Empowered Educator Mom Fri, 10 Apr 2026 03:15:54 -0400 https://kerimartinez.com/podcast en-us © 2026 Keri Martinez yes 25c5f47d-e3a6-5dd8-b4e0-8aeb3cff42d8 keri@kerimartinez.com Keri Martinez episodic false Being an educator and a mom is tough.  Doing two of the most demanding, time-consuming, and often thankless jobs on the planet – at the same time – can be overwhelming and exhausting.  It’s no wonder you feel stressed, anxious and depleted much of the time!


You do so much for so many, and you deserve to feel good while doing it.  So join me each week to learn strategies, tips, and tools that can help you feel more empowered and less stressed and enjoy your job and family more.

]]> Buzzsprout (https://www.buzzsprout.com) life coach, perfectionism, self improvement, self help, confidence, curiosity, feel better, goals, relationships, unstuck, self doubt Keri Martinez keri@kerimartinez.com https://storage.buzzsprout.com/10x7hy2k4ijp6re93w300sh9b960?.jpg Empowered Educator Mom https://kerimartinez.com/podcast 23. Empowerment Through Wanting to be Wrong 23. Empowerment Through Wanting to be Wrong As educator moms, we often pride ourselves on being “right”—about parenting decisions, classroom management strategies, and even our beliefs about what needs to change in education. Being right gives us a sense of security, control, and empowerment.  But what if empowerment can also come from wanting to be wrong? In this episode of the Empowered Educator Mom podcast, we explore why our brains cling so tightly to existing beliefs, how that can hold us back, and how wanting to be wrong opens the door to growth, possibility, and resilience.

Through stories, psychology, and relatable examples, you’ll learn how wanting to be wrong can help you break free from limiting beliefs and empower you to handle personal doubts and challenges.

Wanting to be wrong can be an amazing addition to your empowerment toolkit – one that helps you shift your mindset in powerful ways.  Instead of fighting to be right about what’s not working, you’ll learn how to flip the script and empower yourself to see what else might be true.

What You’ll Learn:

  • Why our brains cling to being right, even when it holds us back
  • The hidden energy cost of changing long-held beliefs
  • How confirmation bias keeps us stuck in our own stories
  • A mindset shift that turns past struggles into sources of strength
  • A powerful mantra about personal limitations

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]]> As educator moms, we often pride ourselves on being “right”—about parenting decisions, classroom management strategies, and even our beliefs about what needs to change in education. Being right gives us a sense of security, control, and empowerment.  But what if empowerment can also come from wanting to be wrong? In this episode of the Empowered Educator Mom podcast, we explore why our brains cling so tightly to existing beliefs, how that can hold us back, and how wanting to be wrong opens the door to growth, possibility, and resilience.

Through stories, psychology, and relatable examples, you’ll learn how wanting to be wrong can help you break free from limiting beliefs and empower you to handle personal doubts and challenges.

Wanting to be wrong can be an amazing addition to your empowerment toolkit – one that helps you shift your mindset in powerful ways.  Instead of fighting to be right about what’s not working, you’ll learn how to flip the script and empower yourself to see what else might be true.

What You’ll Learn:

  • Why our brains cling to being right, even when it holds us back
  • The hidden energy cost of changing long-held beliefs
  • How confirmation bias keeps us stuck in our own stories
  • A mindset shift that turns past struggles into sources of strength
  • A powerful mantra about personal limitations

Get full show notes and a transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/23.

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/23 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-17857692 Wed, 17 Sep 2025 03:00:00 -0700 1572 empowerment, mindset, growth mindset, fixed mindset, challenges, relationships, identity, capacity, educator mom, teacher mom full false 22. Empowerment Through Delight 22. Empowerment Through Delight Have you ever thought about how your mood can empower or disempower you?  How it can make things easier or more difficult to handle? In this episode of the Empowered Educator Mom podcast, we explore four specific things you can focus on to improve your mood so you can be more empowered to handle life’s challenges.

We’ll dig into why feelings matter, why you actually need some negativity in your life, and how you can impact your moods through your thoughts. You’ll walk away with strategies you can use right away to infuse your life with more delight, fun, humor, and liking.

Delight can be a powerful addition to your empowerment toolkit—one that helps you meet tough moments with calm, patience, lightheartedness, and laughter.  It can change the way you experience the highs and lows of daily life and fuel you to keep showing up as the educator mom you want to be.

What You’ll Learn:

  • Why trying to eliminate pain can backfire (and what to do instead)
  • Why emotions come from thoughts, not circumstances – and how that affects empowerment
  • Four mood-shifting practices – delight, fun, humor, and liking – and how to incorporate more of them into your life
  • Why some moms have trouble identifying what’s fun to them – and what to do if that’s you
  • Why it’s empowering to like more, dislike less, and sometimes have no opinion

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]]> Have you ever thought about how your mood can empower or disempower you?  How it can make things easier or more difficult to handle? In this episode of the Empowered Educator Mom podcast, we explore four specific things you can focus on to improve your mood so you can be more empowered to handle life’s challenges.

We’ll dig into why feelings matter, why you actually need some negativity in your life, and how you can impact your moods through your thoughts. You’ll walk away with strategies you can use right away to infuse your life with more delight, fun, humor, and liking.

Delight can be a powerful addition to your empowerment toolkit—one that helps you meet tough moments with calm, patience, lightheartedness, and laughter.  It can change the way you experience the highs and lows of daily life and fuel you to keep showing up as the educator mom you want to be.

What You’ll Learn:

  • Why trying to eliminate pain can backfire (and what to do instead)
  • Why emotions come from thoughts, not circumstances – and how that affects empowerment
  • Four mood-shifting practices – delight, fun, humor, and liking – and how to incorporate more of them into your life
  • Why some moms have trouble identifying what’s fun to them – and what to do if that’s you
  • Why it’s empowering to like more, dislike less, and sometimes have no opinion

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/22 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-17819977 Wed, 10 Sep 2025 03:00:00 -0700 1734 empowerment, delight, fun, humor, liking, no opinion, mindset, emotions, shift your mood, thoughts create feelings, educator mom, teacher mom full false 21. Empowerment Through Subtraction 21. Empowerment Through Subtraction Adding is our natural default when it comes to solving problems and striving to improve our lives.  We add organizers to manage clutter. We add diet plans to lose weight. We add programs to help struggling students. And we add meetings to implement the programs.

What if real empowerment comes not from adding…but from subtracting?

In this episode of the Empowered Educator Mom podcast, I share why we don't typically consider subtraction, why busyness has become a sneaky badge of honor, and how doing less allows you to create more value in your life. You’ll hear stories, research insights, and practical examples you can try right away to simplify your life at home and at work.

Subtraction isn’t laziness or giving up. It’s a powerful strategy for replenishing energy and decreasing stress and burnout.

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]]> Adding is our natural default when it comes to solving problems and striving to improve our lives.  We add organizers to manage clutter. We add diet plans to lose weight. We add programs to help struggling students. And we add meetings to implement the programs.

What if real empowerment comes not from adding…but from subtracting?

In this episode of the Empowered Educator Mom podcast, I share why we don't typically consider subtraction, why busyness has become a sneaky badge of honor, and how doing less allows you to create more value in your life. You’ll hear stories, research insights, and practical examples you can try right away to simplify your life at home and at work.

Subtraction isn’t laziness or giving up. It’s a powerful strategy for replenishing energy and decreasing stress and burnout.

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/21 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-17786228 Thu, 04 Sep 2025 03:00:00 -0700 1441 educator mom, teacher mom, empowerment, subtraction, less is more, simplify, mindset, busyness, busy full false 20. What Disempowerment Is Costing You 20. What Disempowerment Is Costing You Empowerment is like a magic pill that makes it easier for you to handle challenges and stress, find solutions to problems, push harder on your goals, advocate for what you want, strengthen your relationships, and positively impact all areas of your life.  But what happens when you don’t use it?

In this episode of the Empowered Educator Mom podcast, Keri Martinez unpacks the hidden costs of disempowerment.  It’s not just a matter of “feeling stuck.”  From decreased problem-solving to financial instability and difficulty making friends, the costs of disempowerment run deeper than most of us realize.

This isn’t about guilt or shame—it’s about awareness. When you can recognize signs of disempowerment, you can begin shifting toward empowerment. And even small shifts can make a big difference.  Recognizing it is the first step toward reclaiming your power at school and at home.

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]]> Empowerment is like a magic pill that makes it easier for you to handle challenges and stress, find solutions to problems, push harder on your goals, advocate for what you want, strengthen your relationships, and positively impact all areas of your life.  But what happens when you don’t use it?

In this episode of the Empowered Educator Mom podcast, Keri Martinez unpacks the hidden costs of disempowerment.  It’s not just a matter of “feeling stuck.”  From decreased problem-solving to financial instability and difficulty making friends, the costs of disempowerment run deeper than most of us realize.

This isn’t about guilt or shame—it’s about awareness. When you can recognize signs of disempowerment, you can begin shifting toward empowerment. And even small shifts can make a big difference.  Recognizing it is the first step toward reclaiming your power at school and at home.

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/20 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-17738853 Wed, 27 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0700 1188 educator mom, teacher mom, empowerment, disempowerment, agency full false 19. The Secret to Empowerment 19. The Secret to Empowerment Ever feel like life is happening to you, or like you're a puppet and other people are pulling your strings?  If you want to feel more in control in your life, to feel more empowered, this episode will teach you the single most important principle you need to understand to do that.

Whether you’re a teacher or administrator, empowerment (or lack of it) is something that makes a real difference in how you approach your life, the different roles you play, and your relationships.  It’s worth your time to figure out how to have more of it in your life, and this conversation will teach you where and how to get started.

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]]> Ever feel like life is happening to you, or like you're a puppet and other people are pulling your strings?  If you want to feel more in control in your life, to feel more empowered, this episode will teach you the single most important principle you need to understand to do that.

Whether you’re a teacher or administrator, empowerment (or lack of it) is something that makes a real difference in how you approach your life, the different roles you play, and your relationships.  It’s worth your time to figure out how to have more of it in your life, and this conversation will teach you where and how to get started.

Get full show notes and a transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/19. 

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/19 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-17673950 Tue, 19 Aug 2025 06:00:00 -0700 1670 empowerment, personal agency, agency, choice, mind management, educator mom, teacher mom full false 18. How to Improve Your Relationships, Part 2 18. How to Improve Your Relationships, Part 2 This episode is a follow-up to last week’s episode on improving your relationships.  Everyone struggles with relationships at times, be they romantic, familial, friendship, or work.  If you’re not happy with a relationship but you don’t want to leave it, what can you do?

In this episode, you’ll learn about another relationship concept: manuals.  Listen in to learn what they are, how they can cause problems, and what you can do to prevent problems.

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]]> This episode is a follow-up to last week’s episode on improving your relationships.  Everyone struggles with relationships at times, be they romantic, familial, friendship, or work.  If you’re not happy with a relationship but you don’t want to leave it, what can you do?

In this episode, you’ll learn about another relationship concept: manuals.  Listen in to learn what they are, how they can cause problems, and what you can do to prevent problems.

Get full show notes and a transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/18. 

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/18 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-13036170 Wed, 14 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1145 relationships, relationship manuals, emotional childhood, emotional adulthood, think on purpose, choose your thoughts, personal agency, self-help, life coaching full false 17. How to Improve Your Relationships 17. How to Improve Your Relationships Everyone struggles with challenging relationships at times, be they romantic, familial, friendship, or work.  If you’re not happy with a relationship but you don’t want to leave it, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn three concepts that can help you shift your perspective and improve any kind of relationship – even if the other person doesn’t change.  You’ll also hear an important additional suggestion and caveat about improving relationships.

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]]> Everyone struggles with challenging relationships at times, be they romantic, familial, friendship, or work.  If you’re not happy with a relationship but you don’t want to leave it, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn three concepts that can help you shift your perspective and improve any kind of relationship – even if the other person doesn’t change.  You’ll also hear an important additional suggestion and caveat about improving relationships.

Get full show notes and a transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/17. 

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/17 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12994176 Wed, 07 Jun 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1389 relationships, emotional childhood, emotional adulthood, think on purpose, choose your thoughts, personal agency, self-help, life coaching full false 16. Calm Confidence When Things Go Wrong 16. Calm Confidence When Things Go Wrong When we face unexpected challenges, it’s normal for our brains to spin out in worry and fear about potential outcomes. This mental “spin cycle” not only hinders our ability to accurately assess the probability and severity of these outcomes but also impairs our prefrontal cortex’s problem-solving ability. If you’re faced with an unexpected problem and want to stop your brain’s spin cycle, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn a powerful three-step strategy to halt the spin cycle.  Listen in to hear how this strategy can help you calm down, identify practical solutions, and feel more confident handling the problem.

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]]> When we face unexpected challenges, it’s normal for our brains to spin out in worry and fear about potential outcomes. This mental “spin cycle” not only hinders our ability to accurately assess the probability and severity of these outcomes but also impairs our prefrontal cortex’s problem-solving ability. If you’re faced with an unexpected problem and want to stop your brain’s spin cycle, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn a powerful three-step strategy to halt the spin cycle.  Listen in to hear how this strategy can help you calm down, identify practical solutions, and feel more confident handling the problem.

Get full show notes and a transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/16. 


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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/16 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12949137 Wed, 31 May 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1587 confidence, calm confidence, handle challenges, handle problems, worst case scenario, thoughts create feelings, self-help, coaching, empower yourself, empower women, confidence coaching, life coaching, thought work, mind management, brain management full false 15. Outsourcing Confidence 15. Outsourcing Confidence Outsourcing confidence is something all perfectionist women do.  While there is probably a biological benefit to our brains doing it, it can be quite problematic.  If you notice you’re outsourcing your confidence, what can you do about it?

In this episode you’ll learn why we outsource confidence and self-worth and why it’s more useful to source them internally.  Listen in to hear examples of how you might be outsourcing confidence and how you can transition to in-sourcing instead.


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]]> Outsourcing confidence is something all perfectionist women do.  While there is probably a biological benefit to our brains doing it, it can be quite problematic.  If you notice you’re outsourcing your confidence, what can you do about it?

In this episode you’ll learn why we outsource confidence and self-worth and why it’s more useful to source them internally.  Listen in to hear examples of how you might be outsourcing confidence and how you can transition to in-sourcing instead.


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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/15 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12878187 Wed, 24 May 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1386 confidence, self-worth, outsourcing confidence, outsourcing self-worth, source confidence within, confidence is an inside job, thoughts create feelings, emotional health, emotional wellness, self-help, coaching, empower yourself, empower women, empower fe full false 14. Truth, Facts, and Cognitive Flexibility 14. Truth, Facts, and Cognitive Flexibility Cognitive flexibility has a big impact on your emotional health and wellness.  In a nutshell, cognitive flexibility is the ability to appropriately switch your thinking and your actions.  It may not sound exciting or glamorous, but it directly impacts your creativity, resilience, and quality of life.  The more cognitively flexible you are, the better able you are to respond to changes in your environment.  So if you want to be more cognitively flexible, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn how using The Model can help you decrease cognitive rigidity and increase cognitive flexibility.  Listen in to hear ideas, examples, and questions that will help you stretch your thinking and challenge unhelpful beliefs.


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]]> Cognitive flexibility has a big impact on your emotional health and wellness.  In a nutshell, cognitive flexibility is the ability to appropriately switch your thinking and your actions.  It may not sound exciting or glamorous, but it directly impacts your creativity, resilience, and quality of life.  The more cognitively flexible you are, the better able you are to respond to changes in your environment.  So if you want to be more cognitively flexible, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn how using The Model can help you decrease cognitive rigidity and increase cognitive flexibility.  Listen in to hear ideas, examples, and questions that will help you stretch your thinking and challenge unhelpful beliefs.


Get full show notes and a transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/14. 


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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/14 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12870285 Wed, 17 May 2023 15:00:00 -0700 1615 cognitive flexibility, cognitive rigidity, emotional health, emotional wellness, self-help, coaching, life coaching, thought work, mind management, brain management, the model, coaching tool, fact vs story, stretch your thinking, challenge unhelpful belie full false 13. My Favorite Problem-Solving Tool 13. My Favorite Problem-Solving Tool According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), nearly 58 million U.S. adults live with mental illness like anxiety and depression.  In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I’m dedicating this episode of the podcast to a coaching tool known as The Model.  This tool helped me improve my mental health and learn to better manage my brain.  Can it do the same for you?

Listen in to learn the relationship between your thoughts and your results and how The Model can help with any problem or goal.


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]]> According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), nearly 58 million U.S. adults live with mental illness like anxiety and depression.  In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I’m dedicating this episode of the podcast to a coaching tool known as The Model.  This tool helped me improve my mental health and learn to better manage my brain.  Can it do the same for you?

Listen in to learn the relationship between your thoughts and your results and how The Model can help with any problem or goal.


Get full show notes and a transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/13. 

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/13 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12819139 Wed, 10 May 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1963 mental health, mental health awareness month, self-help, coaching, life coaching, thought work, thoughts create feelings, mind management, brain management, the model, coaching tool, self-awareness, fact vs story, personal agency full false 12. Confidence Blockers 12. Confidence Blockers Women face a host of physiological, neurological, cultural and other factors that inhibit their confidence.  Beyond the strategies discussed in last week’s episode, what can women do to overcome specific confidence blockers?

Listen in to learn why confidence is especially challenging for perfectionist women, six confidence blockers all women should watch out for, and practical strategies to combat each one.


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]]> Women face a host of physiological, neurological, cultural and other factors that inhibit their confidence.  Beyond the strategies discussed in last week’s episode, what can women do to overcome specific confidence blockers?

Listen in to learn why confidence is especially challenging for perfectionist women, six confidence blockers all women should watch out for, and practical strategies to combat each one.


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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/12 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12773624 Wed, 03 May 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1692 confidence, confidence blockers, perfectionism, rumination, overthinking, fixed mindset, people pleasing, external validation, holding back, pretending confidence, self-compassion, growth mindset, confident woman, do it scared, have your own back, live yo full false 11. Improving Your Confidence 11. Improving Your Confidence Confidence is foundational to accomplishing goals and dreams in life, but it doesn’t come easily to most women. This is due to a variety of reasons – some biological, some environmental, and some cultural.  So, if you’re a woman who wants to improve her confidence, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn the challenges women face in developing and maintaining confidence, why confidence comes more easily to men than to women,  and six things anyone can do to improve their confidence.


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]]> Confidence is foundational to accomplishing goals and dreams in life, but it doesn’t come easily to most women. This is due to a variety of reasons – some biological, some environmental, and some cultural.  So, if you’re a woman who wants to improve her confidence, what can you do?

In this episode you’ll learn the challenges women face in developing and maintaining confidence, why confidence comes more easily to men than to women,  and six things anyone can do to improve their confidence.


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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/11 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12717444 Wed, 26 Apr 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1376 confidence, self-awareness, awareness, self-compassion, personal growth, self-improvement, mind management, growth mindset, confident woman, do it scared, have your own back, live your values, calm the inner critic, confidence is a skill, calm confidence, full false 10. Dealing with Difficult Coworkers 10. Dealing with Difficult Coworkers Most people struggle with difficult coworkers at some point in their career.  Conflict and tension are natural components of all human relationships.  What can you do when the conflict or tension undermines your ability to do your job or negatively impacts your mental state?  How can you handle a difficult coworker in a way that decreases stress and frustration?

In this episode you’ll learn a variety of ideas and strategies to help you handle difficult coworkers.  Listen in to hear mindset ideas that can help you reframe your thinking about your coworkers and a five-step process that can help you resolve a conflict.  


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]]> Most people struggle with difficult coworkers at some point in their career.  Conflict and tension are natural components of all human relationships.  What can you do when the conflict or tension undermines your ability to do your job or negatively impacts your mental state?  How can you handle a difficult coworker in a way that decreases stress and frustration?

In this episode you’ll learn a variety of ideas and strategies to help you handle difficult coworkers.  Listen in to hear mindset ideas that can help you reframe your thinking about your coworkers and a five-step process that can help you resolve a conflict.  


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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/10 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12680651 Wed, 19 Apr 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1502 difficult coworkers, work challenges, challenging coworkers, psychological reactance, dichotomy of control, assume positive intent, conflict, conflict resolution, personal agency, mindset change full false 9. Choose Your Hard 9. Choose Your Hard Everyone experiences hard things in life.  Sometimes we choose the challenges (like when we go after a goal or try to learn something new) and sometimes we don’t (like when we experience natural disasters, job loss, or the death of a loved one).  Whether they’re of our choosing or not, what can we do to better handle them?

In this episode you’ll learn a strategy I call “choosing your hard” that you can use to better handle difficulties in life.  This strategy can help you reframe how you think about challenges so they’re easier to handle and you’re better able to persevere through them.  Listen in to hear how to apply the strategy and how it can help increase your capacity to make decisions, get things done, accomplish goals, and get through difficult situations.

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]]> Everyone experiences hard things in life.  Sometimes we choose the challenges (like when we go after a goal or try to learn something new) and sometimes we don’t (like when we experience natural disasters, job loss, or the death of a loved one).  Whether they’re of our choosing or not, what can we do to better handle them?

In this episode you’ll learn a strategy I call “choosing your hard” that you can use to better handle difficulties in life.  This strategy can help you reframe how you think about challenges so they’re easier to handle and you’re better able to persevere through them.  Listen in to hear how to apply the strategy and how it can help increase your capacity to make decisions, get things done, accomplish goals, and get through difficult situations.

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/9 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12631815 Wed, 12 Apr 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1188 challenges, adversity, hard things, personal agency, choice, self coaching, thought work, personal growth, self improvement, coaching tool, mind management full false 8. Collecting Evidence for What You Want 8. Collecting Evidence for What You Want Every day our amazing brains automatically and subconsciously collect evidence from the world around us.  They collect evidence of what is and isn’t safe, what works and what doesn’t, and what’s important and what’s not – all to help us survive and navigate the world.

Our brains are better and faster at collecting negative evidence than positive, though, and the over-collection of negative evidence often causes us to believe things that aren’t useful.  What, if anything, can we do to change that?

In this episode you'll learn one of my favorite self-coaching tools you can use to override your brain’s default evidence collection process.  This tool is incredibly powerful, universally applicable, and simple to use.  Listen in to learn the four-step process that can help you improve any area of your life.

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]]> Every day our amazing brains automatically and subconsciously collect evidence from the world around us.  They collect evidence of what is and isn’t safe, what works and what doesn’t, and what’s important and what’s not – all to help us survive and navigate the world.

Our brains are better and faster at collecting negative evidence than positive, though, and the over-collection of negative evidence often causes us to believe things that aren’t useful.  What, if anything, can we do to change that?

In this episode you'll learn one of my favorite self-coaching tools you can use to override your brain’s default evidence collection process.  This tool is incredibly powerful, universally applicable, and simple to use.  Listen in to learn the four-step process that can help you improve any area of your life.

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/8 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12590983 Wed, 05 Apr 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1361 beliefs, evidence, self coaching, thought work, confidence, personal growth, self improvement, coaching tool, mind management full false 7. When Progress Is Slow 7. When Progress Is Slow We always think we want quick progress and that slow progress is bad, but what if that’s not true?  What if slow progress is okay or even useful?  In this episode we’ll explore why slow progress isn’t a problem, and I’ll share six tips to help you handle slow or even no progress.

If you’re working on a goal, trying to change or build a habit, or going through a challenging situation and things aren’t progressing as quickly as you’d like, this episode is for you.  Listen in for a different way to think about slow progress that will leave you feeling empowered and motivated to keep going.

In this episode you'll learn:

  • How to handle slow progress in goals and challenging situations
  • Six tips to help you feel empowered and motivated when progress is slow
  • How no progress can still be progress
  • Why you don’t need to be further ahead than you are
  • The difference between “the gap” and “the gain” and why you want to focus more on “the gain”
  • One of my favorite self-coaching tools that can be used to improve any area of your life

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]]> We always think we want quick progress and that slow progress is bad, but what if that’s not true?  What if slow progress is okay or even useful?  In this episode we’ll explore why slow progress isn’t a problem, and I’ll share six tips to help you handle slow or even no progress.

If you’re working on a goal, trying to change or build a habit, or going through a challenging situation and things aren’t progressing as quickly as you’d like, this episode is for you.  Listen in for a different way to think about slow progress that will leave you feeling empowered and motivated to keep going.

In this episode you'll learn:

  • How to handle slow progress in goals and challenging situations
  • Six tips to help you feel empowered and motivated when progress is slow
  • How no progress can still be progress
  • Why you don’t need to be further ahead than you are
  • The difference between “the gap” and “the gain” and why you want to focus more on “the gain”
  • One of my favorite self-coaching tools that can be used to improve any area of your life

Get full show notes and a transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/7.

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/7 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12505955 Wed, 29 Mar 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1838 Progress, growth, slow progress, slow growth, no progress, no growth, goals, challenges, trials, perfectionism, life coaching, self coaching, thought work, personal growth, self improvement, lies of perfectionism full false 6. Seeing Each Other as God Does 6. Seeing Each Other as God Does Seeing others as God does can be challenging. Our brains are hardwired to make snap judgements of others based on their outward appearance and behaviors.  How can we go beyond "looking on the outward appearance" and get closer to "looking on the heart" as God does (see 1 Samuel 16:7)?  

Whether you’re Christian or not, this episode will help you be more open and accepting of others – even when you don’t agree with their political, religious, or other beliefs.  Finding common ground is easier than you might think, and you can do it without changing your own beliefs and standards.  The benefit in doing so is that YOU get to feel more peace and calm and help others to do the same.


Note: this episode is a presentation I gave to my church's local women's group.  If you’d like to see a video of the presentation, you can watch it on my YouTube channel.

In this episode you'll learn:

  • Why it’s normal, natural, and healthy for our brains to make snap judgments of others
  • Why it’s worth it to learn to override this default behavior
  • Two tools that have been highly effective for me in overriding this default behavior, including:
    • The concept that completely changed how I think about this
    • A powerful question that can immediately shift your perspective about someone else

Get full show notes and a transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/6.

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]]> Seeing others as God does can be challenging. Our brains are hardwired to make snap judgements of others based on their outward appearance and behaviors.  How can we go beyond "looking on the outward appearance" and get closer to "looking on the heart" as God does (see 1 Samuel 16:7)?  

Whether you’re Christian or not, this episode will help you be more open and accepting of others – even when you don’t agree with their political, religious, or other beliefs.  Finding common ground is easier than you might think, and you can do it without changing your own beliefs and standards.  The benefit in doing so is that YOU get to feel more peace and calm and help others to do the same.


Note: this episode is a presentation I gave to my church's local women's group.  If you’d like to see a video of the presentation, you can watch it on my YouTube channel.

In this episode you'll learn:

  • Why it’s normal, natural, and healthy for our brains to make snap judgments of others
  • Why it’s worth it to learn to override this default behavior
  • Two tools that have been highly effective for me in overriding this default behavior, including:
    • The concept that completely changed how I think about this
    • A powerful question that can immediately shift your perspective about someone else

Get full show notes and a transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/6.

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/6 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-12433080 Wed, 15 Mar 2023 03:00:00 -0700 1640 judging others, snap judgments, default brain, default thinking, Circles of Humanness, Michael Grinder, accept others, love others, compassion, self-worth full false 5. 3 Strategies to Accomplish Goals and Resolutions 5. 3 Strategies to Accomplish Goals and Resolutions If you set New Year’s resolutions or goals in January, there’s a decent chance you’ve already slipped up or abandoned them completely.  But that doesn’t mean failure is inevitable.  In this episode, we’ll explore three common obstacles to achieving goals and resolutions and three simple strategies you can use to overcome them to make success inevitable.

If goals and resolutions feel overwhelming or heavy or frustrating to you, if you don’t like setting goals and resolutions because you feel like what’s the point – you never accomplish them anyway – this episode is for you.  Listen in to learn a different way to think about goals and resolutions that will make it easier and more fun to achieve the results you want.

Get full show notes and transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/5


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]]> If you set New Year’s resolutions or goals in January, there’s a decent chance you’ve already slipped up or abandoned them completely.  But that doesn’t mean failure is inevitable.  In this episode, we’ll explore three common obstacles to achieving goals and resolutions and three simple strategies you can use to overcome them to make success inevitable.

If goals and resolutions feel overwhelming or heavy or frustrating to you, if you don’t like setting goals and resolutions because you feel like what’s the point – you never accomplish them anyway – this episode is for you.  Listen in to learn a different way to think about goals and resolutions that will make it easier and more fun to achieve the results you want.

Get full show notes and transcript at https://kerimartinez.com/5


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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/5 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-10419579 Wed, 23 Feb 2022 03:00:00 -0800 2267 goals, resolutions, constraint, consistency, consciousness, life coaching, LDS life coaching, thought work, brain management, self improvement full false 4. Lies of Perfectionism, Part 3 4. Lies of Perfectionism, Part 3 This episode is part three of a three-part series on the Lies of Perfectionism.

Do you identify as a perfectionist?  Do you think perfectionism helps you do better work and be a better person?   

Perfectionism pretends to be noble.  It pretends to help you improve and grow.  But for a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism isn't helpful.  For a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism creates crippling self-doubt and leaves them feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and stuck.

If that sounds like you, I invite you to question your beliefs around perfectionism and consider how they’re impacting your life.


Get full show notes and the free PDF of the 7 Lies of Perfectionism at https://kerimartinez.com/4


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]]> This episode is part three of a three-part series on the Lies of Perfectionism.

Do you identify as a perfectionist?  Do you think perfectionism helps you do better work and be a better person?   

Perfectionism pretends to be noble.  It pretends to help you improve and grow.  But for a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism isn't helpful.  For a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism creates crippling self-doubt and leaves them feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and stuck.

If that sounds like you, I invite you to question your beliefs around perfectionism and consider how they’re impacting your life.


Get full show notes and the free PDF of the 7 Lies of Perfectionism at https://kerimartinez.com/4


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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/4 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-9640141 Wed, 15 Dec 2021 03:00:00 -0800 1649 life coaching, LDS life coaching, perfectionism, thought work, feel better, brain, brain management full false 3. Lies of Perfectionism, Part 2 3. Lies of Perfectionism, Part 2 This episode is part two of a three-part series on the Lies of Perfectionism.

Do you identify as a perfectionist?  Do you think perfectionism helps you do better work and be a better person?   

Perfectionism pretends to be noble.  It pretends to help you improve and grow.  But for a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism isn't helpful.  For a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism creates crippling self-doubt and leaves them feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and stuck.

If that sounds like you, I invite you to question your beliefs around perfectionism and consider how they’re impacting your life.


Get full show notes and the free PDF of the 7 Lies of Perfectionism at https://kerimartinez.com/3


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]]> This episode is part two of a three-part series on the Lies of Perfectionism.

Do you identify as a perfectionist?  Do you think perfectionism helps you do better work and be a better person?   

Perfectionism pretends to be noble.  It pretends to help you improve and grow.  But for a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism isn't helpful.  For a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism creates crippling self-doubt and leaves them feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and stuck.

If that sounds like you, I invite you to question your beliefs around perfectionism and consider how they’re impacting your life.


Get full show notes and the free PDF of the 7 Lies of Perfectionism at https://kerimartinez.com/3


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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/3 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-9640134 Wed, 08 Dec 2021 03:00:00 -0800 1185 life coaching, LDS life coaching, perfectionism, thought work, feel better, brain, brain management full false 2. Lies of Perfectionism, Part 1 2. Lies of Perfectionism, Part 1 This episode is part one of a three-part series on the Lies of Perfectionism.

Do you identify as a perfectionist?  Do you think perfectionism helps you do better work and be a better person?   

Perfectionism pretends to be noble.  It pretends to help you improve and grow.  But for a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism isn't helpful.  For a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism creates crippling self-doubt and leaves them feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and stuck.

If that sounds like you, I invite you to question your beliefs around perfectionism and consider how they’re impacting your life.


Get full show notes and the free PDF of the 7 Lies of Perfectionism at https://kerimartinez.com/2


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]]> This episode is part one of a three-part series on the Lies of Perfectionism.

Do you identify as a perfectionist?  Do you think perfectionism helps you do better work and be a better person?   

Perfectionism pretends to be noble.  It pretends to help you improve and grow.  But for a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism isn't helpful.  For a lot of high-achieving women, perfectionism creates crippling self-doubt and leaves them feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and stuck.

If that sounds like you, I invite you to question your beliefs around perfectionism and consider how they’re impacting your life.


Get full show notes and the free PDF of the 7 Lies of Perfectionism at https://kerimartinez.com/2


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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/2 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-9640116 Wed, 01 Dec 2021 03:00:00 -0800 1735 life coaching, LDS life coaching, perfectionism, thought work, feel better, brain, brain management full false 1. Question Your Brain's Authority 1. Question Your Brain's Authority Have you ever found yourself thinking you’re not good enough, you don’t fit in, you’ll never be able to accomplish your goals, or that life shouldn’t be happening the way it is?  Most of us have limiting and painful thoughts like those that we automatically accept as true and feel powerless to change.

But what if you didn’t have to accept them?  What if you could question your brain’s authority, challenge the thoughts, and choose to think something different?  

In this episode, I share a 3-step process you can use to do just that.


Get full show notes and more information at https://kerimartinez.com/1


Grab the free worksheet for the 3-step process - https://bit.ly/3-steps-examine-thoughts

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]]> Have you ever found yourself thinking you’re not good enough, you don’t fit in, you’ll never be able to accomplish your goals, or that life shouldn’t be happening the way it is?  Most of us have limiting and painful thoughts like those that we automatically accept as true and feel powerless to change.

But what if you didn’t have to accept them?  What if you could question your brain’s authority, challenge the thoughts, and choose to think something different?  

In this episode, I share a 3-step process you can use to do just that.


Get full show notes and more information at https://kerimartinez.com/1


Grab the free worksheet for the 3-step process - https://bit.ly/3-steps-examine-thoughts

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]]> https://kerimartinez.com/1 Keri Martinez Buzzsprout-9576089 Thu, 18 Nov 2021 21:00:00 -0800 1734 life coaching, LDS life coaching, thought work, feel better, brain, brain management full false