Domestic Abuse:The Cutting Edge

FROM ORDINARY TO EXTRAORDINARY- DR ANTORIA GILLON

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 20:00:00 +0000

Today ,I welcome Dr. Antoria Gillon, a survivor of domestic violence and a child witness of domestic violence and abuse perpetrated by her father.All the men in her family have been incarcerated for domestic violence and in total ,collectively served 160 years in prison of which her father did 25 years.

Through her lived experience and business and pay holy education from various Universities including ,Harvard , Antoria founded there non-profit organisation called "FROM ORDINARY TO EXTRAORDINARY"( FOTE).
Antoria is also the CEO of FOTE which is based in Dallas,Texas.
In this episode we will touch on Antoria's lived experience and her unique relationship with her father , her abuser .Antoria will also be talking about FOTE's mission , what services they provide at FOTE and how they transform the lives of victims of domestic violence and abuse .

UK NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE : 0808 2000 247 its a freephone and a 24-hr helpline
USA NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HOTLINE :1800 799 7233
USA ONLY : SKILLS AGAINST VIOLENCE.COM /HOTLINE 1855 413 3683

S2 Ep2 -Zoe Dronfield :'Mind of Manipulators'

Mon, 29 Aug 2022 15:00:00 +0100

A returning guest ,Zoe Dronfield , speaks to us about her journey of penning her lived experience of Domestic abuse in her book"Mind over Manipulators" , Family Court atrocities and a vital piece of work she is working on to help other victim/survivors recover and heal

If you find need support please call :
NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE
0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential
OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

Much love and light
Maz

SEASON 2 : Episode 2 - St.Anne's Home for abused women and children

Sun, 15 May 2022 14:00:00 +0100

https://gofund.me/eaf6aafd
Today I speak with Joy Lange , the Director of St.Anne's Home , shelter for destitute ,abused and disadvantaged mother's and children where care and empowerment is in abundance . St.Anne's home is motivated by the principle empowerment and they do their best to enable distressed and disadvantaged women and their children to find relief , support and a chance to become independent, confident and self-sufficient.
Here is a YouTube link for St.Anne's home:
https://youtube.be/Qt57CTWjNNI
https://www.stanneshomes.org.za/
I have set-up a GoFundMe account to help raised funds to keep their doors open . Please if you are able to donate ,(even as little as a £2 ,which is less than a cup of coffee ), then click on the link below and donate today because the best gift you can give a child from an abusive home is a healed ,empowered mother .
https://gofund.me/eaf6aafd

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

SEASON 2: ALISSA - LGBTQ guest speaker

Mon, 21 Feb 2022 23:00:00 +0000

Alissa is my special guest on this first episode of Season 2 as promised . Alissa is a trans-women who has just recently come out , she is 25 years old . A child and adult victim/survivor of domestic abuse . Alissa is from Belgium but lives in Austria. Her heartbreaking struggles with childhood domestic abuse stretching far into her adulthood along with her gender struggles from a very young age is a double-sworded traumatic lived experience and she has been most courageous to share her story with us .

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE 0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential
OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

Here are the links, this was obviously from before I even thought of transitioning:

part 1: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3698159426890102/

part 2: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3700041150035263/

part 3: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3702943436411701/

part 4: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3705709152801796/

part 5: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3707979535908091/

part 6: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3710356615670383/

part 7: https://www.facebook.com/100000882446221/videos/3712854765420568/
Best Regards,

Alissa

SEASON FINALE : Dear John

Sun, 01 Aug 2021 23:00:00 +0100

IT IS THE END OF SEASON 1- A final letter to Dear John

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

EPISODE 15 - Present day Maz vs Present day John

Sun, 25 Jul 2021 19:00:00 +0100

TO THIS DAY EVERYTHING ABOUT ME HAS CHANGE AND TO THIS DAY NOTHING HAS CHANGED ABOUT JOHN. MY JOURNEY OF RECOVERY FROM THE ABUSE HAS BEEN PROFOUND IN EVERY WAY.

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

Finally the next episode be a taster of what I hold in store for Season 2 of my podcast . Come back and listen next week .

A NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERYMONDAY

GUEST SPEAKER : JACKLENA BENTLEY

Sun, 18 Jul 2021 17:00:00 +0100

My sincere regrets that I did not have an episode uploaded last week Monday . I had a very distressful undesirable circumstance befall me just over a week ago but I refused to accept it as my final reality .Now I am back on my feet and on my journey ,so thank you for your patience .
It really is worth the wait as I have a shocking interview for this episode but also a very inspiring story of overcoming childhood abuse.
My guest for today Jacklena Bentley all the way from Canada . Jacklena is the author of her autobiography PART TRUTHS where she narrates her devastating and shocking lived experience of Domestic Child Abuse . Jacklena has appeared on the "Shadoe Davis "Podcast were she talks about her very traumatic and horrific lived experience of domestic child abuse perpetrated by her mother , brother and uncle . Jacklena is a remarkable woman who survived her childhood abuse and trauma and talks to me about it and how she survived and reclaimed her life .
NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE UK

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

CANADIAN NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HOTLINE :
toll-free 1 800 363-9010 /1-800-563-0808

A NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY

Much love and light
Maz

EPISODE 14- TRAUMA BONDS

Mon, 05 Jul 2021 00:00:00 +0100

Trauma bonding is as dangerous as the abuse itself and its another super-power for the abuser to use to remain in control of the relationship. We all need to recognise this if we are to ever get anywhere near to eradicating domestic abuse.

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

Finally the next episode will feature another guest speaker , Jacklena Bentley from Canada , a victim of domestic child abuse and sexual abuse in her home as a child . Jacklena has written her autobiography called Part Truths . so tune in next week for this very heartbreaking shocking lived experience of child abuse

THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY

Much love and light
Maz

EPISODE 13 : Red Flags

Mon, 28 Jun 2021 21:00:00 +0100

Recognising the red flags , some are very obvious and others far more subtle but equally dangerous signs.

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

Finally the next episode will tackle the most powerful glue that prevent severing an abusive relationship – Trauma bonds . What is trauma bonding and why is it so detrimental?

THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY

Much love and light
Maz

EPISODE 12 - Codependency

Sun, 20 Jun 2021 19:00:00 +0100

THE TERM CODEPENDENCY: what is codependency by definition , what are the causes of it and what are the signs of codependency and how my codependency play a huge role in becoming a victim of domestic abuse . Well worth the listen.

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY

Much love and light
Maz

GUEST SPEAKER : ANON , A MALE VICTIM OF DOMESTIC ABUSE

Wed, 16 Jun 2021 02:00:00 +0100

Dear Listeners
I do apologise for not having an episode for Monday gone.
I completed a half marathon on Sunday for a Domestic Abuse Helpline fundraising. I unfortunately suffered from severe sunstroke after the marathon and was bedridden for two days .
I am up and ready to restart
Much love and light
Maz

Today’s guest speaker is Anon , he is a male victim of domestic abuse . It is important that we remain mindful and acknowledge that domestic violence is not exclusively abuse against women only. That there are male victims and female perpetrators of domestic abuse in heterosexual relationships , male and female perpetrators in LGBTQ+ relationships. I am pleased to have Anon gives us his perspective a a male victim of domestic abuse.

Respect men’s advice line : 0808 8010327

ManKind Initiative : 01823 334244

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

Finally the next episode episode will tackle THE TERM CODEPENDENCY: what is codependency by definition , what are the causes of it and what are the signs of codependency and how my codependency play a huge role in becoming a victim of domestic abuse . Well worth the listen.

THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY

Much love and light
Maz

EPISODE 11 : FINANCIAL CONTROL

Mon, 07 Jun 2021 00:00:00 +0100

In this episode tackles how the narcissistic abuser uses money to abuse and how they use money as a mechanism to control . What the red flags are that indicate such abuse and control
NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge
Finally the next episode episode will tackle the topic of family and friends. How the abuse we suffer affects them and how they can support us but also how the perpetrators family are enablers of his abuse

THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY

Much love and light
Maz

GUEST SPEAKER: RITA

Mon, 31 May 2021 02:00:00 +0100

My guest for this episode is Rita, mother of two and a wife to a loving husband , a survivor of domestic abuse and a very good family friend. Her story follows the traumatic abuse she suffered at the very young age of 19.

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

Finally the next episode will tackle Financial Abuse. How the narcissistic abuser uses money to abuse and how they use money as a mechanism to control . What the red flags are that indicate such abuse and control.

THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY

Much love and light
Maz

EPISODE 9 - TOOLS OF CONTROL

Mon, 24 May 2021 00:00:00 +0100

This episode tackles the tools of control used by narcissistic abusers , which follows well from what we have heard from Natasha in the previous episode. Gaslighting, Love-bombing, Trauma bonds, Stonewalling and Threats to share intimate images.

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

Finally the next episode will feature another survivor of domestic abuse , guest speaker Rita , who experienced domestic abuse at a very young age .

THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY

Much love and light
Maz

GUEST SPEAKER : NATASHA SAUNDERS

Mon, 17 May 2021 15:00:00 +0100

My guest for this is Natasha Saunders , a domestic abuse survivor , a mother of 3 beautiful children and a wife to a loving husband. Natasha played a major role as a DA champion for Refuge in her powerful and significant campaigning ‘The Naked Threat’ , an amendment put forward to the DA Bill to include threats to share intimate images a crime. Natasha is also a Public Speaker , a voice for victims of Domestic abuse .

If you find need support please call :
NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

Finally the next episode will tackle tools of control which follows well from what we have heard from Natasha today.

THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY

Much love and light
Maz

EPISODE 7 : BLUE LIGHTS AND WHITE WIGS

Mon, 10 May 2021 00:00:00 +0100

I am dedicating this episode to how the system failed me, and my child .My focus will be mostly on how the police failed us in 2006-2007 and again in 2015 -2018.

If you have been or are affected by domestic abuse or know someone who may be affected and want to reach out for help please call or email the :

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

Finally the next episode will feature another guest speaker , Natasha Saunders, who is a survivor, a mother and wife ,a DA champion and a public speaker. Natasha help lead the Naked Threat campaign all the way to the DA Bill.
THE NEW EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE EVERY MONDAY

Episode 6 : The struggle of being Strangled

Mon, 03 May 2021 00:00:00 +0100

In this episode I highlight escalation of serious harm that strangulation poses , the clause in the DA bill around non-fatal strangulation and more of my survivor story.
For this episode I need to give a TRIGGER WARNING -some of the detail in this episode will contain descriptions of abuse and violence.

If you have been or are affected by domestic abuse or know someone who may be affected and want to reach out for help please call or email the :

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

The next episode will be on Monday and I will talk about the successes and failures of the various services involved in my lived experience of domestic abuse

Episode 5 : Guest Speaker - Zoe Dronfield

Sun, 02 May 2021 18:00:00 +0100

My guest today is Zoe Dronfield . A survivor of domestic abuse and stalking by her ex-partner which lead to a unspeakably violent attack on her by her ex-partner that lasted for 8 hours ,leaving her narrowly escaping death. Zoe has been a champion in campaigning for a Register for serial stalkers and perpetartors of domestic abuse to be included in the DA Bill as amendment 42.

If you have been or are affected by domestic abuse or know someone who may be affected and want to reach out for help please call or email the :

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

My next episode will tackle the escalation of serious harm that strangulation poses , the clause in the DA bill around non-fatal strangulation and more of my survivor story

I became the chained elephant

Mon, 19 Apr 2021 00:00:00 +0100

In this episode I will tackle the question of why victims stay, why and how we become the chained elephant . How the psychology of the chained elephant best describes how an abuser conditions his or her victim and why victims stay for so long or in some cases never leave.

If you find need support please call :
NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

THE NEXT EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE ON MONDAY 19th APRIL AND EVERY MONDAY AFTER THAT A NEW EPISODE WILL BE RELEASED.

Much love and light
Maz

Guest Speaker and survivor: Claire Throssell MBE

Wed, 14 Apr 2021 01:00:00 +0100

My Guest speaker on today’s episode is Claire Throssell MBE.

Claire is a survivor of domestic abuse .A mother of two beautiful angels ,Jack and Paul, who were killed by their abusive father during a Family Court sanctioned unsupervised visit with him, Jack and Paul were 12 and 9 years old when they died at the hands of their abusive father .

Claire is a Campaigner and Public speaker . She is an Ambassador for Women’s Aid and an IDAS champion. And she is at the forefront of ChildFirstCampaign.

Claire received a MBE this year for her powerful campaigning on behalf of children subjected to domestic abuse .

If you have been or are affected by domestic abuse or know someone who may be affected and want to reach out for help please call or email the :

NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

The First nail in the coffin

Mon, 12 Apr 2021 00:00:00 +0100

In this episode I will beginning my story of how I met John and the very first time the physical abuse started .I will also delve into the nature of the narcissistic abuser and narcissistic personality disorder .

If you find need support please call :
NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

THE NEXT EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE ON WEDNESDAY 14th APRIL AND EVERY MONDAY AFTER THAT A NEW EPISODE WILL BE RELEASED.
Much love and light
Maz

Common Denominator

Fri, 09 Apr 2021 21:00:00 +0100

I am Maz , a survivor of domestic abuse . This pilot episode leads up to my narrative of my lived experience of domestic abuse , starting with the common denominator between a victim and the abuser . What is the common denominator ? I invite you to take a listen and enlighten yourself .

If you find need support please call :
NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE

0808 2000 267 freephone and confidential

OR leave a message by completing a form on the website : nationaldahelpline.org.uk

You can find me on :
www.domesticabusethecuttingedge.com
https://domesticabusethecuttingedge.buzzsprout.com
Twitter - @AbuseEdge
Instagram - domestic abuse : the cutting edge
Facebook -Maz Bell /Domestic Abuse : The Cutting Edge

THE NEXT EPISODE WILL BE AVAILABLE ON MONDAY 12th APRIL FOLLOWED BY WEDNESDAY 14TH APRIL AND THEN EVERY MONDAY AFTER THAT A NEW EPISODE WILL BE RELEASED.

Much love and light
Maz