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Went to a sex club with my man  & Shanta… yeah, you already know this episode is chaos 😭

From unexpected interactions 👀
to me lowkey getting put in situations I was NOT ready for 😬
to the stuff that actually surprised me the most…

And somehow we ALSO got into:
✨ my wild Ari Lennox celebrity interaction
✨ what I surprised my man with (yeah… we going there 😏)
✨ AND me meeting his siblings for the first time… (why that feel more stressful than the sex club?? 😭)

This episode is messy, funny, and lowkey educational…
because baby… some of this really Needs To Be Studied 📚

🎧 Tap in now — you’re not ready for this one.

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Everybody got rules in dating… but let’s be real — are they actually protecting your relationship, or slowly killing it?

This week on Needs To Be Studied, we getting into the truth about relationship rules, boundaries, and control — and why some of y’all “standards” might be the exact reason your love life not working.

We talking:

    •    when boundaries turn into control 👀

    •    why too many rules kill chemistry

    •    the difference between protecting your peace vs sabotaging your relationship

    •    are “no texting after 10pm” type rules actually toxic?

    •    do healthy relationships even need rules… or just trust?

And yeah… we getting a little messy:

    •    Are people using “boundaries” as an excuse to control their partner?

    •    If you need a rule for everything… do you even trust them?

    •    And be honest… are YOUR rules pushing people away?

If you’ve ever said “I don’t play that” in dating… this episode might humble you just a little bit 😭

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On this episode of Needs To Be Studied, Billy is joined by Dr. Felder to unpack a question many people are afraid to ask:

Are the relationship patterns we learned from our parents affecting our love lives today?

From emotionally unavailable households to chaotic relationships we witnessed growing up, many of us unknowingly carry those experiences into our adult dating lives.

Dr. Felder breaks down how childhood experiences shape our expectations of love, communication, and conflict—and why so many people repeat the same relationship patterns without realizing it.

The conversation also dives into one of the biggest questions people have today: When do you actually need therapy?And if you do decide to go, how do you find the right therapist for you?

Billy and Dr. Felder discuss the signs that therapy might be helpful, common misconceptions about therapy, and practical advice for choosing a therapist that truly fits your needs.

If you’ve ever wondered why you date the same type of person, struggle with emotional connection, or feel stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns… this episode needs to be studied.

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In this episode of Needs To Be Studied, we debate whether casual sex is really “casual” when one person might be getting more than the other. Am I just participating in hookup culture… or am I using this man? Is convenience the same thing as manipulation? And at what point does “no strings attached” turn into emotional negligence?

We get into:

• The ethics of booty calls

• Is it wrong if both adults agree?

• Does knowing someone’s name actually matter?

• Can you treat someone like an experience instead of a person?

• When casual starts feeling one-sided

This one is messy, funny, and a little uncomfortable — because sometimes the villain in the story might be you.

Let’s discuss.

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Are you really in love… or are you in love with the version they’ve been performing?

In this completely unplanned episode, Billy is joined last minute by his friends Wolf, Scrappy, and Renny for a raw, unfiltered conversation about love, relationships, and whether you can truly be in love without seeing all sides of someone — the good, the bad, and the dark.

We talk about:

• Falling for someone’s “representative”
• What happens when the mask drops
• Can you love someone you haven’t fully experienced?
• Is love possible without conflict?
• Are we loving potential instead of reality?
• When do you actually know someone?
• Why people hide certain sides early in dating
• Our personal experiences with loving the “wrong version” of someone

This episode feels like sitting in on a late-night group chat with your friends — honest, funny, uncomfortable, and real.

If you’ve ever wondered:
“Do I actually know the person I’m in love with?”
…this conversation is for you.

Because maybe…
it’s not love.
Maybe it’s just their best behavior.

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Are men the only ones who disappoint in dating… or do women miss the mark too?

In this episode of Needs To Be Studied, we’re having the conversation nobody wants to have out loud: men get disappointed too.

What happens when someone presents themselves one way — soft, relationship-ready, “good girl energy” — but moves completely different once you start dating?

We break down:

• The difference between image vs reality in modern dating
• Why men sometimes feel misled
• The pressure to “present perfect”
• Waiting for sex vs first night energy
• Does having sex early actually change how someone sees you?
• The psychology behind sexual timing and perception
• Double standards nobody wants to admit

Is disappointment about sex… or expectations?

Is waiting strategic… or manipulative?

Does intimacy build connection — or shift power?

This episode is honest, uncomfortable, and necessary.

If you’ve ever felt confused about how quickly to move, or disappointed when someone didn’t match how they presented themselves — this one is for you.

🎓 Class is officially in session.

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Valentine’s Day is coming up… and if your bedroom routine is giving copy-and-paste energy, we need to talk.

In this episode of Needs To Be Studied, we break down how to truly spice up Valentine’s Day without relying on the same old script. We’re getting into:

    •    What sensory play actually is (and why beginners are curious about it)

    •    Safe household tools, toys, and gadgets you can use to build anticipation

    •    How to increase intimacy through touch, temperature, tension, and teasing

    •    Why pleasure without penetration can sometimes feel even more intense

    •    How to explore kink in a way that feels sexy, not scary

Whether you’re in a long-term relationship, dating someone new, or trying to reconnect with your own body, this episode gives you practical, creative ways to elevate intimacy.

Not everything powerful in the bedroom requires penetration. Sometimes the build-up, the sensation, and the mental stimulation are what take things to the next level.

If you’ve ever wondered how to introduce sensory play, how to spice up Valentine’s Day without buying expensive toys, or how to experience pleasure differently — this one is for you.

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If you have to give an ultimatum… is the relationship already over?
Whew 😮‍💨—this episode is for anyone who’s dating, confused, overthinking, or stuck asking themselves “Is it them… or is it me?”

This week, we’re joined by dating coach Chad Scott (IG: @chadscotthere) to unpack the real meaning behind ultimatums, dating confusion, and self-accountability. We talk about when ultimatums are boundaries vs. emotional pressure, why feeling confused while dating is actually a red flag, and how often the answer isn’t asking more from someone else—but looking in the mirror first.

We get honest about:

• What an ultimatum really says about the relationship
• Why confusion in dating is information, not a phase
• How to hold yourself accountable instead of repeating the same patterns
• When self-reflection can save you… and when it’s time to walk away

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re asking for too much—or just asking the wrong person—this conversation might sting a little… but it’ll also set you free.

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In this episode of Needs to Be Studied, we’re joined by Master Radiant, who helps break down how kink can deepen emotional intimacy, trust, and vulnerability in sex in ways many “vanilla” relationships never touch. From consent and communication to aftercare and emotional safety, we explore why some people feel more seen, protected, and connectedduring kink than in everyday dating.

Together, we talk about the moment kink stopped feeling purely physical and started feeling emotional, how trust shows up during sex (not just in love), and why structured boundaries can actually make it easier to open up. Master Radiant also shares insight into what happens after the scene — the check-ins, reassurance, and care that build real intimacy beyond the bedroom.

We also get into extracurricular activities like figging, sploshing, needle play, and abrasion play, and break down Fire Play 101 — what it is, how it’s practiced safely, and why it’s not as reckless or scary as people assume.

Whether you’re kink-curious, actively exploring, or strictly vanilla but craving deeper emotional connection in your sex life, this episode will challenge what you think intimacy really looks like.

🎧 Topics include:

• How kink builds trust and emotional safety
• Why vulnerability can feel easier in BDSM than dating
• What trust actually looks like in the moment during sex
• Common mistakes couples make when exploring kink
• What vanilla couples can learn from kinky dynamics
• Consent, communication, and aftercare explained

This episode proves kink isn’t just freaky — it’s intentional, emotional, and deeply human.

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Dating shouldn’t feel like a full-time anxiety job… but here we are 😭

In this episode of Needs To Be Studied, we get real about how anxious attachment actually shows up while dating — the overthinking, the texting spirals, the “am I asking for too much or not enough?” moments we all know too well.

Then we switch gears and talk about beginner Dom & Sub dynamics — nothing extreme, just low-risk ways couples can add a little spice, tension, and power play to their relationship without turning the bedroom into a dungeon (unless you want to).

And because peace was never an option, we end the episode ranking the five worst zodiac signs to date — the most controversial takes, the red flags, and why some signs really need to stay single a little longer.

This episode is messy, relatable, funny, and a little too accurate — whether you’re anxiously attached, freak-curious, or dating someone whose zodiac sign already told you to run.

🎓 Topics Covered:

• How anxious attachment shows up while dating
• Texting anxiety, reassurance loops & emotional spirals
• Beginner Dom/Sub practices for couples
• Power dynamics & consent without pressure
• The five worst zodiac signs to date (don’t argue, just listen)

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Where you take someone on a first date can tell you everything you need to know — and the internet has officially made a blacklist 👀.

In this episode, we break down the viral list of places you should never take someone on a first date and debate which ones are real red flags… and which ones people might be dragging a little too hard..

Then things get spicy 🌶️ as we dive into 2026 sex bucket lists — what people actually want to try, what feels realistic, and what might need to stay a fantasy (for now).

And to close it out, Google gets exposed. We unpack the top five most searched sex questions of 2025, proving once again that curiosity is real, shame is optional, and the internet knows way too much about us.

Dating, desire, curiosity, and chaos — this episode definitely needs to be studied.

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Wolf hit us with a heartbreak story we weren’t ready for 😭. We spill the tea on pain, laughs, and the 3-6-9 dating rule, plus I give y’all the full holiday recap—gifts, drama, and all the mess.

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The holidays are here, and Needs To Be Studied is diving into the two things everybody stresses about this season: money and sex.

Billy and special guest Wolf break down the real questions couples are scared to ask out loud:

✨ How much should you actually spend on someone you’re dating?

✨ Is there a “right” budget for holiday gifts in NYC when rent is basically a second partner?

✨ What do you do when you genuinely don’t know what to ask for… or what to get them?

✨ And of course—how do you keep your sex life fun, spicy, and freaky during the holidays?

Wolf opens up about feeling the financial pressure this year and shares why he’s not sure he even wants to celebrate Christmas—because when bills, rent, and responsibilities are hitting from every angle, gift-giving hits different.

Billy gets honest about being overwhelmed, not knowing what to ask for Christmas, and navigating holiday dating without losing your sanity… or your pockets.

If you’re dating, budgeting, stressed, or just trying to keep your bedroom warm this winter—this episode is for you.

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In this holiday edition of Needs to Be Studied, we’re diving deep into the pressure, chaos, and unspoken rules of meeting the family during the holidays. From awkward introductions to hidden red flags, we break down everything you need to know before walking into someone’s holiday dinner.

And for the first time ever, Billy opens up about being scared of love — for REAL.

The fear of being seen, being chosen, and letting someone in becomes part of the conversation in the most honest, vulnerable way yet.

Whether you’re newly dating, getting serious, or questioning if you should meet the family at all, this episode gives you clarity, reassurance, and the real talk you need.

Class is in session — holiday edition. 💛🎄

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In this episode of Needs To Be Studied, Billy and his guest co-host get wide open about a topic most people only whisper about — dating downlow men. We’re breaking down the real truth behind DL situationships, secret links, hidden relationships, and why so many gay men fall into these emotional trap doors.

From sneaky late-night pull-ups to the emotional confusion that comes with secrecy, we share our raw experiences with DL men, what really happened behind closed doors, and the lessons we had to learn the hard way.

We also dive deep into a huge issue in the gay dating world:

👉🏽 confusing lust for love

👉🏽 why attraction gets mistaken for compatibility

👉🏽 how DL dynamics intensify fantasy

👉🏽 and why so many of us catch feelings for men who can’t show up publicly.

If you’ve ever dealt with DL men, questioned your own attachment, or wondered why these connections feel so addictive, this episode is a must-listen. Expect honesty, laughter, storytelling, and some much-needed clarity on the DL experience.

Topics Include:

    •    The real behavior patterns of downlow men

    •    Emotional vs physical connection in DL hookups

    •    Why DL men feel “safe” but chaotic at the same time

    •    How lust tricks you into thinking it’s love

    •    DL red flags, green flags (do they even exist?), and recovery

    •    Our personal stories, lessons, and the tea we’ve never told

This episode is messy, relatable, unfiltered, and needs to be studied.

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Billy links up with the ladies of Code Name Coochie for a wild, unfiltered study session on the unrealistic expectations we all drag into dating and relationships. From fantasy-level demands to the pressure of “perfect chemistry” on day one, nothing is off limits. Then we get into the juicy stuff: what it’s really like having sex with someone for the first time, the nerves, the surprises, and the stories we definitely weren’t prepared for.

If you’re trying to understand your own dating patterns, laugh through the mess, or just feel seen in your situationship era, this episode is your new homework assignment. Tap in, take notes, and share with your group chat.

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Billy’s in his chef era, y’all 🍝🔥 — cooking dinner for the guy he’s been dating for the very first time, and suddenly craving more than just seconds… he’s craving marriage 😩💍. In this episode of Needs To Be Studied, Billy breaks down the difference between soft launching vs. hard launching relationships, how social media makes us overthink love, and what it means when you’re secretly planning a wedding after one good date.

Tune in for a mix of real talk, romantic delusion, and a side of pasta, as Billy gets transparent about modern dating, emotional intimacy, and the anxiety of going public with your heart.

If you’ve ever wondered when it’s time to post “your person” — or if you’re just soft launching in the stories like a coward 👀 — this one’s for you.

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Everybody’s swiping, linking, and ghosting… but is anybody actually finding love anymore? 👀

In this episode of Needs to Be Studied, we get real about LGBTQ hookup culture and the struggles of dating in a world obsessed with instant gratification. From late-night “u up?” texts to emotional burnout, we break down how hookup culture has changed the way queer folks connect, date, and love.

Join Billy the Bad Guy and friends as they unpack the truth about modern queer relationships — the good, the messy, and the complicated in-between. If you’ve ever wondered why finding love feels impossible in today’s dating scene, this one’s for you.

Tune in, laugh, and maybe even reflect a little — because finding love in 2025? That definitely needs to be studied. 🎓🌈

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It’s the 50th episode of Needs to Be Studied — and you know Billy couldn’t celebrate quietly. What was supposed to be a chill Q&A with supporters turns into pure chaos when Billy and Wolf start swapping stories… including the time Billy thought he was going to a sex club but somehow ended up in a full-on freak off 👀.

After the laughs (and confusion), things heat up when Billy dives into the real convo: Casual Dating vs. Intentional Dating. Are you vibing just to kill time or dating with purpose? This episode breaks down the blurred lines, the mind games, and the moment you realize you might be the one keeping it casual.

Tune in for story time, unfiltered truth, and a little birthday energy for the 50th class session of Needs to Be Studied. 🎉

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Billy recaps the wild live show moments (his fave yet 👀), shares a birthday recap with his boo Papo 🎂💋, then takes us to sex school with vocab words you’ve never heard 📚 and anal tips you’ll actually use 🍑✨.

In this episode:

• 🎤 Live show highlights
• 🎉 Birthday recap with Papo
• 📚 Spicy sex vocab
• 🍑 Anal tips that hit

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Think disabled people don’t have sex? Think again. 👀 In this episode, we sit down with Cnote (who’s blind) and Frenchy (who’s in a wheelchair) from the Blind But Now I See podcast — and trust us, they’re here to crush every outdated myth.

We’re also joined by Kasha the Sexologist, who helps them (and us 👅) explore how to keep sex spicy, fun, and full of pleasure no matter your ability.

💥 What you’ll learn:

• Why disability doesn’t erase desire, intimacy, or pleasure
• Real talk about sex while blind & in a wheelchair 🛑➡️🔥
• Tips from a sexologist on confidence, communication & spicing it up
• Busting myths society keeps pushing about disabled love lives

This one’s funny, flirty, and educational — proving that pleasure has no limits.

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This week on Needs to Be Studied, I’m joined by Honey & Teddy, a queer bisexual poly couple, for a deep dive into what it really takes to make polyamory and open relationships work. From boundaries to communication, they share how they keep love strong while embracing multiple connections.

Here’s what we cover:

✨ Poly dynamics — how Honey & Teddy structure their relationship

🚦 Boundaries — rules that keep love safe, healthy, and fun

🗣️ Communication — why talking before, during, and after sex parties matters

💞 Queer love & bisexuality — breaking stigmas and living authentically

👀 Polyamory myths — what people always get wrong about open relationships

If you’ve ever been curious about polyamory, queer love, or open relationships, this episode brings laughs, lessons, and unfiltered honesty.

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What does it really feel like when you’ve found the right one? In this episode, I sit down with New York Times bestselling author of No Holds Barred and host of the Decision Decision Podcast Weezy WTF to unpack the difference between chasing toxic love and finding the kind of relationship that finally feels easy.
We break down:
✨ The moment you know you’ve found the right person
✨ Why healthy love feels calm, not chaotic
✨ The green flags most people overlook in relationships
✨ Compersion & open relationships — what people get wrong
✨ How to handle jealousy before exploring open love
If you’ve ever stayed too long in the wrong relationship or wondered if you’re ready for the right one, this conversation will hit hard.
👉 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe if you’ve ever thought “Why is real love supposed to be so complicated?

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In this episode, I’m joined by my bestie Samantha as we unpack my wild trip to Vegas for Beyoncé’s final show—and yes, THE Beyoncé said my name! 👑✨ From screaming every lyric in the crowd to waking up way too emotionally hungover, this trip wasn’t just about the concert—it was about connection. Vegas brought me and my new boo closer than ever, and now I’m out here feeling drunk in love, crazy in love, and lowkey dangerously in love. Tap in for the tea, the Beyoncé moment of a lifetime, and the real talk about what happens when a vacation turns into a whole situationship.

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In this episode, I’m joined by my sexologist bestie Kasha, and we’re breaking down exactly how to become the most seductive version of yourself — without changing your body, begging for attention, or overthinking your worth.

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Are you falling in love after two FaceTimes and a good morning text? Yeah… you might be skipping the vetting process. This week on Needs to Be Studied, we’re breaking down why so many of us fall too fast, ignore red flags, and end up dating in delusion.

We’re joined by dating and life coach Chad Scott, who’s giving us the real about how to vet better, protect your peace, and stop choosing partners who aren’t choosing you.

We’re getting into:

• Why your vetting process is trash
• The lies you tell yourself when you're lonely
• What emotionally mature dating actually looks like

💥 If you’ve ever said “I saw potential” more than once this year… this episode is for you.

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This week on Needs To Be Studied, Billy is prepping for a big date night (we’re talking cologne, candles, and clean sheets energy) — but before the romance begins, he’s joined by guest judge Samantha to unpack the messiness of micro-cheating and the real work it takes to keep a relationship hot, healthy, and hydrated.

From liking your work wife’s selfies to planning surprise sex dates with your actual partner — we’re talking about the subtle red flags and green lights in long-term love. And yes, Billy might need detention for some of his past behavior. 👀

Tap in for laughs, lightbulbs, and love lessons — and stay till the end for Samantha’s HOT TAKE on what relationships really need in 2025.

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Why are so many men checking out of modern dating? In this episode, I sit down with a single male guest to unpack the unexpected, unspoken, and sometimes hilarious things that make men lose interest fast. From “over-texting” to performative femininity, we’re breaking down the real reasons he unmatched, never called back, or suddenly got “busy.” This isn’t about bashing—it’s about understanding the male perspective in a dating world that feels more like a job interview than a connection.

Ladies, this one’s for you: If you’ve ever wondered “What did I do wrong?”—this episode might have the answer.

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This week on Needs To Be Studied, we’re saying BYE to rushed relationships and fake moans. Joined by the unfiltered and hilarious @shanta_shanta_ and @shaynasmiles, we get into the slow dating era, where women are prioritizing emotional connection, peace, and pleasure over performance.

We talk about:

💋 Why the streets are exhausting

🧠 How healing is changing what (and who) we desire

🔥 The “sexual renaissance” happening in your late 20s and 30s

😩 The real reasons women fake orgasms — and how to stop

🕯️ What slow dating actually looks like in real life

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Chris and Kasha are back—and the group chat is officially open. In part two, we get into the messy, hilarious, and too real ways couples miscommunicate. From shady tone to passive-aggressive texts, we’re talking about why it’s not what you say… it’s how you say it.

Can your delivery ruin the message? Can you be too honest? And what’s the difference between being real and being rude? Let’s talk about it—respectfully (kinda).

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What does good sex really feel like — emotionally, mentally, and physically? In this episode, we break down the difference between sex that’s just “okay” and the kind that leaves you glowing, grounded, and genuinely satisfied. From physical chemistry to emotional connection, we explore the ingredients of pleasure that go beyond just orgasms.

Whether you’re unsure if you’ve ever had good sex, or you’re learning to define it on your own terms, this conversation is for you. We’re sharing real experiences, hard truths, and personal insights to help you understand what you should be feeling in the bedroom—and why so many of us settle for less.

🔊 Tune in if you’ve ever asked:

• Is this really what sex is supposed to feel like?

• Why do I feel emotionally disconnected after?

• How do I know if it’s good sex or just good performance?

This is your sign to stop faking satisfaction and start studying what pleasure truly means.

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Thinking about attending your first play party? Curious but nervous? This episode is your ultimate beginner’s guide! We’re breaking down everything you need to know before you step into the room — from how parties are vetted, to first-timer etiquette, to common mistakes that can kill your vibe.

We’re also diving into the realities of consent, the role of alcohol, and how to handle your nerves if this world is brand new to you.

Whether you’re ready to RSVP or still lurking in curiosity — this episode will leave you informed, empowered, and ready to explore with confidence.

What we cover:
✅ How play parties really work today
✅ First-timer etiquette — what to do & what NOT to do
✅ Vetting processes & red flags to watch for
✅ How to manage nerves & set boundaries
✅ Consent & alcohol — the conversations you NEED to have
✅ Mistakes beginners make & how to avoid them

Tune in — because pleasure spaces need to be studied. 🎓✨

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This week on Needs To Be Studied, we’re turning the mirror on ourselves and asking the uncomfortable question: Would you date you?

Billy unpacks what it means to be truly self-aware in relationships — the good, the bad, and the emotionally unavailable. We talk past relationship patterns, red flags we ignored (and waved ourselves), and what we’re doing differently in our next chapter of love.

PLUS: Billy spills the tea on his latest date night 👀 — how it went, what he learned, and whether there’s a second date in the cards. Spoiler: It was giving grown, intentional, and just a lil sexy.

Whether you're healing, hoeing, or somewhere in between, this episode will have you questioning your love habits and maybe texting your therapist.

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How many times have you said, “But I see so much potential in them…” only to end up heartbroken, drained, and wondering how you got here? In this episode of Needs To Be Studied, I’m joined by a certified relationship and dating coach to break down why we ignore the obvious, what it really means when someone shows you who they are — and why you need to start believing them the first time.

We’re getting into the real, raw truth about dating with your eyes open and leading with proactive energy, not desperation or delusion. Waiting for someone to "grow into" who you want them to be? That’s a setup for disappointment. We’re here to help you shift from chasing potential to recognizing emotional availability, consistency, and clarity from the start.

It’s time to stop hoping they’ll change and start listening to what they’re actually showing you.

🎧 Tune in if you’re tired of wasting time, love hard but smart, and want to date with intention, boundaries, and better results.

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This week, Billy’s in Los Angeles and he’s linking up with Jacob Willis from the Just Us Podcast to break down the #1 first date mistake that’s probably keeping you single — yes, YOU. 👀

From awkward vibes to oversharing trauma to showing up like you already planning the wedding... we’re unpacking why your first dates might not be hitting like you think. Jacob brings the realness, the laughs, and the perspective you didn’t know you needed.

Whether you're boo’d up, tired of ghosting, or tryna figure out why you never get that second date — this episode is for you.

🎙️ Special Guest: Jacob Willis (@jacobwillsofficial)
📍 Live from: Los Angeles, CA
📚 Hosted by: Billy The Bad Guy (@billy.thebadguy)

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In this episode, Billy catches up with the lovely Renay and things get real. From AI giving better relationship advice than your bestie, to how technology might actually be the thing saving our situationships—nothing is off-limits. We also get into friendship dynamics, Renay’s upcoming birthday (turn up loading 🎉), and Billy finally moving… but did he make a purchase he already regrets? (Of course he did.)

It’s laughs, life, and a little lowkey therapy—just the way we like it. Tap in!

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In this episode of Needs to be Studied, Billy the Bad Guy teams up with the hilarious and unfiltered Renay (@renayproppa on IG) to break down one of the messiest topics in the workplace—how to flirt with a coworker without ending up in HR. We’re giving you signs to look for if they actually like you back, and what you should NEVER do when shooting your shot in the breakroom.

Then we slide right into our next lesson: The Common Mistakes Friends With Benefits Make. Spoiler alert—it’s not just catching feelings. We’re studying the missteps, the red flags, and the unspoken rules that get ignored way too often.

Grab your notebook, this episode is full of tea, chaos, and “oh damn, that’s me” moments. Let’s get into it.

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Renay is back, and class is officially in session! After stepping away to grieve the loss of her father, she returns to share her healing journey and opens up about navigating grief while trying to keep it all together.

This week’s syllabus is loaded:
💸 How to ask a man for money without feeling broke or embarrassed
👄 Why some say oral cheating hits harder than sex
💔 Grief, healing, and showing up when your world falls apart

It’s real, it’s raw, and it’s still messy in all the best ways. Tap in and take notes — you don’t wanna miss this lesson.

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Welcome back to Needs to be Studied! In today’s lesson, I’m joined by the hilarious and insightful host of the Safe and Secure Podcast for a no-holds-barred convo that might just get us both detention. We’re talking Marriage vs. Dating—the pros, the cons, and the straight-up confusion.

From messy hall passes to getting expelled from situationships, we’re pulling out our old report cards and sharing wild dating stories from our younger, toxic years (yes, class, we had extra credit in chaos). Whether you’re applying for your marriage license or still getting played on the playground, this episode is full of laughs, lessons, and late-night confessions.

Grab your notebooks, take attendance, and get ready to study these relationship dynamics—because baby, this one needs to be studied! 🎒📚💋

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Ever wondered what really turns you on? Spoiler alert: You might be kinkier than you think! 👀🔥

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the world of kinks, desires, and sexual exploration with Sir Leezus, a kink advisor who helps people unlock their hidden pleasures. We’re breaking down how to discover your true kinks, the biggest misconceptions about exploring BDSM and polyamory, and why so many people are afraid to embrace their freaky side.

We also get hands-on with sensory play, take a deep dive into breath play, and discuss the importance of aftercare in kink dynamics. Whether you’re a total newbie or already deep in the lifestyle, this episode is packed with juicy insights that will expand your pleasure and boost your confidence in the bedroom.

Press play and find out:
 🔥 How to figure out what kinks you secretly enjoy
 🔥 The #1 myth about polyamory & BDSM
 🔥 What sensory play is and how to try it
 🔥 Breath play—why some love it & the risks involved
 🔥 The importance of aftercare & how to do it right

This is a judgment-free zone, so get comfy and let’s unlock some desires together. You just might surprise yourself!

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Follow Needs to be Studied: @billy.thebadguy | @needstobestudiedpod
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Billy is joined by Mistress Nita for a spicy crash course in sex party survival! 🌶️ In this sizzling episode, we reveal the steamy secrets of what goes down at a sex party, expose the hidden vetting process, and teach couples how to avoid rookie mistakes and master boundaries before getting hot and heavy. Plus, in our "Needs to Be Studied" segment, we show you how to find the perfect party that matches your vibe—how to spot red flags, ensure inclusivity, and keep it safe. Get ready to turn up the heat!

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In this episode of Needs to be Studied, Billy is joined by Esh from the Esh Your Heart Out podcast for a deep dive into the complex dynamics between love, friendships, and personal growth. We explore why people often lose friends when entering a new relationship, backed by studied research and real-life experiences.

But that’s not all – we also dig into sex phobias, breaking down what they are, why they happen, and how they can be addressed. Plus, Esh and Billy discuss the benefits of embracing singlehood and how taking time for yourself can lead to personal empowerment and growth.

It’s all about finding balance between love, friendships, and self-love, so grab your notebooks and join us in class for this insightful, fun, and risqué conversation!

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In this episode of Needs to be Studied, Billy’s kicking it with Esh from the Esh Your Heart Out podcast to talk about something we’ve all felt at some point – losing friends when you get into a new relationship. We’re breaking it down with the real research that shows why this happens and what’s really going on when your friendship circle starts shrinking.

But wait, we’re not stopping there. We also get into sex phobias – yup, they’re real, and we’re unpacking what they are, why they happen, and how you can work through ‘em. Plus, we’re diving into why being single isn’t a bad thing, and how owning your singlehood can level you up in ways you didn’t even know.

So grab your pens, class is in session – let’s talk about love, friendships, sex, and the power of doing your own damn thing.

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Is it chemistry or compatibility that really matters in love? 🤔 In this episode of Needs to be Studied, Billy and Wolf break down why we keep falling for the wrong ones and whether that instant spark is actually a red flag. 👀💔

We also get into:
🔥 Billy’s latest ghosting situation—was he wrong or justified? 👻
🔥 Spicy Valentine’s Day tips to make this year one for the books 😈💘
🔥 The difference between a "roster" according to Billy vs. Wolf—who’s got it right? 👀

This one is messy, unfiltered, and guaranteed to make you rethink your dating strategy. Tap in! 🎧

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Are you constantly dating the wrong people? Do you struggle with trust issues or feel like you’re always the one putting in all the effort? 🫠 In this episode, I sit down with Mac the Therapist, a relationship expert who’s breaking down attachment styles, insecurities, and why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners.

🎙️ We’re covering:
✅ The real reason you have trust issues (it’s deeper than you think!)
✅ Are you anxious, avoidant, or secure? Understanding your attachment style
✅ Why you keep falling for emotionally unavailable people
✅ How to build trust and stop sabotaging your relationships
✅ Practical tips to feel secure in love again

If you’re tired of toxic cycles, trust issues, and ghosting, this episode will change how you approach love forever. 💡

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🚀 Don’t forget to share this episode with a friend who needs to hear this!

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Class is officially in session, and today we’re diving deep into the world of foreplay, exploring your sexuality, and building sexual compatibility! Joining us is the incredible Jody, a certified sexologist and host of the podcast Her Nut Matters. Jody brings her expert knowledge and no-holds-barred approach to teach us everything we didn’t learn in Sex Ed.

We’re breaking down why foreplay is more than just an “extra credit” activity, how to explore your desires while single, and the signs that you and your partner are sexually compatible. From real-life examples to practical tips, this episode is the ultimate study guide for improving your sex life and embracing your sexuality.

Tune in for a fun, risqué, and insightful conversation that’ll have you rethinking everything you thought you knew about intimacy. Don’t miss this chance to level up your “sex education”!

Homework Assignment: Listen, take notes, and figure out what’s missing from your sexual curriculum!

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Class is in session, and today, we’re diving into one of the juiciest lessons yet! Your host, @Billy.thebadguy, is joined by the captivating and oh-so-knowledgeable Sir Marvelous to break down the Psychology of BDSM—because let’s face it, kink is way more than just handcuffs and safe words.

In this episode, we’ll study:
📚 Building Sexual Anticipation: How to keep your partner on their toes (in and out of the bedroom).
📚 Getting Comfortable Asking for What You Want: From the bedroom to the boardroom, it’s time to speak up and own it.
📚 Rediscovering Pleasure and Rebuilding Confidence: Whether you’re starting fresh or spicing things up, we’ve got you covered.

And of course, the meat and potatoes—we’ll deep-dive into the Psychology of BDSM: Why trust, communication, and power dynamics are at the core of this connection. Spoiler alert: It’s about way more than just pain and pleasure—it’s a whole masterclass in intimacy.

Grab your notebooks and get ready to take notes because this lesson? It’s one you won’t want to skip!

🎧 Tune in now to Needs to Be Studied—where every class is a study in connection, confidence, and a whole lot of spice.

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Class is in session, and today we’re diving into Relationship 101 with podcast producer and DJ, @thankyoueddin! How long should you really stay in a situationship before making it official? Or is staying in the “gray zone” the secret to keeping things spicy? We’re breaking down timelines, red flags, and why some folks treat commitment like a group project they didn’t sign up for. Tune in for laughs, real talk, and some gems you didn’t know you needed!

🎧 Let’s study this messy thing called modern dating—because your situationship deserves a syllabus.

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In this episode of Needs to be Studied, your favorite delusional bestie, @Billy.thebadguy, is catching us all the way up! Billy spills the tea on his solo date night—what he did, what he learned, and the iconic artist he went to see in concert (you won’t believe who it was!). Plus, he breaks down the Beyoncé Bowl Christmas Halftime Show and drops his hilarious-yet-dead-serious theory about Queen Bey’s next move. 👑🎤

But that’s not all—Billy dives into how men will always find new and creative ways to embarrass you in public (ugh, why tho?!). Then, in a jaw-dropping game of We Listen and We Don’t Judge with an ex, he uncovers shocking news that’ll have you clutching your pearls. Finally, Billy lays out the new dating trends of 2025 you need to know to stay ahead in this messy dating pool.

Get ready for laughs, relatable moments, and a sprinkle of wisdom—it’s an episode you don’t want to miss! 🎧

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Class is in session, and we’re wrapping up the semester with a special guest, @_WolfTaylor from the Half Way Up Podcast! 🎙️ Today, we’re diving into some real “study material” you don’t wanna fail.

First up: Gifts for New Partners 🎁—what’s too much, what’s too little, and how to find that just right sweet spot so you don’t look like a teacher’s pet… or a total slacker.

Then, we’re hitting the chalkboard for an End-of-Year Reflection 📝: Dating Mistakes to Leave Behind in 2024. From ghosting to ignoring red flags, we’re calling out the common mistakes that keep y’all repeating the same “F” grades in love.

No worries, though—we got the cheat codes to help you level up for the new year and graduate with honors in the dating game. Grab your notebooks, it’s time to take some notes! 📚💯

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📚✨ Class is officially in session, and today’s lesson plan is spicy! We’re joined by the hilarious crew from The Unpopular Opinion Podcast to dive into two major topics:

👉 What REALLY makes men insecure during sex (spoiler: it’s more than you think).
👉 How to keep a long-term relationship sizzling 🌶️—because nobody wants to fail Spice Maintenance 101.

Expect 🔥 hot takes, 😂 laughs, and 💡 gems to take your love life to the next level. Plus, there might just be a pop quiz, so take notes! 📝

🎙️ It’s all fun, real talk, and unfiltered vibes. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe—you never know when you’ll need to pull out these tips on the test of love! ❤️‍🔥

🎧 Tap in now, and let’s ace this class together. 🛎️✨

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Class is officially in session! 📚 This week on Needs to Be Studied, we’re bringing in TWO special guest professors for a lesson you won’t forget. Joining the class are Mandii B from the wildly popular podcast Whoreible Decisions and Wolf from the Half Way Up Podcast! Together, we’re dissecting the syllabus of modern dating with unfiltered honesty and unmatched humor.

We’re covering everything from dating contracts (seriously, are those a thing now?) to the subtle art of slight manipulation, and the do’s and don’ts of sending nudes. Plus, we’ll discuss how podcasting has become a major player in reshaping conversations about relationships and intimacy.

With Mandii B’s no-holds-barred insights and Wolf’s unique perspective, this episode is giving everything: hot takes, laughs, and lessons you won’t find in any textbook. So, grab your notebooks—attendance is mandatory for this spicy and thought-provoking discussion! 🍎✨

Tune in now for the episode that’s too hot for the lecture hall!

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In this hilarious and eye-opening episode of Needs to Be Studied, we sit down with @black_girl_megan to talk about being delusional in love and the wild truth behind her experience dating a 58-year-old man at just 20 years old! 😳 We dive deep into what it’s like to be in a relationship that challenges your expectations and what happens when you realize love isn’t always what you thought it would be.

In our Chemistry Class segment, we get into the nitty-gritty of relationship deal breakers—what’s a must-have and what’s a no-go when it comes to finding love. 💔💥 And for the Extra Curricular Activities segment, we’re talking about the surprising benefits of silent sex—yes, you heard that right! 😉 Tune in for laughs, real talk, and some serious lessons in love, dating, and intimacy. You won’t want to miss it! 🎙️👀

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Class is officially in session! In this episode of Needs to Be Studied, Billy is joined by guest  Tahoe, Loon and Courtney from the Hard or Soft Show for an unfiltered “study session” on relationships, intimacy, and the double standards that often divide men and women. They dive into “Sex Flaws 101,” exploring the imperfections and insecurities that often go unspoken in men’s experiences.

Next, they tackle “What Men Really Want 101,” discussing relationship desires and debunking stereotypes about men’s needs in love and sex. In the final course, Cheating Dynamics, the hosts breaks down the psychology behind cheating and how motivations can differ between men and women.

Expect laughter, hard truths, and plenty of “aha” moments as they dissect the realities and misconceptions around sex, honesty, and commitment. Get ready to take notes—this episode is packed with lessons you won’t want to miss!

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In this episode of Needs to Be Studied, class is in session with the one and only singer/songwriter Avery Wilson! 🎤📚 We’re breaking down dating with intentions—what it means to date with purpose in today’s world—and uncovering the craziest, most mind-blowing sex laws in the United States. Consider this your crash course in love and the law! 😳✏️

But that’s not all—Avery also shares his musical journey, the inspiration behind his incredible sound, and gives us a behind-the-scenes look at his time in The Wiz. 🎶✨ Get ready to take notes, because this episode is packed with lessons you won’t want to miss! #NeedsToBeStudied #AveryWilson #DatingWithIntentions #TheWiz #ClassIsInSession

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Class is back in session on Needs To Be Studied 🎓, and today’s lesson is all about attraction, communication, and sexual exploration! Your favorite professor of fun @Billy.thebadguy is joined by the unstoppable @unrobing_podcast, the insightful @au_natural38, and the class clown @dadadamndan for a series of unfiltered discussions that will leave you taking notes 📝.

First up, we break down our guest's unique experience as a lesbian who's often attracted to gay men 🌈🤯—talk about a pop quiz in love! Then, we debate whether it’s healthy to vent about your partner to your friends 🗣️📚. We move on to a critical lesson on how it’s not what you say, but how you say it in relationships 💡❤️. And for the final exam, we explore how to ace the discovery of your sexual desires—because no one wants to fail in the bedroom! 😏🍎

Get ready for a class full of laughs, real talk, and a little bit of sass! This episode is one you won’t want to skip!

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In this extra spicy episode of Needs to be Studied, Professor @Billy.thebadguy takes you to Kink 101 with the ultimate guest teacher, Mistress Marley (@hausofmarley). Ever wondered if BDSM could be the extra credit your relationship needs? We’re putting that theory to the test! Together, we’ll explore how kink can help you ace communication, trust, and intimacy in your relationship. Plus, Mistress Marley schools us on the art of making money as a Financial Dominatrix (Findom) and gives a masterclass on how to get your coins while staying in control. If you’re ready to study up on how to make your relationship and your bank account thrive, grab your notebooks and get ready to take notes—class is in session!

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In this episode of Needs to Be Studied, your boy @Billy.thebadguy is rollin’ with the homie @jacobwillisofficial from the JstUs Podcast! They’re gettin’ real about what’s really killin’ relationships today—whether it’s ghostin’ 👻, social media drama 📱, or just plain ol’ lack of communication. You know we gotta break it down!

But that’s not all! The guys dive into the 5 Sex Languages 💕, makin’ sure you know how to speak the love language of your boo. And just to keep things spicy 🌶️, they’re spillin’ the tea on what cruising really means—trust us, you don’t wanna miss this!

So, grab your headphones 🎧, get comfy, and let’s study up on all things love and relationships. Don’t forget to follow the podcast on Instagram @needstobestudiedpod for more laughs and real talk! 💖

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Class is back in session for Episode 3 of Needs To Be Studied with your host, @billy.thebadguy! 🎙️📚 This time, we’re getting into some spicy subjects, and trust me, you don’t want to miss it!

Joined by guests @c.darling_ and @sneeekpeek, we dive deep into the world of jealousy and insecurities in relationships. What’s normal? What’s toxic? And how can you pass this tricky test? 💔🔍

But that’s not all! We also tackle the hot topic of age differences in relationships. What are the pros, the cons, and when does the gap get a little too wide? 👫👵

Tune in for laughs, honest moments, and more relationship advice than you ever got in health class! Don’t forget to follow me on IG @needstobestudiedpod for all the extra credit and behind-the-scenes action! 🔥💥

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Class is back in session, and things are heating up on this episode of Needs To Be Studied! 🔥📚

Your favorite host, @billy.thebadguy, is joined by the one and only @thedrillfairy for a juicy recap of the live show. But that’s just the warm-up! In today’s Chemistry Class, we dive headfirst into the ultimate debate: unrealistic vs. realistic dating expectations. Are your standards setting you up for love or leaving you single? 💔

Get ready for spicy takes, lots of laughs, and a few "aha" moments as we break down what’s really holding you back in the dating game.

Don’t forget to follow me on IG @needstobestudiedpod for all the behind-the-scenes action! 🎙️💥

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Welcome to the very first episode of Needs To Be Studied with your professor of all things risqué, @billy.thebadguy! 🎙️📚

In today’s lesson, we’re diving into the wild, rule-free jungle that is dating in 2024. Forget everything you thought you knew about relationships, because in this class, there’s no syllabus! From navigating ghosting to decoding the latest dating trap—breadcrumbing—we’ll break it all down.

What’s breadcrumbing? How does it sneak into your love life? And most importantly, how can you ace this chaotic course called dating without losing your mind (or your heart)?

Class is in session, and trust me, you don’t want to miss this. So grab your pens, open your notes app, and let’s dissect the mess that is modern romance—one breadcrumb at a time. 🍞💔

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