When East Meets West

REWIND Becoming Human-First: Howard Spector's Simple Practice Journey

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0400

We are bringing back the episode where Howard Spector shares how his journey from psychology student to tech entrepreneur led him to create Simple Practice, a business management software now used by over 100,000 healthcare providers and earning recognition as one of Forbes' best startup employers.

• Discovered his passion for psychology as a teenager through Carl Jung's works
• Attended Pacifica Graduate Institute for psychology training which became transformative
• Created "Track Your Hours" software while in training to help therapists log clinical hours
• Founded Simple Practice in 2012 to provide intuitive practice management software
• Built a human-first company culture emphasizing individual strengths over job descriptions
• Bootstrapped the company rather than seeking venture capital funding
• Connects business success to deep mission of supporting professionals who help others
• Implements mindfulness practices in leadership approach
• Maintains vigilant attention to company culture and values
• Challenges the notion that only "unicorn" startups represent entrepreneurial success

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REWIND Worry vs. Rumination: The Covert Behaviors We All Do

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0400

REWIND Existentialism Meets Behaviorism: Finding Meaning in a Finite Life

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0400

From season 1, we being back the intersection of existentialism and behaviorism with our first guest, Dr. Robin Walser, discussing how these seemingly different approaches overlap in addressing life's fundamental questions about meaning and conscious living.

• Both existentialism and ACT focus on being conscious and alive, asking what meaning we will create given our finite time
• Rather than waiting for the perfect moment to live, ACT helps bring us into the present to create meaning now
• Confronting mortality can be both terrifying and freeing, offering a chance to live more deliberately
• Grief can last a lifetime without being pathological - it's possible to remain connected to those we've lost while continuing to live
• Values and spirituality are deeply intertwined, challenging psychology's tendency to separate science from spirituality
• Not making a choice is still making a choice - conscious living means acknowledging our freedom to choose within our circumstances
• Creating something meaningful and vital means experiencing life fully rather than just "looking at the menu"

REWIND Sex, Connection, and the Human Experience

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0400

Dr. Pete and Dr. Nikki explore the complex relationship between sex and human connection, examining how sexual behavior can foster intimacy with others and oneself beyond simplistic cultural narratives.

• Sex and intimacy are distinct concepts—intimacy can be as simple as holding hands or sharing a meaningful glance
• America's puritanical roots have created unnecessary shame and rigid boundaries around sexual expression
• Sexual fluidity exists on a spectrum, and passing thoughts don't necessarily define one's identity
• Mental health professionals have historically pathologized normal aspects of human sexuality
• Clinical statistics show 50% of sexual encounters in relationships are "unsuccessful" by traditional standards
• Connection through sexual behavior goes beyond physical climax to emotional intimacy
• Healthy sexuality involves clear communication, mutual respect, and individualized definitions of connection

Stay tuned for part two of our discussion on sex and connection in season two of When East Meets West.

REWIND Into Where East Meets West: Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0400

Psychologists Dr. Pete Economou and Dr. Nikki Rubin re-introduce their podcast bridging Eastern mindfulness practices with Western behavioral science. They share their professional backgrounds, personal journeys with mindfulness, and mission to make psychological science accessible to help people suffer less.

• Pete is a PhD counseling psychologist, Zen practitioner, and associate professor at Rutgers University
• Nikki is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in cognitive behavioral therapies and mindfulness
• Both met 10 years ago during their clinical psychology internship in Newark, New Jersey
• Pete's journey with mindfulness began before graduate school, leading to becoming a Zen practitioner
• Nikki discovered mindfulness through her graduate training and maintains a regular yoga practice
• Mindfulness functions as a behavior that aligns with behavioral science principles
• Both Eastern traditions and Western science offer valuable insights for navigating life's challenges
• The podcast aims to provide scientifically sound information about mindfulness without the "woo-woo"
• Future episodes will explore topics including mindfulness, meditation, cognitive behavioral therapy, and racism

Be present, be brave.

S4E30 The Five-Year Evolution of a Friendship turned Podcast

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0400

Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin celebrate five years since their first podcast collaboration, reflecting on how their journey began during the pandemic and evolved into a successful partnership despite initial reluctance.

• Pete convinced Nikki to start podcasting during the pandemic despite her private nature
• Nikki went from "kicking and screaming" to embracing the podcast after experiencing how fun it was
• Five years provides a meaningful timeframe for reflection on personal and professional growth
• Different approaches to reflection: Nikki uses "intentional remembering" while Pete incorporates gratitude practices
• Our brains evolved to remember negative experiences better than positive ones for survival
• The only healthy comparison is to your past self, not others or your imagined future self
• Difficult professional experiences can yield unexpected gifts, like Pete and Nikki's enduring friendship
• Mindful reflection differs from rumination by creating space for a complete picture of experiences

"The past is already gone. The future is not yet here. There's only one moment for you to live."

S4E29 Youth vs. Youthfulness

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0400

We explore the difference between youth as a chronological stage and youthfulness as a mindset that can be cultivated throughout life, examining how these concepts influence our approach to aging and personal growth.

• Youth is a developmental stage where we test boundaries and build character through experiences
• The natural risk-taking of youth serves an important purpose in development
• Social media has complicated modern youth by making information about risks more accessible
• As we age, increased caution comes naturally from accumulated life experiences
• Youthfulness is similar to "beginner's mind" but adds playfulness and spirited engagement
• Maintaining youthfulness paradoxically requires accepting the aging process
• Physical movement is essential for preserving a youthful spirit at any age
• Finding balance between acceptance of limitations and continued engagement with life

S4E28 Branding Discomfort: When Authenticity Meets Visual Identity

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0400

We explore the uncomfortable yet necessary world of professional branding from our perspective as psychologists. Despite one of us actively disliking branding while simultaneously being considered a private practice celebrity, we unpack how visual representation communicates our values even when we resist traditional marketing approaches.

• Tension between authentic representation and curated professional images
• The discomfort many practitioners feel about social media management and self-promotion
• Branding as a necessary business function versus an extension of personal identity
• How office spaces and visual choices unconsciously communicate our professional approach
• Reframing branding as value-based visual communication rather than just selling
• The inevitable reality that everyone has a brand whether they cultivate it intentionally or not
• Our own journey with the When East Meets West rebranding process

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S4E27 Exploring Koans and Spiritual Wisdom Across Cultures

Tue, 25 Feb 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Can koans untangle the complexities of our minds and offer a path to mental clarity? Explore this fascinating possibility with our special guest, Nikki, who passionately shares her experiences with these intricate Zen riddles. By challenging the intellectual mind, koans invite us into a space of simplicity and stillness, a concept that resonates deeply with the practice of meditation. We also reflect on how younger generations are more receptive to integrating mindfulness into their daily lives, potentially unlocking new avenues for mental clarity and balance. From "just sitting" in silence to appreciating the wisdom of being present, this discussion promises to both challenge and inspire.

Join us as we traverse the rich tapestry of spiritual wisdom that transcends cultural divides. We find intriguing connections between Buddhist teachings and the principles of the 12-step programs of AA, highlighting the universal nature of spiritual insights. A puzzling koan, "In a place where there's nothing, what is it?" serves as a springboard for pondering the essence of existence and the human pursuit of meaning. Our conversation delves into the fusion of Eastern spirituality with Western psychology, celebrating the beauty of simply observing thoughts without judgment. Nikki candidly shares her personal journey towards embracing this mindset, underscoring the importance of patience and openness in our quest for understanding.

S4E26 OCD Awareness: Beyond the Stereotypes

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Unlock the true complexities of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder with us as we shatter common stereotypes and misconceptions. Have you ever wondered if OCD is more than meticulous hand-washing or repetitive checking? Discover the hidden layers of this disorder, including the intriguing "pure O" subtypes where compulsions are mental rather than physical. We'll share our personal journeys through the evolving landscape of OCD treatment and training, emphasizing the critical need for specialized knowledge to manage severe cases effectively.

This episode offers valuable insights into the world of OCD treatment, spotlighting powerful methods like Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). Learn how these therapies are making a significant impact, especially for high-performing individuals like athletes. We also highlight essential resources like intrusivethoughts.org and Chad Lejeune's book "Pure O: OCD Letting Go of Obsessive Thoughts with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy," which are invaluable for anyone dealing with OCD. Join us in understanding why recognizing and accepting one's challenges is a vital step towards managing symptoms, with OCD affecting a notable portion of the global population.

S4E25 Understanding Memory: Strengths, Failures, and Resilience

Tue, 11 Feb 2025 02:00:00 -0500

We explore the fascinating complexities of memory, discussing how it functions, the different types, and the factors affecting recall. Listeners gain insights into the fragility of memory, including false memories, the nature of repressed memories, and the impact of memory disorders like dementia.
• The distinctions between long-term and short-term memory
• The influence of sensory input on memory recall
• The phenomenon and implications of false memories
• Understanding repressed memories and their controversies
• Exploring memory disorders like dementia and their emotional toll
• Practical tips for enhancing memory retention

S4E24 Resilience in the Aftermath: Healing Collective Trauma in Los Angeles

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 02:00:00 -0500

This episode delves into the concept of collective trauma through the lens of the recent fires in Los Angeles. We explore resilience, coping strategies, and the importance of community support in the aftermath of such devastating events.

• Defining collective trauma and its impact on communities
• Personal experiences with the recent L.A. fires
• Importance of vulnerability and sharing in healing
• Cognitive behavioral therapy versus acceptance and commitment therapy
• Role of compassion and mindful awareness during trauma
• Resilience of the community in the face of adversity
• Historical context of natural disasters in L.A.
• Strategies for clinicians to support clients through trauma
• Acknowledging pain while continuing to live life fully
• Discussing post-traumatic growth and its implications
• The dialectic of balancing trauma and other life experiences
• Understanding impermanence and its role in healing
• Community response and support systems during disasters

We encourage listeners to reflect on personal experiences and connections they have formed during tough times as they navigate their own journeys of healing and resilience.

S4E23 The Art of Friend Dating in Modern Times

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Navigating friendships in adulthood can feel daunting, but understanding it as "friend dating" opens up new possibilities for connection. By focusing on personal interests and being open to vulnerability, listeners can cultivate meaningful relationships in their lives.

• The significance of "friend dating" as a metaphor
• The impact of adult responsibilities on friendships
• Regional differences in friendship dynamics
• Practical activities for finding like-minded individuals
• Overcoming vulnerabilities and fears in social situations
• The role of social media in connecting with others
• Strategies for expanding social circles
• The importance of patience and consistency in friendships

S4E22 The First of Four Noble Truths: Suffering and Peace

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 02:00:00 -0500

This episode delves into the First Noble Truth of Buddhism, which asserts the inevitability of suffering as a universal human experience. We discuss the differences between pain and suffering, the implications of expectations on our emotional state, and how Buddhist practices can help us cope with life's challenges.
• Explaining the First Noble Truth and its significance
• Understanding suffering as a universal experience
• Distinguishing between pain and suffering
• The role of expectations in creating suffering
• Emphasizing the power of self-reflection and acceptance
• Encouraging mindfulness practices to navigate suffering

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S4E21 Midlife Crisis or Mindful Transformation: Understanding Change

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 02:00:00 -0500

In this episode, we delve into the concept of the midlife crisis, exploring its validity and how personal narratives shape our experiences. We discuss the intersection of cultural expectations and individual identity while highlighting the potential for growth during significant life transitions.
• Defining and discussing the midlife crisis and its prevalence
• Personal stories reflecting various life stages' struggles
• The importance of distinguishing between crisis and transformative experiences
• Exploring the role of societal expectations in life choices
• Insights on post-traumatic growth and resilience
• Emphasizing the humor amid life's challenges
• Future research on age-specific transformations and their implications

S4E20 Introspection and Growth in the New Year

Tue, 07 Jan 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Ever wondered why New Year’s resolutions often feel like they’re woven from the same fairy tale fabric as Cinderella’s midnight transformation? Join us on this whimsical exploration of fresh starts, where we poke fun at the cultural expectation of overnight success while offering insights from our therapeutic experiences.

This episode encourages listeners to consider a more fluid approach to New Year’s resolutions, emphasizing intentions over rigid goals. We explore how to structure personal change with compassion and small actionable steps, while discussing relapse within the context of holiday pressures and the importance of internal clarity in setting meaningful directions.
• Discussing the pressure of resolutions
• Identifying patterns of relapse during the holidays
• The effectiveness of intentions versus resolutions
• Understanding the importance of operationalizing goals
• The role of moderation in behavioral change
• Exploring Buddhist perspectives on making changes
• Suggesting strategies for internal reflection and clarity
• Providing actionable homework for listeners to set intentions

S4E19 Stress-Free Tips for a Fulfilling Holiday Season

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Feeling overwhelmed by holiday chaos and the pressure to be perfect? Let’s explore a refreshing perspective on how embracing imperfections can actually lead to a more fulfilling holiday season. As we gather around festive tables and navigate family dynamics, we discuss the importance of lowering expectations to reduce stress and invite authenticity. Whether you're working through the holidays or just trying to make it through without losing your cool, we’re here to share our personal insights and stories on maintaining your sense of self amidst the chaos.

We’ve all been there—holiday gatherings that leave us feeling overstimulated and drained. This episode is packed with practical tips for creating moments of solitude, managing mindful eating, and maintaining physical activity when it feels like there’s no time. We also acknowledge the unique challenges faced by those dealing with eating disorders, offering compassionate advice on how to navigate food-centric festivities with grace. Remember, it’s not about perfection; it’s about staying true to yourself and your values, even when the season seems to demand otherwise.

As we wrap up, we reflect on the slower pace that the holiday season can offer if we choose to embrace it. From setting boundaries at family gatherings to finding joy in unexpected places—like the antics of a beloved elderly dog—we discuss ways to prioritize self-care and gratitude. Whether the holidays are a time of rest or just another day on the calendar for you, we’re here to remind you that it’s okay to cherish or simply survive them, and that meaningful moments aren’t confined to any specific date. Join us as we look forward to exciting changes in the new year, bringing optimism and heartfelt reflections to the table.

S4E18 The Power of a Nuanced Mindset

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Ever wondered why we tend to see the world in black-and-white terms? Discover the hidden complexities of our thought processes and learn how embracing nuance can transform how you understand reality and connect with others. In this thought-provoking episode, we explore the limits of binary thinking and introduce you to the concept of dialectical thinking—holding two opposing ideas at once. We draw inspiration from cognitive and behavioral therapies, meditation, and Eastern spiritual traditions like Buddhism to guide you on a journey towards a more nuanced mindset. This shift not only sharpens your perception of the world but also nurtures deeper compassion for yourself and others.

Our conversation takes a closer look at why embracing nuance is crucial, especially in today's polarized world. We explore the developmental journey of recognizing and appreciating nuance, especially among younger individuals such as college students, and ponder why some adults remain stuck in rigid thinking patterns. With a focus on personal growth and the importance of broadening our perspectives, we challenge you to step out of your comfort zone and actively seek diverse viewpoints. By cultivating nuance, you open the door to meaningful interactions and a richer, more authentic connection with the world around you.

S4E17 Rethinking Thankfulness in Holiday Times

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 02:00:00 -0500

What if the secret to a more abundant life lies in something as simple as gratitude? Join us as we embark on a thoughtful exploration of gratitude's complex nature, especially as we approach the holiday season. We'll unravel the subtle distinctions between gratitude, thankfulness, and appreciation, and discuss how cultural practices and lifestyle choices, such as abstaining from alcohol and caffeine, can foster mental clarity and a deeper sense of gratitude. With insights drawn from both psychology and Eastern philosophy, we recognize that connecting with gratitude isn't always straightforward, particularly during challenging times.

During our conversation, we question the pressures to feel thankful during the holidays and stress the importance of self-validation amidst cultural expectations. By acknowledging our genuine emotions, we can more authentically appreciate the small joys in life, like a warm meal or a moment of rest. We'll share personal reflections and studies that highlight how gratitude, though not a cure-all, can contribute to mood improvement and personal growth. Ending on a high note, we share an inspiring quote from Oprah Winfrey, reminding us that focusing on what we have can lead us to feel truly abundant, leaving behind the scarcity mindset. Embrace gratitude on your own terms and discover how it can transform your life.

S4E16 Breaking Free from Tradition: A Path to Joy

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 02:00:00 -0500

What happens when a tradition starts to feel more like a burden than a joy? Join us as we navigate the nuanced world of holiday customs, from the heartwarming to the hilariously rigid. We kick off with personal stories, revealing how attending Alvin Ailey performances in New York has evolved from a cherished ritual to a topic of reflection. Traditions can be a comforting presence, weaving joy and connection into our lives, but they can also become stifling obligations. We share light-hearted anecdotes and thought-provoking insights on striking that perfect balance—whether it's sticking with the old, beloved customs or daring to carve out new ones that resonate with your current self.

In a world that's rapidly shifting from community-based to individualistic, thanks to technology and globalization, we ponder the future of traditions. Are we witnessing their evolution or decline? Our playful yet earnest discussion explores how cultural expectations shape our personal practices, even in unexpected arenas like sports. Superstitions, anyone? We encourage listeners to take a moment of introspection, especially as the holiday season looms, and consider tweaking or even letting go of some traditions that might not serve them anymore. Together, let's find the joy in our customs and the courage to embrace change where it's needed.

S4E15 Embracing Discomfort: Coping with Post-Election Reflections

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 02:00:00 -0500

What if the way we handle election results could foster personal growth and empathy? After experiencing the emotional rollercoaster of the recent US presidential election, we explore strategies for coping with outcomes, whether you're celebrating or feeling disheartened. Drawing from Eastern philosophies and cognitive behavioral therapy, we discuss the importance of holding outcomes lightly and the pitfalls of rigid expectations. Our conversation highlights how psychology can inform leadership and decision-making, and we emphasize the value of curiosity and caution in embracing diverse perspectives.

Join us as we navigate the warmth of unseasonably sunny days in New York, using them as a metaphor for embracing discomfort and nuance as pathways to personal growth. In a world that often craves simplicity, we make the case for advocating discomfort—suggesting that true understanding arises when we allow ourselves to be open to alternative perspectives. This thoughtful dialogue encourages listeners to challenge societal norms and foster a more nuanced worldview, providing insights for navigating the complexities of life with empathy and an open mind.

S4E14 Balancing Screen Time and Serenity

Tue, 05 Nov 2024 02:00:00 -0500

What if our constant need for digital engagement is robbing us of true mental rest? Discover strategies to reclaim your peace in our latest episode, where we unravel the paradox of digital detoxing in our tech-centric lives. We dive into the necessity of finding a balance between beneficial technology use and the addictive nature of our devices. From mindfulness apps to the inevitable pull of notifications, we discuss the art of radical acceptance in understanding our usage patterns and share personal stories of navigating our digital consumption.

We delve into the illusion of control created by information overload and how it can affect our mental well-being. Highlighting the role of algorithms, we stress the importance of setting limits on content intake and the benefits of stepping away for moments of boredom and reflection. With practical tips for mindful digital detox, we discuss the impact of screen time on everything from eye health to regional differences in session durations. Join us as we encourage mindfulness in technology use, especially during hectic times, and explore the potential for a healthier, more balanced relationship with our digital lives.

S4E13 Embracing Life's Roadblocks: Building Resilience Amidst Life’s Chaos

Tue, 29 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0400

Imagine navigating the bustling streets of New York, only to find your path blocked by unexpected construction. That's how life often feels, doesn't it? Join us as we tackle these metaphorical roadblocks and share how they mirror life's surprises—like an OCD flare-up during treatment or a missed job promotion. Together, we shine a light on the importance of flexibility and adaptability in overcoming such hurdles. Our brains crave order and predictability, but life's detours teach us to embrace uncertainty with understanding and acceptance. Through personal stories and revelations, we'll guide you on shifting mindsets to better handle the unpredictable nature of life's journey.

In our next chapter of conversation, we explore how adversity and painful experiences, though challenging, serve as profound catalysts for personal growth. Reflecting on our own struggles, we express gratitude for the resilience and insight gained from these trials, while acknowledging that not everyone learns these lessons early in life. However, there are remarkable young individuals who do grasp these insights with surprising maturity. As we wrap up, we highlight the humor in life’s endless roadblocks and appreciate the engagement and support of our audience. Tune in for an enlightening and heartening discussion that encourages embracing life's twists and turns with a flexible approach.

S4E12 The Evolving Nature of Wisdom and Insight

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0400

Unlock the secrets of wisdom as we journey through its rich and multifaceted landscape, drawing insights from both Eastern and Western viewpoints. Imagine wisdom not as a static treasure of the old but as a dynamic force that can emerge vibrantly in the young. We promise you'll gain a deeper understanding of how wisdom is more than just accrued knowledge or intelligence. Join us as we explore how life experiences, whether you're guiding a seventh grader or an injured athlete, shape our perceptions and decisions. With references from Oxford and Psychology Today, we reveal how wisdom helps us navigate the unpredictable currents of life, aided by a 92-year-old teacher whose life is a testament to the perfect blend of wisdom and intelligence.

Discover how to cultivate your own inner wisdom across different cultures and stages of life. We delve into the art of balancing emotion and reason, highlighting the "wise mind" concept from dialectical behavior therapy and the often-misunderstood portrayal of wisdom in various traditions. Through personal stories of recovery and resilience, we emphasize the power of mindfulness and the importance of tuning into one's intuitive wisdom. This episode is a call to nurture the wisdom within, to listen to our inner voices, and to learn from the wise souls around us, ensuring that wisdom remains a guiding light throughout our lives.

S4E11 East Versus the West: Baseball Edition

Tue, 15 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0400

What if the passion for your favorite sports team could teach you about compassion, connection, and life's unpredictable twists? This episode is your all-access pass to the vibrant world of East Coast versus West Coast sports fandom. We swap stories about what it means to wear your team’s colors with pride, whether you’re stuck in LA traffic trying to catch a Dodgers game or navigating the bustling New York City streets en route to a Mets showdown. Our discussion highlights the unique culture and challenges of being a sports fan on either coast, using the Dodgers and Mets playoff rivalry as our backdrop.

Our conversation moves beyond the stadium seats to the deeper emotional bonds and community sports can create. As a multi-generational Angeleno, I share how the Dodgers aren't just my favorite team—they're part of my family legacy. Meanwhile, my co-host relives their childhood filled with Mets memories, where team loyalty ran thick through family gatherings. We also touch on the evolving landscape of collegiate sports, particularly the Big Ten conference's expansion, and how these changes shape our regional and national sports identities.

Finally, we explore the life lessons sports fandom offers, from the psychology behind cheering and jeering to the surprising parallels between sports rivalries and political divides. Our playful debate about dream World Series matchups reveals how personal biases color our enthusiasm for the game. We reflect on how sports teach us to maintain relationships amid rivalry and disagreement, urging listeners to embrace compassion and understanding across differing perspectives. Join us for a spirited exploration of how sports not only entertain but also enrich our lives with valuable lessons.

S4E10 Unraveling ADHD: Beyond Distractions and Misconceptions

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0400

Think you may have ADHD simply because you get easily distracted? Discover why that's not always the case in our latest episode. We unravel the complexities of adult ADHD, breaking through common misconceptions that have proliferated in our tech-driven, fast-paced world. By emphasizing the critical importance of professional diagnosis, we'll guide you through the different types of ADHD— inattentive, hyperactive, and combined—while underscoring the difference between occasional distraction and genuine ADHD.

Our discussion doesn’t stop there. Join us as we explore the diverse manifestations of ADHD in boys and girls, revealing biases in diagnosis and shedding light on unique ADHD traits like hyper-focus and creativity. We dive into the clinical side, discussing stimulant and non-stimulant medications and the importance of treating impulsivity with mindfulness techniques. This episode is a compassionate call to understand ADHD better, celebrate its unique strengths, and support those who live with it every day.

S4E9 Finding Peace Through Letting Go: Embracing Mindfulness and Emotional Freedom

Tue, 01 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0400

What if you could find peace by simply letting go? Join us as we unravel the profound wisdom behind letting go through powerful stories and enlightening discussions. Kicking off with a poignant koan about two monks and an old lady, we explore the simplicity of helping without attachment and the complexity of human suffering. This episode guides you through the difference between inevitable pain and optional suffering, emphasizing how our resistance often intensifies our distress. We also share a touching story about the beauty of a flower, highlighting the transformative power of acceptance and mindfulness. Reflect on your own struggles and discover how embracing life's moments with openness and compassion can bring about profound change.

Let's dive deep into the practice of letting go within the framework of mindfulness and emotional well-being. We tackle common misconceptions about detachment, clarifying that letting go is about releasing control rather than distancing from experiences. The principle "push away nothing, cling to nothing" is our guiding light, helping to reduce distress and suffering. Personal anecdotes and spiritual traditions illustrate the importance of mindfulness in daily life, emphasizing the urgency and beauty of living in the present moment. By focusing on the "now" and acknowledging the inevitability of death, we can live more fully and find clarity. Join us for a transformative journey towards emotional freedom and mindfulness.

S4E8 Emotional Contagion: Navigating Collective Moods and Personal Autonomy

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 02:00:00 -0400

How do emotions spread like a ripple, influencing our behavior and even the mood of entire crowds? Join us as we unpack the fascinating phenomenon of emotional contagion. Through relatable examples like the different vibes at various concerts and unexpected aggression at sports events, we explain how emotions can spread from one person to many. This episode is especially crucial for therapists and students managing anxious clients, as we explore the importance of being mindful of one's emotional responses in different contexts based on Arthur Brooks’ article in the Atlantic.

We'll also tackle the challenge of maintaining individuality in crowd-based situations. Are you comfortable being a less vigilant version of yourself when caught up in mass emotions? By posing these thought-provoking questions, we emphasize the significance of making conscious choices. We'll discuss the role of leaders in shaping collective emotions and the importance of interpreting others' intentions with self-awareness. Drawing insights from Arthur Brooks, we stress the value of mindfulness in maintaining autonomy and making intentional decisions. Tune in for a compelling discussion that will help you navigate the emotional energies around you.

S4E7 Mastering the Maze: Overcoming Overwhelm in Decision-Making

Tue, 17 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0400

Why does deciding what jeans to buy feel like climbing a mountain? Let's unpack the overwhelming world of decision-making in today's episode. We confront the brain's wiring for problem-solving that goes haywire with too many choices and the added pressure of uncertain outcomes. We'll share how trying to guess others' thoughts only adds another knot in our tangled web of options. Our aim is to shine a light on why choices can be so daunting and provide some strategies to navigate this maze.

We then shift gears to discuss the delicate balance between risk and decision-making, particularly for high performers who may find themselves stuck in the quicksand of overthinking. We'll explore how aligning decisions with personal values and understanding their flexibility can be liberating. Through relatable scenarios, like deciding on a toaster, we illustrate how to make informed choices and adapt as needed. Lastly, we emphasize resilience and the acceptance of uncertainties, stressing that mistakes aren't failures but mere stepping stones in our journey. Join us for a rich discussion filled with insights and practical advice to help you make choices with courage and clarity.

S4E6 Breaking Stigmas: Athletes and Mental Wellness

Tue, 10 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0400

Ever wondered how elite athletes like Simone Biles manage the tremendous pressure of competing on the world stage? Our guests, Dr. Pete Economou and Dr. Nikki Rubin, bring their expertise in sports psychology to shed light on this critical topic. They share eye-opening personal experiences with swimming and compare the cultural attitudes towards the sport on the East and West Coasts. Together, we dive into the mental health challenges faced by athletes, illustrating how sharing vulnerabilities can break stigmas and remind us that mental well-being is just as important as physical prowess.

Winning isn't just about the medals—it's about the journey. In our conversation, we explore the profound concept of focusing on the process rather than the outcome. With insights about the balance between ambition and acceptance, we discuss how experiencing both victories and setbacks contributes to personal growth. The dialogue is enriched with motivational quotes and practical advice on building grit and staying present, offering you a fresh perspective on resilience and mindfulness in both sports and life. Tune in for an inspiring episode that celebrates the beauty of the journey and the importance of mental health.

S4E5 Paths to Personal Growth: The Differences Between Coaching and Therapy

Tue, 03 Sep 2024 05:00:00 -0400

Ever wondered how coaching and therapy intersect and why it's important to understand the differences? Discover the crucial distinctions and fascinating overlaps between these two practices as cognitive and behavioral therapists, Dr. Pete Economou and Dr. Nikki Rubin, delve into the psychological foundations of coaching, especially executive coaching. You'll learn why it's essential to know what each practitioner offers, the importance of clear boundaries and ethics, and how to navigate the intricacies of problem-solving in both realms. This conversation promises to enhance your understanding of how coaching and therapy can complement each other in supporting personal and professional growth.

Join Dr. Pete Economou and Dr. Nikki Rubin in a thought-provoking exploration of East meets West in mental health. By integrating mindfulness and resilience strategies from both Eastern and Western philosophies, they reveal how these diverse cultural perspectives can enhance your psychological well-being. Listen as they share practical tips for fostering acceptance, presence, and bravery in the face of life's challenges. Whether you're a professional seeking to refine your practice or someone on a personal journey of self-improvement, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies to support your mental health journey.

S4E6 Letting Go of Knowing the Outcome: Identifying Imaginary Information

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 05:00:00 -0400

Can you truly control the outcomes in your life, or is it merely an illusion? Join us in this episode of "When East Meets West" as Dr. Pete Economou and Dr. Nikki Rubin share their personal battles with the human desire for outcome control and the profound impact of accepting uncertainty. You'll learn how research bias can skew our perceptions and the necessity of retaining curiosity in scientific endeavors. Using surprising examples like lollipop colors and their effect on mood, we illustrate the invaluable nature of all data, challenging the narcissistic belief that we can predict results through mere thought and planning.

Shift your focus from the end goal to the present moment as we draw insights from Buddhist philosophy and Zen practices. Discover how embracing the process, rather than fixating on the outcome, can enhance well-being and performance in areas ranging from sports to business. By practicing mindfulness and acceptance, we can manage expectations and reduce suffering, no matter our circumstances. Listen in as we explore the continuous journey of letting go of attachments to both positive and negative outcomes, consistently bringing our attention back to the present—much like the practice of meditation.

S4E3 Exploring the Thin Line Between Secrecy and Privacy

Tue, 20 Aug 2024 05:00:00 -0400

Can you really distinguish between secrecy and privacy? Discover the subtle yet profound differences as we dive into a thought-provoking conversation with Dr. Pete Economou and Dr. Nikki Rubin. In this episode, we tackle how secrets can undermine trust in relationships and teams through acts of omission or commission. Nikki sheds light on the emotional burdens tied to secrecy—shame, guilt, and fear—while contrasting it with the healthy boundaries established by privacy. Learn why maintaining personal space is vital, especially in today’s culture of constant oversharing, and understand the unique roles both secrecy and privacy play in our lives.

But the episode doesn't stop there. We introduce an innovative tool that's set to change the game—the "vibe scale," developed by one of Pete's former supervisors and soon to bear his name. This newly minted metric holds promise for various applications, and we share our excitement for its future impact. As we close the discussion, Pete teases a mysterious secret to be unveiled next time. Stick around for our signature sign-off, where we challenge you to be present and brave, highlighting the educational essence of our engaging dialogues. Don't miss out on this illuminating episode that promises to enrich your understanding of everyday interactions.

S4E2 The Multifaceted Nature of Intimacy: Beyond Romantic Relationships

Tue, 13 Aug 2024 05:00:00 -0400

How often do you consider the true depth of intimacy in your life? Join us as we explore the diverse dimensions of intimacy that go far beyond its typical association with sex. Intimacy isn't confined to romantic relationships; it flourishes in friendships, family dynamics, and even in the way we understand others. We ponder whether the term "intimacy" is apt for describing parent-child relationships and emphasize the significance of forming meaningful connections in a variety of contexts. Discover how deep observation and understanding of another person can enrich your everyday interactions.

In this episode, we also dive into the intricate relationships between love, intimacy, and connection, shedding light on the importance of love languages such as acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, and gifts. You'll learn about the enteric nervous system—our "second brain" in the gut—and how it senses safety in intimate relationships. We reflect on how intimacy can be felt in the body, likening its emotional nourishment to a fullness in the heart. Finally, we invite you to reflect on where you currently experience intimacy and where you might want to cultivate more of it. Tune in to embark on a journey of emotional connection and discover the transformative power of intimacy in your life.

S4E1 Balancing Life and Work in a Hectic World: How to Interact with Busyness

Thu, 08 Aug 2024 18:00:00 -0400

Can high energy levels be both a blessing and a curse? Join us as we reconnect after a whirlwind hiatus to discuss everything from our personal journey updates to the intriguing dynamics of hypomania among high performers. Dr. Nikki Rubin walks us through the booming success of her practice and her exciting collaboration with Simple Practice, while Dr. Pete Economou shares his experiences in academia and sports psychology training. We take a nostalgic trip back to the 1980s and reflect on the pervasive culture of busyness in American society. Reconnecting in New York brought us joy and a renewed focus on the importance of mindfulness and balance in our demanding schedules.

In another engaging chapter, we dissect the complex world of hypomania, distinguishing it from mania and exploring its allure and pitfalls for individuals with bipolar disorder. We also navigate the post-COVID landscape, examining how the pandemic has caused an over-correction in our engagement with daily activities. How can we align our busyness with our core values to ensure our lives feel enriching rather than exhausting? Tune in to hear our insights on managing the new normal, recovering from perfectionism, and finding a fulfilling balance in our increasingly hectic lives. This episode is rich with practical advice and reflective moments, all aimed at improving mental and emotional well-being.

S3E20 Ted Lasso

Fri, 21 Jul 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Over the recent years there has been a growing number of portrayals of mental health providers in media, further helping the de-stigmatization of mental health. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss the recent Apple TV series, Ted Lasso. Tune in to learn how this series has wonderfully portrayed the role of psychology, the impact of a team approach, and so much more behavioral interpretation of his television series.

On Apple TV: https://tv.apple.com/us/show/ted-lasso/umc.cmc.vtoh0mn0xn7t3c643xqonfzy

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S3E19 Private Practice and Finding a Therapist

Fri, 14 Jul 2023 07:00:00 -0400

Dr. Rubin presented the issue in the U.S. with access to care across many different medical arenas, of course emphasizing mental healthcare. Finding the right mental health provider can be a challenge for so many people due to financial limitations, availability, the right fit, and so much more. Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete talk about private practice and the reasons why many mental health providers choose to go into private practice. Dr. Rubin also speaks about why she developed a course for therapists so they can learn how to treat more patients and run the private practice more efficiently.

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S3E18 Liberation

Fri, 30 Jun 2023 07:00:00 -0400

Dr. Pete brought the topic of liberation, which of course Dr. Rubin was so easily able to define as a part of freedom. There is so much power in words and Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin break down the role of relational frame theory and how the word liberation can be perceived. Dr. Pete introduces the audience to the 3 doors of liberation from Buddhism which includes emptiness, signlessness, and aimlessness. Tune in to learn about how these doors of liberation and how someone can live them in a form of action.

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S3E17 Distress Tolerance

Fri, 16 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Dr. Rubin brings her knowledge on this western behavioral practice of distress tolerance. The APA definition of Distress tolerance: the level of either (a) one’s unwillingness to experience emotional distress as part of pursuing desired goals or (b) one’s inability to engage in goal-directed behaviors when experiencing distress. Low distress tolerance is related to a range of disorders, including borderline personality disorder, substance abuse, and eating disorders; some treatments (e.g., dialectical behavior therapy) are designed in part to raise an individual’s level of distress tolerance by habituating him or her to the experience of adapting to distress and other negative emotions. Box breathing, self soothe, senses, water and ice, and other techniques are offered. DBT Book reference: Linehan, M. M. (2015). DBT® skills training manual (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.

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S3E16 Delusions and Illusions

Fri, 09 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Dr. Pete brings topics from his recent dharma talk on delusions and illusions, the Zen teaching of how nothing exists outside the mind. The world as we see it can all be viewed as one big illusion, which is a western practice of cognitive defusion. Dr. Rubin gently challenges around the concept and reminds us that humans have difficult experiences and it is important to acknowledge those feelings. The doctors get into the conversation of letting go and how the Eastern teaching is hard for the Westerner. Tune in to see how to manage life as delusions and illusions.

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S3E15 Distraction

Fri, 02 Jun 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Distraction is the behavior where there is an interruption of attention. It takes the person away from the primary interest, and the world within which we live makes distraction much easier. Think about it- streaming, mobile devices, technology with lights and video, and much more. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin bring the east and west teachings of attention, how the brain works, and even some western diagnoses such as ADHD. Dr. Rubin reminds us that distractions remove us from feelings of discomfort and gives her many pearls of wisdom including that listeners should turn off the push notifications on your mobile devices.

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S3E14_Performance Psychology

Fri, 26 May 2023 02:00:00 -0400

As you have seen on When East Meets West, there are many things that can be tied to western behavioral science and all things about our performance are no different. Dr. Pete works primarily with high performers, but Dr. Rubin reminds us that everything is performance. Even waking up, getting to work, or going to the gym. The hosts focus on how performance psychology helps people reach optimal levels of performance with skills and techniques. Tune in to learn about some of those tools that psychologists use to help others perform their best.

S3E13_Renewal

Fri, 19 May 2023 02:00:00 -0400

Dr. Rubin introduces the subtle shifts of seasons on the west coast compared to the east coast seasonal changes. This episode highlights that the act of returning is a behavior and the idea of renewal is an experience. Dr. Rubin breaks this down for listeners and Dr. Pete brings in the eastern spirituality focusing on the metaphor: Watering the seed is renewal. Tune in to learn about the experience of renewing in your life and that at this moment you can make a commitment to upgrading some part of your life (i.e., renewal).

S3E12_Resilience

Fri, 12 May 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Dr. Pete introduces the nature of resilience in psychology and living while Dr. Rubin reminds that resilience is connected to grit. She named the ingredients as: grit, connection, love and connection, and compassion. There was a moment of disagreement, which does not happen often between these two, when it came to grit. It was a true east versus west conversation since Dr. Pete uses that word at least twice a day for the past 15 years and Dr. Rubin recently found herself describing grit in session. You do not want to miss this episode to learn about cultivating resilience.

S3E11_Panic

Fri, 05 May 2023 08:00:00 -0400

Dr. Rubin introduces the education regarding panic symptoms and panic attacks, and how they are precipitated by a perceived threat. Drs. Rubin and Pete present the symptoms and present some mechanisms that people use to manage panic. Dr. Pete brings the Eastern teachings with the focus on anxiety and nonattachment. Tune into this episode to learn about the east and west perception of panic.

S3E10_Self Growth

Fri, 28 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Self growth

There are many ways for people to try and evolve, and today’s culture heavily emphasizes the importance of wellness and wellbeing. In fact, there could be some criticism about self-growth being viewed as a fad, but Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin break this down for you and tell you how important self growth truly is. Don't believe us? Tune in to see how the eastern spiritual practices have focused so much on growth and change, and how western behaviorism can teach you effective ways to do so.

S3E9_Connection

Fri, 21 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Connection

Dr. Rubin introduced the idea of connection as something that is not measurable, and humans are in need of it. Of course many of us are still recovering from the pandemic and what it meant to connect during this time versus returning now to the present moment and re-learning how to connect. Dr. Pete is able to bring it to the East so that listeners can see how to weave the behavior of connection with the eastern spirituality practice. There is no moment other than this one; this one as you read and click to listen to this episode and learn about tools for stronger connection with other humans, values, and life.

S3E8_Anger

Fri, 14 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0400

Anger

Dr. Rubin highlights the evolution of anger and how this emotion can be helpful. Like most things in the practice of mindfulness, as long as we do not let any of them control how we think, feel and behave, they can be useful. Dr. Pete discusses the role of anger in performance and how the East has interpreted and written on this emotion. Remember, it is just one emotion. Do not give emotions too much power. Tune in to learn about how to effectively feel anger!

S3E7_Retreats

Fri, 07 Apr 2023 00:00:00 -0400

In this episode Dr. Pete brings the trend of retreats to this episode as it comes into modern wellness, as well as the traditional practices of retreats which are ultimately meant to isolate and recharge our energy and spirits. Dr. Rubin reminds listeners to remain curious about these ideas and find what is helpful for each individual, because there is no one-size-fits all. Dr. Pete reminds us that wellness is a journey and to remain patient with the process of retreats, dabble with different kinds, and like Dr. Rubin said, stay curious. Tune in to learn more about the practice of retreats.

S3E6_The Return

Wed, 29 Mar 2023 19:00:00 -0400

The Return: We are back!

After almost one year, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin return to When East Meets West and, in true form of their commitment to mindfulness, they frame this return episode within a mindful and values-based way. Like most of you they have been busy and had to make the decision to stay on hiatus, but they are back. They will bring new episodes to complete season 3 and keep throwing knowledge for the world to improve and to decrease suffering. Tune in to hear about their time off and what to expect for the upcoming episodes.

S3E5 Self Care Hiatus

Thu, 21 Apr 2022 19:00:00 -0400

Have you missed the doctors? Well, they missed you more! Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin have been grinding, which means that they needed to take a break. Tune in to learn the importance of boundaries and self-care professionally and personally. They explain the importance of self-compassion, mindfulness, spirituality, and explain the need to take a break. Do not worry. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin will be back soon with riveting episodes linking eastern spirituality with western spiritual practices.

S3E3_The Rules Dilemma

Thu, 03 Feb 2022 02:00:00 -0500

You see that there? What is the dilemma with rules? Tune in to hear Dr. Rubin talk about how there are some issues with rules, but that we also need them. She schools Dr. Pete, as always, and sheds light onto the importance of rules in behaviorism.

S3E2_Thich Naht Hanh

Thu, 20 Jan 2022 19:00:00 -0500

January 2022, one of the most influential Buddhist monks, transitioned to the next life. He was 95-years-old and after being ordained a monk at age 16, he went on to live a life dedicated to educating the world on peace and living compassionately. Dr. Pete discusses the role of death in eastern traditions, and what this means to his community. It made sense that Dr. Rubin would bring this episode to shed light on the tremendous impact he has had during this lifetime.

S3E1

Sat, 08 Jan 2022 08:00:00 -0500

Have you ever heard someone describe an event (e.g., dinner, fight, work presentation), but it sounds so different than you experienced it? that is perception. In the opening episode of season 3, Dr. Pete shares the dharma talk that was influenced by the role of perceptions, and how the mind interferes with behavior. While this concept of perception is common within the eastern spiritual teachings, it is also fundamentally behavioral. Tune in to learn about how the power of perception is related to releasing suffering.

S2E37 Resolutions Season 2 Finale

Wed, 29 Dec 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Oops, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete forgot to say good-bye and all of a sudden, they found themselves in a short hiatus. In this season 2 closer, the co-hosts discuss the need for a break, setting boundaries, all within the context of a new year and the resolutions that people make as the world enters a new year. Learn about intention versus resolution, and both Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete share some of their committed intentions for the new year. You will not want to miss this episode, especially if you are seeking peace in the new year.

S2E36_The Heart Sutra

Wed, 01 Dec 2021 08:00:00 -0500

Dr. Rubin asks and she receives, so Dr. Pete breaks down the Heart Sutra in a very basic, secular way. Listeners will learn about the role of chanting and sutras in eastern practices, specifically the heart sutra in this episode. If you want to learn more about the role of chanting in Buddhism, tune in!

Listeners can read the heart sutra here: https://zmm.org/teachings-and-training/liturgy/heart-sutra/

S2E35_Perspective Taking

Wed, 24 Nov 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Have you ever been to a dinner and then you ask all the guests what happened at dinner? If there were 6 guests, you will get 6 different stories. That is the power of perspective taking. Dr. Pete shares knowledge about how perspective impacts mood and behaviors, while Dr. Rubin drops knowledge about its role in western behavioral science. The psychologists discuss developmental aspects of perspective, the idea of no self in easters philosophies, and its role in empathy. Tune in, you don't want to miss how your perspective reading this right now will affect whether you listen or not.

S2E34_Honoring the Father of Cognitive Therapy, Dr. Aaron T. Beck

Wed, 17 Nov 2021 02:00:00 -0500

On November 1, 2021 the world lost the father of cognitive therapy, Aaron T. Beck, MD, known as Tim by his loved ones. He noticed issues with interpretations in traditional psychoanalysis and introduced the world of psychology to automatic thoughts, cognitive distortions, the idea that psychological concepts could be scientifically studied, and everything related to what we now know as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). In this episode, Dr. Rubin shares stories and autobiographical details, while Dr. Pete tries to hold on and learns a ton. Tune in to learn more about Dr. Beck and the impact he had and the legacy that will live forever.

Learn more about Dr. Beck's life and his work:

Dr. Beck discussing the similarities between CBT and Buddhism with the Dalai Lama

The Beck Institute, co-founded by Aaron Beck, M.D. and his daughter Judith Beck, Ph.D.

New York Times Obituary and the Washington Post Obituary

S2E33_Risk Taking

Wed, 10 Nov 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Most of us think of risk taking behaviors as limited to putting ourselves in physical danger for a thrill (e.g., surfing a 50ft wave) or acting impulsively or without thinking (e.g., making a bet using your life savings). In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete discuss how simply being alive is risky, and how making decisions, doing things that align with your values, or practicing vulnerability are all healthy risk taking behaviors. Tune in to learn more.

S2E32_Authenticity

Wed, 03 Nov 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Most of us tend to know when something feels fake or feels genuine or authentic—but how?? In this episode Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin introduce discuss the concept of authenticity, and how it may be a value, a personal experience, or something we assess in others. Tune in to learn how finding authenticity in your life is broken into four categories: self awareness, unbiased processing, behavior and relational orientation (Kermis & Goldman, 2000).

S2E31_Avoidance

Wed, 27 Oct 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Brains don’t like being uncomfortable, so they’ve come up with a simple behavioral solution: avoid it! In this episode, the docs discuss the function of avoidance, provide psychoeducation about experiential avoidance and its attempts to control what’s happening inside of our bodies, and discuss the comparable Buddhist concept of aversion. Everyone avoids thoughts, feelings, other people, situations (and much more) at some point or another, so tune in to learn how to recognize avoidance and begin to turn back towards stepping into discomfort. We promise, it’ll be worth it!

S2E29_Music

Wed, 20 Oct 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Have you noticed that the music you listen to can directly affect how you feel? Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin share insights around the psychology of music, while reminding listeners that they are no musical experts. Dr. Pete introduces Marconi Union and the song “Weightless” that was found to be the most stress-reducing song studied. He also introduces Kirtan as a form of meditation, and Dr. Rubin provides insights on how to music may impact our mood states (for better or worse). Tune in to learn more about how music can impact your well-being.

S2E30_Worry and Rumination

Wed, 13 Oct 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Why do we worry about the future and ruminate about the past? In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete discuss and distinguish between these two “covert” behaviors (behaviors happening inside you that are invisible to everyone else), their evolutionary purposes, and why the brain thinks these behaviors help solve problems (spoiler alert: they don’t!) Unsurprisingly, you’ll see once again how all roads lead to mindfulness and how mindful practices can help you let go of worry and rumination behaviors.

S2E29_Koans in Buddhism

Thu, 07 Oct 2021 09:00:00 -0400

You’ve heard koans mentioned on WEMW before, but what exactly are they? In this episode, Dr. Pete explains what koans are and how they are used to try and untangle the mind through verbal paradoxes and riddles in the Buddhist tradition. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin practice walking through one of the most well known koans together, and discuss how koans may help individuals connect with reality more effectively. This episode will help those wanting to learn more about the origin of mindfulness from Buddhism. Tune in!

S2E28_Multi-tasking

Wed, 29 Sep 2021 02:00:00 -0400

We live in a busy go, go, go world, thus most of us like to believe that we are experts in multi-tasking. But believe it or not, the brain is actually incapable of focusing on more than one thing at a time! In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin bust the multi-tasking myth by discussing the DBT skill of “one mindfully,” research on attention “switching,” and their own challenges with multi-tasking. Living in this high paced world, you wont want to miss this episode on how to slow down and pay attention.

S2E27_Sadness

Mon, 20 Sep 2021 10:00:00 -0400

As Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete return from a short summer hiatus, they open up the second half of Season 2 by discussing the importance of sadness, evolutionary perspectives, and differentiate sadness from depression. Dr. Rubin highlights the behavioral role of sadness in the western world while Dr. Pete reminds us that sadness can be a gift from an eastern perspective. All of us have felt it, so tune in to learn about sadness.

S2E26_Love

Wed, 28 Jul 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Love is a basic emotion, and one that most humans desire. There are many aspects of love and it shows up at different points in our lives. In this last episode before summer break, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin share their thoughts on love and the role it plays in human behavior.

S2_Bonus3_Toxic Masculinity with Jean Semelfort, MA, LPC

Wed, 21 Jul 2021 02:00:00 -0400

On this bonus episode, special guest Jean Semelfort, Jr. joins Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin to discuss toxic masculinity. Jean is a licensed professional counselor and owner of the private practice CACTUS in Montclair, NJ. He is a consultant who has worked with many universities on healthy masculinity and sexual assault prevention, and he has shared his expertise in his excellent TED talk "Rolling with Rejection".

The professionals break down the definition of masculinity, the social implications, and intersectionality. Tune in, you won't want to miss this episode.

S2E25_Emotion Regulation

Wed, 14 Jul 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Emotions evolved to give us information, but what happens when they become more intense than evolution intended them to be? In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete discuss emotion regulation, including reasons why emotions become dysregulated and ways to work on regulating or mitigating their intensity. And no surprise here—mindful practices are often the way to doing so. Tune in to learn more.

S2E24_Video Games

Wed, 07 Jul 2021 02:00:00 -0400

There are many positives and negatives involving the use of video games, and experts have been debating this topic for years. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin break down some of the most recent research around video games, the development of e-sports, and generational implications of the role of video games in society.

S2E23_The Problem with Freud

Wed, 30 Jun 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Without further ado, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete bring you the first episode regarding the differences between behaviorism and traditional psychoanalysis as developed by Sigmund Freud. They highlight how the practices are similar and how behavioral health providers are often implementing more similar interventions than different, but how eastern traditions are nonjudgmental and likely more applicable across groups when compared to traditional Freudian theory. Tune in to learn more.

S2E22_Health Anxiety

Tue, 22 Jun 2021 02:00:00 -0400

As the medical world advances, so too do the labels that help guide providers with treatment. In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin chat about illness anxiety, OCD with a health focus, and other behavioral presentations related to health concerns. The east and west coast psychologists flush out the difference between the fear of having a disease versus contracting one, worry, obsessions, and much more that plays into how people respond to health anxiety.

S2E21_Compromise

Wed, 16 Jun 2021 02:00:00 -0400

If given the choice, do you prefer to compromise or do it your way? In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss why compromise is so difficult for human beings (hint: we’ve got those rigid and judgmental brains!) and how a willingness to practice compromise creates opportunities for more workable solutions. Letting go of attachment to being right, mindfully accepting and experiencing discomfort, and returning back to the middle path are also discussed. Tune in to learn more.

S2E20_Guilt

Wed, 09 Jun 2021 13:00:00 -0400

No one likes feeling guilty, but have you ever considered that maybe your guilt is trying to tell you something? In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete dive into what guilt actually is (hint: it’s information!), including its evolutionary roots. They also distinguish between justified guilt and unjustified guilt, and effective ways to respond to each. And of course, the docs present how mindfulness practices and Zen wisdom can help us better understand and respond to this unpleasant emotion.

S2E19_East vs. West

Wed, 02 Jun 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Today isn't about when East meets West, it's about East versus West! In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin dive into an exploration (and friendly rivalry) of East coast versus West coast cultures. This discussion creates a space to identify rules, attitudes, and judgments that arise amidst their differences, while also serving as an example of how different experiences help us to grow and become more curious, flexible, and open. You might even learn a little bit about some of the docs' favorite East coast and West coast cuisines and music! Tune in to hear more.

S2E18_Curiosity

Wed, 26 May 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Humans are a curious species, although at times curiosity can cause anxiety or pain (i.e., think about the saying "curiosity killed the cat." Sorry to you cat lovers out there). In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete define curiosity as both a feeling AND a behavior, as well as discuss its relationship to willingness, openness, and acceptance. Curiosity is also highlighted as integral part of mindfulness practices. Curious as you read this? Listen to this episode to learn how to build deeper connections through curiosity.

S2E17_Enlightenment

Wed, 19 May 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Enlightenment is often misunderstood in western culture as something to achieve. In this episode, Dr. Pete clarifies that there actually is no arrival or achievement of enlightenment (what?!) and both docs discuss what this means from a Buddhist lens and how it may connect with spirituality. Dr. Rubin also identifies how our human brains will continue to interfere with this process because we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Tune in to begin to explore this complex concept.

S2E16_Intuition

Wed, 12 May 2021 02:00:00 -0400

What is a gut instinct? Can you tell the difference between your gut, your emotions, or a premonition? In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete discuss intuition, how to access it, and how its existence is explained from both eastern spiritual traditions and western science. Fun fact: neurons (the cells that are in your brain) are also found in the human GI tract, so our gut instinct really is telling us something...Tune in to learn more about how to connect to and act from your intuition and inner wisdom.

S2E15_Boundaries

Wed, 05 May 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Do you know the difference between boundaries and walls? How about the relationship between boundaries and connection? In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete discuss what boundaries are, how they are an essential part of healthy relationships, and why setting and maintaining them is often so hard to do. Tune in to learn more about importance of boundaries.

S2E14_Values

Wed, 28 Apr 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Finally! In this episode, the docs talk through one of their favorite topics on WEMW: values. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin define what values are and how they function like directions, discuss their relationship with flexibility, and identify how clarifying and acting in alignment with our values can bring us more meaning, purpose, and fulfillment in our lives.

S2E13_Adjusting

Wed, 21 Apr 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Whether to a global pandemic, marriage, the loss of a loved one, or a new job, humans are always adjusting. Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete highlight the behavioral aspects of adjustment, the diagnosis of adjustment disorder, and how the world is collectively going through an adjustment. Tune in to learn about how best to adjust to new situations.

S2E12_Trigger Warnings

Wed, 14 Apr 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Have you been given a trigger warning before? In the service of increasing sensitivity and awareness to the struggles of others, trigger warnings have gained popularity by letting someone know that what’s about to be shared could be distressing. In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss how this well-intentioned approach actually runs counter to the behavioral science behind exposure therapy, and how it’s impossible to avoid all triggers and avoid all distress. The docs identify how practicing compassionate awareness of others’ distress while also facing triggers can exist dialectically, and how this results in increasing psychological resilience. Tune in to learn more.

S2E11_Flexibility and Freedom

Wed, 07 Apr 2021 02:00:00 -0400

How do we move towards creating more space and freedom in our lives? In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss a favorite topic on WEMW: flexibility. While you might know from other episodes that psychological flexibility is highly correlated with psychological well-being, you may not have considered how practicing flexibility is a gateway to connecting with more freedom in your life. Tune in to learn more about how these two concepts can help us move towards our values and building the lives that we want for ourselves.

S2E10_The Middle Path

Wed, 31 Mar 2021 00:00:00 -0400

Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin have mentioned the Middle Path time and again on When East Meets West. In this episode, they finally dissect and present the foundations of this practice, how it links to behavior, and how it may impact our emotional functioning. The doctors illustrate the three waves of CBT, the goals of finding the middle way in order to create flexibility, and the importance of functional contextualism.

S2E9_The Brain vs. The Mind

Wed, 24 Mar 2021 02:00:00 -0400

What is the difference between the brain and the mind? Is there a difference? In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete discuss how these two parts ourselves are often conflated (especially since they both exist inside our skulls!) They also define and distinguish the brain as an organ in the human body and the mind as something a lot less tangible. Time is also spent addressing how eastern perspectives tend to target the mind, while western approaches likely target helping both. Tune in to learn more.

S2_Bonus2_Entrepreneurship with Empathy with Howard Spector, CEO

Mon, 22 Mar 2021 15:00:00 -0400

Howard Spector co-founded SimplePractice—a business management software solution and an industry-leading SaaS company in the healthtech sector that has been recognized as the Best Overall Practice Management System in 2020 by Software Pundit. As CEO, Howard has actively worked to challenge and redefine what it means to be a successful leader. By emphasizing a human-first approach and leveraging his psychology background, Howard has built a work culture that speaks to the very core of its employees and its customers. In 2020, SimplePractice was honorably recognized as one of Forbes’ Best Start-Up Employers and BuiltinLA’s Best Places to Work. Tune in to hear Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin talk with Howard about entrepreneurship with empathy!

S2E8_Grief

Wed, 17 Mar 2021 02:00:00 -0400

Grief occurs when we have experienced the loss of someone we love, and it is one of the most intense baseline emotions we may encounter. In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete discuss the stages of grief as originally defined by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, the differences between grief, sadness and depression, and how honoring our emotion of grief can serve to connect us to those we love and have lost. Tune in to learn more about how to mindfully experience this difficult aspect of human struggle.

S2E7_Screen Fatigue

Wed, 10 Mar 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Did you ever imagine that most of your human interactions would be two-dimensional? 2020 saw the transition to connecting with others through predominantly digital means to increase safety during the covid-19 pandemic. In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss the impact this significant increase in screen time has on our mental well-being, our ability to feel connected to others, and how to mitigate the effects of screen fatigue.

S2E6_Understanding Judgments

Wed, 03 Mar 2021 02:00:00 -0500

The brain is hard wired to judge, so don’t judge the judging! In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss both the evolutionary and biological function of judgments, as well as how mindfulness can help us to cultivate the ability to practice nonjudgmental stance in order to experience the world more accurately. While we can’t turn off this part of our brain, we can learn to interact it with in a more adaptive way. Tune in to learn how.

S2E5_Motivation vs. Willingness

Wed, 24 Feb 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Motivation may be one of the most misunderstood emotions that we have, often leading to a belief that we need to feel motivated in order to make changes in our lives. In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete define motivation and identify its limitations in helping us to change our behavior, and contrast it with willingness, which is a requisite for behavior change. While motivation may come and go, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss how willingness can be cultivated through mindful practices. Check out Dr. Rubin’s guest appearance on “The Trusty Spotter” where she discusses how this applies to starting an exercise routine.

S2_Bonus1_Disordered Eating with Danielle Keenan-Miller, Ph.D.

Fri, 19 Feb 2021 02:00:00 -0500

The pandemic has increased the onset of unhealthy eating habits, which can lead to body image issues as well. In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete welcome clinical psychologist and author Danielle Keenan-Miller, Ph.D. to discuss different types of disordered eating, ways to address it, and how to reconnect with eating as an important and often times joyful part of human experience.

Dr. Keenan-Miller is a psychological scientist, teacher, therapist, and co-author of the book The Binge Eating Prevention Workbook. She is the director of the UCLA Psychology Clinic, and Associate Adjunct Professor of Psychology at UCLA, where she trains graduate students in evidence-based psychotherapy. She has authored over a dozen scientific articles and serves on the executive board of the Association for Psychology Training Clinics. She also maintains a private practice in Los Angeles where she blends the art and science of psychotherapy.

For more tips and wisdom, follow Dr. Keenan-Miller @KnowsPsychology on Twitter.

S2E4_Sex and Human Connection

Wed, 17 Feb 2021 02:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin start a conversation about the role of sex in human connection, while also distinguishing between the biological function of sex, sexual behavior, and intimacy. They model a mindful approach to exploring a discussion about sex by cultivating curiosity and nonjudgment, while also understanding behavioral functions of this aspect of human experience. By the end there was one clear finding- Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin will definitely need another episode to continue this conversation.

S2E3_Cancel Culture

Wed, 10 Feb 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Cancel culture is "the popular practice of withdrawing support for (canceling) public figures and companies after they have done or said something considered objectionable or offensive. [It's] generally discussed as being performed on social media in the form of group shaming” (Dictionary.com y'all). Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete discuss why cancel culture may have developed, the difference between holding others accountable and “canceling” someone, and the problem with pervasive “canceling” given the inherent messiness and mistake-prone nature of being human.

S2E2_Beginner’s Mind

Wed, 03 Feb 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss the Zen Buddhist of concept of Shoshin, aka Beginner's Mind, in which individuals learn to approach each moment with curiosity and openness as if experiencing something for the first time. They identify ways to begin to behaviorally practice this and Dr. Pete discusses specific examples from his new book, Mindfulness Workbook for Beginners.

S2E1_Change

Wed, 27 Jan 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Welcome back to WEMW with your two favorite psychologists, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin. Most people avoid change, and yet in 2021 there were millions of people ecstatic for it. In this first episode of season 2, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete discuss the relationship between change and discomfort, and how growth and evolution can’t exist without it. Tune in to learn about change, acceptance, and concepts from Buddhism such as impermanence, insight and how nothing is inherently fixed.

S1E34_Season 1 2020 Finale

Wed, 30 Dec 2020 03:00:00 -0500

Well, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin took this journey in 2020 starting When East Meets West. It feels like they have been doing this for ages, and their relationship is palpable. They discuss the time together this first season, and reflect on the past 34 episodes! If you have topics to share with us and you wish to contact the docs to discuss, send us a note: info@wheneastmeetswest.us. We can’t wait for you to hear more in 2021!

S1E33_Radical Acceptance Part 2

Thu, 24 Dec 2020 01:00:00 -0500

Dr. Rubin presents how the past 6 months has felt like 60 years, as she discusses the role of acceptance in behaviorism with Dr. Pete. On the next to last episode in 2020, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete address ways to practice acceptance within western behaviorism and eastern philosophy. If you are like most humans in the year 2020, and beyond, you would benefit from learning about ways to practice acceptance.

S1E32_Behaviorism is Everywhere

Mon, 14 Dec 2020 13:00:00 -0500

There is nothing that we do that cannot be understood through behaviorism. Nothing. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin explain how learning theory is fundamentally woven into all aspects of being human. Whether it is a holiday dinner, career, or romance, we can use behavioral science to learn to improve how we interact with one another and ourselves . Tune in to learn how.

S1E31_Dogs and Well-being

Wed, 02 Dec 2020 02:00:00 -0500

People and animals benefit from one another biologically, psychologically, and more. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss the evolutionary history of the relationship between dogs and humans (you can learn more here: https://apple.news/AGtTvq4x_ROSLiBhO84Mo4w), as well as share their love for dogs (no offense cat people), and identify how behavioral science is related to dog ownership.

S1E30_Humor

Wed, 25 Nov 2020 02:00:00 -0500

Everyone loves a good laugh, right? Have you ever watched some of those videos online of a child belly-laughing? There are real psychological benefits of humor, including cultivating joy and connection, increasing psychological flexibility, and tolerating distress. In this episode, Dr. Rubin highlights how humor may behaviorally present in both helpful and unhelpful ways, and Dr. Pete shares how Buddhist teachings conceptualize humor, including pop culture examples (e.g. Bernie Glassman and Jeff Bridges, “The Dude and the Zen Master”).

S1E29_Isolation and Quarantine

Wed, 18 Nov 2020 02:00:00 -0500

As we continue to experience this global pandemic, isolation from others remains a consistent consequence. In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss the impact of isolation on mental health and well-being, and identify how eastern and western psychological approaches conceptualize and address this experience. Coping skills listeners may try while managing isolation and/or quarantine are presented as well.

S1E28_Individualism and Politics

Mon, 09 Nov 2020 07:00:00 -0500

As we end another cycle of a U.S. election, we are all feeling like we’ve had enough. The split between the country during this election cycle was palpable. In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete define and compare the values of individualism (dominant in the U.S.) and collectivism (often dominant in eastern cultures and traditions). They discuss the advantages and disadvantages of each value, and their perspectives on how individualism might explain some current voter behavior.

S1E27_Election Stress Disorder

Tue, 03 Nov 2020 08:00:00 -0500

In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss what has been called “election stress disorder.” While technically not a real psychological disorder, you’re unlikely to find someone who hasn’t experienced distress and uncertainty related to the 2020 American election. Tune in to learn about how to navigate election stress from November 3rd on.

S1E26_Toxic Positivity

Wed, 28 Oct 2020 02:00:00 -0400

We have all met someone who told us to “look on the bright side” while we were in the midst of a painful or difficult experience. While this suggestion may be well intentioned, this type of positive lens may also be invalidating, and make you feel like there is something wrong with you for having a hard time. In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete define toxic positivity, discuss how it can actually negatively impact our mood, and identify ways to connect with and practice optimism instead. Dr. Pete references the chant of gratitude, to learn more visit: https://sites.google.com/view/morningstarzen/chants/practice-of-gratitute?authuser=0

S1E25_Entitlement

Wed, 21 Oct 2020 02:00:00 -0400

We have all encountered someone who does not have the same respect for the rules as others, or who believes that the rules simply do not apply to them at all! In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete discuss entitlement, and how entitled behavior suggests that someone has difficulty taking the perspective of others. The impact of entitlement, as well as how mindfulness can begin to improve perspective taking, are discussed.

S1E24_Stress

Wed, 14 Oct 2020 02:00:00 -0400

Stress is something that everyone experiences, especially in 2020. Although it's common, stress can have a negative effect on our overall well-being and physical health without proper awareness and coping skills. Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete discuss the impact of stress, and offer ways to manage it using behavioral tools and mindfulness practices.

S1_Bonus_Existentialism and Behaviorism with Robyn Walser, Ph.D.

Fri, 09 Oct 2020 07:00:00 -0400

In this special extra episode, our first guest Dr. Robyn Walser joined Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete for a conversation on existentialism within behaviorism. Dr. Walser is a scholar and practitioner in the field of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and has authored many books and research articles. Her books are titled: The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible and Process-Based Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Learning ACT-2nd Edition, ACT for Moral Injury, The Mindful Couple, ACT for Clergy and Pastoral Counselors: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Bridge Psychological and Spiritual Care, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for the Treatment of Posttraumatic Stress disorder.

Listen to learn about the work of existentialism within the practice and science of behaviorism.

You can learn more about Dr. Walser here: http://www.tlconsultationservices.com

S1E23_Polarization and Dialectics

Wed, 07 Oct 2020 02:00:00 -0400

Today the docs discuss one of Dr. Rubin's favorite things in psychology: dialectics! In this episode Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete break down the effects of polarization on our social relationships, describe how polarization is a common consequence of our brain's wiring, and how dialectics can help (don't worry, they'll define it). Tune in to learn how to manage polarization and hopefully become more dialectical.

To learn more about WEMW, check out the website.

S1E22_Social Inequities

Wed, 30 Sep 2020 20:00:00 -0400

2020 has been identified as a year to remember; global pandemic, wild fires, racial tensions at an all time high, earthquakes, and political unrest. In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin address the science of social inequities, as well as identify how the Buddhist concept of equanimity may help us understand how to begin to address these problems in small ways.

In this episode Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete recommend researching: Mindfulness for the People and the Harvard Implicit Bias Test.

Check out WEMW to learn more about Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin.

S1E21_Control and Behavior

Wed, 23 Sep 2020 02:00:00 -0400

Has anyone ever called you controlling? On this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss what it means to be controlling from a western psychological lens (emphasizing the role of rigidity), in addition to highlighting principles related to mindfulness and how these may have an impact on control. Listen to this episode to learn strategies to manage an urge to control outcomes.

S1E20_Postpartum Challenges

Wed, 16 Sep 2020 02:00:00 -0400

Dr. Rubin worked in women's reproductive behavioral health during her time on the east coast, and continues to treat these struggles on the west coast. In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss the many challenges women may face postpartum, specifically with regards to symptoms on the anxiety spectrum given that these have generally received less public attention than depressive symptoms. Tune in to learn more about postpartum challenges and how fantasy narratives about pregnancy and new motherhood may exacerbate them.

S1E19_Social Media

Thu, 03 Sep 2020 02:00:00 -0400

How is your screen time? Check it out before you listen to this episode, because in this episode Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete address the advantages and disadvantages of social media in our lives and our mental well-being. Dr. Rubin shares her views and beliefs for not using social media and, in contrast, Dr. Pete has an active Instagram account (find him @officialdrpete). Tune in to learn what kind of relationship with social media might work best for you.

S1E18_Spirituality

Wed, 26 Aug 2020 02:00:00 -0400

Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss the difference between religion and spirituality, and how spirituality is often misconstrued, misunderstood, or judged. This episode focuses on the eastern practice of mindfulness and how this may blend with the western aim to seek meaning in life. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin also discuss how they came to connect with their own experiences of spirituality, while encouraging listeners to become curious about what spirituality might mean to them.

S1E17_Uncertainty

Wed, 19 Aug 2020 02:00:00 -0400

Does it ever seem as though life feels too uncertain at times? In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete address the science behind uncertainty, and why evolution selected for brains to assume that not knowing something is equivalent to danger. They explore how western behavioral science and eastern spirituality both help humans to accept what we don't know (even when we inaccurately believe that planning will help us know the future). Tune in to learn more about how to interact more effectively with uncertainty.

S1E16_Sport Psychology and COVID

Wed, 12 Aug 2020 02:00:00 -0400

The COVID-19 pandemic has disrupted many of our routines and experiences, including those in the world of sports. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss the suspension of fall 2020 sports in the NCAA, and the tremendous impact this has on student-athletes, coaches, staff, administration, and fans. Given that American culture is often defined by sport-identity, sport psychology has become more important than ever. Tune in to learn how this context may serve as a broader metaphor in learning how to navigate unexpected and difficult circumstances.

S1E15_Gratitude

Mon, 03 Aug 2020 17:00:00 -0400

What is gratitude exactly? Being thankful or appreciative, or something more? Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss how gratitude can be a part of a Buddhist practice, the psychological benefits of gratitude, and the behaviors that help us to practice this value. Tune in to learn about the many ways we can connect with gratitude in our lives.

S1E14_Self-Criticism

Fri, 31 Jul 2020 17:00:00 -0400

All of us have a self-critic inside, whether we like it or not. Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete use sarcasm and humor as they talk about the role of the brain's "inner critic." They discuss how mindfulness and Buddhism address self-criticism, and identify the role the inner critic plays in psychological suffering. Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete also discuss how behaviorism understands the self-critical voice, and present steps to begin to quiet it just a little bit.

S1E13_Calm

Thu, 30 Jul 2020 17:00:00 -0400

Do you want to feel calm? Buddhism and Western psychology both aim to cultivate a sense of calm, but often in different ways than we might expect. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss how a state of calm can impact performance and your daily life, as well as clarify how chasing a state of calm gets us into trouble. They even mentioned Yerkes Dodson performance curve. Check it out!

S1E12_Anxiety

Tue, 28 Jul 2020 17:00:00 -0400

Anxiety is a natural emotion that all humans and most, if not all, living beings experience. In this episode, Dr. Rubin leads the conversation on evolution and how anxiety is adaptive for the 40,000 year old part of our brains. Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete talk about building a more effective relationship with anxiety when it inevitably shows up.

S1E11_Be Present, Be Brave

Thu, 23 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0400

If you are addicted to listening to WEMW, you have heard Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin say "be present, be brave" at the sign off of each episode. Tune into this episode to learn why the docs chose this tag line and what it represents in the world of Eastern spirituality and Western behavioral science.

S1E10_Righteousness and Rigidity

Wed, 22 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0400

In this episode, the docs take a deep dive into how righteousness and rigid thinking affect behavior and interpersonal relationships. Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete reflect on personal examples where they struggle to let go of wanting to be right, and identify how they are able to choose being effective instead. Mindfulness-based concepts and behavioral tools to address the tempting desire to be right are discussed.

S1E9_Communication

Sat, 18 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0400

Have you tried to talk to someone who does not share your world views, like wearing a mask or not? In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss ways to communicate effectively with loved ones who you disagree with in some way. We often avoid these tough conversations because they’re uncomfortable—the WEMW docs talk about why it’s important to consider choosing to start them any way. Tune in to hear how to begin these difficult dialogues.

S1E8_Compassion

Fri, 17 Jul 2020 07:00:00 -0400

Have you tried to live with compassion? Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin talk about compassion as a clinical intervention and as a way of life; of course, they address how compassion fits into behavioral science within the third wave CBT world. Listen in to see how you can practice compassion in your life, and how it can help you!

S1E7_Vulnerability

Thu, 16 Jul 2020 09:00:00 -0400

Brene Brown became a household sensation after a famous TED talk about her research on vulnerability as a professor of social work in Texas. In this episode, Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete talk about their personal experiences with practicing vulnerability, how people can benefit from being vulnerable, and how vulnerability can help us learn to connect with and act aligned with our values.

S1E6_Perfectionism

Wed, 15 Jul 2020 14:00:00 -0400

Do you consider yourself to be a perfectionist? Dr. Rubin and Dr. Pete reframe the idea of what being a perfectionist is, and discuss whether or not every human is actually a perfectionist in some way. Tune in to learn how they redefine perfectionism--get ready, they even offer a new definition (linear-ness).

S1E5_Meditation

Mon, 13 Jul 2020 17:00:00 -0400

Many of us have tried to meditate, especially with the increased presence of mindfulness in the West (thanks to more access and knowledge about it via the internet and popular apps). In this episode Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss the science of meditation, their journeys with meditation, and offer some strategies for how to begin a meditation practice.

S1E4_Race and Power

Thu, 09 Jul 2020 09:00:00 -0400

For years there have been social issues related to racial inequalities. While this has happened all over the world (e.g., apartheid), the United States has suffered from this polarity during the pandemic. In this episode Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss the two pandemics in the world and start the conversation around the psychology of race, power and privilege.

S1E3_Coping

Thu, 09 Jul 2020 08:00:00 -0400

Have you ever felt proud that you handled a situation well, easily got over a frustration, or overcame the loss of someone or a pet? You were likely using coping skills. In this episode, Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin talk about the science behind coping skills and even share some of their favorite skills they use personally.

S1E2_Acceptance

Wed, 08 Jul 2020 11:00:00 -0400

In this episode Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin discuss the practice of acceptance from both western and eastern perspectives. While this concept may seem easy to talk about on the surface, in reality it is one of the hardest behaviors to do. Learn about behavioral mechanisms at play during the practice of acceptance.

S1E1_Introducing the Docs of WEMW

Wed, 08 Jul 2020 10:00:00 -0400

In this first episode, you are introduced to Dr. Pete Economou from New Jersey and Dr. Nikki Rubin from California. They met while training in New Jersey, and both practice 3rd wave cognitive behavioral therapies (CBT) where they use mindfulness-based interventions. Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin quickly realized they were cut from the same cloth AND were quite different at the same time. Throughout WEMW you will find a blend of education and entertainment. Enjoy and nice to meet you!

S1_Trailer

Wed, 01 Jul 2020 09:00:00 -0400

Listen to a small taste of Dr. Pete and Dr. Rubin, as we bring you When East Meets West.