If so, there’s probably a younger you that needs some love and attention.

Most of us don’t know how to take care of the younger us.

Here’s a simple tool:

Lay on the ground

Picture the younger you

Talk to him and see what he needs

That’s it!

Do that for a few minutes each day and see what happens.

I be you’ll be a better husband and father.

To hear more about God’s message to me about how my wife sucked… if she married a 3 year old…

And how celebrating poop helped me…

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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I’ve decided to take a break from podcasting as well.

Inside of myself, I just feel like my body, mind, heart and spirit are calling me to a rest period.

I just want to say a huge THANK YOU to all of you email subscribers, podcast listeners, YouTube subscribers…

A HUGE thank you to my clients who I have learned so much from, to everyone who has been willing to help their brothers in my programs, for the people who put in work to transform their lives and marriages and their families’ futures.

It’s been an honor to be part of your journey.

And, a GIANT thank you to Coach Mimi who is absolutely the best person I could have worked with in the programs.

From here on out I may do a podcast here and there, and you’ll be getting updates on my supplement company progress, and if I learn something particularly meaningful I’ll share it.

But mainly for me, it’s a time to rest.

Also, we hit a huge milestone of 1,000,000 podcast downloads, so thank you all for listening!

Stay strong in God men! 

Listen on the Strong Men In God Podcast. 

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Dr. Mike

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It’s what you do after that will either make your marriage stronger…

Or weaker.

Try these steps:

-Share the pain. What happened that hurt you?

-Listen to her pain. What hurt her?

-Help each other

-Ask for a “we’re OK” signal. This lets you know that you can keep moving forward, stronger.

Hear a clear example of this in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Do the things they do just make you so upset, you find yourself stewing on how they should change?

Well, it may be that you, like me, are running from pain by turning to anger.

And, pushing away the people you want close to you.

Instead, build up your ability to feel and tend to emotional pain…

Then stand strong in yourself to find solutions that work for you and the people you love.

It’s not easy, so let’s do this together in Grounded Leadership!

CLICK HERE to join us!

Dr. Mike

P.S. Today is your LAST DAY to join Grounded Leadership for this session. CLICK HERE to join.

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If you’re looking to…

-Strengthen your relationship with God

-Become more grounded in your thoughts and emotions

-Improve your relationship with your wife and kids

-Set and achieve big goals

-Create a legacy for your children and generations to follow…

Come join us in Grounded Leadership.

We’ll do daily work together to feel stronger and more grounded.

We’ll work on healing old wounds using the best, most effective professional strategies.

And we’ll set and achieve big goals from a place of abundance.

Learn more in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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In fact, up to 45% of people give up by the end of January, and 94% give up at some point through the year.

Why is that and how do we maintain focus?

Step 1 - Choose just one goal

Step 2 - Choose a plan to meet it

Step 3 - Visualize daily to make the pain worth the gain

Step 4 - Figure out what you can and can’t control, focus on what you can

Step 5 - Add in coaching and accountability to increase your odds

If you do this, you can be one of the 6% who hits their physical, financial, family and spiritual goals.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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What happens if you fail?

How will others feel about you?

How will you feel about yourself?

How do you talk to yourself when you do fail?

How well can you identify your own needs?

How well can you meet those needs?

How well can you ask other people to help you meet those needs?

If you’re not too happy with your answers to these questions…

Learn how to build a solid relationship with yourself in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Get wealthier.

Have better relationships.

These are the most common New Year’s resolutions.

Most people think they just need the right plan to reach these goals.

The right diet. The right budget. The right communication tools.

But here’s the thing.

Right plans fail when you can’t tend to your emotions.

When you can’t resist the treat. When you can’t stick to your budget. When you lose your temper again.

The root cause of failure is failure to tend to emotions.

Learn how to do this well in today’s episode.

Hear more about our new direction on today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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For 2026, we’ll be changing our name to Strong Men In God.

Tag line: Live Longer, Stronger and Happier.

We’ll be talking about:

-Body - How to increase energy, vitality, and wealth

-Mind - Continued talk about managing our thoughts and growing our minds

-Heart - Continued discussions about relationships with God, ourselves, our wives, our kids and others, including how to lead effectively

-Spirit - Continued talk about how to connect with God and our purpose

In 2026 I’ll also be creating a supplement line, Strong Men Supplements, with the first product being Strong Men Daily, a daily capsule that includes everything a man over 40 needs to support testosterone, longevity and healing. 

Ingredients will be clinically proven through randomized controlled trials and have at least 1 year of safety data.

Hear more about our new direction on today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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But do you provide emotionally?

Are you an emotionally safe place for your wife?

Does she feel like you are on her team?

Can she feel your devotion to her?

Are you a model of emotional strength and safety to your kids?

Can you soothe yourself through difficult emotions, and help your children do the same?

If you’re like most men, the answer to this is no.

And that’s why your marriage and family life is struggling more than it needs to be.

And, why you’re struggling more than you need to.

Learn to build the skill of soothing yourself, so you can be a safe, strong support for your family…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Your wife isn’t connecting with you physically or emotionally…

Or maybe you’re facing separation or divorce.

Maybe your kids are driving you crazy with their disrespect, ignoring or other issues.

Or, maybe there are other things that are just crap right now.

Well, it could very well be that this is just the manure time.

The stinky, gross time that is required for growth.

It’s not fun. It’s terrible.

But, if you can stay consistent through it…

A beautiful garden is on the other side.

Watch on YouTube here. 

Dr. Mike

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And that's part of being a grounded leader.

That's what today is about. 

Showing up and putting the podcast up because I committed to myself and to my listeners to do it.

So, if you're feeling like the most you can do is just show up...

Know that at the end of the day, showing up matters.

Dr. Mike

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Do you keep losing your temper?

Do you keep shutting down when your wife has a complaint against you?

Do you try to fix those things, and make some progress for a while…

Only to slip back into the same old patterns?

Well, there’s a reason for that.

And a solution.

Learn how to make your changes really stick…

To create a better connection with God, yourself, your wife and your kids…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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How does He respond when you do what’s “right?”

How does He respond when you do what’s “wrong?”

How does God feel about achievement?

The answers to these questions shape a large amount of your relationship with God.

They will also shape how you feel towards God, how you feel like God feels towards you, and therefore how much time you will WANT to spend with God.

If you’re like me, you’ve spent a lot of time feeling like God is much more “with you” when you’re doing what’s right vs when you’re doing what’s wrong.

To me, that creates an unsafe relationship with God. One that’s based on performance. And therefore, you won’t want to spend that much time with Him.

Now, I believe God is with me no matter what I’m doing. And, he encourages me to do things that will bring the most fulfillment… but is with me even if I don’t.

This has helped me feel much more safe with God, and so I like spending time with Him much more.

Learn more in today’s episode.

Your relationship with God is the FOUNDATION to being Grounded in God.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Are your kids staying away from you in certain situations?

Do your wife and kids shy away from sharing their emotions with you?

If so, there’s a lack of emotional safety in your family relationships.

And, if you want loving relationships with your kids…

And an intimate relationship with your wife…

You need to create emotional safety.

Learn how in today’s episode.

(And, by the way, it doesn’t mean that you have to be “emotionally perfect” to build emotional safety).

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Tell him not to be scared?

What do you do when you’re mad?

Yell at the person?

Tell yourself you shouldn’t feel that way?

The problem with this kind of response is that it doesn’t let the emotion move through and out of you.

Emotion means to move out.

Step 1 in tending to emotions is to acknowledge it’s there, and that it has a good reason to be there.

Do this with yourself and others and your relationships will improve immediately.

Step 2 is to let the emotion move you.

Learn more in today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QpHZWdoEVv0

Dr. Mike

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Six pack abs?

Millions of dollars?

A life full of loving relationships?

Anything worthwhile also has a cost.

Are you willing to pay the price to have those things?

Learn how to evaluate that cost…

And how to create a community of people to help you keep going when you feel like it’s not worth it…

In today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JMlSxHQEuNY

Dr. Mike

P.S. Strong Men Strong Marriages is becoming Grounded in God in 2026. We’ll be starting with a group of 5-7 men as our Founder’s Group. Reply to this email if you’re interested in joining. More details to come.

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Work? Be a good dad? Be a good husband?

Do your kids have to do things? Get their jobs done? Go to school?

Does your wife have to do things? Give you attention, appreciation, affection and sex?

Here’s the thing.

When we think we and others HAVE TO do things…

It creates BURDEN.

And, most people don’t want to be in a relationship that feels like a burden.

Instead, what do you WANT to create in your relationships?

And how can you align what you want with what the important people in your life want?

This question unlocks creativity, freedom and happy relationships.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DMR62z2mgA

Dr. Mike

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But, we all want them.

And, there’re nothing wrong with wanting them.

After a tough therapy session this week, God helped me understand how taking care of a wife actually works.

So that she freely gives attention, affection, appreciation and sex to her husband.

Learn what it is in today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hkvJVRQj50E

Dr. Mike

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What is your main goal as a father?

Not what are your many goals, but what is your MAIN goal?

If you haven’t really defined this, you’re probably optimizing for something unconscious.

And, that’s probably based on your own upbringing.

So, if you’re not quite getting the results you want as a husband and father…

It’s time to be more conscious of what you are optimizing for…

Defining it…

And working daily towards it.

Learn how in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Wishing that my wife would give me more attention, appreciation, affection and sex.

Feeling like I couldn’t be happy until she did.

Then, God reminded me: Who is in charge of your happiness?

If I can only be happy if the people around me are acting certain ways…

I’m giving my power over to them.

Does that mean I just wait patiently forever and not get anything I want?

No. 

It means I ask for what I want, work with my wife and others to find win-wins, and set boundaries of what I will and will not do if my requests are not met.

That’s where wisdom, prayer, and coaching come in.

To help you learn to do that.

Dr. Mike

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-Not asking at all

-Asking in a passive aggressive way

-Pouting

-Asking in a demanding way

All of these are unattractive and unlikely to get what you want.

There is, however, a “goldilocks zone” that will give you the BEST chance of getting what you want in marriage.

Whether it’s attention, appreciation, affection, food, or sex…

There’s a formula that can help you get it.

Dr. Mike

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I had some MAJOR breakthroughs this week that have me feeling better than I EVER have in my marriage and as a father.

This one I think you should listen to vs giving you the highlights here.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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So, the podcast is just reminding me and you to rest when we need to.

Dr. Mike

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The things that tell us how we’re supposed to act… and how other people are supposed to act.

Are you supposed to be in shape? What kind of shape?

Are you supposed to make money? How much money?

Are your kids supposed to listen to you? What if they don’t?

How is your wife supposed to treat you? What are her jobs?

We all have answers to these, but often we’re not totally aware of them.

But, aware of them or not, they run how we treat ourselves and others…

And they may not be taking us where we want to go.

Learn how to figure out and evaluate your rules for life…

So that you end up with the success you actually want…

In today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ZEPGqbQpMA

Dr. Mike

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What needs to change to take you to new levels of joy and intimacy in your marriage.

But, God does.

So, instead of worrying about things never getting better…

Or setting a plan on your own…

Take some time alone and open yourself to receive the ideas, perspective changes or encouragement that God has for you.

I had a very meaningful shift this week that I share in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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The trick in a marriage is figuring out…

Which needs are coming from a CHILDISH place…

And which needs are coming from an ADULT place.

If it’s coming from a CHILDISH place, it’s up to YOU to take care of that need.

If it’s coming from an ADULT place, it’s time to have a conversation with your wife and ask clearly for what you need.

But often to get to that adult place, you need to take care of younger you FIRST.

And adult you as well.

Learn my top 3 ways to take care of yourself…

So you can feel better and appropriately ask for what you want from your wife…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to join us in becoming a truly powerful husband and father who creates a passionate, intimate marriage with his wife, a loving, mentoring relationship with his kids, and sets the example for generations to follow in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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Do you want your kids to act better RIGHT NOW?

Most of us do.

But, when we try to force people to be something they’re not…

It usually backfires.

Like trying to force open a flower.

You end up just destroying the flower.

Or cutting open the goose to get more golden eggs.

You just end up with a dead goose.

Learn how to develop the patience to let people develop (including yourself)…

While also encouraging that development in yourself and others…

In today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

Watch on YouTube here.

And to join us in becoming a truly powerful husband and father who creates a passionate, intimate marriage with his wife, a loving, mentoring relationship with his kids, and sets the example for generations to follow in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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That she cares about the kids more than you?

That she can be nice to everyone except you, but is still willing to use the money you bring in?

I’ve certainly felt this way.

And this energy is not the powerful masculine energy that feels good and attracts your wife to you.

It’s a young, immature energy that needs to be tended… by you.

Learn how to take care of the younger you…

So you can access the powerful, God-given masculine energy available to you…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to join us in becoming a truly powerful husband and father who creates a passionate, intimate marriage with his wife, a loving, mentoring relationship with his kids, and sets the example for generations to follow in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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Sad. Overwhelmed. Tired.

And, that’s OK.

That’s normal and human.

Instead of trying to “buck up,” take care of yourself first.

Acknowledge you are feeling down, see what you need, and meet that need.

Then, think about other ways you can think in the future.

Heal first, fix later.

Learn more in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to join us in becoming a truly powerful husband and father who creates a passionate, intimate marriage with his wife, a loving, mentoring relationship with his kids, and sets the example for generations to follow in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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One is a destructive force.

This force is a “my way or the highway” energy.

It intimidates to get its way.

And, it is more powerful than doing nothing.

And, it ends in people wanting to create distance from you, making you feel lonely in your marriage.

The other force available to you is the TRANSFORMATIONAL force.

This power allows you to stop what needs to be stopped…

But in order to build what you want to build…

A loving relationship with your wife and children.

It is MORE POWERFUL than the destructive force, because it INCLUDES, DEFEATS and TRANSFORMS the destructive force.

Learn how to access this TRUE power of transformation in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to join us in becoming a truly powerful husband and father who creates a passionate, intimate marriage with his wife, a loving, mentoring relationship with his kids, and sets the example for generations to follow in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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When we’re too hard, we are angry, frustrated, or overly controlling of what people do.

This comes from our own discomfort of letting others do things differently.

And, it leads to people distancing from us.

When we feel that distance, we often go too soft. Too permissive. Too weak.

And, our wives and kids kind of like that…

But they don’t respect us or feel safe with us.

And we don’t feel safe or respect ourselves.

Thankfully, there is a “just right” place to be a parent and a husband.

One where we have the love AND respect of others…

And we love and respect ourselves.

Learn about this in today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cmxd3VzEvgo

And to join us in growing our gardens and husbands and fathers with God, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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You want to be the best father.

You want to be the best at your job.

That pressure can help you perform…

But it also leads to a feeling of pressure, stress…

And even rejection and not feeling good enough.

Unfortunately, those aren’t the best feelings to build a family foundation on.

Instead, you can view your family as a garden.

A garden that God is in charge of, and that you have a part in.

A garden that if you make a mistake, God can heal it.

Now you can rest, play, grow and create. And work. But you don’t have to work to earn rest or earn your place in the garden.

You belong.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to join us in growing our gardens and husbands and fathers with God, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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Step 1 –Identify your old, negative, unattractive patterns.

Step 2 – Create new positive attractive patterns.

Step 3 - Practice the new patterns until you can’t get them wrong

And, that sequence does work.

However, it misses some important things.

Mainly, it misses acknowledging why the old patterns were there in the first place.

It doesn’t give compassion to the younger you’s and the current you that are acting the way you are because you’re scared or sad.

And, because of that, you don’t really heal and keep acting out the same old patterns.

Learn what to do instead in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to join us in becoming better husbands and fathers, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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Maybe it happens a lot.

If your anger seems extreme for the situation…

(like when I got upset this week when my oldest son said goodbye to other people in the family or not me)...

There’s probably a younger you that needs caring for.

And the adult you also needs to recognize the hurt…

And then choose from an adult mindset what to do about it.

Learn how to do this in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to join us in becoming better husbands and fathers, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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I feel hurt by something.

The kids or Elizabeth ignoring me. The kids being rude. Elizabeth turning away from a hug or kiss.

Then, I get mad.

I pull away. I think to myself “Fine, if they don’t want me then they can pay for everything themselves!”

I picture leaving them alone to fend for themselves.

I can say mean things and get angry when I feel this way.

Then later, I calm down and regret this…

But there’s been damage done. I’ve scared my family and created lack of safety.

I’ve been trying to get rid of this pattern for a LONG time.

But I feel like I’ve found the answer.

It’s working on my inner child.

You see, my inner child is looking for my family to provide unconditional love. To take care of me.

And, my younger me’s do need that.

But, it’s not my kids’ job to take care of me. It’s my job to take care of them.

And, it’s not my wife’s job to be my unconditionally loving “mother.” It’s our job to work in partnership in life together. She needs a husband, not another kid.

And so, it falls on me to parent those younger me’s and give them unconditional love.

I’m just starting the journey, and I think it’s the key to breaking some very difficult patterns.

Learn more on today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to become a man who makes this generation better than the last, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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A large man was being threatening and eventually physically aggressive to his wife or girlfriend (not sure which it was)..

Thanks to the MMA training I’ve been receiving from Ethyn Ewing (here’s a recent knockout of his)...

I felt confident to confront the guy and stop him from continuing to abuse this woman.

It felt great to join the ranks of men who will stand up physically for what’s right.

It made me realize that confrontation is one of the main masculine traits.

The willingness to confront and fight others is a lot of what makes a man.

Whether that confrontation is physical, mental, emotional or spiritual.

And it takes physical, mental, emotional and spiritual strength to step into that confrontation.

Hear more about what happened on today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And to become a man who fights for what is right, join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages.

Dr. Mike

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It’s SCARY!

Our brains usually go to thinking she wants to leave, whether that’s true or not.

Usually we either go to pleading for her not to leave…

Or we go to anger.

Both of these are unattractive and push our wives away.

Instead, we can share what we’re actually feeling…

Ask for her help…

And take care of ourselves.

Learn more about this in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5FvaokDOcY

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

Dr. Mike

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Or maybe it’s that she doesn’t want to go to church or read scriptures with you.

You can worry that your marriage won’t make it.

That your kids won’t grow up with God.

That your wife and kids are on the fast track to eternal damnation.

Unfortunately, this fear usually makes you anxious and controlling…

Which drives your wife and kids away more.

Learn what to to instead…

In today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rEubK6OeKkI

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

Dr. Mike

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A wife who is excited to see you?

A wife who hugs, kisses and has sex with you?

A wife who appreciates you?

And that should happen all the time, right?

And if not, something is wrong. Right?

Well, this mindset of having an “endpoint” to marriage usually leads to frustration.

God helped me see that it’s much better to see your wife and marriage as a plant.

Something that has seasons. That needs consistent nourishment. Something living that doesn’t have an “end point.”

Something that needs a good husband to care for it.

Learn how to do this well in today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8o_L3TnIoEI

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

Dr. Mike

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The sex isn’t there.

The connection isn’t there.

We’re dealing with infidelity, separation or divorce.

It can all seem pretty hopeless.

And, when we feel hopeless, we don’t feel good, we’re not attractive, and we don’t solve our problems.

Fortunately, there’s a way out of this.

It’s gratitude.

Not necessarily for our wife, but for the fact that God has our back.

When we can see and feel that, we feel empowered, which is attractive.

And, we can start solving problems effectively.

Learn more in today’s episode.

This is a tool from the book The Tools 

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

Watch on YouTube here.

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

Dr. Mike

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Does she seem to not really care about you?

Does she seem to care more about the kids than you?

Do you tell her that she should be paying more attention to you, hoping to get more from her?

Well, maybe it’s not actually about you at all!

And maybe asking her to do more will create MORE distance instead of connection.

Learn how to approach your wife in a strong, supportive, secure way when she feels distant…

So you can feel the closeness you desire.

Learn how in today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

Watch on YouTube here.

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

Dr. Mike

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More sex?

More conversation?

More connection?

More fun?

It’s not a problem to want more.

However, your emotional state when you desire and ask for more can be a BIG problem.

Most of us ask for more from a place of whininess and “not enough.”

This usually just makes our wives feel like they’re not doing enough and less motivated to do anything more.

Learn a new and better way to get more in your marriage…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

(This is from a book The Gap and The Gain by Benjamin Hardy)

Dr. Mike

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Do you avoid speaking your mind?

About money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework or free time?

Do you get defensive with your wife?

All of these symptoms are due to a fear…

A fear of part of you being exposed or rejected.

Learn how to overcome that fear…

Through acceptance of your “Shadow…”

Watch on YouTube here.

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

(This series is from the book The Tools https://amzn.to/42410JT )

Dr. Mike

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When she criticizes you?

When she seems to care about the kids more than you?

Do you feel like just a paycheck?

When we get into this negative spiral…

It doesn’t do us or anyone else much good.

Thankfully, there IS a way out of it…

A way we can feel FREE instead of TRAPPED.

We can feel powerful no matter what our wife or others might be doing.

Learn how in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5fciTKrrSI

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

Dr. Mike

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Do you avoid having difficult conversations?

Do you avoid asking for what you want?

Are you stuck in “roommate mode?”

There’s one big reason for the “stuck” feeling in your marriage.

It’s avoiding pain.

It’s normal to avoid the pain of a hard conversation and risking rejection.

It just keeps you stuck.

Learn a tool from the book The Tools how to REVERSE your desire to avoid pain…

And learn to LOVE the pain that helps you grow.

Watch on YouTube here.

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

Dr. Mike

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Here are some of my big takeaways:

-Having a strong base keeps you prepared and stable

-Having a strong base in God does the same

-You won’t die if you take a punch

-You won’t die if you take an emotional punch from your wife or kids

-You can be confident in caring for yourself

Hear more about this and what I’ve been learning in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v1n_NXQm5R4

Dr. Mike

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After by Bruce Greyson, MD  and

Proof of Heaven by Eben Alexander, MD 

The main takeaways I got are:

-Life DOES continue after this life

-We are LOVED by our creator, God

-He has a great plan for us

-We can tune into his love and plan any time, and the more we do the better we feel and the better we operate as men, husbands, fathers and in all areas

Learn more in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

Dr. Mike

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Do your kids feel safe with you?

What if they did something wrong? Would they come to you for help?

What if your wife is struggling emotionally? Would she come to you for comfort?

If not, you haven’t been a secure attachment figure to your wife and kids.

And that’s not fun to realize. I’ve had to realize it myself.

But, the good news is, you CAN be one.

By being someone who is there for your wife and kids… no matter what.

Who loves them (wants the good for them)... no matter what.

Who is also there for yourself… no matter what.

Learn more about how to do this in today’s episode…

Watch on YouTube here.

And join the program to learn how to do this together.

Dr. Mike

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When it comes to being a husband and father… who are you following?

When it comes to being a man… who are you following?

If you’re not consciously following someone, you’ll unconsciously follow your parents in your marriage and parenting relationships.

Either by doing what they did… or doing the exact opposite of what they did.

Both of those can cause problems.

Learn how to intentionally choose your role models…

So you can be the husband, father and man you want to be…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JcnkkkOS4U4

Dr. Mike

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What about when you’re not doing the “right things?”

Are other people willing, able and available to love you when you need it?

The answers to these 2 questions shape your relationship style.

If the answer to either question is “no,” or a conditional yes…

Your relationship style will cause problems in your marriage and parenting…

And your relationship with God.

Learn how to feel worthy of love (no matter what you’re doing or not doing)...

And how to find people who are willing, able and available to give you love…

In today’s episode.

Here's the book, God Attachment, I mention in the episode.

And keep in mind…

It’s not that God doesn’t want us to do good, or that we don’t want our kids to do good…

It’s just that we want them to do good because we love them and it’s good for them…

Vs we want them to do good so that we can love them.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Feel like you’re putting in SO MUCH work, but not getting much back?

Not sure if you want to keep going in the marriage anymore?

Don’t worry. These are NORMAL feelings to have.

It doesn’t mean your marriage is over.

It just means it’s time to take some steps to:

-Take care of yourself and your emotions

-Ask for what you want

-See both the good and bad

When you do this, you can release the feeling of “burnt out” and start feeling joy, energy and put your marriage on course for the joyful, fun, intimate relationship it was meant to be.

Learn how in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Maybe you’re dealing with separation or divorce.

Maybe your wife is interested in someone else.

Maybe you were hoping for intimacy that didn’t happen.

It’s normal and natural to be disappointed.

And, there are ways to deal with that disappointment that will make things WORSE…

And ways to deal with it that will help you create more intimacy.

Learn what NOT to do.. And what TO do…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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What was your response?

Did you give her examples of how you don’t make everything about you?

Did you get mad and walk away?

If you did either of these…

You made it about you!

I’ve done this plenty of times, and so have the guys in my program.

But, we don’t have to do this.

We can break out of this pattern and “find our lives as we lose them.”

Learn how…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

And in the Strong Men Strong Marriages program.

Dr. Mike

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Spiritually, do you feel a sense of mission and purpose, individually and as a couple?

Mentally do you feel that you are both open to learning from each other, able to challenge your own beliefs, and take an appropriate stand?

Emotionally can you name, feel and release emotions in health ways?

Physically, are you in good shape with good energy?

Financially, do you spend less than you earn, have a safety net of savings, and a clear savings and investment plan?

Sexually do you enjoy sex and have a safe and satisfying sex life?

If you find yourself, your wife or both lacking in these areas…

It’s time to create a healthier marriage!

Learn how in today’s episode…

Watch on YouTube here.

And in the Strong Men Strong Marriages program.

Dr. Mike

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You may have heard of these are the main roles of the man of the house.

And, they are very important.

However, we usually just think if providing and protecting physically.

While having enough money and protecting the home from invaders is important…

There’s something even MORE important to provide to your wife and kids.

Learn what it is…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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You or your kids?

Who gets more snuggling or even kisses?

If it’s your kids, it can be VERY frustrating.

Maybe you’ve even brought this up with your wife, only to hear things like “it’s different with the kids” or “I’m just not that into physical touch.”

Today you’ll learn the root cause of why your wife is more physically affectionate with the kids than with you…

And what to do about it.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Does she seem to always be on the kids’ side of things and not yours?

Do you sometimes feel alone in your marriage?

If so, this episode is for you.

Learn why wondering “whose side is your wife on…”

Is a waste of time.

And what to do instead.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Bobby was a successful pastor, then felt a call to help others find what “helps them come alive.”

Check out today’s episode if you’re questioning whether your current career path is exactly what you’re meant to be doing in the world.

And learn more about Bobby and his coaching work here

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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One full of connection, laughter, fun and intimacy?

You CAN do it.

It starts with a strong connection with God.

Then a great relationship with yourself.

Then learning the trust, communication and intimacy skills to take your marriage to a connection that’s even beyond what it was when you were first married.

Learn how in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bCrDomF_oig

Dr. Mike

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Feel like you can’t act the way you want to act?

Pray for a spiritual spotter to come help you!

And let me know how it goes.

Dr. Mike

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In fact, sometimes it’s harder than we can currently handle.

If your wife is critical, your son gets attitude with you, or you’re just feeling tired…

Acting in a strong and loving way may be out of reach.

That’s when you can use Spiritual Spotters to help you do more than you can do on your own.

Learn more about how this works in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

And then let me know how it goes!

Dr. Mike

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Do you feel like you have too much to do with too little time?

Does it feel like you’ll never get everything done that you need to?

Today you’ll learn how to get rid of your “to do” list…

And get more done in less time with less stress.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Step 1 - Recognize it was from Satan

Step 2 - Pray for help through it

Step 3 - Identify the lie and correct it

Step 4 - Release the anger physically

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

Let me know how it goes!

Dr. Mike

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Thankfully, I was able to get through it without exploding by following a few simple steps.

Step 1 - Recognize it was from Satan

Step 2 - Pray for help through it

Step 3 - Identify the lie and correct it

Step 4 - Release the anger physically

Learn  more about how this works in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Not listening. Invalidating. Pushing conversations when they don’t need to be pushed. Letting your wife walk all over you.

The good news is, you can break those patterns.

And setting a few simple rules can help you do that.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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No matter how bad things are right now, there’s SOMETHING you can be grateful for.

Find that gratitude (ask God for help)...

And share it with your wife.


Dr. Mike

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Resentful..

Frustrated…

Wondering if you married the right person…

This episode is for you.

You’ll learn how to start feeling better right away…

And by doing that…

Become more attractive to your wife.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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How can I partner with God to use the time and money He’s given me to bless others?

Then go do it!

Let me know how it goes.

Dr. Mike

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You work hard for the money and respect you get…

And you expect others to do the same.

When they don’t work as hard as you…

But still get money or respect…

You can get upset. Jealous. Angry. Frustrated.

Are those fruits of the Spirit? Are they part of the Abundant Life God wants for you?

Learn how to stop worrying about what’s fair and join with God in His generosity…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvqlewvkPhM

Dr. Mike

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-Do I spend more time thinking about money… or about God?

-Do I feel more security from my money and investments… or from trusting God to provide for me?

-If my assets were stolen, what would my reaction be?

If you find that you are trusting money for your sense of safety and security more than God…

There’s a quick fix.

Shift your thinking to trust in Him more! Pray for that help, remind yourself of the scriptures that remind you of his care for you.

And let me know how it goes!

Dr. Mike

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I realized that I was trusting money for my security vs trusting God.

Since I’ve made the shift, I feel:

-Much more peace

-Much lighter

-Much more grateful

And, God is blessing me financially as well.

Learn how to check if you’re trusting money too much…

And what to do about it…

In today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Today you’ll learn about his story…

And his program, 31 Days To Become A Better Man…

That has helped men apply business, financial, physical and relationship principles…

To create BIG transformations in just 31 days.

Hear some of the inspiring stories in today’s episode…

Watch on YouTube here. 

Dr. Mike

P.S. If you’d like to join the group with me for the November 20th 31 day challenge, visit this link and when you use the code “strongmen” you’ll get $19.99 off!

https://31dailychallenges.com/

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I met negativity with negativity… and damaged relationships badly in the process.

I spent the day with God yesterday and He helped show me a better way…

And how to accomplish it…

Learn how in today’s episode…

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

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Let your wife know you did something wrong (invalidated her)...

That you can understand how she would feel (unheard, unseen, unsafe)...

And that you can understand how she could think a certain way (that she’s not important to you, that you think you’re better than her, etc.)...

And let me know how it goes!

Dr. Mike

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That’s when you tell your wife:

-She’s wrong for what she’s thinking

-She’s wrong for what she’s feeling

-You’re right

This causes her to close her heart… and body… off from you.

We all do this sometimes, and luckily we can reverse it by reversing those 3 steps:

-Tell her how you were wrong for responding the way you did

-Understand how she could feel that way

-Understand how she could think that way

This helps her feel safe and open her mind, heart and body more to you.

Watch on YouTube here.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MytcPIKG2xk


Dr. Mike

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Step 1 - Notice the anger

Step 2 - Release the anger

Step 3 - Listen or walk away

Now, try it and see how it goes!

Dr. Mike

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And it reminded me of 3 steps I can take in the future to step out of the “who’s right” pattern…

Creating less safety and closed hearts…

And step into a pattern that allows more connection and intimacy….

Step 1 - Notice the anger

Step 2 - Release the anger

Step 3 - Listen or walk away

Watch on YouTube here. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjjxlpDd52A

Dr. Mike

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Instead, try…

Responding with kindness…

Serving her because you want to (going the extra mile)...

Or just saying “no.”

And let me know how it goes.

Dr. Mike

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Get mad back…

Tell their wife she’s wrong and justify themselves (invalidation triple threat)...

Or tuck tail and just try to make her happy.

Unfortunately, all of these lead to disconnection and lack of intimacy.

Learn what to do instead… in today’s episode.

Watch on YouTube here. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a4DTUrjjLco

Dr. Mike

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Talking to people

Spending time together

Doing things together

To build a relationship with Jesus, you need to do the same things.

Choose 1 to do this week.

And let me know how it goes.

Dr. Mike

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Putting your wife first, serving her, losing so she can win…

But you don’t feel blessed by God for those efforts?

In fact, you just feel resentful?

Learn today what Jesus was REALLY saying in his Beatitudes (according to The Divine Conspiracy by Dallas Willard)

So you can find joy, healing and love NOW in your life and marriage.

Watch on YouTube here. 

Dr. Mike

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By you.

Today, recognize a way you have hurt her heart.

Apologize.

And stop doing it.

As a bonus, do the opposite to help her start healing and opening her heart.

Let me know how it goes.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/

Watch on YouTube here.(Lorena new links here)

https://youtube.com/shorts/U3zdkBBU-JU (Lorena new links here)

Dr. Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program. 

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If you feel like roommates in your marriage…

If you’re getting one-word answers from your wife…

If you feel disconnected emotionally and sexually…

Your wife has closed her heart to you.

How do you get it to open back up, so you have the connection, looks of love and physical intimacy you want?

Learn in today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. 

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program. 

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Maybe it’s the way towels are folded. The way counters are wiped. Leaving the toilet seat up.

Instead of dismissing this as stupid…

See this as a chance to serve her in her language.

Put the toilet seat down.

Not as a way of “caving in,” but as a way to speak love to her in her language.

Let me know how it goes!

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program. 

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And, it’s important to be right in some things, particularly in our work.

But, when we focus on being right in our marriage…

And our wife being wrong…

We create disconnection, lack of trust, and low intimacy.

Learn what to do instead…

To create deep connection, intimacy and the look of love in your marriage…

In today’s episode.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.

Watch on YouTube here.

Dr. Mike

P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…

CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program. 

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Is to PLUG INTO the Kingdom of God that is at hand… meaning AVAILABLE right now.

Pray to plug in and feel it…

Think of Jesus a few extra times today…

Imagine Jesus with you…

And let me know what kind of difference you feel.

Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.