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A Submissive’s Rosary: Using Ritual and Repetition to Deepen Devotion | Submissive Guide

Wed, 19 Aug 2026 12:00:00 -0500

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Ritual can be a powerful part of submission, but it does not have to be elaborate, formal, or religious to be meaningful. Sometimes, a repeated phrase, a familiar posture, or the feel of beads moving through your fingers can help quiet the mind and bring you back to your submission with more intention.

In this episode, Luna explores the idea of a submissive’s rosary as one example of devotional ritual in D/s. Instead of focusing on the rosary as something every submissive should use, this conversation looks at the deeper purpose behind ritual, repetition, and tactile meditation.

You’ll learn how repeated actions can help create focus, why ritual can bring peace and grounding to submission, and how to adapt devotional practices in a way that respects religious structures, personal boundaries, and the unique needs of your own dynamic.

Whether you are drawn to prayer beads, kneeling rituals, affirmations, meditation, or simple moments of quiet reflection, this episode invites you to think about how ritual can help you return to your submission with care, consent, and intention.

In This Episode

What makes a ritual devotional in D/s
Why repetition can help quiet the mind
How prayer beads, rosaries, malas, and other counting tools support meditation
Using ritual to reconnect with service, surrender, gratitude, and peace
Why a submissive’s rosary is one example, not a universal template
Respectfully adapting religious or spiritual structures
Choosing words, posture, and physical anchors for your own ritual
How ritual can support submission without erasing autonomy
Why devotional submission should remain consensual, conscious, and self-aware
How small repeated practices can deepen your connection to your role

Resources & Links

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The BDSM Checklist That Will Really Help You | Submissive Guide

Wed, 01 Jul 2026 12:00:00 -0500

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When people first begin exploring BDSM, they often look for a giant checklist full of every kink activity imaginable. But real scene planning is rarely about checking boxes or trying to prove how adventurous you are. It’s about building experiences that feel intentional, safe, exciting, and satisfying for everyone involved.

In this episode, Luna breaks down a more practical approach to negotiation and scene planning using a simple YES / NO / MAYBE framework, emotional intention setting, and real-world communication strategies that actually help scenes go smoothly.

You’ll learn why the mood of a scene matters more than an endless activity list, how to negotiate with more confidence, and why logistics, boundaries, communication, and aftercare deserve just as much attention as the fantasy itself.

Whether you’re completely new to BDSM or looking to improve your scene negotiations, this episode offers practical tools you can immediately bring into your next play experience.

In This Episode

Why giant BDSM checklists often fail people
How to build a practical YES / NO / MAYBE list
Starting with emotional tone instead of activities
Discussing limits, boundaries, and sensitivities
Why compatibility matters more than shared interests
Mapping the emotional arc of a scene
Communication systems and safety check-ins
Negotiating aftercare before play begins
The importance of logistics and realistic planning

Resources & Links

📖 Read the companion article:
“The BDSM Checklist That Will Really Help You” on Submissive Guide

Here are two BDSM Checklists that I especially like:

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Speaking With Purpose: How to Communicate Clearly in Submission

Wed, 03 Jun 2026 12:00:00 -0500

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What does it really mean to communicate clearly in submission?

In this episode of the Submissive Guide Podcast, Luna explores the difference between sounding submissive and speaking with purpose. Many submissives learn to soften their needs, over-explain, apologize too quickly, or stay quiet in an effort to keep the peace, but those habits often create confusion instead of connection.

We talk about how clearer communication can strengthen trust, support leadership, reduce resentment, and help you stay present within your submission without losing yourself in the process.

In This Episode:

Why communication in submission is often misunderstood
The difference between submissive performance and intentional speech
How saying “it’s fine” when it isn’t creates confusion
Overexplaining, emotional noise, and why clarity matters
How honest communication can be a form of service in D/s dynamics
Why your words should support you as well as the relationship
How silence can quietly lead to resentment and disconnection
Why fewer words, chosen well, often carry more weight
How clear speech can strengthen trust, intimacy, and healthy power exchange

Key Reminder:

Speaking clearly does not make you less submissive. In many cases, it is one of the most supportive and intentional things you can bring to the dynamic.

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When Words Fail: The Hidden Cost of Silence in Submission | Submissive Guide

Wed, 06 May 2026 12:00:00 -0500

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What happens when “sorry” becomes the only word you reach for?

In this episode, we’re exploring communication in submission, and how silence, over-apologizing, and fear can quietly disrupt even the healthiest dynamics. Many submissives are taught to be agreeable and accommodating, but when that comes at the cost of honest expression, it creates confusion, resentment, and distance over time.

We’ll look at why speaking up can feel so difficult, how silence impacts trust and connection, and what it actually means to use your voice in a way that supports both you and your dynamic.

You’ll also be introduced to a simple, practical framework—Pause, Feel, Frame—to help you move from reactive communication to intentional, grounded speech in real moments.

If you’ve ever struggled to say what you need, or found yourself apologizing instead of communicating, this episode will give you a new way to approach your words with clarity and confidence.

In This Episode

Why over-apologizing can replace real communication
The hidden cost of silence in submission
Common fears that keep submissives from speaking up
How silence creates confusion, assumptions, and distance
Why using your voice is an act of trust, not defiance
The Pause, Feel, Frame method for intentional communication
How to move from reactive responses to grounded, clear speech

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Trust Isn’t Blind: Building and Rebuilding Trust in D/s Relationships | Submissive Guide

Wed, 01 Apr 2026 12:00:00 -0500

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Trust is often talked about as something automatic in power exchange. A submissive gives it. A Dominant earns it. But real trust in a D/s dynamic is much more complex than that.

In this episode, Luna explores how trust actually develops between Dominants and submissives, why even strong dynamics can experience ruptures, and what rebuilding trust can look like when both partners are willing to do the work.

Drawing from personal experience and years of working with submissives, this episode looks at the real foundations of trust in D/s relationships and how couples can move forward after trust has been shaken.

In This Episode

How trust is built through small daily actions and “micro-trusts”
Why consistency and transparency matter in power exchange
The many ways trust can break in a D/s dynamic
How trust ruptures affect both submissives and Dominants
When broken trust can be repaired and when it cannot
Practical steps for rebuilding trust after conflict or disconnection
Why rebuilding trust often creates a stronger, more intentional dynamic

Links Mentioned

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Your First BDSM Scene: What to Expect Before, During, and After | Submissive Guide

Wed, 04 Mar 2026 12:00:00 -0600

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Your first BDSM scene can feel equal parts thrilling and terrifying.

What if you do something wrong?
What if you don’t react the way you think you should?
What actually happens once the scene begins?

In this episode, we gently walk through the anatomy of a BDSM scene, specifically, your first one, so you can step into it feeling more grounded and less overwhelmed.

We talk about what a scene really is, how negotiation sets the tone long before the first touch, what power exchange looks like in practice, how to recognize the difference between sensation and injury, and why aftercare and drop deserve just as much attention as the play itself.

This is not a script for how you “should” behave.
It is a framework you can return to again and again as you grow.

If you’ve ever felt nervous about your first scene, or found yourself wondering whether your reactions were normal afterward, this episode is for you.

In This Episode:

What defines a BDSM scene and what makes it intentional
Why negotiation is not awkward, but foundational
How to prepare emotionally and physically before play
What usually signals the beginning of a scene
How power exchange unfolds in real time
The role of safewords and ongoing communication
Whether sex has to be part of a scene
What aftercare actually means
Understanding sub drop, Dom drop, and scene drop
How to reflect after your first scene and decide what comes next

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Be a Cow! My Journey into Hucow Play | Submissive Guide

Wed, 04 Feb 2026 07:00:00 -0600

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What does it mean to step into a hucow identity—and why does it resonate so deeply for some submissives?

In this episode, I’m sharing my personal journey into hucow play: how I first discovered it, what drew me in, the challenges I faced, and how embracing my cow identity became a powerful blend of submission, embodiment, playfulness, and self-acceptance. From stumbling across my first hucow photos online to creating Lunabelle, my cow persona, this episode offers an honest, grounded introduction to hucow play within BDSM.

Whether you’re curious, already exploring pet play, or simply interested in how animal identities can intersect with power exchange, this episode is designed to be friendly, informative, and beginner-accessible.

In This Episode, We Talk About:

How I first discovered hucow play and why it immediately caught my attention
What hucow play is (and what it isn’t)
How hucow play fits into the larger BDSM and pet play umbrella
Exploring body image, submission, and letting go through cow embodiment
Developing a personal hucow identity beyond common stereotypes
Communication, consent, and staying in character during scenes
Creating a hucow look (“cow-tfit”) with creativity and accessibility in mind
Body modification and enhancement as part of animal identity
How you can start exploring hucow play for yourself, safely and intentionally

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Expectations of a Submissive: What You Need to Know (and What You Don’t) | Submissive Guide

Wed, 05 Nov 2025 12:00:00 -0600

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In this episode, we explore one of the most common questions submissives ask when starting their journey: “What’s really expected of me?”

We talk about what healthy expectations look like in a D/s relationship—from the early days of self-discovery to building communication with your Dominant. You’ll learn practical ways to define your own boundaries, clarify mutual expectations, and avoid the common traps that lead to confusion or overwhelm.

No one begins submission perfectly. What’s expected of you isn’t a checklist—it’s a process of communication, curiosity, and care. You’re allowed to grow into it at your own pace.

Resources Mentioned

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Writing Submissive Affirmations That Actually Work | Submissive Guide

Wed, 03 Sep 2025 12:00:00 -0500

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Affirmations can be more than feel-good words—they can reshape your submissive mindset.

In this episode, I share how I’ve used affirmations for over a decade to shift negative self-talk, strengthen my confidence, and reconnect with my submission. You’ll learn how to create affirmations that feel believable and personal, plus easy ways to make them part of your daily life.

Read the full article: Writing Submissive Affirmations That Actually Work on Submissive Guide
Explore related topics on submissive mindset and personal growth
Kink Aware Therapists Directory

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You’re Allowed to Have Needs—Even in Submission | Submissive Guide

Wed, 04 Jun 2025 12:00:00 -0500

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In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common—and most misunderstood—pieces of advice given to submissives: “Know your wants and needs.” But what does that really mean, and how do you figure out the difference? You’ll learn how to identify your core needs, why honoring them is essential to a healthy D/s relationship, and what happens when you settle for less than what truly fulfills you.

We’ll also explore common submissive-specific needs, how to communicate them, and how to check in with yourself (and your partner) as those needs evolve. Whether you're new to submission or deepening your dynamic, this episode will help you reflect, realign, and reclaim your right to have your needs met.

📝 Topics covered:

The difference between wants and need
Why needs matter more than you think
How unmet needs impact submission and mental health
Needs specific to D/s and power exchange
Why settling is harmful (even if the dynamic feels “good enough”)
Tools for identifying and ranking your needs
Reflection prompts and next steps

Read the full version on Submissive Guide

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Perfection Isn’t the Goal: Finding Joy in Your Unique Submissive Journey | Submissive Guide

Wed, 07 May 2025 12:00:00 -0500

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This episode challenges the myth of the “perfect submissive” and explores how chasing flawlessness can lead to burnout, self-doubt, and disconnection. Instead of striving for an impossible ideal, submissives are encouraged to embrace authenticity, growth, and the beauty of their unique journey. Real submission isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present, vulnerable, and enough just as you are.

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After “Red”: How to Manage the Emotional Aftermath When You’ve Used Your Safeword | Submissive Guide

Wed, 02 Apr 2025 12:00:00 -0500

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Using your safeword is never something to be afraid of. While it may sometimes mean stopping the scene, it also prevents you from going to places you’re not ready to explore. Yet, guilt or self-disappointment can make using a safeword feel like a failure for many. Fortunately, there are ways to address the guilt, disappointment, or fear around using or not using your safeword when it truly matters.

Thoughts to Ponder

What is your opinion about safewords? What value do they have in a relationship?
If you have withheld a safeword in the past, why did you do it? What were you trying to gain by doing so?
What other issues arise from using your safeword?

Interesting Links

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Breaking the Apology Habit: Alternatives to Overusing ‘I’m Sorry’ | Submissive Guide

Wed, 05 Feb 2025 12:00:00 -0600

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Most people say ‘sorry’ or ‘I’m sorry’ far too often. You’re probably aware of whether this is an issue for you. If you struggle with frequent apologizing, you may need to take a different approach to find ways to express what you really mean.

The Art of Apology Series - Submissive Guide

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Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery | Submissive Guide

Wed, 08 Jan 2025 12:00:00 -0600

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Sub drop is a natural part of the BDSM experience, but it doesn't have to derail your enjoyment. Learn how to recognize the signs, prevent severe symptoms, and create a personalized aftercare plan that supports both your physical and emotional recovery. From building a drop kit to mastering self-care strategies, this guide empowers you to take control of your well-being and embrace every part of the journey with confidence.

Hormone Junkies Series:

More Resources:

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Exploring Online Submission: Truths, Risks, and Safety Tips | Submissive Guide

Wed, 06 Nov 2024 12:00:00 -0600

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We’ll cover the complexities of online submission, offering various safe environments to explore and learn the nuances of BDSM and discuss the potential benefits and dangers. We’ll help you navigate the online BDSM landscape with confidence and care.

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10 Things You Can Start Today To Be a Better Submissive | Submissive Guide

Wed, 04 Sep 2024 12:00:00 -0500

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A question I see asked all the time is, "How can I be a better submissive?" Here are a few things you can do to improve your submission and service without much work.

Resources -

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Creating a Safe Space: Enhancing Communication in D/s Relationships | Submissive Guide

Wed, 03 Jul 2024 12:00:00 -0500

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Let's discuss how to build healthy communication skills in our D/s relationship and what a safe environment for difficult conversations looks like. I’ll give you the tools to develop a report with your partner that is full of trust, shared vulnerability, and compassion. You’ll learn that a safe environment for those challenging talks requires planning and mutual agreements to work as they should.

Resources:

Conversation Starters for Difficult Conversations: https://www.wikihow.com/images/sampledocs/f/Conversation-Starters-for-Difficult-Conversations.pdf

Kink Friendly Therapists:

Psychology Today - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/sex-positive-kink-allied
Kink Friendly Therapy - http://kinkfriendlytherapy.com/resources-3/resources/
Kink Aware Professionals Directory - https://www.kapprofessionals.org/

Domestic Abuse Hotlines:

US: https://www.thehotline.org/

UK: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

EU: https://www.improve-horizon.eu/helplines

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Navigating the Challenges of a Vanilla Partner in a Kink World | Submissive Guide

Wed, 01 May 2024 12:00:00 -0500

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Often, we discover our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. Let’s cover what you should do to prepare to talk to your partner about your newfound interest, how you can encourage a submissive mindset on your own, and how you can slowly bring kink into the bedroom.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/making-him-the-dom-of-your-dreams-working-with-the-man-you-have

Initiating a Discussion about BDSM with Your Partner:

Initiating a Discussion about BDSM Interest with Your Partner - ted_subby - Part 1 of a 3-part series. Highly recommended.
Ask SehAnru | Communicating Kinky Needs to a Vanilla Partner - SehAnru
Establishing a Safe, Trusting Environment for Talk - lunaKM

Resources:

Join our Discord Server - https://subgui.de/chat

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Crafting Your Collaring Ceremony: Themes, Rituals, and Celebrations | Submissive Guide

Wed, 06 Mar 2024 12:00:00 -0600

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Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. When a collar comes into view, some people want to commemorate that with a ceremony. Let’s discuss collars, their symbolism in D/s and M/s relationships, and how you can build a formal ceremony around declaring your commitment to each other.

Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/how-to-plan-a-formal-collaring-ceremony

Resources:

Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One?

Here is a list of collaring ceremony stories I found online to get you started in your research to build your ceremony.

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The Truth About Topping from the Bottom | Submissive Guide

Wed, 07 Feb 2024 12:00:00 -0600

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Let’s break down what topping from the bottom is, why it’s so bad, how it can be good, and learn some tricks to stop the poor behavior in its tracks that leads to it.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/why-you-should-know-the-truth-about-topping-from-the-bottom

Chat with the Discord community! https://subgui.de/chat

Resources:

Arcane Advice article on Topping from the Bottom: https://arcaneadvice.com/all-lessons-a-z/topping-from-the-bottom-why-its-bad-and-when-its-good/
Resistance Play: https://www.kinkly.com/definition/810/resistance-play
Healthy Communication Skills on Submissive Guide: https://submissiveguide.com/search?query=healthy+communication

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Every Good Conversation Starts with Active Listening | Submissive Guide

Wed, 06 Dec 2023 12:00:00 -0600

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Communication is a key topic to developing and maintaining healthy, open relationships. But many of us need to learn what good communication looks like and have problems with at least one part of good communication techniques.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/communication/articles/every-good-conversation-starts-with-good-listening

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Learning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive Awareness | Submissive Guide

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 12:00:00 -0500

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One of the best skills a submissive can learn is observation. Observation can also be neglected in your daily and work life, so learning requires you to reteach your mind, eyes, focus, and attention. It's so worth it.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/learning-good-observation-skills

What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing BDSM Limits | Submissive Guide

Wed, 04 Oct 2023 12:00:00 -0500

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Your limits are unique to you and may change over time as you gain experience and self-awareness. Embrace the opportunity for self-discovery and pleasure as you unlock the secrets to understanding and embracing your BDSM limits.

Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/what-everyone-ought-to-know-about-finding-and-managing-limits

Further Reading:

BDSM Limits Explained
Using Checklists to Figure Out Your Kinky Limits
Establishing Boundaries & Limits in BDSM
Novices and Newbies Group on FetLife

New Guide on Anal Play - OUT NOW! https://subgui.de/analplay

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Moans, Groans, and Beyond: A Beginner’s Guide to Dirty Talk | Submissive Guide

Wed, 02 Aug 2023 12:00:00 -0500

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Explore the journey of embracing dirty talk. With practical tips, personal stories, and valuable resources, readers are encouraged to break free from inhibitions and discover the liberating potential of vocalizing desires and fantasies.

Read the article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/how-to-talk-dirty

On-Demand Ecstasy: Initiating Your Orgasm Control Training | Submissive Guide

Wed, 05 Jul 2023 12:00:00 -0500

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A beginner's guide that explores the practice of orgasm control and its potential for enhancing pleasure. The first in the series, this article covers the first steps to exploring orgasm control in your play.

Resources on Orgasm Control Mechanics:

Study: Women's Attributions Regarding Why They Have Difficulty Reaching Orgasm

Book: The Elusive Orgasm: A Woman's Guide to Why She Can't and How She Can Orgasm" by Vivienne Cass, Ph.D

Part 2 of the Orgasm Control Training Series: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/orgasm-on-command-training-the-process-for-the-submissive

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The Importance of Rules and Structure in D/s Relationships | Submissive Guide

Wed, 07 Jun 2023 12:00:00 -0500

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In D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationships, rules are often used to provide structure and establish boundaries within the power exchange dynamic. These rules serve as a guide for submissives to follow, which allows us to focus on our submission and the expectations of our Dominant partner.

Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/structure-rules

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How to Use Erotic Begging to Intensify Your Kinky Playtime | Submissive Guide

Wed, 03 May 2023 12:00:00 -0500

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Being asked to beg for something is one of the simplest forms of erotic humiliation within a BDSM scenario. It’s also one that can be quite difficult for people to learn.

Read the article on Submissive Guide: https://submissiveguide.com/skills/articles/how-to-beg-when-asked

Submissive Guide FetLife Group: http://subgui.de/fetlife

Other people's thoughts on begging:
Begging In BDSM by Raven Shadowborne
A Kinkster’s Guide to Begging on A Kinkster’s Guide
How Do I Beg/Plead Better? on BDSM Training Academy
Begging For It Podcast on Pleasure Mechanics

Enough to Make You Blush by Princess Kali - https://amzn.to/42zIEi7

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Expectations of a Collar: How Ready Are You to Accept One? | Submissive Guide

Wed, 05 Apr 2023 12:00:00 -0500

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Wearing a Dominant’s collar is often a goal of any submissive in a D/s relationship. However, defining what a collar is and how you prepare to accept it can be daunting. Let’s tackle the important points about collars and if you are prepared for what a collar may mean for you and your relationship.

Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/dsrelationships/articles/expectations-of-a-collar-how-ready-are-you-to-accept-one

Here are a few more posts on collars you might find interesting:

Tiered Collar System:

Series on Limits on Submissive Guide

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Seven Books I Recommend for Novice Submissives | Submissive Guide

Wed, 01 Mar 2023 12:00:00 -0600

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I’ve gathered seven of the best books to help you get started on your exploration of BDSM and the submissive role.

Read the Article: https://submissiveguide.com/fundamentals/articles/recommended-reading-submissives

All links to the book reviews, GoodReads, and Amazon are linked in the above article.

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New to D/s Relationships? Here's Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out | Submissive Guide

Wed, 01 Feb 2023 12:00:00 -0600

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Relationships, even ones with power exchange, are built the old-fashioned way; dating, mutual compatibility, and communication. We all have a common ground to start from, even if we don't realize it. Unlike what many forums may say about D/s relationships and how they start, knowing the terms to use for your desires and being able to voice them to others does not produce an instant connection and a relationship. It's work from the start and continues to need nurturing for as long as you want the relationship to develop and succeed.

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How to Identify Your Submissive Wants and Needs | Submissive Guide

Thu, 01 Dec 2022 12:00:00 -0600

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Submissives all over seem to know what they want out of a relationship; it's always on their minds: the play, the sex, love, or the strictness of dominance. Wants are very valid to the happiness in your life, but more important are the needs. When you think of needs, the list seems to become harder, and people struggle more with defining what they really need.

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A Submissive's Prime Directive: Take Care of the Property | Submissive Guide

Wed, 02 Nov 2022 12:00:00 -0500

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A Submissive’s primary focus should be taking care of the property. There are common ways we are not adhering to the prime directive, and there are ways we can make it more of a foundation for our lives.

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Myths About D/s Relationships: How to Break Them Down to Find the Truth of a Healthy D/s Dynamic | Submissive Guide

Thu, 06 May 2021 15:00:00 -0500

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When people ask me what a D/s relationship is like, my first response is 'it looks like any other relationship,' but that's not entirely accurate. All relationships are unique and personal to the people in them, making a sound basis for any D/s relationship. In this article, I’ll cover a few common misconceptions of D/s dynamics, what a D/s relationship is not, and some core traits you can use to identify a healthy dynamic. You may be surprised to learn that they aren't as foreign as you think.

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The Importance of Safety, Risk-Awareness and Consent in Pre-Scene BDSM | Submissive Guide

Wed, 11 Nov 2020 16:00:00 -0600

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Negotiation and consent are the primary ways BDSM is distinguished from abuse - they are essential parts of kinky play. But far too many people gloss over how important it is to be really good at negotiating so that you can have great kinky fun. And you want to have kinky fun, right?

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The Key Traits of a Service Submissive - They Can Be Learned! | Submissive Guide

Wed, 28 Oct 2020 16:00:00 -0500

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Anyone can learn to be a good service submissive, even if you don't feel you are a people pleaser, because the key traits are all ones that can be learned and refined. When you take steps to improve yourself now, you'll be able to tackle a variety of service challenges and refine the services you wish to provide for your Dominant.

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Active Submission - Make Yourself Available to Your Dominant | Submissive Guide

Wed, 14 Oct 2020 16:00:00 -0500

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We need to make sure we take an active role in submission to help open up the dynamic and not wait for our Dominant to come up with a command to give us. By taking on an active role in our submission, we not only have more opportunities to be submissive, but we build a dynamic that provides an open exchange of power.

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Non-sexual Service and How To Add It To Your Dynamic | Submissive Guide

Wed, 30 Sep 2020 16:00:00 -0500

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Using my experience as a service submissive, I'd like to share what non-sexual service is and help you figure out if service is something you want to explore. I'll talk about a few different styles of service you could learn. Then we'll cover how you can start adding aspects of service into your relationship.

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A Beginner’s Guide to Sexual Power Exchange | Submissive Guide

Wed, 16 Sep 2020 16:00:00 -0500

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Sexual Power Exchange involves submissive partners who willingly and voluntarily relinquish control to their dominant partners, either in certain situations, for a specified period of time, or completely. As long as you keep it fun and enjoyable, a bedroom power exchange can bring variety and playfulness to your sex life.

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The Basic Tenets of Being a Submissive in a D/s Dynamic | Submissive Guide

Wed, 02 Sep 2020 15:00:00 -0500

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If you’re brand new to BDSM or even if you’ve got a few years under your belt, it’s good to sit down and figure out what submission means for you and how it works in your dynamic. Once you know what you need as a submissive, you can work with your Dominant to make your D/s relationship exactly what you desire.

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How Rituals Can Enhance Your BDSM Scenes | Submissive Guide

Wed, 12 Aug 2020 15:00:00 -0500

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Whether you are kinky only in the bedroom or participating in D/s as a lifestyle, developing rituals for your BDSM play is an intimate and powerful way to connect. Using rituals will strengthen your roles, build dynamic scenes, and amplify your playtime to create the ideal atmosphere for BDSM activities.

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