Growth Minded Marriage

Series Finale! November 13th-Nov. 19th, 2021: a grateful farewell

Mon, 22 Nov 2021 04:00:00 -0600

Welcome to the series finale of Growth Minded Marriage. What can we say? This podcast has changed our life. We are overcome with gratitude for you, the listener, and for the support you offered as we put ourselves out there and tried something new. With your love and support we have come home to our true selves, which turned out to be the purpose of this journey. We just didn't know that when we started! We can't wait to enjoy our one wild and precious life as they unfold, together.

Wishing you joy and ease on your life's journey.

Do the thing, say the thing, try the thing. Ever onward!

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November 6th-Nov. 12th, 2021: saying goodbye, an ode to my sweatpants friends

Mon, 15 Nov 2021 04:00:00 -0600

Welcome to Season 2 of the Growth Minded Marriage. This season we are committed to doing only the parts of podcasting we love and ditching everything else. We get to make it up and so do you! Join us as we share the good, bad and ugly moments on our growth journey. We hope this podcast is a living example of what self-actualization looks like in the everyday.

Podcasting is fun for us because of YOU the listener. So thank you for listening and being a part of our journey. We hope hearing our honest conversation plants a seed of curiosity in you about how your whole authentic life would look and feel.

A note on show notes:
Detailed podcast show notes (the words you are reading now) are time consuming and we won't be doing them for Season 2. With that said, if there is anything we mention that you want to know more about or need a link,
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October 30th-Nov. 5th, 2021: bragging, ego trips, what is next?

Mon, 08 Nov 2021 04:00:00 -0600

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October 16th-22nd, 2021: worship associate, art of breathing, rapid responses

Mon, 25 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0500

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October 9th-15th, 2021: James, tired kids, cultivating relationship

Mon, 18 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0500

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October 2nd- 8th, 2021: sickness, fieldtrip, gratitude ditties

Mon, 11 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0500

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September 25th- October 1st, 2021: 10 yr anniversary edition

Mon, 04 Oct 2021 04:00:00 -0500

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September 18th- 24th, 2021: soundscapes, Negative Nancy, sweatpant friends

Mon, 27 Sep 2021 04:00:00 -0500

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September 11th- 17th, 2021: embracing possibility

Mon, 20 Sep 2021 04:00:00 -0500

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September 4th- 10th, 2021: coffee addiction, SIBO, soccer

Mon, 13 Sep 2021 04:00:00 -0500

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August 28-Sept. 3, 2021: pessimism, weight gain, 25,000,000,000,000,000,000,000

Mon, 06 Sep 2021 04:00:00 -0500

Welcome to Season 2 of the Growth Minded Marriage. This season we are committed to doing only the parts of podcasting we love and ditching everything else. We get to make it up and so do you! Join us as we explore the highs and lows of each week. We will be reflecting on what went well, what we learned and what we never hope to repeat.

Podcasting is fun for us because of you the listener doing life right along side us. So thank YOU for listening and being a part of our best life.

A note on show notes:
Detailed podcast show notes (the words you are reading now) are time consuming and something we won't be doing in Season 2. With that said, if there is anything we mention that you want to know more about or need a link to please
Email Us @ growthmindedmarriage@gmail.com.
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The Truth about Season 2- Pt. 2

Mon, 30 Aug 2021 04:00:00 -0500

Season 2 officially begins September 6th, but as we get behind the mic to limber up we want to share what to expect in the upcoming season. If you were around for Season 1 first, thank you, and second you will notice lots of changes. In Season 2 we plan to focus on the parts of podcasting we love and ditch most everything else. Because (if you need reminding like we did) we get to make it up!

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The first official episode of Season 2 releases September 6th! New day, new format, new perspective.

Ever onward,
~Mary & Kevin

The Truth about Season 2- Pt. 1

Thu, 26 Aug 2021 04:00:00 -0500

Season 2 is not quite here but as we get behind the mic to ramp up for it we want to share what to expect in the upcoming season. If you were around for Season 1 first, thank you, and second you will notice lots of changes. In Season 2 we plan to focus on the parts of podcasting we love and ditch most everything else. Because (if you need reminding like we did) we get to make it up!

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The first official episode of Season 2 releases September 6th! New day, new format, new perspective.

Ever onward,
~Mary & Kevin

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Unreleased: The Awakened Anesthetist Podcast

Sun, 25 Jul 2021 09:00:00 -0500

Hello Growth Minded Marriage Community! Kevin and I are still over here living our dream life, only much much slower and intentionally. We are loving our summer slow down and reset. Thanks for being patient while we take this break and gather ourselves for Season 2 coming September 2021.
Meanwhile, I had a burst of creative energy that I channeled into taking one step forward with a project that feels like something, just not exactly sure what yet. Thanks for being a safe and supportive place for me to leave this for the moment. Certainly feedback would be appreciated if you feel so inclined.
Message Me (Mary) @ awakenedanesthetist@gmail.com
And, yes, we are still working on a summer newsletter to our Growing Together email subscribers. Sign up HERE. Turns out that while we are honoring our commitment to truly slowing down, projects are moving slower than anticipated. We simply have to trust they will eventually get done. Ex. We have finally installed a new microwave that has been in our garage since June 2020. We haven't had a microwave for 9 1/2 years. This is big stuff.

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Season 1 Finale: Ending on a Crash and Burnout

Thu, 17 Jun 2021 04:00:00 -0500

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Whether you believe burnout, adrenal fatigue or HPA axis disruption are real medical conditions or not, it is undeniable that stress has a negative impact on the body. We all have different sources of stress and different tolerance levels for that stress. This is not about comparison, who has it worse or who can suck it up and keep going longest. This is an honest conversation where Kevin and I realize that we just don't feel good. We want to own that and move forward with a more gentle approach to our life. We know we have to say no to some things, even exciting things, in order to protect the life we already cherish.

With that awareness, we share our main takeaways from Season 1 and how we plan to move forward. Join us for our final episode, and thank you for being a part of our journey. Let's grow!

Resources we mention in this episode:

Listen: The Balanced Life Podcast ep. on Burnout
Interested in moving your body without punishment? Check out this FREE Balanced Life Pilates trial, exactly how we started, no commitment, no credit card, Robin is the real deal
Join The Balanced Life Sisterhood and receive $20 off membership by using our link
Live near KC? Check out the Midwest Alliance for Mindfulness, online and in-person

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How to Feel Fulfilled at Work + Mary's Life Changing News

Thu, 03 Jun 2021 04:00:00 -0500

We have had to take some really hard and honest looks at our careers over the years. I was a full time working mom with 1, 2 and then 3 kids. Kevin was a work from home dad and also our primary caretaker. Life looks differently now. We both are working part time, and sharing the kid duties more evenly. After all the changes, we both have come out the other side with a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction with our careers. Join us as we explore how a sense of control, mastery and autonomy have kept us feeling good at work, and how you can use these same concepts to bring more fulfillment into your own career. Ready, let's grow!

Resources we mention in this episode:

Listen to Kevin discuss his career journey
Listen to Mary discuss her career journey
What is a Certified Anesthesiologist Assistant?

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Inspiration to Keep Going with Sonja Overhiser

Thu, 20 May 2021 03:00:00 -0500

"Creative collaboration is the lifeblood of our relationship"~Sonja Overhiser

After listening to this episode you will understand why Kevin and I draw so much inspiration from Sonja Overhiser. She is the co-founder of the wildly popular food blog, A Couple Cooks, and the new food justice initiative Food + Wellness Equity Collective. We were honored when Sonja agreed to our audacious request to be interviewed and are proud to bring you this inspiring conversation.

Resources Mentioned:

Food Matters by Mark Bittman
Pretty Simple Cooking by Sonja and Alex Overhiser (pg. 184 is on repeat in our house)
@ACoupleCooks
Replay of the Harvesting Food Equity panel from 4/29/21 use passcode n4WG&Eai
Join the Food + Wellness Equity Collective
@FoodWellnessEquity

Loved this conversation? Learn more about Sonja by listening HERE and HERE.

Grab our new START TODAY guide: 4 Ways to Make Life Feel Extraordinary.

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Hearing THIS Would Have Been Helpful 3 Years Ago

Thu, 06 May 2021 03:00:00 -0500

A few months ago, Kevin read Adam Grant's latest book Think Again, and loved it. On Kevin's suggestion, I went searching for Adam on my favorite media, podcasts. I was in luck! I found his podcast by TED called Work Life, and downloaded an old episode from May 2019 called The Perils of Following Your Career Passion. Needless to say, I was very intrigued. I knew from Kevin that Adam has a contrarian perspective, but I had never heard someone say to NOT follow your passion. Of course I had to listen. After 3 years of searching, worrying and dreaming, I have found my own understanding of what it means to have "work life balance" or a "dream job". Kevin has figured out his magic formula over the past 3 years as well. We both agree with Adam's take on why your dream job should not be solely based on feeling passionate every day. Kevin and I know that our dream jobs are tools to allow for a life where we can follow our curiosity; free from the notion that they have to make us money. Listen along with us and see what you think about Adam's unique perspective.

Resources from this episode:

Listen on Apple HERE: The Perils of Following Your Career Passion
Listen on Spotify HERE: The Perils of Following Your Career Passion
Adam Grant's latest book Think Again

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We Grew From Wanting More to Feeling Enough

Thu, 22 Apr 2021 04:00:00 -0500

“Most of life is choosing what you already chose.... Our lives are stories of recommitment. ~David Brooks

Kevin and I come full circle in this episode. We are recommiting to our dream life. Our lives will be a balance between a satisfaction with who we are now, and an openness towards who we could become. We are focused on making the ordinary feel extraordinary. Our lives are about staying true to what we have already chosen, and exploring the expansive world our focus now allows us to see. Plus, we continue to re-establish intimacy between the newest versions of ourselves.
*Editors note: After numerous listens it was determined that Kevin was in fact correct in his early assessment @ 3:10. Mary was possibly a tad defensive in the moment. #youwereright

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Listen: Our Dream Life episode 1
Read + Watch: What is "Wu Wei" that Mary mentions?

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Count The Kicks Total is In!

Thu, 15 Apr 2021 00:00:00 -0500

As a recap (in case this is your first episode, hello there!):
Kevin and I have been tracking our downloads since March 11th, 2021. At the end of 30 days, we made a $1/download donation to Count The Kicks in honor of our good friends' son, JP. Count The Kicks is a nonprofit dedicated to empowering and educating mothers to track their baby's movements while still in the womb. Tracking baby's movements for 30 minutes every day can alert you to changes which may be a sign something is going wrong with your baby. Count The Kicks then urges women to take those concerns to their healthcare professional.
Kevin and I chose to donate to this nonprofit after interviewing Kelli and Pat in episode 15, Growing Through Grief. Kelli and Pat courageously share their story of life after infant loss and they hope it is a resource to others struggling with grief. Thank you Kelli and Pat for allowing us to show up for JP in this way. It was our honor.

And now, our total is in and it’s big! pssst We had an anonymous donor!

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Kelli and Pat's story of Growing Through Grief
Video: The Why Behind Lydie’s Loop 5K/kid’s fun run
Count The Kicks App to track baby's movements
Terrible Thanks for Asking Podcast: Policing and Racial Trauma

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Deep Questions to Reconnect as a Couple

Thu, 08 Apr 2021 00:00:00 -0500

***Our Count the Kicks Drive closed on Friday, April 9, 2021. Thanks to you we were able to donate $724 to educate and empower women. Our campaign was inspired by our good friends Kelli and Pat (Ep. 15) and their story of growing through the loss of their son, JP. Learn more about their story, Count the Kicks and Kevin and I's journey by choosing an episode below.

Start with these episodes.
Ep. 15 Growing Through Grief
Ep. 11 Making Friends Along This Journey: Kathy and Tom Gottberg
Ep. 4 Mary Craves Career Alignment
Ep. 1 Our Dream Life

Resources mentioned in this episode:

36 Deep Questions to Reconnect Article also gives great tips
Learn more about our journey on our very NEW website
What the heck is Stoicism?
Free trial of To Be Magnetic manifestation school. Mary started here.
Learn about Count the Kicks and tracking movements in utero HERE.

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We Tell Our Kids The Easter Bunny Isn't Real

Thu, 01 Apr 2021 00:00:00 -0500

Kevin and I want the holidays to be filled with magic and wonder. We want our 7, 5 and 3 year old to look back on their childhood with warm happy memories. And, we decided early on to be honest with our kids, and let them in on the big secret. Over the years, we have been building our family's Easter traditions incorporating the idea that Mommy and Daddy are the Easter Bunny. Sure they ask questions and are sometimes confused by all the outside information, but we have a simple message that allows us to communicate openly and honestly with our kids. If you have been feeling a little uneasy about how to approach "The Bunny" in your own home then this episode can offer some reassurance. Your kids can still have a truly magical experience even if they know the bunny isn't real. Happy Easter everyone! We hope you get to spend it with the ones you love. -Mary & Kevin

Note: @ 14:43 the word I say is "reusable", not sure what accent I slipped into there.

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Additionally, until April 11th, 2021 we will donate $1 for every episode download to Count the Kicks in honor of JP's birthday. Please share this important conversation with someone you love.

Learn more about Count the Kicks and the importance of tracking baby's movements in utero HERE.

Who is JP? Glad you asked. Go back and listen to Episode 15 to learn more about JP and his parents.

Our Past 3 Months & Growing Apart?

Thu, 25 Mar 2021 00:00:00 -0500

Resources from this episode:

Read Mary's personal blog on our NEW website
Sign Up for a future Love and Logic course
Learn More about the Beliefs & Principles of Unitarian Universalism
Explore the Soul Matters material
What is Deep Listening? (I had a hard time finding a great resource. Putting this on the list for a podcast topic)
Take a peak at the 8 week Neurodharma course we start April 2021
Learn more about Count The Kicks

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Growing Through Grief: Kelli and Pat's Journey

Thu, 11 Mar 2021 00:00:00 -0600

Our long time friends, Kelli and Pat, courageously share their story of growing through grief after losing their son, Joseph Patrick (JP). The trauma of JP's death and life's journey after such a devastating loss could have easily been a story that ended in separation for Kelli and Pat. Instead, they grew to recognize that the most loving thing they could do was to support each other as they healed in their own individual way. They exemplify the value of prioritizing your own mental health and healing before you can show up for another; even if its the person closest to you. Now, after 5 years, they look back on their journey and share how they have grown together through the devastating loss of JP.

This episode is dedicated to Joseph Patrick Stewart, born still March 15th, 2016. Thank you for teaching me the superpower of empathy. Love, Ocrew Aunt MJ

Resources from this episode:

Kelli passionately supports the nonprofit Count The Kicks
Read inspiring stories and see pictures of babies saved by Count The Kicks
Kelli found healing by connecting with other grieving moms HERE
Kelli found answers for coping with her postpartum anxiety HERE

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Creative Parenting Solutions

Thu, 25 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -0600

Our two part parenting series now becomes a trilogy. Listen, we are recording and releasing episodes in real time so we didn't know life would create another episode. We are thrilled to announce that parenting is a tad less draining these days and we want to share what has been working. February 2021 brought cold weather, power outages and chaos over much of the U.S. All our time indoors and the hell that can be an unanticipated snow day (am I right?) pushed us to our final limits. And, you know what we found there? A creative solution. Things are looking up, kids are sleeping better and, most importantly, Kevin and I are dwelling in feelings of hopefulness and some dang peace!

Free Conversation Prompts from this episode to help start your own Growth Minded conversations.

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Our Private Class with Positive Parenting Educator Kerri Gray, LMFT

Thu, 11 Feb 2021 00:00:00 -0600

This is the second episode of our 2 part series on parenting. Check out Ep. 12 to start from the beginning. Kerri Gray is a mother of 4 and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has spent the bulk of her career teaching positive parenting classes to families in the greater Kansas City area. Now, due to the pandemic, her classes have been moved online and made accessible to everyone. She works in conjunction with a non profit organization in the Kansas City area called, Lee's Summit CARES. I found Kerri after hearing that Lee's Summit CARES offers positive parenting classes near our home. They referred me on to Kerri and she graciously accepted our request to be interviewed. We were humbled by her patience with us, generous spirit and passion for helping parents gain resilience, reduce stress and find community.

*Join Kerri, Kevin and I in the February 25th, 2021 virtual Love and Logic course, sign up HERE. Space is limited.

Resources from this episode:

Overview of All Positive Parenting course offerings with Kerri (nearly all are FREE)
Next Love and Logic course- sign up HERE, scholarships available
Next FREE Live Webinar- Parenting Teens, Feb. 16th, more to follow
FREE Prerecorded Webinars with Kerri and staff. We have loved Family Teamwork and Creative Responses to "I'm Bored".
Primal Scream by the NY Times summarizes a lot of what we both feel.
5 Minute Read: Self-compassion practices for parents

Free Conversation Prompts from this episode to help start your own Growth Minded conversations.

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Raw and Unscripted: Parenting- The Beginning, Our Struggles Now

Thu, 28 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -0600

If you are struggling to stay calm with your child and don't know who to turn to, you can call The National Parent Helpline 1-855-427-2736 (in the U.S.)

With a bit of nerves we offer this honest conversation about our parenting journey thus far. In the first half of this episode, we bring you up to speed quickly on the past 7 years of parenting. Some of our listeners may not even know we have kids! We have a son who is nearly 7, and two girls ages 5 and 3. But, this episode really is about the struggles we have been facing in parenting since the pandemic. We just aren't exactly sure what we are doing wrong, or if it is supposed to be this hard? All we know is that we have to keep going even when we don't want to, keep seeking advice and keep communicating with each other.

This conversation is the first of a two part series. In two weeks we look forward to sharing a conversation with Kerri Gray, LMFT M.S. Kerri is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She works with ReDiscover and Lee's Summit CARES, nonprofits in our local Kansas City area, to bring education to parents, kids and teens using the positive parenting approach. Kevin and I are anxious to talk through some of our struggles with her and receive guidance from her positive approach to parenting. Along with her expertise she will be sharing some free resources to help us all be happier parents raising happier kids. Amen!

Email us with your questions for Kerri or your thoughts on this episode at growthmindedmarriage@gmail.com

Resources from this episode:

5 min read- What is Positive Parenting?
5 min read-Why has the pandemic been so hard on parents?
How The National Parent Helpline can help
The sleep training system we loved Babywise

Free Conversation Prompts from this episode to help start your own growth minded conversations.

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Making Friends Along This Journey: Kathy and Thom Gottberg

Thu, 14 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -0600

Kevin and I have been on a quest to find "our people". We know that our friends can influence our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Which is great, but Mary was always left wondering, "How are we supposed to meet these magical people?!" Well, now we have some answers!
Kathy Gottberg is an author, blogger, and free thinker. She has been a writer for nearly 40 years; publishing 7 books and blogging at SMARTLiving365.com since 2011. Her husband, Thom, is a commercial real estate broker who has been committed to living his motto "You get to make it up". They are a true team, supporting and pushing each other forward in all their endeavors. After a fluke encounter with Kathy's powerful message about Rightsizing, Mary mailed her a very excited handwritten Thank You card, and asked Kathy to be her mentor. This conversation followed a Zoom call the week before and many emails back and forth. We are so grateful, truly, that we can look to Kathy and Thom as role models, examples of what this journey may look like, and a glimpse into all the possibilities that still lie ahead.

Some of our favorite resources from Kathy and Thom:

1st Vlog ever about setting Intentions instead of Goals
Kathy's book Practical Spirituality had me rotating between running to tell Kevin things and taking notes.
Kathy gives reviews of books she's read. I love this one. The Practice by Seth Godin.

Free Conversation Prompts from this episode to help start your own growth minded conversations. Happy Chatting!

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Our Return to Leadershape with Kristen Young

Thu, 31 Dec 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Kevin and I were thrilled when Kristen Young, Executive Director of Leadershape, accepted our interview request. In doing so, she took a big leap of faith. She exemplifies someone who is willing to take a risk and open herself up to new experiences, something Kevin and I deeply value. Kristen believes in the mission of Leadershape, "To transform the world by increasing the number of people who lead with integrity and a healthy disregard for the impossible." The last 16+ years of Kristen's life have been dedicated to helping others see their own innate greatness and become agents for positive change. Two of those people were Kevin and I when we attended Leadershape's flagship program, The Leadershape Institute. Our conversation with Kristen clarified how the values and ideas planted in us at Leadershape have continued to guide us. A lot of pieces fell together for Kevin and I, and a lot of questions were answered as to where we got this desire to align our lives with our passions and values. We hope this conversation inspires you to ask some questions about your own purpose and passions. Let's Grow!

Resources mentioned:

To learn more about Leadershape and its offerings visit https://www.leadershape.org/
Sign up for Resilience 2021 go here (click link in bio)
Sign up for Courageous Dialogue 2021 go here (click link in bio)
If you are a Leadershape grad and lost your binder you can email Leadershape and request a copy of the most current materials. Kristen offered this as a way to refresh and reconnect with your passions and values.
Follow Leadershape on Instagram
To hear more about how Leadershape impacted us listen to episode 5. Our Secret To Happiness

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Consider This Our 2020 Holiday Card

Thu, 24 Dec 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Happy Holidays from Kevin and Mary!

Growing Pains

Thu, 17 Dec 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Finding the right path as an individual as well as one half of a partnership, is well, tricky. We have found that our only answer is more open and clear communication. But how does someone communicate calmly and clearly when there are kids and cleaning and work and noise? So much noise. You would think hosting a podcast with your partner would help, but it only highlighted the ways that we were missing the mark. Trusting that each of us wants to grow together can feel like a risk. What if you bear your truth and the other person just can't accept it? This is the risk we must be willing to take if we want our most true and authentic life, together. And we discuss how we are finding the time and the QUIET to have a damn conversation.

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Gratitude: His and Hers

Thu, 03 Dec 2020 00:00:00 -0600

We hope you enjoy this episode's fresh perspective. We want to share what gratitude actually looks like in a marriage and in life. It is one thing to be told that "you should start a gratitude practice," and quite another to hear how it has shaped our daily lives. For both Kevin and I, gratitude is ingrained in the way we see the world and how we communicate. It is certainly a lighter way to live and a happier perspective, but we don't want to mislead you that it solves all our problems. We use it as a tool towards happiness and hope you will as well.

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Solo episode: Mary starts a self-compassion practice

Thu, 26 Nov 2020 00:00:00 -0600

I feel truly inspired to share my new self-compassion practice. You know when something just hits you on the right day at the right time and it feels like you just stumbled in to your future??? As I continue on my personal growth and healing journey I have become more and more open to new ways of approaching the same problems and finding a lot of creative solutions. Self compassion feels like the next creative (yet logical and rooted in science) addition to my journey. I release the feelings of foolishness or vulnerability when I tell people "every morning I look in the mirror and tell myself that I am my own best friend". Nobody judges me more than me, and now I say enough. I deserve better.

Resources I mention:

Healing Shame with Compassion (with Dr. Chris Germer) Being Well Podcast
The Secret to More Calm, Clarity & Joy: Redefining Mindfulness & Self-Compassion with Shauna Shapiro, Ph.D The Feel Good Effect Podcast
Definition of Self-Compassion Dr. Kristin Neff
Free Self-Compassion Meditations Dr. Kristin Neff (I like "Affectionate Breathing")
Free Supportive Touch Exercise Dr. Kristin Neff (the cheek cupping thing)

This is NOT a comprehensive list, but truly where I started. These three researchers (Germer, Neff and Shapiro) appear to be the biggest names in the field. So I definitely stumbled into the best place to start.
I am honored you are joining me on this journey, and I want to hear from you. Seriously!
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Our Secret to Happiness

Wed, 18 Nov 2020 22:00:00 -0600

Kevin and Mary look back on their childhood to explain how they developed their own growth mindsets aka their secret to happiness. They discuss how their different coping strategies to Kevin's childhood bullying and Mary's childhood trauma and subsequent shame gave them the capacity to one day fully embrace the power of the growth mindset. Their early lives led them on a twisty path to a magical place called Leadershape when they were in their early 20s, which is where they first met. Leadershape is where Kevin was able to unlock the power of Mary's growth mindset. Kevin is happy to take full credit.

More resources on the Growth Mindset:

Mindset by Carol S. Dweck Ph.D. (Mary is listening to this now)
Being Well Podcast episode about Neuroplasticity (highly recommend this podcast in general)
First video Mary watched to describe Neuroplasticity
First video Mary watched to describe Growth Mindset

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Can't wait to hear from you.

Challenges: Mary Craves Career Alignment

Thu, 05 Nov 2020 00:00:00 -0600

Mary candidly describes her desire to have a career that is aligned with her whole self. She discusses her current career and how she is exploring the pieces of her authentic self that seem to lie outside the parameters of her work as a Certified Anesthesiologist Assistant. This conversation between Kevin and Mary was impromptu and is a great peak in to what their many "off air" conversations sound like.

More resources:

Lilly's Purple Plastic Purse by Kevin Henkes
What is a Certified Anesthesiologist Assistant? -video
FAQs for all things CAA
How to apply to the CAA school Mary works with now and highly recommends!
Andy Henriquez's freebie "1 Minute Storyteller Quiz"

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Can't wait to hear from you!

Transitions: Kevin's Career

Thu, 22 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0500

Kevin shares the journey of his career from age 11 to 37, and how he is positioning himself to take advantage of future career opportunities. This episode was recorded on our 9 year wedding anniversary. Check instagram for a pic of our kids eating the best wedding cupcakes ever created.

In this episode we discuss:

how being bullied as a kid was still affecting him now
Kevin switching majors in college to follow his passion
Kevin's dream job at Christie's in NYC
his transition into his entrepreneurial dream
how he discovered his true passion is research
using his passion to create future serendipity

Kevin recommends:

Peak Performance by Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness
The Tao of Charlie Munger by David Clark
The 4-hour Work Week by Timothy Ferriss

For all those who are fact checking... Kevin's Masters Program in NYC

Real Life Check In

Thu, 08 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0500

We share a real time update of what's been going on since we launched the podcast. To be clear, we recorded half of this episode the week before episode 1 aired, and then we inserted a part starting at 12:38 the week after it aired. Confusing, but authentic, we hope you enjoy.

We discuss:

an uncomfortable conversation in which we realize we are on separate dream life journeys
the resolution to that conversation and how we plan to move forward
how the podcast is already a success
why Growth Minded Marriage will only air new episodes every other week

Check out the Marie Forleo Podcast episode Mary mentions:

The Marie Forleo Podcast Episode 6 on the "Awkward Intentional Pause"

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Our Dream Life

Thu, 24 Sep 2020 04:00:00 -0500

In this episode we discuss when our dream life started as individuals, what our dream life is actually made of and where we see this life of ours going in the future. Kevin and I are excited to be on this journey together and hopeful to connect with other growth minded people.

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Introduction to Growth Minded Marriage

Thu, 10 Sep 2020 10:00:00 -0500

Trailer episode

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