We explored the difference between defiant tantrums and meltdowns rooted in genuine emotional pain, why validation matters, and how parents can support a child without getting pulled into the chaos. We also discussed the surprising parenting trap of trying to make children understand, the four ways parents actually influence their kids, and why influence is far more important than control.

The conversation then shifted to something many parents quietly struggle with joy. How does our mood, attitude, and outlook affect our children? What happens when stress, divorce, conflict, or exhaustion rob us of our ability to bring light into our homes? And why might gratitude, service, and tolerance be some of the most powerful tools available to parents during difficult seasons?

We also took a hard look at boredom, constant entertainment, screen culture, and the growing challenge of raising children who never have to sit still with discomfort.

This episode is filled with practical parenting insights, honest conversations, and reminders that children don't need perfect parents—they need parents who keep showing up, keep growing, and keep planting seeds that may not bloom for years.

If you're raising a struggling child, navigating a difficult season, or simply trying to become a more intentional parent, this episode is for you.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Most parents of profoundly autistic children feel overwhelmed, hopeless, and confused,  but what if there’s a way to find peace and purpose amidst the chaos? Brandon Joffe, a licensed therapist with over 20 years of experience, shares a powerful story of resilience and faith that will change how you view your journey. In this heartfelt episode, Brandon speaks with Tiffany, a mother whose son, Ford, is a nonverbal, profoundly autistic 12-year-old living in a crisis group home due to dangerous behaviors. 

Tiffany's story is a testament to the importance of separating personality from diagnosis — she describes Ford as a joyful, loving boy with a vibrant personality that still shines through despite his severe challenges. This episode explores how parents can find moments of connection and joy, even during the darkest times. You'll discover how shifting from fight-or-flight to patience can reveal unexpected miracles; why understanding the spectrum of autism is critical for support; and practical strategies for navigating sibling relationships while managing severe behaviors. 

Brandon breaks down real techniques to maintain emotional regulation, how to avoid the trap of guilt and blame, and why finding purpose outside of your child’s diagnosis is vital for your mental health. We also delve into crucial topics such as the dangers of romanticizing autism, the importance of community and resources, and how to set healthy boundaries that protect your marriage and well-being. 

Tiffany shares her journey of turning her pain into purpose, becoming an advocate, helping shape emergency protocols for law enforcement, and inspiring thousands with her story of hope. This episode is perfect for parents overwhelmed by profound autism or anyone feeling lost in the chaos of caregiving. You’ll hear a message of resilience, faith, and the promise that seasons of struggle can lead to seasons of hope and renewal. 

If you're tired of the noise and searching for real, actionable hope, this conversation will remind you that you are not alone, even in the darkest moments. Why this works: By focusing on a deeply personal story of overcoming adversity, this episode creates emotional resonance and curiosity. The insights shared are concrete and practical, appealing directly to overwhelmed parents seeking hope and guidance. The compelling blend of faith, trauma recovery, and practical strategies ensures high engagement and a strong desire to listen all the way through.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Parenting can feel overwhelming, exhausting, and at times… impossible.

In this episode, I share a real moment from a recent parent group that hit home for a lot of people—the idea that sometimes doing less is actually what creates change.

We get into:

•  The hidden role fear and guilt play in parenting 
•  Why trying harder often makes things worse 
•  The difference between reacting and responding 
•  How to step out of constant conflict without giving up as a parent 
•  The grief that comes with letting go of what you thought parenting would look like 

If you’ve been feeling stuck, discouraged, or unsure of what to do next, this episode will give you a clearer, more grounded place to start.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon Joffe discusses the misuse of psychological labels like trauma, abuse, gaslighting, and others, emphasizing the importance of precise language for effective understanding and healing. He highlights how mislabeling can hinder accountability and change, especially in therapy, relationships, and parenting.

key topics

• Misuse of psychological language
• Difference between trauma and pain
• Patterns of emotional abuse and gaslighting
• Weaponizing language in relationships
• Healthy boundaries and communication
• The importance of accountability in change

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

In this conversation, Brandon Joffe discusses the current state of mental health culture and its impact on youth. He argues that despite increased awareness and resources, many children are not improving and may even be getting worse. Brandon emphasizes the need for a shift from a culture of validation and comfort to one that prioritizes resilience, competence, and the ability to navigate pain. He critiques the current mental health practices that may inadvertently teach helplessness and emotional dependency, advocating for a more balanced approach that prepares children to handle life's challenges effectively.

• The mental health culture may be contributing to the problem.
• Increased awareness has not led to improved outcomes for youth.
• Teaching helplessness and dependency is counterproductive.
• Validation feels good, but does not equate to healing.
• Competence is more important than comfort for long-term success.
• Parents should help children learn to navigate pain, not eliminate it.
• Awareness without direction is ineffective in mental health.
• Building resilience is crucial for emotional health.
• Children need to learn to manage discomfort and anxiety.
• A balanced approach in mental health care is essential.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Summary

In this conversation, Brandon Joffe, LCSW, discusses the concept of a 'loving parent response' and how it can be applied in various challenging parenting situations. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries, responding to children's frustrations with love rather than anger, and the distinction between loving and enabling responses. Through real-life examples, he illustrates how parents can navigate difficult emotions and foster healthier family dynamics.

Takeaways

A loving response as a parent is essential for healthy relationships.
Walking alongside your child during their pain is crucial.
Frustration can lead to unproductive responses; mindfulness is key.
Healthy boundaries help maintain peace in the family.
Planting loving seeds takes time and patience.
Responding with love doesn't always mean immediate change.
In unsafe situations, prioritize safety while expressing love.
Enabling behaviors can mask as loving responses but are harmful.
It's important to discern between loving and enabling responses.
Waiting for the right moment to respond can lead to better outcomes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

In this podcast episode, Brandon Joffe, LCSW, discusses the delicate balance between enabling and teaching children. He emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries without over-explaining, which can lead to enabling behaviors. Joffe shares insights from his practice, illustrating how constant nagging and explaining can create unhealthy dynamics and codependency. He advises parents to provide clear, concise explanations and to hold firm on boundaries, reducing chaos and fostering healthier relationships. The episode encourages parents to model consistency, health, and emotional steadiness.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the nuanced world of trauma and the consequences of mislabeling everyday experiences as traumatic. Join us as we explore how this mischaracterization can affect mental health, relationships, and personal growth. Our expert guests share insights on distinguishing genuine trauma from challenging experiences, offering listeners a clearer understanding of their emotional landscapes. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of how language influences our perception of trauma and its impact on our lives.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

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In this insightful episode of "Hope for Parents," host Brandon Joffe delves into the profound impact parents have on their children's social development. Through engaging narratives and expert insights, Brandon discusses how parents' social behaviors—whether confident or awkward—serve as powerful models for their kids. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, vulnerability, and honest communication in shaping a child's ability to navigate social landscapes. Listeners will hear compelling stories of families who have faced social challenges and the transformative power of embracing change. Brandon encourages parents to reflect on their social legacy and offers practical advice on fostering an environment where children can thrive socially and emotionally. Join us for a thought-provoking conversation that highlights the importance of modeling healthy socialization and its lasting impact on the next generation.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Summary

In this conversation, Brandon discusses the complexities of parenting in a world where children often have too much say. He emphasizes the importance of maintaining authority without resorting to control, the dangers of empowering children in conflictual situations, and the necessity of consistent parenting to foster emotional safety. Brandon advocates for a balanced approach that prioritizes connection and repair over chaos and power struggles.

Takeaways:
We've sometimes given our kids too much power.
Parenting should come from a place of peace, not fear.
Defiance reveals deeper issues in parenting and child behavior.
Children feel unsafe when they have too much influence.
Inconsistent co-parenting creates anxiety and chaos.
Authority in parenting means providing a sense of safety and clarity.
Repairing relationships after conflict is essential.
Children need to be removed from adult roles in decision-making.
It's okay to disappoint children; it teaches them resilience.
Finding a balance between empathy and leadership is crucial.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon walks us through what a parent can do when they’ve seemingly tried everything: reasoning, reward systems, punishments, calm talks, and “I” statements. None of it worked because the child doesn’t believe there is a problem. Brandon explores what happens when a parent runs out of strategies, begins eliminating what isn’t working, and is left with a parenting void. But this isn’t about giving up. It’s about letting go of control and stepping into influence. He reflects on the power of modeling over manipulating and defines the importance of naming truth without blame. Brandon reminds us that parenting is not about fixing our children. It’s about becoming the person we want to be. He encourages parents to fill that parenting void by turning toward their spouse, even when they don’t agree on parenting, and working to reconnect. This episode is for every parent who feels stuck and wonders what to do when nothing seems to work.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

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Brandon opens up about the connection between mental health and living in alignment with our morals and values. He explores how our internal compass, shaped by upbringing, experience, and personal beliefs, can either ground us or leave us feeling lost when ignored. Brandon breaks down the difference between morals and values, explains how misalignment can lead to emotional distress, and challenges listeners to reflect on whether they’re living in a way that reflects who they truly want to be. Brandon shares powerful insights on parenting with integrity, modeling alignment for our children, and having meaningful conversations about what matters most. He invites families to create rhythms, routines, and reflections that strengthen identity and purpose. Whether you’re navigating chaos, burnout, or disconnection, this episode offers a gentle but firm reminder: true mental health isn’t just about feeling better, it’s about living better.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon reflects on what it means to lead as a dad in today’s world, especially in the chaos of co-parenting, fractured relationships, or the quiet ache of feeling disconnected. While fatherhood is often defined by the roles of provider and protector, Brandon offers a deeper and more honest perspective: presence over perfection, influence over control. A father’s choices carry a lasting impact, and even when relationships feel too broken to fix, repair is still possible. Through humility and consistency, a father can create space for healing, not just for his children but for himself. Speaking to the father who feels worn down, overlooked, or unsure of what comes next, Brandon reminds that emotions do not weaken leadership; they deepen it. No child needs a flawless dad, but every child needs one who can say, “I messed up. I’m still here. I love you.” Leadership in fatherhood is not about certainty. It is about presence, values, and the courage to keep learning. The true legacy of a father lives in the quiet choices, the steady efforts, and the willingness to show up again and again.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

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Brandon returns to share powerful insights into what’s really happening when your child’s storm of emotions hits the moment they walk through the door. He explains why children often save their biggest emotions for home, the one place they feel safe enough to let go. Brandon breaks down the emotional shift that happens after a long day of holding it together and why attempts to “teach in the moment” so often backfire. Instead of demanding instant respect or calm, he encourages parents to create space, offer leadership, and choose their timing wisely so their words truly land. He speaks candidly about how overstimulation, performance pressure, and packed schedules are overwhelming kids’ nervous systems, and what parents can do to help. This conversation is a powerful call to stop reacting and start building routines that support emotional regulation. Whether it’s a six-year-old melting down after school or a teen storming in and slamming their door, Brandon offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools to help parents shift from power struggles to meaningful connection. If you’ve ever wondered why your child “saves it all for you,” this episode is a must-listen.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

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Brandon unpacks the emotional and relational toll of constantly managing a child’s academic responsibilities. He explains why nagging may lead to short-term compliance, but rarely builds long-term accountability or a strong parent-child connection. Instead, it often results in resentment, codependency, and burnout on both sides. Brandon challenges the belief that parents are responsible for their child’s school performance and shares why walking alongside them creates more room for growth, discomfort, and resilience. He highlights how changes in the educational system have shifted accountability and left many families stuck in confusion and power struggles. Brandon emphasizes the 90/10 rule—spending 90% of time on connection and only 10% on parenting interventions—and reminds listeners that natural consequences teach more than pressure ever could. This episode is a guide to letting go of control, protecting your relationship, and raising independent kids without losing yourself.

This episode is a recording of the Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens group; the voices of the participants have been edited out for confidentiality purposes. 

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon opens up about the deep complexity of motherhood on Mother’s Day. He honors both the visible strength of nurturing mothers and the unseen weight many carry in silence. Drawing from his own experience with a grounded partner and an intuitive mother, Brandon reflects on how their examples shaped not only his personal values but also the foundation of what he teaches at Inspired Resolutions. He speaks to the invisible labor of motherhood—the quiet courage, the deep presence, and the daily choice to lead with intention rather than fear. But this episode isn’t just a tribute—it’s a compassionate and honest look at the other side of Mother’s Day: the grief, disappointment, and longing many experience. Brandon invites listeners to pause and reflect, whether they are celebrating, mourning, or somewhere in between. With tenderness and truth, he offers a path forward rooted in choice, clarity, and healing. Wherever you find yourself today, this episode is an invitation to define what your journey looks like for you.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon takes a closer look at the booming fidget toy industry and asks a tough question: Are they helping or hurting? Often recommended for managing ADHD, anxiety, and emotional dysregulation, fidget toys seem like an easy solution. But Brandon challenges that idea. He shares research and real-world stories suggesting these tools may do more harm than good. They can reinforce unhealthy patterns of instant gratification and offer only short-term relief. While they might feel good in the moment, fidget toys often become distractions. They can get in the way of real emotional and cognitive growth. Brandon encourages listeners to rethink these quick fixes. Instead, he advocates for building real skills, like frustration tolerance, self-soothing, and resilience. This episode is a call to move beyond trends and invest in what actually works. 

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Volkow, N. D., et al. (2009). Motivation deficit in ADHD is associated with dysfunction of the dopamine reward pathway. Molecular Psychiatry, 14(3), 342–353.

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Brandon dives into the complex and controversial world of EMDR—Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing—a therapy originally developed for PTSD that has surged in popularity in recent years. He unpacks the origins of EMDR, its early focus on war veterans and trauma survivors, and the gap between what the science supports and how the therapy is currently being taught and practiced. From inconsistent protocols to costly certification processes, Brandon raises critical questions about EMDR’s rapid rise and the impact it’s having on new clinicians. More than just a critique, this episode is a call for clarity, ethics, and a return to foundational clinical integrity. Brandon urges therapists and supervisors to stay grounded in evidence-based models, avoid the lure of trendy shortcuts, and prioritize what’s best for clients above all else. EMDR has undoubtedly helped many, but if the current trajectory continues, therapy risks becoming more about business than healing. Whether you’re deep in the field or simply curious, this episode will challenge your perspective and spark meaningful dialogue about where the profession is headed.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon explores one of the most common traps in therapy and personal growth—the seduction of "why." It feels cathartic to connect the dots between past experiences and present struggles, but he challenges the idea that understanding alone leads to healing. Drawing from clinical insights and real client experiences, Brandon explains how getting stuck in a rediscovery loop can stall true progress. Insight can offer hope, but lasting change comes from small, uncomfortable actions that reset patterns, not just explain them. He shifts the focus from endless searching for answers to building new habits, tolerating discomfort, and committing to change even when it feels boring or uncertain. Whether you're in therapy or just thinking about making changes, Brandon offers a refreshing perspective that moves you from insight to action.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon assesses what it means to lead your family without losing yourself in the process. He challenges the traditional view of parental leadership as control, offering instead a grounded, emotionally intelligent approach rooted in humility and discernment. Brandon explores the difference between emotional leadership and emotional control, emphasizing that leadership isn't about reacting from fear or ego but about staying steady and present—even when everything feels chaotic. He highlights how parents often unintentionally create more disconnection when trying to manage behavior through urgency or condescension and how small shifts in tone, self-awareness, and timing can make a world of difference in family dynamics. Through real-life examples, he encourages parents to reflect on their motivations, create safe spaces for failure without shame, and lead with a calm, consistent presence. Ultimately, Brandon offers a compelling case for leading with love—not control—reminding parents that the goal isn’t perfection but connection.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon sheds light on the power of personal responsibility in healing from trauma, adversity, and mental health struggles. He introduces the idea that just because these challenges aren’t our fault, they are still ours to manage. Through real-life examples, he examines how unprocessed pain can impact parenting, relationships, and self-worth, often leading to cycles of codependency, entitlement, and resentment. He emphasizes that true empowerment comes from shifting our perspective, taking ownership of our healing, and modeling resilience for our children. Brandon also shares practical steps for parents to break unhealthy patterns and foster independence in their kids. He discusses allowing children to experience natural consequences and navigating discomfort as part of growth. If you’ve ever felt trapped in cycles of guilt, fear, or past trauma, this episode is a must-listen. Healing starts with awareness, but true transformation happens when we take responsibility and commit to change.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon uncovers the complexities of parenting when styles clash, exploring the tension between nurturing and structured approaches and how these differences create friction between parents and impact their children’s development. Through real-life examples, he highlights the importance of consistency, communication, and emotional regulation—both in how parents engage with their kids and navigate conflict with each other. He emphasizes that the way parents handle disagreements can have a greater impact on a child than the actual decisions being made. Brandon also tackles defiant behavior, explaining why teens push boundaries and how parents can respond without letting emotions take over. He stresses the power of natural consequences, the role of accountability, and the need for parents to align their approaches. This episode offers valuable insights on setting boundaries, fostering independence, and finding balance in parenting.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

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Brandon discusses the power of detaching emotionally from the chaos and compartmentalizing stress. He explores how parenting a strong-willed child can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. Brandon explains why some kids push emotional buttons to gain control and how parents unknowingly reinforce these behaviors by engaging in arguments. He offers strategies for reclaiming peace at home by setting consistent boundaries and refusing to feed into the chaos. Brandon challenges listeners to disengage, helping children seek attention and control in healthier ways. By compartmentalizing stress and accepting reality instead of clinging to unrealistic ideals, parents can shift their focus from trying to control their child to managing their own reactions. If you’re exhausted from constant battles, this episode offers a fresh perspective—showing that stepping back may be the most loving thing you do.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

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Brandon explores how parents can foster personal agency in their children. He explains how parents often unintentionally enable their children by providing endless resources without clear boundaries, which leads to resentment on both sides. Parents feel frustrated by their child's lack of responsibility, while children become dependent and resistant to change. He emphasizes that boundaries protect emotional health and resources, rather than controlling others, and that consistent follow-through promotes accountability and personal growth. Brandon also examines how parents' guilt and fear of their child's failure lead to enabling, which, despite being rooted in love, stunts both the child’s and the family’s development. True support involves allowing children to experience natural consequences and fostering resilience and independence. By challenging the victim mentality in both parents and children, Brandon advocates for personal agency and breaking the cycle of enabling and resentment through healthy boundaries. This allows parents to model strong relationships, balance self-care with family expectations, and create an environment where both parents and children thrive.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon analyzes the real meaning of self-love, challenging the surface-level messages that dominate social media. He breaks down why true self-love requires honesty, self-discipline, and the courage to confront uncomfortable truths. Through personal insights and real-life examples, he explores how embracing both our strengths and limitations leads to lasting transformation. True self-love isn’t just about feel-good affirmations—it’s about accountability, growth, and resilience. Brandon unpacks how self-acceptance, forgiveness, and hard-earned growth create a foundation for mental well-being. He discusses how many mental health struggles stem from patterns of poor decision-making and the importance of taking ownership of our lives. Whether it’s holding yourself accountable, learning from mistakes, or extending grace in the right moments, this episode redefines what it means to truly love yourself.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon takes a deep dive into the complexities of bullying, challenging the traditional narratives that paint a clear-cut picture of victims and aggressors. He explores how bullying is often a layered issue, influenced by personality dynamics, social skills, and even family patterns. Rather than focusing solely on the damage, Brandon emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, personal growth, and recognizing what’s within one’s control. He discusses how some bullying stems from social discomfort rather than outright malice and how reframing these difficult experiences can lead to personal development rather than lifelong resentment. Beyond the individual level, Brandon examines the critical role that parents, teachers, and administrators play in perpetuating or preventing bullying. With a commitment to breaking unhealthy cycles, he advocates for accountability on all sides—victims, bullies, and the systems that influence them. This episode offers a thought-provoking look at how communities can address bullying in a way that fosters resilience and healthier social interactions, both in childhood and beyond.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon breaks down the importance of building a strong community and network for both parents and children. He explores how family identity, social connections, and resilience are all connected, emphasizing that friendships and networks grow through effort and consistency. Brandon shares insights on navigating social struggles, pushing past rejection, and modeling healthy relationships for children. Whether you're a parent frustrated with your child's difficulty making friends or an adult struggling to find your own sense of belonging, this conversation sheds light on the challenges and opportunities of building lasting connections. Brandon unpacks the power of persistence, the role of community in mental health, and why putting yourself out there—despite discomfort—is key to fostering a more resilient family.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon tackles the challenge of food refusal and how it impacts family dynamics. He shares strategies for maintaining consistency and setting healthy boundaries around meals, even when faced with complaints or resistance. Brandon emphasizes the importance of involving children in meal planning, cooking, and cleanup to foster a sense of pride and responsibility. By turning mealtime struggles into opportunities for growth, parents can help their kids develop healthier eating habits and life skills that will serve them well into adulthood. Brandon also explores the underlying fears that often lead parents to enable unhealthy food behaviors, offering practical advice for overcoming these obstacles. He discusses how to handle picky eaters, set clear expectations, and avoid resentment while staying true to your boundaries. Whether you’re navigating food refusal or preparing teens for independence, this episode is packed with actionable tips for creating a family environment rooted in healthy habits.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, which meets every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. For confidentiality purposes, all group members' voices have been removed.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

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Brandon takes a closer look at the popular idea of “bottling things up” and why it doesn’t align with how human emotions work. Emotions aren’t like pressure cookers—they’re far more nuanced. Brandon unpacks how unresolved conflicts, unhealthy patterns, and unspoken boundaries often drive emotional struggles, not simply holding feelings in. He explains how the push to constantly express emotions can sometimes do more harm than good, especially when it leads to obsessing over negativity or avoiding meaningful solutions. Brandon explores how different people process emotions in their way. He emphasizes the importance of timing, readiness, and balance, particularly when helping children or teens navigate difficult emotions. Brandon shows that healthy emotional processing isn’t about venting for the sake of it; it’s about finding a personal approach that fosters growth and healing. 

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

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Brandon dissects the delicate balance of saying no to your teens while staying supportive. He breaks down how saying no with compassion and consistency can foster accountability and problem-solving. Brandon highlights how parents can validate their teen’s feelings, even when disagreeing with their choices, by offering support. He emphasizes the value of stepping back to allow teens to learn from their choices—even their failures—without shielding them from discomfort. By steering clear of criticism and debates, parents can nurture self-awareness and reduce the chance of teens falling into the "victim coin" trap. Whether your teen is testing boundaries or pursuing "hare-brained ideas," this episode equips you with tools to parent with purpose, compassion, and lasting influence.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

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Brandon navigates the delicate balance of trust between parents and teens, focusing on the complexities of teen honesty. He addresses why teens often lie—whether to protect themselves or avoid conflict—and how parents’ reactions can sometimes unintentionally reinforce dishonest behavior. Brandon highlights the importance of setting clear boundaries, being mindful of how questions are asked, and modeling honesty in everyday life. He also emphasizes that trust isn't something that can be immediately earned back but rather a gradual process that unfolds over time. Brandon offers practical advice for parents on how to respond to dishonesty in a way that fosters growth, accountability, and self-reflection in their teens. He discusses how parents can shift their focus from "how to get the truth" to building a healthier relationship and setting realistic expectations. With a focus on long-term solutions and consistent follow-through, Brandon encourages parents to remember that even when trust is broken, it doesn't have to damage the relationship.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

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Brandon shares his expertise on addressing school refusal, bullying, and children's deeper social struggles. He emphasizes the distinction between true bullying and everyday adverse life situations. Brandon explores the importance of equipping children with social skills and coping strategies through role-playing, sports, and volunteer opportunities. He also highlights the need for parents to differentiate between enabling avoidance and supporting their child through challenges. Brandon provides thoughtful advice on balancing a child’s safety needs with growth from facing discomfort. Brandon’s insights empower parents to support their child’s educational journey and emotional development.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, which meets every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. For confidentiality purposes, all group members' voices have been removed.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon analyzes the powerful impact sports can have on family dynamics, highlighting both the benefits and the challenges. He examines how youth sports teach invaluable lessons in teamwork, commitment, and physical health, while also addressing the toll excessive involvement can take, such as financial strain and sibling resentment. Brandon explores how the growing obsession with sports has shifted the focus from character-building to an all-consuming pressure to perform. Brandon discusses the importance of setting boundaries and rethinking priorities to ensure sports remain a positive force in family life. He shares practical strategies to help families maintain balance, support their child’s athletic journey, and safeguard family time and financial stability. This conversation provides essential insights into keeping sports in their rightful place: as a tool for growth, not a source of stress.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon breaks down the complexities of ADHD, exploring what it truly means to live with the condition. With ADHD diagnoses on the rise, he unpacks the challenges of overdiagnosis, overprescription, and the critical importance of meeting accurate diagnostic criteria. Drawing a clear line between everyday struggles with focus and the pervasive, life-impairing realities of ADHD. He also examines the role of ADHD coaches, shedding light on the value they can bring and the ethical dilemmas of working in an unregulated field. Sharing practical strategies tailored to ADHD-specific challenges, Brandon emphasizes the importance of accountability, self-awareness, and realistic growth. From building personalized routines to embracing individual tendencies, this episode provides actionable advice and empowering insights for anyone navigating ADHD—personally or in support of others. A must-listen for clarity, compassion, and practical guidance in understanding ADHD.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon unpacks why teens lie—whether it’s fear, disagreement, or simply wanting to avoid inconvenience—and how parents can respond effectively without taking it personally. Lying is a challenge nearly every parent faces, but it doesn’t have to define your relationship with your teen. He explores practical strategies for navigating dishonesty with curiosity rather than judgment, setting clear boundaries, and fostering an environment where truth-telling feels safe. Learn how to prepare for moments of dishonesty, avoid common pitfalls like overreaction or rigid contracts, and model the kind of honesty you hope to inspire in your teen. This is your guide to addressing lying in a way that strengthens trust, encourages accountability, and keeps the focus on building a stronger connection. Tune in for actionable insights and a fresh perspective on this complex parenting challenge.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon uncovers the journey of addiction recovery and its profound impact on parenting. For parents overcoming addiction, the challenge goes beyond sobriety to confronting the "addict inside" and reclaiming their role as caregivers. This episode offers practical tools to recognize ego-driven behaviors, let go of instant gratification, and redefine the roles of protector and provider. He highlights the unique responsibilities of parents in recovery, emphasizing self-reflection, accountability, and behavioral change. Learn how to model healthy decision-making and break the cycle of addiction. Whether you're on the recovery journey or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers guidance toward becoming a more present, influential, and loving parent.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon examines the often-underestimated power of purpose in mental health and personal growth, showing how even small, daily actions can become transformative steps toward healing. For many, finding purpose can be challenging when facing depression, anxiety, or low motivation, yet these small steps can help shift us from a self-focused mindset to one of connection and contribution. He also addresses the pitfalls of today’s "feel-good" culture, where instant gratification can overshadow the discomfort sometimes needed to cultivate lasting purpose. For parents, Brandon discusses how modeling a purpose-driven life and involving children in meaningful roles can plant seeds of hope. Moving beyond what simply feels good to fulfilling roles that benefit others allows us to build lives that fill us up in lasting ways. This episode is a call to embrace purpose as a journey, encouraging us to look beyond ourselves and discover how small, purposeful actions can be powerful tools for mental wellness.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon explores the dynamics of parent-child communication, focusing on the significant impact that voice and tone have on relationships. He discusses the differences between stern, mean, and permissive voices, emphasizing the importance of effectively using a stern voice without crossing into being mean. Listeners will gain insights into assessing their own communication patterns and intentions, along with practical strategies for expressing themselves during conflicts. Additionally, Brandon highlights the critical concepts of empathy and sympathy, stressing the need for parents to intentionally teach and model these emotional skills to nurture their child's emotional intelligence. Tune in for valuable tips that will empower you to foster deeper understanding and connection within your family.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon dives into the misconceptions surrounding "dopamine addiction" and "dopamine cleanses," shedding light on the deeper science of addiction. He explains that while popular trends offer quick fixes, addiction is rooted in complex neurological pathways that make recovery challenging and relapse tempting. Brandon explores how substances and unhealthy behaviors disrupt the brain’s key regions—like the basal ganglia, amygdala, and prefrontal cortex—altering pleasure centers and decision-making processes. This disruption reveals why abrupt “cleanses” fail to address addiction’s root causes and often overlook the importance of long-term change. He emphasizes that true healing requires consistent habits and evidence-based approaches to rewiring the brain. Whether recovering from substances or harmful behaviors, the journey involves building new neural pathways and resisting the lure of constant instant gratification. This episode looks to debunk these misleading trends and underscore the value of professional guidance for achieving sustainable mental health and recovery.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon tackles the changing landscape of mental health care, emphasizing the crucial role that accurate diagnosis plays in effective treatment. He addresses the shift in how new therapists are trained, noting that many now enter the field without a solid foundation in theory or diagnostic skills. Brandon stresses the importance of establishing a baseline to distinguish between lifestyle factors and actual mental health disorders, explaining how misdiagnosis can hinder true healing. He examines the growing issues of over-diagnosis and the rise of self-diagnosis through online sources. He investigates the powerful influence insurance companies have on care. Brandon shares his insights on the importance of careful treatment planning, finding the right diagnosis, and returning to foundational, thoughtful care that prioritizes the client’s long-term well-being.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon sits down with Zack Collie, AMFT, to explore Zack’s extraordinary journey of resilience and perseverance. At just 15, a diving accident left Zack paralyzed from the neck down, forever changing his life. Faced with this profound challenge, Zack chose a path of resilience, ultimately finding purpose as a therapist. Together, Brandon and Zack discuss the feeling of being “stuck” after trauma or difficult diagnoses, and how resilience and gratitude can transform adversity into strength. Zack’s story underscores the power of mindset in overcoming setbacks, celebrating small victories, and cultivating positivity as a skill. From finding purpose to embracing failure, this episode offers a powerful testament to the transformative impact of resilience and perseverance.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon analyzes the essential role of routines in mental health, focusing on the dangers of overbooking and underbooking our lives. He explains how many individuals and families tend to overbook every moment—to ensure their kids get ahead, make more money, or secure future opportunities. This constant hustle often leads to increased anxiety and stress, causing a neglect of the six pillars of a balanced life. He shares how a purpose-driven routine can help prevent burnout and maintain emotional well-being. Brandon also addresses the flip side of the issue: underbooking, which can leave people feeling unmotivated, isolated, and unsure of where to start. He explains that building a healthy routine doesn’t require waiting for motivation but rather making small, intentional changes toward a balanced life. Listeners will learn how to create sustainable routines that foster resilience, manage anxiety, and help them thrive.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon emphasizes the delicate balance between enabling and supporting a child, stressing that allowing kids to experience failure is essential for their growth. He encourages parents to step back from constant interference and let natural consequences teach important life lessons, such as managing schoolwork and developing executive functioning skills. By doing so, children learn accountability and resilience, rather than relying on parents to solve their problems. Brandon also explains that mental health progress is cyclical, not linear, and setbacks like relapses or struggles with harmful behaviors are a natural part of the journey. These challenges don’t erase the growth made during positive cycles but contribute to the healing process. Brandon offers parents a roadmap to build trust and connection while navigating these difficult yet transformative moments.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon introduces the concept of cycles that shape parent-child relationships, including navigating the “cycle of why,” where children challenge rules out of defiance rather than curiosity. He offers practical advice on maintaining authority without falling into constant justification and examines co-parenting dynamics, where differing values can lead to power struggles that children may exploit. Additionally, Brandon addresses mental health issues like dysthymia and anxiety, highlighting how these conditions can be misdiagnosed or worsened by substance use, such as THC. His guidance emphasizes the importance of maintaining unconditional positive regard and seeking help to break the cycles impacting family well-being.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon shares insights on the intense dynamics between parents and children facing explosive anger and codependency. He highlights how parents often justify extreme reactions to their child's behavior, which can fuel a cycle of frustration and resentment, especially as children seek independence. Brandon emphasizes the importance of eliminating yelling, using disengagement techniques, and setting boundaries, particularly when dealing with issues like eating disorders or emotional withdrawal. He encourages parents to model healthy behaviors, stay consistent despite rejection, and accept that some outcomes are beyond their control, all while focusing on their own well-being.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon assesses key themes that resonate deeply with parents: justice, grief, and identity. He discusses how parents often feel the need for fairness when their efforts go unrecognized, especially in co-parenting dynamics, and how letting go of that need for justice can bring peace. Grief is another core theme, as every season of parenting involves letting go and adapting, whether it’s a child’s struggles in school or a more profound rejection. Brandon emphasizes the importance of balancing personal identity outside of parenting and how focusing on self-care, emotional health, and personal growth through the six pillars—mental health, relationships, physical health, career and education, spirituality, and hobbies—helps parents navigate emotional challenges and foster resilience. By taking small, intentional steps toward these areas of growth, parents can create lasting positive changes.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon addresses the challenges of parenting a struggling child and how it can overshadow the needs of the entire family and yourself. He highlights the importance of balancing your life through the 6 pillars—mental health, relationships, physical health, career and education, spirituality, and hobbies—and how focusing exclusively on one child can be counterproductive. He also examines the effects of unresolved anger and the need to make amends. By shifting your focus from trying to change your child to enhancing your own well-being, he demonstrates how integrating these 6 pillars can help you cultivate happiness and create a more positive, balanced environment for everyone involved.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon tackles the challenges of raising a "problem child," focusing on managing temper tantrums and establishing effective boundaries. He shares proactive strategies for navigating the emotional ups and downs of adolescence, particularly for children who struggle with self-soothing and exhibit reactive behaviors when not engaged in stimulating activities. Brandon also discusses ways to support the other children in the household, ensuring everyone feels valued and preventing resentment from taking root. This episode offers practical advice for maintaining a consistent and calm parenting approach to foster a balanced and supportive family environment during the teenage years.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon dives deep into the power of self-care and boundaries in parenting. Instead of trying to change your children, who may be struggling with their own challenges, he urges you to focus on your own health and well-being. By doing so, you can create a healthier environment that encourages your children to thrive. Setting boundaries isn’t about punishment or reward but about protecting yourself. He'll guide you on how to stop taking your child’s emotional reactions personally, take accountability for your actions, and avoid getting trapped in guilt or defensiveness. Brandon also shares practical advice on navigating those difficult moments when your child pushes back against the boundaries you set. This episode will help you embrace the transformative impact of self-care and boundaries, empowering you to become a more effective and compassionate parent while fostering a healthier, more balanced family dynamic.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon examines why parents often struggle to maintain healthy relationship practices, especially during challenging times. When crises arise—whether it's grades, substance use, or mental health issues—it's easy to revert to old, ineffective habits out of frustration or fear. He discusses the importance of having a plan and sticking to it, even when things get tough. Rather than solely concentrating on your child’s behavior, prioritize your own growth, particularly during calmer periods. By rewiring your thought patterns and emotional reactions, you can better navigate crises without losing sight of healthy practices. This episode offers practical strategies for staying grounded, recognizing small victories, and finding peace in letting go of what’s beyond your control.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon delves into the critical role of honesty in parenting. He explores how being truthful about decisions, motivations, and family dynamics can profoundly impact children's development. Examining past choices and their consequences highlights the importance of daily self-reflection and transparency about temperament and limitations. He also discusses the challenges of managing intense emotions and navigating differing parental values within the family. Emphasizing clear communication and honesty, strategies are provided for fostering resilience and maintaining a strong connection with children. This episode uncovers the transformative power of honesty in parenting.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon explores why many parents fixate on setting boundaries, emphasizing the need to first understand what they can and cannot control. Instead of relying solely on boundaries, parents should focus on connecting with their children through patience and open-mindedness. Using the 90/10 Rule—spending 90% of the time connecting and only 10% correcting—parents can engage more effectively by listening and responding thoughtfully. Effective communication involves listening more, reacting less, and avoiding impulsive confrontations. Long-term influence is built through consistent, calm, and supportive behavior, rather than nagging or anger. By walking alongside their children and offering support, parents can maintain strong relationships and be more influential in their lives.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon tackles the growing issue of "failure to launch," where young adults struggle with independence, creating stress and resentment in families. Learn how setting healthy boundaries and focusing on your well-being can support your child's growth and family harmony. He also emphasizes that parenting is a journey best navigated with community support—it's not one to undertake alone. Find insights on empowering your child's autonomy while maintaining peace and satisfaction in your parenting experience.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon explores the challenges of parenting a defiant child and emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries. He explores how parents can team up effectively even amidst meltdowns and defiant behaviors, and why disengagement and silent consistency can bring calm to chaotic situations. Discover actionable strategies for protecting your peace without sacrificing your well-being, and learn why maintaining clear, simple, and concrete boundaries is key to fostering a healthier family dynamic.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon dives into the complex world of parent-child relationships, focusing on strategies for repairing and nurturing a connection with a child who seems distant or wants to cut ties. He touches on overcoming parental fears by understanding the purpose of boundaries for long-term contentment without resentment. This episode highlights the value of persistence, consistency, and healthy communication for mental well-being in challenging times.

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Brandon explores food addiction, boundaries, and grief in parenting. He explains that addiction behaviors can persist without substance use and stresses the importance of setting firm boundaries to avoid enabling. Parents should focus on healthy behaviors, consistent boundaries, and not basing their actions on their child’s reactions. Grief can affect behavior but shouldn't change how we approach boundaries. Brandon advises parents to never give up, love unconditionally, seek connection, enlist help, and focus on personal growth. 

This audio is from the 'Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens' group, held every Monday night at Inspired Resolutions Counseling in Yorba Linda. All voices of group members have been removed for confidentiality purposes.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Zack Collie is an Associate Marriage Family Therapist who has been working at Inspired Resolutions for a year. He has an Instagram @theparalyzedtherapist. He was in a diving accident at 15 years old that left him wheelchair-bound. This event led him down the path of becoming a therapist to help others. Zack is also newly married and has taken on the role of stepdad. 

What’s the difference between morals and values? Morals refer to what’s right and wrong. While values capture what’s important to an individual. Parents often impose their values on their children to varying results. In this episode, Brandon and Zack challenge all parents to analyze their values and understand where they came from and why they are important. 

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

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Our guest is a mother whose child has been on a different path from most. She has been attending our parenting group for many years. She gives a history of her journey with her son and their progress in rebuilding and maintaining their relationship. We talked about how she could stop doing the things that didn’t work without her child making the changes she wanted him to make. She tells the story of an incident that occurred recently. Her child was acting up and she chose to de-escalate the situation while following through on her boundaries rather than engage. 

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

What if we as parents challenged ourselves to stop yelling.  Well Pat has become a social media sensation doing just that and putting it out there for everyone to see.  In this episode we explore some parenting dynamics that can be frustrating and often lead to yelling.  If it worked we would all see that in our children.  Yelling has its place in parenting, but is often an unhealthy crutch.  

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Today my guest is pastor Kyle Zimmerman from Orange Friends Church, who recently gave a Sunday message that I feel applies to parenting struggling teens.

Whether you believe there’s a God or follow Christianity or not, you’re going to get some good wisdom out of his insight about boundaries, parenting, and the definition of real love.

Pastor Kyle used an illustration from the story of Pinocchio in his message and related it to the ideas of God’s caring nature, the Gospel, and what healthy, mature love can look like.

First, we dive into the topic of Pinocchio’s unwise decisions in the storyline, and how Geppetto showed wisdom and patience, along with healthy boundaries, as he pursued his wayward child. 

Geppetto had created the wooden boy with great care and intentionality and desired a loving family relationship. 

But when Pinocchio went to school and experienced rejection and alienation, he was vulnerable to the deceptive appeal of “Pleasure Island,” where everything is supposedly free and oriented towards instant gratification. This can be viewed as an allegory to a troubled teen falling into addiction or other self-destructive behaviors, often without the necessary awareness of the dangers.

This of course puts Geppetto in a tough predicament, where he finds himself asking: What am I willing to sacrifice to try and save Pinocchio? And, where is the line between the efforts I should make to retrieve him, and losing myself? 

Geppetto does pursue Pinocchio, and sells his valuable clocks to do so, but demonstrates boundaries in his decision to not enter into Pleasure Island himself, and resisting resentment against the boy.

When teens struggle, some parents sacrifice everything, some sacrifice nothing, and many seek to find the right line in between. Every case is different, and Kyle suggests that God will lead parents slightly differently in each family scenario. 

When considering whether to make a sacrifice for a teen, one question parents can ask themselves is: Will it hurt any other important relationships in my life? This can include relationships with other children, spouses, God, or others. 

You also don’t give something that is going to take away from your identity, or that will creep into the realm of enabling. It’s also important to make sure any sacrifices you make are not harming future security for yourself or others you’re responsible for.

We talk about letting our children go through things and experience the natural consequences of life. Instead of trying to eliminate consequences for a child, focus your efforts on guiding them through the experience. Geppetto couldn’t take away the pain that Pinocchio was experiencing in life, but he didn’t add to or exacerbate it.

We also discuss the difference between loving your child - which most people do - and loving ON your children in effecting ways that are actually going to get internalized by them as loving.

I know you’ll enjoy this engaging episode as we explore what love can look like and where it should be rooted.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Welcome back to Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens. 

Today we’re joined once again by Brittany Johns, LMFT to talk about some recent trends in the mental health world and a few of the dynamics we’ve been seeing recently in many families of struggling teens.

We address some new diagnostic terms that are growing in popularity, as well as a couple of phrases that aren’t actually real diagnoses at all.

First, we address the term “school avoidant.” Many of our listeners will draw different conclusions on how helpful this phrase is or isn’t. I talk about the potential downside of labeling common behaviors that fall within the middle of the bell curve of common teen issues as disorders or terms that sound like diagnoses. 

I share a little bit about my own personal experience with ADHD, and how it’s still important to encourage teens to lean into personal responsibility as they learn how to work hard in school and develop tools for success, wherever they find themselves on the list of learning challenges and possible cognitive deficits. 

Next, Brittany and I talk about the importance of walking alongside a teen when they experience failure, and how that looks very different than rescuing or protecting them from potential failures. We look at troubleshooting together with your child, helping them process failure as part of living, and reframing the adverse experience as a learning opportunity. 

Then, we discuss some common traps that parents tend to fall into when their teen is struggling. These include enabling, excusing, fudging on boundaries, and failing to grieve unmet expectations in order to accept the season they find their family in.

We address video game use and addiction, and whether or not it’s accurate or helpful to call the behavior self-medicating. Brittany explains the appeal of predictability in games versus the unknown outcomes of taking real-life risks.

We talk about the modern medical landscape we find ourselves in, and how many health insurance companies’ emphases on getting a diagnosis right away can pose challenges for therapists. I also explain the possibility of incorrect diagnoses being made to move through a system lacking nuance for less common cases. 

I hope today’s episode encourages you to think about new ways you can walk alongside your teen through the normal failures of life, and live free from the common traps of over-diagnoses, excuses, and unnecessary complications in the healing process of your family.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

On today’s episode, I got to talk with Asha Bhattacharya, who was crowned Miss Anaheim when she was 18 and has been using her platform to spread awareness about mental health ever since.

I used to think all pageants were focused on beauty, and all pretty much the same, and I know I’m not the only one who will benefit from hearing how Miss America and other pageants actually work, and what they’re really about.

I met Asha at this year’s Walk With Hope for Suicide Prevention event. Her passion for mental health awareness grabbed my attention, and I brought her on to talk about using social media in wiser ways, body image, and what she’s learned about processing anxiety.

I loved what Asha had to say in this episode about giving ourselves permission to feel. Many of my clients benefit from learning this type of acceptance. As they build up a tolerance to their once-stuffed emotions, they can be more fully honest about where they’re at. Then I can help them navigate some options regarding what to do from there. But if we deny or stuff what we’re feeling, we can’t process and grow from it.

One example of this is the clients who come in with concerns that they have body dysmorphia. We first have to analyze whether it’s truly dysmorphia, meaning they are seeing something that isn’t there, or whether there are other issues going on around their thoughts, appearance and self-regard.

Sometimes, there are aspects of our appearance that it might be healthy to work on changing, but other times there are features that we need to accept as good and part of who we are.

Asha shares that growing up around mostly white peers led her to believe certain things about her skin color in different stages of her childhood and adolescence, and she also expresses her current thoughts and observations around the topics of diversity and media.

We chat about learning to live healthy lifestyles for better reasons than looks, but how we don’t have to completely deny any desire to look our best either. 

We also spitball about a new hashtag we should probably start: #MakeTheAlgorithmWorkForYou

…by which we mean, instead of insisting that the teens in our lives refrain from engaging in social media at all, what if we instead taught them to engage with more positive content? This would teach the algorithm that they’re interested in uplifting and honest accounts, as opposed to accounts that might perpetuate unrealistic beliefs about our bodies and appearances. 

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Welcome back to the Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens podcast!

My guest today is an incredibly inspiring woman named Annette Craig. Annette founded my favorite non-profit in the world: The With Hope Foundation 

Annette lost her daughter Amber to suicide extremely unexpectedly in 2005, when Amber was just 14. Now, With Hope, The Amber Craig Memorial Foundation is actively educating teens on the topics of suicide prevention and mental health awareness. They also host many educational programs, fundraiser events, and bereavement support. 

Annette is the reason I started the parent's support group, and has inspired me so much over the years. She’s helped many, many people get connected to quality services and resources, and I appreciate how wise and discerning she is about how she refers teens and families. (A lot of therapists say they want to work with teens, but not all of them are willing to stay diligent about all the research they will need to stay up on if they’re going to do so effectively).

When I first met Anette, the topic of mental health was more stigmatized. We chat about how in 2023 it’s less taboo, but there’s still much work to do to educate and de-stigmatize certain topics.

We talk about what a good fit in a therapist might look like, how parents can partner with a child’s therapist, what types of resources parents of kids who struggle with suicidal ideation might need, and what therapists need to discern when they first consult with a teen.

We talk about intervention in crisis moments, and what to do if you’re not sure whether it’s real or a cry for attention. 

We also talk about the topic of blame. Many families that have touch points with suicide or attempted suicide find that they deal with feelings and conversations around blame. Annette points out that when a certain type of cancer runs in the family, no one’s tempted to point the finger at a certain side of the family or the patient themselves. It’s just accepted as an illness. For whatever reason, it can be harder for families to navigate the topic of mental illness from the same blame-free standpoint.

We also talk about rallying around families who are hurting, the importance of community, and how the support group and others like it have helped families through these darker moments in life.

I know you’ll sense Annette’s burning passion for helping hurting families, and be inspired by her hopeful perspective.

If you’re experiencing thoughts of suicide, dial the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 988 right now. 

To learn more about Anette’s foundation, go to: WithHopeFoundation.org

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Today’s episode is all about gaslighting.

 This term has become very popular in our culture over the last decade, and I’ve noticed that not everyone is using it in the same way. 

 “Gaslighting” was Merriam-Webster’s most searched word of 2022, and has taken a prominent role online as people attempt to describe things like deceit, feeling discredited, being misrepresented, and more.

 The traditional connotation of the word “gaslighting” has to do with purposeful mind manipulation and crazy-making. It comes from a play that was written in the 1930s called Gas Light, in which an abusive husband purposely and methodically caused his victim to question her own sanity by changing the brightness of the gas lights in the room and then denying that he saw the change when she brought it up. He suggested instead that she was having mental issues.

 Gaslighting is an abuse tactic, and an important word to make sure we understand correctly. 

 I’m joined today by Brittany Johns, my partner at Inspired Resolutions. We give examples of actual gaslighting that we’ve each seen in our work, and some tips for you if you feel you might be experiencing this type of abuse.

 True gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where an abuser attempts to sew self-doubt or confusion in their victim’s mind by distorting reality, in order to force them to question their own judgment. 

 We talk in this episode about the spirit behind an action. Actual gaslighting includes a perpetrator’s desire for control, and planned, purposeful attempts to destabilize another person over time. 

 That’s different than two people recalling an event differently and arguing about it, for instance. It’s even different than other types of manipulation in parent-child or romantic relationships. 

 If you feel you’re being gaslit by someone in your life, make sure you set some serious boundaries with regard to what types of conversations you’re willing to engage in with the person. Don’t try to convince them of the truth; protect yourself from those confrontations and let yourself grieve that they won’t acknowledge the truth. Focus on taking care of your mental health.

 Find someone who is safe to process these conversations with, so you have an outside person to help ground you in reality.

 Also, write in a journal and log the incidents: where you were, the emotions you were feeling, what the other person said, what the truer version of reality actually is instead, and then brainstorm what you’re in control over, who you want to be, and how you want to act.

 I hope this episode helps bring clarity around the topic of gaslighting, so we can all continue to arm ourselves against it and continue on our healing journeys.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

In this episode, I want to talk about the three basic rules to the parenting relationship.

Number one: stop what doesn’t work. Getting rid of practices that aren’t bearing fruit seems like a no-brainer, but however obvious it may be, it can be hard to do. 

Sometimes we can be operating in defaults and habits that have been around for years, and ceasing these activities and approaches can feel uncomfortable. There may even be a gap, where you don’t quite know what to do instead.

I’ve even advised some parents to quit all parenting activities for a set time, such as two weeks. This is so they can discover how to apply rule number one, and often so they can begin to heal as well.

Number two: build on what does work. Continue the things that bear fruit. 

Some of you may be thinking, yelling is the only thing that works in our home. However, I want you to assess it by looking at whether it’s creating space for trust and peace to grow long-term; this is a more important measure than whether it seems to help tasks get done or unwanted behaviors to stop in the short term.

Try to observe the times and places where your attempts at conversation go well compared to others. Also, keep an eye open for any boundaries that seem to be working.

Number three: practice healthy relationship behaviors - regardless of what. your intuition says. That last part can sometimes get me into some debates with certain parents, but sometimes our common sense and intuition can do us wrong, especially in situations that stoke our emotions and try our limits.

Regardless of whether your child is behaving or misbehaving, you have control over your actions and approach. 

So, make sure to create a pre-determined rule of life about how you will act and respond, and live that out, even if things get difficult in family relationships. This will ensure that our momentary feelings aren’t dictating our parenting strategy.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

This episode it all about boundary setting.

The topic of setting healthy boundaries is a significant part of my practice. When done correctly, it can be a game changer in many challenging parenting dynamics.

Many parents have heard of and tried setting boundaries, but it’s common to begin the boundaries journey with some misconceptions about what they do and why they’re important. 

It’s normal for a parent to desire to change a teen’s behavior - especially if that behavior is destructive - but setting boundaries actually isn’t about controlling another person or modifying someone else’s behavior. 

It’s about protecting OURSELVES so we can be the best parent/spouse/person possible and live out of a place of peace and health instead of exhaustion, anger, and frustration.

I encourage parents to ask themselves these five questions around boundary setting: What am I protecting, what do I have control over, what am I able to follow through with, what am I willing to follow through with, and what might get in the way when I begin to implement this boundary?

Answering these five questions will give you clarity about exactly what you’re going to do and why. Make it concrete and specific, for instance: when you cuss at me I’m going to leave the room, and it’s going to make me not want to do you any favors like drive you to your friend’s house.

As you reflect on these questions, you may spot an area of life where you’re enabling, for instance, protecting your teen from the natural consequences of their decisions. It may be time to calmly explain that you’re going to stop guarding them against real life in those ways and then begin to follow through and create a new normal for yourself. 

It’s also really important to remove ourselves from what I like to call “insane conversations.” These are the arguments that get heated and go nowhere - and often repeat again and again. When we spot a recurring “insane conversation,” it’s time to change the game plan to something that will have a better chance of diffusing. This can have better long-term effects on the atmosphere in your home. 

Sometimes, boundary setting does change the behavior of your teen, but sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes it teaches them something they’ll finally act on later on, and sometimes it simply serves to keep a calmer dynamic so that adjacent subjects and issues can have a greater chance of improvement.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

First, I address the subject of doing what works. Some of us can continue to do things that aren’t working because we believe it’s the right way to parent, that it SHOULD work, or that maybe it is somehow secretly working. 

Common approaches that often don’t work are: nagging, repeating, yelling, criticizing, and sometimes even the punishment and reward approach. Instead, we want to stop the ineffective approaches, so we can become open to more effective strategies in the future.

I also talk about putting the relationship first and practicing healthy relationship behaviors even when it’s really difficult. I recommend assessing the nature of the relationship by looking at how well YOU are doing at healthy behavior as a parent, rather than the child’s behavior or success (in grades, accomplishments, etc).  

Think about your influence - long term. We are sowing seeds that we may not see fruit of until the child is 30 years old. So, sow the right seeds by optimizing influence.

How do you actually influence your child? Digging a little deeper than punishment and reward (aka “token economy”) which can tend to only highlight who is compliant and able to follow directives, real influence utilizes: teaching lessons, having healthy boundaries, modeling, offering resources, and loving on your child.

“Lessons” are when we clearly and calmly communicate wisdom about life. Your child might not respond immediately to your lessons, but later they may. So, you don’t have to repeat lessons until you see the change; it may come later in life.

Next, healthy boundaries are boundaries that have follow-through, are not set in crisis, and are not about changing the other person. Since the goal is to assess yourself based on healthy parenting practices, rather than your child’s current behavior, boundaries can be measured solely on your end, not by the child’s subsequent behavior or responses to them. 

As parents, we also need to model our morals, values, and good habits. Our children will see what we’re living out and whether there are discrepancies in what we preach, and what we practice in day-to-day life. 

Offering resources can change a child’s life, whether it’s offering to take them to counseling, a recovery group, etc - but remember never to give more than you can give gladly, with no expectations of specific results. If you give more than you can, resentment will set in. Try to consistently offer realistic resources without jamming them down their throat.

If your child refuses resources like therapy, start working on you. And later, inviting them into a session about you may be a good strategy to introduce them to the experience of therapy.

Loving your child is different than loving ON them. Finding ways to love ON a child can be hard when they reject our efforts, but regardless of the child’s reaction, we can always ask ourselves: who do I want to be as a parent, and how do I want to act? Change one behavior (of YOURS) at a time, and brainstorm on what will likely make the child feel loved.

Then, I shared about the importance of parents finding their own happiness. If your child doesn’t view you as a happy parent, they’re going to reject the things they value because they don’t want to duplicate your situation. They may seek happiness by totally different means. It’s not about being upbeat every moment, but overall, are you living a content life?

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

On this episode of the Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens podcast, we’re going to tackle the heart-wrenching and all too familiar topic of substance use and addiction.

Today I’m talking with Brittany Johns AMFT. Brittany carries valuable expertise from her years of experience helping teens through substance abuse and addiction.

What can you do to help your teen who is using? Some therapists who speak and write on the topic will list off a litany of options, from ripping through a teen’s room to find paraphernalia to speeding them into an inpatient program - but we’ll show you how there may be a better approach.

If you discover your teen is using, we encourage you to become calmly curious - I know that’s hard - but set aside your notions and observe. Listen. Unless it’s a life-threatening emergency (like an overdose or an unsafe heroine-related situation, for instance), it’s often true that checking your teen into a program this week versus next week may not make a big difference. Giving yourself more time to research and your teen more time to absorb the idea may set them up for more success once they begin.

Substance use and substance abuse aren’t necessarily an addiction, so get as much specific information as you can over the months following the discovery of substance use.

Brittany and I also discuss the “scared straight” tactic versus an empathic approach and why being patient and safe can more effectively open the door to future honesty and trust from your teen. I know it’s scary, but focusing on developing the relationship instead of the initial fear this topic can cause will help you navigate this difficult situation. 

And, is “hitting rock bottom” a real thing? Many of us long for a “rock bottom” experience to happen in our teen’s life so they’ll turn in a different direction, but I think the only absolute “rock bottom” is death. Addiction, by definition, hijack’s a person’s executive function and rationality, so hoping they’ll come to their senses after a crisis is often a letdown. “Rock bottom” moves.

However, treatment programs can still be effective even when a teen isn’t totally cooperative. It can often plant a vital seed that stays in their mind for a later date.

In the meantime, practice self-care, and if your child is an addict, try to play the long game. Focus on yourself and your marriage. Try your best to be a pillar of stability, which means not spending your last dime or selling your house for a “Hail Mary” treatment program. Ensure you’re setting healthy boundaries, which ironically makes it more likely for your teen to decide to get the help they need in the future.

I hope this episode is informative and clarifying for you.

We offer a focused, post-care - “step up” program where the teens see a therapist, and then a specialist does checkups and stays in touch. Feel free to connect with us at www.InspiredSolutionsCounseling.com if you need more support. 

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

Welcome back to the Hope for Parents with Struggling Teens podcast, a resource for parents who want to learn what really works in relationships with struggling teens.

Have you ever set a boundary with someone, and then that person just wouldn’t respect it? Well, guess what - that wasn’t a proper boundary. 

 There’s a common misunderstanding about boundaries floating around right now, that the other person in your life has to honor it for it to be a success. In reality, a boundary is a decision we make on our end that has to do with what we can control. 

 So, if you’re creating a boundary, it will exist no matter how the other person responds to it. It’s all about changing our own behavior in order to protect ourselves, rather than changing another person’s behavior toward us.

 It may result in some behavioral changes in others, but we can’t make that our goal. In fact, some boundaries don’t even need to be explained to others up front.

 In this episode, I explain some essential definitions we can make when setting a boundary. You’ll want to define what you’re protecting, define what you actually have control over, and define what you’ll be able and willing to follow through with (be realistic).

 Here are three elements of a well-set boundary: 

 The topic: Whittle this down to something concrete. Example: “If you yell at me…”

 The boundary: Decide what will happen on your end. Example: “I’m going to leave the conversation.”

 The follow-through: Importantly, you need to keep your boundary consistently. Example: Leaving the conversation if the person yells.

 Boundaries are different from a punishment-reward system and often need to come into play when the punishment-reward system is being disregarded or isn’t an effective motivator.

 The principles in this episode will keep us off the boundary merry-go-round and reduce any internal resentment we may experience toward our teens.

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

You are not alone if you don’t know where to go or what to do in order to get your child the help he or she needs.  There is so much information on what to do and how to do it that it can be overwhelming.  In a way, it seems like there are countless options and at times it seems that there is no help for what your family is struggling with.  Get some answers and better navigate getting your family help.  

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.

When we first have a kid most of us dreamt about their future, how we were going to protect them, and how we were going to make sure that we start off correctly with not too much but just enough parenting intervention.  Often our desire for them to have a successful and happy future leads us to parenting behaviors that do not put the relationship first.  The lessons and the parenting become more important.  It is our job to influence our children and in order to do that, we have to maintain a healthy relationship with them even though really difficult times.  They won't always like us and sometimes we have to set difficult boundaries, but we can protect and put the relationship first on our end consistently.     

For resources, parent groups, and support, visit www.inspiredresolutionscounseling.com

Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health services.