Single Minded Sun, 07 Jun 2026 08:20:17 -0400 https://singleminded.buzzsprout.com en-us © 2026 Single Minded yes d75a4024-a581-528b-8029-efaf87bf1442 Hannah Furst episodic false This podcast used to be about me being single. Then I met someone (oops). Now my mum and I just talk sh*t for 30 mins. 

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Hannah Furst https://storage.buzzsprout.com/4g8ojjlwscbjfkxervzbfpj0fy65?.jpg Single Minded Episiotomummy: The First Six Weeks Episiotomummy: The First Six Weeks Today we're covering the first six weeks. The sleep deprivation. The stitches. The loneliness. The "ChatGPT is my friend" phase. The not-being-able-to-poo. The day you realise your life isn't really over, you've just been subjected to one of the worst forms of torture, and now you're all good. 

]]> Today we're covering the first six weeks. The sleep deprivation. The stitches. The loneliness. The "ChatGPT is my friend" phase. The not-being-able-to-poo. The day you realise your life isn't really over, you've just been subjected to one of the worst forms of torture, and now you're all good. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-18847738 Sun, 15 Mar 2026 18:00:00 +1100 1595 full false The Cardio Queen Drops the Fitness Routine The Cardio Queen Drops the Fitness Routine She lived 60 peaceful years without touching a drug… then she discovered the most addictive drug of all... Cardio. Now Linda’s entire personality is getting gold at BFT.


Also she insisted I share her fave 60+ fitness accounts:

  • cheryl.c.coulombe    
  • Suzi_j   
  • theresa_moloney  
  • Drstacysims  
]]> She lived 60 peaceful years without touching a drug… then she discovered the most addictive drug of all... Cardio. Now Linda’s entire personality is getting gold at BFT.


Also she insisted I share her fave 60+ fitness accounts:

  • cheryl.c.coulombe    
  • Suzi_j   
  • theresa_moloney  
  • Drstacysims  
]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-18764253 Sat, 28 Feb 2026 14:00:00 +1100 1539 full false Linda Forgot to Ask for an Epidural, Oops Linda Forgot to Ask for an Epidural, Oops Panty liner-gate continues... Then it's time for another birth story! This time it's the day I was birthed from Linda. 

]]> Panty liner-gate continues... Then it's time for another birth story! This time it's the day I was birthed from Linda. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-18672799 Fri, 13 Feb 2026 11:00:00 +1100 1287 full false I Was Not Built for This: A Birth Story I Was Not Built for This: A Birth Story So, I have some news. Since the last time we recorded, I had a baby!!! And trigger warning: I have an extremely low pain threshold; therefore, this is probs not an accurate representation of many birth stories. I was, quote, "literally dying" at 1cm dilated. 

Next week... Linda's (unmedicated) birth story!

]]> So, I have some news. Since the last time we recorded, I had a baby!!! And trigger warning: I have an extremely low pain threshold; therefore, this is probs not an accurate representation of many birth stories. I was, quote, "literally dying" at 1cm dilated. 

Next week... Linda's (unmedicated) birth story!

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-18588798 Thu, 29 Jan 2026 16:00:00 +1100 1476 full false Celebrity Doppelgangers & a Very Strange Dream Celebrity Doppelgangers & a Very Strange Dream Linda tells me about a strange encounter at a dinner party, and I tell her about my even stranger dream.

If you want to listen to the Rich Roll episode, here it is:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jonathan-haidt-on-how-social-media-is-rewiring-childhood/id582272991?i=1000653186945

]]> Linda tells me about a strange encounter at a dinner party, and I tell her about my even stranger dream.

If you want to listen to the Rich Roll episode, here it is:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jonathan-haidt-on-how-social-media-is-rewiring-childhood/id582272991?i=1000653186945

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-14982645 Tue, 30 Apr 2024 22:00:00 +1000 1547 full false Why We Can’t Sit With Ourselves in Silence Why We Can’t Sit With Ourselves in Silence We will do ANYTHING except sit with ourselves in silence. But surely there are alternatives to meditation that can give us some peace?!

Read The Cut article here: https://www.thecut.com/2020/01/giving-up-meditating.html

]]> We will do ANYTHING except sit with ourselves in silence. But surely there are alternatives to meditation that can give us some peace?!

Read The Cut article here: https://www.thecut.com/2020/01/giving-up-meditating.html

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-14925639 Sun, 21 Apr 2024 17:00:00 +1000 1507 full false You Don’t Have to Achieve Brilliant Things Before 30 You Don’t Have to Achieve Brilliant Things Before 30 We are SORRY for the long break between episodes!! Who knows how many of you have persevered... but thank you if you're still here listening. We're back to chat about G-Banger's birthday in Daylesford, my screenwriting course, a recent LinkedIn post about 30 Under 30 lists and my ex-boyfriend's new TV series Sugar. 

]]> We are SORRY for the long break between episodes!! Who knows how many of you have persevered... but thank you if you're still here listening. We're back to chat about G-Banger's birthday in Daylesford, my screenwriting course, a recent LinkedIn post about 30 Under 30 lists and my ex-boyfriend's new TV series Sugar. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-14881239 Sat, 13 Apr 2024 21:00:00 +1000 1814 full false Hobby vs. Side Hustle: Do We Have to Monetize Everything? Hobby vs. Side Hustle: Do We Have to Monetize Everything? It's storytime today on the podcast. A few years ago, I decided I wanted to learn how to write. But somehow, this "hobby" turned into a side hustle and all the joy was sucked out of it. Linda also realises her only true hobby has been collecting James Dean posters and postcards... Hmm, that's certainly a hobby I've never heard of, but whatever floats your boat, Linda! 

]]> It's storytime today on the podcast. A few years ago, I decided I wanted to learn how to write. But somehow, this "hobby" turned into a side hustle and all the joy was sucked out of it. Linda also realises her only true hobby has been collecting James Dean posters and postcards... Hmm, that's certainly a hobby I've never heard of, but whatever floats your boat, Linda! 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-14374606 Thu, 25 Jan 2024 17:00:00 +1100 1979 full false Linda & The End of The World Linda & The End of The World I recently watched the new Netflix show 'Carol & The End of The World' and wanted to do an episode on the show's main themes: life, death and finding meaning. I emailed Linda the episode plan - with the placeholder episode title "Death & Consciousness" - and it was the end of her world. She replied to my email, "Heavy!!" But here we are. 

The Brian Cox videos:
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/b4sSw9MC-zY 
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/KSgNly0bSug

]]> I recently watched the new Netflix show 'Carol & The End of The World' and wanted to do an episode on the show's main themes: life, death and finding meaning. I emailed Linda the episode plan - with the placeholder episode title "Death & Consciousness" - and it was the end of her world. She replied to my email, "Heavy!!" But here we are. 

The Brian Cox videos:
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/b4sSw9MC-zY 
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/KSgNly0bSug

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-14332112 Thu, 18 Jan 2024 19:00:00 +1100 2047 full false I Had a Near-Death Experience (Spoiler: It Was Just a Panic Attack) I Had a Near-Death Experience (Spoiler: It Was Just a Panic Attack) It's new year, and a new Linda! I've just returned from Thailand where I had a near-death experience (spoiler: it was just a panic attack) and have been thinking a lot about what I want to do better this year. If you like this pod, please rate and review on Apple and Spotify... But for the love of god, please don't unfollow me on Instagram lol.

Here's the Ben Affleck video I talked about in the episode: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/LrJPTSCSNwI 

]]> It's new year, and a new Linda! I've just returned from Thailand where I had a near-death experience (spoiler: it was just a panic attack) and have been thinking a lot about what I want to do better this year. If you like this pod, please rate and review on Apple and Spotify... But for the love of god, please don't unfollow me on Instagram lol.

Here's the Ben Affleck video I talked about in the episode: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/LrJPTSCSNwI 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-14276454 Tue, 09 Jan 2024 15:00:00 +1100 2100 full false Why I Hate My Birthday Why I Hate My Birthday I'm joining you today from Lamai Fitness in Thailand to explain why I had the worst birthday ever, and why I think celebrating birthdays is overrated. Naturally, Linda disagrees with me and LOVES her birthday. 

]]> I'm joining you today from Lamai Fitness in Thailand to explain why I had the worst birthday ever, and why I think celebrating birthdays is overrated. Naturally, Linda disagrees with me and LOVES her birthday. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-14190706 Fri, 22 Dec 2023 15:00:00 +1100 1515 full false My Ultimate Guide to Thailand (Finally!) My Ultimate Guide to Thailand (Finally!) This is probably the most requested topic from listeners... and it's finally here!! There's a Thailand trip for EVERYONE in this episode. The spiritual seeker, the adventurer, the party gal... and more! I hope you love Thailand as much as I do x

Poo photo link: https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/iaaf4odpl75dctmg0dlpj/PHOTO-2023-12-07-10-44-16.jpg?rlkey=xjfhq1ce6ykc330nztiwxjlem&dl=0

The itineraries below...

The spiritual seeker:

  • The Tri Bay @ Koh Phangan, which is made up of Haad Tien, Haad Yuan & Why Nam Beach
  • The Sanctuary Thailand is the main resort on Haad Tien
  • The quickest way to get there from Melbourne: Flight to Koh Samui via Singapore, then a boat to Koh Phangan
  • The backpacker route: Flight to Bangkok, then fly to Surat Thani, then bus & boat to Koh Phangan 
  • Once you're there, you can get a taxi to Haad Rin beach and take a long-tail boat to Haad Tien


The wellness reset:

  • Koh Samui or Phuket 
  • Mum's recco: Phuket Cleanse 
  • My recco: Lamai Fitness 


The adventurer

  • Fly from Bangkok to Chiang Mai (3 nights)
  • Bus to Pai (2 nights)
  • Bus to Chiang Rai (2 nights)
  • Fly from Chiang Mai to Koh Samui (3-4 nights)
  • Then boat to Koh Phangan (3-4 nights)
  • Boat to Koh Tao (2 nights)
  • You can travel over to the other side and do Phuket, Krabi and Phi Phi if you have time
  • You can fly out of Phuket back to Australia 


The party gal:

  • Koh Phangan: Srithanu, The Tri Bay or Haad Rin for the Full Moon Party


The backpacker route: 

  • 2-3 month loop around Southeast Asia 
  • Cambodia: Phnom Penh, Siam Reap, Kampot, Koh Rong islands
  • Vietnam: Ho Chi Minh to Hanoi 
  • Laos, then you can cross the border to Chiang Mai and make your way down south 
]]> This is probably the most requested topic from listeners... and it's finally here!! There's a Thailand trip for EVERYONE in this episode. The spiritual seeker, the adventurer, the party gal... and more! I hope you love Thailand as much as I do x

Poo photo link: https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/iaaf4odpl75dctmg0dlpj/PHOTO-2023-12-07-10-44-16.jpg?rlkey=xjfhq1ce6ykc330nztiwxjlem&dl=0

The itineraries below...

The spiritual seeker:

  • The Tri Bay @ Koh Phangan, which is made up of Haad Tien, Haad Yuan & Why Nam Beach
  • The Sanctuary Thailand is the main resort on Haad Tien
  • The quickest way to get there from Melbourne: Flight to Koh Samui via Singapore, then a boat to Koh Phangan
  • The backpacker route: Flight to Bangkok, then fly to Surat Thani, then bus & boat to Koh Phangan 
  • Once you're there, you can get a taxi to Haad Rin beach and take a long-tail boat to Haad Tien


The wellness reset:

  • Koh Samui or Phuket 
  • Mum's recco: Phuket Cleanse 
  • My recco: Lamai Fitness 


The adventurer

  • Fly from Bangkok to Chiang Mai (3 nights)
  • Bus to Pai (2 nights)
  • Bus to Chiang Rai (2 nights)
  • Fly from Chiang Mai to Koh Samui (3-4 nights)
  • Then boat to Koh Phangan (3-4 nights)
  • Boat to Koh Tao (2 nights)
  • You can travel over to the other side and do Phuket, Krabi and Phi Phi if you have time
  • You can fly out of Phuket back to Australia 


The party gal:

  • Koh Phangan: Srithanu, The Tri Bay or Haad Rin for the Full Moon Party


The backpacker route: 

  • 2-3 month loop around Southeast Asia 
  • Cambodia: Phnom Penh, Siam Reap, Kampot, Koh Rong islands
  • Vietnam: Ho Chi Minh to Hanoi 
  • Laos, then you can cross the border to Chiang Mai and make your way down south 
]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-14131107 Tue, 12 Dec 2023 15:00:00 +1100 1985 full false Why I Quit Social Media for 4 Months Why I Quit Social Media for 4 Months As Linda would say, "I'm back bitches!" Here's everything that has happened in the last four months while I've been gone. 

]]> As Linda would say, "I'm back bitches!" Here's everything that has happened in the last four months while I've been gone. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-14091165 Tue, 05 Dec 2023 19:00:00 +1100 1056 full false Bali Updates & Dating App Burnout Bali Updates & Dating App Burnout Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13519079 Sun, 03 Sep 2023 21:00:00 +1000 1415 full false We Used To Be Human Beings We Used To Be Human Beings Today, Ruby and I discuss the article I Used To Be A Human Being by Andrew Sullivan. You can read the article here:
https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2016/09/andrew-sullivan-my-distraction-sickness-and-yours.html

It's a CACOPHONY of ideas!

Other articles discussed:
https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/influencers-quitting-instagram
https://lynzyandco.com/why-i-am-leaving-instagram/

]]> Today, Ruby and I discuss the article I Used To Be A Human Being by Andrew Sullivan. You can read the article here:
https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2016/09/andrew-sullivan-my-distraction-sickness-and-yours.html

It's a CACOPHONY of ideas!

Other articles discussed:
https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/stephaniemcneal/influencers-quitting-instagram
https://lynzyandco.com/why-i-am-leaving-instagram/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13414940 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 06:00:00 +1000 1935 full false The Real World vs. The Reel World The Real World vs. The Reel World Today, Ruby and I discuss why we prefer The Real World over creating Reels, and why it's been so hard for me to take a break from social media. 

You can read my Medium article on the same topic here: https://medium.com/the-narrative-arc/i-went-to-thailand-to-take-a-break-from-social-media-816ab0445c74?sk=d908a2ba4236d463eb01f04b47344b22 

Single Minded is also having a lil refresh! We hope you like the new format. 

]]> Today, Ruby and I discuss why we prefer The Real World over creating Reels, and why it's been so hard for me to take a break from social media. 

You can read my Medium article on the same topic here: https://medium.com/the-narrative-arc/i-went-to-thailand-to-take-a-break-from-social-media-816ab0445c74?sk=d908a2ba4236d463eb01f04b47344b22 

Single Minded is also having a lil refresh! We hope you like the new format. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13415380 Thu, 17 Aug 2023 06:00:00 +1000 1904 full false Are Junk Values Making Us Unhappy? Are Junk Values Making Us Unhappy? "Junk food has taken over our diets, and it is making millions of people physically sick. A growing body of scientific evidence suggests that something similar is happening with our minds — that they have become dominated by junk values, and this is making us mentally sick, triggering soaring rates of depression and anxiety.”  - Johann Hari

On today's episode, Ruby and I discuss our own junk values and compare these to the values we're striving to live by now. We try to understand why it's so hard to do what feels right in a world dominated by success porn (hi LinkedIn), and wonder whether we've set the bar too high - do we need to lower our expectations of life in order to be happier?

Links to books & articles discussed: 

]]> "Junk food has taken over our diets, and it is making millions of people physically sick. A growing body of scientific evidence suggests that something similar is happening with our minds — that they have become dominated by junk values, and this is making us mentally sick, triggering soaring rates of depression and anxiety.”  - Johann Hari

On today's episode, Ruby and I discuss our own junk values and compare these to the values we're striving to live by now. We try to understand why it's so hard to do what feels right in a world dominated by success porn (hi LinkedIn), and wonder whether we've set the bar too high - do we need to lower our expectations of life in order to be happier?

Links to books & articles discussed: 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13382498 Thu, 10 Aug 2023 21:00:00 +1000 2642 full false 50 First Dates: A TikTok Dating Experiment 50 First Dates: A TikTok Dating Experiment A lot happened in today's episode! Here's everything you need to know... 

Let's start with Fran & Will's PERFECT First Dates episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1EFaUUGxh9I

Next, we have my FAVE new comedian Jessica Kirson's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JessicaKirsonComedy

Hannah Zaslawski also joined me to chat all about her TikTok dating experiment. Watch her fifty first dates on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hannahzaslawski

]]> A lot happened in today's episode! Here's everything you need to know... 

Let's start with Fran & Will's PERFECT First Dates episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1EFaUUGxh9I

Next, we have my FAVE new comedian Jessica Kirson's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JessicaKirsonComedy

Hannah Zaslawski also joined me to chat all about her TikTok dating experiment. Watch her fifty first dates on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hannahzaslawski

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13342615 Thu, 03 Aug 2023 19:00:00 +1000 2375 full false How To Use Dating Apps To Your Advantage How To Use Dating Apps To Your Advantage Holly is a modern-day matchmaker and the founder of MATCHSMITH. She joins me today to discuss all things dating apps. She helps clients redesign their dating app profiles to get the right matches for them... And for a select number of clients, she actually does the swiping for them! Holly has reviewed many dating app profiles and knows what works and what doesn't... The questions we answer on today's episode: 

  • One of your services is a review of someone's current dating app profile: What are the biggest mistakes you see on dating app profiles?
  • Do you think it's important to design your dating app to attract the right matches as opposed to the most matches?
  • What are your top tips for designing a dating app profile? Is there a formula?
  • You also offer a service where someone can fully outsource their dating app swiping to you - it's like a modern-day matchmaker service! What are you looking for in potential matches? Do your clients disclose to their dates that they haven't done the actual swiping? 
  • I'm so interested to hear what you think of dating apps in general: Have they helped or hindered IRL connections?

You can find Holly's website here: https://www.matchsmith.com/
Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/match_smith/

]]> Holly is a modern-day matchmaker and the founder of MATCHSMITH. She joins me today to discuss all things dating apps. She helps clients redesign their dating app profiles to get the right matches for them... And for a select number of clients, she actually does the swiping for them! Holly has reviewed many dating app profiles and knows what works and what doesn't... The questions we answer on today's episode: 

  • One of your services is a review of someone's current dating app profile: What are the biggest mistakes you see on dating app profiles?
  • Do you think it's important to design your dating app to attract the right matches as opposed to the most matches?
  • What are your top tips for designing a dating app profile? Is there a formula?
  • You also offer a service where someone can fully outsource their dating app swiping to you - it's like a modern-day matchmaker service! What are you looking for in potential matches? Do your clients disclose to their dates that they haven't done the actual swiping? 
  • I'm so interested to hear what you think of dating apps in general: Have they helped or hindered IRL connections?

You can find Holly's website here: https://www.matchsmith.com/
Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/match_smith/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13292228 Thu, 27 Jul 2023 06:00:00 +1000 2291 full false The Science Behind Happy Relationships The Science Behind Happy Relationships According to Harvard's Happiness study: "Close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives." But what makes a romantic relationship stand the test of time? What does the research say? I wanted to find out! Here are the secrets to a happy relationship, according to research. I think these will help ANYONE no matter they're relationship status. Let's call these the ultimate green flags:
 
1. Someone who shares in your triumphs: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-happy-couple-2012-10-23/
2. A positive mindset & shows gratitude: https://www.happify.com/hd/the-science-behind-a-happy-relationship/
3. Healthy shared passions (not obsessive passion): https://www.thecut.com/2018/04/how-to-know-when-healthy-passion-becomes-obsessive-passion.html
4. More positive interactions than negative ones during conflict: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-magic-relationship-ratio-according-science/
5. Someone who believes in you: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/articles/201901/the-michelangelo-effect
6. Diffusing fights: https://www.happify.com/hd/the-science-behind-a-happy-relationship/
7. Friendship: https://www.gottman.com/blog/8-myths-about-relationships/
8. Kindness: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/

Harvard study: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/

]]> According to Harvard's Happiness study: "Close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives." But what makes a romantic relationship stand the test of time? What does the research say? I wanted to find out! Here are the secrets to a happy relationship, according to research. I think these will help ANYONE no matter they're relationship status. Let's call these the ultimate green flags:
 
1. Someone who shares in your triumphs: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-happy-couple-2012-10-23/
2. A positive mindset & shows gratitude: https://www.happify.com/hd/the-science-behind-a-happy-relationship/
3. Healthy shared passions (not obsessive passion): https://www.thecut.com/2018/04/how-to-know-when-healthy-passion-becomes-obsessive-passion.html
4. More positive interactions than negative ones during conflict: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-magic-relationship-ratio-according-science/
5. Someone who believes in you: https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/articles/201901/the-michelangelo-effect
6. Diffusing fights: https://www.happify.com/hd/the-science-behind-a-happy-relationship/
7. Friendship: https://www.gottman.com/blog/8-myths-about-relationships/
8. Kindness: https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after/372573/

Harvard study: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13256722 Thu, 20 Jul 2023 19:00:00 +1000 1972 full false Should You Choose A Job Based On Your Personality Type? Should You Choose A Job Based On Your Personality Type? What happens when you don't want to ghost someone after one or two dates?? Linda and I discuss the best way to let someone down if you're not interested. I'm also joined by career coach Leah Lambart to discuss how personality testing can inform your next career change, and how a "portfolio career" might be the best path to more freedom and flexibility.

Leah's website: https://www.relaunchme.com.au/
Leah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relaunchmecareerconsulting/

]]> What happens when you don't want to ghost someone after one or two dates?? Linda and I discuss the best way to let someone down if you're not interested. I'm also joined by career coach Leah Lambart to discuss how personality testing can inform your next career change, and how a "portfolio career" might be the best path to more freedom and flexibility.

Leah's website: https://www.relaunchme.com.au/
Leah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relaunchmecareerconsulting/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13214225 Thu, 13 Jul 2023 10:00:00 +1000 2002 full false Finding The Confidence To Follow Your Own Path Finding The Confidence To Follow Your Own Path Kate is a Confidence Coach and meditation teacher who helps women build self-belief to find their direction in life. We answer the following questions on today's episode: 

  • What is self-compassion? How does someone know if they're being too hard on themselves?
  • How do you cultivate self-compassion? 
  • As part of your workshop, you talk about "real" confidence - how would you define this? How does ego differ from real confidence?
  • You talk about confidence being more about "helping you make life choices that feel genuinely right for you" - how does someone define what their path is? 
  • What are the first steps for someone to live more in alignment with their values?

Kate's website: https://totalbalance.com.au/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/total_balance/
Meditations: https://insighttimer.com/katejames

]]> Kate is a Confidence Coach and meditation teacher who helps women build self-belief to find their direction in life. We answer the following questions on today's episode: 

  • What is self-compassion? How does someone know if they're being too hard on themselves?
  • How do you cultivate self-compassion? 
  • As part of your workshop, you talk about "real" confidence - how would you define this? How does ego differ from real confidence?
  • You talk about confidence being more about "helping you make life choices that feel genuinely right for you" - how does someone define what their path is? 
  • What are the first steps for someone to live more in alignment with their values?

Kate's website: https://totalbalance.com.au/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/total_balance/
Meditations: https://insighttimer.com/katejames

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13123185 Thu, 29 Jun 2023 07:00:00 +1000 2811 full false How To Care Less About What Other People Think Of You How To Care Less About What Other People Think Of You Ruby is BACK and today we're talking about judgement, including the judgment of others, our own self-judgement and, most importantly, how to live our lives without worrying too much about what others think of us. We answer the following questions:

  • Why are people so judgemental of others?
  • How can we be less critical of others?
  • How can we care less about what other people think of us?
  • How can we live the life we want without worrying too much about how others will perceive us?

The Atlantic article is here:
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/11/how-stop-caring-what-other-people-think-you/620670/

Thanks to our sponsor SkinCeuticals! Here are the products mentioned in the episode

Hannah's routine: 

Linda's routine: 

]]> Ruby is BACK and today we're talking about judgement, including the judgment of others, our own self-judgement and, most importantly, how to live our lives without worrying too much about what others think of us. We answer the following questions:

  • Why are people so judgemental of others?
  • How can we be less critical of others?
  • How can we care less about what other people think of us?
  • How can we live the life we want without worrying too much about how others will perceive us?

The Atlantic article is here:
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/11/how-stop-caring-what-other-people-think-you/620670/

Thanks to our sponsor SkinCeuticals! Here are the products mentioned in the episode

Hannah's routine: 

Linda's routine: 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13087480 Thu, 22 Jun 2023 20:00:00 +1000 2556 full false How My Mum Would Date If She Was Single In 2023 How My Mum Would Date If She Was Single In 2023 I've always wanted to ask Mum how she'd date in the modern world. Would she be on dating apps? Would she pay for the first date? Would she abide by any dating "rules"?

When she was single (like, 40 years ago lol), there were no dating apps. There weren't even mobile phones! You couldn't stalk someone's LinkedIn before agreeing to a date. You couldn't even screen their calls. As Mum says, "You just had to make do." Not sure if "making do" is great relationship advice, but there are some (hilarious) little nuggets of wisdom in this episode. 

]]> I've always wanted to ask Mum how she'd date in the modern world. Would she be on dating apps? Would she pay for the first date? Would she abide by any dating "rules"?

When she was single (like, 40 years ago lol), there were no dating apps. There weren't even mobile phones! You couldn't stalk someone's LinkedIn before agreeing to a date. You couldn't even screen their calls. As Mum says, "You just had to make do." Not sure if "making do" is great relationship advice, but there are some (hilarious) little nuggets of wisdom in this episode. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13043667 Thu, 15 Jun 2023 14:00:00 +1000 1736 full false Janelle's Story: Why I Decided To Become A Solo Mum Janelle's Story: Why I Decided To Become A Solo Mum Janelle is a listener (and fellow podcaster) who sent in a voice note for the loneliness episode, and I felt like her story deserved a whole episode. Janelle has been single for 10 years and recently decided that becoming a mum was more important than trying to meet someone. So she's going it alone! We discuss her endo & egg-freezing, her IVF journey, how she chose her sperm donor, how she'll take her bins out as a single mama and what she's most excited/scared about. Janelle is also documenting her whole journey on a new podcast, Wild Ride.

Janelle's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-a-wild-ride/id1690137413
Wild Ride Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wildridepod/

]]> Janelle is a listener (and fellow podcaster) who sent in a voice note for the loneliness episode, and I felt like her story deserved a whole episode. Janelle has been single for 10 years and recently decided that becoming a mum was more important than trying to meet someone. So she's going it alone! We discuss her endo & egg-freezing, her IVF journey, how she chose her sperm donor, how she'll take her bins out as a single mama and what she's most excited/scared about. Janelle is also documenting her whole journey on a new podcast, Wild Ride.

Janelle's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-a-wild-ride/id1690137413
Wild Ride Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wildridepod/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-13001909 Thu, 08 Jun 2023 21:00:00 +1000 2431 full false How Close Friends Can Combat Loneliness (Part 2) How Close Friends Can Combat Loneliness (Part 2) Ruby and I are back for Part 2 of our friendship episode

]]> Ruby and I are back for Part 2 of our friendship episode

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12965137 Fri, 02 Jun 2023 16:00:00 +1000 1227 full false How Close Friends Can Combat Loneliness (Part 1) How Close Friends Can Combat Loneliness (Part 1) If you're a Succession fan, you'll know that a marriage devoid of emotional intimacy can make you feel more isolated than being single (aka Shiv & Tom). That's why close friendships can be so vital in combatting loneliness. Because we all need a Cousin Greg in our lives! But making friends as an adult can be hard. Asking a new friend for a walk or coffee is akin to asking someone out on a date: scary...

So, Ruby is back to discuss why friendships are just as important as romantic relationships, how to make new friends over 30 & how to let go of friendships that are no longer serving you. 

]]> If you're a Succession fan, you'll know that a marriage devoid of emotional intimacy can make you feel more isolated than being single (aka Shiv & Tom). That's why close friendships can be so vital in combatting loneliness. Because we all need a Cousin Greg in our lives! But making friends as an adult can be hard. Asking a new friend for a walk or coffee is akin to asking someone out on a date: scary...

So, Ruby is back to discuss why friendships are just as important as romantic relationships, how to make new friends over 30 & how to let go of friendships that are no longer serving you. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12958893 Thu, 01 Jun 2023 18:00:00 +1000 2289 full false Will A Relationship Solve All Your Problems? (Spoiler: Nope!) Will A Relationship Solve All Your Problems? (Spoiler: Nope!) For so many years, I was under the (false) impression that getting a boyfriend would solved ALL my problems. I thought that once I got a boyfriend, I would sail away into the sunset and be the happiest girl in the world. Oh boy, was I wrong!

My guest today, Rav Randhawa, completely agrees. She's been married, and divorced, and has learnt a lot of lessons along the way. She shares her experience of feeling alone and isolated in a relationship and discusses the lasting effects an unhealthy relationship can have on you.

Follow Rav on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/ravkr_/

]]> For so many years, I was under the (false) impression that getting a boyfriend would solved ALL my problems. I thought that once I got a boyfriend, I would sail away into the sunset and be the happiest girl in the world. Oh boy, was I wrong!

My guest today, Rav Randhawa, completely agrees. She's been married, and divorced, and has learnt a lot of lessons along the way. She shares her experience of feeling alone and isolated in a relationship and discusses the lasting effects an unhealthy relationship can have on you.

Follow Rav on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/ravkr_/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12918142 Thu, 25 May 2023 21:00:00 +1000 2440 full false How Small Actions Can Change Your Life (& Dating Life) How Small Actions Can Change Your Life (& Dating Life) I'm joined again today by mental health professional Lachlan Beaton to talk about taking action... whether that's in life, work or dating. Lachlan believes that it's the little actions that are the most important to transforming your life. It's by taking small steps that you can prove to yourself that you are capable of implementing bigger changes. 

You can find Lachlan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lachlan.beaton/

]]> I'm joined again today by mental health professional Lachlan Beaton to talk about taking action... whether that's in life, work or dating. Lachlan believes that it's the little actions that are the most important to transforming your life. It's by taking small steps that you can prove to yourself that you are capable of implementing bigger changes. 

You can find Lachlan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lachlan.beaton/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12871633 Thu, 18 May 2023 13:00:00 +1000 3021 full false It's Never Too Late To Quit Your Job & Travel The World It's Never Too Late To Quit Your Job & Travel The World Shanthi is coming back on the podcast this week to share what happened after she quit her job of 10 years to travel the world. She's now living a digital nomad life carrying all her possessions in a backpack. 

]]> Shanthi is coming back on the podcast this week to share what happened after she quit her job of 10 years to travel the world. She's now living a digital nomad life carrying all her possessions in a backpack. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12827912 Thu, 11 May 2023 17:00:00 +1000 1658 full false Overcoming The Blocks & Barriers To A Great Relationship Overcoming The Blocks & Barriers To A Great Relationship I loved to sabotage things during the early stages of dating. I would write people off immediately over tiny little icks. I had walls up. I would pretend I wasn't looking for anything serious. I would try and play the dating "game", but just seemed to always lose.

I really wish I'd met today's guest sooner. Dating coach Jiveny Blair-West is joining me today to discuss how we can overcome the blocks and barriers to forming a healthy and happy relationship.

Jiveny is the author of the book How to Make the Biggest Decision of Your Life, which you can check out here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Make-Biggest-Decision-Your-Life/dp/0733645011

Jiveny's website: https://datingforlove.com/

Jiveny's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jivenyblairwest/

]]> I loved to sabotage things during the early stages of dating. I would write people off immediately over tiny little icks. I had walls up. I would pretend I wasn't looking for anything serious. I would try and play the dating "game", but just seemed to always lose.

I really wish I'd met today's guest sooner. Dating coach Jiveny Blair-West is joining me today to discuss how we can overcome the blocks and barriers to forming a healthy and happy relationship.

Jiveny is the author of the book How to Make the Biggest Decision of Your Life, which you can check out here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Make-Biggest-Decision-Your-Life/dp/0733645011

Jiveny's website: https://datingforlove.com/

Jiveny's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jivenyblairwest/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12781851 Thu, 04 May 2023 15:00:00 +1000 2883 full false Our Listeners Share Their Loneliness Stories Our Listeners Share Their Loneliness Stories A big thank you to all the listeners who sent in their voice notes about their experiences with loneliness. I was blown away by their honesty. This is definitely one of my favourite episodes of all time, and I hope you get as much out of it as I did. 

]]> A big thank you to all the listeners who sent in their voice notes about their experiences with loneliness. I was blown away by their honesty. This is definitely one of my favourite episodes of all time, and I hope you get as much out of it as I did. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12733647 Thu, 27 Apr 2023 17:00:00 +1000 3309 full false A Dating Expert Answers Your Burning Questions A Dating Expert Answers Your Burning Questions Dr Lurve is back! We luuuurved her last episode so much, we asked her to return to the podcast to answer your most asked questions. She is a love and relationship expert with a treasure trove of practical dating advice. 

Here's what we chat about on today's episode:

  • Can I still meet someone if I delete my dating apps? How? 
  • I've been single long-term and have given up on meeting someone. What can I do to change my mindset? I don't want to give up hope! 
  • I don't seem to have a connection with anyone I go on a date with. Do I need to go on more dates with someone before writing them off? 
  • Dating makes me really anxious & I would rather just stay home than put myself through it. What should I do to get myself out there more? 
  • The constant rejection on dating apps is hurting my self-esteem. Is there a way I can soften the blow? 
  • I always seem to date people who aren't ready for a relationship. What signs can I look out for that someone is ready for a serious relationship?
  • Is there a way to start a more meaningful conversation on a dating app that doesn't just fizzle? 

You can find Dr Lurve here: https://www.drlurve.com/
And on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.lurve/

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> Dr Lurve is back! We luuuurved her last episode so much, we asked her to return to the podcast to answer your most asked questions. She is a love and relationship expert with a treasure trove of practical dating advice. 

Here's what we chat about on today's episode:

  • Can I still meet someone if I delete my dating apps? How? 
  • I've been single long-term and have given up on meeting someone. What can I do to change my mindset? I don't want to give up hope! 
  • I don't seem to have a connection with anyone I go on a date with. Do I need to go on more dates with someone before writing them off? 
  • Dating makes me really anxious & I would rather just stay home than put myself through it. What should I do to get myself out there more? 
  • The constant rejection on dating apps is hurting my self-esteem. Is there a way I can soften the blow? 
  • I always seem to date people who aren't ready for a relationship. What signs can I look out for that someone is ready for a serious relationship?
  • Is there a way to start a more meaningful conversation on a dating app that doesn't just fizzle? 

You can find Dr Lurve here: https://www.drlurve.com/
And on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.lurve/

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12641991 Thu, 13 Apr 2023 16:00:00 +1000 2563 full false Beth's Story: Divorce, Egg Donation & Finding Love Again Beth's Story: Divorce, Egg Donation & Finding Love Again After she got divorced, Beth made the decision to stay single forever. But life has a funny way of not working out how you think it will. After her divorce, Beth made the decision to donate her eggs. During her last counselling session with the couple she had chosen (which is required during the process), she signed away her DNA. 

I don't want to give away the whole story, so I'll leave it there!

But truly, it's an incredible story of Beth's unconventional path to motherhood.

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> After she got divorced, Beth made the decision to stay single forever. But life has a funny way of not working out how you think it will. After her divorce, Beth made the decision to donate her eggs. During her last counselling session with the couple she had chosen (which is required during the process), she signed away her DNA. 

I don't want to give away the whole story, so I'll leave it there!

But truly, it's an incredible story of Beth's unconventional path to motherhood.

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12597264 Thu, 06 Apr 2023 08:00:00 +1000 2526 full false 9 Dating Lessons From Married At First Sight 9 Dating Lessons From Married At First Sight MAFS: You either love it or hate it. I LOVE IT. My boyfriend hates it. Can our relationship survive another season? Hopefully!

This week, I'm sitting down with Linda (akka mum) to discuss everything I've learnt about dating from Married at First Sight (akka MAFS). It seems that dating icks are really just a defence mechanism to protect ourselves from not getting hurt. Mind. Blown.

So the real question is: are you ready to do your own at-home MAFS experiment? 

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> MAFS: You either love it or hate it. I LOVE IT. My boyfriend hates it. Can our relationship survive another season? Hopefully!

This week, I'm sitting down with Linda (akka mum) to discuss everything I've learnt about dating from Married at First Sight (akka MAFS). It seems that dating icks are really just a defence mechanism to protect ourselves from not getting hurt. Mind. Blown.

So the real question is: are you ready to do your own at-home MAFS experiment? 

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12547906 Thu, 30 Mar 2023 23:00:00 +1100 2222 full false Social Media Is Making Us Anxious Social Media Is Making Us Anxious This sums up the social media dilemma for me...

I met this week's podcast guest on social media, and since forming a friendship online, we now send voice notes (aka mini podcasts) to each other about how much we hate social media. I never would've connected with Melissa if it wasn't for social media, yet a lot of our conversations are about how social media is negatively affecting our mental health. 

In one of our voice note convos, Melissa said she'd had the realisation that her mental health would be better off without social media. And I said, "Me too." But in a world where it's normal to share the minutiae of our lives online (and a world where many of us use social media for work), is there a way for us to co-exist with social media and not be anxious?

CAN COGNITIVE BEHAVIOURAL THERAPY SAVE US??

We decided to bring our voice note conversations to an actual podcast episode. We don't solve the world's social media problems, but it was cathartic.  It's nice to know I'm not the only one that compares my life when scrolling through Insta feeds.  And hopefully, any anxious brains listening will get something out of the convo with Melissa, even if it's just to feel less alone.

Melissa's Instagram (lol at the irony... but seriously she's one of my fave people to follow on Insta!): https://www.instagram.com/melissamason_/
Melissa's article on Refinery29: https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/is-social-media-ruining-our-holidays-vacations

And the CBT Workbook I mentioned: https://www.amazon.com.au/CBT-Workbook-Mental-Health-Evidence-Based/dp/1647398053

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> This sums up the social media dilemma for me...

I met this week's podcast guest on social media, and since forming a friendship online, we now send voice notes (aka mini podcasts) to each other about how much we hate social media. I never would've connected with Melissa if it wasn't for social media, yet a lot of our conversations are about how social media is negatively affecting our mental health. 

In one of our voice note convos, Melissa said she'd had the realisation that her mental health would be better off without social media. And I said, "Me too." But in a world where it's normal to share the minutiae of our lives online (and a world where many of us use social media for work), is there a way for us to co-exist with social media and not be anxious?

CAN COGNITIVE BEHAVIOURAL THERAPY SAVE US??

We decided to bring our voice note conversations to an actual podcast episode. We don't solve the world's social media problems, but it was cathartic.  It's nice to know I'm not the only one that compares my life when scrolling through Insta feeds.  And hopefully, any anxious brains listening will get something out of the convo with Melissa, even if it's just to feel less alone.

Melissa's Instagram (lol at the irony... but seriously she's one of my fave people to follow on Insta!): https://www.instagram.com/melissamason_/
Melissa's article on Refinery29: https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/is-social-media-ruining-our-holidays-vacations

And the CBT Workbook I mentioned: https://www.amazon.com.au/CBT-Workbook-Mental-Health-Evidence-Based/dp/1647398053

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12497252 Thu, 23 Mar 2023 11:00:00 +1100 2552 full false The Journey Of Making Radical Life Changes The Journey Of Making Radical Life Changes Today I'm chatting with my friend Lachlan Beaton, a mental health professional who decided to make a series of radical life changes to live the life he always wanted. The journey to where he is now wasn't linear. It didn't all happen at once. It took years and years. And a lot of hard work. His story is so inspiring, and it shows that it's never too late to take a new path.

He shows us that you can have a radical change in outlook, and step by step, you can move towards a life that feels more aligned with your values. Anything is possible: he changed careers in his 40s, he sold his house and downsized, he works part-time, he stopped drinking and got into fitness, he lives part-time in Thailand AND he's having fun dating. If you feel like the  status quo isn't for you, you NEED to listen to Lachlan's story. 

You can find Lachlan on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lachlan.beaton/

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> Today I'm chatting with my friend Lachlan Beaton, a mental health professional who decided to make a series of radical life changes to live the life he always wanted. The journey to where he is now wasn't linear. It didn't all happen at once. It took years and years. And a lot of hard work. His story is so inspiring, and it shows that it's never too late to take a new path.

He shows us that you can have a radical change in outlook, and step by step, you can move towards a life that feels more aligned with your values. Anything is possible: he changed careers in his 40s, he sold his house and downsized, he works part-time, he stopped drinking and got into fitness, he lives part-time in Thailand AND he's having fun dating. If you feel like the  status quo isn't for you, you NEED to listen to Lachlan's story. 

You can find Lachlan on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lachlan.beaton/

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12450461 Thu, 16 Mar 2023 10:00:00 +1100 2636 full false The Loneliest Year Of My Life The Loneliest Year Of My Life 2021 was a bad year. I could blame COVID, but that would be a lie. I had been single for a very long time. It had been fun and fancy-free... Until it wasn't anymore. In 2020, I admitted I wanted something more serious... but ALAS... It seemed that everyone on dating apps wanted ethical non-monogamy. I was not going to be on dating apps FOR A DECADE. No way.

So, what was a monogamous girl to do??

I decided to run away to Thailand. I grieved for the life I'd never have... My frozen eggs would forever stay frozen. It was the loneliest time of my life. I had given up on love (I can't believe I just said that out loud). But what's that saying? It's always the darkest before you delete your dating apps. Or is it the dawn?

Whatever it is, it's true...

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> 2021 was a bad year. I could blame COVID, but that would be a lie. I had been single for a very long time. It had been fun and fancy-free... Until it wasn't anymore. In 2020, I admitted I wanted something more serious... but ALAS... It seemed that everyone on dating apps wanted ethical non-monogamy. I was not going to be on dating apps FOR A DECADE. No way.

So, what was a monogamous girl to do??

I decided to run away to Thailand. I grieved for the life I'd never have... My frozen eggs would forever stay frozen. It was the loneliest time of my life. I had given up on love (I can't believe I just said that out loud). But what's that saying? It's always the darkest before you delete your dating apps. Or is it the dawn?

Whatever it is, it's true...

Thanks to this week's sponsor Viviology - confusion-free cosmeceuticals by James Vivian at Adore Beauty. Singled Minded listeners can receive a Viviology Vitamin C Serum Deluxe Mini 10ml with every Viviology purchase. Use code SINGLEMINDED. Valid until 4 May 2023. T&Cs apply. https://www.adorebeauty.com.au/viviology.html

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-12403707 Thu, 09 Mar 2023 10:00:00 +1100 2076 full false Life Begins In Your Late 30s Life Begins In Your Late 30s A very special episode with one of my good friends, Shanthi. Here are the questions we answer in this episode:

  • My sister calls what you did "blowing your life up." You ended your engagement, quit your job & packed up your apartment to go travelling. Why did you decide to make such a drastic life change? 
  • What was it like becoming single again after 7 years? How has dating changed? What have been the highs and the lows? 
  • I've seen you have a lot of success on dating apps. What do you put that down to? 
  • You were at Adore for 10 years, then you decided to quit with no job lined up... what made you decide to do that? Was it something you took a long time to consider, or you just woke up one day? 
  • You're taking 5 months off... What's your plan? 
  • You're in your mid/late 30s and from what I can see, your life is just beginning. You don't seem to be fazed by the usual 30s pressures. What changed for you? 
  • What excites you most about being single & unemployed? Usually, we place negative connotations on both of these things, but you seem so excited by it.
]]> A very special episode with one of my good friends, Shanthi. Here are the questions we answer in this episode:

  • My sister calls what you did "blowing your life up." You ended your engagement, quit your job & packed up your apartment to go travelling. Why did you decide to make such a drastic life change? 
  • What was it like becoming single again after 7 years? How has dating changed? What have been the highs and the lows? 
  • I've seen you have a lot of success on dating apps. What do you put that down to? 
  • You were at Adore for 10 years, then you decided to quit with no job lined up... what made you decide to do that? Was it something you took a long time to consider, or you just woke up one day? 
  • You're taking 5 months off... What's your plan? 
  • You're in your mid/late 30s and from what I can see, your life is just beginning. You don't seem to be fazed by the usual 30s pressures. What changed for you? 
  • What excites you most about being single & unemployed? Usually, we place negative connotations on both of these things, but you seem so excited by it.
]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-11421464 Sun, 02 Oct 2022 22:00:00 +1100 2232 full false Building A Beauty Business Based On Values Building A Beauty Business Based On Values We don't talk a lot about The Business World on this podcast, but after reading Erika's blog posts about building her brand, I just knew I had to interview her!! Here's an excerpt:  "I was involved two businesses/brands that grew quickly and warped my idea of reality when it came to status, wealth, success, and values. 5 years in, I chose to leave a brand that just announced a 100 million dollar valuation, and start again. I too, sometimes wonder if I’m crazy."

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • I'd love to hear about your business journey - from leaving your previous startup to creating your own brand, Fluff
  • Watching you from the outside, I see you as following your own path in life; it's like you just want to live your most authentic life. Am I reading that right? 
  • You run a very values-driven business, and you've written about how tough it can be in a world driven by profits. Why was it important for you to do this? What are the pros and cons of doing this?
  • We've both been in the beauty industry for a little while, but your approach to beauty at Fluff is quite unique. Can you tell me about Fluff's approach to beauty?
  • You've written that you're not where your friends are (marriage, babies, houses). I'm not either! How do you feel about that? 
  • Has your definition of "success" changed with age?
  • And what's next for you in life and business? 


Discover Fluff: https://www.itsallfluff.com
Follow Erika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erikageraerts
Erika's Medium blog: https://erikaisfluff.medium.com/

]]> We don't talk a lot about The Business World on this podcast, but after reading Erika's blog posts about building her brand, I just knew I had to interview her!! Here's an excerpt:  "I was involved two businesses/brands that grew quickly and warped my idea of reality when it came to status, wealth, success, and values. 5 years in, I chose to leave a brand that just announced a 100 million dollar valuation, and start again. I too, sometimes wonder if I’m crazy."

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • I'd love to hear about your business journey - from leaving your previous startup to creating your own brand, Fluff
  • Watching you from the outside, I see you as following your own path in life; it's like you just want to live your most authentic life. Am I reading that right? 
  • You run a very values-driven business, and you've written about how tough it can be in a world driven by profits. Why was it important for you to do this? What are the pros and cons of doing this?
  • We've both been in the beauty industry for a little while, but your approach to beauty at Fluff is quite unique. Can you tell me about Fluff's approach to beauty?
  • You've written that you're not where your friends are (marriage, babies, houses). I'm not either! How do you feel about that? 
  • Has your definition of "success" changed with age?
  • And what's next for you in life and business? 


Discover Fluff: https://www.itsallfluff.com
Follow Erika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/erikageraerts
Erika's Medium blog: https://erikaisfluff.medium.com/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-11328660 Fri, 16 Sep 2022 12:00:00 +1000 2569 full false The Magic Of Old-School Romance The Magic Of Old-School Romance I want to tell you a story...

A few years ago I discovered a box of my great-great aunt's love letters. They were written by a Danish ship captain. The letters spanned a 13-year period. 13 years!!! Imagine persisting with someone on a dating app for 13 years? You’re lucky if you get a 0.13-second glance.

In one letter he wrote: If only you and I could meet there, it would be vonderful.

Aren’t love letters just vonderful? Ugh... let's bring them back!

So, this episode is all about old-school romance. I'm joined by a special guest who tells the most magical story, and I hope it offers some inspiration to rediscover an old-school kind of romance from the days before dating apps. 

You can read the article mentioned in the podcast here: https://medium.com/hello-love/magic-happens-just-not-on-dating-apps-3714d4ef8ea7?sk=b9c36f5ad176117c21ba310407f0567e

]]> I want to tell you a story...

A few years ago I discovered a box of my great-great aunt's love letters. They were written by a Danish ship captain. The letters spanned a 13-year period. 13 years!!! Imagine persisting with someone on a dating app for 13 years? You’re lucky if you get a 0.13-second glance.

In one letter he wrote: If only you and I could meet there, it would be vonderful.

Aren’t love letters just vonderful? Ugh... let's bring them back!

So, this episode is all about old-school romance. I'm joined by a special guest who tells the most magical story, and I hope it offers some inspiration to rediscover an old-school kind of romance from the days before dating apps. 

You can read the article mentioned in the podcast here: https://medium.com/hello-love/magic-happens-just-not-on-dating-apps-3714d4ef8ea7?sk=b9c36f5ad176117c21ba310407f0567e

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-11164777 Fri, 19 Aug 2022 18:00:00 +1000 2102 full false The Truth About Single Life & Loneliness The Truth About Single Life & Loneliness Someone recently messaged me saying, "I'm in a complete life rut at 29… single, which I never thought would bother me but I feel very lonely." 

She asked, "Where’s the real shit?" She said a lot of the content out there is all about finding yourself and loving yourself, but that’s not very practical and it doesn’t really solve the problem. 

So let's get to the real shit... The questions we answer on today's episode: 

  • What is loneliness? What does it feel like?
  • What are the stats on loneliness? 
  • What's my experience with loneliness?
  • And how I survived feeling lonely while single?
]]> Someone recently messaged me saying, "I'm in a complete life rut at 29… single, which I never thought would bother me but I feel very lonely." 

She asked, "Where’s the real shit?" She said a lot of the content out there is all about finding yourself and loving yourself, but that’s not very practical and it doesn’t really solve the problem. 

So let's get to the real shit... The questions we answer on today's episode: 

  • What is loneliness? What does it feel like?
  • What are the stats on loneliness? 
  • What's my experience with loneliness?
  • And how I survived feeling lonely while single?
]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-11086208 Fri, 05 Aug 2022 22:00:00 +1000 1940 full false Why Aren't Successful Women Getting Matches? Why Aren't Successful Women Getting Matches? Dee Salmin is the host of Triple J's The Hookup podcast, and she recently wrote this article about why hot, successful women aren't getting any matches on dating apps: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-hook-up/why-you-might-not-be-getting-matches/13901508

AND SO I HAD TO ASK WHY! So we sat down to get to the bottom of it. 

You can find Dee on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/dee.salmin

]]> Dee Salmin is the host of Triple J's The Hookup podcast, and she recently wrote this article about why hot, successful women aren't getting any matches on dating apps: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-hook-up/why-you-might-not-be-getting-matches/13901508

AND SO I HAD TO ASK WHY! So we sat down to get to the bottom of it. 

You can find Dee on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/dee.salmin

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-11010100 Fri, 22 Jul 2022 22:00:00 +1000 2473 full false We're 'Happily Unmarried', Thank You Very Much We're 'Happily Unmarried', Thank You Very Much Before we get into this week's episode... WE'RE ON PATREON! We'll be releasing bonus episodes on the Single Minded Private Podcast every fortnight. You can also leave us a very much appreciated tip to help us continue to produce free episodes. Sign up here: https://www.patreon.com/singleminded

Someone sent me a message on Insta recently saying that I was glowing... And I said it was because I was "happily unmarried". It caused quite the stir! So this week, I'll be unpacking why I'm so happy being unmarried with my friend Rav (who is happily divorced). I start by giving Rav a history lesson on marriage, and then we answer the following questions: 

  • What advice would we give to our younger selves about marriage?
  • How do we feel about being in our 30s and unmarried?
  • Are there any feelings of disappointment about not being married? 
  • Do Instagram wedding photos ever make us feel like we're missing out?
  • Do we think it's better to wait to get married?

Rav's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ravkr_/
Rav's podcast: https://linktr.ee/flikeagirl

]]> Before we get into this week's episode... WE'RE ON PATREON! We'll be releasing bonus episodes on the Single Minded Private Podcast every fortnight. You can also leave us a very much appreciated tip to help us continue to produce free episodes. Sign up here: https://www.patreon.com/singleminded

Someone sent me a message on Insta recently saying that I was glowing... And I said it was because I was "happily unmarried". It caused quite the stir! So this week, I'll be unpacking why I'm so happy being unmarried with my friend Rav (who is happily divorced). I start by giving Rav a history lesson on marriage, and then we answer the following questions: 

  • What advice would we give to our younger selves about marriage?
  • How do we feel about being in our 30s and unmarried?
  • Are there any feelings of disappointment about not being married? 
  • Do Instagram wedding photos ever make us feel like we're missing out?
  • Do we think it's better to wait to get married?

Rav's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ravkr_/
Rav's podcast: https://linktr.ee/flikeagirl

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-10918254 Fri, 08 Jul 2022 06:00:00 +1000 2686 full false Is It Possible To Date Slow In The Dating App Era? Is It Possible To Date Slow In The Dating App Era? If you're over hookup culture and want to build a deeper connection with someone, this is the episode for you! Today I chat with Love & Relationship Expert, Dr Lurve about how to sloooow down with dating so that you can build a connection first. 

The questions we answer in this episode: 

  • What are the pros & cons of modern dating (dating apps in particular)?
  • It seems that dating has become a bit of a numbers game - should we be looking at quality over quantity? 
  • What is the "slow dating" trend?
  • Is "slow dating" the antidote to hookup culture?
  • There are a lot of dating rules (who pays, when it's appropriate to sleep with someone, etc). I recently dated someone at a much slower pace and felt the connection was a lot stronger by the time we did sleep together. Do you think we all need to just slow down & get to know each other first?
  • What would be your top tips for slow dating? Is boundary-setting important? Do you need to be honest upfront that you're going to be spending more time getting to know the other person?
  • What are your dating predictions for the future?

You can follow Dr Lurve on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/dr.lurve/
Dr Lurve's website:  https://www.drlurve.com/
Dr Lurve's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/between-the-sheets-with-dr-lurve/id1480610277

]]> If you're over hookup culture and want to build a deeper connection with someone, this is the episode for you! Today I chat with Love & Relationship Expert, Dr Lurve about how to sloooow down with dating so that you can build a connection first. 

The questions we answer in this episode: 

  • What are the pros & cons of modern dating (dating apps in particular)?
  • It seems that dating has become a bit of a numbers game - should we be looking at quality over quantity? 
  • What is the "slow dating" trend?
  • Is "slow dating" the antidote to hookup culture?
  • There are a lot of dating rules (who pays, when it's appropriate to sleep with someone, etc). I recently dated someone at a much slower pace and felt the connection was a lot stronger by the time we did sleep together. Do you think we all need to just slow down & get to know each other first?
  • What would be your top tips for slow dating? Is boundary-setting important? Do you need to be honest upfront that you're going to be spending more time getting to know the other person?
  • What are your dating predictions for the future?

You can follow Dr Lurve on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/dr.lurve/
Dr Lurve's website:  https://www.drlurve.com/
Dr Lurve's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/between-the-sheets-with-dr-lurve/id1480610277

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-10846993 Fri, 24 Jun 2022 14:00:00 +1000 2400 full false Hi I'm Hannah & I'm Having An Existential Crisis Hi I'm Hannah & I'm Having An Existential Crisis I've always wondered how I'll explain my "existential night terrors" to my future life partner. As someone that suffers from death anxiety, I briefly spoke about it on an episode & had an outpouring of DMs from people who feel the same.

So I chatted to Dr Rachel Menzies who is a clinical psychologist based in Sydney about how to manage death anxiety. She specialises in treating fears of death, anxiety and depression using CBT.

Her website: https://rachelmenzies.com/
Her book: https://www.booktopia.com.au/mortals-ross-menzies/book/9781760879167.html

]]> I've always wondered how I'll explain my "existential night terrors" to my future life partner. As someone that suffers from death anxiety, I briefly spoke about it on an episode & had an outpouring of DMs from people who feel the same.

So I chatted to Dr Rachel Menzies who is a clinical psychologist based in Sydney about how to manage death anxiety. She specialises in treating fears of death, anxiety and depression using CBT.

Her website: https://rachelmenzies.com/
Her book: https://www.booktopia.com.au/mortals-ross-menzies/book/9781760879167.html

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-10690627 Fri, 27 May 2022 17:00:00 +1000 2415 full false How To Meet Someone IRL How To Meet Someone IRL Meeting IRL... A thing of the past? Well not for the listeners who sent in their stories of how they met their partner IRL. 

Linda and I are summarising all the ways to meet someone IRL, but also some tips for striking up a conversation, without feeling the pressure to be flirty. 

]]> Meeting IRL... A thing of the past? Well not for the listeners who sent in their stories of how they met their partner IRL. 

Linda and I are summarising all the ways to meet someone IRL, but also some tips for striking up a conversation, without feeling the pressure to be flirty. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-10610795 Fri, 13 May 2022 17:00:00 +1000 1851 full false When A Holiday Romance Becomes A Long Distance Relationship When A Holiday Romance Becomes A Long Distance Relationship This week I am joined by my American friend Malia, who moved to Australia for love. She has one of the best meet-cute stories I've ever heard. As someone that is currently navigating a long distance relationship, this did kinda turn into a personal therapy session for me.

YOU'LL ALSO GET AN EXCLUSIVE UPDATE ON THE CANADIAN!  

]]> This week I am joined by my American friend Malia, who moved to Australia for love. She has one of the best meet-cute stories I've ever heard. As someone that is currently navigating a long distance relationship, this did kinda turn into a personal therapy session for me.

YOU'LL ALSO GET AN EXCLUSIVE UPDATE ON THE CANADIAN!  

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-10531205 Sat, 30 Apr 2022 15:00:00 +1000 2918 full false The Big Quit, Career Changes & 4-Day Work Weeks The Big Quit, Career Changes & 4-Day Work Weeks I'm joined by a very special co-host today to talk about ALL THINGS WORK. 

The questions we're answering are: 
- Why did you decide to quit your job after lockdowns?
- Why did taking a 2 month break from work help refresh you?
- Why you've decided to try a career change?
- How did you negotiate a 4-day work week?

]]> I'm joined by a very special co-host today to talk about ALL THINGS WORK. 

The questions we're answering are: 
- Why did you decide to quit your job after lockdowns?
- Why did taking a 2 month break from work help refresh you?
- Why you've decided to try a career change?
- How did you negotiate a 4-day work week?

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-10443585 Fri, 15 Apr 2022 18:00:00 +1000 2334 full false Linda Interrogates Me On The Mysterious Man Linda Interrogates Me On The Mysterious Man Just when you thought you'd given up on dating... you go to Thailand and meet a mysterious man. 

Today, Linda is asking all the tough questions on my holiday romance. 

We also discuss dating post-pandemic, and why I'd all but given up after YET ANOTHER flakey guy on a dating app. 

]]> Just when you thought you'd given up on dating... you go to Thailand and meet a mysterious man. 

Today, Linda is asking all the tough questions on my holiday romance. 

We also discuss dating post-pandemic, and why I'd all but given up after YET ANOTHER flakey guy on a dating app. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-10359118 Fri, 01 Apr 2022 19:00:00 +1100 1993 full false Finding Joy In The Simple Life Finding Joy In The Simple Life BUT ARE YOU HAPPY?! Today I'm joined by Lachlan Beaton who simplified his life to find more joy and happiness. He got everything he thought he wanted (big house, big salary, etc) but found himself miserable. Then came the breakdown, or what Brene Brown calls "the awakening". It. Is. Inspiring. 
The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • You sent me a really great quote on Instagram called "Old Happy" - can you explain what this is all about?
  • Do you feel you had an awakening to the whole "Be successful, make money, be productive" messaging? What happened? 
  • What is your "New Happy"?
  • Because this is a dating podcast, let's get the goss on your love life to wrap up!  

Find Lachlan on Instagram at @lachlan.beaton

]]> BUT ARE YOU HAPPY?! Today I'm joined by Lachlan Beaton who simplified his life to find more joy and happiness. He got everything he thought he wanted (big house, big salary, etc) but found himself miserable. Then came the breakdown, or what Brene Brown calls "the awakening". It. Is. Inspiring. 
The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • You sent me a really great quote on Instagram called "Old Happy" - can you explain what this is all about?
  • Do you feel you had an awakening to the whole "Be successful, make money, be productive" messaging? What happened? 
  • What is your "New Happy"?
  • Because this is a dating podcast, let's get the goss on your love life to wrap up!  

Find Lachlan on Instagram at @lachlan.beaton

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-10271147 Fri, 18 Mar 2022 11:00:00 +1100 2792 full false Will We Ever Accept Our Bodies? Will We Ever Accept Our Bodies? BUT WILL WE?! Today I am joined again by Rav to chat about body image and how dating (and in her case, marriage) has affected the way we feel about our bodies. 

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • How did you feel about your body growing up?
  • How did the media influence how you felt about your body?
  • How did dating and relationships later influence how you felt about your body?
  • Do you only date when you're at your "goal" weight?
  • What's your relationship like with your body now? How has it changed over time?

You can find Rav over on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ravkr_

]]> BUT WILL WE?! Today I am joined again by Rav to chat about body image and how dating (and in her case, marriage) has affected the way we feel about our bodies. 

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • How did you feel about your body growing up?
  • How did the media influence how you felt about your body?
  • How did dating and relationships later influence how you felt about your body?
  • Do you only date when you're at your "goal" weight?
  • What's your relationship like with your body now? How has it changed over time?

You can find Rav over on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ravkr_

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-10186979 Fri, 04 Mar 2022 21:00:00 +1100 2667 full false Answering Your Questions On Life, Work & Dating Answering Your Questions On Life, Work & Dating Thank you everyone who sent in your questions!! 

The questions we're answering on today's episode:

  • Any solo travel tips for a 38 single mum going to Noosa for a mini vacay?
  • How did Linda keep her identity and independence after having kids?
  • Dealing with realisation your best friends are lovely but so not aligned (they are all married).
  • How to deal with coupled up friends always thinking being single = doomsday 
  • Tips for gal wanting to solo travel but anxious of solo in foreign places. Conflict is real  
  • Is it weird to go to a concert alone?
  • How to deal with dating fatigue especially when you have been dating for years
  • Don’t find someone attractive (looks), can it still work?
  • How to shed the shame of being single in my late 30s
  • Being called “beautiful” without having even met. Not a question just an ick trigger
  • How to stop idealising a guy who seems to be “the one” but dumped me.
  • When you worked in corporate jobs how did you have a work life balance
  • Trading off better career/mental health for less money and all the lost financial/super etc
  • Can you be too young/too new to ask for a 9 day fortnight or 4 day week
  • How to gain the balls to leave a 12 year career/job. I’m scared shitless
]]> Thank you everyone who sent in your questions!! 

The questions we're answering on today's episode:

  • Any solo travel tips for a 38 single mum going to Noosa for a mini vacay?
  • How did Linda keep her identity and independence after having kids?
  • Dealing with realisation your best friends are lovely but so not aligned (they are all married).
  • How to deal with coupled up friends always thinking being single = doomsday 
  • Tips for gal wanting to solo travel but anxious of solo in foreign places. Conflict is real  
  • Is it weird to go to a concert alone?
  • How to deal with dating fatigue especially when you have been dating for years
  • Don’t find someone attractive (looks), can it still work?
  • How to shed the shame of being single in my late 30s
  • Being called “beautiful” without having even met. Not a question just an ick trigger
  • How to stop idealising a guy who seems to be “the one” but dumped me.
  • When you worked in corporate jobs how did you have a work life balance
  • Trading off better career/mental health for less money and all the lost financial/super etc
  • Can you be too young/too new to ask for a 9 day fortnight or 4 day week
  • How to gain the balls to leave a 12 year career/job. I’m scared shitless
]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-10099204 Fri, 18 Feb 2022 21:00:00 +1100 1938 full false The Difference Between IQ & EQ (aka Emotional Intelligence) The Difference Between IQ & EQ (aka Emotional Intelligence) This week we're joined by researcher (and fellow Single Minded listener) Zoe Callis to talk about emotional intelligence (EQ) and the role it plays in romantic relationships. This episode covers: 

  • What's the difference between IQ and EQ?
  • What are the qualities of someone with high EQ vs low EQ?
  • Is it possible to improve your EQ? 
  • Do we rank high IQ and high EQ as attractive qualities? 

The research paper Zoe conducted isn't publicly available, but you can reach out to her direct for more info. Zoe Callis: https://research-repository.uwa.edu.au/en/persons/zoe-callis

Extra reading: The costs of being exceptionally intelligent: Compatibility and interpersonal skill concerns.  https://doi.org/10.1016/j.intell.2020.101465

]]> This week we're joined by researcher (and fellow Single Minded listener) Zoe Callis to talk about emotional intelligence (EQ) and the role it plays in romantic relationships. This episode covers: 

  • What's the difference between IQ and EQ?
  • What are the qualities of someone with high EQ vs low EQ?
  • Is it possible to improve your EQ? 
  • Do we rank high IQ and high EQ as attractive qualities? 

The research paper Zoe conducted isn't publicly available, but you can reach out to her direct for more info. Zoe Callis: https://research-repository.uwa.edu.au/en/persons/zoe-callis

Extra reading: The costs of being exceptionally intelligent: Compatibility and interpersonal skill concerns.  https://doi.org/10.1016/j.intell.2020.101465

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9926576 Sat, 22 Jan 2022 01:00:00 +1100 2332 full false The Highs And Lows Of Being Single The Highs And Lows Of Being Single On today's episode, I'm joined again by fellow single gal and podcaster Rav Randhawa to talk about the highs and lows of being single and what  freedom means to us.

We cover our favourite single things like not having to share a bed, the butterflies before a first kiss, along with the lows of living life on your own and the big question, is my soulmate out there?

Rav's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ravkr_
Fight Like A Girl Podcast: https://linktr.ee/flikeagirl

]]> On today's episode, I'm joined again by fellow single gal and podcaster Rav Randhawa to talk about the highs and lows of being single and what  freedom means to us.

We cover our favourite single things like not having to share a bed, the butterflies before a first kiss, along with the lows of living life on your own and the big question, is my soulmate out there?

Rav's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ravkr_
Fight Like A Girl Podcast: https://linktr.ee/flikeagirl

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9846455 Sat, 08 Jan 2022 01:00:00 +1100 3175 full false A Very Spiritual Christmas in Thailand A Very Spiritual Christmas in Thailand My friend and life coach Bonne Chance is back again to talk about New Year's Rituals. The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • What's the difference between setting new year's resolutions and setting an intention for the year?
  • We did a burning ceremony in Thailand 2 years ago - can you run everyone through what we did?
  • How can people do their own ritual ceremonies this year if they want to reset / redefine what's important to them?
  • If people listening want to make big changes but don't know where to start, what do you recommend?
  • Do you think post-pandemic people are looking for more meaning and purpose in their lives? Why?
  • How would someone define their purpose? Is there an exercise they can do?
  • How do we remove the obstacles in our lives to follow our purpose to create more meaning in our lives?

You can find Bonne on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lebonnechance/
And her website is here: http://www.bonnechancecoaching.com/

]]> My friend and life coach Bonne Chance is back again to talk about New Year's Rituals. The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • What's the difference between setting new year's resolutions and setting an intention for the year?
  • We did a burning ceremony in Thailand 2 years ago - can you run everyone through what we did?
  • How can people do their own ritual ceremonies this year if they want to reset / redefine what's important to them?
  • If people listening want to make big changes but don't know where to start, what do you recommend?
  • Do you think post-pandemic people are looking for more meaning and purpose in their lives? Why?
  • How would someone define their purpose? Is there an exercise they can do?
  • How do we remove the obstacles in our lives to follow our purpose to create more meaning in our lives?

You can find Bonne on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lebonnechance/
And her website is here: http://www.bonnechancecoaching.com/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9763299 Wed, 22 Dec 2021 07:00:00 +1100 3804 full false A Psychologist Explains The Benefits Of Being Alone A Psychologist Explains The Benefits Of Being Alone Today I am joined by psychologist Nancy Sokarno, also known as Psych With Sokz. The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • How has the pandemic changed our relationship with being alone?
  • A follower sent me the following, "One of the positives of lockdown was we were put in a meditative state - where we got time to think and decide which way we want to grow."  Do you think the alone time was overall a positive or negative experience for people or does it depend on the person? Will people emerge with new ideas on life? 
  • You've previously said,  “Being alone also often allows you to make better decisions because you aren’t persuaded by outside influence." Can you explain why?
  • Are there other benefits of being alone? Are there benefits of doing things outside of your comfort zone alone eg. travel?
  • Do some people prefer to be single & alone than be in a coupled-up, long-term relationship?

Nancy's website: https://www.psychwithsokz.com/
Nancy's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychwithsokz/

]]> Today I am joined by psychologist Nancy Sokarno, also known as Psych With Sokz. The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • How has the pandemic changed our relationship with being alone?
  • A follower sent me the following, "One of the positives of lockdown was we were put in a meditative state - where we got time to think and decide which way we want to grow."  Do you think the alone time was overall a positive or negative experience for people or does it depend on the person? Will people emerge with new ideas on life? 
  • You've previously said,  “Being alone also often allows you to make better decisions because you aren’t persuaded by outside influence." Can you explain why?
  • Are there other benefits of being alone? Are there benefits of doing things outside of your comfort zone alone eg. travel?
  • Do some people prefer to be single & alone than be in a coupled-up, long-term relationship?

Nancy's website: https://www.psychwithsokz.com/
Nancy's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychwithsokz/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9695230 Fri, 10 Dec 2021 14:00:00 +1100 2385 full false Jess' Story: I Fell In Love With My Best Friend Jess' Story: I Fell In Love With My Best Friend Today I am joined by Jess Matthews, also colloquially known as “The Boy Detox”. The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • You fell in love with your best friend - I'd love to hear this story! Why did you break up? Are you dating now?
  • A lot of people are looking for that "instant spark" - what are your thoughts on this? Do we need to let go of instant sexual chemistry and focus on building a genuine connection instead?
  • You mentioned to me that falling in love with a best friend shifts the dynamic, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy - can you talk me through this shift?
  • Do you think it's worth being more open minded and patient when dating? I'm usually like "no" if there's no physical chemistry instantly. But more recently I decided to keep pursuing someone I wasn't sure about and thought, "Nah, there's nothing here," but then we kissed and it was total fireworks. 
  • How many dates do you think you need to give someone before writing them off? What needs to be there at a bare minimum to keep getting to know them?
  • What are your thoughts on building a connection first before getting physical? I think it's really nice. I had a guy follower mention that he had tried this with a girl and it didn't go well - he wanted to wait to get to know her before having sex. 

Jess' website: https://www.theboydetox.com/
Jess' Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theboydetox/

]]> Today I am joined by Jess Matthews, also colloquially known as “The Boy Detox”. The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • You fell in love with your best friend - I'd love to hear this story! Why did you break up? Are you dating now?
  • A lot of people are looking for that "instant spark" - what are your thoughts on this? Do we need to let go of instant sexual chemistry and focus on building a genuine connection instead?
  • You mentioned to me that falling in love with a best friend shifts the dynamic, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy - can you talk me through this shift?
  • Do you think it's worth being more open minded and patient when dating? I'm usually like "no" if there's no physical chemistry instantly. But more recently I decided to keep pursuing someone I wasn't sure about and thought, "Nah, there's nothing here," but then we kissed and it was total fireworks. 
  • How many dates do you think you need to give someone before writing them off? What needs to be there at a bare minimum to keep getting to know them?
  • What are your thoughts on building a connection first before getting physical? I think it's really nice. I had a guy follower mention that he had tried this with a girl and it didn't go well - he wanted to wait to get to know her before having sex. 

Jess' website: https://www.theboydetox.com/
Jess' Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theboydetox/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9614687 Fri, 26 Nov 2021 10:00:00 +1100 2859 full false A Psychologist Explains What 'Vulnerability' Actually Means A Psychologist Explains What 'Vulnerability' Actually Means The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • We hear the word "vulnerability" thrown around a lot. What does it mean?
  • What is vulnerability not? 
  • Why is being vulnerable and open important to forming deep & fulfilling connections?
  • When we're dating, why do some people stay in the "safe" zone and find it hard to delve deeper than the surface level conversations? I've experienced "the wall" when dating and you never get any deeper and it fizzles out.
  • It's like the chicken or the egg... it's hard to form a connection without being vulnerable.. But then it's hard to know who you can trust, especially when you're getting to know a new person. How do you balance these two things?
  • Do you think people that struggle with vulnerability weren't taught how to express their feelings as children? How can you learn these skills in adulthood? Are there ways to practice being vulnerable in non-dating settings?
  • Resources you suggest for people interested in learning about vulnerability


Find out more about Vanessa here: https://www.vanessastaubpsychology.com/

]]> The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • We hear the word "vulnerability" thrown around a lot. What does it mean?
  • What is vulnerability not? 
  • Why is being vulnerable and open important to forming deep & fulfilling connections?
  • When we're dating, why do some people stay in the "safe" zone and find it hard to delve deeper than the surface level conversations? I've experienced "the wall" when dating and you never get any deeper and it fizzles out.
  • It's like the chicken or the egg... it's hard to form a connection without being vulnerable.. But then it's hard to know who you can trust, especially when you're getting to know a new person. How do you balance these two things?
  • Do you think people that struggle with vulnerability weren't taught how to express their feelings as children? How can you learn these skills in adulthood? Are there ways to practice being vulnerable in non-dating settings?
  • Resources you suggest for people interested in learning about vulnerability


Find out more about Vanessa here: https://www.vanessastaubpsychology.com/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9534582 Fri, 12 Nov 2021 11:00:00 +1100 2387 full false Shani Silver's Guide To Taking Risks Shani Silver's Guide To Taking Risks Shani Silver is back to discuss self-publishing her new book A Single Revolution! You can purchase her book here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Single-Revolution-Dont-match-Light-ebook/dp/B09HZ1TBX7/

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • It's been a while since we chatted - what's been happening in your life? 
  • I read your medium article about not getting a book deal & instead self-publishing. You open with, " Obviously it’s an ego thing. The book deal. The big advance. The status, the validity, the ability to show the world that a publisher wanted you.  And then you never get any of those things, despite years (and years) of trying." - can you talk me through the process of publishing your book A Single Revolution?
  • What is your book about? Who would it be useful for?
  • You write about rejection a lot - something that's common for writers - do you have any advice for people in dealing with rejection? 
  • The main message I get from your content is, "Don't wait for your life to happen." Whether that's meeting a partner or getting a book deal. Why is this message so important to you? Do you have practical tips for people that are stuck waiting for life to happen to them? 
  • I have a lot of people on Instagram asking me for writing advice, or just generally how to be more creative. I've gotten so much out of your medium articles about self-publishing and not waiting for editor's to respond to your pitches. It's one of the reasons I write on Medium now as opposed to pitching. What is your advice for people wanting to take more control of their creative pursuits?

Find Shani on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/shanisilver/

]]> Shani Silver is back to discuss self-publishing her new book A Single Revolution! You can purchase her book here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Single-Revolution-Dont-match-Light-ebook/dp/B09HZ1TBX7/

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • It's been a while since we chatted - what's been happening in your life? 
  • I read your medium article about not getting a book deal & instead self-publishing. You open with, " Obviously it’s an ego thing. The book deal. The big advance. The status, the validity, the ability to show the world that a publisher wanted you.  And then you never get any of those things, despite years (and years) of trying." - can you talk me through the process of publishing your book A Single Revolution?
  • What is your book about? Who would it be useful for?
  • You write about rejection a lot - something that's common for writers - do you have any advice for people in dealing with rejection? 
  • The main message I get from your content is, "Don't wait for your life to happen." Whether that's meeting a partner or getting a book deal. Why is this message so important to you? Do you have practical tips for people that are stuck waiting for life to happen to them? 
  • I have a lot of people on Instagram asking me for writing advice, or just generally how to be more creative. I've gotten so much out of your medium articles about self-publishing and not waiting for editor's to respond to your pitches. It's one of the reasons I write on Medium now as opposed to pitching. What is your advice for people wanting to take more control of their creative pursuits?

Find Shani on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/shanisilver/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9453668 Fri, 29 Oct 2021 15:00:00 +1100 2659 full false The Difference Between Red, Yellow & Green Flags The Difference Between Red, Yellow & Green Flags Today we're talking about flags - how to spot them in others, but also how to spot them in yourself. 

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • How do you spot red flags? Can you give some examples 
  • Do you attract where you are in your life? I've noticed this myself (attracting red flags because I was exhibiting those same red flags) 
  • What is a "green flag?" 
  • How do you spot a green flag? Can you give examples?
  • You do a lot of work on mindset - is the biggest issue with online dating a mindset thing?
  • Is it important to date by your values, as opposed to just physical attraction? How would a listener figure out their values? How do they know if they're going to be aligned?

You can find Megan on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/meganluscombe_/

]]> Today we're talking about flags - how to spot them in others, but also how to spot them in yourself. 

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • How do you spot red flags? Can you give some examples 
  • Do you attract where you are in your life? I've noticed this myself (attracting red flags because I was exhibiting those same red flags) 
  • What is a "green flag?" 
  • How do you spot a green flag? Can you give examples?
  • You do a lot of work on mindset - is the biggest issue with online dating a mindset thing?
  • Is it important to date by your values, as opposed to just physical attraction? How would a listener figure out their values? How do they know if they're going to be aligned?

You can find Megan on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/meganluscombe_/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9372593 Fri, 15 Oct 2021 15:00:00 +1100 2545 full false Our Dating Tips To Make Every Date An 'Experience' Our Dating Tips To Make Every Date An 'Experience' The Budget Bachelorette is back for another episode! Emmy Pens is joining me again to chat our top dating tips. 

Remember... 
A first date is not an interview.
It’s not a performance.
It’s not a test. ⁣
A first date is an experience.⁣

(via Dr Alexandra H. Solomon).

Follow Emmy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmypens/

]]> The Budget Bachelorette is back for another episode! Emmy Pens is joining me again to chat our top dating tips. 

Remember... 
A first date is not an interview.
It’s not a performance.
It’s not a test. ⁣
A first date is an experience.⁣

(via Dr Alexandra H. Solomon).

Follow Emmy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emmypens/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9290175 Fri, 01 Oct 2021 10:00:00 +1000 3564 full false Rav's Story: My Husband Ghosted Me Rav's Story: My Husband Ghosted Me On today's episode, I'm joined with fellow single gal and podcaster Rav Randhawa to talk about societal pressure to get married (and what happens when it doesn't work out). 

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • You've spoken about your family putting pressure on you to settle down and follow that traditional path - tell me about your upbringing and how that pressure manifested? 
  • You got married quite young - what happened? 
  • You got "ghosted" by your husband - can you take us through that story?
  • Did you feel relief when the marriage ended? How did you heal? Have you done any personal development?
  • How has dating been as a divorcee in your early 30s? 

Follow me on Instagram for more dating stories: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/

Rav's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ravkr_
Fight Like A Girl Podcast: https://linktr.ee/flikeagirl

]]> On today's episode, I'm joined with fellow single gal and podcaster Rav Randhawa to talk about societal pressure to get married (and what happens when it doesn't work out). 

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • You've spoken about your family putting pressure on you to settle down and follow that traditional path - tell me about your upbringing and how that pressure manifested? 
  • You got married quite young - what happened? 
  • You got "ghosted" by your husband - can you take us through that story?
  • Did you feel relief when the marriage ended? How did you heal? Have you done any personal development?
  • How has dating been as a divorcee in your early 30s? 

Follow me on Instagram for more dating stories: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/

Rav's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ravkr_
Fight Like A Girl Podcast: https://linktr.ee/flikeagirl

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9210406 Fri, 17 Sep 2021 14:00:00 +1000 3256 full false My Egg Freezing Journey (Part 2) with Women's Health Melbourne My Egg Freezing Journey (Part 2) with Women's Health Melbourne On today's episode, I am taking you through my egg freezing journey and the entire process from start to finish. 

The questions I answer on this episode:

  • Why did you want to get your eggs frozen? You've been talking about it for years now. 
  • Take us through the process from day 1 to the actual freezing?
  • How many eggs did you get? Is this a good result?
  • How did you feel after? How are you feeling now that you've got your period?
  • What happens now? 
  • What do you recommend for someone that is where you were a few years ago?
  • Why did you choose to freeze your eggs at Women's Health Melbourne & Dr Raelia Lew?

You can also follow my egg freezing journey on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/

A big thank you to Women's Health Melbourne, Dr Raelia Lew & Melbourne IVF for sponsoring my egg freezing journey.
WHM Website: https://www.womenshealthmelbourne.com.au/
Raelia's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drraelialew/
Knocked Up Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/knocked-up-the-podcast-about-fertility-and-womens-health/id1381363197

]]> On today's episode, I am taking you through my egg freezing journey and the entire process from start to finish. 

The questions I answer on this episode:

  • Why did you want to get your eggs frozen? You've been talking about it for years now. 
  • Take us through the process from day 1 to the actual freezing?
  • How many eggs did you get? Is this a good result?
  • How did you feel after? How are you feeling now that you've got your period?
  • What happens now? 
  • What do you recommend for someone that is where you were a few years ago?
  • Why did you choose to freeze your eggs at Women's Health Melbourne & Dr Raelia Lew?

You can also follow my egg freezing journey on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/

A big thank you to Women's Health Melbourne, Dr Raelia Lew & Melbourne IVF for sponsoring my egg freezing journey.
WHM Website: https://www.womenshealthmelbourne.com.au/
Raelia's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drraelialew/
Knocked Up Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/knocked-up-the-podcast-about-fertility-and-womens-health/id1381363197

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9137680 Sat, 04 Sep 2021 12:00:00 +1000 2044 full false Rebekah's Story: I Went On 138 Dates & Wrote A Book About It Rebekah's Story: I Went On 138 Dates & Wrote A Book About It On the outside, Rebekah Campbell had an amazing life... She was an entrepreneur living in Sydney. But on the inside, she was lonely and wanted love and a family. When she realised she hadn't been on a date in 10 years, she decided to apply the tactics she'd learnt building companies to find a partner. She went on dates with 138 different men and wrote a book about it. She faced humiliation, rejection and heartbreak.... But there was a happy ending!

Buy the book: https://www.booktopia.com.au/138-dates-rebekah-campbell/book/9781988547848.html
Website: https://rebekahcampbell.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebekahcampbellwriter/

]]> On the outside, Rebekah Campbell had an amazing life... She was an entrepreneur living in Sydney. But on the inside, she was lonely and wanted love and a family. When she realised she hadn't been on a date in 10 years, she decided to apply the tactics she'd learnt building companies to find a partner. She went on dates with 138 different men and wrote a book about it. She faced humiliation, rejection and heartbreak.... But there was a happy ending!

Buy the book: https://www.booktopia.com.au/138-dates-rebekah-campbell/book/9781988547848.html
Website: https://rebekahcampbell.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rebekahcampbellwriter/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-9057458 Fri, 20 Aug 2021 09:00:00 +1000 2366 full false Flakiness, Our Worst Dates & "The Poo Incident" with Joanna Fleming Flakiness, Our Worst Dates & "The Poo Incident" with Joanna Fleming Joanna Fleming is back by popular demand!! We cover A LOT... Would you rathers, marry/fuck/kill, dealing with flaky guys, our best and worst dates... the list goes on!

You can find Jo on the gram: @joannafleming 

]]> Joanna Fleming is back by popular demand!! We cover A LOT... Would you rathers, marry/fuck/kill, dealing with flaky guys, our best and worst dates... the list goes on!

You can find Jo on the gram: @joannafleming 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8984620 Fri, 06 Aug 2021 21:00:00 +1000 2392 full false Elina's Story: I Hiked 3000km Solo Elina's Story: I Hiked 3000km Solo During the pandemic, Elina Osborne set off on an adventure! She hiked the entire length of New Zealand solo - that's 3000km. She had already hiked the Pacific Crest Trail, the PCT, which is the trail featured in the book and movie Wild.

I have always wanted to do a long-distance hike but fear gets in the way. So I wanted to chat with Elina about how she overcomes her fears when heading off on a solo adventure.

We, of course, also chat about trail romances, and I learn some new dating terms like "Trail Goggles".

Elina's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elinasborne/
Elina's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/elinaosborne

]]> During the pandemic, Elina Osborne set off on an adventure! She hiked the entire length of New Zealand solo - that's 3000km. She had already hiked the Pacific Crest Trail, the PCT, which is the trail featured in the book and movie Wild.

I have always wanted to do a long-distance hike but fear gets in the way. So I wanted to chat with Elina about how she overcomes her fears when heading off on a solo adventure.

We, of course, also chat about trail romances, and I learn some new dating terms like "Trail Goggles".

Elina's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elinasborne/
Elina's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/elinaosborne

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8946280 Fri, 30 Jul 2021 13:00:00 +1000 2339 full false Making A Big Life Decision (aka My Lockdown Audio Diary) Making A Big Life Decision (aka My Lockdown Audio Diary) I've got a big life decision to make this week so I recorded my thought process! The questions I pondered: 

  • What are my values? 
  • How do I define success?
  • What's the worst that could happen if I don't say yes to this opportunity?
  • What were my reasons for leaving the traditional 9-5 life? 

Linda also recorded her own little audio diary so listen to the very end!

Thanks to this week's sponsor Normal! Visit itsnormal.com and use promo code SINGLEMINDED20 at checkout for 20% off your entire order.


]]> I've got a big life decision to make this week so I recorded my thought process! The questions I pondered: 

  • What are my values? 
  • How do I define success?
  • What's the worst that could happen if I don't say yes to this opportunity?
  • What were my reasons for leaving the traditional 9-5 life? 

Linda also recorded her own little audio diary so listen to the very end!

Thanks to this week's sponsor Normal! Visit itsnormal.com and use promo code SINGLEMINDED20 at checkout for 20% off your entire order.


]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8908996 Fri, 23 Jul 2021 12:00:00 +1000 2140 full false Making New Friends In Adulthood Making New Friends In Adulthood IT'S A LISTENER EPISODE! Thank you to our amazing listeners for contributing to this week's episode... We love you! Today we're discussing making friends in adulthood, especially when you're single and over 30 (but it's relevant to all life stages!) 

Some of the topics we'll cover are:

  • How friendships change as we get older 
  • Is it taboo for a woman to ask another woman out for a coffee?
  • What happens when your life stage is not the same as your current friendship group?
  • Tips on how to make friends in adulthood 
]]> IT'S A LISTENER EPISODE! Thank you to our amazing listeners for contributing to this week's episode... We love you! Today we're discussing making friends in adulthood, especially when you're single and over 30 (but it's relevant to all life stages!) 

Some of the topics we'll cover are:

  • How friendships change as we get older 
  • Is it taboo for a woman to ask another woman out for a coffee?
  • What happens when your life stage is not the same as your current friendship group?
  • Tips on how to make friends in adulthood 
]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8871758 Fri, 16 Jul 2021 11:00:00 +1000 1918 full false A Researcher Explains Why It Might Be Better To Sleep Alone A Researcher Explains Why It Might Be Better To Sleep Alone Sleep... It's so important to living a healthy life, yet we never question the relationship status quo of sleeping in the same bed. Well, we're here to try and normalise sleeping alone for those like me who like their own space at night. 

Dr Alix Mellor is a Postdoctoral Research Fellow at the Sleep Program at Turner Institute for Brain & Mental Health at Monash University. In this episode, she answers the following questions:

  • Let's start at the beginning: what makes a "good" night sleep? What are the necessary ingredients to achieving this?
  • Can you tell me a bit about the sleep study you conducted where one person in the couple had insomnia?
  • I personally don't sleep well with anyone else in the room (let alone the same bed) - is this common? 
  • I think there's a misconception that sleeping in separate beds is "the beginning of the end" of a relationship - what are the reasons couples might choose to sleep apart? I can imagine this might be a good thing if they're bad sleepers / snorers/ insomniacs?
  • How might someone broach the subject with a partner, whether it's long-term or casual? This really is a "it's not you, it's me" situation! 
  • In an article I read in the Guardian, you said that we need to normalise sleeping in separate beds - why do you think it's important to normalise it? 

Guest: Dr Alix Mellor
Website: https://research.monash.edu/en/persons/alix-mellor

]]> Sleep... It's so important to living a healthy life, yet we never question the relationship status quo of sleeping in the same bed. Well, we're here to try and normalise sleeping alone for those like me who like their own space at night. 

Dr Alix Mellor is a Postdoctoral Research Fellow at the Sleep Program at Turner Institute for Brain & Mental Health at Monash University. In this episode, she answers the following questions:

  • Let's start at the beginning: what makes a "good" night sleep? What are the necessary ingredients to achieving this?
  • Can you tell me a bit about the sleep study you conducted where one person in the couple had insomnia?
  • I personally don't sleep well with anyone else in the room (let alone the same bed) - is this common? 
  • I think there's a misconception that sleeping in separate beds is "the beginning of the end" of a relationship - what are the reasons couples might choose to sleep apart? I can imagine this might be a good thing if they're bad sleepers / snorers/ insomniacs?
  • How might someone broach the subject with a partner, whether it's long-term or casual? This really is a "it's not you, it's me" situation! 
  • In an article I read in the Guardian, you said that we need to normalise sleeping in separate beds - why do you think it's important to normalise it? 

Guest: Dr Alix Mellor
Website: https://research.monash.edu/en/persons/alix-mellor

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8834598 Fri, 09 Jul 2021 10:00:00 +1000 1671 full false Voice Memos Have Changed The Way We Date Voice Memos Have Changed The Way We Date “HE HAS SUCH A NICE VOICE”.... This is a very common interaction between me and Alisha on Instagram, where we share our dating stories daily. So we thought we’d record one of our chats...

Alisha, a content creator from Sydney, joins me today to chat about our shared experiences on dating apps, and how voice memos have changed the way we screen for dates. 

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • Tell me a bit about your relationship history - you became single after a long relationship?  
  • How have dating apps changed dating: the good, the bad and the ugly!
  • Voice memos: why have these changed the dating game for you? 
  • How do you stay resilient on dating apps?
  • How do you find not drinking on dates?

Guest: Alisha Bhojwani
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lishyglows/
Website: https://linktr.ee/AlishaBhojwani 

]]> “HE HAS SUCH A NICE VOICE”.... This is a very common interaction between me and Alisha on Instagram, where we share our dating stories daily. So we thought we’d record one of our chats...

Alisha, a content creator from Sydney, joins me today to chat about our shared experiences on dating apps, and how voice memos have changed the way we screen for dates. 

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • Tell me a bit about your relationship history - you became single after a long relationship?  
  • How have dating apps changed dating: the good, the bad and the ugly!
  • Voice memos: why have these changed the dating game for you? 
  • How do you stay resilient on dating apps?
  • How do you find not drinking on dates?

Guest: Alisha Bhojwani
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lishyglows/
Website: https://linktr.ee/AlishaBhojwani 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8794726 Fri, 02 Jul 2021 07:00:00 +1000 2186 full false A Psychologist Explains Why Rejection & Heartbreak Hurts So Much A Psychologist Explains Why Rejection & Heartbreak Hurts So Much We have a very special guest for the intro today: my mum’s bestie Tamara. We’re going to chat about solo travel over 50. 

On today’s episode, I interview Dr Guy Winch. I discovered Guy through a TED article he wrote on how rejection affects the brain. He also wrote a book 'How To Fix A Broken Heart', and talks a lot about healing from emotional pain. 

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • How has social media and dating apps changed the number of rejections we open ourselves up to? 
  • The constant stream of mini rejections on dating apps can really affect my self esteem. Are there differences between big or small rejections? Do smaller micro-rejections hurt less?
  • You’ve spoken before about the rejection experiment. How does the brain react to rejection? 
  • What are the evolutionary reasons for how our brain reacts to rejection?
  • Are there strategies for cushioning the blow of rejection? I think you call this “emotional first aid”.
  • While I've got you, you have a TED talk called "How to fix a broken heart" with over 7.4m views! Firstly, could you help us understand why breakups hurt so much? 
  • Could you share a few tips with us on how to recover from a break up?

Guest: Dr Guy Winch 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guywinch/
Podcast: https://www.guywinch.com/podcast/
Website: https://www.guywinch.com/

]]> We have a very special guest for the intro today: my mum’s bestie Tamara. We’re going to chat about solo travel over 50. 

On today’s episode, I interview Dr Guy Winch. I discovered Guy through a TED article he wrote on how rejection affects the brain. He also wrote a book 'How To Fix A Broken Heart', and talks a lot about healing from emotional pain. 

The questions we answer on this episode: 

  • How has social media and dating apps changed the number of rejections we open ourselves up to? 
  • The constant stream of mini rejections on dating apps can really affect my self esteem. Are there differences between big or small rejections? Do smaller micro-rejections hurt less?
  • You’ve spoken before about the rejection experiment. How does the brain react to rejection? 
  • What are the evolutionary reasons for how our brain reacts to rejection?
  • Are there strategies for cushioning the blow of rejection? I think you call this “emotional first aid”.
  • While I've got you, you have a TED talk called "How to fix a broken heart" with over 7.4m views! Firstly, could you help us understand why breakups hurt so much? 
  • Could you share a few tips with us on how to recover from a break up?

Guest: Dr Guy Winch 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guywinch/
Podcast: https://www.guywinch.com/podcast/
Website: https://www.guywinch.com/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8755614 Thu, 24 Jun 2021 22:00:00 +1000 2313 full false My Egg Freezing Journey (Part 1) with Dr Raelia Lew My Egg Freezing Journey (Part 1) with Dr Raelia Lew I'm doing it!!! I'm really excited to announce my partnership with Women's Health Melbourne, who are sponsoring my egg freezing journey. And as part of this collaboration, I get to share it with you guys!

On today's episode, I am interviewing Dr Raelia Lew, the fertility specialist who will be doing my egg freezing. It's really important in part 1 that I share the answers to all the questions I had prior to actually booking it in, straight from the expert's mouth. In part 2, I will be taking you through the actual egg freezing process. 

The questions we answer on this episode:

  • How does our fertility change as we get older? 
  • What age is ideal to do egg freezing? At what age do you not recommend it?
  • Are there fertility options once it's "too late" for egg freezing? 
  • Can you check your fertility before deciding to freeze your eggs? 
  • What is the egg freezing process?
  • How much does it cost? 
  • Up until what age can I use my frozen eggs?
  • Where would someone start if they're interested in egg freezing?

You can also follow my egg freezing journey on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/ 

Guest: Dr Raelia Lew
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drraelialew/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/knocked-up-the-podcast-about-fertility-and-womens-health/id1381363197
Website: https://www.womenshealthmelbourne.com.au/

]]> I'm doing it!!! I'm really excited to announce my partnership with Women's Health Melbourne, who are sponsoring my egg freezing journey. And as part of this collaboration, I get to share it with you guys!

On today's episode, I am interviewing Dr Raelia Lew, the fertility specialist who will be doing my egg freezing. It's really important in part 1 that I share the answers to all the questions I had prior to actually booking it in, straight from the expert's mouth. In part 2, I will be taking you through the actual egg freezing process. 

The questions we answer on this episode:

  • How does our fertility change as we get older? 
  • What age is ideal to do egg freezing? At what age do you not recommend it?
  • Are there fertility options once it's "too late" for egg freezing? 
  • Can you check your fertility before deciding to freeze your eggs? 
  • What is the egg freezing process?
  • How much does it cost? 
  • Up until what age can I use my frozen eggs?
  • Where would someone start if they're interested in egg freezing?

You can also follow my egg freezing journey on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/ 

Guest: Dr Raelia Lew
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drraelialew/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/knocked-up-the-podcast-about-fertility-and-womens-health/id1381363197
Website: https://www.womenshealthmelbourne.com.au/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8718361 Thu, 17 Jun 2021 21:00:00 +1000 2942 full false How Dating Apps Have Changed Dating How Dating Apps Have Changed Dating OUR LIVE SHOW AT MELBOURNE CENTRAL IS HERE! 

Linda considered calling in sick, but she made it in the end - and she did not look up at the crowd once. 

On today's episode we discuss: 

  • What dating was like in Linda's day ie. pre-internet 
  • Hannah's last seven days on dating apps 
  • Why rejection hurts so much 
  • How dating apps have changed dating 
  • How we can make online dating a little more bearable 
  • Why we need to normalise *actually*  showing up to dates
]]> OUR LIVE SHOW AT MELBOURNE CENTRAL IS HERE! 

Linda considered calling in sick, but she made it in the end - and she did not look up at the crowd once. 

On today's episode we discuss: 

  • What dating was like in Linda's day ie. pre-internet 
  • Hannah's last seven days on dating apps 
  • Why rejection hurts so much 
  • How dating apps have changed dating 
  • How we can make online dating a little more bearable 
  • Why we need to normalise *actually*  showing up to dates
]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8597775 Thu, 27 May 2021 19:00:00 +1000 2083 full false Sam's Story: Getting Sober & The Difficulty Of Dating Without Alcohol Sam's Story: Getting Sober & The Difficulty Of Dating Without Alcohol I am currently going through a break up... with my phone... and Linda wants to know how it is going. We're also getting prepped for our first Live show, and Linda has been having nightmares. 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, Sam Wilson  joins me to chat about her sober journey, including how to navigate the world of dating without alcohol. 

The questions we answer on this episode:

  • What made you decide to stop drinking? 
  • What were the challenges you faced when you stopped drinking?
  • How has dating changed since going sober? 
  • How do you navigate first dates without alcohol?
  • Tell me more about your sober community Sober Mates

Guest: Sam Wilson
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__sammywilson/
Sober Mates: https://www.instagram.com/sobermates/

If you want to follow my dating journey on Instagram, send me a DM to be added to my close friends @hannahfurst

]]> I am currently going through a break up... with my phone... and Linda wants to know how it is going. We're also getting prepped for our first Live show, and Linda has been having nightmares. 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, Sam Wilson  joins me to chat about her sober journey, including how to navigate the world of dating without alcohol. 

The questions we answer on this episode:

  • What made you decide to stop drinking? 
  • What were the challenges you faced when you stopped drinking?
  • How has dating changed since going sober? 
  • How do you navigate first dates without alcohol?
  • Tell me more about your sober community Sober Mates

Guest: Sam Wilson
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__sammywilson/
Sober Mates: https://www.instagram.com/sobermates/

If you want to follow my dating journey on Instagram, send me a DM to be added to my close friends @hannahfurst

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8559463 Fri, 21 May 2021 10:00:00 +1000 2217 full false Cara's Story: Why I Took Six Months Off Dating Cara's Story: Why I Took Six Months Off Dating Shadow marketing, sleeping in separate beds and the number sixty nine... Just a few of the very important issues Linda and I discuss on today's intro. 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, life-coach-in-training Cara Hays joins me to chat about her #SixMonthsOfMe experiment, where she dedicated six months to genuinely loving and accepting herself, rather than jumping into a relationship hoping a partner could solve all her problems. 

The questions we answer on this episode:

  • What happened when you took six months off dating to focus on yourself?
  • Why did you also need to reevaluate your relationship with alcohol?
  • How did you start journaling?
  • What happened at the end of the six months?
  • What was your journey towards self love?
  • How can single women work on feeling complete on their own?

I also really loved this quote, so I will end with that: 
"If external validation is your only source of nourishment you will be starving for the rest of your life".


Guest: Cara Hays
Website: https://www.carahays.com/
Instagram: @carahays

If you want to follow my dating journey on Instagram, send me a DM to be added to my close friends @hannahfurst

]]> Shadow marketing, sleeping in separate beds and the number sixty nine... Just a few of the very important issues Linda and I discuss on today's intro. 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, life-coach-in-training Cara Hays joins me to chat about her #SixMonthsOfMe experiment, where she dedicated six months to genuinely loving and accepting herself, rather than jumping into a relationship hoping a partner could solve all her problems. 

The questions we answer on this episode:

  • What happened when you took six months off dating to focus on yourself?
  • Why did you also need to reevaluate your relationship with alcohol?
  • How did you start journaling?
  • What happened at the end of the six months?
  • What was your journey towards self love?
  • How can single women work on feeling complete on their own?

I also really loved this quote, so I will end with that: 
"If external validation is your only source of nourishment you will be starving for the rest of your life".


Guest: Cara Hays
Website: https://www.carahays.com/
Instagram: @carahays

If you want to follow my dating journey on Instagram, send me a DM to be added to my close friends @hannahfurst

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8517756 Fri, 14 May 2021 12:00:00 +1000 2334 full false Bonne's Story: I Left Corporate Life To Forge My Own Path Bonne's Story: I Left Corporate Life To Forge My Own Path Linda and I have a lot to catch up on in the intro, including Noooooosa, nude beaches and an (almost) NLH.

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, life coach, fellow spiritual seeker and my friend Bonne Chance joins me again to chat about forging your own path in life. We met in Thailand a few months before the pandemic, and we've been discussing this topic a lot because Bonne just turned 40 and I just quit my full-time job.

The questions we answer on this episode:

  • When you were young, is this where you thought your life would be?
  • What messages do we get when we’re younger that form our ideas of the path we should take in life?
  • How did you define success then, and how about now?
  • We’ve both left “normal” corporate lives, what were your reasons for doing this? What kind of path are you following now?
  • Why is it so hard to follow our own path? What is blocking us?
  • What do you think makes a meaningful life? 


Guest: Bonne Chance
Website: http://www.bonnechancecoaching.com/
Instagram: @lebonnechance

If you want to follow my dating journey on Instagram, send me a DM to be added to my close friends @hannahfurst

]]> Linda and I have a lot to catch up on in the intro, including Noooooosa, nude beaches and an (almost) NLH.

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, life coach, fellow spiritual seeker and my friend Bonne Chance joins me again to chat about forging your own path in life. We met in Thailand a few months before the pandemic, and we've been discussing this topic a lot because Bonne just turned 40 and I just quit my full-time job.

The questions we answer on this episode:

  • When you were young, is this where you thought your life would be?
  • What messages do we get when we’re younger that form our ideas of the path we should take in life?
  • How did you define success then, and how about now?
  • We’ve both left “normal” corporate lives, what were your reasons for doing this? What kind of path are you following now?
  • Why is it so hard to follow our own path? What is blocking us?
  • What do you think makes a meaningful life? 


Guest: Bonne Chance
Website: http://www.bonnechancecoaching.com/
Instagram: @lebonnechance

If you want to follow my dating journey on Instagram, send me a DM to be added to my close friends @hannahfurst

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8475180 Fri, 07 May 2021 12:00:00 +1000 2792 full false Dating Icks & Not Taking Life Too Seriously with Joanna Fleming Dating Icks & Not Taking Life Too Seriously with Joanna Fleming WORLDS COLLIDING! I am so excited that my Beauty IQ co-host Joanna agreed to join me and Linda to exclusively talk about dating for a whole 40 minutes! And she's been saving up her dating stories just for you guys. 

The questions we cover in this episode: 

  • What was your dating New Year’s Resolution? How’s it going?
  • What do you love about being single? 
  • What are you looking for in a romantic partner? Give us your manifestation list! 
  • Why do you think I’m still single? BE HONEST!
  • Why do you think people are so obsessed with finding someone light, easygoing & who doesn’t take life too seriously? 
  • What do you wear on a first date? 
  • I’ve noticed people are really funny about grammar. You studied journalism, what are your thoughts on bad spelling & grammar on Hinge profiles?
  • What are your dating icks? Disclaimer: Icks are more of a reflection of you than them! 


Joanna's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joannafleming/
Skin FWD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/skinfwd/




]]> WORLDS COLLIDING! I am so excited that my Beauty IQ co-host Joanna agreed to join me and Linda to exclusively talk about dating for a whole 40 minutes! And she's been saving up her dating stories just for you guys. 

The questions we cover in this episode: 

  • What was your dating New Year’s Resolution? How’s it going?
  • What do you love about being single? 
  • What are you looking for in a romantic partner? Give us your manifestation list! 
  • Why do you think I’m still single? BE HONEST!
  • Why do you think people are so obsessed with finding someone light, easygoing & who doesn’t take life too seriously? 
  • What do you wear on a first date? 
  • I’ve noticed people are really funny about grammar. You studied journalism, what are your thoughts on bad spelling & grammar on Hinge profiles?
  • What are your dating icks? Disclaimer: Icks are more of a reflection of you than them! 


Joanna's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joannafleming/
Skin FWD Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/skinfwd/




]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8432961 Fri, 30 Apr 2021 14:00:00 +1000 2449 full false Turning 60: The Advice My Mum Would Give Her Younger Self Turning 60: The Advice My Mum Would Give Her Younger Self Mum turned 60 so today she shares her life lessons from her 60 years on this non-spiritual earth. Well, non-spiritual to her. I'm more woo-woo than ever.

We also chat about breast reductions, hot flushes, spiritual awakenings, status anxiety, having fun and why you need to floss every day.

You can check out her Kanye West flowers: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CM8LnyaDC-1/

Fave quote from the ep? Linda saying, "We can't blame our parents for everything!"

Thanks to this week's sponsor Foreo, innovative skincare tools for healthy and glowing skin.  Every purchase of UFO 2 receives a FREE box of Bulgarian Rose Masks & FOREO spa headband.The perfect gift for mother's day! Check it out here:
https://www.foreo.com/mothers-day?utm_source=singlemindedpod&utm_medium=ppr&utm_content=&utm_campaign=ppr-mothersday2021-ufo2-foreo-aae-top-brand-eng-au 

]]> Mum turned 60 so today she shares her life lessons from her 60 years on this non-spiritual earth. Well, non-spiritual to her. I'm more woo-woo than ever.

We also chat about breast reductions, hot flushes, spiritual awakenings, status anxiety, having fun and why you need to floss every day.

You can check out her Kanye West flowers: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CM8LnyaDC-1/

Fave quote from the ep? Linda saying, "We can't blame our parents for everything!"

Thanks to this week's sponsor Foreo, innovative skincare tools for healthy and glowing skin.  Every purchase of UFO 2 receives a FREE box of Bulgarian Rose Masks & FOREO spa headband.The perfect gift for mother's day! Check it out here:
https://www.foreo.com/mothers-day?utm_source=singlemindedpod&utm_medium=ppr&utm_content=&utm_campaign=ppr-mothersday2021-ufo2-foreo-aae-top-brand-eng-au 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8388509 Fri, 23 Apr 2021 13:00:00 +1000 1584 full false A Men's Dating Coach Gives His Perspective On Modern Dating A Men's Dating Coach Gives His Perspective On Modern Dating MY DAD JOINS AS CO-HOST TODAY... And Linda isn't happy about it! Because today we're getting a male dating coach's perspective on dating, so naturally I wanted my dad's thoughts on my own romantic prospects. 

Damien Diecke is the founder of School of Attraction, one of Australia's largest dating coaching companies, featuring in GQ and other major publications. Damien created a strategy to date women that was based on strategies he used to overcome his Severe Generalised Anxiety Disorder, with sincerity at the centre of what he teaches.  School of Attraction was founded on the idea that attracting a partner should be about self-confidence, not lying, pretending, or manipulating.

The questions we cover in this episode:

  1. What strategies did you use in your dating life to help you overcome your severe generalised anxiety disorder?
  2. You specialise in helping men date; what are some of the key themes you see with your clients? What are some of their biggest struggles? 
  3. Are all our struggles with dating the same? Do we need a little more empathy for each other? 
  4. What is sincere seduction?   
  5. What's your top dating tip?

Damien's website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com.au/

And if you'd like to added to my close friends on Instagram to follow my Bachelorette updates, send me a DM here: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/

]]> MY DAD JOINS AS CO-HOST TODAY... And Linda isn't happy about it! Because today we're getting a male dating coach's perspective on dating, so naturally I wanted my dad's thoughts on my own romantic prospects. 

Damien Diecke is the founder of School of Attraction, one of Australia's largest dating coaching companies, featuring in GQ and other major publications. Damien created a strategy to date women that was based on strategies he used to overcome his Severe Generalised Anxiety Disorder, with sincerity at the centre of what he teaches.  School of Attraction was founded on the idea that attracting a partner should be about self-confidence, not lying, pretending, or manipulating.

The questions we cover in this episode:

  1. What strategies did you use in your dating life to help you overcome your severe generalised anxiety disorder?
  2. You specialise in helping men date; what are some of the key themes you see with your clients? What are some of their biggest struggles? 
  3. Are all our struggles with dating the same? Do we need a little more empathy for each other? 
  4. What is sincere seduction?   
  5. What's your top dating tip?

Damien's website: https://www.schoolofattraction.com.au/

And if you'd like to added to my close friends on Instagram to follow my Bachelorette updates, send me a DM here: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8294831 Thu, 08 Apr 2021 22:00:00 +1000 1976 full false A Psychologist's Tips For Introverted, Shy & Socially Anxious People A Psychologist's Tips For Introverted, Shy & Socially Anxious People "For the millions of Americans who consider themselves quiet, shy, introverted, or socially anxious... A groundbreaking roadmap to finally being your true, authentic self."  When I read this on the cover of Dr Ellen Hendriksen's book How To Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic And Rise Above Social Anxiety, I knew I had to speak to her! 

Dr Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who completed her training at Harvard Medical School, has a PhD from UCLA and she actually personally lives with social anxiety. She helps people with social anxiety to develop confidence, think through the buzz of anxiety, and feel comfortable in any situation, so that they can be their true, authentic self.

The questions we cover in this episode:

  1. What is social anxiety? 
  2. Can extroverts have social anxiety? What’s the difference between social anxiety and introversion and shyness?
  3. What are some of the themes explored in your book?
  4. What are some myths about social anxiety?
  5. What are the upsides of social anxiety?
  6. What’s it like dating with social anxiety? 
  7. What are some practical tips for people avoiding dating due to anxiety?

Ellen's website: https://www.ellenhendriksen.com/
Ellen's book: https://www.amazon.com.au/How-Be-Yourself-Critic-Anxiety/dp/1250161703

And if you'd like to added to my close friends on Instagram to follow my Bachelorette updates, send me a DM here: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/

]]> "For the millions of Americans who consider themselves quiet, shy, introverted, or socially anxious... A groundbreaking roadmap to finally being your true, authentic self."  When I read this on the cover of Dr Ellen Hendriksen's book How To Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic And Rise Above Social Anxiety, I knew I had to speak to her! 

Dr Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who completed her training at Harvard Medical School, has a PhD from UCLA and she actually personally lives with social anxiety. She helps people with social anxiety to develop confidence, think through the buzz of anxiety, and feel comfortable in any situation, so that they can be their true, authentic self.

The questions we cover in this episode:

  1. What is social anxiety? 
  2. Can extroverts have social anxiety? What’s the difference between social anxiety and introversion and shyness?
  3. What are some of the themes explored in your book?
  4. What are some myths about social anxiety?
  5. What are the upsides of social anxiety?
  6. What’s it like dating with social anxiety? 
  7. What are some practical tips for people avoiding dating due to anxiety?

Ellen's website: https://www.ellenhendriksen.com/
Ellen's book: https://www.amazon.com.au/How-Be-Yourself-Critic-Anxiety/dp/1250161703

And if you'd like to added to my close friends on Instagram to follow my Bachelorette updates, send me a DM here: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8215770 Fri, 26 Mar 2021 23:00:00 +1100 2191 full false Dating 101: How To Tell Someone You're Not Interested Dating 101: How To Tell Someone You're Not Interested Things are gonna go a little differently this week! Every day from Thursday to Sunday, we will be releasing a quickie episodes, which will answer one listener question.

Thanks to Audrey Claire from My Wingwoman. Check out her upcoming workshops:
https://mywingwoman.com.au/workshops/

]]> Things are gonna go a little differently this week! Every day from Thursday to Sunday, we will be releasing a quickie episodes, which will answer one listener question.

Thanks to Audrey Claire from My Wingwoman. Check out her upcoming workshops:
https://mywingwoman.com.au/workshops/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8157408 Sun, 21 Mar 2021 06:00:00 +1100 701 bonus false Dating 101: How To End A First Date Dating 101: How To End A First Date Things are gonna go a little differently this week! Every day from Thursday to Sunday, we will be releasing a quickie episodes, which will answer one listener question.

Thanks to Audrey Claire from My Wingwoman. Check out her upcoming workshops:
https://mywingwoman.com.au/workshops/

]]> Things are gonna go a little differently this week! Every day from Thursday to Sunday, we will be releasing a quickie episodes, which will answer one listener question.

Thanks to Audrey Claire from My Wingwoman. Check out her upcoming workshops:
https://mywingwoman.com.au/workshops/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8157384 Sat, 20 Mar 2021 06:00:00 +1100 844 bonus false Dating 101: Should We Split The Bill? Dating 101: Should We Split The Bill? Things are gonna go a little differently this week! Every day from Thursday to Sunday, we will be releasing a quickie episodes, which will answer one listener question.

Thanks to Audrey Claire from My Wingwoman. Check out her upcoming workshops:
https://mywingwoman.com.au/workshops/

]]> Things are gonna go a little differently this week! Every day from Thursday to Sunday, we will be releasing a quickie episodes, which will answer one listener question.

Thanks to Audrey Claire from My Wingwoman. Check out her upcoming workshops:
https://mywingwoman.com.au/workshops/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8157370 Fri, 19 Mar 2021 06:00:00 +1100 439 bonus false Dating 101: How To Create A Dating Profile Dating 101: How To Create A Dating Profile Things are gonna go a little differently this week! Every day from Thursday to Sunday, we will be releasing a quickie episodes, which will answer one listener question.

Thanks to Audrey Claire from My Wingwoman. Check out her upcoming workshops:
https://mywingwoman.com.au/workshops/

]]> Things are gonna go a little differently this week! Every day from Thursday to Sunday, we will be releasing a quickie episodes, which will answer one listener question.

Thanks to Audrey Claire from My Wingwoman. Check out her upcoming workshops:
https://mywingwoman.com.au/workshops/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8157360 Thu, 18 Mar 2021 07:00:00 +1100 1098 bonus false Bibi's Story: Grieving For The Child I Never Had Bibi's Story: Grieving For The Child I Never Had I contacted journalist Bibi Lynch after reading some of her stories online about sex and dating over 50... Little did I know the direction this interview would take and how it completely would change my (and Linda's) perspective on involuntary childlessness. 

Bibi Lynch is a  journalist, writer, and broadcaster, she co-hosts the podcast Good Sex Bad Sex and is the proud creator of the acronym WHIPs (Women who are Hot, Intelligent and in their Prime). Bibi joins me to chat about dating and sex over 50, accepting your body as you get older, not feeling invisible in her 50s, dating on Twitter and she very openly and honestly shares her grief about not having children.

You can read more of Bibi's work on her website:
https://bibilynch.com/

Bibi's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bibilynch/
Gateway Women: https://gateway-women.com/

And if you'd like to added to my close friends on Instagram to follow my Bachelorette updates, send me a DM here: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/

]]> I contacted journalist Bibi Lynch after reading some of her stories online about sex and dating over 50... Little did I know the direction this interview would take and how it completely would change my (and Linda's) perspective on involuntary childlessness. 

Bibi Lynch is a  journalist, writer, and broadcaster, she co-hosts the podcast Good Sex Bad Sex and is the proud creator of the acronym WHIPs (Women who are Hot, Intelligent and in their Prime). Bibi joins me to chat about dating and sex over 50, accepting your body as you get older, not feeling invisible in her 50s, dating on Twitter and she very openly and honestly shares her grief about not having children.

You can read more of Bibi's work on her website:
https://bibilynch.com/

Bibi's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bibilynch/
Gateway Women: https://gateway-women.com/

And if you'd like to added to my close friends on Instagram to follow my Bachelorette updates, send me a DM here: https://www.instagram.com/hannahfurst/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-8126444 Fri, 12 Mar 2021 16:00:00 +1100 2166 full false The Shame & Stigma Of Being Single The Shame & Stigma Of Being Single "The “fun” part of being single isn’t dating. The fun part of being single is no different than the fun part of living life any other way. The fun part is what makes you happy, what gives you purpose. You will never convince me that married people have more purpose in being alive than I do."

I read these words by Shani Silver and instantly knew that I needed to meet her (under the guise of interviewing her, obvi).

Shani is 38, a writer and a podcaster, living in Brooklyn. She's been single for 12 years, and she's not ashamed of or upset about that. She is also on a mission to help single women change the stigma and shame around single women. Her attitude to single life is so infectious that even Linda doesn't give a flying fuck if I stay single forever. 

Okay, maybe she gives one tiny, little fuck. BUT, of her own volition, she's decided to stop making excuses for my single status when well-meaning friends ask Soooooo, has Hannah met someone yet?

We cover off the following questions: 

  • You've mentioned one of your top values is freedom - me too, I did a whole episode on it - what does freedom mean to you? 
  • Why is there so much shame around being single? How have you flipped the script for yourself?
  • In one of your articles, you said "The fun part of being single is no different than the fun part of living life any other way. The fun part is what makes you happy, what gives you purpose. You will never convince me that married people have more purpose in being alive than I do." - I just love and relate to this so much; there's not one path in life that leads to happiness. What's the best part of being single? 
  • You have a whole community of single women - what kinds of themes come up in your conversations with them?
  • You go to Paris every year alone - I go to Thailand - what do you love about it? Are you a big holiday romance person like me? 

 

This was one of the most enlightening interviews I've done, and I wish we could've covered all bases in 30 mins. Do yourself a favour and check out her Single Girl Syllabus, it's the perfect resource to feel better about being alone:
https://www.shanisilver.com/home/2020/3/17/the-single-girl-syllabus-reading-for-feeling-better-about-being-alone

Guest: Shani Silver
Website: https://www.shanisilver.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanisilver/

]]> "The “fun” part of being single isn’t dating. The fun part of being single is no different than the fun part of living life any other way. The fun part is what makes you happy, what gives you purpose. You will never convince me that married people have more purpose in being alive than I do."

I read these words by Shani Silver and instantly knew that I needed to meet her (under the guise of interviewing her, obvi).

Shani is 38, a writer and a podcaster, living in Brooklyn. She's been single for 12 years, and she's not ashamed of or upset about that. She is also on a mission to help single women change the stigma and shame around single women. Her attitude to single life is so infectious that even Linda doesn't give a flying fuck if I stay single forever. 

Okay, maybe she gives one tiny, little fuck. BUT, of her own volition, she's decided to stop making excuses for my single status when well-meaning friends ask Soooooo, has Hannah met someone yet?

We cover off the following questions: 

  • You've mentioned one of your top values is freedom - me too, I did a whole episode on it - what does freedom mean to you? 
  • Why is there so much shame around being single? How have you flipped the script for yourself?
  • In one of your articles, you said "The fun part of being single is no different than the fun part of living life any other way. The fun part is what makes you happy, what gives you purpose. You will never convince me that married people have more purpose in being alive than I do." - I just love and relate to this so much; there's not one path in life that leads to happiness. What's the best part of being single? 
  • You have a whole community of single women - what kinds of themes come up in your conversations with them?
  • You go to Paris every year alone - I go to Thailand - what do you love about it? Are you a big holiday romance person like me? 

 

This was one of the most enlightening interviews I've done, and I wish we could've covered all bases in 30 mins. Do yourself a favour and check out her Single Girl Syllabus, it's the perfect resource to feel better about being alone:
https://www.shanisilver.com/home/2020/3/17/the-single-girl-syllabus-reading-for-feeling-better-about-being-alone

Guest: Shani Silver
Website: https://www.shanisilver.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shanisilver/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-7940035 Thu, 18 Feb 2021 21:00:00 +1100 1923 full false Instant Chemistry Vs. Building A Connection With A Dating Coach Instant Chemistry Vs. Building A Connection With A Dating Coach Why do people cheat? And how do you recover if you've been cheated on?

There's a lot of statistics around who is more likely to cheat, but WHY do people cheat? Linda and I discuss one of the most viewed videos on infidelity by Esther Perel, with over 9.5 million views. You can watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q&ab_channel=TED

Esther Perel says, "When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from but the person we ourselves have become. We aren't looking for another person but looking for another self."

But what about the person being cheated on? I first discovered Jess' story on the Love Etc podcast, and I really wanted to know what happened in the aftermath of her story. How was her self esteem affected? How did she get back into the dating scene? What does she love about being single now? And I was happy to hear it's a happy ending for Jess. Spoiler alert: she is living her best life! I hope this gives hope to anyone out there who has recently been cheated on. 

Guest:  Jess Rae King

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessraeking/


Dear listeners, we love your dating stories! Submit your weirdest, wildest, worst or most wonderful dating stories via Instagram DMs @hannahfurst or email a voice memo to singlemindedpod@gmail.com

]]> Why do people cheat? And how do you recover if you've been cheated on?

There's a lot of statistics around who is more likely to cheat, but WHY do people cheat? Linda and I discuss one of the most viewed videos on infidelity by Esther Perel, with over 9.5 million views. You can watch it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q&ab_channel=TED

Esther Perel says, "When we seek the gaze of another, it isn't always our partner we're turning away from but the person we ourselves have become. We aren't looking for another person but looking for another self."

But what about the person being cheated on? I first discovered Jess' story on the Love Etc podcast, and I really wanted to know what happened in the aftermath of her story. How was her self esteem affected? How did she get back into the dating scene? What does she love about being single now? And I was happy to hear it's a happy ending for Jess. Spoiler alert: she is living her best life! I hope this gives hope to anyone out there who has recently been cheated on. 

Guest:  Jess Rae King

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessraeking/


Dear listeners, we love your dating stories! Submit your weirdest, wildest, worst or most wonderful dating stories via Instagram DMs @hannahfurst or email a voice memo to singlemindedpod@gmail.com

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-7818985 Fri, 12 Feb 2021 12:00:00 +1100 2130 full false Reviewing The Darkest Dating Movie: Promising Young Woman Reviewing The Darkest Dating Movie: Promising Young Woman WELCOME TO A BONUS EPISODE OF SINGLE MINDED... BECAUSE I'M A BIT OF A "MOVIE BUFF".  Please note there are spoilers throughout so if you haven't seen Promising Young Woman, either skip it or take yourself out on a solo date and see it!  

Today I'm joined by Dr Janice Loreck to discuss Promising Young Woman. We chat about complicated female characters, women expressing rage on screen, the cinematic joy of watching men bumping and grinding on a dancefloor in their suits and I also ask some hard-hitting questions like, is going to the movies a good first date idea? We also chat about our shared love of going to the movies alone, and why you should definitely take yourself on a date to the movies ASAP.

Janice is a lecturer in Screen and Cultural Studies at Melbourne Uni; she has a PhD in Film and Screen Studies, and her research expertise centres on cinefeminism & women's filmmaking. She is the author of the book Violent Women in Contemporary Cinema and has published in numerous international journals on feminist film theory. 

Dr Loreck is also a co-organiser and founding member of the Melbourne Women in Film Festival (MWFF), a not-for-profit festival aimed at celebrating and supporting the work of women filmmakers and creatives. 

You can find find her on Twitter here: https://twitter.com/janiceloreck

]]> WELCOME TO A BONUS EPISODE OF SINGLE MINDED... BECAUSE I'M A BIT OF A "MOVIE BUFF".  Please note there are spoilers throughout so if you haven't seen Promising Young Woman, either skip it or take yourself out on a solo date and see it!  

Today I'm joined by Dr Janice Loreck to discuss Promising Young Woman. We chat about complicated female characters, women expressing rage on screen, the cinematic joy of watching men bumping and grinding on a dancefloor in their suits and I also ask some hard-hitting questions like, is going to the movies a good first date idea? We also chat about our shared love of going to the movies alone, and why you should definitely take yourself on a date to the movies ASAP.

Janice is a lecturer in Screen and Cultural Studies at Melbourne Uni; she has a PhD in Film and Screen Studies, and her research expertise centres on cinefeminism & women's filmmaking. She is the author of the book Violent Women in Contemporary Cinema and has published in numerous international journals on feminist film theory. 

Dr Loreck is also a co-organiser and founding member of the Melbourne Women in Film Festival (MWFF), a not-for-profit festival aimed at celebrating and supporting the work of women filmmakers and creatives. 

You can find find her on Twitter here: https://twitter.com/janiceloreck

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-7736149 Mon, 08 Feb 2021 16:00:00 +1100 1050 bonus false Make Dating Fun Again Make Dating Fun Again Linda told a sexy story on today's podcast, prefacing it with, "I've never told you this story, it's too embarrassing." 

BUT YOU'RE OKAY TELLING THOUSANDS OF LISTENERS? Linda is a true content creator now. Our new family motto is: "Anything for the content."

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to one of our listeners, Emma. YES IT'S MY FIRST LISTENER INTERVIEW! Fellow 30-something single girl, Emma, shared her project 'Budget Bachelorette', and I instantly knew THIS IS THE CONTENT WE NEED IN 2021. Her goal? To flip the narrative of the 'modern dating is shit' trope. None of her dates have been a success, if success is measured by wanting to go on a second date. HOWEVER, they've been FUN.

Maybe we need to redefine our definition of success when it comes to dating?

SO, SINGLE MINDED LADIES, LET'S MAKE DATING FUN AGAIN! As Emma says, "it's an opportunity to meet someone new, have a few drinks, and see how things go..."

Or an opportunity to go skinny dipping. But more on that in the episode.

If you're keen to read more about 101 Nights of Great Sex: Secret Sealed Seductions for Fun-Loving Couples, here's Linda's book recommendation: https://www.amazon.com.au/101-Nights-Great-Sex-2020-dp-0578551667/dp/0578551667/ref=dp_ob_title_bk

Maybe she should start a book club? Anything for the content...

Guest:  Emma
Her Instagram: @emmypens
Don't forget to DM her and ask to be added to her close friends if you're keen to watch her Budget Bachelorette highlights

Dear listeners, I want to hear more of your weird and wonderful dating stories. Hit me up on Instagram @hannahfurst to share yours. 

]]> Linda told a sexy story on today's podcast, prefacing it with, "I've never told you this story, it's too embarrassing." 

BUT YOU'RE OKAY TELLING THOUSANDS OF LISTENERS? Linda is a true content creator now. Our new family motto is: "Anything for the content."

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to one of our listeners, Emma. YES IT'S MY FIRST LISTENER INTERVIEW! Fellow 30-something single girl, Emma, shared her project 'Budget Bachelorette', and I instantly knew THIS IS THE CONTENT WE NEED IN 2021. Her goal? To flip the narrative of the 'modern dating is shit' trope. None of her dates have been a success, if success is measured by wanting to go on a second date. HOWEVER, they've been FUN.

Maybe we need to redefine our definition of success when it comes to dating?

SO, SINGLE MINDED LADIES, LET'S MAKE DATING FUN AGAIN! As Emma says, "it's an opportunity to meet someone new, have a few drinks, and see how things go..."

Or an opportunity to go skinny dipping. But more on that in the episode.

If you're keen to read more about 101 Nights of Great Sex: Secret Sealed Seductions for Fun-Loving Couples, here's Linda's book recommendation: https://www.amazon.com.au/101-Nights-Great-Sex-2020-dp-0578551667/dp/0578551667/ref=dp_ob_title_bk

Maybe she should start a book club? Anything for the content...

Guest:  Emma
Her Instagram: @emmypens
Don't forget to DM her and ask to be added to her close friends if you're keen to watch her Budget Bachelorette highlights

Dear listeners, I want to hear more of your weird and wonderful dating stories. Hit me up on Instagram @hannahfurst to share yours. 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-7408855 Thu, 21 Jan 2021 23:00:00 +1100 2437 full false You Are Your Own Purpose & Other Spiritual Gems You Are Your Own Purpose & Other Spiritual Gems Me: "The legend goes that Koh Phangan in Thailand is sitting on rose quartz which is a healing crystal energy... And that's why it's so magical." 

Linda: "Well... Okay... I can't get with the program but whatever floats your boat."

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I fill Linda in on my psychic reading and energy healing sessions I had over the Christmas break. Linda doesn't believe in psychics, but she is open to learning more about energy. Enter Raelene... I did a 90 minute healing session with her on the last day of 2020, and afterwards had the BEST SLEEP OF MY LIFE.  You can't argue with that kind of scientific research, now can you Linda? When Raelene asked me what I wanted clarity on, of course I said men. 

At the end of the sesh, I had a BIG lightbulb moment.

Um... Do I choose the wrong men???

One of the most profound things Raelene said to me in our session was: "You are your purpose." What the hell does that mean? You'll have to listen to the episode to find out ;)

Guest: Raelene Byrne
Her website: https://raelenebyrne.com/
Her eBooks: https://raelenebyrne.com/ebooks
You can book in for energy work here: https://raelenebyrne.com/90-and-60-minute-consultations/

]]> Me: "The legend goes that Koh Phangan in Thailand is sitting on rose quartz which is a healing crystal energy... And that's why it's so magical." 

Linda: "Well... Okay... I can't get with the program but whatever floats your boat."

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I fill Linda in on my psychic reading and energy healing sessions I had over the Christmas break. Linda doesn't believe in psychics, but she is open to learning more about energy. Enter Raelene... I did a 90 minute healing session with her on the last day of 2020, and afterwards had the BEST SLEEP OF MY LIFE.  You can't argue with that kind of scientific research, now can you Linda? When Raelene asked me what I wanted clarity on, of course I said men. 

At the end of the sesh, I had a BIG lightbulb moment.

Um... Do I choose the wrong men???

One of the most profound things Raelene said to me in our session was: "You are your purpose." What the hell does that mean? You'll have to listen to the episode to find out ;)

Guest: Raelene Byrne
Her website: https://raelenebyrne.com/
Her eBooks: https://raelenebyrne.com/ebooks
You can book in for energy work here: https://raelenebyrne.com/90-and-60-minute-consultations/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-7272283 Wed, 13 Jan 2021 22:00:00 +1100 1751 full false Kat's Story: Save Your F*cks For The Things That Matter Kat's Story: Save Your F*cks For The Things That Matter Something that Kat said this week reaaaaaally resonated with Linda. Kat said she used to morph into her partners (which wasn't a good thing) and Linda remembered when she first started dating my dad, she told him that she loooooved to camp (even though she'd never been). That didn't last long lol. THEN DAD MORPHED INTO LINDA, and now he won't come camping WITH ME! 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to life coach and medication teacher Kat John, who also founded the dance movement Zero Fks Tuesday, also known on Instagram as #zftuesday. I've been to a number of her dance events and OMG THEY ARE AMAZING! You will be high on life in a matter of songs.  

Kat and I talk about her journey from chronic pain to freedom, as well as why she abstained from dating for 18 months, how she met her current partner and why dance is so healing. AND THIS WEEK I'M GONNA DO MY VERY FIRST #ZFTUESDAY VIDEO SO FOLLOW ME AND PLAY ALONG @hannahfurst 

And don't forget, dear listeners... Save your fks for the things that matter.

Guest: Kat John

Her website: https://katjohn.com.au/

Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kat.john/

And definitely check out the hashtag to get inspired: https://www.instagram.com/explore/tags/zftuesday/

]]> Something that Kat said this week reaaaaaally resonated with Linda. Kat said she used to morph into her partners (which wasn't a good thing) and Linda remembered when she first started dating my dad, she told him that she loooooved to camp (even though she'd never been). That didn't last long lol. THEN DAD MORPHED INTO LINDA, and now he won't come camping WITH ME! 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to life coach and medication teacher Kat John, who also founded the dance movement Zero Fks Tuesday, also known on Instagram as #zftuesday. I've been to a number of her dance events and OMG THEY ARE AMAZING! You will be high on life in a matter of songs.  

Kat and I talk about her journey from chronic pain to freedom, as well as why she abstained from dating for 18 months, how she met her current partner and why dance is so healing. AND THIS WEEK I'M GONNA DO MY VERY FIRST #ZFTUESDAY VIDEO SO FOLLOW ME AND PLAY ALONG @hannahfurst 

And don't forget, dear listeners... Save your fks for the things that matter.

Guest: Kat John

Her website: https://katjohn.com.au/

Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kat.john/

And definitely check out the hashtag to get inspired: https://www.instagram.com/explore/tags/zftuesday/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-7170184 Thu, 07 Jan 2021 12:00:00 +1100 2819 full false A Love Coach On Ghosting, Flirting & His Top Dating Tips A Love Coach On Ghosting, Flirting & His Top Dating Tips GREETINGS FROM (NOT A) VIRGIN RIVER! Linda and I have a lot to catch up with since I got over the border into Queensland, including manifesting my very own Jack Sheridan. 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to Shaun Galanos, love coach and the founder of The Love Drive. I discovered his bite-sized dating advice through Tik Tok, where he has over 230k followers.  

We chat about ghosting, his top dating tips and how to flirt with confidence. I really loved his philosophy that if flirting stresses you out, just don't do it. Just be you! 

Guest: Shaun Galanos

His flirting course: https://thelovedrive.com/flirting-and-connection-course/ 

His Instagram & Tik Tok: @TheLoveDrive

The Love Drive podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-love-drive-with-shaun-galanos/id1355859570

]]> GREETINGS FROM (NOT A) VIRGIN RIVER! Linda and I have a lot to catch up with since I got over the border into Queensland, including manifesting my very own Jack Sheridan. 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to Shaun Galanos, love coach and the founder of The Love Drive. I discovered his bite-sized dating advice through Tik Tok, where he has over 230k followers.  

We chat about ghosting, his top dating tips and how to flirt with confidence. I really loved his philosophy that if flirting stresses you out, just don't do it. Just be you! 

Guest: Shaun Galanos

His flirting course: https://thelovedrive.com/flirting-and-connection-course/ 

His Instagram & Tik Tok: @TheLoveDrive

The Love Drive podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-love-drive-with-shaun-galanos/id1355859570

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-6996355 Thu, 24 Dec 2020 20:00:00 +1100 2099 full false Alex's Story: Becoming A Single Mum Through A Sperm Donor Alex's Story: Becoming A Single Mum Through A Sperm Donor LINDA WENT ROGUE THIS WEEK! After I interviewed Alexandra Collier on her experiences on becoming a single mother with a sperm donor, Linda decided to reach out to her via email to ask her all the important questions that I had apparently missed... Alexandra (or as Linda now knows her, Ally) kindly obliged. 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to writer Alexandra Collier, who lived in New York for 10 years, before moving to Melbourne to start the process of becoming a single mother by choice. AND I HAD SO MANY QUESTIONS! As someone that is considering freezing their eggs, it was inspiring to hear from a woman who is breaking down the stigma of having a child alone.  

You can read her Sydney Morning Herald piece here: https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/leaving-the-land-of-romantic-fantasy-why-i-chose-to-be-a-single-mum-20201007-p562xu.html

"Leaving the land of romantic fantasy"... HERE, HERE! 

Guest: Alexandra Collier

Her website: https://www.alexandracollier.com/

Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexandracollierwrites/

]]> LINDA WENT ROGUE THIS WEEK! After I interviewed Alexandra Collier on her experiences on becoming a single mother with a sperm donor, Linda decided to reach out to her via email to ask her all the important questions that I had apparently missed... Alexandra (or as Linda now knows her, Ally) kindly obliged. 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to writer Alexandra Collier, who lived in New York for 10 years, before moving to Melbourne to start the process of becoming a single mother by choice. AND I HAD SO MANY QUESTIONS! As someone that is considering freezing their eggs, it was inspiring to hear from a woman who is breaking down the stigma of having a child alone.  

You can read her Sydney Morning Herald piece here: https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/leaving-the-land-of-romantic-fantasy-why-i-chose-to-be-a-single-mum-20201007-p562xu.html

"Leaving the land of romantic fantasy"... HERE, HERE! 

Guest: Alexandra Collier

Her website: https://www.alexandracollier.com/

Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexandracollierwrites/

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-6874178 Thu, 17 Dec 2020 06:00:00 +1100 2169 full false Why Are We So Lonely? Why Are We So Lonely? In the wise words of the poet Britney Spears: 

My loneliness is killing me
I must confess I still believe 
When I'm not with you I lose my mind
Give me a sign, hit me baby one more time

They say that millennials are the loneliest generation, despite being hyper-connected by social media. Why do we feel so lonely when there’s a million strangers to chat to online? I dunno… Maybe because we’re lacking meaningful, IRL connections. I know I'm guilty of thinking a DM can replace a D&M. 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to Vanessa Staub, a psychologist and the co-founder of Be Well Collective, about the difference between loneliness and being alone, and she also gives some practical tips to find and connect with your tribe. 

Now that lockdown is over, it’s time to get myself out of my comfort zone and go on a few friendship dates. Wish me luck! 

Guest: Vanessa Staub

Her website: https://www.thebewellcollective.com.au/ 

Be Well Collective Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_bewellcollective/ 

Vanessa’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessastaubpsychology/ 

]]> In the wise words of the poet Britney Spears: 

My loneliness is killing me
I must confess I still believe 
When I'm not with you I lose my mind
Give me a sign, hit me baby one more time

They say that millennials are the loneliest generation, despite being hyper-connected by social media. Why do we feel so lonely when there’s a million strangers to chat to online? I dunno… Maybe because we’re lacking meaningful, IRL connections. I know I'm guilty of thinking a DM can replace a D&M. 

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, I chat to Vanessa Staub, a psychologist and the co-founder of Be Well Collective, about the difference between loneliness and being alone, and she also gives some practical tips to find and connect with your tribe. 

Now that lockdown is over, it’s time to get myself out of my comfort zone and go on a few friendship dates. Wish me luck! 

Guest: Vanessa Staub

Her website: https://www.thebewellcollective.com.au/ 

Be Well Collective Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_bewellcollective/ 

Vanessa’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessastaubpsychology/ 

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-6765433 Wed, 09 Dec 2020 17:00:00 +1100 1951 full false The Art of Solo Travel The Art of Solo Travel YES I KNOW WE CAN'T TRAVEL INTERNATIONALLY... But we have a big, beautiful country to explore, right here in Australia. As you're listening to this episode, Linda and I will be on a road trip to Byron Bay, so I thought now was the perfect opportunity to give you all my tips and tricks for travelling alone. The only time Linda has ever travelled alone was when she spent a year in London... And her parents flew to London to DROP HER OFF and then a year later, they flew back to London to PICK HER UP. LOL. 

So back to solo travel -  we cover your most-asked questions: How to meet people? How to avoid dangerous situations? How to find a clean hostel? How to dine solo? And it wouldn't be an episode on solo travel without some of my best travel romance stories. 

Colin Farrell, if you're listening, WAS IT YOU?

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share your experiences with doing the challenge with me on Instagram over at @hannahfurst



]]> YES I KNOW WE CAN'T TRAVEL INTERNATIONALLY... But we have a big, beautiful country to explore, right here in Australia. As you're listening to this episode, Linda and I will be on a road trip to Byron Bay, so I thought now was the perfect opportunity to give you all my tips and tricks for travelling alone. The only time Linda has ever travelled alone was when she spent a year in London... And her parents flew to London to DROP HER OFF and then a year later, they flew back to London to PICK HER UP. LOL. 

So back to solo travel -  we cover your most-asked questions: How to meet people? How to avoid dangerous situations? How to find a clean hostel? How to dine solo? And it wouldn't be an episode on solo travel without some of my best travel romance stories. 

Colin Farrell, if you're listening, WAS IT YOU?

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share your experiences with doing the challenge with me on Instagram over at @hannahfurst



]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-6538927 Thu, 26 Nov 2020 00:00:00 +1100 1705 full false What The Hell Is 'Love Bombing'? What The Hell Is 'Love Bombing'? HAVE YOU BEEN LOVE BOMBED? I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW I HAD UNTIL THIS INTERVIEW. I thought it was normal for guys to ask you to move in after three dates. No, just me? Linda discovers she's also been love bombed. After listening to today's interview, Linda's finally ready to delete the Pinterest board of my future-non-existent wedding.

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, psychotherapist and the founder of of the website Loving Me After We - Ginger Dean - joins me to chat about RED FLAGS. Ginger helps women heal after toxic relationships by focussing less on getting over someone by getting under someone else and more on self-love and rebuilding confidence.

Guest: Ginger Dean
YouTube Channel: https://www.lovingmeafterwe.com/
Instagram: @lovingmeafterwe

Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share your experiences with doing the challenge with me on Instagram over at @hannahfurst

]]> HAVE YOU BEEN LOVE BOMBED? I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW I HAD UNTIL THIS INTERVIEW. I thought it was normal for guys to ask you to move in after three dates. No, just me? Linda discovers she's also been love bombed. After listening to today's interview, Linda's finally ready to delete the Pinterest board of my future-non-existent wedding.

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, psychotherapist and the founder of of the website Loving Me After We - Ginger Dean - joins me to chat about RED FLAGS. Ginger helps women heal after toxic relationships by focussing less on getting over someone by getting under someone else and more on self-love and rebuilding confidence.

Guest: Ginger Dean
YouTube Channel: https://www.lovingmeafterwe.com/
Instagram: @lovingmeafterwe

Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share your experiences with doing the challenge with me on Instagram over at @hannahfurst

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-6322267 Wed, 11 Nov 2020 21:00:00 +1100 1877 full false Eat, Pray & Self Love Eat, Pray & Self Love LOCKDOWN IS OVER... So it's time to manifest ALL the high vibes in 2021. What better way to do that than to talk about Linda's least favourite topic: high vibrational energy and manifestation. I think the best moment was Linda calling The Secret "The Promise".

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, life coach and fellow spiritual seeker Bonne Chance joins me to... oh my god... there is so much to unpack in this episode I don't even know where to begin. Bonne and I met in Thailand (duh, where else?) while she was on her own Eat Pray Love journey, and we became fast friends. She is brimming with wisdom and light and positive energy... And she wants more women to find more joy. I honestly could've spoken to her for another 10 hours, but I tried not to turn this interview into my own personal coaching session.

This week's challenge is a toughie, but a goodie. Hope you enjoy playing along, and don't forget to DM me on the gram to tell me all about it.

Guest: Bonne Chance
Website: http://www.bonnechancecoaching.com/
Instagram: @lebonnechance

Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share your experiences with doing the challenge with me on Instagram over at @hannahfurst

]]> LOCKDOWN IS OVER... So it's time to manifest ALL the high vibes in 2021. What better way to do that than to talk about Linda's least favourite topic: high vibrational energy and manifestation. I think the best moment was Linda calling The Secret "The Promise".

This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, life coach and fellow spiritual seeker Bonne Chance joins me to... oh my god... there is so much to unpack in this episode I don't even know where to begin. Bonne and I met in Thailand (duh, where else?) while she was on her own Eat Pray Love journey, and we became fast friends. She is brimming with wisdom and light and positive energy... And she wants more women to find more joy. I honestly could've spoken to her for another 10 hours, but I tried not to turn this interview into my own personal coaching session.

This week's challenge is a toughie, but a goodie. Hope you enjoy playing along, and don't forget to DM me on the gram to tell me all about it.

Guest: Bonne Chance
Website: http://www.bonnechancecoaching.com/
Instagram: @lebonnechance

Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share your experiences with doing the challenge with me on Instagram over at @hannahfurst

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-6103168 Thu, 29 Oct 2020 05:00:00 +1100 3264 full false A Dating Coach Gives Her Best Dating App Tips A Dating Coach Gives Her Best Dating App Tips I didn't scare Linda off... So we're BACK! This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, dating coach Audrey Claire from My Wingwoman joins me to talk all things dating apps. The good, the bad and the ugly. She shares both practical advice, but also reminds us that the apps are 'JUST A TOOL'. Not a treasure chest of gold waiting to be opened. My mind was blown.

This week's challenge for any single gals out there wanting to play along: it's time to "upgrade" to a video chat with someone you're chatting to on the apps. Linda is not playing along this week; HOWEVER, she did jump on my Hinge to update my profile to attract the right mate for her... lol.

Guest: Audrey Claire
Website: https://mywingwoman.com.au/
Instagram: @my.wingwoman

Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share your experiences with doing the challenge with me on Instagram over at @hannahfurst

]]> I didn't scare Linda off... So we're BACK! This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Because being single is awesome.

On today's episode, dating coach Audrey Claire from My Wingwoman joins me to talk all things dating apps. The good, the bad and the ugly. She shares both practical advice, but also reminds us that the apps are 'JUST A TOOL'. Not a treasure chest of gold waiting to be opened. My mind was blown.

This week's challenge for any single gals out there wanting to play along: it's time to "upgrade" to a video chat with someone you're chatting to on the apps. Linda is not playing along this week; HOWEVER, she did jump on my Hinge to update my profile to attract the right mate for her... lol.

Guest: Audrey Claire
Website: https://mywingwoman.com.au/
Instagram: @my.wingwoman

Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share your experiences with doing the challenge with me on Instagram over at @hannahfurst

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-5987596 Thu, 22 Oct 2020 06:00:00 +1100 2738 full false Mel Schilling From MAFS Gave Up On Finding Love Mel Schilling From MAFS Gave Up On Finding Love WELCOME WELCOME! This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Whether you're dating, not dating, dating yourself or just having fun, you are welcome here. 

On today's episode, MAFS matchmaker Mel Schilling joins me to share her story as a 30-something single who had given up on meeting someone, and she shares a lot of the wisdom about what she's learnt along the way.

Freedom as a core value was something Mel and I both share, but everyone's values are different, so the challenge this week is to do a core values exercise. Even Linda is playing along. Here's the one I did: https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTED_85.htm

Guest: Mel Schilling
Website: https://melanieschilling.com/
Instagram: @mel_schilling1

Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share your experiences with doing the challenge with me on Instagram over at @hannahfurst

]]> WELCOME WELCOME! This is Single Minded, the podcast flipping the script on being single. Whether you're dating, not dating, dating yourself or just having fun, you are welcome here. 

On today's episode, MAFS matchmaker Mel Schilling joins me to share her story as a 30-something single who had given up on meeting someone, and she shares a lot of the wisdom about what she's learnt along the way.

Freedom as a core value was something Mel and I both share, but everyone's values are different, so the challenge this week is to do a core values exercise. Even Linda is playing along. Here's the one I did: https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTED_85.htm

Guest: Mel Schilling
Website: https://melanieschilling.com/
Instagram: @mel_schilling1

Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share your experiences with doing the challenge with me on Instagram over at @hannahfurst

]]> Hannah Furst Buzzsprout-5906023 Thu, 15 Oct 2020 19:00:00 +1100 2175 full false