Failing Motherhood

200. My #1 Mantra + Mindset Shift

Tue, 20 May 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Happy 5th Anniversary of Failing Motherhood!

Welcome to the LAST episode, #200.

If there's one thing I will be known for, let it be this mindset shift. And in this episode, I don't just explain it, but I share a clip from a coaching call where we apply it in real time to a common frustration.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

How to recognize when you're having "first thoughts"
Creative ways to problem solve struggles with cleaning up their own things
How to take your power back + no longer feel like the victim

DON'T MISS:

What I'm going to be working on in the future!

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199. Fighting to Stop Fighting + Not Giving Up with Abbey + Jake

Tue, 13 May 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Not giving up. Not giving in. Not settling. Being all in.

Today's episode recounts the story of Abbey, Jake, and their 7-year-old son finding purpose rather than despair, leaning in, offering mutual respect, and feeling like a united front.

From feeling desperate and helpless, having "no good days" to parenting authentically, strategically, enjoying time together again.

From their son never doing something he doesn't want to do, to not saying no anymore.

From considering divorce, to the strongest they've ever felt together.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

How Jake took a good hard look at his relationship with his son
What they had to do to get the "Jerry Springer" moments to stop
The heartbreaking question their son asked and how they transformed his self-esteem

DON'T MISS-

The power that comes from asking for help

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198. Being True to Yourself inside Tricky Relationships with KC Davis

Tue, 06 May 2025 02:00:00 -0500

We have a returning guest today!

KC Davis is a Licensed Professional Counselor, author, speaker, the creator of the mental health platform, Struggle Care, AND the author of the brand new book, out today... Who Deserves your Love (How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End any Relationship).

In our conversation, we discuss the problems within the traditional self-help industry and the parallels of mom guilt and our effect on the people and the relationships we love.

The heart of our conversation centered around having clarity in our decision making using her "relationship decision tree" and finding more creative ways to sustain relationships rather than the pendulum swings between being a complete doormat and cutting off contact completely.

So if you need more skill building around healthy boundary setting, self-love and what it looks like to be a "good person" in your relationships, let's be honest, this episode is for all of us.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Why shame isn't a sustainable motivator
How to create the "Plinko board" our relationships flow within while remaining in integrity
The truth behind "if they wanted to, they would"

DON'T MISS-

A counterintuitive (yet MORE effective) way to spend quality time

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197. 3 of 3: Therapy, Marriage Counseling, 1:1 Coaching + Virtual Parenting Programs/Memberships

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Welcome back!

This is the 3rd of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we’re talking: personal therapy, marriage counseling, one-off or 1:1 parenting coaching, and virtual parenting programs / memberships.

For each, I break down the family that resource is BEST for, the benefits it provides, the unique Pros and Cons of utilizing that support vs. another, and ultimately, for some, the way they fall short.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

What a therapist will never tell you
Why 1:1 coaching actually takes LONGER to see results
The nuance missing from programs developed 50+ years ago

DON'T MISS:

The program that has it *all* if you are still looking for a breakthrough

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Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.)
Nonviolent Communication (N.V.C.)
Systematic Training for Effective Parenting (S.T.E.P.)
Active Parenting
Triple P (Positive Parenting Program)
How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk
Positive Discipline
Love and Logic
Dare to Discipline

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196. 2 of 3: OT, PCIT, Play Therapy + Seeing a Psychologist

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Welcome back!

This is the 2nd of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we’re talking: Occupational Therapy, Parent Child Interaction Therapy, Child Therapy (play therapy) and seeing a Psychologist.

For each, I break down the family that resource is BEST for, the benefits it provides, the unique Pros and Cons of utilizing that support vs. another, and ultimately for some, the way they fall short.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

When play therapy would most benefit your child
Why PCIT is less likely to work with strong-willed kids
The criteria often necessary in order to get a referral to a psychologist

DON'T MISS:

A study on childhood anxiety and what treatment style was most effective - the answer may surprise you!

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2019 Yale Study on Combating Childhood Anxiety

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195. 1 of 3: Parenting Content, Books, Courses + Classes

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Welcome to my VERSUS series!

This is the 1st of 3 episodes breaking down the vast array of parenting resources we have at our fingertips. Today we’re talking: parenting content, parenting courses & books, and in-person parenting classes.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

Why it’s extra hard to implement strategies from a book
The topics I recommend buying courses for
Who benefits most from parenting classes

DON'T MISS:

The Industry standard completion rate for online courses vs. mine

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194. Setting Boundaries without Pressure + Panic

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0500

What does it even look like to set + hold good boundaries?

Boundaries can feel like an illusive mystery. Our preconceived notions of what we should be doing can create really rigid metrics for succeeding or failing, when in all actuality, there’s often no right or wrong!

Today’s discussion includes validating the intention to “find the line”, why boundaries isn’t a binary but rather a spectrum, and the mindset reframes needed to be more effective and successful while still allowing for exceptions to the rule.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

How the lack of boundaries leads to entitlement
What your true responsibility is
How much time you actually have to address the behavior

DON'T MISS:

An important distinction to realize when parenting strong-willed kids

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193. Accidentally Inviting the Outcomes You're Trying to Avoid

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Well that backfired!

When we parent out of fear, our short-sighted reactions can add fuel to the fire. This can create unintended consequences, like MORE helplessness, MORE sibling resentment, and MORE attention-seeking.

In this episode, I cover where this starts, two extremely common examples, and what to do instead.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

The Boomerang Effect: What you push away, comes back full force
A parallel to the movie- Monsters, Inc.
The "Veruca Salt" mentality we're all afraid of

DON'T MISS:

How the best of intentions can actually create MORE entitlement or sibling rivalry

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192. Working WITH Demand Avoidance (PDA) to Make the Impossible, POSSIBLE with Lisa

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Cooking during daytime hours, running in & out of a store, joining a homeschool group... these may seem like everyday occurrences to some families, but at Lisa's house, they felt impossible.

She was tasked with getting her neurodivergent son up to state curriculum standards last year while homeschooling, but his pathological demand avoidance made cooperation so hard to attain.

NOW - she shares what IS possible now, how her confidence has grown, and what seemed to help when nothing else did.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The multi-faceted feelings of failure Lisa struggled with
The breakthroughs she experienced while we worked together
The remarkable progress they've been able to make

DON'T MISS-

The unorthodox solution that helped her son wash his hair

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191. Silly over Serious

Tue, 18 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Does it ever feel like your strong-willed child SNAPS and turns into someone else entirely? Like an alter ego took over?

You’re now walking on eggshells trying to diffuse a bomb before it explodes. There are two wires, which one do you cut?

Choose SILLY over SERIOUS.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

A situation in college you’d have handled in a similar way
The ramifications of doubling down on seriousness
Ways to inform your mindset that boost your patience and compassion

DON'T MISS:

Several examples of ways to effectively choose the sillier option without letting them “get away with it”

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190. Silencing Shame & Enjoying your Kids with Sharon Johnson

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0500

Shame is a universal human experience no one is immune to, especially in motherhood where it feels like there’s a right and a wrong way to do everything, yet no matter what you do, you can’t win!

How do you break free from the shame cycle?

My guest today, Sharon Johnson, is a mother to six who creates social media content focusing on motherhood, mental health, getting older and finding oneself, and healing after years of trauma and crisis.

Sharon kicked motherhood off by being absolutely swallowed by shame - so much so she didn’t even realize it.

Tune in to hear her story of deconstruction and leaving the LDS church, adopting her niece and nephew, managing her bipolar and depression, and the true pride she’s able to feel now in saying she in fact IS the parent her kids need.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The viral post of hers where the internet called her a bad parent, horrible mother, and threatened to call CPS
How Sharon's relationship with shame has evolved and what mattered most
The importance of building open and honest relationships with teens so we can discuss difficult topics and build trust

DON'T MISS-

How much more she actually enjoys motherhood and her kids now and why

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //

Rhett McLaughlin's (of Rhett and Link) house analogy clip from their podcast, Ear Biscuits

Rhett's Spiritual Deconstruction - full episode 226 of Ear Biscuits (2/3/2020)

// CONNECT WITH SHARON //
Podcast: Wake Her Up

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189. Intentionally Indulge

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 02:00:00 -0600

What do bad mornings, clingy birthday parties, fighting playdates and candy on the way home from school all have in common?

Instead of doubling down to invite the meltdown or giving in to avoid it… there’s a better way!

These are all situations where you, as the parent, can intentionally indulge. Tune in to learn how.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

Ways to shift from being reactive to proactive, getting one step ahead of your child
Why “intentionally indulging” works so well
How to compromise to get more cooperation in the long run

DON'T MISS:

A practical way to help your “slow to warm up” child be successful at a chaotic birthday party

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188. "I can figure this out" with Marli Klaus

Tue, 25 Feb 2025 02:00:00 -0600

My guest today, Marli Klaus, is a mom of three, a pediatric sleep consultant, and a trainer and mentor for other sleep consultants as the owner of The Cradle Coach and The Cradle Coach Academy.

I’ve known Marli for several years and had the chance to work with her family last winter!

In our conversation, Marli shares very openly and honestly about her fears for her son, the way she dreaded pickup, the heartbreaking effect on her other kids, the determination she felt to figure it out herself, and the guilt for clearly failing him somehow.

I hope you see yourself and your family in Marli’s story and find hope.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Why Marli *couldn't* figure it out all by herself
What her husband needed to hear & experience that made all the difference
What she would go back & tell herself now

DON'T MISS-

Why sleep is so underrated yet so important

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187. 7 Ways to Beat the Bedtime Blues

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 02:00:00 -0600

Most strong-willed kids struggle with sleep, so if bedtime feels like neverending pulling teeth at your house, join the club!

While I'm always going to advocate for nuance and individualization, confidence comes from having a diverse set of tools in your backpocket, so this episode is here to help you have a few more "tricks" up your sleeve.

Here's to a shorter bedtime routine for the kids and more time for revenge bedtime procrastination for the adults! :)

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

Why you might need to rethink TV time before bedtime
How to embrace your "dread" + commiserate with your child
The script to say when you leave their room

DON'T MISS:

What to do when they're acting like your old drunk college roommate

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Mighty and Bright - Kids' Daily Routine Chart
Honeybee & Friends Bedtime Stories

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186. 90% less Tantrums in 3 Months with Heather + David

Tue, 11 Feb 2025 02:00:00 -0600

Heather and David, parents from the Midwest, take us along in their journey of parenting their strong-willed five-year-old daughter.

Just a few months ago, they were drowning; overwhelmed by her tantrums, feeling like parenting was heartbreaking, stressful, and defeating more days than not.

NOW, they are parenting with hope, optimism and confidence, let alone 90% less tantrums overall!

Tune in to hear the things that were hard to admit, why they believe they benefitted so much from this work, and the nuggets and takeaways they want every listener to learn alongside them.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The moment Heather knew they needed help
How David began to relate to his daughter in new ways
The mindset shifts that led to a quick turnaround

DON'T MISS-

The challenges of being in a field like Heather's (speech language pathology in an elementary school) where you *SHOULD* know how to do this & struggle at home with your own child

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185. Going Beyond Good Intentions

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 02:00:00 -0600

Can you imagine setting a New Years resolution, watching healthy living content and going to a class where they teach you why you should exercise and expecting to lose weight without ever working out?

NO! We know getting stronger requires taking action.

In the same way, working on your parenting requires implementation, not just intentions.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

Ways immersive learning experiences transform parenting skills
Why it's impossible to grow stronger while "malnourished" and what to do about it
The role of structured support in achieving parenting goals

DON'T MISS:

How to pour gasoline on your good intentions to *actually* become a stronger, more confident parent

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184. Stop your Child from Lying to You

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 02:00:00 -0600

Today's episode is a rare treat. I had a fantastic coaching conversation with a parent of a 4 year-old around an ongoing problem at their house around not listening and not telling the truth when asked about it, and I have her permission to share it with you here!

Listen as she shares more of the background into this particular moment as well as her concerns around the behavior, then tune in to hear what I recommended to her (and anyone else who can relate!)

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Insight into the developmental shifts happening at this age
What to STOP doing in the future when faced with this behavior
What TO do to prevent this situation from happening again (that does not include punishment)

DON'T MISS-

Perspective that will give you a sigh of relief

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183. Change the World from your Couch with Cynthia Levin

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 02:00:00 -0600

From “I can’t change the world. I’m just a mom” to “I can change the world because I’m a mom!'

Cynthia Levin is the author of “From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates and How to Get Started.” A non-partisan activist working across a variety of issues, she coaches volunteers of all ages to build productive relationships with members of Congress.

In our conversation she laid a realistic roadmap for the average mom to get involved where it matters most to her; starting small and leveling up in small amounts of discomfort.

She summed up our conversation with a really powerful quote I’ll be thinking about for years to come.

Be sure to follow this episode up with ACTION!

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

3 common myths about advocacy
Surprising benefits of getting your kids involved over time
Reasons why moms are uniquely qualified to do this work

DON'T MISS-

Tangible examples of how advocacy actually makes a difference

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Organizations you can get involved with, in no particular order:

The ONE campaign - to create a more Just & Equal world
CARE - Fighting Global Poverty & World Hunger
MomsRising - Building a more Family-Friendly America
SUNRISE - End the Climate Crisis
Moms Demand Action - for Gunsense in America
RESULTS - ending poverty in US and globally
Bread for the World - Christian based hunger advocacy
UN Foundations Shot@Life - global vaccines

// CONNECT WITH CYNTHIA LEVIN //
Book : From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates and How to Get Started.
Website: www.changyit.com
Instagram: @‌ccylevin

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182. 5 Top Tips for Making Weekends Easier on Everyone

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 02:00:00 -0600

If all your weekend plans seem held hostage by your strong-willed child’s mood, you’re not alone.

In this episode, I name the extra challenges you face on the weekend and specific strategies to tackle them for good, unlocking actual freedom and possibilities to be spontaneous or just enjoy each other and relax!

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

Why what we think we want isn’t what we actually want
Two goals to go into every weekend with
How to stop power struggles before they start

DON'T MISS:

Powerful realizations a client shared that transformed her mindset

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181. Breaking Free of Society's Expectations with Erin Spahr, LCPC, LCMHC, PMH-C

Tue, 07 Jan 2025 02:00:00 -0600

How can we create a more equitable world that supports motherhood?

My guest today, Erin Spahr, is a licensed therapist, mother, feminist, podcast host, and maternal mental health advocate. She uses a feminist lens in her work with mothers in her private practice and strives to help mothers free themselves from oppressive societal expectations and find more self-confidence and self-compassion.

Our conversation today spans cultural conditioning, matriscentric feminism, internalized patriarchy, and feminine rage. We cover what feminism is not, how the patriarchy shows up on a daily basis and affects men too, and tangible next steps on how to reset and forge ahead trying to raise kind, accepting kids.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

How feminism isn’t necessarily “equal to be fair”
The stage of feminism that’s needed most today
What to do with your feminine rage in the years to come

DON'T MISS-

A simple, yet radical way to fight back today

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Matricentric Feminism by Andrea Riley
Mom Rage: The Everyday Crisis of Modern Motherhood by Minna Dubin
Song: Labour by Paris Paloma

// CONNECT WITH ERIN SPAHR //
Instagram: @‌feminist.mom.therapist
Feminist Mom Podcast: www.feministmompodcast.com
Private Practice Website: www.erinspahrtherapy.com (available to folks in North Carolina and Maryland)
Inclusive Provider Directory: www.inclusiveproviders.com

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180. It's OK to Walk Away + What to Do When You Can't

Tue, 17 Dec 2024 02:00:00 -0600

We all dread it - the inevitable meltdown of EPIC proportions. It’s survival mode, and no one is immune.

In this episode, I share why I disagree with typical advice (and even Dr. Becky) on how to manage these meltdowns/outbursts, why it’s OK to walk away, and what to do when you can’t.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

An analogy to help illustrate your responsibility
Why staying WITH your child might actually backfire
How to “leave” the room without physically leaving

DON'T MISS:

Mantras to adopt that speak to your nervous system

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179. 7 Steps to a Successful Holiday with a Strong-Willed Child

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 02:00:00 -0600

The holiday season is upon us filled with changes, anticipation, late nights, unfamiliar meals, sweets, high emotions, extra tasks and stress.

Your strong-willed child will understandably have an even harder time navigating all of this unpredictability, triggers, and lack of routine.

Tune in to hear my 7 steps to a more successful holiday season for the whole family!

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

What to say NO to and why
Critical mindset shifts that allow you to prevent rather than react
How to manage the inevitable jealousy and lack of etiquette/appreciation

DON'T MISS:

Why there’s no right answer on whether you stick to routine or not

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Managing Candy + Holiday Sweets with Nicole Cruz, RD

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178. Cultivating Resilience + Managing Stress through Times of Uncertainty with Dr. Tovah Klein, PhD

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 02:00:00 -0600

… seems timely, right?

My guest today, Dr. Tovah P. Klein, Ph.D. is the author of Raising Resilience: How to Help Our Children Thrive in Times of Uncertainty. In her role as a researcher and professor and in direct care with parents and children for over thirty years, Klein has helped to define what every child needs to thrive, regardless of their life situations.

In our episode today, Dr. Tovah breaks down the 5 critical pillars that are the roots of resilience our kids need to be okay when things are not okay. She shares strategic ways to change how we react to our kids’ negative emotions and how to feel much more equipped to know what to focus on.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

What Resilience is NOT and how our good intentions backfire
The 5 Critical “Roots of Resilience” we can instill
The recipe for our kids to love themselves for who they are

DON'T MISS-

A pep talk if your child is rigid and/or loses it when things don’t go their way and you fear they’re on track to be entitled, spoiled or selfish!

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Website: TovahKlein.com
USA Today Bestselling Book, RAISING RESILIENCE
Instagram- @tovahklein

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177. How to Tag In/Out with your Partner with Dignity + Compassion

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 02:00:00 -0600

No couple goes into parenting as a perfectly united front. Every parent runs out of steam, hits a wall, and loses it from time to time. Good parents ask good questions like “How can I help my partner when things are going off the rails without stepping on their toes?”

Before you hop in the car and start parenting extra challenging behaviors in front of extended family this holiday season, have this important conversation with your partner to set you both up for much more success.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

The ONE question to ask your partner
Why you’re actually not failing, and what failing really looks like
Practical strategies to inspire you to put a new plan in place

DON'T MISS:

A better story to tell yourself that gives you permission to tag in/out in the first place

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Other recommended Failing Motherhood episodes:

Ep. 53 from 11/23/21 - Parenting Around Family

Ep. 61 from 3/8/22 - How to Get on the Same Page

Ep. 123 from 9/26/23 - Good Cop/ Bad Cop: The Broken Record Relationship

Ep. 129 from 11/7/23 - Best BOOKS for Strong-Willed Kids

Ep. 131 from 11/21/23 - Best GIFTS for Strong-Willed Kids (unconventional, practical and long-lasting ideas that are still fun to open!)

Ep. 133 from 12/5/23 - Boundaries with Parents with Jamie Cooper

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176. The Antidote for Shame + Guilt

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 02:00:00 -0600

There is something ALL parenting books are missing. You cannot fake it. There is no substitute. It is transformational.

…and it’s the critical antidote to guilt + shame.

If you’ve tried EVERYTHING under the sun- this might be the reason why you’ve stayed stuck. And it’s more needed than ever before.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

What my daughter’s violin teacher did that changed the game for me as a parent
The real reason why my coaching wasn’t helping families
Why a healthy sense of skepticism is warranted

DON'T MISS:

What my clients appreciate most

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The Suzuki Method

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175. NO REGRETS

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 02:00:00 -0600

One of my kids just received a diagnosis. It was 10 years in the making because school was not seeing any of the symptoms we saw at home until now.

In light of this milestone for our family, I’m sharing a personal reflection of my own parenting. As parenting is often filled with confusion, overwhelm, guilt and regret… here are things I do NOT regret.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

A vulnerable audit of my own parenting
What to do if your child is too young to be diagnosed with ADHD but you think they have it
Your path to better days with or without a diagnosis

DON'T MISS:

How to download a PDF guide helping you parent on the same page

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174. Kids are Not Content with Sarah Adams (@Mom.Uncharted)

Tue, 05 Nov 2024 02:00:00 -0600

What’s wrong with sharing pictures on Facebook so grandparents can see the kids?

As parents in 2024, we’re in uncharted waters trying to navigate our own internet use, let alone our kids’.

My guest today, Sarah Adams, is an online safety advocate and expert, exploring the state of parental public oversharing, child exploitation and minor security on social media.

While diving into the harsh realities of the Internet in 2024, she defines some key terms we should know, the impact of the pandemic, and whether private accounts are really private.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Beyond the digital footprint - 5 risks to consider when sharing online
Content she considers to be exploitative and what to do about it
Alternatives ways to stay in touch
How to talk to your kids about YouTube channels you can’t support

DON'T MISS-

Questions to ask yourself before hitting POST

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173. Managing Halloween Candy + Holiday Sweets with Nicole Cruz, RD

Tue, 29 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0500

T minus 2 days until a candy avalanche is at our doorsteps!

Thankfully, my guest today, Nicole Cruz, RD is here to take some weight off our shoulders.

Nicole is the founder of Nourish Together, a shame-free approach to family nutrition. As a Registered Dietitian and mom of three, Nicole supports parents in raising confident eaters who can eat a variety, listen to their body cues, and not obsess over sweets or other ‘treats’.

We start off our conversation naming many of the understandable fears around sugar, and how sometimes our fears end up exacerbating the fascination! Nicole shares two really important factors that help take sugar off it’s pedestal and teach an intuitive eating approach. She then gave a lot of practical advice for managing all the holiday sweets to come, Halloween and beyond.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

What to do if your child is OBSESSED with sweets
The enemies of intuitive eating - scarcity and restriction
What one word matters most in our language around food

DON'T MISS-

Whether or not she recommends using the “Switch Witch” or other trades for Halloween candy

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172. Raising Gifted & Twice-Exceptional (2e) Kids with Erin Vanek

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Are you in the midst of the chaotic beautiful hard journey that is raising a gifted child at your house? Can you know "for sure" if your child is gifted?

My guest today, Erin Vanek has spent well over a decade supporting gifted students with a Master's in Education and an endorsement in gifted education. She's also the founder of The Gifted Perspective, offering workshops, printable resources, and activities, and fostering a strong social media community. At home, she navigates the challenge of raising two twice-exceptional (2e) learners of her own.

In today’s episode, Erin shared how she beat herself up for struggling to support her oldest in ways she could with her students, and sharing what led to answers that allowed him to thrive, setting off a cascade of realizations within her family.

She defined twice-exceptional kids and giftedness as a whole, including the common traits, complexities, assets, and struggles as well as the most fascinating concept- asynchronous development - insight sure to set off lightbulbs and peace of mind in many listening parents.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Why gifted kids make seemingly simple + “careless” mistakes
The "waiting for the other shoe to drop” feeling parents like Erin so commonly feel when getting updates from school staff knowing there are behaviors to discuss
A key life skill to model with your gifted child while they’re still young

DON'T MISS-

The parenting changes you can make now to prevent your child from burning out down the road

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Website: www.thegiftedperspective.com
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170. Stepmom Support: From Proving Yourself to Living a Kick-Ass Life with Jamie Scrimgeour

Tue, 08 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0500

One could say with motherhood, you know what you’re signing up for - but you certainly have no idea how it will feel.

As a Child of Divorce and Child Protection Worker with a background in Psychology and Social Service Work, Jamie Scrimgeour thought she knew what she was signing up for as a childless bachelorette when she decided to marry a man with three kids and an ex.

But as I am sure you can guess, she felt like she had no freaking idea, and quickly found herself in-over-her head. Finding a lack of resources for step moms, she created her own and now supports thousands of step moms in doing the work to show up as their best selves.

In this episode, we spoke to assumptions her clients make of her and each other and unique challenges stepmoms face. She spoke to the guilt stepmoms feel in typical motherhood spaces - the things they would be shamed to say and the cycle they get into trying to prove themselves. She also shared advice for ex's and offered grace for dads.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The dichotomy of "loving like they're your own" yet needing to "know your place"
Things stepmoms are ashamed to say
Why learning how to disengage without disconnecting is a critical, relationship-saving skill

DON'T MISS-

Questions every parent can ask themselves to gain clarity + intentionality moving forward as a family

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Book: The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love by Vienna Pharaon

// CONNECT WITH JAMIE SCRIMGEOUR //
Website: jamiescrimgeour.com
Instagram: @jamiescrimgeour
Program: https://www.kickassstepmom.com/

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169. The Problem with Obedience

Tue, 01 Oct 2024 02:00:00 -0500

When other kids at the park instantly listen to their parents, it can make even the most well-intentioned parent feel self-conscious (and a little jealous).

Isn’t that the goal? A child who listens without hesitation?

Let’s talk about it.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

The longterm ramifications of putting obedience on a pedestal
What to focus on and aim for instead
A question to ask yourself to reflect on your approach

DON'T MISS:

The limiting factor that makes all of this extra challenging with strong-willed kids!

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168. ADHD in Motherhood with Patricia Sung

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 02:00:00 -0500

"You can't have ADHD! You have a master's degree!"

... and other misconceptions about ADHD. Whether you've been diagnosed, related to the memes, or have a child that's been diagnosed... this episode is for you!

Patricia Sung, Adult ADHD coach and host of Motherhood in ADHD, is here to share her journey into diagnosis, understanding her unique brain, and empowering other moms to do the same.

We normalize the struggle, share new insights, and reflect on the powerful act of breaking cycles.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Common traits and misconceptions of ADHD beyond being forgetful
Her go-to tools for managing anger while parenting
Ways to work WITH your ADHD to boost your self-compassion as a parent

DON'T MISS-

The double-edged sword that is having family with ADHD

// CONNECT WITH PATRICIA SUNG //
Website: www.motherhoodinadhd.com
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167. "Hold the Football": A Behavior Modification Tool

Tue, 17 Sep 2024 02:00:00 -0500

In today's quick episode, I break down a key facet to behavior modification I've been supporting a lot of clients with lately!

It’s not a surefire guarantee toward cupcakes, rainbows and butterflies - but it is necessary shift in your communication that doesn’t contribute to a crash and burn affect.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

2 Examples of effective behavior modification outside of parenting
What the "Hold the Football" Tool is and why it's critical
How to apply this tool when a sibling is being pestered in the car

DON'T MISS:

A challenge for you as you parent this week!

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Netflix Series- America's Sweethearts: The Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders

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166. "Knowing What I Know Now, I Wouldn't Become a Parent" with Holly Murphy

Tue, 10 Sep 2024 02:00:00 -0500

My guest today, Holly Murphy, is accomplished in their profession, a devoted parent in love with their kids, a vibrant personality, AND they’re open about how if they knew what they knew NOW back THEN, they would not become a parent.

You might not agree with Holly, but I know they’re not the only one. If there’s one thing we are on Failing Motherhood- it’s honest - and that’s why stories like Holly’s have a place here.

There is nothing more serious than making the commitment to become a parent. Do you truly know what you’re signing up for? Can you?

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Holly's two different paths into parenthood
Why we believe parenting is so much harder than teaching (as teachers)
Ways to find yourself outside the parent role

DON'T MISS-

What to do when parenting isn't what you thought it would be

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165. After School Restraint Collapse

Tue, 03 Sep 2024 02:00:00 -0500

It's that time of year, when your strong-willed child keeps it together all day at school then lets it all fall apart with you the second they get in the car.

I packed this episode full of perspective, mindset shifts, tangible strategies and preventative measures to equip you with the "game face" you need to tackle this transition.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

How to meet them where they're at while still setting boundaries
Why saying "Stop." "Don't" or "Calm down" won't work and what will instead
Questions to ask instead of "how was your day?"

DON'T MISS:

The tool you need to try esp. if you have siblings riding home together

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //

Kids Podcasts I recommend: (find them on Spotify or Apple Podcasts)
PRE-K

Circle Round
Quentin and Alfie's ABC Adventures
Molly of Denali
Sound Detectives

ELEMENTARY

The Big Life Kids Podcast
Story Pirates
Greeking Out from National Geographic Kids
What If World
But Why - A Podcast for Curious Kids
Smash Boom Best

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164. Surviving Until or Without Qualifying for a Diagnosis [Danielle on Moms Talk Autism]

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 02:00:00 -0500

A special gift for you this week, courtesy of our friends at Moms Talk Autism. Not only did they join me for last week’s episode, but they interviewed me on their show and were kind enough to share it with our audience so I could share it here.

My work specializes in helping families who are struggling with Neurodivergent traits in their child but don’t have a diagnosis yet or whose child does not meet the criteria for a specific diagnosis.

In this episode of Moms Talk Autism, I share what traits to look for in your child and what to do when you’re in the messy middle, in hopes this conversation is a helpful stepping stone to finding solutions for your family.

After you tune into this episode, don’t forget to head over to Moms Talk Autism and check it out... lots of great vulnerable conversations, topics and resources for families with Neurodivergent and Autistic kids!

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IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The dichotomy of strong-willed kids at HOME v. at school
Jean's 1st hand experience of this with her daughter 20 years ago
The powerful catalyst of community

DON'T MISS-

When it feels like you're in an abusive relationship with your child

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163. Building a New Dream After an Autism Diagnosis with Brittney + Shannon (Moms Talk Autism)

Tue, 20 Aug 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Today I’m sitting down with Brittney and Shannon, two out of the four moms from Moms Talk Autism, a podcast where good friends share their journeys figuring out in real time how to best support their kids and themselves, discussing school, family balance, siblings, grief, therapies, social issues, behaviors, delays, diagnosis advocacy, marriage, and more.

Our conversation highlights their individual stories, Brittney with four kids - two with Autism, both with very different needs and Shannon with an 18 year old and 10 y/o daughter with Autism. They offer honesty, wisdom and advice for other parents in the trenches with them - where there’s no rulebook and a lot of pressure, spanning from protecting your peace, finding your people, and building a new dream.

As we wrap up, they reflect on the beautiful ways they’ve changed as people as a result of parenting their kids.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Trusting your gut when you know something is wrong
"My child has not changed, your perception of them has..."
Moments that are gut-wrenching alongside moments of gratitude

DON'T MISS-

Diversifying your friendship portfolio

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Website: https://www.momstalkautism.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momstalkautism/
Link Tree: https://linktr.ee/momstalkautism
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Brittney's Instagram

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162. They Don't Hate YOU, They Hate...

Tue, 13 Aug 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Have you ever been told, "I HATE YOU" by your child?
Or even worse "You're not coming to my birthday party!"

Parents of strong-willed kids (esp. mom) can become the scapegoat for the anger they harbor, and it can lead to parents hearing things like “You don’t love me”.

This often causes a spiral into permissiveness to avoid conflict, anxiety, and/or a lot of self-doubt as a parent.

Spoiler Alert: They don’t hate you. They hate feeling crazy and all alone with their BIG emotions. And we do too.

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IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

My CRAZY week and what led me to resent my husband
7 things they hate MORE than you
The prerequisite to building the momentum that’s needed to problem solve forward together

DON'T MISS:

How to interpret and respond when your child says “I HATE YOU!”

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// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Episode 111 (June 2023): “Why are they so angry?”

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161. A Skeptic's Take on Gentle Parenting + How to STOP Fighting and START Living with Joseph + Sarah

Tue, 06 Aug 2024 02:00:00 -0500

You are gonna be pretty hard-pressed to find more honesty than what is inside this conversation! In today's episode, I have the honor of interviewing Joseph and Sarah, my clients + parents of 6- and 21-year-old daughters.

Together they share the shifts that made it possible to stop triggering their daughter's defense mechanism, get on the same page, and have an approach and home full of mutual respect.

Fair warning - Joseph describes himself as a blunt, "tell-it-like-it-is" kind of guy, and that is exactly what we get from him. No fluff, no sugarcoating; the real deal.
He has gone from being incredibly skeptical of gentle parenting itself, let alone my program or working with me, to being on my podcast.

This episode might speak deepest to Gen X'ers, dads, or any/all parents that were raised not to ask for help.

If your partner is skeptical of how you're trying to parent, send them this episode.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The breaking point that made change possible
Joseph's powerful realizations that allowed him to stop fighting with Harper
A new way to define "gentle parenting", esp. for strong-willed kids

DON'T MISS-

Sarah + Joseph's two LIFESAVERS for bedtime

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160. Cherish Every Moment . . . OR NOT.

Tue, 18 Jun 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Parents are inundated with messages from complete strangers on the Internet and in person reiterating "You're going to miss this!" "It goes SO fast!" "The mess can wait!"

The problem is... sometimes the mess can't wait, you might NOT miss this stage, or there's so much more to look forward to!

Let's stop forcing undue pressure on parents and instead, consider the hope and gratitude in a more longterm approach.

IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

A viral post and a well-written rebuttal
The lies I believed and what I believe now as a mom to 10 + 11 y/o's
Permission to step away without guilt

DON'T MISS:

The best might be yet to come

* Failing Motherhood will be on break until August. *

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FB Post: Last Time for Everything by Shay Toler

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159. The Joke's on Us! Relatable Dads, Wholesome Advice with Kevin + Evan (@thedumbdads)

Tue, 11 Jun 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Happy Father's Day, dads!

My guests today, Kevin + Evan, are two stay-at-home dad comedians trying to let parents know the struggle is normal and we’re doing better than we think.

You might already follow them as they’ve been featured on Good Morning America, Momsplaining with Kristen Bell, & Today and go viral often on TikTok and Instagram for bits like "Dad Press Conferences".

‌They’ve set out to be relatable dads that can poke fun out of the bizarre experience that parenting is, fight the stigma of the bar being on the floor for dads and give parents permission to laugh at themselves and their kids, knowing they’re not alone.

They say they're failing fatherhood, but I pull some great parenting perspective out of them inside this episode!

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Some of the most patronizing moments they've had as SAHD's
How they find the line of what to share online
How to add the Improv tool of "Yes, And" to your parenting toolkit

DON'T MISS-

Why they're already the parents they wish they were

// CONNECT WITH KEVIN & EVAN //
‎Dumb Dad Podcast on Apple Podcasts
Instagram: @thedumbdads
TikTok: The Dumb Dads

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158. Is it all True? How to Live in the Gray in the Black+White World of Parenting Advice with Ryan Allen, LPCC-S, LPC (@preschooltherapy)

Tue, 04 Jun 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Ryan Allen, LPCC-S, LPC, is a licensed therapist with a decade of expertise working with young children and their families. A parent of two young kids, Ryan creates free resources for nearly 1 million parents and child caregivers on both TikTok and IG, providing guidance and support to shift away from traditional punitive approaches towards fostering environments of mutual respect.

I intentionally bring up several controversial topics to get his thoughts.

Is it true....

That therapists are perfect parents?
That your pediatrician’s advice is the golden rule?
That kids grow out of behaviors?
That you shouldn’t say “good job”?
That you have to read to your kids every night?
That all it takes to extinguish a behavior is playing your cards right?
Is there such a thing as a naughty or bad kid?
If your child knows better and does it anyway, isn’t that manipulation? Shouldn’t you take it personally?
Do we need to fix a behavior right away or else it will get worse?

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER -

Two questions to ask yourself to actually stop a negative behavior
The insight that completely shifted Ryan’s professional approach
An alternative approach to the red/green/yellow clip charts

DON’T MISS:

What to do when behavior feels disrespectful

// MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE //
Beyond Behavior by Mona Delahooke
Dan Siegel books
Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn
No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury

// CONNECT WITH RYAN //
Tiktok: @preschooltherapy
Instagram: @preschooltherapist
Website: http://Preschooltherapist.com

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157. They know better than this!

Tue, 28 May 2024 02:00:00 -0500

You're 100% right. They do know better. These are smart kids we're talking about here, nothing gets past them!

So, if that's true, why are they still hitting, pushing, screaming, or whathaveyou?

Explaining the rules for the 1,456th time isn't going to solve anything.

What will? Tune in with curiosity.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

The truth behind two incredibly common misconceptions
The painful sting of regret that's oh, too familiar
How it feels when the tables have turned

DON'T MISS:

Why it's problematic to tell your child to "make good choices."

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156. The Path to Stop Feeling Powerless in your Parenting with Laura + Mike

Tue, 21 May 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Today you get a true behind the scenes look at what parenting a strong-willed child looks like at someone else's house.

Laura and Mike are full-time working parents with 3 kids living in Minneapolis.

Just a few months ago, they describe what parenting felt like - powerless, volatile, unpredictable. They felt lost, with no toolkit and no shared understanding.

After sharing the barriers they had to overcome to get support, they narrate what really stuck with them through the work that they did on themselves through their time inside Wholeheartedly CALM, my 3 month group coaching program.

They both describe the feeling of empowerment they found through a lot of self reflection and just how amazing it feels to get to enjoy their kids more again. Their kids enjoy being enjoyed as well!

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IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED…

The power of language - small tweaks have a huge impact on cooperation
Ways to take your power back as a parent, while empowering your child at the same time
The topic Laura + Mike truly appreciated having shame-free conversations about

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It matters more what we do than what we say

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155. 5 Lessons in 5 years of Entrepreneurship

Tue, 14 May 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Failing Motherhood is 4 years old and Wholeheartedly is 5! We’re taking this opportunity to reflect on the last two years and the lessons I’ve learned - some easily, some the hard way.

Entrepreneurship is such a similar journey to parenting - you don’t know what you’re getting into exactly, it’s much harder than anticipated, it requires a lot of self-work and growth, and it’s riddled with self-doubt and imposter syndrome. You have to take it one day at a time and make new decisions with every piece of new information.

Take these 5 Lessons into your current business, potential business idea, or parenting journey, and know that your confidence is everything!

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IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

The Importance of “pruning” over innovating at this stage
What I attribute the consistent success of Wholeheartedly to
How to relate these lessons to your parenting

DON'T MISS:

Why “going viral” doesn’t mean what we think it does

‌// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Ep. #65: 3 Years In: Reflections on being a Solopreneur - Failing Motherhood

CALM + CONFIDENT: The Masterclass
www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/confident

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154. What EVERYONE Needs to know about Parenting a Disabled Child with Kelley Coleman

Tue, 07 May 2024 02:00:00 -0500

‌Today’s conversation answers so many questions you’re likely too afraid to ask.

My guest today immediately makes uncomfortable topics comfortable, sensitive subjects approachable and speaks from so much experience, get ready to pull up a chair.

Kelley Coleman is a feature film development executive turned author and advocate for parent caregivers and individuals with disabilities. Her book Everything No One Tells You About Parenting a Disabled Child: Your Guide to the Essential Systems, Services, and Supports combines the wisdom of 40 experts and all sorts of cheat codes to save time in all the logistics of raising a disabled child, including her own experience parenting a child with multiple disabilities.

Disability remains such a taboo topic, and there is so much to learn from Kelley. She shares what parents of disabled children wish we knew, as well as speaking hope and validation directly to parents of disabled children.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The most respectful terminology to use
How to handle when your child is curious and you don’t know the first thing to say
All the emotions that are normal to have when your child gets diagnosed

DON'T MISS-

Kelley pouring her heart out with ways to make your caregiver role sustainable while sharing validation and hope

// CONNECT WITH KELLEY //
Link to order the book: Everything No One Tells You About Parenting a Disabled Child: Your Guide to the Essential Systems, Services, and Supports
Website: www.kelleycoleman.com
Instagram: @hellokelleycoleman

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Emily Ladau: https://emilyladau.com
Tiffany Hammond, aka Fidgets and Fries: https://www.fidgetsandfries.co
Elspeth, aka Neurodivergent Parenting: Think Outside the Box:
Neurodivergent Parenting: Think Outside The Box

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153. 2 Mistakes Well-Intentioned Parents Make

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 02:00:00 -0500

This week we’re taking parenting tips from Hello Fresh!

In ways you may not have realized, being a parent is sort of like working in customer service. In our case, the customer isn’t always right, but the way we handle conflict may invite our child to ask for our manager! :)

Your goal as a parent is to build credibility and trust in your “brand” rather than bad reviews! As I reveal the two mistakes well-intentioned parents make, you'll be invited to reflect on your default reaction and formulate a balanced response instead.

In this episode, I share…

How to embrace conflict even when it makes you uncomfortable
Two different ways you can take feedback, criticism or complaints from your child
A quote that’s shaped every single day of my parenting

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How my missing package was handled by Hello Fresh (and whether I recommend them or NOT)‌

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152. GLOW UP: Feel Better In Your Body Without Changing It

Tue, 23 Apr 2024 02:00:00 -0500

For the past 6 months I’ve had the opportunity to work on my relationship with my body- no procedures, no weight loss, no supplements, just selecting and being more mindful of how I’m dressing myself and how it makes me feel.

In today’s episode I break down what kicked off the journey, the milestones along the way, and the absolute game-changer that sealed the deal!

This episode is for you if you know your appearance has taken a back seat to your kids, and more self-love is on your list this season.

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IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:

How I re-wrote the “unwritten rules” I used to dress myself
The stores I had luck with (and where I got burned!)
Takeaways I recommend to every mom

DON'T MISS:

The P.S. at the end that might be just what you need to hear

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151. What to do when they won't let it go

Tue, 16 Apr 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Today's episode is a little bit of a different, more special setup. I had a fantastic coaching conversation with a parent of a 3 1/2 year-old about a situation that they were dealing with around an irrational hyperfixation they just could not get over or let go of no matter what they tried!

Listen as I dive into this universal experience and offer some more context around these situations and what I recommend.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The critical step to salvaging your sanity in these moments
When to introduce the logic or reasoning
A counterintuitive game-changer I dare you to try!

DON'T MISS-

The lifesaver that is individualized feedback and support!

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150. Do LESS and Feel BETTER: Saying Goodbye to Intensive Mothering and the "Perfect Mom" Myth with Erica Djossa

Tue, 09 Apr 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Ever feel like you're doing it ALL and it's never ENOUGH?

My guest today, Erica Djossa is a registered psychotherapist, sought-after maternal mental health specialist, and the founder of wellness company Momwell. Erica is frequently featured in media publications and her popular Momwell podcast has over a million downloads.

Her book - Releasing the Mother Load: How to Carry Less and Enjoy Motherhood More comes out TODAY (Tuesday, April 9th) and our conversation today highlights so much of the meaningful work inside it.

After she shares her "breakdown to breakthrough", Erica reiterates it’s not just us - MOMS ARE NOT OKAY. She introduces ideas like the motherload, our motherhood filing cabinet, and an activity called a Values Sort to help us become more conscious of the default patterns we've found ourselves in and how to dig our way out.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Where the myth of the "perfect mother" comes from
The 5 core beliefs of "intensive mothering" and what to replace them with
The measuring stick we should use to evaluate ourselves instead of blood, sweat and tears

DON'T MISS-

What it truly means to be a good mom

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148. Caregiving, Aging, + the Sandwich Generation with Michele Magner

Tue, 26 Mar 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Many parents today find themselves in the sandwich generation where stress, guilt and burnout is real.

My guest today, Michele Magner, has earned her MBA and Master's certification in gerontology and is a Gerontology PhD student at the University of Nebraska Omaha. She's a certified life coach, certified dementia practitioner, and certified conscious aging facilitator and an adjunct professor in the fall of 2024.

As an experienced family caregiver with many years in the senior living industry, she understands the challenges that you are facing as you care for those you love.

Our conversation included dissecting how we are managing stress, how core values play into our capacity and integrity, why it's okay to fill your cup just for you, and the difference between making promises and making plans.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Michele's vulnerable example of "failing" her daughter and the powerful realizations she took from it
The 3 "C's" all caregivers need
The Importance of bringing your kids into hard conversations

DON'T MISS-

Fascinating research around the relationship between chronological age and subjective age, and its effect on aging

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147. The 3 Types of Parents of Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 19 Mar 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Which one are you? Which one is your partner?

Not only does the second half of your parenting life begin when you understand you're parenting a strong-willed child, but your self awareness sky rockets when you realize you're a Worrying Warrior.

Your next step is to evaluate whether you're parenting with a "Just tell me what to do" parent or an "It is what it is" parent.

In this episode, I break down each of these three parenting approaches, the motives behind their actions, and wedge of divide that grows between parents that feel they need to overcompensate for the other.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

How to identify your parenting style
The long term ramifications of you + your partner parenting from opposite ends of the spectrum
The foundation to build from and move forward with

DON'T MISS:

How Chelsy and Matt found common ground

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146. Life After Divorce with Paige Dempsey

Tue, 12 Mar 2024 02:00:00 -0500

Have you ever wondered what life after a divorce would even look like?

Today's guest, Paige Dempsey, is an anti-anxiety Dating and Relationship Coach for women.

In Paige’s words, she got married late and divorced early. She’s been a step mom, mom of a child with her ex, and a solo mother by choice. At the same time as her and her husband were separating, her best friend was diagnosed with cancer. She felt like she was just getting by.

In this episode, Paige holds nothing back as she narrates her thoughts and feelings both inside and outside of her marriage. She shares how she believes divorce can strengthen the kids’ experience of and relationship with their fathers, the mindset she used to move forward without fear, and the patterns she sees in her dating clients.

This episode is for you if you’ve wondered what’s on the other side of a divorce, been intimidated by leaving or dating again, or just hope to glean wisdom for your current relationships!

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

How Paige decided getting a divorce was the right decision
Why Paige and her Ex get along now better than ever
The difference between therapy and coaching

DON'T MISS-

Paige's timeless dating advice, especially if you're on the apps

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UnF*ck your Brain podcast - Kara Loewentheil

Ep. 121 of Failing Motherhood - Solo Motherhood by Choice - 9/12/23

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145. Don't Insist on an Apology

Tue, 05 Mar 2024 02:00:00 -0600

Say you're sorry. "I'M SORRY! GAAHHH!!" they ROAR from the other room.
Lessons were learned, right?

Often when parenting strong-willed kids, the messages we're trying to send, the skills we're trying to model and the lessons we're trying to teach get lost at sea in a battle of control and BIG emotions.

Instead of checking the box to make ourselves feel better, I'm breaking down why I don't insist my kids apologize and what we do instead.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

Why especially strong-willed kids struggle so much with the vulnerability of apologizing
What choices you have in how you react that doesn't let them "get away with it"
The way my kids ask each other for forgiveness and forgive the other.

DON'T MISS:

What to say when they shut down the choices you offer

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144. "I Should WANT to do This": The Challenges of Playing with our Kids with Sara Olsher

Tue, 27 Feb 2024 02:00:00 -0600

Have you ever thought these things while attempting to play with your kid(s)?

I’d rather be doing something else.
I should want to do this.
This is boring. OR This is too much.
I feel guilty bc of how much I hate this.
This is not fun. This is not easy. How do I get this to stop?

You’re not alone, and my guest today, Sara Olsher is going to share a brutally honest take at the real life challenges and guilt associated with play and quality time as a parent.

Cancer survivor, divorced single mom of one, author-illustrator and founder of Mighty and Bright, Sara has a credible and honest take on these challenges as well as a unique, creative solution.

We know we’re supposed to spend quality time with our kids. We also know it’s quite often much easier said than done.

In our conversation we take the time to name the obvious realities of being bored, overstimulated or doing it wrong as well as the real dynamics that make it even more challenging like being a single parent, having multiple kids, having a chronic illness, and being neurodivergent or just being under so much stress.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Why we believe it’s a crime that your mental health as a parent is not a consideration with most expert advice of what’s best for kids
How 1:1 time prevents negative behaviors
The critical components to make sure play together ACTUALLY fills their cup

DON'T MISS-

Our beef with playing "The Floor Is Lava" :)

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//
Sara's previous episodes:
Ep. 37- Talking about Hard Things - April 13th, 2021
Ep. 51 - Kids’ Mental Health at Home - October 26th, 2021

Time Timer Apps

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Website: MightyandBright.com
Instagram: @mightyandbrightco
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143. How TO (and NOT to) Use Timers with Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 20 Feb 2024 02:00:00 -0600

Have you found using timers at your house to be HIT or MISS?

Either it helps tremendously or meltdowns ensue? What gives?

I'm breaking it all down on today's episode- both the DO's and DON'T's so you understand exactly what's needed to make your use of timers as effective as possible.

Not only do I share key insight into reducing whining, clinging, and complaining, but visual timers are your friend, and it's all about semantics so your child sees the "what's in it for me" factor!

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

My go-to recommendation for keeping kids at the dinner table longer
Ways to make transitions to bedtime or leaving the park so much easier
How to leverage a timer during play / quality time

DON'T MISS:

Whether or not you should be making "deals" with your child

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7.5 inch Timer
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142. ENOUGH: Overcome Self-Doubt and Find Self-Compassion with Relationship Expert, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish

Wed, 14 Feb 2024 02:00:00 -0600

Happy Valentine's Day! This episode is guaranteed to help you tap into more self-love.

I'm talking to Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist, couples therapist, and relationship expert. She's the host of the podcast, "I'm not your Shrink", and author of "I Didn't Sign Up For This".

Tracy starts by sharing her frustration with a family ski event not going according to plan. As we dove into our conversation, a theme quickly emerged around feeling not enough, and how our core beliefs about self-worth influence how we parent and interact with partners.

Tracy breaks down tangible ways we can level up our communication style in our partnerships, as well as how to become more of a friend to ourselves.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The 4 negative communication styles + how to ask for feedback
3 Questions to ask yourself to become more self-aware
How meeting our own needs models healthy behavior for our kids

DON'T MISS-

The 2 C's required to access self-compassion
How Tracy has reframed how she sees her strong-willed child

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Instagram: @drtracyd
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141. Entrepreneurship, Having a 4th + Fighting for My Marriage with Steph Pellish

Tue, 06 Feb 2024 02:00:00 -0600

Whether you’re trying to decide whether to have another child, hoping to salvage your marriage, on your way to creating or owning your own business, or are just desperate to not feel so alone without family support - this is your episode.

Steph Pellish is a wife, a mom of 4, owns 2 businesses, and has always been a dreamer with big ideas. After feeling lost and lonely, Steph has built a community of entrepreneurial women who come together regularly to grow, learn, support and collaborate with each other.

In this episode, Steph chronicles her reckoning with wanting to have a 4th child, having that child 6 weeks before lockdown, and her husband telling her 6 weeks later that things weren’t working.

In the most relatable of ways, she shares the journey into healing she went through personally and in their marriage to come back stronger, while finding the support she deserved.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The clarity Steph needed when deciding whether or not to have a 4th child when she and her husband didn't see eye-to-eye
What it takes to be successful as an entrepreneur
The importance of finding like-minded women, not just the other moms who happen to be in the play groups

DON'T MISS-

What people kept telling her when she was struggling that made her feel crazy!

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140. Challenging Common Fears When Raising Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 30 Jan 2024 02:00:00 -0600

What if it's not what you think it is?

Two weeks ago I listed the 11 most common fears/challenges experienced by parents of strong-willed kids. In this episode I address each one.

The work is in NOT letting these fears take hold of the way you parent, but rather gain awareness and understanding while you get to the bottom of what's really going on.

Listen to that episode first, then circle back here for the freedom to zoom out and let some fears go entirely.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

Why conflict should be embraced, not feared
A reason to relax if you're the *least* preferred parent currently
Insight that will help let new perspective in

DON'T MISS:

An illustration to help you imagine how your child might feel at the end of everyday

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//
Part 1 - Ep. 138 - The 11 Most Common Challenges of Parenting a Strong-Willed Child
Ep. 108 - Break the Cycle

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139. Make More Mom Friends with Emily Siegel

Tue, 23 Jan 2024 02:00:00 -0600

Do you wish you had more mom friends? You're not alone.

Unfortunately villages don't just happen. They're created!

Today’s guest, Emily Siegel, is a friendship mentor, podcast host, working mom of two adorable little boys, and the leader of The Connected Mom Life Community. She helps busy moms create the circle of friends they crave because she firmly believes we weren’t made to mom alone, and she’s on a mission to see that we stop trying.

In our conversation she highlights the three most common misconceptions moms believe that hold them back from the relationships they'd love, how to make friendships *stickier* and whether or not it's okay if our spouse is our main source of connection in this season.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Why making mom friends feels harder than dating
The comment to make to test the waters and see if a potential friend is a "safe" person
How to fit friendship into your life as a busy mom by making the most of the time you have

DON'T MISS-

Emily's fail proof pick-up line to get a mom's number

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//
Laura Tremaine

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138. The 11 Most Common Fears/Challenges of Parenting a Strong-Willed Child

Tue, 16 Jan 2024 02:00:00 -0600

Hard, frustrating, exhausting - is an understatement. Your lived experience as a parent of a strong-willed child is one many can't understand, including yourself sometimes!

There are very real dynamics, fears, and perceptions that make showing up moment to moment extremely difficult, and it's impossible to solve for them without being able to name them first.

This episode is going to give words for what you haven't yet had words to describe.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

Proof you're not the only one late night Googling and stressing about these things...
The valid + understandable reasons why you feel the way you do
What you have control over and what you don't

DON'T MISS:

Why you might feel defeated as a "Can do" Parent with a "Do it For Me" Kid

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137. Loving + Leaving Alcohol with Stefanie Wilder-Taylor

Tue, 09 Jan 2024 03:00:00 -0600

Today's guest, Stefanie Wilder-Taylor, is an author, TV personality, and cohost of the popular podcast For Crying Out Loud. She co-created and hosted the late-night comedy parenting show Parental Discretion with Stefanie Wilder-Taylor for NickMom on Nickelodeon. She’s the author of Sippy Cups Are Not for Chardonnay; Naptime Is the New Happy Hour; It’s Not Me, It’s You; I’m Kind of a Big Deal; and Gummi Bears Should Not Be Organic.

In this episode (and her new book DRUNK-ISH: Loving and Leaving Alcohol (On sale January 16, 2024)), she recounts the rise and fall of her relationship with alcohol, from her online fame as a wine-loving mommy blogger, to her denial, to the disastrous evening when she drove drunk with her kids in the car that marked the end.

The moral of the story we hope you hear from this episode is that it’s less important to figure out whether or not you’re an alcoholic, and more important to decide whether you could benefit from stopping drinking.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Her compulsion to keep secrets or stay silent when feeling like she was failing motherhood early on
"Mommy wine culture" and all the reasons we happen to drink
Hesitations, pre-conceived notions, and fears about life as a sober mom

DON'T MISS-

Indicators of a problem to watch out for in your (or a loved one's) relationship with alcohol

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//
Ep. 79: Really Wanted and Really Hard
Book: Pregnancy Sucks: What to do when your Miracle Makes you Miserable
Book: Toddlers are A**holes: It's Not Your Fault

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Website/Books: stefaniewildertaylor.com/books
Instagram: @SWilderTaylor
Apple Podcasts: For Crying Out Loud
Pre-Order: Drunk-Ish: A Memoir of Loving and Leaving Alcohol (out January 16th, 2024)

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136. Decluttering TOYS: A Guilt-Free Guide to LESS

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 02:00:00 -0600

Tis the season for under-stimulated kids, over-stimulated parents, an influx of gifts and stuff everywhere!

If you have the urge to throw everything away right now, you’re not alone!

If you’d love to have LESS at your house but feel guilty for getting rid of perfectly good (educational even!) toys, this episode is for you.

Today I’m sharing the benefits of less toys for you and your kid(s), your goals to set out and attain, and I break down the steps to take to go through things one shelf at a time.

Cheers to more cooperation, more focused independent play, and more SANITY in 2024!

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

A step-by-step approach to tackle toys at your house with no guilt whatsoever
Advice on how to involve your kids
My thoughts on toy rotation, books, gifts, and all their trinkets + trash :)

DON'T MISS:

The key mindset shift that sets the tone for everyone!

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135. [REPLAY] Special Needs Parenting, Guilt for Siblings, and Mama Bear Love with Paulette Pinero

Tue, 19 Dec 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Originally Aired: September 8th, 2020

If nothing prepares you for parenting... how can you possibly be prepared to parent a child with special needs?

After trying everything & realizing her son wasn't able to get the help he needed, Paulette risked everything to leave her home country of Puerto Rico.

After devoting her all to her son, Paulette felt like the ultimate failure when she realized she was missing obvious signs her daughter was behind at school. Paulette felt like she wasn't doing enough and it was all her fault.

This episode is an ode to a dedicated teacher, the sacrifices we make as moms, and learning to step back to watch our kids fly.

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134. [REPLAY] Becoming the Expert of Your Child with Grace Henke

Tue, 12 Dec 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Originally Aired: October 6th, 2020

Keeping a brand new human alive when you've never done it before is... A LOT.

When Grace Henke's daughter could not stop screaming, she took her right back to the hospital their first night home!

Supplementing, lip/tongue ties, constipation, gas, panicking about milestones is all overwhelming enough, let alone the constant comparisons to others & the doubt in your own abilities.

Is my daughter alright? Is she behind? Am I behind?

After a whirlwind of a few months, Grace is here to share how she's combating the pressure, embracing her daughter for exactly who she is, and becoming confident as a new mom.

She also dives into her perspective on anti-obedience dog training and the parallels to positive parenting! MIND BLOWN.

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133. [REPLAY] Boundaries with Parents with Jamie Cooper

Tue, 05 Dec 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Originally aired: October 13, 2020 (Ep. 26)

"You want your parents to be involved in your child's life, but at what cost?"

Both of Jamie's parents are alcoholics and are still in a gut-wrenching divorce that's been going on for years. She has been working daily to break the chain of trauma, and what once crippled her has made her so much stronger.

"It was a scary thing to realize that this is no longer something that only affects me. This affects my kids. I have to ensure my kids are safe."

Disappointment. Lies. Heartbreak. Guilt. Grief.

If you've ever been stuck trying to navigate boundaries with your extended family, this episode is for you. Get ready to take notes from Jamie's example.

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132. How to Be the CALM to Your Strong-Willed Child's Storm: Moving Beyond Theories to Application with Omaya + Andrew

Tue, 28 Nov 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Parents to a 4-year-old strong-willed son and an almost 2 year-old daughter, Omaya + Andrew are here to share the biggest mindset shifts they internalized that made it possible for them to go from constantly splitting up their family to avoid setting off their strong-willed child to watching their sibling relationship thrive and taking both kids hiking as a solo parent!

They reflected on what they've done well to parent together as true partners, processing the information in real time and tagging each other out in the moment.

But most importantly, they hope by hearing their story you'll not only feel incredibly validated, but realize how possible it is to make sense of all the theories when you have individualized insight.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The problem with spending your energy trying to rationalize with someone who’s behavior is by definition, irrational
What it really means to respond to the emotion, not the action
How empowering it is to move from avoidance to acceptance of your child's BIG emotions

DON'T MISS:

What to do with your fears that your child is the *worst* child of all the kids you know

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131. Best GIFTS for Strong-Willed Kids (unconventional, practical and long-lasting ideas that are still fun to open!)

Tue, 21 Nov 2023 02:00:00 -0600

No matter the occasion, when buying a gift for the kid(s) in your life, you want to WOW them without breaking the bank or seeing your investments lying in the "toy graveyard" 2 months from now, taking up space or making a mess, never to be played with again.
I GOT YOU!

I've compiled a huge list of mostly unconventional items your strong-willed child will lose their mind for, and continue playing with for months or years to come! They're not super expensive, they're not super messy, they're not annoying, and they still retain the "fun to watch them open" factor!

The overall GOAL for gifts for strong-willed kids is that the gifts create a feeling of being BIG/grown up, getting to be the boss, feeling important or in control through play.

Remember, if we don't proactively give them outlets to get this very real need met, we leave it up to them and they'll find a way, it just won't be mutually beneficial.

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My "5 Rules to Live By" when buying toys
Oodles of practical gifts you haven't thought of, like over 100+
Ideas that give strong-willed kids a huge sense of power + control!

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The 3 gifts that take the cake!

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130. Is this Normal? Peeing your Pants, Hemorrhoids, Period Pain and All Things Pelvic Floor with Dr. Sara Reardon (@the.vagina.whisperer)

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Today I am talking to Dr. Sara Reardon (@the.vagina.whisperer), board-certified pelvic health physical therapist and founder of an online on-demand workout platform for your pelvic floor and core. She's here to talk about all things pelvic floor, dropping basic knowledge we all wish someone would have told us by now but no one has.

Together we work to normalize the conversation, not the pain or the misery.

You might begin to realize that what you're experiencing is more common than you think. But also not necessarily normal. And there is something that you can do about it.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Dr. Sara's two core truths she's learned in motherhood
The difference between a pelvic floor therapist and an OBGYN
Direct answers to questions like "Do you need pelvic floor therapy if you have a C-Section?"
Why kegels aren't the answer for everyone - and could actually make things worse

DON'T MISS-

The priceless (and disgusting) parts of being known on social media

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129. BEST Books for Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 07 Nov 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Think of literally anything. There's a fantastic children's book on it!

Books can be used to meet your strong-willed child's need for control through a power reversal role, as well as teach them important social-emotional life skills!

I've compiled 29 of my very favorite books I highly recommend to my clients, and have categorized them by - Offers Control, BIG Emotions, Best for Toddlers and Skill Building.

While they are linked to an Amazon wishlist below, feel free to reserve and rent them from your local library!

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29 Books I Wholeheartedly Recommend
Why You Need Power Reversal Books in your Life ASAP
Who my All-Time Favorite Author/Illustrator is!

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Omaya + Andrew's wisdom shared inside Wholeheartedly CALM

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Ep. #53 - Parenting Around Family

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128. The Reality of Human Trafficking + How to Protect Your Kids with Alexandra Ford

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Today's topic is a heavy one; dark and possibly triggering...but we don't leave you hanging. It's not one that I would advise playing in the car with kids around, but it is necessary listening if you aim to be an aware, conscious parent in today's society.

Alexandra Ford (previously Stevenson), a former trafficking victim turned activist, started her anti-trafficking work at 11 years old. 10 years later, she was trafficked. And it wasn't until another 10 years passed that she was able to identify what happened to her as trafficking.

In today's episode, Alexandra not only walks us through her story, but depicts the truth about human trafficking: what it really is, why it's so hard to recognize and stop once you're in it, and what's actually worth spending your time on as a parent to protect your kids.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

How human trafficking is different from the movies; much closer to home, yet harder to recognize
The progression of the relationship that binds and traps victims
Practical things we can implement in each age and stage to help prevent our kids from being susceptible to this path

DON'T MISS-

How to put traffickers out of business for good

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127. The 3 D's of Lasting Change: Does Your Family Have What It Takes?

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0500

It's HARD + SCARY to unlearn, re-learn, and teach new ways of being with your child as a united front with your partner, improve your child's behavior, and become more and more confident by the day (ESPECIALLY with strong-willed kids)!

What sets the families apart that succeed in truly changing their lives for good?

There's much more insight to be gleaned from the actual journey toward growth than from anything to do with the power struggle that happened at breakfast this morning.

Today I'm breaking down the questions I ask to determine whether families have the three necessary components that create transformational change.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

The Transformation Triad: the 3 D's
Why change just doesn't last if you don't have all 3
Whether or not it matters how much they're struggling

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Dee's wisdom shared inside Wholeheartedly CALM

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Ep. #28 - How to Do the Work with Sarah Saldi

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126. When Productivity Masks High-Functioning Anxiety with Becky Gleed, PMHP

Tue, 17 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Motherhood is hard for everyone, so how do you know when what you’re experiencing is not what everyone is experiencing?

Today’s guest, Becky Gleed is a busy working mom of two fun, spirited girls, a licensed marriage and family therapist and a certified perinatal mental health professional ! She owns and operates a private mental health practice right outside of Washington, D.C. specializing in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders.

In today’s episode we talk about how the egregious policies and lack of support she witnessed while working in emergency psychiatric care for moms informed the work she does now. We covered the breadth of mental health and mood disorders postpartum parents experience and why it’s critical to seek support sooner than later.

In a world that equates busyness with success, how do we differentiate when productivity is a mental health concern? Becky shares key indicators, next steps and power thoughts for moms struggling with high functioning anxiety, and insight on when and why to get help.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

How to recognize the root of what's driving your productivity
Why you need to differentiate your identity from your symptoms
What happens years down the road when you DON'T get help

DON'T MISS-

Key take home messages to remind yourself of often

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Postpartum Support International: postpartum.net

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Website: rebeccamgleedlmft.com/
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125. 11 Reasons Why Gentle Parenting Feels Impossible to Implement

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0500

GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK FOR GOODNESS SAKE!

There are likely more than a handful of very legit reasons why doing this hard thing feels even harder for you right now.

Are you aware of them enough to know how to overcome them?

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

Often underestimated, proven ways your progress has been held back
Why some of the approaches you've been working so hard to implement aren't working at all
How learning more in some ways does more of a disservice than a benefit

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#11- the key to transformation

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124. The Case for Embracing Screens + Video Games with Mx. Ash Brandin, EdS

Tue, 03 Oct 2023 02:00:00 -0500

NOTE: This episode will not answer every question you have in hopes of finding the *perfect* formula for managing screens and video games at your house. However, I guarantee you will see them in an entirely new light one hour from now, no matter your child's age.

Mx. Ash Brandin, EdS (they/them) has been a public school educator for over a decade. . After years of research and starting their Instagram page @thegamereducator, they have helped over 100,000 families make screen time beneficial for the whole family.

The COVID-19 Pandemic brought forth a reckoning in how we view and interact with screens, especially as parents. Ash believes screens should be a part of our lives, not the center of our lives and helps caregivers navigate the world of tech using consistent loving boundaries.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Whether there is "good" screen time and "bad" screen time
The brilliance of video games and how to work WITH them
The need to sit in the discomfort of prioritizing our own needs as parents

DON'T MISS-

The privilege of discovering ourselves so our kids have an easier time doing the same

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123. Good Cop / Bad Cop: The Broken Record Relationship

Tue, 26 Sep 2023 02:00:00 -0500

This episode goes out to every family that is trying to break the cycle and feels like it might break their marriage.

There's a vicious cycle that plays itself out over and over like a broken record in these dynamics in ways that account for the inevitable stress on your relationship that is parenting a strong-willed child.

Not only does this episode shed light on the unseen contributors and look at it in new ways, but it points out two proven ways to put an end to this dynamic between you for good.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

The step-by-step Groundhog Day happening daily in homes everywhere
The unspoken, unaddressed factors holding your partner back from going ALL IN on your new parenting approaches
Why it's worth addressing NOW

DON'T MISS:

How to stop "throwing spaghetti" at your partner

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122. Breakthroughs + International Travel with our Strong-Willed Child with James + Vanessa

Tue, 19 Sep 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Parents to boys age 7 + 4, Vanessa + James, are here to be completely honest with you about how they've gone from regretting their decision to have kids, to enjoying international travel with them, tantrum-free.

They ended up sharing a powerful story about a recent trip they took that drove home so much of the perspective that we need to be compassionate with our kids and their need to make sense of the world.

But most importantly, you'll get to hear how they think, which is one of the most powerful impacts of working with a mentor or coach; being able to not only relate, but adopt their mentalities, viewpoints, perspectives and mindset.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

How the way they're wired and trained as a physician and a scientist make parenting even more challenging
The accommodations they made to make their trip to Mexico so successful
How James' strength of staying really calm was actually making things worse

DON'T MISS:

Why they're SO glad they didn't do one-on-one parenting coaching

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121. Solo Motherhood by Choice, PMDD, + Leaving a Legacy with Emily Mulligan

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 02:00:00 -0500

We cover a lot of topics in this episode, so buckle your seat-belts. Today we get a front row seat to learn from a mom already wise in her years, Emily Mulligan!

Emily is a solo mum by choice to two little girls living on the West Coast of Australia. She walks us through her journey into creating her family, as well as her experience in discovering and managing her PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder, a very severe form of PMS).

Crippled by low self-esteem, depression + anxiety as well as an overwhelming feeling of never feeling good enough, Emily has recently discovered her calling outside of a career, working on the impostor syndrome one day at a time!

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The thoughts + experiences that led Emily to donor conception
The way she differentiates depression + anxiety from a hormonal disorder
How her personal project became a social movement

DON'T MISS-

Ways Emily has leaned on friends and community resources to support her and her girls

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Ngala (Australia)

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120. Whining + Screaming: MAKE IT STOP

Tue, 29 Aug 2023 02:00:00 -0500

In nearly every coaching conversation this week this topic was brought up so it only made sense to talk about it here!

I break down what's happening if your child is using this behavior often, how to get ahead of it and how to break free of it by putting it in a box!

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

The two likely elements at play when a child is whining
Strategies to eliminate the need for the behavior
How to talk it out without escalation

DON'T MISS:

Why it's more effective to allow the screaming than try to stifle it completely

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119. High Risk Pregnancy, NICU stays, Gestational Surrogacy and Stress Physiology with Parijat Deshpande

Tue, 22 Aug 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Preterm birth accounts for over 1 in 10 births in the United States. Prematurity is one of leading causes of long term health complications & death in children. Half of all maternal mortality loss can be prevented.

My guest today, Parijat Desphande is working to end this high risk pregnancy crisis so families don’t meet their child earlier than they should.

Parijat is a bestselling author, speaker, consultant, and film producer who is dedicated to improving outcomes and ending preterm birth by adding a trauma-informed, neurobiological lens to prenatal care. She has served and supported thousands of pregnant people through her live events, one-on-one work, and bestselling book, Pregnancy Brain: A Mind-Body Approach to Stress Management During a High-Risk Pregnancy.

In this episode, Parijat documents her roller-coaster journey of becoming a mother without a baby in her arms, her and her son surviving birth at 24 weeks, and navigating viable options to bring a sibling into the world, ultimately through surrogacy.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

How Parijat saved her son's life by prolonging his premature birth
Ways to support yourself or someone else through a long NICU stay
What "somatic capacity" is and how to expand yours

DON'T MISS-

Why meditation should be LAST on your list
The work that needs to be done to stop the high risk pregnancy crisis

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Book: BURNOUT: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski PhD

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118. Break the Cycle (Not the One You're Thinking Of)

Tue, 15 Aug 2023 02:00:00 -0500

While you may be breaking generational cycles, today I'm going to open your eyes to a new cycle you might not even know you're perpetuating.

I've been taking ferocious notes during a new favorite show and I've compiled the key takeaways for you here!

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

How you may be inadvertently encouraging your child's negative behavior (it's NOT by being permissive!)
The messages behind attention-seeking and power-seeking behaviors
Ways to break free of the vicious cycle and eliminate problem behaviors for good

DON'T MISS:

How lessons from "the dog whisperer" would help you support your "anxious aggressive Chihuahua" :)

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Watch on Disney Plus: Cesar Millan: Better Human, Better Dog

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117. Canaries Among Us: Preventing Bullying, Cultivating Kindness and the Costs of Advocacy with Kayla Taylor

Tue, 08 Aug 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Do you feel equipped to prevent your child from being a bystander, victim or bully?

Kayla Taylor is a best-selling author, researcher, advocate and parent. She recently published "Canaries Among Us", an important expose that blends poignant storytelling and groundbreaking scientific research to empower those caring for the millions of kids challenged by learning differences, bullying and anxiety.

In this episode, Kayla shares openly about her family's journey coping with the bullying her daughter endured despite a caring teacher and ongoing conversations with administrators.

If your child doesn't fit society's definition of "normal", you might have this fear as well. Tune into this deep dive into all things bullying prevention, powerful advocacy, working with the school, and raising kind humans.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The qualifications for something to be considered bullying
What's been proven to help prevent it (it starts at home)
The skills you need to be a powerful advocate for victims

DON'T MISS-

The challenges Kayla did not anticipate while fighting for change
Ways to create a deeply rooted culture of kindness and inclusion from a young age in your home

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Book: A Day in the Life of Marlon Bundo

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116. Is My Child Strong-Willed? Spirited? Highly Sensitive? Spicy? Deeply Feeling? ADHD? Who Knows?!

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Unfortunately, your child did not come home stamped from the hospital with the care instructions they need based on their particular temperament.

"Throwing spaghetti at the wall and seeing what sticks" likely feels more accurate!

If you've been struggling with your child and traditional discipline approaches just aren't landing... you feel like there's something different about them than their siblings or friends, but it feels like you're nearly the only one who sees it... today's episode is going to finally make all of that make sense!

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

The 10 most common characteristics of tiny humans with this temperament
How to make sense of the different terms out there
Why it feels like you need Dramamine to ride the emotional rollercoasters!

DON'T MISS:

Why I chose "strong-willed" to identify the families I work with

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115. Potty Training Success without the Stress with Allison Jandu

Tue, 25 Jul 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Are you on the never-ending potty training struggle bus?

I have good news and bad news. The bad news is there is NO one-size-fits-all way to potty train, especially if you have a strong-willed child. The good news is there is critical insight you can learn today to make it 10X smoother!

After over 5,000 hours of research, my guest today, Allison Jandu created Potty Training Consultant where she has helped 7,000 families potty train. She's created a community where moms can come together without judgment, ask the hard questions, and get evidence-based facts that drive potty success.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Everything you need to know before you start
Common pitfalls to avoid and misconceptions to debunk
What to do if they're going #1 in the potty but not #2

DON'T MISS-

How to mitigate stress when your potty training has a deadline
Why accidents can be a good thing and a mantra to cling to

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pottytrainingconsultant.com
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114. Your Parenting "Report Card": How to Know if You're Actually Failing or Not

Tue, 18 Jul 2023 02:00:00 -0500

There are so many reasons to feel insecure, guilt, shame or fear as a parent. How do you know if you're doing okay or if you need to make a change?

If your child’s behavior is not your report card, what is?

In today's episode I share 3 questions to navigate that help you decide for yourself and your family what the right next step is for you. Many times it's simply letting an expectation go, forgetting about that unsolicited advice, and allowing other families to parent differently than you.

Use these questions alongside the day-to-day feedback to stay grounded in the decisions that are best for your kids, and help you truly hear and listen to your gut instinct as their parent.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...

3 Questions to ask yourself when doubting, questioning or worried about your parenting
A strategic way to address all the "shoulds" in your head
A way to re frame the adversity you face day-to-day

DON'T MISS:

How I use my family's values to know when something needs to change

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Family Culture + Values from Mighty + Bright

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113. Do I Homeschool my Neurodiverse Child? with Afsaneh Moradian

Tue, 11 Jul 2023 02:00:00 -0500

If your child has autism, ADHD, sensory processing, anxiety, and/or is strong-willed - you’ll resonate with so much of Afsaneh’s journey.

After teaching, writing curriculum and being a huge advocate for public schools (and criticisms of homeschooling), Afsaneh Moradian found herself homeschooling her neurodiverse child. She didn't feel like there was another viable option.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The unique challenges to consider when homeschooling a child with different needs
What it really means when your child resists direction (and how to handle it)
How to be their best advocate, supporting who they are and working with it
Indicators that homeschooling isn't working (for you or them)

DON'T MISS-

How Afsaneh's book series encourages gender-less play in preschool
Her experience supporting her non-binary child and their request to use they/them pronouns

// CONNECT WITH AFSANEH MORADIAN //
www.mlccoaching.com
Free Guide: Roadmap to Anti-Resistance
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Book: Jamie is Jamie
Neurodiverse Homeschooling Summit: Empowering Moms to Conquer Homeschooling Challenges and Thrive with Confidence
FREE VIRTUAL EVENT: July 16th - July 31st
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112. How to STOP Walking on Eggshells with Jaclyn + Ryan

Tue, 27 Jun 2023 02:00:00 -0500

From 3 meltdowns/DAY to 2/WEEK! THAT'S A 90% DECREASE!

Parents of 2 kids ages 3 + under, Jaclyn + Ryan, are SPILLING THE BEANS - sharing all sorts of insider secrets, insight and advice after graduating my program, Wholeheartedly CALM!

I pick their brain, digging for what takeaways stuck with them, how their mindset shifted, and how different life is now, including NO LONGER walking on eggshells.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The "Game-Changers" they attribute their success to
What they thought it'd be like VS. What it was
The mantras bouncing around in their heads to this day

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The term they coined for me! :)

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111. Why are they SO ANGRY?!

Tue, 20 Jun 2023 02:00:00 -0500

When your child's anger scares you, you often don't know where to turn next.
Where are they learning this MEAN behavior? Do they need a therapist? Do they have ADHD? WHY are they SO angry?!

You've explained "we don't hit" 1,000X, so when aggressive behavior continues past age 4... you have no patience for it (understandably). You end up walking on eggshells, trying to stay ahead of it, never knowing what might set them off next.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

Why anger is so BIG in strong-willed kids
3 "red flags" to consider regarding your child's anger
What's ACTUALLY proven to stabilize and diffuse the anger in the strong-willed kids of my clients (typically from 3 outbursts/day to only 2/week!)

DON'T MISS:

My thoughts on whether or not empathy comes "pre-wired"

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110. Uniting Partners + Bettering the Mental Health of ALL Parents with Kevin Seldon

Tue, 13 Jun 2023 02:00:00 -0500

In this Father's Day-inspired episode, Kevin Seldon, host of the DILF (Dad I'd Like to Friend) Podcast, is here to share his journey of navigating infertility, bonding with his baby, staying at home for a year, and working on himself.

He shares insight into creating more equal parenting partnerships by prioritizing opportunities for each partner to establish their own way, holding weekly business meetings, and also having time to reset.

Tune in for a breakdown on how he became a maternal gatekeeper, what he's realized after countless interviews on his own platform, and how we can shift the dynamic of mom VS. dad to everyone getting the support they need and deserve so our kids thrive too.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Why it's so important to support BOTH parents postpartum
Updating the idea of co-parenting to being "co-pilots" utilizing principles, trust, and empowering your partner
How to identify and stop maternal gatekeeping in its tracks

DON'T MISS-

How to implement the concept of a "Freedom Shift"
Ways to "pick your battles" in your relationship

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Blog Post: Surviving Infertility (a father's journey)

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Podcast - Dad I'd Like to Friend
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109. 10 Things Parents of Strong-Willed Kids Are Afraid to Admit

Tue, 06 Jun 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Shame lives in the darkness; in the silence - the things unsaid. Freedom is found in honesty, vulnerability, and a round of "me too!"

Parents of strong-willed kids bear a heavy burden when parenting feels exhausting, relenting, challenging, frustrating, and defeating on a daily basis. Today I break down 10 things parents are afraid to admit, and why it's 100% okay for them to feel that way.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

Things that feel so cringe to say out loud but are true nonetheless
The paradox felt between the guilt of overreacting and underreacting
What to do if you check every single box

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Why you should have more compassion for yourself than you do

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108. 10X Your Influence with this Paradigm Shift in your Parenting

Wed, 31 May 2023 02:00:00 -0500

4 Steps. 1 Takeaway Message.
Rewrite them + multiply the effectiveness of your parenting tenfold!

NO Strong-Willed Child required.
Worth sending to your partner!

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

How to flip your parenting from "typical" to "intentional"
Insight into the message your child's receiving from you
How to zoom out and make sense of shifting your approach entirely

DON'T MISS:

A new way of looking at the parenting you experienced as a child

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106. A Step-by-Step Guide to Feeling Like You're Failing

Tue, 16 May 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Disclaimer: EVERYTHING IN THIS EPISODE IS SARCASM :)

For a fun take on why some of the ways we think and act are ABSURD, I compiled 11 random ways to most definitely and without question feel like you're FAILING at parenting + motherhood.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

Insight into ways you might be thinking you don't realize
How to take the weight off your shoulders + find self-compassion
New awareness around how to shift into more helpful next steps

DON'T MISS:

How to overthink everything + overload your brain :)

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105. Diet Proof Your Daughter with Amelia Sherry, RD

Tue, 09 May 2023 02:00:00 -0500

"I just want my daughter to have a healthier relationship with food + her body than I have."

In honor of Mother's Day coming up, today's episode will teach you how to leverage your uniquely powerful influence as a mom to raise a daughter that never has to "heal" her relationship with food!

Amelia Sherry, registered dietitian (RD) is the author of - Diet Proof Your Daughter: A Mother’s Guide to Raising Girls who Have Happy, Healthy Relationships with Food and Body.

She is also the founder of NourishHer.com, an online space dedicated to helping mothers raise girls who have positive relationships with food and their bodies.

As a mom of 3 daughters, Amelia knows there is so much more baggage surrounding body image as a woman in our modern-day culture. This is one of those episodes that offers priceless insight into creating the outcomes that matter most to our kids decades from now!

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

How to re-define health based on habits, not weight
A holistic description of a "healthy eater"
The #1 risk factor for eating disorders

DON'T MISS-

What to say if older generations make uncomfortable comments
What to expect when your daughter hits puberty

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Book: I'm Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy

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Ebook: Diet-Proof Your Daughter: A Mother's Guide to Raising Girls Who Have Happy, Healthy Relationships with Food and Body

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104. When to Seek Help: What to Measure + How to Track Progress

Tue, 02 May 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Every kid has meltdowns. Every parent yells. How do you know if you're on the right track?

Especially when you feel like your child's behavior might be *normal*, it's hard to know when to reach out without feeling like you're overreacting.

And if you've already done a lot of work on your parenting, how can you know when something needs to change?

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

When to come to conclusions (and when not to)
Questions to ask yourself to gain perspective
The most important indicator to consider

DON'T MISS:

How my intake process differs from other professionals

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103. Sleep Training without Shame: Industry Myths, Research and the Need to Consider Temperament with Macall Gordon, M.A.

Tue, 25 Apr 2023 02:00:00 -0500

"I'm afraid I'm causing bad habits!" - Every mom filled with guilt + concern over their child's sleep.

With over 20 years in the research field studying sleep and infant mental health (and a mom to 2 twenty-somethings), Macall Gordon, M.A. is here to make you feel a whole lot better about how you’ve handled things - no matter how you’ve handled them!

Macall has conducted and presented research on temperament, sleep, and parenting advice at conferences around the world. She is also a certified Gentle Sleep Coach in private practice as well as a Featured Provider with the women’s telehealth platform, Maven Clinic.

Together we shed light on common myths + misconceptions about sleep habits and sleep training, including Cry It Out.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The temperament of Livewires + why nothing you've done has worked for them
Individualism, Self-reliance, and Consumerism: How American culture affects the sleep industry
Flaws in the way sleep research is established + shared, helping you become an informed, educated consumer + parent

DON'T MISS-

A breakdown of behaviorism as an approach (and why it's incomplete)
When it could be something else: Night terrors, Sleep Apnea, and Restless Leg Syndrome (Kids can have it too!)

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Book: Constructing the Self, Constructing America: A Cultural History of Psychotherapy by Philip Cushman
Article: Low Ferritin: The little-known reason for chronic sleep issues

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Website: littlelivewires.com
Facebook, Instagram, Tiktok: @littlelivewires
Upcoming book (targeted for publication in late 2024) for parents about working on sleep with temperament in mind.

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102. What NOT to Say to your Strong-Willed Child

Tue, 18 Apr 2023 02:00:00 -0500

We're not talking about the obvious things here, but the innocuous ones. The well-intentioned instincts or reactions that roll off your tongue when you're desperate for cooperation.

Whether you're too kind, or too firm... after days and months of pushback, resistance, power struggles, or stand-offs... it's understandable you start to believe your child only listens when you yell.

I invite you to question this belief by sharing insight into what DOES work instead.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

Specific phrases that are ineffective for cultivating cooperation
Your role as CEO of your family "organization"
The choice you have to make going forward

DON'T MISS:

How it feels if you reverse roles!

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101. Parenting as a Highly Sensitive Mom with Emily McDermott

Tue, 11 Apr 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Have you discovered that you are sensitive to visual clutter, touch, overstimulation, caffeine, loud noise, and more? You might be a Highly Sensitive Person!

My guest today, Emily McDermott is an Air Force wife, a mom of 2 young boys, and the host of the "Moms Overcoming Overwhelm" podcast.

Emily's journey through motherhood led her to discover her own highly sensitive nature. Through her work as a decluttering coach, Emily empowers moms to simplify their lives, reduce stress, and create environments that support their well-being.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

How to find compassion for yourself (and your parents)
Addressing physical, mental + emotional clutter
Small Habits with BIG Returns

DON'T MISS-

Tips on Managing Legos + using Buy Nothing Groups
Emily's take-home message: You are worth more than your stuff.

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Highly Sensitive Person Quiz

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Podcast: Moms Overcoming Overwhelm
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100. 10 Lessons in 10 Years of Parenting

Tue, 04 Apr 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Celebrate with us! It's the 100th episode of Failing Motherhood!

As her oldest just turned 10, Danielle compiled 10 BIG universal lessons she wished she'd known sooner.

Don't let it take you 10 years to learn them as well!

Send this episode to a new or expecting mom - she'll be SO lucky!

DON'T MISS:

How comparative suffering is like working out with different weights
What truly makes the biggest difference in becoming a "Zen Mama Queen"
Why love isn't enough to keep our kids around

// Mentioned in this Episode //
Book: How to Be Loved by Humble the Poet
MomsDemandAction.Org
MomsRising.Org

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[TRAINING MODULE from Wholeheartedly CALM]

Tue, 28 Mar 2023 02:00:00 -0500

I don't have an episode for you today - you get a glimpse into my program!

For the bad days / bad mornings / bad nights when things are just OFF...
Here's an acronym to help you remember 3 ways you can hit RESET.

When in doubt... BMW.

B - BREATHE

M - MUSIC

W - WATER

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Free Meditation app - Insight Timer
Breathwork podcast on Spotify - The Breathwork Club
Spotify Premium - Family
Big Life Kids Podcast
Story Pirates
Audiobooks - Libby App - log in with your library card

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99. Finding Answers + Figuring Out My Child with Amanda Rausch

Tue, 21 Mar 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Keep. Asking. Questions.

I'm so lucky to be joined for this episode by my client, friend and hairstylist, Amanda Rausch. She's celebrating a recent diagnosis for her oldest that finally makes so much sense, but it's really a culmination of years and years of advocating for him that started in pregnancy.

Her story is a really down-to-earth, inspirational example of trusting your gut, finding answers, and then finding more answers when the first ones just don't fit.

Even if a provider is condescending to your concerns, you get unsolicited advice or crickets from friends and family, or you don't know where to go for answers for your child next... listen to your gut and keep searching.

Your child's well-being is worth it!

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

How to request a new provider, no matter how awkward it may be
Scripts to use to help get extended family on board + on the same page
A "behind the scenes" look into their journey of considering medication for their child

DON'T MISS-

Steps to take to go from fighting against your child to working WITH them
What has made all the difference in Amanda's confidence as a mom (likely not what you expect!)

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A Dragon with ADHD book
The Boy with BIG BIG Feelings

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98. 13 Daily Struggles when Parenting a Strong-Willed Child

Tue, 14 Mar 2023 02:00:00 -0500

Strong-willed kids come with a million positive attributes, like a HUGE heart, loving BIG and being super helpful (when they want to be).

They can also be really hard to parent sometimes (understatement).

I've compiled a list of 13 common struggles that come up on a daily basis for families parenting strong-willed kids. I guarantee you thought you were the only family to experience at least one of these things! #themoreyouknow

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

Trademark indicators of parenting a strong-willed child including "the After School Outburst" and "Alter Ego Anger"
Ways to make sense of your child in a whole new way
That you're not alone if your child growls, hisses or squawks at you :)

DON'T MISS:

A second round when you turn the list on yourself (or their other parent)!

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97. Bipolar + PTSD: Finding Hope + Healing as a Mom with Mental Illness with Amelia Zachry

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 02:00:00 -0600

She was told not to become a mother; that her mental illness would render her insufficient, and she said, "I will do whatever it takes to be a mom. A GOOD mom." How inspiring is that?!

Amelia Zachry just published her debut memoir, Enough: A Memoir of Mistakes, Mania, and Motherhood.

She might be one of the wisest moms I've interviewed. Without getting into her past, Amelia shared an up close and personal look at the journey of healing she’s undergone to meet her own needs without shame or guilt or fear so that she can not only meet her kids’ needs but listen to them, learn from them and ENJOY motherhood.

At the end of the episode she speaks with so much heart to other mothers struggling with mental illness, and if that’s you - promise me you’ll stick around to hear it. You won’t look at some things the same way again after hearing her.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The healing that made motherhood possible for Amelia
How she moved from comparison to intuition
A key mindset shift to embrace getting over your fear of imposing on others and asking for help

DON'T MISS-

Amelia's definition of Authenticity
Her call to give yourself grace, mental illness or not

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96. The Cure for Mom Guilt

Tue, 28 Feb 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Mom guilt is a universal experience. What you do with it is what matters!

Let's explore together the purpose of the guilt - why it's there, what it's trying to say, and how to manage it in a way that moves you forward.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

10 examples of problems to solve at the root of your guilt
How to bring curiosity into your internal dialogue
Two ways to treat your guilt going forward

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How your inner voice is like your strong-willed child!

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95. The Emotional Rollercoaster of Nursing a Toddler with Erin Harris

Tue, 21 Feb 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Has your relationship with nursing ever led you to feel guilt, shame, confusion, sadness, love, and even grief? This episode is for you.

My guest today, Erin Harris, is a mom of two, founder of Nursing Mamas, and a lactation consultant who specifically equips parents nursing toddlers past one year.

Nursing toddlers is a whole new world compared to nursing a newborn, due to the shift from nursing on demand, to a toddler demanding to nurse. Erin shares so much insight into the emotional cycle of an extended breastfeeding parent, from love to burnout to guilt to grief to sadness and back again.

No matter where you are in your journey of feeding your child - there is no wrong way. I know you’ll learn so much through Erin’s story.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Erin's opposite experiences nursing her two kids
Key strategies that protect + preserve your nursing relationship
How to successfully wean when you're ready - and how to know when that is

DON'T MISS-

Erin + Scott's family mission statement
The lessons Erin's strong-willed child taught her

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94. The KEY to COOPERATION with a strong-willed child

Tue, 14 Feb 2023 02:00:00 -0600

I've talked a lot about what DOESN'T work for strong-willed kids, and today we're talking all about what DOES!

SKIP this episode if you do not have a strong-willed child.
Not sure? I break it down at the beginning!

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

How you know FOR SURE if you're the parent of a strong-willed child
Why you haven't been able to implement the tips you've learned other places
The METHOD to my MADNESS!

DON'T MISS:

Valuable insight we can learn from hostage negotiators!

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93. The Right Kind of Tough with Donovan + Rosemary

Tue, 07 Feb 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Donovan + Rosemary are phenomenal parents doing their very best to raise 3 girls in Louisiana. They're working to parent differently than they were parented, in the South, with a strong-willed child. They joined me in this episode to share an honest look at the struggles and fears they've experienced over the past few years; some unique, most universal.

Rosemary shares vulnerably about being so hard on herself, especially as an OT working with kids, struggling with her own child.

Donovan uses great analogies to depict how much his understanding of "good parenting" has shifted over the past year (hint: it wasn't from IG posts sent his way).

If you've ever wondered how to get your partner on board with gentle parenting and transform your home together, you BOTH need this whole interview.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

The misconceptions that had Donovan convinced gentle parenting wasn't going to keep his kids out of jail - and what would
The hesitations they each had in investing in their parenting (it wasn't money)
The most powerful takeaways they both still use while parenting today

DON'T MISS-

Why Donovan got "mad" at me quite often as we worked together
A moving realization that brought tears to Rosemary's eyes

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92. 10 Things I've Learned to be True about Parents of Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 31 Jan 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Over the last almost 4 years of working with hundreds of families, I've learned a thing or two about parents of strong-willed kids. (It takes one to know one!)

Consider this episode a Buzzfeed quiz of sorts, and report back with your answer of how many of these qualities you exhibit out of 10!

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

Often overlooked insight that applies to both parent AND child
The permission and reassurance you might be looking for
Why it MAKES SENSE if you're feeling the way you're feeling

DON'T MISS:

#10! I saved the BEST for last

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91. Intrusive Thoughts + Body Image with Dr. Alli Delozier

Tue, 24 Jan 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Are you hoping to break the cycle of diet culture in your family?

Whether you struggled with your own body image, self-esteem or dieting in the past and don't want to pass that on to your kids, you are noticing your child struggling with their relationship with food or their body and need more insight, or simply want to prevent your child from struggling in that way, know that it's never too late for you to make impactful shifts!

How do I now raise children who feel empowered in their bodies; who love themselves, just how they are; who don't want to alter their bodies; who know that they can go out in the world and be themselves?

Dr. Alli Delozier is a Clinical Psychologist with specializations in child + pediatric psychology. After vulnerably sharing her own first year of motherhood fraught with anxiety, postpartum OCD and intrusive thoughts, Dr. Alli dives into the nitty gritty of helping our kids develop healthy relationships with food free of the harmful effects of negative body image and disordered eating.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Warning signs of when to get help when experiencing intrusive thoughts
The Importance of language neutrality
The modeling as parents we can start today

DON'T MISS-

What kept her from getting mental health support for too long
How diet culture is disguised as health, and how to manage the nuance

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Website: https://www.delozierpsc.com
IG: @drdelozierphd

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90. IT. GETS. BETTER.

Tue, 17 Jan 2023 02:00:00 -0600

If you are IN IT right now, may this episode be your guiding light. This is your pep talk, inspiration, and roadmap for the next few years.

Take this moment to zoom out, realize the worth of your work, and how much the compound interest of each decision in the short term reaps the rewards of a long-term payoff.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

What's possible for you in just a few years as the parent of a strong-willed child (with this morning with mine as evidence!)
How working to stop generational cycles as a parent is similar to being born into generational poverty
The difference makers that lead to the BIG goals you have for your family

DON'T MISS:

Examples of clients' "last straws" that pushed them to overcome their fear of asking for help
An invitation for you if you're the exception to the rule

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89. Cook with Confidence with Laney Schwartz

Tue, 10 Jan 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Anyone else feel like they're failing their family in the kitchen?

Thankfully, Laney is here to take the weight off our shoulders!

Laney Schwartz is an everyday mom, founder, and creator behind the food blog Life Is But A Dish. She is on a mission to help busy home cooks across the world gain confidence in the kitchen, create simple and delicious meals, and cook without being tied to a recipe.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Why you're not alone if you feel overwhelmed or inadequate in the kitchen
Ways to get out of a rut
What to do when you're super low on time

DON'T MISS-

Her down-to-earth journey into entrepreneurship
The one thing she recommends every single home cook start with to take the stress out of their kitchen!

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88. The #1 Belief Holding You Back [mini-series part 5 of 5]

Tue, 03 Jan 2023 02:00:00 -0600

Ever felt judged, misunderstood, let down or alone... even WITH some supportive friends or family?

To sum up this mini-series, I'm diving into the most damaging, self-sabotaging misconception Worrying Warriors believe that holds them back from having the relationships + home they truly desire!

This week, I share what the belief is, why you might feel like there's no other option, and what to do if you relate!

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

The 4 unintended consequences that occur when you hold this belief
Why courses + books make you feel worse + not better
The 3 experiences that CHANGED me + my life

DON'T MISS:

The HOPE in knowing you're NOT alone
How to let go of this belief for good in 2023!

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87. My child needs HELP! [mini series part 4 of 5]

Tue, 27 Dec 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Has your child's fits of rage ever sent you late-night Googling everything from therapy, medication, and a sensory swing?

What do they need? How do you help?!

Each week in December I'm sharing misconceptions surrounding parenting strong-willed kids that hold you back from having the relationship and home you truly desire!

This week, I share what to do if you think your child is neurodivergent in some way, needs more coping skills, and don't know where to start.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

Reasons when your child needs to see a professional
The pros + cons you may not have considered when seeking help
The most influential factor on their well-being

DON'T MISS:

A Yale study on anxiety in kids age 7-12 + what we can learn from it
How to become an empowered advocate for your child in the future (stay till the very end for this one!)

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Yale study on Childhood Anxiety

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86. Consistency - Does it matter? [mini-series part 3 of 5]

Tue, 20 Dec 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Ever blamed your child's behavior on your own inconsistency? Totally understandable!

Each week in December I'm going to be sharing misconceptions surrounding parenting strong-willed kids that hold you back from having the relationship and home you truly desire!

This week, I share when consistency is critical, when it's not, and why it's not the cure-all you might think it is!

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

How you can tell if your consistency is at fault
The outcomes consistency creates for you
Why you don't need to beat yourself up for not being perfectly consistent

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Two practical examples of what to do instead
What ignoring really teaches your child

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85. Why Punishments + Rewards don't work for Strong-Willed Kids [mini-series part 2 of 5]

Tue, 13 Dec 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Ever wondered why it seems like no matter what you do, it doesn't change your child's mind in the moment?

Each week in December I'm going to be sharing misconceptions surrounding parenting strong-willed kids that sabotage your success and hold you back from having the relationship and home you truly desire!

This week, I share critical insight into whether finding the *right* consequence is where you should be spending your energy.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE...

Reasons why a particular consequence didn't elicit a change in behavior (and never will)
The difference between an intention and a perception and how a message can get lost in translation
The importance of customizing your approach to the child in front of you

DON'T MISS:

A parenting book I beg you NOT to read
How a sibling might contribute to this equation
Our family's new holiday traditions

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84. Let's Get Re-Acquainted! [mini-series part 1 of 5]

Tue, 06 Dec 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Introducing the UNAPOLOGETIC PARENT mini-series!

Each week in December I'm going to be sharing misconceptions surrounding parenting strong-willed kids that sabotage your success and hold you back from having the relationship and home you truly desire!

For those new to the podcast, in this episode, I re-introduce myself and share lots of tidbits about me you never asked for, including my new obsession with high heels and how I got fired from my last job before this one!

If you have a strong-willed child, find out if you relate to the plight of the Worrying Warrior parent - the ones I love to support!
You only feel defeated if you're trying and you only feel guilty if you care!

Welcome to the club. You're not alone and there is HOPE!

p.s. I barely scratched the surface of describing my personal beliefs in this episode. I'd love to have coffee and chat all things juicy details with you tho! Please offer me the benefit of the doubt and reach out individually if you have any concerns you feel the need to share with me.

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// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Don't let the Pigeon Drive the Bus by Mo Willems
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83. Wanna Be Clutter Free with Deanna Yates

Tue, 22 Nov 2022 02:00:00 -0600

As we approach the holidays, I have the perfect guest here to share all things intentional living and minimalism!

Deanna Yates is the founder and CEO of Wannabe Clutter Free and the host of the popular podcast, the Wannabe Minimalist Show, where she helps busy families learn how to let go of the stuff holding them back so they can enjoy more time together, stop spending their weekends cleaning house, and wake up excited for the day ahead.

IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...

Deanna's journey to becoming a "wannabe minimalist"
What it looks like to create an intentional lifestyle that meets your values + family's needs
Why you do not need to get rid of everything to be a minimalist

And the power + freedom that comes with living with LESS!

DON'T MISS-

How you can use a vacation to create your capsule wardrobe
The routines she swears by to keep life running smoothly
Her favorite ways to help kids declutter

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Website: wannabeclutterfree.com
IG: @wannabeclutterfree
Podcast: Wannabe Minimalist Show

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82. Embracing Delegation with Yoky Matsuoka

Tue, 08 Nov 2022 02:00:00 -0600

Our current reality is impossible, my friends. Among many things, moms spend as much as 97 hours a week on household and parenting tasks. It's especially hard during the holiday season, and a quarter of moms say they have zero time for themselves. The village we used to be able to rely on is gone. And my guest today has set out to rebuild it!

She has been described as a mechanical engineer, neuroscientist, bioengineer, robotics expert and computer scientist all in one. Yoky Matsuoka is the founder and CEO of Yohana, a wellness company designed to help families prioritize well-being. She created the Yohana membership, launching nationwide this month, which is a concierge service for families that uses AI and real humans to tackle the family to-do list.

Yoky has inspired a STEM Barbie, earned the MacArthur Genius award, and been included in the Goodnight Stories for Rebel Girls book series!

IN THIS EPISODE, SHE SHARES...

The way her life coach pushed through her resistance to putting her oxygen mask on first
The breaking point that led her to start Yohana
All the ways Yohana can take things off your to-do list this holiday season

DON'T MISS -

How to create a ME List and truly prioritize it
The perspective that will enable you to get past the hurdle of needing to do everything all by yourself
Her powerful vision on using the next generation as our WHY for embracing delegation NOW

// CONNECT WITH YOKY MATSUOKA/
Personal IG: @yokymatsuoka
Biz IG: @joinyohana

Yohana - the first-ever concierge service for families - launches nationwide on 10/26. To help parents through the holidays, Yohana will be available to families across the country at the flat rate of $149 for the rest of the year (10/26-12/30) -- a savings of 40%.
Sign up before 11/23 at www.yohana.com with the code holidayhelper.

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81. The Birds + the Bees with Amy Lang

Tue, 25 Oct 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Amy Lang, MA had been a sex educator for over 16 years when she freaked out about talking to her young son about her favorite topic.

Amy went on to combine her expertise in adult education and her love of sexual health and started Birds & Bees & Kids in 2006. Her mission is to help parents feel comfortable and confident when they have these important conversations.

She shares such practical insight and tips, including ways to talk about absolutely everything, especially with a 9-12-year-old, which is what her new book entails.

In this episode, she shares...

WHY having talks about sex with your child is SO important
WHY we have such a hard time with this
What to expect in your child's body + behavior throughout puberty

DON'T MISS-

How you know you're on the right track
A few phrases to take out of your vocabulary + what to replace them with
One tip every parent can utilize right away at school pick up

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Brain in the Palm of the Hand by Dan Siegel
Sex is a Funny Word by Cory Silverberg

// CONNECT WITH AMY LANG //
Birdsandbeesandkids.com
IG: @birdsbeeskids
Her new book: Sex Talks With Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It!
Her advice-column style podcast: Just Say This!
FREEBIE: 7 Tips to Have Great Birds & Bees Talks
15% discount for The Birds and Bees Solutions Center for Parents

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80. REALLY wanted + REALLY hard with Kayla Kohl

Tue, 11 Oct 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Kayla Kohl has been BEEN THROUGH IT - from endometriosis + infertility to hyperemesis + pre-eclampsia, from weighted feedings + PPA, to deployments + a pandemic...

This episode is one of those where the guest's journey + experience into motherhood is so unique, yet so incredibly universal.

Kayla Kohl is a full-spectrum doula and owner of The Birth Chronicles. She became a mom through open embryo donation after years of infertility and loss and documents her journey into motherhood on her blog The Kohl Chronicles.

In this episode, she shares...

Her rollercoaster ride of infertility + the road to IVF
How she gave birth to a child not related to her
The transformative power of having honest conversations with other moms

DON'T MISS-

Her struggle with not feeling like it's okay to say it's hard when she wanted it so much
How she overcame crippling anxiety postpartum in a pandemic
The advice she wished she would've realized sooner

// CONNECT WITH KAYLA KOHL//
Biz IG: @thebirthchronicles.co
BLOG IG: @TheKohlChronicles
Website: https://thebirthchronicles.co/

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79. Executive Function + ADHD with Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart

Tue, 27 Sep 2022 02:00:00 -0500

It feels like kids are getting diagnosed with ADHD at alarming rates lately! Have you ever worried about things you've noticed in your child, wondering if they need to be evaluated?

This episode is going to give you worlds of insight!

Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a pediatric psychologist, is here to share everything we need to know about executive functioning skills - the part of the brain responsible for social-emotional soft skills like task initiation + completion, organization, regulation, impulse control, and more - that continues to develop until the age of 24.

Executive functioning dysregulation disorders, like ADHD, come up in conversation when you or your child's teacher have concerns related to your child's listening skills, BIG emotions, hyperactivity or hyper fixation.

In this episode, she answers...

How does executive functioning develop?
What is normal and what is concerning?
When is it time to seek help or get evaluated for ADHD?
At what age is she comfortable diagnosing a child with ADHD?

DON'T MISS-

An easy-to-implement day-to-day activity every parent can do to teach + model several executive functioning skills at once
Tips for adapting your environment to support a child that's struggling
Insight into why a skill you've taught over + over may not be sinking in

// CONNECT WITH DR. ANN-LOUISE LOCKHART//
IG: @dr.annlouise.lockhart
Website: www.anewdaysa.com
Parent Membership Platform + Courses: https://drlockhart.mykajabi.com

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78. Untigering + Unschooling with Iris Chen

Tue, 13 Sep 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Iris Chen is a recovering Tiger mother and founder of the Untigering movement. In her book Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent, she shares her journey and reflections on shifting away from parenting rooted in power to parenting grounded in partnership.
She's an American-Born Chinese who ended up with kids who are Chinese-born Americans. She's a peaceful parenting advocate, intersectional unschooler, anti-oppression activist, and deconstructing Tiger Mom.

In this episode, Iris shares how a workshop about brain science began a long journey to deconstructing everything she thought she knew about parenting, school, and even religion.

She began to move away from Tiger parenting which is based in control, which was the way she was raised and the culture she was surrounded by and began a process of re-parenting herself. She shows gratitude for her strong-willed firstborn, resisting her control and pushing her to learn and grow and find another path. She speaks to the regret of not learning it sooner, and how she was able to share her journey so publicly in her book without shame.

We also dive into a deeper conversation into her shift from getting all the accolades and awards and formal schooling to finding and loving unschooling as a family.

So wherever you're at in your reckoning or movement towards more positive discipline approaches, I know that you'll be able to find gems in this episode that will keep you going for years to come.

We covered...

how parenting and re-parenting are interconnected
why she recommends you "Aim to Fail"
how suffering from "good child syndrome" affected her growing up
what "a day in the life" of unschooling looks like
how there's truly no guarantees with any education approach

// CONNECT WITH IRIS CHEN //
IG: @untigering
Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent book
https://untigering.com/

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77. Picky Eating Help with Jennifer Anderson (@kids.eat.in.color)

Tue, 30 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Jennifer Anderson is a registered dietician that has a Master's of Science in Public Health. In 2017 she founded Kids Eat In Color (@kids.eat.in.color) a HUGE resource that helps children and families have better nutrition and mental health.

You will find her harm reduction lens with a focus on a parent's mental health and heavy dose of reality and humanity REFRESHING.

In this episode, we cover common misconceptions around food that she is working to debunk that make us feel like we're failing. She speaks to the big principles or best practices that can help guide you to feel more confident in the minefield of feeling like nearly every food is bad for you.

And most importantly, she wants you to know your best is exactly what your child needs.

Important questions answered:

Can picky eating be prevented?
Is family-style dining best?
Is picky eating a worldwide phenomenon?

DON'T MISS...

the 4 types of picky eating
when to seek professional help
how to take dessert of it's pedestal
what to do when your child won't pick from two options

// CONNECT WITH JENNIFER ANDERSON //
IG: @kids.eat.in.color
Is my child's picky eating normal? QUIZ - https://kidseatincolor.com/quiz/
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76. "Big Kid Bed" Sleep Struggles with Jessica Berk

Tue, 16 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Everyone talks about how you'll never sleep when you have a baby. But no one was talking about the sleep struggles that happened when the kids get bigger...

...enter Jessica Berk, certified child sleep consultant for kids out of a crib!

After Jessica's daughter moved up to a "big kid bed" she felt like she had a newborn all over again! She knew she couldn't survive, so she decided to get certified as a child sleep coach through the Family Sleep Institute and spent the last 7 years perfecting a foolproof framework, the REST method, to turn toddlers into awesome little independent sleepers. She's successfully helped thousands of parents with even the most strong-willed kids get them to bed happily before 8pm and sleeping soundly for 10 to 12 hours through the night with no wakeups, in their own beds.

In this episode, I asked Jessica all the questions that come up for my clients. Why are they getting out of bed so often? What does sleep begets sleep even mean? How do you recommend paying off sleep debt when they're overtired?

We covered...

the critical key to good sleep
debunking common myths + misconceptions around sleep
why toddlers get out of bed after bedtime
the 4 steps of her REST Method
how to get sleep back on track after the summer slide

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Bedtime Stories: Mrs. Honeybee
Toothbrush Stories: Mrs. Honeybee (Apple podcasts or Spotify)
Book: Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child

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IG: @awesomelittlesleepers
Awesomelittlesleepers.com
Save your spot in her next free Toddler Sleep Masterclass: www.AwesomeLittleSleepers.com/ToddlerMasterclass

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75. Embrace your Expanded Identity with Casey James

Tue, 02 Aug 2022 02:00:00 -0500

There was so much about motherhood that they did not warn us about in that book What to Expect When You're Expecting. Many of us believed the myth or the expectation that a new baby or kids will fall into our life.
On today's episode, I'm interviewing Casey James, who shares her journey with postpartum depletion, her path of discovering her new identity through matrescence and redefining self-care.

Casey James is the founder of Thrive, a community driven resource for modern women and motherhood. Her experience reconciling her career-driven identity with the growth and healing motherhood provided challenged her to embrace her expanded identity.

At the end of the episode we both discuss whether you have to find, discover or create our new identities, what that takes and how to do it.

We covered...

the need to redefine self-care
having permission to take time for yourself
releasing the guilt of not having the energy to give her son what he needed
the power of knowing what to Google
how to embrace your new identity as a mom

// CONNECT WITH CASEY JAMES //
IG: @thryve_living
www.thryve.ca
Thryving Mother Podcast

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74. Detaching Your Journey From Your Child's with Ann Kaplan

Tue, 19 Jul 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Today on Failing Motherhood, Ann Kaplan is here to share a truly vulnerable story. When her teen son dove head first down a path of substance abuse and depression, eventually requiring residential treatment, she felt like she had failed her son as a terrible mother, failed her other kids during that time, and failed professionally as a parenting coach to have a son in this position.

Over the past few years she's gone through a lot of growth, moved away from codependency and truly realized the power of the things she has taught for so long.

She's here to share what helped her heal through this hard time and the insight she's gleaned, including ways to reframe what is + isn't a "problem", the power of knowing "this is not about me" and what matters most.

Don't miss:

A big shout out to people pleasers
How to be judged without FEELING judged
The 4 types of Parenting + how to grow based on where you are
The importance of releasing guilt + shame
What it feels like to embrace your intuition

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IG: @annkaplanparentcoaching
annkaplanparentcoach.com

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73. NO JUDGMENT Guide to Screen Time: Part 2

Tue, 12 Jul 2022 02:00:00 -0500

You don't need more reasons to feel guilty for using screens.
You need insight so you feel confident that when you do use them, it's WITHOUT guilt.

In 2022, technology is a TOOL to use while parenting. I am here to help you make confident decisions about what's best for your kids and your family!

If screen time is affecting your relationship with your strong-willed child, take the action I recommend in this series to reduce the power struggles for good.

In Part 2 of this 2 part screen time series, I address...

How to transition off screens without a meltdown
How to reduce dependency on screens if that’s one of your goals
Why kids become obsessed with video games and why it might not be as bad as we might think

Included in this episode, I share what to say when turning the TV off that will gain cooperation, alternatives to screen time that don't disrupt your entire routine, and a resource if you are already struggling with video games at your house.

// Mentioned in the episode //
Spotify Premium - Family
Big Life Kids Podcast
Story Pirates Podcast
Audiobooks: Libby App - (log in with your library card)
Healthy Gamer GG - Youtube Channel
Course - Healthy Gamer Action Plan

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72. Nutrition, Fitness + Hormones in Motherhood with Brooke Rozzie

Tue, 05 Jul 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Today on Failing Motherhood, Brooke Rozzie is here to share how as a nutrition + fitness expert, equipping herself with more understanding of her hormones unlocked new levels of energy, clarity and patience in her motherhood.

Brooke Rozzie is a functional nutritionist and owns a women-based coaching company focusing on supporting women in feeling the best in their skin so they can show up their best in their life by aligning hormonal health prioritizing nutrition, movement, and lifestyle factors.

In this episode, she dives deep into the 4 phases of your cycle and what small nutrition, fitness, and lifestyle shifts to make in each. She shares what to address FIRST when needing to alter your hormones and how to communicate your needs + expectations with your partner.

Don't miss:

What blows her clients' minds the most
What you need to know if your cycle isn't 28 days
The difference in cycles between men + women
Simple, accessible lifestyle shifts to begin to implement

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE
Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Ambitious Women by Kate Northrup

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IG: @brookerozzie
Podcast: The Power of a Woman
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71. NO JUDGMENT Guide to Screen Time: Part 1

Tue, 28 Jun 2022 02:00:00 -0500

You don't need more reasons to feel guilty for using screens.
You need insight so you feel confident that when you do use them, it's WITHOUT guilt.

In 2022, technology is a TOOL to use while parenting. I am here to help you make confident decisions about what's best for your kids and your family!

If screen time is affecting your relationship with your strong-willed child, take the action I recommend in this series to reduce the power struggles for good.

In Part 1 of this 2 part screen time series, I address...

3 things to consider when deciding when to use screens
The screen time boundary/limit(s) I recommend
Why your child seems obsessed with asking for screens, how you’re inadvertently reinforcing it, and what to do about it

No one else is talking about this!
If you find it helpful, share it with a friend!

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CommonSenseMedia.org

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70. Raising Good Humans with Erin Hodgson

Tue, 21 Jun 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Erin Hodgson is a non-bio mom to her two boys with her wife, living in New Zealand. This episode felt like we recorded several episodes in one!

After a quick geography lesson on New Zealand, we dive into her plans of world-schooling in 2023.

I'm so glad I asked her how she met her wife, because you won't believe her story!

After sharing her experience inducing lactation to nurse her second son, as well as what it's like to be a family of two moms raising two boys, she shares what it means to her to raise good humans.

If you're wanting to become a more conscious parent, break generational cycles and think long-term about your idea of "success" for your kids, you will want to stay to the end!
She speaks to the guilt of wanting "more" and how the more we discover about ourselves overflows and improves our parenting.

In this episode, she shares...

The skills she feels can't be learned in a classroom
How to support our kids when the world they'll be in hasn't been created yet
Why she doesn't believe you're failing your kids and why you shouldn't think so either

// CONNECT WITH ERIN//
www.awakeningthewisewoman.com
IG - @awakeningthewisewoman
Podcast: SHE is Wise

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69. Managing Social Media Use with Bryce Reddy

Tue, 07 Jun 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Bryce Reddy is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor specializing in motherhood and parenting and a mom of 3 living in New England. She supports mothers and families on social media under the handle @mombrain.therapist.

Bryce's story includes infertility, postpartum depression, IVF, miscarriages and most recently, an unexpected 3rd child at 38.

Right away we dive into the highs and lows of what social media has offered parents in the last 5-10 years - a community, validation, advice and also - guilt, pressure, and addiction among many other things.

In this episode, she shares...

The expensive toy she got "influenced" into buying - Do you have it?
Insight into her weekly polls of 50K parents
Questions to ask yourself to moderate your own social media use

Follow her on Instagram to take part in the weekend polls, and join her Over the Influence Challenge to be more mindful of your relationship with your screen.

// CONNECT WITH BRYCE//
Over the Influence Challenge
Etsy Shop: Printables
Instagram: @mombrain.therapist

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68. Smashing the Internal Patriarchy with Dr. Manuela Powell

Tue, 24 May 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Dr. Manuela Powell is a breast cancer surgeon turned mindset coach, working to liberate her clients to have the audacity to live a full life. She fiercely believes the day all women realize how powerful they are will be the day the world completely changes for the better.

After having her first child at 42, Dr. Manuela felt herself transition from an audacious, full-spirited powerhouse to June Cleaver, giving everything to everyone else. She shares her journey to discovering life coaching, and how it's given her the power to be herself again.

In this episode, she shares...

How gratitude can become an excuse
How every woman struggles with internalized patriarchy
The top 3 themes that come up with all her clients

Her practical advice for listeners is to...

Become conscious of things so you can change things
Notice the way you talk to yourself in your head
Feel your feelings

With Oklahoma just passing the most restrictive legislation to date, banning abortions at the point of fertilization... toward the end of the episode, Dr. Manuela and I address these motherhood-related US current events.

// CONNECT WITH DR. MANUELA//
manuelapowell.com
Facebook: drmanuelapowell
Instagram: @drmanuelapowell
TikTok: @drmanuelapowell

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67. Thank You, Mama with Ana Tajder

Sun, 08 May 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Ana Tajder is an award-winning author, journalist and the host of “Thank You, Mama," where she interviews women from around the world about the most important lessons they have learned from their mothers.

In this Mother's Day episode, Ana shares the insight + wisdom gleaned from all of these interviews and shares the things daughters appreciated most about their relationships with their moms, and the things they wished they had gotten from their moms.

Ana's story herself includes growing up with a movie star as a mom, considering motherhood at 40, and a rollercoaster first 2 years that led to a heart-breaking conversation with her son.

Toward the end, we discuss how to normalize emotion in front of our kids so they don't feel responsible or at fault, as well as specific takeaways for mothers of daughters.

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY! You are the mom your kids need.

// CONNECT WITH ANA//
Tajder.com
Thank You, Mama Podcast

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66. 3 Years In: Reflections on being a Solopreneur

Tue, 26 Apr 2022 02:00:00 -0500

Wholeheartedly is THREE!!!

Starting a business is very much like becoming a parent.
It's 100,000X harder than you thought it'd be.
But there are so many moments that make it all worth it!

This episode is NOT about parenting- it's about the journey behind the scenes.

In this episode, I share the things I wish I knew when I started Wholeheartedly.
Whether you have a biz, are curious about starting one, or are just a fan... tune in to hear...

How I Got Started
All the small tasks I accomplished the first year + beyond
The changes I made in the pandemic
My recommendations + advice for new entrepreneurs
The software I use that saves my life daily

Tue, 21 Dec 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Jessie Ereddia is a life coach who helps angry moms manage their emotions. In this episode, she shares her own journey of navigating postpartum rage, how she learned how to manage her anger + anxiety, and 3 powerful thoughts to cling to.

#1 - I have options.
#2 - This has everything to do with them and nothing to do with me.
#3 - I'm not failing. I'm simply a woman experiencing things physically + emotionally and there are actual solutions.

How do anxiety + rage interconnect?

Managing your ANGER begins with managing your ANXIETY.

This is not anything about your identity.

This is about what's going on in your mind.

Jessie has a unique process for equipping moms to become empowered. She and her husband Grant are in the thick of parenthood with their three young daughters and reside in Atlanta, GA.

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Instagram: @jessieereddia
JessieEreddia.com

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55. No Longer Just Surviving with Chelsie VanderZanden

Tue, 07 Dec 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Chelsie VanderZanden is one of us. A single mom -3 kids- healing from the past and striving to do better every day. In this episode, she opens her heart and shares what she wished she would've known just a year ago.

Overcoming a narcissist abusive husband, leaving, going through depression and survival mode, learning how to be a mom and not just a parent (they are different in her opinion), and finding her way to being on medication- led to saving her life and her kids'.

"Please don't believe that hopelessness is normal."
She hopes that by sharing her story, you can find hope for your own situation.

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54. Parenting Around Family

Tue, 23 Nov 2021 02:00:00 -0600

It's THAT time of year! If you're dreading the lack of routine, BIG emotions, and influx of unsolicited advice and side eye coming your way this week... pop in your ear buds!

In this episode I break down all the variables making things complicated, the triggers at play in you, and what to do about it.

You can find yourself in the possible things you might hear, thoughts you might have, and pressures you might feel.

Practice my favorite phrase, secure a new mantra, and find more confidence + SANITY this holiday season!

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53. Controversial Opinions with Renee Reina

Tue, 09 Nov 2021 02:00:00 -0600

Have you ever been afraid to admit you don't like playing with your toddler?
Don't feel like you're *enjoying every moment*?
YOU. ARE. NORMAL.

The more we say these things out loud the better we feel!
Renee Reina is here to say all the things out loud.

In this episode she shares her thoughts on traveling away without your kids, not wanting postpartum visitors, and ((shocking)) not sleeping in the same room as your partner!

She also sheds light from an expert stance on the difference between attachment theory and attachment parenting which is worth sticking to the end to hear.
It just might make you feel a little bit better.

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52. Kids' Mental Health at Home with Sara Olsher

Tue, 26 Oct 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Sara + I are SO excited to share all the details with you and invite you to join us in our mission to raise a resilient generation of kids that are aware of their emotional health and have the skills to cope with life's toughest stuff.

UPDATE: We're launching NOW in BETA, shipping in January!
Here's the link to check it out - www.kidsmentalhealthathome.com

In this episode, we share...

Why you don't need a degree to teach mental health skills
Whether or not you can use them with your 2-year-old
How the tools in these boxes relate to my coaching
Why we're so passionate about this!

Thank you in advance for supporting it in whatever way you can and for telling everyone you know who needs to hear about it!

//MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//
Ep 37: Talking about Hard Things
Research on Protective Factors for Mental Health

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51. Building Resilience with Wendy Dickens

Tue, 12 Oct 2021 02:00:00 -0500

*BIG NEWS* // Kids' Mental Health Skills, DELIVERED //
Mightyandbright.com/mentalhealth

Wendy Dickens is here to talk trauma, adversity, shame, and hope. She's worked with thousands of families in Shasta County, CA on the child welfare front and sees firsthand how generational cycles affect children today.

Not only does she teach about Adverse Childhood Experiences, but encourages understanding rather than judgment for families that struggle. They still care about their kids!

She identifies the factors that BUILD adversity in children and the one thing they need to thrive.

Together we challenge the "ideal" of rugged individualism and instead aspire toward a supportive community.

Send this episode to a teacher or professional that works with kids - they'll benefit from her perspective and insight into creating trauma-informed approaches!

//MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//
What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey
The Deepest Well - by Nadine Burke Harris
HOPE RISING: How the Science of Hope Can Change Your Life by Casey Gwinn and Dr. Chan Hellman

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50. LIVE Coaching Session with Ty Nared

Tue, 28 Sep 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Ty Nared is a mom of a 2-year-old, working from home, managing a wooden toy company, and doing ALL. THE. THINGS. She was willing to jump on and chat parenting together as a coaching session on this platform!

She wants to cultivate cooperation but doesn't know what to say when her daughter doesn't listen! She doesn't want to rely on her husband. She gets pressure to question her parenting from extended family.

Together we discuss how to help her manage frustration, problem-solve more success when needing to Zoom with her daughter at home, and figure out how to help her daughter stay in the cart at the store!

As we process things in real-time, I hope you're able to shift the perspective to apply some nuggets at your house as well!

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49. What I Wish I'd Known Sooner with Allison Livingston

Tue, 14 Sep 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Allison Livingston is the founder of 5 Steps to Connect with Your Strong-Willed Child. She started learning Mindful Parenting tools in 2005 to navigate power struggles and challenging behaviors with her oldest strong-willed child.

Her extensive education + experience in Nonviolent Communication and work as a Certified Mediator gives her a unique mindset in relation to BIG emotions and power struggles.

In this episode, she shares her journey (in hindsight) of discovering she was raising a strong-willed child, the counterintuitive trick to connection, and 3 things she wished she'd known sooner.

Kids that have different natures require different approaches.
There are ways to parent that are more conducive to feeling like partners, yet are not permissive.
They actually NEED firm boundaries + clear communication to build trust.

Her advice (among many gems shared) includes befriending your emotions, counting your shoulds, and taking action now.

This episode pairs well with Ep. 38: Survive your Strong-Willed Child

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48. MORE Patience for Strong-Willed Kids

Tue, 31 Aug 2021 02:00:00 -0500

How can the tools of Positive Discipline make it easier to be patient?
Why am I so irritable + impatient with *normal* behaviors?
Why is my child struggling?

Taking pieces of what I shared during the Calm Mom // Calm Home Masterclass, I break down...

The 6 main pillars of the Positive Discipline philosophy
What you DON'T have control over + what you DO
How your child's perception of reality is created + what's going on under the surface
What you can do about it RIGHT NOW

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47. A "Good Enough" Mom with KC Davis

Tue, 24 Aug 2021 02:00:00 -0500

KC Davis is a mom of 2, author, licensed professional counselor, and creator of the Struggle Care platform, dedicated to sharing compassion and guidance to those who struggle to perform everyday care tasks.

Have you ever felt like your "cup was full" but still had no capacity to play?
Do you ever wish a fairy godmother would poof onto your shoulder to be like "the answer is..."?
Have you ever beaten yourself up for being a bad mom because your house is a mess or you can't keep up with all the laundry?

<<< SAME >>>

You can be emotionally healthy and still be kind of a messy person.
You can aim for a net positive experience of being loved for your kids.
You can complete care tasks because you deserve to function.

FED. CLOTHED. SAFE. LOVED.

Stop reading this and just hit PLAY because you're absolutely going to love every single second of this episode!

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46. Back to School in 2021

Tue, 10 Aug 2021 02:00:00 -0500

Right now, we have 3 goals:

Process + manage our own BIG Emotions.
Help our kids feel in control of changes + transitions.
Help our kids find belonging in a new environment.

Tue, 18 May 2021 02:00:00 -0500

What even IS "self-care"?

Justine Sones is a mom, writer, + stress-management coach helping burnt-out humans set boundaries. Together we lament over all things unexpected in the motherhood & parenting realm, as well as diving into Justine's reckoning with "self-care".

She shares her "loving mental breakdown of 2018", painting the picture of how a retreat can be a necessary first step to healing.

You'll be using her mantras - "Well, now I know." + "Both things can be true." from now on.

Tweet quoted in the episode-
"I don't believe our world needs more positivity. I believe our world needs minds that are equipped to be with the complexity of life.
Minds that can hold nuance and polarity.
Minds that can stay grounded, centered, and open to the full range of what it means to be human."
--@corymuscara

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39. Survive your Strong-Willed Child

Tue, 27 Apr 2021 02:00:00 -0500

STRONG-WILLED KIDS:

Everything is the worst thing to ever have happened to them.
They're tender-hearted + cold-hearted in the same 30 seconds.
Raising them is HARD AF.

Amelia Mora Mars is a mom to six daughters and four sons, a psychotherapist, and founder of MomConnections where she coaches women raised by emotionally unavailable mothers. She empowers women to break the cycle, heal their hearts, and reclaim their lives. As a mom, she too had to learn to overcome these wounds caused by her own mother. Through her personal journey, she was able to forgive her mom and change the way she mothered her own children. She supports moms to raise strong, confident daughters and to leave a lasting legacy of love for their children and generations to come.

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30. Survival Mode (LITERALLY) with Jamie Grogan

Tue, 08 Dec 2020 02:00:00 -0600

Tue, 29 Sep 2020 02:00:00 -0500

Libby did all the research. Read all the books. Met all the people. Wrote all the birth plans. But each one of her kids' birth stories turned out wildly different than the last!

In this episode, you'll be captivated as she chronicles each detail, showing how even the most detailed planning and preparation cannot prepare you for your child's story.

Most importantly, she wants to remind you it's okay to grieve yours if it didn't turn out as planned, but know you are not defined by it. You are so much more than that!

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21. Failing at Marriage with Babita Spinelli, LP, JD

Tue, 22 Sep 2020 02:00:00 -0500

Babita Spinelli, LP, JD is a world-renowned private practice (in person & online) psychotherapist/psychoanalyst. Her services include couples therapy, family therapy, and parenting coordination. She specializes in divorce support & recovery, high conflict couples therapy, blended families & co-parenting therapy.

So... she seemed like the person to ask, "ARE CHILDREN OF DIVORCE IRREVOCABLY DAMAGED?!"

Along with sharing her own story, Babita fields my barrage of questions, including...

If divorce is going to shatter my child's world, how can I possibly prioritize my own happiness over theirs?
How do you know if you should stay in your marriage or not?
How do you help your kids whether the transition?
What about dating again?
How do you know if you're in a relationship with a NARCISSIST?
And so many more...

This episode is a must listen for any families considering divorce, weathering a divorce, or working to thrive post-divorce, as well as anyone needing advice for healthier relationships & self-awareness.

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20. Sober Motherhood with Melissa Pennel

Tue, 15 Sep 2020 02:00:00 -0500

Melissa Pennel describes 3 things in her life with defining BEFORE & AFTERS -

Getting sober
Losing her mom unexpectantly (her best friend)
Becoming a mom

She came to realize a big part of her identity was her career, and that's okay!

She shares the boundaries that have kept her sane in work-from-home COVID times, how she's endured her identity crisis, and the story behind creating her podcast, Career Mom.

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14. Embracing Homeschool & Raising Daughters with Rebecca & Alaina Walsh

Sun, 02 Aug 2020 16:00:00 -0500

Rebecca Walsh never intended to stay home with her kids.
She was dead set AGAINST homeschooling.

Now, her 16-year-old daughter Alaina joins her to share their journey of homeschooling full time. She shares her fears of lack of socialization, the curriculum overwhelm, figuring out how to manage a routine rather than a schedule, and so many other lessons learned along the way.

Highlights from their advice:

Teach them to learn & enjoy learning rather than focus on teaching ALL.THE.THINGS.
Many kids don't learn like yours, and that's okay.
Find a place to get away.
Focus on your relationship first and foremost.
Flexibility is the name of the game.

Rebecca & Alaina have created a podcast together to nurture mother/daughter relationships. Together they believe it's not a friendship- it's BETTER, and the more a daughter knows her mom, the stronger the daughter.

We get a vulnerable look at what that looks like at their house.
Moms of daughters - take notes!

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13. Codependency Recovery with Leslie MacNabb

Tue, 28 Jul 2020 01:00:00 -0500

"If he wasn't happy then I didn't feel happy."

Leslie MacNabb shares her journey of self-care & recovery after her partner found treatment for alcoholism.

She shares the in's & out's of loving someone in an active addiction and how she found the answers and community she so desperately needed.

Leslie's definition of codependency-

The idea that I couldn't be happy if the people around me aren't happy
Relying on other people and their actions to affect your happiness too

"I'm not cut out for this." "I don't know what I'm doing." "I'm a bad mom."
These thoughts can fuel an overwhelming feeling of Imposter syndrome - in which one doubts one's accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". Sound familiar?

Dr. Emee Vida Estacio is a chartered psychologist & best-selling author, sharing in this episode practical strategies to remedy this feeling; but first, she shares her own tumultuous transition to motherhood and how she ended up walking away from a distinguished career in academics.

Get ready to take notes as you listen!

She explains the 2 symptoms of imposter syndrome:
#1 - The inability to internalize success
#2 - Maladaptive perfectionist tendencies

She teaches us the TLC Technique for exploring the voice of our inner critic, as well as the Flashlight Technique she uses with her clients.

She believes it's harmful to try to banish, suppress or crush your inner critic and coaches a new perspective. Our conversation can also help you better come alongside and encourage a friend that feels like they're failing.

Dr. Emee’s books are available on Amazon, Audible, & iTunes

Change your Life for Good

Imposter Syndrome Remedy

Fear is Not my Enemy

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2. The Beauty of Rock Bottom with Laurenne

Tue, 26 May 2020 04:00:00 -0500

My beautiful friend, Laurenne, joins us today to share about her lowest low in motherhood. Just when she thought she couldn't go on, a trip to Trader Joes and a new tea set breathes life and the thought starts to actually sink in that she might just be the right mom for her daughters.

I'm so grateful for Laurenne's vulnerability and wisdom, it is exactly the heart of what this podcast hopes to capture. You are not doing it wrong if it's hard, you are not alone, and you're not the only one thinking you're the only one!

Laurenne mentions her gratitude for finding a friend group in which she could be honest and real, and encourages you to find the same. If you haven't yet, find a MOMS Club, MOPS group, or something similar in your area. If none of those are offered, it looks like you're going first and starting something! You can do hard things, friend. A FB group, a monthly book club... it's worth it. Early motherhood just cannot and should not be weathered alone.

If you or a loved one ever feels like Laurenne did, help is standing by!
Suicide Prevention Hotline: Call or chat. They are here to help anyone in crisis. Adults, children, LGBTQ, disaster survivors, you name it, they can help.
# 1-800-273-8255 and there is a chat option on the website- https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

Crisis Text Line: Text from anywhere in the USA (also Canada and the UK) to text with a trained counselor. A real human being.
USA text 741741
Canada text 686868
UK text 85258
Website: https://www.crisistextline.org

Teletherapy Search: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling

It gets better. You are needed here, friend.

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1. 45 Minutes of Therapy with Laura Pryor

Tue, 26 May 2020 03:00:00 -0500

On the very first episode of Failing Motherhood, I am joined by Laura Pryor, LIMHP, LPC, PLADC / EMDR Level I & II Trained Clinician / Brainspotting Therapist / Lovely human / Conscious parent.

Laura shares just how much motherhood did NOT line up with her expectations, how she's grown through the process, and how she is ENOUGH for her daughter.

She infuses so many nuggets of therapy wisdom, covering why it's so hard to show up differently than our parents, how to do "the work" ourselves and why our child triggers us.
She encourages us to own our failures, focus on attunement and grow from awareness to acceptance to behavior change. And she's not even charging us her hourly rate!

Laura is accepting new patients, reach her here: www.laurapryortherapy.com

// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //

Dr. Shefali's YouTube channel
Dr. Shefali Tsabary's books

Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr. Tina Payne Bryson's books--

Unlocking Us Podcast by Brene Brown

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Welcome to Failing Motherhood

Tue, 12 May 2020 13:00:00 -0500

Welcome to Failing Motherhood!

However you found this podcast... you belong here.

In this short trailer, you'll hear who I am, why I'm starting this and what to expect.

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