Living Connected - NVC Thu, 05 Mar 2026 01:24:50 -0500 https://livingconnectednvc.buzzsprout.com en-us © 2026 Living Connected - NVC yes Support this Podcast 9d6a6827-e519-5df9-ab74-363f8c57389e livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com Kady episodic false Kady, Eric, Kyle and Guests are here to talk about how Nonviolent Communication (NVC) can be implemented into your daily lives. NVC is a communication modality developed by Marshall Rosenberg. It focuses on compassion, empathy, observations, feelings, needs & requests in order to connect with others on a deeper level. Marshall has used NVC in high intensity conflicts over seas and he talks about how powerful it is to use.

We will discuss topics all across the board and how NVC can be used in various situations.  I hope we can engage you in our practice and I hope you will want to learn and spread the love of NVC like we do. There isn't a way to upload the feelings and needs chart yet. If you would like one in a PDF file please email and ask us for it and we will send one your way. If you would like to get ahold of us with any questions, scenarios or topic ideas, email us at:
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]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) Kady livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com https://storage.buzzsprout.com/jvyx7yeq71f31v7cdckjdzc9a1ku?.jpg Living Connected - NVC Hospice with Jason Hospice with Jason I met Jason at a school that I frequently substitute at. He teaches middle school Language Arts. I guess they call it Language and literature now. I knew, from the moment that I met Jason there was a level of awareness there. Each morning we would have a brief check in and a couple conversations went longer than expected and left me thinking, yup he gets it! Jason has been a Pastor, a Chaplin, Director of Volunteers for Hospice and now a full time Middle School Teacher. He knew of NVC and with the conversations I have with him I noticed, sometimes people already speak with the idea of feelings, needs and body sensations with out labeling it as NVC or Nonviolent Communication. It is my greatest honor to get to chat with Jason on this episode and learn a little more about him and how we integrate empathy and compassion in our lives and in the world around us.

Resource:

Very cute video that Jason references in this episode. Sometimes there is nothing to fix, its to be heard and understood that the pain is real in this moment for them. Until we are ready to acknowledge that there is something there then we can attend to the wound and begin to heal.

It's Not About the Nail - Video

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]]> I met Jason at a school that I frequently substitute at. He teaches middle school Language Arts. I guess they call it Language and literature now. I knew, from the moment that I met Jason there was a level of awareness there. Each morning we would have a brief check in and a couple conversations went longer than expected and left me thinking, yup he gets it! Jason has been a Pastor, a Chaplin, Director of Volunteers for Hospice and now a full time Middle School Teacher. He knew of NVC and with the conversations I have with him I noticed, sometimes people already speak with the idea of feelings, needs and body sensations with out labeling it as NVC or Nonviolent Communication. It is my greatest honor to get to chat with Jason on this episode and learn a little more about him and how we integrate empathy and compassion in our lives and in the world around us.

Resource:

Very cute video that Jason references in this episode. Sometimes there is nothing to fix, its to be heard and understood that the pain is real in this moment for them. Until we are ready to acknowledge that there is something there then we can attend to the wound and begin to heal.

It's Not About the Nail - Video

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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-16908211 Tue, 08 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0700 4377 4 94 full false Stimulus VS Cause with Bryn Hazell Stimulus VS Cause with Bryn Hazell I had a lovely time having Bryn as my co-host on this episode. Our topic we discussed was about Stimulus VS Cause. According to Marshalls book Nonviolent Communication. “What others do or say may be the stimulus of our feelings, not the cause.” There is a root to our feelings and that root is the cause. One way I like to think of this as, unprocessed trauma (cause) we might have experienced which has lead to these deep rooted feelings. In Marshall’s book he talks about how there are 4 ways we can receive a hard to hear message:

  1. Take it personally by hearing blame then blaming ourselves
  2. Blame others
  3. Sense of own feelings & needs
  4. Sense of others’ feelings & needs

Mindful meditation helps us find that pause between stimulus and response. Viktor Frankl was born 1905, he is an Austrian psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor. His famous quote is, “Between stimulus and response lies a space. In that space lie our freedom and power to choose a response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness.”

Finding the pause, giving compassion (if needed) & getting curious when we are escalated will help us in regulating and finding the root of the stimulus.

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]]> I had a lovely time having Bryn as my co-host on this episode. Our topic we discussed was about Stimulus VS Cause. According to Marshalls book Nonviolent Communication. “What others do or say may be the stimulus of our feelings, not the cause.” There is a root to our feelings and that root is the cause. One way I like to think of this as, unprocessed trauma (cause) we might have experienced which has lead to these deep rooted feelings. In Marshall’s book he talks about how there are 4 ways we can receive a hard to hear message:

  1. Take it personally by hearing blame then blaming ourselves
  2. Blame others
  3. Sense of own feelings & needs
  4. Sense of others’ feelings & needs

Mindful meditation helps us find that pause between stimulus and response. Viktor Frankl was born 1905, he is an Austrian psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor. His famous quote is, “Between stimulus and response lies a space. In that space lie our freedom and power to choose a response. In our response lies our growth and our happiness.”

Finding the pause, giving compassion (if needed) & getting curious when we are escalated will help us in regulating and finding the root of the stimulus.

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Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-15950631 Tue, 22 Oct 2024 01:00:00 -0700 3930 4 93 full false Morris H Ervin, Jr. - Reflections of a Troubled Black Man Morris H Ervin, Jr. - Reflections of a Troubled Black Man I know I haven’t dropped an episode for months. I have been living life to the best of my ability, reading, working and soaking in the time we have on this physical world. I am continuing to record episodes. Thank you for your grace and understanding. Take care of your heart. 

I got the honor of speaking with Morris again. The last time we had him on my podcast was episode 28 back in 2021. Morris has flourished and continued to spread his love, passion and strength into his communities. He has a memoir that has been released called “Reflections of a Troubled Black Man.” In the last two years of speaking with Morris his journey is sky rocketing. He even was able to create a friendship with Dr. Virgil A. Wood and carry on his legacy for this beautiful work of love and peace in all communities.  The core of Morris’s philosophy is deeply rooted in Social Emotional Learning, Contemplative Education, and Restorative Practices.
Morris H Ervin, Jr. is an educator, entertainer, motivational speaker, and Youth Development Professional committed to helping the youth, families, communities, and institutions “turn fear into strength, and pain into passion.”
 
Resources:

1)  Book  “Reflections of a Troubled Black Man.” By: Morris H Ervin, Jr.
2) Book By: Virgil A. Wood
3) NVC Journal with NVC Chart By: Kady
4) NVC Reflection Journal By: Kady
5) Video: Dr. Masaru Emoto

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Living Connected Facebook

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]]> I know I haven’t dropped an episode for months. I have been living life to the best of my ability, reading, working and soaking in the time we have on this physical world. I am continuing to record episodes. Thank you for your grace and understanding. Take care of your heart. 

I got the honor of speaking with Morris again. The last time we had him on my podcast was episode 28 back in 2021. Morris has flourished and continued to spread his love, passion and strength into his communities. He has a memoir that has been released called “Reflections of a Troubled Black Man.” In the last two years of speaking with Morris his journey is sky rocketing. He even was able to create a friendship with Dr. Virgil A. Wood and carry on his legacy for this beautiful work of love and peace in all communities.  The core of Morris’s philosophy is deeply rooted in Social Emotional Learning, Contemplative Education, and Restorative Practices.
Morris H Ervin, Jr. is an educator, entertainer, motivational speaker, and Youth Development Professional committed to helping the youth, families, communities, and institutions “turn fear into strength, and pain into passion.”
 
Resources:

1)  Book  “Reflections of a Troubled Black Man.” By: Morris H Ervin, Jr.
2) Book By: Virgil A. Wood
3) NVC Journal with NVC Chart By: Kady
4) NVC Reflection Journal By: Kady
5) Video: Dr. Masaru Emoto

CONTACT INFORMATION:
Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
Instagram: livingconnectednvc
TikTok: Living Connected NVC
Living Connected Facebook

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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-15021940 Tue, 07 May 2024 02:00:00 -0700 4484 4 92 full true Orly's Listening Table Orly's Listening Table It has been a whirl wind of time that has flown by. I was in a long term subbing gig most of January teaching 3rd grade and there was no time to edit. I did try really hard. I hope y'all have had a wonderful holiday and Happy New Years! Thank you for your support and continuing to listen to Living Connected. =)

We have a special guest on Living Connected, his name is Orly. Orly has created a Listening Table in the LA area that people can come and sit to talk, vent, and be 100% authentically themselves without repercussions of judgment, advice, criticisms or blame. The Listening Table is free for anyone needing to feel heard, understood, & seen. Eric met Orly at the IIT (NVC - International Intensive Training). Later on, I messaged Orly on Instagram having my fingers crossed that he would respond and he did!! Listening is a huge part of NVC (Nonviolent Communication), meeting people where there, knowing how to give self-empathy and empathy to others, & being present with them in that moment without stories or judgments of what the other is sharing. Listening is being able to create a safe space for people to feel safe enough and trust that what they share will be held in care. Orly is doing this in his community for others and we get to talk to him how this has helped him in his journey. I absolutely love this and I hope people continue to create Listening Tables all around the world. And with that I will leave you there. As Orly says, “Thank you for listening and have a great listening day!”

Resources:
Organization : Freedom to Chose
IG: @Oryl'slisteningtable
Youtube: Orly's Listening Table

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]]> It has been a whirl wind of time that has flown by. I was in a long term subbing gig most of January teaching 3rd grade and there was no time to edit. I did try really hard. I hope y'all have had a wonderful holiday and Happy New Years! Thank you for your support and continuing to listen to Living Connected. =)

We have a special guest on Living Connected, his name is Orly. Orly has created a Listening Table in the LA area that people can come and sit to talk, vent, and be 100% authentically themselves without repercussions of judgment, advice, criticisms or blame. The Listening Table is free for anyone needing to feel heard, understood, & seen. Eric met Orly at the IIT (NVC - International Intensive Training). Later on, I messaged Orly on Instagram having my fingers crossed that he would respond and he did!! Listening is a huge part of NVC (Nonviolent Communication), meeting people where there, knowing how to give self-empathy and empathy to others, & being present with them in that moment without stories or judgments of what the other is sharing. Listening is being able to create a safe space for people to feel safe enough and trust that what they share will be held in care. Orly is doing this in his community for others and we get to talk to him how this has helped him in his journey. I absolutely love this and I hope people continue to create Listening Tables all around the world. And with that I will leave you there. As Orly says, “Thank you for listening and have a great listening day!”

Resources:
Organization : Freedom to Chose
IG: @Oryl'slisteningtable
Youtube: Orly's Listening Table

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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-14507116 Tue, 20 Feb 2024 02:00:00 -0800 4827 4 91 full false Antiracist Heart with Roxy Manning PhD Antiracist Heart with Roxy Manning PhD Probably since 2021, I had this dream to have Roxy on my podcast. And what a dream come true. I feel so grateful & honored for this opportunity to have Roxy Manning on as a guest. We talk about antiracism that also goes along with her new book with Sarah Peyton called “The Antiracist Heart”. 

Often times stereotypical stories like “Asian kids are good at math” will lead to children having this expectation that they are suppose to be and when they are not there is internal shame that is created. Then the support that children need are bypassed because of this stereotype. The child doesn’t even know how to ask for help. I have heard in my lifetime that “Asians are super smart and really bad drivers” and me as a kid didn’t stand up and speak up to this. Question it and ask “how do you know this and why are we stereotyping this group of people.” The more knowledge I have of this, the more I can get curious, address it & talk about it using Nonviolent Communication. 

These beliefs come from white supremacy culture. We put humans in a box with these stories and this impacts and affects us deeply as a collective unconsciously, subconsciously and consciously. The systems we live in today, are so corrupt & Roxy said “we want to change these suppressive systems in ways that bring us together. How do we name harm when it is happening?”

I hope this episode inspires Living Connected listeners to bring about change in being more open & willing to talk about these things in our beloved communities with each other. And with that, I will leave you there. Enjoy. 

Resources:
Books:
1) The Antiracist Heart by Roxy Manning PhD & Sarah Peyton

2) How to Have Antiracist Conversations By Roxy Manning PhD

3) My Grandmother's Hands By: Resmaa Menakem

Journal : NVC Journal that I created you can get on Amazon now in two sizes
1) 5.75in X 8.25in
2) 8in X 10in

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]]> Probably since 2021, I had this dream to have Roxy on my podcast. And what a dream come true. I feel so grateful & honored for this opportunity to have Roxy Manning on as a guest. We talk about antiracism that also goes along with her new book with Sarah Peyton called “The Antiracist Heart”. 

Often times stereotypical stories like “Asian kids are good at math” will lead to children having this expectation that they are suppose to be and when they are not there is internal shame that is created. Then the support that children need are bypassed because of this stereotype. The child doesn’t even know how to ask for help. I have heard in my lifetime that “Asians are super smart and really bad drivers” and me as a kid didn’t stand up and speak up to this. Question it and ask “how do you know this and why are we stereotyping this group of people.” The more knowledge I have of this, the more I can get curious, address it & talk about it using Nonviolent Communication. 

These beliefs come from white supremacy culture. We put humans in a box with these stories and this impacts and affects us deeply as a collective unconsciously, subconsciously and consciously. The systems we live in today, are so corrupt & Roxy said “we want to change these suppressive systems in ways that bring us together. How do we name harm when it is happening?”

I hope this episode inspires Living Connected listeners to bring about change in being more open & willing to talk about these things in our beloved communities with each other. And with that, I will leave you there. Enjoy. 

Resources:
Books:
1) The Antiracist Heart by Roxy Manning PhD & Sarah Peyton

2) How to Have Antiracist Conversations By Roxy Manning PhD

3) My Grandmother's Hands By: Resmaa Menakem

Journal : NVC Journal that I created you can get on Amazon now in two sizes
1) 5.75in X 8.25in
2) 8in X 10in

Become a Supporter of the show CLICK HERE
Contributions go towards my cost of hosting all the episodes on BuzzSprout.

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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-14150328 Tue, 19 Dec 2023 01:00:00 -0800 4174 4 90 full false Antiracist Heart with Sarah Peyton Antiracist Heart with Sarah Peyton I loved that I was able to have Sarah Peyton on the living connected podcast again. In this past year she has been writing a book with Roxy Manning. The book is called “The Antiracist Heart” and the book empowers us on how to have conversations, compassion, and a beloved community when it comes to racism. What are our blindspots? What are we not seeing when it comes to our own implicit and explicit experiences? How can we get more curious, be more open, and grow from our experiences moving forward? This episode only touches the surface on this topic. It is up to us to continue to learn and grow if we want to see change in this world. Please stay tuned Living Connected listeners as we will have Roxy on the next episode. And with that I will leave you there, let’s dive in.
 
NVC Journal
Website: https://sarahpeyton.com/

Books:

  1. “Healing resistance: A Radically Different Response to Harm” By kazoo Haga
  2. “Trauma of Caste” By Thenmozhi Soundararajan
  3. "Your Resonant Self Mediations" By Sarah Peyton
  4. "Antiracist Heart" By Sarah Peyton & Roxy Manning

Podcast: 
1619 - The New York Times

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]]> I loved that I was able to have Sarah Peyton on the living connected podcast again. In this past year she has been writing a book with Roxy Manning. The book is called “The Antiracist Heart” and the book empowers us on how to have conversations, compassion, and a beloved community when it comes to racism. What are our blindspots? What are we not seeing when it comes to our own implicit and explicit experiences? How can we get more curious, be more open, and grow from our experiences moving forward? This episode only touches the surface on this topic. It is up to us to continue to learn and grow if we want to see change in this world. Please stay tuned Living Connected listeners as we will have Roxy on the next episode. And with that I will leave you there, let’s dive in.
 
NVC Journal
Website: https://sarahpeyton.com/

Books:

  1. “Healing resistance: A Radically Different Response to Harm” By kazoo Haga
  2. “Trauma of Caste” By Thenmozhi Soundararajan
  3. "Your Resonant Self Mediations" By Sarah Peyton
  4. "Antiracist Heart" By Sarah Peyton & Roxy Manning

Podcast: 
1619 - The New York Times

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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-13974071 Tue, 21 Nov 2023 02:00:00 -0800 4066 4 89 full false Mediation with John Kinyon Mediation with John Kinyon We had thee utmost pleasure of having John Kinyon as our special guest for this episode today. I was left feeling lifted, joyous and filled with gratitude. A lot came pouring out and I had needs met for some healing and held in a deep understood way. I appreciate all of you who have been on my journey with me. And just by listening you might have healed parts of you too. I want to honor that in you as well. Raw aliveness seems to flow from my heart sometimes and I thank you all for holding space for me.

For me, all parts of this journey is integrating and embodying NVC practice into my daily life. The raw vulnerable expression, attunement & awareness, the teachings, the education, the tools, the movement in the body is all encompassing the path of inner-work. 

In this episode we will discuss with John his steps he goes through with couples who are in conflict. There will also be the education & tools of NVC that will support the  process of mending or repairing the connection between two or more humans.

John has devoted his life and career to human beings developing the ability to shift conflict to connection. John’s mentor was Marshall Rosenberg himself. The one who founded Nonviolent Communication. For over 20 years John has mediated conflicts, and developed trainings throughout the US and in different countries as well. He is a certified trainer in NVC and offers online courses and programs that focus on healing social-political & personal divides & building empathic communities.    

And with that I will leave you there, I truly hope you enjoy this episode just as much as I did. 

Resources:

Across the isle - https://johnkinyon.com/conversations-across-the-aisle/

Website: https://johnkinyon.com/home/

App: Mediate your Life

SOCIAL MEDIA

Instagram : @john.kinyon

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JohnBKinyon/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MediateYourLifeTraining

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnkinyon/


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]]> We had thee utmost pleasure of having John Kinyon as our special guest for this episode today. I was left feeling lifted, joyous and filled with gratitude. A lot came pouring out and I had needs met for some healing and held in a deep understood way. I appreciate all of you who have been on my journey with me. And just by listening you might have healed parts of you too. I want to honor that in you as well. Raw aliveness seems to flow from my heart sometimes and I thank you all for holding space for me.

For me, all parts of this journey is integrating and embodying NVC practice into my daily life. The raw vulnerable expression, attunement & awareness, the teachings, the education, the tools, the movement in the body is all encompassing the path of inner-work. 

In this episode we will discuss with John his steps he goes through with couples who are in conflict. There will also be the education & tools of NVC that will support the  process of mending or repairing the connection between two or more humans.

John has devoted his life and career to human beings developing the ability to shift conflict to connection. John’s mentor was Marshall Rosenberg himself. The one who founded Nonviolent Communication. For over 20 years John has mediated conflicts, and developed trainings throughout the US and in different countries as well. He is a certified trainer in NVC and offers online courses and programs that focus on healing social-political & personal divides & building empathic communities.    

And with that I will leave you there, I truly hope you enjoy this episode just as much as I did. 

Resources:

Across the isle - https://johnkinyon.com/conversations-across-the-aisle/

Website: https://johnkinyon.com/home/

App: Mediate your Life

SOCIAL MEDIA

Instagram : @john.kinyon

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JohnBKinyon/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MediateYourLifeTraining

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/johnkinyon/


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]]> Buzzsprout-13791285 Tue, 17 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0700 5376 4 88 full false Recovery & Sobriety with Jenine Recovery & Sobriety with Jenine What a summer it has been. This episode was from June and it took me awhile to edit. I have been enjoying my warm weather before the cold sets in. We have made it to season 4! This podcast has been going since 2020. We have many episodes to come. Thank you all for continuing to listen and being apart of this NVC journey.

We have a special guest with us today, who is dear to my heart. Her name is Jenine. She has been a big part in my teaching career. The first time she came in to the Elementary school I was working at, I clicked with her. She got me and understood my struggle with taking tests. I had a hard time passing my test to get my teaching license and Jenine gave me every resource she had so I could pass. There were many times when we could vent about our experiences in the teaching world that gave me comfort. We had this trust for each other. Eric and I got the honor of talking with Jenine about her sobriety and recovery journey. I feel so much gratitude to be able to explore this topic and I appreciate you Jenine for being open, honest and vulnerable with everyone. I always felt safe to text you for any reason. It’s a gift to know you and continue to know you. I am so so proud of you for how far you have come, to where you are in this moment, taking one day at a time.

What I learned from this episode is being apart of a community that understands you, sees you, celebrates you and holds space with no judgment matters a lot. With that I will leave you there, I hope you enjoy this episode.  

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]]> What a summer it has been. This episode was from June and it took me awhile to edit. I have been enjoying my warm weather before the cold sets in. We have made it to season 4! This podcast has been going since 2020. We have many episodes to come. Thank you all for continuing to listen and being apart of this NVC journey.

We have a special guest with us today, who is dear to my heart. Her name is Jenine. She has been a big part in my teaching career. The first time she came in to the Elementary school I was working at, I clicked with her. She got me and understood my struggle with taking tests. I had a hard time passing my test to get my teaching license and Jenine gave me every resource she had so I could pass. There were many times when we could vent about our experiences in the teaching world that gave me comfort. We had this trust for each other. Eric and I got the honor of talking with Jenine about her sobriety and recovery journey. I feel so much gratitude to be able to explore this topic and I appreciate you Jenine for being open, honest and vulnerable with everyone. I always felt safe to text you for any reason. It’s a gift to know you and continue to know you. I am so so proud of you for how far you have come, to where you are in this moment, taking one day at a time.

What I learned from this episode is being apart of a community that understands you, sees you, celebrates you and holds space with no judgment matters a lot. With that I will leave you there, I hope you enjoy this episode.  

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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-13507758 Thu, 31 Aug 2023 14:00:00 -0700 6707 4 87 full false Step In & or Stand up Step In & or Stand up  Eric and I discuss what it’s like to step in and or stand up for Self and or others. Keeping Nonviolent communication in mind, I think it is hard in some situations when you are caught off guard to have NVC as an automatic response. In my experience in this episode, fight or flight kicked in and I just said, “thanks,” kindly and moved on to my table or went to dance. I definitely looked at this guys wife who is a friend of mine with a face of, “I can’t believe he just said that!” At that moment I think I was searching for some support in how inappropriate that was. Now, reflecting back on this episode and I see her again, I may ask her how she felt about that…And perhaps express how uncomfortable it was for me to hear it. And I will approach this conversation with curiosity and no judgment. 

 These moments where I don’t stand up for myself can be learning experience to help me have a voice next time. Also, this allows me to find some self-compassion as well. I might say, “I did the best I could with my nervous system activated. It’s not like I am in these situations all the time to practice over and over so my neuro pathways aren’t built up yet, so my response isn’t how I would like it to be. AND that is okay!” Give myself grace and love. What I also noticed is that there is a certain level of attunement that we have as a collective community to pick up facial expression, body language and the choice of words from the person to truly understand how to stand in for someone. That is if we aren’t confused or frozen ourselves to be able to help the other. When we don’t help the other person that can be an opportunity to give ourselves some compassion. These are the ways we can integrate NVC when we do stand up or stand in for Self and others, which is self-empathy, finding feelings that arise in the situation and what our needs are especially in the reflection part. I will leave you with that, and hope you have some take aways from this episode. Let’s dive in.   


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 leanin.org
50 Ways to Fight Bias


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]]>  Eric and I discuss what it’s like to step in and or stand up for Self and or others. Keeping Nonviolent communication in mind, I think it is hard in some situations when you are caught off guard to have NVC as an automatic response. In my experience in this episode, fight or flight kicked in and I just said, “thanks,” kindly and moved on to my table or went to dance. I definitely looked at this guys wife who is a friend of mine with a face of, “I can’t believe he just said that!” At that moment I think I was searching for some support in how inappropriate that was. Now, reflecting back on this episode and I see her again, I may ask her how she felt about that…And perhaps express how uncomfortable it was for me to hear it. And I will approach this conversation with curiosity and no judgment. 

 These moments where I don’t stand up for myself can be learning experience to help me have a voice next time. Also, this allows me to find some self-compassion as well. I might say, “I did the best I could with my nervous system activated. It’s not like I am in these situations all the time to practice over and over so my neuro pathways aren’t built up yet, so my response isn’t how I would like it to be. AND that is okay!” Give myself grace and love. What I also noticed is that there is a certain level of attunement that we have as a collective community to pick up facial expression, body language and the choice of words from the person to truly understand how to stand in for someone. That is if we aren’t confused or frozen ourselves to be able to help the other. When we don’t help the other person that can be an opportunity to give ourselves some compassion. These are the ways we can integrate NVC when we do stand up or stand in for Self and others, which is self-empathy, finding feelings that arise in the situation and what our needs are especially in the reflection part. I will leave you with that, and hope you have some take aways from this episode. Let’s dive in.   


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 leanin.org
50 Ways to Fight Bias


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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-13069261 Tue, 20 Jun 2023 01:00:00 -0700 4169 3 86 full true Flow of Feelings with Bryn Hazel Flow of Feelings with Bryn Hazel I am so thrilled to have Bryn on my podcast again. The last time she was on was back in Oct. of 2020 episode 17. Bryn has been practicing NVC over 22 years and has been my mentor, empathy buddy and teacher since I started NVC in 2018. I am honored & it’s a gift to have Bryn in my life for 5 years, knowing you Bryn has changed me in a beautiful way. Your accompaniment during hard times and happy continues to mean so much to my heart.  

Today we are talking about the flow of feelings and how our feelings can change depending on the stories we have going on in our mind. The stories we tell ourselves  can affect how our feelings flow between one another. Our perception or judgements of self or others can impact our current human experiences and disrupt the flow of the true feelings, needs and connection. Bryn shares a great story by Marshall that explains this concept so well. We can shift our feelings when our judgments shift about ourselves or others. Our reality of how we feel is one way through the lens of stories or judgments and then when our stories change our feelings & reality shifts and our reality becomes different. My younger self has a story that “I am doing something wrong, I’m gonna get in trouble.” My perception comes from that place of defensiveness and those feelings are how I respond to my human experience or situation. If I didn’t have this story in my head, my heart would be in a more curious & open place and than my feelings about the present moment would be different.     

I had a listener reach out to me from Canada, his name is Erich. He had asked me if I had any idea where we can find Marshall Rosenbergs original Audio tapes or CDs of his workshops. Erich did some extensive research and has come up with a bunch of resources for everyone that I am going to provide in the description below. This really met my needs for community, sharing, contribution, support & thoughtfulness & care. I want to bring NVC related stuff to our Living connected community and this helps so much. Thank you Erich for this contribution of effort and time you put into this. We all appreciate you tremendously.

Resources:

Spotify: 
1) Marshall's Trainings
2) More Workshops & Trainings

Discog: Vinyl and CD

PuddleDancer: 18 Songs by Marshall Rosenberg $4.95

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]]> I am so thrilled to have Bryn on my podcast again. The last time she was on was back in Oct. of 2020 episode 17. Bryn has been practicing NVC over 22 years and has been my mentor, empathy buddy and teacher since I started NVC in 2018. I am honored & it’s a gift to have Bryn in my life for 5 years, knowing you Bryn has changed me in a beautiful way. Your accompaniment during hard times and happy continues to mean so much to my heart.  

Today we are talking about the flow of feelings and how our feelings can change depending on the stories we have going on in our mind. The stories we tell ourselves  can affect how our feelings flow between one another. Our perception or judgements of self or others can impact our current human experiences and disrupt the flow of the true feelings, needs and connection. Bryn shares a great story by Marshall that explains this concept so well. We can shift our feelings when our judgments shift about ourselves or others. Our reality of how we feel is one way through the lens of stories or judgments and then when our stories change our feelings & reality shifts and our reality becomes different. My younger self has a story that “I am doing something wrong, I’m gonna get in trouble.” My perception comes from that place of defensiveness and those feelings are how I respond to my human experience or situation. If I didn’t have this story in my head, my heart would be in a more curious & open place and than my feelings about the present moment would be different.     

I had a listener reach out to me from Canada, his name is Erich. He had asked me if I had any idea where we can find Marshall Rosenbergs original Audio tapes or CDs of his workshops. Erich did some extensive research and has come up with a bunch of resources for everyone that I am going to provide in the description below. This really met my needs for community, sharing, contribution, support & thoughtfulness & care. I want to bring NVC related stuff to our Living connected community and this helps so much. Thank you Erich for this contribution of effort and time you put into this. We all appreciate you tremendously.

Resources:

Spotify: 
1) Marshall's Trainings
2) More Workshops & Trainings

Discog: Vinyl and CD

PuddleDancer: 18 Songs by Marshall Rosenberg $4.95

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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-12883528 Tue, 23 May 2023 01:00:00 -0700 4010 3 85 full true Activism with Eric Lazarus Activism with Eric Lazarus I got the chance to talk to Eric Lazarus about Activism. How do we use NVC in situations that we want to stand up for. I know for me there are several different things that I would like to see change, when it comes to teacher, student & parent support. My main take away from this episode was having the skill to have curiosity questions & curiosity listening. Regardless if the person you are talking to has a different view of a situation or a law or rules or the way the government is ran, we can listen and find values or needs. Give empathy, if it is needed. When we want to propose change in our communities, churches, schools, cities, governments, we start by coming from a place in our hearts of what we want to see change. We give personal experiences and ask questions that can hit home or can be touching for someone to read or watch. How can we make this world a better place for everyone. Mahatma Gandhi “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change” Or the common one we often hear is “be the change you wish to see in the world.” 

Activism I can only imagine can look in so many different ways. The root word of activist is the latin Actus “a doing, a driving force.” The suffix ist is used to refer to a person who practices or hold certain values. The word was first used when Sweden in 1915 when people advocating for the end of the World War 1.

As much as it’s frustrating to be part of a school system where a lot of the trauma students have is coming from their home environment only I can be the change to start something in a big or small way. My contribution to this change is to actively listen and empathize with students when they are upset, angry and or having a conflict with one another. 

It can truly be overwhelming to think about “how can I stop parents to not be incarcerated” “How can parents work on themselves to be better and not be in jail” This is the reality a lot of schools are dealing with, which is; students with trauma which leads to trauma that comes from their environment and their parents. Both student and parent don’t have the support that they need to accompany them in healing unresolved trauma. My impossible thinking is that the root of all this is beyond teachers ability to help. Instead of being overwhelmed by that over arching question, I want to rephrase that and ask “In what ways can I make a difference to these students today?”

I hope living connected listeners that you have one take away from this episode. Or many you end up constructing a take away of your own that was inspired by our conversation. I know it stimulated a lot inside of me and I am curious what came up for you. I would love to share your thoughts on the podcast.  

Resources:

Be the Change Quote

David Richo - When the Past is Present

YouTube Recording: American Experience

Amy WesterVelt

Email Eric at the bottom of this website:  https://electionsec.org/

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]]> I got the chance to talk to Eric Lazarus about Activism. How do we use NVC in situations that we want to stand up for. I know for me there are several different things that I would like to see change, when it comes to teacher, student & parent support. My main take away from this episode was having the skill to have curiosity questions & curiosity listening. Regardless if the person you are talking to has a different view of a situation or a law or rules or the way the government is ran, we can listen and find values or needs. Give empathy, if it is needed. When we want to propose change in our communities, churches, schools, cities, governments, we start by coming from a place in our hearts of what we want to see change. We give personal experiences and ask questions that can hit home or can be touching for someone to read or watch. How can we make this world a better place for everyone. Mahatma Gandhi “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change” Or the common one we often hear is “be the change you wish to see in the world.” 

Activism I can only imagine can look in so many different ways. The root word of activist is the latin Actus “a doing, a driving force.” The suffix ist is used to refer to a person who practices or hold certain values. The word was first used when Sweden in 1915 when people advocating for the end of the World War 1.

As much as it’s frustrating to be part of a school system where a lot of the trauma students have is coming from their home environment only I can be the change to start something in a big or small way. My contribution to this change is to actively listen and empathize with students when they are upset, angry and or having a conflict with one another. 

It can truly be overwhelming to think about “how can I stop parents to not be incarcerated” “How can parents work on themselves to be better and not be in jail” This is the reality a lot of schools are dealing with, which is; students with trauma which leads to trauma that comes from their environment and their parents. Both student and parent don’t have the support that they need to accompany them in healing unresolved trauma. My impossible thinking is that the root of all this is beyond teachers ability to help. Instead of being overwhelmed by that over arching question, I want to rephrase that and ask “In what ways can I make a difference to these students today?”

I hope living connected listeners that you have one take away from this episode. Or many you end up constructing a take away of your own that was inspired by our conversation. I know it stimulated a lot inside of me and I am curious what came up for you. I would love to share your thoughts on the podcast.  

Resources:

Be the Change Quote

David Richo - When the Past is Present

YouTube Recording: American Experience

Amy WesterVelt

Email Eric at the bottom of this website:  https://electionsec.org/

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]]> Buzzsprout-12764746 Tue, 02 May 2023 02:00:00 -0700 4655 3 84 full true Artificial Intelligence with Anne & Benson Artificial Intelligence with Anne & Benson Eric and I got the honor of talking with Anne and Benson who have been in the process of inventing AI’s (Artificial Intelligence or robots) that are capable of teaching Nonviolent Communication. As well as finding a way to build a robot that has the ability to give empathic responses. My main take-away from this episode is that these robots won’t be replacing other humans. These robots will support humans in their growth, and learning of NVC so that when we are connecting with humans we can communicate with more ease. The robots would allow for us humans to practice and grow our feelings and needs vocabulary. The robots will also help translate judgments into feelings and needs so we can have a better understanding of what lies beneath our criticisms, blame, judgments or diagnosis, & evaluations. This gives us an opportunity to bring what we learned into the real world. 

I believe with a lot of data collection the robot will give strategies and offer do-able requests of Self and or for the other person. In my thought, the more data we can collect the better responses the robot can have. 

In the book Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson he uses the word broken and changed it to experiences and trauma. He says on page 289 “ Our experiences and traumas is the source of our common humanity, the basis for our shared search for comfort, meaning and healing. Our shared vulnerability and imperfection nurtures and sustains our capacity for compassion.” He goes on to say that “he never fully considered that being “broken” is what makes us human. Sometimes we’re fractured by the choices we make; sometimes we’re shattered by the things we would never have chosen”

Being apart of this episode and reading what Bryan said, really made me think about embracing our humanness. We are all so unique and connected and I want to hold on to that. Our human experiences are real and at this point, no robot can deeply feel and be impacted by those experiences. Humans share universal needs of belonging, meaning and healing, when robots are just a collection of data, inputs and algorithms that compute into a variety of results. 

As Anne said, “robots replacing humans is so far away in the future.” When I hear that I worry that in order for that not to happen, humans need a way to tap into something higher in brain capacity than what robots can offer so that we humans don’t become extinct.

Resources from Anne & Benson:

Our new story-based workshop on using ChatGPT for wellbeing and creativity:

https://www.emotionalhealthessentials.com/i-human

Here is a demo of our non-violent communication support AI:

https://www.emotionalhealthessentials.com/technology


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]]> Eric and I got the honor of talking with Anne and Benson who have been in the process of inventing AI’s (Artificial Intelligence or robots) that are capable of teaching Nonviolent Communication. As well as finding a way to build a robot that has the ability to give empathic responses. My main take-away from this episode is that these robots won’t be replacing other humans. These robots will support humans in their growth, and learning of NVC so that when we are connecting with humans we can communicate with more ease. The robots would allow for us humans to practice and grow our feelings and needs vocabulary. The robots will also help translate judgments into feelings and needs so we can have a better understanding of what lies beneath our criticisms, blame, judgments or diagnosis, & evaluations. This gives us an opportunity to bring what we learned into the real world. 

I believe with a lot of data collection the robot will give strategies and offer do-able requests of Self and or for the other person. In my thought, the more data we can collect the better responses the robot can have. 

In the book Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson he uses the word broken and changed it to experiences and trauma. He says on page 289 “ Our experiences and traumas is the source of our common humanity, the basis for our shared search for comfort, meaning and healing. Our shared vulnerability and imperfection nurtures and sustains our capacity for compassion.” He goes on to say that “he never fully considered that being “broken” is what makes us human. Sometimes we’re fractured by the choices we make; sometimes we’re shattered by the things we would never have chosen”

Being apart of this episode and reading what Bryan said, really made me think about embracing our humanness. We are all so unique and connected and I want to hold on to that. Our human experiences are real and at this point, no robot can deeply feel and be impacted by those experiences. Humans share universal needs of belonging, meaning and healing, when robots are just a collection of data, inputs and algorithms that compute into a variety of results. 

As Anne said, “robots replacing humans is so far away in the future.” When I hear that I worry that in order for that not to happen, humans need a way to tap into something higher in brain capacity than what robots can offer so that we humans don’t become extinct.

Resources from Anne & Benson:

Our new story-based workshop on using ChatGPT for wellbeing and creativity:

https://www.emotionalhealthessentials.com/i-human

Here is a demo of our non-violent communication support AI:

https://www.emotionalhealthessentials.com/technology


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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-12634421 Wed, 12 Apr 2023 01:00:00 -0700 6372 3 83 full false Scary Honesty with Eric Scary Honesty with Eric Eric and I are talking about honesty or scary honesty today. To me, honesty is speaking from the heart or fully speaking your truth. Focusing on what is alive in your heart and sharing courageously.  

Needs that might come up when sharing honesty could be freedom, sincerity, fairness, care, compassion, vulnerability and or truthfulness. What does fully speaking your truth mean and look like to you? 


What do we hope for when we speak our truth? How do we hold space, give kindness for ourselves after we have spoken from the heart? How do we stay calm, or grounded & not activated in our nervous system? Are we willing and open to hear the response from the other person - What if the response is in defensiveness, criticism or blame? 


I watch a video of Marshall Rosenberg talk about honesty and an example he used was “I feel scared because I want to maintain the quality of relationship that we have…” I added the feeling of fear “…and I fear what I have to say might disturb our relationship.” Sometimes sharing feelings first humanizes our human experience. Which in it of itself is a vulnerable thing to do, to share feelings. Then the other person can possibly relate to those feelings and bring some warmth into their body or into the conversation.


Marshall said “we send something out beautifully & jackal ears pick up something ugly. We just develop our ability to enjoy it when it happens.” There was a time when he had to give empathy eight times because the enemy image was so strong, letting go of that enemy image was hard for that person. People often times need empathy before they can hear our honesty. 


Which again, is hard because we so deeply want them to be in a space of openness and resourced enough to be able to hear our heart.


This topic is huge and could be discussed at length. And perhaps, Living Connected listeners you have some Ah-Ha moments, thoughts or curious questions that you would like to share as well, please let me know. I truly hope you enjoy listening to this episode.


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]]> Eric and I are talking about honesty or scary honesty today. To me, honesty is speaking from the heart or fully speaking your truth. Focusing on what is alive in your heart and sharing courageously.  

Needs that might come up when sharing honesty could be freedom, sincerity, fairness, care, compassion, vulnerability and or truthfulness. What does fully speaking your truth mean and look like to you? 


What do we hope for when we speak our truth? How do we hold space, give kindness for ourselves after we have spoken from the heart? How do we stay calm, or grounded & not activated in our nervous system? Are we willing and open to hear the response from the other person - What if the response is in defensiveness, criticism or blame? 


I watch a video of Marshall Rosenberg talk about honesty and an example he used was “I feel scared because I want to maintain the quality of relationship that we have…” I added the feeling of fear “…and I fear what I have to say might disturb our relationship.” Sometimes sharing feelings first humanizes our human experience. Which in it of itself is a vulnerable thing to do, to share feelings. Then the other person can possibly relate to those feelings and bring some warmth into their body or into the conversation.


Marshall said “we send something out beautifully & jackal ears pick up something ugly. We just develop our ability to enjoy it when it happens.” There was a time when he had to give empathy eight times because the enemy image was so strong, letting go of that enemy image was hard for that person. People often times need empathy before they can hear our honesty. 


Which again, is hard because we so deeply want them to be in a space of openness and resourced enough to be able to hear our heart.


This topic is huge and could be discussed at length. And perhaps, Living Connected listeners you have some Ah-Ha moments, thoughts or curious questions that you would like to share as well, please let me know. I truly hope you enjoy listening to this episode.


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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-12327236 Tue, 28 Feb 2023 01:00:00 -0800 4213 3 82 full true Humanizing Healthcare with Dr. Melanie Sears Humanizing Healthcare with Dr. Melanie Sears Eric and I had the honor of speaking with Dr. Melanie Sears. She has been practicing NVC for 30+ years and worked along side Marshall Rosenberg. We get to explore the healthcare system that is in place in the United States. Dr. Melanie Sears specifically talks about her experience with patients in the psychiatric facility and how patients are treated. She has been a nurse for 35 years and has her PhD in Transpersonal Psychology. "Transpersonal Psychology roots back over 100 years ago. William James laid out principles of so many psychological approaches. Transpersonal psychology could be seen as an attempt to understand the different states of consciousness - and the different views of reality. Transpersonal Psychology attempted to integrate the ideas of eastern spiritual traditions such as buddhism, Hindu and yoga, they examined the “higher” states of consciousness, and “higher” stages of human development."  

With all the years of  experience and wisdom she has, Dr Melanie Sears has written two books, the first on is called “Humanizing Health Care: Creating Cultures of Compassion With Nonviolent Communication”. The second book is called “Choose You Words: Harnessing the Power of Compassionate Communication to Heal and Connect”. 

NVC can be a game changer in how programs are run and how we connect with patients or students in different situations. What it seems to come down to is empathy. Empathizing with patients and students and then getting empathy for yourself as well. Also knowing how to give empathy to others and who you have for support to give you empathy when needed. 

I found myself aligning with Dr. Mel’s work when it came to my job. I appreciated the connection a lot and long for more and more systems in our society to use Nonviolent Communication.  

Resources:

Transpersonal Psychology

Books By Dr. Melanie Sears: 

Humanizing Health Care
Choose Your Words: Compassionate Communication
More Videos with Melanie Sears

Books By: Sura Hart:

Compassionate Classroom
Respectful Parents & Respectful Kids

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]]> Eric and I had the honor of speaking with Dr. Melanie Sears. She has been practicing NVC for 30+ years and worked along side Marshall Rosenberg. We get to explore the healthcare system that is in place in the United States. Dr. Melanie Sears specifically talks about her experience with patients in the psychiatric facility and how patients are treated. She has been a nurse for 35 years and has her PhD in Transpersonal Psychology. "Transpersonal Psychology roots back over 100 years ago. William James laid out principles of so many psychological approaches. Transpersonal psychology could be seen as an attempt to understand the different states of consciousness - and the different views of reality. Transpersonal Psychology attempted to integrate the ideas of eastern spiritual traditions such as buddhism, Hindu and yoga, they examined the “higher” states of consciousness, and “higher” stages of human development."  

With all the years of  experience and wisdom she has, Dr Melanie Sears has written two books, the first on is called “Humanizing Health Care: Creating Cultures of Compassion With Nonviolent Communication”. The second book is called “Choose You Words: Harnessing the Power of Compassionate Communication to Heal and Connect”. 

NVC can be a game changer in how programs are run and how we connect with patients or students in different situations. What it seems to come down to is empathy. Empathizing with patients and students and then getting empathy for yourself as well. Also knowing how to give empathy to others and who you have for support to give you empathy when needed. 

I found myself aligning with Dr. Mel’s work when it came to my job. I appreciated the connection a lot and long for more and more systems in our society to use Nonviolent Communication.  

Resources:

Transpersonal Psychology

Books By Dr. Melanie Sears: 

Humanizing Health Care
Choose Your Words: Compassionate Communication
More Videos with Melanie Sears

Books By: Sura Hart:

Compassionate Classroom
Respectful Parents & Respectful Kids

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Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
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]]> Buzzsprout-12142384 Tue, 31 Jan 2023 01:00:00 -0800 4632 3 81 full true Find Peace With Find Peace With HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!
2023 has begun!

Eric and I get to talking about the transformation of the relationship with my dad. How the needs of belonging to a family is mourned and may continued to be mourned on every special day that is typically spent with family. Each time we mourn, acknowledge and witness that pain, we are healing a little bit of ourselves. I have gone through this process of being accompanied & witness in my pain and have found peace with what is. The what is, is that my dad and I have found our own tradition for thanksgiving that we came up with together. We are making the best of it, given the situation at hand. NVC has truly been a wonderful way for me to heal and acknowledge the hurt and pain that I feel inside my heart. I hope the same for all of you living connected listeners out there too that NVC gives you this way to witness yourselves & hold yourselves with a deep compassion. I want you to know that I see you, hear you and your not alone. Thank you all so much for being apart of my journey and growth. I appreciate all of you so much.

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]]> HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!
2023 has begun!

Eric and I get to talking about the transformation of the relationship with my dad. How the needs of belonging to a family is mourned and may continued to be mourned on every special day that is typically spent with family. Each time we mourn, acknowledge and witness that pain, we are healing a little bit of ourselves. I have gone through this process of being accompanied & witness in my pain and have found peace with what is. The what is, is that my dad and I have found our own tradition for thanksgiving that we came up with together. We are making the best of it, given the situation at hand. NVC has truly been a wonderful way for me to heal and acknowledge the hurt and pain that I feel inside my heart. I hope the same for all of you living connected listeners out there too that NVC gives you this way to witness yourselves & hold yourselves with a deep compassion. I want you to know that I see you, hear you and your not alone. Thank you all so much for being apart of my journey and growth. I appreciate all of you so much.

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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-12056122 Tue, 17 Jan 2023 02:00:00 -0800 4387 3 80 full true Expectations with Denise Expectations with Denise It is winter break and I am able to get to editing more. My goal is to not be putting episodes out once a month. I am hoping I will have some more time during work to work on my podcast as I am not at the Behavior job anymore. If you have any questions about expectations and would like to send me an email please I would love to hear from you. Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

I am happy to be doing this episode with Denise today. We have a juicy topic for us that will probably end up being several episodes. We are going to explore or what Denise said was play around with ‘expectations’. The definition that Denise used in group was, an expectation is a belief that someone will or should achieve something. Often times with the feelings that come up with demand energy of expectations of us, ourselves or someone else could arise in shame, frustration, disappointment and or feel stress that we have failed or let someone down. Perfectionism could come into place, where we self-blame because we didn’t do it correctly.  The demand energy could look like the tone of energy of something being said by someone or the words that we use toward ourselves or others - such as shoulds, or have to’s. This demand energy doesn’t allow for choice, autonomy, self-empowerment and or freedom etc. 

I did mention in this episode a couple books that used the model collaborative problem solving and the first book that describes this method is called Lost and Found. All the books are by the same person. I will put the books in the references for you incase you are interested. I definitely believe that NVC can be integrated and used along side of these methods that are used in school systems. And in my thought putting NVC with any modality only strengthens the ability to connect on deeper levels. 

I know the topic of expectations is loaded and I hope that we will get to examples that you listeners can relate to. This episode uses examples that I have noticed in the schools I have work in. I think that it also pertains to how we saw expectations as a child growing up as well. And maybe it brings up some of those expectations that are engrained in us from when we were small humans. I know it has brought up aliveness in me. Let’s dive in. 

Resources:
LOST AND FOUND BY: Ross Greene

LOST AT SCHOOL BY: Ross Greene

THE EXPLOSIVE CHILD BY: Ross Greene


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]]> It is winter break and I am able to get to editing more. My goal is to not be putting episodes out once a month. I am hoping I will have some more time during work to work on my podcast as I am not at the Behavior job anymore. If you have any questions about expectations and would like to send me an email please I would love to hear from you. Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

I am happy to be doing this episode with Denise today. We have a juicy topic for us that will probably end up being several episodes. We are going to explore or what Denise said was play around with ‘expectations’. The definition that Denise used in group was, an expectation is a belief that someone will or should achieve something. Often times with the feelings that come up with demand energy of expectations of us, ourselves or someone else could arise in shame, frustration, disappointment and or feel stress that we have failed or let someone down. Perfectionism could come into place, where we self-blame because we didn’t do it correctly.  The demand energy could look like the tone of energy of something being said by someone or the words that we use toward ourselves or others - such as shoulds, or have to’s. This demand energy doesn’t allow for choice, autonomy, self-empowerment and or freedom etc. 

I did mention in this episode a couple books that used the model collaborative problem solving and the first book that describes this method is called Lost and Found. All the books are by the same person. I will put the books in the references for you incase you are interested. I definitely believe that NVC can be integrated and used along side of these methods that are used in school systems. And in my thought putting NVC with any modality only strengthens the ability to connect on deeper levels. 

I know the topic of expectations is loaded and I hope that we will get to examples that you listeners can relate to. This episode uses examples that I have noticed in the schools I have work in. I think that it also pertains to how we saw expectations as a child growing up as well. And maybe it brings up some of those expectations that are engrained in us from when we were small humans. I know it has brought up aliveness in me. Let’s dive in. 

Resources:
LOST AND FOUND BY: Ross Greene

LOST AT SCHOOL BY: Ross Greene

THE EXPLOSIVE CHILD BY: Ross Greene


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]]> Buzzsprout-11921174 Tue, 27 Dec 2022 02:00:00 -0800 4326 3 79 full false Emotional Dysregulation with Eric Emotional Dysregulation with Eric Today Eric and I talk about my experience in this 6 month position I have as the Student behavioral coordinator. My position is a case load of 7 or 8 students that have a hard time regulating. They flip their lid which means they are not in their frontal cortex anymore and reacting from a trauma place of fight or flight response. Or another way to say is that the amygdala is firing & reacting to a situation which is sending signals to our nervous system that is processing it as fear or a threat.

A lot of times when we know students well, we can see the behaviors in the body that show us that they are getting to that point of reacting in a trauma response or just flipping their lid. When we can see this shift in the body and behavior, we can have them take a break and learn the skills to find a safe and calm body before it gets to the point of escalation. I am still getting to know students and what that looks like for each student. There are times when I jump into a situation where the student is already escalated and I need to find ways to regulate and help them find a place to regulate. Sometimes it’s just best not to say anything. Using very few words as possible. 

There are so many elements that go into a situation like the one I describe. I have my perspective and others have theirs. Who knows, if we didn’t have the blow up in the morning would the blow up happen anyway at some point during the day. We just don’t know. If we knew for sure it was the grief could we have attended to the situation differently. So many things to reflect on as I think back on this situation at work. I am giving my self some grace and compassion as I learn my role and my voice in this position. Along with getting to know the students and building that solid foundation of trust and safety of care and kindness. 

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leanin.org

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]]> Today Eric and I talk about my experience in this 6 month position I have as the Student behavioral coordinator. My position is a case load of 7 or 8 students that have a hard time regulating. They flip their lid which means they are not in their frontal cortex anymore and reacting from a trauma place of fight or flight response. Or another way to say is that the amygdala is firing & reacting to a situation which is sending signals to our nervous system that is processing it as fear or a threat.

A lot of times when we know students well, we can see the behaviors in the body that show us that they are getting to that point of reacting in a trauma response or just flipping their lid. When we can see this shift in the body and behavior, we can have them take a break and learn the skills to find a safe and calm body before it gets to the point of escalation. I am still getting to know students and what that looks like for each student. There are times when I jump into a situation where the student is already escalated and I need to find ways to regulate and help them find a place to regulate. Sometimes it’s just best not to say anything. Using very few words as possible. 

There are so many elements that go into a situation like the one I describe. I have my perspective and others have theirs. Who knows, if we didn’t have the blow up in the morning would the blow up happen anyway at some point during the day. We just don’t know. If we knew for sure it was the grief could we have attended to the situation differently. So many things to reflect on as I think back on this situation at work. I am giving my self some grace and compassion as I learn my role and my voice in this position. Along with getting to know the students and building that solid foundation of trust and safety of care and kindness. 

Resources:

leanin.org

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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-11666188 Tue, 15 Nov 2022 02:00:00 -0800 4004 3 78 full true Work & Family with Jeremy Work & Family with Jeremy BEST SUMMER of 2022!! Thank you ALL for being patient while I soak in my summer! HUGS

In this episode Jeremey and I have a conversation about how we use NVC in our workplace and in our families. The situations that come up in the workplace for me were making sure students are listening and ready to learn, including everyone and respect the pro-nouns of others in how they want to be identified and exploring students needs in an Acro-Yoga setting. We all have many different cultures and dynamics in how our families function and operate. NVC has helped me see underneath the worry that my dad has for me or how Jeremey’s dad has for his mom. When we can see the bigger picture of the needs underneath we can follow those with a deeper sense of compassion. I hope you enjoy this conversation with me and one of our Living connected listeners Jeremey. Please don’t hesitate to email or record a voice memo for me to listen and attach it to the email I would love to hear from you. The email is in the description of every episode at the bottom. Let’s dive into this exploration!! 

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Book: Never Spilt the Difference


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]]> BEST SUMMER of 2022!! Thank you ALL for being patient while I soak in my summer! HUGS

In this episode Jeremey and I have a conversation about how we use NVC in our workplace and in our families. The situations that come up in the workplace for me were making sure students are listening and ready to learn, including everyone and respect the pro-nouns of others in how they want to be identified and exploring students needs in an Acro-Yoga setting. We all have many different cultures and dynamics in how our families function and operate. NVC has helped me see underneath the worry that my dad has for me or how Jeremey’s dad has for his mom. When we can see the bigger picture of the needs underneath we can follow those with a deeper sense of compassion. I hope you enjoy this conversation with me and one of our Living connected listeners Jeremey. Please don’t hesitate to email or record a voice memo for me to listen and attach it to the email I would love to hear from you. The email is in the description of every episode at the bottom. Let’s dive into this exploration!! 

Resources:

Book: Never Spilt the Difference


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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-11417492 Fri, 30 Sep 2022 19:00:00 -0700 4434 3 77 full false Parts Theater with Tisse and Amy Parts Theater with Tisse and Amy Tisse, Amy and I talk about Parts Theater and we actual go through a scenario that happened when I was visiting my dad. Parts Theater is a mind blowing experience that can be really touching and moving. I got choked up a bit because it really hit home when sinking into those feelings and needs during each part of me that was being role played. I haven’t really had a chance to allow myself to feel those deep feelings and process them fully. Tisse and Amy gave me space to do that. I have thee most gratitude for both of them. I do feel healed in a way, even in this mini session of what Parts Theater looks / sounds like. I have this ease and at peace with the part of me that was sad and the other part that had compassion. Having this healed part of me, I might be able to express both parts of how I was feeling to my dad. 

Parts Theater is a way to express two needs that are happening inside of you and see those two needs role played by two people. Amy takes you through the steps of how she breaks down Parts Theater into 4 stages. Amy mentioned after the recording that it was so interesting how much deeper Parts Theater can go just by guessing at my feelings and needs. And that Parts Theater might go a little faster than coaching because you can make changes quickly with the directors input and see the process shift. Parts theater offers a different approach than coaching does. Both has its benefits. And it’s so fascinating that we can get at what is true for us, from different angles. 

Amy has been offering Parts Theater workshops and has spent a lot of time and effort changing and modifying this process to include NVC. I had such a remarkable hour with both Tisse and Amy and I am filled with so much thankfulness bc I get to explore NVC with two really amazing humans.

Resources:
Tisse:
How of Happy

PROMO CODE (all caps):

LIVINGCONNECTED

Amy Whicker:
Connection Collaboratory

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]]> Tisse, Amy and I talk about Parts Theater and we actual go through a scenario that happened when I was visiting my dad. Parts Theater is a mind blowing experience that can be really touching and moving. I got choked up a bit because it really hit home when sinking into those feelings and needs during each part of me that was being role played. I haven’t really had a chance to allow myself to feel those deep feelings and process them fully. Tisse and Amy gave me space to do that. I have thee most gratitude for both of them. I do feel healed in a way, even in this mini session of what Parts Theater looks / sounds like. I have this ease and at peace with the part of me that was sad and the other part that had compassion. Having this healed part of me, I might be able to express both parts of how I was feeling to my dad. 

Parts Theater is a way to express two needs that are happening inside of you and see those two needs role played by two people. Amy takes you through the steps of how she breaks down Parts Theater into 4 stages. Amy mentioned after the recording that it was so interesting how much deeper Parts Theater can go just by guessing at my feelings and needs. And that Parts Theater might go a little faster than coaching because you can make changes quickly with the directors input and see the process shift. Parts theater offers a different approach than coaching does. Both has its benefits. And it’s so fascinating that we can get at what is true for us, from different angles. 

Amy has been offering Parts Theater workshops and has spent a lot of time and effort changing and modifying this process to include NVC. I had such a remarkable hour with both Tisse and Amy and I am filled with so much thankfulness bc I get to explore NVC with two really amazing humans.

Resources:
Tisse:
How of Happy

PROMO CODE (all caps):

LIVINGCONNECTED

Amy Whicker:
Connection Collaboratory

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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-11190608 Tue, 23 Aug 2022 12:00:00 -0700 3828 3 76 full true Trauma & Children with Adinah Barlow Trauma & Children with Adinah Barlow I see a lot of behaviors in schools that are contributed to the trauma or environment that students are experiencing. I work sometimes one-on-one with this students who are going through a lot at home. I have seen a range of behaviors from throwing chairs, running off campus, screaming, making silly noises, kicking, pulling hair, or spitting on you, withdraw or shut down, you name it. All students whether they are on the autism spectrum or just have a lot of trauma or just having a rough day, they all have needs just like we do as an adult. It can be really hard to accompany these students when each one may need something different. I don’t see students as a bad person or think that they are trying to get attention, I get curious and I truly care about what they are needing. I am there to support them in any way that I can. If we bring our judgements to the table then it makes it really hard to be present with our students. I remember that they need so much compassion, grace, kindness, love and a listening ear because some may not get that at home.  

NVC has helped me so much with meeting these students where they are at and having the language to create a safe dialogue with them when they are escalated or when they have calmed down. Most often then not, I am empathically listening and giving them a reflection on what they said so they know I understand them and believe their experience. Believing ones experience doesn’t mean I agree, it means I am believing their experience as their truth. Once I can do this, we can work towards problem solving together or resolving a conflict using feelings and needs and do-able requests. 

Adinah and I get to talk about what is going on with student behavior and how we can use a different lens to understand in a deeper way what is going on for these students. Trauma can have a huge impact on students. Trauma can impact the classroom and teachers. I have witnessed how trauma affects learning and growth in the classroom and I hope that I can make a small change in the way I communicate to hold space for these students.   


Resources:

Adinah Barlow Website
Podcast – Project Relationship You
Adinah Barlow Facebook 

1) Paul D Maclean - Triune brain theory 

2) Book: The Gift of Fear - By: Gavin de Becker

3) Book:  Fostering Resilient Learners (Strategies for creating a Trauma-Sensitive Classroom)

By: Kristin Souers with Pete Hall. 

4) Video: Red Table Talk - Jada Smith, Deeyah Khan, Dr. Ibram X. Kendi


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]]> I see a lot of behaviors in schools that are contributed to the trauma or environment that students are experiencing. I work sometimes one-on-one with this students who are going through a lot at home. I have seen a range of behaviors from throwing chairs, running off campus, screaming, making silly noises, kicking, pulling hair, or spitting on you, withdraw or shut down, you name it. All students whether they are on the autism spectrum or just have a lot of trauma or just having a rough day, they all have needs just like we do as an adult. It can be really hard to accompany these students when each one may need something different. I don’t see students as a bad person or think that they are trying to get attention, I get curious and I truly care about what they are needing. I am there to support them in any way that I can. If we bring our judgements to the table then it makes it really hard to be present with our students. I remember that they need so much compassion, grace, kindness, love and a listening ear because some may not get that at home.  

NVC has helped me so much with meeting these students where they are at and having the language to create a safe dialogue with them when they are escalated or when they have calmed down. Most often then not, I am empathically listening and giving them a reflection on what they said so they know I understand them and believe their experience. Believing ones experience doesn’t mean I agree, it means I am believing their experience as their truth. Once I can do this, we can work towards problem solving together or resolving a conflict using feelings and needs and do-able requests. 

Adinah and I get to talk about what is going on with student behavior and how we can use a different lens to understand in a deeper way what is going on for these students. Trauma can have a huge impact on students. Trauma can impact the classroom and teachers. I have witnessed how trauma affects learning and growth in the classroom and I hope that I can make a small change in the way I communicate to hold space for these students.   


Resources:

Adinah Barlow Website
Podcast – Project Relationship You
Adinah Barlow Facebook 

1) Paul D Maclean - Triune brain theory 

2) Book: The Gift of Fear - By: Gavin de Becker

3) Book:  Fostering Resilient Learners (Strategies for creating a Trauma-Sensitive Classroom)

By: Kristin Souers with Pete Hall. 

4) Video: Red Table Talk - Jada Smith, Deeyah Khan, Dr. Ibram X. Kendi


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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-10974569 Tue, 19 Jul 2022 01:00:00 -0700 3422 3 75 full true Conflicts and Fights with Marianne (Cup of Empathy) Conflicts and Fights with Marianne (Cup of Empathy) Marianne and I talk about conflicts and fights and how some conflict can be healthy because it can lead to trust and safety with that person. There is a discernment when understanding the healthy kind of conflict and understanding when conflict is unhealthy. We talk about some strategies that can be healthy for two people in a conflict, such as self-connection, meeting them where they are, follow through with the request for a break and coming back to mend or repair in the time frame that was requested. 

Being able to maybe in the smallest of ways connect with ourselves and create space in our heart to attend to the parts of us that are triggered and or attend to the inner wounded child is a healthy strategy when we are in conflict with someone. Which is easier said than done. There is also the other person who you are in conflict with who is also sitting with their parts of themselves that are triggered too. It can be so hard to be the one to meet them where they are because we deeply want to be heard and we just may not get that from them in that moment. It’s so important to know that we have outside resources to feel heard by others incase we are not heard by the person we are in conflict with. When we are resourced we have the capacity to meet the other person where they are. 

Conflict is never easy to navigate, it can be very delicate at times and what sucks is that we gotta be in conflict to continue to learn how to navigate it. I am constantly with my dad learning and growing with each and every conflict we have. The repairs we do have, the apologies are just enough for the start of some trust. for me anyway. I don’t know about him. 

I hope you enjoy!

Resources:

Marianne’s Information: 

Website: 

https://cupofempathy.com/

YouTube: 

https://www.youtube.com/c/CupofEmpathy/featured

Book:

Laser Therapy - A Clinical Manual 
By Jennifer A. Blahnik & David W. Rindge


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]]> Marianne and I talk about conflicts and fights and how some conflict can be healthy because it can lead to trust and safety with that person. There is a discernment when understanding the healthy kind of conflict and understanding when conflict is unhealthy. We talk about some strategies that can be healthy for two people in a conflict, such as self-connection, meeting them where they are, follow through with the request for a break and coming back to mend or repair in the time frame that was requested. 

Being able to maybe in the smallest of ways connect with ourselves and create space in our heart to attend to the parts of us that are triggered and or attend to the inner wounded child is a healthy strategy when we are in conflict with someone. Which is easier said than done. There is also the other person who you are in conflict with who is also sitting with their parts of themselves that are triggered too. It can be so hard to be the one to meet them where they are because we deeply want to be heard and we just may not get that from them in that moment. It’s so important to know that we have outside resources to feel heard by others incase we are not heard by the person we are in conflict with. When we are resourced we have the capacity to meet the other person where they are. 

Conflict is never easy to navigate, it can be very delicate at times and what sucks is that we gotta be in conflict to continue to learn how to navigate it. I am constantly with my dad learning and growing with each and every conflict we have. The repairs we do have, the apologies are just enough for the start of some trust. for me anyway. I don’t know about him. 

I hope you enjoy!

Resources:

Marianne’s Information: 

Website: 

https://cupofempathy.com/

YouTube: 

https://www.youtube.com/c/CupofEmpathy/featured

Book:

Laser Therapy - A Clinical Manual 
By Jennifer A. Blahnik & David W. Rindge


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Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-10866970 Tue, 28 Jun 2022 03:00:00 -0700 4909 3 74 full true Surgery Freak Out Surgery Freak Out SEASON 3!! We have had this podcast for 2 years now and I want to thank all of you who have contributed by listening and passing along this podcast to others. My utmost gratitude to y'all HUGS!!!

Today Eric and I talk about my freak out. I am having surgery on my carpal tunnel.  What does your body do when your freaked out? My body just goes into this panic mode where everything goes fast, I can’t stop my brain from racing about all the things. Do you have support when it comes to moments of freaking out? What tools might you have? 

Just after this recording I called an old co-worker of mine who worked at the surgery center, he’s like an uncle to me. He talked to me about my surgery because he has had it done bilaterally as well. He is also a nurse like my mom and I found comfort in his words and knowledge. He talked to me straight up and gave me all of the tips that I will need to know. He walked me through the going to sleep process as I feel very fearful of that. Then he told me what I should do when I start to wake up and look around and maybe look at my hands wiggle my fingers ever so slightly. Knowing all of this stuff about pre-op and recovery helps my brain prepare for what to expect so it doesn’t feel like the unknown. He also reassured me that I will manage this and he had confidence that I will be okay. He even was prepared to take care of me at the place he was staying. That made me feel so good. Even though i’m not having surgery in his town it was so sweet to know he was gonna be there for me. 

I constantly and truly reach out to people that I trust and feel safe with to help regulate my system in times of need. This choosing of supportive people makes a huge difference in how you are witnessed and accompanied. 

I hope you enjoy an episode of empathy and what it is like to accompany another when they are having a freak out and a wave of emotions. Eric does a great job of reflecting, finding needs, hearing me and holding space while witnessing my discomfort in all this. My experience going forward might be feeling a little more ease after talking with Eric. We shall see.   


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]]> SEASON 3!! We have had this podcast for 2 years now and I want to thank all of you who have contributed by listening and passing along this podcast to others. My utmost gratitude to y'all HUGS!!!

Today Eric and I talk about my freak out. I am having surgery on my carpal tunnel.  What does your body do when your freaked out? My body just goes into this panic mode where everything goes fast, I can’t stop my brain from racing about all the things. Do you have support when it comes to moments of freaking out? What tools might you have? 

Just after this recording I called an old co-worker of mine who worked at the surgery center, he’s like an uncle to me. He talked to me about my surgery because he has had it done bilaterally as well. He is also a nurse like my mom and I found comfort in his words and knowledge. He talked to me straight up and gave me all of the tips that I will need to know. He walked me through the going to sleep process as I feel very fearful of that. Then he told me what I should do when I start to wake up and look around and maybe look at my hands wiggle my fingers ever so slightly. Knowing all of this stuff about pre-op and recovery helps my brain prepare for what to expect so it doesn’t feel like the unknown. He also reassured me that I will manage this and he had confidence that I will be okay. He even was prepared to take care of me at the place he was staying. That made me feel so good. Even though i’m not having surgery in his town it was so sweet to know he was gonna be there for me. 

I constantly and truly reach out to people that I trust and feel safe with to help regulate my system in times of need. This choosing of supportive people makes a huge difference in how you are witnessed and accompanied. 

I hope you enjoy an episode of empathy and what it is like to accompany another when they are having a freak out and a wave of emotions. Eric does a great job of reflecting, finding needs, hearing me and holding space while witnessing my discomfort in all this. My experience going forward might be feeling a little more ease after talking with Eric. We shall see.   


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]]> Kady Buzzsprout-10794579 Wed, 15 Jun 2022 03:00:00 -0700 3824 3 73 full true Facilitator and Practice Groups Facilitator and Practice Groups Eric and I talk about my role as a participant in a practice group and what he experiences as a facilitator.

At the end of this episode Eric and I debriefed, and I finally figured out why I had a hard time answering the questions about the Power-over or authority in different styles of facilitators. I kept saying personality and that wasn’t the word I was looking for. It was how a group is defined. Is the group, class oriented which means it has a teacher and everyone listens and the participation is less. Or is the group given an opportunity for participants to practice NVC with the facilitator guiding participants in the direction of NVC. When I heard authority in our conversation, I figured out that it was because there is a teacher role in place which makes it seem as though I am the listener and not much of a participant.

I feel conflicted when to speak up and when I choose not to. There are times when I feel triggered in a group and I don’t say anything. There are times when I do speak up and I don’t feel heard and then I don’t speak up about that. Am I minimizing my needs or am I trying to hold the groups needs as well? What happens when we have multiple people in a group who are triggered or stimulated and we all don’t speak up?

For me, it’s so hard because I don’t want to take away from the group. What if others need it more than me? Or is it because I am not sure I feel fully safe or have trust in the group or facilitators that I will be held with care. Many of you may attend a practice group and perhaps some of you may have come across these thoughts as well. I would love to know your experiences that you have had in practice groups. I am not well versed in different groups so I don’t have much experience. I also want to hold myself accountable for not speaking up when I probably should have. It feels super uncomfortable sometimes to speak up when I know it may create conflict.

I want to give heads up too to those who have experienced any type of abuse or trauma because I took a self-defense class and I talk a little about Human Trafficking. I just want you to know that I do hold all of you with care. I want to bring awareness that this could reactivate a trigger in some of you. When I was at the self-defense class they also mentioned that being there could re-trigger some people. My goal is to bring more awareness to what is going on, in hopes that we can save lives. If I am able to bring on Ryan to talk more about self-defense I would hope that this could help parents, teenagers, adults and or anyone who has experienced or not experienced this or may have children who may be at risk. There are a lot of feelings and needs that go into things like this. I can’t wait to explore that.

Resources

All Things Possible

Video about sex trafficking in the Martial arts studio in Oregon

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]]> Eric and I talk about my role as a participant in a practice group and what he experiences as a facilitator.

At the end of this episode Eric and I debriefed, and I finally figured out why I had a hard time answering the questions about the Power-over or authority in different styles of facilitators. I kept saying personality and that wasn’t the word I was looking for. It was how a group is defined. Is the group, class oriented which means it has a teacher and everyone listens and the participation is less. Or is the group given an opportunity for participants to practice NVC with the facilitator guiding participants in the direction of NVC. When I heard authority in our conversation, I figured out that it was because there is a teacher role in place which makes it seem as though I am the listener and not much of a participant.

I feel conflicted when to speak up and when I choose not to. There are times when I feel triggered in a group and I don’t say anything. There are times when I do speak up and I don’t feel heard and then I don’t speak up about that. Am I minimizing my needs or am I trying to hold the groups needs as well? What happens when we have multiple people in a group who are triggered or stimulated and we all don’t speak up?

For me, it’s so hard because I don’t want to take away from the group. What if others need it more than me? Or is it because I am not sure I feel fully safe or have trust in the group or facilitators that I will be held with care. Many of you may attend a practice group and perhaps some of you may have come across these thoughts as well. I would love to know your experiences that you have had in practice groups. I am not well versed in different groups so I don’t have much experience. I also want to hold myself accountable for not speaking up when I probably should have. It feels super uncomfortable sometimes to speak up when I know it may create conflict.

I want to give heads up too to those who have experienced any type of abuse or trauma because I took a self-defense class and I talk a little about Human Trafficking. I just want you to know that I do hold all of you with care. I want to bring awareness that this could reactivate a trigger in some of you. When I was at the self-defense class they also mentioned that being there could re-trigger some people. My goal is to bring more awareness to what is going on, in hopes that we can save lives. If I am able to bring on Ryan to talk more about self-defense I would hope that this could help parents, teenagers, adults and or anyone who has experienced or not experienced this or may have children who may be at risk. There are a lot of feelings and needs that go into things like this. I can’t wait to explore that.

Resources

All Things Possible

Video about sex trafficking in the Martial arts studio in Oregon

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-10749267 Tue, 07 Jun 2022 02:00:00 -0700 5220 2 72 full true Self-Empathy Self-Empathy Eric and I talk about Self-Empathy and how that shows up and what we can do to support ourselves during times that are hard. If any of you Living Connected listeners have any self-empathy strategies that have worked for you and or examples in your real life that it was hard to pull from your resources in self-empathy or empathy, we would love to know so we can share it with everyone in our Living Connected community. We would love to hear your voice in a voice memo or we can read your email. Of course this is a request if you feel safe for us to share those special parts of you. 

Being able to be present and show up for others is hard sometimes. Learning the tools, or skills or strategies to find a balance in being able to rejuvenate our cup, or our hearts, or our capacity can support self-care and or self-empathy. There are so many mindfulness practices that can cultivate our awareness around self-empathy. 

When you listen, there are moments where I have an internal dialog with my self in moments that are stressful, hard, triggering, and or anxiety driven. I explain some of the things that I say to myself so that my body isn’t so activated. It is about these small moments of struggle that we can shift our thinking and rewire our brain to have more compassion, kindness, warmth and empathy towards our body, mind and souls. It is a build up of those small moments of awareness that make that shift.

  1. Listen to your body 
    1. if this is hard to do, definitely find some mindfulness practices like guided mediations, somatic dialogue, or label the sensations that your body feels when certain things happen, get up and move. Our body has a beautiful way of telling us what is going on. Listen and hone in on those feelings and needs. Our body is communicating with us every day. You could say, “Thank you body for showing up and protecting me when I needed safety. I know that must have been hard”  
  2.  Reach out to other humans who you know you feel safe with, trust feel warmth and accompaniment with. It is so important to keep these relationships close and know that you can find support when needed. 
  3. Recognize Capacity 
    1. The moment we can attune to our capacity the moment we can shift the heavy thoughts of shame, regret, inner critic talking to us with “I am doing the best that I can in this moment” “what do I need right now?” “What is my body trying to tell me?” Pause and breath even if you don’t know how to do this. Try and find just a molecule of grace and warmth for yourself in your breath. When we can recognize our capacity we will be better equipped to have energy to explore our life-serving boundaries, and be able to use strategies that fill our cup.    
  4. Self-care and Self-Empathy Strategies
     
    1. Do what you need to do to process, move, exercise, feel peace, journal, sing, dance, listen to music, podcast, live band, read, go for a walk or hike in nature, something that allows you to let feelings move through you. These strategies for self-empathy are ways to meet our needs and support us in order to regulate our nervous system.     

Resources:

CNVC website

NVCAcademy

Aya Caspi - 8-day NVC Retreat

Yvette Erasmus

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]]> Eric and I talk about Self-Empathy and how that shows up and what we can do to support ourselves during times that are hard. If any of you Living Connected listeners have any self-empathy strategies that have worked for you and or examples in your real life that it was hard to pull from your resources in self-empathy or empathy, we would love to know so we can share it with everyone in our Living Connected community. We would love to hear your voice in a voice memo or we can read your email. Of course this is a request if you feel safe for us to share those special parts of you. 

Being able to be present and show up for others is hard sometimes. Learning the tools, or skills or strategies to find a balance in being able to rejuvenate our cup, or our hearts, or our capacity can support self-care and or self-empathy. There are so many mindfulness practices that can cultivate our awareness around self-empathy. 

When you listen, there are moments where I have an internal dialog with my self in moments that are stressful, hard, triggering, and or anxiety driven. I explain some of the things that I say to myself so that my body isn’t so activated. It is about these small moments of struggle that we can shift our thinking and rewire our brain to have more compassion, kindness, warmth and empathy towards our body, mind and souls. It is a build up of those small moments of awareness that make that shift.

  1. Listen to your body 
    1. if this is hard to do, definitely find some mindfulness practices like guided mediations, somatic dialogue, or label the sensations that your body feels when certain things happen, get up and move. Our body has a beautiful way of telling us what is going on. Listen and hone in on those feelings and needs. Our body is communicating with us every day. You could say, “Thank you body for showing up and protecting me when I needed safety. I know that must have been hard”  
  2.  Reach out to other humans who you know you feel safe with, trust feel warmth and accompaniment with. It is so important to keep these relationships close and know that you can find support when needed. 
  3. Recognize Capacity 
    1. The moment we can attune to our capacity the moment we can shift the heavy thoughts of shame, regret, inner critic talking to us with “I am doing the best that I can in this moment” “what do I need right now?” “What is my body trying to tell me?” Pause and breath even if you don’t know how to do this. Try and find just a molecule of grace and warmth for yourself in your breath. When we can recognize our capacity we will be better equipped to have energy to explore our life-serving boundaries, and be able to use strategies that fill our cup.    
  4. Self-care and Self-Empathy Strategies
     
    1. Do what you need to do to process, move, exercise, feel peace, journal, sing, dance, listen to music, podcast, live band, read, go for a walk or hike in nature, something that allows you to let feelings move through you. These strategies for self-empathy are ways to meet our needs and support us in order to regulate our nervous system.     

Resources:

CNVC website

NVCAcademy

Aya Caspi - 8-day NVC Retreat

Yvette Erasmus

CONTACT INFORMATION:
Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
Instagram: livingconnectednvc
Living Connected Facebook Page
Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-10616957 Sat, 14 May 2022 11:00:00 -0700 3430 2 71 full true Trauma & Somatic Dialogue with Adinah Barlow Trauma & Somatic Dialogue with Adinah Barlow Thank you listeners for your patience as I am not putting out as many episodes as I would like. I am still doing my best to record, edit and work full time. I am doing my best. I am also having carpal tunnel surgery May 24th, so that might put me behind too eeeek. Feel free to email me any topics you might wanna hear or explore. Maybe there is a person you would like to have on and I can try and organize a way to get them on. Let me know.

This episode takes us through a somatic dialog and what that might look like when you are having really big emotions. This could be a way for you to work through some hard experiences you have gone through. I invite you to find a modality that works for you. There are so many practices out there that could support you in this journey.

Please feel free to breath with us and see what comes up for you in this exercise. 

Adinah Barlow is a life coach, author, and AcroYogi who knows a culture of self-care will replace violence. She was a massage therapist for 14 years and did a lot of business, leadership, self-development, and trauma-informed training. 

As a trauma survivor, Adinah spent 15 years healing with many tools that she now uses with her clients including Nonviolent Communication, emotional embodiment, The Work of Byron Katie, and many more. She came to know fully understand that the way we think about and treat ourselves is reflected in all of our relationships. 

Adinah has been a Life Coach for 3 years and loves helping people develop an amazing relationship with themselves so that they can have wonderful relationships with everybody else. She believes that as people befriend themselves and free themselves from their own violence and mental prison, our whole culture will shift to be cooperative and sustainable.


Resources:

Adinah Barlow Website
Podcast – Project Relationship You
Adinah Barlow Facebook
Dr. Kathryne Kloos; a fabulous doctor who uses Somatic Dialogue 

CONTACT INFORMATION:
Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
Instagram: livingconnectednvc
Living Connected Facebook Page
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]]> Thank you listeners for your patience as I am not putting out as many episodes as I would like. I am still doing my best to record, edit and work full time. I am doing my best. I am also having carpal tunnel surgery May 24th, so that might put me behind too eeeek. Feel free to email me any topics you might wanna hear or explore. Maybe there is a person you would like to have on and I can try and organize a way to get them on. Let me know.

This episode takes us through a somatic dialog and what that might look like when you are having really big emotions. This could be a way for you to work through some hard experiences you have gone through. I invite you to find a modality that works for you. There are so many practices out there that could support you in this journey.

Please feel free to breath with us and see what comes up for you in this exercise. 

Adinah Barlow is a life coach, author, and AcroYogi who knows a culture of self-care will replace violence. She was a massage therapist for 14 years and did a lot of business, leadership, self-development, and trauma-informed training. 

As a trauma survivor, Adinah spent 15 years healing with many tools that she now uses with her clients including Nonviolent Communication, emotional embodiment, The Work of Byron Katie, and many more. She came to know fully understand that the way we think about and treat ourselves is reflected in all of our relationships. 

Adinah has been a Life Coach for 3 years and loves helping people develop an amazing relationship with themselves so that they can have wonderful relationships with everybody else. She believes that as people befriend themselves and free themselves from their own violence and mental prison, our whole culture will shift to be cooperative and sustainable.


Resources:

Adinah Barlow Website
Podcast – Project Relationship You
Adinah Barlow Facebook
Dr. Kathryne Kloos; a fabulous doctor who uses Somatic Dialogue 

CONTACT INFORMATION:
Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
Instagram: livingconnectednvc
Living Connected Facebook Page
Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

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]]> Buzzsprout-10409128 Wed, 04 May 2022 07:00:00 -0700 4477 2 70 full true Trauma & NVC with Adinah Barlow Trauma & NVC with Adinah Barlow We have a special guest this week Adinah Barlow and we are going to talk about Trauma and NVC. How NVC might be helpful and how it might not be helpful for a traumatic experience. This is very interesting because I am just now editing this after my major traumatic experience, and I bet this episode would have been way different if I had come in with this example of trauma. I do hope to have Adinah on again to maybe work through my car accident. 

My thought is that when we have major traumatic experience NVC isn’t going to be the heal all. I think there are many other modalities that might be more healing. When we have PTSD, I don’t think nonviolent communication is going to help. We can only guess, validate, give empathy and have compassion for someone’s feelings and needs so many times and yet the vivid experience I still have remains. As a reminder that sometimes we need professional help to get us through some really tough trauma. I have a referral for neuro biofeedback, I am starting EMDR and other ways of working through this car accident. 

Lets dive in and see how Adinah using NVC when she is working through trauma with her clients. 

Resources:

Adinah Barlow Website
Podcast – Project Relationship You
Adinah Barlow Facebook

Adinah Barlow is a life coach, author, and AcroYogi who knows a culture of self-care will replace violence. She was a massage therapist for 14 years and did a lot of business, leadership, self-development, and trauma-informed training. 

As a trauma survivor, Adinah spent 15 years healing with many tools that she now uses with her clients including Nonviolent Communication, emotional embodiment, The Work of Byron Katie, and many more. She came to know fully understand that the way we think about and treat ourselves is reflected in all of our relationships. 

Adinah has been a Life Coach for 3 years and loves helping people develop an amazing relationship with themselves so that they can have wonderful relationships with everybody else. She believes that as people befriend themselves and free themselves from their own violence and mental prison, our whole culture will shift to be cooperative and sustainable. 



Other Resources:

Shelby Leigh
Dr. Kathryne Kloos


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I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.
Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> We have a special guest this week Adinah Barlow and we are going to talk about Trauma and NVC. How NVC might be helpful and how it might not be helpful for a traumatic experience. This is very interesting because I am just now editing this after my major traumatic experience, and I bet this episode would have been way different if I had come in with this example of trauma. I do hope to have Adinah on again to maybe work through my car accident. 

My thought is that when we have major traumatic experience NVC isn’t going to be the heal all. I think there are many other modalities that might be more healing. When we have PTSD, I don’t think nonviolent communication is going to help. We can only guess, validate, give empathy and have compassion for someone’s feelings and needs so many times and yet the vivid experience I still have remains. As a reminder that sometimes we need professional help to get us through some really tough trauma. I have a referral for neuro biofeedback, I am starting EMDR and other ways of working through this car accident. 

Lets dive in and see how Adinah using NVC when she is working through trauma with her clients. 

Resources:

Adinah Barlow Website
Podcast – Project Relationship You
Adinah Barlow Facebook

Adinah Barlow is a life coach, author, and AcroYogi who knows a culture of self-care will replace violence. She was a massage therapist for 14 years and did a lot of business, leadership, self-development, and trauma-informed training. 

As a trauma survivor, Adinah spent 15 years healing with many tools that she now uses with her clients including Nonviolent Communication, emotional embodiment, The Work of Byron Katie, and many more. She came to know fully understand that the way we think about and treat ourselves is reflected in all of our relationships. 

Adinah has been a Life Coach for 3 years and loves helping people develop an amazing relationship with themselves so that they can have wonderful relationships with everybody else. She believes that as people befriend themselves and free themselves from their own violence and mental prison, our whole culture will shift to be cooperative and sustainable. 



Other Resources:

Shelby Leigh
Dr. Kathryne Kloos


Request for support from my listeners:

I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.
Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> Buzzsprout-10336549 Tue, 29 Mar 2022 03:00:00 -0700 4180 2 69 full true The Gifts and Ungifts of COVID The Gifts and Ungifts of COVID I wrote out this long thing of what strategies that I remembered as I was listening to the episode for the 3rd time and now...2 weeks later or more I just don't know anymore. On Feb 25th, I got into a massive car accident. I hit ice out of nowhere. My car started to fish tail, swerved and before I knew it, my car jack-knifed into on coming traffic and I crash into a truck what seemed like face on. I am safe and banged up with a concussion. I meant to send this episode out on the 1st and that didn't happen. I could have died. Seriously though, angels bubble wrapped me and saved my life because I have no idea how I survived. It was only the middle of my car left. I have a different perspective on life and how grateful I am for the angels that showed up on the scene to help me through this traumatic event. Gifts of fucking life, if you ask me... And I will be forever grateful to my dad and everyone who was there for me. The words THANK YOU are not nearly enough.  

I am still thinking about all the things we didn’t even touch on. Such as those who got COVID and have had long lasting affects of the virus and how it has changed the way you do things on a day-to-day basis. There are so many unmet needs to your health now and what you can and can’t do. I have so much love and compassion for all of you. And I wish there was something I could do.  

We all have been through so so much during this global pandemic. It is a significant time of our lives to be living. The effects of COVID have truly changed so many people’s lives, physically, emotionally and environmentally. For some it has been traumatizing, feeling miserable, filled with loss and sadness so many unmet needs. For others it may have had the opposite effect where there were some new opportunities and openings for a different career path or deepening relationships and or inner growth with self-care. Eric and I talk about the improvement of the relationship with my dad and how far I have come in my own inner growth since I have started this podcast for people who want to integrate NVC into their life. This was a time to reflect on how COVID has shaped us and what we are today. Are there gifts of COVID? I would love to know your experience and to be able to share it with our listeners. 

If any of you would like to share your story or thoughts or maybe answer the questions that Eric ask me. Please don’t hesitate to write me an email we would love to hear from you.  

Request for support from my listeners:

I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.
Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

CONTACT INFORMATION:
Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
Instagram: livingconnectednvc
Living Connected Facebook Page
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]]> I wrote out this long thing of what strategies that I remembered as I was listening to the episode for the 3rd time and now...2 weeks later or more I just don't know anymore. On Feb 25th, I got into a massive car accident. I hit ice out of nowhere. My car started to fish tail, swerved and before I knew it, my car jack-knifed into on coming traffic and I crash into a truck what seemed like face on. I am safe and banged up with a concussion. I meant to send this episode out on the 1st and that didn't happen. I could have died. Seriously though, angels bubble wrapped me and saved my life because I have no idea how I survived. It was only the middle of my car left. I have a different perspective on life and how grateful I am for the angels that showed up on the scene to help me through this traumatic event. Gifts of fucking life, if you ask me... And I will be forever grateful to my dad and everyone who was there for me. The words THANK YOU are not nearly enough.  

I am still thinking about all the things we didn’t even touch on. Such as those who got COVID and have had long lasting affects of the virus and how it has changed the way you do things on a day-to-day basis. There are so many unmet needs to your health now and what you can and can’t do. I have so much love and compassion for all of you. And I wish there was something I could do.  

We all have been through so so much during this global pandemic. It is a significant time of our lives to be living. The effects of COVID have truly changed so many people’s lives, physically, emotionally and environmentally. For some it has been traumatizing, feeling miserable, filled with loss and sadness so many unmet needs. For others it may have had the opposite effect where there were some new opportunities and openings for a different career path or deepening relationships and or inner growth with self-care. Eric and I talk about the improvement of the relationship with my dad and how far I have come in my own inner growth since I have started this podcast for people who want to integrate NVC into their life. This was a time to reflect on how COVID has shaped us and what we are today. Are there gifts of COVID? I would love to know your experience and to be able to share it with our listeners. 

If any of you would like to share your story or thoughts or maybe answer the questions that Eric ask me. Please don’t hesitate to write me an email we would love to hear from you.  

Request for support from my listeners:

I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.
Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-10191735 Tue, 08 Mar 2022 03:00:00 -0800 3461 2 68 full true Short Bonus: After Party of Passive Aggressive Behavior Short Bonus: After Party of Passive Aggressive Behavior Eric and I had continued to talk after our recording and got some good stuff to add. Eric really challenged me during the previous episode and it's good to have friends who can challenge your thinking gently. He felt safe to do that and also given the response I had he can and will continue to do so. I truly believe that we grow the most when we are challenged in our thinking. Pushing the uncomfortable parts of us is learning, growth and a deeper knowing about ourselves. I really want to know where I can improve and be held accountable for and it can be a scary place to be. I hope y'all can find a little golden nugget in this short bonus episode. 

Request for support from my listeners:

I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.
Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> Eric and I had continued to talk after our recording and got some good stuff to add. Eric really challenged me during the previous episode and it's good to have friends who can challenge your thinking gently. He felt safe to do that and also given the response I had he can and will continue to do so. I truly believe that we grow the most when we are challenged in our thinking. Pushing the uncomfortable parts of us is learning, growth and a deeper knowing about ourselves. I really want to know where I can improve and be held accountable for and it can be a scary place to be. I hope y'all can find a little golden nugget in this short bonus episode. 

Request for support from my listeners:

I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.
Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

CONTACT INFORMATION:
Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
Instagram: livingconnectednvc
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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-10053734 Tue, 15 Feb 2022 02:00:00 -0800 794 2 67 full true Passive Aggressive Behavior Passive Aggressive Behavior Thank you Listeners for your patience and understanding when I have some technical difficulties. I acknowledge that the audio isn’t great and the next episode will be better. I appreciate you all for continuing to listen and passing along this Podcast to others. 

We are going to be talking about passive aggressive behavior and I have some examples from my own life I will be using. Often times people use passive aggressive behavior because they don’t have the skills to express their feelings or needs effectively. Passive aggressive behavior is a pattern of indirectly expressing feelings and or needs instead of openly addressing them. This can look like non-verbal, actions, blaming, and or silent treatment, etc.

When I think of the feelings of passive aggressive behavior I think about anger, frustration, hostility, irritated there could be other feelings as well. What comes up for you? Depending on the passive aggressive behavior there could be a variety of unmet needs for a person. When I was on the other end of the behavior, I felt frustrated, shocked, and confused. I had unmet needs for trust, safety, respect, and consideration.  

We learn tragic ways to meet needs and passive aggressive behavior is one of these strategies that we use sometimes to avoid conflict or confrontation or we are afraid to speak directly for what we want and need. Lets explore this topic together. 

Resources:

My Grandmothers Hands

Book of Joy

Request for support from my listeners:

I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.
Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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Instagram: livingconnectednvc
Living Connected Facebook Page
Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
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]]> Thank you Listeners for your patience and understanding when I have some technical difficulties. I acknowledge that the audio isn’t great and the next episode will be better. I appreciate you all for continuing to listen and passing along this Podcast to others. 

We are going to be talking about passive aggressive behavior and I have some examples from my own life I will be using. Often times people use passive aggressive behavior because they don’t have the skills to express their feelings or needs effectively. Passive aggressive behavior is a pattern of indirectly expressing feelings and or needs instead of openly addressing them. This can look like non-verbal, actions, blaming, and or silent treatment, etc.

When I think of the feelings of passive aggressive behavior I think about anger, frustration, hostility, irritated there could be other feelings as well. What comes up for you? Depending on the passive aggressive behavior there could be a variety of unmet needs for a person. When I was on the other end of the behavior, I felt frustrated, shocked, and confused. I had unmet needs for trust, safety, respect, and consideration.  

We learn tragic ways to meet needs and passive aggressive behavior is one of these strategies that we use sometimes to avoid conflict or confrontation or we are afraid to speak directly for what we want and need. Lets explore this topic together. 

Resources:

My Grandmothers Hands

Book of Joy

Request for support from my listeners:

I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.
Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

CONTACT INFORMATION:
Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
Instagram: livingconnectednvc
Living Connected Facebook Page
Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

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]]> Buzzsprout-10018605 Tue, 08 Feb 2022 02:00:00 -0800 4115 2 66 full true The Enneagram with Dr. Kara Nance The Enneagram with Dr. Kara Nance We get to talk about the Enneagram and I had no idea that there are so many deep levels of understanding of this modality, that I am just barely cutting the surface.

Today, specifically we dive deep into the three subtypes of the Enneagram, which are Self-Preservation, Social and Sexual. In each individual Enneatype there are there three subtypes or instinctual variants/stacking. Understanding the Enneagram brings awareness to the lens that we might wear. 

We have the special honor and gift to introduce, Dr. Kara Nance. She said, “The Enneagram gives us a map that shows us nine different ways that humans take in their experience of the world.” She is a double board certified in both Internal Medicine and Obesity Medicine. She concentrated in the neurosciences at Princeton University and did her thesis on the genetic basis of alcoholism. Kara loves to hike, bike, interact with her 4 children and is a true student of wellbeing.

Resources:

Dr. Kara Nance:

https://www.wellessencemd.com/provider/kara-j-nance-md-facp

Enneagram classes and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction offered on Thursday evenings on zoom throughout the year. NVC practice group 7-8pm CT on Wednesday. Email for specifics at 

Karajnance@gmail.com

Websites: 

Enneagram Institute: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/

Cathrine Bell Awaken Company – https://awakenedcompany.com/

Enneagrammer - https://www.enneagrammer.com/

DSM criteria - https://www.psychiatry.org/psychiatrists/practice/dsm

Enneagram Podcasts:

1.    David Grey – Big Hormone - https://www.johnluckovich.com/podcast
2.    Beatrice Chestnut – Enneagram 2.0

Books:

1.    Wisdom of the enneagram – By Russ Hudson and Don Riso 
2. John Luckovich - The Instinctual Drives and the Enneagram

Apps 

–      Eat Right Now 

–      Craving to Quit! 

–      Unwinding Anxiety 

CONTACT INFORMATION:
Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
Instagram: livingconnectednvc
Living Connected Facebook Page
Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

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]]> We get to talk about the Enneagram and I had no idea that there are so many deep levels of understanding of this modality, that I am just barely cutting the surface.

Today, specifically we dive deep into the three subtypes of the Enneagram, which are Self-Preservation, Social and Sexual. In each individual Enneatype there are there three subtypes or instinctual variants/stacking. Understanding the Enneagram brings awareness to the lens that we might wear. 

We have the special honor and gift to introduce, Dr. Kara Nance. She said, “The Enneagram gives us a map that shows us nine different ways that humans take in their experience of the world.” She is a double board certified in both Internal Medicine and Obesity Medicine. She concentrated in the neurosciences at Princeton University and did her thesis on the genetic basis of alcoholism. Kara loves to hike, bike, interact with her 4 children and is a true student of wellbeing.

Resources:

Dr. Kara Nance:

https://www.wellessencemd.com/provider/kara-j-nance-md-facp

Enneagram classes and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction offered on Thursday evenings on zoom throughout the year. NVC practice group 7-8pm CT on Wednesday. Email for specifics at 

Karajnance@gmail.com

Websites: 

Enneagram Institute: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/

Cathrine Bell Awaken Company – https://awakenedcompany.com/

Enneagrammer - https://www.enneagrammer.com/

DSM criteria - https://www.psychiatry.org/psychiatrists/practice/dsm

Enneagram Podcasts:

1.    David Grey – Big Hormone - https://www.johnluckovich.com/podcast
2.    Beatrice Chestnut – Enneagram 2.0

Books:

1.    Wisdom of the enneagram – By Russ Hudson and Don Riso 
2. John Luckovich - The Instinctual Drives and the Enneagram

Apps 

–      Eat Right Now 

–      Craving to Quit! 

–      Unwinding Anxiety 

CONTACT INFORMATION:
Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
Instagram: livingconnectednvc
Living Connected Facebook Page
Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Support the show

]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-9937088 Tue, 25 Jan 2022 03:00:00 -0800 5328 2 65 full true Intentions for 2022 Intentions for 2022 The New Year is like a death and a birth in the sense that we are ending a year and starting a new one. We will never see 2021 again that we know of and that can be something to mourn especially if things have happened in that year or find the things that were a gift in the ending year and honor those too. We can shift or reframe how we see the birth of this New Year and what gifts this year may bring. What intentions can we set for 2022. 

Eric and I wanted to shift the idea of New Year’s Resolution to a do-able request of ourselves. We thought about how maybe a resolution had more demand energy than a doable request. We talk about our intentions for the New Year and how we can have doable requests with those intentions. What does our next year in 2022 look like and feel like? Where does this sit in our body when we think about 2022. 

Let us invite ourselves to not have expectations or demands on the gift or intentions we set. A doable request can be something very small and can change if needed. If it helps ask a trusted friend to be a celebration buddy or a buddy who can hold you accountable in a kind and warm way I would suggest reaching out to someone and seeing if they would be willing. Even if it’s for just a little while like a week or a month. 

Please write in and email us what your intentions are for the year and we can read them on the podcast. It would be great fun to hear what your intentions are and what needs/feelings you have with those intentions for 2022. 

Resources:

Podcast: Dr. Alexandra Solomon – Reimagining LOVE

Episode #7 (Re) Gathering for the Holidays


Books

David Richo – Triggers

Terry Reel -  https://terryreal.com/


Request for support from my listeners:

I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.
Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
Music is brought to you by: https://www

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]]> The New Year is like a death and a birth in the sense that we are ending a year and starting a new one. We will never see 2021 again that we know of and that can be something to mourn especially if things have happened in that year or find the things that were a gift in the ending year and honor those too. We can shift or reframe how we see the birth of this New Year and what gifts this year may bring. What intentions can we set for 2022. 

Eric and I wanted to shift the idea of New Year’s Resolution to a do-able request of ourselves. We thought about how maybe a resolution had more demand energy than a doable request. We talk about our intentions for the New Year and how we can have doable requests with those intentions. What does our next year in 2022 look like and feel like? Where does this sit in our body when we think about 2022. 

Let us invite ourselves to not have expectations or demands on the gift or intentions we set. A doable request can be something very small and can change if needed. If it helps ask a trusted friend to be a celebration buddy or a buddy who can hold you accountable in a kind and warm way I would suggest reaching out to someone and seeing if they would be willing. Even if it’s for just a little while like a week or a month. 

Please write in and email us what your intentions are for the year and we can read them on the podcast. It would be great fun to hear what your intentions are and what needs/feelings you have with those intentions for 2022. 

Resources:

Podcast: Dr. Alexandra Solomon – Reimagining LOVE

Episode #7 (Re) Gathering for the Holidays


Books

David Richo – Triggers

Terry Reel -  https://terryreal.com/


Request for support from my listeners:

I need to buy a Dynamic XLR Microphone so I can have better sound quality. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each.  I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.
Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
Music is brought to you by: https://www

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]]> Buzzsprout-9889498 Sat, 15 Jan 2022 03:00:00 -0800 3588 2 64 full true Holidays and Change with Dr. Yvette Erasmus Holidays and Change with Dr. Yvette Erasmus This episode had more static and I have looked it up and it could be a cord issue which is crazy to me that a year and half cord would be causing so much trouble. I sincerely apologize for the poor audio quality.

In this episode we talk about the holidays and how it can be hard to figure out family stuff around the holidays. We go into a little about change and growth and what that might look like in our families.

Dr. Yvette Erasmus is a psychologist, teacher, and consultant who specializes in the transformation of domination systems, human healing and growth, and supporting people to be the most loving and connected versions of themselves. Her approach synthesizes mind-body medicine, self- development tools for self-healing and authentic relating, somatic experiencing, diversity and inclusiveness, nonviolent communication, and, bringing what has been divided and fragmented into wholeness and harmony to create more life affirming healthy and interdependent living.

Dr. Yvette Erasmus Resources:

Website: https://www.yvetteerasmus.com/ 

YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/c/YvetteErasmusPsyD

Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/yvette.erasmus/

Instagram: @dryvetteerasmus

Wednesday Practice Group:
1 hour 30 minutes • Free

A Q&A Learning Call with Yvette
Every Wednesday 10:00-11:30am CT via Zoom
Register here:
https://programs.yvetteerasmus.com/conversations-from-the-heart-online/

Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/yvetteerasmus

Core Offerings and Free Programs:
https://programs.yvetteerasmus.com/offerings/#core-offerings

1. Relationship as a spiritual practice

2. Boundaries course

3. Parenting course

4. Foundational program human 101


Other Resources:

Spiral dynamics – Don Beck and Clare Graves

https://spiraldynamicsintegral.nl/en/origin/

Request for support from my listeners:

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude. 

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.

Support the show

]]> This episode had more static and I have looked it up and it could be a cord issue which is crazy to me that a year and half cord would be causing so much trouble. I sincerely apologize for the poor audio quality.

In this episode we talk about the holidays and how it can be hard to figure out family stuff around the holidays. We go into a little about change and growth and what that might look like in our families.

Dr. Yvette Erasmus is a psychologist, teacher, and consultant who specializes in the transformation of domination systems, human healing and growth, and supporting people to be the most loving and connected versions of themselves. Her approach synthesizes mind-body medicine, self- development tools for self-healing and authentic relating, somatic experiencing, diversity and inclusiveness, nonviolent communication, and, bringing what has been divided and fragmented into wholeness and harmony to create more life affirming healthy and interdependent living.

Dr. Yvette Erasmus Resources:

Website: https://www.yvetteerasmus.com/ 

YouTube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/c/YvetteErasmusPsyD

Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/yvette.erasmus/

Instagram: @dryvetteerasmus

Wednesday Practice Group:
1 hour 30 minutes • Free

A Q&A Learning Call with Yvette
Every Wednesday 10:00-11:30am CT via Zoom
Register here:
https://programs.yvetteerasmus.com/conversations-from-the-heart-online/

Patreon:
https://www.patreon.com/yvetteerasmus

Core Offerings and Free Programs:
https://programs.yvetteerasmus.com/offerings/#core-offerings

1. Relationship as a spiritual practice

2. Boundaries course

3. Parenting course

4. Foundational program human 101


Other Resources:

Spiral dynamics – Don Beck and Clare Graves

https://spiraldynamicsintegral.nl/en/origin/

Request for support from my listeners:

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude. 

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.

Support the show

]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-9745605 Tue, 21 Dec 2021 03:00:00 -0800 4538 2 63 full true Masculinity with Michael Shawe Masculinity with Michael Shawe Michael Shawe started out in research psychology studying the origins of childhood depression which is a risk factor for depressive episodes in adults. When he was deciding on what path to choose, his advisor at the time who strongly encouraged him to be a researcher, died suddenly. Michael took time to reflect and decided on going on a more clinical path. From there he was invested in understanding people, but also aware of the impact of culture on our psychological development. He thought that might be in journalism, but the  field seemed bleak and he always enjoyed talking to people and getting to know them in the  interview process. Michael decided to take his awareness of the micro world and dedicate himself to guiding people into a deeper awareness of themselves. However, that was a long ways away from what actually occurred. He spent 7 years working with people with serious and persistent mental illness and chemical addiction from varying ages in non profits. At some point, Michael realized his interventions, while unconventional, were highly effective with his clients, but often he ran into obstacles with his superiors who found his methods untraditional.

Michael's Resources:

mikeshawetherapy.com

Instragram: thedaoofmike

Michaels Zocdoc website



Resources:

Wire Sculpture
https://www.thisiscolossal.com/2015/09/milov-wireframe-sculpture/

Different Approaches:

Gestalt:

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-gestalt-psychology-2795808

Internal Family Systems:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/internal-family-systems-therapy

 Sensorimotor:

https://sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org/


Request for support from my listeners:

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com


CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Support the show

]]> Michael Shawe started out in research psychology studying the origins of childhood depression which is a risk factor for depressive episodes in adults. When he was deciding on what path to choose, his advisor at the time who strongly encouraged him to be a researcher, died suddenly. Michael took time to reflect and decided on going on a more clinical path. From there he was invested in understanding people, but also aware of the impact of culture on our psychological development. He thought that might be in journalism, but the  field seemed bleak and he always enjoyed talking to people and getting to know them in the  interview process. Michael decided to take his awareness of the micro world and dedicate himself to guiding people into a deeper awareness of themselves. However, that was a long ways away from what actually occurred. He spent 7 years working with people with serious and persistent mental illness and chemical addiction from varying ages in non profits. At some point, Michael realized his interventions, while unconventional, were highly effective with his clients, but often he ran into obstacles with his superiors who found his methods untraditional.

Michael's Resources:

mikeshawetherapy.com

Instragram: thedaoofmike

Michaels Zocdoc website



Resources:

Wire Sculpture
https://www.thisiscolossal.com/2015/09/milov-wireframe-sculpture/

Different Approaches:

Gestalt:

https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-gestalt-psychology-2795808

Internal Family Systems:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/internal-family-systems-therapy

 Sensorimotor:

https://sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org/


Request for support from my listeners:

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com


CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Support the show

]]> Buzzsprout-9701104 Tue, 14 Dec 2021 03:00:00 -0800 5285 2 62 full true Synergy Parenting with Lelia Schott Synergy Parenting with Lelia Schott There was some popping in this episode. This mic created some weird static and I am so sorry, I have no idea why it did that. There are parts where its really bad. I think the coming episodes it isn’t so bad or at all there. I am having a hard time finding time to edit when working full time so here we go, bare with me. I am putting episodes out the best I can. Thank you so much for your patience and care.

Lelia Schott is the founder of Synergy Parenting, helping parents and children to reclaim inner peace and power. She has researched and practiced parenting for 24 years. She began writing and sharing her work around 9 years ago. Lelia specializes in therapeutic parent coaching and inner child healing. Her home is Cape Town, South Africa. Mother to four sons and two daughters. (Three of her sons are grown.) Lelia loves virtual coaching with people from all over the world.

Lelia's Resources:

Facebook.com/synergygentleparenting

Website:
www.leliaschott.com

Email: info@leliaschott.com


Resources:

1. L.R. Knost:

http://www.littleheartsbooks.com/about-the-authorillustrator/

2. Ram Dass:

https://www.ramdass.org/walking-each-other-home/

Quote: “We're all just walking each other home.” ~Ram Dass

3. Gabor Maté – Authenticity and Attachment

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3bynimi8HQ

4. Pink song: Fuckin’ Perfect

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hl0qf1pgjEs

5. Dr. Daniel Siegel “Name it to tame it” & “Mindsight”

https://drdansiegel.com/

6. Maya Angelou — 'I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.'

7. David Richo “When the Past is Present”

https://www.amazon.com/When-Past-Present-Emotional-Relationships/dp/159030571X


Request for support from my listeners:

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com


CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
Music is brought to you by: https://

Support the show

]]> There was some popping in this episode. This mic created some weird static and I am so sorry, I have no idea why it did that. There are parts where its really bad. I think the coming episodes it isn’t so bad or at all there. I am having a hard time finding time to edit when working full time so here we go, bare with me. I am putting episodes out the best I can. Thank you so much for your patience and care.

Lelia Schott is the founder of Synergy Parenting, helping parents and children to reclaim inner peace and power. She has researched and practiced parenting for 24 years. She began writing and sharing her work around 9 years ago. Lelia specializes in therapeutic parent coaching and inner child healing. Her home is Cape Town, South Africa. Mother to four sons and two daughters. (Three of her sons are grown.) Lelia loves virtual coaching with people from all over the world.

Lelia's Resources:

Facebook.com/synergygentleparenting

Website:
www.leliaschott.com

Email: info@leliaschott.com


Resources:

1. L.R. Knost:

http://www.littleheartsbooks.com/about-the-authorillustrator/

2. Ram Dass:

https://www.ramdass.org/walking-each-other-home/

Quote: “We're all just walking each other home.” ~Ram Dass

3. Gabor Maté – Authenticity and Attachment

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l3bynimi8HQ

4. Pink song: Fuckin’ Perfect

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hl0qf1pgjEs

5. Dr. Daniel Siegel “Name it to tame it” & “Mindsight”

https://drdansiegel.com/

6. Maya Angelou — 'I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.'

7. David Richo “When the Past is Present”

https://www.amazon.com/When-Past-Present-Emotional-Relationships/dp/159030571X


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I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com


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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-9622206 Tue, 30 Nov 2021 00:00:00 -0800 5261 2 61 full true Death and the Dying with Rachelle Lamb Death and the Dying with Rachelle Lamb I have finally moved to Bend and I apologized for not keeping up on the podcast. It is so hard to move and edit all at the same time. I am doing my best to keep up on it. I think about how behind I am lol. Hang in there with me. This episode is so powerful and if you are okay with a lot of tears then be prepared for the mess I bring hehe. Rachelle gives me an opportunity to heal by giving me words that my dad and mom could have said to me. We talk about how devastating our culture can be with understanding death and the dying while other societies embrace and have rituals and traditions around the dying and grief.   

Rachelle Lamb is a recognized presenter, writer, poet and Nonviolent Communication℠ trainer and coach. She brings an earthy, practical yet innovative wisdom to her work curated over decades of study drawing from cultural anthropology, history, psychology, mythology, poetry, storytelling and deep ecology. Her synthesis of these disciplines provides a rich and fertile scaffolding for transformational dialogue and consistently produces powerful learning experiences for individuals and audiences who cite the learning as profound and life-changing.

PROMOTIONS: To schedule private sessions with Rachelle or register for a class, please visit her website at www.RachelleLamb.com.

Resources:

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow once said: “If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each man's life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.”


Stephen Jenkinson: Book called: “Die Wise”
Website: https://orphanwisdom.com/

Matt Fraser:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mf0w9uPL7WI

 
Book: Being Mortal 
Medicine and What Matters in the End 

By:   Atul Gawande


Request for support from my listeners

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

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]]> I have finally moved to Bend and I apologized for not keeping up on the podcast. It is so hard to move and edit all at the same time. I am doing my best to keep up on it. I think about how behind I am lol. Hang in there with me. This episode is so powerful and if you are okay with a lot of tears then be prepared for the mess I bring hehe. Rachelle gives me an opportunity to heal by giving me words that my dad and mom could have said to me. We talk about how devastating our culture can be with understanding death and the dying while other societies embrace and have rituals and traditions around the dying and grief.   

Rachelle Lamb is a recognized presenter, writer, poet and Nonviolent Communication℠ trainer and coach. She brings an earthy, practical yet innovative wisdom to her work curated over decades of study drawing from cultural anthropology, history, psychology, mythology, poetry, storytelling and deep ecology. Her synthesis of these disciplines provides a rich and fertile scaffolding for transformational dialogue and consistently produces powerful learning experiences for individuals and audiences who cite the learning as profound and life-changing.

PROMOTIONS: To schedule private sessions with Rachelle or register for a class, please visit her website at www.RachelleLamb.com.

Resources:

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow once said: “If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each man's life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.”


Stephen Jenkinson: Book called: “Die Wise”
Website: https://orphanwisdom.com/

Matt Fraser:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mf0w9uPL7WI

 
Book: Being Mortal 
Medicine and What Matters in the End 

By:   Atul Gawande


Request for support from my listeners

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-9516511 Tue, 09 Nov 2021 02:00:00 -0800 5241 2 60 full true Boundaries with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Boundaries with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé I have been traveling in California seeing family and friends. I haven't put out an episode because its been so hard to edit while spending time with those I love. I am doing my best to keep up. Thank you for baring with me. Much love to you all. 

Our special guest is LaShelle Lowe-Chardé. She founded Wise Heart with a mission to help make a shift in consciousness about how we relate to life and each other. She dreams of a world in which becoming a relationship master is a central value in our global culture - a world in which we value and trust the quality of connection with ourselves and others as the foundation for collaborating to create and maintain a thriving life for all. Wise Heart seeks to join with others who support this shift in consciousness.

Over 20 years of training and experience have led to the articulation and creation of a system that integrates Mindfulness, Hakomi, and NVC that I call Mindful Compassionate Dialogue. This system provides a roadmap to becoming a relationship master by defining and operationalizing the essential aspects of creating a confident sense of self as well engaging in the consciousness and skills that facilitate living from compassion, wisdom, mindfulness, and agency. See interactive graphic for MCD here.

LaShelle is enormously grateful to the very many teachers and mentors she has had along the way and the enormous work others have done over many decades that have served our understanding of what it means to heal and live a fulfilling life.

She currently lives and works in Portland, Oregon, U.S. She is happily supported there by the beauty of nature, her husband, and loving community of friends and colleagues.



Request for support from my listeners

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

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]]> I have been traveling in California seeing family and friends. I haven't put out an episode because its been so hard to edit while spending time with those I love. I am doing my best to keep up. Thank you for baring with me. Much love to you all. 

Our special guest is LaShelle Lowe-Chardé. She founded Wise Heart with a mission to help make a shift in consciousness about how we relate to life and each other. She dreams of a world in which becoming a relationship master is a central value in our global culture - a world in which we value and trust the quality of connection with ourselves and others as the foundation for collaborating to create and maintain a thriving life for all. Wise Heart seeks to join with others who support this shift in consciousness.

Over 20 years of training and experience have led to the articulation and creation of a system that integrates Mindfulness, Hakomi, and NVC that I call Mindful Compassionate Dialogue. This system provides a roadmap to becoming a relationship master by defining and operationalizing the essential aspects of creating a confident sense of self as well engaging in the consciousness and skills that facilitate living from compassion, wisdom, mindfulness, and agency. See interactive graphic for MCD here.

LaShelle is enormously grateful to the very many teachers and mentors she has had along the way and the enormous work others have done over many decades that have served our understanding of what it means to heal and live a fulfilling life.

She currently lives and works in Portland, Oregon, U.S. She is happily supported there by the beauty of nature, her husband, and loving community of friends and colleagues.



Request for support from my listeners

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> Buzzsprout-9403376 Wed, 20 Oct 2021 15:00:00 -0700 4705 2 59 full true NVC Consciousness with Mary Mackenzie NVC Consciousness with Mary Mackenzie OMG, if anyone has a podcast or work with audio, you would know that different mics can sound different depending on how it is set up. The mic can be up right or the top facing you. And silly Kady decided to turn the mic to face her and the sound got all jacked up lol. (face in hands) So if the audio of my voice sounds off and or different, yup that's me messin' with things before recording and not testing it. LOL 

We get the honor to have Mary Mackenzie on our podcast. We asked Mary several questions about her experience with NVC, how it’s impacted her life moving forward, what can facilitators do when things are in high energy, and what exactly is NVC consciousness.

Mary Mackenzie, M.A., is an author, trained mediator, and CNVC Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication. She holds a master’s degree in human relations from Northern Arizona University and is the co-founder of the NVC Academy, ­the only online school for learning Nonviolent Communication.

Mary teaches Nonviolent Communication and other spiritually-based programs to individuals, couples, families, organizations, and spiritual communities through a wide variety of workshops and retreats. Her book Peaceful Living: Daily Meditations for Living with Love, Healing and Compassion offers inspiring practical methods for creating peace in our everyday lives.

As a pioneer of online NVC training, Mary runs her company in harmony with what she teaches. She and NVC Academy co-founder, Mark Schultz, paved the way to NVC online training in 2006 and have been instrumental in alleviating the financial and geographical barriers to learning NVC skills. 

One of her passions is facilitating critical dialogues between people, and she has spent more than 20 years learning a wide variety of effective processes she can draw on in a moment’s notice. Known for her clear communication style, she is especially skilled in helping individuals within groups put aside their preferences and find ways to collaborate with each other that are in alignment with their values. Her ability to cut through the confusion in a group has helped many teams quickly move forward in their desired progress.

Resources:

To reach Mary: mary@nvcacademy.com



Request for support from my listeners

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page:

Support the show

]]> OMG, if anyone has a podcast or work with audio, you would know that different mics can sound different depending on how it is set up. The mic can be up right or the top facing you. And silly Kady decided to turn the mic to face her and the sound got all jacked up lol. (face in hands) So if the audio of my voice sounds off and or different, yup that's me messin' with things before recording and not testing it. LOL 

We get the honor to have Mary Mackenzie on our podcast. We asked Mary several questions about her experience with NVC, how it’s impacted her life moving forward, what can facilitators do when things are in high energy, and what exactly is NVC consciousness.

Mary Mackenzie, M.A., is an author, trained mediator, and CNVC Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication. She holds a master’s degree in human relations from Northern Arizona University and is the co-founder of the NVC Academy, ­the only online school for learning Nonviolent Communication.

Mary teaches Nonviolent Communication and other spiritually-based programs to individuals, couples, families, organizations, and spiritual communities through a wide variety of workshops and retreats. Her book Peaceful Living: Daily Meditations for Living with Love, Healing and Compassion offers inspiring practical methods for creating peace in our everyday lives.

As a pioneer of online NVC training, Mary runs her company in harmony with what she teaches. She and NVC Academy co-founder, Mark Schultz, paved the way to NVC online training in 2006 and have been instrumental in alleviating the financial and geographical barriers to learning NVC skills. 

One of her passions is facilitating critical dialogues between people, and she has spent more than 20 years learning a wide variety of effective processes she can draw on in a moment’s notice. Known for her clear communication style, she is especially skilled in helping individuals within groups put aside their preferences and find ways to collaborate with each other that are in alignment with their values. Her ability to cut through the confusion in a group has helped many teams quickly move forward in their desired progress.

Resources:

To reach Mary: mary@nvcacademy.com



Request for support from my listeners

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too. Let me know in the notes if you would prefer not to have a shout out of gratitude.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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Facebook Page:

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-9305475 Tue, 05 Oct 2021 03:00:00 -0700 4213 2 58 full false Permission to Feel with Nikki Elbertson Permission to Feel with Nikki Elbertson In several episodes I was obsessed (still am) with the book Permission to Feel by Marc Bracket. I still highly recommend reading. I tried to reach out to see if he could join me on my podcast and I was given the gift to talk to Nikki who has worked along side Marc and we enjoyed an amazing connection talking together. I am grateful to introduce Nikki Elbertson, M.Ed., is the director of content and communications at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. In various research and training roles at the Center since 2002, she has contributed to the development, implementation, and evaluation of RULER from early childhood through high school. Nikki has co-authored many of the Center’s research studies and curricula, including scholarly articles, papers, and book chapters. Her favorite emotion management strategy is teaching group fitness classes, which she’s been doing since 2008.

Resources:

https://www.rulerapproach.org/ 

Book: 

Permission to Feel by Marc Bracket


Request for support from my listeners

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Support the show

]]> In several episodes I was obsessed (still am) with the book Permission to Feel by Marc Bracket. I still highly recommend reading. I tried to reach out to see if he could join me on my podcast and I was given the gift to talk to Nikki who has worked along side Marc and we enjoyed an amazing connection talking together. I am grateful to introduce Nikki Elbertson, M.Ed., is the director of content and communications at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. In various research and training roles at the Center since 2002, she has contributed to the development, implementation, and evaluation of RULER from early childhood through high school. Nikki has co-authored many of the Center’s research studies and curricula, including scholarly articles, papers, and book chapters. Her favorite emotion management strategy is teaching group fitness classes, which she’s been doing since 2008.

Resources:

https://www.rulerapproach.org/ 

Book: 

Permission to Feel by Marc Bracket


Request for support from my listeners

I am going to be moving back to Bend, OR and I would love to set up a small studio in my apartment so Kyle and I don’t have to use zoom. In order to do that I would need to buy two Dynamic XLR Microphones so we can sit at the same table together, as well as a mic stand and the XLR cords to go with. This can get expensive especially when mics can cost between $200 – 500$ each. This will help me save time and not have to spend on average 8hrs of editing on each episode. Since I haven’t been working because of COVID, I would love your support in donating 1-10$ to my Living connected Paypal account. A little goes a long way and I truly from the bottom of my heart would appreciate it. I will also give you a huge shout out on my podcast to those who have donated. If you would prefer to be anonymous that is okay too.  

Donations to Paypal email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Support the show

]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-9242301 Wed, 22 Sep 2021 15:00:00 -0700 4654 2 57 full false Relationships Part 2 with David Weinstock Relationships Part 2 with David Weinstock We recorded this 7 days before my mom passed and I was so tired and exhausted. I had forgotten to put in my headphones in. It truly messed up my recording and you will hear my audio with both Kyle and David in the background. Because of this screw up it took me over 12 hrs to edit that is sooo long. I did give myself compassion for this. I wanted to give you heads up incase you heard some things that don’t line up. I know I am behind in keeping up on releasing of episodes. It’s been hard to edit when I am reliving listening to what it was like for me during my moms passing. It’s hard to hear. Thank you for your patience and understanding. 

This is a continuation of our time with David Weinstock. We are talking about how important relationship is, when it comes to NVC. We also have a listener who wrote in some questions for David and we were able to get answers to a couple of them. David talks about his practices with NVC. We do bring in some of the mourning and celebration that both have a sense of gratitude. David said, “When we listen with empathy we are listening to life. It’s the space around those moments of connection.” 

Parts of relationship is to know how to self-regulate. When we are in relationship with another person there might be part of our history that comes up when we have conflict. Being in relationship with another is to be in relationship with yourself. And that is having awareness for when we may need to self-regulate in high-energy moments. We can learn and grow being in the presence of others. When we feel contracted that is a sign to pay attention to, because we will then need to move into self-empathy if we can and connect to Self.

David has been phenomenal to speak to and get to know during this process. I hope it is the same for you. Please don’t hesitate to write us an email or send a voice memo we can share with all of our listeners. 

Resources:
NVC Global Rising:
https://www.community.nvcrising.org/

CONTACT INFORMATION:
 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
Instagram: livingconnectednvc
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/
Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Support the show

]]> We recorded this 7 days before my mom passed and I was so tired and exhausted. I had forgotten to put in my headphones in. It truly messed up my recording and you will hear my audio with both Kyle and David in the background. Because of this screw up it took me over 12 hrs to edit that is sooo long. I did give myself compassion for this. I wanted to give you heads up incase you heard some things that don’t line up. I know I am behind in keeping up on releasing of episodes. It’s been hard to edit when I am reliving listening to what it was like for me during my moms passing. It’s hard to hear. Thank you for your patience and understanding. 

This is a continuation of our time with David Weinstock. We are talking about how important relationship is, when it comes to NVC. We also have a listener who wrote in some questions for David and we were able to get answers to a couple of them. David talks about his practices with NVC. We do bring in some of the mourning and celebration that both have a sense of gratitude. David said, “When we listen with empathy we are listening to life. It’s the space around those moments of connection.” 

Parts of relationship is to know how to self-regulate. When we are in relationship with another person there might be part of our history that comes up when we have conflict. Being in relationship with another is to be in relationship with yourself. And that is having awareness for when we may need to self-regulate in high-energy moments. We can learn and grow being in the presence of others. When we feel contracted that is a sign to pay attention to, because we will then need to move into self-empathy if we can and connect to Self.

David has been phenomenal to speak to and get to know during this process. I hope it is the same for you. Please don’t hesitate to write us an email or send a voice memo we can share with all of our listeners. 

Resources:
NVC Global Rising:
https://www.community.nvcrising.org/

CONTACT INFORMATION:
 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com
Instagram: livingconnectednvc
Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/
Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Support the show

]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-9201967 Wed, 15 Sep 2021 16:00:00 -0700 3492 2 56 full false The Aspie World with Dan Jones The Aspie World with Dan Jones We had the honor to have Dan on our podcast. Please feel free to send us any questions that you might have for him and we can try and have him on again to answer your questions. I wanted everyone to have a deeper understanding of the autism world that some of us may not know about. Cheers to you Dan! 

Daniel M. Jones (The Aspie World) is an international best selling author / video influencer with an award winning YouTube channel called The Aspie World.

The Aspie World is the biggest YouTube channel dedicated to autism from an autistic person in the world. The channel is dedicated to Autism awareness and understanding from an autistic person's point of view. 

Creating engagement with real people to create real change in a positive and uplifting way. And also helps raise money for charities like The National Autistic Society. 

Daniel has a diagnosis of Autism, OCD, ADHD and Dyslexia and uses his influence to help educate people about Autism using his skills of video and social media influence.

Daniel has also created the first ever neurodiverse panel talking about ADHD and Autism at VidCon US, which is the largest video convention in the world.


Resources:

Daniel Jones
Email: theaspieworld@gmail.com
Web: www.TheAspieWorld.com 

Dan’s Online Course: https://learnautism.net/

Dan’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/AspieWorld1

Dan’s Instagram: theaspieworld

Dan’s Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/aspergers-autism-1-podcast-the-aspie-world/id1441602028

Autism alert cards: https://www.theaspieworld.com/shop/autism-alert-card/


Myhim Bialik’s Breakdown podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mayim-bialiks-breakdown/id1546456269?i=1000507406637

Disney+ Shortfilm called “Loop”

Facebook families with kiddos on the spectrum to follow: 

Finding Coopers Voice, Cody Speaks, Fathering Autism.




CONTACT INFORMATION:

 Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
Music is brought to you by: https://www.purple-planet.com/

Support the show

]]> We had the honor to have Dan on our podcast. Please feel free to send us any questions that you might have for him and we can try and have him on again to answer your questions. I wanted everyone to have a deeper understanding of the autism world that some of us may not know about. Cheers to you Dan! 

Daniel M. Jones (The Aspie World) is an international best selling author / video influencer with an award winning YouTube channel called The Aspie World.

The Aspie World is the biggest YouTube channel dedicated to autism from an autistic person in the world. The channel is dedicated to Autism awareness and understanding from an autistic person's point of view. 

Creating engagement with real people to create real change in a positive and uplifting way. And also helps raise money for charities like The National Autistic Society. 

Daniel has a diagnosis of Autism, OCD, ADHD and Dyslexia and uses his influence to help educate people about Autism using his skills of video and social media influence.

Daniel has also created the first ever neurodiverse panel talking about ADHD and Autism at VidCon US, which is the largest video convention in the world.


Resources:

Daniel Jones
Email: theaspieworld@gmail.com
Web: www.TheAspieWorld.com 

Dan’s Online Course: https://learnautism.net/

Dan’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/AspieWorld1

Dan’s Instagram: theaspieworld

Dan’s Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/aspergers-autism-1-podcast-the-aspie-world/id1441602028

Autism alert cards: https://www.theaspieworld.com/shop/autism-alert-card/


Myhim Bialik’s Breakdown podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mayim-bialiks-breakdown/id1546456269?i=1000507406637

Disney+ Shortfilm called “Loop”

Facebook families with kiddos on the spectrum to follow: 

Finding Coopers Voice, Cody Speaks, Fathering Autism.




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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-9140730 Tue, 07 Sep 2021 03:00:00 -0700 4227 2 55 full false Energy Flows with Holly Mandel Energy Flows with Holly Mandel Holly Mandel has inspired so many people in the improv work that she does. She has created programs such as the school of improv called ImprovOlution, she has a podcast and wrote a book called “Good Girls Aren’t Funny”. Her work is based on women and girls on perfectionism, limits of obeying cultural ‘shoulds’ and liberating one’s self for the sake of all women. Holly has her degree in sociology and psychology from UCLA. She was a joy to talk to and I am super excited to share our time we had together with you listeners. There are so many avenues that NVC can be integrated in and we want to explore strategies that can also incorporate NVC. The more strategies that we have in our tool belt the better. Maybe this way of looking at the world works for you.

Holly and I talk a lot about the energy that our thoughts produce and what we can manifest just by the energy we put towards certain things. What this energy is like and how energy can effect our every day mood and thoughts. Our mindset and energy can be so powerful and the changes we can see with just a bit of practice. Having this awareness of our energy can really bring in awareness to our feelings and needs in tough moments and calm moments.   


Holly’s Resources: 

1) https://groundlings.com/people/holly-mandel

2) https://www.hollymandel.com/about

3) https://www.improvolution.org/about-us

 
Book: Good Girls Aren’t Funny

https://www.goodgirlsarentfunny.com/


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]]> Holly Mandel has inspired so many people in the improv work that she does. She has created programs such as the school of improv called ImprovOlution, she has a podcast and wrote a book called “Good Girls Aren’t Funny”. Her work is based on women and girls on perfectionism, limits of obeying cultural ‘shoulds’ and liberating one’s self for the sake of all women. Holly has her degree in sociology and psychology from UCLA. She was a joy to talk to and I am super excited to share our time we had together with you listeners. There are so many avenues that NVC can be integrated in and we want to explore strategies that can also incorporate NVC. The more strategies that we have in our tool belt the better. Maybe this way of looking at the world works for you.

Holly and I talk a lot about the energy that our thoughts produce and what we can manifest just by the energy we put towards certain things. What this energy is like and how energy can effect our every day mood and thoughts. Our mindset and energy can be so powerful and the changes we can see with just a bit of practice. Having this awareness of our energy can really bring in awareness to our feelings and needs in tough moments and calm moments.   


Holly’s Resources: 

1) https://groundlings.com/people/holly-mandel

2) https://www.hollymandel.com/about

3) https://www.improvolution.org/about-us

 
Book: Good Girls Aren’t Funny

https://www.goodgirlsarentfunny.com/


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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-9076985 Tue, 24 Aug 2021 03:00:00 -0700 3752 2 54 full true Closure Closure How has closure helped you? What strategies did you use to find closure in your heart? We would love to know what worked for you, send us a voice memo or an email so we can engage with our listeners. 

The healing that comes from the clarity of closure is so healthy and important in order for us to move forward into the next chapter of our life. When we can heal and move through acceptance it allows space in our hearts to be open to the next person in a relationship. 

When I have closure I feel a sense of confidence and empowerment because I can safely move on without having heavy feelings about a person, I can be happy for the other person and go on my way. Closure meets needs for freedom, solid clarity and my perspective what once was, has changed. I mourned fully and I am ready to take on the world again. 

Resources:

Kati Morton is a licensed marriage and family therapist:

Kati Morton and Sean:  Podcast – Opinions That Don’t Matter

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zWx8OnRKi0w

(I recorded a Speak Pipe and Kati played it on Episode #75 of her podcast @ 36:30mins. On the youtube version it is at 36mins. )

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]]> How has closure helped you? What strategies did you use to find closure in your heart? We would love to know what worked for you, send us a voice memo or an email so we can engage with our listeners. 

The healing that comes from the clarity of closure is so healthy and important in order for us to move forward into the next chapter of our life. When we can heal and move through acceptance it allows space in our hearts to be open to the next person in a relationship. 

When I have closure I feel a sense of confidence and empowerment because I can safely move on without having heavy feelings about a person, I can be happy for the other person and go on my way. Closure meets needs for freedom, solid clarity and my perspective what once was, has changed. I mourned fully and I am ready to take on the world again. 

Resources:

Kati Morton is a licensed marriage and family therapist:

Kati Morton and Sean:  Podcast – Opinions That Don’t Matter

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zWx8OnRKi0w

(I recorded a Speak Pipe and Kati played it on Episode #75 of her podcast @ 36:30mins. On the youtube version it is at 36mins. )

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-9032430 Tue, 17 Aug 2021 03:00:00 -0700 3577 2 53 full true Stimulus VS Cause Stimulus VS Cause My Mom passed away, and for those who follow my IG and FaceBook I made a post about it so you are caught up in real time.  I realize that I am several episodes behind so the information that I talk about is definitely several weeks prior. Bare with me as, I have fallen behind from being so overwhelmed with everything.

When we think about the Stimulus in NVC, it’s an event or situation or what a person said or did (the observation) that created a body reaction and or a feeling inside of us. The person is not the CAUSE of why our body is reacting the person would be the stimulus. The cause could be the compiled of feelings we had from another situation that happened, the cause could be our ego that is talking to us, or our jackal thoughts or judgments we had in that moment. The cause leads us to unmet needs, which then helps us understand to why we were triggered to begin with.



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]]> My Mom passed away, and for those who follow my IG and FaceBook I made a post about it so you are caught up in real time.  I realize that I am several episodes behind so the information that I talk about is definitely several weeks prior. Bare with me as, I have fallen behind from being so overwhelmed with everything.

When we think about the Stimulus in NVC, it’s an event or situation or what a person said or did (the observation) that created a body reaction and or a feeling inside of us. The person is not the CAUSE of why our body is reacting the person would be the stimulus. The cause could be the compiled of feelings we had from another situation that happened, the cause could be our ego that is talking to us, or our jackal thoughts or judgments we had in that moment. The cause leads us to unmet needs, which then helps us understand to why we were triggered to begin with.



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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8962228 Tue, 03 Aug 2021 03:00:00 -0700 3203 2 52 full true It's All Relational It's All Relational BLOOPERS!!! At the secret ending lol. And with all that is going on with my mom having a month left to live, I completely forgot if I listened to this episode one time through before I exported. I would love your grace. Thanks so much.

Yvette Erasmus says “Relational wounds must be healed in relation" this means, Relational healing is the idea that because some wounds occur while in relationship with others, those wounds can only be healed through relationships with others. ... It teaches the brain that there is an alternative script for relationships, and a scab can start to form on the emotional wound.

When it comes to the needs that aren't met with my parents or dad, I want that healing and needs to be met by him. And sometimes there are times when we can't get needs met by the people we want to, we may not get to heal that part of us with the person who is in relation to us. There will be a mourning to this. Also is there an opportunity to have this part of me healed in relation with another close friend...? I'm not sure.

In this episode we talk about how there is a reverse in empathy when we are searching to heal in relation with support and the support gets turned around to the other person instead because that person gets triggered or something comes up.  And with this happening makes it hard to have needs met for empathy and support. This can happen in families, friendships, or empathy buddies, or at work etc...Navigating this can be hard.

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]]> BLOOPERS!!! At the secret ending lol. And with all that is going on with my mom having a month left to live, I completely forgot if I listened to this episode one time through before I exported. I would love your grace. Thanks so much.

Yvette Erasmus says “Relational wounds must be healed in relation" this means, Relational healing is the idea that because some wounds occur while in relationship with others, those wounds can only be healed through relationships with others. ... It teaches the brain that there is an alternative script for relationships, and a scab can start to form on the emotional wound.

When it comes to the needs that aren't met with my parents or dad, I want that healing and needs to be met by him. And sometimes there are times when we can't get needs met by the people we want to, we may not get to heal that part of us with the person who is in relation to us. There will be a mourning to this. Also is there an opportunity to have this part of me healed in relation with another close friend...? I'm not sure.

In this episode we talk about how there is a reverse in empathy when we are searching to heal in relation with support and the support gets turned around to the other person instead because that person gets triggered or something comes up.  And with this happening makes it hard to have needs met for empathy and support. This can happen in families, friendships, or empathy buddies, or at work etc...Navigating this can be hard.

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8885253 Tue, 27 Jul 2021 03:00:00 -0700 3188 2 51 full true Domination Culture Domination Culture Punishment / reward has been a strategy that people all over the world have used to get others to do what we want them to do. Does it work for the moment that there is discomfort in trying to figure out how to stop what is happening? Are there long term affects in the human psyche from the punishment method? Using domination “power over” rather than “power with” can be a strategy that often dismisses feelings and we learn that feelings are not acceptable. 

Children experience these kinds of situations over and over in a dominance/obedience culture, with a child’s experience of not given a way to express their feelings authentically, they remember it in their bodies, and when they feel fear, or helplessness, this is the feeling that returns to them. This is how the idea, the practice, the strategy of dominance leads to trauma in childhood.

Join us in exploring this topic of Domination Culture that we are surrounded by in our society. 



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]]> Punishment / reward has been a strategy that people all over the world have used to get others to do what we want them to do. Does it work for the moment that there is discomfort in trying to figure out how to stop what is happening? Are there long term affects in the human psyche from the punishment method? Using domination “power over” rather than “power with” can be a strategy that often dismisses feelings and we learn that feelings are not acceptable. 

Children experience these kinds of situations over and over in a dominance/obedience culture, with a child’s experience of not given a way to express their feelings authentically, they remember it in their bodies, and when they feel fear, or helplessness, this is the feeling that returns to them. This is how the idea, the practice, the strategy of dominance leads to trauma in childhood.

Join us in exploring this topic of Domination Culture that we are surrounded by in our society. 



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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8817714 Tue, 20 Jul 2021 03:00:00 -0700 3520 2 50 full true Embodying Somatic Practices Part 1 with David Weinstock Embodying Somatic Practices Part 1 with David Weinstock Season 2: This episode will be part one of a three part series with David Weinstock. Here is David’s Biography. 

 David Weinstock is executive director of Liminal Somatics, a Somatic Coach through the Strozzi Institute and Stuart Heller’s Five Rings Coaching Institute and originator of Somatic Consensus.  He is a certified international trainer of Nonviolent Communication and author of Becoming What You Need: Practices for Embodying Nonviolent Communication. David is also a master goldsmith(www.goldmuse.net) and has taught the peaceful art of Aikido for over 40 years.  He leads training locally and around the world, in his community, schools, prisons, organizations, and businesses. 

David and his wife Judith, along with 8 other families, co-founded an intentional community where they have raised their family since 1990. They have devoted their adult lives to generating Community and committing themselves to an integrated and intentional way of living. All of David’s work--in particular his present organization, Liminal Somatics--is based on building our connection to one another and toward a healthy stewardship of the earth. He is committed to developing our capacity to value what each of us brings to the circle, to reclaim community and value diversity for the sake of creating a nurturing world for generations to come.

In this part one episode we talk about the foundations of the NVC practice with Aikido and take you through some examples of what that looks like. David has a different approach to connecting with feelings by integrating our body sensations. Our bodies hold emotions and trauma and there are ways to heal these parts of ourselves so we can live a better life. 

Resources:

Davids Book:
1) https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-What-You-Need-Communication/dp/1973115492/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Becoming+what+you+need&qid=1625252684&sr=8-1

2) www.liminalsomatics.com

3) www.goldmuse.net


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]]> Season 2: This episode will be part one of a three part series with David Weinstock. Here is David’s Biography. 

 David Weinstock is executive director of Liminal Somatics, a Somatic Coach through the Strozzi Institute and Stuart Heller’s Five Rings Coaching Institute and originator of Somatic Consensus.  He is a certified international trainer of Nonviolent Communication and author of Becoming What You Need: Practices for Embodying Nonviolent Communication. David is also a master goldsmith(www.goldmuse.net) and has taught the peaceful art of Aikido for over 40 years.  He leads training locally and around the world, in his community, schools, prisons, organizations, and businesses. 

David and his wife Judith, along with 8 other families, co-founded an intentional community where they have raised their family since 1990. They have devoted their adult lives to generating Community and committing themselves to an integrated and intentional way of living. All of David’s work--in particular his present organization, Liminal Somatics--is based on building our connection to one another and toward a healthy stewardship of the earth. He is committed to developing our capacity to value what each of us brings to the circle, to reclaim community and value diversity for the sake of creating a nurturing world for generations to come.

In this part one episode we talk about the foundations of the NVC practice with Aikido and take you through some examples of what that looks like. David has a different approach to connecting with feelings by integrating our body sensations. Our bodies hold emotions and trauma and there are ways to heal these parts of ourselves so we can live a better life. 

Resources:

Davids Book:
1) https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-What-You-Need-Communication/dp/1973115492/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=Becoming+what+you+need&qid=1625252684&sr=8-1

2) www.liminalsomatics.com

3) www.goldmuse.net


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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8802978 Tue, 13 Jul 2021 03:00:00 -0700 3603 2 49 full true Vulnerability Vulnerability SECOND SEASON COMING JULY 13th!!! WOOT WOOT!

Vulnerability is can be defined in different ways depending on how you see the word. For me, vulnerability is the willingness and openness to express emotion or share your heart with someone you feel safe with and trust. When we are talking about being emotionally exposed in some way and the possibility of being judged, or criticized, we may find ourselves using survival skills or defensive mechanisms to protect us in some way. This often times can stop us from being vulnerable. In our society we are taught to not show weakness and to show weakness might be crying, to express our messy emotions fully, maybe feeling shame can be seen as weak or showing that we are scared and uncomfortable. I want us to change the way we look at vulnerability. Vulnerability is what connects us, it’s strength and bravery and it’s a hard thing to do. Even using NVC sometimes can be vulnerable. Join Eric and I in this conversation.

Resources:

Book:

Sarah Peyton “Your Resonate Self” 


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]]> SECOND SEASON COMING JULY 13th!!! WOOT WOOT!

Vulnerability is can be defined in different ways depending on how you see the word. For me, vulnerability is the willingness and openness to express emotion or share your heart with someone you feel safe with and trust. When we are talking about being emotionally exposed in some way and the possibility of being judged, or criticized, we may find ourselves using survival skills or defensive mechanisms to protect us in some way. This often times can stop us from being vulnerable. In our society we are taught to not show weakness and to show weakness might be crying, to express our messy emotions fully, maybe feeling shame can be seen as weak or showing that we are scared and uncomfortable. I want us to change the way we look at vulnerability. Vulnerability is what connects us, it’s strength and bravery and it’s a hard thing to do. Even using NVC sometimes can be vulnerable. Join Eric and I in this conversation.

Resources:

Book:

Sarah Peyton “Your Resonate Self” 


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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8726234 Tue, 22 Jun 2021 03:00:00 -0700 2820 1 48 full true Asking for Consent Asking for Consent HOORRAYYY ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF PODCAST! Let's Celebrate!

Asking for consent can show up in so many different ways in our lives. When dealing with my podcast, it’s essential to ask for consent when sharing something on the podcast that belongs to someone else. When I have shared emails, or comments from listeners it’s because I have asked for their consent. Sometimes, it’s good to ask someone if they want a hug when they are crying or upset. Asking for consent can just be a question of “How can I best support you right now” maybe give a couple examples of listening or hugging, or lets go walk and talk. Consent can show up at work, with your kids, with your parents, friends, or intimate relationships. 

It’s so important to know when we are feeling confused or conflicted on how to respond because that could be the clue for us to ask for consent in that situation. I have come to realize that I will be setting an intention to practice this more. Join Eric and I as we explore this topic.


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]]> HOORRAYYY ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY OF PODCAST! Let's Celebrate!

Asking for consent can show up in so many different ways in our lives. When dealing with my podcast, it’s essential to ask for consent when sharing something on the podcast that belongs to someone else. When I have shared emails, or comments from listeners it’s because I have asked for their consent. Sometimes, it’s good to ask someone if they want a hug when they are crying or upset. Asking for consent can just be a question of “How can I best support you right now” maybe give a couple examples of listening or hugging, or lets go walk and talk. Consent can show up at work, with your kids, with your parents, friends, or intimate relationships. 

It’s so important to know when we are feeling confused or conflicted on how to respond because that could be the clue for us to ask for consent in that situation. I have come to realize that I will be setting an intention to practice this more. Join Eric and I as we explore this topic.


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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8668417 Tue, 15 Jun 2021 03:00:00 -0700 3046 1 47 full true Levels of Intensity Levels of Intensity Levels of intensity can relate to how high or intense your emotions are, how intense is this situation I am in, or how is my body reacting to this experience in this now moment. We can use the levels of intensity scale to figure out where we are. Sometimes I find it easier to connect with a number when I am thinking in terms of capacity. If I am at 20% capacity and my self-awareness of my energy is really low, then showing up for others may not be where I would like it to be. The level of intensity is a scale from 0 to 5. If the lake was like glass and so still that would be considered a zero or 1. When we get up to 4 or 5 that is like the biggest 50ft wave going to crash down on you. We can’t handle this, our lid is flipped and there is no calming down, at that point of intensity we just gotta ride the wave. Come and enjoy the calm waters with Eric and I today.   
 
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]]> Levels of intensity can relate to how high or intense your emotions are, how intense is this situation I am in, or how is my body reacting to this experience in this now moment. We can use the levels of intensity scale to figure out where we are. Sometimes I find it easier to connect with a number when I am thinking in terms of capacity. If I am at 20% capacity and my self-awareness of my energy is really low, then showing up for others may not be where I would like it to be. The level of intensity is a scale from 0 to 5. If the lake was like glass and so still that would be considered a zero or 1. When we get up to 4 or 5 that is like the biggest 50ft wave going to crash down on you. We can’t handle this, our lid is flipped and there is no calming down, at that point of intensity we just gotta ride the wave. Come and enjoy the calm waters with Eric and I today.   
 
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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8636227 Tue, 08 Jun 2021 03:00:00 -0700 2461 1 46 full false Obnoxious Giraffe Obnoxious Giraffe There are three steps to get to emotional liberation that Marshall Rosenberg describes in his book. Eric and I discuss each step and as we do that we are both learning more about what it means to find that emotional liberation. We don’t have control over someone else’s feelings or emotions.  We can’t change how someone feels about something. We can have awareness of our own feelings. We can change or control how we feel, react or respond. Ideally we want to communicate effectively to connect in a way that lets the other person know how we feel and that their needs are important as well. Let’s Walk through these stages together to gain a better understanding.   

Resources:

https://about-nvc.tumblr.com/post/98642157391/from-emotional-slavery-to-emotional-liberation-the

 https://orncc.net/article/moving-towards-life-serving-responsibility-nvc


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]]> There are three steps to get to emotional liberation that Marshall Rosenberg describes in his book. Eric and I discuss each step and as we do that we are both learning more about what it means to find that emotional liberation. We don’t have control over someone else’s feelings or emotions.  We can’t change how someone feels about something. We can have awareness of our own feelings. We can change or control how we feel, react or respond. Ideally we want to communicate effectively to connect in a way that lets the other person know how we feel and that their needs are important as well. Let’s Walk through these stages together to gain a better understanding.   

Resources:

https://about-nvc.tumblr.com/post/98642157391/from-emotional-slavery-to-emotional-liberation-the

 https://orncc.net/article/moving-towards-life-serving-responsibility-nvc


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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8583518 Tue, 25 May 2021 03:00:00 -0700 2321 1 45 full false Feeling FUNdamental with Eric Haung Feeling FUNdamental with Eric Haung ORBISCULATE!!! Eric was saying forbisculate and it made me laugh while editing. He didn't quite hear it over the zoom call.  Eric and I are feeling FUNdamental today and going to talk about how the awareness of our own feelings first, is the foundation to nonviolent communication. If we don’t know how to be attuned to how it is that our body feeling and what our heart is feeling it makes it challenging to understand how others are feeling. Self-empathy comes first and with that is the conscious awareness of how we feel on the inside. Noticing when an external experience stimulates us, what we are feeling and what is going on inside of us helps us connect deeper with ourselves.

Eric has been on our podcast a couple times before. Eric is filling in for Kyle as my co-host for several weeks as Kyle is preparing for his big move to Colorado. Here is a little about Eric:

Eric Huang attended a NVC International Intensive Training thinking he knew everything about NVC after reading 1/3 of the book and watching one Marshall video 3 times.   By the end of the 9 day residential training he knew nothing.  Today, the 5 seconds after thinking he knows something, the universe reminds him he still knows nothing.  Sigh.

Eric is a Licensed Professional Civil Engineer in the State of California, earned an M.S. in Civil and Environmental Engineering, has an MBA, and has worked in Silicon Valley in High Tech Marketing for 20 years on something called USB.

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]]> ORBISCULATE!!! Eric was saying forbisculate and it made me laugh while editing. He didn't quite hear it over the zoom call.  Eric and I are feeling FUNdamental today and going to talk about how the awareness of our own feelings first, is the foundation to nonviolent communication. If we don’t know how to be attuned to how it is that our body feeling and what our heart is feeling it makes it challenging to understand how others are feeling. Self-empathy comes first and with that is the conscious awareness of how we feel on the inside. Noticing when an external experience stimulates us, what we are feeling and what is going on inside of us helps us connect deeper with ourselves.

Eric has been on our podcast a couple times before. Eric is filling in for Kyle as my co-host for several weeks as Kyle is preparing for his big move to Colorado. Here is a little about Eric:

Eric Huang attended a NVC International Intensive Training thinking he knew everything about NVC after reading 1/3 of the book and watching one Marshall video 3 times.   By the end of the 9 day residential training he knew nothing.  Today, the 5 seconds after thinking he knows something, the universe reminds him he still knows nothing.  Sigh.

Eric is a Licensed Professional Civil Engineer in the State of California, earned an M.S. in Civil and Environmental Engineering, has an MBA, and has worked in Silicon Valley in High Tech Marketing for 20 years on something called USB.

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Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8522714 Tue, 18 May 2021 03:00:00 -0700 2958 1 44 full false Projecting Projecting We will be referring to the friendship episode the time codes are down below to listen if you choose. Projecting and assuming can be tricky when it comes to NVC. When do you offer empathy, when do you ask for consent, when do you give advice, or are we even aware that we might be projecting or assuming in a conversation? We give several examples of what projection might look like to someone and how we can go about when it's happening or even after it has happened.  

Timecode: 

Jump ahead 10mins and listen for about 3.5 mins

Jump to 52:57 and listen for about 2mins

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]]> We will be referring to the friendship episode the time codes are down below to listen if you choose. Projecting and assuming can be tricky when it comes to NVC. When do you offer empathy, when do you ask for consent, when do you give advice, or are we even aware that we might be projecting or assuming in a conversation? We give several examples of what projection might look like to someone and how we can go about when it's happening or even after it has happened.  

Timecode: 

Jump ahead 10mins and listen for about 3.5 mins

Jump to 52:57 and listen for about 2mins

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8474442 Tue, 11 May 2021 03:00:00 -0700 3465 1 43 full true Teachers Implementing NVC with Jose Flores Teachers Implementing NVC with Jose Flores Jose Flores is a classroom teacher committed to examining and implementing relationship based classroom practices. A classroom where there is no judgment, blame, or punishment for those whose behavior is not supporting our agreed-upon values; instead, there is an intent to identify and address the needs behind the behavior.  Replacing power over others; with power with others. 

Resources:

Student Needs Profile:

https://nvccontent.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/Your+needs+profile.docx.pdf

Dr. William Glasser work: 

https://wglasser.com/about/dr-william-glasser/

Social Emotional Learning: 

https://www.edutopia.org/blog/why-sel-essential-for-students-weissberg-durlak-domitrovich-gullotta


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]]> Jose Flores is a classroom teacher committed to examining and implementing relationship based classroom practices. A classroom where there is no judgment, blame, or punishment for those whose behavior is not supporting our agreed-upon values; instead, there is an intent to identify and address the needs behind the behavior.  Replacing power over others; with power with others. 

Resources:

Student Needs Profile:

https://nvccontent.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/Your+needs+profile.docx.pdf

Dr. William Glasser work: 

https://wglasser.com/about/dr-william-glasser/

Social Emotional Learning: 

https://www.edutopia.org/blog/why-sel-essential-for-students-weissberg-durlak-domitrovich-gullotta


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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8453570 Tue, 04 May 2021 03:00:00 -0700 4660 1 42 full true Friendships Friendships Kyle and I talk about how to maintain friendships, why some friendships drift apart and what we may need and feel when friendships have conflict. When we can drop our expectations of our friends and realize that each friendship is different we can have a friendship that flourishes.  Many times we may have different ideas of what we value when it comes to what a friendship looks like. Come and explore with us in this weeks episode. 

Resources:

1. http://powerfulmind.co/reasons-friends-drift-apart/

2. https://tinybuddha.com/blog/3-things-to-do-when-a-friendship-starts-to-fade/

3. https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/18/smarter-living/how-to-maintain-friends.html

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]]> Kyle and I talk about how to maintain friendships, why some friendships drift apart and what we may need and feel when friendships have conflict. When we can drop our expectations of our friends and realize that each friendship is different we can have a friendship that flourishes.  Many times we may have different ideas of what we value when it comes to what a friendship looks like. Come and explore with us in this weeks episode. 

Resources:

1. http://powerfulmind.co/reasons-friends-drift-apart/

2. https://tinybuddha.com/blog/3-things-to-do-when-a-friendship-starts-to-fade/

3. https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/18/smarter-living/how-to-maintain-friends.html

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8312961 Tue, 20 Apr 2021 03:00:00 -0700 3499 1 41 full false Empathy for Intrusive Thoughts and Memories with Sarah Peyton Empathy for Intrusive Thoughts and Memories with Sarah Peyton Sarah Peyton is a well-known author of her book “Your Resonant Self” and brings a whole different way of healing into the world.  She is also a Certified NVC Trainer. We get the honor to have a discussion with her on our show and give you Living Connected listeners a taste of her amazing knowledge and experiences. 

Resources:

Sarah's Website:

https://sarahpeyton.com/ 

Sarah mentioned: 

1. Allan Schore: http://www.allanschore.com/

2. Iain McGilchrist: https://iainmcgilchrist.com/

3. Mel Sears: https://nvctraining.com/index.php?option=com_k2&view=latest&layout=latest&Itemid=200

4. Lawrence J. Cohen PhD:  https://www.playfulparenting.com/


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]]> Sarah Peyton is a well-known author of her book “Your Resonant Self” and brings a whole different way of healing into the world.  She is also a Certified NVC Trainer. We get the honor to have a discussion with her on our show and give you Living Connected listeners a taste of her amazing knowledge and experiences. 

Resources:

Sarah's Website:

https://sarahpeyton.com/ 

Sarah mentioned: 

1. Allan Schore: http://www.allanschore.com/

2. Iain McGilchrist: https://iainmcgilchrist.com/

3. Mel Sears: https://nvctraining.com/index.php?option=com_k2&view=latest&layout=latest&Itemid=200

4. Lawrence J. Cohen PhD:  https://www.playfulparenting.com/


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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8266637 Tue, 13 Apr 2021 03:00:00 -0700 4468 1 40 full false TV Show - Bridgerton TV Show - Bridgerton Bridgerton Season 1 : Episode 7
20 mins from the end.

Kyle and I get to role-play a pop culture original from Netflix called Bridgerton. Kyle will play the Duke and I will play the role of Daphne. This scene talks about betrayal and honoring agreements. Afterwards we will talk about feelings and needs of each of the characters. Sometimes it can be fun and good practice to integrate NVC with the TV we watch daily. If you haven’t seen Bridgerton, I definitely recommend. And Action!

Resources:

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]]> Bridgerton Season 1 : Episode 7
20 mins from the end.

Kyle and I get to role-play a pop culture original from Netflix called Bridgerton. Kyle will play the Duke and I will play the role of Daphne. This scene talks about betrayal and honoring agreements. Afterwards we will talk about feelings and needs of each of the characters. Sometimes it can be fun and good practice to integrate NVC with the TV we watch daily. If you haven’t seen Bridgerton, I definitely recommend. And Action!

Resources:

CONTACT INFORMATION:

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8261166 Tue, 06 Apr 2021 03:00:00 -0700 2723 1 39 full false Hold No Complaints with Tisse Mallon and Amy Whicker Hold No Complaints with Tisse Mallon and Amy Whicker Tisse Mallon is the founder and co-excecutive director of the Elar institute, a school that teaches the science of connection. 

Amy Whicker is co-excecutive director of the Elar Institute alongside Tisse. Together, they run programs which focus on emotional intelligence, applied neuroscience, and mindfulness in order to bring the community together in ways that build connection and transform the way people treat each other. 

Amy is also the leader of Connection Collaboratory, the community space of the Elar Institute, in which people gather to support and learn from one another. 

Resources:

Tisse Mallon: 
http://elarinstitute.org/

Amy Whicker:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/connectioncollaboratory

Mood Meter App – 99 cents on Apple
Words that liberate : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmPYRgi8VFg&t=8s

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]]> Tisse Mallon is the founder and co-excecutive director of the Elar institute, a school that teaches the science of connection. 

Amy Whicker is co-excecutive director of the Elar Institute alongside Tisse. Together, they run programs which focus on emotional intelligence, applied neuroscience, and mindfulness in order to bring the community together in ways that build connection and transform the way people treat each other. 

Amy is also the leader of Connection Collaboratory, the community space of the Elar Institute, in which people gather to support and learn from one another. 

Resources:

Tisse Mallon: 
http://elarinstitute.org/

Amy Whicker:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/connectioncollaboratory

Mood Meter App – 99 cents on Apple
Words that liberate : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmPYRgi8VFg&t=8s

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Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8197939 Tue, 30 Mar 2021 03:00:00 -0700 4402 1 38 full false Feeling Fully Feeling Fully How many of you find your self not feeling fully after you experienced something intense or maybe a conversation with someone...? What is it that we do instead of feeling fully maybe distract ourselves with something else. When we truly give ourselves permission to feel it truly helps us move through the hard moment and heal from it. Kyle goes through an experience he had and how he felt the experience deeply.  

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]]> How many of you find your self not feeling fully after you experienced something intense or maybe a conversation with someone...? What is it that we do instead of feeling fully maybe distract ourselves with something else. When we truly give ourselves permission to feel it truly helps us move through the hard moment and heal from it. Kyle goes through an experience he had and how he felt the experience deeply.  

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8125701 Tue, 16 Mar 2021 03:00:00 -0700 2864 1 37 full true Compromising Compromising Compromise is a loaded word; it can be a very complicated and complex topic to discuss. A lot of the information I have a said came from compiling information from these three websites I have provided in the description below. Many of us who are not familiar with NVC may see and define compromise differently. I know in my life I have had compromises that I didn’t really have a choice in and had to eventually accept what was dealt to me and find ways to meet needs around this choice I didn’t prefer. 

 What happens when you don’t have a good chunk of time to compromise something…it has to be dealt with quickly…Compromises may need more time. Compromises may not go your way sometimes, and compromises could have ramifications depending on the situation. What does it look like when you have a compromise with someone? 

Resources:

Marshalls Book: Nonviolent Communication: PG 162

Websites References:  

https://www.elitesingles.com/mag/relationship-advice/compromise-in-relationships

https://www.bustle.com/p/7-examples-of-compromising-in-a-relationship-according-to-experts-18669505

https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/compromises-in-a-healthy-relationship/2064738


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]]> Compromise is a loaded word; it can be a very complicated and complex topic to discuss. A lot of the information I have a said came from compiling information from these three websites I have provided in the description below. Many of us who are not familiar with NVC may see and define compromise differently. I know in my life I have had compromises that I didn’t really have a choice in and had to eventually accept what was dealt to me and find ways to meet needs around this choice I didn’t prefer. 

 What happens when you don’t have a good chunk of time to compromise something…it has to be dealt with quickly…Compromises may need more time. Compromises may not go your way sometimes, and compromises could have ramifications depending on the situation. What does it look like when you have a compromise with someone? 

Resources:

Marshalls Book: Nonviolent Communication: PG 162

Websites References:  

https://www.elitesingles.com/mag/relationship-advice/compromise-in-relationships

https://www.bustle.com/p/7-examples-of-compromising-in-a-relationship-according-to-experts-18669505

https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/compromises-in-a-healthy-relationship/2064738


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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8080670 Tue, 09 Mar 2021 03:00:00 -0800 4069 1 36 full true TV Show - Grey's Anatomy TV Show - Grey's Anatomy Grey’s Anatomy Season 17 Episode 4

Kyle and I role play a scene in Grey's and go through feelings and needs and behaviors of each of the characters. This gives us a chance to walk through NVC using a scenario that very well could happen in real life. When we don't have anyone to practice NVC with, we can practice while watching TV shows or the news etc.   

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]]> Grey’s Anatomy Season 17 Episode 4

Kyle and I role play a scene in Grey's and go through feelings and needs and behaviors of each of the characters. This gives us a chance to walk through NVC using a scenario that very well could happen in real life. When we don't have anyone to practice NVC with, we can practice while watching TV shows or the news etc.   

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Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-8058142 Tue, 02 Mar 2021 02:00:00 -0800 2687 1 35 full true Power of Self-Awareness Power of Self-Awareness This episode is going to address the questions that one of our listeners emailed us about. Here is what our Living Connected Listener said:

"How to "keep the tank full" so that the intention to lead with curiosity, care, and empathy can happen more often.  Is that through self-empathy? Is that through outside empathy (i.e. God or others)? Or maybe it is how to tap into the power within (feelings, needs/values?) and keep awareness and empathy flowing.  What is that power exactly? How can I nurture it so I can meet my need to give and be generous more? Self-empathy isn't the same as what is alive in us - just a way to access it?  How does vision tie into what is alive in us - esp. concerning accessing it. How does our meta-narrative/world-view effect what is alive in us?"
   
There are so many external things happening in our life that it can be hard to keep our tank full so that we can show up for others that count on us. We give some our own personal tips on how to do that. Knowing what your love language is to possibly connecting with friends for empathy or to vent can be extremely helpful when trying to keep our tank full. What do you do to keep your tank full?

I hope this inspires some of you who listen to write in with any ideas, questions, topics that you have been exploring lately. We would love to hear from you. 

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]]> This episode is going to address the questions that one of our listeners emailed us about. Here is what our Living Connected Listener said:

"How to "keep the tank full" so that the intention to lead with curiosity, care, and empathy can happen more often.  Is that through self-empathy? Is that through outside empathy (i.e. God or others)? Or maybe it is how to tap into the power within (feelings, needs/values?) and keep awareness and empathy flowing.  What is that power exactly? How can I nurture it so I can meet my need to give and be generous more? Self-empathy isn't the same as what is alive in us - just a way to access it?  How does vision tie into what is alive in us - esp. concerning accessing it. How does our meta-narrative/world-view effect what is alive in us?"
   
There are so many external things happening in our life that it can be hard to keep our tank full so that we can show up for others that count on us. We give some our own personal tips on how to do that. Knowing what your love language is to possibly connecting with friends for empathy or to vent can be extremely helpful when trying to keep our tank full. What do you do to keep your tank full?

I hope this inspires some of you who listen to write in with any ideas, questions, topics that you have been exploring lately. We would love to hear from you. 

CONTACT INFORMATION:

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-7851289 Tue, 16 Feb 2021 02:00:00 -0800 4116 1 34 full true Love Love Love, what an in depth word, there is no way to discuss love in ALL its entirety. We could have so many episodes just on this word alone. Have you ever been in love before? Do you know what it’s like to feel love for someone you care about ? Or are you still a bit confused on what love actually is and what it might feel like. Love can be so different between relationships you have. Love can even look different in different cultures. Perhaps someone isn't ready to love, I know in my situation that was true. Maybe it comes down to loving ourselves first.

Kyle and I explore the word love and possibly it’s actions towards someone and or ourselves. Is love a feeling really or are there other feelings that are a partner to love. Is love a need and or is love a strategy? What do we do in the name of love? What is your experience with love?

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]]> Love, what an in depth word, there is no way to discuss love in ALL its entirety. We could have so many episodes just on this word alone. Have you ever been in love before? Do you know what it’s like to feel love for someone you care about ? Or are you still a bit confused on what love actually is and what it might feel like. Love can be so different between relationships you have. Love can even look different in different cultures. Perhaps someone isn't ready to love, I know in my situation that was true. Maybe it comes down to loving ourselves first.

Kyle and I explore the word love and possibly it’s actions towards someone and or ourselves. Is love a feeling really or are there other feelings that are a partner to love. Is love a need and or is love a strategy? What do we do in the name of love? What is your experience with love?

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-7729705 Tue, 09 Feb 2021 02:00:00 -0800 3600 1 33 full true How to Talk About Sex with Marianne van Dijk (Cup of Empathy) How to Talk About Sex with Marianne van Dijk (Cup of Empathy) CUP OF EMPATHY!!!!

We have a wonderful guest on today’s episode her name is Marianne and she helps people to take care of themselves while being in relationships, in particular love relationships. She bases herself on NVC mostly, and currently has the biggest YouTube channel worldwide about this topic. 

 We get to explore ways to communicate using NVC when we are in the bedroom with our partner. Marianne gives may tips on what that might sound like when it comes to sex in or outside the bedroom.  How do we talk about sex? How do we say things when we are interested in trying something new out? How do you express your discomfort about something you have tried and don’t like? How do you tell someone you have an STI? How do we make talking about sex less taboo? All of these questions are so important and I hope this episode helps you with some of them. 

Resources:

Marianne’s Information: 

Website: 

https://cupofempathy.com/

YouTube: 

https://www.youtube.com/c/CupofEmpathy/featured



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]]> CUP OF EMPATHY!!!!

We have a wonderful guest on today’s episode her name is Marianne and she helps people to take care of themselves while being in relationships, in particular love relationships. She bases herself on NVC mostly, and currently has the biggest YouTube channel worldwide about this topic. 

 We get to explore ways to communicate using NVC when we are in the bedroom with our partner. Marianne gives may tips on what that might sound like when it comes to sex in or outside the bedroom.  How do we talk about sex? How do we say things when we are interested in trying something new out? How do you express your discomfort about something you have tried and don’t like? How do you tell someone you have an STI? How do we make talking about sex less taboo? All of these questions are so important and I hope this episode helps you with some of them. 

Resources:

Marianne’s Information: 

Website: 

https://cupofempathy.com/

YouTube: 

https://www.youtube.com/c/CupofEmpathy/featured



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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-7625449 Tue, 02 Feb 2021 03:00:00 -0800 5846 1 32 full true Wild Things with Suzanne Wild Things with Suzanne Suzanne worked as a pediatric occupational therapist after expressing herself as a recreational therapy assistant, stagehand puppeteer and perennial college student.

As an occupational therapist, she helped children develop skills for daily life; with the intent of teaching them to become their own best advocate.

And with practicing NVC is growing into a person that is capable of doing this for herself.  She hopes you find this podcast conversation curious and enjoyable.

We use the movie and the book “Where the wild things are” as a base of our conversation because the book demonstrates a lot of emotions that a child can have and behaviors that can happen when children don’t know how to express what they want and need. Anger is a part of our big emotions and children express anger differently. We often time have many other feelings and needs underneath our anger. As Children are growing up they develop ways to communicate what their needs are and sometimes it’s through anger. Children are also learning how to self-regulate when these big emotions happen.  Here we go.   

Resources:
Cup of Empathy – NVC Chart - https://youtu.be/fQzDnlizQjY

Books:

1) Rebecca Patterson - “My No No No Day” -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WaYko8CS6jE

2) Carol Tavris – “Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion”

3) Harriet lerner – “Dance of Anger”

4) Maurice Sendak - "Where the Wild Things Are"

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]]> Suzanne worked as a pediatric occupational therapist after expressing herself as a recreational therapy assistant, stagehand puppeteer and perennial college student.

As an occupational therapist, she helped children develop skills for daily life; with the intent of teaching them to become their own best advocate.

And with practicing NVC is growing into a person that is capable of doing this for herself.  She hopes you find this podcast conversation curious and enjoyable.

We use the movie and the book “Where the wild things are” as a base of our conversation because the book demonstrates a lot of emotions that a child can have and behaviors that can happen when children don’t know how to express what they want and need. Anger is a part of our big emotions and children express anger differently. We often time have many other feelings and needs underneath our anger. As Children are growing up they develop ways to communicate what their needs are and sometimes it’s through anger. Children are also learning how to self-regulate when these big emotions happen.  Here we go.   

Resources:
Cup of Empathy – NVC Chart - https://youtu.be/fQzDnlizQjY

Books:

1) Rebecca Patterson - “My No No No Day” -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WaYko8CS6jE

2) Carol Tavris – “Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion”

3) Harriet lerner – “Dance of Anger”

4) Maurice Sendak - "Where the Wild Things Are"

CONTACT INFORMATION:

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-7399546 Tue, 26 Jan 2021 02:00:00 -0800 4448 1 31 full true Comparing Comparing We are going to be talking about comparing and what it looks like in our society. When we find ourselves comparing a lot of times it comes with suffering. Other times, comparing can help inspire us and move us towards a more positive outlook. There are many feelings and needs that arise in us when we do either the positive way of comparing or the way that doesn’t serve us. We go into what some of those feelings and needs are and what we can do to be more aware of this way of thinking. 

In the beginning of check in a told a story of an experience I had, and being so riled up, I didn’t get a chance to say, people are in dyer times right now and people are doing what they need to do to survive. Sometimes we do things we wouldn’t normally do and in this case, perhaps it was to feed her children. There can be some compassion in this situation.  

 Resources:
 Podcast:

 Brené Brown, March 26th – Comparative Suffering: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unlocking-us-with-bren%C3%A9-brown/id1494350511?i=1000469683601

 Websites: 

https://www.envisionwellness.co/comparative-suffering-bad-for-you-bad-for-them/

https://center-chicagocbm.com/blog/2020/4/20/comparative-suffering-is-dangerous



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]]> We are going to be talking about comparing and what it looks like in our society. When we find ourselves comparing a lot of times it comes with suffering. Other times, comparing can help inspire us and move us towards a more positive outlook. There are many feelings and needs that arise in us when we do either the positive way of comparing or the way that doesn’t serve us. We go into what some of those feelings and needs are and what we can do to be more aware of this way of thinking. 

In the beginning of check in a told a story of an experience I had, and being so riled up, I didn’t get a chance to say, people are in dyer times right now and people are doing what they need to do to survive. Sometimes we do things we wouldn’t normally do and in this case, perhaps it was to feed her children. There can be some compassion in this situation.  

 Resources:
 Podcast:

 Brené Brown, March 26th – Comparative Suffering: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unlocking-us-with-bren%C3%A9-brown/id1494350511?i=1000469683601

 Websites: 

https://www.envisionwellness.co/comparative-suffering-bad-for-you-bad-for-them/

https://center-chicagocbm.com/blog/2020/4/20/comparative-suffering-is-dangerous



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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-7214797 Tue, 19 Jan 2021 02:00:00 -0800 3116 1 30 full false Manifesting Needs in 2021 Manifesting Needs in 2021 2021 HERE WE COME!!

We are in a new year and what this year may bring I have no idea. Everything seems so uncertain and has been for a long while now. We are going to talk about what needs we want to manifest for this new year. And as the world is changing our needs just might change too. When we want to manifest something in our life we gotta believe it deep down. We gotta believe that our need already exists. If we are vibrating at a lower level then manifesting what we want may not happen. Let us bring in the New Year with believing in ourselves and believing what we want to the core and drop all the stories that come with so that we can vibrate at a higher frequency.

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]]> 2021 HERE WE COME!!

We are in a new year and what this year may bring I have no idea. Everything seems so uncertain and has been for a long while now. We are going to talk about what needs we want to manifest for this new year. And as the world is changing our needs just might change too. When we want to manifest something in our life we gotta believe it deep down. We gotta believe that our need already exists. If we are vibrating at a lower level then manifesting what we want may not happen. Let us bring in the New Year with believing in ourselves and believing what we want to the core and drop all the stories that come with so that we can vibrate at a higher frequency.

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-7214554 Tue, 12 Jan 2021 02:00:00 -0800 2905 1 29 full true Classroom Transformed with Morris H Ervin, Jr. Classroom Transformed with Morris H Ervin, Jr. HAPPY New Year Everyone!!! Here we are in 2021!

Morris H Ervin, Jr. is an educator, entertainer, motivational speaker, and Youth Development Professional committed to helping the youth, families, communities, and institutions “turn fear into strength, and pain into passion.” Morris is the founder of Mansa Consulting and he has provided assemblies, workshops, mentoring programs, and leadership camps/retreats to thousands of students in over a dozen school districts across the country. The core of Morris’s philosophy is deeply rooted in Social Emotional Learning, Contemplative Education, and Restorative Practices. 

Morris has spread his excitement, optimism, and passion to schools, churches, community centers, juvenile detention camps, colleges, and universities from the east to the west coast. Mansa Consulting has partnered with organizations such as FAMLI INC, Peace Over Violence, Making A Difference Consulting, and The California Conference for Equality and Justice providing Teen Summits that shape and empower our future leaders of tomorrow. 

Resources:

Cup of Empathy: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2AK8ipP18I0alKXZXJgzbQ


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]]> HAPPY New Year Everyone!!! Here we are in 2021!

Morris H Ervin, Jr. is an educator, entertainer, motivational speaker, and Youth Development Professional committed to helping the youth, families, communities, and institutions “turn fear into strength, and pain into passion.” Morris is the founder of Mansa Consulting and he has provided assemblies, workshops, mentoring programs, and leadership camps/retreats to thousands of students in over a dozen school districts across the country. The core of Morris’s philosophy is deeply rooted in Social Emotional Learning, Contemplative Education, and Restorative Practices. 

Morris has spread his excitement, optimism, and passion to schools, churches, community centers, juvenile detention camps, colleges, and universities from the east to the west coast. Mansa Consulting has partnered with organizations such as FAMLI INC, Peace Over Violence, Making A Difference Consulting, and The California Conference for Equality and Justice providing Teen Summits that shape and empower our future leaders of tomorrow. 

Resources:

Cup of Empathy: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2AK8ipP18I0alKXZXJgzbQ


CONTACT INFORMATION:

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-7105624 Tue, 05 Jan 2021 00:00:00 -0800 3740 1 28 full true Hearing a NO Hearing a NO MERRY CHRISTMAS!! See you next year! Returning Jan 5th.

Hearing a NO after a request you have asked can be just as hard as telling someone a no. There are some things you may want to check when you hear a NO from someone:

1)   Notice the stories we are telling ourselves when we hear the no.

2)   Am I attached to the strategy to get this need met?

3)   Did you pause before responding to the NO

4)   Am I willing to open a dialog with this person and get curious on why, on what are they saying yes too and is there an outcome that can work for the both of us. 

5)   Am I hanging on to this one person to meet my needs. Or is there someone else who can help me fulfill the needs I have. 

When someone asks a request of you, you may need to check in with yourself after hearing this request so you can make a decision that best fulfills you. 

1)   can I do this request with ease?

2)   Do I have the capacity for this? 

3)   What is it that I want because I want to say yes coming from a space of unconditional not from a space with obligations. 

When you need to say NO, you do not feel guilty. You then acknowledge that you are saying YES to meeting your own needs in some way. For me, this is a way of self-care, getting attune with what your body and mind may need in that moment.

 Resources:

 https://thefearlessheart.org/saying-no-without-saying-no/

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]]> MERRY CHRISTMAS!! See you next year! Returning Jan 5th.

Hearing a NO after a request you have asked can be just as hard as telling someone a no. There are some things you may want to check when you hear a NO from someone:

1)   Notice the stories we are telling ourselves when we hear the no.

2)   Am I attached to the strategy to get this need met?

3)   Did you pause before responding to the NO

4)   Am I willing to open a dialog with this person and get curious on why, on what are they saying yes too and is there an outcome that can work for the both of us. 

5)   Am I hanging on to this one person to meet my needs. Or is there someone else who can help me fulfill the needs I have. 

When someone asks a request of you, you may need to check in with yourself after hearing this request so you can make a decision that best fulfills you. 

1)   can I do this request with ease?

2)   Do I have the capacity for this? 

3)   What is it that I want because I want to say yes coming from a space of unconditional not from a space with obligations. 

When you need to say NO, you do not feel guilty. You then acknowledge that you are saying YES to meeting your own needs in some way. For me, this is a way of self-care, getting attune with what your body and mind may need in that moment.

 Resources:

 https://thefearlessheart.org/saying-no-without-saying-no/

CONTACT INFORMATION:

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-6829345 Tue, 22 Dec 2020 02:00:00 -0800 3277 1 27 full true Spiritual NVC with Karen Starz Spiritual NVC with Karen Starz Karen Starz takes us through what it is like to work in spiritual communities using NVC.
Karen is a CNVC Certified Trainer, she is a consultant, coach, speaker, and facilitator. Her background spans many areas, from interpersonal relationships to businesses and non-profit organizations.
Her approach to Nonviolent Communication is based on embodying the whole of nonviolent consciousness to create an automatic, empathic, somatic response, and awareness.

Resources:

Book: Practical Spirituality: The Spiritual Basis of Nonviolent Communication By: Marshall Rosenberg

Workshop Information: https://karenstarz.com/      &      https://houstonnvc.org/

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
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]]> Karen Starz takes us through what it is like to work in spiritual communities using NVC.
Karen is a CNVC Certified Trainer, she is a consultant, coach, speaker, and facilitator. Her background spans many areas, from interpersonal relationships to businesses and non-profit organizations.
Her approach to Nonviolent Communication is based on embodying the whole of nonviolent consciousness to create an automatic, empathic, somatic response, and awareness.

Resources:

Book: Practical Spirituality: The Spiritual Basis of Nonviolent Communication By: Marshall Rosenberg

Workshop Information: https://karenstarz.com/      &      https://houstonnvc.org/

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-6764140 Tue, 08 Dec 2020 20:00:00 -0800 4085 1 26 full true Inner Critic: Self-Talk into Self-Care with Denise Torres Inner Critic: Self-Talk into Self-Care with Denise Torres There is a difference between our inner critic and self - judgments that I wasn't aware of. We take you through this exploration with compassion. There are ways to quiet our inner critic and shift our thinking when our inner critic is hard at work. How much of our inner critic do we believe? Do you think it is true? What can we say differently that would be more gentle to our heart?

If I were to say to myself, "I am the worst friend that has ever lived! I have done this and this, I am horrible" And I believe it to my core and live with this day by day... then that is my inner critic shaming me for all the awful things that I am. We want to get out of that way of thinking and find ways that aren't gonna keep you suffering. We want to love ourselves unconditionally and to do that we need tools to support that journey. I hope there are a couple of take aways for you that you can implement into your daily life.   

Resources:

https://ideas.ted.com/how-to-stand-up-to-your-inner-critic/

Book: Games People Play – by Eric Berne

Hand model of the brain - http://drickerich.blogspot.com/2018/12/the-hand-model-of-brain.html

 
Workshop Information: karenstarz.com


Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> There is a difference between our inner critic and self - judgments that I wasn't aware of. We take you through this exploration with compassion. There are ways to quiet our inner critic and shift our thinking when our inner critic is hard at work. How much of our inner critic do we believe? Do you think it is true? What can we say differently that would be more gentle to our heart?

If I were to say to myself, "I am the worst friend that has ever lived! I have done this and this, I am horrible" And I believe it to my core and live with this day by day... then that is my inner critic shaming me for all the awful things that I am. We want to get out of that way of thinking and find ways that aren't gonna keep you suffering. We want to love ourselves unconditionally and to do that we need tools to support that journey. I hope there are a couple of take aways for you that you can implement into your daily life.   

Resources:

https://ideas.ted.com/how-to-stand-up-to-your-inner-critic/

Book: Games People Play – by Eric Berne

Hand model of the brain - http://drickerich.blogspot.com/2018/12/the-hand-model-of-brain.html

 
Workshop Information: karenstarz.com


Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-6655993 Wed, 02 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0800 4693 1 25 full true Giving Appreciation Giving Appreciation HAPPY THANKSGIVING WEEK! 
In all the research I have done over the years, appreciation can really lift the spirits of human beings. A lot of times in our relationships we forget to give appreciate to our partner. We stop recognizing and acknowledging the good things and focus on the things that didn’t go right. Jonh Gottman says that relationships thrive when the ratio of positive to negative interactions is 5:1. When I am appreciated for something I feel warm and fuzzy inside and my need to be seen is deeply felt. It can be hard to tell someone how much gratitude you have for them, affirmations may not be your strong suit and that is okay. It’s a practice and starting small can really help. Doing this can really create a strong, stable and happy relationship between you and your partner.  

 NVC appreciation can look different than what we are use to. Kyle and I explore what giving and receiving appreciation looks like. 

Our society has taught us a certain way to give thanks that can sometimes be disconnecting. We want to know how gratitude has affected us on a deeper level. 

 Resources:

 Marshall’s video on Expressing and receiving gratitude: https://youtu.be/DskpPwkE_yw

1)  http://www.newenglandnvc.org/2011/12/gratitude/

2)  https://www.bendmemorialclinic.com/bmc-health-hub/health-information/building-resilience-to-protect-your-mental-health/

3)  https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-magic-relationship-ratio-according-science/

Kyle's Information:

Workshop: Connectingcom.com
Instagram: Connecting Communication  


Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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]]> HAPPY THANKSGIVING WEEK! 
In all the research I have done over the years, appreciation can really lift the spirits of human beings. A lot of times in our relationships we forget to give appreciate to our partner. We stop recognizing and acknowledging the good things and focus on the things that didn’t go right. Jonh Gottman says that relationships thrive when the ratio of positive to negative interactions is 5:1. When I am appreciated for something I feel warm and fuzzy inside and my need to be seen is deeply felt. It can be hard to tell someone how much gratitude you have for them, affirmations may not be your strong suit and that is okay. It’s a practice and starting small can really help. Doing this can really create a strong, stable and happy relationship between you and your partner.  

 NVC appreciation can look different than what we are use to. Kyle and I explore what giving and receiving appreciation looks like. 

Our society has taught us a certain way to give thanks that can sometimes be disconnecting. We want to know how gratitude has affected us on a deeper level. 

 Resources:

 Marshall’s video on Expressing and receiving gratitude: https://youtu.be/DskpPwkE_yw

1)  http://www.newenglandnvc.org/2011/12/gratitude/

2)  https://www.bendmemorialclinic.com/bmc-health-hub/health-information/building-resilience-to-protect-your-mental-health/

3)  https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-magic-relationship-ratio-according-science/

Kyle's Information:

Workshop: Connectingcom.com
Instagram: Connecting Communication  


Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-6373777 Tue, 24 Nov 2020 02:00:00 -0800 2970 1 24 full true Beneficial Regret with Eric Huang Beneficial Regret with Eric Huang What is beneficial regret? Is it something that has an outcome that you preferred and you are still left with feeling badly. Is Beneficial regret when you have done something that you didn’t like and at the same time You don’t put your self down, in shame or blame for what you did. 

Does regret benefit you because you have found a way to acknowledge unmet needs? 

Regret opens the door into reflection and observation to what our needs are and what we may be feeling without blaming and shaming ourselves.  

Thich Nhat Hanh:

"When we look deeply into the relative nature of time, we see that the past has created the present. If we seize the present moment with mindfulness, we are in touch with the past. We can actually go back to the past, while staying firmly rooted in the present moment, and heal the past." 

Resources:

 https://streetgiraffes.com/beneficial-regret/?fbclid=IwAR05wftCPYDK1rXbthH5sK4JlKf8mzSA_LWSOyGvAGd7x50Ex8QVV-jRfJ0

Book:

Nonviolent Communication – By Marshall Rosenberg,     Pg. 133-136


NVC – Festival info: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> What is beneficial regret? Is it something that has an outcome that you preferred and you are still left with feeling badly. Is Beneficial regret when you have done something that you didn’t like and at the same time You don’t put your self down, in shame or blame for what you did. 

Does regret benefit you because you have found a way to acknowledge unmet needs? 

Regret opens the door into reflection and observation to what our needs are and what we may be feeling without blaming and shaming ourselves.  

Thich Nhat Hanh:

"When we look deeply into the relative nature of time, we see that the past has created the present. If we seize the present moment with mindfulness, we are in touch with the past. We can actually go back to the past, while staying firmly rooted in the present moment, and heal the past." 

Resources:

 https://streetgiraffes.com/beneficial-regret/?fbclid=IwAR05wftCPYDK1rXbthH5sK4JlKf8mzSA_LWSOyGvAGd7x50Ex8QVV-jRfJ0

Book:

Nonviolent Communication – By Marshall Rosenberg,     Pg. 133-136


NVC – Festival info: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LivingConnectedNVC/

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-6333553 Tue, 17 Nov 2020 02:00:00 -0800 3435 1 23 full true Meeting Violence with Empathy: A Pathway to Reduce Harm with Katie Tomer Meeting Violence with Empathy: A Pathway to Reduce Harm with Katie Tomer There is a lot of violence going on in the world right now. There is a way to see through the violence with the lens of empathy. We invite you to join us in exploring ways to reduce violence by offering deep listening and acknowledgement. This can be very powerful and a transforming factor in the path of people’s lives from all backgrounds and walks of life. We have a special guest today who will be my co-host as we dig into this topic. Her name is Katie Tomer and she has used NVC in prison settings as well as in higher education settings pertaining to racism and discrimination. Her past work includes community engaged research and policy reform with the Justice Policy Program, as well as taking action towards shifting institutional racism with the Intercultural Diversity Advisory Council in Maine. Here we go!

Resources:

 13TH | FULL FEATURE | Netflix:

https://youtu.be/krfcq5pF8u8

 Podcast recommendation: 

 1619 – it’s on Apple too – (I totally said 1617 in the podcast lol oops!)

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/01/23/podcasts/1619-podcast.html

 Book: 

How to be an Antiracist, By: Ibram X. Kendi


Workshop: 

Changing self-talk into Self-Care:

https://www.compassionatecenter.org/classes/changing-self-talk-into-self-care-nov5

**NVC – Festival info**: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  


Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Living-Connected-NVC-100595818434771

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]]> There is a lot of violence going on in the world right now. There is a way to see through the violence with the lens of empathy. We invite you to join us in exploring ways to reduce violence by offering deep listening and acknowledgement. This can be very powerful and a transforming factor in the path of people’s lives from all backgrounds and walks of life. We have a special guest today who will be my co-host as we dig into this topic. Her name is Katie Tomer and she has used NVC in prison settings as well as in higher education settings pertaining to racism and discrimination. Her past work includes community engaged research and policy reform with the Justice Policy Program, as well as taking action towards shifting institutional racism with the Intercultural Diversity Advisory Council in Maine. Here we go!

Resources:

 13TH | FULL FEATURE | Netflix:

https://youtu.be/krfcq5pF8u8

 Podcast recommendation: 

 1619 – it’s on Apple too – (I totally said 1617 in the podcast lol oops!)

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/01/23/podcasts/1619-podcast.html

 Book: 

How to be an Antiracist, By: Ibram X. Kendi


Workshop: 

Changing self-talk into Self-Care:

https://www.compassionatecenter.org/classes/changing-self-talk-into-self-care-nov5

**NVC – Festival info**: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  


Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-6214234 Tue, 10 Nov 2020 02:00:00 -0800 3136 1 22 full false Slow Down & Reflect Slow Down & Reflect Self-Reflection is important when doing our inner work. Being willing to be open to our patterns and improving on being better can only help us in the long run. Sometimes it is hard to see the behavioral patterns we have and when brought to our attention we don’t want to see it. Slowing down our conversations to incorporate some reflection can only benefit us. And it will bring more awareness to what is going on in the inside of us and perhaps more empathy to the person we are talking to. A friend once told me, No correction without reflection. If we don’t try to self-reflect we will be stuck in the same cycle of patterns or coping skills that don’t serve us. We will be discussing some different ways that you could self-reflect on your own and I highly recommend journaling as a tool when digging into the deeper self. I hope you enjoy this episode      

Resources:

https://medium.com/the-year-of-the-looking-glass/5-hard-questions-to-ask-yourself-during-a-conflict-f4a91bab347a

BayNVC - https://baynvc.org/four-questions/

 https://thoughtcatalog.com/howie-reith/2016/02/20-questions-that-reflect-how-healthy-your-relationship-truly-is/

Podcast: 

Relationship Alive # 69 & #90 – with Hedy Schleifer

Book: 

Untamed 
By: Glennon Doyle


Workshop: 

Changing self-talk into Self-Care:

https://www.compassionatecenter.org/classes/changing-self-talk-into-self-care-nov5

**NVC – Festival info**: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  


Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Living-Connected-NVC-100595818434771

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]]> Self-Reflection is important when doing our inner work. Being willing to be open to our patterns and improving on being better can only help us in the long run. Sometimes it is hard to see the behavioral patterns we have and when brought to our attention we don’t want to see it. Slowing down our conversations to incorporate some reflection can only benefit us. And it will bring more awareness to what is going on in the inside of us and perhaps more empathy to the person we are talking to. A friend once told me, No correction without reflection. If we don’t try to self-reflect we will be stuck in the same cycle of patterns or coping skills that don’t serve us. We will be discussing some different ways that you could self-reflect on your own and I highly recommend journaling as a tool when digging into the deeper self. I hope you enjoy this episode      

Resources:

https://medium.com/the-year-of-the-looking-glass/5-hard-questions-to-ask-yourself-during-a-conflict-f4a91bab347a

BayNVC - https://baynvc.org/four-questions/

 https://thoughtcatalog.com/howie-reith/2016/02/20-questions-that-reflect-how-healthy-your-relationship-truly-is/

Podcast: 

Relationship Alive # 69 & #90 – with Hedy Schleifer

Book: 

Untamed 
By: Glennon Doyle


Workshop: 

Changing self-talk into Self-Care:

https://www.compassionatecenter.org/classes/changing-self-talk-into-self-care-nov5

**NVC – Festival info**: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  


Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-6130318 Tue, 03 Nov 2020 02:00:00 -0800 2782 1 21 full true Trust Trust Trust is a big deal when dealing with relationships. Romantic, friend, work, school relations build on trust. Trust builds in small and big ways for people. Trust can also be broken so fast. Sometimes we don’t even know it was trust that was broken to begin with. That is why there is resentment or anger or withdrawal. We all want a sense of safety and if trust is broken how do we repair or rebuild that sense of safety back so that we can trust fully again. Not only do we have trust with others we have trust in ourselves. Trusting our knowing, our intuition, trust what is really true in our hearts. Self-trust is a hard sometimes. Connecting with what is alive in us using feelings and needs can help our inner trust. 

 Workshop: 

Changing self-talk into Self-Care:

https://www.compassionatecenter.org/classes/changing-self-talk-into-self-care-nov5

 
Resources:

 SuperSoul: Brene Brown

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=333201494323906

 Red Table Talk: Brene Brown Life Changing Lessons:

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1413137392209660

 Book: The 5 Love Languages:

https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X



**NVC – Festival info**: 

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]]> Trust is a big deal when dealing with relationships. Romantic, friend, work, school relations build on trust. Trust builds in small and big ways for people. Trust can also be broken so fast. Sometimes we don’t even know it was trust that was broken to begin with. That is why there is resentment or anger or withdrawal. We all want a sense of safety and if trust is broken how do we repair or rebuild that sense of safety back so that we can trust fully again. Not only do we have trust with others we have trust in ourselves. Trusting our knowing, our intuition, trust what is really true in our hearts. Self-trust is a hard sometimes. Connecting with what is alive in us using feelings and needs can help our inner trust. 

 Workshop: 

Changing self-talk into Self-Care:

https://www.compassionatecenter.org/classes/changing-self-talk-into-self-care-nov5

 
Resources:

 SuperSoul: Brene Brown

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=333201494323906

 Red Table Talk: Brene Brown Life Changing Lessons:

https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1413137392209660

 Book: The 5 Love Languages:

https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X



**NVC – Festival info**: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  


Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Living-Connected-NVC-100595818434771

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-6023689 Tue, 27 Oct 2020 02:00:00 -0700 3227 1 20 full true NVC - Live in Action NVC - Live in Action When we debriefed after the episode with Eric on acknowledging impact, Eric brought up a concern he had with Kyle and we had the recording from the zoom call. Kyle and I will replay Eric’s concern and discuss what happen. We will also talk about how we were feeling in the moment it happened. Living connected listeners you get to witness an example of how NVC could be used in a friendly/business type situation. It was a learning experience for us and I hope it will be for you too.   

**NVC – Festival info**: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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]]> When we debriefed after the episode with Eric on acknowledging impact, Eric brought up a concern he had with Kyle and we had the recording from the zoom call. Kyle and I will replay Eric’s concern and discuss what happen. We will also talk about how we were feeling in the moment it happened. Living connected listeners you get to witness an example of how NVC could be used in a friendly/business type situation. It was a learning experience for us and I hope it will be for you too.   

**NVC – Festival info**: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Living-Connected-NVC-100595818434771

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-5940193 Tue, 20 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2843 1 19 full true Blame - You Because You Blame - You Because You Blame can be damaging to our inner soul and to the people around us. Blaming ourselves can lead us down a rabbit whole that can be hard to get out. Giving ourselves grace and compassion instead helps feed our growth mind-set. At the same time, blame can actually be a helpful strategy to get us out of an abusive situation. Blame can bring an awareness that we don’t have our needs met and blame can encourage  our understanding that this relationship is not supporting my well-being. Within blame we can find feelings and needs that are not being met and then find ways to talk to ourselves and others differently.   

 Resources:

1) https://baynvc.org/dont-believe-everything-you-think/

2) https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/pdf_files/healing_blame_kbryson.pdf

3) Polyvagal Theory: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27FSiBqEDUs

4) Polyvagal Diagram: https://themovementparadigm.com/how-to-map-your-own-nervous-sytem-the-polyvagal-theory/


**NVC – Festival info**: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Living-Connected-NVC-100595818434771

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]]> Blame can be damaging to our inner soul and to the people around us. Blaming ourselves can lead us down a rabbit whole that can be hard to get out. Giving ourselves grace and compassion instead helps feed our growth mind-set. At the same time, blame can actually be a helpful strategy to get us out of an abusive situation. Blame can bring an awareness that we don’t have our needs met and blame can encourage  our understanding that this relationship is not supporting my well-being. Within blame we can find feelings and needs that are not being met and then find ways to talk to ourselves and others differently.   

 Resources:

1) https://baynvc.org/dont-believe-everything-you-think/

2) https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/pdf_files/healing_blame_kbryson.pdf

3) Polyvagal Theory: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27FSiBqEDUs

4) Polyvagal Diagram: https://themovementparadigm.com/how-to-map-your-own-nervous-sytem-the-polyvagal-theory/


**NVC – Festival info**: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-5826511 Tue, 13 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2887 1 18 full true NVC in the Prison with Bryn Hazell NVC in the Prison with Bryn Hazell Bryn Hazell joins us today as a special guest on Living Connected. She is our NVC Leader here in Bend Oregon and continues to lead our NVC practice group over Zoom. Bryn has been practicing NVC over 20 yrs. She has had the honor of seeing Marshall live and has been to many NVC trainings. Before the pandemic Bryn had been working in a male prison and holding a NVC program for the inmates. We are excited to share this moment with you and learn more about Bryn’s experiences in the Prison environment.

Resources: https://www.compassionatecenter.org/

NVC – Festival info: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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]]> Bryn Hazell joins us today as a special guest on Living Connected. She is our NVC Leader here in Bend Oregon and continues to lead our NVC practice group over Zoom. Bryn has been practicing NVC over 20 yrs. She has had the honor of seeing Marshall live and has been to many NVC trainings. Before the pandemic Bryn had been working in a male prison and holding a NVC program for the inmates. We are excited to share this moment with you and learn more about Bryn’s experiences in the Prison environment.

Resources: https://www.compassionatecenter.org/

NVC – Festival info: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Living-Connected-NVC-100595818434771

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-5633110 Tue, 06 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2979 1 17 full false Acknowledging Impact with Eric Huang Acknowledging Impact with Eric Huang Our society influences how we see the world and sometimes what we say or do can be received differently than intended. Negative impact can happen to anyone in all sorts of situations. How do we respond, or mend if we have impacted someone negatively? Is there a way to build trust back and communicate effectively? Kyle and I role-play a situation that demonstrates acknowledging impact. Eric is our special guest who will help guide us through this interactive piece of this episode.

Eric Huang attended a NVC International Intensive Training thinking he knew everything about NVC after reading 1/3 of the book and watching one Marshall video 3 times.   By the end of the 9 day residential training he knew nothing.  Today, the 5 seconds after thinking he knows something, the universe reminds him he still knows nothing.  Sigh.

Eric is a Licensed Professional Civil Engineer in the State of California, earned an M.S. in Civil and Environmental Engineering, has an MBA, and has worked in Silicon Valley in High Tech Marketing for 20 years on something called USB.

Resources: Acknowledging Impact websites

 http://www.mayenoconsulting.com/wordpress/intent-and-impact-across-difference-10-tips/

 https://www.kgrierson.com/uncategorized/impact-vs-intent-suck-apologies/

 https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/psysociety/e2809cbut-i-didne28099t-mean-ite2809d-why-ite28099s-so-hard-to-prioritize-impacts-over-intents/

Eric’s Resources: NVC Day 1

NVC – Festival info: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> Our society influences how we see the world and sometimes what we say or do can be received differently than intended. Negative impact can happen to anyone in all sorts of situations. How do we respond, or mend if we have impacted someone negatively? Is there a way to build trust back and communicate effectively? Kyle and I role-play a situation that demonstrates acknowledging impact. Eric is our special guest who will help guide us through this interactive piece of this episode.

Eric Huang attended a NVC International Intensive Training thinking he knew everything about NVC after reading 1/3 of the book and watching one Marshall video 3 times.   By the end of the 9 day residential training he knew nothing.  Today, the 5 seconds after thinking he knows something, the universe reminds him he still knows nothing.  Sigh.

Eric is a Licensed Professional Civil Engineer in the State of California, earned an M.S. in Civil and Environmental Engineering, has an MBA, and has worked in Silicon Valley in High Tech Marketing for 20 years on something called USB.

Resources: Acknowledging Impact websites

 http://www.mayenoconsulting.com/wordpress/intent-and-impact-across-difference-10-tips/

 https://www.kgrierson.com/uncategorized/impact-vs-intent-suck-apologies/

 https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/psysociety/e2809cbut-i-didne28099t-mean-ite2809d-why-ite28099s-so-hard-to-prioritize-impacts-over-intents/

Eric’s Resources: NVC Day 1

NVC – Festival info: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-5609830 Tue, 29 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 3689 1 16 full true Relationship with Anger Relationship with Anger I can’t begin to tell you how much there is to the emotion Anger. We all have a relationship with anger whether it is suppressed or very much alive.  I can tell you right now that we won’t be able to cover all of it. Anger is an unpleasant feeling that a lot of us see as a negative emotion because it can be harmful to ourselves or others in a emotional or physical way. Kyle and I want to bring more awareness to this feeling and normalize anger because anger is okay to feel. When we use this energy to put into something useful or constructive anger can bring us closer together.  

Resources: 

Podcast: Relationship Alive # 12, 13 & 21

NVC – Festival info: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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]]> I can’t begin to tell you how much there is to the emotion Anger. We all have a relationship with anger whether it is suppressed or very much alive.  I can tell you right now that we won’t be able to cover all of it. Anger is an unpleasant feeling that a lot of us see as a negative emotion because it can be harmful to ourselves or others in a emotional or physical way. Kyle and I want to bring more awareness to this feeling and normalize anger because anger is okay to feel. When we use this energy to put into something useful or constructive anger can bring us closer together.  

Resources: 

Podcast: Relationship Alive # 12, 13 & 21

NVC – Festival info: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Living-Connected-NVC-100595818434771

Website: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1153175
 
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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-5537656 Tue, 22 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2380 1 15 full true Deep Listening in Hard Conversations Deep Listening in Hard Conversations Do you need some help on how to listen in a deeper meaningful way when talking about hard conversations? Listening is so very hard. And the way our society has learned to listen doesn’t help people feel heard. When we pause, this allows for us to find what is alive in us (our feelings and needs) and it allows the other person to empty all that is alive inside of them. This episode has many tips and tricks for you, so you can practice with the next person you are having a hard conversation with.

Resources:
Podcast: A Bit of Optimism with Simon Sinek : Episode 11 : “Extreme Listening with Deeyah Khan

NVC – Festival info:
https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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]]> Do you need some help on how to listen in a deeper meaningful way when talking about hard conversations? Listening is so very hard. And the way our society has learned to listen doesn’t help people feel heard. When we pause, this allows for us to find what is alive in us (our feelings and needs) and it allows the other person to empty all that is alive inside of them. This episode has many tips and tricks for you, so you can practice with the next person you are having a hard conversation with.

Resources:
Podcast: A Bit of Optimism with Simon Sinek : Episode 11 : “Extreme Listening with Deeyah Khan

NVC – Festival info:
https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Living-Connected-NVC-100595818434771

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-5426404 Tue, 15 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2680 1 14 full true NVC, Race and Power with Kristen Sawyer NVC, Race and Power with Kristen Sawyer We dive in with Kristen to talk about her experiences with race and how we can be mindful of our own racism. Being accountable for what we say to people of color and how impactful it can be. How do you restore and fix what you said to this person. How can we be better for the future. We all need to be apart of this change that we want to see in the world. NVC might be able to shine some light on how to move through this tough time with people.

NVC – Festival info:
https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> We dive in with Kristen to talk about her experiences with race and how we can be mindful of our own racism. Being accountable for what we say to people of color and how impactful it can be. How do you restore and fix what you said to this person. How can we be better for the future. We all need to be apart of this change that we want to see in the world. NVC might be able to shine some light on how to move through this tough time with people.

NVC – Festival info:
https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/Living-Connected-NVC-100595818434771

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-5323696 Tue, 08 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 4135 1 13 full true Needs VS Strategies Needs VS Strategies Description: Needs VS Strategies is a Key Distinction in NVC. All of the behaviors we do are attempts to meet our needs. We have strategies that meet those needs. Sometimes our strategies don't necessarily work and disconnect us from the other person or ourselves. Kyle and I explore how this concept works or may not and how needs and strategies can be interchangeable. We have to remember that there are options to meeting needs.
 
 NVC – Festival info: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

  • click Live NVC courses
  • side tab that says November 
  • scroll down until you find the NVC - Festival

Resources:

https://www.healingmindsandhearts.com/2013/05/28/needs-vs-strategies/#:~:text=What's%20the%20difference%20between%20needs,to%20circumstances%20people%20and%20situations.

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/55a71473e4b090dbd9813dc1/t/576e2adfe58c62d50f913feb/1466837727946/Discussing+Needs+Before+Strategies+2.pdf

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]]> Description: Needs VS Strategies is a Key Distinction in NVC. All of the behaviors we do are attempts to meet our needs. We have strategies that meet those needs. Sometimes our strategies don't necessarily work and disconnect us from the other person or ourselves. Kyle and I explore how this concept works or may not and how needs and strategies can be interchangeable. We have to remember that there are options to meeting needs.
 
 NVC – Festival info: 

https://nvctraining.com/registration/aff/go/kstapes?i=100  

  • click Live NVC courses
  • side tab that says November 
  • scroll down until you find the NVC - Festival

Resources:

https://www.healingmindsandhearts.com/2013/05/28/needs-vs-strategies/#:~:text=What's%20the%20difference%20between%20needs,to%20circumstances%20people%20and%20situations.

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/55a71473e4b090dbd9813dc1/t/576e2adfe58c62d50f913feb/1466837727946/Discussing+Needs+Before+Strategies+2.pdf

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-5265667 Wed, 02 Sep 2020 12:00:00 -0700 2649 1 12 full true Grief Grief This episode is an emotional one. Grief can come in many different ways and the losses we have endured in our life time can become overwhelming. I have broken up with my bf. He was very dear to my heart and still is. Life is messy and vulnerable sometimes. Life cannot be happy all the time. Kyle and I lean into grief and explore ways on how we work through tough times. We find needs and feelings that I have been processing.

I want to say to our listeners that I want to start putting in the description the resources we used to research about the topic other than our own knowledge. I want to give credit to those websites used.

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]]> This episode is an emotional one. Grief can come in many different ways and the losses we have endured in our life time can become overwhelming. I have broken up with my bf. He was very dear to my heart and still is. Life is messy and vulnerable sometimes. Life cannot be happy all the time. Kyle and I lean into grief and explore ways on how we work through tough times. We find needs and feelings that I have been processing.

I want to say to our listeners that I want to start putting in the description the resources we used to research about the topic other than our own knowledge. I want to give credit to those websites used.

Email: Livingconnected.nvc@gmail.com

Instagram: livingconnectednvc

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-5096185 Tue, 25 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2560 1 11 full false Kids and Their Jackal Kids and Their Jackal KIDS EPISODE!!

This is a children friendly episode. I understand that the episode might be too long for some younger listeners. Feel free to listen in two chunks if that helps the attention span.

We will be giving examples of judgements other kids have come up with and sharing them.  We will discuss what the kiddos might be feeling, needing and some alternative growth mindset statements that might be more helpful instead of the judgement.

If you are a parent listening with your child, you can pause the episode and talk about what feelings come up when your child hears the judgment then press play to see if you came up with the same. There are no wrong answers because everyone may feel differently. Have some fun with it.

We are still getting used to creating kid friendly episodes. I am sure as we do it more the better they get. Thank you for your patience and understanding.

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]]> KIDS EPISODE!!

This is a children friendly episode. I understand that the episode might be too long for some younger listeners. Feel free to listen in two chunks if that helps the attention span.

We will be giving examples of judgements other kids have come up with and sharing them.  We will discuss what the kiddos might be feeling, needing and some alternative growth mindset statements that might be more helpful instead of the judgement.

If you are a parent listening with your child, you can pause the episode and talk about what feelings come up when your child hears the judgment then press play to see if you came up with the same. There are no wrong answers because everyone may feel differently. Have some fun with it.

We are still getting used to creating kid friendly episodes. I am sure as we do it more the better they get. Thank you for your patience and understanding.

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-4937213 Tue, 18 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700 1645 1 10 full false Being Giraffe VS Doing Giraffe Being Giraffe VS Doing Giraffe Being giraffe is sometimes called Being compassion and Doing giraffe is sometimes called Doing Compassion. We are going to talk about what it looks like Being a Giraffe and what it looks like Doing Giraffe. We will role-play a scenario of what it sounds like doing giraffe. To give heads up, I have exaggerated the conversation playing the role as my dad. 

 In NVC Being Giraffe is Being honest towards myself moment by moment by recognizing what is going on inside myself and expressing this while trying to empathically listen to what’s alive in another person.

 "Doing Giraffe" means focusing on how it "should be" and analyzing how others act and talk according to "NVC-Standards" and therefore correcting them when they are "wrong"

Resources:
1) https://en.nvcwiki.com/index.php/Being_giraffe_vs._Doing_giraffe
2)https://www.harmonyoftheheart.com/2014/03/being-giraffe-vs-doing-giraffe.html
3) https://www.compassionateconnecting.com/

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]]> Being giraffe is sometimes called Being compassion and Doing giraffe is sometimes called Doing Compassion. We are going to talk about what it looks like Being a Giraffe and what it looks like Doing Giraffe. We will role-play a scenario of what it sounds like doing giraffe. To give heads up, I have exaggerated the conversation playing the role as my dad. 

 In NVC Being Giraffe is Being honest towards myself moment by moment by recognizing what is going on inside myself and expressing this while trying to empathically listen to what’s alive in another person.

 "Doing Giraffe" means focusing on how it "should be" and analyzing how others act and talk according to "NVC-Standards" and therefore correcting them when they are "wrong"

Resources:
1) https://en.nvcwiki.com/index.php/Being_giraffe_vs._Doing_giraffe
2)https://www.harmonyoftheheart.com/2014/03/being-giraffe-vs-doing-giraffe.html
3) https://www.compassionateconnecting.com/

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-4887143 Tue, 11 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2375 Communication, Relationship, Self-Help, Education 1 9 full true Jackals of the Week Jackals of the Week We are going to talk about the judgements or the jackals we have with ourselves and towards others. Judgements are the criticisms we hear, the blame we put on others, put-downs, labels, and or insults. Judgments sometimes are the actions that we think someone is doing something to us. Marshal says, “judgements are a tragic expression of an unmet need.” Kyle and I take our judgements and find the feelings and needs that lie underneath.

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]]> We are going to talk about the judgements or the jackals we have with ourselves and towards others. Judgements are the criticisms we hear, the blame we put on others, put-downs, labels, and or insults. Judgments sometimes are the actions that we think someone is doing something to us. Marshal says, “judgements are a tragic expression of an unmet need.” Kyle and I take our judgements and find the feelings and needs that lie underneath.

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-4817840 Tue, 04 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2293 1 8 full true Emergency Empathy Buddy Emergency Empathy Buddy I called Kyle to do an Emergency Empathy Buddy with me and because it was last minute he didn’t have his normal mic with him. Thank you for understanding that this episodes sound quality isn’t the best. We hope you bear with us and can still get an idea of how to give empathy to someone who is in need and in high stress. This episode is about me (Kady) getting a text from landlord that said I will be getting a 90 day notice for the apartment I am renting.   

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]]> I called Kyle to do an Emergency Empathy Buddy with me and because it was last minute he didn’t have his normal mic with him. Thank you for understanding that this episodes sound quality isn’t the best. We hope you bear with us and can still get an idea of how to give empathy to someone who is in need and in high stress. This episode is about me (Kady) getting a text from landlord that said I will be getting a 90 day notice for the apartment I am renting.   

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-4735148 Tue, 28 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2043 1 7 full true Judgement in the Sayings Judgement in the Sayings There are some sayings in our life that we hear that end up defining certain people. We want to unravel 3 of these identifying sayings and reveal what our feelings and needs are. We have, the don’t ask don’t tell, the people pleasers and the nice dead person. We will discuss how these might affect us in our daily lives and how we can train our brain to connect with our heart.

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]]> There are some sayings in our life that we hear that end up defining certain people. We want to unravel 3 of these identifying sayings and reveal what our feelings and needs are. We have, the don’t ask don’t tell, the people pleasers and the nice dead person. We will discuss how these might affect us in our daily lives and how we can train our brain to connect with our heart.

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-4559198 Tue, 21 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2842 1 6 full true Giving Empathy Without Getting Exhausted Giving Empathy Without Getting Exhausted We are going to talk about how sometimes we just don’t have the capacity for the people in our lives. When our capacity or our tank is empty and that person comes to us needing to vent and be heard It can be really hard when we don’t have it in us to give the empathy we would like. 

How do we go about giving empathy when we feel depleted ourselves? Does our support come off authentically when we aren’t in a good place inside ourselves? Is there a way to not get tired when empathy is needed for another and be present for that person fully? Nonviolent Communication has some strategies that might help guide us through this exhausting time.

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]]> We are going to talk about how sometimes we just don’t have the capacity for the people in our lives. When our capacity or our tank is empty and that person comes to us needing to vent and be heard It can be really hard when we don’t have it in us to give the empathy we would like. 

How do we go about giving empathy when we feel depleted ourselves? Does our support come off authentically when we aren’t in a good place inside ourselves? Is there a way to not get tired when empathy is needed for another and be present for that person fully? Nonviolent Communication has some strategies that might help guide us through this exhausting time.

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-4439258 Tue, 14 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2379 1 5 full false Do Thoughts Create Feelings Do Thoughts Create Feelings We are discussing in depth about how thoughts create feelings. What type of thoughts we have and how it can lead to the feelings that arise in us. Can we sit with those feelings and figure out what our needs are. Will that help calm our feelings down? This episode may help in supporting what is going on in the heart vs what stories or thoughts our mind is coming up with.

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]]> We are discussing in depth about how thoughts create feelings. What type of thoughts we have and how it can lead to the feelings that arise in us. Can we sit with those feelings and figure out what our needs are. Will that help calm our feelings down? This episode may help in supporting what is going on in the heart vs what stories or thoughts our mind is coming up with.

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-4148789 Tue, 07 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2744 1 4 full true Asking For What You Want Asking For What You Want We are going to be talking about Do-able requests of our selves and of others. There comes a time when you may be in a very difficult situation and you don’t know how to ask for what you want. We are going to take you through some examples of what do-able requests look like and what a demand looks like. In nonviolent communication there is a difference when asking for what you want, it’s how you say it. I believe it takes courage to really stand up and specify what you want without the fear of their response.

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]]> We are going to be talking about Do-able requests of our selves and of others. There comes a time when you may be in a very difficult situation and you don’t know how to ask for what you want. We are going to take you through some examples of what do-able requests look like and what a demand looks like. In nonviolent communication there is a difference when asking for what you want, it’s how you say it. I believe it takes courage to really stand up and specify what you want without the fear of their response.

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-4246643 Tue, 30 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2679 1 3 full true Feeding the Connection Feeding the Connection We will be discussing why it is much better to ride with the giraffe in front of the bike and the jackal taking the back seat. How we may be able to live with both in harmony. What does the quote “Living with the Jackal and feeding the connection” mean when it comes to NVC? How do we feed connection and is there is a way to keep the Jackal from back-seat driving.

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]]> We will be discussing why it is much better to ride with the giraffe in front of the bike and the jackal taking the back seat. How we may be able to live with both in harmony. What does the quote “Living with the Jackal and feeding the connection” mean when it comes to NVC? How do we feed connection and is there is a way to keep the Jackal from back-seat driving.

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-4125332 Tue, 23 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 2009 1 2 full true Get Curious Get Curious This episode is helping new listeners of Nonviolent Communication to get a better understanding of this style of communicating. We also will be introducing ourselves and how we came across Nonviolent Communication. Enjoy!

Marshall Rosenberg is the founder of NVC and has a Ph.D in Clinical Psychology. His book we refer to is called "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships.

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]]> This episode is helping new listeners of Nonviolent Communication to get a better understanding of this style of communicating. We also will be introducing ourselves and how we came across Nonviolent Communication. Enjoy!

Marshall Rosenberg is the founder of NVC and has a Ph.D in Clinical Psychology. His book we refer to is called "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships.

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]]> Kady and Kyle Buzzsprout-4120709 Tue, 16 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 1965 1 1 full true