and outside of recovery. Chad also reflects on his journey through sports leagues, OutVivor, and the growth he’s experienced from taking part in these events.

Key Takeaways:

• Chad shares how competing against himself, rather than others, fuels his drive.
• Steve reflects on how pushing his limits in sobriety has transformed his relationship with fitness and competition.
• The importance of balance: staying active in both recovery and personal fitness goals.
• Chad's experiences with group sports, including joining sober leagues, and later expanding his circle in non-sober environments.
• The parallels between training for marathons and staying sober, focusing on taking things one step at a time.
• Advice for anyone interested in trying a new challenge like a marathon, sports league, or competition.

 If you’re curious about pushing your limits in sobriety, join Steve and Chad as they explore how competing can be a powerful tool for personal growth.

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Host Steve celebrates 1,195 days of sobriety and welcomes Chad to share his powerful journey. Together, we explore the importance of self-discovery, overcoming toxic relationships, and building a life rooted in recovery and community.

• Celebrating Sobriety: Steve marks 1,195 days sober and introduces Chad to the show.
• Starting Early: Chad’s journey to sobriety and the struggles he faced along the way.
• Overcoming Challenges: From toxic relationships to personal growth, Chad opens up about the hardships he conquered in early recovery.
• Community & Transformation: Chad’s experiences in sober community activities and how they’ve shaped his recovery.
• Advice for Newcomers: Chad offers valuable insights and advice for those in early recovery or facing challenges.
• Looking Ahead: A teaser for a follow-up discussion on competing in fun events in sobriety.

Tune in next episode for part two, where we discuss participating in competitions sober.

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In this episode, Sober Steve celebrates 1,186 days of sobriety and welcomes Melinda Dixon, the first member from Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families (ACA) to join the show. Melinda shares her powerful journey toward emotional sobriety, shedding light on how ACA has profoundly shaped her life. The conversation explores the importance of emotional regulation through human connection, the power of community, and the impact of understanding one's core wounds on maintaining healthy relationships. Steve and Melinda also discuss the evolution of their queer identities in sobriety and the pride they’ve found in their unique personal journeys.

- Celebrating Sobriety: Steve marks 1,186 days of sobriety and introduces Melinda as the first ACA guest.
- Emotional Sobriety: Melinda’s journey to emotional regulation through connection and ACA meetings.
- Understanding Core Wounds: How this understanding has helped Melinda establish healthy boundaries and relationships.
- Queer Identity in Sobriety: The pride Steve and Melinda have found in their unique queer identities within and apart from the LGBT+ community.
- Self-Care Practices: Exploring the role of gratitude lists, exercise, and fine dining in maintaining recovery.

Tune in for a heartfelt conversation on emotional sobriety, queer identity, and personal growth in recovery, and leave a rating and review to pay it forward for the next person who might find the show!

**Where to Find Us:**
- More Information on ACA
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Email Melinda at: melindadixonpbc@gmail.com

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Steve welcomes back Dale for part two of their interview to discuss their experiences exploring and embracing leather and kink after entering recovery. Warning- this episode is *very* sexually explicit!

Opening Discussion: "How do YOU celebrate your birthdays in recovery?"

Topics discussed include

• Our experiences (or lack thereof) with leather and kink before entering recovery.
• Unpacking and getting in touch with our kinks and fetishes in sobriety and step work.
• Ways the Leather and Kink community and Sober communities intersect, both socially and with their principles of safe, sane, and consensual fun.
• The importance of communication in sobriety and in leather and kink.
• Suggestions for getting started if you are new to leather and kink in recovery.
• And much more!!

**Where to Find Us:**
- Dale on Instagram 🟢
- gAy A on IG 🟢
- gAy A everywhere else 🖇️

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Host Sober Steve celebrates 1,164 days of sobriety and thanks listeners for their support, highlighting the new fan mail option before welcoming Jaycee K. Clark, a 34-year-old trans woman, to share her experience, strength, and hope, along with her inspiration for activism today.

Jaycee discusses her past struggles with addiction, her experiences in sex work, and her journey to sobriety. She emphasizes the importance of building connections, overcoming shame, and transforming past traumas into a source of hope and activism. Jaycee also talks about her experiences navigating healthcare and dental work as a recovering addict, offering valuable advice for newcomers on the impermanence of emotions.

- **Celebrating Sobriety:** Steve marks 1,164 days of sobriety and thanks listeners for their engagement.
- **Listener Impact:** Nick made history as my first text fan mail!
- **Jaycee's Story:** Her journey from addiction to recovery and activism.
- **Overcoming Shame:** Turning past traumas into hope and activism.
- **Navigating Healthcare:** Insights into managing healthcare as a recovering addict.
- **Advice for Newcomers:** The importance of understanding that emotions are temporary.

**Where to Find Us:**
- Jaycee on Instagram 🟢
- gAy A on IG 🟢
- gAy A everywhere else 🖇️

PHOTOGRAPHER CREDIT:

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@el_ismaelrodriguez 

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In this 201st episode of the Queer Sober Hero Show, host Sober Steve celebrates over 1,132 days of sobriety by answering questions from influential guests who’ve been significant to his podcast and recovery journey. This second part of the 200th episode mailbag extravaganza features Steve reflecting on his transformation, the ongoing battle with alcohol-related thoughts, and the joys of living a sober, authentic life while addressing key questions and providing insights on sobriety and community.

Celebrate by binging past episodes by the amazing guests who asked this week's questions!

Charlie's Episodes:
#23 At Least I'm Not The Frog
#81 Listen To Yourself
#116 The Frog's Bottle
#135 Sexuality
#180 The Frog No More

Christina Hayes Scott:
#194- Unraveling Recovery

Jason R:
#125 Give It Your All
#168 Sex in Recovery

Eric from Sobervation:
#67 Not Afraid
#191 Sobervation

Alex S
#77 You're Not Struggling Alone
#192 Journaling and Community

Brandy Jo
#53 You Get Better
#83 Discovering Your Identity
#104 Marriage

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In this milestone episode, host Sober Steve celebrates 200 episodes with a special mailbag Q&A featuring questions from some of our amazing previous guests.

Celebrate by binging past episodes by the amazing guests who asked this week's questions!

Phil's Episodes:
#172- A Change in Perspective
#143- It’s How You Carry It

Elsa's Episodes:
#163 Managing Career in Sobriety
#33 One Day at a Time

Jimmy's Episodes:
#159 Don’t Take Yourself So Seriously

J9's Episodes:
#184- Creating with ADHD
#140- Making Music
#64 Just Start, Don't Stop

Dave from Sober Gay Sunday's Episodes:
#160: Sober Gay Sunday
#97: Sober Travel
#87: Dating Sober
#88: Sex and Communication
#70: I Don't Do That Anymore

Danielle's Episodes:
#155 Sobriety & Recovery
#121 Fearless & Thorough

Also mentioned- Steve's Storyteller Sunday at Church:
#183 Finding My Way Back To God

Thank you all for listening! If you liked it, tell a friend! If you loved it, send a text using the link above. If you really loved it, leave a review!

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Sober Steve celebrates 1,123 days of sobriety by reflecting on a recent pride experience and the value of friendships. He welcomes guest Sam to discuss the journey of overcoming alcoholism and drug addiction, sharing candid stories about choosing sobriety over harmful habits. They delve into the challenges and joys of living authentically in the queer community, redefining personal truths, and cultivating genuine friendships. Key topics include recovery steps, embracing one's true self, dealing with societal expectations, and forming supportive relationships in sobriety. The episode emphasizes acceptance, continuous self-improvement, and the importance of living an authentic life.

00:36 Introduction and Gratitude
04:54 Interview with Sam Begins
10:31 Sam's Journey to Sobriety
22:41 Living Authentically in Sobriety

**Where to Find Us:**
- Sam on Instagram 🟢
- gAy A on IG 🟢
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Sober Steve Chats with Johnny Bear from Belly Talk on sobriety and bear community wellness

Sober Steve celebrates his 1,117 days sober by sharing his gratitude for the supportive Sarasota community and exciting Pride Month activities. He then interviews Johnny Bear from the Belly Talk podcast, who opens up about his tumultuous journey through addiction, self-discovery, and eventual sobriety. They discuss the challenges and triumphs of remaining sober while being active in social and bear communities, and share advice on building a support network, seeking help, and maintaining daily sobriety practices. Johnny also highlights the importance of authenticity, community support, and promoting wellness within the bear culture. Full of personal insights and inspirational stories, this episode offers encouragement and practical tips for anyone navigating their path to sobriety.

00:00 Introduction and Gratitude
00:50 Interview with Johnny Bear
01:49 Johnny's Journey to Sobriety
04:38 Challenges and Turning Points
12:31 Finding Community and Self-Discovery
16:31 Overcoming Abuse and Seeking Help
21:51 Rebuilding Life and Embracing Sobriety
26:01 Maintaining Sobriety and Community Engagement
31:22 Conclusion and Contact Information

**Where to Find Us:**
- Johnny Bear on Instagram 🟢
- Johnny Bear on Belly Talk  🖇️
- Johnny Bear’s Blog!
- The Belly Club Facebook Group  🖇️
- gAy A on IG 🟢
- gAy A everywhere else 🖇️

Tell a friend to listen today!! Until next time, stay sober!

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Sober Steve welcomes Richard to share his experience, strength, and hope with getting sober in the queer community, as well as their philosophy of the 3 T's of Sobriety

Topics include 

• Facing Trials
• Overcoming Tribulations
• Celebrating Trumphs
• Discovering Self-Confidence
• Evolving in Recovery
• And much more

**Where to Find Us:**
- Richard on Instagram 🟢
- Richard on Facebook 🖇️
- gAy A on IG 🟢
- gAy A everywhere else 🖇️

Tell a friend to listen today!! Until next time, stay sober!

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Sober Steve welcomes Jewels and Emily from Swift Steps to discuss their experience navigating sobriety and building a recovery community centered around being a fan of Taylor Swift.  (Get it, now?)

Topics include 

• Finding A Community
• Building A Community
• Redefining Recovery
• Identifying Addictions in Art/Music
• Mental Health in Recovery
• And much more

**Where to Find Us:**
- The Swift Steps on Instagram 🟢
- The Swift Steps Website 🖇️
- gAy A on IG 🟢
- gAy A everywhere else 🖇️

Tell a friend to listen today!! Until next time, stay sober!

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Sober Steve welcomes Alex from LGBTQ Mindfulness to discuss their experience navigating sobriety in the queer community while living a mindful life.

Topics include 

• Mindset Tips
• Finding A Community
• Building A Community
• Being Around Alcohol
• Being Around Drinkers
• Daily Care Practices
• And much more

**Where to Find Us:**
- Alex on Instagram 🟢
- Alex's Site 🖇️
- gAy A on IG 🟢
- gAy A everywhere else 🖇️

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Sober Steve welcomes Christina Hayes Scott to discuss the significance of sobriety and holistic recovery. 

Topics include 

• Recognizing burnout
• Emotional regulation
• Facing challenges like breakups and health scares, 
• Exploring the 12-step program and cross addictions like overeating. 

Christina shares her personal journey to sobriety, emphasizing the transformative power it holds in dealing with emotions and progressing in life. Both Sober Steve and Christina stress the importance of holistic recovery by addressing underlying issues for a successful sobriety path, alongside promoting nature connection and positive social media presence for support and inspiration.

**Where to Find Us:**
- Christina on Facebook!
- Christina on Instagram 🟢
- Christina's Site
- gAy A on IG 🟢
- gAy A everywhere else 🖇️

Tell a friend to listen today!! Until next time, stay sober!

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Steve shares a bonus audio diary episode about his experiences at this years Florida Roundup, with takeaways such as...

• What the heck is a roundup?
• Not letting travel difficulties impact the experience at your destination.
• Overcoming social insecurities like judgement and rejection.
• The positive experiences from workshop and social events on site.
• Adventuring out for firsts and letting go of "I can't"s

Stay tuned for our usual episode Thursday!

Want to hear more, check out Instagram- Live on release day or saved afterwards @gayapodcast

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Sober Steve is joined by Alex Sphon to discuss recovering out loud in his community as well as tips and advice for anyone who is sober or sober curious.

**Episode Highlights Include**
- **The Role of Journaling in Recovery:** Alex shares how his journaling has helped him from the beginning of his sobriety journey and continues today.
- **You Say I'm an Alcoholic Like It's A Bad Thing:** Alex shares how recovery out loud has changed his perception and sense of community over the years.
- **Friendships in Recovery** Many people worry about how sobriety changes their friendships and relationships, so Alex and Steve reflect back on how those has changed over the years since getting sober.
- **And Much More! **

**Where to Find Us:**
- Alex on Facebook!
- Alex on Instagram 🟢
- gAy A on IG 🟢
- gAy A everywhere else 🖇️

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Welcome to gAy A: The Super Soberhero Show! In this episode, we dive into the inspiring journey of our guest, Christopher, a fragrance and skin care developer and fashion designer. He shares his experiences with sobriety, the challenges he faced, and the resilience he developed. From creating his own line of fragrances to navigating personal struggles, Christopher's story is one of strength and determination. 

Our host, Steve, also discusses his own sobriety journey and the impact of joining a kickball league on his perception of team sports. Plus, we'll explore the importance of community support and the evolving perspectives on sobriety. 

Check out Bloke NYC at www.blokenyc.com and find Christopher at https://www.facebook.com/chris.valiante

Engage with Steve on the socials @gayapodcast, email him at steve@sobersteve.com or add him on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/steven.bennet.90/

Enjoy exclusive content and early access at over at www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

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Hey there, Super Soberheroes! Today we have two stories that both touch on unique experiences, but share receiving an ADHD diagnosis in sobriety.

We're joined by Chad C from Vancouver, who shares his 23-year journey through sobriety, competitive figure skating, and the unexpected challenges life throws our way. His story, filled with gratitude for life's gifts including marriage and travel, offers a raw and inspiring look at overcoming obstacles and the importance of supportive networks.

The conversation takes a deeper look at the intersection of recovery and maintaining physical fitness, an often-overlooked aspect of the sober life. Through my own struggles and triumphs, we address the complexities of eating disorders, particularly in the high-pressure world of competitive sports, and how these experiences shape our paths toward healthy living. We also touch on the intricacies of recovery, which demand more than just exercise and nutrition, reminding us that self-compassion and accountability are crucial for sustained sobriety. Moreover, the episode underscores the broader impact of personal recovery on relationships and responsibilities, urging us to stay alert to the dangers of an all-or-nothing approach in our ongoing quest for growth.

Wrapping up, we celebrate the milestones of our guest J9, who shares the latest twists in their life's journey, including a fresh single, Pleasure and Pain, amidst the backdrop of sobriety and an ADHD diagnosis. Unpacking the nuances of emotional regulation and daily management of ADHD, we offer insights and strategies that resonate with many who navigate similar challenges.

Thanks for listening!

Find Chad Online: Chad Conley on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/chadlconley and Instagram @chad_c78

Find J9's New Song, Pleasure and Pain Streaming: bit.ly/PleasureAndPain-stream
Follow J9 on all the socials @J9grooves

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In this bonus episode of gAy A: The Super Soberhero Show, host Sober Steve shares his powerful and personal story told at his church's storyteller Sunday. From his childhood in Erie, Pennsylvania to his struggles with sobriety and finding his way back to God, Steve takes us on a raw and emotional journey. He talks about the impact of being "othered" and how it affected his sense of self-worth, his faith journey, and ultimately led to his battle with alcohol. Steve discusses his path to sobriety, the inception of his podcast, and his evolution into a life coach. His story is a testament to the power of community, self-discovery, and redefining happiness. Join us as we delve into Steve's journey of healing, rediscovery, and finding spiritual connection in unexpected places.

What did you think? Let me know at steve@sobersteve.com or on social media @gayapodcast 

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Hey there, Super Soberheroes! Today's episode features the remarkable Jim G, sharing his experience, strength, and hope with over four decades of sobriety.

Steve's Gratitude:

• Engaging with Also Youth, a haven for Queer youth, sharing my experiences in leadership with the next generation of fabulousness!
• Sharing my story at Harvest, my church, during Storyteller Sunday, exploring unexpected journeys in leadership and faith. 

Jim's Interview:

• Introduction to Drinking
• Exploration of Early Drinking Experience
• Initial Experiences in the LGBTQ+ Community
• Involvement in Sex Work and Pornography
• Turning Point: (Content Warning) Being raped while intoxicated
• Transformation and Acceptance
• Separating Sex from Alcohol and Drugs
• Show and Tell with Jim's Chip and 2nd Edition Big Book
• Sex work during the AIDS epidemic
• Jim's beliefs on spirituality and destiny in favor of traditional religious views
• Embracing our self-worth and authenticity
• And much more!

Friend Jim on Facebook @ James-John Salvatore Gigliello or on Instagram @dr_gruff_daddy

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Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast and best selling quit-lit author, Charlie Gray, to discuss how creating, publishing, and marketing his "Charlie and The Frog" trilogy impacted his sobriety.

Topics discussed include:

• What are you grateful for today?
• Charlie's "zany" journey to sobriety.
• Picking up the pen the first time
• Turning a book into a trilogy
• How the creative process changed Charlie's life.
• How the publishing and marketing process impacted him.
• What would a “Lost Chapter” to one of the books look like?
• How has life changed since the trilogy?
• Turning addictions and struggles into metaphor with The Phantom Maverick.
• What’s to come on Charlie's Heroes Journey

A huge thank you to Charlie Gray for sharing his journey and insights with us today. You can find his books, including "At Least I’m Not The Frog," "The Frog’s Bottle," "The Frog No More," and his latest release, "The Phantom Maverick," wherever books are sold, including here:

At Least I'm Not The Frog: https://a.co/d/gcCMy36
The Frog's Bottle: https://a.co/d/6Su5zfF
The Frog No More: https://a.co/d/gBZeoRk
The Phantom Maverick: https://a.co/d/dt1ZpIc

Follow Charlie on Instagram at @hismajestycharles3rd and us wherever you social @gayapodcast , and e-mail me to get involved at steve@sobersteve.com

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1,000 days sober – a milestone that's more than just a number; it's an accomplishment that takes resilience, community, and the power of embracing my authenticity! Join me on this episode as I dive deep into the highs and lows of my journey from addiction to recovery, shedding light on the peaks and valleys along the way, the lessons I've learned, and my hopes for what is to come.

🌈 Reflecting on a Queer Childhood:

•   Unveiling the struggles and triumphs of growing up queer and experiencing emotional and sexual traumas, as well as a scarcity mindset.
•  Exploring the deceptive allure of alcohol and its impact on my early years
• How my life became unmanageable, and how I found beauty in more than one solution.
• How my limited beliefs came back in my sobriety and almost led to a relapse, and the lessons learned from that experience.
• Highlighting the journey from seeking validation externally to finding empowerment through life coaching and meaningful connections

Join the conversation by emailing steve@sobersteve.com and become part of our community by becoming a guest, submitting clips, or sharing any of your gifts with the listeners.

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This week Sober Steve, the Podcast Guy, dives into the world of dating apps for sober people in the queer community, and experiences across the different platforms and stages of our addiction and recovery.

As I approach a monumental sobriety milestone, gratitude practices deepen my connections beyond the sober community with heartwarming responses from friends. Then, things get even more personal as I bring my husband on to share our experience meeting on not one but two apps and how that has evolved into our marriage today.

Guest Gabriel, Danielle, and Mark share insights from their experiences on Facebook Messenger, Grindr, Tinder, Her, and more, emphasizing honesty and positive feedback on sobriety disclosure. We discuss the importance of personal boundaries and self-awareness in sober dating, stressing honesty for genuine connections and balancing relationships with spiritual well-being.

Follow our guests on Instagram- @heymarko8, @dc_and_rosey, and @the.archangelgabriel - and follow us wherever you social @gayapodcast!

Check out our new website at https://sobersteve.com/gayapodcast and email me anytime at steve@sobersteve.com

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Hey there, super soberheroes! Today's episode is all about exploring the world of sober apps in 2024.

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Discover the best sober apps for tracking and motivation to supercharge your recovery journey.
• Connect with a supportive sober community and access online resources for continuous motivation and encouragement.
• Explore apps that prioritize queer and sober inclusion, fostering a safe and empowering environment for everyone.
• Dive into literature-driven apps for recovery resources, unlocking a wealth of knowledge and inspiration.
• Access online platforms offering many sobriety resources, making it easier to find the support and guidance you need.

Explore inclusive apps for sobriety
Inclusivity within sobriety applications is highly commendable, as they cater to diverse audiences such as the queer and sober community. These inclusive platforms understand unique struggles and offer tailored resources, advice, and support. By reaching out to individuals from all walks of life, they foster a sense of belonging, significantly enhancing recovery.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Email Steve at Steve@sobersteve.com to share your inspiring stories or motivating tales about good experiences with sober dating on apps.
• Follow Steve on social media @Gayapodcast to stay updated and get involved with the show.
• Check out the Patreon page for more exclusive content, including full interview clips and behind-the-scenes access.
• Find the "Everyday AA" and "Big Book Companion" apps in the Apple store for a resourceful tool to track sobriety milestones, access the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, and read daily reflections.
• Explore the "All Sober" app for a warm, safe space to connect with resources and a supportive community for Better Sobriety.

Guests Featured Include:
Danielle @dc_and_rosey
Mark @heymarko8
Shane @rhythmcafeheflin
Cori @_coritee4_

Submit your experiences on Sober Dating apps for the chance to be featured next week. Email them to steve@sobersteve.com or message me on all the socials @gayapodcast to talk more!

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Discover the unexpected journey of a queer podcaster's transformative experiences in sobriety, leading to the launch of a groundbreaking 2.0 version of their podcast. This emotional narrative takes you through the highs and lows of Steve's personal growth, as he unveils the concept of "sober superheroes." Stay tuned for the open loop of how this journey will empower and inspire the LGBTQ+ community.

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Reflecting on Queer Sobriety: Discovering profound insights and inspiration for your own journey.
• Embracing Transformative Sobriety: Unveiling life-altering experiences and growth through sobriety.
• Open-Mindedness in Sobriety: Embracing new experiences and perspectives for personal transformation.
• Milestones in Sobriety: Celebrating achievements and the power of Patreon support in your journey.
• Give Sober App Recommendations: Unlocking the potential of sobriety with the latest app and technology insights is next week's topic, so get involved today!

Reach out today however you'd like https://linktr.ee/gayapodcast

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Join the Patreon community at www.patreon.com/gayapodcast to access exclusive bonus episodes and support the podcast with a small donation.
• Wish Danielle a happy four years on Instagram @dc_and_rosey and show support for her inspiring journey.
• Stay tuned for the relaunch of the Sober Superhero Show on Thursday, February 22, and subscribe or follow on all platforms to catch the new episodes.
• Share your favorite sober technology and apps for a chance to be featured in the upcoming episode about sober technology.
• Follow the podcast on all platforms to access 175 episodes of content from amazing queer and sober individuals, and get ready for the new content coming soon.

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Steve celebrates episode 175 by welcoming back his sober sibling, Kristen R, to discuss self care routines!

Topics discussed include:

• Our concepts and resentments about self-care before sobriety
• The important of routine in early sobriety
• Embracing new ideas and forms of self-care
• How much self-care is too much
• The perfect day
• And much more!

Follow us on Instagram @gayapodcast or on Facebook for more updates, and check out the Patreon page for our weekly Post Show and other exclusive content!

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Steve welcomes Kevin to share his experience, strength, and hope while celebrating living a queer and sober life today.

Topics discussed include:

• Kevin's favorite parts of life today
• Entering recovery 'young'
• Struggling with negative self talk
• The impact of family and culture
• Being kind to yourself
• Putting down the sword
• And much more!

Follow Kevin on Instagram @kev.chiang , and follow us too @gayapodcast. Head over to the Patreon page to hear our post-show where we will chat about Gratitude!

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• Our relationships with magic and religion growing up
• How drugs and alcohol affected Dallas' connection to spirituality
• His experiences connecting with  Magik and using it to help people in recovery
• How Akashic Records can help understand your history and roadmap to your present and into your future.
• And much more!

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Steve welcomes back a friend of the podcast, Phil, to discuss the change(s) in perspective that comes to us in recovery, along with what it's like navigating life queer and sober today.

Topics Covered Included:

• Our favorite parts of being queer and sober today
• Our perspectives growing up
• How alcohol and drugs affected our perspectives
• Moments of clarity that shift our perspective
• How our perspective has evolved in our recovery
• Looking ahead while living in the moment
• And much more!

For more Phil, find him on Facebook at Phil Brunke, and for more us,  follow us on Instagram @gayapodcast. But if you Facebook friended me, I'll accept, too :-)

Check out our Post-Show on our Patreon page-  www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

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Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast, Frank, to discuss how our careers evolved in our recovery to eventually becoming our own bosses.

Topics Covered Included:

• The work ethic we were raised with and our first jobs
• How alcohol and drugs affected our work through our teens and early 20s
• The shift from 'job' to 'career' and how alcohol and drugs affected our performance and mindset.
• Getting sober at work- 'downsizing' our jobs for the sake of our recovery
• Realizing the 'now' when it was time for us to spread our wings
• How Frank's journey has gone since then
• And much more!

For more Frank,  follow them on IG @manyourstyle - and follow us while you are at it @gayapodcast

Check out our Post-Show on our Patreon page-  www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

Until next time, stay sober, friends!

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Steve welcomes Jimmy back to celebrate the holidays by looking back on what the seasons have meant to us throughout our lives into today, as we are celebrating sober!

Topics discussed include:

• Our holidays growing up
• How our holidays changed with alcohol and drugs
• What our first holidays were like sober.
• How our recovery has changed the way we see and feel about holidays
• 'Tips' for managing the holidays sober
• And much more!

Follow Jimmy @jcorn104 on IG, and follow us  @gayapodcast. Head over to the Patreon page to hear Jimmy and Steve talk about what life was like in our 20s!

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Steve welcomes his GSM bestie Ben to share his experience, strength, and hope while celebrating living a queer and sober life today.

Topics discussed include:

• Ben's favorite parts of life today
• Entering recovery 'young'
• Struggling with ego
• Challenging yourself in recovery
• Learning more about your sexuality in recovery
• The differences between the first few years
• Participating in #TranSanta
• And much more!

Listening in December '23?  Donate to Transanta - learn more here: https://www.transanta.com/ or on IG @transanta

Follow Ben @beneis1 on IG, and follow us too @gayapodcast. Head over to the Patreon page to hear our post-show and more exclusive content, and give Steve the greatest holiday gift of all: a 5-star review on whatever podcast platform you are using right now!

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Steve welcomes Jason back to reflect on how our sex lives and the ways we look at sex have evolved in our recovery.

Topics discussed include:

• Catching up with Jason
• How did sex, drugs, and alcohol affect one another in our addiction
• What was sex like in early recovery
• What sex is like for us today
• The power of communication with sex
• Putting aside shame
• And much more!

Follow Jason @rudabega82 on IG, and follow us too @gayapodcast. Head over to the Patreon page to hear what is basically "gAy A After Dark" this week as we dive even deeper and harder into the topic of fabulous sex in sobriety!

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Steve welcomes Mark back to celebrate 18 years of recovery while chatting about overcoming negative thoughts and actions many of us refer to as 'stinking thinking!'

Topics discussed include:

• Mark's favorite parts of being queer and sober right now.
• Best ways to handle life's challenges
• What happens to our thinking when we aren't doing 'the work'
• Mark's E-Bay and Steve's Amazon bad habits
• Acting out sexually,  in person or online
• How to self-correct when you find yourself off course
• The power of sharing your struggles with someone else
• And much more!

Follow Mark @heymarko8 on IG, and follow us too @gayapodcast. Head over to the Patreon page to hear Mark and Steve talk about what life was like in our 20s!

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Steve welcomes Cintia to share her experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Cintia on Instagram @cintia0129  and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast. 

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes back Savanna to discuss finding gratitude in all things while living life queer and sober.

Follow Savanna @savannadanna on IG and @lucci_mamas on Tik-Tok, and follow us while you are at it @gayapodcast. Head on over to the Patreon page to hear Savanna and Steve talk about Sexuality in sobriety!

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Steve welcomes back Kristen to discuss navigating their relationship with their Higher Power through their step work and in their lives today.

Topics discussed include:

• Grasping a Higher Power as queer individuals
• Our experiences going through the first few steps
• Living in the 11th Step
• Explaining Higher Power 'stuff' to people not in recovery
• And much more!

Follow us online at @gayapodcast. Head over to the Patreon page to hear Kristen and Steve spin the Topic Wheel!

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Steve welcomes back Elsa to discuss navigating your career in recovery, along with our favorite parts of being queer and sober today!

Topics discussed include:

• What it was like for Elsa working in the alcohol industry while getting sober.
• How career changes can impact your recovery.
• The formula for having a 'good day' at work.
• How to cope with having a 'bad day' at work.
• How do you plan ahead in your life while also living one day at a time?
• Steve finally breaks his silence on the NA debate as Elsa and Steve talk about non-alcoholic 'spirits'
• And much more!

Follow Elsa @elsasolorapp on IG and Tik-Tok, and follow us while you are at it @gayapodcast. Head on over to the Patreon page to hear Elsa and Steve talk about Sexuality in sobriety!

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Steve welcomes Dick to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Dick on Instagram @mercuryrising63  and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast. He is also on Facebook as Dick Gunstone (from Canada) and you'll catch him in the Gay & Sober Men's Facebook Group!

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Thomas to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community and how Gay and Sober changed his life.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Thomas on Instagram @thomas_andreww and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast. He is also on Facebook as Thomas Gronert.

If you are listening on release week and near Florida, come see us at Orlando Pride this Saturday,  October 21. More info here: https://comeoutwithpride.org/

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes back one of his most popular guests, Dave, to discuss embracing and creating a sober community. Topics covered include:

• Connecting with a sober queer community, in real life or virtual.
• Creating events and a community, whether you are near a big city or the middle of nowhere.
• How Sober Gay Sunday started and became one of Boston's hottest social groups.
• How Sober Gay Sunday turned into a podcast, and how podcast has affected both of our recovery journeys.
• And much more!

Check out our Patreon page for our Post-Show, now featuring video and the Topic Wheel and follow us wherever you are listening to get new episodes every Thursday!

Listen to Sober Gay Sundays wherever you find this podcast!

Follow Dave at @gymdave85 and @sobergaysunday, and us @gayapodast on all the socials!

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes Jimmy to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Jimmy on Instagram @himynameisrecovery and @ sobrietykween (and @jimmyarmstrongrealestate) and us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast.

You can also check out his podcast, Hi, My Name is Recovery, wherever you find us!

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Roger to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Roger on Facebook at Roger Harrison and follow us on Facebook and Instagram while you are at it  @gAyApodcast.

You can also check out his website, https://waystosobriety.com/

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Jeff to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober and paying it forward to the queer and sober community.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for an extended uncut version of Jeff's interview!

Find  us on Instagram  @gAyApodcast.

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Mrs. Chan-Charley to share her experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Mrs. Chan-Charley on Instagram @black_ellen1 and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast.

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes back Danielle to discuss the differences between sobriety and recovery, and our journey through both in the queer community.

Topics Discussed Include:

•  Catching up with Danielle since our last episode
• Defining sobriety and our experiences being sober before starting our recovery journeys.
• Defining recovery and how that changed not just our sobriety, but our entire lives.
• Discussing how twelve step work worked for us, as well as other tools we use in our recovery.
• And much more!

Check out our Patreon page for our Post-Show, now featuring video and the Topic Wheel and follow us wherever you are listening to get new episodes every Thursday!

Follow Danielle at @dc_and_rosey on Instagram and follow us while you are at it @gayapodcast

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes Sam to share his experience, strength, and hope while they discuss living sober in the queer community.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Sam on Instagram @samthomas8186 and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast. He is also on Instagram @sam_thomas86

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Joshua to share his experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Joshua on all the socials @joshuaatone and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Ken Page to share his experiences with Deeper Dating and the struggles queer and sober individuals face when it comes to finding love.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show where Ken and I discuss Sex and Dating, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Check out all the information on Ken at https://www.deeperdating.com/

Find Ken Page on all the socials @deeper.dating and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Bruce W Brackett to share his experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Bruce on all the socials @bwb.positivity and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Kristen interviews Steve as he reflects back on his first two years of recovery across 150 episodes of this podcast and what living queer and sober means to him today.

Topics touched on include:

• Why reflect and be my own guest now?
• My journey through addiction and into recovery.
• How the podcast and my own recovery have both evolved.
• Learning there's more than one way to stay sober.
• How being 'fucked and insane' is a good thing once you accept it.
• The peace of bringing serenity to you rather than seeking it out.
• And much more!

Support the show by joining our Patreon family, or e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com to say hi!

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Steve welcomes back one of his sober besties, Savanna, to discuss learning to celebrate sober. Topics covered include:

• What celebrating looks like for us before recovery.
• How we got through our first year or so of celebrating firsts.
• What celebrating looks like to us today.
• Tips for celebrating and finding happiness in recovery
• And much more!

Check out our Patreon page for our Post-Show, now featuring video and the Topic Wheel and follow us wherever you are listening to get new episodes every Thursday!

Follow Savanna at @luccimamas and us @gayapodast on Tik-Tok and @savannadanna and @gayapodcast on Instagram.

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes back Joey B from Rainbow Hill Recovery to discuss Overcoming Obstacles, as well as all the new exciting work he's been up to since our first episode.  (He was on Episode 15 if you want to go back and check it out first!)

Obstacles we discuss overcoming include:

• Learning to accept and love our sexuality
• Letting go of resents related to sexual abuse
• Coping with social anxiety
• Putting ourselves in dangerous situations
• Working with your partner/spouse
• And more, including the obstacles related to opening the amazing Rainbow Hill Sober Living AND Rainbow Hill Recovery!

Check out all things Rainbow Hill below:

• Website- www.rainbowhillsoberliving.com and www.rainbowhillrecovery.com
• Facebook- search both Rainbow Hill Sober Living and Rainbow Hill Recovery by name
• Instagram- @joeybachrach, @rainbowhillsoberliving, @rainbowhillrecovery, and @biglittlebow

Head on over to our Patreon page for a post-show where Joey and Steve discuss their favorite things!

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes James T. Lane to share his experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

James is currently starring in a one-man autobiographical show - which he wrote - at THEATRE ROW called Triple Threat which chronicles (among other things) his struggle with addiction and journey towards sobriety.

In his share he will touch on the 'triple threat' he's faced and overcomes daily being a "Black gay addict", and how there is a way through if you let others love you until you love yourself and show up.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find James on all the socials @triplethreat_show and @jamestlane and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast.

Also, check out his website for more information on Triple Threat and his other great work- https://www.jamestlane.com and www.triplethreatshow.com

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Shane to share his experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Shane on all the socials @uncleshanerocks and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Kole to share his experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Kole on all the socials @koletaylor57  and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Jaymes from Hot Apollo to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Jaymes on all the socials @hotapollo and follow us while you are at it  @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Phil to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Phil on Facebook at Phil Brunke and follow us while you are at it on all the socials @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

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Steve welcomes Michael, Delano, and Chris from the Blackyard Collective on to discuss how their race affected their addictions and their experiences navigating recovery, along with building a community.

To hear more check out our Patreon page for a free bonus episode to everyone and anyone that want's to check it out at www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

To learn more about the Blackyard Collective, go to https://www.theblackyardcollectivenyc.org/

To follow them on their socials, @TheBlackyardCollectiveNYC , Chris is @cprgivesyoulife , Delano is theodorehuxtable, and Michael is MJ Crumpler on Facebook

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Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast, Frank, to discuss connecting with and embracing your sexuality in recovery.

For more Frank,  follow them on IG @manyourstyle - and follow us while you are at it @gayapodcast

Check out our Post-Show to hear us talk more about our steamier sexual encounters in recovery at www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast, J9, to discuss making music and connecting with your creative side in recovery.

For more J9,  follow them on IG @j9grooves - and follow us while you are at it @gayapodcast

Check out our Post-Show to hear us talk about how making friends and connections in recovery at www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast, Michael Sargood, to discuss discovering and embracing your true identity in recovery.

For more Michael,  follow him on IG @happywithoutthehooch - and follow us while you are at it @gayapodcast

Check out our Post-Show to hear us talk about how his ADHD diagnosis affects his recovery at www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast, Jo Walduck, to discuss navigating life's challenges and overcoming ruts in your recovery while staying sober.

For more Jo,  follow her on IG @jowalkduck - and follow us while you are at it @gayapodcast

Check out our Post-Show to hear us talk about the harms of diet culture at www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast, Kristen, to discuss feeling sober but stuck, and how we overcome ruts in recovery.

Follow us on Instagram @gayapodcast

Check out our Post-Show to hear us get to know Dusty better at www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast, Dusty, to discuss navigating marriage in sobriety, diving into maintaining a long term relationship through addiction, relapse, and recovery.

For more Dusty,  follow him on IG @jdustygrimes - and follow us while you are at it @gayapodcast

Check out our Post-Show to hear us get to know Dusty better at www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast, Charlie Gray, to discuss discovering and embracing our sexuality in recovery.

For more Charlie Gray, check out his numerous past episodes with us, google 'At Least I'm Not the Frog' or follow him on IG @hismajestycharles3rd - and follow us while you are at it @gayapodcast

Check out our Post-Show to hear us discuss sexual first times at www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes back friend of the podcast, Chris, to talk about their experiences with gender in recovery, as well as navigating our queer community sober.

Interested in more details on the Spring Clearance Roundup check out their Instagram @springclearance 

Also give Chris and I a follow @cprgivesyoulife and @gayapodcast

Until next time, stay sober, friends!

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Steve welcomes Jase to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Jase on Instagram (and everywhere else) @theladybearica and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes Dallas to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Dallas on Instagram (and everywhere else) @drdallasbragg and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes JP to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find JP on Instagram @jppaultenor and @jppaulva and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes Elle to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Elle on Instagram @sobersoulfood and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes Maxim to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Maxim on Instagram @sobersoulfood and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes Brad to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

Thank you for listening. Please join our Patreon family for the post-show, along with more exclusive content at www.Patreon.com/gAyApodcast

Find Craig on Instagram @thebradshreve and follow us while you are at it @gAyApodcast

Also check out his podcast, Queer We Are, wherever you are listening to us!

If you are interested in sharing your story, getting involved with the show, or just saying hi, please e-mail me at gayapodcast@gmail.com 

Until next time, stay sober friends!

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Steve welcomes Craig to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

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Steve welcomes Crescent to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

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Steve welcomes Jason to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

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Steve welcomes Blaise to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

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Steve welcomes back Mark to discuss our issues dealing with accepting ourselves, our sexuality, our addictions, and how we are working to overcome these issues and learn to accept ourselves authentically.

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Steve welcomes Nate to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

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Steve welcomes Danielle to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

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Steve welcomes Paula to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

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Steve welcomes Chris to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

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Steve welcomes back Mario to share their experiences with GSM, the Gay and Sober Men's Conference, discussing years past and what's to come this year.

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Steve welcomes Mario to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

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Steve invites back best-selling author, Charlie Gray, to discuss his newest book, A Frog's Bottle, out now!

Check out his book now on Amazon, follow him on social media searching Charlie Gray or At Least I'm Not The Frog, and go to his website, www.atleastimnotthefrog.com

Head over to our Patreon family for our post-show discussion on cut content and spoilers, as well as getting steamy as we discuss his erotic novella, It Happened One EDC. Not a member, join today at www.patreon.com/gayapodcast

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Steve welcomes back Landon to share their experiences with GSM, the Gay and Sober Men's Conference, discussing years past and what's to come this year.

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Steve welcomes Landon to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

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Steve welcomes Frank to share their experience, strength, and hope with you, along with advice on getting and staying sober.

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