Boundaries & Grace with Taylor Chandler

The Secret to Predictable, Reliable Relationship Repair

Mon, 31 Aug 2026 07:00:00 -0400

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Most couples stay stuck going in circles with conflict because they’re hyper-focused on only 33% of the problem.

Relational conflict isn't solved by figuring out who's right—it’s resolved by realizing there are multiple perspectives converging, and balancing a 3-part equation: Them, You, and Y’all.

In Season 14, Episode 5 of Boundaries and Grace, LMFT Taylor Chandler Walker gives insight into how to develop self-leadership in heated moments, choosing the right way even when it's hard, and the importance of attending to the atmosphere in your relationship so small sparks don't turn into major fires.

⏱️ Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

01:16 - Them: The Offense & Real Impact

03:38 - You: Your Stance & Response

15:13 - Y’all: Relationship Culture & The Space Between

16:22 - Friction, Sparks & Repair

23:00 - Closing

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Disclaimer: The content provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care or therapy.

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Nobody Wins When the Family Feuds

Mon, 24 Aug 2026 07:00:00 -0400

When relationship conflict plays out like a war, nobody wins — because defeating your partner is sabotaging yourself. You can’t win with someone you’re against. Your partner/spouse is your teammate, not your opponent!

In this episode of Boundaries & Grace, Taylor Chandler LMFT breaks down her 4-pillar T.E.A.M. framework to help you stop fighting and start connecting:

T – Timeouts: Pausing so your nervous system can settle (because a hijacked body only creates contention, not connection).
E – Empathy: Balancing rational facts with your partner's subjective emotional experience instead of poking holes, proving, or minimizing.
A – Attitude: Realizing that while you can't control every feeling, you can control how you approach.
M – Macro & Micro: Balancing the day-to-day details with the big-picture vision of who you are together and what you both ultimately want.

Fighting with your partner takes a ton of energy. Whether you're exhausted from the back-and-forth fights or if you’re looking to upskill yourself for the health of your relationships, this episode will help you enjoy the one you’re with —instead of just coping with them.

💬 Which pillar of the T.E.A.M. framework do you and your partner need to practice most right now—Timeouts, Empathy, Attitude, or Macro & Micro? Let me know in the comments!

⏰ TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Intro — Nobody Wins When the Family Feuds

00:44 Timeouts (Regulating the Nervous System)

02:09 Empathy (Rational Sense vs. Emotional Senses)

07:24 Attitude (Navigating the Emotional Waves)

17:14 Macro & Micro (Balancing the Weeds with the Vision)

19:48 Outro & How to Work Together

Sinking Relation-ships: 4 Drains and How to Plug Them

Mon, 17 Aug 2026 07:00:00 -0400

Culture sells the idea that intimacy is easy and connection is effortless — at least if they’re the ‘right one’ for you. The truth is, every relationship creates friction. Two distinct people coming together to share life is no easy feat.

When that friction keeps firing up, there can be a blow up… or a leak.

In this episode, Taylor Chandler LMFT breaks down 4 major drains that can ultimately sink your dynamic — and she shares how to plug them so you can save your relation-ship. ;)

Let’s talk about when we are Antagonistic, Defensive, Uncommitted, or Resentful.

Whether your relationship has a slow leak, is sinking, or you’re just refining your relational discernment, these 4 plugs will help you raise the standard for the culture of your closest relationship.

⏰ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Intro

01:55 Drain #1 Antagonizing

02:30 Drain #2 Defensive

02:43 Drain #3 Uncommitted

03:03 Drain #4 Resentment

06:56 Plug #1 Team

10:36 Plug #2 Open

11:34 Plug #3 Choose

14:01 Plug #4 Forgiveness

21:28 Be Functional and Relational

Fantasy Sells: The "Prosperity Gospel" of Relationships vs. Principles for Quality Connection

Mon, 10 Aug 2026 07:00:00 -0400

Why the idea of an "easy" partner is a trap—and what it actually takes to build a relationship that lasts.

In this episode, Taylor Chandler LMFT breaks down the illusion of effortless love and shares three foundational principles for co-creating a fulfilling, high-quality relationship:

Participation: Why you must actively engage to get the experience you want.
Supra-Alignment: Getting in alignment with yourself, your partner, and God.
Stewardship: Taking personal accountability and choosing loving action even when you don't feel like it.

Whether you're tired of chasing relational fantasies or ready to step into active co-creation and stewardship, these principles will help you move wisely and build real connection.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro — Fantasy Sells

03:05 High Quality Relationships

08:58 Principle #1 — PARTICIPATION

11:50 Principle #2 — SUPRA-ALIGNMENT

23:28 Principle #3 — STEWARDSHIP

25:13 Closing

The Inescapable Truth of Relationships: 3 Ways to Shift a Downward Spiral

Thu, 06 Aug 2026 08:00:00 -0400

Most people handle conflict in ways that breaks the relationship down instead of building it up -- and that's why they stay stuck.

In this episode, Taylor Chandler LMFT shares 3 focus points that will change the trajectory of your relationship, from a downhill spiral to an upward swing:

1. Observing (seeing what you can take responsibility for)
2. Taking right action (learning how to love actively)
3. Handling the gap between what you want and what you have right now (the power of patient waiting)

Whether you're going through a rough season or just wanting to level up your relational intelligence, these practices will positively affect your closest connections for a lifetime.

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⏱ Timestamps
00:00 Intro
00:23 The inescapable truth of relationships (the gap)
09:51 Focus Point 1: Observing & Taking Responsibility
12:48 Focus Point 2: Practice loving action (even when you don’t feel like it)
16:26 Focus Point 3: Waiting well

Love is Blind Pre-Reunion Breakdown (Season 10)

Wed, 11 Mar 2026 06:00:00 -0400

My Love is Blind Season 10 Pre-Reunion Breakdown.

Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/

Reattach Course: https://payhip.com/b/rdBRF

00:00:57 Alex

00:03:23 Ashley

00:08:16 Chris

00:09:36 Jessica

00:12:02 Connor

00:14:17 Bri

00:16:55 Devonte

00:19:25 Brittany

00:21:17 Jordan

00:22:29 Amber

00:22:49 Mike

00:23:45 Emma

00:26:11 Kevan

00:29:19 Tyler

00:30:30 Keya

00:32:01 Vic & Christine

The Disempowered Man - Entitled Woman Dynamic (this is what Kevin Samuels exposed)

Mon, 09 Feb 2026 08:00:00 -0500

The Disempowered-Man and Entitled-Woman dynamic is a problematic pair, where the man sinks into a powerless role and the woman takes over. The masculine frame has broken down. The woman tries to become the man she wanted from the beginning.

The catastrophic breakdown of relationships and family in America is layered. One of the major issues is the absence of healthy, present father figures. Men without role models to help guide how they lead themselves and the family has left an enormous void. We also have social-cultural issues such as media glamorizing divorce; weaponoization of the legal system; pedastalizing the woman’s experience, while dismissing and degrading the man’s experience — and more.

If you’re caught in this dynamic and you need help breaking and correcting this pattern as an individual or couple, complete my interest form. From there, I’ll reach out to schedule a consultation.

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⏰ Timestamps:

00:05:48 Intro to the Disempowered Man & Entitled Woman

00:10:13 Red Pill Rabbithole

00:11:41 Drained but can’t complain

00:15:35 Where does this dynamic come from?

The Overfunctioner-Underperformer Dynamic: Doing Too Much and Feeling Like You're Not Enough

Mon, 02 Feb 2026 06:00:00 -0500

This is about the Overfunctioner-Underperformer Dynamic, where one partner consistently carries the majority of the load, while the other partner fails to show up in a way that truly progresses and deepens the relationship.

We’re not blaming the person “doing less” or sympathizing with the person “doing more” — I’m pulling the veil back so you can see the inner workings of what’s happening in this dynamic and I’m giving solutions for what to do about it.

Mentioned videos —

8 models for Self & Relational Development: https://youtu.be/tLHS3kaacgo

SER Model: https://youtu.be/mOwCXoETFxc

👩🏾‍🏫 Conflict in Couples Workshop: https://taylorchandler.as.me/schedule/7f693168/?appointmentTypeIds[]=88471947

👉 Interest form to work with me: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08L

💻 Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/

📲 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamtaylorchandler/

⏰ Timestamps:

00:00:38 What are Relationship Dynamics?

0:02:37 The Capacity Problem

00:04:28 Three domains of capacity

00:11:24 Solutions for the O-U Dynamic

The Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic 2026 (Short and Sweet)

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0500

You know I love talking about Attachment! This is a major key to unlocking yourself and your relationships. Mastering my Attachment Style was a big part of my journey. I’m grateful for all I learned and how much it helped me.

For a few years of my practice I almost solely helped people shift from insecure to secure attachment. I even had a group class called Reattach. Now YOU can do Reattach at your own pace. You can get the class and the exercises that have helped hundreds of people get a grip on their attachment and make positive changes.

Head to my website to grab it and if you need additional help, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me through my interest form or email: Taylor@iamtaylorchandler.com

👉 Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/

👉 Interest Form: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08L

⏰ Timestamps:

00:00:40 What is an attachment style?
00:02:06 My therapy journey with attachment
00:06:25 The Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic
00:10:00 Cycles of learning but not acting

2026 Foresights about Dating and Relationships: Critical thinking, sharper discernment, and a return to courtship

Mon, 19 Jan 2026 06:00:00 -0500

Hey y’all, I’m giving my foresights on what I think we’re going to see this year of 2026 in the dating and relationship lane. Just my thoughts! I’ll give a brief overview in the beginning of what we’ve seen in recent past.

Check out the timestamps for the points and click the link below if you’re interested in working with me:

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⏰ Timestamps:

00:01:17 What we’ve seen in the recent pasts

00:09:32 What’s coming down the pipeline

00:09:45 Polarized Daters

00:12:02 Echo chambers up, engagement down

00:15:28 Turning away from relationship influencer culture

00:27:42 Sharper discernment

00:28:37 A return to courtship

00:39:46 Learning and un-learning

Renewal of the Mind Pt. 3: Mindset

Mon, 12 Jan 2026 07:00:00 -0500

The final part of the Renewal of the Mind Series — Mindset. I’m talking about 5 core aspects of Mindset in a way that makes it easy to understand and take action on. The more positive core aspects you have, the higher quality of life you will have — and when you maximize those positives, it gets even better. In this lane of personal and relational development, you get better options (so you’ll marry better), you’ll be more likable, better energy… an overall high vibe. Everyone wants it and when you set your mind to it, you’ll get it.

👉 Work with me: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08L

⏰ Timestamps:
00:04:44 Mindset

00:15:25 Benefits of the Right Mindset

00:30:29 Talk about the 5 Core Aspects

Renewal of the Mind Pt. 2: Mind Control

Mon, 05 Jan 2026 08:00:00 -0500

Part 2 of the Renewal of the Mind Series — Mind Control. I’m expanding on this principle: the quality of your thoughts directly affects the quality of your life. Mind control is a skill that is more important now than ever (if you don’t do it, someone else will do it for you). I have 3 mechanisms for you to activate to heighten your degree of influence over your life.

⏰ Timestamps:
00:56:00 Thoughts are running us

00:08:56 Mind Control is a skill

00:10:30 Awareness is the starting point

00:13:35 Living beneath you

00:22:15 Three Mechanisms to Activate

Renewal of the Mind Pt. 1: Identity

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0500

This is for people who are determined to separate from the noise and shift to a higher level. In this episode, I’m talking about Identity, the foundation of a Renewed Mind. As we grow, we have to keep upgrading our system — and the internal system is where it all starts.

This is the first of a 3-part series. Next up is Mind Control and Mindset.

⏰ Timestamps:

00:02:09 Principle: Quality of Thinking Determines Quality of Life

00:05:30 Identity

00:12:45 Transcending Group Identity

00:15:07 Supporting Bible Verses

00:30:25 Roots and Fruits

⏯️ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=glHH9JBbo_I&feature=youtu.be

Dating in a New Season (Intentional Dating)

Mon, 22 Dec 2025 06:00:00 -0500

If you’re a man or woman intentionally dating or want to start dating that way, this one is for you. Rather than focusing on how rough it is out there, let’s talk about what you can do to make it a whole lot better. I’m also sharing a bit about what started my journey to intentional dating (which takes about the first 8 minutes).

Fitness
Purpose
Spiritual Discipline
Sexual Discipline
Lifestyle
Relationships
Pets
Home

Timestamps:

00:03:08 Dating in Atlanta and transitioning to intentional dating

00:10:22 Eight Areas of Focus for Serious Dating

00:12:00 Fitness

00:14:20 Purpose

00:17:44 Spiritual Discipline

00:20:41 Sexual Discipline

00:24:05 Lifestyle

00:28:00 Relationships

00:31:42 Pets

00:33:03 Home

It's a New Season (and I need to talk about Jesus, again)

Sun, 21 Dec 2025 08:00:00 -0500

I have a major update for you. I know this isn't going to fly with some people, and I've wrestled with this myself, but I know what I need to do. I'm ready to share it with you.

In this video, I'm talking about:
1. The answer to your pain (relational wounds -- from family, marriage, exes)
2. Restructuring my business
3. Jesus

High Effort, Low Return: When you’re doing the work for two

Mon, 01 Dec 2025 07:00:00 -0500

I illustrate the over-functioner/under-performer dynamic. These are high-effort people who get low returns in their relationships. The markers of the dynamic are clearly laid out as well as the consequences of allowing this problem to persist. I share about my over-functioning past and how I changed in order to get what I give in relationship.

Prepared Coaching Interest Form: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08L

Prepared Guide: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/cpvug08L

Timestamps:

00:03:30 Introduction to the Over-functioner / Under-performer Dynamic

0:04:00 Marker #1 - “This relationship will fall apart”

00:04:23 Marker #2 - You’re drained

00:05:19 Marker #3 - When they pull away, you give more

00:09:49 Marker #4 - You’re managing, not partnering

00:10:54 Marker #5 - You negotiate your needs

00:14:23 When the problem persists

00:18:31 Solving the problem

Cardi B & Offset: What They Teach Us About Cheating & Modern Relationships

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400

I’m not here to talk celebrity gossip — I’m here to talk principles.
In this episode, I use Cardi B and Offset as a case study for real-life relationship patterns: cheating, accountability, influence, and responsibility. Their story reveals what too many couples go through privately — how we hurt each other, react, and try to rebuild trust in the aftermath.

We’ll explore three key interviews:
1️⃣ Offset on Joe Budden — how he avoids the drama but misses key accountability.
2️⃣ Offset on Keke Palmer — where he finally owns his selfishness and the impact of cheating.
3️⃣ Cardi B on Jay Shetty — her reflections on depression, accountability, and faith after betrayal.

Along the way, I connect this to principles I’ve shared before in my episode “A Vital Conversation About Responsibility and Accountability.”
We’ll talk about how both people influence the dynamic, why accountability matters more than blame, and what it really means to operate with emotional maturity in love.

This is for people who really care about handling the complexities of relationships.

Episode - A Vital Conversation About Responsibility & Accountability:

ON APPLE-- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/boundaries-grace-with-taylor-chandler/id1540127181?i=1000722804709

ON SPOTIFY-- https://spotify.link/aHcOC3DhOXb

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00:03:46 What is a principle?
00:05:40:00 Responsibility & Accountability (linked in description)
07:55:00 Offset Cheating & Cardi Behaving Poorly
00:09:04 Relational principles & intro to context
12:03:00 Some principles seem to contradict
15:01:00 Context makes things grey
00:20:23 Joe Budden x Cardi B
00:25:16 Chaotic environments
00:27:53 Flip asks Offset how he handles difficult things (Cardi)
00:36:57 Keke Palmer x Offset
00:42:22 Jay Shetty x Cardi B
00:49:00 Summary of Offset & Cardi B’s interviews & my perspective
00:53:18 Men cheating, relationships ending, and women’s accountability
00:57:11 Parallels to normal life
00:57:42 Infidelity breaks trust, deal with the underlying issue
00:58:37 If your partner cheats, DO THIS
01:01:55 Keep your private life PRIVATE

How the Perception–Reality Gap Destroys Connection (and More on the SER Framework)

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 07:00:00 -0400

I’m sharing one of the most important models in self and relational development — the Perception–Reality Model — and connecting it back to the SER Framework.

The P-R concept is a simple, powerful, and a major key to understanding why conversations turn into conflict and how to avoid it.

Bottom line is...
Perception is not reality. What you see, feel, and believe is shaped by your vantage point. That matters — but it’s not the same as truth. When your perception and reality are out of balance, chaos shows up in your interactions. Learning to check your perspective and expand it creates space for clarity, understanding, and healthier connection.

Then we zoom out to the SER Framework — Self-Esteem, Energy, and Responsibility — the foundation for becoming an attractive match and increasing your quality of life as an individual.

👉 Previous Episode -- Models for Self & Relational Development --

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/boundaries-grace-with-taylor-chandler/id1540127181?i=1000729702954

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2kjxKHyBXLgqsWdaM8wohP?si=6b464a06105d4f8d

👉 Download the model library here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IHPp0mPhKisLmyHdqNtEHufxEdiTyVWvgmAQ08pXm28/edit?usp=sharing

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4 Things Every Woman Needs to Get Right

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 06:00:00 -0400

In this episode, I’m breaking down four key areas every woman needs to get right — fitness, friendships, media, and attitude.

These aren’t random tips — they’re about how you show up in your life, your relationships, and your community. From the way you take care of your body to the energy you bring into your friendships and conversations, everything you do leaves an impression.

We’ll talk about:

Why fitness isn’t just about looks, but about health, confidence, and longevity.
How your circle influences your mindset and relationship success.
The subtle ways media shapes your values and self-image.
The role your attitude plays in how you’re perceived — and how you connect with others.

If you’re ready to elevate your standards, build self-awareness, and take ownership of the energy you bring to the world — this one’s for you.

Listen now, reflect, and take notes — these four areas will tell you exactly where to start.

8 Models to Evaluate Yourself and Relationships

Thu, 02 Oct 2025 08:00:00 -0400

In this episode I walk through 8 practical models I use as a licensed marriage and family therapist and personal development coach. These frameworks are designed to help you evaluate yourself and your relationships, make better decisions, and get real results.

Each model gives you a simple way to understand patterns, improve communication, and take action. If you’ve been stuck repeating the same problems in your life or relationships, these models will help you see the issues clearly and know what to do next.

What you’ll learn:

-Ability–Willingness Model: How to identify the real barrier to change
-Energy Matrix: Managing your energy so you don’t burn out or overreact
-Passive–Aggressive Communication Model: Where your communication style lands and how to adjust it
-Chicken–Egg Dynamic: Breaking cycles of blame in relationships
-CCC Model: Diagnosing the root of a problem (Character, Contingent, Circumstantial)
-Authentic Self vs. Image Gap: Why the gap between who you are and what you project causes stress
-Masculine–Feminine Polarity Model: How energy dynamics shape attraction and conflict
-Time–Cost Model: Why delaying conversations makes problems more expensive to fix

These are not abstract theories. They’re practical frameworks I use with clients to improve their personal growth and relationship health.

👉 Download the free guide with all 8 models here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IHPp0mPhKisLmyHdqNtEHufxEdiTyVWvgmAQ08pXm28/edit?usp=sharing

The Cost of Delay: A Case for Preventative Maintenance

Thu, 04 Sep 2025 08:00:00 -0400

The longer you wait to address problems in your relationship, the higher the cost to solve them. Just like ignoring the “check engine” light on your car, avoiding issues in your marriage or dating life only leads to bigger breakdowns later.

I explain how preventative maintenance can save your relationship before it’s too late. By paying attention to early warning signs and being proactive, you not only protect your relationship — you actually increase your peace, energy, trust, intimacy, and long-term satisfaction.

We’ll cover 3 key areas every couple needs to maintain to avoid unnecessary conflict and future regret:

How We Communicate – Avoidant, anxious, or aggressive styles that escalate conflict instead of resolving it.

Where We’re Going – Aligning goals, values, and vision for long-term compatibility, not just short-term chemistry.

How We Got Here – Accountability and taking responsibility for your impact on the relationship.

If you want to build a healthy, lasting relationship, this episode will give you tools to recognize problems early and address them with honesty and maturity. Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, preventative maintenance is the key.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why small problems compound like debt if ignored
How communication patterns impact long-term intimacy
The difference between chemistry and compatibility
Why accountability is non-negotiable for marriage success
Practical steps for maintaining trust, peace, and emotional connection

📌 Want to work with me as a couple? https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/DcaoHcan

🌐 More resources: https://linktr.ee/iamtaylorchandler

Gottman 4 Horsemen: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

My Partner Needs HELP (High SER in relationship with Low SER)

Sat, 30 Aug 2025 10:00:00 -0400

Are you growing as a person but feeling like you’re growing apart from your partner? In this video, I break down the High-Low Dynamic—what happens when someone with high self-esteem, high energy, and high responsibility (High SER) pairs with someone who is struggling with low self-esteem, low energy, or low responsibility (Low SER).

I’m Taylor Chandler, a licensed marriage and family therapist and personal development coach. Using my SER framework, I’ll explain why this dynamic creates tension in relationships, dating, and marriage—and what you can do about it.

We’ll cover:
-Signs you’re in a High-Low relationship
-How the H-L dynamic starts
-Two paths forward

This advice applies whether you’re dating, in a long-term relationship, or married. My goal is to help you become the best version of yourself and build the best possible relationship.

If you’re ready to do the work—individually or as a couple—use the link below to apply for a consultation.

👉 Work with me: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/jqyMCsr3
👉 More tools + writings: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/

A Vital Conversation about Responsibility & Accountability

Wed, 20 Aug 2025 08:00:00 -0400

Responsibility is the “R” in my SER framework — and it’s one of the keys to a better life and higher attraction. In this video, I break down the gigantic miscommunication showing up in almost every couple, tell you the crucial difference between responsibility and accountability, and what makes taking responsibility so hard (especially in relationships). If you want to build better character and a healthier relationship, this one’s for you :)

03:30 Difference between Responsibility and Accountability

05:50 A Couple Problem

10:30 Responsibility and accountability go together

14:54 Who is worth coaching?

15:20 The relationship between responsibility and control

17:04 Which direction am I going?

24:17 Over-burdened with responsibilities

30:17 Enabled, coddled, misinformed

34:40 America the land of the free

37:45 Human nature to find fault

38:52 Which came first, the chicken or the egg?

45:41 It’s really your fault

55:22 What I’m seeing in session

55:55 Society does not delude men about responsibility

Shift These 3 Things for Higher Energy

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 11:00:00 -0400

Higher quality relationships start with your energy. Simple shifts improve your life and attract the RIGHT people. In this episode, I give you 3 Markers & 3 Pathways to Higher Energy.

08:28 The invisible thing going on all the time

11:57 What do we need to know?

19:45 The minority is interested in Better

17:20 Three markers and three pathways

17:36 Marker #1: Attitude

22:24 The way you move towards partnership

27:12 Handling setbacks, stop being a victim, move on

35:42 Marker #2: Mindset

43:08 Marker #3: Consistency

44:52 Judgment

46:55 Three Pathways

47:05 Pathway #1: Audit

51:25 Pathway #2: Consumption

54:54 Pathway #3: Pro-social behaviors

Not enough good matches: The link between self-esteem and bad dating experiences

Sun, 10 Aug 2025 10:00:00 -0400

The majority of people who want relationships say there aren't enough good people to date and marry. I agree. In this episode I talk about what to do about it.

02:00 Scarcity of attractive matches in the dating market
06:55 Biological imperatives ??
09:08 The truth of the minority
011:07 A dangerous move
13:28 Who is pursuing?
15:22 I would never! Who would ever?
19:33 Is this really why you’re single?
20:45 Are you over-inflated?
23:40 The truth is high energy
28:00 Most people have fundamental issues
28:50 Prenups
33:38 Breakups
37:15 Delusions of thinking you’re a great persons
41:04 Different kinds of relationships
43:20 The competition in dating
46:09 Supply and demand
46:45 Good people and popularity
54:45 How low self-esteem shows up
01:03:00 Irrational emotion

The Attractive Standard

Thu, 31 Jul 2025 19:00:00 -0400

Welcome to Phase 2! The goal is high level self-development and high level relationships. Most people want it, only a few actually do it. But it's available to EVERYONE.

In this episode I explain the framework we'll be working out of for the foreseeable future.

Timestamps are approximate:

02:30 Regrouping from Phase 1 and years of this work

03:45 From business school to therapist school, shoutout to Dr. Erika Grafsky

08:30 Lunch with Marissa Layton in Atlanta

10:30 The broader relationship conversation

11:50 People who cannot or will not change for the better should be left behind

14:50 Be free from the ones who won't listen and don't care

16:10 The inherent value of every human being

17:50 People who value growth

20:44 A human architect and thought models

22:25 Winner winner

25:35 My definition of an attractive match

27:45 Are you going to do something about it or not?

29:35 Doing 'white people stuff'

31:25 Life-oriented results

32:05 Christianity and God are not synonyms

32:35 Fakers

35:35 Building yourself is a process and the ones who build are the best matches

36:12 Why we are the best matches

36:44 Self-esteem, Energy, Responsibility

37:05 Where do you fall on the spectrum?

40:30 Too easy and dumb to be negative

42:00 Scarcity in the dating market

44:40 'I'm not there yet'

47:30 Be honest and willing

49:00 Most people are not attractive matches

51:00 No one in their right mind would choose certain people

53:20 Becoming attractive

54:15 Wealthy is more than money

55:20 No competition for high energy

57:40 Let's win

01:00:00 My goal

01:01:15 People confusing each other because they have different goals

01:02:45 How to think for great relationships

01:04:00 If you learn what I teach you, you will win

01:07:00 Listening to people who aren't really trying to help you

01:08:10 Working with couples who want to be highly synergistic

01:09:10 Some couples are just incompatible

01:11:00 Understand how individuals work together, should you cut your losses?

01:11:30 Prepare when you're single so you save time

01:13:45 An attractive match is everybody's type

01:15:15 Everyone wants to marry the same type of person

01:17:10 'How do I become a marry-able person?'

01:18:40 Attractive matches and physical qualities

01:19:50 Attractive matches do tend to look better

01:22:50 My aligned audience and ideal client

01:23:20 Self-actualization and relationship actualization

01:24:40 Minor leagues and major leagues

01:28:15 People whose purpose includes being single

01:29:00 I don't think relationship people are better

01:30:30 The disempowered man and the entitled woman

01:34:50 I do too many disclaimers

01:37:00 New interest form

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The Reasonable Person (Season Wrap-up!)

Fri, 28 Mar 2025 11:00:00 -0400

The Season 12 Finale! Let's bring everything from these past few months together.

I planned on going over just a few notes to wrap the season, but I was in the zone and we got a lot more out of this. Discussing the importance of bringing humanity and decency back to relationship conversations, while also making clear distinctions between high-value behavior and low-value behavior and the outcomes that come with the respective mindsets.

Few keywords for the episode:

-Two types of people in the world: the responsible and the irresponsible

-Importance of principle-driven behavior and decisions

-Disliking Black People being unequal to calling out “bad behavior”

-Eliminating dead weight from your life

-Intro to my frameworks on individual and relational development (Phase 2)

Pro-Social vs. Anti-Social Culture & Values

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 14:00:00 -0400

We’ve had years of polarizing relationship content and we need to get clear on how to move forward.
In this episode, we dive into the key differences between pro-social and anti-social people, exploring where these traits stem from—specifically the aspects of someone’s upbringing. We discuss the importance of aligning with pro-social individuals to foster positive change in relationships and families.

References:

https://www.statista.com/statistics/205097/percentage-of-poor-black-married-couple-families-in-the-us/#:~:text=U.S.%20poverty%20rate%20of%20Black%20married%2Dcouple%20families%201990%2D2023&text=In%202023%2C%206.5%20percent%20of,line%20in%20the%20United%20States.

https://blackdemographics.com/

https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2024/10/marriage-and-divorce.html

Don't Go Too Far: The Danger of Radical Relationship Ideologies

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Let me check myself, help you check yourself, and try to keep us balanced! In this episode, we're highlighting the issues of Radical Red Pill ideology, which is a response to problematic Radical Feminism ideology.

Let's make an effort to stay sane, stay reasonable, see the value in both sides, and use critical thinking to make responsible decisions for ourselves and our relationships.

The (Whole) Inferior Man Episode

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 08:00:00 -0500

I think the whole episode is more interesting than just the Main Points! Here are the 5 Tips for Moving Forward with the Mission, 5 Markers of the Inferior Man, and everything else in between.

Moving Forward with the Mission - 5 Tips to Stay Focused

Sun, 23 Feb 2025 17:00:00 -0500

This short episode is part of a longer episode (about 1 hour). I edited this down to my first 5 tips to help us stay focused as we move forward with this work.

The Industrious Woman - Rebalance for Relationship

Wed, 19 Feb 2025 07:00:00 -0500

Western culture has emphasized work and de-valued relationships. The impact on women is significant. Women who want marriage and family are over-burdened and under-prepared for what relationships take to thrive. Let's talk about the issues. If you want solutions, join us at workshop Saturday, Feb. 22nd 2025:

Industrious Woman Workshop: Register

The Inferior Man - 5 Main Points

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 08:00:00 -0500

This season is about making clear distinctions between who is who. Who can progress forward with us and who is going in a different direction.

Here are 5 Markers of the Inferior Man

Last Call for Women! PART 2: Social & Cultural Issues

Mon, 03 Feb 2025 17:00:00 -0500

Last Call for Women! Examining social and cultural issues preventing women from getting the relationships they want. We're talking about the breakdown of the nuclear family, the echo chamber reinforcing faulty thinking, rejecting accountability, and cult-like thinking.

The Industrious Woman Workshop - Saturday, February 22, 2025 from 11 AM - 1 PM EST

Last Call for Women: Marriage, Divorce, Body, Attitude

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 10:00:00 -0500

-Overview of Marriage and Divorce Stats
-Making sense of the Numbers
-Why Black Women's Numbers Look Different From Everyone Else?
-Body and Attitude Factors

References:

https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/health-statistics/overweight-obesity

https://blogs.cdc.gov/nchs/2024/03/15/7567/

https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2024/10/marriage-and-divorce.html

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4850739/#T1

For the Love of Money

Mon, 20 Jan 2025 11:00:00 -0500

Prioritizing Money over godly principles has put relationships in chaos - disordered and dysfunctional. Finances are seen as the root of stability rather than a solid family structure. Let’s discuss the spiritual issue of disordered relationships with money and how it impacts people, specifically women.

Let’s work together: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP

4 Ways to Lead Your Relationship Better

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 09:00:00 -0500

Distinguish between Leading vs. Controlling vs. Condescending
4 Points about Leadership
4 Ways to Make Leadership Better

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2025 Promises to BREAK

Mon, 06 Jan 2025 16:00:00 -0500

Instead of New Promises in the New Year, I’m challenging you to BREAK old ones.

Happy 2025!

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A Woman's Dilemma: Conflicts Women Face in the Pursuit of Relationships

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

For women facing tough internal conflicts and for men who seek to understand women better.

01:50:00 Be Present

03:10:00 Balance Desire and Good Stewardship

03:42:00 Missed Opportunity

06:48:00 Continuous Progress

07:43:00 Michelle’s Review

09:05:00 Investing in Yourself is Attractive

11:44:00 What do I pray for?

16:41:00 Men & Your Accomplishments

21:13:00 Do I work on this or wait for better?

23:03:00 When the honeymoon ends

Informal Q&A: Micro-Cheating, Sibling Issues, Tone and Delivery, & more

Tue, 15 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

An informal Q&A from my porch!

Married Men Flirting, What is Cheating?, Bad Relationships with a Family Member, Do I Need to Change My Tone?, Open Relationships, She’s Great and I Don’t Trust It, Dating Outside Your Circle

01:16 Married Men Flirting

01:38 Micro-Cheating

04:40 Bad Relationship with Sibling

06:07 Should I Change My Tone?

14:36 My Husband Has A Problem With My Tone

21:14 Gaslighting with Calm Tone

24:44 Open Relationships

26:25 I Don’t Know How to Express Myself

27:43 She’s Great. Is She Putting On An Act?

30:40 Can It Work with Someone Who Has More Than You?

Invite: Attachment Workshop

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Giving you tools you can begin using ASAP at The Attachment Workshop! Listen in to some questions sent in on Instagram Live.

Workshop is Sunday, Oct. 13 at 11 AM EST or Monday, Oct. 14 @ 6 PM EST. You choose your day!

2 hour workshop for $15 (10% the price of a 1-on-1 session)

Click here to Register

BAD MATCH: 8 Points About the Anxious-Avoidant Couple

Tue, 01 Oct 2024 08:00:00 -0400

One of the most common pairs - the Anxious-Avoidant Couple. Here are 8 Points for you to work on if this has been your pattern in dating.

If you are currently in this type of relationship, you will hear things you can your partner can work on together… with a therapist!

03:33 Anxious-Avoidant Pairing

05:03 I Was Anxious, Then Avoidant, Then Secure

07:32 Couple-Work

09:16 Boundaries

15:21 Attunememt

17:43 Distance

19:19 The End of Negotiations

22:26 Make Believe

23:34 All That Time Wasted

26:27 Trauma Histories

27:17 Cycles

28:12 Halt - Get Help

5 Questions to Ask BEFORE Date 3

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 08:00:00 -0400

For single people who want to vet better! Ask THESE 5 questions to get a better idea of who you're dealing with and if they're worth your time.

5 Questions you NEED to Ask Before Date 3

05:51 Social Media is a circus

08:18 “I’d Rather Be Single”

18:21 What Are You Looking For?

20:15 Hedging Your Bet

24:52 Do You Want Kids?

31:04 First Class vs. Economy Dating

36:00 “I Want Kids, but Only with the Right Person”

37:36 When Did Your Last Relationship End?

40:51 How Did Your Last Relationship End?

46:11 What Has Your Experience Been of Me So Far?

Pop the Balloon show: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=USOQid7YJ2s

Q&A Pt. 3: Can Women and Men Be Friends? and More

Thu, 25 Jul 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Can Women and Men *really* be friends? Should you even have opposite-gender friends if you’re in a romantic relationship?

04:37 Will I do paid matchmaking?
07:02 Free Coaching and Free Therapy - Sessions will be made public (https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/pLCXjOMz)
08:46 Can women be friends with men?
17:13 Context, Nuance, and Rigidity
20:13 Context of Male Friendships
24:44 How I Think Women Should Handle Male Friends
33:17 Picking Up New Opposite-Gender Friends
41:23 You Look Like a Mark
42:38 Have a Conversation with Your Significant Other
58:24 “My baby mama hates me and I deserve it. How do I create a better co-parent situation?”
1:01:28 “What dod you do when you acknowledge your bad behaviors and still commit to the relationship, but the victim is not being graceful or is having a hard time forgiving?”

Q&A Pt. 2 - Show Up Better, Negativity, and STDs

Thu, 11 Jul 2024 09:00:00 -0400

The last 5 questions from my Live Q&A

00:38 Communication Skills

06:30 “Should I date someone I’m not physically attracted to?”

10:10 Look Better

15:16 How does Taylor deal with negativity online?

18:38 How to deal with the condescending nature of the question “Who Hurt You?”

21:37 Navigating STI/STD conversations in dating?

Q&A Part 1 - Be Serious!

Thu, 04 Jul 2024 07:00:00 -0400

Be sure to follow on Instagram @iamtaylorchandler to participate LIVE and submit questions!

How to stay hopeful and optimistic while dating?
Social Media Detox
Get clear on your Values and what you want
Being a Serious Person when Dating
Physical Appearance - Show up Ready
Serious Communication
Know your Strengths and Weaknesses
“I keep giving grace and they don’t give grace in return”
“How much time to spend before commitment?”
“How do I deal with a breakup?”

Vulnerability & Attachment in Dating

Thu, 27 Jun 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Manage the conflict between wanting a relationship while having fear of becoming too attached, or attached to the wrong person!

At the end of the episode I give you 4 things you may want to consider when determining if the person you’re dating is worth the investment.

04:27 What does it mean to become “Attached”?

06:00 Your Attitude About Attachment

09:00 Fear of Becoming Dependent / Losing Yourself

09:41 Interdependency

10:57 Willing and Open

13:46 Comment: “Vulnerability and Attachment is seen as weakness”

18:21 “I will stay single forever”

21:10 When Attachment really IS Weak

22:08 Good and Bad Managers

24:00 Do it Anyway and Do it Responsibly

Attachment Review

Thu, 20 Jun 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Let's Review! Attachment is a Major Key for Better Relationships

Your Attachment Style helps you understand how you relate to others, what your triggers and blindspots are (and why), and gives you a map to what you Need to feel safe and happy.

Everyone has either an Insecure style or a Secure style.

Insecure Attachers struggle with maintaining healthy relationships due to excessive anxiety and/or avoidance.

The goal is to Shift to Secure attachment where you can have solid, lasting relationships.

First and foremost, your relationship with yourself will improve as you get a better grasp on your emotions and thoughts. Then, you’re able to engage with others in new, healthier ways.

Pioneers of Attachment Theory: Mary Ainsworth and John Bowlby

Volume 1 of Bowlby’s Attachment Trilogy: https://www.amazon.com/Attachment-Loss-Vol-John-Bowlby/dp/0712674713

Women who Are Abstinent and Dating

Thu, 25 Apr 2024 08:00:00 -0400

I see a clear rise in the number of women who say they are abstaining from physical intimacy. This can make dating difficult. I understand this personally!

It makes it even MORE difficult when you’re not really being honest with yourself and/or others about WHY you’re abstaining.

Here are some things to consider if you are dating while abstaining, and hopefully it is also helps men understand what questions to ask, where women are coming from in general, and how to navigate the conversation better

5 Ways to Reciprocate in Relationship

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 08:00:00 -0400

Most people dating seem to be WAY more concerned with what they’re getting rather than what they can give!

Everyone is in relationships to fulfill some kind of personal goal but it becomes selfish and toxic when you lose sight of how you can support and nourish the one you’re with.

Today we’re talking about GIVING and RECIPROCATION.

I’m highlighting 5 ways YOU can reciprocate in a relationship so you can check how well you’re doing with things you can directly control TODAY.

References:

Obesity data:
https://www.cdc.gov/obesity/data/adult.html

https://minorityhealth.hhs.gov/obesity-and-african-americans#:~:text=How%20Does%20Obesity%20Affect%20African,women%20are%20overweight%20or%20obese.

Infertility: https://www.nichd.nih.gov/health/topics/infertility/conditioninfo/common#:~:text=About%209%25%20of%20men%20and,States%20have%20experienced%20fertility%20problems.&text=In%20one%2Dthird%20of%20infertile,problem%20is%20with%20the%20man.

Manipulation Tactics: How to Spot Them and What to Do About It

Fri, 15 Mar 2024 09:00:00 -0400

Manipulation Tactics - How to Spot Them and What to Do About It

What is DARVO?
DENY
ATTACK
REVERSE
Effects of DARVO
Resist DARVO

References:
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/darvo/

https://bayareacbtcenter.com/reverse-darvo-for-combating-gaslighting-and-emotional-abuse/#:~:text=What%20Is%20DARVO%3F,the%20blame%20onto%20their%20victims.

I Don't Need A Man, Emotional Availability, and Soul Ties

Fri, 23 Feb 2024 13:00:00 -0500

This episode is a conglomerate of a few topics!

-There’s a difference between wanting a relationship and being Ready for a relationship. Your emotional availability makes all the difference.

-Many women can function well on their own, but still don’t have the relationship they really want. Let’s talk about some of the things that need to change in order to set yourself up for the man you’re looking for.

-Men can be giving out way too much of themselves to others in an effort to be helpful and provide. However, this leaves him drained and unavailable for the woman he really wants. Listen in on what he can do about that.

-While you’re single, how can you spend time most effectively?

-In order to have space for a new person, you’ve got to get rid of the old. Let’s talk about letting go, forgiveness, and those tricky ‘soul ties’ that may be holding you back.

Let’s work together 1-on-1: https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP

5 Reasons You're Angry at Your Parents

Thu, 11 Jan 2024 08:00:00 -0500

When you become aware of how your childhood has impacted your adulthood, angry feelings arise towards your parents.

You realize your anxiety or your avoidance is directly related to how you have experienced your mother and father.

It’s common to have conflicted feelings.

You may struggle with loving them and resenting them. Having empathy for their experiences and feeling the pain of how their experiences have negatively affected the way they related to you.

Or you may be less conflicted and more enraged. You want them to feel what you feel.

Or you might be less enraged and more disconnected. The anger became too exhausting.

Regardless of where you are now, I hope this episode gives language and validity to the anger associated with having parents who did not parent you in a way that gave you that you needed emotionally.

**At around minute 15:00 I should have included the BOOMERS with Gen X'ers

1-on-1 Interest Form - CLICK HERE

Role vs. Relationship

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 09:00:00 -0500

We experience frustration and pain when the position someone has in our life does not match our experience of them.

For example -

You can have a mother who you do not experience as mothering.

A father who does not treat you like a son or daughter.

A spouse who treats you like a stranger.

One of the goals of this video is to help you make a distinction between Role and Relationship so that you are better able to locate where your negative emotions are likely coming from.

I will also give you l ideas about how to resolve this problem!

Dating & Relationship Q&A

Thu, 28 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0500

Q&A from Dec 2023 about dating and relationship topics:

Including -

Serious Dating

What does it meant to be “Exclusive”

Passport bros

How to soften your communication

“What do you bring to the table?”

Toxic friends

Effort in dating

Defensiveness

Vetting

Why people lie

Relationship goals

Casual physical intimacy

*Let’s work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP

Attachment Wounds

Thu, 21 Dec 2023 08:00:00 -0500

Attachment Wounds are the experiences that serve as catalysts for Insecure Attachment.

I’m going to define specific Attachment Wounds, describe the effect of those wounds, and point you in the direction you need to go in to heal these wounds.

If you don't, these wounds bleed out into your present relationships (whether platonic or romantic, but especially romantic) and negatively effect your chances of having a healthy, happy connection.

KEY WORDS: emotional intelligence, emotional maturity, rejection, abandonment, relationship trauma, projection, insecure attachment, secure attachment, emotional needs

Let’s work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP

How Attachment Develops

Fri, 15 Dec 2023 16:00:00 -0500

Your Attachment Style begins developing at a young age and is able to be defined by age 5!

In this video I’m going to go over 4 big areas of Attachment Development

1. Attachment Bases
2. Concepts of Self and Other
3. Programming
4. Intervention

01:06 Overview
06:23 Self-Concept
8:56 Other-Concept / Exploration
12:54 Survival
18:29 Programming
22:05 Intervention

Let’s work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP

Situationship Solutions feat. Tiana

Thu, 14 Sep 2023 07:00:00 -0400

Tiana is basically an Attachment Expert at this point! She’s done all the workshops and the Reattach Coaching Program.

She has a lot of insight and wisdom for you about situationships, self-esteem, and overall guidance about what you can expect on your journey of self-improvement and healing.

I’m grateful for her time and I know you’re going to get a lot of out of this conversation!

Growing Fruits of the Spirit feat. Rafer Owens

Sun, 13 Aug 2023 10:00:00 -0400

Rafer is a husband, father, and pastor in New Mexico who struggled with Anger and Anxiety - until he did his Work! Listen in as he shares about his desire to live like Jesus, coming to terms with the fact he was not, and doing the necessary steps to change.

Reattach Fast Track
Beginning August 28th

1-on-1 Interest

The Reality of the Anxious-Avoidant Match

Thu, 13 Apr 2023 09:00:00 -0400

Season 9 Finale!

Let's go into the reality of this all-too-common and always-stressful paring: the Anxious-Preoccupied and the Dismissive-Avoidant

I'll define the terms, break down what most people THINK this pairing is and what it ACTUALLY is, and I'll share what I think you should do about it!

See you in season 10 :)

Big Pivot feat. Ashley

Thu, 06 Apr 2023 07:00:00 -0400

Ashley completed 1-on-1s and the Reattach Coaching Program!

One of the many things I love about Ashley and this episode is that her trigger into healing her codependency occurred with a platonic friend. Many others (including me!) have experienced this with friends and it's awesome to hear someone talking openly about it, since most of the time we're referring to romantic partners.

Listen to her talk about the "DREAD" she felt in this relationship and how she learned a framework for letting go that she is able to use in day-to-day life.

Ashley has embraced the warm parts of her but has put boundaries in place to protect those same parts. She can be herself while not being taking advantage of or feeling resentful towards others. Success!

I hope you enjoy the episode. If you want to do what she did, join us in Reattach!

Reattach Coaching Program

Q&A: Emotional Availability, Love Addiction, & Forgiving and more

Fri, 31 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0400

We love a Q&A! I'm helping you with...

Shifting from Anxious to Secure Attachment
Healing Love Addiction
What to do with someone who switches up on you
Understanding Stonewalls
Reconnecting
How to deal with people who keep reminding you of your mistakes

Emotional Safety Pt. 3: Showing Up Safe

Fri, 24 Mar 2023 12:00:00 -0400

10 ways to show up as more Emotionally Safe for Better Outcomes!

You’re going to want your notepad out for this one.

The unedited version of this podcast is double the time and had me cracking up, so if you want to join us for Live Recordings, join us on Patreon! $5 / month tier

It’s also a great way to give back to the podcast on the low and on the regular… if you’re regularly getting better because of it!

Date Better feat. Dating Coach @AlignWithAlison

Mon, 20 Mar 2023 08:00:00 -0400

My favorite dating coach has finally graced the podcast! Alison - @alignwithalison - is giving you her best tips on:

Putting yourself out there
Believing what people tell you
What kinds of questions to ask Potential Matches
What to do with the Submission word
Do "the butterflies" matter?

Follow her on IG here: @alignwithalison and check her services out!

Emotional Safety Pt. 2: Re-establish Trust & Confidence

Thu, 16 Mar 2023 11:00:00 -0400

Trust is on the GROUND FLOOR of healthy relationships! When the foundation is weak, everything else falls apart. Here's some insight into what to do about ONGOING relationships that have experienced attachment wounds / broken trust.

How to break from Denial and Clear Confusion
The Hyper-independence to Co-dependence Spectrum
The importance of Interdependence

Patreon - Live Q&A re: Emotional Safety on Sunday 3/26 at 6 PM EST

Boundary Playbook

Reattach Coaching Program

Attachment Nuggets feat. Alexandria

Mon, 13 Mar 2023 07:00:00 -0400

I worked with Alexandria 1-on-1 and in the Reattach Coaching Group. Then, she came to the Reattach Retreat in Atlanta - December 2022. Now, she is serving on the Reattach Team, helping others through the Reattach Program (IT'S BACK Y'ALL!) and planning the Reattach 2023 Retreat!

This is what Healing sounds like :)

Emotional Safety Pt. 1: Barriers to Vulnerability

Thu, 09 Mar 2023 10:00:00 -0500

Emotional Safety is a 3-part series recorded Live on Zoom, available for Reattachers on Patreon! You can join us - click here.

-What is an Emotionally Safe person?
-What happens when Attachment Wounds aren’t attended to?
-Understand Insecure Attachment through the lens of crying babies
-The link between the Past and Present
-How you can start breaking Barriers to Vulnerability down

The Video Replays are available on Patreon for 30 days, so if you join late, you can still get access to the videos.

Reattach is back! Read more about it here and join the Waitlist.

HAW Pt. 3: Attachment, Over-functioning, & Anxiety

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 07:00:00 -0500

The final part in the series!

-The undercover reason you pair with under-developed people
-The role of anxiety
-What your parent has to do with it

2-Hour Live Workshop on Zoom - Sat. March 25 ($25)
Replay available for attendees

HAW Pt. 2: 10 Points for Emotional & Relational Intelligence

Sat, 04 Mar 2023 07:00:00 -0500

Sometimes a Bridge doesn't need to be Demolished, it needs to be Re-Designed!

Women who thrive leading, planning, directing, and creating can have issues in the areas most important to building healthy intimate relationships.

This episode gives 10 points to focus on to help Design better relationships.

The High Achieving Women Workshop is 2 hours on March 25, 2023 from 10:30-11:30 AM

Replay will be available.

Info and Registration on site iamtaylorchandler.com

High Achieving Women Pt. 1: Prep for Partner

Thu, 02 Mar 2023 09:00:00 -0500

Happy Women’s Month! The High Achieving Women coaching group is a 3-day group for women who want to:

…increase satisfaction in personal relationships to complement your professional success

…stop dating projects or assignments. Date date healthy. Reciprocal. And understand the types that works WELL for you.

…manage the difference between your Norm and society’s norm

…understand the role of anxiety & perfectionism in your life and how to relax these things without lowering your standards so you and others around you will be more comfortable and energized!

Friday March 22nd - Sunday March 24, 2023

General: 6-8 PM EST

VIP: Additional 8-9 PM EST on Sunday the 24th with additional material and Q&A. Written supplemental material that will guide you through the general content is also included with VIP.

General - $150
VIP - $210

Register Here

Strategic Security: Map the way to Secure Attachment

Wed, 22 Feb 2023 07:00:00 -0500

Healing Insecure Attachment can be messy, so I’m laying out the major keys you need to unlock the way forward.

Breaking down “hard” skills of: identifying your attachment, managing triggers, expressing emotional needs, and setting boundaries

Plus “soft” skills of: communicating with empathy, and the discipline of forgiveness and acceptance

I released this episode on Wednesday rather than the normal Thursday because I have a Live Masterclass tonight! If you want to be there, purchase the Boundary Playbook and I’ll email you the Zoom link. You will have access to the Replay as long as you Register for class.

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Soul Ties

Thu, 16 Feb 2023 07:00:00 -0500

Have you ever felt like there was something *different* about your attachment with someone? Deeper & more intense, perhaps more dramatic & risky. Hard to let go of but hard to be a part of at the same time?

Soul Tie: an intense emotional and spiritual bond, usually developed after physical intimacy.

We’re going to talk about how Soul Ties develop and what you can do to prevent unhealthy connections like this going forward.

Capture the Red Flag

Thu, 09 Feb 2023 07:00:00 -0500

You can improve your dating & relationship experiences by improving your ability to manage red flags when they pop up!

EVERYONE has “something,” including you and me. Rather than ejecting too early, let’s talk about managing conflict and misunderstandings better so you don’t accidentally throw away a good thing.

In this episode...
-Difference between Red Flags and Dealbreakers

-How to Handle Red Flags When you Catch One

-The effect of Denial and Misunderstandings

-Common Red Flags

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Letting Go

Thu, 15 Dec 2022 07:00:00 -0500

The season is over but I will be continuing posting videos & doing Q&As on Patreon! Look forward to a Series of content, including breaking down popular television shows!

This episode - Letting Go - takes the process of releasing the past to a high level that won’t just help you over a breakup, but.. if you pay attention.. will be a key for moving through the rest of your life with greater ease and grace.

I hope to be able to help you on your journey in the Attachment Course starting in January! This is no ordinary Course on Anxiety, Avoidance, and Security. You are going to make transformational shifts in your mindset that will affect all areas in your life. After you listen to the episode, I think you’ll get a feel for the vibe we’re on in 2023.

See you there!

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Potential, Power, Assumptions & Alignment (Q&A Pt. 3)

Thu, 08 Dec 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Let me know in the Reviews how this season has served you (we're almost at the end) and tell me what you want to hear more of!

Thanks for listening in and for your support :)

The Fearful-Avoidant

Thu, 01 Dec 2022 07:00:00 -0500

What is the Fearful-Avoidant?
Why does the Fearful-Avoidant do what s/he does?
How do you shift the Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style?

Attachment Style Workbook

To watch and join-in live, plus additional audio & written content, join us on Patreon!

Thank you for your support and let me know how things are going for you in the Reviews :)

Emotional Immaturity S.I.F.T

Thu, 24 Nov 2022 07:00:00 -0500

As you are putting more into your personal development, it can become painfully obvious when you come into contact with others who have not!

You also realize how valuable your resources are, like your time, attention, affection, and space, so you want to protect those things as best as possible.

Making great decisions and being willing to correct the wrong ones puts the power in your hands to create the experiences you want. I’m going to help you with S.I.F.T.

Take notes on these 4 Areas you can put focus on to help improve the outcomes of your interactions / relationships!

4-Week Courses begin in January 2023 and info found under Classes at iamtaylorchandler.com

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Receiving, Chasing, Getting Happy, and More (Q&A Pt. 2)

Thu, 17 Nov 2022 00:00:00 -0500

Live Q&A pt. 2. If you want to join the party, Live Q&As are on Patreon!

Questions also submitted on Patreon

Heartbreak Trauma feat. Dr. Dawn Crosson

Tue, 15 Nov 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Dr. Dawn is our resident trauma therapist and she and I are talking about the trauma of heartbreak!

-How It affects you as an attachment wound (relational trauma)
-Taking accountability for behavior in relationships
-Hope for change
-How to move forward

Thanks for listening in! Find my guest here, Dr. Dawn here: @drdawnonthereal

Your Mother and Your Attachment

Thu, 10 Nov 2022 07:00:00 -0500

The primary attachment of childhood and its impact on your adulthood is significant. I help you understand how we process the attachment issues between ourselves and our mothers and I show you the outcomes in adulthood.

Most importantly, I'm going to challenge you to think about the Mother Issue is a very different way. Instead of just focusing on the relational trauma of it all, we have to prepare to release as a generation so we can stop these cycles of resentment, regret, and missing the emotional mark for ourselves and others.

The Your Mother and Your Attachment Workshop and the accompanying Workbook will help you further along in your journey towards healing this problem!

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Black Lives Workshop Nov. 19 at 11 AM EST

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Black Mental Health feat. @ExpressYourselfBlackMan

Tue, 08 Nov 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Kizzle, founder of @ExpressYourselfBlackMan and Safe Haven, a holistic healing platform for Black Men, is joining us to talk about Black Mental Health, leading a large following on social media, and debunking myths about therapy.

Resentment, Forgiveness, and Boundaries and More (Q&A Pt. 1)

Tue, 01 Nov 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Live Q&A. To join us and to submit your questions to be answered on the Podcast, join the Patreon!

Codependency Evolved Pt. 1

Thu, 27 Oct 2022 16:00:00 -0400

The deepest root of Codependency and the ultimate solution to Secure Attachment. This was a different conversation and one I believed has shifted us into a much needed conversation. Thank you for listening! And -

Misunderstood and Growing Anyway feat. Kassie

Tue, 25 Oct 2022 11:00:00 -0400

Kassie talks to us about the difficult, necessary, and then surprisingly easy decisions she has made in her Shift to a better, healthier version of herself.

One of the things I love about this conversation is the discussion around loneliness. We have all felt lonely... making this issue a paradox in itself. In other words - how is it that I feel so lonely, yet everyone else has felt lonely too? How is it that the feeling of being by myself has been shared by EVERYONE?

The lonely issue is one of the major reasons I love Reattach. My 6-week coaching group to Shift to Secure Attachment. Info on my site iamtaylorchandler.com

Attachment 101

Thu, 20 Oct 2022 11:00:00 -0400

Welcome back! Let's all ground back in Attachment so we can refresh our language and perspective.

If you get something out of this, let me know in the Reviews & press those Starz!

Thank you :)

The Anxious-Avoidant Couple Pt. 2: The Avoidant

Thu, 11 Aug 2022 09:00:00 -0400

Another season finale! In this episode, we’re talking about the Avoidant Partner and what you all need to be able to do together to re-pattern this super-problematic dynamic.

After this episode, we have about an 8 week break so make sure you’re SUBSCRIBED with your NOTIFICATIONS ON so you can hop in when we’re back!

You also want to be on my email list so you get updates about free workshops and upcoming projects that will be released - y’all there are books, there is reality tv, there are live events. Don’t miss it! Drop your email on my homepage iamtaylorchandler.com

Thanks so much for listening, I love you loving it! Tell me how you’re loving it by sending in a review on Apple. A season departure gift?

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The Anxious-Avoidant Couple Pt. 1: The Anxious

Thu, 04 Aug 2022 14:00:00 -0400

All about the Coupling of an Anxious person and an Avoidant person.

In this first part, I talk about what you need to know from the beginning to be successful + strategies for the Anxious type.

Int he second part (the season finale!), we'll get into strategies for the Avoidant type and what you all need to be able to do together.

If you're in a relationship where you find you and your Person flip-flop styles (you're anxious when they're distant, but distant when they're present) that is a common occurrence. Don't try to "make" yourself identify with just ONE of the roles if you find yourself genuinely in either at different times.

Remember, Attachment is fluid and shows up differently in us depending on how we are interpreting "threats" (like rejection, abandonment, criticism, and blame) around us.

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Reprogram Your Brain feat. Tomeika

Thu, 28 Jul 2022 10:00:00 -0400

Tomeika was dissatisfied with her relationship life and had been used to living that way for 15-20 years. Now things are so much different. We're going to talk about -

-the importance of committing and stepping into your goal
-sharing with others in a Group format
-what she now sees in her misaligned expectations with Others
-how writing down her thoughts and beliefs helps to correct them

Tomeika completed Workshops, the Reattach Group, and 1-on-1s! We actually finished in HALF of the expected time. She's going to share some secrets with you that will highlight what you need to move through this work positively and more effectively.

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Boundaries and Attachment

Thu, 21 Jul 2022 20:00:00 -0400

I loved recording this episode! I think it might be the most clearly applicable episode I’ve done.

- 3 things you need to make boundary setting easier

- Anxious types need more boundaries, so I give you 3 that will definitely help

- Avoidant types need fewer walls, so I give you 3 ways to reconfigure the “boundaries” (walls) that you already have to get better relationships

Enjoy and Thanks for your Support!

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A Generation of Codependents feat. @imani.intouch

Thu, 14 Jul 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Imani Tutt is @imani.intouch, a massively intuitive marriage and family therapist. She uses her gifts to help people work through their issues with self and others, especially as it relates to healing codependency.

She gives us a refresher on what codependency is, you'll be reminded how this relates to the Healing Fantasy with your parents, and Imani gives you important things to work through to heal this thing once and for all.

I have never met another therapist I aligned with so much. It's my pleasure to have her on!

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Q&A Part 2: The Reality of Your Relationship, Compromising and Negotiation, etc.

Wed, 29 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0400

This is the second part of the very long Instagram Live Q&A.

We're talking about how to be "your best" with your Avoidant partner, what needs to be done at the Compromise & Negotiation Table, and When to Give Up.

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Q&A Part 1: "How do I heal my wounded inner child?"

Thu, 23 Jun 2022 14:00:00 -0400

I answer the question "How do I heal my wounded inner child" by going over 4 major keys.

Remember, podcasts are just information! If you need some support going through this work (and we all do), my Healing Childhood Workshop is a great place to start.

This is my most interactive workshop and we go through exercises together. It's a total of 3 hours. I'm confident you are going to complete it with a much better understanding of how your past is affecting your present, and what you need to do next. The Live Chat is also available for download. It's linked in the description of the Workshop.

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Whatever It Takes feat. Shavon

Thu, 16 Jun 2022 08:00:00 -0400

You are in these episodes. Don't skip the guests. Learn from them. Practice relating to others. Stop "other"-ing yourself. We have the same problems and the same solutions. When you practice seeing each other as yourself rather than so far outside of yourself, we can grow together, connect together, and build the community we need to build healthier selves and relationship.
Shavon is giving you major keys to success. Don't miss it!

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Triggered & Projecting

Thu, 09 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0400

This is one of the MAJOR keys to understanding and Shifting to Secure Attachment,

so the lack of understanding around it greatly (and negatively) affects someone's intended path forward.

Because of this, I take a significant amount of time in the beginning setting up the frame for you and I will repeat myself again and again in this episode. I need you to get this so I am checking for understanding. Please be patient! (with me and yourselves - thank youuu)

If this was easy to understand, it would be easy to fix. It's a bit more complicated than just the concepts of the Attachment Styles itself. We are going into the nuts and bolts here. If learning the 4 Attachment Styles is Level 1, this is Level 2.

Whew! Be prepared to take some notes and review them afterwards!

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Know Thyself feat. Stephanie

Thu, 02 Jun 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Stephanie and I talk about the importance of being in community and sharing what's going on with us with others,
working through fear,
investing in yourself,
and taking the opportunity to grow.

I'm so happy for her and proud to have worked with her! :)

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The Disease to Please

Thu, 26 May 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Welcome to Season 7! I'm so excited to share with you.

This episode I'm breaking down people-pleasing -
What it looks like for the Anxious Attachment Style & the Avoidant Style
Why we have this disease
How to break it

Thank you for believing in me to help you break these patterns! It just keeps getting better.

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COVID, Trauma, and Relationship Anxiety

Thu, 07 Apr 2022 08:00:00 -0400

It's the season finale and Dr. Dawn is here for a trauma check-up before we go!

We're talking about respecting others' perspective,
-the traumatic surprise of COVID,
-the ecosystem of therapy and why we refer
-tips for entering healthy relationships in this strange time
-reflection on: Are you relationship material?
-making excuses for bad relationships
-the question of: "What has happened, happened. What's the point of going to therapy if it won't change it?"

Thank you for a great season! See you soon -

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Purpose in Pain feat. Courtney

Thu, 31 Mar 2022 07:00:00 -0400

Courtney and I talk about how she overcame the pain of the past to find purpose in her life. She is doing things she couldn't imagine doing before after doing the work to free herself from what was holding her back!
Often going forward means redefining relationships with those who have been closest to us. It's among the hardest parts of this work - but she did it, and she keeps doing it. She keeps choosing herself and sees that by choosing herself, others actually benefit!

Great for you Courtney :)

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Love you to Death

Thu, 24 Mar 2022 08:00:00 -0400

This is about enabling. The ways we support problematic dynamics through our own actions (or non-action).

-What is the difference between helping and enabling, and why does it matter so much?
-What it looks like in individuals and within relationships
-What you can do about it

Two episodes left in the season. Turn on your notifications so you know when we come back!

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Mind and Body Alignment feat. Robyn LPC

Thu, 17 Mar 2022 10:00:00 -0400

Robyn Minefee provides mind-body therapy, like yoga and walk-and-talk therapy! I love that she helps you see the importance of holistic health. We’re going to talk about how compulsion, obsession, and other addiction-related behaviors show up in relationships (like with people-pleasers), how you can begin managing your anxiety or depression now, and what was was so hard about the job where we met!

Robyn is a licensed professional counselor and you can find her here:

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The Mindset to Change feat. Arabia

Thu, 10 Mar 2022 08:00:00 -0500

First, I start with 'The Big Reset' where I address boundaries and expectations and you get a better idea of who I am! This was actually a great reflection for me especially as I get more grounded in my role here.

Perfect pairing with Arabia! Arabia and I worked together 1-on-1 first. She shares about realizing her achievements did not fulfill her, so she set out to embrace the relational part of her. She did the work and came into awareness of her ability to balance, which took a lot of unlearning and re-learning a more relaxed way to experience herself and relationships.

If you're interested in working together 1-o-1, use the Free Consult Call link below!

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Addiction and Attachment

Thu, 03 Mar 2022 09:00:00 -0500

This episode has parallels to problems found within insecure attachment styles, but it’s important to make some clear distinctions between ‘standard’ attachment issues and issues that are very specific to addiction.

I’m getting into how I got super-familiar with addiction and made the connection between addiction, codependency, and general insecurity.

Then we talk a bit about the history of addiction and how it has evolved into the monster it is.

After that, I shed light on how growing up in a family with addiction addiction most likely affects you now as an adult.

I’m confident this is going to be very helpful for many people. Please share with who comes to your mind!

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Breaking Generational Codependency feat. Anastasia

Thu, 24 Feb 2022 12:00:00 -0500

Anastasia reached out because she wanted to break codependent patterns that have existed in her family for generations.

We talk about...

-what Generational Codependency is and how Anastasia broke the pattern

-how it has affected how she relates to her family (and how they relate to her),

-and the difficulties in setting boundaries in relationships that don’t have the foundation of respect and understanding...

-but the reward you get when you stick with yourself anyway and do the healthy thing!

We worked together 1-on-1. If you’re interested in starting a package of sessions like she did, please use this link to schedule your 20 minute phone call (outside of U.S. will use Zoom Audio and the link will be included in your Appointment Confirmation Email)

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Insecure Attachment and the Inner Child

Thu, 17 Feb 2022 09:00:00 -0500

This might be the most dynamic episode I’ve ever done -Insecure Attachment and the Inner Child.

What it is
It’s role in Shifting to Secure
My experience with it
Me being triggered by an IG Live comment
What you can do to begin resolving this inner child complex

I’m adding an Inner Child component to the Healing Childhood workshop - next time this is offered is on Sat. March 5th on Zoom

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A Win for Avoidant Types feat. Monya

Thu, 10 Feb 2022 07:00:00 -0500

Monya shifted from an Avoidant attachment style to a Secure style and she’s going to share some of her major game changers with you.

She’s also going to talk about how freeing it is to be able to just express herself, as she is, without the need to control others or the outcome.

Monya openly shares her goal to focus on romantic relationship this year, which is something she would have never admitted before!

It is so common for avoidant types to dismiss, deny, or suppress their most vital emotional needs - which is a big reason why Monya is such a great example of what it’s like to work through those things and flip your own script.

Much wisdom from HER in this episode. I’m confident you will enjoy.
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The Anxious-Avoidant Problem

Wed, 02 Feb 2022 07:00:00 -0500

The first time I talked about this was on Season 1...

Now I'm revisiting this conflict that is often a catalyst for someone digging into their Attachment Style. I'm breaking down the negative loop the Anxious type and the Dismissive type perpetually find themselves in. I'm helping you understand why you two trigger each other so often and the major things you have in common. And I'll give you some ideas about what to do about this.

I think it's the perfect way to start Season 6!
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Over the Threshold

Thu, 30 Dec 2021 07:00:00 -0500

These are a few of the more unconventional things I did that created significant positive changes for me as I shifted too Secure Attachment.

Some of the things I talk about are a bit more ‘extreme’ so this isn’t for everyone - but it is for those who are willing to go further out-of-the-box to get the result you want.

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Before Love Arrives: Making emotional space for a relationship

Thu, 16 Dec 2021 16:00:00 -0500

Triggers, storylines, and the problem with holding on to things from the past.

Throw the hoodie away.

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Codependency

Thu, 09 Dec 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Codependency is one of the pillars that keeps Insecure Attachment standing. I really believe it’s imperative to understand how this works within us and between us in order to restructure our ways of relating.

In this episode, I talk about what codependency is, what it looks like, the root cause, and what to do about it.

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Emotional Availability

Thu, 02 Dec 2021 14:00:00 -0500

Emotional availability is a huge indicator of how successful the relationship will be, which includes how likely it will be that you feel seen, valued, and heard by the other person.

In this episode I give you some key signals to someone's unavailability but also highlight how you may be the emotional unavailable one! But no worries - of course I give you some tips on what to do about it.

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Becoming Less Anxious in Conflict feat. Kristi Pergory

Thu, 18 Nov 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Kristi has identified as an anxious-preoccupied attachment style and had reactions in conflict that she did not understand and did not like - nor did her fiancé!

In the Reattach coaching group she was able to see her triggers and how she had more control than she thought over managing them. Now, she has more peace in her relationship and can move forward with confidence that she can handle her anxiety much better and be more present in all types of communication within her relationship.

She touches on some other important points as well, like:
-releasing shame surrounding negative reactions
-the importance of self-soothing
-taking responsibility for actions and her role in conflict
-getting practical tools to manage anxiety

Kristi completed Reattach, a group for those wanting to shift from an insecure attachment style to a secure attachment style.

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Promotions & Demotions: Who stays in your life and who goes?

Thu, 11 Nov 2021 07:00:00 -0500

The quality of our relationships determine such a big portion of the quality of our life. Are you setting yourself up for personal & relational success in 2022?

I'm giving you 3 questions to consider when reflecting on your relationships as we begin wrapping the year.

1. Do you have space for me?
2. Do you see a future with me?
3. Do you desire me?

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The Turning Point feat. Aleksandra Djurdjevic

Thu, 04 Nov 2021 08:00:00 -0400

Aleksandra completed the Reattach Group + 1-on-1s! After doing a bunch of her own research and searching for answers down many different avenues, she finally invested in herself on a different level and did the work she needed to do to make all these positive changes.

In this episode she talks about:

-grieving past toxic relationships
-her overthinking
-identifying and embracing a range of feelings, even when they are uncomfortable
-making a decision to tackle her specific issues and invest in herself in a new way

Some of my favorite things about Aleksandra (and that boosted her progress) is how focused she gets on her goals, her level of commitment, and her desire to learn. Her open-mindedness and discipline combined definitely helped her get to her results.

Thank you for sharing with us Aleksandra! I can’t wait to see what happens next :)

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Men without Fathers Pt. 2: The emotional and attachment impact

Thu, 28 Oct 2021 12:00:00 -0400

In this episode I address how the physical and/or emotional absence of a father can affect adult men, as well as how those issues can manifest in relationships with women.

-How children process adult-sized trauma
-Your adult trauma brain
-Anxious-preoccupied attachment style and dismissive-avoidant attachment style
-Issues with trust and intimacy
-Distortions of women and self (man)

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Men without Fathers Pt. 1

Thu, 21 Oct 2021 09:00:00 -0400

This part focuses on the impact as it relates to more of the energetically masculine (function, practicality, work, money) rather than the energetically feminine (empathy, nurture, emotional intimacy). I will address the emotional impact and how it manifests in attachment issues in Part 2.

In this episode you will hear about -
The Issue of Overgeneralizing Negative Relationship Experiences
Importance of Consistency & Stability
Leadership & Communicating Vision
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The Bare Minimum

Thu, 14 Oct 2021 22:00:00 -0400

Why we feel we can get away with the bare minimum,
How doing less is sabotaging yourself and your relationships,
and What do to about it.

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Welcome Home feat. Sara Harvey

Thu, 23 Sep 2021 10:00:00 -0400

Welcome back to yourself, welcome home!

Sara was a member of REATTACH. She joined while going through a divorce, looking for emotional support and the truth. She found it and more. I'm so happy to have been a part of her journey.

Fear and other less-preferred emotions can take over us, blinding us to who we really are and what we are capable of. Our options seem limited during thoswe times, and the options we can see don't often seem appealing. When we remove those distortions and get back in touch with the core of ourselves, we are free. Welcome home.

REATTACH: This group will move you from a place of insecurity in love to a secure and confident position in your relationships and as an individual. You will learn and apply practical tools to reconfigure unhelpful patterns that have kept you in the same negative relationships cycles, including: identifying and expressing your emotional needs, managing and reducing the effect of your triggers, getting clear on how past relational issues with parents and significant romantic partners affect how you relate in the present, and how to solidify your identity on the secure side of the attachment spectrum. Limited to 10 women.

Don't forget to leave a rating on the podcast before you go! See you next season.
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The Single Mother Effect Pt. 2

Tue, 21 Sep 2021 07:00:00 -0400

The Single Mother Effect Pt. I was so much I needed to split it!

Our background has a lot to do with what’s going on with us right now, especially if it’s gone unattended to. Most people don’t think about or even want to address the single mother for some significant reasons I talk another in Pt. I.

This info will be helpful if you grew up with a single mom or if your father was largely absent, even if they remained married.

One thing I’ll continue to say I’m proud of is that my practice has been so diverse, both in 1-on-1s and group. This problem is no different in that it doesn’t matter what your race or gender is, it can affect you! But I do make some specific points about Black families/individuals because this issue does disproportionately affect Black people. I give some stats in Pt. 1 and quickly remind you of some in this live.

Ok so now that’s out the way - here I’m getting into:

- how growing up with the single mother effect can affect you and your relationships
-what you can do about it

This was tough to get into! A LOT of trigger points 🥴
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The Single Mother Effect

Thu, 16 Sep 2021 07:00:00 -0400

Live podcast recording -

Here I go opening up another can of worms - but I prefer to call it... a gift box!

Really, I get it - It is an uncomfortable topic and conversation but has a lot of significance in solving some of the big issues in individuals and relationships. This won’t apply to everyone, but it applies to many.

Some of this is hard or upsetting to hear and our first instinct can be to ignore or push it away because it can be painful to identify with truths we would prefer didn’t exist. Many can feel angry about it, or even feel angry at me because it may seem I’m making someone “guilty.” I assure you that’s not the case but I encourage you, like I would with any triggering thing, to stop if you feel yourself shutting down and try coming back to it later. Maybe after journaling about it or sleeping on it.

At the end of the day, the only way to change for the better is to look at it head on and get real about how this is affecting you. For some that decision may happen this week, for some it may be 6 months or 6 years from now. Your level of open-mindedness will affect that timeline greatly.

Since this issue is so huge, I’m going to make it a bit more digestible and touch on 3 main things. This episode will by no means by exhaustive, but I believe it will be informative and will help plenty of people begin to solve this sticky and incredibly pervasive and prevalent problem.

barriers to resolving this issue
the potential effects of being raised by a single mother on your current relationships/in dating
what you can do about it

**UPDATE: big lessons here so I’m breaking it up into two parts. This one is very important to the foundation of understanding the problem so you can solve it.

As more people share this information and are willing to speak up about it, more will realize you are so far from being the ‘only one.’ Many share big pieces of the present problems you want to solve, yet have not been able to put their finger on the source of the problem. I believe this will help. Please share!

You’re Still Standing feat. Dr. Dawn Crosson, Psy. D

Thu, 09 Sep 2021 09:00:00 -0400

Dr. Dawn is a licensed psychologist & certified trauma therapist & someone I look up to - not just in the field but as a great person who has made an incredibly positive impact on my life. I appreciate you so much!

She’s talking to us about how trauma affects our relationships and it is filled to the brim… you will want to have a notepad beside you!

-Examples of relationship trauma
- Importance of emotional security and validation
-Setting boundaries
-Repeating old patterns because it is familiar
-It’s relative - people can experience the same incident differently
-Fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, trust issues manifested
-Misconceptions and barriers to doing trauma work
-How trauma can increase compassion, intuition, and presence for others

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Confidence Boost feat. James Jones

Thu, 02 Sep 2021 08:00:00 -0400

James is a resident guest - y'all know James! I love having him on because he is a fitness industry professional and physical health principles are so intertwined with good mental health practices. Today we’re talking about confidence - one of my favorite things!

Some things we get into

-self-efficacy: the belief you can accomplish something
-how you can be a high achiever with low confidence
-what you think vs. what you really are
-the role of self-talk
-the need for action
-grace and resilience

Enjoy :)

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Are You Toxic in Relationships? - Pt. 2

Thu, 26 Aug 2021 16:00:00 -0400

A lot of women will avoid this episode. I’m sure it will do really low download numbers but I am still committed to telling the truth. Not what you want to hear but what you need to hear.

Let’s start here: Please, please don’t let your perpetually single friends or this Queen Mentality keep you from the awareness you need to get the partner you really want. I need you to listen in to this episode.

I was every single thing I talk about in this episode, so trust when I say this is not about judgment or blame. We behave and think in these ways because we are hurting and searching for a way out. We believe these ways will protect us, when really it only harms us further. Hopefully this episode encourages you to do something about it. When I did, it changed everything for me!

“Toxic women in relationships” - here’s what I’m getting into:

-defensiveness
-non-reciprocal/“selfish”
-hot and cold/non-committal

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Toxic Women in Friendships - Pt. 1

Mon, 23 Aug 2021 20:00:00 -0400

Women have been getting away with a lot and I think we need to talk about it. As a byproduct of the second wave of feminism, it has been difficult for women to be self-reflective and accountable for their role in the things that go wrong in their lives, like in relationships! It starts with us ladies - let’s help others to be better by being better ourselves. And remember, if a relationship with a great person is what you want, you need to be great yourself!

First I define toxic. Then…

-how your environment affects you
-doing a “friend audit”
-these specific traits: negative talk, overworking in masculine energy, hype women, inconsistent, and incongruent

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Free Man

Thu, 19 Aug 2021 13:00:00 -0400

This is a model man! Jamel is a light for all of us, but he is especially important for men and fathers to hear from. Secondarily, I think he has an extraordinary mindset and qualities for women to hear who would like to partner with a healthy and secure man, or who already are with someone and would like to understand your partner better.

I’m so grateful to Jamel for allowing us to hear his story and I hope it serves listeners well.

Here are just some of the things he talks about:

-being highly stressed (he rates it a 50 out of 10) and still making the move to begin therapy
-the importance of identifying the root of the problem
-deepening his relationship with his children
-realizing he was running on autopilot with his traumas
-unconsciously repeating negative cycles from the past
-the difficulty and importance of bringing things we feel shame about to the light
-what men need to know about therapy and emotional expression
-separating “who I am” vs. “what I do”
-how he maintains peace

and those are just SOME of the pieces! This episode is packed.

Check Jamel out on Instagram here: @faqzonly

Jamel’s podcast here: Faqz Only on Spotify

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The work is working for you

Thu, 12 Aug 2021 00:00:00 -0400

Marlene completed REATTACH, a group of 10 women (max) who want to shift from patterns of anxiety or avoidance to security. Marlene has been doing a lot of self-work and is seeing the fruits of all her labor - we love it :)

In this episode, she talks about:
-coming into REATTACH after hitting some significant and tough moments in her life
-connecting with others with different backgrounds, ages, and experiences but the same kinds of fears and hopes in relationships
-how setting boundaries actually helps relationships
-the joys (seriously!) of taking accountability

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Calm Mind, Peaceful Heart

Wed, 04 Aug 2021 17:00:00 -0400

Brianna and I worked together 1-on-1 and the journey was amazing. She made so many big changes & mind shifts in our time together, I'm grateful she is willing to share with you.

One of my favorite things about this episode is the space in between the questions and her answers. I love her thoughtfulness and her presence here. I hope you'll get something out of being able to sit in the silence with us.

Some things she talks about are -
*financial infidelity in her marriage
*blaming others for things going wrong
*taking things way too personally
*having a hard time letting go of resentment
*being unaware of how harmful her own thought patterns were
*creating healthy boundaries with family members
*the importance of investing in herself and loving on herself!

It's a really beautiful episode & I hope you enjoy.

If you are getting something good out of Boundaries & Grace, I invite you to send a donation of whatever size is on your heart! It can be $1 or $2 or maybe it's $5. I appreciate your support in this work & thank you for sowing into it. $taychand (CashApp)

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The shift

Thu, 29 Jul 2021 13:00:00 -0400

A lot has changed! Over this season my intention is to share more about who I am, how I got here, and why all of this work is important. I want to give a fuller view in these episodes rather than small bites on Instagram.

Some things I'm talking about:
-life events that served as a catalyst for this new phase in my life & work
-how anger and resentment affected how I showed up in my work
-the release of judgment and blame towards family members
-reconciling broken pieces of my heart
-realizing wholeness

Listen in and see :) If you're enjoying the podcast I would really appreciate if you rated and commented - The level up is to subscribe so you don't miss any!

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Relationship Goals feat. Matilda Adu

Mon, 28 Jun 2021 08:00:00 -0400

Matilda! She needs an exclamation point after her name every time, in my opinion. Matilda Adu is spreading love and confidence to women through dance, mental health, and cannabis! See her website here matildaadu.com

Matilda and I have seen each other make some pretty *interesting* relationship decisions through grad school and when we lived together for a year here in Atlanta. It's a really beautiful thing for us to be able to have this conversation together about where we are now and how our decisions and perspectives have made such huge shifts.

She's going to talk about #RelationshipGoals and why people are so obsessed with them and why that's so problematic. She talks about the importance of being present in your relationship, the role of gratitude while experiencing your partner, and your responsibility to take care of yourself while being intimately connected to who you're with.

Who better to wrap this season than Matilda? Follow her on Instagram here @yeslikethemovie
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Decolonizing Wellness feat. Dayanara

Thu, 17 Jun 2021 07:00:00 -0400

Dayanara has made our health her business, literally. Her company and brand iWoke Wellness brings equity and healthcare to Black and brown people, who have been disproportionately, grossly, and systematically prevented access to good healthcare. She talks to us today about decolonizing wellness, achieving alignment in our life, and how to be more fully present with ourselves and those around us.

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Choosing to Be Myself feat. Jamar Diggs

Thu, 10 Jun 2021 07:00:00 -0400

Jamar Diggs is one of my social media besties, y'all! He is a YouTube conversion coach who helps service-based experts build bomb channels. I was drawn to him because of his presence, confidence, and laughs!!

Jamar talks to us about realizing he was living a life someone else wanted for him (his parents, mainly) instead of a life he wanted for himself. Growing up with parents who judged his decisions left him feeling anxious about how others perceived him as he grew into adulthood. He was always thinking two steps ahead, trying to anticipate how another person was receiving him, or how he was making that person feel.

After Jamar realized he had a choice and began setting the boundaries he needed to figure out who he was, his life changed.

Stay tuned to the end to hear about Jamar's ex-career in deer hunting :)

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Jamar Diggs is a YouTube Conversion Coach. He helps service-based experts RANK on YouTube and Google Search so they can stop being a slave to the Instagram content spiral. With his corporate marketing experience, Jamar takes YouTube strategy and YouTube SEO best practices to drive more problem-aware people to his client's offers.

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Everything is Great But Love feat. Lindsay

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 07:00:00 -0400

Lindsay was hitting successes in plenty of big areas in her life but felt stuck when it came to her romantic relationships. She tells us how important it is to...

💡 learn and communicate your needs
💡 how and why she redefined vulnerability
💡 the reality of needing to consistently refocus and redirect your mind when shifting out of anxiety
💡 and how all this work has affected her life as a whole

Lindsay joined REATTACH, the 6 week group for up to 10 people to switch out of an anxious or avoidant (or the mix of qualities in an anxious-avoidant person) state to a secure position in their lives.

She did it from London, so she would take a nap before at around 9 then wake up and stay with us until 1 AM! While working and with a little one at home 🏠 We applaud your commitment to yourself and ultimately your family and all others you love. Pouring into you is the only way to keep pouring into them. 👏🏾

If you’re interested in getting more info about the next group, fill out the short interest form here: https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/su/tOEmV60/reattach

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F* Love Languages

Thu, 27 May 2021 06:00:00 -0400

Love Languages just don't tell the whole story. As a matter of fact, I'm concerned it's giving a far too simplistic idea of how love really works between people. I'm highlighting some important things the 5 Love Languages leaves out that you can consider for your relationships!

*I recorded this episode live on Instagram, so you'll hear me saying hello to people randomly throughout

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Daddy Issues feat. Christian Jackson

Thu, 20 May 2021 08:00:00 -0400

Christian Jackson is in my top 5 favorite therapists, easily. I pre-ordered her book Daddy Issues (got my signed copy) before she and I ever had a conversation and now I recommend it to my clients all the time.

She's going to break down what a "Daddy Issue" is and the archetypes of women who have them. I love how Christian is open about how her own issues with her father and how they manifested in her life, because I can totally relate. Maybe you can too!

The chapters of the book outline how Daddy Issues affect ALL of your relationships - friends, romantic partners, co-workers, etc. If you have an attachment issue in one place, she knows it's showing up with others as well. These are things we are simply unaware of at first, but with some reflection and work (hopefully with a therapist), we can acknowledge them and begin to do something different and better for ourselves and the people we love.

I encourage you to check out her content and get a copy of her book!

Christian Jackson, LPC, CACI, NCC
Licensed Mental Health and Wellness Professional Homegirl ;)
Daddy Issues Expert

Christian's website| https://www.couchwithchristian.com/

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The cycle of abuse feat. Kaday Kabba-Howard

Thu, 13 May 2021 08:00:00 -0400

Welcome Kaday 💕 National Certified Counselor and Associate Processional Counselor and my good friend and sister Kaday! Whenever you get to talk to Kaday she just pours her wisdom all over you 😩 💧

I love it. I put her contact info below so you can reach out to her about booking a session!

We’re getting into emotional abuse, some signs of subtle abuse, the difficulty in leaving, and Kaday runs down ways you can begin to help yourself out + the importance of reaching out to get the help you need! No need to do this alone.

Also, Derrick Jaxn and his drama 🙄

But anyway, y’all listen in on Apple or Spotify - links in Bio - Boundaries and Grace with Taylor Chandler 🚨

Turn Notifications on so you don’t miss next week! (Or any week duh)

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Kaday Kabba-Howard, MS, NCC, APC
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Spark Your Spiritual Side feat. The Badd Buddha

Thu, 06 May 2021 00:00:00 -0400

Jade is the Badd Buddha! She is a walking, talking Light. I really believe all of the issues I’ve faced and all the problems I work on with my clients are ultimately rooted in spiritual disconnections (remembering that your relationship with yourself IS a spiritual connection); so talking to Jade who not only gets it, but who is so committed to helping others heal was a real treat :) I had a lot of options for the soundbite from this episode, because it’s so PACKED. But, I chose this one because of what she says at the end of it… That we are all better when we behave in ways that are supportive of each other.

Listen to us get into:

-what happens when you realize what you want isn’t what you’ve been getting

-Jade’s spiritual awakening

-how her divorce was a catalyst for spiritual liberation

-how to use your emotions as a guide to get back to your natural state of joy

-importance / function of being still with yourself

we also mention Eckhart Tolle’s book A New Earth and Insight Timer, a free meditation app.

The Bad Buddha's IG (Jade) - click here!

The Badd Buddha website is here.

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Re-attached feat. Ebrenyka Basnight

Thu, 29 Apr 2021 08:00:00 -0400

Ebrenyka was a part of the first REATTACH group! Listen to what her experience was like throughout and how her life has changed since. The idea of group can be intimidating because so many have never considered it as an option, and you're on zoom with strangers! I get it. That's why I'm so glad group members are coming back to share their experience... I think you'll be surprised.

If this is your first time hearing about REATTACH -

For 6 weeks I help you and up to 9 others shift from insecure attachment style (anxious, dismissive, anxious-avoidant) to a secure style. Along the way, you have a 46-page pdf guide to help you reflect through the course.

If you're interested in getting some more info about Group, fill out this short interest form here!

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3 Questions Most People Ask After the Break Up

Thu, 22 Apr 2021 08:00:00 -0400

Welcome to season 3!

Here are 3 questions we all ask ourselves, our therapists, our friends... and pretty much anyone else who will listen.. when we are leaving toxic relationships with narcissists.

This Live was so fun! The audio is straight from an Instagram Live, so you'll hear me responding to live comments.

This is a big wake up call. I hope you find it helpful! Make sure to stay tuned to the end because I also give you 3 HELPFUL questions that will actually move you forward and place you in a more empowered position.

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Breakdown to Breakthrough feat. Shanada Anderson

Thu, 01 Apr 2021 08:00:00 -0400

This is everything. Shanada will inspire you to take a step back in your own life to see what's aligned with you and what (or who) is not. The shifts Shanada made in 6 weeks will blow your mind. She completed Release the Rags, a processing group for 8-10 people set on leaving negative things in the past. If you're interested in being a part of an upcoming group, fill out the interest form below!

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Breathe Through Blockages feat. Dominic Vetuschi

Thu, 25 Mar 2021 08:00:00 -0400

A little pranayama & a bit of asana with Dominic! He's a certified breath work guide & life coach helping people use their bodies and breath to move through life's blockages. I've done several breathing sessions with him and can vouch for it - this really works! If you're interested in Dominic's services, contact him below:

Dom's services --> click here

Dom's Insta --> right here

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Mr. Nice Guy feat. James Jones

Thu, 18 Mar 2021 08:00:00 -0400

James is back and rooting for the Nice Guy! We're having a conversation about the issues women have with receiving "nice guys" and the issues the "nice guy" faces himself. How does past trauma play into it? Is the Nice Guy sabotaging himself? We also get into boundary setting in dating & relationships!

Find James on IG

His first episode re: deep habits on season 1, ep. 8

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Men who lead ft. Nick Hicks

Thu, 11 Mar 2021 10:00:00 -0500

Recognize an alpha male when you see one! So many women talk about wanting a masculine man, but fail to accept them when they see them. Nick and I talk about why this is happening (of course subconscious toxic patterns come into play) and the qualities of alpha men so you can better pick them out the crowd. It may not be in line with your past choices, so it may sound foreign or uncomfortable. Recognize any feelings of resistance you feel as you work through this episode, write them down, and bring them to your free call! The link is below -

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The word of the year is "Boundaries" feat. Titania

Thu, 04 Mar 2021 15:00:00 -0500

Titania is the Boundary QUEEN ok?! Boundaries weren't a part of her life until she joined Release the Rags, a group led by yours truly. Titania's growth was amazing and I'm ecstatic for her. After she implemented boundaries in her life, she felt healthier, ate better, and was way more happy way more often! She learned that not everyone will celebrate her healing, and some will outright be angry about it, but she has committed to herself anyway. We celebrate you Titania! Thank you for shining your light for others to make their way.

Find Titania on IG!

If you're interested in joining a group, fill out this super-short interest form here.

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and on Patreon!

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Unlocking Your Highest Self feat. Hailey Curtis

Tue, 02 Mar 2021 08:00:00 -0500

Hailey is a life coach for dog lovers! She helps you reach your highest potential by challenging and overcoming your limiting beliefs. Hailey helps you get over ALL that. Along with being a super gifted life coach, she also has a design agency called Design Bee. She can help you get your branding down, which I know is SO important for your business. She also just launched a Youtube channel! Hailey’s killin’ it and you can check all her links below. Make sure to follow her on Instagram!

Website: designbeeagency.com

Email: hailey@designbeeagency.com

Instagram: @iamhaileycurtis

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClcKo5nIuZsjSgQPFa73LcQ

The anxious-avoidant never-ending dance

Thu, 18 Feb 2021 08:00:00 -0500

I don't know why we keep calling this a "dance" when dances are fun and this dynamic is not! But it is very real and very predictable.

It's so predictable that I've created a whole group around it. If you're a part of that, you're going to get a really good grip on your own attachment style, you'll learn to recognize signs of insecurity and emotional unavailability in others, and you'll learn how to shift to a securely attached style. Whether you're in a relationship or not, whether you want to be in one or not, being a securely attached person puts you in the most confident position for your life as an individual! Being a more attractive partner is just a cherry on top :)

I hope this episode helps you to identify some of the patterns you may have been experiencing and I hope you laugh along the way!

The super-short interest form for the attachment style group (REATTACH) is here.

Free 20 min consult call is here. Use this link if you're interested in 1-on-1s!

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xoxo,
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The path to trusting yourself feat. Denise

Thu, 11 Feb 2021 08:00:00 -0500

Denise completed Release the Rags after starting her self-work years prior, and that's why I love her story. She came in with a lot of knowledge about herself and her relationships, but she was willing to continue reinforcing her growth through group work. Another thing she mentions, which I think is really profound, is she had felt in the past that she had to "start over" again and again; but now she has realized that she doesn't have to do that at all. She's able to validate her own growth without someone else doing it for her, and that is an incredibly powerful and free position to be in.

Denise is here for those who have quieter voices and have a lot of impactful and meaningful things to say. I know a lot of people will be able to see themselves in her journey, like I did.

If you'd like to know more about the group process, you can fill out this super short form here.

I share my afterthoughts on the podcasts and much, much more on my Patreon, which you can be a part of for $4.44/month.

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Please take a moment to rate and review this podcast! And don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss any future episodes.

xoxo,
Taylor

The power of minding your business feat. Whitney

Thu, 04 Feb 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Whitney is a powerhouse. She's a natural leader and director and is good at holding things in place for others. But here's the thing... She has realized the rewards of stepping back and letting others go, which allows her to embrace personal power even more. It's amazing what that does for our own lives! Whitney does a great job of breaking down what that looks like and how it feels to step into that unfamiliar space.

Whitney is here for the Type As, the perfectionists, the overachievers. I know those identities well myself. I'm so glad to have her here so you can hear from her how it's possible to be even more of yourself - even more authentically confident - when you take that energy you've been giving to everyone else and turn it inward.

Fill out your group interest form here if you'd like to be a part of the process!

See more on Instagram - @iamtaylorchandler

THRESH website is here.

xoxo,
Taylor

It just gets better feat. Monya

Thu, 28 Jan 2021 08:00:00 -0500

Like so many of us, Monya didn't find vulnerability empowering, at first. She found it something to avoid at all costs.

I love how Monya has gotten so comfortable with identifying, expressing, and GETTING her needs and wants met. I love how her life has opened up. I'm grateful to be with her along the journey for 2+ years.

Listen to what her process was like going from stuck in so many areas to easily describing her life as "in flow" and "abundant. She talks about...

-how she overcame her own fears of change
-how this process she committed to through 1-on-1 sessions has changed... everything.
-the power of vulnerability and freedom in her own life

No one better to open up Season 2 for us!
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If you have an extra moment today, please rate, review, and subscribe. Or pick one ;) It's all appreciated!

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xoxo
Taylor

I'm not crazy, I'm anxious feat. Trey Long

Thu, 07 Jan 2021 10:00:00 -0500

Trey is a past client who conquered his anxious attachment style and moved to a place of secure attachment within himself and in his relationships. Learning about his style and how it has manifested in his life empowered Trey to make the necessary changes to live more confidently, more fulfilled, and more in control.

Living in anxious attachment leave us fatigued. We're constantly trying to prove ourselves because we think if we make ourselves indispensable, we increase the chances of someone staying with us. We're unable to separate someone's negative actions from our own value and worth, so when they treat us poorly, we think it's because we are not good enough for them to treat us better.

Constantly choosing people who elicit the parts of ourselves that we dislike the most is traumatic in itself! The good news is, change is totally possible. Trey is an excellent example of that and I hope his wisdom and experience helps you today.

If working on your attachment style is something that you think could help make your life better, please fill out the interest form (no obligation) for my 4-week group coaching program RE-ATTACH. You will be able to identify your style and the symptoms of it, learn how to handle others who have an insecure attachment style while you're improving, and how to specifically move towards a securely attached place.

This round starts Sunday, Jan. 24-Feb. 14 and will meet once weekly for two hours on Sundays!

Here's the form. After you fill it out, look out for an email from me about more information!

This is the season finale! We'll be back January 21st.
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5 raggedy things to let go of in 2021

Thu, 31 Dec 2020 13:00:00 -0500

Happy NYE!! (I think?)

We have all had things that we’ve held on to for far too long. Things that keep us from having the experiences and relationships we really want, including your relationship with YOU.

Here are 5 things you can let go of as we enter into 2021! You know, things like giving endlessly in your relationships with no reciprocation, saving everyone else's day but having no one to 'save' yours, and remaining in spaces and around faces who don't appreciate you!

After you listen, here are two good options for your next step:

Toxic AF workshop on Jan 23, here’s the link to register.

GROUP coaching limited to 8 people (6 spots remaining as of 12/31) starts Tues. Jan 19 from 6-8 PM EST and that registration link is here.

1-on-1 information on my website.

xoxo
Taylor (IG: @iamtaylorchandler)

Like habits but deeper feat. James Jones

Thu, 24 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0500

Medical fitness practitioner and fitness industry expert James Jones drops his knowledge of what it takes to build healthy habits and, most importantly, how to keep them! You'll want to have a pen and paper around for this, especially because I just KNOW you're getting ready for your year of your higher self in 2021!
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Free 20 min call here.

Letting go is hard to do

Thu, 17 Dec 2020 12:00:00 -0500

How can you be so intent on letting go and yet find it so difficult to do?! It feels like you should be able to just 'release' it, but it's just not that easy.

We all have things we could do better to leave behind. A lot of people want to know how but it's important to know why it's so challenging in the first place. My hope is that you can give yourself some grace through the process. My OTHER hope is that you keep the flame lit under your a** to do the work it takes to get to where you want to go - more peace, more happiness, more balance.

Enjoy! xoxo
Taylor
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Your internal bad b*tch feat. J'Lynn Harvey

Thu, 10 Dec 2020 14:00:00 -0500

J’Lynn is my friend who happens to also be an amazing therapist and make up artist. She drops so much on us in this episode, you’re going to be rewinding and re-listening throughout it! I'm talking about how amazedddd I am at her Instagram where she shows off her MUA work, click here to be impressed right along with me.

She talks about own personal and challenging experiences. It’s inspiring to hear her journey to becoming who she is today. Some things we get into:

-Who is your internal bad b*tch and how do you bring her out?! Does everyone have one?
-Sexual violence and suicidal thoughts and ideation
-Trauma responses
-The importance of community
-Not rushing through your feelings
-Levels of trauma

Hope you get as much out of it as I did. Please rate, review, and share!

Find me on Instagram here.

The sign up to my free workshop on Saturday, January 9, 2021 is here.

My website is here.

Finding peace with your decision feat. Joy

Thu, 03 Dec 2020 13:00:00 -0500

Did you catch part 1!? If not, turn around and listen!

In this part we talk about...
- the difference between excitement and anxiety.
- addiction to the ups and downs in a chaotic/toxic relationship
-trauma bonds
-coming to peace with your decision and ultimately...

doing what's best for you.

Many of us have made decisions in and about relationships that weren't GREAT. I love that Joy is open to talking about her own experiences and reminds us that we're not alone in it.

Please share, rate, & review if you can spare 1 minute of your time! xoxo
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10-week Relationship Detox info here.

Schedule your free 20-min call with me here.

I don't want to date you if... feat. Joy Mitchell

Wed, 02 Dec 2020 09:00:00 -0500

Joy is my friend and also a therapist. She probably reads me better than anyone else! One of my favorite things about her (and I think you’ll like this too) is that she tells it the way it is, but in a gentle enough way for us all to receive it.

We started off wanting to talk about the DOs and DON’Ts of courting/dating/talking, but I think both of us naturally just get so deep into things that we ended up talking about stuff that’s WAY more important. Like…

-What is “talking” anyway and is that really what you want?
-What’s it like to be intentional about what you want in a partner?
And how do you communicate that?
-Do women really care about all of this more than men?
-Should you have a deadline for commitment in a relationship?

Skip to about 10:00 If you want to fast fwd through Joy and I laughing it up in the beginning.

In the show I mention my Relationship Detox program. I’m currently accepting 1-on-1 clients ONLY for that program!

If interested, please book a free 20-minute call with me so we can see if you’re a good fit. You can do that here: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=20421321&appointmentType=16339513

And find out more info about the program here: https://threshcoach.com/abouttaylor

See more on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/threshcoach/?hl=en

Please rate and review this podcast! I’d love to hear what you think.

Not a happy camper ft. Libby

Fri, 27 Nov 2020 19:00:00 -0500

Libby was in a relationship with this one particular narcissist for 3 years. She knew something was "off" but she didn't have a specific name for it until she read Enough of the Narc, my e-book you can purchase for just $9!

Highlights

Red flags - a partner clearly not enjoying it when you enjoy yourself without them; lying about age, name, religion; not accepting a breakup
The impact of friends/family not believing your account of a narcissist
Remembering the control you have over where the relationship goes next

Libby is a medical assistant for an OB/GYN and is all for women caring for themselves in the best way possible. She's going to drop her own podcast, so make sure you keep up with her so you don't miss it! Find her on Instagram @curlybarrow
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Release the Rags - 4 week group (12/13-1/3) focused on leaving negativity behind in 2020 - interest form (no obligation)

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Detox your feelings

Thu, 19 Nov 2020 09:00:00 -0500

People detox to remove "bad things" from their bodies. So, why not have a feelings detox? Why carry around all that negative energy in your body for another day?Can you imagine a year? Ten years? How about a lifetime?

A lifetime of carrying around negative feelings that you could have done something about instead. These low-vibrating frequencies hold us back from being who we were made to be. In this episode, I talk about how to get the cleanse you need.

Mid-December I'm leading a 4-week group - Release the Rags - focused on leaving negativity behind in 2020! The group is limited to 8 people and will end mid-January 2021. If you want more info about it (with no obligation) please let me know here: https://visitor.r20.constantcontact.com/d.jsp?llr=gislhf4ab&p=oi&m=gislhf4ab&sit=apueptqnb&f=bf968407-f5e9-4916-8992-f92842e6d817

Free 20-min call - scheduler: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=20421321&appointmentType=16339513

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It's here!

Thu, 12 Nov 2020 09:00:00 -0500

We've been waiting and episode 1 is finally here! I'm so excited about it. This episode is a snapshot of what I do and what you can expect in the future from me and the friends that will be joining me on Boundaries & Grace.

Here's what I'm getting into real quick today:
-How I help people untangle from toxic relationship patterns
-A bit about me and maybe a bit about you too
-3 things I learned on my journey to where I am now

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If there's anything you'd like me to talk about or questions you want answered, DM me on Instagram @threshcoach and find out more about my signature service - The Relationship Detox - on threshcoach.com!