My Ex and My Future Wife

MXMFW 14: Wedding Traditions

Mon, 14 Feb 2022 08:00:00 -0800

MXMFW 13: The Year of Jubilee

Wed, 09 Feb 2022 08:00:00 -0800

MXMFW Hiatus Announcement!

Mon, 01 Nov 2021 17:00:00 -0700

This week, we are going on a short hiatus! Bridget is moving across the country, and we want to bring you the best content we can, so we will see you in a few weeks with exciting new episodes!

MXMFW 12: Kosher Sex

Mon, 25 Oct 2021 10:00:00 -0700

Disclaimer: if you are related to anyone on this podcast, probably don't listen to this episode.

Episode Transcript available here:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1HshBi5BVWXD816iGXUdgIgBkbr8oytBX/view?usp=sharing

Jewish Virtual Library
Union for Traditional Judaism
My Jewish Learning
Jewish Women's Archive
Deuteronomy 24:5
Exodus 21:10
Eruvin 100b
Pesachim 72
Nedarim 20b
Carnal Israel
All of us being sex geniuses

MXMFW 11: Abortion Part 2

Mon, 18 Oct 2021 06:00:00 -0700

We had so much to say, we had to make a part 2! Come join us on this week of My Ex and My Future Wife as we continue to discuss the complexities behind abortion. And thanks again to Liz Behlke for suggesting this topic!

Episode Transcript Available Here:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1L9PXgS2mTh39Mc14DnunKwIAvV4bORJ7/view?usp=sharing

References
-Last week's sources
-Nuance and Dialectics
-“A Defense of Abortion” by Judith Jarvis Thomson
-"Same Love" by Macklemore

MXMFW 10: Abortion Part 1

Mon, 11 Oct 2021 06:00:00 -0700

In this episode, your lovely hosts tackle the topic of abortion. They start out by discussing the latest Texas abortion ban and then circle back to the beginning of human history to track the legacy of abortions through time. Once the history of abortion has been sufficiently addressed, they delve into what religious institutions have thought about it throughout time, the precise year that the Catholic Church decided to care, and what the actual scripture even says about it. Maggie's favourite phrase "woman box" makes an appearance, Theo gets to find out what the quickening is, and Bridget references a project she did for a class she flunked in high school.

Episode Transcript Available Here:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1wvo6H4S0p_gVvGrhzNBhxDN1gKH3ElI4/view?usp=sharing

This episode's references:
-Roe vs. Wade Supreme Court Case

-Color of Compromise by Jamar Tisby

-Women’s America 9th Edition edited by Kerber et. al.

-New Orleans Pharmacy Museum

-Terror in the Mind of God by M. Juergensmeyer

-Spring Awakening book and lyrics by Steven Sater, music by Duncan Sheik

-Portrait of a Lady on Fire directed b Céline Sciamma

-“Abortion Has Never Been Just About Abortion” New York Times article by Thomas B. Edsall

-Sawbones

-Shout Your Abortion

-Friend of the Podcast Liz Behlke

-As always, Bridget’s love of Reproductive Health

MXMFW Mid-Season Break Message

Mon, 04 Oct 2021 06:00:00 -0700

We are taking a break this week on My Ex and My Future Wife! Practice some Sabbath along with us, and we'll see you next week for a very fun two-part episode!

MXMFW 9: The Whore/Madonna Dichotomy

Mon, 27 Sep 2021 06:00:00 -0700

In this episode, your fabulous hosts discuss the two genders, no wait The Two Towers (2002), no wait, the two types of women, Virgin and Whore. Accompany Maggie, Theo, and Bridget, as they figure out if liking milves is subversive, if being hungry is the same as being horny, and if Freud was right?? As always, Gay John and Sara Bareilles come up as they navigate virginity, the difference between Eve and Mary, and whether sex positivity can become a perpetuation of the same false dichotomy used to shame people for their sexualities.

Episode Transcript Available Here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1bnP62ine_M0jN7TdFUv-4TKb-R2X3eGm/view?usp=sharing

References:

-Down Girl by Kate Manne

-Overcoming Objectification: A Carnal Ethics by A. J. Cahill

-Take and Eat: Eve, Mary, and Feminist Christianity by M. K. Diede

-Hail Mary? The Struggle for Ultimate Womanhood in Catholicism

-Milfs

-Maggie’s Feminist Philosophy Class

-Bridget’s work in Reproductive Rights

-Linn Haralson

MXMFW Minisode: Supersessionism

Mon, 20 Sep 2021 06:00:00 -0700

In this “minisode” we discuss the term supersessionism. What does it mean? Where does it come from? How can Christians challenge this anti-Semitism that is deeply rooted within their religious tradition? Join us as we continue to explore all the complexities of “bridging the gap” between Christianity and Judaism.

Episode Transcript:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1oVVxJ47R3PPQiO9LiRFAq3I7nkzKfald/view?usp=sharing

This Episode’s sources

God is Not One by Stephen Prothero

“Why the Jews: History of Antisemitism” by the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum

“Ideas & Trends: ‘Supersessionism’ Reconsidered; a leap toward closing the basic gap between Christians and Jews” by the New York Times

C.S. Lewis

Maggie’s Pastor Dad

Theo’s favorite quote

Maggie’s Deconstruction

Theo’s DBT knowledge

MXMFW 8: Love Your Enemy

Mon, 13 Sep 2021 06:00:00 -0700

So, we’ve talked about Loving our Neighbor, but how do we take that a step further and also try to love our enemy? How do we love people who perpetuate systems of oppression? What would Jesus say about restorative justice and prison abolition? What can we learn from the Dalai Lama?
Join us as we discuss all these questions—and more—on this episode of My Ex and My Future Wife

CW: This episode contains discussions of childhood sexual abuse and domestic abuse
Episode Transcript:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/12oiaOJuVuLwz_ytYi2l_3vNkdgBPE3NG/view?usp=sharing

This episode’s sources:

Stokely Carmichael

Are Prisons Obsolete by Angela Davis

13th documentary directed by Ava DuVernay

Maggie’s dad’s sermon on the New Jerusalem

Restorativejustice.org

@tashmica__ on TikTok

@5hahhem on TikTok

Mia Mingus and the Living Bridges Project

Sujatha Balig and the Restorative Justice Project

Strong Oak and Walking in Balance with All Our Relations curriculum

Theo’s love of DBT

Maggie’s girlfriend

MXMFW 7: Love Your Neighbor

Mon, 06 Sep 2021 06:00:00 -0700

We’re all about loving our neighbor here on My Ex and My Future Wife, but what does that mean exactly? What does the Bible say about it? How is it related to liberation theology and mutual aid? What random history lesson will Bridget teach us in this episode? Join us as we discuss all these questions--and more!--on this week’s episode of My Ex and My Future Wife!

Episode Transcript Available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1iPvcAi1PqjAAZm6tIvY000p2ea-Ddj2G/view?usp=sharing

References

Care Work: Dreaming Disability Justice by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha

“Mutual Aid vs Charity” on fiftygifts.com

“Liberation Theology” an essay by John M. Frame on thegospelcoalition.org

A Theology of Liberation by Gustavo Gutierrez

@elledowdministry on tiktok

@nerdypreist on tiktok

“Radical social change: Searching for a New Foundation” by Adjoa Florência Jones de Almedia inThe Revolution Will Not Be Funded: Beyond the Non-Profit Industrial Complex

Women’s America: Refocusing the Past edited by Linda Kerber et. al.

Bridget’s random history knowledge

Theo’s Buddhist background

Maggie’s tears of joy

MUTUAL AID!

MXMFW 6: Lilith

Mon, 30 Aug 2021 06:00:00 -0700

In this episode, Bridget speaks uninterrupted about midrashic figure Lilith for a truly shocking amount of time. Eventually Theo and Maggie weigh in on whether Lilith is a scary demon who will eat your babies, a girlboss to end all girlbosses, or something else entirely. If you've ever wondered "was Adam's first wife a lesbian demon?" or "is Theo just thinking about Jennifer's Body every time someone brings up she-demons?" then you're going to want to give this episode a listen.

CW: Discussion of sexual violence/abuse, and miscarriage
Episode Transcript Available Here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Tq0Tswoq4sW6vn0OVaCOuSmRMnyDPDCe/view?usp=sharing

Sources Cited:
James Joyce's Ulysses
Isaiah 34:14
"The Coming of Lilith" by Judith Plaskow
The Wikipedia Page for Lilith Fair
Some tik tok one of us sent into the group chat and then fact-checked

MXMFW 5: Purity Culture Part 2

Mon, 23 Aug 2021 06:00:00 -0700

Last week we learned about the history of purity culture, and this week Theo, Maggie, and Bridget dive in and discuss how Purity Culture effects people today. They discuss how Purity Culture leads to internalized sexual shame, how it promotes rape, rape culture, and child abuse, and they also discuss how unsuccessful abstinence-only sex education really is.

CW/TW: This episode contains discussions of sexual abuse, rape, rape culture, child abuse, misogyny, sexual shame, and racism

**Thank you to Tiktoker Rachel Cain (@iblamebill) for the metaphor about the vertical vs. horizontal view of sin

**Peggy Reeves Sandy is the researcher mentioned who researched the characteristics of rape prone cultures

Episode Transcript Available here:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/11vsX6TPwQwaG5PYfLibPOTgSV_e1IHS6/view?usp=sharing

Sources for this episode

“Rape-Prone Versus Rape-Free Campus Cultures” by Peggy Reeves Sandy

Rachel Cain, @iblamebill on TikTok

“I Have the Power in My Body to Make People Sin': The Trauma of Purity Culture and the Concept of 'Body Theodicy” by Katie Cross in Feminist Trauma Theologies: Body, Scripture & Church in Critical Perspective.

“Daddy’s Little Girls” by Breanne Fahs

“Producing High Priests and Princesses: The Father-Daughter Relationship in the Christian Sexual Purity Movement” by Elizabeth Gish

“‘ARE YOU A ‘TRASHABLE’ STYROFOAM CUP?’: Harm and Damage Rhetoric in the Contemporary American Sexual Purity Movement” by Elizabeth Gish

“Suffer the Children: National Crisis, Affective Collectivity, and the Sexualized Child” by Susan Knabe

Developing a measure of Purity culture: Sexual messages in evangelical Christian culture, an unpublished doctoral dissertation by Amanda Ortiz

“Broken Promises: Abstinence Pledging and Sexual and Reproductive Health” by Anthony Paik, Kenneth J Sanchagrin, and Karen Heimer

“What is the Prosperity Gospel” by Dr. Anderew Spencer

The Impact of Patriarchal Religions on the Creation of Oppressive Cultures of Female Purity and the Contribution to Rape Culture, and unpublished doctoral dissertation by Haley Stepp

The purity myth: How America's obsession with virginity is hurting young women by Jessica Valenti

MXMFW 4: Purity Culture Part 1

Mon, 16 Aug 2021 06:00:00 -0700

What is Purity Culture? How did it emerge and evolve in the United States? How is it related to American Christianity's history of racism and misogyny? How did it become politically terrifying? How is it related to the Lavender Scare and the unsolved murder of JonBenet Ramsey?
Join us for this episode of My Ex and My Future Wife as we discuss the history of Evangelical Purity Culture in the United States.

**Episode Correction: Nat Turner—not Nat Taylor—lead the 1831 slave revolt mentioned in this episode.

CW/TW: This episode contains discussions of racism, abusive theology, misogyny, sexual abuse, rape, rape culture, and child abuse

Sources:
“I Have the Power in My Body to Make People Sin” by Katie Cross, found in the book Feminist Trauma Theologies
“Daddy’s Little Girls: on the perils of chastity clubs, purity balls, and ritualized abstinence” by Breanne Fahs
“Producing High Priests and Princesses: The Father-Daughter Relationship in the Christian Sexual Purity Movement” by Elizabeth Gish
“Suffer the Children: National Crisis, Affective Collectivity, and the Sexualized Child” by Susan Knabe
“It’s like Playing with a Nuclear Bomb” by Sara Moslener
Developing a measure of Purity culture: Sexual messages in evangelical Christian culture by Amanda Ortiz
The Impact of Patriarchal Religions on the Creation of Oppressive Cultures of Female Purity and the Contribution to Rape Culture by Haley Stepp
“‘Some Could Suckle over Their Shoulder’: Male Travelers, Female Bodies” by Jennifer Morgan from Women’s America Refocusing the Past Ninth Edition
Beyond Loving: Intimate Racework in Lesbian, Gay, and Straight Interracial Relationships by Amy C. Steinbugler
Maggie’s True Crime Obsession

MXMFW 3: Interfaith Marriage

Mon, 09 Aug 2021 06:00:00 -0700

This week, Bridget, Theo, and Maggie dig into what scripture really says about intermarriage, try to stay up to date on current Christian and Jewish takes on intermarriage, and discuss the vibes of people who worship the Devil. They also engage in some slightly tangential discourse about if Jesus is a divine top or not.

Sources:
Deuteronomy 7
Corinthians 6
The websites of every American rabbinical school
A diagram of Jesus as an umbrella in a heterosexual christian marriage

Transcript available here: https://mxmfwpod.buzzsprout.com/1759327/8921156-mxmfw-3-interfaith-marriage

MXMFW 2: Genesis 1:27

Mon, 02 Aug 2021 06:00:00 -0700

Theo, Maggie, and Bridget ponder about what G-d's gender is, what Genesis tells us about gender and sex, whether or not Jesus was intersex, what kind of genetics God would have if God was a biological entity, and so much more in this Episode of My Ex and My Future Wife.

Sources Referenced:
She Who Is by Elizabeth A. Johnson
Beyond God the Father by Mary Daly*
Torah Queeries edited by Drinkwater et. al.
Radical Love by Patrick S. Cheng
Bridget's childhood camp songs
Maggie's Pastor Dad
Theo's medical special interest
Bridget's armchair genetics degree from watching Orphan Black

*Listen to our disclaimer about Mary Daly's transphobia in the episode!

Transcript available here: https://mxmfwpod.buzzsprout.com/1759327/8511150-mxmfw-2-genesis-1-27

MXMFW 1: Introduction

Mon, 02 Aug 2021 06:00:00 -0700

Maggie, Bridget, and Theo introduce themselves and give a debrief of who they are and what the heck this podcast is supposed to be about. (Ideally religion, gender, and sexuality, but diversions are to be expected.)

They tease some questions they'll be asking as the show goes on, and pledge to make fun of The Church as much as possible.

No Citations on this one because no statements were made, but DNA proof of Ashkenazi ancestry can be provided for both Bridget and Theo.

Transcript available here:
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1FRLihMqZtNibhY5A467CoRJyQjV7Ef8W/view?usp=sharing

MXMFW Teaser

Fri, 16 Apr 2021 23:00:00 -0700

Transcript available here: https://mxmfwpod.buzzsprout.com/1759327/8350622-mxmfw-teaser