a very capable hot mess Sun, 08 Mar 2026 09:49:31 -0400 http://mynamemyvoice.org en-us © 2026 a very capable hot mess yes b2b88851-ba5a-5da1-b720-1bfaa8aa102c Marianne Thomas episodic true Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) childhood abuse, sexual abuse, human trafficking Marianne Thomas https://storage.buzzsprout.com/gl31u0babzxs5kry9zrr98i7zy6a?.jpg a very capable hot mess http://mynamemyvoice.org 2:1 Be Ready 2:1 Be Ready Season 2!  Do you have a new year's resolution?  Do you have goals and dreams?  Then, this episode is for you.  We are going to talk about the five areas of your life that you should be preparing in order to be ready for whatever is next for you.  Come join the conversation.

Read my blog, talk to me about the episode, or schedule a speaking event:

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]]> Season 2!  Do you have a new year's resolution?  Do you have goals and dreams?  Then, this episode is for you.  We are going to talk about the five areas of your life that you should be preparing in order to be ready for whatever is next for you.  Come join the conversation.

Read my blog, talk to me about the episode, or schedule a speaking event:

averycapablehotmess.com

averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/mariannepazienza

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-9903645 Mon, 17 Jan 2022 19:00:00 -0500 2002 2 1 full false Episode 15 Marianne and Ryan catch up on life Episode 15 Marianne and Ryan catch up on life Episode 15: Marianne and Ryan catch up on life.  Marianne shares her trigger experience at the car dealership, and Ryan shares his exciting kayak trip.  Don't forget to share and review our podcast for a chance to win an autographed copy of the "Ryan in Jorts" print.  Also, head on over to Instagram to cast your vote in the poll: "Who wore it better?

https://trained.truckersagainsttrafficking.org/


Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

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email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

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]]> Episode 15: Marianne and Ryan catch up on life.  Marianne shares her trigger experience at the car dealership, and Ryan shares his exciting kayak trip.  Don't forget to share and review our podcast for a chance to win an autographed copy of the "Ryan in Jorts" print.  Also, head on over to Instagram to cast your vote in the poll: "Who wore it better?

https://trained.truckersagainsttrafficking.org/


Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Dukes youtube channel : https://youtu.be/7Jo4SVHtmqs

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8896613 Wed, 21 Jul 2021 05:00:00 -0400 3354 1 15 full false Episode 14 Lize Landis Episode 14 Lize Landis Episode 14: This week we speak with Lize Landis.  Lize is a certified life coach whose mission is to empower you to be the very best version of yourself and start living the full and extraordinary life you've always dreamed of living.  Lize joins us this week to talk specifically about s-e-x. She takes a Biblical approach to speaking with children about sex and their bodies.  Lize outlines normative stages for talking points with your children.  Lize is passionate about reclaiming the beautiful version of sex that God laid out for us in his word. 


lizelandis.com
fiveoaksministries.com

Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Dukes youtube channel : https://youtu.be/7Jo4SVHtmqs



]]> Episode 14: This week we speak with Lize Landis.  Lize is a certified life coach whose mission is to empower you to be the very best version of yourself and start living the full and extraordinary life you've always dreamed of living.  Lize joins us this week to talk specifically about s-e-x. She takes a Biblical approach to speaking with children about sex and their bodies.  Lize outlines normative stages for talking points with your children.  Lize is passionate about reclaiming the beautiful version of sex that God laid out for us in his word. 


lizelandis.com
fiveoaksministries.com

Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Dukes youtube channel : https://youtu.be/7Jo4SVHtmqs



]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8853956 Wed, 14 Jul 2021 05:00:00 -0400 5969 1 14 full false Episode 13 Laura & Ryan Ishley Episode 13 Laura & Ryan Ishley Episode 13: On this episode we speak with married couple Laura and Ryan.  Ryan shares his history with abuse and addiction.  He shares what it was like to go through it, and how he came out on the other side.  Laura does not come from the same type of background.  She shares what it is like living with a recovering addict/trauma survivor.  They share how they work together to communicate and adapt to trauma responses.  Come meet one of my favorite couples.


Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Dukes youtube channel : https://youtu.be/7Jo4SVHtmqs

]]> Episode 13: On this episode we speak with married couple Laura and Ryan.  Ryan shares his history with abuse and addiction.  He shares what it was like to go through it, and how he came out on the other side.  Laura does not come from the same type of background.  She shares what it is like living with a recovering addict/trauma survivor.  They share how they work together to communicate and adapt to trauma responses.  Come meet one of my favorite couples.


Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Dukes youtube channel : https://youtu.be/7Jo4SVHtmqs

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8785673 Wed, 07 Jul 2021 05:00:00 -0400 3829 1 13 full false 12 Singer/ Songwriter Tim McGeary 12 Singer/ Songwriter Tim McGeary  Episode 13:  Tim McGeary.  Tim is a singer/songwriter who shares his passion to use music to reach people.  As a recovering addict and trauma survivor, Tim uses his love of music to raise awareness about topics such as human trafficking, suicide, and other travesties.  Tim offers his talents to those organizations also raising awareness.


 Tim McGeary

Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Dukes youtube channel : https://youtu.be/7Jo4SVHtmqs

]]>  Episode 13:  Tim McGeary.  Tim is a singer/songwriter who shares his passion to use music to reach people.  As a recovering addict and trauma survivor, Tim uses his love of music to raise awareness about topics such as human trafficking, suicide, and other travesties.  Tim offers his talents to those organizations also raising awareness.


 Tim McGeary

Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Dukes youtube channel : https://youtu.be/7Jo4SVHtmqs

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8779235 Wed, 30 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -0400 4520 1 12 full false Episode 11 Trauma and Holidays Episode 11 Trauma and Holidays Episode 11: Holidays. For people with childhood trauma, holidays can be difficult. While everyone else is celebrating, sharing happy photos, and repeating good wishes to all, trauma survivors may be hiding, running, and faking. We talk a little about the holiday hurt, but then we finish it off with a treat: Ryan plays the guitar!


Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Dukes youtube channel : https://youtu.be/7Jo4SVHtmqs



]]> Episode 11: Holidays. For people with childhood trauma, holidays can be difficult. While everyone else is celebrating, sharing happy photos, and repeating good wishes to all, trauma survivors may be hiding, running, and faking. We talk a little about the holiday hurt, but then we finish it off with a treat: Ryan plays the guitar!


Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Dukes youtube channel : https://youtu.be/7Jo4SVHtmqs



]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8741774 Mon, 21 Jun 2021 20:00:00 -0400 2677 1 11 full false Episode 10 Who is Ryan Marlo ??? Episode 10 Who is Ryan Marlo ???
Episode 10: Who is Ryan Marlo? International man of mystery? Perhaps. But he also walked out exactly what we talk about- be consistent with HT victims. Listen in as we share how our friendship started and hear some of our misadventures along the way. 


Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Dukes youtube channel : https://youtu.be/7Jo4SVHtmqs

]]>
Episode 10: Who is Ryan Marlo? International man of mystery? Perhaps. But he also walked out exactly what we talk about- be consistent with HT victims. Listen in as we share how our friendship started and hear some of our misadventures along the way. 


Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Dukes youtube channel : https://youtu.be/7Jo4SVHtmqs

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8704070 Mon, 14 Jun 2021 22:00:00 -0400 3861 1 10 full false Episode 9 Meagan Heller & Sabrina Lopez Episode 9 Meagan Heller & Sabrina Lopez  Welcome to Episode 9! This week we speak with two of our friends who work in the field directly with survivors of human trafficking.  

Maegan Heller, MSW, is an expert in complex trauma- that is, recurring traumas.  Maegan is a clinician who helps people understand their personal trauma and teaches them healthy tools that allow the individuals to have vibrant lives in the wake of their personal trauma.  Maegan is constantly learning and adapting to her craft and identifies as a life-long learner which is precisely what makes her such a phenomenal therapist. 

Sabrina Lopez is the founder and CEO of Girl, Speak Up Inc- a non-profit that raises awareness for human trafficking.  With her website, social media platform, and speaking engagements, Sabrina raises awareness on the grooming methods, manipulation tactics, and mind control that occurs before a child is ever trafficked.  She implores parents to learn what these subtle manipulations look like to protect their children from predators. 

Listen in and learn as we speak with Maegan and Sabrina about Trauma with a capital T.  The ladies will explain what trauma is, what it looks like in your brain and body, what triggers are and how they affect a person throughout their life.  

I know you are going to love this episode, and I'm sure we will be inviting these ladies back on to continue this conversation. 

Peace,

Marianne


Sabrina Lopez 

Girl, Speak Up Inc

girlspeakup.com

email: girlspeakup@outlook.com

Instagram: @girlspeakup  

Maegan Heller, MSW

email via our show: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com


Tammy Toney- Butler

 http://www.reflectivespacesministry.com/

A&K Ranch Ministries, LLC, Lee County, Florida, Trauma-Focused, Healing Ministry

http://www.animalsandkidsswfl.com 



Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess  

]]>  Welcome to Episode 9! This week we speak with two of our friends who work in the field directly with survivors of human trafficking.  

Maegan Heller, MSW, is an expert in complex trauma- that is, recurring traumas.  Maegan is a clinician who helps people understand their personal trauma and teaches them healthy tools that allow the individuals to have vibrant lives in the wake of their personal trauma.  Maegan is constantly learning and adapting to her craft and identifies as a life-long learner which is precisely what makes her such a phenomenal therapist. 

Sabrina Lopez is the founder and CEO of Girl, Speak Up Inc- a non-profit that raises awareness for human trafficking.  With her website, social media platform, and speaking engagements, Sabrina raises awareness on the grooming methods, manipulation tactics, and mind control that occurs before a child is ever trafficked.  She implores parents to learn what these subtle manipulations look like to protect their children from predators. 

Listen in and learn as we speak with Maegan and Sabrina about Trauma with a capital T.  The ladies will explain what trauma is, what it looks like in your brain and body, what triggers are and how they affect a person throughout their life.  

I know you are going to love this episode, and I'm sure we will be inviting these ladies back on to continue this conversation. 

Peace,

Marianne


Sabrina Lopez 

Girl, Speak Up Inc

girlspeakup.com

email: girlspeakup@outlook.com

Instagram: @girlspeakup  

Maegan Heller, MSW

email via our show: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com


Tammy Toney- Butler

 http://www.reflectivespacesministry.com/

A&K Ranch Ministries, LLC, Lee County, Florida, Trauma-Focused, Healing Ministry

http://www.animalsandkidsswfl.com 



Marianne Thomas and Ryan Marlo

averycapablehotmess.com

email: averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess  

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8647132 Mon, 07 Jun 2021 04:00:00 -0400 5853 1 9 full false Episode 8 Raleigh Sadler Episode 8 Raleigh Sadler Hi Friends!  This week, we speak with Raleigh Sadler who wrote "Vulnerable Rethinking Human Trafficking".   Raleigh's passion is helping the church see the vulnerable in their own communities.  His organization, Let My People Go, provides resources to churches to help in this cause.  Raleigh entreats us to lean in to the vulnerable while exploring our own vulnerabilities.  Thanks for listening in while we talk with our new friend, Raleigh Sadler.
You will notice that this episode is missing Ryan and Marianne's witty banter.  Unfortunately, we had some technical difficulties, so we had to cut part of the episode.  We know you will enjoy hearing from Raleigh and didn't want to delay that any longer.  You can learn how to contact Raleigh or Ryan and Mariann below.
Next week, we will speak with Sabrina Lopez ("Girl Speak Up") and Maegan Heller, MSW who will talk about trauma, what it looks like, how our brains and bodies react, and unnecessary re-traumatization.   Also, Ryan may or may not lose his mind on next week's episode.

Raleigh Sadler:  lmpg.org

email us:  averycapablehotmess@gmail.com
insta: @averycapablehotmess
Coming soon! averycapablehotmess.com

]]> Hi Friends!  This week, we speak with Raleigh Sadler who wrote "Vulnerable Rethinking Human Trafficking".   Raleigh's passion is helping the church see the vulnerable in their own communities.  His organization, Let My People Go, provides resources to churches to help in this cause.  Raleigh entreats us to lean in to the vulnerable while exploring our own vulnerabilities.  Thanks for listening in while we talk with our new friend, Raleigh Sadler.
You will notice that this episode is missing Ryan and Marianne's witty banter.  Unfortunately, we had some technical difficulties, so we had to cut part of the episode.  We know you will enjoy hearing from Raleigh and didn't want to delay that any longer.  You can learn how to contact Raleigh or Ryan and Mariann below.
Next week, we will speak with Sabrina Lopez ("Girl Speak Up") and Maegan Heller, MSW who will talk about trauma, what it looks like, how our brains and bodies react, and unnecessary re-traumatization.   Also, Ryan may or may not lose his mind on next week's episode.

Raleigh Sadler:  lmpg.org

email us:  averycapablehotmess@gmail.com
insta: @averycapablehotmess
Coming soon! averycapablehotmess.com

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8640459 Fri, 04 Jun 2021 05:00:00 -0400 1666 1 8 full false Episode 7 Adrianna Maria Marrone Episode 7 Adrianna Maria Marrone Today, we speak with Adrianna Maria Marrone.  Adrianna is a mom, business owner, and survivor of childhood traumas.  Adrianna shares her personal story of growing up with parents who were not properly equipped to parent.  We talk about the generational effects of trauma, and Adrianna shares how she was affected.  And we finish with breaking the cycle- not allowing trauma to dictate our lives or our children's lives. 


Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!

]]> Today, we speak with Adrianna Maria Marrone.  Adrianna is a mom, business owner, and survivor of childhood traumas.  Adrianna shares her personal story of growing up with parents who were not properly equipped to parent.  We talk about the generational effects of trauma, and Adrianna shares how she was affected.  And we finish with breaking the cycle- not allowing trauma to dictate our lives or our children's lives. 


Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8573603 Mon, 24 May 2021 05:00:00 -0400 4701 1 7 full false Episode 6 ( 1 month Recap ) Episode 6 ( 1 month Recap ) This week, Ryan and Marianne reflect on their first month of " a very capable hot mess" and take a look at what's coming this month . They also finally answer the question everyone is dying to know," Did Ryan buy a car?" 

]]> This week, Ryan and Marianne reflect on their first month of " a very capable hot mess" and take a look at what's coming this month . They also finally answer the question everyone is dying to know," Did Ryan buy a car?" 

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8533377 Mon, 17 May 2021 07:00:00 -0400 3482 1 6 full false Episode 5 Tammy Toney- Butler Episode 5 Tammy Toney- Butler On this episode, we speak with Tammy Toney-Butler.  Tammy is a survivor, a nurse, an activist, a speaker, and a philanthropist.  Tammy shares her story and how she came to share A&K Ranch with all survivors.  Tammy is available for speaking engagements.  All survivors are welcome at her ranch.  Please email her at the address below for more details.


http://www.reflectivespacesministry.com/

A&K Ranch Ministries, LLC, Lee County, Florida, Trauma-Focused, Healing Ministry

http://www.animalsandkidsswfl.com 

Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!  

]]> On this episode, we speak with Tammy Toney-Butler.  Tammy is a survivor, a nurse, an activist, a speaker, and a philanthropist.  Tammy shares her story and how she came to share A&K Ranch with all survivors.  Tammy is available for speaking engagements.  All survivors are welcome at her ranch.  Please email her at the address below for more details.


http://www.reflectivespacesministry.com/

A&K Ranch Ministries, LLC, Lee County, Florida, Trauma-Focused, Healing Ministry

http://www.animalsandkidsswfl.com 

Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!  

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8468477 Wed, 05 May 2021 22:00:00 -0400 3484 1 5 full false Episode 4 with Melinda Starrett Episode 4 with Melinda Starrett We speak with Melinda Starrett, founder of Transcending your BS.  Melinda provides life coaching, meditation, yoga, and more to those who are overcoming trauma and the people who care for them. Melinda is available for speaking engagements.

Melindastarrettlifecoach2020@gmail.com


Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!  

]]> We speak with Melinda Starrett, founder of Transcending your BS.  Melinda provides life coaching, meditation, yoga, and more to those who are overcoming trauma and the people who care for them. Melinda is available for speaking engagements.

Melindastarrettlifecoach2020@gmail.com


Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!  

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8441346 Mon, 03 May 2021 01:00:00 -0400 3148 1 4 full false Episode 3 Sabrina Lopez Episode 3 Sabrina Lopez We speak with Sabrina Lopez, founder and CEO of Girl, Speak Up! an organization dedicated to educating the public about human trafficking and providing hope and support for survivors of human trafficking.  Sabrina is available for speaking engagements.

www.girlspeakup.com

Instagram: @girlspeakup


Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!  

]]> We speak with Sabrina Lopez, founder and CEO of Girl, Speak Up! an organization dedicated to educating the public about human trafficking and providing hope and support for survivors of human trafficking.  Sabrina is available for speaking engagements.

www.girlspeakup.com

Instagram: @girlspeakup


Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!  

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8399936 Sun, 25 Apr 2021 13:00:00 -0400 2623 1 3 full false episode 2 Nicole Johnson episode 2 Nicole Johnson We speak with Nicole Johnson, author of A Bible Study for the Teenage Heart: How to Overcome Hopelessness and Find Hope in Today’s World.  Nicole shares some of her story that led her to create this book for teens struggling with many of the issues in today’s world.  Her book is available on Amazon.

www.prettypastthings.com 

Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!  

]]> We speak with Nicole Johnson, author of A Bible Study for the Teenage Heart: How to Overcome Hopelessness and Find Hope in Today’s World.  Nicole shares some of her story that led her to create this book for teens struggling with many of the issues in today’s world.  Her book is available on Amazon.

www.prettypastthings.com 

Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!  

]]> ryan marlo Buzzsprout-8350168 Fri, 16 Apr 2021 22:00:00 -0400 3240 1 full false The Interview Episode 1 ! The Interview Episode 1 ! The Interview.  Listen in as we learn a little bit about our host, Marianne Thomas.  She shares some of her history and why she is a very capable hot mess. Marianne is available for speaking engagements.

www.averycapablehotmess.com

averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!  

]]> The Interview.  Listen in as we learn a little bit about our host, Marianne Thomas.  She shares some of her history and why she is a very capable hot mess. Marianne is available for speaking engagements.

www.averycapablehotmess.com

averycapablehotmess@gmail.com

Instagram: @averycapablehotmess

Please follow us on Instagram @averycapablehotmess    and you can contact us @ averycapablehotmess@gmail.com.  Please share our podcast with others!  

]]> Marianne Thomas Buzzsprout-8350157 Fri, 16 Apr 2021 22:00:00 -0400 3491 1 1 full false