Remember being convinced there were monsters hiding under your bed when you were a kid?

Divorce finances can feel a lot like that. The more you avoid looking at them, the scarier they become. But when you finally turn on the light and take a look? Most of the time, they're just dust bunnies.

If you've ever thought:

• I don't know enough about our finances. 
• My spouse handles most the money. 
• Where do I even start? 
• What financial documents do I need for divorce? 
• How am I supposed to figure all of this out? 

You're definitely not alone.

My co-host today is family law attorney and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Alexandria Zeis, and we're talking about how to take the fear out of divorce finances and get organized one small step at a time.

We'll chat about:

• What documents you'll need for divorce and mediation 
• What to do if you've never been the "money person" in your marriage 
• How to get organized before divorce without feeling overwhelmed 
• Why understanding your finances can actually reduce anxiety 
• How divorce financial disclosures work in California 
• Why pulling your credit report before divorce is so important 
• How to figure out what it actually costs to live each month 
• What an Income and Expense Declaration (FL-150) is and why it matters 
• Why this can be an opportunity to design the next chapter of your life 

The financial side of divorce doesn't have to be scary.

You don't need to become a financial expert overnight. You just need to be willing to look under the bed.

Chances are, those financial monsters are really just dust bunnies.

About Kelly Bennett, Esq.

Kelly Bennett, Esq. is the host of  The Splitting Smart Podcast. She is a senior attorney at Sapere Law & Mediation in Temecula, California. 

About Alexandria Zeis, Esq.

Alexandria Zeis, Esq. is a senior family law attorney at Sapere Law & Mediation in Temecula, California.

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RESOURCES

Divorce Financial Documents Checklist: https://mailchi.mp/1d960ec43ed4/uxo2ul4l62
KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name https://a.co/d/e4VguRk
LEGAL & MEDIATION HELP: https://saperelawfirm.com
INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm
FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

Can my social media be used against me in divorce? Short answer? Yep.

Today we’re talking about one of the biggest divorce mistakes people make without even realizing it.

Social media.

You might think your Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, or other accounts are just a place to share what’s going on in your life. But when you’re going through a divorce, a custody dispute, or even mediation, those posts can take on a life of their own.

And here’s the problem: what you think is a harmless photo, funny caption, or venting session might look very different to a judge, mediator, opposing attorney, or your ex.

In this episode, family law attorneys Kelly Bennett and Alexandria Zeis share real-world examples of how social media shows up in divorce cases and why it can quickly become “Exhibit A.”

Here’s what we’re talking about:

• Social media can be used against you in divorce court
• How screenshots can live forever, even after you delete a post
• Why deleting content can create an even bigger problem
• How social media can affect child custody and co-parenting issues
• What judges notice when they’re evaluating credibility
• How posts can impact spousal support and financial claims
• Why online drama can derail divorce mediation before it even starts
• When it may be smartest to simply go dark on social media

We also talk about parental alienation, oversharing, posting during parenting time, and why your online life can tell a very different story than the one you’re presenting in court.

The big takeaway?

If you’re going through a divorce, think before you post.

Or better yet… take a break from social media until your case is behind you.

About Kelly Bennett, Esq.

Kelly Bennett, Esq. is the host of  The Splitting Smart Podcast. She is a senior attorney at Sapere Law & Mediation in Temecula, California. 

About Alexandria Zeis, Esq.

Alexandria Zeis, Esq. is a senior family law attorney at Sapere Law & Mediation in Temecula, California.

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RESOURCES

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources
KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name https://a.co/d/e4VguRk
LEGAL & MEDIATION HELP: https://saperelawfirm.com
INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm
FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

What You Need to Know About Powers of Attorney, Wills & Trusts

Most people going through divorce never think about this…

• What happens if something happens to YOU before the divorce is final?
•  makes medical decisions for you?
• Who controls your business?
• Who can access your bank accounts?
• Who decides what happens if you’re incapacitated?

And here’s the scary part: if you haven’t updated your powers of attorney, the answer could still be your (soon-to-be-ex) spouse.

In this episode of The Splitting Smart Podcast, Kelly Bennett sits down with her hubby of nearly 40 years, estate planning attorney Greg Bennett, to talk about one of the most overlooked legal issues during divorce: powers of attorney, wills, trusts, and what you absolutely should update before things go sideways.

Because while most people are focused on custody schedules and dividing assets, almost nobody is thinking about who could legally step into their shoes during a medical emergency.

And yes… this stuff matters way more than people realize.

Kelly and Greg talk about:

•  Can you change your will or trust during divorce?
• What happens if your spouse is still your medical power of attorney?
• Can your ex make medical decisions for you while you’re separated?
• Who controls your business if you become incapacitated?
• What is a financial power of attorney during divorce?
• Do you need a trust before your divorce is finalized?
• What happens if you have no estate plan at all?
• temporary decision-making agreements

This episode is practical, easy to understand, and full of the kinds of things nobody tells you when you start a divorce.

Because protecting yourself during divorce isn’t just about splitting assets.It’s also about protecting your future if life takes an unexpected turn.

About Greg Bennett
Greg Bennett is an estate planning attorney and partner at Sapere Law & Mediation in Temecula, California. He helps individuals, families, and business owners protect what matters most through expert legal planning. In this episode, he explains how wills, trusts, HIPAA releases, and powers of attorney can become incredibly important during separation and divorce.

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RESOURCES

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources
KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name https://a.co/d/e4VguRk
LEGAL & MEDIATION HELP: https://saperelawfirm.com
INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm
FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

Think your divorce is done once you sign the paperwork?

Nope.

Today I’ve got Sapere Pro estate planning attorney (and my hubby) Greg Bennett back with me, and we’re talking about something most people don’t even realize they need to deal with after divorce.

If you had a family trust during your marriage, there’s a really good chance it no longer says what you think it says once you’re divorced. And if you don’t fix it, you can end up with confusion, conflict, and in some cases… the wrong person inheriting your assets. Nobody wants that.

And one more thing people don’t realize… having just a will is usually not enough. We talk about why a will alone can still send your family through probate, and what that really means for time, cost, and stress.

In this episode, we break it down in plain English so you actually understand what’s going on and what to do next, and so you don’t find yourself in a big mess over in probate court.

Here’s what we get into:

• What actually happens to your trust after divorce and why it doesn’t just “fix itself”
• Why what your trust says and what your divorce says might not match anymore
• The difference between community property and separate property in real life, not legal jargon
• What changes automatically after divorce and what you still have to take care of yourself
• Why having just a will might not protect your family the way you think it does
• The kinds of mistakes people make that end up costing their families time, money, and stress later
• How mediation helps you think through all of this ahead of time instead of cleaning it up after

Bottom line, your divorce might be final… but your planning isn’t.

And this is one of those things that’s easy to put off, but can create a really big mess for your family if you do. A few simple updates now can make everything a whole lot easier later.

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RESOURCES

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources
KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name https://a.co/d/e4VguRk
LEGAL & MEDIATION HELP: https://saperelawfirm.com
INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm
FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

Hey friends. Today we’re talking about something that’s happening more and more, and honestly, it surprises a lot of people when they see it.

Gray divorce.

Yup, that’s the term for divorce after 50, and the numbers have actually doubled since 1990. And in our law practice, Sapere Law & Mediation in Temecula, California, we’ve even seen what I call “extra gray divorce”… couples in their seventies and eighties deciding it’s time to move on.  

Divorce later in life looks very different from divorce in your 30s or 40s. By this stage, you’ve usually built a life together over decades. There may be retirement accounts, pensions, adult children, grandchildren, and a lot of shared history. And that’s… extra tough.

So the question becomes: how do you untangle all of that without blowing up your financial future or your family relationships?

Here’s what we’re digging into today: 

• What “gray divorce” actually means and why it’s becoming more common
• Why long-term marriages create different financial challenges
• Retirement accounts, pensions, and how they get divided in divorce
• Why spousal support is often part of divorce after a long marriage
• The emotional reality of ending a relationship after decades together
• How adult children and grandchildren are affected (and they are!)
• Why mediation is often a smarter path than courtroom divorce

Divorce after 50 is not just about splitting assets. It’s about protecting your financial future, your emotional wellbeing, and your family relationships. And how divorce mediation can help you protect your retirement, reduce stress, and keep family relationships intact.

Have a listen, or share this episode with a loved one who may be facing their own “gray divorce.” 

RESOURCES

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources
KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name https://a.co/d/e4VguRk
LEGAL & MEDIATION HELP: https://saperelawfirm.com
INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm
FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

Okay, you spotted the victim habit. Now what? 

If you listened to episode 66 and thought, "that is me,” this is your next step.

If you have been in divorce stress, family conflict, or a rough life season, it is so easy to slip into patterns that keep you stuck, right? Not because you’re weak. Because your brain is trying to protect you. But protection and progress are not the same thing.

In this episode, I walk you through the ways you can disrupt the victim habits that are holding you back. These shifts in your thinking help you get your footing back (yes!), change the pattern, and start moving forward again…. without having to overhaul your whole life overnight.

Want to get out of your own way? We talk about:

• How to spot the moment you are sliding into an old pattern
• The small changes that create momentum… fast
• Why your environment and your inner circle matter more than people realize
• What to do when you know better but still keep doing the same thing
• A mindset shift that helps you stop beating yourself up and start taking action

RESOURCES

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources
KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name https://a.co/d/e4VguRk
AMEN CLINICS: (Dr. Daniel Amen): https://www.amenclinics.com
BOOK MENTIONED: Resilient, Rick Hanson PhD https://a.co/d/05blH36P
LEGAL & MEDIATION HELP: https://saperelawfirm.com
INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm
FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

Ever feel stuck in the same loop, even when you know you want things to change? I get it!

Today we’re talking about something I see all the time in divorce, conflict, and life transitions. I call them the six victim habits. They’re not about calling yourself a victim. 

They’re about spotting the patterns that quietly keep you stuck, keeping you from moving forward.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through the six habits and help you figure out if one of them is showing up in your life right now. Once you spot it, you can fix it.

We’ll chat about:

• The thrill of attention and when support turns into a trap
• Self-imposed helplessness and why “I can’t” can become a default
• Playing small and not growing because it feels uncomfortable
• The “get them before they get you” mindset 
• The “can’t say no” habit and how over-giving really leads to burnout
• And some real life examples 

Next episode, I’ll show you what to do with this once you spot your habit, because awareness is totally step one, and change is the goal.

Resources:

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources

KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name – https://a.co/d/e4VguRk 

LEGAL: Legal & Mediation Help: https://saperelawfirm.com 

INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm 

FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

You really can get through your divorce without it turning into an all-out war.

I’m breaking down how to keep your peace and your power. Because being the “peacemaker” doesn’t mean being a pushover. It means you’re smart, strategic, and keeping your eyes on the long game instead of getting lost in the drama.

We’ll talk about what a real peacemaker looks like (hint: calm and confident, not quiet and compliant), and how to protect what matters most to you without letting emotions run the show.

Here’s what we’re diving into:

• The real difference between being peaceful and being passive
• How to get in the right headspace before a big talk or mediation
• Why your emotional "state" affects how well you negotiate
• What to say when your ex pushes back without making things worse
• Red flags that you're giving too much away (and how to stop before you do)
• The one thing that can save you time, money, and a lot of stress

If you’ve been trying to “keep the peace” but end up feeling walked on, this one’s for you. I’ll show you how to stay grounded, protect your interests, and actually get to the finish line faster, with a lot less stress and way fewer lawyer bills.

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources

KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name – https://a.co/d/e4VguRk 

LEGAL: Legal & Mediation Help: https://saperelawfirm.com 

INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm 

FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

It sounds simple: just add your kid to the house title and skip the legal stuff. But what feels like a shortcut can turn into a mess… and sometimes, a full-blown legal disaster.

In this episode, I’m joined by Sapere Pro and estate planning attorney Greg Bennett to talk about why putting family on your title is almost never a good idea. We’ve seen this move backfire in ways that cause family conflict, tax surprises, and court cases that could have been prevented.

If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just put my kid on the deed so it’s easier when I die,” this is your heads-up: it’s probably not as easy or as safe as it sounds.

Greg and I often see people trying to do the right thing with their home, only to create problems they didn’t expect.

We talk about what really happens when you add someone to your title, and how it can lead to legal issues, financial risk, and family tension that’s hard to unwind once it starts.

Here’s what we cover:

• Why “just put them on” feels simple but can backfire fast
• The real risks of giving up legal control of your home
• How families end up in court over decisions made with good intentions
• A cleaner, safer way to protect your property and the people you love

This one’s for anyone thinking about estate planning, helping aging parents, or navigating property during divorce. You have options. Just make sure they’re the right ones.

RESOURCES:

Download: Mediation Starter Guide: How to Talk to Your Ex About Mediation
 https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources

Kelly's Book: Victim Is Not Your Name

Legal & Mediation Help: Sapere Law Firm

Instagram: Sapere Law Firm

Facebook: Sapere Law Firm

You can’t control how they’ll react, but you can control how you show up. 

This episode is about getting grounded, staying calm, and making those hard conversations a little less painful... and a lot more productive. 

When conflict flares up, the way you communicate can either move things forward or make them worse. I’m sharing the same tools I teach my clients—and use myself—to help navigate emotional conversations with more clarity and less chaos. Whether it’s your ex, your co-parent, or your boss, there is a better way. 

You’ll hear a clip from my video guide, How to Talk to Your Ex About Mediation. And while this isn’t about mediation specifically, the same steps and language apply to any tough conversation, especially when emotions are high and the outcome really matters. 

We’re digging into: 

• Why your emotional state before the conversation matters most 
• How to set a non-confrontational tone without triggering the other person 
• The power of neutral language, and why accusations backfire 
• What not to say if you want to avoid defensiveness and dead ends 
• Why pressure and ultimatums never get you what you want 
• How to use scripts to prepare for difficult talks without sounding robotic 
• The surprising upside of conflict (yes, there is one) 

If you’ve got a hard conversation coming up—or one you’ve been avoiding—this episode will help you get grounded, clear, and confident before you speak. 

RESOURCES 

Download Mediation Guide & Video: How to Talk to Your Ex About Mediation
Kelly’s Book: Victim Is Not Your Name – https://a.co/d/e4VguRk
Legal & Mediation Help: Sapere Law & Mediation - https://saperelawfirm.com
 Instagram: @saperelawfirm
Facebook: @saperelawfirm 

What if the best way to win custody… is to wait?

This episode flips the script on what most veteran parents expect—and reveals what family court actually wants to see when it comes to veteran divorce and custody.

In Part 2 of my conversation with Hon. Mark Johnson (Ret.), we move from trauma to the tricky terrain of divorce and parenting after PTSD. If Part 1 was about what went wrong, this one’s about how to start making it right.

Whether you're a veteran struggling with post-combat stress and facing divorce, or the co-parent trying to hold it all together, this episode is full of clarity, compassion, and a clear plan forward.

In this episode:

·       What family court really wants to see before granting custody

·       How to set up parenting plans that account for trauma history

·       The custody checklist every military family should read

·       When it’s time to lower your timeshare—and why that’s not losing

·       Why treatment first = better outcomes for everyone

·       A mock court speech that every lawyer should borrow

About Mark Johnson: Hon. Mark Johnson (Ret.) served as a Superior Court Judge and Colonel in the U.S. Army. He’s a decorated Iraq War veteran, former Veteran’s Court judge, and the author of Scars and Strife, a novel inspired by real stories of combat trauma and recovery.

RESOURCES: 

Mark Johnson's book: Scars and Strife – https://a.co/d/38sod6z
Download Custody Checklist: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources
Kelly’s Book: Victim Is Not Your Name – https://a.co/d/e4VguRk
Legal & Mediation Help: https://saperelawfirm.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm
Facebook: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

This one’s powerful. 

If you or someone you love has worn the uniform, you already know that the battles don’t always stop when deployment ends. And when veterans divorce, there’s usually a whole lot beneath the surface leading up to the split. 

 In this episode of The Splitting Smart Podcast, I’m sitting down with someone I deeply respect: Hon. Mark Johnson (Ret.), an Iraq War vet, Bronze Star recipient, and the judge on the Veterans Court in Riverside County. He’s seen it all—PTSD, moral injury, addiction—and he’s here to share what most people (even lawyers) miss when a veteran ends up in family court. 

We talk about trauma, recovery, justice, and the marriages caught in between. 

In this episode: 

• Trauma and healing: what a decade of Veterans Court taught Judge Johnson  
• The signs of combat-related PTSD—and how they impact marriage 
• Why reintegration is harder than people realize 
• When domestic violence can really be about untreated trauma (and what to do about it) 
• What spouses and lawyers need to ask—but usually don’t 
• Stories of recovery, redemption, and hope 

About Mark Johnson: 

Hon. Mark Johnson (Ret.) served as a Superior Court Judge and Colonel in the U.S. Army. He’s a decorated Iraq War veteran and longtime advocate for veterans who find themselves in the justice system, especially those struggling with PTSD and trauma. His novel, Scars and Strife, brings these stories to life through fiction rooted in truth. 

Stay tuned for Part 2 (episode 62): 

In the next episode, we dive deeper into veteran divorce, and what it takes to build real co-parenting agreements after military service and trauma. 

HON. MARK JOHNSON (RET.)'S BOOK: Scars and Strife – https://a.co/d/38sod6z 

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources  

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: The Splitting Smart Podcast

FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:  Instagram.com/saperelawfirm

JOIN THE CONVERSATION ON FACEBOOK:  Facebook.com/saperelawfirm

NEED QUALITY LEGAL HELP? Visit Sapere Law & Mediation

NEED SOME ENCOURAGMENT? Kelly wrote a book just for YOU: Victim Is Not Your Name: Remembering Your True Identity In the Midst of Life Challenges

They were supposed to be spending their golden years traveling, relaxing, and maybe spoiling any grandkids. Instead? They spent two years locked in a bitter divorce that racked up over $100K in legal fees—and that’s just one side.

In this episode, I’m walking you through the story of my client "Jeremy," a retired man who did everything right. He offered fair settlements. He tried to keep it calm. He just wanted to move on with his life. But his ex was stuck in anger—and her attorney wasn’t there to solve problems, only escalate them.

You’ll hear how a judge finally stepped in with a scolding from the bench, and why it still took two years, multiple court hearings, and over $100,000 (double that for both sides!) before a resolution.

But this isn’t just about one couple. It’s about what happens when you let anger run the show: the stress, the time lost, the way it impacts your health, your family, and your future.

Whether you’re the one feeling angry or you’re up against someone who is—this episode will help you understand what’s really at stake, and how to stop the madness.

We’re unpacking:

• How a “simple” divorce turned into a financial and emotional nightmare
• Why fear often hides behind deep-rooted anger
• The mental and physical toll of prolonged litigation (including health scares)
• Why grown kids start pulling away when things get messy
• How some attorneys thrive on conflict—and drag things out
• The moment a judge said, “This should’ve settled long ago”
• How divorce mediation could’ve changed everything

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources  

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: The Splitting Smart Podcast

FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:  Instagram.com/saperelawfirm

JOIN THE CONVERSATION ON FACEBOOK:  Facebook.com/saperelawfirm

NEED QUALITY LEGAL HELP? Visit Sapere Law & Mediation

NEED SOME ENCOURAGMENT? Kelly wrote a book just for YOU: Victim Is Not Your Name: Remembering Your True Identity In the Midst of Life Challenges

Feel like something’s “off?" It might not be you—it might be your hormones.

I’m back with Dr. Diana Hoppe—OB/GYN, hormone expert, and breast cancer survivor—to get into what most doctors still aren’t telling you about hormone therapy. 

We’re talking about foggy thinking, the myths around hormone replacement theory, and what you can do to feel like yourself again.

If you’ve ever asked, “What’s happening to me?.... You’re going to want to listen to this episode.

Here’s what we get into:

• Why brain fog is not something you “just have to deal with”
• What really happened with that HRT study in the early 2000s
• Dr. Hoppe’s own breast cancer story
• What your OB/GYN might not be trained to look for
• How men can help their partners during perimenopause
• Natural ways to reset your system through supplements 
• How to find the right doctor who actually listens

It's time to stop blaming yourself—and start getting answers that actually help.

About Dr. Diana: 

Dr. Diana Hoppe is a board-certified OB/GYN, best-selling author, and total rockstar when it comes to helping women feel like themselves again. She is the founder of AmazingOver40.com, a telemedicine platform focused on hormone balance and women’s wellness. 

RESOURCES: 

• DR. DIANA'S WEBSITE: https://amazingover40.com 
• DR. DIANA'S BOOK: Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life 
• DR. DIANA'S PROGRAM: Dr. Diana’s Transform Your Body, Mind, and Energy Detox program
• WATCH ON YOUTUBE: The Splitting Smart Podcast
• FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:  Instagram.com/saperelawfirm
• JOIN THE CONVERSATION ON FACEBOOK:  Facebook.com/saperelawfirm
• NEED QUALITY LEGAL HELP? Visit Sapere Law & Mediation
• NEED SOME ENCOURAGMENT? Kelly wrote a book just for YOU: Victim Is Not Your Name: Remembering Your True Identity In the Midst of Life Challenges

Think your marriage is falling apart? It might actually be your hormones. 

Kelly sees people walk into her office every day ready to end their marriage—sometimes without realizing that hormones (theirs or their spouse’s) might be the real issue. Dr. Diana sees it too. Together, they break down how perimenopause, menopause, and hormone imbalance can show up as brain fog, anxiety, low libido, or emotional burnout—and how many women don’t get real answers until it’s too late. 

In this episode of The Splitting Smart Podcast, Kelly Bennett, Esq. teams up with Dr. Diana Hoppe—OB/GYN, hormone expert, and best-selling author—to talk about a little-known connection between hormonal shifts and marital breakdown. If you're in your 40s or 50s and feeling unhappy in your relationship, this episode is a must-listen. 

Dr. Diana and Kelly cover: 

• Why perimenopause is often a hidden factor in relationship conflict
• How hormone changes can masquerade as marital problems 
• What to do when everything feels like too much 
• Why libido issues, mood swings, and brain fog may not be “just stress” 
• What to now about hormone therapy and how to ask the right questions 
• When it’s time to pause and check your health before filing for divorce 

About Dr. Diana: 

Dr. Diana Hoppe is a board-certified OB/GYN, best-selling author, and total rockstar when it comes to helping women feel like themselves again. She is the founder of AmazingOver40.com, a telemedicine platform focused on hormone balance and women’s wellness. 

RESOURCES: 

• DR. DIANA'S WEBSITE: https://amazingover40.com 
• DR. DIANA'S BOOK: Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life 
• DR. DIANA'S PROGRAM: Dr. Diana’s Transform Your Body, Mind, and Energy Detox program
• WATCH ON YOUTUBE: The Splitting Smart Podcast
• FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:  Instagram.com/saperelawfirm
• JOIN THE CONVERSATION ON FACEBOOK:  Facebook.com/saperelawfirm
• NEED QUALITY LEGAL HELP? Visit Sapere Law & Mediation
• NEED SOME ENCOURAGMENT? Kelly wrote a book just for YOU: Victim Is Not Your Name: Remembering Your True Identity In the Midst of Life Challenges

Divorce can feel overwhelming—even when faith is a big part of your life. Many people turn to their church for guidance, but what if you don’t feel comfortable talking to your pastor? What if the advice you’re given doesn’t match up with what you know is best for you and your family? What is there is abuse?  

In this episode, Kelly Bennett, Esq., continues her conversation with Denny Brewer—a longtime family law attorney, Executive Pastor, and General Counsel at Fellowship Church in Grapevine, Texas. They explore what faith communities often get wrong—and right—when it comes to divorce (hint: especially if there is abuse involved), how to navigate faith-based guilt, what to do if your place of worship isn’t the right fit for support, and why mediation can be the best choice for handling divorce for privacy and mental (and financial!) well-being reasons. 

Kelly and Denny chat about:

Why many people feel uncomfortable discussing divorce with their faith leaders 

• Why pastors and religious leaders should ask, “Is there abuse?”
• How abuse can go unmentioned and lead to tragedy 
• When to seek professional guidance outside of your faith community
•  Why mediation is often a better option than going to court 
• Why there is no better time to embrace faith and lean into prayer than during divorce 
• Plus, a couple of very surprising stories… 

Dennis Brewer is longtime family law attorney, and executive pastor and general counsel at Texas mega Church Fellowship Church in Grapevine, Texas. He is the co-author of the new book, Back to Court: A Complete Guide to Child Custody Litigation.  

Note: This episode touches on abuse and real-life incidents with unfortunate endings. If these subjects are difficult for you, please listen with care. 

RESOURCES:

DENNY BREWER'S BOOK: Back to Court: A Complete Guide to Child Custody Litigation. 

WATCH ON YOUTUBE: The Splitting Smart Podcast

FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:  Instagram.com/saperelawfirm

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Hey friends, divorce can shake your faith to the core, right? Whether you’re struggling with guilt, a fear of being judged by your faith community, or questioning what your beliefs say about divorce, you’re not alone. 

What if the very thing you’re afraid of could actually be a source of healing and strength?

In this episode, Kelly Bennett, Esq., chats with Denny Brewer, Board Certified Family Law Specialist, about the impact of divorce on faith. They break down common struggles—like shame, isolation, and judgment—and give real-life insights on getting through divorce while staying true to your beliefs.

Key Takeaways from This Episode:

• The “Shame Factor” in Divorce – Why people feel judged and isolated during divorce—and how to break free from that mindset.
• Faith’s Role in Divorce – How some churches/places of worship get it wrong by ostracizing divorced members—and how others actually provide support and healing.
• Are You Stuck in Victim Mode? – How to recognize if you’re wallowing in self-pity or using your faith to find strength and purpose.
• The Power of Forgiveness – What true forgiveness really means (and why it’s actually for you, not your ex).
• The Right “They” – Why surrounding yourself with the right people during and after divorce is critical to healing and rebuilding your life.
• Faith-Based Therapy & Divorce Recovery – Why religious counseling alone may not be enough and how faith-based therapy can help you move forward.
• Making Your Misery Your Ministry – How your greatest struggle can become your greatest source of strength in helping others.

Whether you’re the one filing or the one who never wanted the divorce, this chat will help you find strength, clarity, and a way forward.

Dennis Brewer is longtime family law attorney, and executive pastor and general counsel at Texas mega Church Fellowship Church in Grapevine, Texas. He is the co-author of the new book, Back to Court: A Complete Guide to Child Custody Litigation. 
 
Want more? Tune in for a bonus episode (coming soon) that continues the conversation om divorce and faith. 

RESOURCES:

DENNY BREWER'S BOOK: Back to Court: A Complete Guide to Child Custody Litigation. 

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Hey friends, let’s talk about something that keeps so many people up at night: divorce anxiety. 

If you’re in the middle of a divorce or a custody battle, you know how easy it is to get stuck in a cycle of worry. The “what ifs” never stop, and before you know it, you’re running on empty—exhausted, stressed, and overwhelmed. 

But here’s the thing: Worrying won’t change the outcome. What will make a difference is learning how to focus on what you can control. In this episode, I’m sharing a simple, powerful strategy (inspired by Stephen Covey’s circles of control) to help you shift your mindset, lower your stress, and start making decisions from a place of clarity instead of fear. 

Here’s what we’re diving into: 

• Why divorce makes you feel like your brain is stuck in overdrive (and how to calm the chaos) 
• Are you stressing over things you can’t change? Learn to spot the difference between what’s in your control and what’s not 
• Break the worry cycle—a simple shift that stops anxiety from running your life 
• Mediation or court battle? How to know what’s right for your situation (and avoid unnecessary stress and money drains) 
• Taking your power back—how to stop feeling like a victim and start making smart moves for your future 

If you’re tired of losing sleep over your divorce, hit play now—this episode is packed with real, practical ways to help you breathe easier and move forward. 

Hosted by Kelly A. Bennett, Esq., a family law attorney and mediator with over 30 years in the family law trenches. 

RESOURCES:

BECOME AN INSIDER 

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Hey friends, this one’s for all the hardworking parents out there trying to figure out how to juggle a busy career and the emotional rollercoaster of divorce and custody.

Let’s be real: divorce is tough enough, but when you’re the breadwinner, it can feel like you’re being pulled in a million directions.

You’ve poured a lot into your career—long hours, late nights, sacrificed weekends—and now you’re asking, “Is all of that going to work against me when it comes to custody of my kids?”

This week, we’re tackling the real struggles of balancing work and family during a divorce. I’m breaking it down in plain English, including what the courts actually look for in custody cases and how to set yourself up for success—while staying connected to your kids.

Here’s what we’re talking about: 

• How to build trust with your kids, your co-parent, and the court. 
• Joint custody, sole custody and physical custody - what do these terms really mean and how do they affect you? 
• “Status quo” in custody cases (and why it’s a big deal). 
• Parenting plans that actually work for you and your kids. 
• Why staying close to your kids’ primary residence could make or break your case for more parenting time. 
• How tech tools can help you stay connected, even when work takes you away. 
• The lowdown on mediation vs. court battles, and how mediation can save you time, money, and stress (while keeping the focus on your family’s best interests). 

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the tug-of-war between work, divorce court, and quality time with your kids, this episode is your realistic guide to getting through it. 
 
Hosted by Kelly A. Bennett, Esq., a family law attorney and mediator with over 30 years of experience in the family law trenches.   


RESOURCES:

Struggling to bring up mediation with your ex? I have a free resource that gives you easy scripts, smart tips, and a quick video to help you start the conversation.

Get it here

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An ending is a new beginning,

Hey friends, this is it—the grand finale for On Fire Empire! Next stop? Our big, bold rebrand to The Splitting Smart Podcast! But before we fully dive into this exciting new era, we need to tackle something major: how to keep your career or business thriving during a divorce.

Let’s face it—divorce is messy. But here’s the deal: it doesn’t have to take down everything you’ve built. Whether you’re a small business owner or crushing it in your dream career, you can safeguard the work you’ve poured your heart into.

In this episode, I’m sharing my go-to strategies to help you stay focused, protect your livelihood, and dodge the classic pitfalls that can throw you off track. We’ll cover why your business or work matters more than ever, how to schedule your energy (instead of letting divorce drain it), the power of having a flexible game plan, and how to build a rock-solid support system that actually lifts you up.

You’ll get real-world advice, a few ‘aha!’ moments, and plenty of tools to help you split smart without letting the chaos of divorce derail your life. You’ve worked too hard to let that happen. Let’s do this!"

What’s Next?

The Splitting Smart Podcast, launches January 6th. Get ready for all-new episodes full of tips, tools, and strategies to navigate family law conflicts with clarity and confidence.

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You talked, we listened.

Friends, I’m thrilled to have you back for an episode that marks a big shift in our journey together. Today, I’m giving you a peek behind the scenes as we prepare for an exciting rebrand of the On Fire Empire podcast. After hearing your feedback about what you truly need, we’re evolving to become The Splitting Smart Podcast.

This isn’t just a name change—it’s a new direction that helps you navigate life’s toughest conflicts, whether it’s divorce, custody battles, or managing other complex relationships… the smart way.

So, what is changing?

You’ll still get my insights, guidance, and expert advice from 30 years in the trenches, but now with an added focus on real-life conflict resolution. (I mean, there’s a reason I’m called “The Breakup Artist”, right?). We’ll tackle the unique challenges that come with splitting up and give you practical tools you can use to stay out of court.

What’s in it for you?

Whether you’re going through a divorce, supporting a friend or family member who is, or even facing conflict in business, this podcast will give you the tools to split smart…. protecting your family, giving you peace of mind, and going easier on your wallet.

Here’s a glimpse of the future:

Expect monthly episodes that focus on building your skills in mediation, conflict resolution, and smart decision-making. Plus, we’ll have bonus episodes featuring guest experts (Sapere Pros) who will empower you to manage the changes you’re facing.

Join me as we turn the page on the On Fire Empire and start a new chapter together with The Splitting Smart Podcast.

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Are you living and running your business with INTENTION?

You may be asking...what actually is Intentional Living and how the heck do you achieve it?

As we roll into the holidays and into the new year, I thought this would be a timely topic to discuss.

This week on the On Fire Empire Podcast, we talk about intentional living. Living with intention is first knowing what you want! Think about that for a moment, do you know what you want...honestly? Are you actively going after what you want? Are all of your daily thoughts and actions intentional to get you one step closer to the life you want?

Listen to today's episode and start living with INTENTION. You can do this!

LISTEN IN TO HEAR:

• What the heck living with INTENTION actually means.
• How to define your own intention(s).
• How do I use my intentions in my personal and business life, to live authentically.
• How to access my free resource to get started living with Intention. 

You won’t want to miss this episode – It is one thing to have an Intention, in the middle of intention and what you want, is the why. This is what drives your motivation. Meaning is everything! 

Happy listening,

Kelly

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Are you dreading the holidays?

I know sometimes we think, "oh I have to see that odd ball family member that has such weird views and if I have to listen to them again..."

Let's turn that on its head and get intentional about how we roll into the holidays.

This week on the On Fire Empire Podcast, we are getting personal. With the holidays coming up it is a good time to practice keeping ourselves open to new perspectives and becoming intentional in managing challenging situations. Just as we do in business we must adapt and understand how to pivot.

The majority of modern holidays were born from a religion or faith-based idiology, and there was INTENTION behind their creation.

LISTEN IN TO HEAR:

• The difference in feeling gratitude vs. showing/LIVING in gratitude.
• How we can step back and listen and gain a new perspective before judging others and their point of view. 
• A new fresh perspective on the holidays and maybe a theme for you and your loved ones to follow this season. 
• How you can become intentional through practical application this holiday season.

You won’t want to miss this episode – We can't control every situation; we CAN control our reaction and perspective on them. 

Happy listening,

Kelly

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This week on the On Fire Empire Podcast, I am discussing Quiet Quitting, a new trend that has been in the news since summer 2022. It all started with a seventeen second video on Tik Tok. (I know right!?)

Simply, Quiet Quitting is when someone is not outright quitting their job, but they are quitting the idea of going above and beyond; still performing their duties, only doing the bare minimum.

We cannot let this trend invite scarcity into our lives and businesses.

LISTEN IN TO HEAR:

• What is Quiet Quitting, what it is NOT, and is it happening in my business.
  
  
• Strategies and things you can do to prevent or stop your employees from doing this.

You won’t want to miss this episode – We can't change the world if we have a team that is doing the bare minimum. 

This new trend is the anti-work life balance. Learn how to take charge and help support your employees so everyone can serve your clients and customers while being ALL in.

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On this shorty-episode, Kelly takes a call from Christy. Christy and her husband have a rocky marriage, and he won't go to counseling. Christy's thinking that maybe a trial separation is in order - but hubby is super prickly and she doesn't know how to broach the subject.

With her lawyer hat squarely in place, Kelly hears Christy's question for the first time and gives Christy practical advice that only a super-seasoned divorce and mediation lawyer can give.  Listen in and learn: 

. . . Why ultimatums don't work, and the smarter approach that does.
. . . What Empowerment Zones are, and how to live in those zones.
. . . How to approach a spouse who views hard conversations as personal attacks.
. . . How to set yourself up for a productive conversation by leading with love, sticking to facts over feelings, choosing a smart location for the discussion and using time limits.

Is legal separation right for Christy? You be the judge.

Disclaimer . . .  The content presented here and  on the podcast are not intended to be legal advice, nor does it create an attorney-client relationship. Such content created by Kelly Bennett is for informational and educational purposes only. Legal advice happens when the lawyer is given the opportunity to hear your specific situation and give you advice based on your unique facts, after a conversation with you about those facts.

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RESOURCES MENTIONED:
 
Kelly's book, Victim is Not Your Name, pages 84-88.
(Circles of Influence; Empowerment Zones).

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Are you stuck with bad hiring decisions because you’ve been in desperate need of employees? In the age of the “hiring desert” - not enough qualified job candidates to go around - this happens quite frequently. But there are steps you can take today to start turning your hiring practices around.

In this episode, Kelly shares three crucial components to hiring the right employees. These are tried and true methods learned over Kelly's 35 years in business.

1) Hire intentionally and methodically; and create a backup plan. 
2) Hire for company culture. 
3) Develop a hiring process. You can’t afford to wing this. 

You'll also learn: 
How to get out of the “any warm body” danger zone when hiring.
How to use pre-framing when hiring. What do you want your team to look like? What are your team’s core values?
How a screening system gives you a more complete picture of candidates while freeing up your time. 
How a 90 day probationary period should be the minimum, allowing time for the new hire shine and polish to wear off.
Plus, you’ll get a peek into how our entire hiring process works. It’s involved yet streamlined, and very effective in helping us hire the right people. 

If you’re struggling to figure out how to hire the right people, this episode's for you!

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RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Clifton Strengths Assessment (StrengthsFinder)
https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/252137/home.aspx

Myers Briggs Assessment (16 Personalities)
https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

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If your value chain breaks it can disrupt your business big time. Value chains are the processes you have in place to deliver your products and services to your clients. This break might be caused by an employee failing to do their job properly because they didn't have the appropriate training. And that’s totally fixable.

The right training process sets employees up for success and helps them become peak performers. Showing them the ropes is more than just telling them not to break the rules; you’re actually showing them what to do. No more guessing.

This episode is the second in Kelly's "Business Trinity" series (Culture, Training, Hiring). Kelly discusses why the right training keeps your business moving down the path to success. It doesn’t matter if there are only two of you in the organization… training is absolutely critical to your success! 

In this episode you'll learn the 4 Key Elements to an effective training process (what training IS and IS NOT) . . .  When you get your training right, as a business owner you'll gain freedom to operate and work on your business in the most productive and profitable way possible. 

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RESOURCES MENTIONED: 

The Full Focus Planner by Michael Hyatt

Trainual

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Is a great work culture all about perks and goodies? Free lunches, nap rooms, and onsite chefs? Nope. Studies show that perks don’t result in a better work culture, and they don’t create peak performers. 

If you’ve got too much drama and negativity in your workplace…you're not alone. 

In this episode, Kelly shows you what works and what doesn’t when it comes to creating a happier and more productive work team. This is part one in the three-part Business Trinity series (Culture, Training, Hiring). If you’re not sure how to build an amazing culture in your business, this episode gives you answers.

Here's the Implementation assignment Kelly gave you in this episode: 

"Culture is not values or mission statements; those are ideals, not disciplines. Culture is how we treat each other, how we talk to each other, whether or not we trust each other, and how we handle conflict. Culture is about accountability, measuring, a bias for urgency, a focus on solutions, calling it tight - saying what needs to be said - being kind and generous, acknowledging one another, and expressing appreciation." ~ from The Road Less Stupid by Keith Cunningham

• What does the culture in your business look like today? 
• How are you treating each other? 
• How is conflict being handled? 
• How is accountability being handled? 
• What are you tolerating?
• Define where you are on a scale of one to 10 on adding value to your clients and your customers. 
• Are you at a 10, giving massive, massive value? Or are you at a two?

What you want your company culture to look like? Answer:

• How will we treat each other? 
• How will we handle conflict? 
• What do you need to get courageous about not tolerating? 

Decide on one to two things that need to go right away so you can develop the quality culture that you deserve in your business.

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RESOURCES MENTIONED:
The Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace  by Cy Wakeman

Reality-Based Leadership  by Cy Wakeman

The Road Less Stupid  by Keith Cunningham

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As a leaders, we need a team of peak performers to execute the vision. But the low performers in our organizations suck our time, our energy, while our top performers get little attention.  What’s the fix?

Here’s some quick thoughts from Kelly, on why "running with the racehorses" is so much better than babysitting the nags.

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Hey friends! Welcome back to the On Fire Empire Podcast. If you caught last month’s episode, you’ll know we’re presenting all episodes in video format every month.

A lot of us are talking about our goals and our objectives for 2021. The other thing that I hear about is a bit of hesitation from our women leaders and influencers.
Are you second-guessing yourself – asking questions like “Can I be that bold with my goals?” “Can I really be that audacious with my goals?” … and a little bit of self-doubt creeps in. That self-doubt goes to a whole new level; where it stops you from taking action. A lot of that is driven by this phenomenon that’s been around for a long time.

And we all suffer from it in one shape or form. It’s called Imposter Syndrome. Today, I’m interviewing my longtime friend and my former colleague in the law, retired judge Sherrill Ellsworth. We’re talking about Imposter Syndrome, women needing to believe in themselves, think about those things that hold us back, and embracing those hurdles head-on. Sherrill is a past presiding judge of the Riverside County Superior Court. Over the years I even appeared in front of her. Oh yes, we’ve gone toe to toe… or bench to bench if in the courtroom. Later on, after she retired, we became business partners.

First as an attorney and then becoming elevated to the bench, she was one of the youngest bench officers ever. She served nearly 20 years! Today we’re talking about Imposter Syndrome. I think you’re really going to enjoy what Judge Ellsworth has to say because we’ve both been there and we both overcome some serious hurdles. She’s brilliant, very insightful and I know you’re going to love her.

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Hello my friends! Welcome back to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast. It’s been a while since our last episode…. but like all good things, they’re worth the wait! This episode and all others that follow with be brought to you in both audio and video.

Today I brought my old campaign sign in from when I ran for city council (and won!) back in …well… just a few short years ago. Today, I have Lori Stone joining me in the studio. Lori is the sister of former California Senator Jeff Stone – and now she’s running for elected office. I also have Rachael Bennett, Esq. chatting with me about the interview. We reminisce about what Rachael experienced during the time I ran and how that affected her career. We’re talking women in leadership, social experiments in homelessness (Lori learned first hand what it was to be a homeless woman on the street for a day), and a few surprises you won’t want to miss.

Links & Resources Mentioned in this Episode

Lori Stone's Homelessness Experiment

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Hi, friends! Welcome to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast. During these challenging times with COVID-19, where our day-to-day has been disrupted, and we’re doing things in a whole new way as we work through this worldwide pandemic we thought we’d change it up for the podcast. We’re bringing you both audio and video.

During these times, there is something that continues to happen at home. It’s a topic a lot of people don’t want to talk about, but we need to talk about it. That is the topic of abuse and domestic violence. More than ever with people sheltering in place, many folks who are the victims of controller abusers are now isolated and completely locked into place with that abuser.
Whether you are one of those folks who are experiencing domestic violence, control and/or any other form of abuse within your home, or your children are, or if you’re a friend, or family, or a neighbor and you might be hearing things, or you’re aware that there have been some problems with someone you love in the past, this episode is for YOU.

In today’s episode, I’m bringing you my interview with Katie Gilbertson. Katie is phenomenal! She works within the Riverside County District Attorney’s Office in their Victim Services Unit, overseeing what we call the S.A.F.E. Family Justice Centers. S.A.F.E. is a non-profit organization here in southern California that partners with our courts. S.A.F.E. stands for Safe Alternatives For Everyone.

S.A.F.E. is a domestic violence education, prevention, and intervention agency. I’ve known and worked with them for years and they are amazing people, as are those within our District Attorney’s Office. You’re going to hear from Katie today as we talk about this issue and what this season of domestic violence looks like. Katie and I talk about what’s happening in homes, what you can do if you are a victim of domestic violence, or if you’re concerned that it may be escalating within your home, and what you can do as a loved one, as a family member, as a concerned neighbor, and as a friend.

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RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Safe Alternatives for Everyone (S.A.F.E.) Website
The National Domestic Violence hotline
`My Plan`` Mobile App


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Well, hello Empire builders. Welcome back to the On Fire Empire Podcast. Today, I’m bringing you PART TWO of my interview with District Attorney, Ivy Fitzpatrick. If you listened to the last episode, which you’ll want to do if you have not, Ivy Fitzpatrick and I were talking in detail about how to live an extraordinary life in the midst of chaos, and we certainly are in some chaotic times here dealing with this COVID-19 worldwide pandemic.

Where we left off, Ivy was talking about the different tools that she used to handle a major life challenge that was as disruptive if not more, and on an ongoing basis, than what we’re dealing with this pandemic. I left off asking Ivy what kinds of people she surround herself with in order to successfully navigate a very serious chronic medical condition that she’s got, and so you’re going to hear Ivy kick that off. But the rest of the interview gets really interesting, because we are discussing the concept of redemptive pain and how to use that redemptive pain, not only to live an extraordinary life, but to also serve others.

"This is Part 2 of Kelly's interview with Ivy Fitzpatrick, a career District Attorney in California who practices law and leads, despite some serious health challenges. In the last episode, Kelly and Ivy talked about how to live an extraordinary life in the midst of chaos - so appropriate during this COVID-19 worldwide pandemic. The conversation continues . . ."

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Hey there Empire Builders! I’m so happy to be back in what is a return after a long break from the microphone. We are in an interesting season of change and a lot of worldwide turmoil and upheaval with this COVID-19 crisis. And today’s episode and interview couldn’t come at a better time. I think you’re going to find a lot of very helpful information and inspiration as I introduce you to and you listen in on my interview with my guest, Ivy Fitzpatrick.

Ivy Fitzpatrick is an exceptional career woman. If you’ve got some struggles going on, if your life has been put on pause or there’s a big shift or sea change that’s gone on recently – this episode and the big life challenge that Ivy brings to the table will change your perspective.

Whether or not it’s a chronic illness or something else, you are going to hear the approach to life and change as a result of the big life challenge that Ivy brings to the table.

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We’re busy preparing all new episodes coming in 2020, so today we’re bringing an encore presentation of Episode 10… and it’s all about procrastination. Oh yes – that faaavorite subject!

I’m throwin’ you into the deep end of the pool (and yes…I’m jumping in with you)… because today, we’re exploring the Power of Negative Motivation. That’s right – NEGATIVE motivation. Now I’m not a big fan of negative anything – and really…I think the phrase “negative motivation” is a bit of an oxy-moron. But I’ve discovered a few ways that negative consequences really do work to overcome procrastination. So in this show, I’ll share 3 negative motivation tools you can use today to combat procrastination…including the one that’s the most effective technique I’ve ever used! It’s my “secret weapon” when I’m REALLY feeling challenged by the procrastination monster… And you know what? I’ve battled procrastination ALL. MY. LIFE.

It’s a procrastination throw-down today.

Are you ready? Then gimme your hand, ‘cause we’re jumping into the deep end.

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When was the last time you were bored? What is the sensation you get when you’re bored? It is unpleasant? Do you feel restless? Is it a lonely feeling? Do you feel unproductive when you’re bored out of your mind?

Did you know that this thing called boredom is actually a superpower of the most creative minds, the most effective problem-solvers, and the most successful business leaders?

If you haven’t guessed by now BOREDOM is our topic today…and you’ll want to listen to this week’s episode because this conversation is anything but boring.

Links to resources mentioned in this episode:

The Conquest of Happiness – Bertrand Russell

The Science of Boredom: The Upside (and Downside) of Downtime – Sandi Mann

Have you ever had someone talk smack about you or your business? Was it justified? Was it just a bunch of misinformation designed to get under your skin and make you look bad?

Most of the time, when someone talks smack – it doesn’t rise to the level of defamation – the type of smack talk you can sue for…but there is still something you CAN do about it. Yes, you can consider lawsuits (this is often how we hear about these situations at our law firm…people want to pick my legal brain about it).

But we’re not going to talk about the legal aspects of this today. We’re going to get into the real practical ways to overcome a damaged reputation (or what you THINK is a damaged reputation) – 3 ways to deal with it…which apply to every situation imaginable.

It’s been a LOOOONG hiatus since our last episode. So here we are… back for another season of On Fire Empire – and this time we have a new book to share! More on that later.

It’s Thanksgiving this week and for some people, it’s a sad time of the year. This might be you. Or someone you love – if someone you know is going through something – then PLEASE share this episode. It may be exactly what they need – just in the nick of time.

This might be the first holiday after any number of things that have a knack of turning the world upside down for some – a failed marriage – lost loved one or family member – financial crisis – you feel alone. When you feel hopeless your vision is clouded – and you can’t envision the future. You feel there is no future – and that feeling leads to the feeling of helplessness.

Maybe it’s time you ask… a different QUESTION. Are you ready? Listen up!

This episode is dedicated to the memory of Paul Bayne – my friend of 35 years…a special man, who asked a different question.

Visit Paul Bayne's Go Fund Me page here

In Part 2 of the “Gossip” Empowerment Series. Jose and I tackle 3 more reasons (and the “hows”) gossip disempowers you.
Last week, we talked about how your credibility goes out the window when you gossip…and that your “reputation score” is the new currency. Reputations can be pretty easy to damage.
Here’s a quick overview:

1. Gossip is a time suck!
2. Gossip invites the wrong kind of people into your inner circle.
3. Gossip hurts you and others.

Get your listen on to get the full scoop (and some juicy stories).

If you are building a special empire at work or home, then a zero-tolerance gossip policy is critical. So—insert fanfare here—I’m giving you something that is both cool and useful. It’s called the “No Gossip, Affirm Others Policy.” I’ve created this little freebee so you can implement it ASAP. Go grab yours at kellybennettesq.com/033 (and share with business associates and family).

Grab the free download and take a listen to our Episode 33 right now… We won’t tell anyone.

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In this episode, we talk about No Gossip, Affirm Others Policy. You can download your own copy right here and start using it in your own organization!

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On Fire Empire on Facebook — www.facebook.com/kellybennettesq

Welcome to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast—I’m your host, Kelly Bennett.

(Whisper:) Shhhh. Come closer. Do you want to hear a secret?

You do? Well, here it is: Gossip—that gum flapping, time-sucking, all-American pastime—disempowers you. What? Yep, it’s true.

Today, we’re looking at some of the side effects of gossip to you personally if you’re involved in it, or generating it.

You don’t even think about it, but when you start gossiping…people no longer trust you. Right? Your credibility flies out the door (and don’t let it hit you on your way out). It’s been said that the new currency out there is trustworthiness. You don’t want to lose that.

Speaking of losing things, as a manager of people I can’t trust someone who is gossiping, because it harbors bad feelings within the team. Why would I want that person to, for example, lead a project? Why would anyone?

Gossip can sour your boss, coworkers, friends and family on you. You might not get that raise or that project, and that stinks…almost as bad as the gossip itself.

So have a listen to this episode on how a little “harmless” gossip isn’t so harmless after all. Jose and I share some real-life examples of gossip undoing the “gossiper.” You might not believe what you hear.

Plus, I’m giving you a little bonus…our No Gossip Affirm Others Policy that you can use in your life and in your work. That’s something you can actually talk about! Download it below.

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Welcome to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast—I’m your host, Kelly Bennett.
Today I have something to confess: I’m feeling very behind. I’m off schedule with the On Fire podcast and I’ve been slow getting the episodes out. I’m an achiever-type, so this makes me a little nutty.

The wrap up of my book, Victim Is Not Your Name, is also taking longer than expected, and quite frankly, I’m feeling really anxious to get it released.
Topping it off, we’re implementing new processes at work. I’m still plugging away and wishing it was done already! And, sadly, summer’s pretty much over, even though it’s still hotter than heck here in the inland empire.
With all of these things I need to do, truth be told, I’ve been putting a huge amount of pressure on myself that has caused some angst. If you’re an achiever-type, you can probably relate.

In the midst of all that dang pressure I finally stopped, questioned, and asked, “Self, why am I doing all of this? I’ve got to decompress.” In Episode 31 of the On Fire Empire podcast, I reveal the three ways I found to decompress, and how a simple ‘recalibration’ of the way we look at things can help us breathe a little freer.

So this episode is hitting you a bit out of order, but I think it’s an important topic. On the last podcast I told you that the next episode would be about ‘gossip,’ which can really disempower you. It’s not done yet and I won’t release anything “half-baked,” but the ‘gossip’ episode with be out soon.

Life is now, so go get it.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
PRE-ORDER Victim is Not Your Name – Remembering Your True Identity in the Midst of Life Crisis  — http://victimisnotyourname.com
Law Love Life TV — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz7Ky6CTSCgdXrm4UU3QOAw

Welcome to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast–I’m your host, Kelly Bennett.
Today we’re talking about the mental perks of having your own personal dance party. Moving your booty has surprising instant and long term, scientifically backed benefits.

The weather in So. Cal. has been…well…funky. It’s hot, humid, and not my favorite way to do summer. Honestly, this “yuck” summer monsoon stuff has me waking up feeling a little low! So I’m guessing you’ve had those moments, too.

But I’ve learned a simple trick that works wonders to shake it off. It may sound silly, but it’s tried and true. It’s all about the booty shake.

In Episode 30 of On Fire Empire, I show you why and how shaking your booty regularly can change your outlook for the day—or even for months. You’ll feel empowered and ready to face whatever challenges come your way.

For motivation to get that booty moving, have a listen to this episode! You’ll be glad you did.
Oh, and I’ve got a special cameo appearance by a movement “specialist.” He’s a booty-shaking trainer extraordinaire (Josh Hubby), and you won’t want to miss his amazing insights.
Here’s a video of that chat with Josh:

Kelly’s Booty Shaking Playlist
Boogie Shoes – KC & the Sunshine Band – https://amzn.to/2YiL6ad
Uptown Funk – Bruno Mars – https://amzn.to/2Yo52bU
Shake It Off – Taylor Swift – https://amzn.to/2YoJpIm
Fat Bottom Girls – Queen – https://amzn.to/311oMUy
September – Earth, Wind & Fire – https://amzn.to/2SHEkJQ
Love Shack – B-52s – https://amzn.to/2MgshC7
Single Ladies – Beyonce – https://amzn.to/2SJ4KLs
Sign Sealed Delivered – Stevie Wonder – https://amzn.to/30VUkuL

Welcome to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast – I’m your host, Kelly Bennett.
Today we’re introducing a little throwback podcast – It was our very first podcast launched back in November of 2018.

Right now we’re in the middle of the summer and on the cusp of releasing Kelly’s new book, “Victim is Not Your Name. Remembering Your True Identity in the Midst of Life Challenges”. As we’re putting on the finishing touches on the book, we got a little behind on our podcast schedule.

We’re all about empowerment this season, and Kelly thought…”hey this is about priorities and bringing great content to our audience is a top priority! We know so many people will be helped by this book!”

So, in the spirit of empowerment, we’re presenting this encore presentation of Episode Number One – The Upside To Becoming Personally Invested With Emotionally Charged Clients with Mindy Felton. Kelly talks about the upside to become personally invested with emotionally charged clients. Kelly and her sister, Mindy Felton, discuss her work with cancer patients.

Kelly and Mindy approach their work in very similar ways – working in emotionally charged situations, doing what you love, and working in something that gives you purpose.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
PRE-ORDER Victim is Not Your Name – Remembering Your True Identity in the Midst of Life Crisis  — http://victimisnotyourname.com
Law Love Life TV — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz7Ky6CTSCgdXrm4UU3QOAw

Welcome to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast – I’m your host, Kelly Bennett.
I’m with my Producer – Mr. Jose Bono and we’re introducing our new series on Empowerment.
So many of the speaking requests I get are about empowerment in one form or another.
In fact, I just did a keynote a few weeks ago for a large group of business women on the topic of WOMEN’S EMPOWERMENT.

It was a high energy-filled time, and so much fun to see all these boss-lady entrepreneurs engaged in some intensive lessons on this all-important subject.

In this episode we’re going to share a little bit from a recent Women’s Empowerment event – where I taught on the concept of YOU GET WHAT YOU FOCUS ON – and that FOCUS can create feelings of EMPOWERMENT or DISEMPOWERMENT…

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Pre Order “Victim is Not Your Name” — http://victimisnotyourname.com
Video on Law Love Life TV — https://youtu.be/IuDE7sxB8g8

Well hello, and welcome back to the On Fire Empire podcast.
If you tuned in last week, you heard my interview with leading criminal defense attorney John Pozza. He’s a renowned attorney and, a lead vocal in his band The Forty Nineteens.

Today’s episode is Part 2 of that interview with John. We talked about normally law-abiding citizens at one time or another who find themselves interacting with the law – either being a witness to a car accident or being pulled over for speeding…or bigger issues that arise that you never thought you’d have to deal with.

We started to share scenarios that may apply to you … or someone you know… with John giving us some really practical information on how to handle these. Last week we left off with the story of Miranda Carmichael and her husband Joe.

While Miranda was cleaning out her laptop and deleting old files when she came across several files which, to her horror, had lewd photographs and videos and children under the age of 12 engaged in sexual acts. To be clear, Joe was NOT in these pictures. Miranda wants to take the laptop to a marital counseling session with their pastor and confront Joe during the session. John Pozza weighs in on this situation now… as we start Part Two.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
The Forty Nineteens “Rebooted” download the album HERE — https://www.thefortynineteens.com/free
John Pozza Attorney at Law — https://www.jpozzalaw.com/

Well hello, and welcome back to the On Fire Empire podcast.
If you’re a regular listener, you probably noticed that we’re opening the show today with some new music. That’s because my guest today is a leading Southern California criminal defense attorney, John Pozza.

Not only is John super interesting and has a big heart for helping the clients he serves to get out of legal jams and improve their lives – John is also the lead singer and guitarist of an amazing band here – called the 4019’s. So yes…you guessed it – that’s John’s band kicking off the show today. More on the 4019’s in just a minute.

So today’s Episode is called “Everyone’s A Criminal! A Nice-Gal’s and Nice-Guy’s Guide to Run-Ins With the Law”.

You know – even normally law-abiding citizens at one time or another find themselves interacting with the law – maybe it’s being a witness to a car accident, or being pulled over for speeding…or sometimes…well bigger issues arise that you never thought you’d have to deal with.

In my fascinating interview with John Pozza – we talk about common scenarios that may apply to you or someone you know – where criminal issues arise. John gives us some really practical information on how to handle these situations – and I think you’ll be surprised at some of the information he shares on how the criminal system works. I know I was surprised!
John’s been practicing the art of criminal defense for over 25 years here in Southern California. He has represented a wide variety of people, from career criminals involved in significant crime to everyday professionals, soccer moms and people involved in one-time issues.

John has been interviewed and featured across a broad spectrum of media outlets including, CNN, Larry King Live and ABC News.

John’s work representing a client in a murder case that drew nationwide attention was featured and discussed in the book “Objection” by the one and only, Nancy Grace.
The information discussed today – I must remind you – is not intended to be legal advice – it is for informational and entertainment purposes only. If you have legal issues – we HIGHLY advise that you don’t handle it yourself – but instead get to a really great attorney – right away!

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
The Forty Nineteens “Rebooted” download the album HERE — https://www.thefortynineteens.com/free
John Pozza Attorney at Law — https://www.jpozzalaw.com/
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Welcome to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast – I’m your host, Kelly Bennett.
We’re in the middle of a series here in Season 3 called “Legally Speaking – Practical Law You Can Use”. And today – we’re getting really practical.

In last week’s episode, I shared a lot of beefy info on how to find and hire a great attorney. If you missed it – you’ll definitely want to go back and take a listen. It’s the kind of stuff you don’t typically know – especially if you’ve never needed an attorney before.

Today we’re taking it a step further. Today, we’re getting down to the nitty-gritty.

Today you get to be the fly on the wall. That’s right – you get to eavesdrop on a conversation between a couple of lawyers…

The topic today is how to have a great relationship with your attorney, once you hire her or him. It’s super common to not really know the rules of the road when you’re hiring an attorney for the first time.

So even if YOU don’t need a lawyer right now, I’ll bet you know someone who does – or someone who has an attorney and may be in the middle of a divorce or starting a business and working with a business attorney or something else. You’ll be their HERO when you share the insider details we’re dishing today!

So in today’s episode, my Producer Jose Bono sat down with me and Attorney Rachael Bennett for a discussion on what great clients DO…and what they DON’T DO. As I said, we’re getting down to the nitty gritty here.

A word about Attorney Rachael Bennett – this lawyer isn’t just any-old-lawyer…she’s pretty special to me.  Yes, Rachael’s my daughter and I have the privilege of practicing law with her in our Southern California law firm – Bennett & Bennett.

As many of you know, I’m the Managing and Senior Attorney at Bennett & Bennett – where we practice Family Law and Estate Planning – that’s the wills and trusts stuff. Rachael is the Supervising Attorney over the Family Law department and she practices exclusively Family Law.

And this area of law is one of the most emotionally charged, personally challenging areas for clients. And it’s one of the areas where people typically have a rough time navigating the attorney-client relationship – especially when it’s their first rodeo.

When you cultivate a great working relationship with a lawyer, you’ll get much better results – and save time and money too.

So sit back, relax and enjoy the insider info as we talk about the Top 3 “Don’ts” and the Top 3 “Do’s” for having a Great Relationship with your attorney:

Welcome back, Empire Builders! You’re listening to a brand new Episode here in Season 3 and I think you’re going to love it. Our theme in Season 3 is called “Legally Speaking – Practical Law for Everyday Life” – and TODAY – we’re getting SUPER practical.

If you’ve got something going on and are thinking, “hmmm…I may need to get an attorney, or at least go meet with one…” then today’s episode is super timely!

And if you’ve never hired a lawyer, but need one…and you don’t have a CLUE where to start…well my friend, this Episode is just for YOU.

Today, I’m answering your Frequently Asked Questions about how to find and hire a great attorney. You’ll want to download the transcript to reference it later. You can also reference the following outline:

Tweetables:
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Law Love Life TV — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz7Ky6CTSCgdXrm4UU3QOAw

We’re in Season 3, where I’m bringing you some totally practical, hands-on info on the Law – Law You Can Use in your everyday life.

I happen to be recording this show on the eve of Tax Day…that’s right, April 15th. And the timing couldn’t be better for what we’re talking about today.

So many people hate this time of year, because if they haven’t planned for it, and if they haven’t pre-paid their taxes…well then, it’s time to Pay the Tax Man…time to get right with Uncle Sam…time to Pay the Piper…ok…well you get it.

If Paying the Piper is a theme that’s been on your mind…then you’re going to loooove this Episode – because getting paid is what we’re talking about today.

Does someone owe YOU money?
Have you seen your business relationships or friendships negatively impacted by a debt unpaid, a loan gone bad?
There’s a whole lot of bad ju-ju that comes up when you’ve done work for someone and they haven’t kept their end of the bargain.
It totally sucks when you’ve extended a family member and short-term loan and they don’t repay it.
It really stinks when you start a new business endeavor with someone, and they fail to put in their fair share of the working capital to launch the business, as you had agreed.
And it’s quite unpleasant when an ex hasn’t paid you the money he owes you under a divorce judgment or other settlement or court order.
Now let’s get real – does this kind of stuff make you want to bury your head?
Instead of sticking your head in the sand (or getting all stressed out about it) – today I’m going to share my hottest tips and tricks YOU can use, right away – to get the ball rolling and collect what’s due to you.

Welcome to our kickoff episode in the new Season 3 of the On Fire Empire Podcast.
We’re calling this season “Legally Speaking – the Law Stuff You Can Use”. We’re also inviting special guests this season to share their wisdom …and maybe a story or two, about the law, and you might be surprised…how they apply to your life.

These episodes are pretty meaningful… because not only are the topics super relatable to our everyday lives, but with many of them… I’m bringing you some resources that you can use in your business and your personal life –  things that will really open your eyes and give you a new perspective.

So today, we’re talking about Preparing for Divorce: and Choosing Your Inner Circle. So… What do I mean by Inner Circle? Well sometimes… believe it or not, your family and friends may not be the best advisors during your divorce. And even though it may be tough to go through without your besties, they could be the reason your divorce can go longer than it needs to, or… the reason you have unnecessary drama back at home. The most successful people have an awesome inner circle of confidants and advisors that are curated for the best possible outcome.

Are you ready for season 3? Let’s get started.

Tweetables:
“I am bringing you some resources that you can use in your business and in your personal life, things that will really open your eyes and give you a new fresh perspective.” — Kelly Bennett  [0:01:19]

“And you can have an inner circle that is as powerful too. It will apply to you are you are going through divorce or really any other endeavor that you got.” — Kelly Bennett [0:05:17]

“When your inner circle reminds you of your value, it is so helpful in getting on with the business of living a fulfilled life.” — Kelly Bennett [0:09:19]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Bennett & Bennett Law – https://bennettandbennettlaw.com
John C. Maxwell “A Leader’s Inner Circle” – https://www.johnmaxwell.com/blog/a-leaders-inner-circle/
Law Love Life TV — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz7Ky6CTSCgdXrm4UU3QOAw

Today we have an audio presentation of a video I did last year from our “Kelly off the Cuff” series. You can watch those and other videos  on YouTube. I’m talking to you about the concept of “Peace at Any Price”. As we say in the settlement & negotiation & mediation world “Peace at Any Price, is No Peace at All”.

What am I getting at here? Are you so anxious to settle a conflict, that you are willing to give away the farm because you just want peace…an ending to the conflict? I see this all the time… especially in divorce, marital conflict and business dispute situations. I’m going to share examples and give you the tools – to work through the discomfort of negotiation.

Tweetables:
“Sometimes your discomfort is worth working through in order to get a better result instead of selling out in the moment.” — Kelly Bennett [0:02:21]

“Work through that discomfort so you can get to the finish line in a way that keeps your dignity and your financial future intact.” — Kelly Bennett [0:08:54]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Bennett & Bennett Law — https://bennettandbennettlaw.com
Law Love Life TV — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz7Ky6CTSCgdXrm4UU3QOAw

Today I’m giving you a unique look into what goes on in the inner workings of our law firm. You get to eavesdrop on senior attorney Kelly Bennett…yours truly… mentoring associate attorney Rachael Bennett a few years ago, on a sticky situation.

What happens when you’re going through a divorce, but still living under the same roof? Well if there are kids involved, it can be problematic, especially when something so simple could mean the difference between calm and stormy waters.

I want to remind you: the names, characters, businesses, places, events, locales, and incidents are used in a fictitious manner. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental. The information presented here is for general information purposes only. Nothing in this presentation should be taken as legal advice for any individual case or situation. The information presented is not intended to create, and receipt or viewing of this information does not constitute an attorney-client relationship.

Tweetables:
“This is the worse part about people who continue to live together while going through a divorce…” — Kelly A Bennett, Esq. [0:04:43.4]
“You need to get out and get a better situation for you. Its not healthy to be in this house, especially in this high conflict situation.” — Rachael Bennett, Esq. [0:05:15.4]
 
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Law Love Life TV — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz7Ky6CTSCgdXrm4UU3QOAw

Hey, it’s Kelly and welcome back to another episode of the On Fire Empire podcast. Well, this is the last episode in our Season 2 here before we head into a brief break but don’t worry, I’ve got a few ‘tweener episodes that you’ll really enjoy, in between while we get ready to kick of Season 3.

Last year, I released a video on how to court proof your life by building in some tools like mandatory mediation or arbitration clauses into your settlement agreements and your contracts and some other nifty tips on how to stay out of court. I know many of you are business leaders and business owners, so this is something that I think is really valuable for you.

Conflict is the fastest way to lose money in your business if it’s not mastered and managed. Today, I want to share an encore presentation of that audio, right here on the On Fire Empire. It’s a perfect segue to follow up last week’s episode and give you even more high powered tools to worry less about things that you can control.

Download Sample Mediation & Arbitration Clauses

Tweetables:

“A great mediator will help the parties take a realistic look at their dispute and deal with it honestly and effectively.” — Kelly Bennett [0:04:56.8]

“The mediator isn’t a judge or a decision maker. Instead, a mediator is a skilled facilitator who explores as many options as possible with the parties to come to a win/win solution.” — Kelly Bennett  [0:105:09.3]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Law Love Life TV episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r4UxvdZ2MiE

Is there worry in your journey? Do you wake up in the night with your mind racing, worrying about the future or do you spend time frequently reliving past mistakes where your mind replays the past like a movie that’s just stuck on rewind? Does it take up a significant amount of your mental and your emotional energy? Making it hard for you to just relax and enjoy your life?

Download the Worry Buster Worksheet

Worry and anxiety: they’re one of our biggest distractions from living in and enjoying the present moment. Whenever I indulge these distractions I find that Thich Nhat Hanh’s quote is so true. Because worry and anxiety, those things just don’t allow me to live the moments of my daily life deeply. Isn’t deep living really where joy and significance live? Join me today for these four steps to disrupting worry and anxiety.

Tweetables:

“The first step here in disrupting worry is to get yourself thinking about the issue in terms of what you can control about it and/or what you have direct influence over.” — Kelly Bennett [0:07:52.1]

“A lot of times, the things we worry about are built up in our minds as monsters.” — Kelly Bennett [0:08:53.1]

“Every second spent worrying about a past or future moment, distracts us from what is important in the here and now.” — Greg McKeown [0:22:15.1]

“Instead of wasting another minute of your time and another minute of your energy on worrying about that thing, do yourself a favor and work the worry out.” — Kelly Bennett [0:10:24.1]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less — https://amzn.to/2NSaTCK

Chop Wood Carry Water: How to Fall in Love with the Process of Becoming Great — https://amzn.to/2To7Xnm

Last week, we listened and unpacked Jami Buchanan’s journey through Beautiful Cancer and how Jami decided to take control of her bladder cancer diagnosis, apply her strategic business approaches to it, and take charge of her own inner circle which included helping her own son work through his deepest fears of possibly losing his mom.

Because of Jami’s courage to have that difficult conversation with her son, he was able to make the shift from negativity to her supportive superhero. Now, as I said last time, Jami wrote a book about her experience called Beautiful Cancer and we talked about how to get your hands on your own copy of this great book. I’m going to include the link HERE. Check it out so you can see how you can get your own copy or get a copy of this fantastic book for a friend.

Tweetables:
“I truly believe that we have the ability to help people treat us differently and we can do it very graciously.” — Jami Buchanan McNees [0:04:31.3]

“I was very fortunate that I had girlfriends who as soon as they knew I had cancer, they were right there for me.” — Jami Buchanan McNees [0:05:32.8]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Beautiful Cancer — https://amzn.to/2U7Ak5A
Beautiful Cancer Journal – https://amzn.to/2NuCVUI
The Health Insurance Lady — http://thehealthinsurancelady.com
Jami on TED X — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wemia9JsAXg
Michelle’s Place — https://michellesplace.org
Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less – https://amzn.to/2HgOCgu

Friends, we’re rolling into another powerful, 2 part interview today – this one is with an amazing cancer survivor, Jami Buchanan McNees.

Jami is, of all things, a Health Insurance broker – and she received the surprise diagnosis of her life – cancer.  What Jami did in response was out of the ordinary – and her approach to the challenge of her life is something you’ve got to hear.

Now if you’re not dealing with cancer – don’t miss this interview. Because the inspiration in Jami’s experience and approach is something I know you’ll find useful for your own life – whatever it is you’re experiencing.

Jami wrote a book about her experience called Beautiful Cancer – and she then shared her message in a powerful TED Talk.

Listen to the end – because I’m going to make you an offer your can’t refuse…a chance to get Jami’s book.

Tweetables:
“A lot of people fight cancer and battle cancer. I’m not a good fighter. I decided that I needed to find words that I knew that I could win and that I could achieve.” — Jami Buchanan McNees [0:09:53.4]
 
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Law Love Life TV — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz7Ky6CTSCgdXrm4UU3QOAw
Beautiful Cancer — https://amzn.to/2U7Ak5A
Beautiful Cancer Journal – https://amzn.to/2NuCVUI
Jami TED X https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wemia9JsAXg

On today’s episode, we’re heading into Part 2 of our interview with Hung Le. If you listened to last week’s episode, you know that Hung Le is an Associate VP and head of the Registrar’s office at Pepperdine University in Malibu, CA. Episode 14 and this episode are about Hung’s totally amazing story of his journey to America as an 11-year-old refugee from South Vietnam at the end of the Vietnam war, and the many hurdles he overcame. As Hung shares his inspirational story, you’ll hear how GRATITUDE became a central theme in his approach to life.

Today Hung and Kelly discuss the recent fatal wildfires in Southern California that nearly burned all of Malibu down, and the simultaneous mass shooting that occurred at a college student hangout in Thousand Oaks, just a few miles from the Pepperdine Campus. A beloved Pepperdine freshman lost her life in the shooting tragedy. Hung and his wife Corinne, and many executives in the University’s leadership were instrumental in caring for a very hurting community and the parents of the young student, Alaina Housley, who lost her life. You’ll hear Hung’s take on life when bad things happen to good people – he was right on the front lines there at Pepperdine.

Tweetables:
“It was my job to continue the family name. Even at 11-years-old, I knew what that meant. I knew there was a chance that I would never see them again.” — Hung Le [0:10:13.1]

“With the bombs dropping all around us, we didn’t know who would live, who would die.” — Hung Le [0:10:23.1]

“I came to Pepperdine looking for a great education. What I found here, was a family.” — Hung Le [0:15:41.1]
 
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Pepperdine University — https://www.pepperdine.edu/
Law Love Life TV — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz7Ky6CTSCgdXrm4UU3QOAw/featured

It is 1975. An 11-year-old boy and his family are in the middle of chaos during the Vietnam War. The last thing you can imagine is this little boy being put on a plane, without his mother and siblings, to begin a long journey. A journey that brings us all the way to 2019, Pepperdine University in Malibu, California.

We’re in the midst of Season 2 of the podcast and this season is all about Journeys – the different life journeys we encounter.

On this episode, we’re talking about gratitude – we’re looking at how choosing thankfulness affects your life and the lives of those around you. And let me tell ya….I have a special treat for you!

My guest today is that 11-year-old boy – Mr. Hung Le. He is the Associate Vice President and Registrar at Pepperdine University in Malibu, California. I can promise you this: his journey is one of gratitude, and the strength to love God… again. I’m thrilled to share Part 1 of this interview with you because Hung Le is one of the deepest, most insightful individuals I know.

Tweetables:
“It was my job to continue the family name. Even at 11-years-old, I knew what that meant. I knew there was a chance that I would never see them again.” — Hung Le [0:10:13.1]
“With the bombs dropping all around us, we didn’t know who would live, who would die.” — Hung Le [0:10:23.1]

“I came to Pepperdine looking for a great education. What I found here, was a family.” — Hung Le [0:15:41.1]
 
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Pepperdine University — https://www.pepperdine.edu/
Law Love Life TV — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz7Ky6CTSCgdXrm4UU3QOAw/featured

Well hello and welcome back. I’m your host, Kelly Bennett and this is the second episode in my two part miniseries called Forgiveness, the Journey Back to Wholeness.

In this miniseries on the power of forgiveness, you’ll discover that mastering the art of forgiveness will have a big impact on both your productivity and your business relationships because leveraging forgiveness, it gets a whole lot of unproductive stuff out of your way and it improves your personal and your work relationships.

Now, if you haven’t listened to Episode 12, which is the first part of this series, I highly encourage you to go back and enjoy it. Because in part one, we shared three very compelling reasons to embrace the notion of forgiveness. It really makes the case for why forgiveness is such a good idea. I know you won’t want to miss it and it will make this episode even that more meaningful to you.

Today, I’m getting super practical, we’re talking about exactly how we go about this business of forgiving. Today, we’re going to take a look at who it is that we forgive and then I’m going to outline what it is we actually do when we forgive. And then finally, we’ll look at what we don’t do when we forgive.

Tweetables:
“The business of forgiving, it’s not applicable to everyone, that’s for sure. Because forgiveness is a well thought out deliberate act. It’s really a choice.” — Kelly Bennett [0:05:42.8]

“I would argue, it’s not fair to you to continue to live in pain at that person’s hand.” — Kelly Bennett [0:08:30.2]

“I don’t want you to confuse forgiving with welcoming someone back to the relationship or back to the fold. What we mean by forgiveness is something that is truly an inside job.” — Kelly Bennett [0:10:54.9]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
 
The Art of Forgiving – Lewis B. Smedes — https://amzn.to/2Tge2xV
The Problem of Pain – C.S. Lewis – https://amzn.to/2D96CG6
Failing Forward: Turning Mistakes Into Stepping Stones for Success – John C. Maxwell –  https://amzn.to/2t2Sbi4

Season 2 is here! This season, it’s all about examining the different types of journeys we all experience at some time or another in our lives. You know what? These episodes will be really meaningful because not only are the topics super relatable to all of our everyday lives but also because I’m bringing you some resources that you can use in your business and in your personal life. These are things that I think are really going to take your own life’s journey from GOOD to really GREAT.

This episode is actually the first of a two-part series on the power of forgiveness: Forgiveness: The Journey Back to Wholeness. Many disputes last so long both internally for those who hurt and externally for all who are involved; especially when the wounds are really deep and severe.

Now, if you’re an entrepreneur or a business leader and you listen to this podcast for success tips, business advice, and some legal info and hacks, you’re probably wondering…
Kelly, come on, what does forgiveness have to do with business?

I can tell you, the concept of forgiveness has a lot to do with business. In my 30 years of work as a mediator along with my trial practice you can bet that in those business disputes I’ve mediated, forgiveness was an element of successfully navigating and ending disputes every time.

Is that surprising to you? Well, it’s probably not as surprising as you think. Because if you think about it, forgiveness is not about letting people treat you badly, excusing them for it, and then letting them walk all over you again. No, that’s not what we’re talking about.

Forgiveness is all about letting go of resentment and untying the knots of bitterness and pain that tend to live in our hearts. Whether it’s personal or business for you, resentment is like cancer that grows inside of us if we feed it a steady diet of unforgiveness.

So what’s in store? Well, in this part one episode, we’re going to introduce this idea of embracing forgiveness. Why should we practice forgiveness? There are so many reasons but in this episode, I’m going to hit the big three.

Tweetables:
“You can bet that in those business disputes I’ve mediated, forgiveness was an element of successfully navigating and ending disputes just about every time.” — Kelly Bennett [0:03:10.8]

“Forgiveness is all about letting go of resentment. It’s all about untying the knots of bitterness and the knots of pain that tend to live in our own hearts.” — Kelly Bennett [0:03:56.3]
“When we refuse forgiveness, it means that we retain bitterness and resentment, it just does. It comes with the territory.” — Kelly Bennett [0:10:36.9]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
The Art of Forgiving – Lewis B. Smedes — https://amzn.to/2Tge2xV
Bennett & Bennett — https://bennettandbennettlaw.com

Welcome back to the On Fire Empire Podcast. On today’s show we have our last ‘tweener episode before we kick off Season Two. It’s an encore presentation of a vlog we released on our YouTube channel, Law Love Life TV.

You know, in Kelly’s 30+ years of being a top-tier divorce attorney, she has helped many parties get through it all, and virtually every situation is different. The one thing you can count on being the same in every divorce involving children: it’s NOT easy.

Telling the kids that mom and dad are splitting up is life changing. It is something children will typically remember, forever. In this episode, Kelly shares 5 tips to help you get through it and have a positive outcome.

Tweetables:
“Even when your spouse is not taking the high road, if you’re in a very contentious situation, I want to encourage you to take the high road every time you’re talking to your children about this issue of divorce.” — Kelly Bennett [0:05:42.1]

“One of the biggest gifts you can give your kids is permission to love the other parent.” — Kelly Bennett [0:09:21.1]
“Sometimes, just having a professional to lean on and allowing them to guide the conversation is your best route to success.” — Kelly Bennett [0:17:18.1]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Bennett & Bennett — https://bennettandbennettlaw.com

For the last month, we’ve been teeing up a new season, loaded with fascinating guests and super applicable life-topics for you. We’ll kick off Season 2 next week and I think you’re going to love what we’ve been cooking up. Today’s show is all about procrastination. Oh yes – that faaavorite subject! I’m throwin’ you into the deep end of the pool (and yes…I’m jumping in with you)… because today, we’re exploring the Power of Negative Motivation. That’s right – NEGATIVE motivation. Now I’m not a big fan of negative anything – and really…I think the phrase “negative motivation” is a bit of an oxy-moron. But I’ve discovered a few ways that negative consequences really do work to overcome procrastination. So in this show, I’ll share 3 negative motivation tools you can use today to combat procrastination…including the one that’s the most effective technique I’ve ever used! It’s my “secret weapon” when I’m REALLY feeling challenged by the procrastination monster… And you know what? I’ve battled procrastination ALL. MY. LIFE.

It’s a procrastination throw-down today.

Are you ready? Then gimme your hand, ‘cause we’re jumping into the deep end.

Tweetables:
“Perfectionism is the enemy of execution.” — Kelly Bennett [0:08:40.1]

Let’s get real here – many folks just aren’t “feeling it”. The bright, shiny New Year vibe sometimes eludes us. A lot of times, feeling “stuck in the mud” happens when we’re living with unresolved conflict. Like living in a perpetually bad marriage. Or never-ending financial crises. Or a dead-end job.

The good news is, you don’t have to stay stuck.

On this episode of On Fire Empire podcast, I’m sharing 9 simple steps you can take today to get immediate traction over unresolved conflict.
It’s the beginning of a new year, chock full of possibilities.  You deserve to be in that place of hope and wonderment.

Tweetables:
“I also know that for a lot of people, the New Year brings on some forms of depression and often, some disappointments.” — Kelly Bennett [0:01:29.5]
“Whether it’s a bad marriage, a failing business or financial troubles, those situations can really make you feel stuck and it cast a really dark shadow over your life.” — Kelly Bennett [0:01:58.2]
 
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
Law Love Life TV — https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz7Ky6CTSCgdXrm4UU3QOAw

Welcome to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast!

There are a lot of ways we build a positive, connected work-family culture. I think one of the biggest impacts has been our move from classic vacation days to a Predictable Time Off schedule. And oh baby…it’s different!

On this episode of On Fire Empire, my producer Jose Bono and I are talking about how this “radical” idea of Predictable Time Off has made a huge difference in our business.

We take a significant amount of time off.  We all have the same amount of time off.  And we all take time off at the same time…same days. The results are nothing short of ahhhh-mazing. Don’t think you can “afford” to implement something like Predictable Time Off in your business?  Well, you might be surprised – at Team Bennett, we now know that we can’t afford not to.

Welcome to one of our special, ‘tweener episodes here at The On Fire Empire Podcast! While we are gearing up for the new, full season of the show, we will be bringing you four short episodes to tide you over. Great? We think so! In this episode, we are talking about the value of the female voice in any business or government organization.

We were invited to speak at the City of Corona at a special event called “Coffee with an Entrepreneur” – hosted by Kimberly Davidson (Corona’s Economic Development Manager) and the Corona Chamber of Commerce. In this interview, Kelly was asked by Kim about the special challenges of being the only woman professional or one of just a very few in a male-dominated industry. Kelly shares some stories with the audience and invites them to think about some of the positive elements that these ideas can foster. For all this and more, be sure to join us!

Welcome to another episode of the On Fire Empire Podcast! Today we’re walking you through the three must do steps for approaching divorce the smarter way. For the next few minutes, we’re going to forget about what other people might say, forget about what they might think because this is about getting real about minimizing the negative impacts of divorce. You know, I developed this episode today because we’ve all got a really big problem going on in our society and that is when families are going through a divorce situation, they tend to let their emotions and their upset lead them around by the nose. They don’t plan and planning is the freedom piece. They fail to plan for their divorce and recognize what’s really going on.
Planning for college, planning for your wedding, planning for retirement, planning your annual goals, planning for final exams. We plan for trips, we plan our vacations, we even most of the time plan for children. Why wouldn’t you be smart and plan for one of life’s greatest challenges? Divorce. Well, today, we’re about to get really smart.

Tweetables:
“We see spouses who get served with divorce papers and they’re often aghast when they realize that their soon to be ex has been planning the divorce way in advance.” — Kelly Bennett  [0:02:44.9]

“Kids do best through divorce when they have a modicum of stability and so keeping them in their school and near their friends and doing the same types of activities they’ve always done can be very comforting to them” — Kelly Bennett [0:25:49.3]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
 
The Ultimate Divorce Planner Checklist — https://kellybennettesq.com/the-ultimate-divorce-planner-checklist/
How to Tell The Kids You’re Getting a Divorce — https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m4GGnghYRyg

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Welcome back to another episode of On Fire Empire. In the very first episode, we spoke to my sister, Mindy, about the payoff of going all in at work and challenging the conventional wisdom that tells us not to get personally invested in our customers or our clients.

In this episode, we are going to talk about how we can have it all, how we can buck the system and go all in while creating healthy boundaries at the same time so that we can maintain our personal wellbeing without losing ourselves in the process.

Boundaries ensure that you’re giving safe solid advice while also exercising really good judgment. To do this, there are four simple techniques, which we will unpack in this episode to help you implement it into your own business. We also dive into the benefits of having a good system in place, the importance of empowering your clients, and why having extra margin in your schedule is paramount. So if you want to know how to get personally invested at work without losing all your marbles, stay tuned to today’s episode!